The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

There's a whole genre of books that you might not ever hear about if you're not a woman who has a complicated relationship with alcohol. It's called “Quit lit"- books about drinking, quitting drinking, getting sober and life without alcohol. There are novels and memoirs, essays, fiction, and how to guides. They are deep and soulful, entertaining and honest, eye opening, hysterically funny, raw and hopeful. Quit lit books were a lifeline to me in early sobriety. In this episode, I want to share not only my favorites but the voices of other women and the books that have inspired them and helped them along the path of re-evaluating their relationship with alcohol. This episode is about the best quit lit for women. To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit Enter your email address and the guide will be sent right to your inbox. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/19 Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Books and Resources mentioned in this episode Drinking a Love Story by Caroline Knapp Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life by Glennon Doyle Tired of Thinking About Drinking: Take My 100-Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson The Sober Diaries: How One Woman Stopped Drinking and Started Living by Clare Pooley We are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of Sober Life by Laura McKowen The Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life by Annie Grace The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free by Jardine Libaire + Amanda Eyre Ward Blackout by Sarah Hepola Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker Girl Walks Out of A Bar by Lisa Smith The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray Mrs. D is Going Without by Lotta Dann Sober Stick Figures by Amber Tozer Nothing Good Can Come of This by Kristi Coulter Idiot by Laura Clery Drink by Ann Dowsett Johnston The Little Book of Big Change by Amy Johnson My Fair Junkie by Amy Dresner This is How by Augusten Burroughs High Achiever by Tiffany Jenkins The Ember Ever There and The Unpickled Holiday Survival by Jean McCarthy Almost Alcoholic by Joseph Nowinski Ph.D The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck 12 Steps and 12 Traditions by Bill Wilson Waking Tiger by Peter Levine The Good House by Anne Leary Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins A Million Little Pieces by James Frey Beautiful Boy by David Sheff Highlight Real by Emily Paulson The Year of No-Nonsense by Meredith Atwood Lit by Mary Karr Bottled: Mom’s guide to early recovery + How to be the Perfect Like Me by Dana Bowman Between Breaths: A memoir of panic and addiction by Elizabeth Vargas Sober Curious by Ruby Warrington Dry by Augusten Burroughs A Happier Hour by Rebecca Weller Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse, and Recovery by Erica C. Barnett The Recovering by Leslie Jamison Kick the Drink Easily by Jason Vale Alcohol Explained by William Porter Easy Way for Women to Quit Drinking by Allen Carr Stories I Only Tell My Friends by Rob Lowe Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous by Bill Wilson The Women’s Way Through The Twelve Steps by Stephanie S. Covington Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

If you’re a woman who’s trying to quit drinking it’s normal to look around and suddenly realize that booze is all around you. There’s Rosé All Day, Hot Yoga and Happy Hour, beer at the finish line of the 10K and “Mommy Juice” at playdates with the kids. You look up from your wine glass to see that everyone around you is drinking, all the time. We live in a culture that tells women that drinking is their treat for getting through the day. It’s our reward for working so hard and taking care of our kids. We’re told alcohol is what we should consume to be ‘cool’ and ‘relaxed’ and ‘fun’. We’re taught that drinking will make us less frustrated, less angry, less tired, less bored with the monotony of adulting. And then we blame ourselves for not being able to ‘moderate’ or ‘cut back’ or ‘drink less’ of an addictive substance. In today’s episode I have a long conversation with a friend and one of my favorite authors, Kristi Coulter, about Working, Drinking and Being a “First World Woman”. Kristi and I talk about: Why women drink as a signifier for free time and self care and conversations - the luxuries we can’t afford. The myth of meritocracy at male dominated workplaces, and how it gaslights women into thinking it’s their fault for failing to achieve what their male coworkers do - in a system that’s stacked against them. Why moderation sucks and why it’s just so much easier to not drink. Why most women make the mistake of waiting to “want” to stop drinking and how that’s a recipe for staying stuck in the drinking cycle. How stopping drinking is a superpower that allows women to ask for what they deserve and say what they mean. Why drinking is not serving you if you’re wanting to advance your career About Kristi Coulter Kristi Coulter is the author of the 2018 memoir-in-essays Nothing Good Can Come from This, a writer who is currently working on her next memoir - Exit Interview - about gender, ambition, and her twelve-year stint as an executive at Amazon, and a former drinker. Four years ago (in 2016) Kristi published an article on Medium that went viral and changed the course of her life. "Enjoli" is an essay about what happened after Kristi decided to stop drinking and realized that all the women around her were tanked. It hit a nerve among women (and men) around the world and has now been downloaded over 700,000 times. Kristi's work has appeared in The Paris Review, New York Magazine/The Cut, Elle, Amazon Original Stories, Glamour, Vox, and elsewhere. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode Nothing Good Can Come From This by Kristi Coulter: https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Good-Can-Come-This/dp/0374286205 Enjoli essay on Medium:https://humanparts.medium.com/https-medium-com-kristicoulter-the-24-hour-woman-3425ca5be19f The Otter Of Sobriety Essay (Want Not): https://medium.com/@kristicoulter/the-otter-of-sobriety-f7065c29b764#.x6a24bxbx Since Right Now Podcast Interview with Kristi Coulter: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/klen-sobr/since-right-now/e/1617-kristi-coulter-offdry-44143811 Belle Robertson Tired of Thinking About Drinking (Book) Belle Robertson Tired of Thinking About Drinking (Website) Connect with Kristi Coulter Website: http://www.kristicoulter.com Off-Dry Blog: https://offdry.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kristicccoulter/ Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Have you ever sabotaged yourself and you can’t figure out why? You want to get promoted, improve your health and your relationships, achieve a big goal, and somehow you get in your own way and wreck your best-laid plans. Self-sabotage was definitely a part of my story when I was drinking. I would be getting ready for a big opportunity at work - a business trip or presentation - and I’d drink the night before. The next day when I was on center stage I was hung over and just trying to make it through the event. I’d have a social gathering that I was looking forward to for months and drink and then not remember most of it. I’d want to talk to my husband about something that was really bothering me, and I’d drink and not be able to express myself and my needs rationally and coherently. The truth is that self-sabotage is the result of low self-esteem. We only allow into our lives what we feel and believe we deserve. Building self-esteem is a foundational piece of recovery work. When you change your self-esteem, your deep, subconscious beliefs about what you think you deserve, you stop self-sabotage. You can improve your relationships, job, ability to achieve your dreams and goals, financial abundance, the love you attract and your health. If you don't change those beliefs, regardless of how hard you work, you will sabotage your progress in achieving them, either consciously or unconsciously. My guest today is Arlina Allen. She’s a Certified Life and Recovery Coach and Host of the award winning recovery podcast, The ODAAT Chat Podcast. Arlina helps busy professional women to get the clarity they need to get unstuck, and achieve their goals so that they can live the life of their dreams. Arlina is also the creator of the Reinvent, a six week self-esteem course, where she works with women to get to the root of what's holding them back and change their beliefs so that they can realize their dreams. In this episode Arlina dives into the framework of her self-esteem course, including the importance of creating the right support system, tools for long term change, and new self image and a vision for what's possible in your future. In this episode, you’ll learn about: The law of attraction How to leverage this universal law to manifest your deepest desires How to identify negative beliefs and a process to resolve them and let them go Addressing the causes of fears and anxiety and how to create a compelling future self image The connection tour, a step-by-step process to create a strong support system Daily activities to build self-esteem The fundamentals of how to create healthy boundaries for inner peace and healthy relationships Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/17 Grab my free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Links and resources mentioned in this episode Connect with Arlina Allen https://soberlifeschool.com/ https://selfesteemcourse.com/ Arlina's Podcast: https://odaatchat.com/ ODAAT Chat Private Women's Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1244862275613746 Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

Have you ever wondered what exactly is Yoga For Recovery or Trauma Informed Yoga? How does it differ from Bikram, Ashtanga, Power Yoga or Kundalini? Can yoga help you heal your mind, body and spirit as you walk away from drinking? How can releasing a traumatic experience from your body through yoga help you heal before illness, chronic fatigue, dis-ease, autoimmune disorders may manifest. And what about essential oils? How do they work and are they worth the hype? What’s the difference between all the different options? What’s the oil of a Buoyant Heart? The Inner Child? Energetic Boundaries? Sexual Healing? Truth and Connection? Today we’re here to answer these questions and more with one of my favorite teachers in recovery, yoga and life: Taryn Strong, Taryn is a founder of the SHE RECOVERS Foundation - a global grassroots movement currently consisting of more than 300,000 women in or seeking recovery from substance use disorders, other behavioral health issues and/or life challenges. Taryn is a trauma-informed yoga instructor, recovery coach and an aromatherapist. Taryn has developed a unique yoga retreat program and led over 40 yoga for recovery retreats since 2012. She is also the host of the SHE RECOVERS Podcast and most recently created and taught the inaugural trauma informed SHE RECOVERS Yoga Teacher Training Program. Taryn identifies as being in recovery from trauma, a substance use disorder and self-injurious behavior and believes that recovery is a journey to wholeness – in which we take care of our mind, body and spirit. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why healing your body is an important part of your sobriety journey. How essential oils can play a huge role in your recovery How balancing the energy around your heart can help you heal from codependency, isolation, depression, or fear of intimacy. Why a grounding yoga practice can help center you when you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or unsettled. Taryn’s step-by-step morning meditation practice (which can be done without ever leaving your bed!) A strong yoga practice and essential oils can be an important tool in your "sober toolkit" as a pathway to holistic healing and recovery. Today we dive into everything you need to know about these practices to get started! More about Yoga with Taryn https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/ As part of her online yoga signature recovery series and online monthly membership Taryn takes you on a gentle, trauma-informed journey of exploration that will help heal your body, mind and spirit. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode The Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking Connect with She Recovers https://sherecovers.co/together-online/ https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/ SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/16 Connect with Taryn Strong https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/ https://www.instagram.com/tarynstrong/ Click here to become a member of Taryn's dōTERRA Essential Oils for Recovery Group Taryn’s Spotify Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/user/tarynstrong Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more. Thanks for listening!

Do you have a loud inner critic voice? You know the one that starts when you wake up and tells you that you're not good enough, thin enough, productive enough, patient enough, strong enough, smart enough or whatever? I used to believe that these daily repetitive negative thoughts were helping me. I thought I could berate myself into 'being better' or shame myself enough that I would stop drinking, start running or lose weight. I thought if I was just hard enough on myself - I'd get my shit together. The truth is it didn't work. I didn't work for me and it probably isn't working for you. It's just making you miserable. Somehow we've convinced ourselves that embracing the ways in which we ‘should’ be better will help us achieve more in life. But that's not true. In fact, our inner critic can lead us to drink or numb out to turn it off and quiet your mind. And reaching for substances will only lead us to anxiety and more self-criticism. It's the opposite, limiting self-criticism and offsetting its negative effects, that will build resilience, reduce stress and lower anxiety. And there’s an easy way to quiet your inner critic. In this podcast episode we’ll dive into how and why to release the voice that tells you that you’re not enough and less than others. My guest today is Vanessa Klugman, She’s an MD and a Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Professional Recovery Coach and she’ll share how healing your inner critic starts with self compassion. You’ll learn: Why working to quiet your inner critic is important How to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects Myths about self-compassion (what it is and what it is not) How self-compassion builds resilience and decreases anxiety How to take a self-compassion break (the 3 part practice) How to heal yourself with mindfulness, kindness and the knowledge that you’re not alone. About Vanessa Klugman, MD, ACC. Vanessa is a physician, and mother of three. She balanced the demands of a career and family for many years until the stress became overwhelming. Vanessa turned to poor coping mechanisms to escape the demands that she placed on herself. Vanessa had a harsh inner critic who told her messages that she was not good enough. She believed that her worth was equated with how much she achieved, how well she was liked, and how much she gave to others. She wasn't living an authentic life. In recovery, she learned effective ways to face negative emotions: set boundaries that protected her sobriety; faced limiting beliefs and healed old wounds. Vanessa’s passion is to guide others battling to find a healthy balance in their lives, to disconnect from their inner critic and reconnect with their inner wisdom. Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/15 Links and Resources Mentioned Vanessa Klugman [email protected] https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.klugman.3 http://resiliencerecoverycoaching.com/ Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more. Books mentioned: Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself

We all have our own personal brand of nonsense - self sabotage, blame, people pleasing, control issues. A lot of women deal with almost all of these but especially scarcity versus abundance and making decisions out of your fears. We all have things we're doing that are standing in the way of our health, happiness and success. Learn to get out of your own way, to identify the nonsense in your life, and how to move past the big ones. My guest is Meredith Atwood. She's a former attorney, a podcaster and a motivational speaker. She is a sobriety advocate, and the founder of Grateful Sobriety. She's also a four time Ironman triathlete. She's the author of a best selling triathlon book Triathlon for the Every Woman, in addition to her new book, The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life. She’s the host of the iTunes Top 50 fitness podcast, “The Same 24 Hours.” She has been featured in The Boston Globe, The New York Post, the Seattle Times and dozens of online publications. Meredith is a contributing writer to Psychology Today online, Triathlete Magazine and Women’s Running. She is a USA Weightlifting Level II, USA Triathlon Level I, and Precision Nutrition Level I Coach. In this episode, you’ll learn How to identify what’s working in your life and what’s not How to deal with the underlying reasons that drive you to drink What bad habits drive you to make the decisions you do in life and how to change them Why you need to make a list of all the nonsense in your life and how to deal with them How to get over yourself and get on with your life Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/14 Links and Resources Mentioned Connect with Meredith Atwood Website: https://swimbikemom.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/swimbikemom Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/swimbikemom The Same 24 Hours Podcast www.Same24HoursPodcast.com Books Mentioned The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life Triathlon for the Every Woman: You Can Be a Triathlete. Yes. You. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

Do you use drinking to shut off your mind? Do you use drinking as a coping mechanism to push away your feelings? Many women, just like you, who drink have underlying anxiety issues they might be coping with, and they use drinking to make those feelings go away. Anxiety is the number one side effect from drinking. If you drink often, you may have anxiety more deeply and more pronounced than you would have otherwise. Jessica Foody and I are discussing anxiety and the tools to cope with anxiety that you can take away and implement in your life. Jessica is a registered nurse, a recovery coach, and a She Recovers signature coach. Her expertise is in working with women who struggle, both with addiction and with anxiety. She helps women not only drink less, but transform their relationship with anxiety. Jessica shares her favorite mindfulness techniques and how to unconditionally love and accept yourself, anxiety and all. Jessica believes that recovery is the return to the joy of living. In this episode, you’ll learn about a Buddhist mindfulness technique that can help you work with any difficult emotion for anxiety. This technique is called the Rain technique. The rain technique can be used either in formal meditation practice or when a strong emotion is coming up. Rain stands for RECOGNIZE, ALLOW, INVESTIGATE and NURTURE. RECOGNIZE - Recognize what you’re feeling. With anxiety, this can be something that you are very attuned to and are very good at recognizing it. ALLOW - Allowing your anxiety to be here just as it is. The more you resist something, the more you’re trying to get rid of it, the more you’re trying to push it away, it actually gets stronger, it gets bigger. You can't push away feelings, you can't get rid of feelings outside of numbing. So when you allow your anxiety to be here, just as it is, it's like you give your anxiety space to breathe. INVESTIGATE - Investigate your body. Investigate with kindness. Get out of your head and get into your heart. Ask yourself, what's happening with me right now, where am I feeling this anxiety? Is there a tightness in my chest? Is my back getting tense? Step out of the mind and actually be in your body and sometimes taking a few deep breaths can really help because something that makes anxiety worse is the more you think about your anxious thoughts the worse it gets. NURTURE - You embrace yourself with love and compassion, and you provide that comfort to yourself. You’re allowing our anxiety to be here, but you need that comfort. Be kind to yourself, especially when you’re hurting. If you’re looking for tools to help you cope with your anxiety, listen to this episode. Show notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/13/ Links and Resources Mentioned Connect with Jessica Foody Website: Jessicafoody.com Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more. Tara Brach www.tarabrach.com Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN

Do you feel trapped in a job or career that doesn’t make you happy? Is work a trigger that makes you want to drink? If the answer is yes, this podcast episode was created for you. For years when I was climbing the corporate ladder I felt like I needed (and deserved) wine at the end of a long day to unwind. And I know I’m not alone. So many women have spent a decade or two working hard, paying their dues and climbing the career ladder, only to find themselves in midlife dreading opening their emails and the work awaiting them tomorrow. Between pressure from your boss, long commutes, deadlines and deliverables, struggling to balance the needs of your kids and your clients and trying to be everywhere at once - it’s no wonder so many women feel unfulfilled and driven to drink. If you feel tired, deflated or uninspired at work know that you have options, you have agency and you can change the way you’re living. There are opportunities available to you when you take time to get clarity on who you are, what you value, your strengths and the work you want to do. Betty Kempa is my podcast guest today, and she’s here to help us figure out how to reduce our stress and tension in our current job and how to work through the fear, frustrations and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from leaving your role and finding a career that you truly love. Betty’s a certified professional coach one of the industry's top career change strategists. She specializes in helping mid to senior level corporate women transition out of unfulfilling jobs and into careers they love. She is a thought leader in the industry, who writes, speaks and coaches on topics such as building six figure coaching businesses, overcoming imposter syndrome, dream career clarity, and effective career change strategy. And Betty quit drinking 9 years ago. In this episode, Betty talks about how to get unstuck in your career and in your life. She takes us through two of the five steps in her career bliss formula and how to implement them in your life. Step 1: Overcoming self sabotage and getting out of your own way. How to deal with the fears, limiting beliefs, impostor syndrome and your assumptions about what’s possible that are keeping you stuck. Step 2: Identifying your dream role. How to do it and what NOT to do (hint - it’s scrolling the job boards). She’ll take us through the steps of going inside with visioning exercises to meet your future self, building out your ideal life plan so you can find a career that aligns with that, creating your personal mission statement and more. If you feel triggered by work and are ready to get unstuck, feel empowered and move to a more positive place in your career - listen to this episode. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/12/ Links and Resources Mentioned Connect with Betty Kempa Website: BettyKempa.com LinkedIn: Betty Kempa Facebook: www.facebook.com/coachbettykempa Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

What is Tapping or The Emotional Freedom Technique? How does tapping work to manage stress and anxiety? Can you use tapping to relieve negative emotions that can lead you to drink or tap to reduce drinking cravings? Did you know you can tap with your children to help calm them and release overwhelming emotions? If any of these questions spark your interest, today’s episode is for you. My guest is Kate Moryoussef, a UK based EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, Coach. Kate helps busy moms manage overwhelm and stress. EFT Tapping has been referred to as psychological acupressure. It’s a 5-step technique for anxiety relief. I had heard of tapping but never tried it before this conversation with Kate. Following our podcast interview I hired Kate to walk me through the tapping techniques for 3 sessions. We did the sessions over zoom (with me sitting in my office with coffee in the morning in Seattle and Kate settled in after dinner with her family in Manchester, UK). I loved the process of tapping. It felt like a massage - but one in which I was able to tap on a problem I was having and where I felt stuck. I felt more relaxed after our sessions and I uncovered a lot of fears and limiting beliefs that were holding me back that I didn’t know existed. They were in my subconscious - yet impacting my thoughts and choices each day. By our third session I felt like I’d made some major breakthroughs in the thoughts and feelings I was carrying around with me everyday - and I was able to set some down and get some more emotional distance from them. Kate describes EFT Tapping as a practical self-help method that involves using the fingers to gently tap on the body's acupuncture points along the meridian lines of Chinese medicine. EFT Tapping helps you tune in to the negative patterns that form around uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or troubling memories. You ‘tap’ on the correct pressure points while bringing the thoughts or emotions into consciousness. The aim is to find relief, relaxation, and promote healing around the emotional or physical issues that are holding you back. For issues with drinking, you can tap around your cravings and triggers. To get you started Kate created a tapping video specifically for women dealing with drinking cravings for The Hello Someday Podcast listeners. You can find the video at www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/11. In the podcast you’ll hear what parts of the “drinking cravings” tapping sequence made me nervous while working through it, and how I understood the process better and felt better by the end. I love talking with Kate. She lives in Manchester, UK with her husband, four kids and two dogs. She’s a wellbeing coach trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping). As a coach Kate works with women to find more emotional freedom, happiness, fulfillment and health. She believes in choosing to focus on what brings you joy and continued happiness, removing shame and guilt that many women feel in their life. Kate is passionate about wanting to help women rediscover their inner voice, tap into their expansive potential and realise themselves outside of their family dynamic. She wants to help women recognize what’s holding them back and teach them to hear and then listen to their inner guidance and connect to a force they didn’t know they had. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/11/ Connect with Kate Moryoussef www.coachingbykate.me.uk ‎The Ambitious Mum Podcast Instagram: Kate Moryoussef (@coaching_by_kate_) Facebook: Coaching by Kate Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Once you’ve decided that it’s time to take a break from drinking you need to set yourself up for success. That means you need a really good sober toolkit. In this episode, I’ll share 10 things you absolutely need in your sober toolkit: Your iPhone. And that includes your earbuds and your charger. Audiobooks, podcasts and messages of sober support. Food and beverages that will help you get through a craving, help you during the witching hour, and make you feel satisfied and a bit indulged. A list of your favorite “sober treats”. Bubble baths, fresh flowers, baked goods, a new book, a list of binge-worthy shows, coloring books, a massage, a pedicure, take out sushi, new sheets, essential oils, a milkshake, a bike ride, a picnic, a A way to track your progress. My favorite app is I’m Done Drinking. Community and support. It’s so helpful to connect with other cool women who are on the alcohol free path. I have suggestions of how to find them and a guide to joining my 2 favorite private sober Facebook groups for women. A safe space in your home to retreat. The ability to move, to be outside, get some fresh air and take a walk. Anytime you want to drink, feel frustrated, resentful or angry, it helps to get moving. Create a new evening routine. Sober coaching. I know this sounds self-serving but I want to be clear that this doesn’t have to be one-on-one coaching and it doesn’t have to be with me. But it does really help to know that you’re not the first woman who has decided that drinking isn’t working in your life - and there are coaches, sponsors, programs and resources out there that can give you short cuts, tips and advice to make this “living life without alcohol thing” so much easier! In my free guide, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days, I have a ton of resources listed that can help you get started and you can also listen to Free Sober Coaching Audios on my website. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/10/ Links and Resources Mentioned Laura McKowen, We Are The Luckiest Catherine Grey, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober: Discovering a happy, healthy, wealthy alcohol-free life Sarah Hepola, Blackout Belle Robertson, Tired Of Thinking About Drinking Clare Pooley, The Sober Diaries: How one woman stopped drinking and started living Annie Grace, This Naked Mind Holly Whitaker, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol Amanda Eyre Ward & Jardine Libaire, The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life - Alcohol Free The Bubble Hour Podcast Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Many women know Jean McCarthy as an award-winning blogger, the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast, and through her work in recovery advocacy. But in today’s episode we get to know a more personal and intimate side of Jean through her poetry. Jean describes putting out this book of poetry as if she is saying “Here’s what the inside of my head looks like. Here’s the voice no one else hears.” In this episode Casey and Jean dive into her new collection of poetry “The Ember Ever There: Poems on Change, Grief, Growth, Recovery, and Rediscovery” which is being released worldwide on June 19, 2020. As Jean describes the collection she says, “This isn’t the story of addiction and recovery. This is the story of losing myself and finding myself again”. Jean goes on to describe her addiction to alcohol as a symptom of her lost self - the person behind the people pleasing, good girl syndrome and losing herself behind the masks she was wearing. In this episode, you’ll learn: What Jean wants to say to the thousands of women who reach out to her and say “I want to quit, but I can’t right now”. How Jean felt in the very beginning of her own sobriety journey The story behind when and why Jean wrote the song “I own it”, the intro song to The Bubble Hour How women can stop playing small and embrace their true self About Jean McCarthy In addition to being the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast and an award-winning blogger, Jean is also the author of “UnPickled Holiday Survival Guide: Staying Alcohol-Free During the Festive Season,” a resource about sobriety for people in recovery and their families. Her blog UnPickled began in 2011 and has continued to chronicle Jean’s alcohol-free lifestyle since her first day of sobriety. Thousands of readers credit UnPickled as a motivating factor in their decision to quit drinking. Jean joined The Bubble Hour podcast as a co-host in 2013. She took over the weekly program as its sole producer and host in 2016. Jean is a former performing songwriter with two albums of original music to her credit. Fans of the podcast are familiar with the show's theme song “I Own It,” a single from Jean’s 2008 album, “Blessings and Burdens.” At a gala in New York City, Jean was named recipient of the 2017 SheRecovers Hope Award in recognition of her efforts to help others seek positive changes in their lives. She lives in Alberta, Canada with her husband Ross and dog Scout. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/9/ Connect with Jean Mccarthy Link to buy book or further information:www.jeanmccarthy.ca/books Instagram @jeanmccarthy_writes Facebook pages for Unpickled (www.facebook.com/unpickled) and The Bubble Hour (www.facebook.com/thebubblehour) Also websites: https://jeanmccarthy.ca/, https://unpickledblog.com/, https://jeanmccarthy.ca/the-bubble-hour/, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999299906 Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Get the guide on how to find and join these groups: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sober-facebook-groups/ The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days Casey’s interview by Jean McCarthy on The Bubble Hour

Have you heard of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator [MBTI]? Are you an ISFJ or an ENTP? An ESFJ? ISFP? As you’re quitting drinking and navigating the world in sobriety, understanding your Myers-Briggs Personality Type can give you insight into your strengths, preferences and why some people, places and situations trigger you to want to numb out and escape - and others don't. Understanding your personality type can help you become more aware of your relationship with yourself and with others, and will help you navigate sobriety with more ease and less stress. In this episode we’re diving into all things MBTI with Kate Kimberley! Kate is a workplace coach who is certified to administer and interpret the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment. She is also trained in Dare to Lead by Brené Brown, which helps women step out with greater courage in any area of their lives. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to give yourself grace and forgive others for not measuring up to what others have told them they should be How to understand yourself, how to navigate the world, and establish a path for lifelong personal development Become aware of your individual personality Type preferences, including how you prefer to communicate, make decisions, and respond to conflict Realize the energy and self-knowledge that understanding your Type can bring to your life and allow you to capitalize on your unique strengths MBTI ASSESSMENT, INTERPRETIVE REPORT, AND INTERPRETIVE SESSION WITH KATE KIMBERLEY If you enjoyed learning a bit about the MBTI assessment and are interested in learning more and find out your Type, Kate is offering a MBTI Introduction to Type package to all Hello Someday Podcast listeners for $99.00 US. This package includes: Online access to complete your official MBTI® personality assessment A personal MBTI® Interpretive Report based on your assessment results A 50-minute interpretative session to review your Type, including your Type preferences for: Communication; Decision-making; and Responding to Conflict To sign up for the package and identify and explore your unique Type preferences, visit www.kwkimberley.com or send Kate an email at [email protected]. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/8/ RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE www.hellosomedaycoaching.com She Recovers Retreats Kate Kimberley, MBTI-certified Workplace Coach www.kwkimberley.com Free MBTI Resources IDRlabs.com Myers Briggs Type Indicator The Bubble Hour Podcast Episode with Casey McGuire Davidson

In this episode I got to interview two incredible authors and really cool women, Amanda Eyre Ward and Jardine Libaire about their new novel, The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life - Alcohol Free. The book is all about the joy to be found in life after you step away from wine as your constant companion. Jardine and Amanda have called this book “an ode to the technicolor playful side of sobriety” because it evokes the pleasures, feelings of connection and deliverance from the ordinary, that come once you start living life without numbing out. In our conversation Amanda shares how she was able, through her friendship with Jardine, to get a taste of a sumptuous, beautiful, art-filled life where booze didn't have a place. In this episode, you’ll learn: What Amanda and Jardine learned about dismantling your drinking life and rebuilding it so you don’t want booze anymore. How you might feel in early sobriety and why you should hold on for the sweet and beautiful life that’s coming your way. How to navigate a date night, trip or holiday without alcohol. How to have early conversations with your husband or partner about what you're doing and finding the support you need Amanda and Jardine’s favorite ways to live a decadent, sober life. Amanda Eyre Ward is the author of eight novels, including the New York Times bestseller The Jet Setters, which was also a book club pick by Reese Witherspoon, and it features a character trying to stay sober on a cruise ship. Amanda's work has been optioned for film and television and published in 15 countries. Jardine Libaire is a novelist and a screenwriter. Her novels include Here Kitty, Kitty, and White Fur. She also co-wrote a film that was just released called Endings, Beginnings, starring Shailene Woodley, whose character has just given up alcohol. She's from New York and spent a decade in Austin where she became good friends with Amanda. Jardine now lives in LA. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/7/ RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free The Sober Lush (@thesoberlush) Connect with Jardine Libaire http://jardinelibaire.com JardineLibaireProjects (@jardinelibaireprojects) Connect with Amanda Eyre Ward https://www.amandaward.com Amanda Eyre Ward (@amandaeyreward) Connect with Casey Mcguire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

QUITTING DRINKING DOESN’T HAVE TO BE LONELY. Finding friends can be hard. Finding friends who are on the same sobriety journey as you can be really hard. But we’re here to help! In this episode my sober bestie, Ingrid Miller, and I will talk about why finding support from people who have been where you are now and who are going through what you’re going through, in this “quitting drinking thing” is so important to your success. No matter how much your friends and family love you and support you – they don’t know how you feel in this process. My guest in this episode is Ingrid. She’s a friend I met 4+ years ago when I was first quitting drinking, the owner of the cutest book store in Seahurst Washington and an all around badass of a human being. I met Ingrid in a secret Facebook group at the beginning of my sober journey, 4 years ago. Together we discuss how we met and the challenges we faced when trying to find a community of women who were going through or had been through the same things we were experiencing on our sobriety journey. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to find the support you need – including a number of our favorite online and in person sober groups for busy women quitting drinking. How to get over the fears you have about joining sober groups. Why finding your people in sobriety makes the process of quitting drinking and creating a life you love without alcohol so much easier (and more fun). Why your spouse, partner, mom or best friend might not be the best person to hold your hand through this process. How you might feel in your first 90 days and why you need women who have “been there and done that” to get you through to the good stuff. Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/6/ RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups [The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together] Get the guide on how to find and join these groups: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sober-facebook-groups/ Connect with Ingrid Miller https://www.threetreesbooks.com Read about Ingrid Miller’s first 30 days: My quit drinking timeline: 0-30 days. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Resources mentioned Kelly Beck Recovery Coach She Recovers Retreats on Salt Spring Island, BC She Recovers Sharing Circles (Seattle + other cities) Book: The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober

Are you a people pleaser? Do you put others' needs, wants, and values ahead of yours? Do you need help with setting boundaries in your relationships and around your sobriety? Today’s guest is Hailey Magee! Hailey is a certified codependency recovery coach who has worked with over 100 clients across the United States, Canada, Ireland, South Africa, and more break free from the shackles of codependency. Hailey dives deep into how to become the woman you want to be and what that looks like without alcohol. Speaking your truth, setting boundaries, and putting yourself first is not something that comes easy. You have to work for it everyday. The more you do, the easier it will be to live a life you love. In this episode, you’ll learn: The meaning of codependency recovery How to master the art of speaking your truth How codependency shows up in your relationship with friends, family and your partner How to find the space you need on your road to recovery RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free http://www.haileymagee.com https://www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee/ www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Author mentioned in episode: Harriet Lerner https://www.harrietlerner.com

In this episode, I’m introducing myself and telling you a little bit about who I am. Before I quit drinking, and after. I’m sharing that I no longer drink anymore, that I used to drink a lot, and how I went through the process of questioning my drinking and deciding it didn’t work in my life anymore. This is an important part of my life, but it doesn’t define who I am. I saw quitting drinking as my absolute worst-case scenario but now having done the work, I consider it something that is foundational to helping me achieve everything I want in my life. It's something I'm really proud of. It's made me more honest and more real. It's helped me develop better and healthier coping mechanisms. It's made me more courageous and less fearful about changing In my life, and it's made me closer to my husband and my kids, my friends, and my family. My worst-case scenario really helped me lead a better life. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Do you wish you had a roadmap that will guide you through your first week without alcohol? The first, second, and even the third week without alcohol are the hardest and most important as you try and take an extended break from drinking. Knowing what to expect and setting yourself up for success can be the difference between feeling good or feeling miserable. And the difference between continuing on your alcohol-free journey and starting to feel better versus giving up on day four or day five. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to stock up on what you need How to plan out your sober treats How to get all of the alcohol out of your house Why you need to write down how you feel right now, and why you want to quit drinking What to expect and how you’ll feel in your first 4 days What it means to bubble up How to get through days 5-7 and putting your first week to bed RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Read about Ingrid Miller’s first 30 days: My quit drinking timeline: 0-30 days.

How many times have you tried to quit drinking? Does the thought of quitting drinking give you anxiety? Can you picture your life without alcohol in a positive and empowering way? The thought of going without alcohol may feel like a punishment. You may worry that life without alcohol will be a time of deprivation and isolation. You might be thinking that not drinking isn’t something that you actually want to do. It’s the last resort to stop feeling sick and tired. These thoughts are really common - and they’re setting you up for failure. There’s a way to approach not drinking as a positive, empowering step you’re taking for yourself. In this episode, I’m going to dive into the 5 mistakes most women make when trying to stop drinking - and how to avoid them. Mistake #1 - Believing that in order to successfully stop drinking you have to know in your heart that you “have a serious problem with alcohol” or that you “have to stop”. Don’t ask yourself if you’re “bad enough to have to quit”. Instead, ask “is this good enough to keep on going”. Mistake #2 - Telling yourself that “This time” you are quitting drinking “FOREVER”. Forever isn’t helpful as you’re just starting on this path. Instead, tell yourself that you’re giving yourself the opportunity to see how good you could feel if alcohol wasn’t your constant companion. Mistake #3 - Treating not drinking as a form of self-punishment rather than an opportunity. Taking a break from alcohol is a wonderful gift you are giving yourself. Mistake #4 - Many women combine trying to stop drinking with a bigger “health kick, initiative, diet overhaul, Whole 30 thing you are doing to lose weight and get fit”. If you try to eliminate everything at once you won’t succeed. Not drinking requires a SINGULAR focus for a while. Mistake #5 - The last mistake women make when trying to stop drinking is that they’re waiting for the perfect time. There is no perfect time. There will always be a dinner party or a wedding or a Thursday night. Don’t allow yourself to stay stuck. Just begin. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free

Do you have a serious love affair with alcohol? Is drinking your favorite hobby? Are you creating guidelines and rules for yourself around drinking? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live your life without drinking? I’m sharing what I have learned, through years of research and experimentation, through my personal experience of quitting drinking and my coaching work with women to stop drinking. I dive into how to enjoy hanging out with your friends and family, other ways to reduce stress after a long day at work, and how to set yourself up for success when you feel the urge to open that bottle of wine. I also dig into your mindset around not drinking and how to live a happy and fulfilling life without the need to drink. In this episode you’ll learn: Tips on how to reduce stress and anxiety without turning to alcohol The resources available to support your journey to a alcohol free life How to change your mindset around what it means to be sober RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grab the Free 30 Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Welcome to The Hello Someday Podcast. I’m Casey McGuire Davidson, a certified life coach who helps busy women quit drinking and create a life they love without alcohol. I’m a wife, a mom, a practical dreamer, recovering corporate ladder climber, retired people-pleaser and ex-red wine drinker. Join me each week, as I bring you tools, lessons and conversations to help you drink less and live more. Connect with me at www.hellosomedaycoaching.com as well as on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and LinkedIn