Savvy Psychologist

Self-control (or lack of it) plays a role in choosing a salad or a soda, working out or staying on the couch, and moderating alcohol or getting trashed on a Tuesday. There are times we all wish we had a little (or a lot) more of it. Therefore, this week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 7 ways to stretch your self-control. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2q5a63X Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when your BFF’s behavior makes you say WTF? When do you stay loyal and when do you call it quits? By request from listener Alyssa, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles when to stick it out in a troubled friendship and when to walk away. Read the full transcript at http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/node/9616 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether working, mothering, or operating as the head of the house, women everywhere understand the anxiety surrounding the phrase "dropping the ball." Author and activist Tiffany Dufu explains why "dropping the ball" and rewriting expectations actually leads to happier and less stressful life. Read more at http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/node/9562 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pop psychology tells us that complaining is a sort of catharsis—that by getting our feelings out rather than bottling them up, we’ll feel better. But it turns out this is largely a myth. This week on the Savvy Psychologist, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals why complaining only makes us feel worse and more importantly, how the habitual complainers among us can stop the grumbling. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2nMyGHf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's the flip side of psychological disorder? Is there a link between illness and genius? This week on the podcast, psychiatrist and author Dr. Gail Saltz shares how many diagnoses--from ADHD to depression to anxiety--come as a package deal with a hardwired strength. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2nkVmRh Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Scrolling through the news these days is like walking through a Halloween haunted house: scary, horrifying things pop out at you from every angle. Last week on the show, we talked about how to handle the sheer volume of bad news. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles how to deal with the content of today’s fast and furious news. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2n3wp8N Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

These days breaking news threatens to break all of us. No matter your political leanings, the volume (in terms of both quantity and loudness) of news these days is unprecedented. How to deal? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains what news overload is doing to us and how to take control. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2ltUQQo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your heart races, you feel lightheaded, your sweat glands work overtime - is this the end? Nope, it's a panic attack. The Savvy Psychologist has 6 ways to fight this disabling disorder. Visit the website: http://bit.ly/1vFA0ej Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life is full of stressors, and for most, money is right a the top of the list. On this week's podcast, author and financial expert Jean Chatzky shares how taking small steps to reduce financial stress increases the wellbeing of ourselves and our relationships. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2khG7Yq Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last week we talked about 6 ways we self-sabotage and one reason why: fear of failure. This makes a lot of sense—who doesn’t want to avoid humiliation and defeat? But how to move forward and take that leap of faith? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to move away from fear and toward your goals. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2klouGN Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Why do I do this to myself?” If you’ve uttered that phrase, you may be an unwitting victim of your own bad habits, better known as self-sabotage. By request from listener Sari in Melbourne, Australia, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 6 reasons why, instead of shooting for the stars, we aim straight for our foot. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2jSnHsn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last time on the Savvy Psychologist, we talked about the two-way connection between the brain and the small and large intestines, aka the gut. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen continues our journey through the gut by investigating the link between heartburn drugs and dementia. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2i3Yuid Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Brandon Stanton has interviewed thousands of subjects for his popular photo blog and NYT best-selling books, Humans of New York. What insights can he share regarding talking to strangers and having greater empathy? Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1RugT26 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you the dictator of your corner of the world? If your theme song is Frank Sinatra’s My Way, check out this week’s 5 tips from Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2isE4MZ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To please or not to please. For most people, that is the question. But for people pleasers, the question is moot, because there’s only one answer: of course I can help you! Ready for a change but don’t want to throw in the towel on common decency? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen has 5 tips to help you out. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2isAlz3 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This New Year's, creating a healthy new habit or breaking an unhealthy old one doesn't have to hinge on sheer willpower. Clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen suggests 5 steps to help you make a change for the better. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1Apvkts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The holiday season brings good tidings and joy, but also stress from all sides. The closest thing to a magic bullet? Exercise. Making a commitment to consistent activity during the holiday season might seem like a tall order, but this week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen makes a case for taking on the challenge. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2gUhlIY Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is sex addiction really a thing? Or just an excuse for horny people with no self-control? And why is demand for help with sex addiction on the rise (no pun intended)? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 6 signs of sex addiction and how to know if you have a problem or merely a supercharged libido. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2gASNXd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Like “self love” or “inner child,” the term “codependent” smacks of pop psychology psychobabble. To make matters worse, it’s become shorthand for a whole host of unhealthy behaviors. But what does it really mean? And does it describe your relationship? This week, by listener request, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals what “codependent” really means and what you can do to set things right. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2gnT3dv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Unless you had magical childhood luck or were homeschooled in the wilderness, you probably tangled with a mean girl or bully back in your day. Unfortunately, mean girls and bullies grow up and go to work, where you might just encounter them again—just without the lockers and swirlies this time around. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 9 tips to deal with workplace bullying. Read full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2fKdvRt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

ADHD has long been the domain of school age boys who seem to come with a built-in jet pack. What’s slowly emerging is that girls and women suffer too, but with slightly different symptoms that often get overlooked. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen examines how ADHD often manifests in girls and women. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2f6KjEO Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the first of a two-part series, the Savvy Psychologist identifies the 5 symptoms of PTSD. Next week, she tackles healing and what you can do to offer support to someone with PTSD - plus, what not to do! Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2egthoo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the most dramatized of the personality disorders (Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction with her boiled bunny, anyone?) but one of the least understood. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen clears the air with 9 signs of borderline personality disorder. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2d9GIVR Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Blamers, complainers, and bullies, oh my! The Savvy Psychologist offers 4 tips for dealing with difficult people, and 5 more for taking care of yourself after a close encounter with the difficult kind. Plus, does bedwetting predict psychopathy? Find out in our new Savvy Listener Mail segment! Read the full transcript: http://bit.ly/1octx6S Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all been in situations where the choice is anything but clear. How do you know when to keep on keepin’ on? Or wave the white flag of surrender? This week on the Savvy Psychologist, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 6 tips to help you decide when to stay and when to go. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2cPJNh4 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shaking and numbness and sweat, oh my! What do we call it when what we fear is fear itself? None other than the little-known, but hugely important concept of anxiety sensitivity. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains what it is and offers 3 tips to take it down. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2chpZhm Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From the boulevard of broken dreams to California dreamin’, the Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles the psychology and physiology behind your dreams. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1H7ICNK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Talking to kids about sex used to mean one awkward sit-down for “the talk.” But these days, there’s so much more to talk about—media coverage of sexual assaults on college campuses, “yes means yes” affirmative consent laws, hookup culture, the accessibility of online porn—it’s a complicated world out there. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 9 tips to navigate the treacherous world of talking to your kids about sex. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2bpKQUz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How is it already August? June and July flew by in about ten minutes, leaving us to wonder where all our grand plans for the Best Summer Ever went. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to help you get the most out of the final four weeks of summer (or rest assured that it’s okay if you don’t). Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2aWF9Jp Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Check out some highlights from the Savvy Psychologist's recent interview with Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2b81cha Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do the Greatest Generation, Boomers, Gen X-ers, and Millennials have in common? No matter your generation, at some point in life, you may find yourself in the Sandwich Generation. The Savvy Psychologist, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, tackles the challenges of the sandwich squeeze. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-survive-the-sandwich-generation Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To text or not to text? In a world where two-thirds of Americans own a smartphone, the answer is usually “to text,” to the point that 25% of couples who live together report texting each other from different rooms in the same house. But what effect do smartphones have on our relationships? Is it an automatic left swipe, or does every smartphone case have a silver lining? This week, we’ll cover how to use tech to connect, and when to put down that phone. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2alMZhl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, by request from listener Cindy in Iowa, we’ll take a look at the still-evolving science of what causes an individual to be transgender. Plus, the surprising reason why gender dysphoria is a mental disorder. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/29soDCV Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The garbage disposal breaks. There’s traffic and you’re late. You can’t find your wallet. The bus roars right past your stop. What to do? By request from listener Abdelkarim in Morocco this week we’ll cover how to handle life’s daily hassles. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/29u7Db2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From 9/11 to the Boston Marathon bombings to ISIS, violence and terrorism are part of growing up in our world today. How do we explain such a world to our kids? Savvy Psychologist offers 13 tips to talk to your kids about terrorism and violence. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1twti4V Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Can’t take a compliment? Feel like a fake? Convinced you’ll be unmasked at any moment? Welcome to the secret circle of high achievers suffering from Impostor Syndrome. Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains how to recognize it, where it comes from, and 9 tips for how to combat it. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1U3JiN9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen channels her best Talking Heads and asks, on behalf of every middle-aged adult, “How did I get here?” Plus, why time seems to fly as we get older. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1PaXm1F Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Call it entering the real world, call it halfway between nothing and something, or call it emerging adulthood. Whatever you call it, it’s the quarter-life crisis. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 tips for dealing with the change and unpredictability of being a young adult. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1OS1tF9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks love, hope, obsession, and more with Dr. Jeanne Safer, author of The Golden Condom and Other Essays on Love Lost and Found. Read the transcript here: http://bit.ly/25aeJcj Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Two listeners--Karen and Janice--independently wrote in and asked how to deal with life’s big changes. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 4 ways to handle life’s only constant. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1VSsB9p Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

An anonymous listener wrote in and asked how to help someone who is grieving. She is worried she’ll say the wrong thing, cause her friend more pain, and generally make things worse. She’s not alone—we worry so much about comforting “the right way” that sometimes we don’t do it at all. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen covers 4 reasons we clam up around grief and how to come out of our shells. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1SUbIHu Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we’ll start a three-part series on surprisingly toxic traits that, at first glance, can seem harmless or even productive. First up, perfectionism. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen covers the three types of perfectionism and the 8 problems that flourish wherever perfectionism takes root. Read the transcript here: http://bit.ly/1PZh1En. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maia Szalavitz is an award-winning neuroscience journalist who knows addictions research and policy inside out. But she has also struggled with addiction to cocaine and heroin, a journey that took her from dealing drugs in glamourous nightclubs in the 1980s to jail to rehab to getting kicked out of college. The result of her remarkable story is a one-of-a-kind perspective and a groundbreaking new book: Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction. This week: Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and author Maia Szalavitz in conversation. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/23GdJfe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Asking for help seems simple enough, but if you’ve ever needed a hand, you know how hard it can be. Clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains why it’s so challenging and shows you how it’s done. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1Np06rr Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Worries and fears and stress, oh my! This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals the two big beliefs that light up anxiety, plus how to pull the plug. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1SmQf9v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anniversaries aren’t just for couples, and some aren’t so happy. The spike in distress around the anniversary of a trauma or loss is called the anniversary reaction, and it’s a very real thing. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers what to do when anniversary memories are anything but silver or gold. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1RClev9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are dozens of risks factors for depression, but how we think about ourselves makes up one of the biggest pieces of the pie. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen reveals the two beliefs that put you at risk for depression, plus how to re-think. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1Wpe6qh Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes hanging in there actually means you’re just hanging on…and on. It’s hard to hold onto old hurts. But it’s even harder to let them go. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 tips to kick-start the process of moving on. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1TIuYc3 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

An interview with Tom Hart, author of Rosalie Lightning, a graphic memoir about the loss of his daughter and the profound grief that followed. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1Tg0HTz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After two years, a Best New Podcast iTunes award, and millions of downloads, the Savvy Psychologist podcast has reached episode 100! And believe me, I’ve learned a lot along the way. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1n8HvsD Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.