Mind Your Mama - Healing Burnout, Building Boundaries, and Finding Yourself

The system is designed to keep you trapped.Corporate America is NOT set up for women to succeed. It's not set up for you to raise a family AND have financial freedom. It's not set up for you to leave a marriage if you need to.It's set up to keep you exhausted. Distracted. Dependent. So you keep working. So you keep showing up. So you keep being a good little cog in the wheel.And they've convinced you that this is just how it is.But here's what they don't want you to know: There's another way.In this powerful manifesto episode, I'm getting brutally honest about how the system traps women — and why financial independence isn't just nice to have, it's SURVIVAL.I share the story that shaped everything for me: I was in elementary school when my dad left. And he didn't just leave — he took every cent. My mom was a stay-at-home mom of FIVE kids with no income, no savings, no career to fall back on. Overnight, we went from comfortable to not being able to afford dinner. My grandparents had to step in and save us.I watched my mom beg for help. I watched her realize she had no options. No way out. No safety net.And I made myself a promise that day: I will NEVER be that woman. And I will do everything in my power to make sure other women aren't trapped either.This episode breaks down exactly how the system keeps you dependent:Childcare costs more than most women make (the math that forces you to stay home OR work for nearly nothing)The U.S. has NO federal paid maternity leave (you're punished for having children)You can't survive on one income anymore (both parents HAVE to work just to scrape by)If you're financially dependent on your spouse, you can't leave even if you need to (and the system is fine with that)But here's the secret they don't want you to know: Women are finding another way.They're building digital product businesses. Online coaching. Courses. Things that sell while they sleep. They're working 10-20 hours per week and making MORE than they did working 40+ hours for someone else. They're home when their kids get off the bus. They're not choosing between career and family. They have BOTH.And most importantly? They have OPTIONS.If they want to stay in their marriage — they're choosing it, not surviving it. If they want to leave — they can, because they have their own money. If their spouse dies suddenly — they're not left destitute.That is POWER. Real power. Financial independence. The ability to say, "I don't need you. I CHOOSE you." Or, "I don't choose you. And I'm going to be fine."And the system HATES that. Because women with options don't tolerate bullshit.This episode is for you if:You're in a marriage because you can't afford to leave (not because you're choosing to stay)You're working a job you hate because you need the paycheckYou're exhausted from trying to do it all and wondering if this is all there isYou feel financially trapped and don't know how to get outYou want options — real options — in your marriage, your career, and your lifeYou're ready to build something that gives you time, money, and FREEDOMWhat we cover:The story of my dad leaving and taking everything (and why I'll never let that be your story)How childcare costs trap women (the average cost is $14-18K per year PER CHILD while women's average salary is $50K)Why the U.S. is one of the only developed countries with NO paid maternity leaveHow you can't survive on one income anymore (and why both parents working still leaves you broke)Why leaving a toxic or abusive marriage is nearly impossible when you're financially dependentThe secret they don't want you to know: digital products, online coaching, and income while you sleepWhy women with financial independence have POWER — real powerHow to start building something that's YOURS (even if you have no special skills, no time, no money)The truth: You don't have to choose between your family and your freedom. You don't have to sacrifice yourself to keep everyone else afloat. You don't have to stay trapped.You can build something. Something that's YOURS. Something that gives you income, time, and options.Ready to start? I have a free guide on how to build digital products from scratch — no huge investment, no special skills required. Just you, your story, and the determination to build something different.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach AND @wealthymamamethodEmail: [email protected]

Motherhood is the best thing that's ever happened to me. And also one of the hardest.And I'm done pretending those two things can't both be true at the same time.In this raw, unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about what it really feels like to be drowning in motherhood. The exhaustion. The depletion. The feeling like your kids are little vampires sucking the soul out of you — even though you love them with everything you have.I talk about why the system is set up to keep us exhausted, stuck, and too busy to pay attention. Why we're trained from childhood to sit at a desk, take orders, trade time for money, and never question if there's another way.I also get real about why your kids trigger you — and spoiler alert: it's not because you're a bad mom. It's because they're mirrors of the unhealed parts of yourself. My oldest daughter shows me everything I haven't healed yet. And learning to parent her while re-parenting myself? That's the work.And here's what nobody talks about: you can't do this work if you're completely depleted. You need something that's YOURS. Not bubble baths. Not scrolling on your phone. But something real — an identity outside of "mom" that fills you up instead of draining you.This episode is about breaking cycles. Not just for you. But for your kids. Because they're watching. And what you model for them — shrinking yourself or betting on yourself — that's what they'll learn is possible.Listen if you:Feel like you're drowning in motherhood even though you love your kidsAre exhausted, depleted, and touched out by the end of every dayGet triggered by your children and wonder whyFeel guilty for wanting something outside of being a momAre tired of the 9-to-5 grind and want to build something that's yoursWant to break generational cycles but don't know where to startNeed permission to say motherhood is hard without feeling like a bad momWhat we cover:Why motherhood is both the best and hardest thing (and why both are true)The lie that if you're struggling, something's wrong with youHow the system keeps us exhausted, depleted, and stuckWhy your kids trigger you: they're mirrors of your unhealed selfThe story of my oldest daughter and why she shows me everything I haven't healedRe-parenting yourself while parenting your kidsWhy you can't do this work if you're completely depletedWhy you need something that's YOURS (not just self-care — real identity work)How building a business/podcast gave me back my powerWhy your kids are watching — and what you're teaching them about what's possibleBreaking cycles not just for you, but for your children and their childrenResources mentioned:Therapy and inner workDeep breathing exercises (whale breaths with my 7-year-old!)Building something that's yours: coaching, podcasting, business.If you're drowning in the 9-to-5 grind and ready to build a life where you have TIME, SPACE, and ENERGY to do the inner work — check out my Stan Store for resources, templates, and ways to work with me. You don't need to have it figured out to start. You just need to be willing.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coachEmail: [email protected]

I yelled at my 12-year-old daughter this morning. And then I sat in my car after drop off and cried. Not because she hurt my feelings. But because I saw myself. I saw my father. I saw every person who ever yelled at me when I was a kid and made me feel small and terrified.And I swore — I SWORE — I would never do that to my kids.In this raw, unfiltered episode, I'm getting brutally honest about what it's really like to try to break generational trauma while you're still healing from it. About getting triggered by your own children. About the crushing mom guilt that comes when you repeat the exact patterns you promised yourself you'd never pass down.I talk about growing up in a verbally and physically abusive home where staying small kept me safe. About having a stalker for 20 years and living in constant hypervigilance. About how those survival strategies followed me into motherhood — and how they show up even now, decades later, when my daughter is angry.This episode doesn't have a neat bow. I don't give you five steps to never get triggered again. Because I don't have it figured out.What I DO give you is permission. Permission to be human. Permission to mess up. Permission to yell at your kid and then go back and repair. Permission to be doing the work even when it's messy and hard and you keep fucking up.Because that's what breaking generational trauma actually looks like. Not perfection. Repair.Listen if you:Yelled at your kids today and can't stop feeling guilty about itAre trying to break generational trauma but keep repeating the same patternsGet triggered by your children's big emotionsGrew up in an abusive or dysfunctional home and don't want your kids to have the same experienceFeel like you're failing at motherhood even though you're doing everything "right"Wonder if you're passing down trauma to your childrenNeed permission to be imperfect and still be a good momWhat we cover:What happened this morning with my 12-year-old daughter (the real, unedited story)Why I get triggered when my daughter is angry — and what that has to do with my childhoodHow growing up in an abusive home wired my nervous system to see anger as dangerThe 20-year stalker experience and how hypervigilance became my default settingWhy healing isn't linear — and why you can do all the therapy and still fuck upThe difference between me and the people who raised me: I go back and repairWhat breaking generational trauma actually looks like (spoiler: it's not perfection)The 3 things I'm practicing: Awareness, Repair, CompassionWhy the fact that you feel guilty means you're already breaking the cycleExplore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @mind.yourmamaEmail: [email protected] Store:https://stan.store/laurenTrout— Resources for moms ready to build businesses and create lives where they have TIME and SPACE to do the inner workIf you're a mom who's tired of the 9-5 grind and ready to build something that's YOURS — check out my Stan Store for free resources, digital product templates, and coaching programs. You don't need to be healed to start. You just need to be willing.

What happens when you're on a self-growth journey and your partner isn't? When you're in therapy, doing the work, unpacking your trauma — and your husband is doing none of it?In this raw, honest episode, Lauren gets vulnerable about the loneliness of being the only one doing the inner work in her marriage. She talks about the gap that's created when one person is evolving and the other is staying the same, and asks the question that keeps her up at night: How do I know when I'm doing the work I need to do versus when I'm just making excuses for him not showing up?This episode doesn't have a neat bow. There are no easy answers. Just the real, messy truth about what it's like to navigate marriage when you're changing and your partner isn't.Listen if you:Feel lonely in your own marriageAre doing all the therapy while your partner does noneWonder if you're asking too much or if he's just not doing enoughStruggle to know when you've hit your limitAre tired of being the only one doing the emotional laborTopics covered:The loneliness of being on a growth journey when your partner isn'tHow to know when you're doing your work vs making excuses for himThe trap of being "too good" at taking accountabilityWhen "doing the work" becomes doing ALL the workNavigating the gap between who you're becoming and who he still isIf you're a mom ready to build something that's YOURS — check out Lauren's Stan Store for resources on creating digital products, starting a coaching business, and leaving the 9-5 grind behind.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutrn_coachEmail: [email protected]

What happens when you're on a self-growth journey but your husband isn't?In this raw, real conversation, Lauren and co-host Emily get vulnerable about what it's really like to be changing, growing, and building a business while their partners stay exactly the same.If you've ever felt disconnected from your spouse because you're evolving and they're not — if you've caught yourself thinking "do we even want the same things anymore?" or "am I still attracted to him?" — this episode is your permission slip to keep growing anyway.Today we're unpacking:Why seeking external validation from your partner keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)The fear that if you keep growing, you'll lose loveHow to manage expectations in marriage when you're on different pathsWhy lowering your state to meet your partner where they are will backfireThe "let them" theory — and why taking the lead actually makes them followHow to stop punishing yourself and start taking messy actionWhy change isn't the enemy (even though we're conditioned to believe it is)Plus:Emily shares how she almost went back to her "old self" because she was afraid Kevin would leaveLauren gets honest about seeking validation from Rob (and the moment she realized she has to give that to herself)The powerful reframe: life is happening FOR you, not TO youWhy the top of one mountain is just the bottom of the next (and how to enjoy the climb)This isn't about fixing your marriage. This is about fixing your relationship with yourself first — and trusting that everything else will either rise to meet you or fall away to make room for what's meant for you.Listen if:You're growing and your partner isn'tYou feel guilty for wanting more than motherhoodYou're seeking external validation and don't know how to stopYou've been afraid to change because you might lose loveYou're a mom building a business and your husband doesn't get itYou need permission to keep evolving even if it makes people uncomfortableThis episode is messy, honest, and exactly what you need to hear today.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren and Emily:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach Instagram: @Ems_empowerment_coachingEmail: [email protected]

What do you do when betting on yourself feels like painting a target on your back?In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren shares the story she's been avoiding — growing up in an abusive household, surviving 20+ years with a stalker, and learning that staying small and invisible was the only way to stay safe. And then deciding to build a business anyway.If you've ever thought "I'm too broken to do this" or "visibility feels dangerous" or "wanting more means I'll lose everything I have" — this episode will crack you wide open.This isn't a rah-rah business pep talk. This is about what it actually takes to bet on yourself when your nervous system has been trained to believe that being seen equals danger.You'll learn:Why survival strategies don't turn off just because the threat is overHow to rewire your nervous system to believe that visibility ≠ dangerThe exact fear-naming practice that helps you take action anywayWhy your mess is actually your message (and your greatest business asset)What "outdated fear" is and how to recognize when you're operating from old programmingListen if:You've been sitting on a dream because you're afraid to be visibleYou grew up learning to stay small and now you're teaching yourself to take up spaceYou think your trauma disqualifies you from building somethingYou want to start a business but every step forward feels terrifyingYou're a mom who's ready to bet on herself but doesn't know where to startThis one's heavy. This one's real. And this one might be exactly what you need to finally take the first step.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coachEmail: [email protected]

Have you ever looked at your life — the kids, the husband, the routine — and thought, "This is everything I wanted... so why do I feel so empty?"If you've lost yourself in motherhood and don't know how to find your way back, this episode is for you. Today we're talking about maternal identity crisis, matrescence (the transformation into motherhood), and why wanting more doesn't make you a bad mom — it makes you human.Lauren gets brutally honest about her own journey from invisible, people-pleasing survival mode to finally asking the question: who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else?This is the conversation about motherhood identity loss that nobody's having — but every mom needs to hear.Listen if you:Feel like you've disappeared into the role of "mom"Struggle to name a single thing you do just for yourselfResent your life even though you "should" be gratefulWonder if this is really all there isWant permission to want moreWork with Lauren: If you're ready to stop disappearing and start building a life that feels like YOURS — come find Lauren on Instagram and DM the word "MORE" to learn about 1:1 coaching and digital product creation for moms who are done with the 9-5 grindExplore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coachEmail: [email protected]

If you've landed here wondering who Lauren is and whether this podcast is for you — this episode is your answer.In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren shares the story she's never told in one place — from growing up in a volatile, abusive household, to being kicked out at 17 and living out of her car, to putting herself through nursing school, climbing to Director of Nursing, and still feeling like she was failing at everything.The moment everything changed? Her 10-year-old son Jack looked up at her with tears streaming down his face and said "Mommy, my least favorite part of my day is coming home."That was the wake up call.In this episode Lauren covers:How childhood trauma shaped her people-pleasing, identity-shifting patternsWhy tying your entire worth to nursing leads to burnout — fastWhat it felt like to become Director of Nursing and still feel like a fraudWhy she left her job and started this podcastWhere Mind Your Mama is headed — and why burnt out nurses are sitting on a gold mineHow identity work, nervous system regulation, and digital products can change everythingThis podcast is for the nurse who is exhausted, invisible at home, and knows deep down there is something more for her. You are not just a nurse. And Lauren is here to prove it.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coachEmail: [email protected]

What if sleeping in separate beds from your husband was actually good for your marriage? What if scheduling sex was the secret to having more of it — and better? Lauren and Emily are back together for an unfiltered, judgment-free conversation that goes from sleep habits to self-worth, intimacy to parenting, and everything messy in between.This is the raw, real talk that most people are thinking but nobody's saying out loud — and it just might change the way you look at your relationship.📌 What We Cover in This EpisodeThe "Sleep Divorce" trend — what it is, why couples are doing it, and why it might actually save your marriage (not end it)Why nighttime is the worst time for sex (for most moms) — and why that's completely validScheduled sex: game-changer or romance killer? The surprising truth about why planned intimacy worksHow movies, Bridgerton, and spicy romance books create unrealistic expectations about what sex should look likeThe "roommate" problem — how couples slide from passionate partners to disconnected co-parents, and what actually pulls them backSetting boundaries around intimacy without your partner feeling rejectedUsing sex as a source of self-worth — Lauren gets vulnerable about her younger years and why she's determined her daughters won't make the same mistakeThe 3-part journaling method Emily uses daily to build self-worth and feel "enough"Do-overs in parenting — why repairing after you lose your cool matters more than getting it right every timeWhy women collaborating is unstoppable — and a possible co-hosting announcement 👀Key TakeawaysSleep divorce is not a relationship failure — for many couples, better sleep means better moods, less resentment, and more desireSet boundaries around when you're available for sex — and communicate them clearly, not reactivelyScheduling sex removes the guesswork and lets both partners show up intentionally rather than one person always feeling rejected or the other always feeling pesteredMedia — from Bridgerton to romance novels to porn — sets unrealistic standards for what intimacy looks like, and comparing your sex life to those standards will always make you feel like you're failingSelf-worth is not determined by your frequency of sex, your partner's desire for you, or any external metricCommunication is the foundation — most couples slide into roommate territory not because they fell out of love, but because nobody taught them how to talk about what they actually wantYou always get do-overs as a parent. The repair matters just as much as getting it rightIf this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and share — it's the single best way to help other mamas find this community. And remember: you're not alone, you can't fuck it up, and there is zero judgment here.Tag us if you share: Use #MindYourMama and let us know your biggest takeaway!Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: laurentroutrn_coachInstagarm: ems_empowerment_coachingEmail: [email protected]

We were handed a blueprint.Go to school.Get good grades.Climb the ladder.Get married.Buy the house.Be grateful.Don’t complain.And if you do it all… you win.But what do you actually win?In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren pulls back the curtain on the “dream” so many high-achieving women were taught to chase — and what it cost her to finally admit it wasn’t hers.From becoming Director of Nursing to feeling like a fraud…From checking every box to feeling like a ghost in her own life…From being needed to realizing she just wanted to be loved.This episode is about:• Performance-based identity• Tying worth to usefulness• The exhaustion of being the “strong one”• Motherhood and soul-level burnout• Approval addiction• And what happens when you wake upIf you’ve ever laid in bed thinking, “Is this really it?”This one will hit.You don’t have to burn your life down.But you do have to stop worshipping a dream that was never custom-built for you.Ready to Stop Performing?If this episode cracked something open for you, that’s not a breakdown — that’s awareness.Inside my 1:1 coaching, we untangle the identity you inherited and help you build one that’s actually yours.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @https://www.instagram.com/laurentroutn_coach/Email: [email protected]

In this episode of Mind Your Mama, we’re talking about the identities we learned to perform in order to feel loved. The good girl. The strong one. The fixer. The needed one.I’m sharing a personal story about how I tied my worth to being the one people came to — and what happened when someone close to me didn’t.This episode will challenge you to ask:Who did you learn you had to be to be loved?What part of you feels unsafe letting go of that role?If this identity disappeared tomorrow… who would you still be?In This Episode You’ll Learn:Why your identity might be protecting youHow people-pleasing becomes an unconscious survival strategyWhat real self-worth actually feels likeHow to stop tying your value to being neededWork With MeIf this episode hit you in the chest, it’s not random.Book a Spark Session or apply for 1:1 coaching: 🔗https://stan.store/laurenTroutExplore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @https://www.instagram.com/laurentroutrn_coach/Email: [email protected]

Overwhelm is something every mom knows far too well. The busy schedules, the pressure to say yes to everything, the guilt when you try to prioritize yourself, and the constant sense that you are running on empty. In this powerful conversation, Lauren is joined again by her friend and coach Emily Erb to unpack why overwhelm shows up, how it becomes a cycle, and what practical steps can help you break free from it.Emily shares her perspective on why overwhelm is often a learned response, how saying yes to everything keeps women stuck, and how boundaries, connection, and nervous system awareness can begin to shift everything. Together they discuss motherhood, burnout, shame resilience, health and fitness habits, and the deep conditioning that tells women they must always put themselves last.This episode feels like sitting with two friends who get it and who want you to feel lighter, safer, calmer, and more empowered in your daily life.Questions answered in this episode:What does overwhelm actually mean and why do so many moms live in it?How do boundaries reduce overwhelm and create more space for the things you care about?Why do women feel guilty for taking time for themselves?How does your nervous system respond when you are constantly rushing or people pleasing?Why is connection with other moms essential for healing overwhelm?How can you start creating sustainable health and fitness habits without adding stress?What role do shame and societal expectations play in burnout?How can you model healthier patterns for your kids?Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @mind.yourmamaEmail: [email protected] with Emily:Instagram: @ems_empowerment_coaching

So many women feel guilty for wanting more in their lives. More purpose, more creativity, more peace, more ease, more fulfillment. We’ve been conditioned to believe that wanting more somehow makes us ungrateful or selfish. In this episode, Lauren completely reframes that belief and shows you why your desire for more is actually a sign of self awareness, not selfishness.You’ll learn why your nervous system reacts the way it does, how resentment builds when your purpose is suppressed, and how to begin rewiring your subconscious so that expansion feels safe instead of scary. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel called to something deeper, or felt guilty for that calling, this episode will feel like a breath of truth.Questions answered in this episode:Why does wanting more not make you selfish at all?How does ignoring your purpose create burnout and resentment?What happens in your nervous system when your desires are suppressed?How can you reframe the guilt around wanting a bigger life?What practical steps help you step into alignment and take action?Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @mind.yourmamaEmail: [email protected]

Every woman reaches a moment where she feels a quiet pull… a whisper that says there is more waiting for her. More purpose. More freedom. More alignment. More her.This episode dives into that feeling, why it shows up, and why it is not selfish or ungrateful to listen to it. Lauren breaks down the guilt, fear and conditioning that keep women shrinking, and she walks you through what it actually looks like to rise into the next version of yourself with confidence and clarity.If you’ve been craving something deeper, feeling restless inside your own life, or wondering whether it is “wrong” to want more than routines and responsibilities, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.Questions answered in this episode:What does it really mean when you feel “meant for more”?Why do so many moms feel guilty for wanting an identity beyond motherhood?How does fear show up when you try to step into your purpose?What is alignment, and how do you know if you’re living out of it?How can you start becoming the next version of yourself even when you don’t feel ready?Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @mind.yourmamaEmail: [email protected]

Burnout isn’t just exhaustion, overwhelm or too many responsibilities piled onto your shoulders. The deeper truth is this. Burnout is what happens when you’ve spent too long living out of alignment with who you really are and what you’re here to do.In this episode of The Mind Your Mama podcast, Lauren breaks down the emotional, physical and spiritual layers of burnout that so many moms carry without realizing why. She shares the honest, raw story that became her wake up call, the science behind nervous system overload, and the life changing shift that happens when you stop abandoning yourself and start living in your purpose again.If you’ve been feeling drained, resentful, stuck or disconnected from the woman underneath motherhood, this episode will hit home in the most healing way.Questions answered in this episode:What does burnout really mean when you’re a mom who feels constantly overwhelmed?How does living out of alignment create stress, resentment and physical symptoms?Why do so many moms feel stuck between purpose, safety and guilt?What signs is your nervous system giving you when you’re suppressing your true purpose?How can small aligned actions help you reconnect with who you really are?If this episode speaks to you or you know another mama who needs this reminder, share it with her so she doesn’t feel alone for one more day.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersTo work with Lauren one-to-one or learn more about healing burnout and finding your purpose:Instagram: @mind.yourmamaEmail: [email protected]