The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

Many women find themselves turning to alcohol and drinking more during the decline of a marriage, during a separation or once their divorce is final. Why do women drink after a divorce? Divorce can bring to the surface feelings of uncertainty, loneliness, resentment, fear, regret, guilt, anger and shame for many women. These emotions can be difficult to cope with alone and women may turn to a bottle of wine to numb negative feelings. Not only can women feel isolated, but they also might feel the desire to celebrate their newfound freedom and independence by drinking. My guest today, Krysty Krwyko of Your Creative Badass Divorce, is here to share how to turn divorce from a soul-sucking to a soul-defining experience. Krysty helps women heal and recover from divorce, shed the stigma, reinvent themselves and reclaim their lives. Krysty is a life coach, educator, mixed media artist, self proclaimed book nerd and an indie mama of two teens. She uses the pillars of creativity and sobriety in her work with women as they navigate their lives through a creative journey process. Tune in to hear us talk about healthy ways to cope after divorce, what having a creative outlet means for most women, why there's danger in trying to just push through negative emotions, and how Krysty has used her experience to support women navigating the shitty waters of post-divorce life. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/69 Support and resources to help you reinvent and rebuild your life You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Sober Travel is all the rage. So how do you take an alcohol-free vacation? If you’re sober curious, in early sobriety or simply want a mindful and relaxing health and wellness break, you are going to love sober travel! The New York Times published an article recently about sober travel going mainstream with wellness and mental health being top motivators for travel and more people ditching the drinks and planning alcohol-free trips. But for many women the prospect of staying sober on vacation can be so daunting that they put off quitting drinking until after their next big trip. Navigating airports, hotel bars and resorts without drinking alcohol seems impossible and unimaginable. But you can stay sober while traveling and have the most relaxing, enjoyable, fun vacation of your life without the booze. Today I’m going to give you the tips and tricks you need to know to take your next sober trip and enjoy an alcohol-free vacation. When you explore the world without the booze, you’ll come back refreshed, relaxed, proud and healthy, without feeling like you need a vacation to recover from your vacation. Plus you’ll find that you get so much more out of your travel when you’re alcohol-free. Typically when we’re focused on drinking on vacation we limit the activities and adventures we experience and explore. You make your world smaller without even realizing it. My guest today is Lauren Burnison of the alcohol-free travel company, We Love Lucid. Lauren is a lover of all things travel, culture and alcohol-free life. She created We Love Lucid after becoming aware of the real lack of travel options for the sober and sober curious. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/vacation Ready to dive into sober travel? Here are resources that can help. Sign up for The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand sober coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle and change your relationship with alcohol. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

How many of us learned healthy coping mechanisms for managing stress, anxiety or depression when we were kids? If our parents didn’t model for us healthy ways to cope with the normal human emotions of overwhelm, loneliness, resentment, anger or fear, it’s easy to emulate their patterns or buy into the narrative that alcohol will help us take the edge off and relax after a hard day. And if you’re the parent of tweens or teens, asking them to not drink or experiment with drugs, it’s hard to reconcile that message with opening a bottle of wine every night. One of the reasons that kids start using alcohol and drugs is because they don’t know how to manage and cope with their emotions. And in order to help them it’s important for parents to be present in order to model for children how to manage their own emotions. Today I’m talking with Brenda Zane, a Mayo Clinic Certified Health, Wellness Coach and Parent Coach, whose work supports moms of kids with substance use disorder. Her mission is to help moms maintain their health and sanity as they navigate the chaos and fear of having a child who’s misusing drugs or alcohol. We’re talking about how to build healthy coping skills for negative emotions and stressful situations and how to model those coping mechanisms for your children. For full show notes head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/67 Support and resources to help you break away from wine mom culture You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

For so many of us alcohol keeps us playing small. We love opening a bottle of wine at the end of the day but don’t realize how much of our time, energy, motivation and ability to follow through on our goals is being diminished by our drinking habit. You might have New Year's Resolutions that you somehow never seem to keep, hobbies you’ve always wanted to try or feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water most days. Or maybe you’re a woman who has always been able to achieve whatever you set your mind to in life, except managing your drinking. If you’re a smart, ambitious, high-achieving woman who feels stuck, this episode is for you. My guest today is here to talk about how drinking can sap your energy, confidence and motivation and keep you playing small. And how to start manifesting the big dreams and desires you have for your life. Amanda Kuda is a writer, coach, and educator. She’s a former social drinker and party girl who is now living (and loving) a 100% alcohol-free lifestyle. Amanda’s passionate about teaching other high-achieving women how to navigate the stumbling blocks of going alcohol-free so they can step into a life beyond their wildest dreams and stop playing small. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/66 Support and resources to help you break away from wine mom culture You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

I used to be a wine mom. I bought into the idea that moms need to drink to relax and cope with the demands of motherhood. I felt like opening a bottle of wine helped me transition from work to home and made me feel the way I used to before I had kids. I saw wine as my well-deserved reward for getting through the day. Plus, I love being efficient. I felt like “drinking while momming” was a brilliant way to multitask. I could come home from work, cook dinner, hang out with the kids, manage homework, bedtime and respond to work emails, while at the same time get buzzed and check out from life. I thought being a wine mom was fun and rebellious. But when you take a closer look, the wine mom culture is toxic and dangerous. It normalizes, rationalizes and encourages women to drink a highly addictive substance in large quantities on a regular basis. It convinces women that wine is required for every playdate, girl's night, date night and after-work gathering. And if women get to the point that they realize alcohol is making them tired, irritable and depressed, the “mommy needs wine” messages make it really hard to stop drinking. So, let’s talk about the dark side of mom wine culture, how to look at it objectively and ways to shift your mindset so that you no longer believe that alcohol is required to enjoy life. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/65 Support and resources to help you break away from wine mom culture You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Download the Guide To My Favorite Secret Facebook Groups for Women Quitting Drinking Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Today I’m talking about giving up alcohol with Paul Churchill, the founder of Recovery Elevator. Paul is a leading voice in the world of recovery having launched the podcast, Recovery Elevator, 6 years ago as an accountability tool when he was first getting sober. The Recovery Elevator podcast has been downloaded over 6 million times in 145 countries and has helped countless women and men give up alcohol and live a better life. Today, Paul and I discuss how he went from owning a bar in Granada, Spain and blacking out 7 days a week to launching a podcast about alcohol addiction, and using addiction as the fuel to start an online and in-person alcohol-free community and business. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/64 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Do you go through the cycle of trying to detox your body after drinking too much with healthy eating and exercise, only to turn around and retox again with wine, beer, or cocktails? I did that for years. -I’d drink a bottle of wine each night and then go to a 5:30 am workout class. -I’d go running after work and then come home and open a bottle of wine. -I’d log everything I ate during the day (which often was very little (egg white omelette, salad, asparagus + salmon anyone?) and then add in 5 or 6 glasses of wine to finish the day. It’s exhausting. For so many of us, our relationship with alcohol is complicated and complex. We use alcohol as a tool to help us decompress, forget about the day and disconnect from our daily responsibilities. And then the next morning we feel like crap and try to undo all the damage we did the night before. My guest today is Jenn Kautsch, the founder of Sober Sis and she’s here to talk about how women can get out of the alcohol detox and retox cycle. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/63 Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Are you worried you won’t have fun without alcohol? Is FOMO (the fear of missing out) keeping you drinking? Can’t imagine what life would look like without happy hours? Wondering if there is (actually) life beyond the bottle? You’re not alone! My guest today is Tricia Lewis, the creator and host of the Recovery Happy Hour. She’s here to talk about the concerns a lot of women have about life without alcohol. For years Trica was emotionally and physically addicted to alcohol but was really good at making it look like she didn’t have a problem. In November 2016, she decided that balancing a life of being an entrepreneur and a high functioning alcoholic was too much to handle. She quit drinking and learned how to recover as hard as she drank without looking back. I’m a huge fan of Tricia’s podcast, The Recovery Happy Hour. The Recovery Happy Hour celebrates inspiring stories of recovery from alcohol addiction, gray area alcohol abuse and what happens AFTER you get sober. For full show notes and to get the resources mentioned in this episode, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/62

What does your self love practice look like? Are you chasing love and acceptance from others instead of finding love within yourself? Self love means taking care of your needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Accepting yourself first is the first step to healing. Today, I’m talking with self love expert Aubree Nichols who has spent her entire trying to fill her insides with things on the outside only to feel unworthy, lost, and ultimately unfulfilled. Aubree is talking diving deep into her eating disorder, her battle with addiction and why learning to love herself helped her get sober 15 years ago. Aubree Nichols is a self love advocate and a writer for Vogue, LA magazine and The Observer. Her superpower lies in her unique ability to share vulnerably about her struggles along the way. From addiction, divorce, eating disorders, to building her empire, Aubree’s raw, real, “tell it like it is” take on her diverse life experiences never fails to connect, engage and empower audiences. For full show notes and to grab the resources mentioned in this episode, head over www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/61 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Sometimes if you’re lucky someone reaches out to you in the early days when you’re first trying to stop drinking and shows you how to take the first steps. And for me, that person was Dawn Nickel. 8 years ago, when I first thought that I needed to stop drinking and decided to try life without wine, Dawn reached out to me. I was traveling with my son and husband from Seattle to Victoria, British Columbia for a long weekend, my first in 5 years where I wasn’t going to drink, and Dawn picked me up for coffee, drove me to a beautiful beach and we talked all about drinking and not drinking and where I was and what I wanted and what I was afraid of. She’s amazing. And she’s also a pretty big deal. Today on the podcast I was thrilled to interview her and talk about women and the way we recover, from all things and in all ways. I hope you love the conversation as much as I did. Dr. Dawn Nickel is a respected thought leader in the women’s recovery sphere and (along with her daughter Taryn Strong) the founder of SHE RECOVERS Foundation, a not-for-profit grassroots organization that inspires hope, reduces stigma, and empowers women in or seeking recovery for substance use and/or mental health challenges. Dawn is a strong advocate for the view that every woman in or seeking recovery must be supported to find the tools and pathways that will work best for her as an individual. For full show notes and to grab the resources mentioned in this episode, headover www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/60 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Do you wonder why drinking alcohol helps you feel relaxed and then leaves you awake at 3am? Or why do you have trouble moderating how much you drink? How is it possible that alcohol is both a depressant and a stimulant? Why does a substance that makes you feel euphoric later leave you feeling so low with anxiety and a hangover? And is it actually true that alcohol is actually good for you in small doses? [spoiler alert: the answer is no] My guest today is William Porter, the author of Alcohol Explained and Alcohol Explained 2: Tools for a Stronger Sobriety. I’m a big fan of his work and the way he breaks down a scientific approach to what happens to the body and mind when you consume alcohol into something that’s easy to understand. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/59 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

In early sobriety, sober treats are important, not an indulgence. Don’t underestimate their power, because sober treats are essential to helping you both stop drinking and keep going once willpower runs out and motivation fades When you’re walking away from drinking you need your time without alcohol to feel rewarding and kind - not like a punishment or deprivation. And most of all you need sober treats because you’ve been stuck in a “reward rut” for way too long. After decades of 'adulting' often our universe of rewards and pleasure options have shrunk to the equivalent of ‘bars and bakeries’ (alcohol and sugar). Hard day? Wine. Promotion at work? Wine. Friday night date? Wine. Kids being hard? Wine. A few hours to yourself? Wine. Anxious? Overwhelmed? Lonely? Wine. You deserve more. Sober treats will open your imagination and help you find and enjoy new sources of pleasure and comfort. Today, I am diving into how to quit drinking without deprivation or relying on willpower by using sober treats. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/58 Are you ready to add The Sobriety Starter Kit course to your sober toolkit? Here’s everything that’s inside the course 8 coaching modules with 50 video lessons + all the supporting materials, including The Mistakes Women Make In Trying To Stop Drinking The Fundamentals of Building Your Sober Foundation The Quick Start Guide To Your First 2 Weeks Mapping out your Reason, Vision, Habits, Triggers, Environment + Support How to Break Out The Drinking Cycle Using The 4 Laws of Behavior Change Building Sober Muscles + Momentum Navigating Sobriety Challenges - Labels, Other People, Drinking Events, The Mommy Wine Culture, Boredom, PAWS, Avoiding 'Pre-Lapse' and Restarting Quickly If You Drink To 100 Days and Beyond - Creating A Life You Love Click here to get all the details and sign up now. More resources mentioned in the episode Grab my favorite non-alcoholic beverages from Gruvi and The Athletic Brewing Company Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Today marks ONE YEAR since I started this podcast! I can’t believe it. When I look back on the past year, I’ve been a little scared everytime I release an episode but mostly happy and grateful. I’m amazed to see women like you listening and reaching out and telling me that the podcast is helping them. Launching this podcast has been incredible and one of the most exciting and satisfying projects that I’ve ever done. In the past year I released 57 episodes, with 46 incredible guests and we’ve hit just under 70,000 downloads! I’ve also released 13 solo episodes on topics that I think are really important in helping women stop drinking like strategies for your very first week, mistakes a lot of women make when quitting drinking and all the things I’ve learned in the 5 years since quitting drinking. But most importantly, I want to say THANK YOU for taking time out of your day to listen to this podcast. Thank you for reaching out and telling me the parts that helped you, made you laugh or helped empower you or feel less alone. In this episode, I’m going to share some of my absolute favorite moments of the podcast over the last year. The things my guests have shared that really stuck with me, inspired me, gave me new coping tools, and made me think and rethink my own ideas, perceptions and approaches. I hope you enjoy listening to some highlights from the podcast over the last year and I hope you take away some fresh insight and inspiration to keep going. For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/57 Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Let’s talk about what happens to your body when you drink alcohol and what happens when you stop drinking after consuming it on a regular basis. I asked Gillian Tietz, the Sober Scientist and host of the Sober Powered Podcast, to come on the podcast to talk about the Science and Psychology of Addiction. In today’s episode, Gill and I discuss Why alcohol slows down our brain activity How alcohol affects our sleep and why you wake up at 3am after drinking The connection between alcohol and anxiety Why alcohol makes it hard to lose weight What happens to your body physically during withdrawal from alcohol The benefits your body gets from taking a break from drinking Plus... Rage gardening + Tomb Raider Gill’s story and her road to recovery Why you need to build a ‘drama free bubble’ in early sobriety How we felt physically and emotionally when we stopped drinking About Gillian Tietz Gillian is a biochemist in the Boston area and is 17 months sober. Her passion is helping others free themselves from the drink, hate yourself, drink cycle by providing education on how alcohol affects our brain and causes addiction. Gill uses her scientific background to connect neuroscience, psychology, and her personal experience to getting sober. Wherever you are in your journey, understanding why alcohol causes your own personal brand of misery will fundamentally change the way you approach sobriety. Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Gillian Tietz Head over to Apple podcast and listen to her show, Sober Powered Podcast Follow Gill on Instagram @sober.powered To find out more about Gill and how she can support you on your journey to recovery, go to www.soberpowered.com Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

What do you desire in life and what’s holding you back from going after what you want? Are you worried that your dreams aren’t practical or achievable? Or that you’re selfish or self-indulgent for wanting more than you have? Do you feel like you’re too busy, with too many responsibilities to go after something new (and you’ll have time to focus on it ‘someday’)? Or are you scared to want something because you don’t want to experience disappointment or failure? Today we’re going to talk about how to give yourself permission to want more in life and how to manifest your desires. My guest is Christy Whitman. Christy is a Transformational Leader, Celebrity Coach and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All. She is also the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Learning Academy & Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month Law of Attraction coaching certification program. Christy has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, and coaching sessions and products. For the full show notes, head over to www.hellosomeday.com/55 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

We all have negative thoughts at times and often can be our own worst critics. And if you have a tendency to be hard on yourself, the automatic thoughts you have can have a big impact on your emotions and the way you experience and interpret the world around you. It’s normal to feel sadness, anger, worry and loneliness at times. But getting stuck in negative thought patterns can trigger heightened feelings of anxiety, fear, self-pity, and insecurity. The good news is that you can learn to identify and challenge automatic negative thoughts, which can relieve stress, self-doubt and let you feel significantly more confident and positive. Today, my guest Shelby John is here to talk about understanding our negative thought patterns. Shelby is a mom, wife, and entrepreneur. She's been sober since July 2002 and her own recovery journey led her to become a social worker, trained in trauma therapy, coaching techniques and other clinical skills. As a therapist, Shelby helps women heal their past trauma, using EMDR. therapy. Online, she gets to guide them into building the confidence they need to love their lives beyond recovery. For the full episode show notes and all links and resources mentioned in the podcast visit hellosomedaycoaching.com/54 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Let's talk about sugar, diets and early sobriety. This topic comes up all the time with women who are trying to stop drinking because they’re fearful of replacing overconsumption of alcohol with food. Common advice in early sobriety is to let go of your ‘food rules’, go ahead and eat the Peanut M&Ms, have dessert and don’t get too hungry. But a lot of women resist this advice. Instead, they try to combine their efforts to stop drinking with a new eating program or diet, only to find in a few weeks that they’ve gone back to drinking and are starting the whole process again. There are also other reasons to stay away from dieting and I’ve got the perfect guest to talk about it all. Ingrid Michelsen Miller is a Diet Recovery and Weight-Neutral Life Coach who helps women find freedom from binging and weight-cycling. Ingrid was one of the first friends I met in early sobriety and we quit drinking just 60 days apart. Over the last 5 years, we’ve navigated life without alcohol together (and the day this episode goes live, April 15th, 2021, is Ingrid’s 5 Year Soberversary!) In this episode, Ingrid and I dive into diet culture: what it is and what it does to us, why we should let go of food rules in early sobriety, and the reason that trying to make our bodies smaller is counterproductive. For the full episode show notes and all links and resources mentioned in the podcast visit hellosomedaycoaching.com/53 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It’s the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Did you know that you can live alcohol-free and still enjoy your life? You can still be social, still hang out with your friends who drink and also transform internally. You can let go of the things in your life that aren’t serving you, but also keep the people and activities that bring you joy. You can have everything you’ve always wanted. That’s what we’re talking about today, embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle without assuming a label. My guest today is Kayla Lyons. Kayla is the founder of 1,000 Hours Dry, an alcohol-free community and host of The Dry Life Podcast. In this episode, Kayla and I discuss her sobriety journey, our drinking culture, how big alcohol markets to consumers, and all the benefits of not drinking. For the full episode show notes and all links and resources mentioned in the podcast visit hellosomedaycoaching.com/52 Want more support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free? You can Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's the private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab the Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Let’s talk about the fact that most women who realize that they have a problematic relationship with alcohol don’t actually ‘want’ to stop drinking. Most of us had a lot of good times drinking over the years. At one point drinking was a lot of fun, and sometimes it still is. We had amazing vacations, girl’s nights and romantic date nights with alcohol. And even though you might be worried about your drinking, and are tired of headaches and hangovers, you likely don’t actually want to stop completely. You probably can’t imagine your life without happy hours and wine tastings. And here’s the good news: you don’t have to ‘want’ to stop drinking to take an extended break from it and discover that life without alcohol is actually happier, healthier, more satisfying and more fun than it was when you were drinking. My guest today is Camille Kinzler. Camille is an alcohol-free lifestyle/habits expert who is passionate about helping women who wake up at 3 am saying “I wish I didn’t have that last glass of wine...again” (re)learn how to destress, unwind, and connect instead of instinctively reaching for their go-to cocktail. Camille and I are going to talk about all the strategies that can help you stop drinking (even though you still want to). In this episode, Camille and I discuss: Why deciding to take a break from alcohol for 100 days is more useful than a ‘one day at a time’ approach or telling yourself that you’re stopping drinking ‘forever’ How to switch up your evening routine and interrupt the patterns you’ve built around drinking Why it’s OK to mourn the loss of alcohol. You don’t actually need to kill the ‘want’ of drinking, you just have to kill the ‘yes’ Why this process is less about removing the alcohol and more about wanting more for your life and getting over the fear of change. Focusing on the vision of the person you want to be and the life you want to live is a powerful motivator The Cozy Method of creating sustainable habit and lifestyle change Consistency - Creating new habits and rituals Ownership - Taking accountability for where you are, the habits you’ve created, recognizing what you need and asking for it Zooming In & Out - Asking yourself who you want to be in this world and looking at the habits and behaviors that you’re practicing to get you to that goal Yes - Evaluating the commitments that you’re taking on and realizing that if it isn’t a ‘Hell Yes’ then its a No. Learn to set healthy boundaries About Camille Kinzler Camille is an alcohol-free lifestyle/habits expert with a Master’s in Science and Physician Assistant (PA) Studies. She is passionate about helping women who wake up at 3 am saying “I wish I didn’t have that last glass of wine...again” (re)learn how to destress, unwind, and connect instead of instinctively reaching for their go-to cocktail. She loves working with professional women, busy moms, and healers/healthcare professionals, as she is all of the above, too. Connect with Camille Learn more about Camille and how she can support you in quitting drinking www.thinkbeyondthedrink.com On Instagram @thinkbeyondthedrink Download your Love Your Liver Guide: Integrative Approach To Cleansing Your Liver Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Get the 5 step formula for saying no: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/how-to-say-no/ Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups, The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Let’s talk about perfectionism - what it is, why it happens and how it might be holding you back from doing the things you are meant to do and what you want to do in life. My guest today is Sara Dean. She’s a mindset, business and leadership coach who helps women own their space, stop shrinking and start shining. I absolutely love Sara - her perspective, her energy and the way she inspires women (including me) to do more and be more. Today we’re talking about how to overcome perfectionism and get out of your own way. We dive deep into the connection between perfectionism and procrastination and how staying in your comfort zone can keep you stuck. This episode is jam packed with encouragement and inspiration, and it all starts with believing in yourself. In this episode, Casey and Sara discuss: Why a lifetime of social conditioning can keep women playing small How we’ve been taught to prioritize things others expect from us in order to get approval and acceptance The connection between perfectionism and procrastination 7 ways you’re probably getting in your own way 5 ways to get unstuck How to stop asking permission to play a bigger game in life How to thrive in the face of anxiety Strategies to turn your struggles into strengths How to move from a fixed mindset and a growth mindset Secrets of cultivating courage, confidence and abundance #everydamnday 7 Ways You Might Be Getting in Your Own Way Staying quiet and not speaking up when you have an opinion. Being the person other people want you to be instead of being who you truly are Playing small Analysis paralysis You’re stuck in a fixed mindset vs growth mindset You are stuck in the dreaming and planning phase without taking any action Being the gatekeeper of all tasks and roles. 5 Ways To Get Unstuck Take small steps Take imperfect action Get curious Drop the ball or the bomb. Either make it a priority or let it go. Dream in strategy More about Sara Dean Sara’s is a Mindset, Business and Leadership Coach. She is also the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, a top rated podcast with over 3 million downloads. Sara’s biggest passion is helping women own their space. After enduring her own identity crisis following the birth of her son, Sara took her background in psychology/health/ wellness and rebuilt her identity, one step at a time. Sara motivates and inspires women to stop shrinking and start shining. She is on a mission to inspire women and moms, in particular, to live bigger, bolder, braver #everydamnday. Sara serves women through her podcast, her thriving Momentum Mamas membership community, her Tenacious Mamas business & leadership mastermind and her annual event, Shameless Mom Con (coming this spring!) When she’s not supporting Shameless Moms, you’ll find Sara with her husband and 8 year old son - building Legos and pretending to understand Minecraft. Connect with Sara: www.shamelessmom.com Shameless Mom Academy Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-shameless-mom-academy/id1092674204 Join Sara’s free Facebook Group: www.shamelessmom.com/facebook Instagram: www.instagram.com/shamelessmomacademy Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups, The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Can the principles of spiritual psychology help you heal from past traumas? We’re going to unpack the tools, techniques and practical application of a spiritual psychology approach on the podcast today. Spiritual Psychology is a blend of spirituality and science. It uses elements of both traditional psychology and spirituality in order to help individuals feel better and more content with their lives. My guest is Beverly Sartain. Beverly is the author of the book Transcending Trauma: How I used Spiritual Psychology to Heal My Life and the creator of The Spiritual Psychology Healing Workbook. After multiple hardships in her life, Beverly experienced a spiritual awakening and discovered ways to turn those hardships into assets of her future through the practical application of spiritual psychology. By resolving her feelings of unworthiness and not being good enough, she reconnected with her inner being and her true essence — love. Beverly will encourage you to find your own path to healing and becoming the co-creator of your life. In this episode, Beverly and I dig into: Specific Spiritual Psychology tools and techniques that can be practically applied in your life today The difference between Victim Consciousness and Creator Consciousness, two states of mind that can rule your awareness 4 levels of a holistic approach to coaching - mental, emotional, physical and spiritual How to avoid self-sabotage and reframe negative thought patterns Why judgement is self condemnation and self-forgiveness is restoration How to cultivate self-compassion, acceptance, peace, and joy Download 33 principles of Spiritual Psychology About Beverly Sartain Beverly is a Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor. In her career before coaching, Beverly managed and developed domestic violence and co-occurring residential programs. Beverly is also the creator of the Holistic Coach Certification Program and the Spiritual Psychology Coaching Method. The Holistic Coach Certification Program is an ICF ACSTH accredited program that focuses on a holistic approach to coaching. They see Clients as whole, complete and resourceful to create creative solutions to their challenges and issues. Additionally, Beverly provides individual and group coaching through her brand, Recovery Life Management. Resources and links mentioned in the podcast Connect with Beverly on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/beverly.sartain.1/ Purchase Beverly’s book, head over to transcendingtrauma Beverly’s favorite affirmations cards mentioned in the episode Power Thought Cards Keepers of the Light Oracle Cards Beverly has created the Spiritual Phycology Healing Workbook to help you be a healthy human by continuing to resolve your unresolved issues so that you can serve from your wholeness versus your wound. Beverly has laid out 52 soul-packed lessons to help you increase your awareness, relate to yourself in a better way, learn new skills to keep on keepin' on with your personal and professional advancement and be the demonstration of the work you do with others, first and foremost. Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups, The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Rebecca (Bex) Weller is one of my favorite people to talk with about why life without alcohol is awesome. Bex is a Health & Life Coach from Perth, Australia. She’s the founder of Sexy Sobriety and the author of two books, A Happier Hour and Up All Day. The work Bex does is centered around helping women discover how much they gain once they put down the wine glass. She works with women to get their sparkle back after it's been dulled by drinking and hangovers. In our conversation today Bex and I talk about how life without alcohol can be fun and sexy, adventurous, joyful and (most of all) carefree. Bex says the biggest benefit she’s found in sobriety is the feeling of freedom. Bex discovered that after (finally) saying “I’m not drinking at all anymore” she suddenly had the headspace, heart space, courage and energy to reach her potential and build the life she really wanted. She felt free for the first time. So if you’re holding on to drinking because you’re afraid that life without alcohol will be boring or dull, this is the episode for you! In this episode, Bex and I dive into: Why to make a list of “10 Things Better Than Booze” (and then all the other lists!) Tips on how to make alcohol-free life more exciting and fun Why to focus on everything you’re gaining by not drinking, not what you’re giving up How to coach yourself through triggers and cravings and nurture yourself from the inside out Why sobriety is better than moderation (spoiler: it’s the freedom) Why to not focus on the concept of ‘forever’ “You know what’s a hell of a lot more glamorous than champagne and cocktails? ⁠Self-worth, empowerment, creativity, connection, and SOUL.”⁠ - Bex Weller About Rebecca Weller Rebecca is the Creator of SexySobriety.com, she leads one-on-one and group coaching programs, hosts live events, and is the author of the best-selling memoir, A Happier Hour, and the long-awaited follow-up, Up All Day. Rebecca writes about love, life, and the strength and potential of the human spirit. Her work has been featured by The Telstra Business Awards, The Australian, Fast Company, Sydney Morning Herald, The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Better Homes & Gardens USA, SBS Food, Good Health Magazine, Marie Claire Australia, and Elle Quebec. Learn more at BexWeller.com. Follow Rebecca on Instagram @BexWeller Connect on Facebook at Bex Weller, SS - Home Find out more about Rebecca and Sexy Sobriety, head over to www.SexySobriety.com.au/ Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups, The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

Are you a busy mom who has been using alcohol as a coping mechanism? You’re not alone. My guests today are Kate Baily and Mandy Manners, the authors of the new book, Love Yourself Sober - A Self Care Guide For Busy Moms Going Alcohol-Free, and we’re talking about what to do if you’re questioning your drinking habits and how to create a live you love without alcohol. Kate and Mandy are certified coaches and sober besties who met online. They are writers, community builders and podcast hosts. They work with women who are questioning their drinking and want to create a life they love sober. In this episode, we dive deep into: Why moms often use alcohol to cope and create space in motherhood What to do if you feel sad and disconnected from your life How to recognize if your relationship with alcohol has become problematic Why exploring grey area drinking and sober curiosity can be positive and joyous Practical tools that will help if you realize that alcohol isn’t serving you anymore The importance of self care in your sobriety tool kit and why we love sober treats Why to ditch the shame if you’ve stopped drinking and gone back to alcohol again Mental health, positive psychology, how to ‘sense your no’ and all the tools to live a sober life you love More about Kate Baily Kate stopped drinking in her early 40s after she had her youngest child. Stopping was not easy; there was a lot of fear. How would she cope without my helper? She was having to rethink everything, she was fighting the brainwashing and marketing, facing the fears about relationships and friendships changing, not knowing how to switch off, trying to stay calm as really primal fears raged. She worked hard at keeping busy till wine o'clock was past, she ate chocolate, she watched boxsets compulsively. But slowly the days clocked up. She immersed herself in quit lit and reading blogs on the site, made online friends and weeks turned into months. A new habit was forming and gradually felt less like pushing a boulder up a hill. More about Mandy Manners Mandy started drinking recreationally when she was 14. She was a curious kid with a nose for adventure and a bit of mischief. In Feb 2014, she stopped and didn’t drink for a year, again it was fantastic; she went through a rebirth of strength, positivity and possibility. She lost weight, quit her job, and decided to move away from the city and start a new life in a smaller town by the sea. She was so positive that after a year she deemed herself fixed and convinced herself that she could drink moderately. From 2015-2017 she drank on and off, she knew she was better without booze, but she wanted to be “normal”. In August 2018 she made a commitment to life-long sobriety. She realized that if she shared her story, it could help, so she engaged with the sober community on Instagram and Facebook and listened to podcasts and started going to events and realized that there is a really wonderful community of sober people. Resources & Links Mentioned Learn more about Kate & Mandy and how they can support you in quitting drinking, lovesober.com Listen to their podcast, Love Sober Purchase their book Love Yourself Sober: A Self Care Guide to Alcohol-Free Living for Busy Mothers Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups, The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

In Laura McKowen’s memoir, We Are The Luckiest, she writes, “There is a life that is calling you forward, begging you to meet its eye, to glimpse its vision for you. You can get only so far by running away from what you do not want. Eventually you will have to turn toward what you do. You will have to run toward a bigger yes.” I invited Laura to join me on the podcast to talk about how to say yes to a bigger life and how to be more intentional about how they’re living. Laura McCowen is the author of the book, We Are the Luckiest - The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life. Laura also writes an award winning blog and has hosted two incredible podcasts, Home and Spiritualish. She has been featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Web MD Psychology Today, The Today Show and more. Laura leads workshops with women and men to go deeper into learning about what is meaningful in their lives. This work is valuable for anyone at any time, but is especially transformative for women who have stopped drinking or are re-evaluating their relationship with alcohol. When you’re giving up drinking - and the space it occupies in your days, life, social circle and identity - it’s important to reflect on what else is meaningful to you and deeper callings you have. This podcast and Laura’s work will speak to you if you desire a deeper sense of purpose in your life you dream about spending your days in a more connected, meaningful way you need clarity around a big life decision or relationship you know you're not living into your potential, but don't know how to get from "here" to "there" you're tired of feeling depleted, disconnected, and alone you need to stoke your creativity and belief in possibility you want to create or deepen your spiritual practice In this episode, Laura and I discuss: How to say YES to a better life without alcohol Why to ask yourself big questions so that you’re not living an unconscious life How to listen to your inner voice and stop letting fear hold you back Why you often don’t need to do a big thing or make huge changes in your job or relationships to find more happiness in your life Practices to gain more clarity around what you want and intentional about how you’re living How to find meaning and appreciation in what you already have Why drinking keeps you stuck How to live in alignment with your core values About Laura McKowen Laura had a long successful career in public relations, and the madman esque drinking culture of advertising. After getting sober she became recognized as a fresh voice and recovery. Beloved, for her soulful and irreverent writing, online and in print. Laura is the founder of several online programs for sobriety and personal development, teaching people how to say yes to a bigger life, and founded the luckiest club, a sobriety support community. Resources & Links Mentioned Learn more about Laura McKowen and how she supports women who want to quit drinking, head over to lauramckowen.com Follow Laura on her journey living alcohol free, to subscribe to her blog Purchase her book, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life Support, resources and tools to help you go alcohol-free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

I spent years trying to make rules about my drinking because I was terrified that sober life would be boring, lonely and difficult. I was wrong. I want to share with you the 25 things I learned after I quit drinking. As I record this podcast today it is my five year soberversay. 5 years ago I stopped drinking and when I look at the number five, it seems impossibly large. I remember when it was so hard for me to get past day five. 30 days alcohol-free seemed so big. 100 days sober was an accomplishment that I was bursting with pride and over a year of sobriety was more than I thought I would ever achieve. If you’re just starting out, are sober curious or have five months alcohol-free or two years on this path, here’s a look ahead to my experience and takeaways from the decision to quit drinking and live a life without alcohol. Here are the 25 things that helped me and surprised me. The things I didn’t know when I started out and the lessons I’m continuing to learn now. If you're just starting out, are sober curious or have five months alcohol-free or two years on this path, here's a look ahead to my experience and takeaways from the decision to quit drinking and live a life without alcohol. Resources & Links Mentioned Episode 34: Quit Drinking With Identity Based Habits, Because Willpower Doesn’t Work Episode 35: Break Your Habit of Drinking in Four Steps - Change Your Cue, Craving, Response + Reward Cycle Episode 36: The Habits Tipping Point - When Choosing Not To Drink Becomes Easy and Simply Part Of Who You Are Episode 37: How To Manifest The Shit Out Of Life Support, Resources and Tools To Help You Go Alcohol-Free Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

I was drawn to my guest today immediately because of a powerful post, she wrote about why she doesn't identify with the label of being an alcoholic. I don't identify as an alcoholic either. I don’t feel like that label serves me or explains my personal experience and unless they prefer it I don’t use that label to describe the women I work with. Here’s what Beth wrote that spoke to me. ✨WORDS MATTER✨ The other day, someone called me an “alcoholic.” They were just making conversation, talking about things I’m interested in (which I super appreciate!)…⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ... but I don’t identify as an alcoholic—it’s a label that doesn’t explain my personal experience with leaving behind the booze. I don’t struggle with not-drinking anymore. I don’t feel like I’m powerless over alcohol. I don’t align with the 12-steps. I don’t personally identify with the disease model of addiction.⠀⠀⠀ Even when I was still drinking, the black and white dichotomy of either being someone who drank or being an “alcoholic” kept me drinking longer than I should have. I thought those were my only choices And then I discovered this beautiful corner of the internet full of people who don’t drink alcohol, who call themselves all sorts of things: ✨Teetotaler ✨Sober ✨Alcohol-free/AF ✨Non-drinker ✨Sober-curious⠀⠀⠀ Or… nothing at all. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve learned a few things from my experience: 1️⃣ Words matter, and labels can be a significant barrier for folks removing harmful habits from their lives. (And the mental health field needs an update on this. ☝🏻)⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2️⃣ You are the author of your own story, and only YOU get to define yourself. 3️⃣ Figuring out what you align with, where your AF identity lives? It’s magic. ✨ It’s freedom, fulfillment, and all the good squishy feelings. The beauty of deciding that alcohol is no longer working in your life is that YOU get to decide how to think about your decision to stop drinking and how you tell your story - with a label or without one. In this episode, Beth and I discuss how women can smash shame in sobriety. And we dive into: Why you don’t need to ask yourself ‘Am I an alcoholic?’ How labels can stigmatize and shame people who have decided to live a healthy, happy, alcohol-free life instead of celebrating their decision to make a healthy life choice How to find a beautiful supportive online community of people living life without alcohol on Instagram Why old shame experiences might be keeping you stuck and how shame resilience work can help you heal The 4 steps to working through shame Identifying shame Contextualize it Connection Sharing the shame out loud The freedom we’ve found since giving up alcohol About Beth Bowen Beth is a licensed social worker with three years of sobriety, who helps alcohol free women reclaim their power and build kick ass lives in sobriety. Beth is a mom of two, a wife and a sober women's coach who lives outside of Austin, Texas. Connect with Beth Bowen To find out more information about Beth and read about her sobriety journey, check out her blog www.bethbowenblog.com Follow Beth on Instagram @bethbowen_ Do you have old shame stories holding you back from the kickass life you know you're meant for? Check out Beth’s free workshop about Shame Resilience in Sobriety Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Drink Less + Live More today with The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

My guest today is Annika O'Melia- a psychotherapist who specializes in the treatment of anxiety, trauma, and perinatal mental health with adult women. Annika quit drinking over 9 years and has four kids under 10, including a set of twin four year olds. She hosts the podcast Mother Recovering, originally started to talk about the stigma of being a new mom with addiction issues, which she found even greater than the stigma of new mothers struggling with other mental health issues such as postpartum depression and anxiety. In this podcast episode Annika is going to introduce us to a type of therapy known as Internal Family Systems Therapy, which can help you resolve internal conflict and restore harmony. Annika’s work is based on the idea that we all have a self that is whole, complete and healthy. And that over the course of our lives as we experience different life situations or traumas, which could be that our parents divorced, childhood abuse, being bullied at school, issues with body image, anxiety, or mental health issues within our family or within ourselves that lead us to experience painful emotions such as anger or shame. Annika describes how often we try to protect ourselves from these painful emotions and experiences by using unhelpful coping mechanisms called (in IFS) ‘managers’ and ‘firefighters’. These coping mechanisms can suppress negative emotions but also can stop us from healing. IFS focuses on healing the wounded parts and restoring mental balance and harmony by changing the dynamics that create discord among the sub-personalities and the Self. In this episode, you’ll learn: How drinking is often used as a coping mechanism to manage anxiety or suppress painful emotions What is internal family systems therapy and how it can help you feel more compassion for yourself and live a more peaceful life How to experience negative emotions without being overwhelmed or wanting to numb out How to resolve internal conflicts within ourselves What it means to restore harmony within yourself What is EMDR and how can it help you in recovery About Annika O’Melia Annika is a psychotherapist and owns her own private practice, Quad City Psychotherapy. She is a graduate of Northwestern University in Evanston and earned her Masters of Social Work from Washington University in St. Louis. Annika specializes in the treatment of anxiety, trauma, and perinatal mental health and works primarily with adult women. Annika has been sober for over 9 years and has four kids under 10, including a set of twin four year olds. She’s the host of the Mother Recovering podcast. Connect with Annika O’Melia To find out more information about Annika, visit www.annikaomelia.com Head over to Instagram to follow Annika at @annikaomelia Subscribe and listen to her podcast Mother Recovering Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Take a screenshot of your favorite episode, post it on your Instagram and tag me @caseymdavidson and tell me your biggest takeaway!

What do you do in sobriety when you’re feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, angry or anxious? You need to calm the adrenaline coursing through your body, regulate what you’re feeling and restore peace - without pouring yourself a drink. Today I’m sharing a new sober tool to add to your toolbox. My guest is Jen Broyles, a Holistic Health Coach and SOMA Breathwork Instructor. Jen’s going to introduce us to Breathwork as a next-level meditation technique that can be a quick and effective way to calm your nervous system, rewire your brain, and release emotional trauma. Plus Jen’s going to lead us in a SOMA Breathwork Meditation - a complete holistic system of breathing techniques. SOMA Breath takes fundamental Pranayama techniques put into a sequence that combines rhythmic breathing to beat-driven music, for therapeutic function. In this episode, Jen and I discuss What is SOMA breathwork and what are the benefits of incorporating it into a daily health practice How women who are quitting drinking can use SOMA breathwork to support their physical, mental and emotional health The unconscious mind and stored trauma How to soothe your emotions by controlling your breathing How and when to practice breathwork The 3 phases of SOMA breathwork Benefits of SOMA Breathwork Awaken dormant functions of the brain. Enhance creativity and problem-solving. Create heightened states of consciousness and inspiration. Improve brain function and mind power. Cleanse and purify the bloodstream and lymphatic system. Stimulate self-healing. Reduce depression/anxiety. Clear negative imprints and traumas from early life (0-7 years). Reimprint your mind with more empowering beliefs and habits. Set intentions and create the motivation and energy to complete important goals. Self-realization: discover your true self and your deepest inner calling. About Jen Broyles Jen helps individuals restore and optimize their health by calming the nervous system, reducing stress and awakening their inner healer. She recognizes that in an overstimulated nervous system, compromised, gut health and suppressed emotions lead to imbalances throughout the mind, the body and the spirit. Jen combines the healing power of breathwork essential oils and other holistic modalities to help clients create a lifestyle of health, vitality and freedom. Connect with Jen Broyles To find out more information about Jen and the services she offers, check out her website Jen Broyles - Breathwork, Essential Oils, Holistic Health To learn more about the Sacred Breath Community, head over to Sacred Breath Online Community Follow Jen on your favorite social media platform Facebook: Jen Broyles, CHC - Home Instagram: Jen Broyles | Holistic Coach (@jenbroyleshealthcoach) Twitter: Jen Broyles (@JenBroyles1) YouTube: Jen Broyles LinkedIn: Jen Broyles - Dallas, Texas | Professional Profile Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Worrying about your drinking is a lonely and dark place to be, especially in midlife when women often feel stressed out, unfulfilled and lonely. And that’s where my guest, Lori Massicot, says she lived for too long. At 45 Lori says she was an over-drinker, overeater, "sky is falling" type of gal who, after questioning her drinking for two years, finally decided to stop drinking. And then she discovered all the possibilities available to her now that she no longer spent her evenings on the couch drinking. Lori is now a life coach specializing in sobriety, mindset transformation and holistic wellness for women over 40 and hosts the podcast To 50 And Beyond. Being sober has given Lori a second chance at life and enabled her to become who she genuinely is, without the façade she was trying to keep up with for decades. In this episode, Lori and I explore: Why more and more women are deciding to stop drinking at age 40, 50 and 60 How “aging sober” empowers women to live healthier, happier and more confident lives. Why midlife is a good time to reevaluate your relationship with alcohol as you look to the decades ahead The perimenopause journey and how to get beyond it sober The correlation between drinking and weight gain in midlife How women’s wellness after 40 is improved by being alcohol-free SHOWNOTES: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/41 About Lori Massicot Lori is a Life Coach specializing in sobriety, mindset transformation, and holistic wellness for women over 40. Lori is an advocate for aging happy, healthy and confident, and free. Lori has a certification in Nutrition Coaching, and is the host of the To 50 & Beyond podcast, a podcast that celebrates women in the middle of life. Links mentioned in the podcast Casey’s interview on Lori’s To 50 & Beyond podcast - No Rock Bottom Required Connect with Lori Massicot To learn more about Lori and to find out more information about her coaching services, head over to www.lorimassicot.com Follow Lori on Instagram at @lorimassicot Listen to her podcast To 50 And Beyond Learn about Lori’s group coaching program for women over 40, Elevate. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

My guest today is Clare Pooley. Her book The Sober Diaries: How One Mom Stopped Drinking And Started Living is based on her blog, Mummy Was A Secret Drinker, which describes her first 365 days of living without alcohol. The Sober Diaries is one of the first books I recommend to all of my clients as they stop drinking. In it, Clare tells her story of building up sober days while at the same time uncovering how deeply her love of wine was connected to her identity as a successful working woman, a fun adult and her life as a mom of 3 children. I love the way The Sober Diaries takes you through the days and months of early sobriety in a funny, insightful, relatable and realistic way. If you read it during your first few weeks or months, you'll see your own experiences in Clare's as she moves through Day 14 "Sober Mornings", Day 26 "Oh God, It's Friday", Day 91 "The Wine Witch", 100 Days and when it gets easier - all the way through Day 365. It's a great read, especially for women with kids, who started drinking in the corporate world or in the mommy wine culture. Clare, at the time she stopped drinking, was a middle aged woman, over educated, overprivileged, formerly overweight mom of three, who had a long love affair with high priced good quality wine until she realized that the relationship was going nowhere but downhill. So she started blogging to take her mind off her broken heart. In this episode, Clare and I dive into: Why immediate benefits of giving up alcohol (better sleep, clearer skin and eyes, a healthier body) are good, but the biggest benefits come much later The fact that well educated, middle aged women are becoming the most likely group to drink problematically How Clare (and I) stopped drinking without traditional 12 Step Programs like AA and why choosing that path to living alcohol-free is even easier for women today Why Clare thinks we need to change the “brand imagery” around not drinking and reframe going alcohol-free from something that one might ‘have to do’ to something you want to do How our social media feeds are doing us a disservice by normalizing excessive drinking Why the the most difficult part of quitting drinking for Clare was learning to deal with emotions without having wine as a crutch Why Clare thought that her life without drinking would be dull and boring but discovered that it was way more exciting than when she was drinking About Clare Pooley Clare is a British blogger, author and novelist. She spent twenty years in the heady world of advertising before becoming a full-time mum. Realizing that her ‘wine o’clock’ habit had spiraled out of control, Clare started writing a blog, Mummy was a Secret Drinker, which has had nearly three million hits. Her memoir, The Sober Diaries was published in 2017 to critical acclaim. Clare’s debut novel - The Authenticity Project, was inspired by her own experience of exposing the rather grubby truth about her own seemingly perfect life, and is being published in twenty-nine territories in 2020. Clare’s talks include a TEDx talk - Making Sober, Less Shameful. Connect with Clare Pooley To learn more about Clare, head over to www.clarepooley.com On Instagram: @clare_pooley Order her books, The Sober Diaries: How One Mom Stopped Drinking And Started Living and The Authenticity Project Listen to her Tedx Talk: Making Sober, Less Shameful Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Listen to the podcast on The Best Quit Lit For Women Quitting Drinking to hear more about The Sober Diaries and other books to inspire your alcohol-free journey. Get the free guide to The Best Quit Lit Books For Women Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Today my guest on the podcast is my very own sober coach. Belle Robertson from Tired Of Thinking About Drinking was the person I emailed on my very last “Day 1” 5 years ago, after I woke up at 3am and decided that I needed support to stop drinking wine every night. After that first day, and over the course of 2 years, Belle and I exchanged over 800 email messages! Belle held my hand through my first week without alcohol and gave me advice and support as I navigated dinner parties, crappy days at work, date nights, sick kids, camping trips and my first sober vacation in Europe. I love Belle's approach because it's practical, approachable and positive. When I started working with her I heard this message - and it set me on the path I’m still walking today. She said, “So I want you to imagine that there's something else for you, something better than what you're doing now. I want you to think about what could be rather than what is. So if there's a you who right now is a person who's drinking, and you want to be something else, and you want something else to happen in your life, and you don't know how to get there. And you don't know how to get this voice in your head to stop. I know what the answer is. I know that you don't believe me when I tell you I know what the answer is. Because the answer is stop drinking. And when you stop drinking, things change.” In this episode, Belle and I discuss: The benefits of not drinking and having a sober coach Why having a positive mindset will help guide you through sobriety Why repeated relapse is normal and how to change your strategy to support sobriety How being sober takes work, it doesn’t happen overnight Why removing the booze will make things better for you and your relationships The drinking cycle of quitting drinking and how it affects your mental health The importance of self care during your sobriety journey About Belle Robertson Belle is a writer and a sober coach with a website, Tired Of Thinking About Drinking. She's written a book about how to quit drinking, and has worked one on one as a sober coach with 3258 individuals. Belle hasn't had a drink in over eight years and she started her own sober journey with a sober trial, a period of time off alcohol to see how she liked it. And apparently she did. When she's not recording sober audios or coaching by email. She works as a caterer and a text designer, originally from Canada. Bell lives in Paris and Vermont with her husband, who's also a Canadian. Connect With Belle Robertson To learn more about Belle and how she can support you on your sober journey, head over to www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com Follow her on Instagram: @tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking Order her book, Tired of Thinking About DrinkingTake my 100 Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson Listen to Belle’s audiobook: https://gumroad.com/l/Belle-TOTAD-audio, Tired of Thinking About Drinking Take my 100 Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. The course is self-paced, so you’re never ‘behind’. You can move through the lessons as quickly or slowly as you need to and revisit earlier lessons at any time. In the Sobriety Starter Kit you’ll learn the framework, plus all the skills + strategies you need to stop drinking and build a life you love without alcohol – without white-knuckling it or hating the process. And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way. Click here to get all the details. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Today is The Day! It’s January 1st, 2021. It is DRY JANUARY and you are ready to stop drinking. It’s the perfect time for a fresh start. You’re ready to Take a break from drinking to be healthier and happier, more fulfilled and confident. Sleep through the night and wake up feeling good. Get out of the drinking cycle of feeling, tired, stuck and defeated. And I’ve got all the tools you need to start strong and keep on going! In this podcast I’m going to share all my best tips and tricks to set you up for success so that you get the most out of Dry January. You’ll learn How to use Dry January as a springboard to building a life you love without alcohol, not as a short break from the drinking cycle. Why Dry January gives you the perfect reason to tell others you’re not drinking, without labels or explanations. How to build up sober momentum in Dry January without worrying about questions of ‘forever’ or ‘never again’. Where to hook up with other women doing Dry January so that you can cheer each other on. How to step up self care this month and use treats and rewards so that your time not drinking is really pleasurable. How to take advantage of this month to change your go-to habits so that after the 31 days you won't want to go back to drinking. And if one of your goals in 2021 is to drink less + live more I can help. I created an on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit, which can help you make 2021 the year you stop drinking. The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol. The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching. Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it. When you purchase the course you’ll have lifetime access to it. You can start today or at any other time. The course is self-paced, so you’re never ‘behind’. You can move through the lessons as quickly or slowly as you need to and revisit earlier lessons at any time. In the Sobriety Starter Kit you’ll learn the framework, plus all the skills + strategies you need to stop drinking and build a life you love without alcohol – without white-knuckling it or hating the process. And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way. Click here to get all the details. Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits Episode 35 - The second episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking on how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process Episode 36 - The third episode on using “The Habits Tipping Point”, that magical moment when choosing not to drink simply becomes a part of who you are. The Sobriety Starter Kit Online Course Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

As the end of 2020 approaches many of us are ready to turn the page on this year and start anew. And it’s time to start fresh and look ahead to what you want and how to make that happen. And in this episode I want to tell you just how to do that. How to not only turn the page on last year and set new intentions for 2021, but also to keep your intentions strong as motivation fades after a few weeks or months. Too often in life, we’ve stopped dreaming. Or if we have dreams we dismiss them as impractical or impossible. We feel weighed down by responsibilities or what other people might think. Or our own habits, fears, limiting beliefs and assumptions of what is achievable, appropriate or allowed stops us in our tracks. My goal is to get you centered on what lights you up, fires up your imagination and brings you joy. To change what’s weighing you down because you deserve to feel happy and fulfilled. We think it’s our busy schedules or responsibilities that get in our way, but it’s not that. The biggest thing that stops us from achieving our dreams is ourselves. Our fears, our limiting beliefs and our negative self-talk. My challenge to you is to focus on what you want to feel and do in your life (regardless of what others think) and take small and large steps towards your dreams. And if one of your goals in 2021 is to drink less + live more I can help. I created an on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit, which can help you make 2021 the year you stop drinking. The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol. The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching. Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it. In the Sobriety Starter Kit you’ll learn the framework, plus all the skills + strategies you need to stop drinking and build a life you love without alcohol – without white-knuckling it or hating the process. And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way. Click here to get all the details. Resources mentioned in this episode Download The Ultimate Vision Board Starter Kit Blog: How Vision Boards Work & Why You Need One The Sobriety Starter Kit Online Course Brené Brown: The Midlife Unraveling Jen Sincero’s Book: You Are A Badass Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process. Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

The Habits Tipping Point: When Choosing Not to Drink Becomes Easy and Simply Part Of Who You Are Welcome to Episode #3 in the Atomic Habits series on how to break your habit of drinking based on the research into what works in changing behavior for long term success. In part one of Atomic Habits, Episode 34, we discussed how to quit drinking using identity based habits. We talked about how every action you take supporting your goal to be alcohol-free [like listening to this podcast] is casting a vote for your identity as a happy, healthy woman who doesn’t need to drink to have fun or cope with life. In part two of Atomic Habits, Episode 35, we talked about how to break your habit of drinking in four steps by changing your cues, cravings, responses, and rewards habit loop. And in today’s Episode, part three, we're going to talk about the tipping point. The point when your behavior changes and shifts into your identity. There is a tipping point where by choosing not to drink you are simply acting IN ALIGNMENT with who you are. The struggle not to drink is gone. Your mind is not constantly thinking about drinking or not drinking. You're someone who used to drink but don’t anymore, because you feel better without it. In this episode we’ll dig into: How to avoid the stumbling blocks that have tripped you up in the past and led you back to drinking. What to do when you’re in the ‘plateau of latent potential,’ the time period when the work you’re doing builds until you hit the tipping point. Good habits make time your ally and bad habits make time your enemy. Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. In the same way that money multiplies through compound interest, the effects of your habits multiply as you repeat them across time. At first you feel better and your progress is small and incremental. But as more time goes by those small improvements compound exponentially. The positive or negative trajectory of your life is immense depending on which habits you keep or change. When you change your habit of drinking, you’ll have a bunch of immediate benefits. You’ll have more energy and sleep well. You’ll look better and have more patience. And you will also change the trajectory of your life. From one that’s declining slowly and then more steeply, to one that’s improving slowly and then improving exponentially over time. Impressive results are the natural outcome of many small improvements accumulating over time. Atomic Habits links and resources mentioned Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits Episode 35 - The second episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking on how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process. Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Have you been trying to break your habit of drinking using willpower, positive inspiration or negative, fear-based motivation by trying to avoid negative consequences? If you haven’t been successful in your attempts to stop drinking using this approach it’s actually not your fault. Instead you've likely just been trying to make a long term behavior change in all the wrong ways. There are easy ways and hard ways to break a habit, and research into the science of behavior change shows that willpower just doesn’t work in the long term. In this episode I’m going to talk about how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process. We’ll dive into: The four laws of how to break a bad habit and how to build a new one, as outlined in Atomic Habits by James Clear. Why understanding your personal habit loop of cues, cravings, responses and rewards is critical to helping you stop drinking without relying on willpower or hating the process. How creating and sharing an implementation intention is fundamental to succeeding in change where you have stumbled in the past. Why environmental design is key to achieving your goals. Making small changes to your physical and social environment will make it easier to break the drinking cycle. What has likely tripped you up in the past and practical and specific ways to set yourself up for success, not self-sabotage. What you should learn from times you’ve tried to stop before, without shaming yourself for going back to drinking. There are four laws of how to break a bad habit and how to build a new one First, start with your implementation intention. It’s a stated plan to solidify your plan to be alcohol-free for a specific amount of time. The first law of how to make a new habit stick is to make it obvious. The more visible and available a habit is, the more likely you are to stick to it. The second law is to make it attractive. The more appealing a habit is, the more likely you are to feel motivated to do it. The third law is to make it easy. The easier, simpler, more convenient and frictionless a habit is, the more likely it is to be performed. And the fourth law is to make it satisfying. The more satisfying, enjoyable, and pleasurable a habit is, the more likely it is to stick. Atomic Habits links and resources mentioned Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Now back to How to Quit Drinking With Identity Based Habits, Because Willpower Doesn’t Work. There are easy ways and hard ways to break the habit of drinking. And if you’ve tried a bunch of times to get sober momentum and given up after 2 weeks or 2 months, I’m betting that you’ve tried ALL the hard ways to stop drinking and it’s brought you back to the same place. In this episode I’m going to share with you the research and framework behind how to break your habit of drinking once and for all, without relying on willpower, white-knuckling it or hating the process. What I’ve found in the coaching work I do with women is that approaching not drinking based on the research into what works in terms of long term behavior change is the most powerful, logical and sustainable way to become a happy and healthy non-drinker. And the best book I’ve found on how to change your habits and behavior is Atomic Habits by James Clear. Here’s what doesn’t work when you’re trying to stop drinking: Shaming or blaming yourself for drinking again when the physical, social and emotional environment you live in has set you up for failure Relying on hitting a low enough ‘bottom’ so that you’ll finally have the motivation to not drink and the willpower to resist alcohol Keeping your wine (or your alcohol of choice) in your home (so that you don’t have to ask your partner to change their behavior) Relying on your partner, family and drinking friends as your main source of support for changing your relationship with alcohol If you’ve tried to stop drinking before and don’t seem to get very far there are a lot of reasons why what you’ve been doing up until now hasn’t been working. Here’s what you’ll learn in today’s episode about the ways to change your behavior and stop drinking in a way that’s easier and set up in a way for long term success. How to prime your physical environment and social support to overcome the moments when willpower isn’t enough and motivation fades Why true behavior change is based on identity change - who you believe you are. Because when you change your identity from a “red wine or chardonnay girl” to a “healthy, happy, confident and inspiring woman who doesn't drink anymore because she feels better and does more without it” - then, when you don’t drink, you are simply acting IN ALIGNMENT with who you are How to get rid of the limiting beliefs and fears you have about what your life will look like without drinking Why it's important to focus on your trajectory (the path that you are on and where it is leading you) rather than your end goal How altering the media and messages you surround yourself with (including the messages you tell yourself) can be the difference between success and failure Links and resources mentioned Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

There is no cookie cutter way to quit drinking. Often it takes many tries to find out what level of support you need to navigate life without drinking as a way to cope with life and what framework of recovery works for you. My guest today is Erica C. Barnett, the Seattle author of the book Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse and Recovery. Erica’s experience with drinking and quitting drinking illustrates that it often takes a lot of trying to know what works for you. And that being able to move from relying on drinking pretty heavily as your main coping mechanism to not drinking and being able to sustain that often takes a number of tries. I loved my conversation with Erica and we covered a lot of ground. We talked about the good and the bad in drinking, quitting drinking and life in recovery. Plus Erica shared a ton about the ins and outs of the world of outpatient + inpatient treatment and detox facilities, which I knew very little about before our conversation. In this episode, Erica and I chat about How awesome it is that we’re now able (with a few years distance from quitting drinking) to laugh at ‘all of it’ (our drinking, the situations we got into, the things we screwed up, the times we tried to stop drinking and failed, our paths to sobriety and everything in between) The rapid increase in women binge drinking and drinking daily during the 2020 quarantine and COVID pandemic and the relentless messaging in our society encouraging (and pressuring) women to drink everyday How fucked up it is that our society first encourages and trivializes women’s reliance on wine as “cute” or “funny” and then blames women for becoming addicted to an addictive substance Why despite the fact that alcohol use disorders are more common than opioid addiction and kill more people, alcohol is positioned as an almost entirely fun and harmless substance Why relapse is more often than not a part of recovery yet relapse is treated as a personal failure rather than a near-inevitability The differences between the many paths to recovery including cognitive behavioral therapy, 12 step programs, online alcohol-free groups, inpatient and outpatient treatment facilities, medically supervised detox services, sober coaching and everything in between The judgement surrounding addiction and how it can be harmful to recovering addicts. The treatment industry and how it relies on repeat customers to keep it profitable and thriving - as well as Erica’s personal experiences (what worked and what didn’t) at various treatment centers About Erica C. Barnett Erica is a longtime political journalist and the author of a great book, Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse and Recovery. She founded and edits the website PublicCola.com, which covers local news and politics in Seattle. Links and resources mentioned Grab a copy of Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse, and Recovery Check out Erica’s blog, Thecisforcrank.com Check out http://PubliCola.com and I Was a “Fun” Drunk. Until I Wasn’t. Connect with Erica C. Barnett Follow Erica on Twitter @ericacbarnett Connect with Erica on Instagram @ericabarnett Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Developing a running practice can jumpstart your recovery. Running is a layer of support that helps you set goals, boost confidence, and fill your time with a healthy alternative when all you want to do is pour yourself a drink. My guest today is Margaret Ward. Margaret is a mother of 4, a multiple marathon finisher, a retired chardonnay drinker, a life and sobriety coach and a former lawyer. She’s been featured in Trail Runner Magazine and her main passions, beside her kids, is finding adventure through traveling and running around the world. Margaret’s Recovery Run Adventures offers alcohol-free adventures to destination races in Iceland, Norway and Italy and more. In this episode we discuss, The struggles of motherhood that can drive women to drink as a way to cope with stress and anxiety The mental and physical benefits of running that will help you heal How developing a small, consistent running practice can ease early sobriety How running can help you build up small wins and boost your confidence The way in which running helps you become more in tune with your body Fun and exciting running adventures around the world in Iceland, Norway and Italy 10 Ways Running Can Jumpstart Your Recovery Running requires little financial commitment and you can jump in at any time. Just grab your running shoes and head out the door. Helps control your cravings, especially in early sobriety. When you run, your brain releases endorphins. Endorphins is a chemical released by your brain that triggers positive emotions. This is also known as the runners high. Running decreases stress and anxiety. In early sobriety, your stress and anxiety levels can increase. Running increases your heart rate which in turn changes your brain chemistry. Your brain releases an anti-anxiety neurotransmitter such as GABA. Moving your body allows you to practice mindfulness. When you run, you connect with your breathing and get into a state of flow. Running is a form of moving meditation. Allows you to set goals and see immediate results. Setting running goals builds confidence and it gives you something to celebrate once that goal is accomplished. Start small and commit. Provides structure to your day which is an important tool to have during early sobriety. Counteracts Boredom. Running is a natural way to release energy. Releasing build up energy helps regulate your nervous system, control anger, and will physically tire you out which will help you sleep at night. When you start running, you open yourself up to a whole new world. A community of women who will cheer you on and hold you accountable. Joining a local running group helps you establish connections with other women. Running provides you a great reason to stop drinking. You’re getting your body healthy. You are giving yourself a great tool to jumpstart your sobriety. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/32 Links and resources mentioned Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John Ratey Born to Run by Christopher McDougall Connect with Margaret Ward Find out more about Margaret’s life and sobriety coaching and her travel + running trips at https://recoveryrunadventures.com/coaching/ You can also get Margaret’s free guide, 5 Steps to Jumpstart Your Running and Recovery, at https://recoveryrunadventures.com/coaching. Read Margaret Ward’s feature in Trail Runner Magazine. Follow Margaret on Facebook at Recovery Run Adventures Connect with Margaret on Instagram @recoveryrunadventures Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

The holidays are both a wonderful time of year as well as a time that can trip up women who have stopped drinking, from those in early sobriety to those that might have quit months (or years) earlier. A lot of us might get to November and December and think, I've been doing this not drinking thing for a while now. I've got this. But the holidays are a unique combination of back-to-back drinking events + occasions, family dynamics, memories of previous years drinking, physically being surrounded by alcohol with powerful emotional and social triggers. The holiday season can undermine your recovery if you're not prepared to navigate it in a way that supports your sobriety. In this episode, Jean and I share all the tips and tricks to having a wonderful holiday season without drinking. We talk about: How to socialize sober + reduce stress and anxiety around attending holiday gatherings Specific strategies for navigating Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas + New Year’s Eve Practical advice on attending + hosting holiday parties, traveling + staying with family or having family members stay with you What you can share with family + friends so they can make not drinking easier for you during the holidays Why annual traditions and the specific expectations around what events happen during the holiday season, who hosts, what is served, how long people are together, who travels + for how long, can lead to resentments + challenges for your sobriety Why it’s important to identify your expectations around the holidays + evaluate how they might impact you physically, mentally and emotionally How to say no, modify traditions + set boundaries without feeling like you’re high maintenance The fun stuff: why to set up a seasonal or holiday ‘bucket list’ with ideas of how to make the most of this special time that’s not centered around alcohol Ideas for new traditions that can make the season more joyful, memorable + fulfilling About Jean McCarthy Jean McCarthy is the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast, an award winning blogger + recovery advocate. Jean is an author of two books. Her book, The Unpickled Holiday Survival Guide - staying alcohol free during the festive season is a wonderful resource about sobriety for people in recovery and for their families. Her collection of poetry, The Ember Ever There - Poems on change, grief, growth, recovery and rediscovery was published in early 2020. I interviewed Jean for this podcast in episode nine about her poetry and her story. Jean started her blog, Unpickled in 2011, and has continued to chronicle her alcohol free lifestyle. Since her first day of sobriety, thousands of readers have credited Unpickled as a motivating factor in their decision to quit drinking. SHOWNOTES: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Links and resources mentioned Connect with Jean Mccarthy Link to buy Jean’s Holiday Survival Guide and The Ember Ever There books: www.jeanmccarthy.ca/books Instagram @jeanmccarthy_writes Facebook pages for Unpickled (www.facebook.com/unpickled) and The Bubble Hour (www.facebook.com/thebubblehour) Also websites: https://jeanmccarthy.ca/, https://unpickledblog.com/, https://jeanmccarthy.ca/the-bubble-hour/, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999299906 Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

The Enneagram is a tool of self discovery. It can help you understand yourself and why you respond and act the way you do. Today my guest is Jim Zartman. Jim is a certified Enneagram coach who walks us through the Enneagram types as well as transformational habits that can change our lives. Since Jim has done Enneagram work and typing interviews with over 50 women who are on the alcohol-free path, I asked him to talk about how the Enneagram work can be viewed through the lens of women who have relied on alcohol as a coping mechanism and are now leaving it behind. If you’re stepping away from alcohol the Enneagram can help you understand your unique core drivers, core needs, beliefs and patterns that have been influencing your choices and decisions. Jim shares that your core drivers can show up as superpowers or as a shadow that can sabotage the best parts of you. Jim shares, “The best of you is permanent. The worst of you is temporary. You never want to be less of yourself. You want to be the best of yourself with fewer sabotaging patterns. The Enneagram can help you uncover the best parts of you.” In Jim’s Enneagram work with clients he sees that: Understanding your Enneagram type can help you gain a better understanding of your core motivations, driven by your desires and fears Your Enneagram type is not a landing place, but a launch pad - it’s a tool in your growth, not the list of behaviors you are now held to Your Enneagram type doesn’t put you in a box. Rather it gives you a framework for your tendencies and the lens through which you interact with your surroundings In this episode, Jim and I chat about: What the Enneagram is and how you can use the Enneagram as a tool to help you stop relying on alcohol as a coping mechanism Transformation habits that can make a big difference in your sobriety How you show up + being consistent Acceptance Curiosity The three types of the main intelligence centers: the body center, heart center, & head center Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/30 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit About Jim Zartman Jim is a certified enneagram coach and the co-founder of The Art of Growth, which is a team of coaches and consultants who work with individuals and organizations to help them achieve the transformation they want in themselves, their work and their relationship. Connect with Jim Zartman Website: www.theartofgrowth.org Listen to The Art of Growth Podcast Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

What is the difference between Life, Recovery and Sober Coaching and a 12 step program like Alcoholics Anonymous? Most people who are trying to stop drinking have preconceived notions about what goes on in 12 step recovery programs such as AA based on what they’ve seen on TV and in movies and are also confused about what exactly “life coaching” or “sober coaching” involves. Some people wonder if a life and recovery coach is just a private paid AA Sponsor (spoiler alert - it’s not!) Going through a 12 step program, like Alcoholics Anonymous, typically involves attending meetings where members follow the 12 steps laid in the Big Book of Alcoholic Anonymous as a process that recovering alcoholics work through to successfully achieve and maintain sobriety. Many of these steps are ideally taken with the help of a sponsor, an individual who has gone through the AA program and helps others who are new to AA as they navigate early sobriety. Unlike AA, most life and sobriety coaches use a flexible approach to identify your personal goals around not drinking and succeeding in other areas of your life and create a plan to achieve them based on individual needs, motivations and preferences. I think that hiring a coach to stop drinking is similar to the decision you might make to hire a personal trainer or a nutritionist to increase your fitness levels or refine your eating habits. I’ve invited my guest, Dennis Berry, to have this conversation with me because he’s not only a skilled life coach who is passionate about the benefits of coaching, but he is also in recovery and found recovery in AA and for many years was an active participant in the program. He both sees all the benefits of 12 Step programs and the difference between AA and coaching. In this episode, we discuss: How life, sobriety and recovery coaching differs from the approach used in 12 Step Recovery Programs such as Alcoholic Anonymous. Why most people need layers of support to stop drinking which may include a combination of coaching, therapy, exercise, 12 step programs, podcasts, books, online support groups and other hobbies, habits and healthy pursuits. How coaching differs from the work done by sponsors in AA or therapy in being goal and future-focused. The benefits of the Alcoholics Anonymous as a program which is widely available (with an estimated membership of 2 million people around the world), free of cost and offers fellowship, support and a structured program of steps to take to stop drinking. The limitations of AA as a program created 85 years ago, in 1935, by two white men. In 1939, the Fellowship published its basic textbook, Alcoholics Anonymous and in 1953 AA’s 12 steps (the guidelines by which to get sober and recover) and 12 traditions (the principles behind the steps meant to keep members focused on the primary purpose) were written. Criticisms of AA have been that it can be seen as a one-size-fits-all approach that is rigid and antiquated. The importance of developing independence in sobriety and why Dennis believes AA’s philosophy and approach can foster dependence on the program. About Dennis Berry Dennis is a Life Coach based in Colorado, who has been working with people recovering from addiction worldwide for over 15 years. Dennis has been in recovery from drug abuse for 17 years. His recovery has helped him find his mission in life, which is to help others on their journey through sobriety and achieve inner peace and success in every area of their lives. Dennis is also the host of The Funky Brain Podcast. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/29 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Connect with Dennis Berry Website www.dennisberry.com Listen to The Funky Brain Podcast Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

How can you heal codependency in family relationships and break unhealthy patterns established in childhood? That’s what we’re here to talk about today. Codependency is a buzzword you might hear often, but it can be confusing and misunderstood. My guest today is Brandi Merrill, she’s a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach, a licensed clinical social worker and a “boundary boss”. Brandi’s going to help us understand what codependency is (and is not) and how to break unhealthy patterns that may be sabotaging your health and happiness. Codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and sense of self. It can cause you to worry about the lack of response from people, to feel anger about what you said or didn’t say in situations because you are relying on others for approval, not honor your own opinions and thoughts, and believe that putting yourself first is rude or selfish. And codependency can make it challenging to set healthy boundaries, or cause guilt or anxiety when you do set them. In this episode, Brandi and I are going to dig into: The 4 steps to healing codependent behavior 7 signs of healing from codependency Why overly harsh or loose boundaries can cause you to avoid close relationships How and why codependency manifests in many family relationships How to break unhealthy patterns established in childhood as an adult The complicated relationship between codependent feelings and boundaries About Brandi Merrill Brandi lives in Idaho and is a single mom to three amazing daughters. She's a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach and a licensed clinical social worker who has provided counseling services for many years. Brandi is passionate about coaching and the transformations that are possible with the use of positive psychology and spirituality. Her personal journey has been one of forgiveness, self love, becoming a boundary boss, and single parenting in recovery. She's in recovery from alcohol and codependency and believes that anything is possible. Brandi is passionate about inspiring her clients to make the changes they desire and to live their best lives. Brandi also works closely with moms in recovery that have experienced loss, including time with their kids, divorce or death. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/28 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Links and resources mentioned: Books mentioned: Codependency by Melody Beattie The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner Connect with Brandi Merrill Website: www.thepassionatepath.com Instagram: @thepassionatepath Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

‘What’s Next?’ is a huge question for midlife women who have quit drinking or are working on quitting drinking. You're evolving, you're changing, your coping mechanisms are changing. Lots of times when you stop drinking, suddenly you have a lot more free time and energy than you used to. When you were drinking and recovering from drinking. You are sort of in a holding pattern. You were stuck. And now you're wondering what to do with all that time. In today’s episode, I’m speaking with Sondra Primeaux. Sondra is a multi passionate maker, a photographer, a sustainable designer and seamstress, a writer, a coach and a podcast host. She hosts the Unruffled Podcast through a private Facebook group for the podcast. Sondra started the Unruffled Podcast to talk about the intersection of creativity and recovery in what she terms the midlife solution, which I absolutely love. Sandra says midlife is only a crisis if you make it one. Sondra was 45 when she quit using alcohol as a means to cope with life. And in the last six years, she's figured out through intensive learning, trial and failure, and loads of practice to answer ‘now what?’ We are discussing: The intersection of creativity and recovery helps midlife women not only survive, but also thrive. How conscious journaling can give you the momentum and creative space to explore more internal thoughts and how this process is a good tool to have during early sobriety The transition into your mid-life and why you should dig deep into what you’ve done or haven't done. And it's also a time to take a glimpse into your future self. Being honest with yourself and with others and how to set boundaries. Using the enneagram to learn about yourself and what motivates you Why creativity is a important part of your recovery and how to find different ways to bring joy and creativity to your life How to find the middle space or sweet spot where you can create Intersection of your personality type and going to AA and realizing there are other successful ways to recovery Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/27 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Links and resources mentioned: Book mentioned: Artist Way by Julia Cameron Connect with Sondra Primeaux Website: www.theunruffled.com Want to work with Sondra, check out her Change your Story Program Go to Sondra Talbert Primeaux Facebook page and message her to join her secret Facebook group Listen to Sondra's podcast The Unruffled Podcast Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

My guest today Lotta Dann, recovery advocate, blogger and author of three books: the best-selling memoir Mrs. D is Going Without, her second book Mrs. D Is Going Within, and the just released The Wine O’Clock Myth. Lotta’s personal memoir of drinking, quitting drinking and living alcohol-free in a drink-filled world is witty, funny, and uplifting. Many memoirs are raw and gritty, but Mrs. D Is Going Without is both charming and real. I loved her book and completely related to Lotta’s experiences in early sobriety. Today Lotta and I talk about The Wine O’Clock Myth, and why alcohol occupies such a privileged position in our society. It’s almost universally represented as a magic elixir to all our problems which makes life both fun and glamorous. And the fact that alcohol also negatively affects the lives of people is practically invisible in conversations about or representations of drinking. In this episode, Lotta and I discuss: The truth that if you are struggling to moderate drinking, you are not alone and you are not the problem: alcohol is the problem. The way the liquor industry has targeted women and the damaging 'Wine Mom' social media culture. The importance of reframing the treat and reward concepts we’ve been taught (and internalized) around wine. That drinking is our treat at the end of the day and a much needed reward for hard work. Why after the initial hit of dopamine wine is a depressive substance that is numbing and cuts you off from yourself and the people around you. How to find other rewards and ‘sober treats’ that will nourish and ground you and that will actually make you feel better. How to intentionally create a social media feed that inspires you to see all the awesome ways to enjoy life without alcohol rather than one that glamorizes drinking at every turn. Why it’s critical to tap into a positive sober support community that shares the full picture of drinking - not just the one marketed to you. One that highlights both how good life can be without alcohol and shares truthfully the messages you will not see in popular culture, marketing or your social media feed - that drinking isn’t always harmless and fun. It can be dangerous and suck a lot of women (and men) into an unhealthy and unhappy cycle. About Lotta Dann Lotta built a successful career as a TV reporter, producer, and director, while simultaneously developing a remarkable aptitude for drinking a lot of alcohol. Lotta began an anonymous blog called “Mrs. D is Going Without” when she was first stopping drinking - as a way to work through her thoughts and feelings, and keep herself accountable when she was starting her journey without alcohol. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/26 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Get the Guide to The Best Quit Lit For Women (Including Lotta Dann’s Mrs. D is Going Without) Connect with Lotta Dann The Wine O'Clock Myth: The Truth You Need To Know About Women and Alcohol: https://www.amazon.com/Wine-OClock-Myth-Truth-Alcohol/dp/1988547229 Mrs D is Going Without: A Memoir: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-D-Going-Without-Memoir/dp/1877505390 Mrs D is Going Within: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-Going-Within-Lotta-Dann/dp/1877505862 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrs_d_alcoholfree/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrsdisgoingwithout Lotta Dann's Blog: http://livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com/ Mrs. D's Blog on Living Sober: https://livingsober.org.nz/category/mrs-ds-blog/ Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

What is Gray Area Drinking? It describes the space where most drinkers live: a place between being able to ‘take or leave’ alcohol and hitting some kind of a ‘rock bottom’ where you are experiencing external consequences associated with being on the alcohol use disorder spectrum or identified as signs of alcoholism. In a world where everything seems to be black and white, where either you have a problem with drinking or you don’t, there are so many of us who try to moderate our drinking and struggle to do so. You might not experience outward consequences from drinking, but struggle internally. You have silent conversations with yourself about your own drinking. You intend to have one glass of wine, but then find it easy to finish the whole bottle. You stop drinking for days, weeks or months, but then start drinking again and find yourself back in the same place. It’s a really confusing place to live when you realize that the way you drink isn’t helping you have the life you want but you live in a world where drinking is all around you. So how do you know if it’s time to make an “early exit” from the drinking life? And what does that even look like and feel like? Those are the questions we're digging into today with my guest, Jolene Park. Jolene is a functional nutritionist, a health coach, a TEDx speaker, a former gray area drinker and the creator of the gray area drinking recovery hub. Jolene describes the term “gray area drinking” as the kind of drinking where there’s no rock bottom, but you drink as a way to manage anxiety and then regret how much and how often you drink. In this episode, we discuss: What gray area drinking is. How to determine if you’re a gray area drinker and what to do about it. Why so many of us use alcohol to downshift and calm down at the end of a busy, stressful day. Jolene’s personal alcohol and anxiety story and why she decided to make an early exit from the drinking life. What drinking does to your body. How to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques. The functional impact of food, emotions, environment and movement in relation to our physical bodies. The importance of replenishing our neurotransmitters and nourishing our nervous systems in a comprehensive and consistent way. The missing pieces that have been overlooked in traditional recovery programs such as neurotransmitters (GABA, serotonin, dopamine), blood sugar imbalance, and nutrient deficiencies like B6 and zinc (pyroluria). Specific supplements that boost your GABA Holy basil Lemon balm Passion flower Inositol L-theanine About Jolene Park: Jolene Park coaches high achieving professionals who want to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce their anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/25 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Connect with Jolene Park Visit Jolene’s Website: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/ Follow Jolene on Instagram @jolene_park Watch Jolene’s TEDx talk: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/tedx-talk/ Listen to the Editing Our Drinking and Our Lives Podcast with Jolene Park & Aidan Donnelley Rowley Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

Ann Dowsett Johnston, the best-selling author of Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, has described the positioning of wine in popular culture as “The modern woman's steroid, enabling her to do everything she needs to do or tries to do”. And there’s one problem with that description of alcohol. It’s not true and it doesn't work. Instead of helping the modern woman do everything she needs to do - wine is a mal-adpative, and highly addictive coping mechanism that’s exacerbating stress, anxiety and depression for the modern woman. On the podcast today Ann and I unpack the complicated and intimate relationship between women and alcohol. We talk about: How drinking after a long day of work has become a universal practice. It’s being repeated in house after house as women are standing at their kitchen counters in the evening and pouring themselves a glass (or a bottle) of wine. How successful, professional women are increasingly struggling with drinking even as they rise high on the corporate ladder. How women are using alcohol to self-medicate anxiety, depression, loss and loneliness - including suffering through events like empty-nest syndrome and depression in menopause. How the messaging that “Mom needs to drink to get through her day, life, kids and work” is being pushed on us - in surround sound - in popular culture and by our alcogenic society. Why are you able to move forward in a healthy way only once you get out of the drinking cycle. You’re finally able to work through underlying issues of anxiety, codependency, trauma, depression, and other factors that are driving you to drink. Why the growing movement of women telling their stories of drinking and quitting drinking, with pride and not shame, is helping other women recover in a way that the culture of anonymity in AA does not. Why it’s so important for women who want to stop drinking to develop many layers of support to heal - which can include connecting with women on the alcohol-free path, reading books and memoirs of women who have stopped drinking, learning about the science of alcohol and what it does to your body and mind, joining support programs and creating new coping mechanisms through psychotherapy, counseling or with a sober or addiction coach. How you can build layers of support to help you change your relationship with drinking - through psychotherapy, coaching, other women in private free Facebook groups online or in person, books, exercise, nutrition and more. About Ann Dowsett Johnston Anne Dowsett Johnston is the best-selling author of the book Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol. It was named by the Washington Post as one of the top 10 books of 2013. Ann is a psychotherapist who provides trauma informed relational care to clients with a focus on women in recovery, and works from a holistic perspective using the principles of focusing oriented psychotherapy, to bring awareness and compassion to the mind-body connection. Ann also offers an online eight week course on Writing Your Recovery based on her decades of experience as a journalist and a best selling author on memoir and writing your recovery. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Stephanie Wilder-Taylor article on A Heroine of Cocktail Moms Sobers Up Connect with Ann Dowsett Johnston Website: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com Book: Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol TEDx talk on drinking and how it changed Ann’s life: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com/media/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anndowsettjohnstob/ Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Connect with She Recovers https://sherecovers.co/together-online/ https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/ The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles

Are you worried that life without drinking will be boring? Or are you currently in early sobriety and feeling bored? Are you scared that you’ll never really have fun or let loose again without alcohol? Or wondering if you’ll lose all your friends and favorite activities if you don’t drink? Here’s a secret: Almost all women who love to drink worry about being bored (or boring) without alcohol. In this episode I’m going to talk about all the tips, tricks, suggestions and advice I have to make life without alcohol fun, comforting, interesting and gratifying. I’ll talk about: Why drinking is actually keeping your life small, isolated (and boring). Why all of us have tunnel vision when we’re drinking. We see only the people and activities around us that are centered around alcohol (and look past all the other activities hiding in plain sight). What to do if you're feeling bored in your first 15, 30 or 40 days and how to reframe your mindset about the important work you’re doing. Why there is NO CHANCE you're “doing nothing” in early sobriety. Even if you feel like you are just taking baths, reading books, going to bed early and taking long, slow walks you are doing big, important work and emotional heavy lifting. Why part of the work of early sobriety is learning to sit with feeling “blah”. Why to ask yourself “What do I love MORE than wine?” [and why it’s OK if you can’t think of anything at all to answer that question]. Why you should give yourself “assignments” to find joy and pleasure after you quit drinking. Examples and ideas of new passions, activities, pastimes and hobbies from other women who have stopped drinking & found joy and excitement without it. Why vision boards of future adventures and travel (Coffee in Paris? Bike tour in Amsterdam? Hiking in Greece?) can be a powerful way to get excited about your fun life in sobriety. How to edit your social media accounts to inspire you about how good life can be without alcohol vs. making you feel like you’re missing out on something (or everything). How to meet new friends who don’t drink and have new adventures without alcohol. And why it’s up to you to make things happen in your life. It’s both a responsibility and an invitation. You’ve got this. Life without drinking is not smaller. It’s not boring. It’s big and exciting and beautiful and you will have the time and energy to go after your dreams. And if you’re not there yet I’m here to hold your hand and walk you through the quiet times until you’re ready for good stuff ahead. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/23 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Check out my previous episode with the authors of The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free, Amanda Eyre Ward + Jardine Libaire here Listen to my episode on how to find friends in sobriety. Download the Guide to my Favorite Secret Facebook Groups For Women Quitting Drinking. Download The Vision Board Starter Kit. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

Who doesn’t carry around some emotional baggage around money? Most people have a complicated relationship with money that can show up in different ways. This may look like: A constant weight on your shoulders or guilt about carrying debt Buying things to get a short term hit of happiness Fear of maintaining financial stability in an uncertain job market Staying in a job that isn’t making you happy because you feel trapped by the “golden handcuffs” Worries about putting your kids through college or paying your mortgage Or not being on the same page as your partner on spending Money is a loaded subject and one we rarely talk about with friends and colleagues. And often our “money story”, what drives our fears, guilt and avoidance around money, is unconscious. It’s something we picked up in childhood and from our parents. You may not even be aware of the patterns you’re repeating or the thoughts that are not serving you. Unresolved issues, tension or stress related to money is something that can keep us drinking (to bury our heads in the sand) or a trigger to drink. And that’s why I’m so excited to bring you today’s episode! My guest today is Linda Parmar, she’s a financial recovery and money coach. Linda specializes in helping women in recovery heal their money, thoughts and behaviors. Linda learned in recovery, that money (like alcohol and drugs) can be just a symptom of negative patterns and behaviors. Fear around financial security, fear of not knowing how to manage money or “adult”, fear around being able to take care of ourselves or making the wrong decisions financially can be a big source of stress in our own lives, as well as with family and in relationships. There’s a lot of shame and self-judgement around debt, financial missteps, not having as much money as the people you know or not being able to provide your kids with the same vacations and gifts that their friends may be getting. A few years into recovery, Linda was ready to look at these patterns and behaviors, which led her to become a certified money coach. Linda has worked in the financial industry for 20 years, and has made a career from helping people with their finances. In this episode, you will learn: How to uncover your money story What values you have around money Why spending money can be addictive behavior How to forgive yourself and start to understand how money is a trigger driving you to drink Why both Linda and I hate the word “budget” How to create a spending plan that is aligned with your dreams and needs Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/22 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Apps Mentioned: https://moneyminderonline.com https://www.everydollar.com http://imdonedrinking.com Connect with She Recovers https://sherecovers.co/together-online/ https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/ SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles Connect with Linda Parmar Grab your Financial First Aid Kit at www.lindaparmar.com Facebook Group: Your Money, Your Recovery Podcast: Your Money Your Recovery Podcast Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

The Truth Behind Those Online Drinking “Highlights”. Getting Real With Emily Lynn Paulson. How “real” are all those images you see online? The perfect Instagram families? The fancy business trips? The carefree Mom’s Night Out? Today my guest is an author, a speaker and my friend, Emily Lynn Paulson. In our conversation Emily and I dig into the truth behind the “Online Drinking Highlights” you see as you scroll through your social media feed. Emily and I know that so many women struggle with their drinking, quietly, in private, and in their own heads - just like we did. You might look around and see everyone else is posting a photo of the sophisticated cocktails at a bar on a date night, the pictures of friends all drinking together around the firepit, or the vacation pictures with the margarita at the beach. And the truth is, you have no idea what anyone else’s relationship with alcohol looks like, or what their marriage feels like, or how well they’re coping with being a parent and with their jobs. In this episode Emily and I talk about: Why Instagram, Pinterest and Facebook set expectations so high for what a successful woman, mother and wife is “supposed” to be that most women inevitably can’t measure up. The reality of what our lives, our jobs, our marriages and interactions with our children looked like as compared to the pictures we posted online. Why posting your highlights on social media is such a draw. As Emily says “In those Instagram squares was the life I wished we were living: a happy marriage, a healthy wife, a happy motherhood. Behind the scenes though, we were barely surviving.” How you can both love your kids and feel grateful for them, and also feel that motherhood is hard, draining and (yes) unfulfilling. And why finding a safe space of women to share your struggles and honest experiences - both good and bad - can be a game changer in living a happier life. In this episode, you learn: How to navigate the drinking culture of parenthood and “mommy juice” How to connect with your partner again after quitting drinking Why it's hard to quit alcohol when it has become part of your love language How not to gravitate toward the pretty images on Instagram and take those photos as real life because the hard stuff is hard to look at both on Instagram and in our own lives. Emily Lynn Paulson is the author of a powerful memoir about her life, her family, her successes and struggles, excessive drinking and disordered eating, and her realization that drinking wasn’t working in her life anymore. Emily is a certified professional recovery coach, She Recovers Designated Coach, This Naked Mind Certified Coach, founder of Sober Mom Squad, and a member of the long-term recovery community. She has appeared on media outlets including The Doctors, Parade, Today Parents, and USA Today, discussing how to end the shame and stigma of mental health by and substance abuse disorder. Emily has been sober since January 2, 2017, her recovery path is focused on ruthless honesty, grace, self-love and is documented in her memoir, Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life. Paulson’s resources include one-on-one coaching, to help others evaluate whether or not alcohol is serving them in their lives. Paulson resides in Seattle with her husband and their five children. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Connect with Emily Lynn Paulson Book: Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life Website: www.highlightreallife.com Instagram: Highlight Real Recovery Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

When you stop drinking, doing inner work around knowing, liking and trusting yourself again can be healing and empowering. For years you may have been meeting external expectations and caring for others over listening to your inner voice and intuition. By the time you’ve stopped drinking you may be so removed from your authentic self that you no longer know who you truly are or what you want and need. Today my guest Tanya Ouhrabka is going to share ways that we can regain our “know, like, and trust” factor in life. Tanya’s a Life Coach who works with women to shift their mindset and perspectives in order to achieve self-acceptance. Tanya believes that when you realign the mind, body, and soul with the truth of who you are, what you desire, and your purpose - you “know, like and trust” yourself again, and can live a purposeful and passion filled life. By releasing self-judgement and increasing self-confidence and self-awareness we’re able to be the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves. As someone who lost too many years of her own life to self-critical thought patterns and destructive behavior, Tanya knows the power to change our life lies within us, not externally. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why to stop looking outside yourself for validation How to be empowered by your inner compass and inner knowing How the ability to know, like and trust yourself will help you uncover what's truly best for you How to process inner and outer growth How to listen to your inner voice and follow your inner compass through the guidance of these 4 pillars: Self-care Nourishment Movement Authenticity Tanya is a survivor and thriver, former self-critic, and truth seeking storyteller, who is changing women’s lives as a certified life coach. In addition to coaching, Tanya shares her inspirational story of transformation to groups of girls and women across the country. Additionally, she has just founded POWAR™, a community for women to authentically and transparently share and rise together. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/20 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Grab Tanya’s Free Guide Seven Days To Y.E.S. - daily focus objectives and mantras:https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/7-steps-to-yes Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Connect with Tanya Ouhrabka Website: https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanyaouhrabka/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tanya.b.ouhrabka Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.