Savvy Psychologist

The code of toxic masculinity requires that men are dominant over everyone else, have no needs, show no emotion, and are always #winning. It’s an impossible order that stifles and hurts everyone. The Savvy Psychologist offers 4 ways to chip away at the forces of toxic masculinity. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-fight-toxic-masculinity Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether your graduation is coming up this spring or twenty years behind you, we all have moments when we wonder if we’re cut out for this adulthood thing. This week, based on the questions of many college seniors over many graduations, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen brings you the 5 biggest gems in the psychological crown of adulting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s one of the smallest, shortest words in the English language, but one of the hardest to say. This week, Savvy Psychologist Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 ways to say no (and maybe not even feel guilty!) Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1TMKXaK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wondered what your therapist really thinks? Curious to know if your therapist likes you? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb pull back the curtain on both sides of the couch.Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/what-your-therapist-really-thinks-a-conversation-with-lori-gottliebCheck out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcastsFOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGISTOrder Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologistOn Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsychDownload free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Eating disorders can be a mystery to outsiders. It's difficult to empathize with throwing up, starving, or bingeing until it hurts. But there's a reason for every eating disorder. The Savvy Psychologist reveals 4 psychological drivers behind anorexia, bulimia, orthorexia, and other forms of disordered eating. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-mindset-of-eating-disorders Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Call it failure to launch, Peter Pan syndrome, or hikikomori, it’s the phenomenon of adult children not making the transition to adulthood. The Savvy Psychologist, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, explores why Peter Pans stay on the launchpad—plus, 3 ways to encourage liftoff. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/239-failure-to-launch-syndrome Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disgruntlement isn’t limited to postal workers. We’ve all felt disillusioned or dissatisfied at work at one time or another. Luckily, there are ways to fix it (besides fantasizing about quitting in a blaze of glory). This week, the Savvy Psychologist talks with bestselling author and organizational psychologist Adam Grant about how to spark a turnaround. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-fix-dissatisfaction-at-work-a-conversation-with-adam-grant Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With the widest wealth gap on record between America’s wealthiest families and, well, everyone else, economic inequality is making headlines. History teaches us that concentrated wealth isn’t good for nations, but emerging science is teaching us it’s not good for individuals, either. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen investigates the effects of money on mindset. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2khI0nP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trauma, once thought to be a rare occurrence, is actually quite common. And something else is becoming common: people are talking about it. From feeling less alone to getting support to making meaning, talking about trauma can help you make sense of your experience. The Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 reasons to talk about trauma. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/5-reasons-to-talk-about-trauma Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you stuck in a job so demoralizing or stressful, you look at Sisyphus and think, “That doesn’t look so bad.” The Savvy Psychologist explains 5 surprising causes of burnout (aka, why you want to quit in a blaze of glory). Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/5-surprising-causes-of-burnout Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do birds suddenly appear every time your beloved is near? Do stars fall from the sky every time they walk by? The Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, shares 6 ways to know if you’ve met the love of your life. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-know-if-youve-met-the-one Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The the Savvy Psychologist talks to Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, authors of the classic bestseller for couples, 'Getting the Love You Want,' now celebrating its 30th anniversary. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/getting-the-love-you-want-interview-with-harville-hendrix-and-helen Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do the Aurora Borealis, the view of Paris from the Eiffel Tower, and Roger Bannister’s sub-four-minute mile have in common? They elicit a feeling of "awe." This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explores 4 grand effects of this unique emotion. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/awe-the-most-incredible-emotion-and-its-spectacular-effects Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Imagine feeling blah, but on steroids. Or unmotivated, but supersized. Feeling like nothing is enjoyable (and that nothing matters anyway) is a serious symptom called anhedonia. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers two science-backed ways to beat the capital-B blahs. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/what-to-do-when-nothing-feels-good Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Too many of us try to power through the day in the name of productivity. We skip lunch but then burn out by 3:00pm. Or we reward a productive stretch with a “quick break” that morphs into a two-hour social media sinkhole. The Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen helps us maximize our breaks and recharge without losing momentum. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/7-strategies-to-maximize-a-break-without-losing-focus Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health and illness is largely invisible. But whether or not to disclose your struggles puts a huge decision on your shoulders. Should you tell your best friend? Your date? Your impatient boss? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen walks you through this tough decision. Read the full transcript at: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-disclose-a-mental-health-issue Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether you’re just starting a committed relationship or you’ve got 50 years under your belt, whether your song is "Thinking Out Loud" or "Love Me Tender," whether your next anniversary is paper or diamond, we all need to tend to our relationships. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 science-backed secrets to making a relationship last. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/7-secrets-to-a-lasting-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hold on to your handbasket! Every day, the headlines push our buttons of alarm, despair, and fury all at once. What’s a thinking, feeling human to do, besides invest in a Hunger Games-style bow and arrow? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 4 tips to be happy in a world that can feel like a Mad Max chase through the headlines. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-be-happy-when-the-world-makes-you-depressed Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it take to be healthy? Exercise, sleep, and perhaps not letting hours per week playing World of Warcraft stretch into the triple digits--we know those. But what about the beliefs we hold? How does our outlook on life, the world, and the future affect our health and well-being? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals 7 big beliefs healthy people share. Read the transcript at http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/beliefs-of-emotionally-healthy-people Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Pre-order Ellen's forthcoming book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety at: EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hangovers are bad enough. Mustering the willpower to get a glass of water, let alone make an egg sandwich, can take multiple hours. But now there’s a new symptom in the news: hangxiety, which is exactly what it sounds like—feeling anxious while hungover. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen walks you through 5 things you need to know about hangxiety, including how to avoid it in the first place. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/5-facts-about-hangxiety-or-hangover-induced-anxiety Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Individuals who undergo cosmetic surgery expect to look better or younger, of course, but they also want to feel different—happier or more confident. But does it work? Whether you think peels are just for bananas or you’ve been under the knife more than a chopped salad, this week Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen answers the question: Will cosmetic surgery make me happier? Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/will-cosmetic-surgery-make-me-happier Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is your cubicle the unofficial office water cooler? Are you tempted to set up shop in the handicapped stall just to close a door and get some work done? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 tips for when Jeff from accounting stops by to give you the play-by-play of his morning workout. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-deal-with-people-who-talk-too-much Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Forward-thinking companies strive to be socially responsible. Beer commercials exhort us to drink responsibly. And every parent wants their kid to be more responsible. All in all, responsibility is a good thing, right? It is, until it’s not. What to do when you have too much of a good thing? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 4 signs of over-responsibility, plus 3 ways to overcome it. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The holidays mean gathering around the table with friends and family. But along with the turkey, you’ll probably also get served a nosy question or two. Therefore, when grandma demands to know why you’re not married yet, cousin Fred asks how much money you make, or your brother-in-law wonders why you’re not drinking, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen comes to the rescue with 6 ways to deal with nosy questions. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/6-ways-to-deal-with-nosy-questions Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With the release of the UN scientific panel’s report, climate change is looking less like an inconvenient truth and more like a inescapable crisis. Wildfires, superstorms, and typhoons are the first guests to arrive, with food insecurity and vanishing coastal cities to follow. To an individual human, the prospect of such global destruction is totally overwhelming. Is there anything we can do? Is there hope? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 ways to combat climate change despair. Read the full transcript of https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/freaked-about-climate-change-7-ways-to-cope Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is your love language unintelligible? Is the spark in your committed relationship more like a dying ember? Sex advice abounds, but it’s either vague (“Stay curious,” “Grow together”) or just plain weird (“Eat ice cream in bed with the lights off,” “Try a fake British accent.”) Thankfully, there is hope. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks with sex therapist Dr. Stephen Snyder about how to keep the flame burning for years to come (no ice cream or accent necessary). The Savvy Psychologist survey: http://bit.ly/SavvyPsychFeedback Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-have-great-sex-in-a-committed-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the eternal question: how to start a conversation in a way that’s not creepy (“You have such beautiful lips,”) an overshare (“Ugh, this thong is way too tight,”) or weird (“Do you like ham?”) This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen walks us through how to start a conversation without remarking that your conversation partner looks just like your former cellmate. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/3-tips-to-starting-a-conversation-and-defusing-awkwardness Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do challenges as diverse as addiction, perfectionism, narcissism, and masochism have in common? They’re driven by a family of emotions that share “a painful awareness of self,” otherwise known as shame. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks with psychologist Dr. Joseph Burgo about the often-misunderstood experience of shame, and most importantly, how to overcome it. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-overcome-feelings-of-shame Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you harder on yourself than 40-grit sandpaper? Do you feel like you’re falling short, no matter how high you’ve climbed? Are you tough as nails on yourself, but soft as mashed potatoes with others? Welcome to the esteemed yet insecure club of the highly self-critical. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 signs it’s time to release the pressure. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/5-signs-youre-too-self-critical Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From a child who needs a bribe to make it through an errand to the colleague who expects you to rescue him from his poor planning, entitled individuals are more demanding than The Rock’s workout schedule. Sometimes entitlement sparks national conversation—“I got into Yale”—but more often it’s subtle: a double take and an, “Are you serious?” This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen uncovers 4 more ways to deal with people so pushy you’d think the last lifeboat was almost full. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-deal-with-entitled-people-in-4-steps Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes you feel insecure (besides trying on swimwear under fluorescent lighting?) Surprise! The culprit is your very own mind. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals three toxic thinking habits that keep you feeling insecure, plus offers three ways to feel more confident. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s intuitive that getting out in nature is rejuvenating, but why? What is it about going over the river and through the woods that helps us clear our heads? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen dives into why our minds love to go green. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/why-getting-away-in-nature-is-good-for-your-mental-health Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Like forms of procrastination—binge-watching GLOW, shopping for dog raincoats online, or stalking your middle school friends on social media—procrastinators themselves come in many shapes and sizes. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen profiles 3 classic types of procrastinators and offers 5 ways to change today! (Or tomorrow…) Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/3-types-of-procrastinators-which-one-are-you Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When should you stick to your high standards? And when should you accept yourself as “enough”? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles whether self-improvement and self-compassion can be two great tastes that taste great together, or if they’re more like toothpaste and orange juice. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/self-improvement-vs-self-compassion-finding-the-balance Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anyone who’s ever tried to help a friend in an abusive relationship has likely uttered the following two words: “Just leave.” But what seems so simple from the outside is much more complicated from the inside. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen dives into why victims of relationship violence return to their abusers, and exactly how abusers manipulate their partners not only into staying, but even defending them. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/why-do-victims-go-back-to-their-abusers Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mindfulness is the biggest thing since indoor plumbing. But as the mindfulness movement rolls on, myths and misinformation have popped up, like sweets in your grocery cart when shopping with a toddler. Therefore, this week Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen busts the 5 biggest myths of mindfulness. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-5-biggest-myths-of-mindfulness Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are your political views getting you unfriended on Facebook? Do you find yourself retreating to your particular bubble, even at the expense of relationships? Well, imagine being married to your political opposite. Now, imagine it actually working. Today’s guest, psychologist Dr. Jeanne Safer, has accomplished just that for 40 years. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and Dr. Safer discuss political mixing and how to make it work. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-talk-to-and-even-live-with-your-political-opposite Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It happens to everyone. You’re supposed to go out, work out, or otherwise be active, but your energy is lower than a three-watt bulb. Are you actually tired? Or just being lazy or avoidant? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 4 ways to tell when you should push and when you should rest. Read the full transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/should-i-keep-pushing-myself-or-rest-4-simple-solutions Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes guilt is appropriate: it links us to our moral compass and spurs us to right our wrongs. But too often, guilt crosses the line into inappropriate. It keeps us stuck, ruminating about the past, and, unchecked, can lead to depression. So what should you do if you feel as guilty as a teenage boy with a freshly erased browser history? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 ways to let go of guilt. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/shake-it-off-7-ways-to-let-go-of-guilt Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Inequality, privilege, and injustice blare from the headlines. When faced with an unjust world, how do you cope? Do you dwell on unfairness? Or do you stay out of the fray? This week, by request from Melissa in San Francisco, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals the surprising truth about how each of us is wired for justice and revenge. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/does-revenge-work-our-minds-on-vengeance Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all find our soulmate, are successful in our chosen field, fulfill our dreams, and live happily ever after, right? No so much. Occasionally life is a bed of roses, but often it’s a briar patch. What to do when life inevitably lets you down? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to deal with life’s disappointments. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The #metoo movement has shed much-needed light on sexual assault and harassment. But sexual abuse of another kind remains hidden even today. In the United States, it is estimated that 1 in 6 men was sexually abused as a child, which means that in the U.S. alone, more than 25 million men are survivors, living with and trying to heal from the effects of childhood sexual abuse. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and comedian Paul Gilmartin discuss the myths shrouding sexual abuse and how survivors can start to heal. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-hidden-epidemic-of-childhood-sexual-abuse-of-boys Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Comparing yourself to others inevitably leads you to feel bad about yourself. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to stop pining for that greener grass. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-these-5-tips Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Almost everybody struggles with it. But no one talks about it. What is it? How to discreetly sniff your own armpits in public? How not to buy the free sample after you just ate three of them? Not quite; it’s the mysterious process of making friends as an adult. This week, in a twist on the usual episode, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen presents an audio excerpt from her debut book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Usually, awkwardness gets thrown around as a personality trait,as in, "I hate parties because I'm so awkward." Or, "I have a hard time meeting new people because I'm awkward." But this week, This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen discovers that Melissa Dahl, journalist and author of Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, looks at awkwardness in a different way: as an emotion. And that’s a feeling we can all relate to, whether we’re Sheldon Cooper, Michael Scott, or you or me. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The recent tragedy of Robin Williams's suicide—and the ensuing media storm—raised awareness of suicide as a mental health issue, but also generated a lot of misinformation. This week, the Savvy Psychologist cleans up after the headlines. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1u8Rnmi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They may not be lions and tigers and bears, but they are dogs and cats and bunnies, not to mention all sorts of other critters. Who are they? Emotional Support Animals, and they’re becoming more and more common on planes, in college dorms, in restaurants, and elsewhere in public life. This week, by request from an anonymous listener, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains what exactly emotional support animals are, and whether or not you really have to sit next to one at your favorite restaurant. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2e5UZDK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Heartbreak hurts, plus it affects our judgment. Suddenly, driving by our ex’s house “just to see,” posting overwrought poetry on our blog, and a six-pack nightcap all seem like good ideas. Is there a quicker and healthier way to make it through the heartache? Fear not. This week, by request from listener Thy, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles 4 ways to heal a broken heart.Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/4-ways-to-heal-your-broken-heartCheck out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcastsFOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGISTOrder Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologistOn Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsychDownload free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The introvert revolution has revolutionized how we view our personalities. But lifting up introverts has had unintentional side effects for extroverts, too often painting them as mouth-breathing party animals dancing on the bar. Is it true that extroverts have shallow relationships and draw energy from others like a vampire? Not so fast. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen concludes our two-part series by busting 4 myths of extroversion.Read the full transcript atCheck out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcastsFOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGISTOrder Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologistOn Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsychDownload free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To celebrate our 200th episode, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen gives a much needed makeover to 5 pieces of classic happiness advice.Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-science-behind-5-classic-happiness-clich-sCheck out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcastsFOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGISTOrder Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologistOn Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsychDownload free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.