Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Are you or your partner too ticklish to touch? When you try to relax into massage, do you instead feel jittery, anxious, nervous or ticklish? Do you tend to get overwhelmed when trying to get aroused? If any of this feels familiar, this episode is for you! No one is “too ticklish to touch” no […]

In this episode we are in conversation with Shango Los, host of the Shaping Fire podcast, about the connections between cannabis, pleasure and erotic intimacy. Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this episode. To explore their full library of erotic education, visit http://beducate.me/pleasure or use the code PLEASURE for 65% off the yearly pass. We explore the […]

In this interview with sex therapist and podcast host Nicoletta Heidegger, we explore the terrain of troublesome turn-ons – when what we desire also causes us distress, worry or is perhaps illegal or even impossible to fulfill. Troublesome Turn-Ons are the desires that not only excite us, but cause anxiety, fear, shame, guilt or concern […]

Ignite your erotic touch skills, activate your hands during sex and uplevel every aspect of your sex life! Every erotic experience can be made more pleasurable by the simple act of bringing in more touch – using your hands to touch every inch of your lover’s body, especially during high arousal acts like oral sex […]

If you want more sensation, arousal and pleasure, activate and sensitize your erogenous zones! In this free podcast episode we dive deep into where the erogenous zones are, how you can awaken and activate them and specific steps to develop sexual responsiveness in any area you choose. The body is rich with nerve endings ready […]

On this tender and compassionate episode, we talk about claiming an erotic life beyond intercourse, if penetration is not available for any number of reasons, for any length of time – how can we explore, connect and enjoy a fulfilling sex life without intercourse or penetrative sex? We hear from listeners all the time with […]

Many people crave big penetration, fisting, double penetration and other forms of being “filled up” and yet often these desires go unexplored due to shame, fear or lack of knowledge and know-how. In this podcast episode we dive deeper into our Playing With Penetration Series and discuss big penetration, fisting and other forms of maximum […]

There is so much more to penetration than the in and out stroke we all know all too well. In this rousing episode we explore all the ways to pleasure and play internally during penetration. From techniques to create all new ranges of sensation to the emotional experience of deep penetration, this episode opens up […]

Penetration is amongst many people’s favorite erotic acts, but also one that has been severely limited and disrespected by the historical scripts of intercourse. There is SO much more possible beyond repetitive in-and-out intercourse. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global team of Pleasure Partners: Many people long for more passionate, […]

The Masturbatory Assist is a game changing strategy that unlocks way more pleasure, intimacy and shared joy in relationships. In this free podcast episode we explore how you can use the Masturbatory Assist to create more closeness in long term relationships, long distance relationships, and relationships with “mismatched libidos” or when one partner is not […]

If you are bored with sex, stuck in a rut or ready to explore beyond traditional sex scripts, this episode is for you. We explore how to start expanding your erotic horizons, explore your desires, initiate vulnerable conversations and grant yourself permission to try new things, in and out of the bedroom. Be sure to […]

This podcast episode is an invitation into the lifelong process of curating your erotic expression and exploring your creativity. In this episode we look at erotic expression specifically through the lens of the toys, tools, accessories and costumes we bring into our erotic realms. This includes everything from lingerie and clothing to toys and kink […]

Getting off script means confronting the social scripts, expectations and norms that have shaped who we understand ourselves to be, in and out of the bedroom. Getting off script requires us to examine our social identities, both assigned and chosen, and determine where we have more agency to express more of who we are and […]

What is a Power Bottom? What does it mean to Power Bottom? Can anyone be a Power Bottom? Does power bottoming mean you have to also be a size queen? We explore all these questions and more in this free podcast episode, the Power Bottom Playbook. Being a power bottom is all about receiving with […]

If triggers are the cues that send our body into stress and survival mode, glimmers are the antidote. Glimmers are our invitations back home into a state of calm, safe social belonging. Glimmers are moments that remind us to return to pleasure, rest, calm and connection – no matter how big the storm around us. […]

In this episode we speak with Jamila Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin, authors of the new book With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. We cover the basics of what trauma is, the lifelong impact of trauma, how trauma disrupts our safety and social belonging, what triggers are (and are not!) […]

What does it take to design the ultimate handjob machine? Can a device really deliver smooth satisfying strokes? How can we keep the Sex in SexTech? In this special episode of Speaking of Sex, we speak to Jens Petter Wilhelmsen, founder of the company behind The Handy, the world’s most innovative and satisfying stroking device. […]

Sex toys and pleasure tools range from simple devices to elaborate machines, from mild to wild, from tools to assist in comfort and reduce pain to toys that create extraordinary sensations – the world of pleasure tools is boundless! In this episode we invite you to explore the wide world of pleasure tools, clear up […]

Want a hotter sex life? Then keep it warm, so it is easier to get hot! In this episode, we explore how to “warm up” to eroticism in your daily life, so you can experience more warmth and vitality, enjoy more pleasure and connection – and, when the time is right, get hot and experience […]

Afterglow is one of the most enjoyable parts of pleasure – but we often rush through or skip over this phase entirely. In this episode we explore how to bask in the afterglow, extend the afterglow and even how to mine the erotic wisdom that is only available in the precious state of afterglow. Afterglow […]

It’s National Orgasm Day! We always like an excuse to celebrate pleasure, but orgasm is one of the most misunderstood parts of the sexual experience, and stands in as a measure of sexual success instead of an experience to be savored. In this episode, co-hosted by therapist and author Lucie Fielding, we break down orgasm, […]

We’ve been in Pleasure Mechanics uniforms for 15 years and this is our 400th episode! We’re celebrating by featuring calls from our global community of 11,000 pleasure seekers. New to Pleasure Mechanics? Enroll in our free online course and get started with our most essential frameworks for more pleasure: Free Pleasure Mechanics Online Course Ready […]

In this conclusion to our Thrilling Sex Series, we explore the difference between Intense and Extreme when it comes to erotic experiences. Click here for the complete Thrill series and curated resources. Intense is a matter of degree, force or volume. Any experience can be made more intense through deeper engagement with our attention and […]

Thrill and Delight are both experiences of Peak Pleasures – but what separates thrill from delight? What can we learn from Thrill to allow us more Delight in our lives? In this episode of Speaking of Sex, we continue our conversation about Cultivating Erotic Thrills. For the full series and complete resources, check out PleasureMechanics.com/thrill […]

Want more erotic thrill in your life? In this free podcast episode, we discover how to cultivate more thrill in your sex life – without risking it all! The experience of thrill is all about experiencing peak pleasure with the full-bodied attention that is sparked by real or perceived risk. Most humans crave some level […]

Psychogenic Arousal is a human superpower that many of us forget we have! Just like we can make ourselves quake with fear by thinking about scary things, we can create full bodied experiences of pleasure, excitement and arousal through thoughts alone! Pscyhogenic stimulation is all about turning yourself on by with our minds, and it […]

Play is an essential part of the human experience – yet many of us adults have lost touch with how to play, in and out of the bedroom. In this episode, we explore how and why humans play, and how we can all get more playful with ourselves, each other and the world around us. […]

“How free are we to determine how we experience and express our sexuality? How much is this determined by the structures around us?” These are just two of the very big questions and ideas we encounter as part of the adventure in Meg-John Barker and illustrator Jules Scheer’s Sexuality: A Graphic Guide In this episode […]

Bored of masturbation? Stuck in a rut? Uninspired? Here’s how to uplevel your solo sex life and become a better lover for yourself! This episode explores everything from unpacking your attitudes and beliefs about masturbation to getting out of childhood patterns, from exploring new positions and toys to how to bring more intention and emotion […]

Quick Links: $50 off our Mindful Sex Online Course Roundup of Speaking of Sex episodes about masturbation and practicing self love! Mindful Masturbation : A Practice Of Pleasure & Self-Compassion The primary erotic relationship of your life is with yourself! Accepting this simple truth can be both confronting and liberating, allowing us to develop a […]

Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some shame. Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of love. Shame tells us if […]

A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact of the past 40 years of abstinence only sex education in schools. Going far beyond the classroom, Alex embarks on an epic journey into […]

Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This book introduces you to research-backed frameworks that help you understand your own experience of sex. You’ll get […]

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge. We look at the anatomy of social safety, fear vs. excitement, and the autonomic nervous system. Then we […]

A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE. Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me about your fantasies. . .” While this is a great question to ask, you can run into trouble if you mix up Fantasy with […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. Here’s just some of what we believe about pleasure. Ready to explore with […]

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day rolls around every year – as some version has for over 2500 years! With it’s roots in pagan fertility festivals and it’s future as a multi-day festival celebrating all kinds of love, Valentine’s Day is here to stay. So it is time to rethink Valentine’s Day, again! In […]

Our friend and teacher Dr. Alexandra Solomon has spent over 20 years working with couples as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and teaching the popular Marriage 101 course at Northwestern University, and is the author of two bestselling books on love and erotic intimacy. Dr. Solomon is one of the teachers we most love […]

Big thanks to Marie Jenicek from This Thing Called Movement Podcast for allowing us to share this beautiful interview. In this interview between Charlotte Mia Rose and Marie Jenicek, discover: how Charlotte got into this work originally why Chris and Charlotte started Pleasure Mechanics why touch is an underestimated essential for our wellbeing how shame gets […]

Here’s how to set erotic intentions – for the New Year or any time you want an erotic reboot. Intentions are how we align our daily actions with our values and desires. Intentions help us live with integrity and be active creators in our own lives. This episode is a must-listen if you want to […]

Do you long for the days when you loved sex? Miss the lusty new relationship energy that made you never want to get out of bed? Do you worry you will never enjoy sex again? If so, you are not alone – we hear every day from people with versions of this question: is great […]

If you are wondering how to practice gratitude, even in tough times, this episode is for you. This encore episode offers guidance on how to practice gratitude all year round to create more pleasure, joy and connection in your life. We’ve gathered more tools on how to practice gratitude for our Pleasure Pod members, including […]

In this encore episode (first shared back in 2013!) we share our framework of Erotic Game Play and invite you to start creating playful baby steps towards the kinds of erotic experiences you crave. Humans love playing games. From puzzles and word games to ball sports and races, humans love the thrill, challenge and emotional […]

How do power dynamics play out in your marriage? What are the hidden power struggles getting in the way of your happiness and fulfillment within your marriage? How can we reclaim marriage from it’s history as a system of ownership and transform it into a container to create the kinship, belonging and security we all […]

Sexual Empowerment is a term that gets used a lot, but what does it really mean? In this episode, we explore empowerment, Power Over vs. Power With, and more! Here is a great introduction to how power operates in society:

How can we create deeply satisfying, fulfilling erotic experiences when what the body wants is so changeable and context-dependent? In this episode we explore how to find “just right” over and over again by paying exquisite attention to yourself AND your partner, creating a positive feedback loop of verbal and non-verbal communication so you can […]

In this encore episode we share the ten ways learning massage can make you a better lover. From learning how to use your hands to touch your lover’s most sensitive parts to communicating specific requests, learning massage together will not only bring the luxury of massage home, it will also transform the way you make […]

Interoception is known as the “eighth sensory nervous system” of humans – and is perhaps the most important sense that you’ve never heard of! Interoception is our human ability to feel the insides of our own bodies, thanks to the vast network of internal nerve receptors found throughout our internal body but especially concentrated around […]

What is the master key to more pleasure, joy and connection? What if there was one skill you could learn to unlock way more relaxation, arousal & orgasmic bliss – not to mention loving connection with every human you love? After over 370 Speaking of Sex Podcast episodes, we are returning to our roots, the […]

Illness, injury, accidents and other sudden health changes disrupt our lives on all levels – including our sexuality, relationships and even our sense of identity. When our bodies experience massive changes, or are facing chronic pain or terminal illness, how do we begin to find a new normal in our sex lives? How can we […]