Sex Chat for Christian Wives

What does it mean to prioritize sex? What does that look like in a real-life marriage, especially in a real-life marriage and when there are obstacles to sexual intimacy? From the Bible Do not deprive one another—except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5 (CSB) Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12 Resources Intimacy In Marriage Picking Your Priorities (Sex Should Be One of Them) - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Our Priorities (Including Sex) - Hot, Holy & Humorous After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Key #6 - Create Margins Around Your Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Why She's Too Busy to Have Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (hotholyhumorous.com) Strong Wives Subscribe to our newsletter Donate to our ministry Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

We're launching a new feature of the Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast—Sex Chat Quickies! On the weeks between our full-length episodes, one of our hosts will bring you a quick sex tip. This week's tip is what to ask your husband.

It's hard to believe that we started this podcast seven years ago! Today, we're giving updates about our endeavors, talking about lessons learned, and announcing a few changes, including one big announcement. From the Bible Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9 Resources The Healthy Dinners Toolbox - podcast listeners can save 50% by using the code FRIEND50 at checkout. Podcast Bingo Card 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. (w/the Greek friend) Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. CoverGirl Colorlicious Lipstick, Spellbound [325] Subscribe to Our Newsletter (we promise not to inundate your inbox) As-You-Like-It Granola - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris TaylorCalm.Healthy.Sexy. and Healthy Life Toolbox.com - Gaye Christmus Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." We are mindful of this promise as we share sad news about the unexpected death of Chris Taylor's husband. Please listen and consider how you can help. Support Any amount is appreciated. Thank you! Fundraiser for Christel Taylor: Grateful for Doug Taylor (gofundme.com) To send a check directly: Chris Taylor c/o Cullom UMC 103 E. Van Alstyne PO Box 264 Cullom, Illinois And if you want to know more about Doug Taylor, aka Big Guy, here are a couple of relevant posts from Chris's first blog: Interview with Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife 27 Things I Love About Being Married to Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife Apologies for the poor audio quality in some places. We were not in our usual recording setup but felt it important to go ahead and get this news out.

We carry on our annual tradition of sharing Christmas season gift ideas with stocking stuffers that are sweet, surprising, sensual, and sexy! Happy holidays, everyone. Sponsors Share the Soap Married Dance Gift Ideas Sweet Framed Photo or Memento from Early in Your Relationship TableTopics Couples Question Game TableTopics Date Night Our Bucket List Adventures: A Journal to Plan Your Life Dreams as a Couple and Celebrate Your Favorite Memories Keto Christmas Desserts Cookbook Surprising Dollar Store Adventure - gift cards you can use Every Love Intimates Date Night Box Subscription The Ultimate Fun Book for Couples: 60 Exciting and Lighthearted Quizzes, Games, and Challenges to Bring You Closer Than Ever Deck of Sex Position Cards Game (marrieddance.com) Sensual Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-on from our friend and advertiser, Share the Soap Mini Massage Gun Hand Lotion Massage Oil Massage Candle Sensual Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-on from our friend and advertiser, Share the Soap Mini Massage Gun Hand Lotion Massage Oil Massage Candle This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

One of our earliest episodes addressed sex toys, but we haven't talked about it in a while. And yet, it's one of the most often asked questions. Are they okay? How to use them? How not to use them? We cover that ground and more. And stay tuned to the end for our special announcement. Sponsor Married Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping) From the Bible "I have the right to do anything," you say—but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. 1 Corinthians 10:23–24 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Resources Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Having Sex When You Have a Disability - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Mobility Aids | Sex Accessibility Equipment (intimaterider.com) Should You Use a Dildo? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "I'm Desensitized to My Husband's Touch!" - Hot, Holy & Humorous FRIES sexual consent: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific What Consent Looks Like | RAINN Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Married Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (see specific items mentioned below) 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program Yoga Sex Swing Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Pulse Solo Vibrating Stroker Satin Blindfold Love Cuffs Donut Erection Enhancer Rings 3 Pack Sex Games & Sex Dice for Couples Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Once again, we're answering your questions! Today, we'll cover three topics: what does "deprivation" really mean (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), dealing with the messiness of sex, and when sex cannot happen. Sponsor Share the Soap has a September Special for our listeners! Buy a Face Set (face renewal, eye gel & facial soap) and get a free lip balm. Put the face set & lip balm of choice in the cart, then add coupon at checkout: FCWFS. Helps skin transition to the Fall! From the Bible The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources Vibrator for Husband/Couple Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex Isn't Possible | WORTHY Bible Studies Enjoying Your Husband's Semen | The Forgiven Wife Liberator Fascinator Throw Sex Sheets | Married Dance Dealing with Erection Problems | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker) This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

Subscribe to our upcoming newsletter HERE! Recorded while still on our retreat in Nashville, Tennessee, we're playing a game and invite you to play along! Inspired by a board game in the Airbnb where we stayed, Chris and J present trivia questions about sex and test how much we "sexperts" really know. DOWNLOAD YOUR FACT OR FICTION PRINTABLE! Sponsor Married Dance online Christian sex toy / marital aid store 13% off sitewide for Labor Day with code LD23 at checkout. From the Bible For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. Psalm 139:13 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice;for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources The Hardest Sex Quiz You Will Ever Take (buzzfeed.com) Sex Trivia Quiz (buzzfeed.com) Penis Size: From the Wife's Point of View - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "Is My Penis Big Enough?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Doesn't She Really Want a Bigger Penis? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Is Sex Disconnected from Love for Men? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex After a Hysterectomy - Part 1: The Basics | The Forgiven Wife Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg Orgasm Webinar Fun Findings about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous BentCarrot.com What we didn't know about male anatomy | Diane Kelly - TED Talk Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

We have often shared tips of things you can do to enjoy sex more, but today we're going to talk about things not to do. In this episode, we address 6 things not to do during sex. Sponsor Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimacy Cruise From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice;for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Enough, Already | The Forgiven Wife 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Engaging Your Mind in Lovemaking - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wives: What Is Your Husband Thinking During Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (guest post from Gerad Harris) Does Your Spouse Think about Previous Lovers? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Words Your Higher-Desire Spouse Needs You to Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

You've probably heard of love languages, or maybe you haven't. But when minister Gary Chapman noted that spouses often communicated love past one another, he realized that we express love in different ways. So, he proposed that there are five love languages—and his book of the same name became a bestseller and perennial favorite. Today, we'll talk about those languages and what they mean when it comes to our favorite topic: sex. Sponsor Get 20% off the new CBD skincare and bath & body line (derived from USA-grown hemp and independently lab tested to be THC free). Use coupon code FCW20 at checkout! Click here for the new CBD Line Click here to visit the main webite From the Bible Gifts: Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12 Quality Time: My beloved is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 2:17 Physical Touch: His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Acts of Service: I would lead you and bring you to my mother's house— she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the nectar of my pomegranates. Song of Songs 8:2 Words of Affirmation: HE How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. SHE How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. (Many other passages in Song of Solomon demonstrate Words of Affirmation!) Resources The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages® Identify Your Spouse's Love Language - Love Languages Quiz (calmhealthysexy.com) Speak Your Husband's Love Language- and Strengthen Your Marriage (calmhealthysexy.com) Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language is Important • Bonny's Oysterbed7 "Do You Enjoy Getting Flowers?" What Your Answers Tell Me About Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Help Your Husband Speak Love in Your Language | The Forgiven Wife Loving My Husband | The Forgiven Wife Episode 67: Romance and Your Bedroom Fuzu Massage Candle | MarriedDance Astroglide Strawberry-Flavored Water-Based Personal Lubricant | MarriedDance Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Bedazzled, Bothered, and Bewildered - Hot, Holy & Humorous (on vajazzling) Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

The term "emotional labor" has come to mean the emotional cost of outwardly acting with composure when inwardly we are feeling something different. Rose Hackman, an expert on emotional labor describes is at the editing work of emotions that someone would do in order to have an effects on the emotions of someone else. Today, we want to talk about emotional labor and how it can negatively affect sexual interest. Sponsor MarriedDance - Christian sex toy store - Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping Join the podcast team for a Meet & Greet! Saturday, July 22, 1:00–3:00 pm 1035 Acorn Drive, Nashville TN 37210 From the Bible Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6:2–5 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. Ephesians 4:9 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. Proverbs 31:10–18 Resources What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships? (brides.com) (mentioned by J) 5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say – CalmHealthySexy How to Manage Your Family's Schedule (to Reduce Stress!) – CalmHealthySexy The Working Mother's Guilt Guide Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS Voices Women are earning more, but they're still doing more housework and caregiving : NPR Does Choreplay Work? – Knowing Her Sexually Why a Husband Helping Around the House Makes a Wife More Open to Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Episode 5: Sex Scheduling Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 Calm. Healthy. Happy. – 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and C – CalmHealthySexy ($5 book) This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

We're recording before the American Independence Day, but this episode will air on July 4th—a time when fireworks displays can be found all over the country. But what about the explosive power of lovemaking? How can you create fireworks in the bedroom? Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Get the subscription box HERE, and shop more widely at Share the Soap HERE. From the Bible The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 Resources Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm How to Have Vacation Sex - Even When You're Not on Vacation (calmhealthysexy.com) Marriage Cruise - Hot, Holy & Humorous - ONLY A FEW SPOTS LEFT! 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Want a transcript of this episode? With the help of AI, we're trying out a new feature. Click HERE to get a PDF with a (rough) transcription of Episode 157: Creating Fireworks in the Bedroom. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode Today we're talking about the penis. What exactly is it? How does your husband feel about it? How do you feel about it? And how can you get comfortable and have fun with it? Sponsor Click here to learn more From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Resources Diane Kelly: What we didn't know about penis anatomy | TED Talk Oral Sex Webinar - Sex Chat for Christian Wives - ONLY $10! Penis Size: From the Wife's Point of View - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "Is My Penis Big Enough?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "Will My Larger Penis Hurt My Bride?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Doesn't She Really Want a Bigger Penis? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does size matter? Men's and women's views on penis size across the lifespan. (apa.org) - study mentioned Get to Know His Penis - The Forgiven Wife How to Give a Hand Job - Hot, Holy & Humorous Enjoying Your Husband's Semen - The Forgiven Wife Erection - The Cleveland Clinic

Today's episode focuses on a group of women who often struggle to enjoy sex or prioritize sex in their marriages – busy moms. This group includes women across a wide range of ages and life stages 0151from those caring for infants and toddlers at home to those juggling all of the activities, demands, and worries involved in raising teenagers. We talk about some of the things that get in the way of busy moms enjoying sex in their marriages and share some ideas for creating a more enjoyable sex life. Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Visit Share the Soap. From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." Proberbs 31:25, 28-29 Resources Manage Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Words You Need to Learn to Say - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 4 Reasons to Add a Regular "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Q&A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Yes, Kid, Your Mommy and Daddy Have Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife 3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Moms still doing more housework in COVID 19 pandemic | Ball State University (bsu.edu) A Guy's Guide To Emotional Labor - AskMen (article recommended by Chris) Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay - ONLY $10! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Today, we're discussing pornography and erotica, and you can probably guess where our collective opinions land. But we want to explore this topic just a little further to solidify where your values land. Sponsor Strong Wives - Coaching & Sexual Clarity Course Email Bonny: [email protected] From the Bible So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (NLT) I will conduct the affairs of my house with a blameless heart. I will not look with approval on anything that is vile. Psalm 101:2b–3a Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:15–18 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell." Matthew 5:27–30 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Job 31:1 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 Resources Defining Pornography • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 3: 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again A Shaded View of Romance | The Forgiven Wife Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? | The Forgiven Wife As Bad as Porn? | The Forgiven Wife Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy & Humorous An Open Letter on Porn (gottman.com) Why Do Women Pose for Porn? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer 5 Reasons to Stop Using Porn...Now - Hot, Holy & Humorous It's True: Porn Can Kill Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous You're Not Freaking Out, You're Responding to Death • Strong Wives The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays Q&A with J: "My Husband Is Addicted to Porn" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery Strong Wives - Bonny's website Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? | The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: "What Should We Call Persistent Porn Use?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Does He Watch Porn? Understanding Root Causes • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Critiques of Questionable & Misleading Studies; Debunking Propaganda Pieces (yourbrainonporn.com) Check out our webinars. Some are priced at $5, some at $10 — ALL an amazing deal! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode One of the most frequent questions we hear is how can we more easily achieve the ultimate moment with our husbands in the bedroom. So today, we are talking about practical tips to reach orgasm. Sponsors Venus Pearls This episode is also sponsored by Married Dance, an online Christian sex toy store From the Bible Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1b Resources Orgasm Webinar - ONLY $10! Peace and Fireworks | The Forgiven Wife Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Q&A with J: Does He Know How Your Orgasm Works? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband | Honeycomb & Spice Q&A with J: "How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (see O series list at the bottom) Does Your Husband Prioritize Your Orgasm? - Hot, Holy & Humorous These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

While some Christian leaders and churches address the topic of sex well, too many either mishandle it or ignore it altogether. We here at the virtual kitchen table have heard the stories, good and bad. And we're bringing our collective wisdom today to share what we wish more churches knew about sex and how to encourage church leaders to talk more biblically, authentically, and respectfully about it. Sponsor SHARE THE SOAP: Its purpose is to provide you with the essentials you need in a way that lavishes your skin, fills your senses and lifts your mood so that you are free to share the gifts and talents you've been blessed with. Visit Share the Soap HERE. From the Bible Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. James 3:1 (A heavy verse for all of us who dare to instruct others publicly. May God give us wisdom.) Resources Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (with a sermon on sex from Kevin A. Thompson) A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Authentic Intimacy - Resources for Leaders One Way Churches Could Really Help Marriages - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Invite J to Speak! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Clarity for Christian Women Course w/Bonny • Strong Wives Intimacy Mentoring w/Chris Taylor - Honeycomb & Spice Why Abuse in the Church Makes Me Crazy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Samson Society Episode 22:: Sexual Harassment #ustoo Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth Note: All women who shared quotes and scenarios with Bonny gave her permission to share them on this podcast. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

In this episode, we tackle listener questions, including where Christian wives can find sex tips and techniques, fantasizing during lovemaking, when it's okay to refuse sex, and how to grab hold of an elusive orgasm. Sponsor J. Parker is hosting an online conference for higher desire wives! It's coming up on April 29, 2023 and features six speakers addressing our common-yet-challenging situation. You can attend live, part-live and part-recorded, or all recorded on your own time. But REGISTER TODAY to get the $49 pre-event price! Learn More about Desire Con 2023 From the Bible Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4 (NASB) Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NKJV) - but see the definition and examples for deprivation HERE Resources 75 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Sex Life - Honeycomb & Spice How To Tips - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle Foreplay – Webinar Getting in the Mood Webinar Oral Sex Webinar 280+ Illustrated Sex Positions | Christian Friendly Sex Positions Packing the Suitcase Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Dragonfly Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Games & Sex Dice for Couples - Married Dance Online Store 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Get Rid of a Fantasy You Don't Want | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - Knowing Her Sexually Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation - Christian-friendly Sex Positions 6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband - Honeycomb & Spice Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Orgasm Webinar Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

We're back at the virtual kitchen table, and today we're talking about our bodies. That is, women's bodies—what real women look like, how we view our bodies, and how we can care for and embrace those bodies that we bring into the marital bedroom. SPONSOR Share the Soap - natural skin care, aromatherapy, and more! Also, the Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise. FROM THE BIBLE For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Psalm 139:13-15 RESOURCES 11 Ways to Love Your Body - CalmHealthySexy Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - CalmHealthySexy 5 Ways to Feel Confident and Look Great - CalmHealthySexy A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life 5 Reasons to Embrace the Body You Have - Hot, Holy & Humorous Feel Beautiful Series Archives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You're more beautiful than you think Toxic Influence: A Dove Film | Dove Self-Esteem Project Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Today we're talking about your health and health habits and the ways they can affect your sex live. As you know, we're not medical professionals, so we won't be talking about specific health conditions or medical advice. Instead, we'll focus on the kinds of healthy habits that almost every woman can establish in her life and the ways that those habits might affect her body and sex life. Sponsor Hot, Holy & Humorous Couples' Cruise - October 14–21, 2023 Cruise, connect, and cultivate better intimacy! Click here to learn more. From the Bible "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 3 John 2:1 Resources 15 benefits of drinking water and other water facts (medicalnewstoday.com) 5 Healthy Eating Tips for Women - Healthy Life Toolbox A Simple Way to Improve Your Diet - CalmHealthySexy The Busy Woman's Guide to Making Time for Exercise (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) Quick. Healthy. Delicious. Simple Meal Solutions for Busy Moms and Hungry Families (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) 32 oz. Motivational Water Bottle - Amazon 32 oz. Mermaid Water Bottle - Amazon (J loves this one!) Toolkit for Sleep - Huberman Lab Tools for Making Healthy Changes in Your Life - Healthy Life Toolbox The New Way to Get More Exercise - Healthy Life Toolbox 8 Ways Sugar Sours Your Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Today, we are discussing sex scheduling. This is a term we throw around in our kitchen table conversations, and yet it's been a while since we devoted a whole episode to this controversial topic. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode! Check out their wonderful, natural skin products. Great for gifts or self-care. Also sponsored by the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise, coming October 12–21, 2023. From the Bible There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. Ecclesiastes 3:1 Resources What Is Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant Podcast: Q&A from the 2022 Annual Retreat [112] on Apple Podcasts - Q at 7:43 (also available on their website) Big Bang Theory – Sheldon & Amy on Honeymoon What Euphemisms for Sex Do You Use? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Different Sleep Schedules? 1 Simple Tip to Keep Your Sex Life Alive - Honeycomb & Spice How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 5: Sex Scheduling Episode 86: Making Space in Your Life for Sex Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Dr. Juli Slattery, the co-founder of Authentic Intimacy and author of numerous books, joins us at the virtual kitchen table to discuss some topics found in her latest book, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. Sponsor Venus Pearls Vaginal Comfort Suppositories, formulated to relieve vaginal dryness and enhance sexual response. Buy 2 Get 1 with coupon code B2G1 Also sponsored by Married Dance, an online Christian marital aid store from a Christian husband and wife. From the Bible (in order of mention in the episode) The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NIV) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3-4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a The wife's body does not belong only to her. It also belongs to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong only to him. It also belongs to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIRV) The wife does not have [exclusive] authority over her own body, but the husband shares with her; and likewise the husband does not have [exclusive] authority over his body, but the wife shares with him. (AMP) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-33 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 (MSG Paraphrase) Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (KJV) And He said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." 1 Corinthians 12:9a (NKJV) Resources God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery Authentic Intimacy - Juli's website Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Sex in Marriage Keep You from Cheating? - Hot, Holy & Humorous The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Love (and Sex in Marriage) Is Not Self-Seeking - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (have deeper discussions about sex!) Praying Together for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex - The Forgiven Wife "In Bed" (or, Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) - The Forgiven Wife Join Me for a Study! - Honeycomb & Spice Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

When it comes to sexual interest, we tend to talk about which spouse has the higher or lower drive. Whichever you are, it can be helpful to understand where the opposite is coming from. So today, we're going to illuminate what desire is like for the higher drive wife and lower drive wife—recognizing that this can help us better understand our own spouse's perspective and be advocates for one another! Sponsor Thank, Share the Soap! For a limited time, buy a date night set and get a bonus mini lip balm & a bonus mini personal-size soap! Use coupon code FCWdate. (Note: The bonus won't show up in the cart, but it will be added to your order.) Expires February 28. Visit Share the Soap website Also sponsored by: Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage, October 14-21, 2023 From the Bible I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Episode 13: Mismatched Sex Drives Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - ONLY $5! Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (for the hubbies!) - ONLY $5 Are You Normal? - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 145: When the Relationship Gets in the Way of Sex Episode 66: Higher Drive Wives Higher Desire Wife Community (hosted by J of Hot, Holy & Humorous) How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant Podcast: Higher Drive Wives with guest, J. Parker [129] on Apple Podcasts Depression and Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Healthy Life. Happy Marriage. Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Flip the Switch from Initiation to Availability - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode For women, sexual interest tends to be affected by many different factors. Of particular significance is the status of our marital relationship. When things are going great in your overall relationship with your husband, sex can feel like an easy and natural extension of that relationship. And what about when things aren't going so great? It's normal to have ups and downs throughout the life of your marriage—but how does this affect your sex life, and what can you do about it? Before we dig in, let's be absolutely clear that we are talking about normal ups and downs—when you and your husband have had an argument, when one of you has hurt feelings, or even when life gets busy and you barely have time for a conversation, much less sex. We are NOT talking about a marriage that is on the verge of divorce, nor are we talking about a situation in which your husband has been in unrepentant sin against you through pornography or abuse. Sponsor Share the Soap - Turn Up the Romance Set Use the code fcwsteamy for an extra 20% off if you order by February 28, 2023. Married Dance Venus Pearls From the Bible Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2 Resources What About Him? | The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Nonsexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson Episode 9: The Myth of Make-up Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)

Quickie can be used as a noun or adjective to simply mean "something done or made in a hurry." When it comes to lovemaking, quickies are drive-through sex, rather than the full meal or feast we might prefer to have. But quickies in a marriage can serve a positive purpose, and today we talk about when and how to incorporate them into your marriage, as well as when not to. Sponsor LIMITED-TIME OFFER! Use coupon code FCWQUICK at Share the Soap and get 30% off anything (whole cart) except merchandise (tshirts, water cups, etc). Good only until December 9, 2022. Visit the website and save 30% off! Also sponsored by Married Dance. Save 13% storewide using coupon BF22 only through November 30, midnight CST. From the Bible "Hurry, my beloved, And be like a gazelle or a young stag On the mountains of balsam trees!" Song of Songs 8:14 (NASB) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife How "Maintenance Sex" Can Bless Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 62: Why Not Have a Quickie? - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker) Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs.

About this episode Welcome to our 6th annual Christmas episode! With Christmas only 6 weeks away, we want to help ease your mental load. So, today we are sharing some gift giving ideas that link to our favorite past episodes. These gifts are in the categories of: Something you want Something you need Something you wear and Something you read! And of course, the gift ideas we offer are something that can enhance the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Sponsor Special for our listeners: Buy an advent self-care set and get a free Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll On (a $9.99 value). To get the bonus, simply add both items to the cart and use coupon code FCWALLIWANT at checkout. Click Here to Visit Share the Soap! This episode is also sponsored by Married Dance - a Christian sex toy store run by a married couple, with marriage-focused products and tips. Be sure to listen to the episode to hear more about the products below and learn why they made our lists! Chris's picks, based on Episode 98: Overcoming Boredom in the Bedroom. WANT 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Traditional-Style Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Vibrating Ring Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free G-Spot Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance NEED Personal Lubricants | MarriedDance Liberator Fascinator Throw | MarriedDance WEAR Honoring Intimates - model-free lingerie Temporary Tattoos - love-themed Costumes, like a Pirate READ Deck of Sex Position Cards | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sock Monkey Kama Sutra J's picks, based on Episode 75: Our Best Tips for Initiating Sex WANT Bedroom Makeover: The One Whom My Soul Loves Song of Solomon 3:4 Wall Decal Downluxe Queen Comforter Set Bedsure Bamboo Cooling Sheets Fairy String Lights with Remote (mood lighting) Yankee Candle MidSummer's Night Scented, Classic 22oz Large Jar (other scents available) Let's Snuggle/Let's Get Naked Reversible Pillowcases Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel NEED Higher Desire Wife Subscription (we've been there, we know, we're here for you) - 30-day trial available WEAR Edible Body Paints Glow-in-the-Dark Neon Body Paint Crayons Black Light Bulbs (2-pack) READ You & Me - A Game of Love & Intimacy Couple's Sex Game Gaye's picks, based on Episode 4: Stress and Sex WANT Ultimate Aromatherapy Diffuser & Essential Oil Set - Ultrasonic Diffuser & Top 10 Essential Oils - Modern Diffuser with 4 Timer & 7 Ambient Light Settings - Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils – Lavender NEED 6 Assorted Goat Milk Bath Soaks (bath bombs) from our friend and podcast sponsor, Share the Soap WEAR Aculief Heating and Cooling Shoulder Wrap W/Lavender Aromatherapy READ Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, Updated and Expanded Edition, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Bonny's picks, based on Episode 84: Self-Care and Sexual Interest WANT A better friendship with your husband Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage Pillow Talk NEED We all need Jesus! John (a LifeChange book) Reclaiming Your Sexual Identity after Betrayal - Small Group Led by Bonny Logsdon Burns WEAR Red Charmeuse Satin Nightie by Honoring Intimates Fuzzy Fleece Leopard Lounge Set Belle's Design Flannel Nightshirt READ Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode by Aundi Kolber More Resources Hot, Holy & Humorous Store with sexy Christmas coupons, private gift tags, and more Sex Chat for Christian Wives webinars - value-priced and chock-full of great info for your sexual intimacy From the Bible "My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one— I in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me." John 17:20-23 May you and your husband be in unity this holiday season (and beyond)! Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Ga

It's hard to believe, but today we're going to start talking about the holidays. By the time we publish this episode, most of us will have started thinking about the upcoming holiday season. What does that have to do with sex? Just this—the six or seven weeks from mid-November until New Year's Day are some of the busiest and most stressful of the year for women. And we know from previous episodes (and you likely know from your own experience) that stress can mess with your libido and your sex life. So, we want to talk a little bit about stress and sex, but then mostly about ways to reduce holiday stress and enjoy fun sex and intimacy with your husband during the busy holiday season. Sponsor Use code FCWlipbalm to get free lip balm (J's favorite lip balm ever!) when you buy massage oil. Click here to shop now! From the Bible For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 Resources Peace. Love. Joy. 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) 25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Spouse During the Holidays - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Ways to Take the Crazy Out of Christmas this Year - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Your Sex Drive Take a Dive in the Holiday Season? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Make the Holidays Good for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Seasonal Depression Impacting Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Fully Decorated Pre-Lit 6 Foot Pop-Up Christmas Tree (not the one J has but similar) In case you're curious, Buc-ee's holds the World Record for Largest Convenience Store My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Santa Baby Bedroom Soundtrack Playlist • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode We hear from many wives who say they struggle with giving oral sex. In episode 42, we looked at the big picture of oral sex and discussed what God has to say, health concerns, and how a couple can work through their disagreement about oral sex. This episode is for wives who are ready to start giving their husbands oral sex or who want to get even better at it. We're going to get into some specifics here. So, friends, pull yourself up close to our virtual kitchen table and listen up. Sponsors Click the image to visit Share the Soap and learn more about goat milk products with aromatherapy. This episode was also sponsored in part by our Webinar Series. Visit our store to learn more. From the Bible Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Songs 2:3 Resources Is Giving a "Blow Job" Enjoyable for the Wife? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) 5 Things You Should Know about Oral Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Get to Know His Penis | The Forgiven Wife Fresh Balls Lotion| Men's Anti-Chafing Soothing Cream to Powder - Ball Deodorant and Hygiene for Groin Area MANSCAPED® The Crop Preserver, Anti-Chafing Men's Ball Deodorant, Male Care Hygiene Moisturizer Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Q&A with J: What about "Manscaping"? - Hot, Holy & Humorous MANSCAPED® Electric Groin Hair Trimmer, The Lawn Mower™ Trustex Flavored Latex Oral Sex Condoms | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sliquid Naturals Swirl Edible Lube | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance JO H2O Flavored Lube - Strawberry & Many Others Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (full chapter on Oral Sex) Oral Sex Webinar Oral Sex: Learning to Bless and Learning to Be Blessed | The Forgiven Wife Do I Have To? | The Forgiven Wife

For many, sexuality and sexual experience are compartmentalized away from God. Today, we want to invite you to sit with us as we discuss how God is interwoven throughout every area of our lives, including (and most importantly for this podcast) our sexual intimacy with our husbands. Sponsor VISIT THE STORE TO LEARN MORE! From the Bible Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4 (NASB) But now, this is what the Lord says— he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: "Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life. Isaiah 43:1-2,4 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 9:6-11 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (ESV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. Psalm 139:7-10 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 1 John 4:16 Resources Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage Is It Okay to Yell at God about Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Your Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 117: Prayer and Sex "In Bed" (or Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) - The Forgiven Wife Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3 - The Forgiven Wife Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Visit our website: forchristianwives.com Check out our value-priced webinars: Shop! - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Individual Websites Calm.Healthy.Sexy. - Gaye Christmus Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker Strong Wives - Bonny Burns

Sexual arousal describes physiological and psychological preparation for a sexual encounter and intercourse. Today, we talk about what it feels like, what gets in the way, and how to enhance your sexual arousal. Sponsor CLICK HERE TO BUY OR LEARN MORE! From the Bible Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:4-6 Resources Sex Chat for Christian Wives - webinars Episode 1: Getting in the Mood Episode 33: Getting in the Mood 2 Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? | The Forgiven Wife You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction | The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy Without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Talk About Sex with Your Husband (calmhealthysexy.com) 2019 Webinar Series 2020 Webinar Series Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today, Bonny and Gaye share fresh ways of thinking about changes you want to make in your sex life and offer practical tips for taking small, positive steps in that direction. Sponsor CLICK HERE TO BUY OR LEARN MORE! Also sponsored by Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples! From the Bible Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 Song of Solomon: Solomon's Song of Songs - Bible Gateway Resources Embrace Uncertainty - The Healthy Life Toolbox Overcome Resistance - The Healthy Life Toolbox Focus on Action - The Healthy Life Toolbox The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield Resolution Week: "And Now for Something Completely Different..." - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Words That Could Change the Course of Sex in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. From the Bible What does God have to say about sex? But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 3 Words that Can Transform Your Sex Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 41: 4 Truths About Sex Husbands Should Know - Knowing Her Sexually How to Read a Marriage Book | Hot, Holy & Humorous Must a Better Friendship Come Before Better Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Healthy Life Toolbox series - Calm.Healthy. Sexy. 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Anal Sex Okay? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy | Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Tips for Talking to Your Husband About Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sponsor Click to buy or learn more Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode We understand the struggle wives often have with their body image and how it affects their sexuality. Today we want to revisit this topic to discuss how we can finally embrace our bodies and get comfortable being naked with our husbands. Why is having a positive body image such a challenge for women? What can we do to combat messages that make us feel worse about ourselves? Do we have any responsibility to take care of our bodies? Despite how we feel about ourselves, most husbands find their wives beautiful. But what about the wife whose husband criticizes her appearance? What advice from your own journey would you give to help a wife embrace a positive body image? rom the Bible What does God have to say about body image? For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Body Image Got You Down? - The Forgiven Wife Body by God - The Forgiven Wife| He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - J's guest post on The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Sized Sex Life - Honeycomb & Spice 5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. My Husband's Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow? - Bonny's OysterBed7

About this episode Today we're talking about something that most women are thinking about at this time of year — taking better care of our health. If you're like us, you're probably thinking about getting in shape, eating a healthier diet, getting more sleep, or losing some weight over the next few months. And your reasons, like ours, are probably pretty straightforward — you want to look better. You want to feel better. You want to have more energy. And you want to avoid getting sick. But there's a bonus reason for taking care of your health that you may not know about — improving your sex life. So let's talk about some of the ways that good health can lead to better sex and intimacy in your marriage. From the Bible What does God have to say about this? "Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies," 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. Resources Episode 7: Exercise and Sex, Sex Chat for Christian Wives Praying for Sexual Health, Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Your Sex Life Getting Enough Sleep?, Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways that Exercise Can Improve Your Health - and Your Sex Life, CalmHealthySexy 9 Things to Do to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year, CalmHealthySexy Healthy Living for Busy Women, CalmHealthySexy A Healthy Weight is not a Skinny Weight, Bonny's OysterBed7 Help for Vaginal Dryness, Bonny's OysterBed7 Sleepin' Is Sexy, Bonny's OysterBed7 A Reminder to Breathe, The Forgiven Wife Sponsor

Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you'll benefit from our conversation. Sponsor Learn more HERE. From the Bible What does God have to say about higher desire wives? "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). "Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12). "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2). Resources Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture "Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker 5 Truths for High-Drive Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters – OysterBed7 Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I'm "Too Much" – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband – Hot, Holy & Humorous Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Webinar Replays: Understanding Your Sex Drive and Foreplay J's Subscription Community for HDWs FREE 30-day trial! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We've talked a lot on this podcast about being able to discuss sex with your husband. And even have "more than one conversation," which is Gaye's trademark advice. But today, we want to walk through the specifics. Whether it's actually for small changes, an overhaul of your sex life, or something in between, how can you talk to your husband about sex? Sponsor Get your copy of Pillow Talk today! From the Bible Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources How to Talk about Sexual Problems with Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous 2020 Webinar Series 2019 Webinar Series Orgasm Webinar Submission Doesn't Mean Putting Up with Sexual Misbehavior - Hot, Holy & Humorous You Are Not Your Husband's Sex Toy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Launching the Conversation About Sex in Your Marriage (with Downloadable Sample Chapter of Pillow Talk) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands - How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy Again - CalmHealthySexy How to Talk to Your Husband about Sex - CalmHealthySexy Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships by Drs. Cloud/Townsend Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) - affiliate link The Feeling Wheel - Couples - The Gottman Institute Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

When God created women, He gave us an amazing gift—the clitoris! Its only purpose is our sexual pleasure, but many of us don't know too much about this part of our body. In this episode, we're going to help you learn about the wonderful clitoris. Sponsor Learn more about Venus Pearls! From the Bible For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Amphis, CC SA 1.0, via Wikimedia Commons Debunking myths about the clitoris | by Jessica Pin | Medium (8,000 nerve endings myth) Female orgasms and a 'rule of thumb' – Chicago Tribune (C-V distance) Clitoris | Online Etymology Dictionary (etymonline.com) Dragonfly Sex Position | Christian-friendly Sex Positions (named by J!) Packing the Suitcase Sex Position | Christian-friendly Sex Positions CAT Sex Position & Technique | Christian-friendly Sex Positions Orgasm Webinar - GREAT VALUE at only $10! Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode In summertime, the living is supposed to be easy, but we often find it just as stressful and scheduled as the rest of the year is. In this episode we talk about simplifying your summer in ways that can improve your sex life. From the Bible Better one handful with tranquility than two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind. Ecclesiastes 4:6 So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. Ecclesiastes 8:15 Resources Episode 60: Vacation Sex 10 Ways to Keep Cool While Heating It Up This Summer - Hot, Holy & Humorous Vacationing with Hubby: How to Make It Better - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down This Summer - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How to Have "Vacation Sex" – Even When You're Not on Vacation - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 4 Reasons Wives and Moms Need a Summer Vacation - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. What Do Your Children Need this Summer – It May Not Be What You Think! - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Just Breathe - The Forgiven Wife Stressed and Overwhelmed? - The Forgiven Wife Eat, Drink, and Be Merry - The Forgiven Wife Webinars 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle $40.00 Add to cart 2020 Webinar Series $25.00 Add to cart Orgasm Webinar $10.00 Add to cart Oral Sex Webinar $10.00 Add to cart Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay $10.00 Add to cart 2019 Webinar Series $15.00 Add to cart Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay $5.00 Add to cart Foreplay – Webinar $5.00 Add to cart Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay $5.00 Add to cart

About this episode Bonny and Chris answer questions about older kids knowing that their parents are having sex, responding to a husband's struggle with pornography, and discerning what is okay in the bedroom. Sponsor https://b-ltx.com/venus-pearls/ From the Bible Matthew 5:28 - But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Song of Solomon 2:3 - Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Solomon 4:16 - Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. Ephesians 6:11-15 - Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. Resources The Joy of Earbuds | The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Reasons to Stop Using Porn...Now - Hot, Holy & Humorous Samson Society Hope for Wives podcast Beggar's Daughter SheRecovery

About this episode You probably know from your own marriage, or from observing other marriages, that non-sexual interactions can make or break a marriage. Today, we talk about why this is true and how we can leverage it to benefit our marriages. Sponsors Use coupon code SC10 for 10% off! Click to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a Christian-owned store for marital aids and sex toys. From the Bible Greet one another with a holy kiss. - 2 Corinthians 13:12 Resources 15 Simple Ways to Connect with Your Spouse - CalmHealthySexy 6 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage - CalmHealthySexy Speak Your Husband's Love Language - CalmHealthySexy 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Kisses You Need to Master - Hot, Holy & Humorous Recreational Enjoyment Inventory | Marriage Builders, Inc. Nurture Your Nonsexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife Sensate Focus - PDF Recovering your sex drive with Sensate Focus Mindful Touching Techniques |Linda Weiner

Our listeners have varied experiences, and some may value knowing some basic principles from a physical and emotional perspective. So today, we're getting back to the foundations of sexual intimacy, including what we wish we'd known going into marriage. Sponsor Check out our special offer for women-owned businesses. From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. Galatians 5:13 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ. 1 Peter 5:14 And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. 1 John 3:23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 Song of Songs (the mutuality and intimacy of sex in marriage) "I have the right to do anything," you say—but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"—but not everything is constructive. 1 Corinthians 10:23 Resources Q&A with J: Protecting Yourself from Infection - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Erection Problems - The Forgiven Wife Should You Track the Frequency of Sex in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 125: Is Sex a Need? Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands, How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy Again - CalmHealthySexy How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Orgasm Webinar Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Dear Wife, Sex is for You Too - CalmHealthySexy What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 43: Rebuilding Her Trust, with Jessica McCleese - Knowing Her Sexually Faithful Counseling – now Better Help Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Talk About Sex with Your Husband - CalmHealthySexy Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Couples Sharing Exercise (FANOS) (hopecounselingtexas.com) Do You Pray for Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous includes affiliate links Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

With Bonny out again, we're down one wife today, but we've invited not one but two other wives to join us at today's virtual kitchen table. We're so happy to have Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer, co-authors of The Flirtation Experiment, with us to discuss how flirting with your husband can lead to greater intimacy in marriage and the bedroom. Be sure to check out their book! Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Venus Pearls, from Burns Logsdon Therapeutics. This episode is also sponsored by Married Dance. From the Bible What does the Bible say about flirting? You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. Song of Songs 4:9 His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem. Song of Songs 5:16 And the rest of Song of Songs! Resources The Flirtation Experiment: Putting Magic, Mystery, and Spark Into Your Everyday Marriage by Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer Lisa Jacobson | Club31Women Phylicia Masonheimer | Every Woman a Theologian Honest Marriage Episode 9 // On Flirtation | Phylicia Masonheimer Did You Know That God Loves a Good Romance? - Club31Women The Flirtation Experiment - 6 Fun Ways to Rekindle Your Marriage - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Fun & Flirty Take-Turns Games to Play with Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Feel Attractive - Real Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Flirt with your Husband (12 SFW text messages) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 How to Flirt with Your Husband | The Forgiven Wife The Misunderstood Science of Sexual Desire | The Cut (Rosemary Basson and responsive desire) Identifying a Facial Expression of Flirtation and Its Effect on Men: The Journal of Sex Research: Vol 58, No 2 (tandfonline.com) Elvis Presley - Burning Love (hunka hunka ~wink~) Episode 41: Flirting with Your Husband (includes affiliate links) Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode We've heard from many women that their sex life sometimes feels boring. Today, we talk about boredom in the bedroom and what to do about it. Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Venus Pearls, from Burns Logsdon Therapeutics. From the Bible The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. – Song of Songs 7:13 Resources Study on sexual satisfaction linked to understanding sexual growth (University of Toronto study reveals secret to a happy sex life | EurekAlert!) 2019 Webinar Series - Sex Chat for Christian Wives 2020 Webinar Series - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Games & Sex Dice for Couples | Christian sex toy store (marrieddance.com) Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) - Hot, Holy & Humorous.com) How to Feel Sexier - Practical Tips for Wives and Moms Sexual Variety and Libido in Marriage • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 98: Overcoming Boredom in the Bedroom Create the Exciting Sex Life That Wives Want - Hot, Holy & Humorous (by guest Ruth Buezis) The Comfort Zone | The Forgiven Wife 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Is the Spark Gone from Your Sex Life? | Honeycomb & Spice 75 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Sex Life | Honeycomb & Spice 3 Benefits of Sexual Adventure | Honeycomb & Spice

Have you heard it said that sex is a need? We have too. Quite a few people talk about how a spouse can and should meet their mate's sexual needs. Today we're addressing that underlying assumption: Is sex a need? Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Strong Wives - Bonny Burns' Coaching Site. Also sponsored by Married Dance, a Christian, marriage-focused sex toy store. From the Bible And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19 Resources Q&A with J: Sexual Wants Vs. Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous THE INTIMACY PYRAMID - Home What Is Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "He Wants It Every Night...Several Times" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Leviticus 15:19, 28 - 14-Day Break around Menstruation Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode In this episode, we're responding to questions from listeners about touching yourself during sex, whether it's okay to have sex just for fun sometimes, and why a young husband might struggle to maintain an erection. Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Strong Wives - Bonny Burns' Coaching Site. From the Bible A cheerful heart is good medicine... ~ Proverbs 17:22a Heal me, Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise. ~ Jeremiah 17:14 Resources Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Sex a Spiritual Experience in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Erection Problems - The Forgiven Wife Searchable Database for Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists (CSAT) Covenant Eyes Blog - information on pornography addictions and sexually problematic behavior Hope For Wives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal through a Christian Lens - podcast Understanding Your Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 118: Sex Is For You, Too - previous podcast RAINN - Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Q&A with J: "He Goes Hard and Then Soft" - Hot, Holy & Humorous

When we started podcasting in February 2017, we didn't know whether we'd get through one year, much less five years. But here we are, celebrating this amazing milestone with a bit of reminiscing, some bloopers, and our wishes and hopes for our fabulous listeners! Sponsor Visit Married Dance Shop From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. - Proverbs 31:25 Resources Hope for Wives Podcast Strong Wives - Bonny's Coaching Practice Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye's New Site Honeycomb & Spice - Chris's Site Higher Desire Wives - J's Community Webinar Shop Page Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode This is a time of year when a lot of people are talking about taking better care of themselves—things like eating healthier, starting to exercise, getting more sleep, setting goals, or setting boundaries in their lives. But self-care, even though it sounds like a good thing, can be a touchy subject in some Christian circles. Let's talk about self-care and what role—if any—it should play in the lives of Christian women. What is self-care? What does that term mean to you? Should Christians practice self-care? Did Jesus practice self-care, and what does the Bible say about it? What kinds of self-care should we engage in? What kinds of activities are likely to promote real joy, peace, and health in our lives? What kinds of activities are unlikely or less likely to promote those things? What is something you're doing to practice self-care this year, and what would you say to our listeners to encourage them to take care of their bodies, minds, spirits, and relationships this year? Sponsor Visit Position Cards Page Subscribe to their Position of the Week Newsletter at PositionOfTheWeek.com. This episode was also sponsored in part by Share the Soap. Be sure to sign up for their newsletter to be notified of upcoming promotions. From the Bible "I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint." Jeremiah 31:25 By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Genesis 2:2 And while they still did not believe it because of joy and amazement, he asked them, "Do you have anything here to eat?" They gave him a piece of broiled fish, and he took it and ate it in their presence. Luke 24:41-43 One day Jesus said to his disciples, "Let us go over to the other side of the lake." So they got into a boat and set out. As they sailed, he fell asleep. A squall came down on the lake, so that the boat was being swamped, and they were in great danger. Luke 8:22-23 But the Lord answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42 So Miriam was confined outside the camp for seven days, and the people did not move on till she was brought back. Numbers 12:15 So I commended enjoyment, because a man has nothing better under the sun than to eat, drink, and be merry; for this will remain with him in his labor all the days of his life which God gives him under the sun. Ecclesiastes 8:15 Resources Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done by Katie M. Reid Where Do You Need to Say "No" to Say "Yes" to Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Simple Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day - CalmHealthySexy 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis - CalmHealthySexy Fit. Strong. Healthy. The Busy Woman's Guide to Making Time for Exercise Just Breathe - The Forgiven Wife Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs

We're back! It was an eventful December and early January for us and will share what we have been doing. Today, we're talking about a new sexual you. What does that mean? What does it look like? And how can you achieve it? What does it mean to have a new sexual you? Are we saying just more sex or something else? What would it look like to make goals for improving sexuality? What kinds of goals can wives set for themselves and their marriage? Once you've set some goals, how can you track your progress? What even counts as progress? Let's wrap up with each of us giving our listeners a word of encouragement. What would you like to say to wives wanting this to be the year they embrace healthy and holy sexuality? Sponsor New Year Sale: Save 13% storewide using coupon 2022! Click HERE to visit Married Dance. From the Bible "Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many." Hebrews 12:14-15. "The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners." Isaiah 61:1. Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT) How priceless is your unfailing love, O God! People take refuge in the shadow of your wings. They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights. For with you is the fountain of life; in your light we see light. Psalm 36:7-9 Resources Episode 109: Your Sexual Self Episode 112: Are You Compromising Too Much? (Listener Question) Do You Pray for Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Your Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Prayer For Sexual Healing - Wild At Heart How to Feel Sexier this Year - CalmHealthySexy 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual - CalmHealthySexy Unlock Your Libido: 52 Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker 2019 Webinar Series 2020 Webinar Series Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode We can't leave off the year without providing another wonderful gift guide! We'll link to others in the show notes, but today we're focusing on gifts that speak not only to marital intimacy but specifically our five senses. This idea made us think of the song "Twelve Days of Christmas"! Instead of five golden rings, we're addressing our five golden senses. Sponsor GET THE CARDS! Also sponsored by Share the Soap. And by Strong Wives. From the Bible What does the Bible say about gift-giving? Later on, during the wheat harvest, Samson took a young goat as a gift and visited his wife. – Judges 15:1 (Do not—I repeat, do NOT let your husband give you a goat for Christmas! Good heavens. ~ J) "They were to be days of feasting, rejoicing, and of sending gifts to one another and to the poor." – Esther 9:22b. (This verse refers to Purim, but shows the same generous spirit we want to have at Christmastime.) Resources Some of the links below are affiliates, meaning that the price remains the same for you, but we receive a small commission if you purchase through the link. These commissions help us to defer our costs. Thanks! Sight Satin Blindfold Standing/Floor Mirror 100 Dates Scratch-off Poster Magnetic (False) Eyelashes Sheer Eyelash Robe Smell Essential Oil Blends for Romance, Passion, or Sensuality Ball Wash Charcoal Body Wash for Men Gift Card for Bath and Body Works Mist Your Mood Linen/Aromatherapy Spray Taste Picnic Basket for Two Hershey's Chocolate Syrup (7.5 pounds!) Restaurant Gift Card JO H2O Flavored Lubricant Hearing Metal Chime Ball Necklace Romantic or Sensual Music Playlist Sony Waterproof Bluetooth Speaker White Noise Machine Touch LovePlay Massage Candle Liberator Fascinator Throw CSFP Sex Position Cards Infinite Moon EverSheets

What are the best things about sex? We compiled a list of ten and hope it will inspire you to pursue better and deeper intimacy in your marriage. Sponsor Black Friday sale: 13% off store-wide! Visit Married Dance HERE. Also check out Make My Own Soap! Use coupon code 10off for $10 off the one-pound loaf starter kit. Use coupon code 20off for $20 off the LOAF starter kit. From the Bible What does the Bible say about the best things about sex? I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. – Ephesians 5:31-32 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:24-25 Resources 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (webmd.com) Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Orgasm Webinar Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker Episode 58: Orgasm Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy Touchstone: Sex Is Fun, Part 1 | The Forgiven Wife Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2 | The Forgiven Wife Sex Is Like Rose-Colored Glasses - Hot, Holy & Humorous Strategy #10 - Build Sexual Confidence - Physical Confidence - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Strategy #11 - Build Sexual Confidence - Knowledge - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Build Sexual Confidence by Taking Action - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Sex a Spiritual Experience in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com