Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Why is this episode important on a show about toxic relationships? Because your doctor--and other healers--need to be empathetic, aware, interested, listening, and compassionate. Some are wonderful. Others, not so much. You need to find one that cares about all of you, not just the numbers, graphs, and medications.In your toxic relationship, have you ever been seriously ill or injured? What kind of care did you get at home? That's a big moment, isn't it, when you realize that the toxic person can't be bothered with you, or take you seriously? How does your doctor behave?Dr. Hassan Tetteh had early personal experiences with trauma, and the impact on him directed his life's work. A Near Death Experience changed so much for him. Dedicated to The Art of Human Care™ (also the name of his book), Dr. Tetteh helps you see what to look for in a doctor, too.In a toxic relationships--past or present, there is often trauma from emotional abuse. You NEED your doctor to see, know, and believe what is happening to you. Emotional abuse takes a toll on your body as I discussed with Dr. Elizabeth Hughes in episode 189. Dr. Tetteh explains why you need to truly feel cared for when you need medical attention.Although he offers his acronym, L.E.A.R.N, for healers, it's a very good approach for all of us in our relationships. Enjoy this...even if it sounds a little off our usual topics. It's valuable!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How an earlier life experiences change Dr. Tetteh's understanding of careWhy it often seems that doctors are more interested in time than patientsHear his Human Care TheoryWhat's up with toxic people's response when you're illWhy you need to find an empathetic, compassionate doctorOK, so I hope you now recognize why I invited Dr. Tetteh to Save Your Sanity. Don't be re-wounded by a doctor who doesn't really see or hear you. Your doctor needs to be a safe place to go, whether that is your medical doctor, alternative healthy professional, or therapist.Be good to yourself.RhobertaGUEST: HASSAN TETTEH, MDDr. Hassan A. Tetteh is a US Navy Captain and Associate Professor of Surgery at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences and adjunct faculty at Howard University College of Medicine. He was a Robert Wood Johnson Health Policy Fellow from 2012-13, assigned to the US Congress, Congressional Budget Office, (CBO). Currently, Tetteh is a Thoracic Surgeon for MedStar Health and Walter Reed National Military Medical Center. He leads a Specialized Thoracic Adapted Recovery (STAR) Team, in Washington, DC, and his research in thoracic transplantation aims to expand heart and lung recovery and save lives.A native of Brooklyn, New York, Tetteh received his BS from State University of New York (SUNY) at Plattsburgh, his MD from SUNY Downstate Medical Center, his MPA from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government, MBA from Johns Hopkins University Carey Business School, and MS in National Security Strategy with a concentration in Artificial Intelligence from the National War College. He completed his thoracic surgery fellowship at the University of Minnesota and advanced cardiac surgery fellowship at Harvard Medical School’s Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston.Tetteh is founder and principal of Tetteh Consulting Group, creator of The Art of Human CareTM book series, and a best-selling author of several books including Gifts of the Heart, Star Patrol, and The Art of Human Care. Tetteh is board certified in thoracic surgery, general surgery, clinical informatics, and healthcare management, and is a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons and Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives.Tetteh received the Alley Sheridan Award by the Thoracic Surgery Foundation for Research and Education, was named a TEDMED Front Line Scholar, and is TEDx speaker. He’s an alumnus of the Harvard Medical School Writers’ Workshop and Yale Writers' Conference and lives near Washington, D.C. with his wife, son, and daughter.FREE GIFT FROM DR. TETTEH, Free Chapter from Success Strategies: LIFESAVING SUCCESS STRATEGY: THE ART OF HUMAN CAREhttp://hassantetteh.successstrategiesthebook.com/#bookCONTACT INFO FOR DR. HASSAN TETTEH :Website: DoctorTetteh.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/hassanatettehFacebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhumancareTwitter: https://twitter.com/doctortetteh?lang=enYouTube: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationsh

You may not even know you picked up all this from narcissistic family dynamics in your life. When you hear these things, you may find the key to unlocking relationship difficulties you've had in your adult life. Definitely worth listening to!We take SO much in as young children, even before we have any language skills at all! We come to know if we're wanted, loved, appreciated, welcomed, and heard before we ever understand a word anyone says to us. That impacts our whole life...unless we recognize what slipped under our radar in our first seven years of life!If there was a parent or other authority figure in your family who had narcissistic tendencies, you'll be recognizing these thing I talk about. It's all you knew then, but now you know more. You can do things differently!Don't be hard on yourself! You couldn't possibly know what your early environment was putting in your mind, and how it was establishing your sense of who you were within you. That's why it's important to think about these things today. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How what happens to you in your first seven years of life can impact your adult life7 patterns of behavior a narcissistic family--with even just one narcissistic person--will demonstrateWhy it's important to look into your early home life for things that could be negatively impacting your life nowWhy I think that telling your child to stop crying or "I'll give you something to cry about" is narcissisticHow having a narcissistic parent affects your ability to ask for what you need and want in lifeHow recognizing these early patterns can help you make better decisions today that make you happierInformation and insights into what happened in your emotional self early in life can shift your perception of yourself. You recognize what was done TO you, and can see more clearly to make healthier choices now in your adult life and relationships.I'm always here to help.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#unhealthyrelationships #unhealthyemotional #narcissisticfamily #triangulation #indirectcommunication #unclearboundaries #youcanthaveyourfeelings #parentnotinterested #unavailableparents #selfcenteredparents #selfabsorbedparents #dontrepeatthepatterns #seethepatterns#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Understanding the many faces of gaslighting helps you see it coming. Then, seeing it for what it is, you can discount it, reject and deny it. In this episode, I help you see ten faces of gaslighting that can help you recognize it for what it is: emotional abuse. The actual definition of gaslighting I like from www.urbandictionary.com is:"an increasing frequency of systematically withholding factual information from, and/or providing false information to, the victim - having the gradual effect of making them anxious, confused, and less able to trust their own memory and perception"It has so many faces, some that you might not immediately think of as gaslighting...until now.I often think of gaslighting as times when someone wants to define your reality for you, rather than trusting you and your senses. It's nasty, as well as sneaky. It's definite intention is to undermine your confidence in yourself in every way. Too often, it's a successful ploy! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why gaslighting is a huge issue in eroding self-confidence10 ways gaslighting shows up and how to recognize themExamples of gaslightingWhy it is essential to recognize the different ways a #Hijackal will attempt to gaslight youHopefully, by the time you hear all ten, you'll say "No More!"A person who thinks they can tell you what you think, feel, need, want, prefer, or remember is a person to watch out for. Beware, though, because they wear you down, you may have a tendency to believe them. Don't! They are using and abusing you, and you deserve to be treated with respect, care, love, and honesty.Here's the link to my video I mentioned: Healthy Responses to Gaslighting While you on my YouTube channel, subscribe at hit the notification bell so you'll know when there is a new video.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#gaslighting #underminingselfconfidence #erodingselfconfidence #makingmewrong #questionmysanity #secondguessmyself #whydoesmypartner #canitrustmypartner #iknowyoubetterthanyouknowyourself #notrust #crazymakingbehavior #trustinrelationship#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may think that you're experiencing the natural wear and tear on your health. But, if you're in a toxic relationship, it is making things so much worse! Learn about the most likely ways your body and its immune system can respond to toxic relationships with narcissistic people, or antisocial people. Talk about wear and tear!!!Two things that cause physical health issues (among many) start with emotional abuse: stress and isolation. Both of those are present in most relationships with Hijackals, right? Constant stress and the pressure to not talk about difficulties with others outside the relationship. Very common. In this episode, I share some research findings from Dr. Gabor Mate that relate to this where he said,"The very same brain centers that interpret and feel physical pain also become activates during experiences of emotional rejection."Sound familiar? This can be terribly enhanced if, perchance, you had a narcissistic mother--a Hijackal mother--and then went on to be in a relationship with another Hijackal. It takes such a toll on you!Dr. Hughes has a wonderfully refreshing approach to medicine as she tempers Western medicine with Eastern thought and practices. Enjoy her insights!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is the "rodent brain" and how it affects usWhat happens in your body when it is on alert too long due to the stress of a toxic relationshipWhat causes "fuzzy brain"How stress affects the body from production of different hormonesHow trauma--old or current--affects the body, emotional trauma, physical trauma, sexual trauma, abandonmentHow the immune system distinguishes what is toxic and what is safeHow this all relates to relationships with difficult people, toxic people, narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, borderlinesI hope you find connections within yourself to what in your relationships might be causing health issues. Often, until you realize that, you can have physical symptoms that seemingly cannot be explained. This episode might help with that.Be good to yourself.RhobertaGUEST: ELIZABETH HUGHES, MDDr. Hughes is a dermatologist and former faculty member at Stanford University, where she taught dozens of physicians, including many nationally-recognized leaders in the field of dermatology.Nearly twenty years after graduating from medical school, Dr. Hughes witnessed the rapid resolution of a patient’s chronic illness without any medical intervention. This event caused Dr. Hughes to question everything she had been taught about health and illness, and to look for better answers for “incurable” conditions.Her quest lead her to investigate ancient spiritual traditions, non-western systems of health and healing, placebo research, and the emerging sciences of epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology. In the process, she became a registered yoga teacher, a certified health coach, and a practitioner of several energy medicine modalities.Dr. Hughes has developed a revolutionary approach to health based on establishing trust in the human body. Dr. Hughes believes that once each person has cultivated a deep and abiding trust in the power of the human body, our experience of health and illness will change for the better forever.FREE GIFT FROM ELIZABETH:The Stress Antidote GuideTheStressAntidote.comCONTACT INFO FOR ELIZABETH HUGHES:Website: ElizabethHughesMD.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @ElizabethHughesMDFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabethhughesmdInstagram: @Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jEHughesMDYouTube: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @DrShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr, Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community-----------------------

You want to believe that a Hijackal--a toxic, difficult, perhaps narcissistic person--love you. You SO want to believe it. They don't have much love to give and here's 16 ways to recognize that they aren't giving it to you. An eye-opener! People who love you listen to you. They want to listen to you. And, you want to listen to them. You're interested in each other. Not so with a #Hijackal. The Hijackal is interested in themselves and want you to be interested in them, too. Sure, in the beginning, it's different. That's how they hook you as I spoke about in the last episode, How Hijackals Hook You Into Toxic Relationships.You know from listening to the episode on the 3 MUST-HAVES in a Healthy Adult Relationship that equality is a must. Do you believe you have that in your relationship with a Hijackal? I'll be not. You may want to bring up a couple of instances when there seemed to be equality, but that's part of the problem. There's supposed to be equality all the time. There's an example of the love that's missing in a toxic relationship: love.Everything is transactional with a toxic person, a person with narcissistic tendencies, and those with anti-social tendencies as well. They don't really have love to give you, but they will appear to to have you give them what they want: a transaction. I know, it's not great to hear that straightforwardly, but it's absolutely important to recognize it. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The transactional nature of toxic relationships16 ways that love relationships differ from toxic relationshipsWhy you must not continue to believe that you are loved and make excuses for poor behaviorMy definition of emotional abuse, and why you are best to keep it in mindClear ways to recognize real love to compare and contrast with what a Hijackal offers youYou SO want to believe that a Hijackal loves you, I know. Sometimes, it really seems that they do, but only when it serves their purposes and gets them what they want. Sad, and unfortunately, true. Hard to hear, but time to recognize it.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#doesheloveme #doessheloveme #loveshouldnthurt #thereisnoabuseinlove #equalityinrelationship #reciprocityinrelationship #mutualityinrelationship # #beassertive #personalweatherreport #narcissistsdontlove #cannarcissistslove #trustinrelationship#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hijackals create toxic relationships, and it's important to see the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors clearly. That's not easy, but it is necessary. If you've been with a Hijackal or other toxic person for long, you may feel as though you suffer from brain fog. You can't think straight and you're too exhausted to do so anyway. Gain perspective about your situation and best next steps to consider in this episode.Hijackals are those relentlessly difficult, toxic people who seem so perfect for you in the beginning, and eventually fade into mean, thoughtless, self-centered ones later in the relationship. That later can be two days after you marry or move in, or even fade slowly over a couple of years. But, fade it will. Then, what do you do.By the time you've been with a Hijackal for awhile, you may be exhausted from the constant put-downs, from being torn down and worn down. Hijackal count on that. You have to find your legs and stand up for yourself in very specific, non-confrontational ways.One of those ways is my Personal Weather Report. In the episode, I mentioned some videos I've made on it on my YouTube channel. While you're watching these, be sure to subscribe and click the Bell so that you'll know each time I add a video. Here are ones that relate to the Personal Weather Report:https://youtu.be/qD1pNMujj0khttps://youtu.be/mFCZohqaFMMhttps://youtu.be/0p-K2vKfRhAYou will also find all the details of how to give and receive a Personal Weather Report in my book, Kaizen for Couples. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How a Hijackal hooks youWhy Hijackals are in a rush to "get" youKnowing how to recognize the Hijackal patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviorsThe essential step of stopping enabling the Hijackal to behave badlyMy definition of assertiveness and why it's effectivePracticing the PWRBeing with a Hijackal in a supposedly romantic relationship can be huge disappointment on many levels. Get unhooked as soon as you can from their manipulations, and reclaim yourself now.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community----------------------------------------------------------------------#hookedonhope #stopenabling #gettingoutofatoxicrelationship #amiinatoxicrelationship #seetoxicpeopleclearly #emotionallyhooked #stopcaringwhatatoxicpersonthinks #findyourvoice #beassertive #personalweatherreport#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You hope, hope, hope that a narcissistic person will change. You buy into their promises to change. And, you cross your fingers!Change occurs for a hot minute...or even a warm week, right? And, then, nothing. What's up with that?People with narcissistic tendencies, or those diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, have a hard time listening and caring about changes you would like to see. You know that already.So, will #Hijackals ever change?Can narcissists ever change?Do they want to change?What reason would they need to actually care?Are they able to sustain changes...or interested in doin so?I'm delighted to have Dr. Laura Dabney as my return guest to discuss this very important issue that can drive you crazy. You want to believe they'll change, I know. Don't miss this episode.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The differences between a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and having narcissistic tendenciesCan you ever love a narcissistic person into loving you well?How to tell the differences between being loved and being usedCan the core issues within a narcissistic person change?How best to indicate to a narcissistic person that there is a need for changeWhy narcissistic people cannot create emotional intimacyGUEST: LAURA DABNEY, MDLaura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney has, for decades, helped her patients change their lives for the better. And they recognize her for it. Dr. Dabney’s patients come for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success.GIFT FOR YOU: CONNECT WITH DR. LAURA DABNEY:WEBSITE: https://drldabney.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/LauraDabneycom/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgTW_U6Zl8X41n1mOXYM3UQINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lauradabneycom/LINKEDIN:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr--laura-dabney-mdTWITTER: https://twitter.com/drldabney--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @DrShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#drlauradabney #cannarissistschange #canhijackalschange #whydontnarcissistslisten #shouldistaywithanarcissist #psychiatristtalkingaboutnarcissism #donarcissistscare #doesmynarcissistcareaboutme #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive #notgoodenough #relationshiphelp #verballyabusive #stopemotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #emotionaltrauma #narcissism #psychopath #sociopathSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The small, subtle, often sneaky words, actions, and gestures that are small or brief slights, insults, insinuations, or put downs used to marginalize you are microaggressions.These behaviors are frequent and painful. But, they are small and they catch you off guard, wondering if you should speak up. Or, would it be making a mountain out of a molehill? Is that familiar?Hand in hand with microaggressions are microinvalidations: small and frequent ways that you are discounted, dismissed, or denied. When a Hijackal or other toxic person denies that you know what you think, feel, need, want, or even have seen, it can be a microinvalidation. This episode helps you see the small papercuts that are intended to make you emotionally exhausted and bleeding to death. Nasty!To do something about them, though, you have to recognize them when they are happening. Then, using my PWR response as I outline, you have a way to counteract the effect of these microaggressions on you. (The PWR strategy is from my book, Kaizen for Couples, available from Amazon in print or ebook.) HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Recognizing microaggressionsWhat a Hijackal or other toxic person tries to do by using these microaggressionsWhy you are caught off guard by them and unsure of a responseClarity that these microaggressions used in toxic relationships are emotional abuse!Recognizing and responding to MicroinvalidationsUsing the PWR (Personal Weather Report) to reclaim your spaceEmpower yourself by catching these subtle, sneaky, nasty ways of putting you down, and using the PWR to respond. You'll feel better...although, don't expect the Hijackal to!Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#microaggressions #microinvalidations #pwrresponse #personalweatherreport #recognizingmicroaggressions #respondingtomicroaggressions #respondingtomicroinvalidations #speakingupinthefaceofverbalabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wondered how you could possibly find forgiveness for a seemingly unforgivable act? Like being raped, beaten, and left for dead? Today's guest, Lois Wagner, found it, and she shares that journey with you today.Toxic relationships include many kinds of abuse: verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse. Moving beyond the toxic relationships is the first step on the healing journey, with so much more to follow.In her book, Walking Without Skin: A Journey of Healing From Fear to Forgiveness to Freedom, she writes:As I walked out of that grey, sad, bad building, I didn’t notice the barbed wire, the electrified fencing, or the armed, bulletproof-vested security guards. I didn’t see the orange-overalled prisoners or hear their raucous laughter. I didn’t notice the wild Spring flowers incongruously surrounding the grey prison buildings. I didn’t see the grazing sheep and cattle, the blue cranes at the dam, or the backdrop of the magnificent snow-capped mountain.When I left that prison, I flew out of that place free from those physical and emotional walls and boundaries to a newfound freedom.Lois has used her experiences to craft invaluable programs and formulas to help young men and boys to see positive pathways in life, and to create attitudes and values that will serve them well.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Finding the pathway to forgive the unforgivableHealing the pain of betrayalHow toxic masculinity is created, and perpetuatedHow to bring up boys to be positive adults (p.s. It works for all of us, at any age!)B.R.A.V.E. = Boundaries. Respect. Agreement. Values and Vulnerability. Equality, Empathy, and Empowerment.GUEST: LOIS WAGNERAs a survivor of a violent attack and rape, our speaker today has moved from victim through survivor to thriver and beyond to freedom. Lois uses her experience to fight toxic masculinity and to help eradicate gender-based violence.She shares events and lessons from her own story moving her through fear into forgiveness to freedom and into the light.Lower your guard and find how to be BRAVE in a relationship and in the fight against domestic violence as we welcome Lois as she takes you on a journey of bravery.GIFT FOR YOU: Forgiveness Checklist https://www.walkingwithoutskin.com/forgiveness-checklist CONNECT WITH LOIS WAGNER: WEBSITE: https://www.walkingwithoutskin.com PODCAST: FACEBOOK: http://m.facebook.com/walkingwithoutskinYOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/loiswagnercoachingconversationsforchangeINSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lois_wagner_TWITTER: https://www.twitter.com/loiswag--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community----------------------------------------------------------------------#walkingwithoutskin #loiswagner #toxicmasculinity #findingforgiveness #forgivemyrapist #leftfordead #violentrape #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive #notgoodenough #relationshiphelp #verballyabusive #stopemotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #emotionaltrauma #narcissism #psychopath #sociopathSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sneaky stuff this emotional brainwashing! It often starts slowly and seems understandable. But, it continues and tips you over into second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity, right? And, down the slippery slope! Listen in to uncover what may be happening--or has happened--to you. Great start!What's actual brainwashing?Cambridge Dictionary:"the process of making someone believe something by repeatedly telling them its true and preventing any other information from reaching them. Hijackals and other toxic people certainly engage in emotional brainwashing. That's my term for repeatedly gaslighting you by stating that they know you better than you know yourself and they are right about what you think, feel, need, want, remember, and prefer. They continue that process by degrading, belittling, intimidating, manipulating, and lying in an attempt to make you believe that you are much less than you are.Does this sound familiar? It may have started only occasionally: making snide remarks about you, perhaps in front of others, in the hopes that they could embarrass or humiliate you and you would be unlikely to speak up. Nasty! Then, it escalates...and often, accelerates. You need to have a name for it. I call it "emotional brainwashing."See it to say no to it, otherwise, it will not stop. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How emotional brainwashing shows upThe phases of a toxic relationship and where the emotional brainwashing beginsRecognizing that you cannot please a #HijackalMy story that can help you see why you may be denying the emotional brainwashingRemembering that it is not your fault, and what to think insteadYou did not set out to be trauma-bonded. It's nothing that you did. You were set up for it earlier in life, either by being healthy and happy and never imagining this could be the case, or by having been in traumatic relationships earlier in your life. It's not your fault.Now, that this is all clear to you, you're better equipped to make progress towards a happier, healthier life.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#traumabonding #traumabonds #emotionalbrainwashing #gaslighting #gaslightingisabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trauma-bonding is circular. The abuser creates the trauma, and then wants you to turn to them when you're hurt and traumatized. You are traumatized by something the abuser does, and you want the abuser to feel understood and you lean in. Circular!That's why it is SO important to understand the fourteen signs of a trauma-bonded person that I talk about in this episode. You may recognized the patterns--and the drama--that you are experiencing or have experienced. So helpful!Dr. Patrick Carnes in The Betrayal Bond says that traumatic bonding occurs when "victims have a certain dysfunction attachment that occurs in the presence of danger, shame, or exploitation. There often is seduction, deception, or betrayal. There is always some form of danger or risk." That is that the very thing that hurts you draws you closer. No more, right? This episode could be a turning point in your life and in your relationships. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The definition of trauma-bondingUnderstanding the addictive nature of trauma-bonding14 signs of trauma-bonding from Dr. Patrick CarnesHow you might mistake intensity for intimacy when in a relationship with a #HijackalDr. Shaler's definition of toxic relationshipsInsights into why you have felt as you do in destructive, toxic relationshipsYou did not set out to be trauma-bonded. It's nothing that you did. You were set up for it earlier in life, either by being healthy and happy and never imagining this could be the case, or by having been in traumatic relationships earlier in your life. It's not your fault.Now, that this is all clear to you, you're better equipped to make progress towards a happier, healthier life.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#traumabonding #traumabonds #addictedtoabuse #addictedtotoxicrelationship #stopthecrazymaking #howtraumabonds #signsoftrumabonding #intensityisnotintimacy#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shame is often not spoken of, or acknowledged on both sides of an emotionally abusive relationship with anyone. Today's episode puts the spotlight on this component of emotional abuse, for both the perpetrator and the recipient. My guest, Beverly Engel, wrote in her most recent book, Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing From the Shame You Don't Deserve:"Shame is the most destructive aspect of emotional abuse and it can be the most difficult to heal."Sometimes people stay in abusive relationships BECAUSE they feel that leaving one is shameful. After all, you chose to enter it, if it's a romantic relationship. Know this: emotionally abusive people pose as potential soulmates to lure you into giving them control over time. It's not your fault! You couldn't have known, in most cases. So, this episode will be ABSOLUTELY affirming for you, and can give you a new perspective that is empowering.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Differences between conscious and unconscious abusersHow we accept shame when we have had childhood abuse, childhood emotional neglect, or adverse childhood experiencesDifferences between shame and guiltWhy shame is so hidden and, therefore, damagingThe link between shame and narcissismWhy Beverly Engel suggests that shame's counter emotion is prideGUEST: BEVERLY ENGEL Beverly Engel is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of toxic relationships and sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of 23 self-help books, including 3 bestselling books on emotional abuse: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, The Emotionally Abused Woman, and Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman. Engel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and has been practicing psychotherapy for 40 years.She is author of the forthcoming book, ESCAPING EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve (Kensington, January 2021). She writes about the insidious damage of emotional abuse – a form of domestic violence - and the forms it can take (such as saying or implying that you are ugly, a bad parent, stupid, incompetent, or that no one else could love you). Once a person finally realizes they are being emotionally abused, it is debilitating shame that prevents them from first creating the emotional armor necessary to shield one’s identity from abusive messages, and then stepping away from the relationship.Engel shares the Five-Step Program she offers in her therapy practice, which has helped her victims overcome the shame of Emotional Abuse, and will also serve as a guide for your listeners who provide services to the emotionally abused.  GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this timeCONNECT WITH BEVERLY ENGEL:WEBSITE: https://www.healmyshame.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: http://m.facebook.com/beverly.engel.96YOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/beverlyengelLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-engel-2164217TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#healmyshame #healingmyshame #toxicshame #shameandemotionalabuse #escapingemotionalabuse #beverlyengel #passiveaggressive #childhoodemotionalneglects #CENS #adversechildhoodexperiences #ACEs #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emoti

You think you're doing your best, giving your all, compromising, and cooperating.In a healthy relationship, that's great.In a toxic relationship, you'll be expected to over-give and more. It's a setup for emotional abuse. Listen in to see it even more clearly! You may hear the word "enabling" and know that it is not a good thing. That's true. Knowing what it IS so you can clearly observe it and recognize it is primary. My definition of enabling is:"When you usually step in to fix, solve, excuse, rationalize, justify, or make the consequences go away for the poor choices of others." Does that sound familiar?Sometimes, you're so exhausted that you let it wash over you, I know. That's just how #narcissists and #Hijackals want you to be: too tired, confused, and worn down to put up any resistance to their having more and more power in the relationship.You CAN stop enabling their behaviors, and stop in small steps. (That's what I help my clients do, and you can use my new client, one-time offer for a full hour session for only $97.)You are likely a good person who has done everything you can think of to please your partner or parent. #Hijackals simply won't be pleased for more than a hot minute. You've experienced that, right? So, lean in and listen, so you can think of your next best steps.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:4 main reasons why you might enable a toxic relationship to continueWhat you may be hoping you'll get in response to the enabling (You won't.)Why being your wonderful self will never be good enough for a #HijackalThe dynamics of being with a toxic partner and their blame, shame, guilt, and fault-finding8 ways a #narcissist or #Hijackal perpetrates emotional abuseWhen you get enmeshed and entangled in enabling, it leads to further and further emotional abuse. See it clearly now, and take action...no matter how small you start. Start!Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#highcostofemotionalabuse #enabling #enablingdefinition #enablinganarcissist #enablingahijackal #stopenabling #makingconsequencesgoaway #whatisenabling #amianenabler #whytostopenabling #whyienable #stoptheemotionalabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every now and again, everyone has an off minute, and says or does something unkind, thoughtless, or just plain hurtful. Toxic people have many traits that happen too consistently...and, too often.The difference between a person having a toxic moment, and a person who has many toxic traits is that the healthier person will acknowledge, take responsibility for, and apologize after behaving poorly. A #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult, often narcissistic one--will not be accountable or responsible. They are even likely to blame their poor behavior on you!That's why it is SO important to take stock of what is going on in your relationship with a partner, parent, sibling, adult child, or co-worker. This episode will help you do that. I suggest you create a tally as you listen. How many of these 40 traits does the person exhibit? Oops!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:My personal definition of a toxic relationshipWhy healthy people often give toxic people too much understanding, compassion, and "wiggle room."Passive-aggressive behaviors (Read my book on Amazon, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game ) 40 behaviors that create toxic relationshipsWays to understand issues you may not have had your finger on before nowUnderstanding the nature of a toxic relationship to make decisions about your future.If you had a toxic parent, you'll be more susceptible to finding a toxic partner acceptable. That's really something to watch for.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#signsofatoxicrelationship #signsyouareinatoxicrelationship #amiinatoxicrelationship #amiinatoxicrelationshipwithmymother #toxicrelationshipwithparents #toxicrelationshipwithpartner #toxicrelationshipwithsibling #toxicrelationshipsatwork #underminingbehaviorsinarelationship #underhandedbehaviors#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Toxic relationships are created when a partner exploits the vulnerabilities of the other. If you have ADHD tendencies, you may easily miss red flags as you pay attention to the charms, and are intrigued by the possibilities of the fake future they paint so readily. Fear and shame also play a part you need to recognize. Hijackals have a honed sense of recognition of vulnerabilities. They are on high alert, looking for these to use to their advantage. You can be the most successful person and they'll see you as a challenge. Not good, at all!Diann Wingert shares her insights and studies to help us understand why people with ADHD may not see toxic relationships clearly, and stay too long even though they are experiencing emotional abuse.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How ADHD affects your ability to see red flags when you meet someone newTraits women with ADHD have that makes them more susceptible to toxic relationshipsWhy intuition sometimes fails to discern patterns of manipulation when ADHD is presentWhy verbal abuse and emotional abuse are sometimes not enough to make someone with ADHD leave a narcissistReasons that people with ADHD fail to leave toxic relationships and to recognize emotional traumaGUEST: DIANN WINGERTDiann Wingert is a mindset and productivity coach for female entrepreneurs who identify with the traits of ADHD, officially diagnosed or not. During her 20-year career as a licensed psychotherapist, Diann saw many brilliant and ambitious women struggle with unidentified ADHD, including Diann herself. Since her own mid-life diagnosis, she now mentors women who are “driven but distracted” to get focused and overcome procrastination, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so they can craft a life and business they love.Diann offers both individual and small group virtual coaching and mentoring to women all over the world. She is a dynamic podcast guest on the topics of ADHD in high ability women, the mental health challenges of entrepreneurship, self care for the self employed and how women can cultivate an entrepreneurial mindset.GIFT FOR YOU: Wow! Diann is offering you three things at NO cost: 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery, The Driven Woman's Roadmap and the ADHD Signature Strengths Quiz.https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/free-stuffCONNECT WITH DIANN WINGERT :WEBSITE: https://www.diannewingertcoaching.comPODCAST: The Driven Woman https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/podcastFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#toxicshame #adhd #add #attentiondeficitdisorder #attentiondeficityhyperactivitydisorder #whyadhdcausesmetomiss #impulsivitywithadd #missingredflags #diannwingert #thedrivenwoman #adhdcoachforfemaleentrepreneurs #femaleentrepreneurswithadhd #diannwingertcoaching #ihaveadhd #adhdandtoxicrelationships #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive #notgoodenough #relationshiphelp #verballyabusive #stopemotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #emotionaltrauma Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-peo

People with narcissistic tendencies and traits want to have their way, and want you to do their bidding. If they really, really, really want something, or, if they are really, really, really afraid of losing something, they sometimes promise to change.How many promises has a narcissist--a narcissistic #Hijackal--made to you about changing behaviors? How many of those promises were kept? Right! Not many.Oh, yes, maybe for a hot minute things improved. That is usually to get you to believe that they sincerely mean what they say. The proof, though, is in the long-term, sustained changes. How many of those changes did you see?Learning more about why change isn't sustained is important. BUT, it doesn't excuse it. Save yourself from further emotional abuse.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why admitting a mistake is so difficult for a #narcissist, a #Hijackal5 reasons #narcissists will give you the impression they are going to changeWhy #narcissists seldom change and narcissistic abuse prevailsWhy you get your hopes up when a #Hijackal changes even a little more to the positiveWhy toxic relationships stay the sameHow promising to change and not doing it contributes to emotional abuseNarcissists are abusive. Their very real fear of closeness gives them little ability or willingness to move in your direction. Promising to change but never actually changing is one way this shows up. See it clearly, even when hope tries to get in your way. You and your children need to be in healthy environments where there is no verbal abuse, no emotional abuse, and no other kind of abuse, either.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#whynottobelieveanarcissist #promisesofnarcissists #alwaysbelievebehavior #narcissistsseldomchange #dontgetyourhopesup #canIbelieveanarcissistspromises #believinganarcissist #believeanarcissist #promisestochange #narcissistpromisestochange #saveyourselffromabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hijackals use chemistry to manipulate and control you. They exploit it to feel they have power over you. It is a significant part of trauma-bonding. Get clear on what's really happening when you think you're in love, rather than knowing you're being used. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What lust, attraction, and attachment have to do with creating toxic relationshipsWhy #Hijackals want to recreate their trauma from a position of controlWhat part trauma-bonding plays in thinking you have chemistry with a toxic personHow #Hijackals depend on the chemistry to keep you hooked in a toxic relationship, a verbally abusive relationshipHow misused chemistry can lead to emotional abuseChemistry may draw you back to a relationship of narcissistic abuse and emotional trauma. You may confuse it with love. It isn't love. Don't be fooled. Stop the trauma-bonding, too!Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#traumabonding #chemistryisnotenough #verballyabusive #dontgobacktoabuse #lust #attraction #attachment #don'tmistakechemistryforlove #chemistryisnotcaring #goingbacktoanabuser #gotchemistry #sexualchemistrycanbedangerous#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Constant emotional competition is exhausting.Most people only do it in one or two small areas of life. When you have a Hijackal parent or partner, it is a daily occurrence--even minute-to-minute--in large and tiny ways. Some ways, you may not even recognize. Listen to learn ten tips to help you emotionally disengage! That's the first, and maybe most important, step!#Hijackals turn every relationship into a competition. Even things you would not imagine they would find a need to win in, they will! Sad.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why #Hijackals feel the need to compete in relationshipsHow something you think couldn't possibly matter gets turned into a battle with a #HijackalWhy knowing Hijackals have fragile ego is no reason to coddle themWhy Hijackals NEED to break you, and feel gratified in doing so10 internal tips for starting to disengage from the competition you don't wantA very important thing to remember if you have a #Hijackal partner, parent, sibling, friend, or co-worker:You didn't break them: You cannot fix them. It's not your job. (Hint: all the love, patience, struggle, acceptance, forgiveness, understanding, or willingness will not cause them to change. Got it? Good!)Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissistscompete #competitionwithnarcissists #whyiseverythingacompetition #hijackalsarecompetitive #narcissistsarecompetitive#relationshipcompetition #competitioninrelationship #competitiveparents #competitivepartners #toxiccompetition #competitionintoxicrelationships#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's common for Hijackals to ruin holidays. Narcissistic folks can be counted on to do it, too.What's up with that? They'll do it for any celebration.This episode will help you understand why it happens, AND offers practical suggestions for responding to it in healthier ways.You don't want to dread the holidays, yet that often happens. You just know that things are going to be tense, at a minimum, right?There are reasons why these sad folks get so mean around the holidays, or any celebration that is not focused on them.IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! Listen in and take this to heart. It will save you heartache!Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:7 sad reasons that narcissistic people ruin celebrations and #Hijackals ruin the holidaysKnowing why they do it, what you can do How being emotionally prepared for things to go wrong helpsHow being physically prepared for when things go sideways in the holidays helpsRemember, it's not your faultWhy no amount of trying to please a narcissistic person will work Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissistsruinparties #narcissistsruincelebrations #narcissistsruinholidays #hijackalsruincelebrations #hijackalsruinholidays #whynarcissisticpeoplehavetoruinholidays #ruiningtheholidays #ruiningthecelebration #allaboutthenarcissist #hijackalsneedthespotlight#needingattention #mustbethecenterofattention#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You might give someone the benefit of the doubt too often. You may be on the receiving end of verbal abuse AND it's important to be clear about it. Verbal abuse is bullying to win. It's unacceptable. Recognize the many faces of verbal abuse now!According to USLegal.com, verbal abuse is"words used to cause harm to the person being spoken to." It's all about the intent to cause harm: verbal, emotional harm. That can include shouting, insulting, intimidating, threatening, shaming, and demeaning. Do any of those sound familiar?Lean in and learn all the many ways that verbal abuse shows up. You may have slowly grown accustomed to it, and that's what needs changing now. See verbal abuse for what it is: a gateway to other forms of abuse. It may be time to accept that you are being verbally abused, and that needs to stop.Let's talk if you need to: BeAClient.com I'll help you with strategies.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:A clear definition of verbal abuseWhy verbal abuse equals personal attackThe differences between a "normal" argument and verbal abuseThe many faces of verbal abuseHow verbal abuse is the gateway to emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and spiritual abuseThe importance of recognizing the forms of verbal abuse Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#recognizingverbalabuse #signsofverbalabuse #verbalabusetoemotionalabuse #verbalabusegateway #gatewaytoemotionalabuse #stopverbalabuse #saynotoverbalabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The term "narcissistic" is used too commonly now, in my opinion. When people even talk about themselves a little too much for your liking, you may label it "narcissistic."It's important to be able to tell the differences among people who are narcissistic, people who are self-centered, and those who are healthy and maybe having a bad day. Why? Because they require different responses.Both narcissistic and self-centered people talk about themselves more than most folks are comfortable with, for sure. But one is truly empathic, and one is not. Bets? One has a regard for others, the other does not. Hmmm....I wonder which?A person doesn't need to be diagnosable to have narcissistic tendencies that make them difficult, if not nearly impossible, to want to live with. If you've experienced that, you may fear the same when you meet a self-centered person. That's where today's distinctions can help you greatly.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Defining narcissistic tendenciesDefining self-centered behaviorsDistinctions between narcissistic vs self-centeredWhy the distinction is importantWhat healthy behaviors are that are neither narcissistic nor self-centeredLearn to see the red flags and to know what they signal Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissisticbehavior #narcissistictendencies #selfcenterednotnarcissistic #narcissisticvsselfcentered #isitnarcissisticorselfcentered #notallselfcenteredpeoplearenarcissists #differencebetweennarcissisticandselfcentered #selfcenteredornarcissistic #selfcenteredbehavior #selfabsorbedornarcissistic#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Succeeding in spite of having toxic parents and a difficult past! We talk about that journey, and what succeeding really means. It's not about money only, but SO much more.A shaky emotional start in life doesn't define you. Don't let it! Corey Poirier, author of Book Of WHY, shares his path from life with an absent, though toxic, father to becoming the founder of bLU Talks, and being featured on the foremost radio and television shows, as well as being a columnist for top business magazines like Entrepreneur and Forbes.Sure, his thing is business and he shows you his path to success. No, that may not be yours, but the underlying thoughts, shifts, changes, and beliefs that he found instrumental to living his best life is what he shares today. Inspiring! As Corey says,"People often remember to feed their bodies, but often forget to feed their minds. Each is equally important."Lean in and learn more to inspire and motivate you to make shifts that will lead you to the life you want.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How toxic relationships diminish youHow toxicity depletes you of your vision, purpose, and motivation How Corey Poirier's toxic relationship with his father impacted him in life and businessWhy it's so important to know your "why" Empowering yourself to live your "why" and release yourself How Corey stays strong and focused GUEST: COREY POIRIERCorey Poirier is a multiple-time TEDx, MoMondays and PMx, Speaker. He is also the host of the top rated ‘Let's Do Influencing’ Show, founder of The Speaking Program, founder of bLU Talks, and he has been featured in multiple television specials. A columnist with Entrepreneur and Forbes magazine, he has featured in/on CBS, CTV, NBC, ABC, is a Forbes Coaches Council member, and is one of the few leaders featured twice on the popular Entrepreneur on Fire show. He has also interviewed over 6,000 of the world’s top leaders.GIFT FOR YOU: Wow! Corey's offering you his downloadable book, "The Book of Public Speaking," herehttps://www.thebookofpublicspeaking.com CONNECT WITH COREY POIRIER :WEBSITE: https://thatspeakerguy.comPODCAST: Let's Do Influencing https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/lets-do-influencing/id948005962FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/coreypoirierpage/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpafeqFkcl8fyIYmcoUBuNA?view_as=subscriberINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thatspeakerguy/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/speakercoreypoirier/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/thatspeakerguy--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#toxicfather #overcomingtoxicfather #besuccessful #overcominglimitations #coreypoirier #tedxspeaker #becomingasuccessfulbusinessman #whatIlearnedtosucceed #thatspeakerguy #founderofBLUtalks #entrepreneuronfire #nolimitations #succeedinginspiteofyourbackground #bLUTAlks #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressiveSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shame is a painful emotion caused by recognizing guilt, shortcomings or impropriety, and the basis for narcissistic, over-nurturing, and needy behaviors. SO important to recognize these to understand the dynamics and how you may be caught by the cycle of shame in toxic relationships with partners and parents. Things happen when you're little and you don't realize what's becoming part of you. Being shamed at an early age by the people who were supposed to protect you makes a huge impact on you!#Narcissists take shape then, and so do many people who are attracted to them--or at least, taken in by them.This is NEED-TO-KNOW information. It can help you understand decisions you need to make that will change the quality of your life.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happens when you were shamed as a childEarly choices you make in response to being shamedHow shame affects your attachment style in adult relationshipsTwo responses to deep shame...poles apartThe difference between shame and guiltWho will be attracted to #narcissists and other #HijackalsWho #narcissists and other #hijackals are attracted to and whyProjection: how it works in the shame cycle Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#shame #beingshamed #shamedbyanarcissist #shamedbyaparent #shamedbyapartner #recognizingshame #narcissistsandshame #shamecanmakeyouneedy #toxicshame #coreshame#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorce is difficult, especially when you have children. Multiply the difficulties by tens if you're divorcing a #Hijackal, a #narcissistic person, or any other toxic person. You want to feel confident about negotiating custody and negotiating visitation. Andrea Schneider, attorney in San Diego, offers what you need to know to do your best in mediation and court.Andrea Schneider recognizes the added difficulties of dealing with divorce after years of stress, distress, anxiety, and put downs. Although she now does not do high-conflict divorce cases, she made that decision by knowing how very hard, long, and troublesome it can be!We talk about child custody issues that may seen straight forward in most cases, and how they go sideways with #Hijackals. The invaluable information here can make a huge difference in how you approach your attorney, how you approach mediation, and how you approach going to court.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Andrea shares what she has seen with Hijackals in courtWhat #Hijackals bring to the court or mediation process that impedes fairnessHow the court defines "the best interests of the child"Tactics for negotiating with a difficult person, negotiating with a toxic personStrategies for communicating with a toxic ex to co-parentWhat is best for the kids and how you keep that focus GUEST: ANDREA SCHNEIDERAs a mother of 2 awesome kids, Andrea knows that your kids are so important to you. Attorney Andrea Schneider loves helping parents create and negotiate a child custody agreement that is in the best interest of their children. Andrea Schneider, has been licensed as an attorney for over 27 years. As an attorney, her goal is to provide quality counsel to good people dealing with the toughest situations of their lives. She focuses her practice primarily on family law and in particular, child custody cases.She is a trained mediator, which helps her approach family law cases with a unique perspective. Andrea serves clients in San Diego, El Cajon, Lemon Grove, and the surrounding communities.Andrea realizes that any legal situation can be stressful and expensive. Its outcome can dramatically impact your life from every possible angle. Acting as your legal advocate, Andrea will work to decrease the stress you are experiencing by offering affordable and effective legal counsel.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH ANDREA SCHNEIDER :WEBSITE: https://www.AndreaSchneider.usPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaDSchneiderYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#childcustodyattorney #preparingforcourt #negotiatingcustody #custodyandnarcissistis #custodyandhijackals #visitationrights #negotiatingvisitation #parentingagreements #preparingtomediatechildcustody #childcustodywithanarcissit #childcustodywithahijackal #courtwithanarcissist #courtwithahijackal #andreaschneider #andreaschneiderattorney #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressiveSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lack of empathy in one partner creates a deficit that the other partner cannot fill...no matter how hard one tries! Learn more about the differences in functioning, and the decisions #Hijackals and other narcissistic people make about demonstrating empathy. Eye-opening! Empathy is the ability to identify what someone is thinking or feeling, and then to be able to respond to THEIR thoughts and feelings with an appropriate response. Can the person you have in mind do this? When do they do this? What's up when they do this?#Hijackals are notoriously self-focused and self-referential. Everything revolves around them in a world that works for them, right?How they express, use, and manipulate by the use of empathy, or empathy like, patterns is important to recognize. I think it will be clear after you listen to this episode.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Do narcissistic people like #Hijackals have empathy?How narcissists use empathyHow you can be fooled--lulled, even--into believing a Hijackal has empathyWhat's required to have empathyHow narcissistic, psychopathic, and sociopathic people use empathy for their own endsWhat to watch for now that you know how you may be being manipulatedWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#empathy #lackingempathy #donarcissistslackempathy #unwillingtobeempathetic #arenarcissistsempathetic #donarcissistshavempathy #dohijackalshavempathy #arehijackalsempathetic #dohijackalslackempathy #hehasnoempathy #shehasnoempathy#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you are first with a #Hijackal, you are flattered that they want you all to themselves. You're delighted that they want to be with you, and "can't get enough of you." That's the normal joy of a new relationship. Then, when you're with a toxic person, a #Hijackal, a #narcissist, there comes a moment when you find yourself isolated, alone, and marginalized. You look around and you have been separated from your family and friends.#Hijackals are happy then. You're not and in this episode, I'm giving you clear insight into how narcissistic people manipulate you into that isolation. It's usually gradual, and you don't realize what the final result will be. You're still trying to compromise and accommodate.The #Hijackal has another plan, and it involves cutting you off from as much support as possible. Nasty!Once you clearly see these manipulations, you can begin to put an end to it--one way or another.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:5 reasons #Hijackals, #narcissists, and other toxic people isolate youThe differences they show in public and in privateHow and why Hijackals try to install themselves between you and the world11 ways the abuse of isolation shows up Why you need to clearly see these isolation tactics Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#coercivecontrol #isolationbyanarcissist #isolationinarelationship #isolationbyahijackal #beingisolatedbyanabuser #isolatedandcoercivecontrol #drevanstark #regainingselfconfidence #saynotoabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls "badly-formed love?" You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more. Do you know what well-formed love is? Have you seen it when you were growing up, or created it as an adult? Were you comfortable with it? BIG QUESTIONS! Dr. Gary Salyer has been my guest on Save Your Sanity before, and we talked about Trauma-Bonding. He was also on my Emotional Savvy podcast and we talked in-depth about Attachment Theory and Styles. (And, P.S. there are still over 150 episodes available to listen to even though I don't do it anymore.)So much wisdom, great insights, and a wicked sense of humor, too. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What well-formed love isWhere you form the basis for badly-formed loveWhat is reasonable to expert from a "loving relationship"What might skew or warp your ideas of what a healthy relationship isWhat Dr, Gary Salyer means by "bonded to misery"The dysfunctional bond when love is mixed with suffering GUEST: DR. GARY SALYER Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Salyer’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains. After Dr. Gary Salyer’s second marriage crumbled he felt like an utter, complete failure. Rather than give in, he dedicated himself to doing deep research about all things love. He read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.Love and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again” GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER:WEBSITE: https://www.garysalyer.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SafetoLoveAgainYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dr.gary.salyer/LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/gary-d-salyer-ph-d/8/93a/8a5TWITTER: https://twitter.com/GaryDSalyer--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#drgarysalyer #badlyformedlove #illformedlove #attachmentstyles #whymyrelationshipisfailing #sabotagingrelationship #safetoloveagain #ruiningrelationships #subconsciousrelationshippatterns #canIbeloved #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're worn, torn, and put down. You're exhausting in every way. The #narcissist, the #Hijackal, see that as an accomplishment. Hijackals are intimidating. They expect you to comply with their wishes, wants, demands, and supposed needs. #Hijackals threaten you. They want to instill fear and make you dependent on them, all the while complaining that you are, right?It's SO important that you recognize the ways--small and large--that emotional abusers intimidate you, or could intimidate you. Sometimes, their negative behavior starts in small ways, and grows to ultimate control. Or, at least, that's their plan. This episode will give you the insights to see what's up, and why you may be tolerating it. AND, the first steps to saying "NO!" to it in small, internal ways to start.Hopefully, after listening, you'll begin to see the need to start some internal sifting and sorting in preparation for a big change.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The six ways intimidation is used to control Why you might be suffering from being intimidatedThree main methods of intimidationWhy intimidation succeeds How #Hijackals use "withholding" to control youHow #gaslighting plays into intimidationRecognizing coercive control for what it isWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#coercivecontrol #intimidationbynarcissist #intimidationbypredator #intimidationinmyrelationship #fearinrelationships #sayingnotocoercivecontrol #livinginfear #livingwithsecrets #regainingselfconfidence #saynotoabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There can be a razor's edge difference between a self-centered person and a narcissistic one. Does it really matter if you know when you are dealing with them? Dr. Laura Dabney offers her experience as a psychiatrist dealing with some of the most difficult cases in the field. Her insights will help you more deeply understand those differences between a generally self-centered person, and a truly narcissistic one.I've often spoken about "healthy selfishness" and we continue that conversation. Where are the limits? When does it become unhealthy? So many questions that help you understand the relationship you may have with a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child.Oh, and bright, high-performing folks. Are they more likely to have narcissistic tendencies?Get answers today, here, now.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Differences between healthy selfishness and unhealthy narcissismWhy high-achieving folks often walk a fine line between self-centeredness and narcissismHow to find a balance between being healthily driven and engaged and unhealthy, looking for powerYour rights to set boundaries especially against aggressionWhat about passive-aggressive tendencies?Will toxic people respect your boundaries?The three biggest red flags that someone is toxicGUEST: DR. LAURA DABNEYLaura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney has, for decades, helped her patients change their lives for the better. And they recognize her for it. Dr. Dabney’s patients come for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. DABNEY: WEBSITE: https://www.weconcile.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/LauraDabneycom/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgTW_U6Zl8X41n1mOXYM3UQINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lauradabneycom/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr--laura-dabney-mdTWITTER: https://twitter.com/drldabney--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#healthyselfishness #drlauradabney #psychiatrist #selfcenteredornarcissistic #selfcentered #healthynarcissism #ismypartnerselfcentered #ismypartnernarcissistic #manipulatedbyanarcissist #drivenbyselfcenteredness #highachievers #highachieversnarcissism #passiveaggressive #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's common for folks to desperately find their way to get away from a toxic relationship. Then, the doubts start, as well as the pleading and promises from a toxic spouse. You'll need these helpful insights into how to plan to leave so that you won't give in to the temptation to return. And, if you have left, what to do when you want to go running back to the abuse.Yes, you're leaving a toxic person, a #Hijackal, because they are emotionally abusive. You may not want to think of it as abuse, but that's what it is.Oxford dictionary:abuse: use to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse. pervert, take advantage oftreat a person with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly Emotional abuse is difficult to see when it's happening to you, but you sure know how it feels, right? That's what you've walking--or running--away from. Remember that when you're tempted to return.In this episode, I give you eight things you might be telling yourself to convince yourself to go back once you've left, and seven things you can do to remind yourself why you will not go back. I hope they help you.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Boomeranging happens often: leaving an abusive relationship and then going backHow to stop the cycle of leaving and returning to a #narcissist, a #Hijackal, an #abuserWhy you second-guess your decision to leave once the stress of leaving is relievedHow to keep moving forward once you've left a toxic relationship8 reasons you give yourself for going back to a toxic relationship7 things to do to set yourself straight and not go back Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#leavinganabusiverelationship #leavinganabuser #dontgoback #leaveanddontgoback #boomeranging #goingbacktoanabusiverelationship #goingbacktoanabuser #hownottogobacktoanabusiverelationship#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wondering why your relationship always seems a bit off? Why you cannot get the emotional intimacy you crave? The Attachment Style you adopted as a result of your early life experiences plays a big part in how you create and relate with others. Knowing your Attachment Style provides you with invaluable insights into how you create relationships, what you expect from them, and where your fears about them lie.GOOD NEWS! Just because you may have had poor models of healthy relationships in your young life doesn't mean you cannot emerge from that experience to create healthy, emotionally mature bonds now. It starts with recognizing your attachment style and how that colors your view of relationship. Then, you can work through to heal.When you're uninformed about Attachment Styles, you can feel a little powerless. Gaining this knowledge and choosing to move in healthier, more secure, and less fearful ways of being in relationship is empowering.Enjoy!Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What Attachment Theory is and how it informs relationshipsHow Attachment Theory affects your ability to understand your partner's feelings and triggersWhy your Attachment Style can prevent you from establishing the closeness you long forWhat steps you can take to move towards creating a healthier, more secure Attachment StyleJennifer Lehr's journey from what she calls "dismal relationship ability" to being in a happy, healthy relationshipGain insights and hope for creating deeper, healthier bonds GUEST: JENNIFER LEHRJennifer Lehr is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the founder of WeConcile, an online program for committed couples seeking help, as well as an educator on the process of living, self-acceptance and stepping into your magic life.In 2009, she began writing WeConcile a revolutionary do-it-yourself online educational application that helps couples improve trust, intimacy, safety and connection through established relationship science. She created WeConcile to help couples get free from pain and disconnection, and to again find happiness in marriage. Now, Jennifer Lehr is on a mission to create a world filled with connection instead of conflict. She specializes in educating couples on the relationship skills they need to build a solid, connected and loving partnership. As a marriage and family therapist for nearly 20 years, she uses her knowledge and advanced training in many couples' modalities to help others succeed in their marriage.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH JENNIFER:WEBSITE: https://www.weconcile.com PODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/WeConcile/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsd-X1BvZv4l4jKkWQmsZ7QINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/weconcile/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/weconcile/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/we_info/--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#attachementtheory #attachmentstyles #healingattachment #healingafteratoxicrerlationship #healingafteranarcissist #learningtorelate #intimacyinrelationship #improvingrelationship #knowyourattachmentstyle#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest&

Try these strategies and tactics to change the dynamics in your relationship with a #Hijackal when they try to avoid responsibility or accountability, even--and especially--when they feel threatened by a potential flaw of theirs being mentioned. You know that everything will be your fault if you're with a narcissist, a Hijackal. The nasty skill of blame-shifting is a sneaky specialty. they hone carefully and practice faithfully.Infuriating. Frustrating. Unfair. So, how do you respond? It's trickier than you might think, because it is counter-intuitive. You have to engage with the tactics and strategies in this episode for awhile to change your responses to their blame-shifting. You'll increase your self-confidence when you do. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What blame-shifting is, how it sounds and feels coming at youWhy #Hijackals use blame-shifting to hopefully overpower you and gain the "win"How you can respond so that the #Hijackal does not get the reaction wantedUnderstand how Hijackals want to exploit your fears and probe your weaknessesWhat NOT to do in the face of blame-shiftingWhat TO do that will help you stop second-guessing yourself and save your sanity Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#blameshifting #whyamItoblame #frustratedbyanarcissist #blamesmeforeverything #noreaction #staycalmandobserve#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

An inspiring story of recovery and success after abuse in a toxic relationship! You'll be motivated by what my guest, Christie Lawler, shares. What she walked through, and went on to create is uplifting and positive. Just what you need to hear today? Probably! Christie Lawler is a successful consultant in what she calls the "eatertainment space." Very clever! She has thrived, but she walked through a lot of pain, second-guessing, and wondering. Being in a toxic relationship is confusing, and it has an aftermath, for sure!Christie shares how she recovered, and why it took a long time. (That's common, and usually necessary when it's done well.) Learn from her story because, as you will hear, she didn't focus on healing as her first step. Many folks don't. But, not dealing with abuse in toxic relationships is unwise. You need to get help to heal, and Christie did.Be inspired by her candid story, and what she has gone on to achieve.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Christie shares her story of recovery and success after a toxic relationshipSexual assault in the workplaceGetting clear that being abused is not your faultWhy it takes a long time to recover, so be gentle with yourselfHow working with an experienced therapist is an important part of recoveryHow Christie thrives in her consulting work in what she calls the "eatertainment space" GUEST: CHRISTIE LAWLER Christie is the founder and owner of her own marketing agency, CJL CONSULTiNG as well as the founder of her company's non-profit arm, The WITI Group. She is the host of the Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream podcast, The WITI Conference, creator of WITI on the Web educational webinar series and is publishing her first book.Christie founded CJL CONSULTiNG in 2009 while completing her MBA as a way to stay engaged in her career while completing her studies. As Founder & Owner of CJL CONSULTiNG, Christie supports clients by creating beverage marketing and training programs for the likes of Alamo Drafthouse, American Social, Arcis Golf, Drive Shack and Flagship Restaurant Group. Christie is also the host of Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream – a weekly podcast featuring trendsetters and newsmakers around the hospitality industry.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH CHRISTIE:WEBSITE: https://www.cjlconsults.com PODCAST: Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream https://open.spotify.com/show/3jJW0KeVrsT0whrozeOilLFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/cjlconsultingYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/cjl_consulting_llc/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-j-lawler/TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#healingafteratoxicrerlationship #healingafteranarcissist #takesawhiletoheal #itsnotyourfault #narcissisticblaming #believingitsnotmyfault #hijackalblame #femaleentrepreneur #livingwithpurpose #lovewhatyoudo #makeanimpact #empowerothers #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yes, it's important to recognize the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of the relentlessly difficult people I call #Hijackals®. In this episode, another important feature: what kinds of things you FEEL when you're with a Hijackal. That's so important to take note of because almost all those feelings are not good ones, right?Toxicity is poisonous! In fact, that is part of the very definition of the word, toxicity.If you're busy rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the bad behavior of another person, you may not notice the huge toll it is taking on your own life. Not good! Take these in and compare them to how you're feeling. Eye-opening!Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you can being emotionally poisoned without noticingHow the toxicity spreads into unknown corners of your lifeThe subtle effects of life with a #HijackalHow #Hijackals change you to focus on them without realizing their effect on youHijackals are crafty: they are clever at achieving their aims by indirect and deceitful methodsWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#toxicrelationshipspoisonyou #narcissistsareharmful #poisonousnarcissists #narcissistsaredeceitful #hownarcissistshurtyou #thinkaboutyourself #craftynarcissists #craftyhijackals #howhijackalsmakeyoufeel #howifeelaroundanarcissist#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you realized your divorce was going to be difficult, I'll bet you worried about your ex talking badly about you to the children, trying to win them over. Did you? Did you worry about the children being lied to about you?Did you ex tell the children s/he was the better parent, the one who gave them more, etc.? This leads to Parental Alienation. Here's part of the definition of Parental Alienation Syndrome from the American Psychological Association: " ...a child's experience of being manipulated by one parent to turn against the other (targeted) parent and resist contact with him or her. The alignment with one parent and rejection of the other most often arises during child custody disputes following divorce or separation proceedings, particularly when the litigation is prolonged or involves significant antagonism between the parties."It's a significant concern when you are separating or divorcing from a #Hijackal, a relentlessly difficult, toxic person.Joe Goldberg offers invaluable insights into parental alienation that you need to see clearly. Listen in.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Joe expands on the definition of Parental AlienationWhy some people say Parental Alienation doesn't existWho is most likely to engage in parental alienationWhat you can do to thwart attempts at parental alienationWhat legal recourse you have for parental alienationHow to minimize stress for the childHow to counteract effects of existing parental alienation GUEST: JOSEPH GOLDBERG Joseph Goldberg founded ParentalAlienationEducation.com as an educational site for sharing information about parent-child relational problems that arise in divorce situations.A recognized expert in parental alienation, Mr. Goldberg was the first educator in the United States to co-author and revise divorce education programs to include curriculum content in parent-child relational problems, specifically in parental alienation, realistic estrangement, and enmeshment. These divorce education programs are accredited by the courts in more than 500 counties across the U.S. Parents may access these programs online and receive a Certificate of Attendance at www.OnlineParentingPrograms.comMr. Goldberg is a member of the prestigious Parental Alienation Study Group, which is led by Dr. William Bernet, and he is the author of a continuing educational course, “Diagnostic Criteria for Clinical Practitioners in the Treatment of Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome,” approved by the American Psychological Association for 18 CECs.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time. CONNECT WITH JOSEPH: WEBSITE: https://www.parentalalienation.caPODCAST:  FACEBOOK: YOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#parentalalienation #preventparentalalienation #stopparentalalienation #partnerbadmouthingyou #partnerliestochildren #spouseliestochildren #manipulationbyoneparent #unfairparenting #unfaircoparenting #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy

You are barely out of a toxic relationship, and are hoping to grab a breath and clear your head. That's the moment co-parenting calamities start, right? Then, you're free of the Hijackal, but not free of their self-serving shenanigans. OK, you need strategies to save your sanity. Listen in and grab them! Cardinal rule: Don't Poke A Hijackal®! That will always apply, and especially when you are co-parenting. There is nothing good that comes from poking Hijackals. It all comes back on you, doubled...or more. You know that. So, please stick to that rule ALWAYS!You gain some peace, and give up some control when you leave a Hijackal with your children. Some things you can do something about. Some, you need to let go of.In this episode, we hit the highlights below! Enjoy.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you need a specific, exact, detailed child custody agreementWhat, why, and how to document things once you live apartWhat to do when your ex wants to "exchange" custody weekends (Might surprise you!)How to encourage your children to feel safer with youHow to help children feel empowered when they have little control Why it is essential for you to monitor healthy, emotionally mature responses Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#coparentingwithanarcissist #coparentingwithatoxicex #helpingthechildrenwhencoparenting #childcustodyagreements #neverpokeahijackal ##savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you know if you are actually a highly-sensitive person? That's MUCH more than easily having your feelings hurt. You will be VERY attractive to a person who wants to control you, and that's a devastating combination. My guest, Debbie Lynn Grace, is an expert who can help you understand the many ways highly-sensitive people are affected by their environment, life, and relationships. We take it further to give you the life-saving insights you need to recognize why you are attractive to #Hijackals--those relentless difficult, toxic people--and why you attract them. Best of all, we talk about WHAT TO DO!Any chance you would qualify as an "over-giver?" That's exhausting. In this episode, you'll hear the why's and how's to shift to a more balanced view, an empowered stance, and the willingness to take action to save your sanity! This episode can be the catalyst for changing your life if you are highly-sensitive...and, very insightful even if you're not! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How to know if you are a highly-sensitive personThe energetic difference between a highly-sensitive person and one who is notHow the approach to life is different for a highly-sensitive person3 traits a highly-sensitive person has that makes them susceptible to attracting an emotional abuserWhat it takes for a highly-sensitive person to stand in their powerWhat a highly-sensitive person can do to make sure they attract a healthy love relationshipTips for handling a toxic relationshipGUEST: DEBBIE LYNN GRACEDebbie Lynn Grace is a transformational leader, 35 year marketing and business growth expert, author and an international speaker. She is also a gifted energy worker, empath and intuitive. Debbie’s clients include global leaders, influential and high achieving professionals, purpose driven entrepreneurs and people who are ready to step into their own authentic power to take their life to the next level. She shows you how to live in the highest vibration of your authentic power so your work and life are purpose filled and aligned on your soul journey with ease and flow."The time you take trying to cover yourself up because you feel ashamed, judged, or unsafe takes away precious moments of your life where you could be discovering more about the brilliance of who you really are and the power you possess." Debbie Lynn GraceGIFT FOR YOU: 7 Easy Tips To Quickly Get Into A State Of Flow Free E-book + Special Bonus Guided Meditation Audio. $47 Valuehttps://debbielynngrace.com/seven/CONNECT WITH DEBBIEWEBSITE:  https://debbielynngrace.comPODCAST:  FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/DebbielynngraceYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/debbielynngrace/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debbielynngraceTWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#highlysensitive #highlysensitivepeople #sensitivetoenergy #overwhelmed #debbielynngrace #energyworker #highlysensitiveperson#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informati

Emotional abuse is sneaky. At first, it sometimes seems like a request that's a bit off, but you feel a compromise is in order. After awhile, everything is a bit off, and you're beginning to lose yourself, your confidence....and, your mind. These 7 Ways I'm talking about today will quickly deplete you, and why you need to recognize them for the lethal robbers they are. Trauma-bonding is an important concept to understand. In the first few minutes of this episode, I define and underline the various ways that #traumabonding shows it's difficult stripes. Understanding this will help you recognize what draws you back to staying with someone who you know is abusive and emotionally draining.See below for other highlights of this insightful, necessary-to-understand episode.Stay safe, healthy...and, playing on your own team!Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What emotional abuse does to shatter your self-esteemHow your self-confidence is weakenedDealing with chronic stress and anxietyWhat depression can be a sign of in an abusive relationshipThe effects of not feeling safeDealing with chronic hypervigilance Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#traumabonding #emotionalabusers #recognizingemotionalabuse #ifeelemotionallyabused #amibeingemotionallyabused #saynotoabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorcing a Hijackal? A Narcissist? A relentlessly difficult person? You may be wondering how to find an attorney that you can afford and who will be able to withstand the nastiness of all there will be to deal with.In this episode, Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, a former divorce attorney, shares invaluable tips for:Where to start?How to interview an attorneyWhat you need to be ready forHow to proceed if you don't have much moneyAdvice for representing yourselfCreating effective documentationIf you're thinking of divorce, listen in....for sure!Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Inside insights from a former divorce attorney on choosing an attorneyIs it wise to represent yourself? Why? Why not?Starting the process of finding an attorneyWhat kind of documentation to prepareDoes cheating matter when you're trying to get a divorce?Questions to ask a prospective divorce attorney GUEST: JASON LEVOY Jason became a divorce attorney specifically to help families going through these difficult times.After practicing family law in New Jersey for a number of years, he noticed how many of you, with and without attorneys, are overwhelmed and are looking for help.Jason coaches people who have attorneys and those who are representing themselves. A divorce coach is an important part of your divorce team. You do have a team, right???If you don’t, Jason can help. Forming the right team is the first step to putting yourself in position to succeed and be empowered.You can waste hours and hours searching for answers online. Is that how you want to spend your free time? Can you trust everything you read online? NO!Contact Jason today and get the help you deserve, for a fraction of the cost of an attorney.GIFT FOR YOU: Tips for Co-Parenting (downloadable): http://jasonlevoy.com/dr.shalerCONNECT WITH JASONWEBSITE:  https://jasonlevoy.com PODCAST: www.jasonlevoy.com/podcastFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/yourdivorceresource/YOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonlevoy/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/jasonlevoy--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#choosinganattorney #jasonlevoy #divorceadvice #findinganattorney #interviewinganattorney #questionstoaskanattorney#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When a #Hijackal love-bombs you, it's what you've waited for, hoped for, and finally think is proving that their love is real. It's a sham. It comes from their fear of being without readily available supply to provide validation, adoration, and someone to control Awful, but true! You don't want to play this game any longer, right?You need insights and strategies to remember why you are no longer going to "buy" the love-bombing, even though you may really, really want to. You know it only leads to disappointment, so today I'm giving you six ways and a couple of suggestions for becoming immune to love-bombing, to listen and remember that love-bombing is all manipulation.I hope this helps you resist the urge to merge the next time a #Hijackal wants to woo you back with the weapon of love-bombing.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How love-bombing is manipulation of the heart and mindThe short-lived nature of promises made to change #Narcissistic reasons for love-bombingWhy you may be tempted to believe the love-bombingHow to be immune to love-bombingWhy love-bombing is psychological partner abuse Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#lovebombing #emotionalintoxication #psychologicalpartnerabuse #lovebombingismanipulation #falsehopeofchange #immunetolovebombing#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many times, people fail to realize the impact of their emotional health on their physical health. They are more likely to recognize the impact of physical health on emotional health. That's often because we don't give full attention and value to our "invisible wounds." Emotional toxicity--living with abuse, childhood trauma, chronic stress and anxiety--directly affects your physical health. Yes, it may do so slowly and it creeps up on you, but it's happening all the same.Dr. Heather Herington says, "C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) is adult AIDS." Intriguing idea! We talk about this in some depth in this episode regarding inflammation, the brain, stress, and the workings of the body.Dr. Heather and I share stories of toxic relationships and how they shaped our lives. See how that matches with what you've experienced. It could be similar...and we share the stories of our healing, too.This could be a VERY important episode that could start you on an insightful healing path. I hope so.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The impact of trauma emotionally and physicallyThe value of combining healing modalitiesHow emotional toxicity stays in the body until purposefully removedHow mental health, emotional health, and physical health intersectWhy we are sometimes unaware of, or reluctant to, attend to our invisible woundsHow your childhood informs a toxic relationshipCaring for invisible woundsGUEST: DR. HEATHER HERINGTONDr Heather Herington has been a naturopathic physician since 1987. Early in her practice the Archdiocese requested treatment for a woman sexually abused by a priest who wanted drugless therapy. She held retreats on an island and developed her two-pronged approach - balance the biochemistry naturally and tell (or revise) the story through the expressive arts. An engaging speaker and astute workshop leader, she also writes essays, novels, librettos, and creates radio plays based on challenging health conditions that demand a true body-mind investigation. Her radio play, Dr Graves, We Healed Your Disease came from her own experience.Dr. Herington is the author of the new book, Surviving A Viral Pandemic: Through The Lens Of A Naturopathic Medical Doctor. Available at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Viral-Pandemic-Through-Naturopathic/dp/1735630802/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=herington+surviving+a+viral+pandemic&qid=1601611420&sr=8-1 GIFT FOR YOU: A technique using the five senses to track feelings to better understand their source.https://drheatherherington.comCONNECT WITH HEATHERWEBSITE:  https:/drheatherherington.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/drheatherheringtonYOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/heatherheringtonINSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin/drheatherheringtonTWITTER:  https://www.twitter/drheather2--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#emotionaltoxicity #emotionalphysicalhealth #toxicemotions #effectsoftoxicemotions #effectsofchildhoodtrauma #healingphysicalhealth #drheatherherington #survivingaviralpandemic#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http:/

Because you are good, kind, compassionate, or pleasing person, you may not realize the ways in which you are enabling a narcissist to continue behaving badly. You know that you cannot stop their behavior, but you can take positive steps to stop enabling their behavior, and take your own power back. Listen in for the how-tos! In any ways are you too often rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the controlling and manipulative behaviors of a #Hijackal, a #narcissist? Recognizing that is an excellent starting point!According to the Oxford dictionary, an enabler is a "person who makes something possible, who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behavior in another." In all honesty, do you do that? Is it just easier than fighting with them, or being perceived as finding fault. I understand that, for sure.Are you ready to take the first steps to stop enabling a relentlessly difficult person who simply wants to win, and tread on you? I hope so. You'll find encouragement in this episode.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it is to be an enablerWhy you might be an enablerThe problems with rationalizing, justifying, and making excuses for poor behaviorWhy enabling hurts everyoneWays in which you might be enabling that you may not think of in that way9 steps to stopping, to withdrawing from enabling Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#enabling #beinganenabler #stopenablingbadbehavior #enablinganarcissist #enablingaHijackal #setboundaries #selfreflection ##savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you own your own power? If you've been worn down, torn down, or put down in a toxic relationship, that might not be how you feel right now. Make it a goal, and listen in to today to hear new insights on shifting away from limiting beliefs and untrue thoughts about yourself. My guest, Diane Forster says, "Sometimes you need to take a step back so you can shift forward." In this episode, we explore the shifts possible to move from negativity to a more positive state of mind, from toxicity to healthier ways of being.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What Diane Forster means by "intentional living"Why Intentional Living is even more important in our world now than everWhat it means to "own your power"Dealing with uncertaintyBreaking goals into small steps and intentions Shifting negative emotions to more positive states of mindGUEST: DIANE FORSTERDIANE FORSTER is an Award-Winning Inventor, Best Selling Author, TEDx Speaker, TV Host, Podcaster, Intentional Living Expert and Re-Invention Specialist. She works with clients privately and helps you clear away mindset blocks and limiting beliefs that can block you from reaching your full potential in business, life and relationships.Diane is the CEO and Founder of I HAVE TODAY. She is the best-selling author of “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile...Finally!” and “Reach Your Greatness...Top Thought-Leaders Share Their Secrets for Living an Extraordinary Life!” Her TV Show along her Podcast, “I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster” and all her other products/programs help people live enriched, empowered, inspiring lives through their transitions, to reinvent themselves.Diane’s career began in advertising and TV sales, including DISNEY/ABC. She is also the inventor of The SPIFTER, a fun kitchen tool that won an INNOVATION AWARD at the International Housewares Show in Chicago. Diane has been featured on ABC, QVC, The Chicago Tribune, San Diego Voyager, Business News Daily and many other TV, Radio and Podcast shows. She has written articles for Inventor’s Digest Magazine and writes an inspiring weekly blog.Diane is a mother of twins and lives in San Diego. Her mission is to see that 1 BILLION people who don’t know their self-worth discover their true divinity, power and purpose.GIFT FOR YOU: Money Mantra Meditation: https://www.dianeforster.com/moneymantraCONNECT WITH DIANE FORSTERWEBSITE:  https:/dianeforster.comPODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-have-today-with-diane-forster/id1440222759FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ihavetodaywithdianeforsterYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/IHaveTodaywithDianeForster?sub_confirmation=1INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dianeforsterofficialLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dianeforsterofficialTWITTER: https://www.twitter.com/dforsterofficial--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#ihavetoday #dianeforster #dianeforsterofficial #mindsetcoach #lifecoachforwomen #womenmotivationalspeak #clearinglimitingbeliefs #limitingbeliefs #motivatingmindset #intentionalthinking#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.c

Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge to downplay the verbal and emotional abuse. You're not supposed to be abused...by anyone!!! Today, I'm sharing some ways to recognize your own trauma, so you can take steps away from it...whether you leave or not. Shahida Arabi, talking about childhood abuse and trauma, wrote in her article, What It's Like To Be A Complex Trauma Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse:"Survivors carry a sense of toxic shame, helplessness, and a feeling of separateness from others, of being different and defective due to trauma."If you have experienced childhood abuse and/or trauma, you are more likely to attract a potentially abusive partner. Sad news, I know. And, at some deeper levels, you may be "comfortably uncomfortable" with it, at least for a while.It's important to recognize your own trauma, and then to work it through so that you are no longer operating from it subconsciously. Today's episode will definitely help.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How trauma interferes with your brain, learning, decision-making, and memoryWhy you don't associate current issues with past trauma What trauma bonds are and how they keep you trappedSigns of past traumaRecognizing trauma for what it isUnderstanding the impact of trauma now and from the past Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissistictrauma #emotionaltrauma #relationshiptrauma #raisedbyanarcissist #tramatizedbymymother #familytrauma#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, have both a need and a want to make you always feel not good enough. Understand why and learn to respond in empowering ways, and that's a very good start! Nothing you do, say, or are will ever be good enough...unless they want something from you. Then, they love-bomb you, and the person you fell in love with returns--for a hot minute! You know I've said many times in these episodes that the person you fell in love with was the Love-bomber. The person you are having problems with is the real person. Sad, but true!So, don't be listening another minute to a #Hijackal telling you that you don't measure up. Don't let a Hijackal put your down, wear you down, or tear you down for another second. Today, I'm laying out why they behave as they do so that you can clearly recognize it.Then, SEVEN things you can quietly do to start pulling yourself up, no matter how hard the Hijackal wants to push you down!Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why #Hijackals have unrealistic expectationHow & Why narcissists and others will never allow you to feel good enoughThe abject entitlement of toxic people with traits like narcissists, sociopaths, and other HijackalsWhy not and how not to lose yourself in a narcissist's expectationsThe pairs of opposites you'll face when you're with a HijackalSEVEN ways you can pull yourself up again when a toxic person has pushed you downHow to take back your power Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#nevergoodenough #putyourselfdown #narcissistputsyoudown #pickyourselfup #healingafteranarcissist #healingafterahijackal #whenpeopleputmedown #whyifeelputdown #whatcanidotopickmyselfup #narcissistputdowns#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you've been hurt, it's natural to want to get the hurt out by telling your story. There's a point, though, when that needs to be replaced by your new life story. Tonya Carter has walked through the hurt, reconstructed her story, and helps others see the value and walk through it, too. Powerful step! Author of Divorce Your Story, Tonya Carter wrote:"Once we understand that the only person we have full control over is ourselves, then life becomes simple."Listening to this conversation with Tonya can help you see the path to recovering from the pain of the story into another empowering stage and story. Letting go of your story opens you to new views, perspectives, and possibilities that you may not have considered. Get those insights now.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Hear Tonya Carter's story of leaving a toxic relationshipWhat she means by "divorce your story"Is shame and guilt always present in divorces?Why its important to stop wanting to fix your partner How to leave struggle behindWhy it's important to reconsider your life and see endless possibilities GUEST: TONYA CARTERTonya Carter is a relationship coach that specializes in helping women navigate through the process of uncoupling by providing support, advice, resources and tools that will help mitigate interruptions in their business, work performance and household obligations.She has a book titled “Divorce Your Story: A Woman’s Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce”, a podcast “The ReInvent U Podcast” and facilitates a “12 week T.H.R.I.V.E Course” that walks women through the process of overcoming divorce and healing.She’s resides in Atlanta with her two children.GIFT FOR YOU: 7 Core Affirmations Guide https://mailchi.mp/decc3e18aae7/affirmationguideCONNECT WITH TONYA CARTER: WEBSITE:  https://tonyacarter.comPODCAST: https://anchor.fm/tonyacarterFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mstonyaspeaksYOUTUBE:  https://bit.lyu/2t7ZtBj INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mstonyaspeaksLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mstonyacarterTWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#relivingyourstory #givingupyourstory #stopretellingyourstory #divorcecoach #divorcecourt #divorcedmom #lifeafterdivorce #divorcerecovery#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorce is difficult for children, no matter what the reasons or circumstances. When you leave a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person, a narcissistic person, a toxic person--you have so much more to consider. #Hijackals like to keep you in court, give you as little as possible, and want to take as much as possible. You know that. So, how can you focus on the children while balancing all that you have to also attend to? Today's episode with Dr. Larry Waldman will help with that. Kids get in the "loyalty squeeze" between divorcing parents. It's tough. They want both of you, even if one of you treats them badly. Get this expert's insights and advice.Need my help to walk through the muddle? Start here. BeAClient.com Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why Dr. Waldman believes divorce is prevalentWhat second marriages are likely to failTriggering abandonment in childrenWhat children learn when parents divorceHow to reduce trauma for a child of divorceWhy you need to return your attention to the children rather than letting your ex drain all the air out of you GUEST: DR. LARRY WALDMANDr. Waldman is a recently semi-retired certified school psychologist and licensed clinical, forensic psychologist in Phoenix, Arizona. He conducted a highly successful private practice of 45 years working with children, teens, parents, couples, and adults in a solution-focused manner. He also consulted with family, personal injury, immigration and estate planning attorneys. His BS in Education/Psychology was from the University of Wisconsin; his MS in School Psychology was from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee; his Ph.D. in Educational/School Psychology was earned at Arizona State University; and his Diplomate (ABPP) was received in 2003.Waldman was the past president of the Maricopa Psychological Society, the Director of Psychological Services for Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale and was an “Official Guide” (top expert) on Parenting for SelfGrowth.com. He continues as a Medical Consultant for the Social Security Office in Phoenix, an adjunct graduate professor in the Counseling Department for the University of Phoenix, and serves on the professional advisory board of Stepping Stones of Hope, a charitable organization serving children whom have lost a parent. Waldman is the co-chair of the Early Career Psychologists Committee with the Arizona Psychological Association (AzPA). He is also certified by the American Council on Exercise (ACE) as a (senior) fitness specialist.Dr. Waldman trained as a public speaker. His signature presentations are: The Business of Private Practice—The Graduate Course You Never Had and Teaching Parents to Parent. He has made over 150 paid presentations in his career to attorneys, chiropractors, psychologists, family therapists, counselors, social workers, school psychologists and school counselors. To the community Waldman speaks on parenting, marriage, stress, depression and anxiety, wellness, grand parenting and psychotherapy. His seminars are organized, practical and entertaining—offering “edutainment.”GIFT FOR YOU: CONNECT WITH DR. LARRY WALDMAN: WEBSITE:  https://topphoenixpsychologist.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/larrywaldmanphdYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/larrywaldmanphdTWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#exhaustingex #narcissisticex #leavinganarcissist #leavingahijackal #focusonthekids #divorcinganarcissist #goingtocourtwithanarcissist#relationshipadvice #

SO annoying! You want to be in relationship with a grown-up and the petulant child keeps showing up instead. Today, I'm diving into what's behind their self-centered world views and warped emotional growth patterns. Better yet, I'll share at least 6 things you can take action on to empower yourself! #Hijackals®, my term for the relentlessly difficult people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then scavenge them for power, status, and control, confuse their desire for something with their right to take it. Have you experienced that?#Hijackals primary need is to win in all circumstance, with all people, about everything. They'll even do that with their children! Sad. Nasty!These difficult people do not like to be told "No" in any form, or in any form approximating "no," either. They are "partial adults" who quickly descend into being petulant children.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How Hijackals get stuck emotionallyWhat "partial adults" don't like to do....think: work, pay bills, stop playing video games, be inconvenienced, etc.The effects of never learning to collaborate or cooperateJust a petulant child behavior, or are they anti-social? Oops! How partial adults are passive-aggressiveSIX, yes 6, most important first steps to consider before handling #Hijackal petulance and childish ragesWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#petulantpartners #manchild #womanchild #narcissistbehavinglikeachild #narcissistdemands #narcissisttrantrum #handlinghijackals #childishtantrumsofadults #adultswhorage #adultswhohavetantrums#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel too tired to even try to think your way out of a paper bag?Then, you may see thinking your way out of a toxic relationship as insurmontable on your worst days. Today, my guest, Robert MacPhee, and I will help you find the energy, courage, and skills to step out of mental exhaustion as well as emotional exhaustion. When you can count on your improved decision-making strategies, you're more likely to feel more confident in your decisions. Listen and use these new insights and tactics to lift yourself up, and make better decisions in favor of yourself and your children.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's important to focus on the decision-making processWhat "decision fatigue" is and how it may work against youHow you can get stuck in a comfortably uncomfortable spot and why you need to moveHow making excellent decisions impacts relationshipsHow improving decision-making can help you escape a toxic relationshipHow not to have regrets after making a decisionGUEST: ROBERT MACPHEERobert MacPhee is a leadership coach and consultant. He is the former Director of Training for Jack Canfield, (Chicken Soup for the Soul, The Success Principles), a Founding Member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a Co-Founder of the Southern California Association of Transformational Leaders, the author of the “Manifesting for Non-Gurus” book and partner journal and the creator of the Excellent Decisions approach to effective leadership.Robert teaches people how to thrive, achieve at a very high level and be truly happy,by making decisions and taking actions driven by their vision and values rather than all of the stress and pressure we are faced with in today’s world.Ancient Greek Definition of Happiness: “The experience of joy while in pursuit of your potential.”GIFT FOR YOU: Video explaining how change works and why people experience resistance even when they are pursuing a goal that they KNOW is good for them.www.excellentdecisions.com/joyCONNECT WITH ROBERT MACPHEEWEBSITE:  www.ExcellentDecisions.comPODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/excellent-decisions/id1439129373FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/excellentdecisions/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh-4yWBXQAwOPTWP8NYuWuA?view_as=subscriberINSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN:https://www.linkedin.com/in/macpheerobert/TWITTER: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#excellentdecisions #leavinganarcissist #leavingnarcissists #robertmacphee #excellentdecisionmaking #decisionfatigue #overcomingdecisionfatigue #whywewontdecidetoleave #decidingtoleaveanarcissist #makebetterdecisions #confidentdecisionmaking#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You never feel safe. You're always wondering when you'll be the victim of something sneaky, nasty, or blatantly wrong. You can't quite put your finger on what it is, but it's impacting your health, self-esteem, self-confidence, and the lives of your children. It may well be ambient abuse. Good people--people with empathy and good hearts--are most likely to be preyed on my emotional vampires, emotional terrorists. Those are other names for #Hijackals. Of course, Hijackals® is my term for the relentlessly difficult, toxic people who hijack relationships for their own purposes, and scavenge them for power, status, and control. Unless you are a mental health professional, you cannot diagnose someone with a personality disorder. But, you sure can talk about the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of Hijackals, right?Learn these ten ways to recognize ambient abuse, and take note of it. It's real. It's happening. And, if it's happening at your house, you want to see it clearly, and make good decisions as to what your next best steps are. Start with the ideas in this episode!Want to talk with me? New clients can use this one-time, one-hour offer at BeAClient.comBig hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is meant by "ambient abuse"Why it's so difficult to recognize ambient abuseHow both covert narcissists and overt narcissists use ambient abuseCrazy-making aspects of emotional abuse, ambient abuse10 clear ways to recognize ambient abuseOnce you see it, you can track it...and recognize how real it isEmpowering changes you can make to take back your power in the face of abuseWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#ambientabuse #whatisambientabuse #recognizeambientabuse #ambientabuseislikefog #getclearaboutabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.