The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie talks about #relationshipgoals, what it means when we acknowledge that we're the common denominator, and why whether we want to be in a relationship or not, we must choose it from a positive place. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop feeling guilty over my breakup that I didn't even instigate?', plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of considering how your future self would respond to a situation that you're in right now, plus talks about how to have better boundaries with loved ones who tend to ruin birthdays and other big occasions in your life, and explains why it's totally unnecessary for someone to point out that you're both 'grown-ups' when they're trying to get you to do something that you don't want to. This week's listener question is: Why did the universe send me another unavailable man after all of my hard work?, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of acknowledging your progress by acknowledging personal anniversaries of big decisions, 3 key areas where you can make big strides in changing your responses to conflict, and why it's best to take a bigger picture view with Valentine's Day. This week's listener question is, Is it a red flag that my boyfriend doesn't ask me questions about myself?, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks through ten key reasons that more than justify breaking up, shares how she navigated her way out of negative feelings, and why it's important to hug yourself. This week's listener question is, Is anyone honest online? plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what we can learn from our stuckness with our career, shares questions and ideas to help you get your self-care routine up and running, and talks about her intention to bring some minimalism into her life. This week's listener question is about how to overcome irrational jealousy and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about slowing down. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares the key lessons she learned in 2016, sharing stories and anecdotes on subjects including how she had her first drama-free Christmas and New Year for the first time in a very long time, how she learned that life really is a funny albeit at times, twisted teacher, and why everything comes in useful so even if we don't get why we're doing something, it's often prepping us for being able to cope with something in the future. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what interdependence means, the factors that affect our bounce-back rate, and how family's attitude towards 'borrowing' money is a lesson about remembering to walk around the trap. This week's listener question is, Why haven't I moved on when I'm the one who walked away?, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Abbie thought that her heart was healing when a few months after her devastating breakup, a guy at work was devoting himself to her and telling anyone who would listen that she was 'The One'. One year later it was all over, with him claiming he'd pretended to be someone he's not, while also telling her what an awful person she is. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie talks about why romance isn't the same as intimacy, why we don't have to get stressed over our uncomfortable dreams, and shares tips for avoiding being catfished. This week's listener question is about how to come to terms with widowhood, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Taylor and Greg's 18-month relationship ended when she boiled over with resentment about his lack of effort and his unwillingness to address anything while at the same time insisting that he didn't want to end the relationship. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie talks about what to do about having more ideas than time, shares tips to ensure that you don't get drawn into the same drama with a family member, and explains why having too much expectation of our judgment with a stranger damages our confidence and ability to trust. This week's listener question is about how to figure out whether the girlfriend is lying about the soon-to-be ex-wife, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about the benefits of a social media diet, how to use a Stop, Start, Continue to inspire change when we're self-critical, and why we don't need to turn simple decisions into life decisions. This week's listener question is about whether to give up online dating, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

When Tim told Stéphane during their first deep conversation that he has a condition that causes him to disassociate from his feelings and yet he kept feeling compelled to be around her and act differently with her, she couldn't help but think that they had something special. Unfortunately, once they did get together, it was over before it even really began. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we've got to stop making snap judgements about who's 'nice', how to respond to loved ones whose opinions differ from ours from a place of love, care trust and respect, and why it might not be a good idea to send the card/text to your ex. This week's listener question is, Why would an ex want to connect on LinkedIn rather than any other media? and Natalie shares what she learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Joanne is still wounded after her brief involvement with her longtime crush ended after they slept together. She thinks that it was her having the STD that he said he was OK with because he was so sure their relationship was going to work out but he said that it's because she's not "geeky enough" due to not playing board games or reading comic books. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we need to stop criticising ourselves for not being more self-disciplined in areas where we've had to give up something or make a big change, plus she talks about some of the causes of gifting stress and why the commitment-dodging ex is being intense with the new flame. This week's listener question is about feeling rejected because their partner doesn't want to cuddle all night and Natalie talks about what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Zoe was devastated after her partner of six years went to visit family for a few weeks, cut contact and secretly started a relationship with an old girlfriend from his school days. During their six years, Zoe sunk her entire inheritance into clearing gambling debt after gambling debt and grappled with anxiety and insecurity due to the instability and his constant lies. After trying to move on but finding it too painful to trust again, she is ready to find out why their relationship broke down. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arrangements during the holiday season, and explains why we have to be careful of being over-committed to goals. This week's listener question is, How do I forgive myself for being the rebound and the booty call? and Natalie shares what she learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off with her boyfriend of four years. Her co-worker, Joe, didn't follow suit and so began four months of deep pain, lies and confusion which culminated in her ending it when she found out that he was going on holiday with the fiancé he claimed to no longer love. Feeling strung along, lied to and betrayed, she wants to know, Why did we break up? Links mentioned in the show About activation http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/activation-when-someone-or-something-activates-old-issues/ and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/ About being over-responsible Episode 33 and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible plus http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/advice-wednesday-i-tried-to-rescue-him-from-his-unfair-open-relationship-he-went-back-to-her Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being shady or not meeting our expectations is not about our inadequacies but teaching us lessons on how some people are, and the importance of giving up small satisfaction today for greater satisfaction in future. This week's listener question is about whether they were wrong to be so honest about their past relationships with a partner who judged them for it, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. Have you heard about my monthly membership program for people who are committed to breaking patterns and being consistent with self-care so that they enjoy more love, care, trust and respect? Each month has a different topic focus and features a bumper deep dive video class along with audio, worksheets, mini ebooks and more. Find out more about joining at: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimer-membership Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance of distinguishing between the experiencing and remembering self, and what to do when someone ignores you and then makes out that it's you who's ignoring them. This week's listener question is about whether her boyfriend living with another woman and raising a family with her is normal and whether her discomfort is "stupid", and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key habits that are a block to it, and how we avoid answering a question by replacing it with something else. This week's listener question is about how do we deal with people who clearly feel superior, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on around you so that you can broaden your perspective. This week's listener question is about when to recognise that reflection after a breakup has become rumination, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whether you want to commit to that person. Plus, Nat talks about why it's not a good idea to seek admiration, approval and validation, and why we don't need to advertise our insecurities and old hurt. This week's listener question is about whether it's wrong to give up on falling in love again or whether loved ones are wrong for pressuring about being in a relationship in the future, and Natalie shares what she learned this week. If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/if-we-give-up-on-love-we-give-up-on-ourselves/ Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that apply to all breakups. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don't undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means 'mean' goals versus end goals. This week's listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-vicious-cycle-of-undervaluing-yourself/ Knowing When To Fold http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold The Justifying Zone http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-justifying-zone Betting On Potential—Are you gambling on a relationship capacity that doesn't exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist/ The Blinkest app (note, I am not affiliated with Blinkist in any way) A couple of posts about boundaries and friendship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-have-to-let-our-friendships-evolve/ and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/when-you-experience-conflict-in-your-friendships-because-of-new-boundaries/ Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with, so she slowed things down only for him to leave rather abruptly. They spoke again a couple of days later and then poof, he was gone. Sensitive to the fact that he was going through a rough time, she called him a few more times but he never returned her calls. You might want to check out my posts on ghosting and u-turns: What's the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it's NOT the same as No Contact!) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/whats-the-craic-with-ghosting-and-no-its-not-the-same-as-no-contact/ We Need To Talk About: 'Ghosting' In The Early Stages of Dating http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ghosting-in-the-early-stages-of-dating/ Recovering from somebody doing a U-turn on their feelings or proclaimed intentions http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/recovering-from-somebody-doing-a-u-turn-on-their-feelings-or-proclaimed-intentions/ I also talked about ghosting in episode 20 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn't get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is 'better', and why there's no need to tell someone you don't like them. This week's listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to 'Why them and not me?' When you're afraid they'll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He's with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-about-us Do you have a Replacement Mentality? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/do-you-have-a-replacement-mentality The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-replacement-mentality-but-why-did-they-go-back-to-their-toxic-ex-when-they-could-have-had-me Don't Be The Bridge Between Someone's Old & New Relationship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-be-the-bridge-between-someones-old-new-relationship Return On Investment in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/return-on-investment-in-relationships 'I Can Change Him' Syndrome/Fixer-Uppers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-himher-syndrome-dont-tie-your-worth-to-trying-to-control-the-uncontrollable Betting On Potential – Are You Gambling On a Relationship Capacity That Doesn't Exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist Betting On Potential in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-in-relationships Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling rejected, replaced, and rather confused about what is going on, Natalie helps Molly see what is really going so that she can grab her freedom and build her life on her own terms. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week's listener question is about how to broach the subject of taking things slowly with sex, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. You can download the, Is Your Partner Emotionally Available? questions at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/46-download The episode about recognising your own availability is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/28 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn't seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge growth and healing. The blog post that Natalie refers to in the episode about being the favourite child (or wanting to be) influences our disposition to be involved in an affair http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-the-favourite-child-or-wanting-to-be-influences-our-disposition-to-involved-in-an-affair/ Also, the post on there's no such thing as an honest cheat http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-no-such-thing-as-an-honest-cheat-and-other-thoughts-on-cheating/ And another on why affairs are like being double-crossed in a heist http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-affairs-are-like-being-double-crossed-in-a-heist/ Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week's listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a 'good listener', plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. The picture of stuff that I bagged up from the corner of my dining room and the comments https://www.instagram.com/p/BJH-LQVB909/?taken-by=natlue Email: [email protected] Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a marriage later and they're now divorced. Steve is taking the blame for why Danielle ended the relationship and has proceeded to date other men right under his nose. It's time to answer his question: Why Did We Break Up? Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you're in a relationship, and explains why it's never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week's listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when you're ready for something more serious, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. From the conflict resolution segment: What's the baggage behind it? www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Get Out of Stuck Guide (for working on beliefs) http://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/product/get-out-of-stuck-ebook-and-worksheet-pack/ Be notified about when The Breakthrough is open for enrollment http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw. Despite her awkwardness and making her excuses, she agreed to keep their arrangement to meet up the following day as she felt a mix of pity and curiosity. Two months of 'friendly' meetups and they slept together, and BOOM, it was the beginning of the end. The Instagram of me recording in the closet: https://instagram.com/p/BJSXemDhNfA Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and their impending hasty wedding plans and Natalie shared what she learned this week about dimming her light. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn't get too carried away by 'graduation goggles'. This week's listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week about managing expectations. What's the baggage behind it? is at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people that validate and increase negative feelings, and why setting a time to worry can break a worry habit. This week's listener question is about whether to confront a friend that seems to be pulling back and Natalie shares what she learned this week. The 8 types of inner critic www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week's listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on the motorway. Curbing Your Obsession guide - http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/curbing-your-obsession-quick-guide-pdf-epub/ Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me". This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f My post on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/baggagereclaim/posts/10154221634428950 Episode 2 where I talked about "You complete me" http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Soulful PR https://janetmurray.co.uk That time when I got very stressy at conference http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lessons-from-a-short-lived-comparison-binge And the keynote that resulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdKIUrAi9ao Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by some fun dates peters out but you've developed feelings, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish between expectations and boundaries in this week's listener question. She also shares what she learned this week. I made a mistake at the end of the episode and the link to the 30-day project, Embrace Healthy Boundaries course is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/happyboundaries Use the code PODCAST to get 30% off the course. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about fear of change. The book Get Things Done by Robert Kelsey http://amzn.to/1ZF7Qwl that I mention in the first segment about procrastination. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to home and her therapist has suggested that due to the circumstances, that she should send him a letter telling him to get in touch if his situation changes. I can't get a job and I feel like a failure in comparison to my 'successful' siblings. This is one of those situations that really exemplifies the vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Living with her dysfunctional family who patronise and insult her plus going out with a 'successful' younger guy plus 'successful' siblings plus her friends having jobs is convincing her that she has every reason to think that she's a failure. Do I think too much? A comment that she's heard too often from past partners, this listener is starting to question the aspects of her that she prides herself on. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'nice'. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop being piggy in the middle with my parents and my sister?', and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The New Year episode that I refer to in the second segment (re some of the reasons for going to hypnotherapy) is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/17 Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week's listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about 'overreacting'. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on 'mise-en-place'http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download "10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional Availability" http://bit.ly/1pz2nv2 Check out this post: 'Do you want to be with an emotionally available person? Be emotionally available YOURSELF' http://bit.ly/1O2fHzy In the third part of the show, Natalie explains why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends [after a breakup] or for not being over something yet. This week's listener wants to know where to draw the line with setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she's glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week's listener wants to know if the guys she's dating are "too emotional" and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn't an option, can instil a fear of failure that causes you to coast. Natalie includes questions for self-exploration and some perspective on 'failing'. Download The Unsent Letter Guide: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads/ In the third part of the show, Natalie shares why she's glad she stopped looking for mommy and daddy figures in her romantic partners because next week, she will be celebrating 10 years together with Em (her husband). This week's listener has gone from being with emotionally unavailable men to working on her availability, to feeling uncomfortable when she meets guys who seem "too emotional" because they talk and share their feelings. She keeps meeting guy after guy like this and wonders what's 'normal'. In What I Learned This Week, Natalie is thinking about life plans after she listened to Amy Porterfield's business podcast (link: http://bit.ly/21mUmVs) and the interviewee Michael Hyatt's sage advice on how we drift into chaos really resonated with her. Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl http://bit.ly/mrfbg In the second segment, where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explores our relationship with time, namely why some of us have a habit of being late and why some of us are so scared of it. Post on the blog about lateness: http://bit.ly/1fymR1H In the third segment, Natalie talks about the myth of 'overnight success' and why it's important not to discard other people's journeys. This week's listener needs some tips on sticking to her boundaries and values. 30-Day Project: Embrace Healthy Boundaries http://bit.ly/EmbraceBoundaries Natalie also shares advice from her 6 and 8-year-old daughters on being clear on NO. The book I mention is the wonderful, The Little Girl Who Lost Her No by Amy M. Starkey http://amzn.to/1L7xeIT Email: [email protected] Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership