Overcome Pornography for Good

Fearing automatic sexual thoughts is not a fun way to live your precious life. If you’re afraid you’ll have a reaction you don’t want, or that you’ll freak out when it happens, you’re in the right place. The truth is this is a completely normal part of our human experience, and this week, I’m showing you how to shift your experience of your automatic sexual thoughts.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/automatic-sexual-thoughts

Discover the power of neutralizing your unwanted porn habit. I’m showing you why you can’t quit long-term from a place of indulging in dramatic, intense emotions, and how to generate emotions that will help you sustain not only quitting porn, but any habit you want to create in your life.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/neutralize

I show you how to examine your “I’ll never quit” thoughts so you can start chipping away at them. You’ll discover why these thoughts stop you from finding a solution to quitting pornography, and how to practice disproving these thoughts so you can replace them with something more empowering.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ill-never-quit-thoughts

So many people are hurting, wounded, and suffering in silence from sexual shame. These wounds are painful and harmful, and they aren’t necessary. If this is you, know that you deserve healing from that. In this week’s episode, I’m showing you how to become aware of the stories that are fueling your sexual shame, and how to start healing your relationship with your sexuality.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/healing-wounds-sexual-shame

If you’re currently seeking an accountability group or partner to help you quit porn, listen in. I’m offering why accountability is not the answer to finally figuring out your porn habit, and how to start building the muscle of self-trust so you can accelerate your results.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/pitfalls-of-accountability

On this week’s What’s Possible interview episode, you’re hearing from my client Sam. His history with unwanted pornography is one I think so many of you, if not all of you, are going to resonate with, and even though you might not believe it right now, you’re going to leave this episode with hope that this habit doesn’t have to be your truth forever.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-sam

Logan is on the show today to share his journey of struggling with pornography, the soul searching he had to do along the way, and his experience of coming out on the other side with a new belief in himself. He’s here to challenge the narrative that you have to struggle with porn forever, and instead, that it’s normal and doable to overcome this habit.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-logan

Cannon shares the biggest transitions and most significant breakthroughs he’s experienced in the last year. He’s a shining example of how this work is about so much more than just quitting porn, and why he had to be willing to be wrong about who he is as a person and what he’s capable of.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-cannon-goslin

I show you how you might be making your struggle with your most difficult urge harder than it needs to be. You’ll discover why avoidance is not the same as overcoming the urge, and the key to finding a real long-term solution. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/your-most-difficult-urge

I highlight the three things that are keeping you stuck in porn. You’ll hear why tracking progress by the number of days without porn isn’t effective, the power of learning to examine your thoughts, and why going through the discomfort of your urges doesn’t have to be as miserable as it feels right now.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/3-things-that-keep-you-stuck-in-porn

If you’re ready to stop settling for feeling unworthy, accepting lies about yourself, and the exhaustion that comes along with trying to use willpower at every turn, listen in. I’m showing you why buffering with pornography has you settling for a life you’re not excited about, and how to stop so you can finally create a life you really want.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/stop-settling

I show you how to break free from the ropes of your limiting beliefs. You can truly have anything you want if you’re willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it, and I’m sharing the work necessary to start changing your life.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/elephant-limiting-beliefs

I’m sharing what it means to process an urge and a three-step process that will help you process your urges whenever you feel them come up. You can use what I’m teaching you today with any emotion in your life, so tune in to find out exactly how to do it and how this can help you give up pornography for good.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/how-do-i-process-an-urge

We dive into the top things they coach on and 6 things you really need to know as you work on changing your unwanted porn use. We’re discussing the importance of examining your limiting beliefs, how to start listening to your body, and why tuning into gratitude and celebration is more crucial than you might think.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/6-key-lessons-kat-tina

I show you why the Choose Again method is so powerful for habit change. I’m laying out the three simple steps of this concept, explaining why it’s not about catapulting ourselves to happiness and dismissing our human experience, and showing you how to implement this practice to overcome unwanted porn use.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/choose-again

I guide you through the one skill that will make overcoming the porn habit 10 times easier. I’m showing you why hating yourself through any challenge only produces more discouragement and confusion, and how to instead get to a place where you can make informed decisions and build beliefs that will spark the change you want.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/how-to-make-it-10x-easier

I show you why conditional commitment will always stop you in your tracks, and why practicing unconditional commitment is a game-changer when it comes to changing your habits. You’ll discover why all goals require unconditional commitment, and how to start thinking about what you want in life through this lens.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/conditional-commitment

I offer how the 50-50 principle can be an incredibly powerful tool when we apply it to ourselves. I’m showing you what happens when we resist this fact, what happens when we can truly allow for our human duality, and I’m also giving you an exercise to practice to help you generate compassion for yourself on this journey.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/duality-good-and-bad

This week, I’m introducing you to a concept called hard vs. harder. You might be framing your work to overcome porn with the question, “Is it going to be hard? Is it going to take too much energy and effort?” The truth is, it will be hard, but it’ll be even harder to continue to give in, to stay stuck for even a day longer, riddled with shame, feeling unproductive, lost, and lonely. So this week, I invite you to choose a hard that gets you where you want to be.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/hard-vs-harder

Listen in this week as I offer my tips for building the skill of planning ahead of time. You’ll discover why this is such an integral part of being intentional about how you live your life, what happens when decision fatigue kicks in, and what to look out for as you begin practicing planning ahead of time.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/planning-ahead-of-time

If you currently believe your sexuality is morally wrong, or have bought into all the ways sexuality gets a bad rap, join us on this episode. Jennifer is dropping some serious gems around how we frame our human sexuality in unhelpful ways, the keys to creating an intimate partnership that feels amazing, and what drives our compulsions for things that don’t serve us.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/sexuality-force-for-good-dr-jennifer-finlayson-fife

I show you how healing is the key to getting to the root of your porn habit. Overcoming pornography is not something you can force yourself through, and I’m showing you the reason so many people start here, and how it halts your progress.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/life-changing-healing-mindset

We are sexual beings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I urge you to drop your sexual shame, and learn why demonizing our sexuality leads to more problems. Discover why this is the key to quitting porn for good, and how accepting your sexuality opens you up to so much more peace and calm.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/we-are-sexual-beings

If you’ve heard me say you have to fail, and you’ve interpreted that to mean it’s not worth trying, listen in closely this week. I’m sharing the difference between progressive failure and justification failure, why practicing the former will have you surprised at how much faster you’ll be able to quit, and showing you how applying this concept to other areas of your life will leave you amazed at what else you can accomplish.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/progressive-failure-vs-justification-failure

In this episode, I’m inviting you to be willing to fail over and over again. The truth is that your success at quitting porn is literally built on your ability to fail and get back up to try again. The more tolerance you have for failure and slip-ups, the quicker you’ll succeed at overcoming the habit, and I’m showing you why this week.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/failure-tolerance

Quinn exemplifies how your past is not a reflection of your future and what's possible for you to accomplish. He’s sharing how our work together has created breakthroughs and transformations for him, and how, at 64, he’s now making career changes and putting himself out there to help others. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-quinn-felix

Join me this week as I show you why staying in this cycle of unrealistic expectations is so problematic, and how to stop the cycle so you can move closer to the changes you want to see by taking small, realistic steps towards it consistently.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/realistic-expectations

Lindsay gives us insight into the importance of recognizing and addressing betrayal trauma. After her own experience of it and discovering the tools that helped her heal, she’s here to offer tips for minimizing the extent of your trauma, and to light a path towards empowerment and trust.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/betrayal-trauma-lindsay-poelman

I share 5 of my best tips for staying committed to your New Year’s goals. I’m showing you why so many people quit on themselves, what progress really looks like versus what you think it should look like, and how to use the New Year energy to your advantage.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/new-years-goals

Listen in to discover the identity shift you are undergoing as you learn to quit porn. Becoming a new person is part and parcel of this work, but I’m showing you how to give yourself the permission to do so, and the only difference between who you are now and who you want to be.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/becoming-a-new-person

Discover why, without learning the skill of emotional regulation, quitting pornography will be impossible. I’m showing you why being able to sit with your feelings is the key to creating anything you want in life, and I’m sharing my best tips and tools to help you begin practicing doing just that.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/emotional-regulation

I share my 4 tips for learning how to mindfully manage your urges. I’m showing you why you might be feeling stuck in a cycle of willpower energy right now, and what it means to just allow your urges to exist so you truly don’t have to be afraid of them.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/mindful-urge-management

Discover how to develop the true shame-free commitment required for overcoming pornography. I’m sharing the conditioning and limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in their porn habit, and how you can move away from relying on shame and towards a porn-free life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-free-commitment

I show you the price you pay when you choose the short-term pleasure of overindulgence over your long-term wellbeing. I’m offering that it’s not only safe and loving to say no, but that it could even be beneficial to feel an unanswered desire. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/overindulgence

I introduce you to a mind-blowing concept that will teach you how to see yourself and the world around you differently. You don’t have to believe what your lenses are showing you right now, and you can choose to switch them up if you want, and I’m showing you how. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/lenses

I’m showing you how to become the observer of your thoughts and how doing so will enable you to change your pornography habit. Being the observer will teach you so many things about your porn habit that you need to know, so I’m showing you how to observe yourself and stop believing everything your brain is telling you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/the-observer

I share the lessons I’ve learned in my work helping returning missionaries who struggle with porn use. I’m showing you why returning missionaries often struggle with porn, and I’m listing 8 things that are not effective in solving for porn use, and showing you what to do instead.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/post-mission-porn-use

Discover how to give less attention to your present desires, so you can fulfill your future desire of overcoming pornography for good. So many people want to quit porn because they’ve been told to by their parents or their spouse, but I’m sharing why these reasons alone aren’t enough to stop the short-term urge, and how to come up with a truly compelling why instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/present-vs-future-desire

This week I'm showing you why an all-or-nothing mindset stagnates your progress, and how minuscule improvements over time are more powerful than you might think. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be courageous enough to take it one day at a time, and I’m guiding you through it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/compound-effect

This week, I lay out the 3 things we can do when we feel an urge. I’m showing you how two of those options have you either acting outside of your value system, or furthering you from where you ultimately want to be, and how the third option available to you is the key to handling any urge with confidence and ease.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/resist-react-allow

I lay out the 3 biggest problems with believing Satan is in charge of your sexual urges. Your urges aren’t dangerous or evil, and trying to overcome porn with this framework is not effective, so I’m showing you where your urges actually come from, and why this will feel so much more freeing as you work to understand your over desire for pornography.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/sexual-urges-satan

I outline some shame-inducing thoughts about porn that you might be believing right now, but that simply aren’t facts. For so many people, shame is the root of their porn use, and I’m inviting you to notice how you show up when you’re drowning in shame, and recognize that choosing shame is completely optional.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-2

Discover the difference between your lower brain and your higher brain, and how the two of them interact. Your lower brain seems powerful, but it’s nothing compared to your higher brain, and I’m showing you three tools you can start using right now to override your lower brain’s urges. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/lower-higher-brain

Discover exactly what is going on in your brain when you desire porn. Contrary to what you might believe, wanting to watch porn doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your brain, and just because you want it now and you’re struggling to control your urges, it doesn’t have to be this way forever. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/why-we-desire

Discover how to make a Belief Plan, so you can start to see what’s possible for you. I have faith in your ability to quit pornography, and by the end of this episode, I hope you’ll see that believing in yourself and your ability to overcome porn is an option for you too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/belief-plan

Listen in this week as I show you how going through your pain is a beautiful act, but it’s one that is not easy. I’m encouraging you to stop running from your pain, and instead, to be open to the truth that healthy individuals feel pain and use it to heal and empower themselves to create change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/power-of-pain

I’m sharing the problem with thinking “I can’t” and showing you how to reframe your mindset to feel more empowered. If you’re having a hard time committing to giving up pornography, looking at your beliefs is a great place to start. So this week, I’m showing you how to challenge your thoughts and beliefs and replace them with ones that serve you better. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/i-cant

Discover how the thought, “I shouldn’t be here” keeps you stuck where you are right now. I’m inviting you to come at this thought with curiosity instead of resistance, and you’ll start to see what an amazing opportunity questioning this thought is in helping help you quit porn for good.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shouldnt-be-here

There is one thing that all of my clients have in common: difficulty accepting themselves. They want to change, and that’s great, but the truth is, you can’t make a positive change in your life if you don’t accept yourself. And that’s the work I’m helping you with on this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/accepting-yourself

As humans, we’re wired to do anything we can to avoid feeling our emotions, and this is exactly how a porn habit thrives. But if you listen closely this week and take action to stop fearing your feelings and instead be willing to truly feel them, the work of quitting porn becomes so much easier, and we’re taking a deep dive into how you can start this work right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/stop-fearing-feelings