Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Back to that old feeling of not being able to move on.Why is it that moving on seems impossible to some and easy for othersIs it because the memories make the feeling seem real still and yet my life is moving faster now that age is creeping in?It’s like an extremely windy day and if the grip of the hand wrapped around the pole loosens, being sucked away. Ouch, a passing thought right then came to light when writing this, trying to show something. My life feels like this, trying to show me something. Letting go, it’s this, yet memories hold life together, feels like no memories no life.Yet here my body is, resting writing this, a knowing that it’s present, a million miles have passed by, is the holding on the process of letting go, to free kife from this entanglement x

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Be of service: bad advice Wednesday

hi lovely i was trying to write something on your survey, but I couldn't write to you like that as it doesn't feel right Clare i have to write directly to you and then it flows well Clare that afternoon as i was sitting there somehow i ended sitting where everybody was looking because you both was alongside of me, and I could feel that i was ticking my shoulders were going my eyes were going and my hands couldn't stop moving as I was sitting there I felt everyone was looking my way and they could see me so I held onto my jeans with all my heart, because it was breaking open every single shame and fear was in that room that day for me and I had nowhere to hide I felt my body running as it was staying still I could see the your latch on the door in front of me, i even Felt my thumb opening it and running but somehow, I stayed and in my staying i felt tears in my eyes that I held back because i didn't want everyone to see me like that i was ina room with every relationship I ever had and i sat there for hours like that into there was no one sitting there so yer what was a course on relationships in the end there was no relationships love you

Waking from a dream that felt true and I’ve been awake thinking about it as though the situation is going to happened again when coming into contact with this person who attacked me randomly. Training in boxing for eight months, moved 900ks away and haven’t thought about it until now. It’s making feel anxious as around this time his partner comes up to the hinterland where my life moved too as we know the same people. Reporting to the police who wanted to press charges and get an AVO. Opting just to make a record, didn’t want to cause a scene for friendships that are no longer there anyway from this situation. Making lots of new friends from this move, haven’t made contact with any of the old ones, yet getting triggered from these thoughts, even though it’s only a dream, they still feel real.Feeling anger and hurt from his aggression towards me and for creating this separation with my friends. Even brought him into my friendships, didn’t know he was a narcissist who has hardly any friends of his own, found out after this happened.He is an excellent manipulator with words. Feels like the movie Dirty Rotton Scoundrels.Building up those friendships over the years to now gone through this conman! Still stuck in anger and it’s me who hasn’t moved on.Is it me creating stories that are not true.Is it me who created all of this through my thoughts, actions and self image.Is it me that can create change, can generate good thoughts towards him, so that if he is around again, would sending him love without any judgment, any fears, any harm towards myself be the way forward.The trigger is my father flight or fight I had to deal with throughout my childhood and teenage years, getting hit, five minutes later seeing if I want an ice cream xHaving had long conversation and many years in Dads company talking about it until one day, we resolved it and moved on.But as we know, healing part is one thing, triggers come into play at any given time.Maybe recognising this as a dream and my thoughts around it, enabling me not to get triggered.How to feel and be present with this feeling. Lots of question to answer.

Sara Priestley on human design: Sunday Conversation

Designing the mind: Ryan A Bush; Saturday book

Clare if you can say one thing to the world that's gonna really help, what would it be?

As I continue to explore this understanding in your membership, I am beginning to wonder if we have values. So many self-help programs speak of living by your values but if there is no Doer then are values just part of the illusion of separate self?

Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.Bad advice wednesday.

I was thinking some people in this conversation are in their minds and not in world so much. I had the same but in reverse i was in the world but never could i be in my mind. I thought the world and mind was separate. I can see now you can be in both and more and more my mind and the world are the same. I can be in my own mind now when I need to be and watch and observe the mind with a great deal of love and compassion for it's ways

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Jim and I had a conversation in the membership group about discomfort and what it is revealing. I asked his permission to share it outside the group.

So good they can't ignore you: Cal Newport. Saturday book

I have strugrled with explosive temper resulting in lashing out.My emotinns are triggerd by feelings of injustice done towards me. I suppose by expressing anger one feels justified standing upto the injustice. If you can help with some tools as to how can the self feel ok and not express anger even in the face of injustice and how to navigate it in a better way. I feel terrible after i have lashed out and the feeling of anger is gone,also nothing actually is achieved with display of anger but in the moment its so difficult to remeber this and not lash out. Thanks

Was wondering how to recognize a difference between having personal criteria for certain things and conditioning? Is this the same thing and conditioning got a bad reputation in these conversations, always being seen as a partybreaker?Example: My criteria for an intimate relationship is with a person who can commit to a monogamous relationship. I don't see a point to inquire anything about that. Tosearch for gifts in this.

Bad advice: Prioritise your mental health by...Prioritize your mental health by distancing yourself from people who create drama and toxicity in your life. Set boundaries and surround yourself with a peaceful circle that loves you, supports you, and wants the best for you.

Seeing and honouring the child vs finding comfort in the victim hood that our experiences seem to justify. I find this subtlety difficult. There's such a delicious sadness in my victimhood.

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On Sundays where possible I will publish conversations either with other teachers or with people on my programmes in which we look at different aspects of self and other. Today is a conversation with Piers Thurston recorded for his podcast about the nature of free will.

The Expectation Effect by David Robson: The Saturday book

I wonder what really causes beliefs to shift? Before this conversation I would have said experiential learning. Now that still looks true, but bizarrely without a learner or doer or knower

This I wanna ask since I read your book Ease and it really got my attention & find it powerful, but at the same time I can't get my head around it. You mentioned it again at our relationship retreat last week.It goes like : I need attention from my mother and my ignoring mother is the same thing.Can you say more to that? Is that literally the other end of the same conditioning, same content? Thank you a lot.Love you to the moon and back :)

Is there such a thing as freedom? Listener question

Is there such a thing as innate resilience and if so how do I access mine?

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I heard clearly what has confused me in conversations, mentioning "(personal) thoughts/believes" and "wisdom."What I heard was: "I was thinking about me being scared of something and when someone was in need I did the thing I was scared of." "My thinking fell away and wisdom came, so I just did it, without thinking."And now I saw, how sometimes I kind of wait for wisdom to come. But what is it? My thoughts not always look like wisdom at all and what I am doing neither 😀.So wisdom and thoughts? It came up to me that I always heard this as a separation and now I heard "wisdom" as a thought too: "If people are in need like this I have to help them." This thought just came up instead of the thought: "I am scared of...." and he did what he thought he had to do maybe before another thought came up.I guess it is not about wisdom OR thoughts/believes. It is all wisdom or all thoughts. And as I hear "thoughts" being not as good as wisdom I will call all of it wisdom: So for example: My thinking "I am not good at this" and I will not do it, is wisdom too. I safe myself. That is good (in my opinion). "I am not good at this" and I will do it, is wisdom too. I challenge myself. That is good (in her opinion). So we are all wise 😀. We don't have to wait. Do we? What do you think? If you like to think about this ofcourse. Thank you for reading!

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Just listened to the podcast about my question. I appreciate you answering it. It’s actually really crazy because you gave the example of a salesperson not feeling the rejection in the same way when it’s in that context but when it’s about a romantic relationship even the slightest hint of rejection is painful. Which is so true and interesting because I work in sales lol and I was thinking about this exact thing. That I can go all day and get rejected by prospect after prospect and while it can be mildly frustrating at times it’s not that difficult to keep a cool head about it but with this situation with this girl I was recently seeing who seems to have lost all interest and completely stopped contacting me is producing this excessive pain and also even obsession about it all. So anyway. Definitely think that’s very insightful and the synchronicity is fascinating lol. Anyway near the end you mentioned that these kinds of reactions are revelatory about something being believed that isn’t true. How do you locate what that is?

What is your view on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. Do they have a role in this conversation. Can they help understanding or do they make it harder?

And today I saw why cutting people off was/is such a hobby for me. I wanna cut them firstly and with that dissarm them so they can't leave me.Less painful if I leave them, than to be left by others.Only inteligence is capable to make such a creative defense.It is made from the same media ...conditioning & healing... wow :)

Just doing the weekend cleaning and listening to your today's podcast :)In the Life navigation suffering sensing can be much more accurate align to reality than running after good, plesant feelings?As a game of guessing (Cold-warm) we played as children.When we got closer to guessing what it is, someone said warm and we follow that direction.

Say we get rejected. Is it the belief that they shouldn’t have rejected us that causes the suffering or is there more to it

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Everywhere I go I see news or listen in car to radio it’s all about war it utterly terrified me I can’t sleepI feel I’ll terrified of bangs and planes please please can you help to tell me how to stop negative thoughts

I have a question arising from your comment about how even saying I love you can be seen as an act of war, or separation. My husband says I love you more often than I think is needed, or more so as a thing to say in life’s busyness, and I hear it as just words that I feel required to say back. I do love husband and I know he loves me but this habit of saying it bothers me. I feel forced to say it back when really I shouldn’t have an issue because I do love him.What is going on here? How can I resolve this for my own body/mind without telling him to stop saying I love you so much which seems ridiculous. You mentioned that it just takes one person in a relationship to shift so I am guessing it is my sense of separation that makes me unable to see his loving words as just words and say them back without the annoyance that I try to hide. Many thanks for all you have pointed me towards.

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There are constant books, so called spiritual teachers whatever that means, endless amount of courses to attend, therapist, psychologist, psychotherapist who themselves haven’t had an awakening, yet share their ideas and views from past trauma.So the question is ‘What is a wakening?’ Do we wake up one morning, walk outside and blend into nature x

It seems I’ve been struck down with chronic fatigue, fatigue syndrome, which is laying me out flat, quite literally on a daily basis. Of course, it is frightening and somewhat disabling and I just don’t know how to be with it on a day-to-day basis. At times, I’m tempted just to push through as it were and try and go about my day with a ‘chin up‘ attitude. Yea there are the days I feel I just can’t get out of bed and it seems my world is crashing in all around me. I just wondered if you had any wisdom or learning on this dreadful & perplexing condition and how one ought to really hold oneself within this whirlwind that appears to have got me stuck fast.

I recently caught up with your 5 days video series. In one of the videos, you talked about how some people say ‘The I doesn’t exist’ or ‘I don’t exist’ – and then you said something like: ‘That’s not true you do exist.’ My mind’s voice went ‘I exist!’ as if this was amazing, new news. Then it went into confusion – logically I know I exist in that I’m here and the ‘I’ that I usually experience doesn’t really exist, it’s a load of beliefs, thinking, feelings that isn’t an entity but can you say more about this for the mind and to help have a sense of what/who exists and how we can ground this? Thank you.

For the last forty-five years, the thought of ending my life has passed through my mind at least twice a week.It started when I was seven, attempted aged seventeen, and after that hanging myself is constantly in my thoughts.I’ve worked with a psychologist psychotherapist, and tantric teachers, I’ve explored somatic experiences, and brain therapy through shifting mindset, I’ve been doing Ashtanga yoga for ten years five days a week, been doing vipassana meditation for twenty years. I have wonderful friends, and lovely large family members around the world, I’ve had great intimate relationships, I have a business that surrounds me with female clients all day, I listen to you all the time, and yet here I am with the same thoughts of hanging myself. I’m currently on a mission to figure out the thought patterns, the emotions and anything else that arises.I’m not crying out for help or trying to attract attention. I’m still here breathing in love towards myself and constantly surrounding myself with positive people. I’m not searching on that level, just being at the present moment when the feeling arises to hang myself.Can you suggest something that may guide me a little further into the unknown I love listening to your podcast and all the questions others have asked.

I was listening to your podcast the other day and something you said around 'no truth in what the mind is projecting', made me think, maybe that's not true?! My mind projects something and it seems to come true time after time. Can you say a little about this?

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I am in a relationship in which I am suffering. should I stay in it to ‘get the gifts’ as you say or should I get out?

why look at the mechanics of how life works. Why can’t we listen to more of how to be in the world rather than look at how the mechanics of our own system works.

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Can you talk about trust and decision how do I make decisions in work and in relationships if there is no doer? Since following the three principles I have based my actions on following my intuition and wisdom and it has helped but now that this idea of no doer is thrown into the mix I’m not sure how to decide things.

That is one thing I find very hard to come to terms with re non duality - love. The love I feel for my husband feels/is so real, just as I am certain sure is the love you feel for your children. I'm struggling to accept how the reality of our deepest, most "meaningful" relationships seems to evaporate along with everything else in this understanding. But there's no understanding of this unfathomable-ness we find ourselves in that can render the desolation of those we love's death any the easier to bear, is there?