The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibility. Understanding Why Some Relationships Don't Work Out http://bit.ly/18WdqFx In the second segment where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explains some of the reasons why we get being triggered by birthdays. I discuss how to uncover what the baggage is behind an issue in episode 2. In the third segment, Natalie talks about how we can all be a bit more tolerant when it comes to our minor irritations with loved ones and how we sometimes forget that we have our irritating ways too! This week's listener needs some tips for calming herself down where she gets into a state of thinking and feeling awful things about herself. Download 7 Steps For Calming Yourself Down When You're In A Negative Self-Talk Spiral: http://bit.ly/7stepscalm Check out the How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide I mentioned: http://bit.ly/brselfsoothe Natalie also shares what she learned from her 8-year-old daughter wrongly believing that she'd been in trouble when she hadn't. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie offers up some suggestions for dating as a single parent, explores the difference between help and support, and explains The Debit and Credit Trust System. This week's listener wants to know how to cope with turning 30 when everyone else has gotten married etc, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. In the first segment I mentioned Episode 1, you can find it on iTunes or listen here: https://bit.ly/BRSessions1 I also talk about: No Contact Rule book: https://bit.ly/NoContactRule Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: https://bit.ly/MrUnavailable The Debit and Credit Trust System: https://bit.ly/BRTrust and http://bit.ly/BRCommit Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really 'OK', plus she shares three key admissions - admitting where you've made a mistake, admitting what you don't know, and admitting what you're pretending not to know - that keep us human and humble, and she explains some of the benefits of affirmations including sharing some of her personal experiences of them transforming how she was feeling. This week's listener wants to know how to deal with a partner that shuts down discussion and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Free resources referred to in this episode: Unsent Letter Guide: http://bit.ly/NatsULG Feelings Diary: http://bit.ly/FeelingsDiary Affirmations "I am safe. I am secure. All is well", "I trust my higher self. I listen with love to my inner voice. I release all that is unlike the action of love". "I always deserve love, care, trust and respect". You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay http://amzn.to/240ROAw Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get stressed out by Valentine's Day and includes suggestions for putting things back into context plus she talks about why trying to get someone else to change won't fix the problem, as well has how to keep a gossiping in check . This week's listener question is about letting go after realising that even though a few years have gone by, you're not over your divorce, plus Natalie shares what she learned about the need to take care of her inner child so that she isn't always 'serious'. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why you shouldn't write off the year if it hasn't started out as you envisioned, why some of us struggle with decision-making and what we need to make healthy decisions as well as why the early stages of dating is guesswork. This week's listener question is about how to recover from being told by two exes that they're not sexually attracted to her, plus Natalie shares what she's learned about her resistance to certain types of planning. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether a couple would really get divorced over leaving a glass out after reading a blog on the subject (http://bit.ly/MustBeThisTall), as well as explaining the 8 types of inner critic and their individual motivations and irrational fears, plus she offers up 6 magic words for that certain someone that wants to dump their responsibility on you. This week's listener question is about what to do when you want to confront an issue that needs confronting but the other person refuses and has 'ghosted' you, plus Natalie shares about what she learned about intuition when her daughter was ill recently. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why someone else's partner isn't the person for you, why change and happiness isn't going to come from following rules that you've made based on guilt and fear, and why you can't keep talking about intentions or how someone can't help something, when they keep doing the same thing and they control themselves with others. This week's listener question is from someone who wants to know why she hasn't completely closed the door on a breakup from two years ago, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week when she got acknowledgment and an apology over 20 years after the original event. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why sarcasm backfires sometimes and why you need to be mindful of using it on dates, as well as talking about how to let go of 'woundedness', and why consistent actions of self-esteem will reap more rewards than sporadic efforts. This week's listener question is about how to strive for an equal relationship after a divorce from unhealthy marriage plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this new year special, Natalie takes you through her 2015, sharing the lessons she learned from her bumpy but also joyful ride. In the second part of the show she talks about new year's resolutions and why they need to matter in some way if they're going to have any chance of sticking, and in the third and final part, she closes out with some final words about the year and looking ahead. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why people who treat others as a means to an end have a booty call mentality, talks through regret and why it's connected to our inner critic, and explains Show Pony Parenting. This week's listener question is about what to do when it appears that a friendship has fizzled out after a bust-up, plus, Natalie shares how faffing about what to do over Christmas has been a reminder about how we only commit by getting the ball rolling as a result of making decisions and taking steps. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains how indecision over our boundary lines can cause us to accept the unacceptable, why we don't need to keep overspending to prove our worth, and explains the connection between a short-term mentality and commitment issues. This week's listener question is about what to do when you've been on a date or few and are not that interested, plus, Natalie shares why she's OK with taking her time to process stuff (even if others aren't). Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why some people find long-distance relationships attractive because it allows them to limit their vulnerability, why broaching a conversation with a parent where you paint a picture of what you went through in the past can be a springboard seeing and hearing each other more clearly and shares tips for dealing with a bullying coworker. This week's listener question is about what to do when you've decided not to trust all women (or all men) after getting burnt in a relationship plus, Natalie shares what she's learned from listening to her body. Download The Unsent Letter Guide mentioned in the second segment from baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why it's a bad idea to be an emotional airbag, the factors that influence how long it will take for you to get over a breakup, how the core theme from challenges can become a personal mantra for success. This week's listener question is about what to do when you diverge on a core value in a good relationship plus, Natalie shares how her recent trip to San Francisco has reminded her of how thankful she is for the Baggage Reclaim community. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment which runs from mid-November until just after Valentine's day, why having a type causes you to have a blind spot, and a key reason why some people struggle to reply to texts immediately. This week's listener question is about whether it's ever OK to fake it in bed plus, Natalie shares how standing up for herself and resigning from her position of class rep for one of her daughter's classes has been a reminder about knowing when to fold and staying true to your values. You can read more about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment here: http://bit.ly/setorment Read more about toxic type here http://bit.ly/YMo0p9 plus if you have a long-established pattern of unhealthy relationships, check out The Pattern Breaker: http://bit.ly/thepatternbreaker Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the difference between confronting issues and confrontation, why we sometimes need to get mad before we can feel grateful and recognise the lessons, and why it's OK to feel protective of your space and not quite ready to date, when you first start getting to know and like you. This week's listener question is about helping a listener understand if the difference between being vulnerable and having walls plus, Natalie shares what she's learned after being offered money by a family member and wondering if she was supposed to decline it. Download the Feelings Diary Guide and Unsent Letter Guide from baggagereclaim.com/downloads The Three Good Things Notebooks mentioned in the second segment are available: store.baggagereclaim.co.uk Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about when somebody fakes a future with you and whether they're doing it deliberately, why we close off our options when we encounter issues with a family member, and what to do when somebody keeps asking you for favours. This week's listener question is about understanding jealousy plus Natalie shares what she's learned from helping her daughters to not feel so stressed out by making mistakes. You can find out more about Future Faking at baggagereclaim.co.uk/tag/future-faking/ Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie asks, Why do we want to be break up 'nicely'?, talks about why we don't listen to our inner voices and digs into the topic of figuring out the "right" time to be exclusive. This week's listener question is about what "being yourself" means and Natalie shares how this week she's learned that she's more of a creature of habit than she'd realised. You can find out more about my courses at baggagereclaim.co.uk/courses Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about those inappropriate and insensitive comments and questions that singles contend with, whether we 'get over' abandonment and abuse that we experienced in childhood, and how we sometimes use claiming to feel guilty as a substitute for actually doing something about the situation. This week's listener question is about what to do when one when a close friend is complaining about another not-so-close friend and whether you should say something and Natalie shares what she's learned after over-scheduling herself one too many times. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why keeping score isn't good for our relationships, why we need self-care practices and even a routine in order to survive and thrive, and how we often get annoyed and frustrated with others about stuff we ourselves are guilty of. She also tackles this week's listener question about whether men and women can be friends (this is after one made unwanted advances at the other) and shares what she learned after facing down her fear of confrontation with her family and told them that she wasn't spending Christmas with them this year. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why asking for help is good for our relationships, why too much worry impacts our well-being, and why it's important not to judge you or your friend when they go quiet due to going through a struggle. She also tackles this week's listener question about dating someone who is too busy to actually date and shares how she's learned that she needs to not be so scared of breaking certain 'rules'. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the pitfalls of trying to be liked by everyone and includes suggestions for detangling you from the habit. She also talks about why we get so stressed out by tricky co-workers and how to get some balance and tackles the minefield of who pays on the first few dates, plus she answers her weekly listener question and shares the lesson she learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie asks why we take Facebook so seriously and explains some of the ways that the social network has impacted on our psyche as well as the way that we engage with each other. She also covers the self-care practice of keeping a Feelings Diary, The Pretty Woman Complex aka the can I turn a booty call into a relationship fairy tale, and answers her weekly listener question plus shares the lesson she learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie discusses the role of the very critical parent and how it significantly influences our relationship with criticism and why boredom can be code for fear of having to spend time with our own thoughts and feelings. Here is the handy link to my post about dealing with criticism and conflict. http://bit.ly/18WVhY2 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains what's behind the baffling behaviour of somebody who tells you that they're not interested yet they keep seeking attention from you, plus she talks about why "You complete me" grates on her and the importance of self-acceptance, what to do if you bump into your ex when you're No Contact, as well as sharing what she's learned this week. **Note** In the "You complete me" segment, Natalie slipped on the second reference to the film and said Jerry Springer instead! Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this first podcast I cover: How do you know when you're ready to date? The self-care practice of Unsent Letters. How do you know if you're doing something for the wrong reasons? Listener Question – How do you calm down negative chatter? What Nat learned this week: I got 'hangry' (hungry and angry) and it reminded me of some vital lessons about self-care. Download the Unsent Letters Guide. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership