Sex Chat for Christian Wives

We want you to understand that sex is for you too! This is an idea we discuss frequently in our episodes, but today it is our focus. Why do we even need to have this conversation? Why do so many women struggle with the idea that sex is for them? Is it okay for sex sometimes to be primarily for one spouse? If so, when and how would that work? What can you actually do to make sex for you as well? Sponsor Use coupon code 10off for $10 off the one-pound loaf starter kit. Use coupon code 20off for $20 off the LOAF starter kit. Click here to visit the sponsor. From the Bible What does the Bible say about sex being for you too? Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love. – Song of Songs 5:18 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. –Song of Songs 7:11-13 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. – Ephesians 5:31-32 Resources You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - CalmHealthySexy Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husbands? - The Forgiven Wife What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Why "10 Minutes and Lube" Is Horrible Advice - The Forgiven Wife How Not to Think About Sex - The Forgiven Wife Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality - The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Sexual Desire - Honeycomb & Spice Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous Where Purity Culture Got It Wrong, Let's Get It Right - Hot, Holy & Humorous Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - Wikipedia Sexual Desire and Arousal: The Nonlinear Model (Rosemary Basson) - ObG Project These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous (orgasm gap) Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns (affiliate link) Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Strong Wives Coaching Support with Bonny Burns Faithful Counseling (affiliate link) Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode 1 Thessalonians 5 tells us to rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances. Today we're going to talk about what this means in relation to sex. How can we pray about sex or during sex? Some wives may think it seems a little weird to be thinking about prayer and sex. Why is that? What does the Bible say about prayer and sex? How can we help ourselves get more comfortable talking to God when it comes to sex? What are some ways we can pray ABOUT sex? What can we pray about DURING sex? Sponsor Enter discount code FCWSPECIAL for 10% off! Visit Share the Soap From the Bible He I came to my garden, my sister, my bride, I gathered my myrrh with my spice, I ate my honeycomb with my honey, I drank my wine with my milk. Others Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love! ~ Song of Songs 5:1 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. ~ Philippians 4:6–7 Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. ~ James 5:13 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. ~ James 1:5 Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. ~ Thessalonians 5:16-17 Resources Hot Holy & Humorous's series on Praying for Your Marriage Bed (lots of info & ideas!) How To Pray For Sexual Intimacy In your Marriage (unveiledwife.com) -guest post by J. Parker Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love Learning to Pray for Sexual Intimacy • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker "In Bed" (Or, Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) - The Forgiven Wife

We are down one host with Chris out today, but Gaye, Bonny, and I are here to answer your questions. If you have a question that you'd like us to address, head to our website, click the Ask a Question tab, and shoot us an email. While we cannot respond to all of your questions, we try to cover a lot of ground and answer what we can. Be sure to go back through our older episodes as well to see if we might have covered a topic you're wondering about. "[My husband] continues to look at other women and images that are so easily available outside our home. My question is; Am I wrong to be upset by this habit? Are my expectations too high? How do I learn to trust when I feel so betrayed when I see him look? Do I need counseling to truly move past this?" "My husband and I have a great sex life… The problem is that I want sex with him AND I fantasize about other men too." AND "I have struggled in that last few years with other men popping into my mind during sex… I sometimes just don't know how to handle a quiet mind so random thing will try to steal my attention/make noise in my mind. Wondering how I can enhance my intimacy with mental focus." "I am definitely the lower drive spouse and I think it's mostly because I have so much trouble getting turned on. It takes sooo long and we don't have a lot of extra time with our toddler around. I am struggling the most with talking with my husband during sex… I feel like I'm grasping at that turned on feeling and any little thing pulls me out of it. My husband is very very kind, patient and wanting to do what I need but I feel like I can't quite do it and I feel like I'm letting him down. I want sex to be good but I can't get the communication thing down. Any tips?" Sponsor Visit the site: sharethesoap.com Discount Code: FCWSPECIAL 10% off! From the Bible But they delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. - Psalm 1:2 (NLT) I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. - Song of Songs 7:10 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. - Song of Songs 1:2 His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. - Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Resources Bonny Burns, APSAT trained coaching Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Your Husband Look at Other Women? | Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | Forgiven Wife Yada, Yada, Yada…Talking During Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 45: Foreplay Episode 77: How to Ask for What You Want Episode 90: Getting Him to Touch You Where You Want Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay Foreplay Webinar – Replay Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today we're going to give you a little update on what's happening with us, talk about what might be happening with you, and then discuss what that might mean for your sex life and your marriage. Sponsor Try discount code 4CW at checkout. From the Bible What does the Bible say about when life is overwhelming? When I said, "My foot is slipping," your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. – Psalm 94:18-19 But now, this is what the Lord says— he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: "Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. – Isaiah 43:1-2 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." – Matthew 11:28 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7 Resources 5 Simple Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis - CalmHealthySexy You Probably Need More Sleep - CalmHealthySexy Create Energy in Your Life with Exercise - CalmHealthySexy Decide that You are Worth It - HealthyLifeToolbox 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex - The Forgiven Wife Rest in God - The Forgiven Wife Just Breathe - The Forgiven Wife And remember if you need or want counseling, we recommend*: *affiliate link Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode We are going to discuss practical ways to help you discover fun and playfulness between you and your husband. We talk a lot about being lighthearted during sexual intimacy, and today we want to spark your creativity. What are some obstacles you can think of that would hinder playfulness in a married couple's sexual relationship? What would you say to a friend who sees playfulness as a challenge to incorporate into her sexual relationship with her husband? What are some practical ideas to find light-heartedness or create playfulness during intimate moments? What does the Bible say about fun? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about positions? So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. – Ecclesiastes 8:15 (NIV) A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.. – Proverbs 17:22 (NKJV) A joyful heart makes a face cheerful, but a sad heart produces a broken spirit. – Proverbs 15:13 (CSB) Resources Episode 25: Sex Is Funny - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Do You Have Inside Jokes About Sex? (intimacyinmarriage.com) – guest post from J. Parker Lighten Up! And Laugh a Little about Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Does He Make You Laugh? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Joking about Sex Okay? | Hot, Holy & Humorous What Euphemisms for Sex Do You Use? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Hugh Jackman Says His Life Motto Is 'Happy Wife, Happy Life' (usmagazine.com) Sex Games for Couples | Married Dance (affiliate link) Glow in the Dark Body Paint | Amazon (affiliate link) Fried Green Tomatoes "Saran Wrap Scene" (with actress Kathy Bates) Riding the Train | Awaken Love Give Your Husband a Sexy Surprise | The Forgiven Wife The Flirtation Experiment: Putting Magic, Mystery, and Spark Into Your Everyday Marriage, by Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer Episode 34: Food and Sex

About this episode Today's episode has a tantalizing title, but what we're really talking about are positions that work especially well for a wife, ones that don't work, and positions might give you a better opportunity to orgasm. Let's revisit some basic concepts first and discuss why sexual positioning matters. What are some of the more comfortable or pleasurable sex positions for the wife? Now how about what Bonny has called #positionfail? That is, positions you or others have tried that Did Not Work Out? What are some sex positions that could provide a good way for a wife to reach climax? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about positions? His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. – Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Resources Episode 2: Sex Positions Episode 57: Listener Questions (includes thoughts on positions) Episode 87: Trying New Sex Positions Wedge Pillow – Married Dance (affiliate link) Why You Should Try This Sex Position | Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Positions in Your Marriage: Hey, I'm a Housewife, Not a Gymnast Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, by J. Parker Coital Alignment Technique (CAT), a climax enhancing position Packing the Suitcase, Christian Friendly Sex Positions The first to identify the position J is referring to on Christian Friendly Sex Positions by emailing [email protected] will receive a copy of her book, Hot, Holy & Humorous, AND Bonny's Unlock Your Orgasm. Wow!

Today, we discuss a question that a reader submitted recently: How far is too far? How much do I compromise? I know I'm not perfect. I know I could have showed up more in the bedroom and have said as much. But I do try. It's hard as a woman, wife and now mother of 2. He says I don't listen and no one ever listens. So, he demands I do things I do not like. At times, it's not so bad. I can't handle it when he is angry. He gets rough. And then when I ultimately refuse he is so fed up and angry he leaves me feeling like I just will never be able to make him happy. I am feeling hopeless. And I struggle with knowing if I really need to be doing more or if I'm over compromising. I love my husband. We have been together almost 9 years, and I consider him my best friend. However, at times I wonder if we can ever get past this to live a happy marriage. Sponsor Click HERE to Learn More And check out Bonny's STRONG WIVES website! From the Bible What does God have to say about this topic? The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, "I have gotten a man with the help of the Lord." – Genesis 4:1 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17 But whether we are at home with the Lord or away from him, we still try our best to please him. – 2 Corinthians 9:10 (CEV) For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. – Luke 8:17 Resources Who I am in Christ - pdf Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud & John Townsend (affiliate link) Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You in an Abusive or Destructive Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Signs of depression in men: What to know (medicalnewstoday.com) Faithful Counseling (now Better Help)- affiliate link Prevalence of Distress Associated With Difficulty Controlling Sexual Urges, Feelings, and Behaviors in the United States | Psychiatry and Behavioral Health | JAMA Network Open | JAMA Network (10% stat Bonny mentioned) Episode 109: Your Sexual Self How Should You Pray for Your Spouse? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Today we're talking about feeling comfortable in your body. This is a struggle for so many women, and it affects every area of our lives—inside and outside the bedroom. So, ladies, when we say "getting comfortable with your body," what does that mean? And why is it so hard to do? What are some of ways that body discomfort shows up in women's lives? And, of course, feeling uncomfortable with your body tends to show up with a vengeance in the bedroom. Why is that the case, and what impact does body discomfort have on women's sex lives? What are some things women can do to begin that process and start moving forward? Sponsor Click Here to Shop at Infinite Moon From the Bible What does God have to say about getting comfortable with your body? So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Body by God | The Forgiven Wife 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 | Honeycomb & Spice Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 | Honeycomb & Spice 3 Reasons to Love Your Body | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 11 Ways to Love Your Body | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How to Get Your Mind and Body on the Same Page | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Episode 109: Your Sexual Self What Not to Wear | Watch Full Episodes & More! - TLC Body Image: Why Are We So Hard on Ourselves? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Feeling Beautiful: A Wife's Goal for 2015 | Hot, Holy & Humorous Real Women Come in All Shapes and Sizes | Hot, Holy & Humorous Getting Comfortable Being Naked with Your Husband | Hot, Holy & Humorous Tips for Confidently Baring It All for Your Hubby | Hot, Holy & Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love | Hot, Holy & Humorous Grow Old With Me (Remastered 2010) - YouTube (based on Robert Browning poem) or the lovely cover from Mary Chapin Carpenter Episode 74: Getting Comfortable with Your Body - Sex Chat for Christian Wives

What do we do in our beds besides sex? Sleep, of course! Today we're going to talk about the relationship between sex and sleep. A recent study of over 3,400 women noted that those "who did not routinely get restful slumber were nearly twice as likely to report sexual problems, such as lack of desire or arousal." While researchers don't know which came first—poor sleep or sex problems—their study provides food for thought. How might poor sleep impact our bodies and thus our sexual functioning? How can regular sexual intimacy promote better sleep? Some people fall asleep right after sex, and some don't. Which type are you and why do you think that is? It's not always easy to secure enough sleep! Given the importance of quality sleep for our sexual intimacy and overall health, what tips do we have to help wives get a better's night sleep? Sponsor Click here to find your next pillow or sheets! From the Bible What does God have to say about sleep? There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God's rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. – Hebrews 4:9-10 Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." – Mark 6:31 In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety. – Psalm 4:8 Resources Better Sleep May Mean Better Sex for Women | Health News | US News Poor sleep nearly doubles risk of sexual dysfunction in women, study says (channel3000.com) Is Your Sex Life Getting Enough Sleep? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Sleepin' is Sexy • Bonny's Oysterbed7 4 Things to Do When You're Too Tired for Sex – CalmHealthySexy Does Sex Wake You Up or Make You Sleepy? | Hot, Holy & Humorous You Probably Need More Sleep – Here's How to Get It (calmhealthysexy.com) Binaural Beats: Sleep, Therapy, and Meditation (healthline.com) Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today we are exploring the term "sexual self." Your sexual self is an unfolding aspect of who you are, woven into the fabric of your being. What is identity and how would it relate to a sense of a wife's sexual self? Or in other words, how does your sexual self fit into the whole of who you are as a woman? What affects how comfortable you are with accessing this part of yourself? How do we integrate biblical principles into our sexual selves? What can a wife do to discover or rediscover her sexual self? Sponsor Click here for quality sheets at a great discount! Click here to visit Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) and connect with a fellow believer online within their network of licensed, professional therapists. From the Bible What does God have to say about your sexual self? For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. - Psalm 139:13-14 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27 Resources Breathe. Relax. Enjoy. How to Use Essential Oils to Increase Your Sensual Energy - CalmHealthySexy Husbands, How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy - CalmHealthySexy What Makes You Feel Sexy? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality - The Forgiven Wife Has Your Sexuality Fallen Asleep? - The Forgiven Wife Park Your "Sexy" in the Garage - The Forgiven Wife Is Sex a Spiritual Experience in Your Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 29: Lies Women Believe, Part 1 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Get Your Sexy On - The Forgiven Wife 10 Things You Can Do to Feel Sexy This Weekend - The Forgiven Wife Praying Before, During, and After Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon Burns is coming soon! Follow her on Amazon here. Email Bonny about her test panel for vaginal dryness formulation Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Today we're going to talk about what prioritizing sex means, what it doesn't mean, what gets in the way of it, and what it might look like in the lives and marriages of busy women. What does it mean to prioritize sex? And is that the phrase you think we should use, or should it be something broader – like prioritize sex and intimacy? And why is it important? Or is it important? On the flip side, what doesn't it mean to prioritize sex? It's fairly typical for sex to become less of a priority as a couple moves beyond the early years of marriage. When that happens, what's typically going on? What are some of the things that get in the way of making sex a priority? What might "making sex a priority" look like in the marriages of busy wives and moms? And what are some of the things they can do to make that a reality in their lives and marriages? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More! Click here to visit Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) and learn about getting matched to an licensed online counselor who is also a practicing Christian. From the Bible What does God have to say about prioritizing sex? "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Mark 10:7-9 Resources You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - CalmHealthySexy 3 Words that Can Improve Your Sex Life - CalmHealthySexy Picking Your Priorities (Sex Should Be One of Them) | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is the Spark Gone from Your Sex Life? Honeycomb & Spice Are You in the Mood for Sex? The Forgiven Wife Penis sleeve (affiliate link)

For many years, there were very few resources for Christians who wanted to learn how to have a healthy sex life. Now Christians can find more and more books, courses, and videos to help them. It's great to have choices, but sometimes it's hard to know whether or not a particular resource is good. Today we're joined by Phylicia Masonheimer. She encourages women to discern God's truth and live out their faith boldly in every area of their lives—including the bedroom. We talk about why it's difficult to discern which resources are biblical and helpful, what to consider when evaluating a resource, and whether to use a secular resource and then share a few recommendations. Sponsor Click here to learn more about Revival AI's investment opportunity. From the Bible Ephesians 5 NIV What does God have to say about evaluating resources? The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow his precepts have good understanding. To him belongs eternal praise. – Psalm 111:10 In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God's word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil. – Hebrews 5:12-14 See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. – Colossians 2:8 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:5 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. – James 3:17-18 Teach me, Lord, the way of your decrees, that I may follow it to the end. Give me understanding, so that I may keep your law and obey it with all my heart. Direct me in the path of your commands, for there I find delight. Turn my heart toward your statutes and not toward selfish gain. Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word. – Psalm 119:33-37 Resources Phylicia Masonheimer's website Verity Podcast with Phylicia Masonheimer Sexuality | Phylicia Masonheimer How to Read a Marriage Book | Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You in an Abusive or Destructive Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman & Nan Silver The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling | The Gottman Institute Leslie Vernick ministry The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope by Leslie Vernick Christian Cosmo: The Sex Talk You Never Had by Phylicia Masonheimer Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage by Ruth Buezis The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford & Joyce Penner Enjoy!: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce & Clifford Penner Authentic Intimacy – Juli Slattery ministry Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Juli Slattery Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage by Ed & Gaye Wheat Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode The marriage relationship overall can impact a wife's sexual interest. Having a good marriage with intimacy in many areas can make it easier to want and enjoy sex. In this episode, we're going to talk about things you can do in the area of nonsexual intimacy that can have a positive impact on your sex life. Sponsor Click here to learn more about Revival AI's investment opportunity From the Bible What does God have to say about improving your marital relationship? Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Resources Praying Together for Your Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Could You Use Some Marriage Humor? | Hot, Holy & Humorous FANOS – A Couples Sharing Exercise Couples Quiz – The 5 Love Languages® Episode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce Penner – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) | Hot, Holy & Humorous Give Him the Gift of Happiness | Hot, Holy & Humorous 25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Spouse – CalmHealthySexy How to Add Some Adventure to Your Marriage – CalmHealthySexy Nurture Your Nonsexual Intimacy – The Forgiven Wife Tending the Garden – The Forgiven Wife Respect Dare archives – The Forgiven Wife Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) – online counseling (affiliate link)

In this episode, we answer a few of your questions. "What are other ways to relax and enjoy my husband guilt free?" "I don't like feeling like it's just sex.... Do I have a block? Was I wrong to be upset? How do I get myself [past] feeling like it's cold and not love?" "I was hoping you could share some wisdom of what it's like moving in with your husband for the first time… what to expect…how to talk to one another about our soon to be sex life, and tips for a soon to be pastor's wife." "What are some positive resources on sex and marriage that are geared toward men? I have been able to find good resources for myself, but my fiancé has not." If you want to submit a question for a future episode, click on Ask a Question in the menu on our website and submit your query. Sponsor Click to learn more about Revival AI. Also sponsored by Christian Friendly Sex Positions Deck of Cards. From the Bible "All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, 'God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.'" 1 Peter 5:5 (NIV) "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) Resources Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous The Gift of Sex by Clifford & Joyce Penner Enjoy!: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce Penner Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Linda Dillow & Juli Slattery Intimacy Ignited: Discover the Fun and Freedom of God-Centered Sex by Joseph & Linda Dillow and Peter & Lorraine Pintus Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns Intimacy Revealed by J. Parker Do You Pray for Your Sex Life? | Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Your Sexual Intimacy | Hot, Holy & Humorous Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) | Hot, Holy & Humorous The Small Stuff Can Drive You Crazy | Hot, Holy & Humorous How Much Should You Learn about Sex before the Wedding Night? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (guest post from Heather & Eric Viets) What I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night | Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Episode 93: Newlywed Tips, with Ngina Otiende Knowing Her Sexually (KHS) Ministry (w/Chris Taylor & J. Parker) The Generous Husband | Daily rants on being a better husband (w/Paul Byerly) The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Clifford Penner Awaken Love Men's Edition - Awaken-Love Java with Juli podcast (w/Juli Slattery) Understanding Her Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Take the Survey As mentioned in the episode, Chris Taylor of Honeycomb & Spice is doing a survey on chronic illness and sex. We'd appreciate you taking the survey, so that she can address this subject well. Click the link: https://tinyurl.com/chronic-survey Or scan the QR code: About the Episode How often should a married couple have sex? You might think this would be an easy question to answer, but we think it's going to take a whole episode. How do seasons of life affect the frequency of lovemaking, and what range of frequency do you think is appropriate for each season? What other factors can affect frequency? What does research say about consistent sexual intimacy? How should you and your husband negotiate frequency? Sponsor Share the Soap has put together a special treat box especially for listeners of Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Click on the image above to learn more—and use coupon code chat21 for an extra bath soap jewel! Click here to get the free recipe for a personal lubricant/sensual massage oil. From the Bible What does God have to say about the frequency of sex? Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. - 1 Corinthians 7:5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. - Deuteronomy 24:5 Resources Gaslighting - Partner Hope Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales DARVO (a type of gaslighting) The 10,000-hour rule - original research, concept popularized in Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell (though J recommends The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle for a more thorough treatment), and research-based challenges to the 10,000-hour rule Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? Stop Hooking Up In Your Marriage | Shaunti Feldhahn - guest post by Juli Slattery Episode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce Penner More Sex Makes Us Happy, But Once A Week May Be Enough : Shots - Health News : NPR 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (webmd.com) Here's How Much Sex Couples Are Having Per Week (theknot.com) How Often Should You Have Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Vitamin E suppositories Your Husband's Libido May Not Be What You Think - The Forgiven Wife Unlock Your Libido by Bonny Logsdon Burns Virgin Bride Guidebook by Bonny Logsdon Burns Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? | Hot, Holy & Humorous 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex - The Forgiven Wife affiliate links included Click Here to Check Out the Bundle! GREAT VALUE. Visit Our Website: forchristianwives.com

titivate (v). – to make a person or thing neater or more attractive (Merriam-Webster). To titivate is to make small enhancing changes or to make oneself look attractive. For some women, titivation is a daily habit. For others of us, it takes intention to remember to do it now and then. Let's start by talking about why wives might titivate in the first place. What are some reasons we might let titivation go? How does titivation spill over into our sex lives? What are some things women can do to enhance their appearance? Sponsor Share the Soap has put together a special treat box especially for listeners of Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Click on the image above to learn more—and use coupon code chat21 for an extra bath soap jewel! From the Bible What does God have to say about titivating? ...she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics." - Esther 2:12 (and see Esther 2:1-18) ...as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. - Isaiah 61.10 Don't let your beauty consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes, but rather what is inside the heart—the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. - 1 Peter 3:3-4 (CSB) Resources 6 Simple Ways to Feel More Confident - CalmHealthySexy How to Feel More Sensual - CalmHealthySexy The Holderness Family - Lazy Pants Feel Beautiful: "Fight The Frump"! | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) | Hot, Holy & Humorous Amazon.com: Breast Petals (aka nipple covers) Southern Grooming - The Forgiven Wife Amazon.com: Teeth Whitening Kit with Strips Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. Sponsor Click here to visit our sponsor (affiliate link). From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 3 Words that Can Transform Your Sex Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Read a Marriage Book | Hot, Holy & Humorous Must a Better Friendship Come Before Better Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Healthy Life Toolbox series - Calm.Healthy. Sexy. 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Anal Sex Okay? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy | Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com.

Sex therapist and educator Joyce Penner joins us to talk about learning to enjoy sex more. Why do some women have a hard time seeing sexual intimacy as a gift? And what can these women do to pursue the enjoyment of sex with their husbands? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say that can help us better enjoy sex? Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, NIV I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, The Message Resources The resources below include affiliate links that earn us a small commission when you use the link to make a purchase. Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife You're Not Kissing Enough | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her - Knowing Her Sexually The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure Formula for Intimacy - free download from Joyce Penner Resources for Adult Children of Alcoholics: Focus on the Family Only You Forever Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs Love and Life Toolbox Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families: Friel Ph.D., John C., Friel M.A., Linda D. (older book, but still a good resource) You can find more resources at Joyce's website, Passionate Commitment. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Today is our 100th Episode! On this special episode, we share what we do when we're not talking about sex, what ministry projects we're working on, and nearly half of a 100 sex tips list we ask our listeners help us complete. Sponsor Infinitemoon.com From the Bible What does God have to say about our ministry (and yours)? Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. - 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Resources Unraveling | The Forgiven Wife (in which Chris shares about prayer shawls) Sisters in Crime (SinC) writers' group Healthy Life Toolbox - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Knowing Her Sexually - for husbands The Woman I Am: A Lesson in Self-Grace | Hot, Holy & Humorous Honeycomb & Spice Strong Wives Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery - Sex Chat for Christian Wives APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) ICF (International Coaching Federation) Click here for our BINGO card!

About this episode Today we're talking about Valentine's Day. It's coming up soon, and women feel all kinds of different things about it. Some women love it, some hate it, and some feel kind of ambivalent about it. And it plays out differently in different marriages. So, we talk about it and come up with some ideas for making it fun and romantic for all kinds of couples and marriages. Sponsor Infinitemoon.com From the Bible What does God have to say about Valentine's Day? (Not much, but a whole lot about love.) Do everything in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. – Colossians 3:14 We love because he first loved us. – 1 John 4:19 Resources Do One Thing for Your Husband on Valentine's Day – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Best Couple's Gifts for Valentine's Day – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Sensual Massage with Essential Oils – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How Love Looks – The Forgiven Wife Get Ready for Valentine's Day – The Forgiven Wife Romance His Socks Off! – The Forgiven Wife Take Charge of Date Night – The Forgiven Wife Make Valentine's Day Great for Both of You – Honeycomb & Spice Valentine's Day for the Rest of Us | Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Worst Things You Can Give for Valentine's Day | Hot, Holy & Humorous 9 Best Places to Get Heart Shaped Pizza 2021 – Country Living Yipick from Homie Depot Could You Use Some Marriage Humor? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Show Her Off dance program (at-home lessons) – affiliate link A Marital Intimacy Playlist | Hot, Holy & Humorous Bonny's OysterBed7 Bedroom Soundtracks Geocaching The Generous Wife Married Is Great T-shirts & Hoodies – affiliate link The 5 Love Languages

With people staying home more than ever these days, monotony is overwhelming our lives. However, there is one area of your life than can certainly move from monotonous to mind-blowing with just a few simple changes. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are talking about boredom in the bedroom and what can be done to generate more passion in your experience. What can lead to boredom in the bedroom? What can a wife do to move toward more energy, excitement, interest, and pleasure in the bedroom? What is boredom possibly masking? What are some possible solutions if there are deeper issues? Sponsor CLICK HERE TO SHOP OR LEARN MORE! Specific products mentioned in the show: Sugar Sak Vibrator Storage (pink satin bag) Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid FAITHFUL COUNSELING (now Better Help) Save 10% on your first month! Sponsor links are affiliate links, with purchases providing a small commission to our podcast. From the Bible What does God have to say about boredom in the bedroom? There the mandrakes give off their fragrance, and the finest fruits are at our door, new delights as well as old, which I have saved for you, my lover. Song of Songs 7:13 Resources The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone | The Forgiven Wife How Sex is Like Peanut Butter (for the low-libido spouse) | Bonny's Oysterbed7 The Coconut Cake of Marriage and Sexual Intimacy | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. He Doesn't Wanna, But I Do! Be the Brownie | Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Feel More Sensual | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Sensual Massage with Essential Oils | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? | Sex Chat for Christian Wives Create the Exciting Sex Life That Wives Want | Hot, Holy & Humorous - with guest Ruth Buezis 3 Benefits of Sexual Adventure | Honeycomb & Spice 2019 Webinar Series | Sex Chat for Christian Wives 2020 Webinar Series | Sex Chat for Christian Wives Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Sometimes we need to hit the reset button with sexual intimacy. Maybe it's not been going well lately. Maybe it's never been good in your marriage. Maybe you only recently realized how important sexual intimacy is to your relationship. How can you start over or at least get a fresh start in some part of sex that hasn't been ideal? Why do many wives feel they need a fresh start with the sex in their marriage? How can we begin to set a new tone or build new habits for sexual intimacy? What are some obstacles wives might face when they try to do something different? What are the long-term benefits of getting that fresh start? Are there any promises from God we can rely on as we try to reset our sex life? Sponsor Married Dance Shop at Married Dance From the Bible What does God have to say about fresh starts? For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. - Isaiah 41:13 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. - Isaiah 43:19 "I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten— the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm[a]— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the Lord your God, who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed. - Joel 2:25-26 Jesus replied, "What is impossible with man is possible with God." - Luke 18:27 They remembered that God was their Rock, that God Most High was their Redeemer. - Psalm 78:35 Resources Resolution Week: "And Now for Something Completely Different..." | Hot, Holy & Humorous New Year, New Hope for Marriage and Beyond | Hot, Holy & Humorous Resolutions, Fresh Starts, Whatever | OysterBed7 A New Sex Drive for a New Decade | OysterBed7 Goals to Grow Your Sexual Interest | OysterBed7 Can "Fake It to Make It" Really Work with Sex? | The Forgiven Wife I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife

Bonny, Chris, Gaye, and J have a list of gifts that can help you learn, love, and laugh in your marriage! Sponsor Click to visit the website and shop! Also sponsored by Share the Soap. Learn more about their romance set! From the Bible What does God have to say about gift-giving? A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great. - Proverbs 18:16 On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. - Matthew 2:1 Gift List All links below are affiliate links that earn us a commission when you use them to do your shopping. LEARN Pillow Talk (J. Parker) Intimacy Ignited (Pintus & Dillow) Tabletopics Couples: Questions to Start Great Conversations Sex Chat for Christian Wives webinar bundle Knowing Her Sexually Webinar bundle (for husbands) The Gift of Sex (Penner) Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women (Penner) Rethinking Sexuality; God's Design and Why It Matters (Slattery) Online Marriage Retreat (Coupon Code for 10% off; enter PARKER10, apply, then check out) Online Affair Recovery Course: Journey to Restoration (Use Coupon Code SW5 for $5 off and to track sales for Bonny :) ). Sex Position Cards LOVE Sliquid Naturals – Soul Coconut Oil Intimate Moisturizer Liberator Wedge Pillow Nadine Black Lace Babydoll from Honoring Intimates Married Dance vibrator pilot program Married Dance penis ring pilot program Doc Johnson Good Head Deep Throat Spray HandiPop Edible Hand Job Massage Gel Liberator Throw Partner Multifun Vibrator Stocking Stuffers: Tingly Lip Balm & "Gum Job" Oral Candy Teeth Covers Whisper Sensual Essential Oil Blend Cozy Cotton Weighted Blanket LAUGH Aqua Love Notes Waterproof Notepad (last year) Play Pens Dark & Milk Chocolate Body Pens 2 Pack Cookie Sutra with "stallion style" cookie cutter Sock Monkey Kama Sutra Dick Van Dyke series Picnic Backpack for 2 Ancestry DNA test How I Survived game Black Light Glow-in-the-dark Body Paint Cinnamon & Ylang Ylang Foam Bath Check out our 2019 list in Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide. Just for Our Listeners It's Christmas Eve, and Grace still hasn't seen a present under the Christmas tree from her husband. When Todd announces there is no present coming, she feels snubbed, not realizing that he's got a different surprise planned. But is his gift what she really wants? Or even what she needs? Inspirational Short Story, 4000 words. FREE through January 1, 2021, with coupon code WIVES And Don't Forget Our Resources Christmas Coupons for Him - Hot, Holy & Humorous Christmas Gift Coupons for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories by J. Parker Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed by J. Parker Breathe. Relax. Enjoy. How to Use Essential Oils to Increase Your Sensual Energy by Gaye Christmus Calm. Healthy. Happy. - 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and Create Your Best Life as a Woman, Wife, and Mom by Gaye Christmus Fit. Strong. Healthy. The Busy Woman's 30-Minute Guide to Making Time for Exercise by Gaye Christmus Quick. Healthy. Delicious. Simple Meal Solutions for Busy Moms and Hungry Families by Gaye Christmus Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Honeycomb & Spice Community, hosted by Chris Taylor Intimacy Mentoring, from Chris Taylor KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Community for husbands, hosted by Chris Taylor and J. Parker Higher Desire Wives Community, hosted by J. Parker Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Thanks for joining us at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Today we're going to talk about something that affects more than 264 million people around the world–depression. People sometimes hear the word "depression" and think it just means that someone is sad a lot or that they are weak. So let's start by talking about what depression is—and maybe what it is not. What kind of impact does depression have on our sex lives? How can our faith help us when depression affects our marriage? What can we do to address depression or soften the impact it has on our marriage and sex life? Sponsors From the Bible Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up. Proverbs 12:25 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. – Matthew 11:28 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 Resources Depression (major depressive disorder) – Mayo ClinicIs Depression Impacting Your Sexual Intimacy? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Sex and Antidepressants – Hot, Holy & HumorousIs Seasonal Depression Impacting Your Marriage? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Is the Oral Contraceptive Pill Associated with Depression?- A Synopsis of The Impact of OC Pills on Mood – Psych Scene Hub Sexual Intimacy and Depression – The Forgiven Wife And don't forget… The Resource You Need to Reach or Amplify Your Orgasm—for only $10! Buy or Learn More

We answer listener questions, specifically: Could you talk about the tilted uterus? I was told I have one and would like to know more about it. My husband is currently taking classes and working long days. He practically comes home to sleep and then leaves for school and work the next day. This has made it a lot harder to make time for us and especially sex. I try to do things for him in hopes that it will alleviate some of his stress What can I do to make sex happen? We used to be Jackrabbits and now I'm lucky if we have sex once a week. It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. I want to ask you about sex during my period. For me, sex helps with my cramps. However, my husband does not like intercourse at that time due to the flow. The other part of this is that my husband struggles with the desire to view pornography. So, during my period, he doesn't want to have regular intercourse, but he wants me to give him oral sex to help him with his temptation. I'm seeking wisdom in how to please my husband and support him in his battle with pornography but not lose myself in my frustrations and sometimes selfish desires I have as a young bride. Sponsors Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase. Existing customers can use coupon code FCWspecial for 15% off. Carefree Organics was established in 2013 by a boy mama of 3 to provide clean products for all concerned mothers and entire families. In starting small, the company has gone from just 5 basic products to high-end skincare, a baby/spa line, hair care, new cosmetics, supplements, and even mood-enhancing aromatherapy. There is truly something for everyone. Check out carefreeorganics.com and use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. From the Bible Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. - Philippians 2:3-4 Resources Sex Positions for Women with a Tilted Uterus - Christian Friendly Sex Positions A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots - OysterBed7Can Sex Help Your Spouse's Work Stress? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Stress Affects Sex And What To Do About It - OysterBed75 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1)Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2)| Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery Samson SocietyCovenant Eyes Internet Filtering Software (affiliate link) Celebrate RecoveryStrong Wives Rise - Facebook Group (run by Bonny Burns)"First Steps To Healing From Porn Discovery by Bonny Burns" - part of the Awesome Marriage Online Affair Recovery Course And don't forget... The Resource You Need to Reach or Amplify Your Orgasm—for only $10! Click Here to Sign Up or Learn More! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Today, we have special guest Ngina Otiende of Intentional Today, and we're talking about... Our most vivid memories of our weddings or first few months of marriage. When did reality set in that marriage might take more work than you initially thought? Now, bringing the conversation back to our mission of speaking candidly about God's design of sexual intimacy, what is one newlywed obstacle you can speak to and give advice in overcoming? What is one piece of sexually intimate advice you'd give to a bride today? Sponsors Buy or Learn More Share the Soap sharethesoap.com Newlywed Set Prepared Especially for Our Listeners Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase. Existing customers can use coupon code FCWspecial for 15% off. Carefree Organics Skincare Carefree Organics was established in 2013 by a boy mama of 3 to provide clean products for all concerned mothers and entire families. In starting small, the company has gone from just 5 basic products to high-end skincare, a baby/spa line, hair care, new cosmetics, supplements, and even mood-enhancing aromatherapy. There is truly something for everyone. Check out carefreeorganics.com and use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. Use FCW20 for 20% off your purchase. https://www.carefreeorganics.com From the Bible "...Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." ~ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Resources Episode 32: Advice For Our Newlywed Selves Free Access To "Subscriber Only" Resources - Ngina Otiende How To Navigate Conflict In Marriage - Ngina Otiende What Newlyweds Should Know About Married Sex - Bonny's OysterBed7 A Letter To My Newlywed Self (Age 20) - Bonny's OysterBed7 A Letter to My Newlywed Self: Age 25 - Hot, Holy & HumorousWhat I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wedding Tips for Bride - Hot, Holy & Humorous store item Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We are so privileged today to have Shaunti Feldhahn—social researcher, bestselling author, and popular speaker—pulling up a chair at our virtual kitchen table. Sponsor Click Here to Purchase or Learn More Click Here to Visit Our Sponsor Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase Click Here to Visit Carefree Organics Skincare Use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase And not mentioned in the show, but check out this Online Marriage Retreat, with J. Parker's 5 Steps to Better Sex. Click to Buy or Learn More Use code PARKER10 (click Apply) for an additional 10% off From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. Job 31:1 Resources [includes affiliate links] For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn Through a Man's Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn Do Our Yoga Pants Make Men Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous On "Pigs," Good Men, and the Difference - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce by Shaunti Feldhahn 10 Takeaways from the Spark Marriage Conference - Hot Holy & Humorous 4 Things Your Husband Wants from You in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous 7 Ways Screen Sex Is Not Like Real Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself by Shaunti Feldhahn What Is Sexual Interest and Why Should I Care? - OysterBed7 25 Ways to Improve Sexual Interest - OysterBed7 Budget Minded Gifts For Her (Pursuit) - OysterBed7 A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife To Duty Sex—and Beyond! - The Forgiven Wife Can "Fake It to Make It" Really Work with Sex? - The Forgiven Wife Why "10 Minutes and Lube" Is Horrible Advice - The Forgiven Wife Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today we're talking about sensuality and how wives can feel more sensual. What does it mean to feel sensual? Why can it be difficult, and why does it matter? And what can you do to feel more sensual yourself? Sponsors Share the Soap sharethesoap.com Sensual Set Prepared Especially for Our Listeners Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase. Carefree Organics Use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. From the Bible What does God have to say about sensuality? So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 8:15) How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! (Song of Songs 4:10) And the rest of Song of Songs! Resources 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual – CalmHealthySexy Essential Oils for Sex and Intimacy – CalmHealthySexy Sensual Essential Oil Blends – CalmHealthySexy How to Give Your Spouse a Sensual Massage – CalmHealthySexy What Makes You Feel Sexy? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life – The Forgiven Wife Eat, Drink, and Be Merry – The Forgiven Wife Orgasm Webinar on October 15 All 3 Webinars Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

It's a common scenario we hear: She wants him to touch her body in various places, and he wants to focus on the "good bits." So today, we're going to talk about where you'd like to be touched, besides your special lady-parts, and how you can get your husband to spend more time and attention there. Sponsor Click to Learn More. From the Bible What does God have to say about touching and kissing her body? She Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:19 Resources How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why woman are different from men and vice versa - Amanda Gore The Most Sensitive Spots on Men (and on You) - Women's Health (study of college men and women) You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous Open Your Mind and Take Off Your Shoes - The Forgiven Wife Episode 78: Breasts and How They Impact Female Sexuality 7 Ways to Communicate with Your Husband About Sex How to Talk with Him About Sex Feet and Sex (Pedicures link to arousal?) - OysterBed7 "Dirty Dice" - Married Dance (despite the name, it's simply a game to encourage touching/kissing various body parts - affiliate link) Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Click to Learn More. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We want to encourage you to just think of one thing you could do to improve your sex life. To give you some ideas, we're each going to share one thing we did to improve our sex life. Sponsor Click to Learn More! From the Bible What does God have to say about our tips? For his unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. Psalm 103:11-12 (NLT) I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Entering Marriage with Sexual Baggage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: How Can I Forgive Myself for My Past? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Has Your Previous Promiscuity Impacted Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Sexual Baggage - The Forgiven Wife A Husband's Emotional Need - The Forgiven Wife I Thought Sex Was Just for My Husband. Here's What Changed My Mind. - The Forgiven Wife Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex - The Forgiven Wife How Not to Think About Sex - The Forgiven Wife If You Make Just One Change . . . - The Forgiven Wife Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Questions to Ask about Your Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Click to Learn More! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode There is some really bad sex advice out there, most of it because the people giving the advice don't know any better themselves. Today we're sharing with you the worst sex advice we've personally received, but also the best sex advice we've received. Okay, ladies, what is the worst sex tip you have gotten either from a resource or an individual? Taking a positive perspective, how can we correct the record? That is, how should each of us and women out there respond when we encounter bad advice? What is the best sex tip you've ever gotten from some resource or someone? Sponsor Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) From the Bible What does God have to say about receiving advice? The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. – Proverbs 12:19 But Jehoshaphat also said to the king of Israel, "First seek the counsel of the Lord." – 1 Kings 22:5 Resources Episode 87: How to Talk to Friends About Sex The Experts Who Are Damaging Your Sexual Intimacy – Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Read a Marriage Book – Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Helpful Marriage Books and Resources – CalmHealthySexy Why "10 Minutes and Lube" Is Horrible Advice" – The Forgiven Wife Click Here to Learn More

Our podcast is hosted by four friends talking biblically and authentically about sexual intimacy. How can you find your own friend group to talk with about sex? We've got some tips! Sponsors From the Bible Friends We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine. Song of Songs 1:4 The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray. Proverbs 12:26 (NLT) Resources Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy – Hot, Holy & Humorous What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? – Hot, Holy & Humorous HD Wives Community (subscription) Honeycomb & Spice (with subscription community) Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1) - Bonny's Story Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2) - Bonny's Story Strong Wives Facebook Community (website coming soon) Passion Pursuit Study (with Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. website Sign up for our next webinar! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com.

About this episode Today we're talking about making space in your life for sex. And whether you're listening to this in the time of COVID, when we're recording it, or at a time when things are more back to normal, you probably have some sense of what it means to make space (or lack space) in your life for sex, intimacy, and just in general enjoying your marriage. Sponsor I want to know more! I want the whole series! Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) From the Bible What does God have to say about making space for sex in your marriage? Song of Songs 7:11 - Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Resources How to Manage Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy 5 Words You Need to Learn to Say - Calm.Healthy.Sexy How to Regroup and Start Over in July - Calm.Healthy.Sexy How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? The Forgiven Wife How Does Stress Affect Your Marriage? The Forgiven Wife Where Do You Need to Say "No" to Say "Yes" to Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Measure Up to the Virtuous Woman? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Friendship Builds Sexual Interest - OysterBed7 Friendship - The Art of Conversation - OysterBed7 Friendship 101 - OysterBed7 I Love Friendship Closes Its Eyes - OysterBed7

About This Episode Is it time to expand your sexual position repertoire? We discuss going beyond "missionary" to include other positions, with a dose of reality on what's do-able and how to introduce new positions into your marriage. Sponsor Click HERE to Learn More! From the Bible "His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me." Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 The mandrakes give off a fragrance, and at our doors is every delicacy, both new and old. I have treasured them up for you, my love. Song of Songs 7:13 (CSB) Resources Spice Up Your Marriage! 18 Fun Ideas - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. I Love New Positions! - OysterBed7 Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - The Forgiven Wife Sexual Positions for Pregnancy, or "My Belly's In the Way!" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Adding Variety to Your Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (Amazon affiliate link) Christian Friendly Sex Positions Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Self-care is important—and it helps our sexual interest too! In this episode we talk about why and share some tips. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30 Then he said to them, "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath." Mark 2:27 But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. Luke 5:16 Resources 5 Ways to Treat Yourself Like a Friend – CalmHealthySexy Silence the Lies – The Forgiven Wife New Day, New Way – It's Never too Late to Start Something New – CalmHealthySexy Episode 80: Intimacy During Lockdown Self-Bullying: What to do when the bully is YOU! (affiliate link) 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis – CalmHealthySexy

About this episode We're recording this at a time when many people are still living with some form of stay-at-home orders. Others can go out, but aren't sure if it's safe. And many others are facing financial difficulties, such as job loss, reduced work hours, or uncertainty about the future of their job or business. All of those things make the idea of "date night" seem rather daunting. But even beyond the current crisis, lots of couples face challenges to enjoying a regular "date night." Money may be tight, they may not have childcare, or they may be too tired to figure out what to do. So today we're going to talk about date nights for challenging times, whatever your challenge may be. These are simply ways to plan some fun with your spouse – at home or in your community – that don't cost a lot of money and don't take a lot of time and energy. From the Bible Song of Songs 7:11-13 Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Resources Date Night Questions - The Romantic Vineyard Alphabet Dates - The Romantic Vineyard Date Night, Anywhere - The Forgiven Wife Dating Your Spouse in a Crisis – LoveHopeAdventure How to Have a Movie Date in Your Car – LoveHopeAdventure 4 Reasons to Add a "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule - CalmHealthySexy 25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Husband – CalmHealthySexy 16 Fun and Healthy Dates for Married Couples – CalmHealthySexy Variety and Libido - OysterBed7 Friendship 101 - OysterBed7 26 2-Player Board Games for Couples - To Love Honor & VacuumAre You Dating Your Spouse Enough? - Hot, Holy & HumorousMovies to Inspire Romance - Hot, Holy & Humorous20 Date Nights You Can Do at Home (book review) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Make Date Night a Marriage Adventure (book review- Hot, Holy & Humorous

Today, we are answering some of your questions. How can I get over being sexually shy with my husband? How can I begin to get past the negative messages I learned about sex? How can I show my husband desire throughout the day instead of compartmentalizing sex for bedtime only? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples! From the Bible "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9 Resources Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 29: Lies Women Believe, Part 1 Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Aqua Notes Water Proof Note Pad (Amazon affiliate link) 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Silence the Lies - The Forgiven Wife Four Ways to Absorb God's Truth about Intimacy in Marriage - The Forgiven Wife When You Need Help Getting in the Mood: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Desire Throughout the Day - The Forgiven Wife Visit our website at forchristianwives.com

About this episode We're wingin' it! Hang out with us as we ramble about life during a global pandemic, the reality of trying to continue intimacy despite circumstances, and where our heads and hearts are right now. Maybe you can relate. Sponsor 2019 Replays 2020 Webinars From the Bible "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." – 1 John 4:18 (NIV) "For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control." – 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV) The Book of Psalms Resources Squirrels Sports Announcer doing Real-life Commentary Melt Couples Massage Master Class Episode 10: Tending Your GardenUSA Today Mask Pattern (the one J used) No Sew Face MaskFace Mask from Bra

We're recording this during the Coronavirus global pandemic, but today we're focusing on the positive with some practical tips for fostering intimacy during lockdown. What aspects of marital intimacy are most important during this tough time? How can sex be part of maintaining a positive attitude Knowing the challenges various couples are facing, what tips do you have for nurturing intimacy during lockdown? What scripture gives you hope and comfort right now? Sponsor Download Your FREE Copy! And check out our webinar replays. From the Bible "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." – Psalm 118:24 (ESV) When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. – Isaiah 43:2-3 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" – Matthew 6:25-27 Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God. – Psalm 146:3,5 Resources 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.The Joy of Earbuds - The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? The Forgiven Wife

About this episode As we record this, we are in the midst of a global pandemic. Life feels far from normal. Besides pandemics, we all live through very difficult experiences from time to time. Natural disasters, deaths, illnesses, and family crises can pull the rug out from under us. In this episode, we share some ideas to help you maintain sexual intimacy when life goes topsy-turvy. From the Bible What does God have to say about [insert topic]? "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her" (2 Samuel 12:24a). "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). Resources Challenging Times? Some Tips to Keep Up Marital Intimacy! - J's newsletterLet's Address These Marriage Struggles You May Have Right Now - J's newsletter 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief - Hot, Holy & HumorousHow Sex Can Help Us Cope - Hot, Holy & HumorousYour Wife's Anxiety - KHS Ministry 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex - The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Note: J's son was tested for Coronavirus, and the test was negative. Her husband's insulin issues got resolved as well. Let's keep praying for others who are impacted or at risk.

Today, we are discussing breasts and how they can impact your sexuality. Song of Solomon calls them twin fawns of a gazelle and clusters of fruit. Whether your twins are gazelles, grapes, or grapefruit, we are going to delve into a discussion about the female breast. What are some of the names used for breasts through the years? We can't talk about breasts without first talking about breast feeding. How can nursing affect a wife's sexual intimacy? What are some characteristics of healthy breasts and what are some warning signs that you may need to go to the doctor? How breasts can impact a wife's experience of sexuality in the bedroom? Sponsor Click to Purchase 2019 Webinar(s) Click to Purchase 2020 Webinar(s). Also sponsored by KHS Ministry (Knowing Her Sexually) for husbands. From the Bible "Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle" (Song of Solomon 7:3). "Your stature is like that of a palm, and your breasts are like clusters of fruit. I said, 'I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.' May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine..." (Song of Solomon 7:7-8). Resources 3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual - Bonny's OysterBed7 Ta-Ta Touch - Bonny's OysterBed7 A&D Cream - Amazon (affiliate link) Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream (affiliate link)Bag Balm - Amazon (affiliate link) 101 Words for Your Private Parts (with 25 words for breasts) - Hot, Holy & HumorousCheck Out Those Breasts - Hot, Holy & HumorousQ&A with J: "How Do You Feel about Your Implants Now?" He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - Guest Post by J. Parker on The Forgiven Wife A Wife's Breasts Have History - The Forgiven Wife

About this episode Today we are discussing how to ask for what you want, in marriage overall, and more specifically in the bedroom. This is something many women struggle to do and many women do not even know if they are supposed to ask. Why is it so hard for women to ask for what they want, especially in the bedroom? What are some practical things that women can do to start speaking up about what they want and need, and keep speaking up until they get it? What about women who do ask for what they want, but nothing changes? Or changes happen for a short time, but then drift back toward the status quo? Sponsors Click Here to Learn More Click here for Unlock Your Libido Visit Gaye's Calm.Healthy.Sexy Shop From the Bible The Song of Solomon Resources Speak Up - The Forgiven Wife Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Sock Monkey Kama Sutra book (affiliate link) Cookie Sutra book (affiliate link) Sharpie markers (affiliate link) Q&A with J: How Do I Express What I Want in Bed? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar - replay for only $5 Ravel's Bolero: Version 1 (10 min) and Version 2 (13.5 min)

Today, we are answering some of your questions. How does a high desire wife navigate week-long business travel separation? What are some ways a nursing mom and mom of little ones can increase her desire to be sexual? How does menopause and hysterectomy affect sexual intimacy? Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works? Sponsor Click to Learn More! This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible The following verse is referenced and explained within the episode, but read the whole Onan story here. "Then Judah said to Onan, 'Sleep with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.' But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother" (Genesis 38:8–9, NIV). Resources When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 1 and Part 2 - Hot Holy & Humorous Smellin' Sexy - Bonny's OysterBed7 (sense of smell helps sexual interest) 3 Ways for a Young Mama to Feel Sensual - Bonny's OysterBed7 3 Words that Can Improve Your Sex Life - CalmHealthySexy Simple Ways to Use Essential Oils in the Bedroom - CalmHealthySexy A Month Without Sex?! Advice for New Moms - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Manage Your Schedule to Create Time and Energy for Intimacy - CalmHealthySexy Sex Scheduling Leads to Romance - Bonny's OysterBed7 Sexy Pictures and Video in a Christian Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: Should I Skype Sex with My Husband? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Cultivating Intimacy During Physical Separation - Hot, Holy & Humorous DHEA for Vaginal Dryness - Bonny's OysterBed7 Replens Long-Lasting Vaginal Moisturizer (affiliate) K-Y Liquibeads Vaginal Moisturizer (affiliate) Sex After a Hysterectomy – Part 1: The Basics, Part 2: The Aftermath, and Part 3: Your New Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? - The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous And announcing... Click Here to Purchase or Learn More!

About this episode We all want to be wanted, and our husbands are no exception. Initiating sex is a great way to communicate "I want you" to your husband, but it isn't always easy. Why do wives sometimes find it difficult to even try to initiate sex? Some wives report that they do try to initiate sex but their husbands don't seem to pick up on the signals. What is going on? What are some things wives can do to initiate sex and get things rolling? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible What does God have to say about initiating? Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:11-13 Resources You're Not Kissing Enough – Hot, Holy & Humorous 40 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Husband – Hot, Holy & Humorous5 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse – Hot, Holy & HumorousFlip the Switch from Initiation to Availability – Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Initiate Sex ? – The Forgiven Wife When You Initiate, Do This – The Forgiven Wife 10 Ideas You Can Use to Initiate Sex – The Forgiven Wife He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. - Bonny's OysterBed7 Limited Time Only! Just in time for Valentine's DayAll three 2019 webinars for only $12! Understanding Your Sex Drive Foreplay Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) Good through January 31, 2020 Click Here to Learn More

forchristianwives.com About the Episode We understand the struggle wives often have with their body image and how it affects their sexuality. Today we want to revisit this topic to discuss how we can finally embrace our bodies and get comfortable being naked with our husbands. Why is having a positive body image such a challenge for women? What can we do to combat messages that make us feel worse about ourselves? Do we have any responsibility to take care of our bodies? Despite how we feel about ourselves, most husbands find their wives beautiful. But what about the wife whose husband criticizes her appearance? What advice from your own journey would you give to help a wife embrace a positive body image? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Position Cards Also sponsored by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Body Image Got You Down? - The Forgiven Wife Body by God - The Forgiven Wife| He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - J's guest post on The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Sized Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife 5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. My Husband's Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow? - Bonny's OysterBed7 For a Limited Time Only Just in time for Valentine's Day All three 2019 webinars for only $12! Understanding Your Sex Drive Foreplay Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) Good through January 31, 2020 Click Here to Learn More

About this episode Today we're talking about letting go of something old and taking hold of something new in 2020. Sometimes we hold onto habits, thoughts, and behaviors that seemed to serve us well in the past, but now aren't helping us move forward. They're keeping us from moving forward and creating something new and better. What are some things we tend to hold onto, that may have helped us in the best but might be holding us back as we move into the New Year? What are some changes you've made, or changes you know that other women have made, that have allowed them to take hold of something new in their marriage? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More This episode was also sponsored in part by Honoring Intimates, lingerie & more! From the Bible Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. – Isaiah 43:19 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten— the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the Lord your God, who has worked wonders for you; – Joel 2:25-26 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! – 2 Corinthians 5:17 Resources Resolution Week: What's Your "One Word" for Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous List of all our episodes Silence the Lies - The Forgiven Wife How Do You Eat an Elephant? - The Forgiven Wife Go Small - The Forgiven Wife To Turn Wailing into Dancing - The Forgiven Wife

Welcome to our Christmas episode! Listen as we share a little about ourselves. Plus, we thank you for listening by offering gift suggestions to build your lovemaking experience, your bedroom ambiance, and your connection with your sweetie. Sponsor Click HERE to learn more. Also sponsored by Honoring Intimates, lingerie and more. From the Bible James 1:17, "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows." Resources The shopping links below are affiliate links that earn us a small commission at no additional cost to you. Gifts for Lovemaking We Vibe Sync (OysterBed7 We Vibe Sync Review) Liberator wedge pillow or other sex furniture (Should You Get a Sex Pillow? - Hot, Holy & Humorous) Vibrator pilot program Penis ring pilot program Sex blankets and throws Coconut oil Sliquid Splash pH-Balanced Feminine Wash Nooky Orange Blossom Massage Oil Gifts for Bedroom Ambiance Green Tea Infused Memory Foam Mattress Zen Breeze Essential Oil Diffuser with 14 Color Night Light (Calm.Healthy.Sexy Essential Oil Archive) Chesapeake Bay Candle Peace & Tranquility (Bergamot & Ylang Ylang) Twinkling lights or red light bulbs Honoring Intimates babydolls - Stella Red Flower Infinite Moon's EverTravel Set Gifts to Build Intimacy Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (Launching the Conversation About Sex in Your Marriage (with Downloadable Sample Chapter of Pillow Talk) - Hot, Holy & Humorous) Hot Monogamy Board Game - Married Dance Couple's Conversation Cards Waterproof Shower Massage Wand - Married Dance Stationery or cards for writing your sweetie a love note Picnic Backpack Bag for 2 Suave Conditioner Aqua Notes Water Proof Note Pad Click HERE to learn more.

About this episode When we struggle with sexual intimacy, we often feel alone. Our husbands may be our go-to support for most things, but if sex isn't working well, he may not be able to help us in the way we need. Sometimes what we really need is support from other women who know what we're going through. In this episode, we talk about how to find support for our sexual struggles and how to use that support to help us grow. We're joined by Ruth Buezis, founder of Awaken-Love Ministry and author of Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage. Sponsor Check out the games at Married Dance! Click Here to Learn More about Married Dance ------------------- Learn more about Peace.Love.Joy Learn more about the Honeycomb & Spice Community. From the Bible What does God have to say about letting others help us? Proverbs 11:14 - When there is no guidance a nation falls, but there is success in the abundance of counselors. (NET Bible) Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Galatians 6:2 - Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Resources Awaken Love classes Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage (affiliate link) Dealing with Sexual Baggage - The Forgiven Wife Hot, Holy & Humorous HD - Facebook group for higher drive wives Bonny's OysterBed7 community - on Facebook Honeycomb & Spice Community Sex Chat for Christian Wives Community on Facebook Do Your Friends Support Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? - Hot, Holy & Humorous

About the Episode Around 20% of marriages are sexless. That is, the couple has sexual activity ten or fewer times per year. About ten years ago, a New York Times study indicated that 15% of couples haven't had sex in at least six months. Sexlessness in a marriage can be a source of deep pain—and if often reflects pain as well. Today we're going to talk about sexless marriages and what you can do about it if you're in one. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about sexless marriages? "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Song of Songs "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 "You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love." Galatians 5:13 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24 "'Haven't you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! - Song of Songs 7:6 Resources Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon BurnsIntimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Why Knowing Your Low Drive Spouse's Love Language Is Important - Bonny's OysterBed7 Move Mismatched Sex Drives Toward Better - Bonny's OysterBed7 Ways to Align Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's Oysterbed7 @Messy Marriage Helping Mismatched Sex Drives Become More Matched - Bonny's OysterBed7 Why Sex? - Bonny's OysterBed7 How to Arouse Sexual Desire Through Emotional Connection - Bonny's OysterBed7 Eliminate These to Help Grow Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's OysterBed7 Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn't Mean He Stopped Wanting - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What If Neither of Us Desires Sex?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: I'm in a Sexless Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "My Sexless Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Faith in God" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is the Church Failing Sexless Marriages? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: How Do I Write a Post that Helps Sexless Marriages?Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 2 - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Sexless Marriages - Hot, Holy & HumorousQ&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 3 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?" Part 4 - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife Leaving a Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife Living in a Nearly Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife Is a Sexless Marriage a Loveless Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife Upcoming Webinar Click Here to Learn More

Episode 69: Shower Power About this episode Today we're talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You'll see what we mean once we get started. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about sex and showers (or bathing)? Song of Songs 4:15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon. Song of Songs 5:12-16 His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem. Resources Suave Conditioner (affiliate link) Foreplay Webinar Replay Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar (for husbands) Married Dance shower-friendly products (affiliate link) Behind Closed Doors: 5 Marriage Stories, J. Parker Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy & Humorous Feet and Sex (Pedicures can build arousal) - Bonny's OysterBed7 Episode 18: Listener Questions (includes a question about interest in feet)