The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

For over six years, I've managed a Facebook group for women contemplating whether to stay in or leave their marriages. Recently, I made the very tough decision to close the group. In this bonus solo episode, I address the issues that led to the group's closing. I further share about the rules and guidelines that were in place, the challenges of managing a large community, and my response to group members' frustrations. I also reflect on boundaries, the importance of doing the work for personal growth, and ultimately, the considerations for potentially reopening the group and providing some closure to the situation. Resources & Links: Facebook Group Survey Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're talking about tenderness and holding space with Heather Plett, author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. Heather opens up about her experience of dealing with divorce, co-founding the Center for Holding Space, and authoring books that dive into these concepts. Our conversation reveals how embracing tenderness towards oneself can disrupt patriarchal and capitalist structures and highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and the deep dive required for personal growth. Featured topics: The concept of holding space: what it is and how to do it (3:10) Tenderness as a disruptive force (27:13) Putting into practice daily acts of tenderness (33:15) Learn more about Heather Plett: Heather Plett is the author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. She is also an international speaker and workshop facilitator, and co-founder of the Centre for Holding Space. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kate on A Tender Space Podcast: Healing and Divorce I A conversation with Kate Anthony Heather's website Center for Holding Space Heather on Facebook Heather on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-269-where-tenderness-lives-with-heather-plett DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Oftentimes, we wrap our identities in this one thing - like marriage. What happens when it's over? This week, Nikki Spoelstra (Nikki Spo) joins me to discuss the transformative power of self-discovery through life's most challenging moments. Nikki and I cover a range of important topics, including how self-esteem is built through self-knowledge, strategies for managing thoughts about divorce, emphasizing the importance of setting limits on dwelling on the past, and so much more. Nikki is a breath of fresh air for women going through hard times. Join us as we discuss the intricate process of reinventing oneself after significant life changes, the importance of self-acceptance, and the journey to finding joy and worth within. Featured topics: Nikki answers, "How did you reinvent yourself?" TLDR: "You do so, even when you're scared as shit." (7:18) Self-esteem is built through self-knowledge. (22:02) Apologizing is not the same thing as making amends. (26:11) Romanticizing friendships with your ex/co-parent: Don't compare your divorce or co-parenting relationship to others. It may evolve differently or stay the same forever. (29:59) Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting. (31:33) A reminder that you get to be the owner of your story, and people don't have to know all the details about your relationships or divorce (38:19) Learn more about Nikki Spo: Nikki Spoelstra is the host of The Know with Nikki Spo - a globally top-ranked podcast that highlights the stories of individuals who are finding and celebrating their deepest sense of inner knowing in a space where it's not about knowing everything, but about coming to know ourselves. Covering topics that range from motherhood and business to wellness and self-care, The Know with Nikki Spo has been nominated for the People's Choice Podcast Award and is up for two coveted Gracie Awards, which honor exceptional women in podcasting and journalism. Nikki is a single mom of three, has overcome tough life experiences with ferocity and grace, and is a compelling speaker of truths. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kate on Nikki's Podcast The Know with Nikki Spo Nikki's website Nikki on Instagram @nikkisappspo Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-268-reinventing-yourself-after-divorce-nikki-spo-on-self-discovery-and-empowerment/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

"Therapy is dead," says this week's podcast guest, Dawn Wiggins. In this episode, we get to the heart of why Dawn says therapy isn't always the answer and, instead, how somatic and homeopathic techniques help individuals heal from various forms of trauma. Dawn is a trauma-informed licensed marriage and family therapist and integrative healer who helps women turn the traumatic journey of divorce into a force for healing, self-love, and joy through a tailored blend of holistic and scientifically supported solutions. Featured topics: Supported solutions for healing like EFT (6:45) Why Dawn says therapy is dead + explains the job of a therapist (16:25) Homeopathy: what it is and how Dawn weaves it into her practice (18:31) How we can use all of these techniques to heal the trauma of divorce and more (29:19) Learn more about Dawn Wiggins: Dawn Wiggins is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR specialist, and constitutional homeopath. She draws on decades of experience to help women navigate the emotional rollercoaster that comes after ending a marriage. Using a little bit of science, a few alternative remedies and emotional release techniques, a whole lot of love, and zero BS, we step out of the victim mindset and into building a new life after divorce. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dawn's website Dawn on Facebook Dawn on Instagram Post Divorce Roadmap - 21 Days of Guided Journaling Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-267-is-therapy-dead-with-dawn-wiggins/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We are talking about a really important topic this week: grief. Grief is shocking in divorce. My guest Barri Leiner Grant, is a grief specialist and educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief we feel over an ended marriage. Barri divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing an imagined future. Putting the G-word in the D-word! Featured topics: Why do we grieve a divorce? (2:16) Shame is a complicating factor in grief and divorce (8:49) The root cause of the shame and how to move through it (17:00) If we don't look at our grief head-on, it will grow like a weed Grief tending: what it is and how you can tend to your grief (21:18) Exploring who you are now and who you want to be (28:35) Learn more about Barri Leiner Grant: Barri Leiner Grant is a grief specialist and educator and the founder of The Memory Circle -- a place and space she created for those who have experienced both death and non-death losses. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Psychology Today, and Maria Shriver's Sunday paper, among many other media outlets. She is an author who shares her personal experiences of loss widely. She divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing a future imagined. Putting the G-word in the D-word! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Barri's website Barri on Instagram The Artist's Way Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-266-putting-the-g-word-in-the-d-word-with-barri-leiner-grant TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Sadie Marie of Divorced and Happy joins me for a conversation about why life after divorce is the BEST, and her path of personal growth, self-discovery, and relationships. Sadie Marie empowers divorced men and women globally to embrace the exciting, playful - and even spicy - life that awaits them after divorce. Our conversation is multifaceted, from feeling disempowered in marriage to reclaiming empowerment. We also touch on navigating divorce within friendships and pursuing genuine happiness. Listen in to hear about Sadie Marie's joy-filled journey post-divorce. Her journey is a true testament that finding happiness post-divorce is possible! Featured topics: What it means to be divorced and happy. (4:56) The feeling of being disempowered in marriage to moving to a place of empowerment. (7:17) Sadie shares her journey through fun, play, dating, and sexual exploration. (13:10) Navigating divorce and friendships. (17:39) Becoming a happy person and what the work looks like to get there. (20:13) Vanilla, Strawberry, and Sprinkles! Yes, please. Sadie tells us about her "What's your dating flavor?" quiz. (31:54) Learn more about Sadie Marie: Sadie Marie, host of Sadie's Divorced and Happy podcast, empowers divorced men and women globally to embrace the exciting, playful - and even spicy - life that awaits them after divorce. Sadie also produces Divorced and Happy social events in cities across the country, including the Twin Cities, Denver, and Chicago. Learn more at DivorcedandHappy.net Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Divorced and Happy Sadie Marie on Instagram Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-265-divorced-and-happy-with-sadie-marie/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am thrilled to welcome Susan Hyatt, a Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. Susan is on a mission to disrupt the age and wage gaps—all the gaps that hold women back. Her work (and this conversation) empowers women, particularly those in midlife, to embrace their prime with fervor and enthusiasm. Together, we discuss female empowerment, self-discovery, and the journey towards embracing one's prime, including our sexuality (and I tell you guys something I haven't told anyone else). We'll also explore the transformative potential of personal and financial growth, including opportunities in commercial real estate investment for women. Prepare for an episode filled with wisdom, inspiration, and actionable steps to redefine aging and self-worth. Featured topics: Embracing what it means to be in our prime (3:27) Disrupting age and beauty norms, including the notion that "thin is better" (9:57) Body acceptance, women and pleasure (20:26) Big YES Energy and how to tap into it (29:00) Women and building wealth (37:09) Learn more about Susan Hyatt: Susan Hyatt is a veteran Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. She helps women claim Big Yes Energy, getting more of whatever they want—from money to confidence, energy to joy. She is also the creator of BARE - a groundbreaking process that's inspired women all over the world to stop shrinking their bodies and start expanding their lives. Susan has been featured on national TV and in magazines like O: The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, and Woman's World and was a finalist for the Athena Award, recognizing leadership in the field of women's empowerment and entrepreneurship. When Susan is not hyping up her clients, leading epic retreats, or making a scene, you can find her lifting heavy weights, traveling the world, enjoying her hygge corner, and ditching the "invisible workload" so she can earn more and play more. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Susan's website Women Invested Susan on Instagram Susan on Facebook Show link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-264-big-yes-energy-with-susan-hyatt/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Discover how laughter can lighten the weight of divorce in this week's episode. When your whole world feels on fire, bringing levity to divorce can be like a breath of fresh air. My guest this week, Andrea Rappaport, knows a thing or two about imparting humor in one's life while navigating difficult situations. Andrea is a recovering comedian who is the co-host of the top-ranked Apple podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce. Andrea and I look at the delicate balance between humor and seriousness in this episode when discussing divorce. Plus, we talk about why finding the right attorney is essential and the need for having a supportive squad by your side. Featured topics: Why humor is so important when we're struggling (3:30) Some of the mistakes Andrea made in her divorce and what she learned (10:30) Checking expectations: "If you have an unhealthy marriage, you will likely not have a healthy divorce." (11:53) Hiring the RIGHT attorney for your divorce (14:15) Why you need and DESERVE a team of support as you go through this process (44:20) Learn more about Andrea Rappaport: Andrea Rappaport is the co-host of the top-ranked Apple podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce. As a recovering comedian, she STRONGLY values the need for humor in our lives while navigating difficult situations. Andrea is proudly divorced and a mom to two little boys whom she loves almost as much as a shopping trip to TJMAXX. She has recently been engaged to a man who makes her laugh and loves her deeply. When she's not shopping or podcasting, Andrea co-runs a Chicago-based marketing and messaging firm, Rappaport & Schaer. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Andrea's website Andrea on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tami Wollensak returns to the show! She shares more about divorcing and the nuances of keeping, selling, or refinancing your home. Tami is a licensed mortgage loan originator and a 28+ year industry veteran. She has discovered her passion in helping divorcing individuals navigate their home equity solutions and mortgage options while going through the most challenging time. Grab your notebook and a pen - this episode is a notetaking one that busts some myths and provides expert advice on what questions to ask when considering whether to take or leave the house during your divorce. Featured topics: Assuming the mortgage on the marital home: The answer to "Can my ex assume the mortgage on the marital home?" is not always "No." (4:18) What are your options if you are unable to assume the mortgage? (21:00) The importance of considering the long-term consequences of sharing a mortgage with your ex (23:21) The information you need to be able to decide if you can assume a mortgage (28:04) Learn more about Tami Wollensak: Tami Wollensak is a licensed mortgage loan officer and a 28+ year veteran of the industry, she has experience working in multiple roles and facets of the industry. She has discovered her true passion in helping divorcing individuals navigate their home equity solutions and mortgage options while going through the most challenging time of their life. Tami has earned the certification as a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). This specialization provides the ability to identify potential gaps in the agreement that cannot be met during the mortgage process. Tami works with her client's attorney, coach, mediator, or financial advisor to help guide them through all the options available to ensure a successful outcome regarding the divorcing couple's real estate or future purchase. Tami has been a guest on multiple podcasts, speaks regularly and contributes to many media outlets on divorce mortgage planning and helping divorcing homeowners to make better and more informed decisions when it comes to their real property. As a Mortgage Loan Originator, Tami's goal is to educate her clients, take the mystery and anxiety out of the mortgage process, and provide a sense of security and peace to each of them. Tami can lend in all 50 states. (NMLS #1963450) Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tami's website Tami on Facebook Tami on LinkedIn Tami on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-262-home-equity-solutions-in-divorce-with-tami-wollensak/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Licensed Psychologist Dr. Justine Weber is on the show this week as we explore the complex journey of healing after leaving an abusive relationship. Her recent book is, "How the F*ck Do I Heal From This?" and the title (and content) is a favorite of mine! In the book and during our conversation, Dr. Weber walks us through understanding narcissistic abuse and how to put your life back together after everything feels like it has fallen apart. Together, we explore everything from dealing with post-separation abuse and navigating co-parenting with a narcissist to finding solace in somatic therapy and building back self-trust. This episode unpacks the multifaceted process of healing and empowerment. Featured topics: Somatic therapy and learning to reconnect with Self (11:33) Navigating post-separation abuse while working toward healing (17:42) Tips and insights for communicating with a narcissist (22:41) How to cope and detach from legal threats made by your abuser (35:27) Learn more about Justine Weber: California licensed Psychologist, a coach helping people heal after a narcissistic relationship, certified in high conflict divorce coaching, and a recent book author titled "How the fuck do I heal from this? Understanding narcissistic abuse and how to put your life back together". Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Justine's website Justine's book, "How the F*ck Do I Heal From This?" BIFF for Co-Parent Communication =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Relationship coach and author Bryan Reeves joins me this week to discuss relationships, personal growth, and societal constructs. Bryan's journey from military service to relationship coaching reveals insights into the power and necessity of connecting with emotions, especially for men. Many of Bryan's insights are drawn from his work with couples and his book, "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her," focusing on choosing connection over disconnection, confronting one's fears, and the transformative power of love and accountability in relationships. Bryan's work is incredibly important. Please listen to what's possible in the world of relationships. This is truly an insightful conversation! Featured topics: Most men come to relationship work when they realize they have no choice… (3:01) How culture teaches men to suppress emotions and the journey from disconnection to real connection with feelings and others (5:17) Bryan talks about what he means when he says he teaches men "to care and not care simultaneously." (20:00) Creating safety in relationship with women and taking responsibility (38:51) Encouraging men's engagement in personal growth (48:12) Learn more about Bryan Reeves: A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan is now an internationally renowned Author and Life/Relationship Coach with a current focus on supporting men to have better lives and relationships. His viral blog has been read by over 50 million people in every country on the planet (except North Korea). He's the co-founder of "Elevate Your Relationship," a live coaching program for men ready to elevate their relationship game, which currently serves men in 10 countries. He's co-host of the popular podcast, "Men, This Way," and his newest book, Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her), is available on Audible, Amazon and other retailers. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Bryan's website Bryan's book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) Women Who Run With Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-260-choose-her-every-day-or-leave-her-with-bryan-reeves/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Psychologist and writer Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder. We also delve into its effects on individuals and share insights on self-nurturing after the relationship ends. Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Featured topics: We explore the phrase "It takes two to tango…" Does it, though, when narcissistic abuse or toxicity is involved in a relationship? (1:49) Is there anything that you can do to help a narcissistic and abusive partner? The short answer is no. (7:00) Narcissistic Personality is a disorder. It's not a mental health condition. Kerry explains the distinction. (11:58) The slow dismantling of Self when you are in an abusive relationship. (15:29) Covert Aggression: what it means and how it shows up (19:56) Focusing on and nurturing yourself back to life is essential in a relationship that has dimmed you. (46:08) Learn more about Kerry McAvoy: Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word - audiobook now available! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kerry's book, Love You More Kerry on TikTok Kerry on Instagram Kerry on Facebook Kerry on YouTube Why Can't I Just Leave (book) Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-259-healing-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-kerry-mcavoy TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

My guest, Jason VanRuler, shares his direct and honest approach to working with couples and offers a fresh perspective on overcoming past challenges and building exceptional relationships. During our conversation, you'll discover how to "Get Past Your Past" as Jason shares invaluable insights, emphasizing the importance of taking action and not seeking validation from others for your progress. We also discuss navigating resistance in relationships, dealing with differing narratives in divorce, and addressing the complexities of sex addiction within marriage. With over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist, Jason's expertise shines through as he offers practical advice and compassionate support. Featured topics: Jason explains what he means by "get past your past…" (2:28) "Sometimes it's not that you don't know what to do; it's that you are not doing what you're supposed to do." (8:53) It is essential to recognize that not everyone will be happy about your progress when you do the work. Do not determine your success by the approval of the people you are surrounded by. (9:56) The effects and challenges a couple faces when one is doing the work and the other is resistant. (13:07) Jason answers, "What do you do when your ex-partner has a narrative about your divorce that differs from yours?" (22:52) The effects of sex addiction on marriage and how Jason works with couples around this type of addiction. (31:57) Learn more about Jason VanRuler: Jason VanRuler has worked in everything from the corporate world to the entrepreneurial one — and has over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist dedicated to helping others. With extensive experience as a coach, clinician, and speaker, Jason now owns a private practice, writes books, gives speeches, and facilitates and leads groups across the world. Coaching is always equal parts affirming, honest, and compassionate — and Jason's practice has led with this approach when helping every client seeking guidance and direction. Whether it's leadership coaching, relationship building, couples therapy, addiction, trauma, or something different, his goal is the same: to speak truth and grace into every life I work with. When Jason is not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find him cycling, fly fishing, and living life with his wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jason's website Jason's book Get Past Your Past Jason on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-258-get-past-your-past-with-jason-vanruler/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Forensic Accountant Tracy Coenen joins me for a conversation about the predatory nature of MLMs. In addition to investigating fraud for over 25 years, Tracy founded Pink Truth, a website that uncovers the problematic and damaging truth of multi-level marketing (MLM). By and large, MLM schemes overwhelm and prey upon women, falsely promising entrepreneurship and financial freedom while making them more financially dependent on an abusive structure. In this episode, Tracy and I explore how MLMs masquerade as empowering ventures but function as wolves in sheep's clothing. Featured topics: Tracy Coenen sheds light on the predatory tactics of multi-level marketing. (6:10) False promises about entrepreneurship: We discuss the facade MLMs portray that "you are starting a business of your own…" (14:49) Instead of empowering women, MLMs make them more financially dependent on an exploitative structure. (21:31) Tracy answers, "Why are women so drawn to MLMs? Why are women a good target for this?" (42:12) Learn more about Tracy Coenen: Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Pink Truth The Dream Show notes: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-257-the-truth-behind-mlms-with-tracy-coenen/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Eli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd, joins me on the podcast this week to talk about attachment theory, building deep connections, and her new book, Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships! We hear about attachment styles all the time. In this episode, Eli and I nerd out on all things attachment, get to the heart of how attachment patterns impact us, and how to transform patterns that are not in service of healthy, loving relationships. Featured topics: Attachment styles/patterns: what does the developmental research say? (3:42) What attachment is from a biological/evolutionary perspective. (6:46) The different attachment patterns and how each pattern impacts relationships. (7:03) Eli answers, "Can you transform into a secure attachment pattern in an unhealthy relationship?" (24:00) It is ethically contraindicated to engage in couples therapy when abuse is present. (33:58) When you leave an abusive relationship, you will be creating a domain in your life and your children's lives that are free of abuse. (40:28) Learn more about Eli Harwood: Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Private Coaching with Kate Eli on Instagram Eli's website Eli's book, Securely Attached Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-256-exploring-attachment-patterns-with-eli-harwood/ ---------------------- TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. -------------------- DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, we are talking about reinventing oneself on the other side of divorce. Jenny Eversole founded Stylespace.com, an online professional styling service that elevates your style with expert stylists. She joins me to discuss discovering your identity through style and aligning it with who you are now. Jenny guides us through the process of defining our unique style identities. From curating our closets to accentuating our body types, Jenny's wisdom reminds us that style is not just about clothing—it's a powerful tool for self-discovery and confidence. Featured topics: How you can become grounded in who you are by discovering your identity through style (9:11) How to define your style that showcases your identity, goals, personality, and values (11:09) Editing your closet to let go and move on and create space for new opportunities (14:53) Style is for everyone and every body type (16:47) How to dress to accentuate your specific body type (32:31) Learn more about Jenny Eversole: Jenny Eversole is the founder of Stylespace.com an online professional styling service to elevate your style with expert stylists. After nearly a decade running her couture fashion label, she learned how personal style impacts every area of life from one's confidence, productivity, happiness and overall success. Jenny founded Style Space for anyONE and anyBODY to look, feel, and BE their best through personal style. Jenny is a divorce survivor and is 9 years very happily remarried with 3 kids. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective StyleSpace: You can download a free guide to get started on your style at StyleSpace.com. Click the "Discover my dream style" link at the top. Jenny on LinkedIn Jenny on Instagram Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-255-discovering-identity-through-style-with-jenny-eversole/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Most narratives around narcissism in relationships center on individuals with narcissistic personalities. My guest this week, Dr. Ramani, shifts the focus to the survivors, giving them a voice and discussing the emotional turmoil and psychological impact of being in a relationship with a narcissistic individual. Through Dr. Ramani's latest book, "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," she offers invaluable insights into navigating the aftermath of narcissistic relationships, empowering survivors to reclaim their sense of self and find a path forward. Her extensive research and clinical experience offer practical guidance for individuals navigating a divorce or contemplating leaving a narcissistic relationship, providing a beacon of hope and understanding in the journey toward healing. Featured topics: Narcissism is a personality style. It is a series of traits. (8:04) Why is it hard for people in a relationship with a narcissist to understand what's actually happening? (14:43) What's happening to us when we are gaslit and in a fog of confusion from narcissistic abuse? (18:37) What radical acceptance is and how it can help you build a path forward toward healing (35:06) How Dr. Ramani helps people get to a place of radical acceptance (44:07) Learn more about Dr Ramani: Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting, a company focused on educating individuals, clinicians and businesses/institutions on the impact of narcissistic personality styles. Her academic research was focused on the impact of personality and personality disorders on health and behavior. She is an author of multiple books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility and her newest book, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People will be released in February, 2024 (Penguin Life). Dr. Durvasula is a faculty member for the APA Leadership Institute for Women in Psychology, and a consulting editor for the journal Behavioral Medicine. She has spoken widely on the impact of narcissism on mental health, relationships and the workplace. She also operates a popular YouTube channel and podcast (Navigating Narcissism). Dr. Durvasula is also working with PESI on the development of an educational and certification program for clinicians working with clients experiencing the fallout of narcissistic relationships. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dr. Ramani's website Dr. Ramani on Instagram Dr. Ramani on TikTok Dr. Ramani on YouTube Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-254-its-not-you-identifying-and-healing-from-narcissistic-people-with-dr-ramani/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE ============================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode explores the research behind narcissism and how it should inform the way victims should approach negotiation with them. My guest is none other than Rebecca Zung, a top 1 percent attorney in the nation and a globally recognized expert in narcissism negotiation. With two incredible books under her belt, including her new book "Slay the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win," and the acclaimed "Negotiate Like You Matter: The Surefire Way to Set Up and Win," Rebecca's insights are both profound and practical. This episode is packed with invaluable advice and strategies to empower you in dealing with narcissistic personalities. Tune in and prepare to SLAY the bully and negotiate like you matter! Featured topics: Rebecca talks about communication principles and strategies found in her book SLAY the Bully (3:05) We discuss how high-conflict personalities are formed, particularly with a focus on what the research has to say (7:28) You cannot communicate with a narcissistic person like you can a rational or reasonable person (14:35) What causes the trauma bond between a person and a narcissistic partner (17:45) How to approach a narcissist or high-conflict person when a trauma bond exists and the SLAY acronym: Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You (24:59) A reminder to never JADE: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain (28:00) Learn more about Rebecca Zung: Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News as one of the Best Lawyers in America. She's also a globally recognized Narcissism Negotiation Expert (more than 40 MILLION VIEWS on YouTube in 3 years) and the creator of the SLAY® negotiation method. She is the author of TWO bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom. Rebecca's perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, Ed Mylett's Podcast among others. Rebecca's podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life is ranked in the top .5% of all podcasts globally. She, along with In-N-Out Burger owner, Lynsi Snyder Ellingson, is also the founder of a 501c3, Slay Legal Aid, which provides legal aid to those in need. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Rebecca's website Rebecca's book Rebecca on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-253-slay-the-bully-with-rebecca-zung/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, I welcome Laurie James back to the show as we delve into somatic therapy, exploring its effectiveness in healing and discovering techniques to soothe the nervous system. Whether you're navigating the complexities of contemplating divorce or actively undergoing the process, you're bound to encounter a myriad of emotions. Join us as we uncover various methods and resources for healing and self-care. Laurie James is a mother, caregiver, divorcée, turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. She loves coaching midlife and beyond women looking to date and relationship differently. She helps her clients connect to their bodies and nervous systems to work through their unresolved past and find more freedom and love in all their relationships. Featured topics: Understanding Somatic Experience: What it is and exploring the benefits of this therapeutic methodology (3:22) Somatic healing in action: Laurie provides some examples of how this modality might be used in coaching or therapy (10:46) We explore alternate ways to soothe the nervous system (24:54) Learn more about Laurie James: Laurie James is a mother, caregiver, divorcée, turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. Laurie's book, Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go is about her journey from loneliness to finding belonging during a time when she was raising four teenage daughters, her mother had a heart attack, and her marriage began to crumble. Laurie loves coaching women in midlife and beyond looking to date and relationship differently. She helps her clients connect to their bodies and nervous system so they can work through their unresolved past and find more freedom and love in all their relationships. When she is not hosting her podcast, "Confessions of a Freebird", working w/ clients, she can be found nurturing her free spirit by walking her dog, skiing, sailing, hiking, spending time with close friends, volunteering or planning her next adventure. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Laurie's website Laurie on Instagram Laurie's free Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing Episode 131: Sandwiched: Holding on and Letting Go with Laurie James Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-252-somatic-healing-with-laurie-james/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Join me this week for an enlightening discussion with Priscilla Gilman, acclaimed author of the upcoming paperback release of her critically acclaimed memoir, The Critic's Daughter. Priscilla, a former professor of English literature at Yale and Vassar, brings a wealth of insight as we explore the intricacies of co-parenting and divorce. Beyond her literary achievements, Priscilla is one of my oldest friends, which adds a personal touch to our conversation. The Critic's Daughter becomes a guide on what not to do when faced with the complexities of divorce, providing a personal and poignant account of Priscilla's experiences. It's a rare opportunity to glimpse into my childhood, too, and witness the powerful narrative of Priscilla's parents' divorce – a tale of resilience, hardship, and the mistakes made during an era when people simply didn't know how to get divorced without deeply affecting their children. Learn more about Priscilla Gilman: Priscilla Gilman is a former professor of English literature at both Yale University and Vassar College and the author of The Anti-Romantic Child: A Story of Unexpected Joy (Harper), and The Critic's Daughter (Norton). The Anti-Romantic Child was excerpted in Newsweek magazine and featured on the cover of its international edition. It received starred reviews in Publishers Weekly and Booklist, was an NPR Morning Edition Must-Read, Slate's Book of the Week, one of the year's Best Books for the Leonard Lopate Show and The Chicago Tribune, and one of five nominees for a Books for a Better Life Award for Best First Book. Andrew Solomon called it "rapturously beautiful and deeply moving, profound, and marvelous." Gilman's second book, The Critic's Daughter, was published by W.W. Norton in February 2023 (paperback February 2024); a memoir about her relationship with her brilliant and complicated father, the late drama and literary critic Richard Gilman, it is set in the heyday of intellectual culture in New York of the 1970s and 80s. The Critic's Daughter received starred reviews in Kirkus and Booklist; Nick Hornby called it "Beautiful: honest, raw, careful, soulful, brave and incredibly readable." It was a Washington Post Best Book of 2023, a New York Times Book Critics' Favorite Book of 2023, one of the Los Angeles Times' book critic and Book Maven Bethanne Patrick's Top 10 Non-Fiction Books of 2023, one of the "18 Books Lilith magazine Loved in 2023," and 3rd on Bookreporter's Harvey Freedenburg's Favorite Books of 2023. Since 2011, Gilman has taught literature and writing in countless settings. She was the parenting/education advice columnist for #1 New York Times bestselling author Susan Cain's Quiet Revolution website. She speaks frequently at schools, conferences, and organizations about parenting, education, autism, and the arts. In 2018, she became a certified Mindfulness and Loving-Kindness meditation teacher. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Priscilla's websiteThe Critic's DaughterPriscilla on InstagramPriscilla on Facebook Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-251-reflections-on-the-critics-daughter-with-priscilla-gilman/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Beverly Price of Her Empowered Divorce joins me to share invaluable insights on preparing for divorce beyond the standard paperwork and financial considerations. Our conversation covers a range of featured topics and divorce dilemmas, including identifying domestic abuse, educating yourself about divorce, privacy concerns, and effective communication in court. Join us for this enlightening conversation beyond the conventional aspects of divorce preparation. Beverly Price brings a unique perspective that will empower you to navigate this significant life transition with confidence and awareness. Featured topics: Why ascertaining whether or not you've been a victim of domestic abuse is one of the first things you should do when preparing for divorce (9:28) How to identify whether or not you are being abused - it's not just being hit or getting a broken bone (11:09) How and what to communicate in court to be heard, plus communicating without emotion (16:47) Getting an education about divorce is critical, but make sure you are getting information from the right places (and do information gathering before you hire an attorney) (27:56) Privacy and ensuring the right people have access to confidential or sensitive information (41:28) The preparation and planning that should go into having the "I want a divorce" conversation with a spouse (47:43) Learn more about Beverly Price: Beverly Price, of Her Empowered Divorce, has helped thousands of women with her 30+ years' divorce coaching experience by providing knowledge, support, and insight to empower those going through the divorce process before, during and after. Her one-on-one coaching process includes extensive preparation, legal and financial education, emotional management, communication and negotiation skills, empowerment and support. She herself has a personal history with co-parenting, domestic violence, multiple divorces, being a single working mother and more. Beverly is also the host of the Her Empowered Divorce Podcast with industry leading guests who bring the latest information and guidance to help those going through divorce. She herself has a personal history with co-parenting, domestic violence, multiple divorces, being a single working mother and more Beverly is also the creator of the Divorce Coalition, who along with founders, Susan Guthrie and Kate Anthony, have formed a group of top podcast hosts, bloggers, and divorce professionals who are dedicated to bringing understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time. She hosts "Divorce Coalition Live" radio and tv show where she interviews top divorce and domestic violence professionals to bring education and awareness to victims, survivors and the general public. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Beverly's websiteBeverly on InstagramDivorce CoalitionDomestic Violence Hotline DomesticShelters.org Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-250-divorce-preparation-beyond-the-paperwork-with-beverly-price/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Lesa Koski, a seasoned attorney turned mediator, joins me in this week's podcast episode. We delve into the seven common dilemmas women often encounter during divorce. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on overcoming these challenges, arming yourself with knowledge for the journey ahead. Lesa is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. She has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time, and money involved with fighting it out in court. Tune in to discover solutions, engage in crucial conversations, and empower yourself. Featured topics and divorce dilemmas discussed include: Understanding finances and financial obligations (10:00) Exploring fear around parenting and co-parenting during and after divorce (12:26) The emotional impact of divorce (19:02) Overcoming the social stigma of divorce and addressing the question, "How do we tell our parents about our divorce?" (28:49) Divorce doesn't necessarily mean you are divorcing your in-laws (unless that's what you desire). (30:35) Understanding and navigating the legal complexities of divorce, including child support, spousal maintenance, and the types of divorce options available (collaborative, mediation, etc.) (32:54) Division of marital assets, including the marital home (40:57) Overcoming loneliness and isolation (44:00) Learn more about Lesa Koski: Lesa Koski is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. Lesa has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time and money involved with fighting it out in court. Lesa's legal background allows her to share legal information which assists in drafting a plan that works for them and holds up in Court. Her background combined with her recent certification as a Self-Made U life Coach brings a unique perspective to the table. Today, she'll be unraveling what she calls the "7 Dilemmas of Divorce" - those critical challenges that women commonly face when navigating the legal and emotional terrain of separation. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D WordPhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveVisit Lesa's website to download free resource: The Ultimate Guide to a Successful SplitConnect with LesaTake or Leave the House? With Tami Wollensak Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-249-the-seven-divorce-dilemmas-with-lesa-koski/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum, co-founders of the online platform exEXPERTS, return to the podcast this week to talk about divorced mom moments. When going through a divorce, the primary emphasis is often on the emotional and mental preparation and the legal requirements to navigate through the process. However, there's an unforeseen facet to the experience, including unexpected yet significant moments of being a divorced parent. In this episode, T.H., Jessica, and I discuss some of the less anticipated aspects of divorce that demand resilience and adaptability - like maintaining a home, asking for help, and middle-of-the-night emergencies. Featured topics include: In case of emergency: how to anticipate and prepare for critical moments (5:07) Enhance your home management skills with practical tips for maintenance and handling unexpected emergencies. (16:08) Helping your kids through divorce as a co-parent (20:22) Embrace the reality that being an engaged parent, rather than a supermom, makes a lasting impact on your kids. Even the smallest gestures matter. (31:37) Recognize the importance of asking for help when needed (42:44) Learn more about T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum: T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum (kling-bomb) are the co-founders of the online platform, exEXPERTS. They're best friends who got divorced at the same time 14 years ago, but had TOTALLY different divorce experiences. They realized back then that they didn't have the right resources to understand all the options and the different choices they needed to make, but they did have each other. So they used their own divorce experiences to create a place online where anyone can go for any phase of divorce, to answer all the questions and to feel educated about the process and everything that goes into it. As they like to say, they've lived it, so they get it! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word The exEXPERTS The exEXPERTS on Instagram The exEXPERTS on TikTok The exEXPERTS on FacebookThe Most Important Things You Need In Your Home After Divorce (Season 2, Episode 10 of Divorce, Etc.) Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-248-divorced-mom-moments-with-the-exexperts-t-h-irwin-amp-jessica-klingbaum/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Are you familiar with the term intergenerational trauma? My guest, Dr. Mariel Buqué, explains intergenerational trauma as "shadows of emotional pain that has plagued families for generations." Whether intergenerational trauma is a new term to you or something you've long been interested in shedding, this week's episode brings to light the complexities of this trauma and explores how to heal from it. Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and the author of the book Break the Cycle: a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma. Her holistic clinical framework infuses ancient and indigenous healing practices into a modern, comprehensive therapeutic approach. Get ready for an enlightening discussion as we unravel the intricacies of intergenerational trauma with the exceptional Dr. Mariel Buqué. Featured topics include: What is Intergenerational trauma? Is it really a part of our DNA? (8:27) Recognizing triggers, naming them, and having the fortitude to change the behavioral pattern is valuable, but it can take many years of therapy to get to this point (10:25) How our family trauma contributes to our intimate relationship dynamics (26:48) Breaking the cycle of trauma in our lives to develop healthier relationships (34:58) Learn more about Dr. Mariel Buqué: Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and the author of the book Break the Cycle: a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma. Her clinical framework is holistic and infuses ancient and indigenous healing practices into a modern, comprehensive therapeutic approach. She additionally provides healing workshops to Fortune 100 companies including Google, Twitter, Capital One, and Facebook and lectures within the psychology department of Columbia University. Dr. Buqué is widely sought out for her clinical expertise and trauma healing approach and has been featured on major media outlets including The Today Show, Good Morning America, and ABC News. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" Dr. Mariel's bookDr. Mariel on Instagram Dr. Mariel on TikTok Dr. Mariel on YouTube Dr. Mariel on Facebook Show link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-247-break-the-cycle-of-intergenerational-trauma-with-dr-mariel-buque/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode focuses on the impact of significant life transitions on relationships and mental health, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding. Alessandra Torresani is my special-guest. She is a multi-hyphenate actress, host, creator, and mental health advocate. In this episode, Alessandra's candidness extends to societal stigmas, the fear of judgment, and the importance of recognizing mental health challenges in both men and women. By sharing her journey with Bipolar 1 Disorder, Alessandra aims to break down barriers and encourage others to seek help, fostering a community of support and understanding. Tune in for a conversation about postpartum struggles, mental health challenges, and navigating parenthood with vulnerability and strength. Featured topics include: Alessandra discusses the physical, emotional, and identity changes of being a new mom. (4:36) The impact of significant life transitions, such as becoming a parent, on marriages (5:33) We explore the question, "Why does stating you want a divorce seem like such a surprise to a partner?" (17:00) What to know when it comes to creating a parenting plan as a new mom (18:55) Alessandra shares her experience living with Bipolar 1 Disorder and navigating motherhood and marriage while not being medicated (24:26) Mental health and relationships: Some advice for those in relationships where someone has a mental illness and is not doing anything about it (40:09) Learn more about Alessandra Torresani: Alessandra is a multi-hyphenate actress, host, creator, and mental health advocate. She is dedicated to de-stigmatizing mental health by spreading kindness, compassion and hope. She brings tons of fun and laughter to her mission with sharing her story about living with BiPolar 1 Disorder on her podcast EmotionAL Support. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" EmotionAL Support Pod Alessandra on Instagram Show Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-246-mental-health-relationships-and-lifes-transitions-with-alessandra-torresani/

Do you know what your relationship style is? In this enlightening podcast episode, we delve into the fascinating world of relationship styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley, Associate Professor of Counseling at Liberty University and author of "The Mister Rogers Effect" and "The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help You in Your Search for Lasting Love" (releasing January 2024). Dr. Kuhnley, drawing from her extensive experience, shares valuable insights on identifying and understanding your relationship style, navigating relationships, and exploring the strengths and challenges inherent in each style. This episode uncovers the profound impact of our relationship styles on our emotional well-being and teaches us to embrace the strengths within each style for a more thriving and fulfilling life. Featured topics include: What are relationship styles? (2:46) How and where to find out what your relationship is (7:19) The attributes of the four relationship styles: security guard, networker, firefighter, and investigator (10:00) As we become more self-aware, we can change the relationship style we have (21:44) "The way we do relationships is the way we do emotion." (33:10) Every relationship style has tremendous strengths; embracing them can help us thrive. (39:02) Learn more about Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley: Anita is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker. She is passionately committed to her mission of sharing simple psychological techniques that empower counselors and individuals to improve their own lives and make a positive impact on others. She has authored or co-authored nine books, including the acclaimed "The Mister Rogers Effect" (2020), which unpacks the incredible influence of Fred Rogers through a psychological lens. In her upcoming book, "The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love" (January 2024), she integrates classic attachment theory to provide readers with valuable insights into understanding both themselves and those with whom they aspire to build meaningful relationships. She resides in Florida. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Anita's website Pre-order Anita's book "The Four Relationship Styles." Anita on Instagram Show link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-245-the-four-relationship-styles-with-dr-anita-knight-kuhnley/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode revisits a fan-favorite conversation about coercive control with the incredible Dr. Christine Coccihola. We explore how coercive control serves as the bedrock for a majority of domestic abuse cases, often manifesting in non-physical forms, and discuss the insidious nature of control, including its impact and how to get help if you are a victim. Whether you're revisiting this powerful episode or hearing it for the first time, Dr. Cocchiola's insights are invaluable in navigating the complexities of relationships. Listen to hear (or re-hear) this conversation about coercive control. Featured topics include: What is coercive control? The global impact of high-profile cases that revolve around coercive control DARVO: an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers How coercive controllers gain and retain control How to avoid coercive control and other abusive situations Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. Coercive Control, the foundation of most domestic abuse, is often non-physical with offenders using "power over" to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually and where children are involved, use of the children as pawns. She is a college professor teaching social work at CT Community College for the last 20 years and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey of healing their children. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" and Grab Your Bonuses! Dr. Cocchiola's websiteDr. Cocchiola on InstagramDr. Cocchiola on FacebookDr. Cocchiola on TwitterDr. Cocchiola on LinkedInInstagram Live with Dr. Christine about Depp v HeardWhat Happens After You Leave Your Abusive Marriage? with Leanne Oaten Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-244-coercive-control-with-dr-christine-cocchiola/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Nicole Sodoma joins me on the podcast this week! Nicole is a marriage-loving divorce attorney, founder of Sodoma Law, and author of "Please Don't Say You're Sorry." In this episode, Nicole shares empowering advice from her book, offering a unique perspective on gracefully navigating the challenges of divorce. Discover the thought-provoking concepts and questions that will compel you to lift your head out of the sand, look closely at your relationships, and help guide you as you take the steps toward divorce. Our conversation covers essential topics such as preparation for divorce, understanding the work required for a successful and happy future, and the actions and steps one should take when considering divorce or separation. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on the complexities of love and separation and learn how humor and introspection can guide you toward a brighter, more informed journey. Featured topics include: What would your partner say is the reason you want a divorce? Uncover the importance of open communication about the motivations behind this life-altering decision. (8:00) Nicole reveals why the safest place to disclose your deepest secrets is with your attorney. Plus, she offers communication tips for interacting effectively with them. (8:32) We discuss thought-provoking concepts and questions designed to help you confront the realities of your relationship. (27:53) Prepare for the unexpected: Contemplate a scenario where your spouse asks for a divorce. Are you prepared? Nicole helps us think further about the mental and emotional preparations needed to navigate this challenging situation. (33:13) Learn more about Nicole Sodoma: As a marriage-loving divorce attorney of 25 years, Nicole Sodoma has pioneered a way through the often- dreaded field of family law with integrity, compassion, and tenacity. Over the years, Nicole has risen to prominence as a national authority on divorce, custody, and co-parenting. However, Nicole never expected to go through a divorce herself. Through her professional and personal learnings, Nicole authored her first book, PLEASE DON'T SAY YOU'RE SORRY in 2022. The book is a witty, honest, and wildly relatable account of the stripped-down realities of marriage, separation, and divorce. While there's no denying that divorce sucks, PLEASE DON'T SAY YOUR'E SORRY serves as a reminder that although the journey can be wholly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting - it also doesn't have to be the worst thing that's ever happened to you. Nicole's new PLEASE DON'T SAY YOU'RE SORRY Workbook is the perfect companion to the book or audiobook, featuring thought-provoking questions, inspirational quotes and must-have relationship worksheets, perfect for anyone navigating marriage, separation or divorce. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Nicole's websitePlease Don't Say You're Sorry Book and Workbook Nicole on LinkedIn Nicole on Instagram Nicole on Facebook Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-243-preparing-for-divorce-with-nicole-sodoma/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I have another solo episode for you this week and maybe a new series. Who knows. As we head into the holiday season, I'm diving into three essential topics—not putting your kids in the middle, creating new holiday traditions, and the concept of "the shifting of primary." Tune in to hear me explore the challenges of co-parenting during the holidays and how to avoid inadvertently putting your children in the middle. I also offer a different perspective on establishing traditions after divorce. I provide a creative (and inclusive) approach to deciding new traditions, making the process enjoyable for everyone, especially your kids. Finally, I share insights on the "shifting of primary" concept and how intentional space creation for new relationships is crucial. This episode helps you navigate these aspects of divorce and co-parenting during the holidays and beyond. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" and Grab Your Bonuses!Private Coaching with Kate Grit & GraceKate's Facebook Group Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-242-kate-unfiltered-important-topics-random-thoughts/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

November is Family Court Awareness Month. My friend and colleague, Tina Swithin, has dedicated the month of November to educating people about the family court system: how corrupt it can be, how unfair it is, and how uneducated most people in the family law system are about domestic violence. Tina was a guest on my podcast a few years back to share the truths about the family court system. If you fear you may end up in the family court system, you must listen to this episode. It will help you understand what family court is designed to do and enable you to prepare yourself to battle within the court system, which is not designed to protect you. Listen to hear (or re-hear) this incredible conversation about family court awareness. Featured topics include: Family Court Awareness Month is an opportunity for survivors to raise awareness at a community level. The family court system is abusive. How we can come together to increase awareness. The disconnect between family court and other judicial systems. There is no regulation or checks and balances. Very few states have required trauma-informed or domestic violence training for family court judges. We examine how judges become appointed family law judges. What you can expect when advocating for yourself in the family court system. Learn more about Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin survived a "Category Five Divorce Hurricane" while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family's life upside down for over a decade. Known for her internationally recognized blog, "One Mom's Battle" and her book series, "Divorcing a Narcissist," Tina helps survivors to navigate the family court system against narcissists and other toxic individuals. In 2020, Tina launched two major projects: The High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program and a nationwide campaign, Family Court Awareness Month. The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is to raise awareness and shine a spotlight on one of the most important branches of our judicial system; the family court system. The very system that was established to govern family law cases and make decisions that are "in the best interest" of children, has some undeniable shortcomings that warrant conversations, solutions and ultimately, change. The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is fueled by the desire for a family court system that is trauma-informed and educated on domestic violence, coercive control and post separation abuse. To truly act in the best interest of children, our family court system needs to incorporate empirical data and research into their decisions and rulings. Resources & Links: Links and information may also be found at: kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-241-family-court-awareness-month-with-tina-swithin/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" and Grab Your Bonuses!Domestic Violence Training: Bridging the Gap in Divorce Law with Kate Anthony on The Divorce and Beyond Podcast #318 Family Court AwarenessOne Mom's BattleTina on FacebookTina on InstagramTina on LinkedIn TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Solo episode alert! This is more than any regular solo episode, though, because today I'm super excited to share a chapter from my upcoming book, The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. The book comes out on December 26th, but in this episode, you're getting a sneak peek as I read Chapter 3, "Why Are Women so Unhappy in Their Marriages? How Marriage Exhausts Women and Benefits Men." This chapter explores how systemic issues and inequalities play a significant role in marriage. The unequal distribution of responsibilities, including domestic labor, emotional labor, and the "mental load," places a substantial burden on women within these partnerships. No wonder women are exhausted! Also, in this chapter (and episode), I explore one of my favorite topics, Not Your Fucking Job™. For example, it is not your fucking job to tell a grown-ass human being that the laundry needs to be done or that dinner needs to be made, or that the kids need a bath, or that you're out of toothpaste. I hope you enjoy this special episode and Chapter Three of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. There's so much information that I am passionate about and want you to have, and I've tried to cover it all in this book. The D Word is dedicated to my son, but it is also dedicated to women everywhere. It's dedicated to you because you, my love, deserve to be happy. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-240-introducing-the-d-word-making-the-ultimate-decision-about-your-marriage/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Today, we are tackling the daunting barriers that often prevent people from taking the first steps in the divorce process. Heather MacKenzie, President and Chief Content Officer of Hello Divorce joins me for a conversation about the complexities of divorce, including the paperwork, timelines, and policies that vary from state to state. This episode equips you with the knowledge and courage to embrace divorce as an opportunity for personal growth, preparing you to emerge from the process lighter and ready to start a new, fulfilling chapter in your life. Featured topics include: Navigating divorce paperwork, timelines, and legal protocols in divorce (5:51) Commonalities and roadblocks in divorce procedures across states (6:15) When skipping financial disclosures becomes a consideration (7:14) The empowering role of a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) in your divorce journey (11:38) Busting the myth: lawyers and their expertise in financial matters (16:15) Embracing the duration: recognizing that divorce is a journey, not a sprint (20:42) Transitioning from an entitlement mindset to clarity about personal desires (22:37) Serving your spouse with a divorce petition (25:46) Leveraging the marital settlement agreement as a valuable resolution tool (35:01) Learn more about Heather MacKenzie: Heather joined Hello Divorce two months into a planned year-long vacation from the start-up world because she was convinced that the legal world is one of the only things left that truly needed disrupting. Since her expertise (obsession) is making complex, frustrating processes easier – and even enjoyable – for consumers, Heather has taken the lead of the product, customer service, marketing, and content teams to not only cover every touch point consumers have with the company but to create true economies of scale. At Hello Divorce, Heather relentlessly pursues the goal of gaining and keeping consumer trust. In her first year alone, she led the complete digital transformation of the site, implemented scale through technology and systems across teams, added new products and services that extended the company's reach, and transformed the approach of not only the legal product but the huge amount of consumer content Hello Divorce provides to users. Heather holds a B.A. in History and American Studies from the University of Notre Dame and a M.S. in Digital Media from Northwestern University. In 2017, she was chosen to be a member of the prestigious Council of 100 for executive leadership at Northwestern, where she helps with the philanthropy of the school through mentorship and growth for future women leaders. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-239-overcoming-barriers-to-divorce-with-heather-mackenzie-of-hello-divorce/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Hello DivorceHello Divorce on Instagram Listeners, get $25 off software to generate a Marital Settlement Agreement (regular cost $100) - Use code SURVIVE25 when checking out. Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Today, we delve into the world of Point C Divorce. For well-intentioned parents caught in the complexities of family conflicts, Larry and Joni have devised Point C Divorce as a solution. Their goal is clear: to minimize the effects of fiercely contested divorce battles on children, placing kids at the heart of every divorce. Following his tenure on the Superior Court bench in New Jersey, Larry transitioned from public service to academia. He now teaches at two universities and actively participates in mediation and alternative dispute resolution. Joni holds board certification in psychiatric and mental health nursing and is a certified expert in anger management. Featured topics include: Larry and Joni provide the origins and principles behind Point C Divorce. (3:44) How to protect your children when one spouse manipulates the legal system during divorce and continues to abuse you and your children. (8:18) The concept of heartfelt forgiveness and how it differs from conventional forgiveness. (16:19) Drawing from his extensive experience as a family court judge, Larry shares that children overwhelmingly desire two critical things during their parents' divorce. (19:33) The long-lasting impacts on children placed in the middle of a contentious divorce. (29:04) We explore the complexities of co-parenting, one of the most intricate relationships one can experience. (40:20) Learn more about Larry and Joni Jones: Larry and Joni are a caring and dynamic couple who have dedicated their lives and professional outreach to helping families navigate the oft-times difficult journey through mental health issues, special needs and family law. After serving on the Superior Court bench in New Jersey, Larry retired from public service, began teaching at two Universities, and became significantly involved in mediation and alternative dispute resolution. Joni is board certified in psychiatric and mental health nursing, and is a certified anger management specialist. She is also a mediator as well. Larry and Joni actively advocate on a variety of issues including, autism and special needs, co-parenting, cultural competency, domestic violence/ IPV issues, and animal-related legal issues. They have recently relocated to New Mexico and are involved in a multitude of online social education projects. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-238-point-c-divorce-with-larry-and-joni-jones/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word"Grit and Grace The Divorce Coalition The Divorce Coalition on Instagram Watch the Point C Divorce Video and visit the website Point C Divorce on FacebookPoint C Divorce on Instagram Point C Divorce on YouTube TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, Patti Handy joins me on the podcast to discuss financial management after divorce and ways to regain financial stability. Patti is a Financial Coach for Women with over 20 years of experience as a Financial Advisor and Mortgage Advisor. Her journey into financial coaching was born out of a passion for teaching and empowering women with money smarts. In this episode, Patti shares practical strategies for paying off debt, the key differences between creating a budget and utilizing a spending tracker, and advice for women navigating the complexities of financing a divorce without accumulating excessive debt. Patti also outlines three essential steps when managing finances post-divorce and guidance on where to begin investing. Featured topics include: Recommendations for paying off debt (8:12) Creating a budget versus a spending tracker (10:40) Advice for women walking the line between financing divorce and piling on debt (13:13) Three steps divorced women should take when it comes to their money (19:49) When it comes to investing, where should someone start? (26:51) Ideas and inspiration to create your side job to help with finances (39:34) Learn more about Patti Handy: After spending a combined 20 years as a Financial Advisor and Mortgage Advisor, and having countless conversations with women, I decided to pursue my dream of Financial Coaching for Women. I'm a teacher at heart and I love to educate and empower women with money smarts! Understanding that money can be an overwhelming topic for many, I'm audaciously passionate about creating financial confidence when it comes to your well-being. This has been the catalyst to follow my passion of empowering and educating women in their financial journey. I am a Certified Executive Coach, Certified Life Coach, hold a Real Estate Brokers license and published author of four books. Full disclosure, I'm a self-proclaimed chocoholic, I love to read, and the beach is my happy place. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-237-from-divorce-to-debt-freedom-with-patti-handy/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" The Divorce Coalition The Divorce Coalition on Instagram Patti's websitePatti on Facebook Patti on LinkedIn Patti on Instagram TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon returns to the podcast this week to discuss her new book, Love Every Day. Part of the book's premise is that love needs to be a daily practice. Dr. Solomon shares her insights and wisdom about how to show up for the relationships in your life. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as today's most trusted relationship voice. Her Relational Self-Awareness framework has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon, hosts the podcast REIMAGINING LOVE and has a new book, LOVE EVERY DAY, on sale this October. Featured topics include: Why love needs to be a daily practice (5:17) Relational Self-Awareness (RSA) is the key to a healthy relationship (9:31) How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team (27:15) How cultural context and identity shape our relationships (36:52) Dr. Solomon answers, "Why is dating so challenging right now?" (47:32) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-236-love-every-day-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/ The Divorce CoalitionThe Divorce Coalition on InstagramDr. Alexandra Solomon's website Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Facebook Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Wendy Sloane joins me to discuss the importance of slowing down the divorce process. Yes, once we've decided to leave and let our decision be known, it's easy to fall into the "let's hurry up and get this done" phase. In this conversation, Wendy and I discuss why taking your time, researching, and finding the right lawyer is the best first step forward. This episode is slightly different than most - we cover many important topics and share some of our personal experiences through divorce. Wendy honed her easy and authentic interview style, producing iconic, groundbreaking TV shows, including The Phil Donahue Show and The Geraldo Rivera Show. She covered some of the biggest news stories of our time, including the O.J. Simpson and JonBenet Ramsey murders. She uses that experience as the Host of two popular podcasts, What's Up with Wendy and Divorce Doesn't Suck. Featured topics include: Know your state's divorce laws, do your research, and find the right attorney for your divorce. (4:50) Why rushing through a divorce is one of the biggest mistakes one can make. (11:37) It's okay to want more than just existing in a marriage. (14:18) Find your people to help support you during your divorce journey, and be strategic about who those people are. (20:01) Use tools and resources to help you block out the noise. (34:52) Some ways to practice self-care and why you shouldn't feel guilty about it. (36:59) Learn more about Wendy Sloane: Wendy Lowy Sloane honed her easy and authentic interview style, producing iconic, groundbreaking TV shows, including The Phil Donahue Show and The Geraldo Rivera Show. She covered some of the biggest news stories of our time, including the O.J. Simpson and JonBenet Ramsey murders. She uses that experience as the Host of two popular podcasts, What's Up with Wendy and Divorce Doesn't Suck. What's Up with Wendy is a talk series that features conversations you want to hear with A-List Celebrities, Newsmakers, Comedians, CEOs, Musicians, and Fitness & Nutrition Experts, including Dennis Quaid, Angela Bassett, Tony Danza, Billy Bob Thornton, Barbara Corcoran, Gabrielle Union, Kristen Chenoweth, JoJo Fletcher, Ayesha Curry, Melissa Etheridge, and Eric Stonestreet—as well as the country's most popular authors, athletes, psychic mediums, and more. Divorce Doesn't Suck is a different kind of divorce podcast. Wendy and her guests explore every aspect of divorce, including kids, finances, dating, sex, starting over, and more. They talk about the rich, rewarding, and happy life that's possible after divorce, and they share their personal stories, their challenges, and their successes. Divorce Doesn't Suck focuses on new perspectives and how to move forward and focus on the future—how to restart with a new blank canvas. Wendy connects with her guests on a genuine and personal level. Her refreshing and engaging interviews make listeners feel like they're part of the conversation and keep her guests coming back. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-235-a-slowed-down-and-strategic-approach-to-divorce-with-wendy-sloane/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word"Divorce Doesn't Suck Wendy on Instagram OurFamilyWizard app TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, joins me for an in-depth conversation about healing from betrayal. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is also the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia, outside of DC. "Divorce is common, and cheating is common. Because they are common, it doesn't mean they're not tremendously significant and have enormous ramifications for our mental and physical health," says Michelle. During our conversation, we discuss the importance of understanding what happened, explore betrayal through the lens of attachment systems, and unravel what happens to us when we experience this enormous injury. Featured topics include: A new attachment-based model for understanding the impacts of cheating in relationships (8:58) Some of the binds in relationships that we can get stuck in including the shame bind and relational binds (12:01) What gets in the way of leaving when we want or know we need to leave (35:43) Healing and repairing relationships: what it means to stay, and what it takes to repair the fractures betrayal has caused (45:02) The difference between rebuilding emotional connection and rebuilding sexual connection (50:21) Learn more about Michelle Mays: Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope™ Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-234-healing-from-relationship-betrayal-with-michelle-mays/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Michelle's websiteMichelle's book, The Betrayal Bind Michelle on FacebookMichelle on InstagramMichelle on YouTube Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Amelia Kelley is back! You may remember her from the popular episode about being a highly sensitive person (HSP), strategies for self-care, and how being an HSP can affect relationships. This time, we are talking about healing from gaslighting. In fact, Dr. Kelley has a new book/workbook called, "Gaslighting Recovery for Women." She shares some of the book's insights in this episode. We talk about how to recover from gaslighting, including the importance of understanding it, and then, later, some steps toward healing. Dr. Kelley's passion is to equip women who have experienced gaslighting to understand what happened to them, how to protect themselves from potential gaslighting in the future, and how to understand the nuances between medical, relational, societal, and family gaslighting. Featured topics include: Gaslighting: what it is, what it isn't, and where/how it shows up (8:13) The act of lying is not gaslighting (11:27) Tactics of gaslighting used by abusers (14:09) The seven stages of gaslighting (21:56) How gaslighting affects women, specifically (36:11) How do you get out of a relationship where gaslighting is occurring? (40:13) Beginning to heal: It is a time to be inquisitive, not a time to blame or shame yourself and enhance your relationship with Self (56:13) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelly: Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on adult ADHD symptoms as well as the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a trainer, podcaster and writer in the "science-help" field focusing on; women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. Dr. Kelley is an adjunct counseling professor at Yorkville University as well as a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on XM Radio's Doctor Channel on The Psychiatry Show. She is a coach and trainer for SAS's Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her private practice is currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a co-author of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and a contributing author for the Highly Sensitive Refuge. You can find out more about her work at her website www.ameliakelley.com or by following her on Instagram @drameliakelley. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-233-gaslighting-recovery-for-women-with-dr-amelia-kelley Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Should I Stay or Should I GoGrit and GracePrivate Coaching with KateDr. Kelley's websiteGaslighting Recovery for WomenDr Kelley's Insight TimerDr. Kelley on Instagram What My Bones Know, Stephanie FooCoDA TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Vanessa Bennett returns to the show this week! A highly regarded licensed holistic psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur, mental health content creator, and the author of the best-selling relationship book, "It's Not Me, It's You," Vanessa brings a wealth of expertise. Her unique perspective on fostering healthy relationships and navigating codependency provides valuable insights. In this episode, Vanessa and I delve into the intricacies of codependency and its impact on relationships and self-identity. Vanessa guides us in understanding the concept of codependence and sheds light on how it influences our behaviors and choices. Vanessa's profound wisdom on this subject promises to be enlightening and transformative, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their mental and emotional well-being. Featured topics: You can't talk about the individual without talking about the collective: Codependency, patriarchy, and white supremacy are intertwined—and should all be talked about within the realm of mental health (6:46) How codependency manifests in relationships (11:25) What to do to reclaim your sense of self (16:28) Evaluating (all) relationships is normal—if it no longer works for you, that's okay! (22:45) Can you ever eradicate codependency in your life? (24:01) Micromoments and self-identity: "Whenever you do the hard thing, you are laying a brick on the foundation of the sense of Self." (34:27) How mindful practices can help you sit with your emotions and recover from codependency (37:13) Learn more about Vanessa Bennett: After over a decade of grinding in the New York City corporate world, Vanessa Bennett realized her work, her relationships, and honestly, her life felt…off. She didn't see it at first, but her path was finding her — and the journey she started to help herself ended up being her path to helping others. Cue the montage of her moving across the country, having a few breakdowns, heartbreaks, setbacks, taking hundreds of hours of trainings and workshops in yoga, yoga therapy, nutrition, somatic therapy, and reading lots and lots of books. Oh yeah, all while becoming a licensed therapist. It turns out that this passion paired well with her unique background in telling stories through marketing and corporate strategy, a longtime practice of meditation and yoga, and the fact that she's a New Yorker who cuts to the point. Today, Vanessa lives in Los Angeles and puts all of this to work as an Author, Licensed Holistic Psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur and mental health content creator. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corporate trainings, events, and conferences. Resources & Links: Links and information may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-232-breaking-free-from-codependency-with-vanessa-bennett Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Vanessa's websiteVanessa on InstagramVanessa on TikTok ============================================================== Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE ============================================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, I am doing something on the podcast I don't normally do—featuring a story of someone within my community. My guest, L, joins me for a conversation about how her ex-husband contested their custody agreement after he learned of L's postings of adult content online. The case and the subsequent judgment ended up being a huge step for women and women's sexual liberation in divorce. Along with her attorney, Jonathan, L discusses why it may have been easier to concede and take down the explicit online content, yet chose to fight the allegations (and ensuing custody battle) instead. Plus, Jonathan explains how this case can be used as legal precedent for future cases. L, who is using an alias for this podcast, is a long-time member of the Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook group and worked through my program while going through her divorce in 2021. She's a successful career executive, mom to a 7-year-old daughter, and an advocate for sexual freedom, having been a member of her local BDSM and kink communities for two years. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-231-the-legal-battle-for-womens-sexual-freedom/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" National Coalition for Sexual FreedomJD Lane LawRedacted Judge Ruling from L's custody modification case TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Your relationship with money is important to know and understand. Yet, most of us were not taught how to be in relationship with money. Throw in divorce, financial trauma, or abuse, and how do you begin again? My guest, Bari Tessler, teaches how to have a healthy, safe, savvy, and creative relationship with money. In this episode she offers her unique perspective on restarting your financial journey following divorce or any life change. Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist and Founder of The Art of Money, a year-long money school and a Mentor program for therapists, coaches, and financial professionals. Bari trained as a Somatic Therapist and received her Masters degree from Naropa University in 1998. She then ran a bookkeeping business for therapists and artists. In 2001, she merged all her training and created a somatic-based Financial Therapy methodology that she has been teaching for 20+ years. Featured topics include: What is a financial therapist (5:35) We all make money mistakes, and we must be kind and gentle to ourselves when we do. There are a few things we are doing well and we need to claim for ourselves. (14:15) How to feel more grounded and at ease when making decisions around money, such as body and emotions check-ins (18:42) How our money stories are formed (42:05) Rebuilding your relationship with money after financial trauma or abuse (43:20) Why it is important to find a financial professional of whom you feel safe (44:40) Learn more about Bari Tessler: Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist and Founder of The Art of Money, a year-long money school and a Mentor program for therapists, coaches and financial professionals. Bari trained as a Somatic Therapist and received her Masters degree from Naropa University in 1998. She then ran a bookkeeping business for therapists and artists. In 2001, she merged all her training and created a somatic-based Financial Therapy methodology that she has been teaching for 20+ years. Bari is the Author of The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness and The Art of Money Workbook. Her work has been featured on Oprah.com, Inc.com, US News & World Report, Reuters Money, The Fiscal Times, USA Today, The Cut, Girlboss, Nerd Wallet, Real Simple, MindBodyGreen, and REDBOOK. She has also been featured on the cover of Experience Life and Mindful. Bari loves to read, dance and enjoy dark chocolate. She lives in Boulder, CO with her husband, son, many cats + a big puppy. You can find her here: baritessler.com Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-230-the-art-of-money-with-bari-tessler Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Bari's websiteBari's booksBari on Instagram Bari on Facebook Bari on LinkedIn ============================================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am incredibly honored to be joined by Dr. Emma Katz this week on the podcast. Dr. Katz is a world-leading expert on coercive control. She is the author of Coercive Control in Children's and Mothers' Lives. She is an award-winning expert in domestic abuse and coercive control whose work has influenced policy and professional practice in the UK and globally. During our conversation, we discuss how to know if you are a victim of coercive control, the common forms of post-separation abuse, and understanding the orange, red, and green flag behaviors in relationships. Dr. Emma Katz is an amazing source of information on coercive control. Our conversation aims to help you break free from coercive control, establish a realistic lens of what is happening, and plan how to move forward. Featured topics include: What we mean when we talk about coercive control (4:14) How to know if you are being coercively controlled (6:46) Why Dr. Katz says coercive control is a global health crisis (8:49) Coercive control can happen to anyone, and women are often disproportionately the victims/survivors of it (17:46) The orange/red/green flag behaviors of relationships (27:26) "The person you fell in love with was not real. The sooner you come to understand that, the better. You can then begin to take back your power." (33:28) The five most common forms of post-separation abuse (46:59) The difficulties of criminalization of coercive control (50:28) Learn more about Dr. Emma Katz Dr. Emma Katz is Associate Professor at Durham University. She is an award-winning expert in domestic abuse and coercive control whose work has influenced policy and professional practice in the UK and globally. Dr. Katz's book, Coercive Control in Children's and Mothers' Lives (published in 2022 by Oxford University Press), is described by Professor Evan Stark as a 'pioneering work that will change how we understand and respond to children's experience of domestic abuse.' Follow Dr. Katz on Substack to receive her popular blog Decoding Coercive Control with Dr. Emma Katz. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-229-understanding-coercive-control-with-dr-emma-katz/ Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Dr. Katz's website Dr. Katz's Substack "Decoding Coercive Control" Dr. Katz on Instagram Dr. Katz on LinkedInDr. Katz on FacebookDr. Katz on YouTube Dr. Katz's Research Publications TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

In today's episode, I'm thrilled to introduce Grant Wyeth, a talented writer based in Melbourne and occasionally Sweden. He joined me to discuss the intricacies of family court and share his knowledge about parental alienation. Grant wears many hats – he's a columnist for the prestigious Asia Pacific Affairs publication, The Diplomat, an editor at Asia Pacific Development, Diplomacy, and Defense Dialogue, and the creator of the Substack newsletter, International Blue. While Grant's main focus has been on foreign affairs, in recent years, he's taken a deep dive into a different subject – the behavior of family courts. One particular Substack piece Grant wrote caught my attention. He delved into the complex issue of parental alienation within the family court system. Grant shares his research, experiences, and thoughts on these important issues in this episode. Featured topics include: How family court systems are failing to address abuse (4:17) The global significance of child custody cases and violence against women and its reflection on societal health (6:36) The history of parental alienation (14:18) Family court judges often lack training in recognizing signs of domestic violence, which leads to dangerous rulings (22:56) Abusers use institutions like courts, mediation, and social services as weapons to maintain control (33:43) The danger and harm of reunification camps (27:09) We discuss the father's rights movement and gender bias (45:35) Debunking parental alienation (46:46) Learn more about Grant Wyeth: Grant Wyeth is a Melbourne (and occasionally Sweden) based writer. He is currently a columnist for the Asia-Pacific affairs publication The Diplomat, is an editor at Asia-Pacific Development, Diplomacy and Defence Dialogue, and writes the Substack newsletter International Blue. Although his work primarily focuses on issues of foreign affairs, over the past few years he has taken a keen interest in the behaviour of family courts and has written extensively on these issues, as well as spoken at a number of public forums. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-228-exposing-parental-alienation-in-family-courts-with-grant-wyeth Grant's Substack newsletter International Blue. Grant on Twitter Grant's Substack article: The Best Interests Of The Abuser ============================================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I have yet to see an online divorce platform that is as in-depth as the award-winning platform Hello Divorce. Founder, attorney, and CEO, Erin Levine, joins me in a conversation about revolutionizing the broken divorce system and how Hello Divorce helps couples divorce in a way that feels fair, reduces conflict, and facilitates peace. Erin's mission is to help separating couples empower a better life ahead, and she has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next (best) chapter. Featured topics include: The state of divorce in the media and the world today (3:13) How to invite the person you are divorcing to utilize a platform such as Hello Divorce (7:36) Even if your divorce does not go how you planned, so much of what matters is how you feel during it (14:40) Things to not forget in your settlement and post-divorce checklists (28:06) Divorce should always empower a better life ahead (34:39) Learn more about Erin Levine: Erin Levine is not your typical attorney. With over a decade of experience in litigating complex family matters, she saw the need for a kinder, easier and more affordable pathway out of marriage and into the next chapter of life. To achieve this, Erin set out to revolutionize the broken divorce system and founded Hello Divorce, a venture capital backed, tech-enabled platform, that combines self-service online tools with integrated expert advice, making it easier for everyone to navigate their lives and finances with less stress and mess. Erin's innovative approach to the divorce process has earned her media mentions from the legal industry and beyond, with recent features in Vice, Forbes, American Bar Association Journal, Business Insider and TechCrunch. Ultimately, Erin is on a mission to help separating couples empower a better life ahead and has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps and reimagine their next (best) chapter. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-227-hello-divorce-redefining-the-divorce-process-with-erin-levine/ Hello Divorce Hello Divorce's Equity Split Calculator Hello Divorce on InstagramErin on Instagram Hello Divorce on Facebook Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Every so often, I meet someone in my field with whom I hit it off amazingly. This week's guest, Tony Overbay, is an example of when that happens. Tony joins me to discuss emotional immaturity, narcissism, and raising your emotional baseline. Tony is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father of 4, and Host of the award-winning podcast "The Virtual Couch" and another chart-topping podcast "Waking up To Narcissism." He has spoken to audiences worldwide about marriage, parenting, navigating a faith crisis, anxiety, depression, ADHD, narcissism, and emotional immaturity. I am certain this conversation is just the first of many. I hope you enjoy this week's episode! Featured topics include: The difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism (2:48) A framework to help someone with emotional immaturity or narcissistic traits (20:35) Your emotional baseline: When your baseline of emotions is low, you can't reach the tools you need to interact with the world, so raising your emotional baseline could help you get traction to use the tools you've learned (34:05) Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) (44:23) Learn more about Tony Overbay: Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, author, and podcast host. Tony spent ten years working in the software industry before returning to school in his early 30s to get his master's in counseling, and he has been working as a therapist for the past 18 years. Tony's first book, "He's A Porn Addict, Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions," has been a best-seller in the Sexual Health and Recovery category since its December 2019 debut. Tony recently released the "Magnetic Marriage" couples communication course and is the creator of The Path Back, an online pornography recovery program that has helped hundreds of individuals turn away from using pornography as a coping mechanism. Tony released the award-winning "The Virtual Couch" podcast in August of 2017, and he has over 350 episodes and 5 million downloads and counting. Tony launched "Waking Up to Narcissism" in October of 2021, and it has regularly found its way into the top 50 podcasts in the "Mental Health" category on the Apple Podcast charts. Tony's latest podcast venture is an enhanced audio podcast of his best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict," with his co-author, Joshua Shea, joining him as co-host. Tony has spoken to audiences worldwide on topics ranging from marriage, parenting, navigating a faith crisis, anxiety, depression, ADHD, narcissism, and emotional immaturity. Tony has testified in several court cases on narcissism. He is currently working on two books, one on his "Emotional Baseline" theory and one on navigating a relationship with a narcissist/emotionally immature person in one's life. Tony has been married to his high school sweetheart for 32 years, and he has four adult children, ages 18, 20, 22, and 24. Tony is an avid runner, and he has completed over 150 marathons and ultramarathons, including over a dozen races of 100 miles or more. You can find out more about Tony at http://tonyoverbay.com. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-226-emotional-immaturity-vs-narcissism-with-tony-overbay/ Tony's websiteLinks to connect with Tony ============================================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

The divorce experience isn't a cookie-cutter one for everyone. Sure, the process might look the same, but economics, culture, and race can impact how different people experience divorce. Kimberly Cook's Grown Girl Divorce platform seeks to educate and empower Black women through divorce, as their divorce experience can be very specific and different from that of white women. I am pleased to welcome Kimberly as a guest on the podcast this week! During our conversation, Kimberly helps highlight Black women's experiences and challenges during divorce. Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. is a divorce attorney, mediator, and founder of Grown Girl Divorce, LLC, a divorce resource company. She is known for successfully negotiating complex financial and custody matters while helping her clients navigate their next steps forward. Featured topics include: Why and when Kimberly created Grown Girl Divorce (4:47) Kimberly helps unpack divorce rate (41%) and marriage rate (17%) stats for Black women (13:20) How come staying in a marriage "for your children" isn't good for them (22:03) There is strength in community, and being a part of a community reminds you that you are not alone in both challenging and great times (41:49) The ploy of creating a "unified front" in co-parenting and divorce (46:11) Learn more about Kimberly A. Cook, Esq.: Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. is a divorce attorney, Mediator, and founder of Grown Girl Divorce, LLC, a divorce resource company. She is known for successfully negotiating complex financial and custody matters while helping her clients navigate their next steps forward. Kimberly's expertise and her unique ability to disseminate complex information in a relatable way has made her a sought-after divorce coach, speaker, and podcaster. She truly believes that everyone deserves to be in healthy and happy relationships and is on a mission to educate and empower others to make that happen. Kimberly earned her B.A. from Spelman College and her law degree from The Catholic University of America. She is a Fellow of the Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the country's premier organization for family law practitioners, and an active member of American Bar Association, Jack and Jill of America, Inc., Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, and the Economic Club of Chicago. Kimberly also serves on several boards including, The Lilac Tree, the DePaul Schiller DuCanto & Fleck Family Law Center, and Old St. Mary's Catholic School. She has been featured in various publications including, The Chicago Daily Law Bulletin, Chicago Lawyer Magazine, Crain's Chicago, Black Enterprise, Thrive Global, and Business Insider. In recognition of her hard work and dedication to the practice, Kimberly is the recipient of several notable awards including Crain's Chicago Notable Minorities in Law, Super Lawyers, and Best Lawyers In America. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-225-grown-girl-divorce-empowering-black-women-through-divorce-with-kimberly-a-cook-esq Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist Kimberly's websiteKimberly on InstagramGrown Girl Divorce Podcast TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

My good friend and colleague, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, returns for a conversation about the challenges with divorce litigation and the best interest of children, co-parenting do's and don'ts, and raising a healthy child post-divorce. Michelle's unique perspective on divorce and co-parenting has helped thousands of women find the permission to move on confidently after divorce and move towards a more intentional and holistic co-parenting experience, and she brings all the wisdom to this episode. Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist, bestselling author, educator for divorce coaches and top 1% podcaster known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys. Featured topics include: The issues with "in the best interest of the children" in divorce litigation (2:41) Why it is important to know how to determine what is in the best interest of the children (7:13) When equal shared parenting isn't something to jump right into, instead, take a step-up approach to shared parenting (8:39) Addressing abuse in divorce—including spousal abuse, post-separation abuse, and abuse perpetrated by the courts (14:06) The impact of talking negatively about the other co-parent to your children (18:46) Age-appropriate truth in co-parenting is healthy (23:15) Some co-parenting do's and don'ts to follow (38:22) Learn more about Michelle Dempsey-Multack: Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist, bestselling author, educator for divorce coaches. and top 1% podcaster known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys. Michelle's passion for "putting the child first" in the divorce process while helping everyone she reaches feel supported and empowered, makes her a sought after coach by clients as well as divorce industry professionals from around the globe. Michelle's unique perspective on divorce and co-parenting has helped thousands of women find the permission to move on confidently after divorce as they move towards a more intentional and holistic co-parenting experience - one that their kids can be proud of one day. Michelle solidified her place as a thought leader in the divorce space with the recent publication of her bestselling book, Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self from Simon and Schuster. Resources & Links: Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-224-the-best-interest-of-the-children-unraveling-divorce-litigation-with-michelle-dempsey-multack/ Grit and Grace Coaching with Kate Michelle's websiteMichelle on InstagramEpisode 211: Walking an Impossible Line: Talking Honestly with Your Kids About Their Other Parent ========= Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE! ============================================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode explores intuition and its role in decision-making with guest Dr. Carolyn Kurle. If we always followed our intuition, life would be sooo easy, right? Not exactly, but getting in touch with your intuition, what lights you up, and looking at hard data, can help you make decisions with clarity and peace. Dr. Carolyn Kurle is a Biology Professor at the University of California, San Diego. As a scientist, Carolyn relies on logical thinking. Still, she also values quieting the false stories in our minds and fully integrating our feeling and intuitive selves to navigate the flow of life from a place of wholeness. Featured topics include: Recognizing when you are in an unproductive groove is the first step to harnessing the power of intuition (7:35) Instead of running away from your inner critic or fear, get curious about it - that's where the transformation can happen (12:44) "You have the agency to leave, change, and make different choices moving forward. It is powerful and amazing." (15:34) How to work through disconnecting or disassociating from the information you don't want to face (24:52) Finding a way to get into a productive and intuitive groove (41:20) Learn more about Dr. Carolyn Kurle: Dr. Carolyn Kurle is a Biology Professor at the University of California, San Diego. As a scientist, Carolyn relies on logical thinking, but she also values quieting the false stories in our minds and fully integrating our feeling, intuitive selves to navigate the flow of life from a place of wholeness. Carolyn's work with hundreds of outstanding students at UCSD, many of whom paradoxically struggle to find ease, motivated her to write the book, The Guidance Groove: Escape Unproductive Habits, Trust Your Intuition, and Be True. Her book is an invitation to question the truth of the stories you've been conditioned to believe so you can more easily connect with the wisdom emanating from your intuitive guidance, increase your personal authenticity and contentment, and make choices from love instead of ego and fear. Resources & Links: Information and links can also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-223-the-science-of-intuition-with-dr-carolyn-kurle/ Grit and Grace Coaching with Kate Carolyn's website Carolyn's book Carolyn on LinkedIn TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode is especially for the women who have had their heads in the sand about their finances. That's okay because we've got you covered. Jennifer Lee, the founder of Modern-Wealth, a Sarasota-based financial firm focusing on helping individuals experiencing transition, joins me in this episode. Our conversation focuses on empowering women to take control of their finances, understand their money story, navigate divorce, and build a purposeful and legacy-driven financial life. Jennifer has over 27 years of expertise in the financial services industry and is also the author of Squeeze the Juice: Live With Purpose-Then Leave a Legacy. Our hope is that this episode helps you to get clear on where you are and figure out how to move forward. Featured topics include: Why thinking about and determining your money story is important (4:56) Even if your partner handles most of the marital assets, it's imperative you know what is going on and have an understanding of your finances (12:17) If you've never managed the money, but have access to financial information, Jennifer explains where to begin when it comes to the divorce process (17:03) Collaborative divorce: what it is and how it works (25:16) Recommendations for women who want to understand and manage their finances better (35:38) Learn more about Jennifer Lee: Originally from Maryland, Jennifer brought her over 27 years (44 years if you count going into the office with her father as a child) of expertise in the financial services industry to Florida. Jennifer has found that a relationship with an advisor is most critical at the intersections in life where emotions collide with financial events. She enjoys facilitating her clients through challenges as they experience life's upsets such as divorce, the loss of a spouse, or business to retirement transition. Whether you are experiencing divorce, a business client expanding or selling your operation, or a couple wanting to make sure they have provided for their family, Modern-Wealth may be a good fit. Jennifer provides a fresh perspective to the financial planning process by digging deep to understand what drives her clients. At Modern-Wealth, they build long-lasting relationships. As part of their process, they encourage clients to communicate their values to the most important people in their lives by writing a family love letter. This led her to write "Squeeze the Juice: Live With Purpose-Then Leave a Legacy." Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-222-get-your-head-out-of-the-sand-and-take-charge-of-your-finances-with-jennifer-lee/ Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist Jennifer's websiteJennifer's bookJennifer's Facebook Jennifer's LinkedIn Jennifer's InstagramYouTube Excerpts from Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, then Leave a Legacy Schedule a Squeeze the Juice Call with Jennifer TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Do you spend most of the time feeling like you are doing parenting all wrong? Are you often doling out punishments but really wish you had more connection and calm with your kids? Michelle Kenney, a parenting coach, returns for a conversation about how to let go of punishments and find peace in parenting instead. Parenting without the use of threats, bribes, and consequences is possible. But can you raise a great kid without using these parenting tactics? The answer is "Yes!" In this episode, Michelle breaks down how to parent without yelling or using manipulative methods. And, y'all, I learned so much from this conversation. I hope you will too! Michelle is a mother of two, and after years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. Today Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems. Featured topics include: Parenting without yelling or consequences starts with creating a connection with your child (3:48) Mutual cooperation is the goal (8:21) How to co-parent with someone who has a different parenting style (9:10) Punishment erodes trust and engagement; instead, aim for empathy and holding boundaries (14:32) Some ways to build and foster connection with your children (22:54) How to take care of yourself while parenting (27:48) Learn more about Michelle Kenney: Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls, 12 and 15. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative. Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to overcoming difficulties. Michelle has helped herself, and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems. Aggression, fears, withdrawal, and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a Master's Degree in Education, speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator, and is an ADL Trainer fighting against bias of all types on school campuses. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-221-parenting-with-peace-letting-go-of-punishments-and-finding-connection-with-michelle-kenney/ Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist Michelle's website Unpunished: How to Let Go of Punishments and Find Your Parenting Peace ========= DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.