Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I tried to stop vaping yesterday, I finished the book and everything made sense. I didn’t last very long! I’ve been writing it out and it clearly feels very unsafe to stop vaping. The identity is terrified and I felt so unsafe. Logically I know that vaping cannot make me safe, but it feels like it does, as it’s keeps the identity and separate self alive. It is bad for me and I am bad so… I can only stay alive in that identity. (It doesn’t feel anywhere near as threatening to do the walking/ water/ food side of things)What is going on here? I want health and I put poison into my body! I, I, I ?? Does it only shift in the subconscious and can nothing change until that happens? Or is that a cop out of me not wanting to take responsibility? Everything about stopping makes sense, so wtf?/child. It feels so much more than it is, like if I step into this freedom from harm, it’s game over for me, yet it also feels like it’s game over if I don’t stop??? I say I want health, life, energy but do I really or I am happy in the victim role? why is it so so terrifying??? I will keep looking at the threat of it, feeling so unsafe. I guess the deal was, I don’t matter so let me live and I’ll spend my live saving others and suffering myself, hurting myself? Love to hear your thoughts on this.

Thank you for a brilliant today's podcast. It helped to see it also from a bit different angle.We could so easly end our 1:1 conversation in total different direction...we could end in war. What are the odds of two people out of 8 bilion, who are different age, different cultur, different nationality, different background, different language, etc. to have a sane conversation which is healing for both sides :)What we demonstrated in our conversation and what you teach fills me with hope for all the humanity.And it really isn' t rocket science.

What is your definition of mental health? Listener question

How does forgiveness fit into this conversation?

My question is regarding this mind-body returning to being a tube….is this the same as Mindfulness (as in being the Observer?) And if not, what is the difference?

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Do you know that when you write “accountability” I scratch my head a bit. What is accountability again ? 🙄😂

I have been watching the violence in Israel in absolute horror. So many innocent people killed and injured. I feel angry not just with the perpetrators but also with my spiritual exploration because in these moments talking about reality and self seems to be nothing but bypass. A complete waste of time when what is required is action because of course this is real, this is actually happening. How do I not become disillusioned both with the state of the world and humanity and with non-duality that says there is no reality?

When there is no do-er, no chooser, no decider - how can a pattern of abusive behaviour, particularly towards others, stop? The pattern of ‘wanting’ to intimidate others is noticed. It isn’t wanted…….but how will it or can it stop?

Hi Clare, I am a listener of your podcast and I have a question I've been wrestling with for awhile that I'm hoping you can touch on. I am struggling with the teacher-student aspect of this understanding or any spiritual understanding for that matter. In my life, I feel like I constantly have so many questions about what is true or not, who is telling the truth and really just what is the truth? And listening to non-dual teachers, reading books, watching videos or anything is relieving a bit because it feels like I am getting an answer. But that feeling never lasts for very long and often I question the teacher themselves. I'm wondering if full understanding of truth is only possible through the self, with no external input. Is it necessary to come to the truth on my own. I realize this is rather ironic that I am asking you, a teacher. However, I'm not sure what else to do.

Clare you talk about the I, myself. That it doesn't exist. If this is so then who are we, and how do we refer to ourselves? I don't understand the message you are trying to give.

It was a great podcast thank you! I appreciate the wild goosechase reminders.The caveat seems to be that the mind will create resistance to feeling each time, there's no doer that does the resisting, it just happens, yet there's the witnessing of it happening that's also where the potential for it shifting is. The agenda is in the resistance. The witnessing of it has no agenda. For some reasons this feels like a paradox. Might be overthinking.It feels​ like there's a separate me that is the one that wields the willpower to overcome the resistance and feel sensations (agenda)...instead of a mind claiming that separation is real and then claiming that the separate thought stream is the doer.

I thought for a while whether I had any follow ups or anything but tbh I couldn’t take in your response. I keep asking people for help in the form of wanting advice or joining various courses, trying to find someone who gets it and to help me see what to do about various things, not just my daughter, but don’t seem to be able to receive the response and I’m not really sure what to do with that. As I write that I’m realising that that is what I’ve heard you talk about, the ask and the observing of the response. My response seems to be to not be able to take it in, the mind doesn’t seem to want to take in the response because somehow that makes it too real, too painful, so it just moves onto the next problem to fix. Always fixing fixing fixing but never still enough to actually slow down and look at what is going on. Or maybe my ask wasn’t clean, it looked like I was asking for how to navigate the relationship with my daughter, but as I get really still with that, I see that my question was an attempt to secure myself as being seen and loved by a system that, when identified, believes she isn’t. The situation with my daughter was a way to justify asking, so I suppose that’s why I couldn’t take in what to do, because it was never about that. See this is what my mind does, relentlessly analysing what the mind is doing and why and what that means and ugh, here it goes again!

Hi Clare I have a question for you separate from this video. I wondered whether or not you have a faith, believe in god or a higher presence? If so how important is this concerning living in the present moment, actuality etc, or does it have no bearing at all?

thank you Clare and the listener who wrote in about their conditioning of wanting to run away during a wake. I understand that there is no doer that changes conditioning but is it true to say that they way we act and behave can change someone else’s conditioning.

Email 1thank you so for talking about my email i do get it clare but it's so hard for me to understand my conditioning when everyone else's conditioning is like the same i no it's not the same but they seem to be able to be a part of gatherings and parties and me i just want to run awayi don't even know how i got this programme in me because my family are Irish and growing up we always had massive gatherings and i always would be hiding somewhere mostly under a table .i did read a school report last night and in the report i was 8 years old it said she has lots of friends but she is very much a loner. she will choose to be by herself my parents were very sociable and loved to play Irish music and have a Hooley and sing song well So it's just so hard for me not be like them and join in and have the crack i would stay if i could lay down underneath the table and just listen but thank you yer big stuff ❤️Email 2 hi lovely it's not the conditioning that needs to be dropped is it it's the mind telling stories like you're gonna faint, everyone is gonna see you on the floor i'm going to lose my vision my heart is beating so fast i'm sweating and my body needs to go that's what my mind is saying i no i have to have it all. I'm going to a 60th birthday tonight and of course I don't want to go it's crazy why does all this come at once

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As this part of the year our courses are in the direction of purpose I feel nothing as opposite from that. Feels like I'm functionally stoned. And there is absence of any pull or push feeling towards something.Have you ever had any experience like this?

hi lovely i just wondered if you could talk about how, you can stay true to your own self in the mist of everyone's else's truth like today I lost someone that I love very much and it was her funeral today and of course i went but i couldn't stay at the wake for very long i felt very sick i aways do even at my own dads i left i slip out i duck out the back i just go and be on my own just to be by myself. but after i do this behaviour my family don't talk to me they ostracise me; they won't talk to me for weeks i have to go around trying to make up with them sometimes in these situations i feel like a lion, without its pride, or just alone i love my family so much i don't feel separate from them just that i behave a bit different and in this i feel alone and then i become a bit desperate to get them back

I wonder also, if you'd be able to go through an experience from start to finish from an unquestioned mind perspective and then the same experience, step by step, from a wholly sane perspective. In slow motion?

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I'm watching the rest of the conversations from the THEM course that I hadn't finished yet.In one you say, "The gift is (insert whatever it is that we want that isn't happening or is happening and we don't want - in her case it's his not saying hello), so that the past response can be unlearned, can be healed. Because otherwise it doesn't get healed." Can you say more about how the parent, or the wholeness/truth that we are, has the potential to heal the panic, frightened response that was learned in a child state and that this can't happen when we somehow avoid the situation that brings up a projection from the past?

Many thanks for your podcast response to validation question today. Very apt for me that you refer to existential safety, as the first module I picked for my membership was Safe. For me, the formal validation was that I actually existed, as I was repeatedly told by my mother that in being born, I ruined her life etc. It is the suffering of separation on some level that makes one seek what is the Real of our existence. For those who have lived on the whole,full and happy lives without having felt the necessity to question or seek the truth of what they are, presumably they would already be the presence of their essential nature that is love or absence of separation, and I see that I have to unblock or unveil my true nature by letting go of my insecurities. And as I’m communicating this, I am now experiencing why my artistic expression and concepts have always centred on a search for lost love and yet the act of doing this is already love itself…

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I know not everyone needs to do this, but do you think some must do some healing around their trauma in order to have the capacity to feel all of the emotions from a more regulated system. Perhaps this is also necessary to shift and see things from more than an intellectual level.

Can you do a podcast expanding on this quote "The agenda to never feel jealous, or angry, or insecure is the opposite of peace."Thank you,

What about regret. I was not a good mother when my children were growing up. I spent a lot of time very angry and confused and I deeply regret that now. What can I do about that?

hi Clare, I've been around your work on and off for a while and read your most recent book which made me see how I’ve unconsciously used my daughter as a way to secure myself up until when she was about 11 when I had another child, before which we were inseparable. In physical terms I did all I could to include her when the new baby came but somehow my system made the new baby the way in which to secure itself (because my daughter was going to high school, which felt like she was leaving me) and she got sidelined really, not physically but unconsciously. There’s a lot of guilt and shame around this. That was 10 years ago. I’ve noticed recently how much her grumpiness irritates me, we don’t have much to say to eachother and her lack of what I could call kindness, care and effort to sort her life out grates on me. So I looked at where is that grumpiness in me? Where do I not sort my life out? Where am I not kind? I see I don’t take care of myself by eating properly, I fear being happy because it looks like I’ll be rejected if I’m seen as ‘ok’. so I see the mirrors and I am making efforts to eat better, rest and find an activity that brings me joy. I spoke to her last night about her rudeness and grumpiness and how sick I am of it. The urge to apologise this morning was huge! But then I just realised this morning, she has every right to be grumpy and rude and angry, I effectively pushed her away! No wonder she is angry and hurting and not sorting her life out and wanting me to rescue her! My question is how do I navigate this, which seems a tricky question because there is no ‘I’ to choose how to navigate it, but I also don’t want to bypass and not face what is going on. In honesty she isn’t much fun to be around and I don’t particularly want to be around her. I’m afraid of letting her back in incase she hurts me, as she has done many times, as I have obviously hurt her. It’s complicated and heavy with responsibility, blame, shame and trauma, and hard to articulate it all by email without making it ridiculously long! I hope it makes sense and any wisdom would be much appreciated. Thank you

Several times, I've heard you recall a personal story. It's that your family would enter the lottery each week, and each week, after you didn't win, your grandmother would say something like, "Oh, thank goodness for that." I'm not sure that I understand what you mean by it. Could you explain it a little more, please?

Dear Clare, I am beginning to see the possibility of this, but I get stuck on the same thing, over and over. I AM a separate physical entity in the relative world. Therefore there is a form of separation in my life. According to my understanding, what you are saying is that genetics and conditioning create my nervous system and thus Larry’s action figure goes on and does his thing and suffers in the world. Then, Larry acquires through his nervous system another understanding that says he is powered (and so is this corrupted insane nervous system) by consciousness, Brahman, awareness or whatever you call it. Then comes the reflection that is not obvious to me: I should give up my ego and settle into this awareness and basically cease to participate with any intention in the relative world. So the choice is have a life in the relative world with ego or watch the automaton or the robot that I am in the “real world”. The choice is between having any identity separated or having no identity “enlightened”. All this while it is clear I am a separate physical entity performing actions in the relative world. I think this conundrum may be why Syd Banks did not talk about non-duality in his presentation. I did believe my nervous system is insane, but at least “I” can have a relationship with the world with it. Help!Larry

Hi Clare. Just a thought re todays podcast following person’s comments about validation needing to come from within the self and not from outside as no one can give us validation. - I was thinking that it would usually be the lack of formative validation or reassurance by a parent that would lead to the sense of need to repeatedly seek it thereafter. But when parenting is nurturing/ validating/ good enough there wouldn’t be the need to search for it within. This kind of validation from the loved one parent(s) is surely the affirmation of the inside of who we are; the manifestation of essential love. When this love is present, isn’t this how we come to be able to access and automatically tap into what is Home (love) in us and make it work for us as all is one? 🤔

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can you please talk about intuition. There have been many times I have listened to inner wisdom - which I guess is the same thing as trust my intuition and it has turned out right. Is there such a thing as intuition and is this different from what you are talking about?

I keep wondering about faith (and I don’t just mean religious ideology), which seems to be fundamental for us to be able to come to awareness and let go of old conditioning patterns of belief. I do have an inner sense of spirituality and faith which I think I have brought to awareness through lifelong study, creative expression and trying to understand the causes of my suffering. But maybe what is missing for many people is a formative strong sense of faith that already knows on some level, its essential divine nature.

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I realized I am confused about accountability. I think of accountability as responsibility, self-responsibility or personal responsibility vs. ultimate accountability. Can you shake out this confusion for me? I can understand taking responsibility regarding one's conditioning, but then I can't put my arms around ultimate accountability as something other than self-responsibility, which it must be since there is no self. Thanks so much for the help through this confusion.

What if I am thinking stressful thoughts on purpose?I have once had an obsessive thought about sth. I remembered that I recently read that if you just let it be it will go away on it's own. So I just let it be and it went away. But than I thought "but if I think about it again it will come back".And then I started thinking about it on purpose to prove to myself that there is still danger. It has been two years now and I am still thinking about it on purpose. It is not a particular thought now. It is just a feeling of fear. Then I always get very anxious and can't sleep at night. Sometimes I forget about it for a while. But when I notice that I am not thinking about it it's like I can't help but think about it. I think the problem is also that I am in a constant fight/flight mode because of my physical condition (because of nerve, vene and arterial compression)I'd love to hear your opinion on this.

Hi Clare. I’m just re-listening to the Voice course I did with you a while ago. In it (on day 10) you mention about how our barriers go up and we literally can’t take in the information because we’re so busy trying to protect the I, the me. Is that what overwhelm is? I’ve noticed a lot recently when someone asks for advice or help or says something that threatens to take me out of my ‘hiding place’ of self protection that my system is doing its absolute best to stay in, I feel immediate overwhelm as if the mind is creating the overwhelm almost as a way to avoid doing the thing, to protect itself because it feels ‘too much’. Or perhaps it is a case of genuine fatigue, sensory overload and unmet needs, due to the system trying so incredibly hard to survive, because that really is how it feels. I can see there is a risk here of bypassing. Any insight around this would be great.

Yes it's a bit woo woo question this one. As we are learning about our true nature being life's intelligence in this apparent form. It seems somewhere on the way taking the form, this intelligence suffered severe loss of memory. Only explanation that came up for me about this is that, it gets access to the richness of all experiences that can come up in this complexity of the human body. And secondly if life's intelligence is absolute - omnipresent. Do all these experiences gathered from all forms get stored? Like life's intelligence is getting smarter and smarter.I would like to hear your thoughts on this?

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THE DIZZINESS OF FREEDOMThe rain falling on your head, and you brought no protection. Exposed, raw, you find yourself taking the next step. The heart breaking open, torn, ruptured, a bloody mess; only to reveal a thrilling courage you had forgotten in your search for comfort, and a kindness that only those who have suffered will understand.This strange love affair with uncertainty. The dizzying vastness of freedom. A tingly aliveness in the gut that you mistook for pathology. The path leading only into the unknown, all signposts gone. Not a path for the feint of heart, no, but for those who cannot lie any longer. And for those who have no other choice but to live. If it makes you weep, if it scares the shit out of you, if it takes you to the bleeding edge of your identity and makes you want to vomit... well, it may just be your path. - Jeff Foster

I'm re-doing Them 2022.I came up with an exploration about criticism.Because I hate my wife criticising me.So I had a look at who I criticise.My wife for her criticism!I also noticed a link between anger and criticism.Criticism of me angers me.And yet.I criticise the same people that I get angry about.

Please expand on these words "people are safe with the person who is prepared to hang out in the discomfort feelings and see what's going on there because it means no wars are started. To try and find peace within us, the war within us is identified and then peace."

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How do beliefs change? I hear about people doing "belief coding" which seems both ridiculous and sensible depending on how it is looked at. I guess now that the limitless nature of things has been glimpsed....the identified mind is looking for ways to open portals...but also there must be a logical way to do this...maybe? How do I make myself believe I'll earn £500,000 next year???

What is the role of belief in whether or not food is good for us?