Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Today's topic is body image, and specifically how our thoughts and feelings about our bodies affect sex and intimacy in our marriages. We want to help you think about how body image might be affecting you and how you can take steps to change the way you think and feel about your body. 1. What do we mean when we say "body image?" And what are some of the things that affect how a woman feels about her body? 2. So why are we talking about this? What does it have to do with sex and intimacy in our marriages? 3. What are some practical things that women can do to improve their body image, to begin to feel good about their bodies?

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J, Gaye, Chris, and Bonny talk about what marriage blogger husbands had to say about what they wish women understood about their sexuality.

Gaye, Chris, and Bonny answer listener questions about menopause, communication, breastfeeding, spicing it up, and more.

When a woman sees her body's flaws, it can be confusing when her husband tells her that she's beautiful. She wonders how he can see past her flaws. Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands discuss a husband's perception of his wife's body. Then Gaye, Bonny, J, and Chris will weigh in.

Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions: What are some reasons that a mismatched season can arise in a marriage? What do couples need to know about mismatched sex drives so that they work hard toward finding mutual agreement? If you are in a mismatched season, does your spouse know of your needs? Here are some ways to help you talk about this with your spouse. What are some specific things a couple can do to try to overcome the conflict of having mismatched sex drives?

Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say.

Meet Gaye, J, Bonny, and Chris! Why do we all blog about sex? Why are we podcasting?

Despite making two recordings, we encountered sound difficulties that could not be completely fixed. About halfway through, you may hear some echo (reverberation). But hang in there! It will correct within a few minutes. Thanks for your support! Our topic is tending your garden, "garden" being a euphemism for your lady parts that we borrowed from Song of Solomon. We're talking specifically about hygiene, "landscaping," and even decorating your garden. What have y'all learned about what constitutes good hygiene for a woman's private parts? More and more wives are grooming their garden—by shaving, waxing, or other hair removal. What do you think about that trend, and why has it become so popular? Not only can you landscape but you can decorate your garden—permanent and temporary tattoos, piercings, and vajazzling. What do y'all think about this practice? What does the Bible have to say, if anything, about how we care for our lady parts?

We're due for a podcast episode, but we've having audio difficulties. So we're postponing the next episode until we can work out the technical issues. We promise another interesting conversation around the virtual roundtable soon. Thanks for staying tuned!

Gaye, Bonny, and Chris tackle some questions from our listeners: What if my husband says my feelings aren't valid? How can I experience multiple orgasms? What do I do about my husband's ED?

About this episode . . . Today we're talking about marital aids, often known as sex toys. Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys? When we think of sex toys, the vibrator is what usually comes to mind. Most of our conversations focuses on vibrators, but there are also things like nipple clamps, penis rings, dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and more. The Bible doesn't say anything about sex toys. There is no "Thou shalt not use a vibrator," nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. Why do so many couples use sex toys in the marriage bed. What do they think it adds? There are good reasons to use sex toys, and there are good reasons to avoid them. So how can a Christian couple decide whether sex toys are acceptable for them to use? What are the questions we should be asking ourselves? If we decide to use them, is there anything we should be on the lookout for to be sure we are still using them in a way that is consistent with God's plan for our sexual intimacy? From the Bible . . . What does God have to say about sex toys? The Bible doesn't say anything about sex toys. There is no "Thou shalt not use a vibrator," nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. A Christian couple should approach this issue prayerfully, in consideration of Biblical principles and with the goal of intimacy. Resources . . . Why I Don't Use Sex Toys - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do I Eliminate Marital Aids and Orgasm Naturally? - Bonny's OysterBed7 What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story - Bonny's OysterBed7 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use? - Intimacy in Marriage Can Christians Use Sex Toys? - To Love, Honor & Vacuum

About this episode Today we're talking about exercise and sex. Wow, that sounds like a weird combination, doesn't it? What in the world do those two things have to do with each other? As it turns out, quite a bit. The benefits of regular exercise and physical activity for women are tremendous, and they include benefits for improving your sex life. Yes, that's right. Today we're going to make the case that exercising regularly is not only great for your health, it's great for sex and intimacy in your marriage. We'll be talking about four areas in which it can make a difference, including your physical health, mental health, body image, and energy. From the Bible The Bible doesn't say much directly about the value of exercise, but it alludes to the importance of caring for our bodies and keeping them strong. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20New International Version (NIV) - Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. Proverbs 31:17 (NIV) - She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. Resources Regular Exercise for Busy Women - How to Make Time When You Don't Have Time Put Your Body to Work to Help You Feel Beautiful Feel Beautiful - Dust Off Your Exercise Shoes! 4 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Health - and Your Sex Life Exercise Boosts Libido Visit us at our website.

Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response About this episode Today we're talking about women's sexuality and sexual response. Why do we have so many misconceptions about women's sexual response? What do we know about women's sexuality that might some women might not realize is normal? How can we help ourselves (and our husbands) better understand our sexual response? From the Bible What does God have to say about women's sexuality? 1 Timothy 5:14: "So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander." 2 Samuel 12:24: "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him." Song of Songs 5, especially verse 5: "I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt." Song of Songs 7, especially verse 10: "I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me." Resources The Forgiven Wife, Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality The Forgiven Wife, Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexuality Be Like Your Husband's? The Generous Husband, Orgasmic Massage To see an image representing the massive real estate of the internal clitoris, follow this link to wikipedia. Visit our website.

Episode 5: Sex Scheduling About this episode The busyness of life sometimes overtakes our schedules and sexual intimacy is pushed farther and farther down the list of priorities. In this episode, we consider whether or not to leave sexual intimacy as an afterthought. What are some of the benefits of consistent lovemaking? How can wives overcome their reluctance to schedule sexual intimacy? What are some practical things we can think about to commit to scheduling lovemaking? From the Bible What does God have to say about prioritizing your time? Proverbs 3:27: "Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act." Luke 14:28-31: "Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won't you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, 'This person began to build and wasn't able to finish.' "Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Won't he first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand?" 1 Corinthians 7:5: "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer." Our Resources Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, Chapter 2, "Finding Time" Hot, Holy & Humorous: How Often Should You Have Sex? OysterBed7: Sex Scheduling can lead to Romance OysterBed7: 5 Questions to ask to Create a Sexual Encounter Schedule OysterBed7: I Love Knowing When Sex is Going to Happen Other Resources To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: Sex Scheduling in Marriage One Extraordinary Marriage: 3 Steps to Schedule Sex in Your Marriage Today's Christian Woman: Sex Scheduling Also see Episode 1: Getting in the Mood Visit our website.

Episode 4: Stress and Sex About this episode In this episode we're talking about the ways that stress can affect women's interest in and enjoyment of sex. We focus on everyday sources of stress and the things that women can do to reduce the effects of stress in their lives. (And we acknowledge that some sources of stress require medical or other professional assistance, and that those are beyond the scope of this podcast.) The questions we discuss include: How does stress affect libido and enjoyment of sex for women? What can a woman do if stress is affecting her interest in or enjoyment of sex? What are some strategies women can use to reduce everyday sources of stress From the Bible What does God have to say about stress? Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 ...the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace. Romans 8:6b Resources 3 Questions that Can Reduce Stress and Increase Calm in Your Life - CalmHealthySexy How Do You Respond to Stress in Your Marriage - The Forgiven Wife 4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress in Your Life and Marriage - CalmHealthySexy Find Peace so You Can Find Orgasm - OysterBed 7 De-Stress to Improve Libido - OysterBed 7 How Does Stress Affect Your Marriage - The Forgiven Wife Visit our website.

About this episode Out in theaters right now is Fifty Shades Darker, the second film based on Fifty Shades series. These novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we're going to address that topic head-on. 1. Why do you think so many wives have been drawn to erotic romance stories? What about this genre appeals to them? 2. I've had wives tell me that reading these novels awakened their sexual desire. What's wrong with that? Isn't that ultimately good for the sexual intimacy in their marriage? 3. Some say that these erotic stories are no different from porn, and others say they're no different from romance novels. What do you think about either or both of those charges? How are they the same or different? 4. Let's get practical: What is okay and what's not okay in the world of BDSM? 5. What are your own greatest concerns about the Fifty Shades phenomenon? From the Bible Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." 1 Corinthians 10:23: "'Everything is permissible,' but not everything is helpful. 'Everything is permissible,' but not everything builds up." (HSCB) Resources The Forgiven Wife: A Shaded View of Romance The Forgiven Wife: Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? The Forgiven Wife: As Bad As Porn? Authentic Intimacy: The Good News about Fifty Shades of Grey OysterBed7: 50 Shades of Uncertainty? OysterBed7: Libido Boundaries? Hot Holy & Humorous: Why I Haven't Talked about 50 Shades Hot Holy & Humorous: Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? Hot Holy & Humorous: Q&A with J: How about Bondage in the Bedroom?

About this episode Practical tips on positioning to help you find gain greater pleasure and intimacy in your marriage bed. 1. Why should wives be interested in learning new positions? 2. What positions are some women afraid to try? 3. Does the Bible have anything to say on the subject of sexual positions? 4. How can wives overcome their reluctance to expand their repertoire of sexual positions? 5. What's a sexual position couples might not have tried that you recommend? From the Bible Song of Songs 7:13: "The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved." Song of Songs 2:6: "His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me." Song of Songs 2:14: "My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely." Resources Christian Friendly Sex Positions Journey to Surrender: "What's on Your Sex Menu?" The Cookie Sutra Liberator Wedge Pillow Christian Friendly Sex Positions: "Packing the Suitcase" Oyster Bed 7: "Sex Variety and Libido in Marriage" Hot, Holy & Humorous: "Why Try More Than One Sexual Position"

About this episode How can we help ourselves be interested—and ready—for sex? What are some of the challenges women face when it comes to getting in the mood? What does the bible have to say about getting ready for sex? What are some things we can actually do to help ourselves look forward to sex? From the Bible What does God have to say about getting in the mood? One biblical wife we know well is the woman in the Song of Solomon. One thing she does is describe--in detail--the physical attributes of her husband. My lover is dark and dazzling, better than ten thousand others! His head is finest gold, his wavy hair is black as a raven. His eyes sparkle like doves beside springs of water; they are set like jewels washed in milk. His cheeks are like gardens of spices giving off fragrance. His lips are like lilies, perfumed with myrrh. His arms are like rounded bars of gold, set with beryl. His body is like bright ivory, glowing with lapis lazuli. His legs are like marble pillars set in sockets of finest gold. His posture is stately, like the noble cedars of Lebanon. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way. Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend. Song of Solomon 5:10-16 {NLT} Resources Calm.Healthy.Sexy: 5 Ways to Feel Sexier This Year The Forgiven Wife: 6 Ways to Nurture Your Sexual Desire The Forgiven Wife: Are You in the Mood for Sex? OysterBed 7: 1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm