Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

This week we're looking at the past, and how a new understanding can completely transform the past. We're going to look at it from the perspective of what is true and what is useful. Because what happens is that the mind is so powerful and the way it represents things is so believable, that when the mind remembers the past, it looks like it's going  actually back to some event. But it’s not. The past doesn't exist as something somewhere. So in this episode, we’re going to look at what the past really is, and how we can change and transform it from the space of sanity and freedom.  What is Covered:  -What is memory and how we think about the past-How the mind organises information into past, present and future-Why one piece of information can change an entire event from the past-How to harness the mind’s superpower to interpret the past-The illusion of identity and the past-Looking at the past with understanding, sanity and freedom Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Cambridge Dictionary refers to the ego as the idea or opinion that we have of ourselves. We  can consider the ego as the ongoing conscious experience of existence and of what “I am” in relation to that experience of existence. But the current understanding of what we are is very individualistic and it's focused on that ego as being an entirely separate entity that is able to choose behaviour, to make independent decisions, that can be built up, can become more confident and can have more sense of worth until it becomes healthy, which is the ultimate goal. So the healthy ego is seen as an ego that has a substantial belief in itself. What we are going to consider in this episode, though, is that actually that is a completely unhealthy ego, and we are going to unpack what a really healthy ego feels like.  What is Covered: -Why we are so exhausted trying to protect our egos-What a healthy ego really means-How a healthy ego reacts to stress  -How a healthy ego relates to free will and willpower-Observation qualities of a healthy ego-Accountability and truth of a healthy ego   Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

I want to start this episode by introducing a thought that the way we've been looking at resilience is completely wrong and confusing. It’s actually creating a foundation in our lives that is profoundly unhelpful. So how about we start with this: consider that resilience is there to the extent that the focus is on the activity or the situation, rather than being about the identity. Because when the whole experience is about me and my self-esteem, my worth and what other people think of me, there is zero resilience. So let’s look at resilience in a different way in this episode.  What is Covered: -Why it’s unhelpful to search for resilience within one’s identity-The power of focusing the attention on an activity or situation-The lessons on resilience we can learn from sport coaches -The key to transforming the current mental health crisis-Two reasons why securing the identity is the end of resilience-The liberation we can find in learning and failures Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Psychology could be playing an enormous role in understanding what we are. And yet it's falling short, and that fact is contributing to the mental health crisis that we are finding ourselves in.The statistics are dire: in the last 20 years, antidepressant use in the U.S. has increased fourfold. 25% of people in Europe now suffer from depression or anxiety. Worldwide, depression is now the #1 cause of disability. 300 million people suffer from anxiety and $8 billion a year are spent on mental health medication. There is clearly something wrong. It shouldn't be the case that human bodyminds need medication to live and flourish. So what's going on? In this episode, we’re going to look at what psychology is, its shortcomings and ways to overcome them. What is Covered: -What psychology is and how it currently looks at identity-Why psychology is falling short of understanding how the mind works-The dangers of unquestioning identity-How securing the unquestioned identity contributes to the mental health crisis-Why the absolute focus on feelings is so unhelpful in the healing process-The role of medication in this confusion about the mind-The path to revolutionising mental health  Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Free will, choice, decisions, doership, control - however we call it, the real question behind all these things is, does free will exist at all?And the answer is that the "I" that I think I am, the "I" that thinks it has free will, the "I" that  thinks it should be in control, that "I" doesn't exist. I know it sounds a bit crazy, because the lived experience of being is of a separate individual, but that’s the fundamental confusion of the mind. So in this episode, I’m going to explore this idea of free will and the quest for control which is completely unfulfillable, and how we can approach it with more sanity and understanding. What is Covered:-Why the idea of free will is the epicenter of the confusion of the mind -Where our behaviour really comes from-How the belief structure that gives us an idea of what we are is formed -How to settle the mind into the space of inquiry and observation instead of control-Where to find the space of actual change and genuine transformation Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Today we're looking at the biggest question of all, the question at the heart of mental freedom and sanity.  What is reality?  To unpack this question, we’re going to analyse some quotes about reality by Albert Einstein, Deepak Chopra and Steve Chandler. We’re also going to explore the notion of “objective” reality, our self-understanding, the content of our mind and the learned beliefs of what we are. We’re going to strip off the layers from these ideas in order to see what reality really is.   What is Covered: -Is there an objective reality?- What makes the content of our mind - The essence of who we really are- Why we can’t secure our identity and why the ego is so vulnerable- How we can manipulate and spiritually bypass our understanding of reality- What true accountability is- Exploration and co-evolving our reality as a result of self-interactions  Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

What is security is an enormous question. As security is explored, we can start to see that the more the mind associates security in either external circumstances or an inner realm of experiences being a certain way, the more the mind becomes confused and our lives become disrupted when things change beyond our control. That sets up existence as being vulnerable and shaky, and our lives become smaller, more rigid and more dependent as the mind becomes lost in the grip of factors being the source of security. So in this episode, we’re going to dive into security and consider that the only source of genuine security is in whatever doesn't change. So what is that that doesn’t change and that helps us feel secure?  What is Covered: -What we normally consider as the sources of security and why that brings us suffering -Why the bodymind system that is programmed to react to perceived threats is at the same time normal and insane-Physical survival vs. identity survival-What really doesn’t change and what is there prior to life and to content?-How we can stop the blind search for security and cultivate a more open mind Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

The search for peace is at the heart of so much of what we do. Our actions, our words and relationships are all done in order to try to bring about peace and ease of emotional and situational being. It’s all very understandable and logical, because as a baby, we live completely in the present, with no concept of past and future, so peace is actually what we are. Once our mind develops and starts learning, planning, and understanding, it starts creating concepts and beliefs about our identity, and so our search for peace begins from that place of belief and conviction of separation. But when we start exploring the search for peace for what it really is, it starts a transformation in everything, from our motivation to our relationships and desires. So in this episode, we’re going to start unpacking what peace is and how to look at the search for peace from a place of openness and inquiry. What is Covered: -What peace is and why our mind is conditioned to search for it-Why our search for peace seems to be unsuccessful -How to get excited about not being peaceful-How to build capacity for discomfort when we’re experiencing suffering-The egoic challenge and confusion of constantly looking for peace-How to let go of control and start cultivating an inquiring mind   Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Shame, which I also refer to as an existential wrongness, is a deep feeling of  being somehow responsible for everything that we feel is messed up within us. That ongoing sense of deep wrongness comes from the most fundamental confusion about the mind, about the body, and about our behaviour. However, shame is both our greatest suffering and the point at which there can be the greatest sanity about what the mind is and what we really are. There are examples of people who’d hit rock bottom and were even on the brink of suicide, and then at the lowest point, something happens and there's a shift within the mind in which shame just cannot exist anymore. In this episode, we’re going to explore why we feel shame, the confusion that creates shame in the first place, but also the accountability of our perceiving mind for everything that happens to us and how we can get rid of the shame.     What is Covered: -Why shame is the ultimate confusion, why it’s insane and illogical-The toxic belief system that perpetuates shame and makes our life miserable-How to see shame as a gift of an emotion-Does it really make sense to get rid of the shame? -Why we are so focused on ourselves when we feel shame-What is source accountability or impersonal accountability?-How to find the place where shame ends and clarity and openness begin Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

For all of us, in some area of our life, it might be that it feels just like a struggle, like we're pushing water uphill, and the more we try, the more the thing that we want moves away from us. Or otherwise, it might be that we want more money or more clients, but we don't even know where to begin. Maybe we want better health, we want to be stronger, fitter, more flexible, and yet there just isn't that motivation in us. So what is going on when the thing that we want just isn't coming into our lives at all? This question is a way into having a profoundly different relationship with the mind and with the behaviour that unleashes the superpowered mind. Although it might seem a million miles away, the solution is actually already there, and it is so possible for all of us. So how do we get there?What it Covered: -The #1 confusion when it comes to not getting what we want-How come that our self and the thing we want are made of the same thing-The most common problem with getting what we want in relationships -The conflicting wants inside of us that prevent us from getting what we want-How to recognise the mismatch between our different desires and start getting them into alignment  Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

This week, we are looking at the origin of personality and the 'me' that thinks it has a personality. We can define personality as the tendencies, traits and preferences, the ways of being and behaving that are the result of both nature and nurture. They're our genetic inheritance and they are how those genes are activated as a result of the individual experience.  So our personality arises and develops over time, but can it fundamentally change? And is our personality really ‘our fault’? This is what we’re exploring in this episode.  What is Covered: -How our personality is formed into identity-What the bases of introversion and extroversion are-How introverts can become extroverts and vice versa-Why personality tests are not to be taken as definite-Why is ‘is my personality my fault?’ a wrong question to ask-How and why our personality can shift profoundlyResources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

There is an interesting connection between addictions and the individual belief system. All behaviour, including addictions and compulsions, is the product of whatever subconscious conditioning is in operation. There is no separate decider. As this becomes more obvious, harmful, toxic and problematic behaviour that was carried out to secure the ‘separate me’ falls away.  The problem with addictions is that we normally operate from an unquestioned belief that inside every mind, there is an independent chooser that is making independent decisions. In this episode, we’re going to unpack that belief in relation to addictions, and start making a shift towards sanity and the end of unproductive behaviours and habits.    What Is Covered: -Understanding the vicious circle of control and shame around our addictions-How the behaviour that we’re trying to change actually happens-Why it’s pivotal to explore the absence of a central decider inside our mind-How experience shifts from identified mind to an open, learning mind-How a radically different approach to addiction can reveal the truth of what you are Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Every day I speak to people who have intense fears. It can be in any area of life: fear of public speaking, of driving, fear for their health, fear of dying, of not having enough money, of being rejected, and all other areas of life.  What they're wanting, and what I wanted so desperately when I was in the midst of my public speaking phobia, was for the fear to just be taken away. But the absolute irony at the heart of fear is that the desperation for it to go away is exactly what's keeping it in place.  So what do we do to break this vicious circle? Let’s find out in this episode.  What Is Covered: -The dual core of many mental health problems including fear, anxiety and panic attacks-Why the fear won’t go away from the body and mind and what to do about it-How to understand fear as a gift and start questioning the constructs of the mind-The connection between fear and the projections of our identified mind-How to start shifting your mind away from control and towards curiosity and freedom Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Trauma is a distressing event that we can't cope with; that the body-mind system in that period of time doesn't have the capacity to assimilate, to recognise what's going on within the body in relation to it, or to talk about or find a way through it.  Often these traumas happen during childhood, because the child is completely dependent on the caregiver for their survival. And if there isn't the support of the caregiver for the child in that moment to deal with the frightening event, that trauma becomes part of the body and of the superpowered child’s mind. So today’s topic is a very big and important one - how past trauma influences our perception of reality, and how, through healing, understanding and integration, our traumas can become superpowers of sanity, compassion and freedom.  What is Covered: -How trauma creates a lens through which we see everything -Why our experiences can never be reliable-What indicates that the past is projecting onto our present experiences-The importance of support when dealing with past trauma-How to find peace, freedom and authenticity in our past experiences   Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Our mind is so powerful that it is literally able to cut itself off from reality. It believes whatever it is conditioned to believe. So all the suffering and unhappiness that we’re experiencing, for many of us comes from a deep fear, deep insecurity, a sense of lack, and the shame at the heart of not living up to expectations, of not comparing well to the people around us, and of having habits, addictions and emotions that we can't control. In this episode, we’re going to explore how we can better understand this struggle, how it draws attention to the incredible power and creativity of our mind, and the freedom of realising these things.  What is Covered:  -Why the mind is our greatest asset -How the misunderstanding of the power of our mind creates suffering and unhappiness-The conditioning of our mind and why the problem and the solution can never come from the same place-How to recognise the conscious and the settled mind-What spirituality is really all about-How to become more curious about our experience of suffering and struggle-How to start gaining mental freedom and align our mind with reality  Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

What do  we really mean when we talk about a superpowered mind? A superpowered mind is completely sane, completely in reality, with full access to all the data available right now, as well as all the resources of that individual's experience, including the experience beyond the personal, in the nebulous space of the universal subconscious.   This is all our birthright. The human mind is designed to be like this. So in this episode, we’re going to dive into the superpowered mind and how to start releasing its full potential in three stages.  What is Covered: -Why we’re struggling to access our superpowered mind-The three stages of realising the mind’s full potential-The lost mind and why it’s absorbed in suffering-Personal patterns, recognition of our conditioning and ongoing struggle-Impersonal accountability or the liberation of the superpowered mind-What it means that “there is no doer” and that “the perceive is accountable” Resources:  -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Let’s start with the most fundamental aspect of the origin of existence and experience of existence - the nature of the human mind.  So, what is the mind?  A simple question which we might not have ever inquired into, but which unlocks the entire understanding of ourselves and of reality. Everything begins with that question. In this episode, we’re going to dive into what the mind is, the two aspects of it, and how the brilliance of the human mind sometimes becomes our downfall.  What is Covered: -The two aspects of the mind: the conscious and the unconscious-How the conscious mind works-What the identified mind is -What the subconscious mind is and how it manifests-Are we really making our decisions and choosing our actions?-How we can better understand the brilliance of the mind Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/

Welcome to the inaugural episode of my new show, Superpowered Mind! This weekly podcast is for enquiring individuals who are tired of the struggle for peace, happiness and clarity.  I'm Clare Dimond, a certified coach who has worked with thousands of people around the world and the author of nine books on the mind and its potential. I am also an NLP trainer, BA Psych, MBA, yoga and meditation teacher and master hypnotist. I’m ready to help you explore the principles of the mind, the self and reality to unlock ultimate mental freedom.  Every day I speak with people with exceptional minds, who are highly intelligent, creative, imaginative, and very able to problem-solve and to think analytically. The one thing that these people have in common is some degree of struggle or suffering that shows up in their lives - whether in their relationships, career, finances, health, habits, their community or in their sense of being. With my years of training and experience in helping the mind settle into its innate well-being, intelligence and creativity, I support individuals and groups in a deep exploration of where that struggle is coming from. Because always and without  fail, the struggle and suffering come from an attempt to find peace, freedom and happiness where it cannot possibly be found.  Our minds are brilliant, but the brilliance of the mind and the struggle go hand in hand. It's my absolute privilege to untangle the misunderstandings, the insanities, the beliefs and the confusions, so that the mind is genuinely set free. On this show, we're going to look at all the different elements involved in the confusion and in the liberation of the mind.   If you're ready to experience the capabilities of the Superpowered Mind, keep listening!  Resources: -Download our exclusive recording Free Subliminal: Supporting the Enquiring Mind  bit.ly/podcastsubliminal -Learn more about me and my work at https://claredimond.simplero.com/ -Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claredimondreal -Let’s connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-dimond-b533007/ -Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clare_v_dimond/   

This is our last but one podcast for a little while. A brand new version is going to be launched on 20 March. There will be a Super-powered mind launch party on-line at 5-8pm GMT with special guests talking about their understanding of the mind. This is free and open to all. You are welcome to bring friends. Register to join the launch party: https://streamyard.com/watch/gKU8UZb5uv77I would gratefully welcome your support for the launch. To get involved and win some prizes, please join our WhatsApp group. WhatsApp grouphttps://chat.whatsapp.com/EzcQCBV1Orj1PaieTrjOisThank you for all your support over the last four years. It has been an absolute pleasure to have that connection with you. Love Clare 28c9973851340b540c38c1f2c0a8b9b375def44c

This is our last but one podcast for a little while. A brand new version is going to be launched on 20 March. There will be a Super-powered mind launch party on-line at 5-8pm GMT with special guests talking about their understanding of the mind. This is free and open to all. You are welcome to bring friends. Register to join the launch party: https://streamyard.com/watch/gKU8UZb5uv77I would gratefully welcome your support for the launch. To get involved and win some prizes, please join our WhatsApp group. WhatsApp grouphttps://chat.whatsapp.com/EzcQCBV1Orj1PaieTrjOisThank you for all your support over the last four years. It has been an absolute pleasure to have that connection with you. Love Clare Support the show

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In eastern practices anger is at its heart an energy of clarity. How does this relate - if at all - to our conversation? @⁨Clare⁩ . Is anger justified? I have read that it is the force that moves the world

I recently listened to the Driving Fear post on SAFE Day 11. I too have moments whilst driving where I fear swallowing the wrong way, choking and losing control of the car. It only happens sometimes, maybe when i become aware of myself. This swallowing thing happens at other times too, maybe if out for a meal, or if someone asked me something and it requires a lengthy answer, or in the company of many.My question is how can I best deal with these situations of choking and self obsession? Block it out or push through like i always do and regard myself as lucky it didn't happen? I have swallowed the wrong way many times and it's the most awful scary experience. At times when I haven't been worried. By pure accident rushing around. All experiences I panic because windpipe is blocked and I'm suffocating. It's horrible even recalling it.

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Can you talk about motivation . If there is no other, no reality then why would we do anything? Why are you doing this podcast for example?

I sat down with a child one day to ask how does it feel for him. he had become violent to another Child I said we need to discuss this as this behaviour is not acceptable, I asked him why he became angry and violent he looked at me for a while and said these words to me It feels like I'm in Disgrace land as i sat there taking those words in, I wanted to cry and laugh at the same time because I know disgrace Land only too well but I've never heard anyone say it quite like him so my only thought, as we were both siting there was this how do we get us both out of this land x

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I was listening to a video where a teacher was describing his understanding of "free will". The teacher was sharing that freedom comes from awareness. He went on to say that before awareness, we are programmed to operate from the conditioned mind. We are identified with it and in that state there is no free will. Once we begin to wake up, it appears we can choose not to operate from our conditioned mind or a thought but we can choose differently from presence, awareness. From what I've learned, choice is never in the hands of a separate me but rather action that happens that makes sense in the moment to a mind/body system. So is there "free will" (choice) and if so is that just another way to describe a sane mind? Less and less identification with thought, an idea of a separate me? The truth is that I get confused when teachers talk about you and choice when in our work, we say there is no doer and no choice. How can I sort that out so there is less confusion?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this ‘choice/no choice paradox’.“It is equally true that we have every choice and that we have no choice. (That is one of those famous Zen paradoxes we must grow into.)Through awareness practice, we come to see that our world continues to be the same not because that's the way the world is but because we continue to make the same choices. Making the same choices is the result of unquestioningly believing the same beliefs and assuming the same assumptions.”~ Cheri Huber

I came across your podcast about a year ago and love your take on non-duality and the crucial piece of allowing the experience to be had rather than using a non-dual conversation to bypass it.I have a question regarding the 15th February episode where you talk about going in deeper where there is discomfort or anxiety, and in the case of your friend with the anxiety about driving, to drive as much as possible.Over recent years, I have come to see that there was narcissistic abuse taking place in my family of origin. This discovery, together with exploring where behaviour really comes from, has been both painful and liberating and has shed an entirely new light on my tendency to prioritise pleasing others over my wellbeing.My parents are separated and now my mum is in her 70s and showing signs of dementia. She is even more emotionally fragile than she has always been. In her world, she knows better than everyone and has to teach them or put them in their place, and she will be vitriolic towards anyone who doesn’t see the world as she does. It has always been this way but now it’s like the filters are gone and it’s expressed much more openly. I can see the innocence in it and yet, it doesn’t make any sense to me to engage with her or spend time with her. It doesn’t feel right to make myself available as an emotional dumping ground, and there’s a jolt to the nervous system when she is aggressive towards me, which then impacts on how I function in my own life.So my question is, in a case like this, what’s the difference between having boundaries and going in deeper where there’s discomfort? I don’t think you are saying this but sometimes it feels like you are saying that I should spend as much time as I can hanging out with my mum so that I can feel the discomfort. My whole nervous system screams NO to that, and it seems that limiting or perhaps even ceasing contact would make sense for the health of THIS bodymind. Would you say that this is bypassing? Also I know in reality, no one else is coming to sort out care for her and I will have to have some sort of contact with her as part of this process.Thank you for reading this and I would absolutely love to hear your take on it.

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I am trying to break down my fears and understand what is behind then. Maybe due to my upbringing and environmental factors an learned behaviour, it seems I've always compared myself, been too self conscious, low self worth, self critical, etc. But behind it all I think i protect myself from being judged, found out; humiliated. It's all about the presence of others. It is such a strong force that it keeps me from doing stuff for fear of all those very things. I know we are all equal but it doesn't feel like that, or should I say, that is my perception.

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Is there such a thing as a healthy ego?: listener question

Thank you so much for the reply to my question in the Podcast "Protection" 2 February. It's taken me a while to let your words settle and really start to look deeper into the separate "me" that is still lurking! Initially my body/mind wanted to reject and ignore what you were saying - there was quite a visceral response in my body - punch to the stomach, anger and annoyance. So slowly and with a few days in between, I have listened to the episode a few times now over the last week and each time I am to see a little more. One part that I have found helpful, is where you said something along the lines of "the whole protection campaign continually maintains the inner psychological belief system" and "how the actual act of avoidance - eg. not going to the social occasion/party, etc in order to protect that self, is providing more evidence that I shouldn't go. Which in turn reconfirms the belief system, embedding it further." No wonder we feel like we are in a never ending loop!So even with fear and anxiety about what might never happen - I now move forward to do the challenging things!

What I have realised is that up to know and all my life is this huge separation of me from others self blame and self discomfort. Wishing I was one of my friends (growing up). I've just labelled myself all my life. I am this, I am sensitive, its my upbringing, I was lonely, I wasn't the popular one, she, hated attention, wanting to fit in. It goes on and on. Feeling I am abnormal, that i have a problem, I can't do this or attend that and standing out like a sore thumb for fear of humiliation, ny secret being revealed. Family and friends pitying me. This great importance of what i am. All of this concerns I, ME, SELF hugely and that's why it's such a huge issue in my life because I am looking for a reason, someone or thing to blame for my behaviour... like divorces parents, an anxious mum, so this is why I am the way I am. I an convinced I'm stuck with all of this. By removing ME removes blame and reason. It is very hard to do but I cam see its the answer.

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Just reflecting on connection being a biological imperative to ensure survival as a newborn.Could this tie in with why as we mature we replace the secure attachment needed from our primary caregivers by trying to secure the experience of being ?

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My sister has recently 'gaslit' me more than once and has now 'ghosted' me. She did pull me in originally ... until I stepped back and realised.But now there's silence because she won't talk to me, saying it stresses her out.So I feel stuck. Yes, I did want something from this other person - and now I must not. Am I looking for where "I am" doing this (or have done this) in some area of my life please?

I just wanted to let you know that the Energy Course was brilliant how much it has opened up and deepened my curiosity and inquiry into "Who am I". Thank you so much for your wonderful guidance and help in opening up the cracks, enabling me to see so much more.My question relates initially to Day 28 "Takeaways" video and then secondly to the Podcast question from 30th January regarding Energy and Capacity.You spoke about social situations and the use of alcohol as a coping tool in the Day 28 video. What if "avoidance" instead of alcohol is used to cope? For example, making social situations as something to avoid - easier to not go than cope with fear, humiliation, anxiety, etc.This is an area in my life that I have been looking more and more at recently. I see myself going to some social occasions now - but there still appears to be a lot of thinking and physical symptoms around them. Some occasions I just find myself not attending - this is then followed with shame, lack, remorse - why can't I just go, what is there to fear, dreading the next one.And then I listened to today's podcast (30 Jan) regarding Energy and Capacity. Brilliant question and answer! Near the end, what I took from it was, that there is no capacity at all to be with an experience, when all energy is used to protect and try and keep in place "that version of myself". Why do I need to protect "that version of myself"? I'm curious now? What's in it for the "ME"?

I'm going a little round in circles with the being movement and the document. I found great value in creating the document and identifying negative self beliefs that were under the surface and creating I am statements. However something is holding me back from speaking the document each day as it feels like "doing" being. When I am connected to my being, it feels like nothing else is required. I would love your input on this as I can see people have enormous value from this , however I want to be careful it does not play into securing the ego and identity.

A little while back you mentioned Human Design (which I know very little about), and it made me wonder how a system like that can fit with the understanding you talk about here. I would have thought trying to fit our experience into some system would only take us several steps further away from reality. But maybe I misconstrued what you were saying in the first place, or else there's something I'm not seeing (very likely) that renders such systems helpful even in this understanding. Is it possible you could enlarge upon this, please?

Was wondering about the connection between capacity & energy? Is there a certain amount of energy that is in the body-mind and is distributed/needed for different tasks and processes. And in body mind fortresses were built through conditioning, shocks, trauma ets. with closed doors on which is written STOP PAINFUL - DO NOT ENTER. And energy is spent to keep those doors closed & protected and nothing is left for capacity.

Totally on board with oneness in the moment of all that is true being intelligence in action and any separation coming from conditioning beliefs generating by lack or fear. What I can’t get my head around is are we saying that if there is no reality that life is an illusion because all those experiences of oneness are momentary then disappear? This leaves me feeling wobbly…