The Hook Up

We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react.SHOW NOTES:TherapyJeff on tiktokDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it? From replaying hot memories with your ex, to exploring your sexuality - we hear who/what you’re thinking about and whether you reckon it’s a red flag in a relationship.SHOW NOTES:ABC article on fantasisingDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change that. She’s spent the past seven years photographing over 500 different vulvas - celebrating vulva diversity, challenging unrealistic beauty standards and encouraging people to feel more comfortable in their skin. SHOW NOTES:Comfortable In My SkinLabiaplasty research DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big? We hear from you about your experience dating older / younger - from the positives like having better sex to the challenges like navigating different life stages and realising when the power dynamic is off. SHOW NOTES:(If the ep brought up anything for you) Lifeline: 13 11 14Dee’s article on age gaps in relationshipsDeakin University study - Does age difference in relationships matter?Study on men being attracted to women in their 20s regardless of their own ageDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever wondered what cum is actually made of? Or the science behind an erection? Why do wet dreams happen? What are the chances of pre-cum getting someone pregnant? Dr Theresa Larkin has everything you need to know about sperm, semen, erections and ejaculations.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Have you kept photos, jewellery, tshirts, presents, sentimental stuff or nudes from your ex?We debate what’s ok or not ok to hold onto after a break up. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back? We chat to couples therapist Liz Neal to find out how to take the pressure off and navigate those vulnerable conversations - and how to start making check ins a regular thing in your relationship.SHOW NOTES:Gottman couples cardsDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Sometimes it’s a good idea to suss how your partner is feeling about your relationship, reflect on the good and bad, and talk about the future. In this episode, we hear how you do relationship check ins - how often you do them, what you ask and how it's impacted your relationship.SHOW NOTES:2 Be Better Podcast Check In QuestionsDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you've ever been curious about sex parties/bathhouse/saunas/events but you're a bit intimidated or don't even know where to start — we find out everything you need to know with sex event curator Paisley Heart.SHOW NOTES: @[email protected] DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last?SHOW NOTES:The Conversation study on average length of sexDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy with your partner is super important to have but it’s also easy to lose if you don’t make the effort. We get advice from a sex and relationship therapist on what she reckons is the most important type of intimacy, and how to get it back if you’ve lost that spark. SHOW NOTES: Aleks Trkulja - sex, relationships and body image therapist and founder of The Pleasure CentreDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy is SO different for everyone so it’s kinda hard to describe - from light touches and vulnerable conversations to cooking together and slow dancing in the kitchen, we hear all the ways you love to be intimate with someone.SHOW NOTES:5 Types Of IntimacyDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Whether it’s getting wet, maintaining an erection, the pressure to perform and orgasm, being intimate can make you feel super vulnerable and can bring some deep rooted anxieties to the surface. We chat to Dr Nicole Cain, an expert in trauma-informed clinical psychology, about why panic can manifest, how to spot the warning signs and how to manage it.SHOW NOTES:Instagram: Dr Nicole CainDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re spiralling after a break up, you’ll probs hear someone insist “you just need to be single for a while!!!” People love to hand out this advice - but why is it good to be alone for a bit? We get your tips on how to decenter relationships and fully embrace being single w/ special cohost Louis Hanson.SHOW NOTES:Resources for decentering relationshipsTiktok: TherapyJeffBook: All About Love - Bell HooksPodcast: Jillian On Love by Jillian TureckiDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it’s complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to find out how to strike the balance, and how to clock the signs that you should let go.SHOW NOTES:Gottman Institute on "perpetual problems"DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When people say “good relationships take hard work”, do you agree? Or do you think if you’re with the right person, it should be easy breezy smooth sailing? We hear all your takes with special co-host Hannah Ferguson.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

It’s one of the most common STIs that often goes undetected for years - so whether you’re casually dating or in a long term relationship, how do you bring it up with a partner? We get sex coach Georgia Grace’s advice on how to have that conversation. SHOW NOTES:Pod ep: Everyone Has Herpes*BONUS: how getting herpes can change your life for the betterHerpes support group: Herpes support group via Comfortable In My SkinDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Toni and Ryan heard your secrets about livestreaming nuts and tonsil stones, we got some hot takes about how funerals make you horny, and Pip brought up her wikifeet AGAIN.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

You dm’d us asking for tips - so we grabbed Love On The Spectrum’s counsellor Jodie Rodgers to share her advice on navigating communication, rejection, online dating, and how to best support as a neurotypical partner. SHOW NOTES:Jodi Rodgers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodirodgers_/?hl=enJodi's website: https://www.birdsandbees.com.au/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Rejection sensitivity, masking, overstimulation, and not understanding non verbal cues - we hear your experiences of what it’s like to date with autism. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

ICYMI earlier in the year The Imperfects were on The Hook Up <3 If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of the most well-known guests jump on to share their insecurities and all the ways they feel imperfect. Comedian Ryan Shelton and Josh Van Cuylenburg chat to Dee and Pip about the power of vulnerability and what they’ve learnt from hearing so many people’s incredible stories.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Huge fan girl moment for us in this ep!!! Content creator, muso and actor Millie Ford jumps on The Hook Up to chat about her love life. As a certified lover girl, Millie has a hot take on who should pay for the first date and opens up about what it's been like dating with her ADHD and OCD.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

To celebrate hitting 69k followers on Instagram, Dee chats to sex educator Georgia Grace about how to do one of the most polarising sex positions — 69.

For our first ever live podcast we went to Warrnambool for triple j's One Night Stand and heard your one night stand hook up stories.Like… being caught naked by a housemate, meeting the whole extended family over dinner, a condom getting stuck, and pissing all over someone's bed.

What should you do if you realise you're gay but you're in a long term hetero relationship?We chat to relational therapist Dabaco Sunset about how to tell your partner and why breaking up might be the hardest but best thing you can do to explore your sexuality.

Have you kept track of how many people you've had sex with? And are you worried about your 'number'?We investigate TikTok's obsession with body count, the gendered double standards and whether or not anyone actually cares.NOTES:Call Her Daddy ep with Miley CyrusStudy about global average sex numberStudy about gender differences lying about number

If you're on the contraceptive pill there might come a time where you want to stop taking it. Maybe you're no longer in a relo, or you want to use a different contraception. So what will happen to your body and hormones? Will you have any side effects?We chat to Dr Theresa Larkin about everything you need to know about the pill and coming off it.

We chat to content creator and podcaster Maddy MacRae about her dating diaries series on TikTok, her hot take on condoms, and how she’s trying to stop faking it in bed.

Have you ever wanted to shorten your refractory period?Men's sex coach Cam Fraser teaches us how. Plus, we learn how to have an orgasm without ejaculating (yes ghost loads are possible!!!)

Is there a certain sex position, or toy, or breathwork, or move you know will give you an incredible orgasm?We hear your best nut tips and tricks and chat to someone who reckons they came for seven minutes long.

Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampons, can have two babies from two different guys at the same time and can have double the fun in her sex life.We chat to her about what her vulva looks like, how sex feels and what it's been like being an Only Fans creator with her husband.

Do tongue, nipple, clit and penis piercings make sex feel better? Or are they emergency room visits just waiting to happen?We hear your piercing hook up stories and when tattoos have given you the ick.

What's the science behind pheromones? Can a big orgasm trigger your period? Why do drugs make you super horny? And can you shorten your refractory period so you can go again sooner?Dr Karl and Dr Eva Jackson answer all your sex, body and love questions.

Do you feel like no one's really romantic anymore? Like grand gestures, red roses kinda romantic.You tell us whether it gives you the ick, and what makes you swoon.

There’s a lot of wild claims on TikTok saying how to look after your vulva, like using sprays, wipes, douches, tablets, and juices.But is it all just bullshit? we chat to GP Dr Michael (@drmichaelsays) and gynocologist Dr Charlotte Elder on what actually works.

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you.

Are there some types of people who are more likely to cheat than others? Or does cheating happen because something’s missing in the relationship?We chat to couples therapists and researchers about why cheating happens.

We hear a lot about being cheated on but what's it like to be the other person? We hear from the sneaky links who were blindsided, and the people in years-long affairs on why they stick around, and whether they feel guilty or not.

Dating someone who's struggling with their mental health can take a massive toll on your relationship.So in this ep, we find out the signs your partner is dealing with depression, how to talk about it and the best ways to support them.If you or your partner need help:Lifeline on 13 11 14 Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 Relationships Australia 1300 364 277

Is your partner your best friend, your only ride or die, and closest confidante?Some of you reckon if they're not, you're really missing out (and you're wasting your time). But should partners have separate roles to besties, and is it dangerous to make one person be absolutely everything to you?

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around? Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you.

Is sexual chemistry a spark you can’t explain? Or pheromones? Banter? Or when you get along with someone intellectually/emotionally? What actually is sexual chemistry???????

We chat to author and academic Lisa Portolan about why everyone is ditching dating apps, sussing out whether there really is a secret ranking system scoring your profile, and if a new world-first code of conduct for dating apps could change them for the better.

We chat to seasoned app pro Outback Tom and hear all your tips, tricks, hacks and advice on how to decode dating apps.

Sometimes queer guys will label themselves a 'top', 'bottom', 'verse' or 'side' to describe the kinda sex they have, but what do they mean? In this ep we find out plus sex therapist Todd Baratz (@yourdiagnonsense) shares how he thinks these labels can be limiting.

Keen to make some new friends, but struggling to know how to do it? In this special ep, we’re joined by soulmate besties and podcaster’s Sal and Al from Two Broke Chicks, who’ve written a whole book about Finding Your People. We get their advice on how to find your new crew and they answer some of your friendship dilemmas. Catch Sal and Al on IG: @twobrokechicks

In case you missed it in your feeds last year, In this episode, we get your hot tips on how to dirty talk and get some advice on how to chat to your partner about what you like.

We chat to psychologist Chris Cheers on how to navigate bi-erasure, whether it’s internalised or if you’re copping it from all angles

Why in 2024 are bisexuals still having to prove their existence as a legit sexuality? It’s called bi-erasure, and it’s a super common experience - in this ep we hear your stories.

Research shows on average people watch porn three years before they have their first sexual experience. So if porn is basically our sex education, how is it impacting the way we have sex?In this ep, Dee chats to educator Daniel Principe and sex researcher Giselle Woodley about the effect of porn, and if there’s a link to gendered violence.