Sex Chat for Christian Wives

About this episode Self-care is important—and it helps our sexual interest too! In this episode we talk about why and share some tips. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30 Then he said to them, "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath." Mark 2:27 But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. Luke 5:16 Resources 5 Ways to Treat Yourself Like a Friend – CalmHealthySexy Silence the Lies – The Forgiven Wife New Day, New Way – It's Never too Late to Start Something New – CalmHealthySexy Episode 80: Intimacy During Lockdown Self-Bullying: What to do when the bully is YOU! (affiliate link) 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis – CalmHealthySexy

About this episode We're recording this at a time when many people are still living with some form of stay-at-home orders. Others can go out, but aren't sure if it's safe. And many others are facing financial difficulties, such as job loss, reduced work hours, or uncertainty about the future of their job or business. All of those things make the idea of "date night" seem rather daunting. But even beyond the current crisis, lots of couples face challenges to enjoying a regular "date night." Money may be tight, they may not have childcare, or they may be too tired to figure out what to do. So today we're going to talk about date nights for challenging times, whatever your challenge may be. These are simply ways to plan some fun with your spouse – at home or in your community – that don't cost a lot of money and don't take a lot of time and energy. From the Bible Song of Songs 7:11-13 Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Resources Date Night Questions - The Romantic Vineyard Alphabet Dates - The Romantic Vineyard Date Night, Anywhere - The Forgiven Wife Dating Your Spouse in a Crisis – LoveHopeAdventure How to Have a Movie Date in Your Car – LoveHopeAdventure 4 Reasons to Add a "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule - CalmHealthySexy 25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Husband – CalmHealthySexy 16 Fun and Healthy Dates for Married Couples – CalmHealthySexy Variety and Libido - OysterBed7 Friendship 101 - OysterBed7 26 2-Player Board Games for Couples - To Love Honor & VacuumAre You Dating Your Spouse Enough? - Hot, Holy & HumorousMovies to Inspire Romance - Hot, Holy & Humorous20 Date Nights You Can Do at Home (book review) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Make Date Night a Marriage Adventure (book review- Hot, Holy & Humorous

Today, we are answering some of your questions. How can I get over being sexually shy with my husband? How can I begin to get past the negative messages I learned about sex? How can I show my husband desire throughout the day instead of compartmentalizing sex for bedtime only? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples! From the Bible "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9 Resources Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 29: Lies Women Believe, Part 1 Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Aqua Notes Water Proof Note Pad (Amazon affiliate link) 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Silence the Lies - The Forgiven Wife Four Ways to Absorb God's Truth about Intimacy in Marriage - The Forgiven Wife When You Need Help Getting in the Mood: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Desire Throughout the Day - The Forgiven Wife Visit our website at forchristianwives.com

About this episode We're wingin' it! Hang out with us as we ramble about life during a global pandemic, the reality of trying to continue intimacy despite circumstances, and where our heads and hearts are right now. Maybe you can relate. Sponsor 2019 Replays 2020 Webinars From the Bible "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." – 1 John 4:18 (NIV) "For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control." – 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV) The Book of Psalms Resources Squirrels Sports Announcer doing Real-life Commentary Melt Couples Massage Master Class Episode 10: Tending Your GardenUSA Today Mask Pattern (the one J used) No Sew Face MaskFace Mask from Bra

We're recording this during the Coronavirus global pandemic, but today we're focusing on the positive with some practical tips for fostering intimacy during lockdown. What aspects of marital intimacy are most important during this tough time? How can sex be part of maintaining a positive attitude Knowing the challenges various couples are facing, what tips do you have for nurturing intimacy during lockdown? What scripture gives you hope and comfort right now? Sponsor Download Your FREE Copy! And check out our webinar replays. From the Bible "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." – Psalm 118:24 (ESV) When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. – Isaiah 43:2-3 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" – Matthew 6:25-27 Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God. – Psalm 146:3,5 Resources 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.The Joy of Earbuds - The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? The Forgiven Wife

About this episode As we record this, we are in the midst of a global pandemic. Life feels far from normal. Besides pandemics, we all live through very difficult experiences from time to time. Natural disasters, deaths, illnesses, and family crises can pull the rug out from under us. In this episode, we share some ideas to help you maintain sexual intimacy when life goes topsy-turvy. From the Bible What does God have to say about [insert topic]? "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her" (2 Samuel 12:24a). "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). Resources Challenging Times? Some Tips to Keep Up Marital Intimacy! - J's newsletterLet's Address These Marriage Struggles You May Have Right Now - J's newsletter 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief - Hot, Holy & HumorousHow Sex Can Help Us Cope - Hot, Holy & HumorousYour Wife's Anxiety - KHS Ministry 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex - The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Note: J's son was tested for Coronavirus, and the test was negative. Her husband's insulin issues got resolved as well. Let's keep praying for others who are impacted or at risk.

Today, we are discussing breasts and how they can impact your sexuality. Song of Solomon calls them twin fawns of a gazelle and clusters of fruit. Whether your twins are gazelles, grapes, or grapefruit, we are going to delve into a discussion about the female breast. What are some of the names used for breasts through the years? We can't talk about breasts without first talking about breast feeding. How can nursing affect a wife's sexual intimacy? What are some characteristics of healthy breasts and what are some warning signs that you may need to go to the doctor? How breasts can impact a wife's experience of sexuality in the bedroom? Sponsor Click to Purchase 2019 Webinar(s) Click to Purchase 2020 Webinar(s). Also sponsored by KHS Ministry (Knowing Her Sexually) for husbands. From the Bible "Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle" (Song of Solomon 7:3). "Your stature is like that of a palm, and your breasts are like clusters of fruit. I said, 'I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.' May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine..." (Song of Solomon 7:7-8). Resources 3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual - Bonny's OysterBed7 Ta-Ta Touch - Bonny's OysterBed7 A&D Cream - Amazon (affiliate link) Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream (affiliate link)Bag Balm - Amazon (affiliate link) 101 Words for Your Private Parts (with 25 words for breasts) - Hot, Holy & HumorousCheck Out Those Breasts - Hot, Holy & HumorousQ&A with J: "How Do You Feel about Your Implants Now?" He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - Guest Post by J. Parker on The Forgiven Wife A Wife's Breasts Have History - The Forgiven Wife

About this episode Today we are discussing how to ask for what you want, in marriage overall, and more specifically in the bedroom. This is something many women struggle to do and many women do not even know if they are supposed to ask. Why is it so hard for women to ask for what they want, especially in the bedroom? What are some practical things that women can do to start speaking up about what they want and need, and keep speaking up until they get it? What about women who do ask for what they want, but nothing changes? Or changes happen for a short time, but then drift back toward the status quo? Sponsors Click Here to Learn More Click here for Unlock Your Libido Visit Gaye's Calm.Healthy.Sexy Shop From the Bible The Song of Solomon Resources Speak Up - The Forgiven Wife Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Sock Monkey Kama Sutra book (affiliate link) Cookie Sutra book (affiliate link) Sharpie markers (affiliate link) Q&A with J: How Do I Express What I Want in Bed? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar - replay for only $5 Ravel's Bolero: Version 1 (10 min) and Version 2 (13.5 min)

Today, we are answering some of your questions. How does a high desire wife navigate week-long business travel separation? What are some ways a nursing mom and mom of little ones can increase her desire to be sexual? How does menopause and hysterectomy affect sexual intimacy? Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works? Sponsor Click to Learn More! This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible The following verse is referenced and explained within the episode, but read the whole Onan story here. "Then Judah said to Onan, 'Sleep with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.' But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother" (Genesis 38:8–9, NIV). Resources When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 1 and Part 2 - Hot Holy & Humorous Smellin' Sexy - Bonny's OysterBed7 (sense of smell helps sexual interest) 3 Ways for a Young Mama to Feel Sensual - Bonny's OysterBed7 3 Words that Can Improve Your Sex Life - CalmHealthySexy Simple Ways to Use Essential Oils in the Bedroom - CalmHealthySexy A Month Without Sex?! Advice for New Moms - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Manage Your Schedule to Create Time and Energy for Intimacy - CalmHealthySexy Sex Scheduling Leads to Romance - Bonny's OysterBed7 Sexy Pictures and Video in a Christian Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: Should I Skype Sex with My Husband? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Cultivating Intimacy During Physical Separation - Hot, Holy & Humorous DHEA for Vaginal Dryness - Bonny's OysterBed7 Replens Long-Lasting Vaginal Moisturizer (affiliate) K-Y Liquibeads Vaginal Moisturizer (affiliate) Sex After a Hysterectomy – Part 1: The Basics, Part 2: The Aftermath, and Part 3: Your New Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? - The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous And announcing... Click Here to Purchase or Learn More!

About this episode We all want to be wanted, and our husbands are no exception. Initiating sex is a great way to communicate "I want you" to your husband, but it isn't always easy. Why do wives sometimes find it difficult to even try to initiate sex? Some wives report that they do try to initiate sex but their husbands don't seem to pick up on the signals. What is going on? What are some things wives can do to initiate sex and get things rolling? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible What does God have to say about initiating? Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:11-13 Resources You're Not Kissing Enough – Hot, Holy & Humorous 40 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Husband – Hot, Holy & Humorous5 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse – Hot, Holy & HumorousFlip the Switch from Initiation to Availability – Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Initiate Sex ? – The Forgiven Wife When You Initiate, Do This – The Forgiven Wife 10 Ideas You Can Use to Initiate Sex – The Forgiven Wife He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. - Bonny's OysterBed7 Limited Time Only! Just in time for Valentine's DayAll three 2019 webinars for only $12! Understanding Your Sex Drive Foreplay Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) Good through January 31, 2020 Click Here to Learn More

forchristianwives.com About the Episode We understand the struggle wives often have with their body image and how it affects their sexuality. Today we want to revisit this topic to discuss how we can finally embrace our bodies and get comfortable being naked with our husbands. Why is having a positive body image such a challenge for women? What can we do to combat messages that make us feel worse about ourselves? Do we have any responsibility to take care of our bodies? Despite how we feel about ourselves, most husbands find their wives beautiful. But what about the wife whose husband criticizes her appearance? What advice from your own journey would you give to help a wife embrace a positive body image? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Position Cards Also sponsored by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Body Image Got You Down? - The Forgiven Wife Body by God - The Forgiven Wife| He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - J's guest post on The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Sized Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife 5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. My Husband's Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow? - Bonny's OysterBed7 For a Limited Time Only Just in time for Valentine's Day All three 2019 webinars for only $12! Understanding Your Sex Drive Foreplay Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) Good through January 31, 2020 Click Here to Learn More

About this episode Today we're talking about letting go of something old and taking hold of something new in 2020. Sometimes we hold onto habits, thoughts, and behaviors that seemed to serve us well in the past, but now aren't helping us move forward. They're keeping us from moving forward and creating something new and better. What are some things we tend to hold onto, that may have helped us in the best but might be holding us back as we move into the New Year? What are some changes you've made, or changes you know that other women have made, that have allowed them to take hold of something new in their marriage? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. – Isaiah 43:19 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten— the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the Lord your God, who has worked wonders for you; – Joel 2:25-26 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! – 2 Corinthians 5:17 Resources Resolution Week: What's Your "One Word" for Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous List of all our episodes Silence the Lies - The Forgiven Wife How Do You Eat an Elephant? - The Forgiven Wife Go Small - The Forgiven Wife To Turn Wailing into Dancing - The Forgiven Wife

Welcome to our Christmas episode! Listen as we share a little about ourselves. Plus, we thank you for listening by offering gift suggestions to build your lovemaking experience, your bedroom ambiance, and your connection with your sweetie. Sponsor Click HERE to learn more. Also sponsored by Honoring Intimates, lingerie and more. From the Bible James 1:17, "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows." Resources The shopping links below are affiliate links that earn us a small commission at no additional cost to you. Gifts for Lovemaking We Vibe Sync (OysterBed7 We Vibe Sync Review) Liberator wedge pillow or other sex furniture (Should You Get a Sex Pillow? - Hot, Holy & Humorous) Vibrator pilot program Penis ring pilot program Sex blankets and throws Coconut oil Sliquid Splash pH-Balanced Feminine Wash Nooky Orange Blossom Massage Oil Gifts for Bedroom Ambiance Green Tea Infused Memory Foam Mattress Zen Breeze Essential Oil Diffuser with 14 Color Night Light (Calm.Healthy.Sexy Essential Oil Archive) Chesapeake Bay Candle Peace & Tranquility (Bergamot & Ylang Ylang) Twinkling lights or red light bulbs Honoring Intimates babydolls - Stella Red Flower Infinite Moon's EverTravel Set Gifts to Build Intimacy Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (Launching the Conversation About Sex in Your Marriage (with Downloadable Sample Chapter of Pillow Talk) - Hot, Holy & Humorous) Hot Monogamy Board Game - Married Dance Couple's Conversation Cards Waterproof Shower Massage Wand - Married Dance Stationery or cards for writing your sweetie a love note Picnic Backpack Bag for 2 Suave Conditioner Aqua Notes Water Proof Note Pad Click HERE to learn more.

About this episode When we struggle with sexual intimacy, we often feel alone. Our husbands may be our go-to support for most things, but if sex isn't working well, he may not be able to help us in the way we need. Sometimes what we really need is support from other women who know what we're going through. In this episode, we talk about how to find support for our sexual struggles and how to use that support to help us grow. We're joined by Ruth Buezis, founder of Awaken-Love Ministry and author of Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage. Sponsor Check out the games at Married Dance! Click Here to Learn More about Married Dance ------------------- Learn more about Peace.Love.Joy Learn more about the Honeycomb & Spice Community. From the Bible What does God have to say about letting others help us? Proverbs 11:14 - When there is no guidance a nation falls, but there is success in the abundance of counselors. (NET Bible) Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Galatians 6:2 - Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Resources Awaken Love classes Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage (affiliate link) Dealing with Sexual Baggage - The Forgiven Wife Hot, Holy & Humorous HD - Facebook group for higher drive wives Bonny's OysterBed7 community - on Facebook Honeycomb & Spice Community Sex Chat for Christian Wives Community on Facebook Do Your Friends Support Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? - Hot, Holy & Humorous

About the Episode Around 20% of marriages are sexless. That is, the couple has sexual activity ten or fewer times per year. About ten years ago, a New York Times study indicated that 15% of couples haven't had sex in at least six months. Sexlessness in a marriage can be a source of deep pain—and if often reflects pain as well. Today we're going to talk about sexless marriages and what you can do about it if you're in one. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about sexless marriages? "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Song of Songs "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 "You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love." Galatians 5:13 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24 "'Haven't you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! - Song of Songs 7:6 Resources Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon BurnsIntimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Why Knowing Your Low Drive Spouse's Love Language Is Important - Bonny's OysterBed7 Move Mismatched Sex Drives Toward Better - Bonny's OysterBed7 Ways to Align Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's Oysterbed7 @Messy Marriage Helping Mismatched Sex Drives Become More Matched - Bonny's OysterBed7 Why Sex? - Bonny's OysterBed7 How to Arouse Sexual Desire Through Emotional Connection - Bonny's OysterBed7 Eliminate These to Help Grow Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's OysterBed7 Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn't Mean He Stopped Wanting - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What If Neither of Us Desires Sex?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: I'm in a Sexless Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "My Sexless Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Faith in God" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is the Church Failing Sexless Marriages? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: How Do I Write a Post that Helps Sexless Marriages?Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 2 - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Sexless Marriages - Hot, Holy & HumorousQ&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 3 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 4 - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife Leaving a Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife Living in a Nearly Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife Is a Sexless Marriage a Loveless Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife Upcoming Webinar Click Here to Learn More

Episode 69: Shower Power About this episode Today we're talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You'll see what we mean once we get started. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about sex and showers (or bathing)? Song of Songs 4:15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon. Song of Songs 5:12-16 His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem. Resources Suave Conditioner (affiliate link) Foreplay Webinar Replay Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar (for husbands) Married Dance shower-friendly products (affiliate link) Behind Closed Doors: 5 Marriage Stories, J. Parker Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy & Humorous Feet and Sex (Pedicures can build arousal) - Bonny's OysterBed7 Episode 18: Listener Questions (includes a question about interest in feet)

About This Episode Today's listener questions are: My husband is really interested in me swallowing during oral sex. I don't get it. I honestly don't want to work up to it; it's already taken a lot of effort just to give bjs and oral sex to him. But he keeps asking. I'm not sure what to do - keep saying no, or work through my gag reflex and dislike of the smell and try it? To be honest, it kind of grosses me out even thinking of swallowing. I've tried using the gag reflex sprays too and it doesn't help much. I just need some advice. I've read in some books and blogs God's biblical design and purpose is that sex is a) for reproduction b) for pleasure c) creating intimacy - these three purposes are independent of each other — reproduction is possible without pleasure/intimacy or pleasure can be possible without procreation. -the maximum goal of the Lord is intimacy, for happiness of the couple and because marriage represents intimacy between church and Jesus So.. Do you think it's possible to have real intimacy without pleasure in sex? Like saying "if sex is not really pleasurable then intimacy is not really close" or "the greatest the pleasure the stronger the intimacy" or "a marriage can't have actual intimacy without good sex" or "no sex, no intimacy", etc. I know is a kind of strong question but I am struggling with this thought because I've read the three independent purposes of sex at some blogs/books, but I feel some explanations are missing, specially for we wives striving with orgasm or painful intercourse or trouble with arousal, so "pleasurable" is hardly a way to define sex life. Sponsor Learn About Married Dance Here (affiliate link) From the Bible In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1 Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex's Primary Job is not Lust Management - Bonny's OysterBed7 International Pelvic Pain Society National Vulvodynia Association Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife Oral Sex: Spit, or Swallow? - The Forgiven Wife Enjoying Your Husband's Semen - The Forgiven Wife Dealing with a Gag Reflex - The Forgiven Wife Goodhead Fundamentals Kit from Married Dance (affiliate link) Marital Aid Pilot Program from Married Dance (affiliate link) When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn't Possible - Messy Marriage Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife Episode 65: Female Sexual Health Q&A with J: Should You Just Swallow Already? Is Giving a "Blow Job" Enjoyable for the Wife? Upcoming Webinar Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019

About this episode Today we're talking about bedrooms, specifically the effect of your bedroom on the quality of sex and intimacy in your marriage. Can a couple's bedroom affect romance and/or sex in their marriage? What kinds of things about a bedroom are most likely to negatively and positively affect romance and sex? What are some simple things that wives or couples can do to improve the state of their bedroom? What could they do that costs very little or offers a lot of improvement for a little bit of effort? Sponsor FOR 10% OFF, USE COUPON CODE: SEXCHAT10 Click to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about the bedroom? How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs. Song of Songs 1:16-17 Resources Get Off Our Marriage Bed, Fido! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Getting a Sex-Friendly Mattress - Hot, Holy & Humorous Should You Give Your Bedroom a Makeover? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 3 Rules to Decrease Tension in the Bedroom - The Forgiven Wife

About the Episode Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you'll benefit from our conversation. Let's begin by defining "higher drive wives." Are these just wives who want an excessive amount of sex? What makes a wife higher drive or desire? The standard presumption is that husbands want sex more than their wives. Why has this message been so prevalent, and why do we need to change it? What are some reasons why husbands might have less sexual interest than their wives? What do you think lower interest spouses wish their higher desire spouses understood about their sexuality? Are higher desire wives represented anywhere in Scripture? Sponsor FOR 10% OFF, USE COUPON CODE: SEXCHAT10 Click Here to Learn More From the Bible "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). "Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12). "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2). Resources Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture "Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker 5 Truths for High-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters - OysterBed7 Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I'm "Too Much" - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom - Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy & Humorous HD, Facebook group for higher desire wives Click Here to Register or Learn More

About the Episode Today, we are discussing female genital and reproductive health. What we affectionately call "hooha" health. What are some issues that women have in terms of genital or reproductive health? Focusing on the vulva and exterior lady parts, what kinds of things are red flags that someone should see the doctor? Thinking about our internal reproductive organs (vagina, cervix, uterus), what are some red flags? Now let's shift focus and talk about sexually transmitted infections and diseases. What other practical suggestions for remaining intimate with health problems or STI/STD can you offer? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Everpillow From the Bible "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." 2 Corinthians 5:21. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:8-10. "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 3 John 1:2. Resources Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Center of Disease Control Little Known Perimenopause Symptom (Unending Period) - OysterBed7 Is an STD Affecting Your Marriage - Hot, Holy, & Humorous No More Period, Period. - Hot, Holy & Humorous (on endometrial ablation) Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy Without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife 13 Things I Heard at a Sexual Wellness Class - The Forgiven Wife An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction (Plus 5 Tips!) - The Forgiven Wife Azo Urinary Pain Relief (affiliate link) Monistat - Miconazole Vaginal Antifungal for yeast infection (affiliate link) Clotrimazole Vaginal Antifungal for yeast infection (affiliate link) Sliquid Feminine Wash from Marriage Spice (affiliate link) Bump Patrol After Shave Serum (affiliate link) Dr. Smith's cream (affiliate link) Click Here to Register or Learn More

Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth Many of our listeners are survivors of sexual abuse, or we know someone who is. We'd like to talk today about how that trauma shapes survivors, how it affects their marriages, what healing looks like, and what we can do as the church to support survivors. We are joined by Mary DeMuth, an advocate, author, and survivor herself. Mary has a new book coming out August 13: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis. Sponsor Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. Learn more about Everpillow by Infinite Moon From the Bible What does God have to say about healing and sexual abuse? Luke 4:17-21 - . . . and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:"The Spirit of the Lord is on me,because he has anointed meto proclaim good news to the poor.He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisonersand recovery of sight for the blind,to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. He began by saying to them, "Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing." Luke 10:25-37 - The Good Samaritan The Book of Job Genesis 1:2 - Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters. Resources (Includes affiliate links) Buy the book - We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis What is C-PTSD? - Beauty After Bruises WeToo.org 5 free healing books with We Too preorder by August 12, 2019 WeToo resource list Not Marked, by Mary DeMuth Mary DeMuth's website GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment) Healing from Sexual Trauma - The Forgiven Wife Are We Afraid of #ChurchToo? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Abuse in the Church Makes Me Crazy - Hot, Holy & Humorous For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth - The Forgiven Wife

We're addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom. What defines "sexy talk"? What does that look like? As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay? How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up? Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Lorals This episode was also sponsored in part by the Honeycomb & Spice Community. Click Here to Check Out Honeycomb & Spice From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy & HumorousSay What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed715 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine's Day – OysterBed7 Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7 How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink Bitmoji Webinars: https://forchristianwives.com/2019-webinar-series/

Episode 61: Listener Questions About This Episode Today, we are answering some of your questions! How do I practically and emotionally manage the messiness of love making? How do I talk to my husband about his premature ejaculation? Is it normal to feel self conscious about the way my vulva looks? Sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Use SEXCHAT10 in your cart for 10% off Click here to learn more about Everpillow This episode was also sponsored in part by Pillow Talk, by J. Parker. Click here to learn more about Pillow Talk From the Bible I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19 Resources Wall of white vulva – Huffington Post article Enjoying Your Husband's Semen – The Forgiven Wife A Wife's Breasts Have History! – The Forgiven Wife (guest post by a man) Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones – The Forgiven Wife Episode 14: Guy Talk – A Wife's Beauty Episode 58: Orgasm The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment – Clifford Penner and Joyce J. Penner 2019 Webinar Series Webinar teaser on YouTube Why Are You Leaking After Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples – J. Parker

Episode 60: Vacation Sex Today we're talking about vacation sex. We're recording this episode at the beginning of summer, a time when many couples and families take a vacation. But, whether you're planning a vacation or not this year (or if you're listening at another time of year), this episode is for you too. Because we're going to take a broad view of the term "vacation sex," and look at ways to enjoy it any time of the year, without having to travel or spend a lot of money. We talk about why some women find it easier to enjoy sex on vacation, while others find it to be harder. And we explore ways to extend the definition of "vacation," so that it doesn't always require a lot of time and money. Finally, we look at ways to slow down and make summer less stressful and more enjoyable, whether you take a "vacation" or not. Sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Use SEXCHAT10 in your cart for 10% off Click here to learn more about Everpillow This episode was also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a discreet store where married Christians can shop for marital aids. Visit Married Dance From the Bible Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. - Song of Songs 7:11-12 Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." - Mark 6:31 Resources How to Have Vacation Sex - Even if You're Not on Vacation - CalmHealthySexy 9 Ways to Relax and Enjoy the Summer - CalmHealthySexy How to Enjoy Your Summer Vacation - CalmHealthySexy Travel and Sex - Bonny's OysterBed7 Vacationing with Hubby: How to Make It Better - Hot, Holy & Humorous

Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture About this episode Where did you learn about sex? Was it from your church? From your parents? From your friends? No matter how much true and good sex-positive teaching we had, most of us learned a lot about sex from popular culture, too. Movies, television shows, and popular music often communicate messages about sex that are more myth than they are truth. In this episode, we talk about some of those myths--and we'll look at the truths that should replace those myths. Sponsors Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. This episode was also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a discreet store where married Christians can shop for marital aids. Visit Married Dance From the Bible What does God have to say about marriage and sex, women's sexuality, and men's sexuality? Song of Songs So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. – Ecclesiastes 8:15 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. – Proverbs 5:18-19 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. – Ephesians 5:31-33 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. – Proverbs 5:15-17 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. – Matthew 5:27-28 They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. – Ephesians 4:18-19 Resources Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? – The Forgiven Wife What Is Lusting? – Hot, Holy & Humorous If I Wrote the Sex Scenes – Hot, Holy & Humorous Have Stories Damaged Your View of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Webinar Series Click to learn more about our upcoming webinars.

About the Episode It may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers. Let's start with the basics. What is an orgasm? Why is orgasm important? That is, what's the big deal? Should a wife expect or want to achieve orgasm every time she and her husband make love? A lot of women struggle to reach orgasm. What advice can we give them? This last question is kind of like a lightning round. I'm gonna throw out some things we get asked about regarding orgasm, and let's see how many of them we can quickly cover: multiples, simultaneous orgasm, female ejaculation, clitoral vs vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasm. Sponsors Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. Click to Learn More about EverPillow Honeycomb & Spice Community From the Bible What does God have to say about orgasms? As we say in the episode, He gave women a clitoris--and its only purpose is pleasure! Resources Peace and Fireworks – The Forgiven Wife Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm Birth Control and Libido – Bonny's OysterBed7 DHEA Can Help Vaginal Dryness – Bonny's OysterBed7 Episode 9: Listener Questions (includes question about multiple orgasms) Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Different Kind of Sexual Wetness: Candid Discussion about Female Ejaculation Intimacy in Marriage Bonny Logsdon Burns on Amazon Author Central (follow her to get a heads-up when her Unlock Your Orgasm resource releases) Intimacy in Marriage – The Orgasm Page Better Sex in Your Marriage

About the Episode We tackle listener questions about gifts for a virgin bride, sex positions, and predicting sex drive. My friend is getting married this year, and she is a virgin. What kind of gifts would you recommend to help her have a more comfortable transition into losing her virginity, and loving sex? My husband and I are newly married and I feel like we repeat the same three positions and we have discussed getting a book to figure out new positions! I'm getting married in a few weeks. Is there any way to know before you're married if you generally have a high or low sex drive? Or is that something that you only know after marriage? Sponsor From the Bible How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! Song of Songs 4:11 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 Resources Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers, Bonny Logsdon Burns What to Pack for Your Honeymoon or Vacation – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sliquid Lubricant Sample PacksNoxzema Bikini Razors (Walmart site, but available other places) Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, J. Parker Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples, J. Parker "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Sex Position Cards, by Christian Friendly Sex Positions Guy Talk: Men's Sexuality – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Women's Sexual Response – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Website forchristianwives.com

Episode 56: Christian Sex Therapy, with Dr. Jessica McCleese About this episode Have you ever wondered what happens in sex therapy–especially Christian sex therapy? Listen in while Bonny talks with Christian sex therapist Jessica McCleese about what happens in the first session, treatment for pain during intercourse, sexuality and faith, and how much therapy is enough. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say? Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers. Proverbs 11:14 Resources Be Fully Well Dr. Jessica McCleese YouTube channel When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain – The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn't Possible – Messy Marriage

Today, we discuss romance. Is it overrated? 1. What is the definition of romance to you? 2. How does romance change over time? 3. How do you communicate with each other about romance? Sponsor From the Bible What does God have to say about romance? He Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.She Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. Song of Songs 2:2-3a And the rest of Song of Songs... Resources Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language Is Important – OysterBed7 Romance Infused with the Gospel – Debi Walter at Hot, Holy & Humorous August Is Romance Awareness Month – Hot, Holy & Humorous Common Myths of Romance Novels – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Romance Book You Can Read – Hot, Holy & Humorous Once in a While, Your Husband Needs a Girlfriend – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? – The Forgiven Wife Romance His Socks Off! – The Forgiven Wife The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science – The Gottman Institute Love Language Profile for Couples (quiz) – The 5 Love Languages Visit Our Website: For Christian Wives

Today we're talking about the challenge of interruptions, what form they take, and what to do about them so you can still have and enjoy sexual intimacy in your marriage. What are some common interruptions couples face? Why do interruptions make it especially difficult for women to refocus on sexual intimacy? Do you have a story of being interrupted during sex and how you handled it? How can we minimize interruptions? How can we deal with interruptions that happen no matter what? Sponsor Get all 220+ sex position illustrations in playing card format! These sex position cards are an excellent tool for discovering new sex poses that can be added to your lovemaking repertoire. Regular $15. Now only $9.99! Click HERE to learn more. From the Bible Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:2-5 And the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. – Mark 10:8-9 Resources My Many Mental Browser Tabs - Forgiven Wife Get Off Our Marriage Bed, Fido! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Lock the Door, For Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous Bedroom Soundtracks - OysterBed7 Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories by J. Parker GoFundMe CLICK HERE TO DONATE OR LEARN MORE We live in different states and want to come together under one roof to develop material, plan future endeavors (including webinars), and record while actually being in the same room. Our aim is to develop material that will point you toward a more holy marriage bed and a deeper personal commitment to the Lord. Please consider helping us fund the cost of transportation and food for J, Chris, and Gaye as they travel to Bonny's house in east TN. Currently, any money we make from sponsors helps pay for the cost of podcast and website hosting. We will be incredibly grateful for your donation, whether $5 or $500. Thank you, faithful listeners. We wouldn't be here without you.

About this episode We're answering your questions today! Is it okay for me to feel hurt that my husband masturbates during my period? Where can I find a Christian counselor? Should I initiate sex even when neither of us is in the mood because I want us to be sexually active more frequently? Should I tell my husband if I had sex before marriage? This episode was sponsored by Scott Means from Heaven Made Marriage. Use the promo code PASSION 25 at the Heaven Made Marriage Store for 25% off (good through March 2019). The book can also be purchase from Amazon. From the Bible Proverbs 5:19 - A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Resources Lay Christian Counseling and Client Expectations for Integration in Therapy - Types of Lay Christian Counseling and their methodology The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant - The Forgiven Wife American Association of Christian Counselors Board of Christian Sex Therapists Stephen Ministries Focus on the Family counselor database Psychology Today database Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response Episode 17: Body Image

Episode 52: Resources for Great Sex About this episode Today we're talking about resources for your marriage, and specifically about resources to help you enjoy great sex in your marriage. From the Bible What does God have to say about sex? A lot! The Bible says a great deal about marriage and intimacy. Start with the Song of Songs. Resources We mentioned a LOT in this episode—and here are all the links for you! (This list includes affiliate links that earn us a small commission.) Bonny Burns OysterBed7 blog Unlock Your Libido: 52 Week Sex Drive Transformation Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers Join Christian Wives with Low Sex Drive - Closed Facebook Group Chris Taylor The Forgiven Wife blog First Steps Facebook group (see link for instructions to request group membership) Women in the Middle Facebook group Passion Pursuit study Intimacy Mentoring J. Parker Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples Hot, Holy & Humorous Community (closed Facebook group for husbands and wives) Hot, Holy & Humorous HD group (closed Facebook group for higher-drive wives) Gaye Christmus Calm.Healthy.Sexy blog Passionate Marriage page Guide to Essential Romantic Oils Other Resources We Mentioned Christian Marriage Bloggers Association - Directory Dynamic Marriage 9 Week Course The Gift of Sex - Dr. Cliff and Joyce Penner Awaken Love - Ruth Buezis The Generous Wife Be Fully Well - Dr. Jessica McCleese Intimacy in Marriage Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage - Julie Sibert & Jeff Murphy Love Hope Adventure Intentional Today The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as New Bride - Ngina Otiende The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex - Sheila Wray Gregoire Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage - Kevin Leman

We'd like to thank today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Disclaimer: We were provided with a free product. If you choose to purchase this product, Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast will receive a small commission from Infinitemoon. All opinions are honestly given and not coerced. Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. About this episode I'm thinking of a number! Can you guess what it is? I'm thinking of the number 2 because, it takes two baby! And, it's Sex Chat for Christian Wives' 2nd anniversary! Today, we're going to revisit some great information and share some new about: How can you find your sexiness by managing body image issues, stress, and lack of time? What is Female Sexual Response and how do we use it to understand our sex drive for the benefit of the bedroom? How can you find fun with your husband in and out of the bedroom? From the Bible What does God have to say about our sex lives? Here are some of the verses we shared in today's episode: It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth. – Genesis 1:27-28 and When the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom, she took the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6. Moral of the story: Sexual intimacy was encouraged by God and had nothing to do with "the fall." Song of Songs The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? – The Forgiven Wife The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone – The Forgiven Wife 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Why Did God Make Sex So Hard Sometimes? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous – Hot, Holy & Humorous Please visit today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. Don't forget to use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off your order.

Our guest today is Kevin A. Thompson, the lead pastor at Community Bible Church in western Arkansas, speaks at marriage and parenting conferences, and has authored three books, the most recent one titled Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last. In Happily, you start by talking about how we tend to think happy or unhappy marriages are a product of luck or unspoken rules like marrying the right person. We've also heard this with the idea of sexual compatibility. What do y'all think about that idea? You have eight commitments outlined in Happily, but one stuck out to me in particular about how we can misuse apathy and aggression in marriage. How do spouses misuse apathy and aggression when dealing with sex in their marriage? Kevin, you've been bold on your blog about how women should be treated with respect, speaking for #MeToo and other issues. We've also talked about that here. But how can wives get husbands to understand their experiences with harassment and abuse without seeming like we're man-bashing? You're a pastor, and while you can't speak for all the others, we get this question sometimes and wonder how you'd answer: Why don't pastors preach and teach more about sex? What if a wife is experiencing sexual issues in her marriage? How should she approach her male pastor, and what safeguards should be in place? Kevin A. Thompson's book is Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last, and check out his previous marriage book, Friends, Partners, and Lovers and his blog. Our Sponsor CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS RIDICULOUSLY COMFORTABLE PILLOW. Resources Want help talking about sex in your marriage? Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker. Priced at $2.99 for the ebook only through Valentine's Day! Also check out Intimacy Mentoring from Chris Taylor. Let's Make This Abundantly Clear – Kevin A. Thompson How Football Can Protect Women – Kevin A. Thompson What a Drunk Girl Deserves – Kevin A. Thompson This is how women feel about walking alone at night in their own neighborhoods – Washington Post This List Shows All the Things Women Do to Protect Themselves on a Daily Basis — & We're Exhausted – Cafe Mom Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? (with a sermon from Kevin) – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) – Hot, Holy & Humorous Never Call A Pastor for Premarital Counseling – Kevin A. Thompson What Men and Women Don't Know About Sex – Kevin A. Thompson From the Bible "Jesus said: 'Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.'" – Matthew 5:3-10 "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. " – Titus 2:3-5 Our Website http://forchristianwives.com

Today, we're talking about creating a new year for intimacy in your marriage. Although we're already a few weeks into 2019, there's still plenty of time to make a plan for growing closer to your husband, strengthening your marriage, and enjoying sex and intimacy this year. There are lots of different ways to approach change in general. How do you approach making changes in your life? What changes do you plan to make this year, either in your marriage or in other areas of your life? What's your best recommendation to a listener who wants to improve sex and intimacy in her marriage this year, but isn't sure where to begin? Sponsor: InfiniteMoon Everpillow Coupon Code: SexChat10 for 10% off InfiniteMoon Resources "Eden" – Online Etymology Dictionary Goals to Grow Your Sexual Interest – Bonny's OysterBed7 What's Your Middle Name? – Bonny's OysterBed7 Pillow Talk by J. Parker (great book for the New Year!) 9 Things to Do This Week to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 12 Strategies for a CalmHealthySexy New Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How to Feel Sexy This Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Baby Steps for Moving Forward – The Forgiven Wife One Step Forward – The Forgiven Wife From the Bible "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." – Isaiah 43:19 Visit our website at https://forchristianwives.com.

Dr. Juli Slattery, president of Authentic Intimacy, joins us for this episode. Her most recent book, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters, challenges us to think about sexuality in new ways. We talk with Juli about sexual brokenness, why the enemy likes to attack our sexuality, and how we can pray about our sex lives (even during sex!). From the Bible What does God have to say about brokenness and how we can fight the enemy's attacks on us (even in the area of sexuality)? And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7 Resources 25 Reasons God Made Sex Really Good - Bonny's Oysterbed7 Sexual Invocation - The Forgiven Wife Passion Pursuit - Authentic Intimacy Resources Passion Pursuit study hosted by The Forgiven Wife Shekhinah Glory Links to Our Sponsors J. Parker, Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples at Amazon, Barnes & Noble/Nook, Apple/iBooks, and Kobo Chris Taylor, Intimacy Mentoring or Intimacy Encouragement

Today on the podcast we're talking about lingerie. What is lingerie anyway? That term covers both what we wear under our clothes and to bed. Or even just for a few moments before the outfit is summarily tossed onto the floor to make way for other activities in the bedroom. What do you think of lingerie, and have your opinions or practices changed throughout the years? How might our choice of lingerie impact our sexual intimacy? We often hear how husbands want to see their wives in sexy lingerie, but what if he doesn't care? What should a wife do then? Getting practical, how should wives shop for lingerie? What tips do you have? Do y'all have anything biblical to add to this topic of lingerie? Peace. Love. Joy. - 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season Resources Where to Shop for Lingerie – Hot, Holy & Humorous "Getting Ready for Sex," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design The 7-Day Lingerie Experiment – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie – The Forgiven Wife Torrid Plus-Size Lingerie Honoring Intimates Marriage Spice Website forchristianwives.com

In this episode, we answer listeners' questions about struggling to initiate sex, catching your husband ogling another woman, having an orgasm during intercourse, and filming yourselves having sex. Be sure to check out our show notes at forchristianwives.com for links to helpful resources!

About this episode Merriam-Webster defines foreplay as "erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse." But what is erotic stimulation? And why is it important for the sexual intimacy in a marriage? How do men and women tend to think about foreplay differently? What does that word mean to husbands? What does it mean to wives? What actually constitutes foreplay? Why is foreplay important for a married couple? How can wives talk about their foreplay desires with their husbands? Is foreplay in the Bible? From the Bible What does God have to say about foreplay? Song of Songs – the whole book! "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love" (Proverbs 5:18-19). Resources Rube Goldberg machine Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? – The Forgiven Wife Ultimate Intimacy app Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker Visit our post for this episode.

About this episode It's been a while since the four of us had young kids, but today we're hosting special guest Keelie Reason, marriage and sex blogger at Love Hope Adventure, on the topic of making love when you still have kids in the house. How did you feel about having sex while your kids were in the house? Why do you not feel self-conscious? What would you say to someone who is self-conscious? How do you handle being interrupted? From the Bible What does God have to say about having sex when kids are in the house? "Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control" (1 Corinthians 7:5, NIV). Resources Lock the Door, for Heaven's Sake! by Hot, Holy & Humorous Young Kids Can Kill Your Sex Life…If You Let Them by Hot, Holy & Humorous Yes, Kid, Your Mommy and Daddy Have Sex by Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home by Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear by Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Times You Teach Holy and Healthy Sex to Your Kids by Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Parenting Get in the Way of Your Marriage? by The Forgiven Wife The Joy of Earbuds by The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? by The Forgiven Wife What If My Kids Hear Me Having Sex? by Keelie Reason (video) 4 Reasons to Add a Regular "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule by CalmHealthySexy 4 Steps to Scheduling a Regular "Parents' Night" by CalmHealthySexy More show notes can be found here.

For many Christian wives, one of the biggest battles they face is with their own past. What we've learned, experienced, and done can affect the marriage bed for years. In this episode, we're going to talk about dealing with our sexual baggage. We are joined by Shannon Ethridge, best-selling author, speaker, and life coach. She has helped so many women overcome their sexual and emotional baggage in her own work. In this episode, she will join us to talk about dealing with our baggage. Learn more about Shannon at http://www.shannonethridge.com/.

Thanks for your support! Click here for GoFundMe. We know that oral sex can be a difficult subject in plenty of marriages. Is it okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage? What about germs? What if a couple disagrees, with one spouse wanting to give or receive while the other spouse doesn't want anything to do with it? In this episode, we're going to tackle these questions. Let's start with whether it's okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage. Ladies, what do you think? What kinds of health concerns might come into play with oral sex? If a husband and wife don't agree about oral sex in their marriage bed, how can they work through their disagreement? More links and resources at our website: forchristianwives.com

GoFundMe - Thanks for your support! Author Charlotte Bronte said, "Flirting is a woman's trade, one must keep in practice." And yet, once we get married, we tend to forget how we flirted so successfully in our courtship. Or maybe we were never comfortable with flirting. Everyday life and awkwardness set in, and we fail to pursue our husband's interest like we could. So today we're going to talk about flirting with your husband. Why is it important to flirt with our husbands? What are the benefits to flirting? Why would a wife feel awkward flirting? What obstacles are in our way? Now let's talk about specific tips. What are some ideas for how a wife can flirt with her husband? Any flirting or encouragement to flirt in the Bible that you can think of?

This episode concludes our "Conversation about Porn" 3-part series. The four of us are return as a group around the virtual kitchen table to help give some perspective and thoughts on moving forward in a marriage after pornography use is discovered. (Just a quick aside, we are aware that pornography isn't just a problem husbands have. There are also wives battling the urge to consume porn or read erotica. In a future episode, we will tackle that. But, for today, we are focusing on a marriage where the husband has been viewing porn.) How can a wife capture ruminating thoughts to soothe her pain? How can a wife find forgiveness and rebuild trust? When should they resume sexual intimacy? What we say to men who believe that a sexless marriage attributed to their temptation. For our show notes, visit us at forchristianwives.com. To make a donation, go to our GoFundMe page.

Pornography affects so many marriages--even Christian marriages. Although porn can be a problem for both men and women, we're going to spend some time looking at a situation we know many of our listeners can relate to. Join us for the second of three episodes about a wife dealing with her husband's pornography use. In this episode, Bonny offers advice to other wives based on her own experience. You can find show notes for this episode at http://forchristianwives.com/episode-39-a-conversation-about-porn-part-2. For the first part of the conversation, click here: http://forchristianwives.com/episode-38-a-conversation-about-porn-part-1/.

Join us for the first of three episodes about a wife dealing with her husband's pornography use. In this episode, Bonny chats with Chris about what she experienced in her marriage. Be sure to check out the show notes on our website.

In ancient Judaism, a woman was unclean while she was on her period. She could only return to the marriage bed 7 days after her period stopped and only then after going through ritual cleansing. So, that means opportunity for sexual relations were not nearly as plentiful as it is for us since Christ came. So, my friends, let's talk about periods and sex To start, let's talk about female health in general, what are some things that affect our periods and are signs that a woman should go to her doctor? Is there any reason to prohibit sexual relations while a wife is on her period according to Christian traditions? What are some things to help make it less messy and more comfortable? From the Bible Leviticus 12: "Purification after childbirth." Leviticus 15:19: "When a woman has her regular flow of blood, the impurity of her monthly period will last seven days, and anyone who touches her will be unclean till evening." Leviticus 15:28: "When she is cleansed from her discharge, she must count off seven days, and after that she will be ceremonially clean." Galatians 3:23-25: "Before the coming of this faith, we were held in custody under the law, locked up until the faith that was to come would be revealed. So the law was our guardian until Christ came that we might be justified by faith. Now that this faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian." Resources Learn more about Orthodox Judaism laws surrounding menstruation here. The Unending Period (peri-menopause symptom) – Bonny's OysterBed7 No More Period, Period. – Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous Support Us: GoFundMe

It's been a while since any of us ladies were pregnant, but we remember. Mostly. So today, we're tackling an important issue for many of y'all out there: sex when you're pregnant. Because when you're carrying a child, your body changes in so many ways, and those changes impact sexual intimacy. What changes might a pregnant wife face with her libido? How does pregnancy influence the actual act of sex, like arousal and positions? What advice do you have for keeping sexual intimacy thriving during a pregnancy? What if sexual intercourse isn't possible at some point? What can a couple do then? Does the Bible have anything to say about sex and pregnancy? From the Bible Genesis 1:27, Psalm 127:3, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, 1 Samuel 12:24a Resources Sexual Positions for Pregnancy, or "My Belly's In the Way!" – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Pregnancy Bed Rest Makes Sex Forbidden – Hot, Holy & Humorous "(You're) Having My Baby" – Paul Anka Episode 15 – Listener Questions (with talking to husband about sex) 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief – Hot, Holy & Humorous Request If Sex Chat for Christian Wives has blessed your marriage, please consider blessing us. We are asking for donations to help defray the cost of attending the October 2018 Declare Conference in Dallas, TX. This conference will serve as continuing education, helping us hone our skills as Christian communicators. If you've got some pocket change, please throw it into our cup. Sex Chat for Christian Wives GoFundMe Link.

We're answering your questions in this episode! How can a wife teacher husband about her body? What can a wife do if she is embarrassed about queefing? Is it possible to relax and enjoy sex when your kids are in the house? What can you do if you ask your husband about his needs and he responds with "I don't know"? For more resources about these questions, check out our show notes.

We've encouraged you to use all your senses to better experience sex, and that includes the sense of taste. The Song of Songs is filled with reference to both food and sex. Does that mean we can combine the two? In this episode, we're going to talk about food and sex. You might say this episode is a real treat! Find more info and resources in our show notes at http://forchristianwives.com/episode-34-food-and-sex/.