Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

In this encore episode from our archives, we share a classic Pleasure Mechanics framework that makes it easier to try new things in bed, lowering the stakes and clearing the way to learn new skills, get to know your own desires and develop erotic communication with your partner. Join us as an All Access Member to […]

Here’s how to initiate more intimacy, affection and erotic connection. Initiating can be vulnerable, scary and intimidating – but it doesn’t have to be. The more you practice, the easier it gets and you can create a culture in your relationship where you can fearlessly initiate, respond authentically and together create more of the kinds […]

What Erotic Attitudes do you yearn for? All too often, we focus on acts rather than the attitudes we bring to these acts – and this can leave us deeply unsatisfied or even frustrated. By zooming in on the energies and attitudes that you want to embody and experience, you will be on your way […]

Tune in and discover a game-changing framework that updates outdated, inaccurate and limiting models of arousal. Creating Arcs of Arousal invites you to allow an open-ended, expansive experience of rolling hills of arousal – rather than pursue one peak with an inevitable let-down as suggested by Masters and Johnson’s classic one-peak model of the Sexual […]

Sensation Play opens up a vast world of pleasure, if we dare to explore what our sensory bodies are truly capable of. Here’s how to get started with Sensation Play, starting with the every day sensations and sensory experiences of your life! What sensory experiences bring you comfort? What do you deeply enjoy? From this […]

Hands are the most underrated pleasure tool, and this episode is an irreverent ode to the fine art of Fingerbanging. We share why this is one of personal favorite erotic acts and invite you to explore the wide range of fingerbanging pleasures, from serene meditations to intense full body poundings! Ready To Explore More Pleasure? […]

What pleasure and intimacy could you unlock if you integrated more toys into your partnered play? Many of us have surefire pleasure tools that we use solo and yet don’t bring into the bedroom with our lovers, leaving big parts of our erotic potential behind. In this episode, we invite you to begin integrating toys […]

Join us for a rousing and stimulating conversation about the magic and myths of masturbation! For this episode we are in conversation with psychologist and professor Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons and Danielle Bezalel, host of the podcast SexEdWithDb to talk about The Magic Wand Study. This study confirms what many of us know deep in […]

Many people report having the best sexual experiences while on vacation – but you don’t have to wait for an expensive vacation to enjoy all the benefits of Vacation Sex! In this episode, we unpack the essential elements of VacationSex and propose a plan to bring the pleasures home by planning more sexy staycations! From […]

Primal play is a realm many of us crave, but rarely talk about. What does it mean to “go primal” or “become primal” or “play primal” like so many of us say we want? What do we really crave when we talk about primal play? In this episode, we dive into the wild realm of […]

What is Taboo to You? Where do Taboos come from and how do they function in your erotic imagination? Even the word “taboo” has a fascinating cultural history to explore! Join us on this free podcast episode to explore the thrills of transgressing taboos, discovering what happens when we speak the unspeakable, find connection rather […]

Service Topping is a verb – one we can ALL flex as a way to pleasure and lavish the people we care about! Service Topping is all about giving FOR the pleasure of the recipient, focusing all of the attention and intention on the needs, wants and desires of the recipient. Service Topping can include […]

In this encore episode, we share the Dual Control Model of Arousal, an essential piece of erotic knowledge to understand the complexity of turn-ons, turn-offs, and how to manage your own arousal. Explore more at PleasureMechanics.com/arousal Spotify Playlist of the Best of Speaking Of Sex Episodes Get ready to rethink everything you know about getting […]

Considering having a threesome? Tune in here first! On this episode we share what we’ve learned about how to have a threesome from our recent threesome experiences, and share a classic resource from the Pleasure Mechanics archive – click here to download our book How To Have A Threesome, for free! Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor: […]

What does it mean to have really good bed chem? Is sexual chemistry something that happens to us, or can we learn to be erotic alchemists? What happens when good bed chem fizzles out? Join us in this episode for a provocative and engaging conversation about Bed Chem – and how we can all get […]

Full Body Oral is an invitation to start exploring more oral play – on EVERY part of the body! Full Body Oral is a reminder that we can create so many different sensations with our mouths, adding depth of stimulation, unlocking emotions and intimacy, and adding new dynamics to the kinds of play you already […]

Let’s bust the myths around the refractory period that self-limit so many of our erotic experiences. Join us for this myth-busting episode where we cover the basics and beyond of the refractory period and all the myths about it that get in our way. Learn how: Ejaculation and Orgasm are NOT the same physiological event, […]

Want to last longer in bed so you can keep the pleasure going longer? Want to satisfy your partner and offer the kind of endurance they crave? You are not alone! We get a ton of emails from people wanting to make sex last longer and experience more satisfying intercourse. This Best Of Episode is […]

Here’s how to last longer, go harder and enjoy MORE of the pleasures you enjoy. Stamina is as much about sustained focus and managing distractions as it is an athletic feat, and the skills of stamina can be built with practice! This episode offers practical strategies for building your stamina for life’s greatest pleasures, in […]

How we offer and give our time, gifts and attention matter in all of our relationships. And when we cultivate the skillset of becoming responsive givers of erotic pleasure we are able to offer our lovers more specifically what they want and enjoy and can then offer more sexually satisfying experiences to our lovers. In this […]

How do you like it – Tough, or Tender? For many of us, what we truly crave is an exquisite blend of Tough & Tender, Rough & Romantic, Intense & Intimate. Tough & Tender don’t have to be opposite ends of a spectrum or mutually exclusive – we can revel in the delicious combinations of […]

Join us in conversation with Dr. Ina Park, author of Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs In this essential episode we cover how to talk about sexual safety without stigma, the real risks and rewards we navigate as sexually active adults, and how we can all create a healthier, […]

In this Best Of Pleasure Mechanics episode, we explore bringing the foundational attitudes of mindfulness into erotic exploration, getting kinky and expanding our sense of sexual self. One of our coaching clients told us that this episode was a game-changer for them, allowing them to approach bringing kink into a relationship after FIFTY years of […]

Join us to explore how to enjoy safer sexier oral play in this Pleasure Mechanics interview with CEO and founder of Lorals, Melanie Cristol. Ready to uplevel your experience of oral? Join our Oral Mastery Course for an immersive, experiential course in oral pleasure for all bodies! More About Lorals: Lorals has revolutionized oral sex. […]

We all deserve compassionate, culturally relevant care. In this nourishing conversation, we speak with Dr. Nazanin Moali, clinical psychologist & addiction specialist, about how we can all create more empathy and freedom for one another. We talked about how she works with clients from conservative backgrounds to get free from toxic conditioning, without leaving beloved home […]

Techniques are efficient, strategic ways of getting a job done or wanted outcome achieved. Advanced Techniques bring together many skills at once to create extraordinary results – and that’s what happened when we brought our 20 years experience as somatic sex educators to the quest of creating the most comprehensive, powerful curriculum about oral play […]

Has oral become a chore? Do you offer dutiful or obligatory oral, but struggle to enjoy it? What happens when we go beyond the scripts and shoulds and start getting curious about what else is possible? Grab our FREE Recipe for the Best. Oral. Ever. here! or jump into our brand new course and master […]

Here’s how to wake up your mouth as a site of erotic pleasure, power and expression. In this episode we share the first step of oral eroticization – becoming aware of your mouth as a place of enjoyment, on your own terms, and doubling down on the pleasure you experience from your own mouth. Want […]

Our brand new course is ready for you to devour! Join us for guided immersive exploration of oral pleasure for ALL bodies! You can explore the self-paced online course or join us for the group coaching cohort – be one of the Lucky 69 participants to join us as we come together to dive deep […]

It’s time to stop dick shaming in all of its forms – from small dick jokes to cruel comments to the hypersexualization of some men and emasculation of others, it is time to call an end to a culture that normalizes dick shaming. Thanks to Hims.com/Pleasure for sponsoring this episode. If you want to start […]

After peak life experiences, there is often Drop: a physical and emotional experience of let-down, depletion and weariness. Knowing about Drop we can better plan for it and tend to it – so we can get ready for our next peak experience! Tune into this episode to learn about Drop, how we can prepare for […]

Shame Slayers, Unite! For the all-new 25 minute video teaching on how to effectively slay the shame and reclaim fearless belonging, please join us for free in the Pleasure Pod! Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells […]

Mapping your Peak Erotic Experiences is a powerful practice to mine your personal history for clues to creating a better sex life for your future! The Peak Erotic Experiences Practice comes to us from the late great Dr. Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind, who suggests that we use our own Peak Erotic Experiences, […]

Erotic Touch Activation is our Pleasure Mechanics process to awaken your touch, activate your hands as erotic tools and sensitize your sense of touch. Erotic Touch Activation allows us to shift out of “working hands mode” where we use our hands for functional touch and into using our hands as erotic tools of sensing, feeling, […]

The Five As of Erotic First Aid : What To Do When Good Things Go Wrong As Chris recovers from a recent sex injury, we share the five steps of offering Erotic First Aid. From broken bed frames to thrusting gone askew, we share stories of sex injuries and accidents and offer a reliable framework […]

Praise can feel like loving strokes that go right to our soul’s sweet spots, giving us the affirmation, acceptance and encouragement that so many of us crave – but can also cause embarrassment, discomfort or even humiliation! Some people love being praised for their physical appearance, and others find this distracting. In this podcast episode, […]

Emily Nagoski shares the game-changing tool from her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. The Core Emotional Floorplan is a framework that allows all of us to more clearly see and share their own unique emotional experience, and find pathways back home towards Care, Play and Lust. Join […]

In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and […]

When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a wide range […]

Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need […]

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a […]

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Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant […]

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental […]

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore […]

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to […]

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you […]

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your […]

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex, and share strategies and tools for deepening our enjoyment of the many pleasures of vanilla. […]

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is […]