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Talking points: psychology, mindset, self-talkThis is one of THE things that blocks men from all kinds of growth and progress. An internal dialogue that is harsh, abusive, shaming, even cruel. Let's change that, shall we?If you or someone you know is constantly deprecating or talking negatively towards themselves, strongly encourage you to share this one. It's important.(00:00:00) - Intro, how prevalent a harsh inner critic is, and how nasty mine was(00:06:56)- Where does an inner critic come from, and how is it formed?(00:11:13) - Neglect and abandonment(00:15:52) - Trauma as an origin for a harsh inner critic(00:16:57) - “Dark motivation” and it’s useful but maladaptive power(00:23:15) - It damages your ability to appreciate or validate yourself (00:24:45) - What to do, what NOT to do, and questions you can use to find your inner critic’s origin(00:28:09) - Figure out what it wants(00:29:51) - Set some boundaries(00:31:34) - Repurpose the loyal soldier(00:34:31) - Build a relationship with this part of you***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: parenting, children, attachment, psychologyYou may have heard me mention Duey before. He co-facilitates the ManTalks Men's Weekends with me, and his work is absolutely incredible. I was thrilled to sit down with him last week, just before our sojourn to Texas. We dive into all things attachment. How children and adults experience it, when it starts forming, and how my own son has taught me some incredible lessons on it. Also, listen in for Thunderbutt. No, I'm not kidding.(00:00:00) - Intro and Duey’s take on why real elders don’t seek power(00:10:08) - How do we begin to truly understand our partner?(00:15:49) - On the importance of curiosity and not assuming you know someone—especially your partner(00:21:28) - What are the building blocks of really healthy attachment?(00:30:52) - Attachment is somatic, and how children are inherently, incredibly sensitive(00:45:27) - What “interrupts” attachment?Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently, in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.A licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetics, and counseling with children and adolescents. Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach.Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women worldwide to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.This episode is also brought to you by Factor. Chef-prepared meals made easy, made healthy, and hey, no mess after! Check out factormeals.com/mantalks50 for 50% off your first box!Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, psychology, the shadowIf you've been following the show for a while, you'll know I'm a big Jung fan. You also don't have dive too deep into his work to find game-changing ideas of his. Here are 3 short yet sublime ideas of Jung's that you can reflect on—and maybe even execute on—pretty much right away.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:46) - “Who looks inside, dreams. Who looks outside, awakens.”(00:06:00) - “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”(00:10:12) - “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: AI, porn, relationships, conflictYowza. So grateful for Matthia's thoughtful and nuanced ideas on everything from artificial intelligence to therapy-speak to anger and approaching relationships. We go from the esoteric to the practical and back again, so listen in team. This is a great one to share with a partner.(00:00:00) - Intro, Matthia’s adventures with AI, and how it's already shifting culture(00:16:42) - When AI does things TOO well(00:20:32 ) - How AI will impact intimate relationships and the porn industry(00:30:37) - What do AI and AI porn mean for the next generation, and how they’ll be impacted(00:35:17) - How technology always has unintended consequences (00:43:05) - Why does everyone seem like a narcissist according to online commentary?(00:50:40) - On villain/powerlessness dynamics, and mature anger, and how trauma therapy is like a software update(00:58:20) - How couples can end cycling or repeat conflicts(01:05:55) - Mathia’s non-negotiables for lasting intimacy and deep relationshipMatthias is a psychotherapist and the CEO and co-founder of the Trauma Institute with Dr. Frank Anderson, providing clinical training for psychotherapists and education for the general public on healing from trauma. He is widely recognized for his unique approach to making mental health knowledge and skills accessible to the wider public. Through platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and his top-ranking Spotify podcast, Matthias delivers psychoeducational content to a following of over 3 million people. Barker's innovative blend of engaging content and relevant mental health advice has fostered a vibrant online community centered on healing, personal growth, and moving toward what’s meaningful despite hardship.Connect with Matthias-Website: https://matthiasjbarker.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthiasjbarker/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCim71w-GtC46Vr48RbowBSw***This episode is brought to you by Miracle Made. These are wildly good sheets, team. Silver-infused threads inspired by NASA, antibacterial, and thermoregulating. Head to TryMiracle.com/ManTalks to save 40% if you order today, PLUS another 20% (and 3 free towels) if you use the code MANTALKS. Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, emotions, habits, burnoutEver get the feeling you...don't feel anything? Yeah, me too. This is something that affects just about everyone at some point in their lives, and it contributes to overuse of all kinds of coping mechanisms. Here's what numbing out is, where it comes from, and a five-step method on how to get out of it.(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconceptions around numbing out(00:05:26)- Don’t see numbness as a villain, and some numbness “caveats”(00:09:29) - What causes us to numb out? How is it a learned response?(00:14:55) - What we need to know before we stop numbing out(00:17:22) - The first step: what are you using to numb out? (00:18:36) - Create a plan, and why you shouldn’t expect cold turkey to go well(00:21:42) - If you have trauma, there’s a caveat (00:23:32) - Numbness is itself an experience(00:25:17) - Use your breath to reconnect to your body. Here’s why(00:31:03) - Look for sensation(00:33:45) - Final step: letting the sensations have a voice***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: stoicism, mindset, philosophy, parentingBrian proves that Stoicism is anything but unenthusiastic. We cover so much ground here, and Brian's passion and joy for what he does is inspiring. If you're looking for clearcut ideas on how to craft a self and a life that you're proud of, this is the episode to listen to—and share with your friends!(00:00:00) - Intro and Brian’s defining moment(00:06:50) - What is areté?(00:09:02) - Why has there been a resurgence of stoicism?(00:14:42) - Brian on how to parent when things are floundering, and how stoicism tackles fear and laziness(00:21:24) - How does Brain raise his own son in an increasingly chaotic world?(00:28:47) - What are some challenges young boys face today that are unequivocally different than before?(00:39:11) - How does someone use Stoic principles to build more discipline with things turning to punishment?(00:45:56) - “So…do I just have to go through the suck then?”(00:51:54) - The science of hope(01:00:27) - What is “targeted thinking”?(01:03:40) - The practicals of antifragile confidence(01:12:05) - How do you develop your own protocols for building your own antifragile confidence?Brian Johnson is the Founder & CEO of Heroic Public Benefit Corporation. He’s 50% Philosopher + 50% CEO and 101% committed to helping create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by the year 2051. As a Founder/CEO he’s raised $25M+, made crowdfunding history, and built and sold two social platforms. As a Philosopher/teacher, he’s helped millions of people from around the world, trained 10,000+ Heroic Coaches from 100+ countries and created a protocol that science says changes lives. He lives in the country outside Austin, Texas, with his wife, Alexandra, and their two kids, Emerson and Eleanor.Connect with Brian-Website: https://www.heroic.us/arete-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heroicbrian/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRhEwzsFYLGcMa4m2AbTAoA-Heroic App, iOS: https://apple.co/4c7uUQk, Android: https://bit.ly/3VcaKi2***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: coaching, therapy, masculinity, mental healthEyebrow-raising title aside, I know from personal experience it can be wildly difficult for coaches and therapists who work with men to make actual progress. But! There are clearcut reasons for this, and there are clearcut things you can do. So if you're a coach or therapist who wants a better experience for both you AND the guy in your chair, listen in. If you're not one of those, then use this as a guide to help you find a coach that's right for you!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:50)- Therapists tend to work with men the same way they’d word with women(00:04:00) - The major reasons coaches/therapists struggle to get results(00:09:42) - So how do you actually get results? And why rapport is so important(00:11:38) - Get him out of his head and into his body(00:16:05) - Develop the skills to truly be with his intensity(00:20:54) - Identify where he feels he lacks competency—and build a plan(00:22:50) - Learn to work with a man’s resistance, and repurpose his inner critic(00:25:04) - Learn how (and when) to confront him on his BS(00:25:58) - Be a friend***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: food, addiction, cravingsI've gotta say, I enjoyed this one a lot. Glenn has a TON of practical, actionable, and science-based advice on tackling cravings—and a nice dose of good humor. Grab a pencil and listen close for this one, team. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:26)- Why are so many North Americans overweight?(00:10:01) - Glenn on the declining quality of food(00:17:24) - Getting away from packaged food is generally more important than a specific diet(00:19:57) - Why is overeating such a thing, how do we approach letting go of that, and “organismic distress”(00:39:24) - More helpful examples of organismic distress(00:43:17) - Where does understanding a craving start?(00:54:53) - How does a craving actually get extinguished, and the “extinction curve” that they takeGlenn Livingston, Ph.D. was the long time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. You may have seen his (or his company's) previous work, theories, and research in major periodicals like The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, The Indiana Star Ledger, The NY Daily News, American Demographics, or any of the other major media outlets you see on this page. You may also have heard him on ABC, WGN, and/or CBS radio, or UPN TV.Disillusioned by what traditional psychology had to offer overweight and/or food obsessed individuals, Dr. Livingston spent several decades researching the nature of bingeing and overeating via work with his own clients AND a self-funded research program with more than 40,000 participants. He earned his Ph.D. is in psychology from Yeshiva University in 1991.Connect with Glenn-Website: https://www.defeatyourcravings.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defeatyourcravings/***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, parents, relationships, attachmentThanks to everyone who's written in on these guides, I love hearing from you. Next up? Anxious attachment. What is it, where does it come from, and what you can do to work yourself—and your relationships—away from it. If you've ever found yourself doing stuff like getting anxious because they didn't text you back or because you need their phone password, this might be the ep for you.Curious about other guides? Check out my free PDF, A Man's Guide To Ending Codependency: https://training.mantalks.com/codependency(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:14)- The core essence of anxious attachment(00:07:53) - Some differences between secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment(00:09:57) - Causes of anxious attachment; number one, inconsistent parental responses(00:15:08) - Ask yourself: how was my upbringing unpredictable, or where were my parents unpredictable?(00:17:19) - Cause number two: overly intrusive caretakers(00:23:38) - Cause number three: emotional dependence encouraged by caregivers(00:27:03) - Next is parental unavailability or rejection(00:29:45) - Lastly, abuse, trauma, or PTSD(00:30:45) - So what do we do? (00:34:25) - The biggest, most important piece: learn how to self-regulate. Here’s how(00:41:18) - Solution number two: exposure therapy(00:43:43) - Solution number three: work on your self-esteem and self-worth(00:45:34) - Detach your worth from others’ validation***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: trauma, hynotherapy, ADHD, insomnia, neurology, psychologyTeam, this is an episode chock full of info. I've never touched on the subject of hypnotherapy before, but it's interested me for a while. Professor David Spiegel came to dispel some of the misinfo around hypnosis as a therapeutic practice, and he offered a TON of insight into what's really happening in the mind and brain during a proper session. If you've ever been curious about hypnosis or are looking for new healing methods to try out, this is the episode for you.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:05)- Myths about hypnosis(00:09:14) - The neurology behind hypnosis(00:17:43) - Neurological similarities between hypnosis and psychedelic experiences(00:24:26) - More on what’s really happening in the brain during a hypnosis session(00:28:35) - Can hypnosis help with ADHD, and how men tend to have difficult accessing a somatic experience(00:35:52) - How can hypnotherapy help with trauma?(00:42:59) - Hypnotherapy and healing the somatic intensity of trauma responses(00:45:33) - David’s new therapeutic app(00:52:12) - “It doesn’t have to be either/or, it can be both/and”(00:56:10) - Insomnia, what’s involved in falling asleep, and how hypnotherapy may helpDr. David Spiegel is Willson Professor and Associate Chair of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Director of the Center on Stress and Health, and Medical Director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, where he's been a member of the academic faculty since 1975, and was Chair of the Stanford University Faculty Senate from 2010-2011. David has more than 40 years of clinical and research experience studying psycho-oncology, stress and health, pain control, psychoneuroendocrinology, sleep, hypnosis, and conducting randomized clinical trials involving psychotherapy for cancer patients. He's published 13 books, 404 scientific journal articles, and 170 book chapters on hypnosis, psychosocial oncology, stress physiology, trauma, and psychotherapy. His research has been supported by the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Cancer Institute, the National Institute on Aging, the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation, the Fetzer Institute, the Dana Foundation for Brain Sciences, and the Nathan S. Cummings Foundation.Connect with David:-David's app, Reveri: https://www.reveri.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reveri/***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.This episode is also brought to you by Factor. Chef-prepared meals made easy, made healthy, and hey, no mess after! Check out factormeals.com/mantalks50 for 50% off your first box!Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, conflictKey word there? Improve. There will always be some form of butting heads, no matter the relationship, no matter how long. But it doesn't have to be something that creates wreckage. It can actually be helpful. Here's what to do.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:27)- The first three minutes, and why conflict CAN be productive(00:04:57) - Know the role you tend to play(00:05:47) - Breathe and ground, breathe and ground(00:07:20) - Don’t get stuck in the objective reality and ignore the subjective experience of each other(00:11:33) - After a year, most couples already pretty set-in ways of arguing, aka this is gonna take practice(00:12:42) - Study (and I mean study) the first three minutes of conflict***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: biology, nervous system, burnout, mindset, angerI've said a number of times on the show that people with regulated nervous systems are going to be extremely well-equipped for the coming days. To that end, I wanted to bring dysregulation expert Dr. Linnea on to show how important—and how possible—it is be grounded, regulated, and flexible in our responses to life. If you're chronically stressed, THIS is the episode to listen to.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:56)- Why is learning about nervous system dysregulation so important?(00:11:09) - What the ultimate core function of the nervous system really is(00:21:08) - The intelligence of anger(00:25:30) - How Dr. Linnea helps people identify and move through their anger(00:33:32) - How much are nervous system issues derived from our parents?(00:37:20) - On children, boundary testing, and how a little bit of adversity is actually beneficial(00:43:35) - What’s more important: developing sensitivity to your current nervous system or understanding(00:53:01) - The Alertness Elevator model(00:59:23) - A five-stage plan to reverse nervous system dysregulation(01:08:30) - The restoration, connection, and expansion stagesDr. Linnea Passaler is a multifaceted health professional whose life and career have been driven by a passion for learning and her desire to assist others. With a degree in oral medicine from the renowned Universitá degli Studi in Milan, she interned at HSR Research- Ospedale San Raffaele – an advanced molecular biology facility located there. This experience kindled her interest and enthusiasm for research and immunology specifically. Through her journey and research, Dr. Linnea was able to recognize the effects of nervous system dysregulation on the sensitive person and how it contributes to conditions like anxiety, burnout, and physical and emotional symptoms. This realization drove her to found ‘Heal Your Nervous System,’ a platform that offers tools and resources to help individuals worldwide understand the root cause of anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, and physical and emotional symptomsConnect with Dr. Linnea-Website: https://healyournervoussystem.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healyournervoussystem-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healyournervoussystem-Book: Heal Your Nervous System: https://amzn.to/3SN3HcC***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychologyThe last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant(00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way(00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody(00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability(00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence (00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment(00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability(00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship(00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner(00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationshipsWe all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child's future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, "Troubled", explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you're interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob's book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why(00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?(00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?(00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging(00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?(00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children(00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment(01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment styleRob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He's perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of "luxury beliefs," a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.Connect with Rob-Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/-Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson-Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, sabotageIt's not easy, I know. We all do it, and we all wonder why. But there's a way forward—and it's simpler than you think, my friends. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:12)- What people do immediately after sabotaging, why it’s NOT effective, and what to do instead(00:06:12) - Practical steps to move beyond self-sabotage(00:10:49) - If there’s one thing to take away from this***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: zen, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, mindsetI'm one of those people who hated sitting down and meditating, even after a few years of trying to practice. It's now something I do nearly every day, and it grounds me in ways I can't explain. This is a pretty common story, especially among men I've worked with, so I brought Henry Shukman back on the show to dig into what novice meditators get wrong, what some good starter methods are, and really: what IS thought, anyway?Listen in for a great look at the start and "end" goal of mindfulness, and Henry's infectious enthusiasm for this powerful practice.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:47)- Do men and women have different struggles with meditation?(00:08:35) - Why do meditation and mindfulness draw more women than men?(00:18:45) - What are the initial resistance points when people start a meditation practice?(00:25:03) - What IS thinking?(00:31:57) - But what’s the actual goal of mindfulness, and how do you get there? (00:38:56) - The power of allowing, and what it actually means(00:49:29) - What is “original nature”?(00:56:16) - Do psychedelics offer the same glimpse into reality as meditation does?(01:04:24) - Henry’s upcoming appHenry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by several Zen teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.He currently guides a wide range of students from all walks of life. He received dharma transmission (inka shomei) from Yamada Ryoun Roshi, the abbot of Sanbo Zen, and is a Zen Master of the Sanbo Zen lineage of Kamakura, Japan.Connect with Henry-Upcoming app: The Way: https://www.thewayapp.com/-Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/-Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/-Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: politics, cultureRecent data seems to show young men skewing more and more conservative and women more progressive. Why? Well, to my eyes, there's one major factor and a few others that are generating this shift. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:21) - What factors into this?(00:04:42) - What happens for men in some progressive circles(00:06:40) - And what happens for men in conservative circles(00:09:26) - Other reasons impacting this shift(00:13:38) - We’ve attached gender roles to political ideologies***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, mindfulness, marriage, logic, social mediaMaybe you’ve heard me say this before, but the modern dating scene seems, well, insane. Case Kenny sat down for a great, insightful convo on why that's a thing, from the expectations social media feeds us, to the meaning of marriage to how AI is going to mess with all of it—or not.Listen in and share this ep if you want honest thoughts and some straightforward tips on navigating modern relationships!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:04:34)- Why are women worried about being “too much”?(00:13:43) - What are guys actually trying to communicate to women who feel they’re “too much”?(00:17:01) - On relational conflict, solving it, and how social media doesn’t do you any favours(00:22:10) - On social media, intimacy, independence, and “settling down”(00:33:10) - Case’s take on declining marriage rates(00:39:01) - Case’s great definition of mindfulness, and mindfulness in the context of relationships(00:49:58) - How can men use mindfulness to improve their relationships?(00:56:50) - Case’s hard-hitting questions to journal on(01:05:33) - Will AI impact the mindfulness space?Case Kenny is a Chicago, IL based mindfulness author and podcast host of the top 25 US podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?" No gurus, no fluff, and no preaching of generic life advice. Just his thoughts on self-help, wellness, and mindsets with practical and personal insights on how to live a passionate, purposeful, and happy life.Connect with Case-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaseKenny-Book: That's Bold Of You: https://bit.ly/42hZeDk-Podcast: New Mindset, Who Dis?: https://bit.ly/3Ue7GkT***Want a more intense, in-person experience? Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationship, mindset, psychologyThis is a big one, dear listener. This is a slightly new format for the series; specific topics I'll do a deeper dive on, centering on how you as a man can better understand them, better work through them, and better help others through as well. First up? Codependency. If you've got a specific topic you'd like me to cover, hit me up on Instagram @mantalks!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:04:11) - What is codependency?(00:08:30) - One the hallmark indicators you’re in a codependent relationship(00:10:43) - Major causes of codependency: the peacekeeper, abuse, emotional unavailability, and the caretaker(00:30:24) - The tale of Johnny Niceguy(00:35:54) - The signs of a codependent relationship (00:38:59) - Seven questions to ask yourself(00:40:47) - Ways to actually move OUT of codependency, plus one that guys generally don’t like(00:49:48) - Perfection is a fuel for codependency***Want a more intense, in-person experience? Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, environment, fitnessIs there a testosterone crisis? From the headlines I've read it sure seems like it. But what's going on, where is it coming from, and what can you do naturally to stay healthy? I sat down with Lucas Aoun to cover all of these things and more. Dig into this episode for a brilliant intro to optimizing hormone levels—particularly testosterone—and knowledge on how to avoid hormone disruptors.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:10) - What’s happening to men’s hormone levels, the symptoms, and what testosterone is responsible for(00:09:41) - On cortisol, testosterone, and key building blocks(00:16:26) - Outside of stress, what are some things negatively impacting test levels?(00:22:07) - What about cardio or fasting?(00:31:33) - Naturally optimizing testosterone with diet and sleep(00:40:47) - Lucas’ take on TRT and the consequences(00:45:06) - On tongkat ali, fadogia, shilajit, and other supplements(00:56:44) - Lucas’ thoughts on creatineConnect with Lucas-Website: https://www.boostyourbiology.com/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoostYourBiology-The Limitless Course: https://thelimitlesscourse.com/***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: collaboration, friendship, masculinityMen, few things are more powerful, fulfilling, and expansive than this, so guard it with your life. It took me way too long to learn and understand, and many people diminish or degrade its importance. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:53) - Men are isolated and less collaborative than ever before, and we miss out on important things(00:05:06) - Without male collaboration, our society would cease to exist(00:06:40) - What I’ve learned over the last decade about male friendships—and male isolation(00:10:02) - Maybe you yourself are one of those men who could use more friendships(00:11:34) - We’ve got to protect this(00:13:16) - Things you can do to foster male collaborationPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexualityThe field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits (00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity? (00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same?(00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression(00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability(00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating(00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means(01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children's mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).Connect with David-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=bVcpj60AAAAJ-Quillette: https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/-Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-femalePick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, relationshipsThe biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling saferPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, lonelinessEvery January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships (00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxietyPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, culture Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and stats(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men's health Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We're kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info. This is a solid ep to check out if you're wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home. (00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone (00:28:35) - On sperm and why you should store some while you’re younger(00:33:37) - On glyphosate and atrazine(00:39:58) - What some things men can do to support healthy testosterone and sperm production? (00:46:12) - What should the T levels and sperm count actually be for a middle-aged man?(00:52:45) - Layne’s take on drugs like Ozempic Layne Kilpatrick began compounding hormone preparations as a pharmacy intern at the Apothecary Shoppe in downtown Salt Lake City in 1986 when the process of micronization was first developed, paving the way for more widespread hormone supplementation. He has developed several original formulations made exclusively at MOC. He has treated thousands of patients for hormone-related issues. He acts as a consultant to medical practitioners and other pharmacists both in and outside of Utah, advising on the interpretation of hormone labs, clinical signs, and symptoms, and effective prescribing practices for ‘native’ hormone therapy, as he prefers to call it. Layne is a native Utahn of pioneer heritage and has lived in Draper since 2003. He and his wife, Angie, have 5 children. Connect with Layne: -Website: https://hormonespecialist.net/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hormonespecialist -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hormonespecialist Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year! (00:00:00) - Intro(00:00:40) - Stop lying(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring. (00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?(00:50:28) - What do when resentment creeps into a relationship, and why it’s so important to listen to the wisdom of the body(00:56:53) - Nicole’s take on how to regulate your nervous system(01:03:46) - What is a trauma bond, and how do you know you’re in one? Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become. Connect with Dr. Nicole: -Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/ -Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist -Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH -New book: How To Be The Love You Seek: https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com/ -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you. (00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info? Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team. (00:00:00) - Intro and Adam’s defining moment(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory(00:06:16) - Adam’s definition of attachment, and why it’s important for individuals(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women (00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant attachment, and “clear pill” (00:52:11) - The loss of mature masculinity goes way, way back(00:59:38) - The contributing factors to mature masculinity Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord, to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam’s profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again. Connect with Adam -Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg -Courses: https://adamlanesmith.com/courses/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, life hacks, culture The list of things I've tried to get over procrastination is so long you could wrap a town's worth of Christmas presents in it. But there is ONE thing that's actually helped. It's pretty counterintuitive, but it seriously has worked every time I've used it. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and how I’ve battled with procrastination for a long, long time(00:04:20) - Procrastination: what it’s actually trying to do (00:08:22) - The one counterintuitive thing that worked for me(00:11:44) - A side effect you’ll need to look out for(00:14:46) - We have a very anti-boredom culture Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, bipolar disorder, culture, tribalism, climate, society There aren't many out there with as wide-ranging knowledge and experience as Sarah Wilson, so I was thrilled to sit with her and dig into some of the heavier stuff. From practical tips for managing anxiety to collapsing neoliberal systems to the Dutch practice of "dropping", this interview has a bit of everything. Strongly encourage you to check this one and share, especially if you're interested in mental health or where our culture's headed. (00:00:00) - Intro and Sarah’s defining moment(00:03:54) - What are “diseases of despair”?(00:07:29) - What’s causing the rise of these kinds of deaths?(00:11:32) - The loss of “discerning moral discussions” in the education system(00:16:56) - Sarah’s take on collapse theory and its impact on mental health(00:26:36) - How do we deal with the fracturing of dialogue and society?(00:34:54) - It’s not an anxiety epidemic, it’s a lack of resilience epidemic(00:44:44) - What are some practical ways to work with anxiety?(00:54:08) - Resources for people with a bipolar partner, friend, or family member. Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times and Amazon best-selling author, podcaster, social philosopher, international keynote speaker, philanthropist, and climate change advisor. She's known globally for the I Quit Sugar Movement, as well as her New York Times bestseller First, We Make the Beast Beautiful—described by Mark Manson as “the best book on living with anxiety that I’ve ever read”. Sarah’s most recent title, This One Wild & Precious Life, won the 2021 US Gold Nautilus Prize. Connect with Sarah -Website: https://sarahwilson.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_sarahwilson_ -Substack: https://sarahwilson.substack.com/ -Podcast, Wild with Sarah Wilson: https://pod.link/1548626341 Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, relationships Title says everything, friends. Here are a handful straightforward things you can start doing to attract higher quality women. Caveat: these aren't Jedi mind tricks, they'll benefit you even if you're already in a relationship, and probably will help the dating scene be a little less chaotic for everyone. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:18) - Face your fears and be honest about the red flags you’ve ignored(00:05:42) - Confront your fears relationally, emotionally, and sexually(00:07:37) - Work towards your idealized self(00:10:33) - Get in shape; the benefits are enormous (00:17:02) - Be able to regulate your nervous system(00:18:42) - Know what you will tolerate in relationship and adhere to that(00:20:45) - Get offline This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points (and content warning): masculinity, suicide, domestic violence, patriarchy, politics, culture Whew. This was quite the conversation. I've been following TheTinMen for a while now and am continually inspired by his passionate yet levelheaded approach to what is (unfortunately all too often) wildly charged conversations. This is a heavy one, team—and deeply important. (00:00:00) - Intro and why "TheTinMen"? (00:04:17) - George’s defining moment(00:08:40) - How do you approach the topic of domestic violence, and it's biggest causal factor(00:12:00) - What factors into domestic violence outside power and control?(00:21:38) - George’s take on the patriarchy(00:28:04) - How do you engage people who think all men are evil?(00:33:22) - In the UK, fathers are legally second-class parents(00:38:41) - The misconceptions around male suicide(00:46:34) - What are men saying to George directly about suicide?(00:46:34) - How does the epidemic of male vacancy play into the challenges young boys are facing?(00:55:21) - Why men leave the left(01:04:25) - How do you handle such charged conversations? George (@TheTinMen) is a content creator, research, pro-men's advocate and social media influencer. He explores the forgotten gaps of the gender debate, working for compassionate, original, and progressive political advocacy for men and boys. Connect with TheTinMen -Website: https://thetinmen.blog/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetinmen/ -Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thetinmen/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheTinMenBlog This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, goals, direction If there's anything you should be prepared to talk about with a partner, this is it. I think men underestimate how potent it is, how attractive it is, and how beneficial it is for themselves and for everyone else... What's your vision? (00:00:00) - Intro and the Question(00:02:43) - Your vision helps women understand you better—and it’s attractive(00:03:29) - Purpose comes FROM vision(00:05:47) - There’s aliveness when working on your vision, but it’s easy to get stuck on what’s not going well(00:09:35) - Why depth is my direction Want to go deeper? I encourage you to check out ManTalks' Black Friday sale. Get 20% off all our courses (or 30% if you grab all three)! The Shadow Course, Relationship Mastery, and the Porn Detox Program are all available: https://mantalks.com/blackfriday/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: fatherhood, attachment, communication Back in August, I had this gentleman on, and we covered some deep ground. In part two, we end up looking at a present struggle, fatherhood, and how it both connects and is separate from old patterns. This is an excellent episode to check out if you’ve been curious about what shape repeat sessions can take, and how we can use what we’ve learned about ourselves not just to overcome our own obstacles, but help others too. (00:00:00) - Intro, recap, and an update(00:05:49) - We tend to overlook the healing and focus on what’s still going wrong(00:09:56) - The challenges helping and managing an adopted son, and the fear of being unable to help(00:18:21) - Similarities between what’s being experienced now and what was experienced as a child(00:20:29) - What it’s like trying to connect with a son and not feeling like it’s happening(00:28:24) - “What feels familiar between the relationship you have with your son and the relationship that you as a boy had with your father?”(00:30:04) - You might be more alike than you think(00:34:36) - How might the work of grieving a mother’s passing and relating to your son be connected? This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: culture, relationships, systemic issues 66% of young men are single, fewer and fewer men are graduating college, boys are disproportionately punished in school, there are fewer male teachers and therapists than ever, and millions of men aren't even listed as unemployed because they're simply not seeking work. Something's going on. (00:00:00) - Intro and some stats(00:04:17) - I’m not going to sit here and blame men OR women(00:06:30) - Social reasons men check out(00:09:45) - The definition of a good man is almost entirely up to women (00:12:06) - Structurally, men aren’t being incentivized to go into higher education(00:14:59) - I think that support networks for men and boys are collapsing or are not male friendly(00:16:57) - Men generally aren't finding resonance in the therapeutic industry, nor can they find male therapists(00:19:41) - There’s been a significant decline in the number and diversity of male relationships(00:22:30) - Where do we go from here? This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: breathwork, neurophysiology, fear I know many, many people whose lives have been profoundly changed by getting into Wim's style of breathwork, myself included. This was one of my absolute favorite interviews, and Wim's fierceness and passion for helping people is absolutely mind-blowing. If you're looking to understand a little more about what breathwork can do, this is THE episode for you. (00:00:00) - Intro and what happens when men gather(00:03:56) - One of Wim’s defining moments: trapped under the ice(00:06:14) - Wim’s journey with fear (00:11:13) - How do we begin using our breath to confront fear, and some of the science behind breath work. (00:20:38) - On how breath helps regulate the nervous system(00:28:07) - Why breath work and cold therapy? (00:31:57) - Are there any similarities between deep breath work and psychedelics? (00:36:48) - Does breathwork behave similarly to DMT?(00:42:23) - Why do some people get tingly or see shapes during breath work?(00:49:00) - Are inflammation and fear related? Wim Hof, aka "The Iceman," is a Dutch extreme athlete born. Renowned for his ability to withstand extreme cold, Hof has set records for ice endurance and advocates for the health benefits of cold exposure combined with his breathing techniques. His Wim Hof Method, a blend of cold therapy, breathing, and meditation, claims to control the autonomic nervous system and immune response, intriguing scientists and wellness enthusiasts alike. Beyond his physical feats, Hof promotes a philosophy of natural living and the mind-body connection, inspiring people globally to explore their own potential boundaries. Connect with Wim -Website: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxHTM1FYxeC4F7xDsBVltGg This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: potential, growth, mindset We all have images of who and what we're capable of. Flashes of motivation and inspiration based on what we know deep, deep down to be true of us. Getting from images to reality, from dreams to concrete fact, is the battle. The best one you'll ever fight. The following are simple (but not easy) steps based on years of work with men, endless hours of study, and mentorship with some amazing people. (00:00:00) - Intro and where the challenge lies(00:03:37) - Develop skills that matter to you, will improve your life, and improve others’ lives(00:05:32) - Know (and take) the risk(00:08:04) - Connect to your direct, felt experience(00:12:40) - Express and transmit what you’re experiencing(00:14:17) - Realize what it is you want, but pay attention to what life is saying you need(00:15:27 ) - Pursue your fears and discomfort(00:16:48 ) - Pay attention to your own darkness AND learn what it’s trying to teach you This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: psychedelics, therapy, culture, interdependence, history, materialism It's been several years since I last talked with Paul, and he's been busy. We branch out into a number of ideas, all centered around what psychedelics have done, are doing, and COULD do for humanity. If you're looking for thoughts from an expert on where the therapeutic industry might be headed—and what's needed from all of us—this is the conversation for you. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and Paul’s defining moment(00:06:02) - Why do you think psychedelics were so villainized back in the day?(00:11:29) - Would you say that part of the psychedelic experience is interaction with the unconscious?(00:15:16) - Did psychedelics influence Jung’s “Red Book”, and how can psychedelic use actually improve mental health?(00:24:11) - Psychedelic use should also assist collective mental health, not just individualistic goals(00:29:42) - What is the recipe for a bad trip, and the importance of preparation and post-trip integration(00:39:20) - Paul’s thoughts on the future, and possible concerns culturally and for teenagers(00:46:43) - How can psychedelics impact our capacity to lead ourselves and others?(00:56:10) - What would individuals and leaders do to deepen their understanding of interdependence? Paul F. Austin is one of the most prominent voices in the world of psychedelics. As the founder of Third Wave, he has educated millions on the importance of safe and effective psychedelic experiences. A pioneer at the intersection of microdosing, personal transformation, and professional success, he has been featured in Forbes, Rolling Stone, and the BBC's Worklife. Paul helps others use microdosing as a tool for professional development and increased self-awareness by treating the use of psychedelics as a skill refined through mentorship and courageous exploration. Connect with Paul -Website: https://www.paulaustin.co/ -The Third Wave: https://thethirdwave.co/ -The Psychdelic Coaching Institute: https://psychedeliccoaching.institute/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulaustin3w/ -Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-psychedelic-podcast/id1200537009 This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: domestication, culture, biology To be clear straight out the gates, I don't think there's some vast conspiracy to weaken all men. But there are certain aspects of our culture, our food, and more that have a synergistic effect. One that's messing with men on multiple levels. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and the ways men are becoming domesticated(00:03:18) - Masculinity and what it means to be a good man is now almost entirely defined by women(00:05:40) - A narrative that men are essentially defective women, or unwanted, or automatically at fault(00:10:42) - The simplification is also biological, through microplastics, additives, and more(00:13:59) - Stress and distraction levels are through the roof(00:17:03) - So…what do we do?(00:20:04) - Life isn’t supposed to be easy all the time This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: trauma, culture, collective healing Wow! Very grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with Thomas recently to discuss not just his book, but his vision and mission for people everywhere. This was a deeply moving conversation; Thomas' perspective on how trauma forms and how it needs to be healed will be resonating with me for a long, long time. Check this out. (00:00:00) - Intro and Thomas’ two defining moments(00:06:41) - How trauma reorients your perspective towards safety (00:10:37) - What is “attunement”?(00:23:10) - Tension is reduction of emotion (00:30:55) - Where does polarization fit into all of this?(00:40:23) - How do we start dealing with this?(00:45:53) - What's covered in Thomas' new book Thomas Hübl, PhD, is a renowned teacher, author, and international facilitator who works within the complexity of systems and cultural change, integrating the core insights of the great wisdom traditions and mysticism with the discoveries of science. Since the early 2000s, he has led large-scale events and courses on the healing of collective trauma. He is the author of Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World, and Healing Collective Trauma: A Process for Integrating Our Intergenerational and Cultural Wounds. Hübl has served as an advisor and guest faculty for universities and organizations, as a coach for CEOs and organizational leaders, and is currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University. Connect with Thomas -Website: https://thomashuebl.com/ -Book: Attuned: https://www.attunedbook.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Huebl.Sangha/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thomashuebl/ -Podcast: https://thomashuebl.com/#podcast Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, insecurity, mindset Ever do research on a topic and realize most of the stuff on the internet is...pretty worthless? Yeah me too. This week, a look at what really causes insecurity, and some things you can do that will actually help. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:05) - Defining insecurity(00:04:53) - What makes this reframe interesting, and 3 ways insecurities are formed(00:09:09) - So what do we do? Because there’s no quick fix(00:11:18) - You cannot affirm your way out of insecurity(00:13:22) - Pursue your fears(00:15:38) - Focus on the intersection of self-compassion and self-mastery Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathyDelighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan to content with once again. It's been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in.(00:00:00) - As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships?(00:06:50) - Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well?(00:12:57) - Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent(00:18:24) - What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has?(00:22:49) - Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men?(00:30:25) - Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about?(00:30:25) - The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic(00:41:25) - What are some ways out of that dynamic?(00:46:17) - What gets in the way of empathy, and how can that be overcome?(00:50:37) - What does good couples therapy entail, and how do you know it’s working?(00:55:25) - It’s important to pay attention to the ease of things as well as hard stuffConnect with Figs-Website: https://empathi.com/-Podcast: Come Here To Me: https://get.empathi.com/comehere-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: porn, attachment, relationships Title says it all, friends. I genuinely don’t see very many people talking about porn from this angle. Which is kind of surprising, but here we are. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and some of my own story around porn(00:03:49) - What nobody else seems to be talking about(00:07:57) - And THAT is why porn can be hard to let go of(00:10:32) - Reorienting yourself towards other relationships Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: adversity, disability, resiliency vs anti-fragility, growth, mindset Everything about this convo was enjoyable, but I think what I appreciate most is how pragmatic and straight-up grounded Tom's insights are. It makes for highly effective advice you can work on right away. Bonus: he's a great storyteller. This is a great episode to dig into if you're looking for inspiration towards a different approach to things, especially hardship. (00:00:00) - Intro, and the importance of living in a place you don’t always like(00:07:00) - Tom’s defining moment(00:09:43) - What Tom gained from intense physical hardship(00:15:52) - Reorienting yourself instead of the problem, and post-traumatic growth(00:20:05) - Is resiliency born or revealed by hardship, and have people treated you differently?(00:23:25) - How do you approach problem-solving itself, and how Tom became a DJ(00:34:10) - Tom’s definition of anti-fragile and resiliency(00:50:06) - Did therapy help? Quadruple amputee and DJ, Tom Nash exercises his unique knack for storytelling alongside his often dark and dry sense of humour, to lead audiences down a path of self-discovery, encouraging them to inspect their lives from a different angle. Tom’s grounded approach to working out what’s important and setting aside the noise of life, resonates with listeners. Tom explains how harnessing the power of adversity helped him to build a more pragmatic, productive and self-reflective mindset. Applying the lateral thinking methods imbued upon him to circumnavigate physical issues into his vocational endeavours carved out a new line of thinking. Connect with Tom -Website: https://www.tomnash.com/ -TED Talk: http://bit.ly/TomNashTEDMain -Book: Hook, Line & Sinner: https://www.tomnash.com/hls -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djhookie/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/djhookie -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tomnash82 This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: sex, social media, conditioning, culture I know what it’s like to feel controlled by your own sexed-up brain. Like you’re losing hours of your day, mental bandwidth and more to clothes-less strangers on the internet. So I wanted to lay down some real talk about what I've done—and how hard it can be—to de-sexualize my brain and stay disciplined. I also get into some of the benefits it’s hard for me, my business, and my relationship. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and why I’m talking about this(00:04:31) - Not only is your brain probably overstimulated, it’s probably avoiding something(00:06:16) - You’re going to have to get some excitement somewhere(00:08:10) - Cut out thirsty triggers(00:11:18) - Stop chasing empty dopamine “calories”(00:12:22) - Use tech properly(00:14:30) - Use BETTER tools This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I'm deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing's really felt "resolved". Together, we uncover some of what's been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and what my guest wants to work on(00:04:26) - What’s disruptive for you about being rejected?(00:08:35) - The complexities of divorce(00:13:52) - “I don’t really get angry”(00:19:07) - Movement, at times, requires anger(00:26:21) - Talking to your 8-year-old self(00:30:35) - What 8-year-old-you might say back(00:33:24) - The Homework This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, power dynamics, masculinity, femininity FYI, I'm diving into this because women have asked over the last few months, not men. And to keep things balanced, I'll be doing a companion video soon on what men do to de-feminate their partner. Listen in! Would also love your thoughts on the topic. Hit me up on Instagram @mantalks. (00:00:00) - Intro (00:02:53) - Withholding sex (with caveats) (00:05:43) - Withholding a fun, playful, or joyful nature(00:08:55) - Being overly controlling when it isn’t necessary (00:11:52) - Trying to forcibly change your partner(00:16:00) - Mothering your partner(00:17:54) - Demeaning men’s activities(00:19:20) - Withholding appreciation and/or using a man’s vulnerabilities against him This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices