Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Arielle Greenberg, author of Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness (Beacon Press, 2023) Explore more of Arielle’s work here. We […]

Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if you have very different kinks or even if only one of you is kinky! Join us in this podcast episode […]

What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – rich with excitement, meaning and purpose. Unroll your map of possibilities and gaze at the expansive horizons with us, and get […]

The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking the golden rule – and started exploring the true meaning of reciprocity, mutuality and generosity. Thanks […]

Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch starvation, and the impact on our lives can be dire. The good news? Touch […]

What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be expressed through you? What kind of erotic artist are you ready to become? In this episode we bask in […]

What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this episode is an anthem to the power of desire. We all have deep desires that we hide away from those we […]

We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework to use as we reflect on our erotic lives. This podcast is a continuation of the ideas we shared in podcast #297: Surviving […]

If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink gives us the chance to efficiently and safely explore what more is possible. MiniKink invites you to create very short, […]

Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and tender conversation of getting intimate while bleeding. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global […]

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we […]

Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, intimate embrace is an erotic technique that we can all explore in our own way, and this episode explores this move in […]

On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can start noticing the responsive desire that stirs within, and find our own Responsive Kinks! In this episode we invite you into the practice […]

What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with both the physical practice of stretching whenever and however it feels good to you and the emotional practice of stretching […]

Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about our cultural and personal histories. How do we find more comfort, safety and freedom in our skins? How do we […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. One of our anthems since the very early days has been : Prioritize […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us. Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love. We can […]

Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-stimulated and unsatisfied. In this episode, we explore how to prioritize readiness when […]

The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small […]

Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier and More Purpose Filled Life. She […]

It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, affirm your desires, and go after what you want, in and out of the bedroom? Get discounts on pleasure […]

If you crave rougher sex, but don’t know how to ask for it or suggest it to your partner, this is the podcast episode for you. And if you already love rough play as part of your erotic life, tune in to gather strategies to take your rough sex to the next level. Explore sensation […]

Electrify your erotic life by exploring sensation play, intentionally intensifying sensations that you already enjoy and boldly exploring new ranges of sensations. From soft and silky to rough and scratchy, there is a huge range of sensations to explore and experiment with. In this free podcast episode we guide you in getting specific about the […]

Tune into this episode to discover how we ALL can tap into the energies and pleasures of erotic roleplaying – even if you never want to put on a sexy costume. Get discounts on LoveHoney, Uberlube and our other sponsors here When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come […]

Curious about butt stuff but don’t know how to get started? Love butt stuff and want to level up your knowledge and know-how? Tune in for a wholesome, friendly conversation on butt stuff for all bodies – and how to keep it pleasurable, pain-free and safe. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our […]

Get discounts on Uberlube and pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Getting the touch you want doesn’t have to be a matter of luck – we can all learn how to ask for the touch that we want, give feedback that gets us more of the specific kind of touch we most like, […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Asking great questions is an essential skill for better sex, deeper intimacy and embracing growth in all arenas of life. But there aren’t a lot of places we learn to ask great questions for better sex – so tune in to discover how to […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Erotic Dominance and submission can be a potent source of arousal, thrill and connection for us all, if we dare to explore with curiosity and honesty. In this episode we discuss how we can all tap into the fuel of erotic dominance and submission, […]

Tune in to hear Pleasure Mechanics Chris and Charlotte share intimate details about opening up their marriage to new erotic connections. This episode is shared from our friends at The Open Nesters Podcast – tune in for more great conversations about opening up long term relationships. Check out all of the generous offers from our […]

An invitation into a more complex and compassionate conversation about pregnancy – wanted and unwanted, viable and unviable, aborted and miscarried, carried to term and lost mid way – and the tremendous emotional charge and disenfranchised grief so many of us carry. We are ALL connected in this conversation and can begin tending to one […]

Erotic Pride is about coming home to our inherent dignity and worth as human erotic beings. Erotic Pride is for us ALL and is a powerful antidote to shame. On this podcast episode, Pleasure Mechanics Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose discuss how taking pride in your erotic life can be a portal to […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here We all have many sexual orientations – overlapping and dynamic expressions of who we are as erotic creatures, what kind of relationships we want to have and with whom, and what kind of sexual connection we want and how often! On this podcast episode, […]

Coming out is a process of allowing yourself to be seen more fully, and to experience more belonging and celebration for who you are as a unique erotic being. Coming out is for ALL of us – and is a process we can all engage with again and again, as an act of personal and […]

If you are concerned about the state of sexual freedom, reproductive rights, access to health care and wondering how you can still get horny when the world is on fire, you are not alone! Join us in conversation with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation about how we can all step up and take action to generate […]

Practicing non-judgment is at the core of mindfulness and our approach to Mindful Sex. Learning how to recognize and release judgment serves to bring us deeper into our present reality, align us with our values and create connection with others. But like so many essential skills, developing the attitude of non-judgment takes time and practice. […]

Join us in conversation with the ever wise somatic psychotherapist Dr. Holly Richmond, author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. We all can practice reclaiming pleasure, in big and small ways, throughout our daily lives. In this interview, Dr. Holly Richmond guides us in understanding the […]

Mindful Sex invites us to practice paying attention, on purpose, with empathy, during states of high arousal. But “paying attention” isn’t always so easy, especially in the charged realm of sexuality. There is plenty to pay attention to during sexual encounters – how you feel, how it feels to be with your partner, on the […]

Think about the excitement and curiosity you brought to your first consensual sexual experiences – those first kisses, first times seeing people naked, first sexual encounters. The awe and wonder of these moments might be palpable in your memories. Now think about seeing a long-term partner naked. Doesn’t quite have the same charge, right? To […]

Discover how to use your hands, mouth, toys and full body to create dual zones of erotic stimulation to amp up the pleasure, erotic interest and arousal. Ready to master erotic touch? Join our Erotic Touch Mastery online course and let us guide you, stroke by stroke, in leveling up your sex life. Thanks to […]

Discover the powerful pleasure potential of the perineum in this podcast episode, where Speaking of Sex hosts Chris and Charlotte Rose share all about the perineum, why it is so important in pelvic anatomy, and how to stimulate the perineum for more pleasure, arousal and relaxation. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of […]

Sexual confidence is a feeling state that so many of us want more of, but it can feel elusive or out of reach to attain. How do we build sexual confidence? What does sexual confidence look and feel like – for you specifically? In this podcast episode we tackle the elusive question of gaining sexual […]

Erotic Grief includes a vast range of experiences of erotic loss, longing and loss of belonging. Erotic grief includes the grief of sexual assault and abuse, but also medical loss and trauma, infertility and reproductive health, and not only the loss of belonging due to shame and fear of coming out as our true selves, […]

In this episode we explore how to navigate consensual non-monogamy in relationships. We talk with Kate Loree, sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamy and author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. We cover what the differences are between the terms Consensual Non Monogamy, Ethical Non […]

Erotic spanking is an erotic experience like no other: a sweet spot between erotic massage and foreplay, between sex and kink, between tender and rough. In this episode we explore the sweet spot of a great erotic spanking, and how to find that “just right” feeling and give your lover the specific kind of erotic […]

From gentle affectionate pats to deep impact play, percussive touch is a category of touch and sensation play that is often underexplored and underused. Tap into the power of percussive touch with this free podcast episode from The Pleasure Mechanics. For sponsor links and discount codes on pleasure toys and tools, click here! Percussion includes […]

MicroMassage are moments of touch, offered with full presence, care and skill, to create a powerful experience of pleasure and intimate connection. MicroMassage can be offered in tiny moments throughout the day, weaving little moments of pleasure and relaxation, communication and connection into everyday life. MicroMassage can take be offered in simple moments like while […]

Understanding Sexual Shame, an interview with Rahim Thawer In this episode we dive into the complex terrain of sexual shame, and explore coming into a more compassionate relationship with shame. In conversation with therapist, social worker and thought leader Rahim Thawer, we talk about the social experience of shame, the ways we protect and defend […]

Sometimes instead of heating it up and throwing more gas on the fires of arousal, we need to chill out and cool it down. Cool down is an essential part of the pleasure cycle that we don’t often pay attention to or develop skills around – so sometimes cooling down can feel more like throwing […]

Just hold me! Sometimes, just being held in full loving presence is exactly what is needed. In this episode we explore the erotic power of holding and being held, holding still, self-holds, a pause during arousal, holding one another in a long hug, and even holding one another in compassionate conversation or quiet presence! Being […]

“I want more romance” and “I want more romantic sex” are themes in many of the emails we receive from our listeners, and while the yearning for “more romance” is so common, what each individual means by this phrase and what it would look like to experience “more romance” is wildly and wonderfully unique to […]