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Natalie shares what she's learned from managing her fear of disapproval, criticism, and conflict. Where it comes from, how it plays out, and how to shift your relationship with these inevitable parts of life. She shares four key reframes and practical guidance on what to do when criticism actually happens. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/309 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with psychologist Suzy Reading about her book "How to Be Selfish" and reclaiming the right to self-care and self-advocacy. They explore childhood conditioning, toxic resilience messaging, why resentment signals guilt and obligation, and how depletion serves no one while replenishment serves everyone. **Note: The sound is slightly strange on Natalie's voice, but it's still a great episode!

Natalie explores resentment as a signal from your body that you've crossed your own boundaries. She shares two personal stories - one where resentment led to a necessary conversation, another where it didn't show up at all - and explains what to do when resentment appears in your life. Embrace Healthy Boundaries - save 40% when you pre-order before March 12th. Episode show notes with mentioned links and resources Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with coach Gabrielle Treanor about ADHD in midlife, particularly for quieter, introverted women who don't see themselves in stereotypical presentations. They explore late diagnosis, shame, coping mechanisms, grief, and why understanding your brain differently is about self-acceptance, not excuses. The Quiet ADHD Club Gabrielle Treanor's website Episode show notes: Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie explores 'jumping the shark' moments in relationships, those incidents of disrespect or disconnect that signal the beginning of the end. Episode show notes: Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast How to Say No: The Scripts ebook and class with 25% off discount Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Read the article and comments (2012). 2011 version and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Relevant links and resources on the topic Be careful of going on a Regret Binge as it leads to a Regret Hangover Dealing With Happy Birthdays and Big Occasions: To Send a Card or Text…Or Not To Send, That Is The Question Podcast Ep. 60: "I should have more self-discipline", Gifting stress, Intense With The One After You Podcast Ep. 12: 'Tis The Season To Be Stressed Out, Toxic Type, Knowing When To Fold Feeling Anxious About Family Obligations and Expectations During the Festive Season? Here are 3 Tips Faux Obligations With Family & How To Say No To Those Holiday Invites

Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. In this minisode, Natalie talks about the issue of wanting to go back to the beginning of a relationship instead of recognising the reality of who we're involved with and what that might mean. Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Break The Cycle Relevant links and resources on the topic Dating Your Imagination: The Fantasy Trap in the Early Stages of Dating Despite 'Good Points', We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages 'Entanglement' and what happens when we look outside ourselves to feel good Letting Go of a Relationship That Doesn't Exist

Read the original articles and comments #1 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For) #2 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For) Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Sign up for the free Clear the Path to Love Sessions Relevant links and resources on the topic Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It's a 'Blessing in Disguise' Stop Feeding Your Worry Goldfish: Finding Calm in Uncertain Times Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All Having a Positive Outlook Matters in Loving, Intimate Relationships Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's Up With All The Life Lessons, Professor Life? Life Lessons: How to Identify What You Need to Learn to Move On Ep. 228: Learning From Our Problems

Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Sign up to get first dibs on How to Say No: The Scripts, including special extras Relevant links and resources on the topic Ep. 197: Using Code Amber and Red Alerts to Be More Boundaried Ep. 185: The Emperor DOESN'T Have Any Clothes On. Let's Talk About Gaslighting Sometimes a Discussion Doesn't Cut It. Stop Discussing; Get to Flushing! Ep. 205: Four steps to help you have an assertive response when you recognise that you don't want to do something The Joy of Saying No

Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Sign up for the free Clear the Path to Love Sessions Relevant links and resources on the topic Podcast Ep. 216: The Truth About Breakups Don't They Care About Me? Didn't I mean something to them? Do you have a Replacement Mentality? When you're afraid they'll become a better person in a better relationship, without you

Natalie chats with writer GG Renee Hill, author of Story Work, about the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape our lives. They discuss the impact of growing up with a mentally ill parent, estrangement, the way we humans judge ourselves in general, and how to rewrite narratives that leave room for hope rather than keeping you stuck. **Note: After removing hissing from the recording, the sound quality isn't as good as usual, but it's still a great conversations!** Episode show notes: Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Break the Cycle of Emotional Unavailability course Book Natalie for a private session Relevant links and resources on the topic Future Faking, Fast Forwarding and Being The Good Girl/Guy. When You're Too Concerned With How You Look Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image Understanding Why You Find It Hard To Get Over Someone Who Future Faked and Fast Forwarded Fantasy vs Reality: When you struggle to differentiate between what was real and what wasn't The Pop-Up Relationship: The Temporary Romance That Expires & Never Develops Recovering from Somebody Doing a U-turn on Their Feelings or Proclaimed Intentions We Need To Talk About: 'Ghosting' in the Early Stages of Dating Did they just do a U-turn? When a person overestimates their level of interest or capacity for commitment Ep. 223: The Gaslighting of Future Faking Ep. 251: Spotting a Romance Scammer Ep. 211: Too good to be true? Ep. 140: The Truth About Lies Ep. 135: In the Beginning… There Were Assumptions

Natalie reflects on being tired of chasing and how it masquerades as ambition, tenacity and persistence. She explores people-pleasing patterns, over-identification with roles, why we believe things must be hard, and how to recognise when you're trying to meet old needs rather than pursuing what's truly aligned with who you are now. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/303 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares another top 5 most-read. Read the original blog post and comments here. Sign up for the free Clear the Path to Love Sessions Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/

Natalie chats with Amelia Hruby about social media and why our attention is sacred. They explore how platforms make our subconscious "shop for flaws and failures," the parallels between social media and toxic relationships, and practical steps for reclaiming your attention.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Amelia's book Your Attention is Sacred Except on Social Media Amelia's Off the Grid podcast Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/302 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares the #1 post of all time. Read the original blog post and comments here Break The Cycle Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/

Natalie chats with coach Ruthie Zerai about self-leadership—taking responsibility for managing yourself rather than deferring that power to others. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/301 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Recorded on Baggage Reclaim's 20th birthday and the eve of her daughter leaving for university, Natalie reflects on trusting your instincts, major life transitions, and how much can change in ways we never see coming. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/300 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with psychotherapist Keeley Taverner about her journey from Ikea checkout to successful therapy practice, narcissism, social mobility when dating, and why being the underdog can be your greatest advantage in creating the life you want. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/299 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks about managing anxiety, breaking worry cycles, and returning to yourself after difficult times. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/298 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with her publisher, JP, about her new mini memoir Let Go, exploring what it really means to release control, why vulnerability in storytelling matters, and how writing about letting go became exactly what she needed while navigating and processing surgery and the cancer diagnosis. Note: Let Go is available for a limited time (until August 5th, 2025) and only via The Pound Project. Please support. We only print what's sold. 🤞🏽 ❤️ Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/297 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie chats with Benjamin Camras about why modern dating feels so overwhelming, how apps have normalised intensity, and why flirting should be about genuine connection rather than manipulation or outcome. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/296 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&>div>div>:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&>div>div>:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0"> Natalie shares a personal update about taking a brief podcast break to recalibrate after a challenging year of surgery, medical menopause, and cancer diagnosis - plus encouragement for anyone wrestling with giving themselves permission to pause. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/295 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie challenges the exhausting habit of self-blame when things go wrong, exploring why we make everything about our "unworthiness" rather than recognising systemic issues or others' responsibility. A compassionate reminder that it's not all on you. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/294 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie chats with her friend Karen Arthur about their 16-year "age-gap" friendship and how Karen reinvented herself after 50, becoming a model, designer, podcaster and author after leaving a 28-year teaching career. A joyful reminder that it's never too late to bloom. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/293 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with coach Tiffany Han about why procrastination isn't about laziness but a response to being chronically overextended. Learn how to stop beating yourself up and start working with your natural capacity rather than against it. Episode show notes: Tiffany Han's website: Tiffany Han Insta Tiffany Han's procrastination freebie Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie shares her recent diagnosis and how listening to her intuition about needing surgery likely saved her life. A powerful reminder that trusting ourselves - even when it's messy and imperfect - is one of the most important skills we can develop. Episode show notes: Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the pod by donating to the tip jar: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie breaks down the five styles of people pleasing (gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering) helping you identify your pattern and understand how it's blocking your happiness. Discover why you people-please and how to finally start breaking free from this exhausting cycle. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/290 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie explores why we feel so disappointed in early dating - is it the other person letting us down, or are we falling for our own fantasies? Learn to recognise when you're dating your imagination instead of the real person sitting across from you. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/289 Save 30% on Relationship Fundamentals classes: Readying for Love | Overcoming Dating Anxiety | The Compatibility Factor | Could This Be It? | Know Where You Stand | Co-Piloting Your Relationship Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie talks with author and journalist Anna Goldfarb about why modern friendships feel so complicated, exploring how to navigate relationships in an age where we're more connected yet often feel more isolated than ever. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/288 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

Natalie opens up about her decision to break up with her mother, exploring how she arrived at this choice and why sometimes stepping away from relationships - even with parents - is necessary for healing and being able to live your life with love, care, trust and respect. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/287 Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

div]:bg-bg-300 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&_pre]:-mr-4 md:[&_pre]:-mr-9" style= "caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration: none;"> _*]:min-w-0"> Natalie talks with financial therapist Rachel Duncan about why our relationship with money runs deeper than budgets and bank balances. Together, they explore how our early experiences and emotional patterns shape our money story, and why healing our relationship with money is about so much more than just learning to manage it better. Note: the term 'f-up' is mentioned a few times in the episode. Rachel Duncan: https://www.moneyhealingclub.com Save 50% on your first month of Money Healing Club membership with the code BAGGAGE: https://www.moneyhealingclub.com/club 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast

Natalie takes us on a candid exploration of self-advocacy and what it means to truly have our own back. Drawing from her personal experiences in 2024, she digs into why speaking up for ourselves can feel so challenging, how our people-pleasing tendencies get in the way, and why being "difficult" or causing inconvenience when advocating for ourselves isn't just okay - it's necessary for our wellbeing. Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/

This week's episode is about attachment, a topic Natalie's delving into for the first time with integrative coach, Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn because she's never been able to see herself in the popular attachment narrative, and she knew there must be others who felt the same way. Natalie and Elfreda discuss a more expansive, nuanced, inclusive understanding of attachment and how it can liberate, instead of hold you back. They talk about the importance of understanding one's own patterns, and the potential for personal growth and earned security, emphasising the adaptability of attachment styles and the steps individuals can take to foster healthier connections with themselves and others. Elfreda Manahan-Vaugn's Mettamorphics website Elfreda on Instagram and LinkedIn 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast

Natalie chats with Lindsay C. Gibson, the author of million-copy selling 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents'. They delve into the characteristics of emotionally immature parents, the impact on their children, and the resulting emotional loneliness. They also discuss the importance of understanding these dynamics, the process of reparenting, and the nuances of emotional expression. The conversation highlights how these experiences shape adult relationships and the tendency towards people pleasing as a coping mechanism. They round out their chat with advice for people who want to break the cycle in their own parenting and for those who've had to distance themselves or become estranged. Lindsay's book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Natalie's book: The Joy of Saying No 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast

Natalie chats with wellness coach (and former Baggage Reclaim student) Jolene Park about gray area drinking and understanding our relationship with alcohol. How we consume and discuss alcohol has shifted dramatically over the last decade or so and more of us are reflecting on our relationship with alcohol but also sometimes unaware of how much the past - our emotional baggage - influences how and why we drink. Learn about what gray area drinking is, why our relationship with alcohol, including how it affects us, doesn't fit neatly into the two buckets of 'those who can handle alcohol' and 'those who can't', and discover some first steps for reflecting on your own relationship with alcohol. For more links and resources related to this episode, check out the shownotes. 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast

Natalie's joined by her brother Richard again for a follow-up episode to discuss how their upbringing created a habit of wondering if there's something about them that makes them 'not good enough' or causes people to mistreat them or bad things happen - and how they're making strides in healing that narrative and taking care of themselves. 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip

After twenty months, Natalie is delighted to be back! In this episode, she shares a bit about her journey to this point as well as what led to the decision to return, plus she shares her plans for the podcast going forward. And yes, the title of this episode was inspired by Mark Morrison's iconic 'Return of the Mack'. 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip

Have you ever known that a loved one is holding back parts of themselves and essentially lying to you but they won't talk to you about it? Well, this is what happened with Natalie and her brother for over twenty years. In this episode, they sit down and share the story of what happened when he could finally be honest with her, the impact of generational trauma, and what happened when they accidentally discovered they'd both been lied to for over forty years about a crucial aspect of their childhood. Note: there are a couple of 'naughty' words, just in case you're listening in the vicinity of little ears. 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip

In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show which has been such a huge part of her life. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want is out now. Purchase it from your favourite bookseller. 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip Shownotes

Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip

In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the chains of the roles we play and trying to keep up with our and other people's often unrealistic expectations and projections, we might act out behind the scenes, go rogue on the version of ourselves that people have come to expect from us, lash out, or experience the toll of the chronic stress of our people-pleasing habit. Pre-order The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want in audiobook, hardback, and ebook formats. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/joy-of-saying-no-book/ Not sure what "pre-order" means and why it matters? Check out my handy video.

Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends if we're not ready yet or we don't *want* to.

Natalie shares an exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No. Pre-order your copy in audiobook, hardback and ebook formats.

Natalie breaks down why saying we're harsh/hasty/hypervigilant/picky leads to us ignoring, dismissing and overriding ourselves.

Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between anger and disappointment to take better care of ourselves and start moving forward. Pre-Order The Joy of Saying No. Bookshop.org | Amazon

Some of what we force ourselves to do, silence and tolerate are forms of insane politeness and toxic professionalism. Natalie breaks down what these are, why we do it, and why we've got to stop harming ourselves in the name of these social masks.

In the first episode following Natalie's summer break, she talks about knowing when it's time to fold on a relationship that isn't truly right for us. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop