The Art of Charm

It can be difficult to get ahead at work when someone else is always taking credit for what the team does, but what can you do to deal with selfish individuals in a professional manner, how can you be a giver and not get taken advantage of, and how do matchers balance givers and takers? What to Listen For What are 5 minute favors and how can you use them to build a powerful network? How do you deal with selfish personalities who always try to take credit for the success of the team? What can you do if you’re a giver (versus a taker) and you’re struggling to show your value in the workplace? What are matchers and why are they important to balance givers and takers? What would Adam Grant change about “Give and Take” if he were to rewrite it today? What question should you ask a hiring manager to get an actual understanding of a company’s culture? Are extroverts better leaders than introverts? While it’s frowned upon to be a taker, it’s also not great for your own well being to be too much of a giver, especially if you’re not great at setting and maintaining boundaries. Being generous is a great thing, but if you’re not taking care of yourself and if you don’t have a strong sense of self-worth, it can be easy to feel like you are getting taken advantage of by people. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Podcast Episode: The Art of Overcoming Procrastination with Adam Grant Adam Grant’s website Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Core Confidence Worklife - a podcast hosted by Adam Grant Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit? What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immediately improve their creativity and productivity? What can you do to immediately win the battle over procrastination while you’re working from home? How can you break down your procrastination into understandable chunks so you can easily overcome them? What does the science say about the ideal workplace environment so you can make your office more conducive to your work? What should we be most concerned about as we come out of this quarantine and will we be able to return to normal? If you find yourself procrastinating, it’s not necessarily a problem with your work ethic, but can certainly be a problem with your ability to regulate your emotions. When confronted with a task that makes you feel uncomfortable (angry, uncertainty, frustrated, annoyed, anxious, etc), procrastination can kick in to help you avoid feeling those things. So what can you do to mitigate these responses and overcome your procrastination before it costs you an awesome opportunity? Tune in to find out! A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow. Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Resources from this Episode Adam Grant’s website Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Core Confidence Worklife - a podcast hosted by Adam Grant Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are now working remotely and socially distancing yourself, it doesn’t mean you have to stop being social or let your productivity slide, but what can you do to work on your social skills, grow your network, and knock your productivity out of the park so you can come out the other side of this with countless opportunities? What to Listen For What can you do to work on your social skills when we’re trying to socially isolate ourselves? How do you stay social when going out and meeting people isn’t an option? What can you do to stay focused and energized when working from home? How do you work on building your professional network when more and more conferences and networking events are being cancelled as people embrace social distancing? What can you say when you’re trying to reach out to people you’ve never met but wanted to? How can you be productive when working from home and why is it so important to maintain the same routine you use when at the office? What should you focus on when establishing a remote work environment and routine? What can you do to completely upgrade your productivity at home if you’re not used to working at home? Why does physical exercise play such a positive role in your daily routine, especially when you’re working from home? What can you do to turn this remote working situation into a long term opportunity so you won’t have to go into the office as much once the pandemic is over? If you want to relax during this pandemic and enjoy the time you have away from work and with your family, by all means, do the thing that is going to bring you security and fulfillment during these chaotic times. However, if you want to take this amazing opportunity to improve yourself personally, socially, and professionally, there are a number of things you can do everyday to practice your social skills, develop your network, and show your boss you can be more productive at home and build the trust necessary to allow you to work remotely even when the dust has settled. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Leadership & Productivity in a Remote Workplace with Kevin Kruse The Art of Charm Accelerator Program Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Twitter The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t need to be in a leadership position in order to be a leader, but what does it mean to be a leader no matter where you are and how can you develop your leadership skills in today’s world? What to Listen For What can we do to become the leaders that are needed during this pandemic? How should we approach the creation of rules and standards in a professional setting and why can it be detrimental if just one person is responsible for such things? Why is it important to live a value-driven life both professionally and personally, and why are values more important than rules? How can an open-door policy in companies be detrimental to productivity and what should you implement in place of it that still allows for open communication? What are the 3 parts we should divide our days into and why can the structure have such a profound impact on our fulfillment and productivity? How can living by a calendar make you more productive than making to-do lists to accomplish the same tasks? What can you do to be more productive if you’re struggling to work from home during this pandemic? What are the 3 agreements remote workers can discuss in order for remote workers to come up with a healthy, productive routine when everyone is used to being in the same office together? What can you do to work on building a network while we are emphasizing social distancing? Is it too late to start an online business as we enter this recession amidst a pandemic? What can you do to be more social when everyone is trying to socially distance themselves? Leadership is a set of skills anyone can develop no matter where you are because being a leader doesn’t mean you are in charge of employees or ordering people around. Leadership can be asking a coworker what they think about a relevant topic during a meeting, or organizing a group Skype call with family members around the country. Leadership can be as simple as taking the initiative to do something and inviting others to join you. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode LEADx website Great Leaders Have No Rules by Kevin Kruse 15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management by Kevin Kruse Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Social anxiety has an impact that goes far beyond a discomfort interacting with people and can lead to substance abuse, depression, and suicidal ideation, so what can you do to overcome your social anxiety, how do your diet and physical health impact it, and how is technology playing a significant role in all of this? What to Listen For What is social anxiety and how do we deal with it during COVID-19 when social distancing is important? How do we deal with social anxiety now that social distancing is becoming a normal part of our daily lives? How did Mark Metry overcome his social anxiety and what can you learn from his journey so you can overcome your social anxiety before it ruins your life? How does your gut microbiome influence your social anxiety and mental wellbeing? How can looking at yourself in terms of hardware and software with regards to your self-development journey blow open your perspective on your overall health? Why is it important to tackle social anxiety after you’ve established a strong physical and mental foundation with a healthy diet and regular exercise? What can you do to make sure you’re using technology and it’s not using you? How is social anxiety tied to substance abuse, depression, and suicide and what can you do to overcome your social anxiety so you can live a more fulfilling life? Many of us deal with social anxiety in varying degrees and in different situations. Someone might experience social anxiety talking to a group of people but be perfectly comfortable saying hi to a stranger. Someone else might experience social anxiety talking to their boss at work, but feel right at home at networking events. For some of us, it’s a mild obstacle we force ourselves through when we need to, but for others it can be a serious concern and have long lasting effects on your potential and happiness, not to mention your lifespan if it leads you down a path of self-isolation and depression. Social anxiety can feel overwhelming, but you can overcome it. You can bounce back and become the best version of yourself that you want to be. But you have to be willing to take that first step and start living a healthy life - your mental and emotional well being are directly influenced by the food you put in your mouth and how often you exercise the only body you get. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Mark Metry’s Website Humans 2.0 Podcast hosted by Mark Metry Mark Metry on Twitter Screw Being Shy by Mark Metry Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rituals are powerful tools cultures have used for all of recorded history to strengthen group bonds, so how do rituals bring us closer, why are rituals so commonly associated with religion, and what can you do to develop your own rituals to bring you and your family and friends closer together? What to Listen For Why is it so important to encourage curiosity in children and what can you do to impart a sense of curiosity in your kids? Why is a tolerance for ambiguity difficult but crucial in the scientific search for knowledge and understanding of the world around us? What was it like growing up as the child of Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan? How do we use rituals to deal with change and how can you use rituals to minimize the suffering you will experience throughout life? What should you say to someone who has just lost a loved one and doesn’t necessarily hold religious beliefs about an afterlife? What rituals can we use to help us cope with painful events in life and why can not having a ritual amplify the intensity and duration of the pain? How can having a simple regular ritual strengthen your relationships and what fun easy ritual can you start using today? What is the difference between a routine and a ritual? How can you get children involved in building family rituals so everyone is involved and the family grows stronger? What can you do to remix old traditions or even create new ones you can use to build meaning in the big and small moments of your life? How do you tell the difference between cynicism and skepticism, and why can that understanding completely change your view of people? The word ritual is on many occasions associated with religion. That’s a logical jump to make considering how ritualistic many religions are. But rituals can be any kind of practice or routine you use on a regular basis to be present and share a moment or event with yourself or other people. We can create and use rituals in our lives to help us celebrate certain moments. We don’t have to use religious holidays to celebrate certain times of the year, as cultures have been creating their own holidays and celebrations since the dawn of man. And no one’s stopping you from celebrating the rituals of your faith(s) and creating some rituals of your own to celebrate your family or friends or even just yourself. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Value Driven Success Video Training by The Art of Charm For Small Creatures Such as We by Sasha Sagan The Art of Charm Bootcamp Sasha Sagan’s website Sasha Sagan on Twitter Sasha Sagan on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Charisma is not something you are born with, so what can you do to develop your own charisma, what does it even mean to have charisma, and what does the science say about this seemingly abstract human quality? What to Listen For What is charisma and why is it important? What are the three factors that go into being charismatic and what can you do to become more charismatic? Are you born with charisma or is it something you can teach and learn? Why are we drawn to charismatic individuals? How can you stay true to yourself and be charismatic if you don’t feel you’re a charismatic person? How do presence, enthusiasm, and confidence play a role in your natural charisma? What questions can you ask yourself to know exactly what to work on to become more charismatic? Why is active listening integral to being charismatic, and what can you do to improve your ability to listen? Why are people drawn more toward optimists than pessimists, and how can you become more optimistic? Why does it make you more charismatic if you don’t care what other people think about you? What can you do to become more confident? How does being assertive contribute to your confidence and charisma? Charisma is one of those human qualities many people refer to as if it’s some mysterious genetic gift a few people are born with. But what if I told you that you can develop your own charisma in the same way you can develop a skill - like painting, running, or even chess. Once you understand the three components that factor into your own charisma, you’ll be able to see just how straightforward it can be to become the most charismatic version of who you want to be. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow. Resources from this Episode Charisma: An Ill-Defined and Ill-Measured Gift Episode 725 - Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Authenticity is a powerful concept because many of us are scared of what other people might think of us if we were to be as weird as we know we are all the time, and consequently many of us hide the fun and interesting bits that make us who we are - so why do we care, why should we stop putting so much emphasis on what we think others want us to be, and what can you do when every social platform is signaling to you that the only parts worth living are the ones that get the most likes? What to Listen For What does it mean to be a disruptive innovator? How do you educate people without being preachy? What can you do to build up a tolerance for rejection so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities just because you walked away at “no”? If you have perfectionist tendencies, what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you from completing something or just moving on without it? What can you do if you feel like you are trying to fit yourself into a box that society wants for you rather than what YOU want for you? What does it mean to be more authentic in today’s world where so many people are encouraged to instead put on a show to get other people’s attention? How can you flip negative emotions on their heads with one simple trick? What can you do to encourage others to tell their stories without resorting to 1-2 sentence responses? How can you ask questions that evoke thoughtful responses instead of 1-2 words? What mental exercise can you do before any important thing or event you have coming up in your life to make sure you’re genuinely present and relaxed? What can you do to come across as open and friendly without making people think you’re inviting them to ask you out? How do you politely reject someone who asks you out, especially in a work environment? What’s the best way to make a career change when you realize you’re not happy with the job you thought would bring you happiness? How do you handle the argumentative person who constantly questions others’ beliefs? What are you supposed to do when people are telling you you should always strive to be genuine while society clearly shows us we’ll be rewarded if we present a curated image of ourselves to everyone on social media? We live in a tricky time with technology developing as quickly as it is. The tools we are inventing are beginning to control us and highlight our weaknesses as human beings, but will we overcome these weaknesses or implode because of them? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Miki Agrawal’s website Disrupt-Her: A Manifesto for the Modern Woman by Miki Agrawal Hello Tushy Be Here Now by Ram Dass Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Company culture might conjure silly images of bag chairs and free lunch to some, but company culture is much more than hip amenities and it can break an organization if it’s dysfunctional - so what is a dysfunctional company culture, how do you risk losing your best talent unless you improve it, and is any company too big or too old to change its ways? What to Listen For What two areas of business do you need in order to successfully run a business? What are the 5 dysfunctions of management and what can you do to overcome them to build a world-class company culture people want to work with? Why is a willingness to be vulnerable and admit when you don’t know something important to developing a healthy company culture? Is conflict avoidance a good or bad thing in the workplace, and how should you approach disagreements and potential arguments? What does it mean to be trustworthy in a business environment and how can you identify someone who isn’t trustworthy before their failure becomes your failure? What should you do after realizing you are bringing dysfunctional behavior to an organization? What exercises can you do to build trust within your organization, regardless of whether you’re in management or not? What is the number one job killer for an individual within a business organization and what can you do to solve it without spending a dime? What three things do people need at work to love going to work every day and how can you provide those three things without Why is efficiency overrated and effectiveness underrated, and how can a drive for efficiency push out all the people who matter to your organization? What 3 qualities do you need to be a great team player, and why can missing just one of them lead to a disaster? Company culture is not about giving your employees more benefits, amenities, or unlimited vacation. Among other things, it is about trusting the people you work with, supporting open and honest communication, recognizing the contributions of others, and leadership/management that embodies healthy conflict resolution and leading by example. Without those things clearly communicated and reinforced from the top down, it’s only a matter of time before people get hired that do not believe in the same ideas, which leads to an organization where managers and leadership taking credit for their teams, people feeling isolated and unappreciated, and everyone looking out for themselves rather than the collective good. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni The Motive: Why So Many Leaders Abdicate Their Most Important Responsibilities by Patrick Lencioni Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team Patrick Lencioni’s Company Website - TableGroup Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Meditation and mindfulness have experienced a resurgence in modern western society as people continue struggling to find peace and fulfillment amidst the chaos and materialism of the modern world - so what can meditation teach us about our place in all of this, and how can we incorporate meditation into our daily lives to make us better friends, coworkers, lovers, and humans? What to Listen For How long should you meditate? What does science say about meditation? What’s the minimum effective dose of meditation? What time of the day is best for meditating and when should you avoid meditating? Why is it so important to be clear with yourself about your intentions? What is the biggest misconception about meditation, especially when it comes to type A personalities? What is the difference between practicing meditation and practicing mindfulness, and why does it matter? What is meditation supposed to be about, and what do many people mistakenly think it’s about? How did meditation first start and how has it evolved over countless human generations? What does the word “mantra” mean with regards to meditation and why is there such an emphasis placed on having a mantra? What can you do to develop your own mantra to make your meditation practice more personal, more purposeful, and longer-lasting? How often should you revisit your mantra to decide whether or not it’s time for a new one? What questions should you explore when meditating and how can the wrong questions lead you to a negative mental space? Meditation is not about silencing your mind. Your mind’s sole purpose is to generate thoughts, so to think you can stop your mind from doing the one thing it’s supposed to do is like convincing yourself you can stop your heart from beating and keep living. Meditation is about accepting your thoughts and feelings and then learning to let go of them because they are not you. You experience thoughts and feelings - you are not your thoughts and feelings. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! CBD is a big deal right now. It is changing millions of peoples’ lives every day - but is it right for you? Harrelson’s Own was formulated to provide full mind and body benefits that help you feel more stable, calm, focused and collected. If you’re curious, they have a fun and informative video for you to learn more. Text our special discount code CHARM to the number 6-3-5-6-6 and they will send you a link to watch their video AND give you 10% off your purchase! Resources from this Episode Stay Woke Give Back Tour Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us by Justin Michael Williams Justin Michael Williams website Justin on Facebook Justin on Twitter Justin on Instagram Justin on Youtube Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fear and rejection are natural parts of life, but if you want the most out of life, fear and rejection are two things you will face on a regular path to achieving your dreams - so what can you do to not only accept them but build a positive relationship with both, allowing you to channel their energy for your own forward momentum? What to Listen For How do you handle the fear of uncertainty in today’s job market when the economy is changing so rapidly? What can you do to overcome the fear of rejection we all experience? What exercise can you implement right now to start putting rejection into perspective and even look at rejection in a positive light? How can you choose to look at failure so it helps you rather than stopping you from going after the life you want? What is the difference between a perfectionist and a progressionist, and why can one hinder your success? How can you break away from humility to tell a story worth sharing? What are the 4 ways you can use to tell an engaging story people are going to want to give you their attention for? An average life is average because doing great things is terrifying. That’s not to say an average life can’t be fulfilling, but many people dream of being able to live a life on their own terms. And to build a life where you have everything you want and can spend your time how you want to spend it requires that you put yourself outside of your comfort zone regularly. You must be willing to face your fears and walk through them. You must be willing to get knocked down by life only to get back up again and keep trying. If you want to find your soulmate, statistically you have to meet a lot of people, which means you’re going to be rejected a lot before you find the right one. If you want to find that dream job that allows you to spend your time doing something you love while being paid for it, you’re going to need to try a lot of different things and work for a lot of different people/companies before you find the right fit. You must be willing to try, fail, and try again. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! This winter, start a new routine to upgrade your everyday life with a monthly Box of Awesome from Bespoke Post. Bespoke Post sends guys only the best stuff, every month. So whether you’re looking to commemorate an occasion with a champagne saber or toast perfectly aged Winter cocktails - they’ve got you covered. Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at BoxOfAwesome.com and enter the special discount code AOC at checkout. CBD is a big deal right now. It is changing millions of peoples’ lives every day - but is it right for you? Harrelson’s Own was formulated to provide full mind and body benefits that help you feel more stable, calm, focused and collected. If you’re curious, they have a fun and informative video for you to learn more. Text our special discount code CHARM to the number 6-3-5-6-6 and they will send you a link to watch their video AND give you 10% off your purchase! Resources from this Episode Better Selling Through Storytelling by John Livesay The Successful Pitch Podcast hosted by John Livesay Be The Lifeguard of Your Own Life! | John Livesay | TEDxWilmingtonLive Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To many of us, the word values can sound like a buzzword thrown around in corporate-speak via emails and quarterly earnings calls - but individual values, once understood, can lead to a future of incredible potential, so what are the values we’re referring to, and what can you do to determine your values so you can live the life you’ve always wanted? What to Listen For Why is it important for each of us to determine our individual values, and how does living by those values help you to not make terrible decisions? How do you choose your values? What is the problem with goals, and why is the setting of goals not enough? What questions can you ask yourself to determine some of your basic values? How do you decide on company values, and why is it important for your company’s success to find employees who share those values? What are the company values of the Art of Charm? How did AJ Harbinger determine his values and how have they guided him to success? Why does more discipline in your life lead to more freedom? How did Johnny Dzubak determine his values and have they guided him to success? What exercises can you implement today to track whether or not you are living by your values? If you don’t choose the script for your life, others will do it for you, and there’s no guarantee the script will be conducive to your happiness and fulfillment in life. Your script is dictated by your values, and you can either decide what your values are and live an intentional life driven by them, or you can live a life that is subject to the values of others. If you choose not to choose and understand your values, it can result in a life of self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy, and being used by the people around you who are firm in their values or know how to take advantage of people who don’t stand for anything. So, what do you believe in? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Resources from this Episode Great Leaders Have No Rules by Kevin Kruse Art of Charm Bootcamp Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People skills are always important, but when it comes to money, fame, and power, it takes some skill and experience to learn who your friends are and know who is getting close to you because they want something from you, so how do you know who you can trust, and what can you do make sure you don’t get taken advantage of? What to Listen For What made Violet Benson start the Daddy Issues Instagram account? What can you do to move on after a relationship falls apart that you feel you’ve totally invested yourself in? How can you develop confidence and get rid of that nervous energy you feel when doing something for the first time? What does it even mean to “get to know” more people? How much can you really know about someone and how do you know when you can trust someone? What can you do to alleviate tension in conversations with dominant personalities? Life is not a friendly game. As humans, large groups of us around the world have managed to carve out a relatively friendly existence, but there will always be those we don’t get along with and those who just like to see the world burn. Social skills are the new survival skills - we need them in order to survive in society as well as to get ahead and thrive. And the more we get ahead, the more we need them. Fortunately, social skills are just like any other skill in that they require practice and experience in order to improve them A Word From Our Sponsors Bespoke Post - Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at boxofawesome.com use code AOC at checkout Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Daddy Issues on Instagram Violet Benson on Instagram Too Tired to be Crazy podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adversity has shaped humanity into who we are now - the most dominant and inventive species on this planet - so what can you do to stop looking at adversity as a roadblock and start looking at it as a necessity to becoming who you want to become? What to Listen For How can you know when you should trust your gut and when you should trust logic? What can you do to develop your own sense of intuition? Why is embarrassment integral to learning and mastery of a skill? What are the biggest social skills deficits in the workplace today and what should you focus on if you don’t want to lose out on that next job or promotion? What areas of your life should you focus on if hard work is not enough to get ahead in today’s world? How do you make your own privilege and create advantages for yourself in life that no one can take away from you? Why is it so important to think about the intent of a message vs the impact? What can you do to build advantages against biases people might have toward you? What is Laura Huang’s EDGE acronym stand for and how can you use it to gain an edge over your competition? How do you ask questions at a new job without coming across as incompetent? If we lived in a world without adversity, what challenges would you face to make you a better person mentally, emotionally, and physically? Many of us wish our lives were easy (or easier) but might not realize how important it is to our development that we are challenged on a regular basis. Unless you experience disappointment, how can you learn to set expectations? Unless you lose someone you care about, how can you learn how to cope with loss? Every time you are faced with adversity, it is an opportunity to learn something about yourself and life. You are the product of billions of years of life facing adversity and adapting to deal with it - there’s no reason it has to stop now that you’re stressed out about a job promotion or exam. Face your challenges head-on, use them to your advantage, and learn from them. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Edge: Turning Adversity into Advantage by Laura Huang Laura Huang’s website Laura Huang on LinkedIn Laura Huang on Instagram Laura Huang on Facebook Laura Huang on YouTube Laura Huang on Twitter Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The tendency to self-sabotage is a part of who we are as humans, but many of us don’t even know when we’re doing it - so what can you do to identify the areas in your life when you tend to self-sabotage and what steps can you take to prevent self-sabotage in the future? What to Listen For What is self-sabotage and why do we all do it in some form or another? How do we self-diagnose our own self-sabotage and what can we do to stop it so it doesn’t damage our relationships or professional career? Are New Years Resolutions the best way to making changes in our lives, and what should we do if they’re not? What is the biggest misconception surrounding self-sabotage? How do we strengthen our willpower so that in times of potential self-sabotage we don’t fail? What is the L.I.F.E. acronym and how can you use it to identify the areas in your life where you are prone to self-sabotage? How does social media affect our tendency to self-sabotage and what can you do to prevent it? Once you identify the triggers that cause you to self-sabotage, what can you do to change them? What is the difference between diffusing a thought and fusing with one, and why should you try to always avoid one of the two? How do lofty goals lead people to self-sabotage and how should you approach goal setting in a way that doesn’t lead you to feel like a failure when you don’t achieve your goals? What can you do to define your values so you can live a fulfilled life? When you have identified changes you want to make in your life, how do you develop a blueprint for change that you can use to structure and plan the journey to becoming a better version of yourself? How do you avoid self-sabotage in romantic relationships? How much time should you spend on self-development? Self-sabotage is a tendency we have as humans to create problems for ourselves that get in the way of what we want from life. This tendency can be triggered when we find ourselves in a place of uncertainty or fear, so a great place to start in identifying your own self-sabotaging behaviors is to stop and think the next time you find yourself unsure of what to do next or how to solve an issue in your life. Rather than acting instinctively, take some time and think about how you would normally act in that situation and whether that gets you closer to your goals or pushes you away. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Stop Self-Sabotage by Dr. Judy Ho Dr. Judy Ho on Twitter Episode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit with Dr. Steven Hayes Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking to people we don’t know can be uncomfortable and sometimes terrifying, so why is it so important that we become comfortable with it and overcome the fear, what does science say about the value of talking to strangers, and what can you do to become a master of meeting new people? What to Listen For Why is it easier for introverts to talk to strangers than friends and family members? Why is it scary for us to talk to people we don’t know and what can you do to overcome that fear? What is a digital device security blanket and how does it put a wall up around each of us? What does science say about the value of small talk with strangers and how can it prevent you from feeling isolated and disconnected from the world around you? Where is the best place to meet new people and what should you say when you introduce yourself? How do you use shared experiences to strike up a conversation with someone you know nothing about? When is it appropriate to compliment a stranger and how do you decide what to compliment someone on? What is a transactional question and how do you ask one without shutting down the conversation before it’s even begun? Can you ask too many questions in a conversation? The more comfortable you are with talking to strangers, the greater your opportunities become. It’s a simple numbers game. If 1 out of every 100 people could connect you to a great job offer, a new friend, or a romantic partner, then doesn’t it stand that the more people you meet, the greater your chances become of landing your dream job, making new friends, and finding a great partner? If you are uncomfortable with striking up a conversation with someone out of the blue, your connections and relationships will always be limited to the people already in your social circle and chance encounters (with people who do like striking up conversations with strangers). You only get one life - don’t leave your fate up to chance. Take control and go after what you want. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Episode 719: Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship Art of Charm Bootcamp Art of Charm Network Is Efficiency Overrated? By Gillian M. Sandstrom & Elizabeth W. Dunn The stare as a stimulus to flight in human subjects: A series of field experiments Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Finding your voice as a creative can be difficult and frustrating, so how do you stay true to yourself while pushing the boundaries of your work, what can you do to balance the quantity of output versus the quality, and how do you get buy-in on your creative vision when you’re just starting out? What to Listen For Who does Matt Komo draw inspiration from and how did he get started in film? What can you do to develop your confidence as a creative when it feels like you’re surrounded by people making better content than you? How do you balance quality vs quantity as a content creator? How do you find the balance between your creative side and the business side What can you do get buy-in on your creative vision and get the necessary support to follow through to completion? How much of telling a story falls on the medium itself and how do you change the way you tell a story from one medium to the next? What can you do to handle the creative differences that inevitably arise between you and a client? How do you open yourself up to larger possibilities if you have no frame of reference for what is possible? How do you self-assess the difference between arrogance and confidence? As a creative, it can be easy to get bogged down by comparing your work to that of other people, especially in today’s world where a simple search can result in countless examples to top-notch work. Fortunately, only you have your perspective on life and your story to tell, so your truth and your voice are unique to you. It will take time and hard work to find your voice, but once you do, no one can take it away from you. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Matt Komo’s YouTube Channel Matt Komo on Twitter Matt Komo on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Twitter The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are pitching anytime you attempt to convey an idea, and pitching effectively in today’s world of short attention spans is getting harder and harder, so what can you do to break every pitch down into 3 minutes, improve your own pitching skills, and make sure that next pitch doesn’t cost you a job, an idea, or a relationship? What to Listen For What can we do to practice our pitching skills? When are we NOT pitching our ideas or ourselves? How do you stand out in a sea of dozens or hundreds of other pitches? What are the two forms of information being conveyed in a pitch and what can you do to balance them so one doesn’t overpower the other and ruin your pitch? Why are the first 3 minutes of a pitch the most important and how do you make them count so you don’t waste your time? What does it mean to have an inform and lead approach to your pitch and why is it so important in today’s world of hyper-sensitive consumers? What are statements of value and how can using them change your career forever? What is the WHAC acronym, how does it relate to the statements of value, and how does it bring everything together to help you build the ultimate 3-minute pitch? How should you approach follow up after you’ve made a pitch and what should you avoid doing at all cost? What is the telephone challenge and how can you use it to understand what parts of your pitch are the most valuable and least valuable? You are pitching anytime you are trying to get other people to believe an idea you have. It doesn’t matter if those people are your coworkers, friends, potential customers, or a board of directors - you are pitching, and to be great at pitching requires a different approach now than it did in the past. The era of smooth talking salesmen making grandiose claims and trying to reel you in is over. Our attention spans are shrinking and we have become desensitized to ideas that sound too good to be true. It’s time for the facts. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Episode 790 How To Resolve Conflict Like A Martial Artist with Judy Ringer Brant Pinvidic’s website The 3-Minute Rule by Brant Pinvidic Brant Pinvidic on Twitter Brant Pinvidic on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Conflict resolution is not a skillset that comes naturally for most of us because our egos will always want to defend us by proving we’re correct at the expense of actually working to a resolution, so what can we do to understand the psychology of conflict resolution and improve our conflict resolution skills? What to Listen For What core psychological principles cause unnecessary conflict and what can you do to deal with them? What are the different phases of conflict resolution? What can you do to develop the skills required for effective conflict resolution and how can they save you from sabotaging your jobs, friends, or relationship? How did Judy Ringer get her start in conflict resolution? During conflict, why do we default to wanting to be right instead of being curious about the other side, and what can we do to flip that switch so we can deal with conflict more effectively? How can using open questions instead of statements or closed questions lead to an environment better suited for conflict resolution? What does it mean to take responsibility for a conflict even if you’re not actually at fault for what happened? How do you reflect on recent conflicts in order to learn from them and develop your conflict resolution skills? What can you do to journal your conflict resolution journey in a way that helps you grow? What simple tips can you implement to start redirecting conflict toward resolution rather than escalation? As a manager, how do you ask the right questions when trying to resolve a conflict between your employees? What markers can you look for to detect conflict under the surface that might not be apparent at first glance so you know when to step in and stop a spark from growing into a wildfire? Conflict resolution is a skill most of us have to work on intentionally and consistently because our default as humans is to “resolve” conflicts by proving we’re right rather than trying to understand both sides and come to an actual resolution cooperatively. The best place to start is by recognizing the moment a conflict arises and making the decision to ask questions instead of proving you’re right. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. This Fall, start a new monthly routine that’ll upgrade your life and style with a Box of Awesome from Bespoke Post. Bespoke Post sends guys only the best stuff, every month. So whether you’re looking to craft your own hard-cider or toast perfectly aged Fall cocktails—Box of Awesome has you covered. Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at BoxOfAwesome.com and enter the special discount code AOC at checkout. That’s Box of Awesome dot com, special discount code AOC for 20% off your first box. Resources from this Episode Episode 697 - High Value Conflict Resolution Judy Ringer Turn Enemies Into Allies: The Art of Peace in the Workplace Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leadership skills is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot yet can mean many different things depending on the person using it, so what does “leadership skills” really mean, what does the science say about the value of leadership skills, and what can you do. What to Listen For What traits do you need to bring to the table as a leader and what can you do to develop them? Why is a strong frame necessary for effective leadership? What does it mean to have a strong frame and what can you do to build one? What tools and techniques can you start using today to be a more effective leader? How do you build leadership skills? Are leadership skills applicable outside of the workplace? What is the CAKE equation and how can you use it to build confidence? What does science say about the value of leadership skills? What are the two leadership styles and which one do we tend to associate with leadership even though it’s not as effective as the other in the long run? How do you work on or start building your leadership skills in your personal life? It might come as a surprise to some that leadership skills are just as important in your personal life as they are in your professional life because being a leader doesn’t automatically imply ordering people around. That is a specific aspect of leadership and one that great leaders rarely resort to. Being a leader within your social circle can just mean taking the initiative in organizing the next poker night or girls’ night out instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Being a leader can also mean encouraging and supporting your friends in hard times and celebrating them in their successes. Leadership means having the confidence in yourself to raise up those around you without expecting anything in return. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Need a stylish, lightweight, and durable suitcase with a 100-day money-back guarantee? Away creates thoughtful products designed to change how you see the world. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com and use discount promo code CHARM20 during checkout! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Frame Analysis: An Essay on the Organization of Experience Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Storytelling might seem like a skill reserved for dinner parties and family gatherings, but we actually use it in our everyday lives, many times without really knowing it - so what can you do to be more aware of when you’re using it, when you should be using it, and how not using it could be leading you to miss out on crucial opportunities for professional and personal growth? What to Listen For How did Laura Beil get her start in podcasting? What level of skepticism around the modern healthcare system is appropriate in today’s day and age where you can find countless horror stories throughout the internet? How can you guide people you’re interviewing to tell better stories in response to your questions? What kinds of questions can you ask someone if you want more in-depth answers or explanations? How can you improve your empathy in situations where you’re listening to someone talk about a tragic event in their life? What can you do to bring fresh energy into meetings with your storytelling skills? How do you keep a conversation interesting and lively for hours with someone you have little to nothing in common with? We use storytelling abilities in our everyday lives because we are either asking other people about themselves or vice versa. A good storyteller knows how to answer questions in a way that intrigues people and keeps them engaged in a conversation as well as ask people the right questions that get them to open up and feel comfortable talking about themselves, both of which deepen the connection between them. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Laura Beil’s website Dr. Death - podcast by Laura Beil Bad Batch - podcast by Laura Beil Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of life’s most powerful lessons come from stories of men and women living through dark and ugly periods in history - but why do we relate to these stories so strongly, what’s the best way to tell a story from your own life about adversity or a struggle you endured, and how do you know when such a story is ready to be told? What to Listen For What story from history first hooked Daniele Bolleli into pursuing history? How do you remove the bias or spin from news stories in today’s digital era? What made Daniele Bolelli realize he wanted to start podcasting? How do you tell a story in a way that people actually care about the characters involved? How do you find or build in a hook when you’re trying to figure out the best way to tell a story? How do you balance the dark side of a story with the lighthearted side so neither one pushes the audience away? What can you do to add humor to dark stories in a way that doesn’t feel forced or out of place? What can you look for in a story you want to tell if you want to know if it’s ready to be told? How has Daniele Bolelli’s experience in podcasting influenced his own personal storytelling? Stories from history provide us with archetypes and allow us a glimpse into the human spirit to see what we’re capable of when faced with insurmountable odds or overwhelming tragedy. And one of the most valuable lessons we can take away from all of the stories from history is that everyone involved was human. This is important to remember because we as humans have a habit of disconnecting from people who have accomplished great things and committed great atrocities. When we’re able to identify with the person on a basic level we can be inspired to act as well as develop empathy for those whose lives lead them down dark paths. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Daniele Bolelli’s website Daniele Bolelli on Twitter History on Fire Podcast - most recent episodes available on Luminary Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Humans are storytellers by nature, so the ability to tell a great story is something we can all learn and develop over time - but where do you start if you want to become a great storyteller, what is the structure of a great story, and how do you practice if you’re not already a public speaker? What to Listen For What does science tell us about why storytelling is so powerful? What can you do to be a more compelling storyteller? What steps can you follow to tell unforgettable stories? What are the 4 basic steps of storytelling and how can you apply them in everyday life to become a great storyteller? What simple game can you play with family, friends, or strangers to test and improve your storytelling ability? Why are emotions such a crucial aspect of great storytelling and what can you do to incorporate them into your stories? What is the Angel’s Cocktail and how does it make for an unforgettable story? How should you approach storytelling in a professional setting like a networking event versus a personal setting like hanging out with friends or being on a date? How do you tell an engaging story when Powerpoint is involved and what should you avoid doing at all costs? What are the key things you should pay attention to in the audience when presenting? What are the 5 layers of communication and how does knowledge of them tell you who is trustworthy and who is not? What mindset should you adopt to better handle the Q & A after a talk or presentation? Storytelling is a skill like any other, but that means to become great at it requires you to practice it - how can you become good at anything without adequate repetition? But unlike many other skills, storytelling is something you can practice every single day with anyone you talk to. Just think about something that has happened in your life, large or small, and tell the story of it through the 4 basic steps discussed in this episode. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode How to Avoid Death by Powerpoint - TEDx Talk The Magical Science of Storytelling - TEDx Talk The 110 Techniques of Communication and Public Speaking - TEDx Talk JPUniversity - David JP Phillips’s school for storytelling David JP Phillips Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Storytelling is the glue which has held humanity together over tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years - but why are stories so important to us, what goes into creating a great story, and what can you do turn any story from your life into a great story worth telling? What to Listen For Why is storytelling such a valuable skill to have in personal and professional relationships? What can you do to tell engaging and compelling stories? Why is your storytelling ability important for making new friends, building a network, and dating? How does your storytelling ability make or break your performance in sales? Why do many of us focus on the wrong things when telling a story and how is it hindering you socially and professionally? Why are stories so powerful in conveying information and connecting us? How do you structure a story so you’re captivating the listeners and they can’t help but remember you? What is the Hero’s Journey and how has it been used throughout history to structure famous stories in mythology, religion, and literature? What are 8 steps can you follow to turn any story into a great story? How do you turn an average story into a great story? What are the do’s and don’ts of storytelling? What do people connect with most in stories and what puts them off? What is the “curse of knowledge” and how does it hurt your ability to tell great stories? Humans have likely been telling stories since we first stepped foot on this earth. It is one of our defining features in the animal kingdom and it is the thing that enables us to live and work together in groups, from families to communities to companies to nations. Storytelling is indeed an art, but an art with a structure. This structure has been passed down through the ages and can be found throughout the world in various cultures, which means it can be taught and learned. If you want to create strong relationships in your personal life and professional life, then you need to become a great storyteller. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Skillshare is an online learning community with thousands of classes for creators, entrepreneurs, and curious people everywhere. You can take classes in Film and Video, Marketing, Productivity, and even Entrepreneurship! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for our listeners: Get two months of Skillshare for free by going to Skillshare.com/CHARM. Equal Parts is here to help you get into the flow of home cooking, with inviting cookware and coaching designed to introduce new ideas and keep you engaged with the process of cooking, one step at a time. Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit equalparts.com and use discount code CHARM get $50 off any cookware kit over $200! Resources from this Episode The Art of Charm Bootcamp Cooperation and the Evolution of Hunter-Gatherer Storytelling Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Networking can seem like a daunting task for introverts, so what strengths do introverts bring to the table that extroverts do not, what value can you bring to a network if you are just starting out, and how can you utilize today’s technology to amplify your networking ability? What to Listen For How can you stand out as an introvert when networking? What is one of the most effective ways to build a network in a fluid job market like Silicon Valley where almost no one stays at one company for more than a couple years? Can you be a master networker if you’re an introvert? What value can you bring to a network when you are just starting out in a new field or career? What strengths do introverts bring to networking that extroverts do not? What can you do to improve your listening skills to make you a better networker? What tools in today’s day and age should you be using to grow and maintain your network? Is email dead? What is the “loose touch” habit and how can you use it to grow and strengthen your network? What is a “third place” and why is it important for you to find yours? How do you balance creating an online brand with oversharing and putting you in a position where companies don’t want to hire you? Why is LinkedIn so pivotal to the world of networking? What questions can you ask yourself when it comes to how you present yourself on social media? How do you set networking goals before attending a conference? What questions should you be asking when meeting new people at a conference or networking event? What do you need to stop doing now when it comes to networking and keeping in touch? What should you be doing when building or growing your network online? What is the “double opt-in” and how can you use it to grow and strengthen your network? What’s the best way to reinitiate contact with people in your network you haven’t talked to in a while? Networking doesn’t have to be hard if you’re an introvert. Many people tend to think about networking and imagine being at a crowded bar or massive conference, making small talk with dozens of people and amassing business cards, phone numbers, and emails. But it doesn’t have to be that at all. Simply focus on the people you enjoy working with and share good memories with, and try to have good interactions with them. Go out for coffee every now and then, schedule a lunch, or stay in touch via email. The key is consistency. Stay in people’s lives and make an effort to connect. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Karen Wickre Taking the Work Out of Networking by Karen Wickre Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Networking is all about people (obviously), but it can be easy to forget that when we’re thinking about what we can get from the relationships in our lives while we should be thinking about what we can give - so how do you start networking with intentions and making sure they are the correct intentions? What to Listen For Why do you need to write a personal mission statement, and how do you go about constructing one? Why are you likely starting your day off on the wrong foot and what simple step can you take to start every day off on the right foot? Why is it so important to develop a plan with intention in how you go about your day? What questions should you be asking yourself each morning to set yourself up for success? How do you stay in touch after networking events with the people you meet at them? Why is it important in professional as well as personal relationships to regularly make exciting plans weeks or months in advance? What is a simple but powerful idea you can use to start building a solid network right before your next conference or networking event? What value can you offer to someone farther up the ladder of success than you? How do you deal with difficult people at work who refuse to cooperate if they don’t get their way? What question can you ask someone who you’re struggling to work with in order to move past the tension and conflict? We are human, and unless we make a conscious effort it can be easy for us to default to thinking about ourselves rather than others. However, when it comes to networking, the goal should not be to figure out “what you can get” from those you meet - but what you can give. You can make yourself stand out from the masses simply by putting effort into determining the value you can bring to those whose paths you cross. Understand the needs and wants, the hopes and fears of the people in your life, and go out of your way to help them and your network will know no bounds. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Brian Dixon’s website Brian’s TED Talk The Clarity Sessions - Brian’s Podcast Start With Your People Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The best networkers prepare for networking events in order to get the most out of them, but how do you go about preparing for a networking event, what are the do’s and don’ts of networking, and is your first impression shooting you in the foot before you even open your mouth? What to Listen For What are the do’s and don’ts of networking? How do you handle a networking event if you’re an introvert? What can you do to prepare for a networking event, and do you even need to? How can a bad (or even a neutral) first impression ruin your chances of success at a networking event and what can you do to make a fantastic first impression instead? What kind of research should you do before a networking event? How do you set yourself up for success before and/or during a networking event? How do you choose what to wear for a networking event, and what should you avoid wearing? Where should you hang out at networking events if you want to have the best chance of talking to the individuals you’re trying to meet? Why is it a mistake to make a pitch or try to close a deal when you meet someone at a networking event? What game can you play to make networking opportunities fun and productive? Why is it hurting you to think about what you can take from networking opportunities rather than what you can give? What should you do after a networking event to help you process and learn from the experience? Why is it damaging to your networking potential if you can’t explain what you do in simple terms? What should your elevator pitch attempt to accomplish and why do so many of us focus on the wrong parts? Why do most people fail when it comes to networking and what can you do to set yourself apart from them? How soon after meeting someone at a networking event should you start working on the follow-up? What is a pre-event and how can you plan a simple one to your advantage, setting you apart from most people at a networking event? Networking is like many endeavors in this world - your results depend on how much work you’re willing to put in. The best networkers prepare for every networking event by making sure their first impression is on point, they know who is going to attend and who they want to meet, they understand how to connect and pitch themselves, and most importantly, they follow up. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Episode 693: Identifying Low Value Behaviors Episode 694: Becoming High Value Episode 781: How To Grow Your Network Through Social Capital Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introduction Networking has picked up a bad rap over the years, but what exactly is networking, how is your network different from your social circle, and how do you go about building a strong network full of great people and amazing opportunities? What to Listen For What is the difference between your social circle and your network, and how can the misunderstanding of the difference lead to a loss of opportunities, both personally and professionally? What are the biggest myths surrounding networking? What is social capital and why is your familiarity with it crucial to your ability to network effectively? Why do many of us view networking as transactional, and why is that mindset detrimental to building a strong network? How important is your first impression when building a network versus building a social circle? What is the easiest area to focus on if you want to strengthen your network, and why can ignoring it have detrimental effects? Why are your casual acquaintances more likely to lead to job offers than your close friends? Is it more important to surround yourself with people just starting out, at your level, or further along than you, and why? What common viewpoint can stunt the growth of your network and lead to your network being full of toxic relationships? A strong network can lead to a healthier personal and professional life for one primary reason: a variety of backgrounds. Your network is different from your social circle (though they can overlap) because the individuals in your social circle are people you spend the most time with, and so they tend to share a similar background as you, which means they are likely to share the same perspectives and values you do. People in your network, however, likely come from a variety of backgrounds and are likely then to have different perspectives, values, and career choices. This variety helps keep you open to new ideas and perspectives but also drastically expands the number of connections you have because of the sheer number of people that those in your network have access to. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Skillshare is an online learning community with thousands of classes for creators, entrepreneurs, and curious people everywhere. You can take classes in Film and Video, Marketing, Productivity, and even Entrepreneurship! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for our listeners: Get two months of Skillshare for free by going to Skillshare.com/CHARM. Equal Parts is here to help you get into the flow of home cooking, with inviting cookware and coaching designed to introduce new ideas and keep you engaged with the process of cooking, one step at a time. Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit equalparts.com and use discount code CHARM get $50 off any cookware kit over $200! Resources from this Episode Episode 693: Identifying Low Value Behaviors Episode 694: Becoming High Value “The Strength of Weak Ties” by Mark Granovetter Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the most intense and important negotiations humanity has witnessed have taken place in and around the field of battle, but how much do they have in common with the negotiations we engage in on a daily basis, what can civilians learn from how the military successfully approaches its negotiations, and what 5 strategies can you implement today in order to improve your negotiation skills? What to Listen For What are the most common mistakes people make when negotiating and what can you do to avoid making them? What is the difference between negotiating to create choices and negotiating to reach an agreement, and why should you aim for one while avoiding the other at all costs? Why do most people only think about negotiations in the short term and how can that mindset cause so much damage in the long term? What are the commonalities between life or death military negotiations and negotiations in business? How do you take cultural differences into account when negotiating? What questions should you be asking yourself about the parties in a negotiation if you don’t want to screw it up? What are the 5 strategies of extreme negotiating and how can you use them in important negotiations to everyday negotiations in order to reach a desirable outcome for all parties involved? Many people tend to enter into negotiations with a short term goal in mind. We want the best deal, or the biggest win for ourselves, regardless of what it costs the other party. Think about when you buy a car - are you thinking about the person you’re buying the car from? What about when you’re negotiating a raise - are you actively trying to understand what is required of you to merit that raise and then clearly conveying to your employer what you’ve done to meet or exceed those requirements? Every negotiation we engage in has the potential to build or break relationships. If that’s the case, shouldn’t it be in your best interest to focus on building relationships with win-win outcomes versus breaking them with win-lose outcomes? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today. Resources from this Episode Extreme Negotiations - Harvard Business Review The West Point Negotiation Project Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we talk with Wil Schroter. Will is a serial entrepreneur who has started 9 companies since 1994 and sold 4 of them to date. He is currently the CEO and founder of Startups.co, the world's largest startup launch platform. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for my listeners: Get two months of Skillshare for free. go to Skillshare.com/CHARM. Again, go to Skillshare.com/CHARM to start your two months now. That’s Skillshare.com/CHARM. Become a member today by going to feals.com/charm and you’ll get 50% off your first order with free shipping. That’s feals.com/charm to become a member and get 50% automatically taken off your first order with free shipping. Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the most important decisions in your life involve negotiating with someone more experienced than you, so what can you do today to make sure you are well prepared for every negotiation to come? What to Listen For What can you do to make sure you’re not shooting yourself in the foot when negotiating? What is the difference between negotiating from a place of cooperation versus position? How are you killing opportunities by negotiating with a competitive mindset and what mindset should you be negotiating with if you want to get the most out of every negotiation? What is the Harvard Negotiation Project and what can you take from it to improve your negotiation skills today? How does pressure work against you in negotiations and what can we do to handle it so it doesn’t have detrimental consequences in the long term? What 3 things are you doing to kill your chances of negotiating a raise? What 3 traits are critical to entering a negotiation that allows for a win-win for all parties involved? What is BATNA and why is your understanding of it crucial if you want to negotiate successfully? How do you develop a bulletproof approach to any negotiation? How do you gain agreement from the other party in a negotiation to decrease the chance of it falling through? When negotiating a raise, what should your first point of agreement be between you and your employer? Negotiating can be both fun and exciting for all parties involved, but it can also be uncomfortable and downright painful. Ideally, we want to avoid the latter, but many of us enter into negotiations from a position that pushes the other party away because we try to come from a place of power and strength. No one wants to be taken advantage of so that is understandable. However, the person we are negotiating with doesn’t want to feel pushed around either, and so a different kind of strength must be used when entering into a negotiation, and that strength comes from a knowledge of what you want as well as what the other person wants. When you do your research and have options, you allow the other party to negotiate with you on what they can offer you versus what you are looking for, rather than saying, “This is what I want and you must give it to me or I’m leaving.” That never ends well for anyone. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Before you go dropping hundreds of dollars on a pair, you need to check out the wireless earbuds from Raycon! Unlike some of your other wireless options, Raycon earbuds are both stylish and discreet, with no dangling wires or stems. And of course, they don’t just look great. They sound great, too. Go to BuyRaycon.com/CHARM to get 15% off your order! Clearbanc is changing the way entrepreneurs raise money with equity-free capital. They charge a small flat fee for the capital, and you pay them back using a win-win rev share. If you are doing over ten thousand a month in revenue, find out how you can receive Clearbanc capital by getting your 20-minute term sheet at clearbanc.com/CHARM. Resources from this Episode Episode 777: Negotiating: 4 Things You Must Know Harvard Negotiation Project Episode 774: The 3 Most Common Hurdles in Decision Making Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The thought of negotiating can instill feelings of discomfort in many of us because we associate negotiating with trying to create a win for us and a loss for the person we are negotiating with, but how would that change if you had the knowledge and confidence to come up with a win-win for just about every negotiation you entered into? What to Listen For Where do the misconceptions surrounding negotiating come from and how can a few simple changes in perception improve your ability to negotiate? What is Prospect Theory and how does it cause you to miss out on great opportunities? What is Positional Bargaining? How are Positional Bargaining and Anchoring connected and how can the connection lead you Why will we work harder NOT to lose $100 than we will to earn an extra $100? How can you start improving your negotiating ability today? What is the Harvard Negotiation Project and how can you use your understanding of it to create more win-win negotiations? What are the 4 elements of a negotiation we should look at in order to create a win-win outcome for both parties? What are the boundary conditions of a negotation and how can being aware of them prevent you from losing out on great long term negotiation wins? How does focusing on interests rather than bargaining positions lead to a win-win in negotiations? We often feel uncomfortable with negotiating a better deal for ourselves because we believe a better deal for us means a worse deal for the other person. That belief, however, comes from focusing on each person’s bargaining positions rather than our interests. You can do this by focusing on the other person’s interests and what you can offer them that is of little value to you but could be of great value to them. This way you are able to negotiate a win for yourself now while making the immediate loss for the other person worthwhile because of what you can offer that person in another capacity. For example, if you negotiate a discount on a computer repair by offering to write the business owner a great review and tell your friends about them, you are making that discount a win for you and the business owner. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! MyBookie is THE place to bet on football every weekend - they have live, in-game betting on every NFL game. They’ve got the most rewarding player perks in the business and for you fantasy guys out there, you can even bet the over/under on how many fantasy points a player will score each game. Go to MyBookie.ag and double your first deposit using promo code CHARM to activate the offer. Resources from this Episode Episode 774: The 3 Most Common Hurdles in Decision Making, And How to Avoid Them Episode 772: Dan Ariely: How to Defeat Indecision and Regret Episode 694: Becoming High Value Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Finding your voice as an individual is vital to realizing your potential and building a life that allows you to be the best version of yourself, but what does it mean to find your voice, what steps can you take today to discover it, and why will most people die before ever finding their voice? What to Listen For How do you define a successful networking event and what can you do to make your next networking event a success? Why is it important to discover your voice and use it to express your thoughts on a regular basis? What can you do to find your voice in a world where most people die without ever finding theirs? How do you deal with the blowback that comes from voicing your opinions and beliefs that some people inevitably won’t agree with? What hurdles do women face in social situations inside and outside of work and what can you do as a woman to overcome those hurdles so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities? How do you handle the gender dynamic as a woman in a leadership/management position when you want to command respect and authority? The more comfortable you become with who you really are and what you believe, the more likely you are to ruffle feathers and offend people. As your work on realizing your potential, your focus should not be on making sure as many people as possible like you or even agree with your ideas. Your focus should be on nourishing the relationships with those around you who value you as an individual for being who you are and standing firm in your beliefs and values. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! MyBookie is THE place to bet on football every weekend - they have live, in-game betting on every NFL game. They’ve got the most rewarding player perks in the business and for you fantasy guys out there, you can even bet the over/under on how many fantasy points a player will score each game. Go to MyBookie.ag and double your first deposit using promo code CHARM to activate the offer. Resources from this Episode 773: Eric Weinstein Meets The Art Of Charm Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The narratives we create for ourselves influence everything from life-changing decisions down to what we eat and how we spend our free time, but what exactly is a narrative and how do you go about creating a positive one that pulls you in the direction you want to go in life? What to Listen For How do you justify a career change if you already have the “perfect” job? What is the one thing you take with you every time you leave a job for a new one, and how can you use that to minimize the regret you might feel for leaving a great job? What is a narrative and why are they so influential when it comes to how we think and make decisions? If you feel you are overanalytical, how do you use it as a strength while making sure it doesn’t cripple you in social situations? What can you do to make networking an enjoyable process rather than something you feel like you have to do in order to grow professionally? How do you become more likable as a coworker? Why is likability more important than hard skills when it comes to being promoted in the workplace? What can you do to increase your value if you feel hindered in the dating pool by a disability? What does it mean to hang on to gifts and memorabilia from past relationships and what does it mean to get rid of them? Can you ever truly stop comparing yourself to others or is it human nature? You are what you eat - everything you put in your body either makes you healthier or sicker. The same can be said for your narrative - everything you do either strengthens your narrative or weakens it. For example, if you believe you are not worthy of a promotion at work, you will make decisions every day which strengthen that narrative. However, if you wake up one day and make the choice to believe you are worthy of a promotion, then you can take conscious action to reinforce that narrative by developing positive relationships with your coworkers and supervisors as well as making sure your supervisors know you’re getting the results which make you worthy of the promotion. Over time your belief in yourself will override the narrative that was holding you back and the new positive, healthier narrative will take its place. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Feals is Premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Feals naturally helps reduce stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. New to CBD? Feals offers a free CBD hotline and text message support to help guide your personal experience. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/CHARM and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping. Resources from this Episode Episode 772: Dan Ariely: How to Defeat Indecision and Regret Episode 766: Michael Herold on Facing the Impossible and Beating it Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Technology has an increasing influence on our lives, but did you know even small concentrated doses, such as working all day on a computer (aka a “tech coma”), can have a significant impact on your ability to interact with other people in healthy? What to Listen For What is Eric Weinstein trying to do with his new podcast and why should you listen to it? What does the world of professional wrestling know about psychology that most psychology professors and researchers don’t? What is the Intellectual Dark Web (IDW) and what can you learn from about how to have a constructive conversation with people you disagree with? How do you break through disinformation when you’re constantly surrounded by “fake news”? How do you draw a boundary with your personal life if you have a life in the public eye? How is immigration being used to transfer wealth from one group to another and why should we restrict it? How do you take a platform’s algorithm into account when deciding where to get your news and information? How can you become a critical consumer of information in an era driven by narratives and algorithms? Are you defenseless in today’s day and age of corporations tasking incredibly smart individuals to do just about anything to get your attention, even if it means complete fabrication of events? How do you approach conversations when you know you’re going to disagree with the other person? What is bad diversity and how does it distract us from having otherwise constructive conversations? What is a tech coma, how do you know if you are in one, and how does it cause atrophy of your social muscles? How can perfectionism hurt the pursuit of your goals and what can you do if you feel you are a perfectionist? As technology continues to permeate our everyday existence, it can be easy to let slip the skills that really matter when it comes to living healthy and happy lives. Humans are social creatures, and we rely on social interaction to bring us some of the most meaningful experiences and emotions while we’re alive. Unfortunately, with the way we have developed various technological systems, we are building walls between each of us while claiming the screens on those walls make us more connected than ever. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Clearbanc is changing the way entrepreneurs raise money with equity-free capital. They charge a small flat fee for the capital, and you pay them back using a win-win rev share. If you are doing over ten thousand a month in revenue, find out how you can receive Clearbanc capital by getting your 20-minute term sheet at clearbanc.com/CHARM. Resources from this Episode The Portal - a podcast by Eric Weinstein Eric Weinstein on Twitter Eric Weinstein on YouTube News Diffs - Tracking Online News Over Time Episode 772: Dan Ariely: How to Defeat Indecision and Regret Save the Cat! The Last Book on Screenwriting You’ll Ever Need Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The harder a decision seems to be for people, the less likely it is that we will spend enough time researching it in order to determine what to do - but why is that, how should we handle the component of time when it comes to waiting to make decisions, and what can you do to eliminate the fear of regret in your life? What to Listen For Why do we spend a lot of time researching insignificant decisions and little time researching significant decisions? How can you approach life-changing decisions from a neutral point of view so you can make the decision for the right reasons? How do does action versus inaction affect our likelihood to regret a certain event and how can you change your perspective in order to eliminate regret? How do we take time into account when deciding how much time to spend researching minor and major decisions? What are the three types of decisions and how can your awareness of each one help you to avoid wasting valuable time What is anchoring and how does it affect our decision making as we make decisions that build on one another and how can your awareness of it prevent you from falling into an unhealthy trap? What are market norms and social norms and how do they affect your willingness to oblige someone’s request for help? How do market norms reduce the trust between people and turn relationships into economic transactions? We make decisions that affect our lives every single day. Some decisions are small, some are big, and some are repeated on a regular basis. Unfortunately, we only have so much time to think about these decisions so it can save us a lot of time if we at least understand how to approach each one. Small decisions, like what movie theater to go to or what appetizer to get, should take the least amount of our time since they impact our lives the least, and our time is better spent being present or contemplating more important decisions. Big decisions, like where to live or who to marry, should necessitate more time as they will have lasting effects on our lives. And lastly, decisions that are made regularly, like your morning routine or what to eat each day, should be automated as much as possible to reduce the drain on your willpower so that it can be used for resource-intensive tasks like work, or studying, or solving complex problems in your life. We only have so much time to live - don’t waste it on unimportant issues in your life. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Lumen5 is empowering everyone with the ability to create short-form videos in a matter of minutes. You can transform an article, blog post, or text message into a video. Enter your text and the Lumen5 A.I. will help you summarize your content, and automatically match it with videos and photos. Right now Lumen Five has a special offer just for you! Go to lumen5.com/charm and you’ll get 50 percent off your first month. Resources from this Episode Dan Ariely Dan Ariely on Facebook Dan Ariely on Twitter Dan’s podcast Arming the Donkeys Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely The Upside of Irrationality by Dan Ariely The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty by Dan Ariely Amazing Decisions by Dan Ariely The Art of Charm Bootcamp in Vienna Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us will never undergo professional training in the world of improve and yet we engage in improv almost every day because life is improv - so why should you consider taking an improv class, how does improv relate to self-development, and how can an improv mindset help you to relax in social situations? What to Listen For How do you compete in a place like Hollywood with people who claim to be or do things that they don’t even do? How should you approach a conversation with someone you look up to when meeting for the first time and why is it such a bad idea to be a fanboy/girl in such a situation? What should your mindset be when first meeting someone and what mindset will likely lead to an undesirable outcome? What is the value in learning improv and how does it relate to your path of self-development? Why is it counterproductive to try to be funny in improv? What signs of codependency can you look for early on in a relationship and what can you do to course correct at that point? How can a relationship become codependent and what can you do to prevent it? How do you make people want to be around you or simply notice you? What can you do to make a great first impression? How can you fix a bad first impression? What can you do to be confident without coming across as arrogant? How do you attract people who want the same things you want out of a fling or relationship? Improvisational comedy (aka “improv”) is all about going with the flow, and when it comes to life, it is much easier to use the flow of a river to your advantage rather than trying to swim upstream or control the path of the river itself. And this idea applies directly to the conversations we have with people, especially when first meeting someone. Many of you will want to control the direction of a conversation and make sure you are able to highlight the good things about you and what you’ve done, rather than listen to what the other person says and allow the conversation to flow naturally by asking sincere questions and relating to what they’re saying without domineering the discussion itself. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Episode 770: Leon Logothetis: Traveling the world relying on kindness Episode 767: How to Master Communication in a Relationship Episode 744: Dating Done Right with Evan Marc Katz Episode 705: Don’t Try to Be Funny - The Art of Improv Erin Muroski Erin Muroski on Facebook Erin Muroski on Twitter Erin Muroski on Instagram Final Rose Material - Erin’s podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kindness costs you nothing but can change someone’s life forever, even your own - but how do we even define kindness, what does it mean to be genuinely kind, and how can a simple act of kindness have such lasting effects on the people around us? What to Listen For How do you deal with possible regrets when you make major life-changing decisions? What is the Kindness Diaries and what inspired Leon Logothetis to start his quest for kindness? How do you deal with the pushback that comes from close friends and family when you decide to leave a stable job to pursue your dreams? What was it like for Leon Logothetis to approach a stranger for the first time and how has his approach evolved over time? How can you use body language to allow strangers to feel comfortable talking to you when approaching them in the middle of the day? How does Leon Logothetis choose who he’s going to approach and who he wants to avoid? Are kindness and generosity universal or does it vary by culture? What was Leon Logothetis’s favorite life-changing moment from the show and what did it teach him? How does Leon Logothetis define kindness and what advice does he have for those of us struggling to be kinder in our day to day lives? How can you work on being kind if you’ve been taken advantage of in the past? How can you be kind and strong at the same time so you don’t get taken advantage of? As Leon Logothetis put it, “Kindness is helping someone else feel less alone.” Loneliness is a feeling we can all relate to, as we have all felt it at one time or another, and many of us feel it regularly in a world where people are feeling increasingly isolated and disconnected from one another and their communities. Kindness can help to rectify that, even if it means one small act of kindness each day. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Before you go dropping hundreds of dollars on a pair, you need to check out the wireless earbuds from Raycon! Unlike some of your other wireless options, Raycon earbuds are both stylish and discreet, with no dangling wires or stems. And of course, they don’t just look great. They sound great, too. Go to BuyRaycon.com/CHARM to get 15% off your order! Did you know your teeth move as you get older? Candid - the clear alternative to braces - costs 65% less than braces! Candid has an orthodontist licensed in your state create a treatment plan for you (and Candid only uses experienced orthodontists). You can save thousands of dollars and have straighter, brighter teeth in an average of just six months! Learn more at CandidCo.com/CHARM and use discount code CHARM to get $75 off! Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Episode 769: Laura Heck: avoid these 4 behaviors in any relationship The Kindness Diaries on Netflix Go Be Kind by Leon Logothetis Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The majority of issues we face in relationships can be boiled down to 4 types of behaviors we exhibit. So what are they? How do you identify which ones you exhibit, and what can you do to deal with them in yourself, your partner, friends, family members, and coworkers before they fall apart? What to Listen For How did the Gottman Institute get started? How much overlap is there between the issues married couples face versus friends, coworkers, and family members and what can we learn from the overlap? What are the biggest issues typically seen in newlyweds and couples first moving in together? What is implied when you stand up at the altar to say, “I do” and what should a conversation about those implications revolve around? What 3 questions should you ask yourself before entering into a couples therapy situation and how do you use these questions to make sure both of you are on the same page when it comes to expectations? What are the 4 problem behaviors that come up in relationships and why is it important to identify YOUR problem behavior before calling out your partner’s? Why is it a bad idea to see a therapist without your partner if you’re having relationship issues? How do relationship problems express themselves through our emotional, mental, and physical well being? How do you deal with criticism whether it’s coming from yourself or your partner? What is the difference between complaining and blaming, and why is one ok and the other is not? How do you deal with defensiveness in a relationship? How can you develop patience when it comes to your partner’s development since we all grow at different speeds? What questions can you ask your partner to show your support for their development and assist in it (if they want you to)? Relationships are a two-way street, so the issues we face while in relationships are a result of one person’s actions and the other’s reactions. This is not to say that one person is always acting and the other is reacting, but when attempting to tackle issues you have in your relationships, you must acknowledge your role in that issue. The responsibility does not fall 100% on you or the other person, but is shared between the two of you. This applies to romantic relationships, platonic relationships, professional relationships, and familial relationships. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today. Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode YouTube: Making Relationships Work | Dr. Gottman The Gottman Institute Marriage Therapy Radio Podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Establishing boundaries can feel intimidating if you’ve never successfully set them before, so why are they so important when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships? Why does a lack of boundaries often lead to undesirable outcomes? What formula can you follow to start setting boundaries today? We’ll answer all those questions this episode. What to Listen For What is causing most of the problems in your communication and how can you become more aware of them? Why is it important to set boundaries early on and how do you set boundaries respectfully? How can you be more proactive in dealing with conflict? Who is more likely to win in arguments and why does it not matter in the way you might think it does? What is the best way to approach someone who refuses to acknowledge clearly defined boundaries? Why does a lack of boundaries lead to resentment? How does too much freedom in a relationship lead to you feeling miserable? Why is it important to have clearly defined boundaries between home and work if you don’t have a dedicated work space and how can a lack of boundaries be detrimental to your productivity and your personal relationships? How can you be assertive without coming across as disrespectful? What formula can you follow to establish clear boundaries in your relationships and how can you make it a respectful cooperative effort? Setting boundaries in a relationship can feel like you are telling someone how to act - but in reality, setting and enforcing healthy boundaries allows you to be comfortable being yourself while communicating who you are and who you want to be to the people you care about. We all have different definitions of what it means to treat someone well and respect their time, so if you don’t communicate YOUR definition of what that is, don’t assume people can read it directly from your mind. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Episode 767: How to master communication in a relationship Episode 725: Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships are a two-way street, but when it comes to communication it’s important to understand people have a variety of preferences when it comes to how love and affection are given and received, so what are those preferences, how can you identify what someone’s preferences are, and how can you implement all of this information to build new relationships and strengthen existing ones? What to Listen For What can you do to strengthen the relationships in your life? What can you do if you think you’re a great listener but people around you keep complaining about you not listening? Why is it a recipe for disaster to look for someone to complete you and what should you be looking for instead? What are the Five Languages of Appreciation and how can you pick the best one for each of your relationships? What are the three parts of communication and how does your awareness of each part help to mitigate miscommunication? How do you identify the love languages of family, friends, and coworkers? Why are openness and vulnerability mandatory when it comes to figuring out the love languages of the people in your life? What little signals can you pay attention to so you can get an idea for how your loved ones communicate? In order to deepen the connections we have with the people around us, it’s important to understand how the people around us prefer to be treated. Just because you view the giving and receiving of affection one way, doesn’t mean everyone else does as well. Some people prefer to show their appreciation through words, some prefer to show it through gifts, and some prefer the spending of quality time together - and that’s just to name a few. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Lumen5 is empowering everyone with the ability to create short-form videos in a matter of minutes. You can transform an article, blog post, or text message into a video. Enter your text and the Lumen5 A.I. will help you summarize your content, and automatically match it with videos and photos. Right now Lumen Five has a special offer just for you! Go to lumen5.com/charm and you’ll get 50 percent off your first month. Resources from this Episode Episode 719 Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Gary Chapman The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman Learn Your Love Language with this Quiz Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Personal transformation is a long and arduous process, but we all have to start somewhere, so how do you know when it’s time to make such a drastic change, what can you do to stop from feeling overwhelmed in the beginning, and how do you know when it’s time to graduate from one step to the next? What to Listen For Why is making a list important in accomplishing your goals? What can you do to deal with the fear of public speaking? What simple exercises can you do right now to expand your comfort zone? How did Michael Herold get his start as a public speaker and coach? What steps should you take when starting out as a public speaker to make sure you feel ready on stage? Where can you get practice as a public speaker if you don’t have a coach and you’re not taking classes? How can you be more appreciative of your significant other after you two settle into the comfort stage of the relationship? How important is it to set aside time for one another when you’re in a relationship? What steps can you take to alleviate feeling overwhelmed when you embark on a journey of self-improvement? How are confidence and competence related when you’re working on your social skills? If your social skills feel rusty, what simple step can you take today to start improving? What can you do to overcome feeling burned out? For many, embarking on a journey of personal transformation comes after life punches you in the face - that could mean getting fired from a job, getting kicked out of school, going through the end of a relationship, or losing a loved one, just to name a few. But why does it take such a jarring event to motivate us to improve? Because transformation is difficult and painful, so to be willing to make a drastic change in yourself means the pain of staying the same must outweigh the pain of change. If you don’t feel the pain of your current situation, then what are the chances you’re going to choose to endure significant pain over a long period of time to change the situation you’re in? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Michael Herold - Speaker and Coach Michael Herold on Facebook 762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for Change | Transformation Toolbox 1 763: Had Enough Pain, Yet? | Toolbox 2 764: Brett Bartholomew on why drive matters more than motivation and secrets to peak performance 765: Parents, Part 2: Warren Farrell on The Boy Crisis and Dad Deprivation Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The role of the father in raising children is often downplayed in society, but what do fathers bring to the table that mothers do not, why does the absence of a father have such long-lasting effects, and what steps can we take today to be there for our children? What to Listen For What is dad deprivation and what role does it play as a child is growing up? What is the purpose void and why is it more important now that more children are growing up without a father? What are the two primary purposes in a man’s life and how has the development of society made it more difficult for men to feel fulfilled in either one? How does porn become addictive to young men and how does it shift the way men view women, sex, and relationships? What are the primary differences between mom-style parenting and dad-style parenting? What is the single biggest predictor of success and how do you teach it to children? How do you teach postponement of gratification to children and why is it so important to building the life you want? What is the difference between being aggressive and being assertive? What can you do to reverse ADHD? What role do family dinner nights have in a child’s development and what 5 things can you do to make those family dinners constructive rather than destructive? What steps can we take today to improve as parents? The father in many shows and movies seems to be there just for comic relief by being a hardass or totally incompetent while the mother is portrayed as “the real parent.” But the father’s role in raising kids is significantly more important than we tend to give it credit for. As Warren Farrell stated, “Children who have father involvement are far less likely to be obese, far less likely to have ADHD, far less likely to do worse in every single academic area, and far less likely to be depressed or commit suicide.” And those are just a few of the effects that a good father has on his kids. It’s crucial there be a balance of masculine and feminine influence in a child’s life in order for that child to grow into a well-rounded human being able to handle the ups and downs and twists and turns of life. It is the tension created by the difference between the parents that allows their children to find a happy medium that works for who they are. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Resources from this Episode Warren Farrell’s website Why Men Are the Way They Are by Warren Farrell The Myth of Male Power by Warren Farrell The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coaching athletes, or anyone for that matter, does not come with a simple one-size-fits-all approach, so what does effective coaching look like, what do you need to know about those you’re coaching, and who do coaches get coached by? What to Listen For How did Brett Bartholomew get started in the world of strength training and coaching? How do you get buy-in with athletes you’re coaching to make sure they follow your program without getting distracted by all the other information they’re bombarded with? What do you need to know about your athletes in order to best coach them and how do you tie it in with a responsible message? What is the Harvard 4 Drive Model and how can you start using it today to teach or coach more effectively? What 3 steps can you use to better relate to other people and build better relationships with coworkers, students, and athletes? How do you develop self-awareness and what should you look for in your own life to start with? What are the 3 stages of internal identification and how does it relate to the development of self-awareness? What is imposter syndrome and how do you deal with it so you don’t sabotage your career or relationships? What kind of coaches do coaches get coached by? What is the difference between being responsive and being reactive? How can you be more responsive without being reactive? How do you find your own motivation and help others find theirs? How do you stay motivated as a coach? There are a variety of factors that influence your ability to coach someone effectively. First and foremost, your athlete (or student) must trust and respect you, otherwise, she won’t believe you know what you’re doing. So you must build a working relationship with your athletes, and that means understanding their self-awareness levels, working together to identify their strengths and weaknesses, what drives them and what their ambitions are, and getting a feel for how each one learns best. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode The Art of Coaching with Brett Bartholomew Harvard 4-Drive Model - Harvard Business Review Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know change can be hard, so embarking on a journey of self-development and transformation means there will be pain involved - but is it possible to endure pain without also suffering? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal throughout your journey, and what actionable steps can you take today to reduce the time and energy it might take to reach your transformation goals? What to Listen For Why is pain an unavoidable part of personal transformation, and what is the best way to approach such pain? What is the difference between pain and suffering? How do you figure out your values and why are they important when it comes to pursuing a fulfilling life? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal on your journey toward self-actualization? Why is a reactive mindset counterproductive to happiness and fulfillment in life, and what steps can you take to turn your reactive mindset into a proactive one? What one question can you ask yourself to take back power and control over your life? How do you find meaning in terrible situations so you can thrive? What signs can you be on the lookout for to identify if you are struggling with resistance on your path to transformation? What 3 questions should you ask yourself in order to put your transformation goals into achievable steps? When you work out or train for an event, it’s important to push your body to its limits at various times so those limits can grow and you can improve as an athlete. You know when you are approaching those limits because of the pain you feel in your muscles, but if you stop when your muscles start to burn, you will not achieve the same results as someone who pushes through the pain to run the extra mile or get one more rep in. When confronting resistance or pain on your journey to self-actualization, you can choose to suffer in response, or you can recognize the value of the pain and push through it. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Resources from this Episode Episode 762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for Change Implementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple Plans How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Episode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness | w/ Russ Harris Episode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit | w/ Steven Hayes Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transformation can be accidental or intentional, but if you are going to change and grow as a person, wouldn’t you want to have a say in how you grow and who you become? What to Listen For Why are only the courageous drawn to self-development? How do you turn envy into a motivator rather than trying to hide it or eliminate it? What question can you ask yourself to make feelings of envy work for you? What is experiential avoidance and how is it correlated with low levels of life satisfaction? What are “doomers” and “bloomers” and how do doomers become bloomers? What should be your next move if you reach a point in your life and realize you haven’t accomplished anything? Why might procrastination be doing more damage to your future than you think, and what can you do about it? If you want to change your future, where is the best place to start and why might it not be the place you think? What is the difference between living life on the offense and living life on the defense, and why does one of the two make it far more difficult to achieve your goals? How does the pursuit of self-actualization lead to a snowball effect? What is the 5-5-5 technique and how can it prevent you from falling into a powerless state of mind? Self-development is only for the courageous. You must have the courage to face yourself and be honest about who you are and what you want. You must have the courage to identify your weaknesses and ask for help so you know where to start and what to work on. You must have the courage to live life on the offense so you can take intentional steps every single day toward who you want to become, even if it means falling and getting back on the horse. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. The new eero (2nd generation) and eero Beacon allow a customer to build a WiFi system that’s more perfectly tailored to their home than ever before! Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter discount code CHARM Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Thus Spoke Zarathustra Procrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulation Episode 718 with Chris “Drama” Pfaff - Overcoming Social Anxiety in Your Career Power affects performance when the pressure is on: evidence for low-power threat and high-power lift Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Where do you even begin if you want to get better at meeting people? Improving your communication skills is an excellent place to start. Communication is important in relationships, and even more important when dating. We’ll dig into best practices, tips and strategies for dating and meeting new people with Dr Laura Berman. What to Listen For What drew Dr. Laura Berman to relationship and sex therapy? What is the current state of sex ed in schools and why is it so inadequate? How does porn affect the way you get aroused and why is it doing more harm than good? What is the fundamental problem with the paradox of choice when it comes to dating and dating apps? Why is it so important to think about how you want someone to make you feel and how does clarifying that make dating easier? Can you use DNA to find your perfect match? What is the best way for you to approach dating in the #MeToo era? How quickly should you move from dating app to meeting and why is it risky to draw it out? Where can you practice conversational skills in low-risk areas and what happens if you don’t practice these skills? How should you go into dating as a parent and why is it so different? If you are dating as a parent, when is the best time to bring up that you have a child? What can I do if my mind goes blank every time I try to talk to someone I’m interested in? How do you keep the intimacy going in a long term relationship? What is the biggest behavioral predictor of sexual health in a relationship? What is the “want” underlying the desire to “spice it up” in the bedroom? What do you do if you realize your partner is no longer attracted to you? How do you rewrite your story so you can break out of dating the same type of people? Remember: A big part of having good communication is being honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you know what you like and don’t like, you know what you’re good at and what you’re not. That automatically filters out potential dates or relationships that come racing in from your dating app. And if you are honest with other people about who you are and what you want, it makes it easier for them to decide whether or not they want to keep spending time together. Being honest with yourself and with other people saves you headaches, confusion, and time - and time is the most valuable thing we have as human beings. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you! Resources from this Episode Dr Laura Berman Quantum Love by Dr Laura Berman Dr Laura Berman on Facebook Dr Laura Berman on Twitter Dr Laura Berman on Instagram Dr Laura Berman on YouTube Uncovered Podcast with Dr Laura Berman Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month and next, we decided to dedicate two episodes to parents and the valuable role parenting plays in our development as social beings. On this episode, AJ and Johnny speak with Dr. Alexandra Sacks, about Matrescence - the transition a woman goes through when she becomes a mother. You might be thinking, "well we call that pregnancy," but matrescence is broader than just the changes a mother goes through during pregnancy. Just as teenagers go through hormonal change and a reshaping of identity, matrescence operates in a similar fashion. Understanding and preparing for this life chapter can bring a more rich and meaningful experience to parenthood. Dr. Sacks is a reproductive psychiatrist at Columbia University Medical Center and Host of a new podcast called, Motherhood Sessions. gimletmedia.com/shows/motherhood-sessions Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating can seem like a torturous uphill battle for many men and women, but it doesn’t have to be - understanding how and why we are attracted to one another can have a significant positive impact on your ability to find happiness in your love life, but how do you take the science behind attraction and use it to make dating fun and engaging? What is signaling theory? What are fitness indicators and why are they so important to understand in the dating scenario? What scientifically is shown to make you more attractive in terms of signaling? How much of our behavior is guided by natural selection and what does the answer imply about humanity? When you want to dance in a social setting, what is more important than being able to dance well? What are many people doing wrong when it comes to their profiles on dating apps? What should you include in your dating app profile? Should you get professional photos done to use on dating apps? Why are we entering a new era of dating and what can you do to ensure you’re able to adapt? Why is working out a crucial foundation to start with when it comes to working on yourself from a self-development perspective? What is a tender defender and why should you aspire to it? What does it mean to stay true to yourself and how might you be interpreting it in a way that sabotages your behavior? As a parent, how do you create an environment for your child to develop grit, success, and resilience when they reach the dating age? Remember that you are alive today because every one of your ancestors was able to find a partner and start a family. You have the genetics to find the relationship you want, but it will likely take work to find it. Not only is it important for you to want to work on yourself for the sake of striving to be the best version of yourself, but it’s also important for potential partners to see that in you, so they know you are open to new ideas and experiences as well as always wanting to work on being the best partner. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Proper Cloth makes it EASY for men to buy dress shirts that fit perfectly without setting foot in a store or paying a fortune. Get $20 off your first custom shirt by going to propercloth.com/aoc. Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. You can try Babbel for free. Download the app or text discount code CHARM to 484848. Resources from this Episode The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller Geoffrey Miller’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices