ManTalks Podcast

Talking points: traumaThis was an honor. The word trauma gets thrown around a lot these days, so it's important to get back to basics and really sink into what's going on and why. After all, this is humanity we're talking about, and we're nothing if not complex. Peter is a legend in therapy circles for his groundbreaking work in somatic education and trauma work, so we dug into many of the different (and unusual) things something like trauma brings to the table. Both Peter and I encourage you to listen WITH someone!(00:00:00) - Peter’s definition of trauma and how it affects the body(00:07:27) - Peter demonstrates a somatic exercise to help release trauma(00:13:14) - Do men and women experience and handle trauma differently? (00:21:40) - On how trauma needs witnessing to heal, and Peter’s experience with active imagination (00:34:14) - Navigating the almost mystical side of healing(00:39:45) - Why the tiger?(00:43:27) - How can men work in a healthy way with anger, and how betrayal can impact how someone expresses themselves(00:49:08) - The main tool to help process traumaPeter A Levine, Ph.D., is the developer of Somatic Experiencing®, a naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma, which he has developed over the past 50 years. He holds a doctorate in Biophysics from UC Berkeley and a doctorate in Psychology from International University. He is the Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education, dedicated to Community Outreach and Post-Advanced Somatic Experiencing® Training, and the Founder and Advisor for Somatic Experiencing International. He has taught at the University of California, Berkeley; Mills College; Antioch University; the California Institute of Integral Studies; and the Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. His work has been taught to over 30,000 therapists in over 42 countries.Dr. Levine is the author of several best-selling books on trauma, including Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma (published in over 29 languages); In an Unspoken Voice, How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness; and Trauma and Memory, Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past. Connect with Peter-Website: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/-New book: An Autobiography of Trauma: https://books.innertraditions.com/autobiography-of-trauma/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpeteralevine/-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/peteralevinephd/***This episode is brought to you by Henson Shaving. Genuinely love these guys and their product because they've made my shaving experience actually enjoyable! Go to https://hensonshaving.com/mantalks to get two years worth of free blades with your new razor.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, relationships, sex, cultureMildly spicy title, serious thoughts within. All joking aside, there are a number of things that most of us men do that undercut or diminish our sense of inner leadership, authority, and trust. These are the top 10 that I've seen in my work and in myself. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:28) - Stop making excuses for not working out regularly, and stop giving women free attention on social media(00:09:46) - Stop comparing yourself to other men(00:15:41) - Cut back on time wasters, or let go completely(00:19:07) - Learn how to stop pursuing short-term gratification, and kill the lottery mindset(00:24:17) - Stop believing you’re fundamentally broken(00:29:38) - Stop thinking you need to do it alone, and stop thinking that peace comes after some monumental achievement***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, sexI've worked with a LOT of men and a TON of couples in relationships, situation-ships, and what have you. When it comes to what YOU as a man can do to craft a thriving partnership, there are 3 sort of "rules" that have come up again and again. They're also what changed the game for me and led to the wildly wonderful marriage I have now. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro and rule #1: stop worshipping sex(00:05:24) - Develop the self-esteem and willingness to walk away(00:09:08) - Get into the right place in your life, THEN find a woman***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking point: relationships, communication, boundariesI am so honored to be talking to Nedra this week, whose work and words have helped untold numbers of people. Her work on boundaries balances firmness with kindness in a way that I find inspiring. If you're wondering how to be more assertive and have deeper communication in all your relationships, this is gonna be your episode.(00:00:00) - Intro and how closeness is measured by depth(00:09:39) - Emotional followthrough is critical(00:14:48) - How to invite others into deeper conversations and how men get trapped in problem-solving mode in relationships(00:27:31) - Do men and women approach boundaries differently? (00:33:41) - Nedra’s take on what men miss with women in communication(00:45:56) - How much does our family system impact our ability to have boundaries?(00:50:11) - Nedra’s thoughts on the future of therapy, and what’s going to be necessaryNedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is the author of bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day, she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show, to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including The School of Greatness, We Can Do Hard Things, and Ten Percent Happier. She hosts the podcast You Need to Hear This, and shares practices and reflections for mental health on her popular Instagram account. Nedra currently resides in Charlotte, North Carolina with her family.Connect with Nedra-Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/-Podcast: https://www.nedratawwab.com/nedra-podcast***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: social media, masculinity, culture, the manosphereYou know the type. The conflict-focused, disrespectful bastions of non-matured masculinity. All loudly promising—if only you follow their framework—the secret to making millions and having your own harem. I get a lot of asks to weigh on this. Specifically, what makes these guys so popular. Here are my thoughts.(00:00:00) - Intro and what I grew up with(00:03:39) - The feeling of virility and reckless certainty is understandable, but it has a cost.(00:07:49) - If I were 19, I’d get the appeal(00:10:05) - Men with actual status aren’t out there selling you status, and the formula these guys use(00:14:55) - We need to pull back and ask who we’re actually listening to(00:17:54) - It’s hard to find real elders; harder to listen***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, sexThrilled to have Dr. Laurie return! This time, we go deep on sexual attachment. How it shows up, how it's a little different than the attachment styles you might know of, and what might be blocking it in your relationship. There is TONS of good info and insight here, team, so listen closely.(00:00:00) - What is the “sexual attachment cycle”?(00:05:59) - Where does the push-pull dynamic start, and how cues to sex slow down in some relationships(00:14:37) - What secure sexuality looks like on relationship (00:21:19) - Why men come out of a hookup generally more satisfied than women(00:27:29) - How do you end the push-pull dynamic and create secure sexual attachment?(00:34:19) - Navigating intimate conversations, and don’t be fooled by social narratives(00:43:21) - What creates a sexless relationship, and how to move forward (00:51:13) - Rebooting sex after a sexless relationship: the blocksLaurie Watson, Ph.D., MA, LMFT, LCMHC, Director of Awakenings, certified sex therapist, certified EFT therapist, certified addictions specialist from IICS, has thirty years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope for about their healing and happiness.”Laurie is the host of the popular podcast, FOREPLAY RADIO, ranked in the top 10 on iTunes under Sexuality. Laurie authored her first book Wanting Sex Again—How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage in December 2012. She’s a popular blogger, with over 15 million reads between her WebMD blog and Psychology Today Online. Laurie also lectures physician residents, PAs, and PTs at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. She has been published or quoted in almost every nationally popular media resource including the New York Times, Buzzfeed, HuffPo, WebMD, Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc. A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and Vogue Weddings and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro.Director/owner of Awakenings, Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 11 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro. Connect with Laurie-Website: https://lauriewatson.com/-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieWatson.CouplesTherapy/-Podcast: Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, relationshipsYou asked, I answer! The latest Man's Guide, specifically for folks dating someone with anxious attachment or just general anxiousness. I've had a ton of couples come to be asking how to tackle this, so here are the important things to ask yourself, and six points you can work on right away.(00:00:00) - Intro and one of the most important elements to shifting this dynamic(00:03:38) - What role in the dynamic are you playing? It can be hard to admit!(00:06:48) - Signs your partner has a lot of anxiety, and the general impact on you(00:12:33) - Immense amount of empathy for those with anxiety(00:15:18) - So what do you do? On responsibility and regulation(00:21:11) - Don’t personalize the panic, and create some movement(00:25:01) - Pull them back to the present moment, and one powerful question to ask***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, culture, relationshipsWhat is it men are actually looking for? We know how media tends to define "masculinity", but what is it men are wanting to define? I sat down with MELD founder and fellow coach Owen Marcus to dig into some of this, because we've both found that what men really want and what mainstream narratives say they want are often two different things. Dig in, team.(00:00:00) - Why do you think “masculinity” gets so much attention in our culture?(00:05:44) - When are where do men feel most aligned, and why getting out of your head is important(00:12:07) - Where did mature masculinity go, and the balance of biology and culture (00:19:25) - What happens when men miss moments of maturation(00:27:03) - The value of being able to share what you’re going through with others, and what gets in the way(00:33:27) - What is emotional physiology?(00:39:24) - Tools to get back into the body, and what about men who avoid the work for fear it’ll make things worse?Owen Marcus resisted getting into men's work, and it was only because his pain exceeded his fear that he started his first men’s group in 1995 in his clinic in Scottsdale, AZ.The conventional approach to men’s groups began to feel inadequate for Owen and the deep, transformative work he sought. After completing his straw bale home in the forests of Idaho, he decided to take everything he had developed in his practice and worked to create a new model. By the middle of 2005, he had a thriving men's group group.What began as the Sandpoint Men’s Group (SMG) grew beyond Marcus's wildest expectations. Nineteen years later, it boasts over 400 alumni and more than 50 active members. This journey led to the birth of EVRYMAN and now MELD, each step an evolution of his initial vision.Connect with Owen-Website: https://meld.community/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meld.men/-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/owenmarcus/***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: business, mindsetI've been asked this for a long time now, and finally decided to press the button. I don't work in this industry to show off lambos, cohibas, and designer suits. It's to help other men be what they know they're capable of being. So if you're someone who's teaching, coaching, or making something for men, listen in, because here's what I've learned.(00:00:00) - Intro, why I’m making this, and the problems to solve when working with men (00:10:25) - What I’ve discovered works well. Number: get clear on the problem you’re solving(00:12:33) - Speak to men directly. Not ABOUT men (00:15:08) - Use multiple platforms, but have one in the lead, and pay for training(00:21:04) - Leverage other people’s mastery and credibility by paying for partnership(00:25:55) - Give value every step of the way(00:29:47) - Develop a very deep level of competency(00:33:51) - Build really strong relationships(00:40:16) - Repetition, time, and consistency ***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: purpose, archetypes, trauma, perfectionism, abandonmentThis week, a shadow work session with an anonymous guest. If you've ever wondered what this kind of work is like, now's your chance to check it out. My guest today has already done some great work and has found drive and purpose, but something has kept him from taking action. As we work to find out what's going on, we learn about past events that laid a foundation of resistance.Note: there's some heavy stuff in here. You've been warned. This episode has also been edited for clarity and anonymity.(00:00:00) - Intro, what brought my guest in today, and the Guardian of the Threshold(00:07:09) - What's contributing to the overwhelm, and the guest's mother(00:14:30) - Going deeper and connecting with the somatic experience(00:21:57) - The connection between resistance and two events in the past(00:34:17) - We don't always need the full story in order to heal, and homework***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, the shadowI've been fascinated by the power of a good question for as long as I can remember. These are five simple (but not easy) ones that have radically altered my life for the better. I still use them today when I'm feeling stuck or unsure in my health, business, and relationships. Listen in!(00:00:00) - Intro and the importance of good questions(00:04:00) - Your mind has a LOT of unconscious content, and it’s actually useful(00:06:43) - The benefit of framing questions as “sentence stems”(00:08:45) - “The one thing I don’t like people to know about me is…”(00:10:25) - “The one thing I could take action on that would make a difference is…”(00:12:58) - “Is this something I can influence, or is it out of my control?”(00:16:10) - “What really hard thing can I do that will make my life better?”(00:18:35) - “What am I missing by choosing to worry?”***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, authenticity, mindsetHow do you truly live life for yourself while navigating a relationship? What does it take to navigate what both of you want without creating resentment? How do you break free from what you're "supposed" to be—but remain authentic? These are all questions Lisa Bilyeu has had to answer in order to create an incredible life, and she's answered them powerfully. A privilege to sit down with her and dig into the intensity that can be modern relationships! Definitely going to be a part two!(00:00:00) - Intro and Lisa’s defining moment(00:07:25) - How Lisa held onto her authenticity and broke free from external validation(00:12:49) - Lisa’s take on modern relationships, and the nuances of what women want(00:27:19) - What women really want men to understand(00:37:55) - How Lisa and her husband navigate who leads in the relationshipLisa Bilyeu is cofounder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition and cofounder and President of Impact Theory. She is the host of Women of Impact, a show featuring women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Her mission is to empower all women to become the heroes of their own lives.Connect with Lisa-Book: Radical Confidence: https://bit.ly/49Yx3f1-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/WomenofImpact-Podcast: Women Of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: psychology, shame, mindsetTrying so hard not to reference the bell ringing lady in Game of Thrones right now. Seriously though, a lot of us let shame run our lives. There are legitimate reasons why, but it doesn't have to stay that way. Listen in for how it starts, why it's so hard to clear, and ten (yes, ten!) thing you can do to break free.(00:00:00) - Intro and how to better define shame(00:03:30) - Why shame is so hard to get rid of: it’s natural, and its has a somatic component(00:08:16) - It also can reinforce trauma. Here’s how they get connected(00:13:52) - Shame as a source of safety(00:18:36) - Understanding the physical side of shame(00:23:21) - What does NOT help(00:25:51) - When to seek professional help(00:26:59) - Ten ways to move through shame. First one? Use curiosity to challenge it(00:30:32) - Mindfulness skills, reframing, and separating personhood from behaviour(00:35:00) - Putting the same in context, treating as a belief vs identity, and putting blame where it belongs(00:40:01) - Finding an alternative story, and practicing expressing boundaries and assertiveness***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: masculinity, culture, mindsetWe've had a lot of new listeners recently, and this interview deserves a ton of attention. Jason's words and work are powerful examples of how important men's work can be. This is a re-release of one of my favorite interviews, one of the most impactful stories, and worth every minute. Dig in for thoughts on comprehensive masculinity, the dangers of "grindset", and so much more.(00:00:00) - Intro and Jason’s defining moment(00:07:45) - The video that got Jason global attention(00:13:22) - Defining “emotional incarceration” and its devastating effect on men(00:18:58) - Why do some men have such an aversion to rest and replenishment?(00:24:52) - How Jason got into martial arts, and how he uses it to support young men(00:33:54) - On the importance and teaching of defeatJason Wilson is the founder and CEO of the Yunion (pronounced union), a non-profit youth development organization in Detroit Michigan. Since 2003, the Yunion has effectively reached more than 15,000 youth and young adults through innovative prevention programming, trauma-informed care, parental engagement, and counseling. In 2008, Mr. Wilson’s heart for fatherless and misguided black boys inspired him to create and direct the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy (CATTA).As an expert in Emotional Stability Training®, Wilson’s leadership has garnered the CATTA numerous acknowledgments and awards for his work teaching males how to introspectively confront and conquer their negative emotions with composure. In 2016, one of the CATTA’s videos went viral with over 80 million views worldwide. As a result, Mr. Wilson was invited to be a guest on the Dr. Oz Show and to present the CATTA at President Obama’s ‘My Brother’s Keeper’ Showcase at the White House. Later that year, NBC’s hit TV show ‘This Is Us’ was so inspired by Wilson’s work, that they featured the CATTA’s initiation ceremony in one of their most viewed and award winning episodes. In 2018, Mr. Wilson signed with actor/producer Laurence Fishburne’s film company Cinema Gypsy to produce a documentary film on Jason’s work with the CATTA. It is scheduled to be released in 2021.Mr. Wilson has over 25 years of martial arts experience, in addition to over 16 years of training and developing young black males. Mr. Wilson is a man of the Most High, a faithful husband of over 22 years and a proud father of two beautiful children.Connect with Jason-Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/-Book, "Battle Cry": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400226996-The Yunion: https://theyunion.org/-The Cave of Adullam Transformational Academy: https://mrjasonwilson.com/catta/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson/-Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjasonowilson-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson-Book, "Cry Like A Man": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G1YJ7DZ/***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, relationshipsGot a LOT of requests for this one! Relationships between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment folks are actually quite common. They can also be extremely tough. Listen in for what they're like, why the patterns are hard to break, and how to move towards a secure, grounded partnership.(00:00:00) - Intro, what characterizes the anxious-avoidant dance, and why there’s no “villain”(00:04:08) - Why that dance is so strong(00:08:28) - Examples of the anxious-avoidant dynamic(00:12:58) - Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually work, how to know if it won’t, and how to END the dance(00:16:56) - The “protest and punishment” behaviors, and how to self-identify if you’re the anxious partner(00:21:23) - How to self-identify if you’re the avoidant one(00:27:05) - So what do you to? Tips for the anxious(00:33:05) - Tips for the avoidant(00:38:19) - What to do together***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, culture, sex, security, familyI'm lucky to be interviewing experts in all kinds of fields, but it is consistently enjoyable to dig deep into relationships. What keeps the spark, how couples navigate conflict, and how people can with together to create secure and thriving partnership. Trevor's been at it for a long while, and his gentle yet firm approach is something to be respected. If you're with someone, pull this up and have a listen!(00:00:00) - Intro, and what is the “secret formula” for a successful love life, and what causes good sex in a bad relationship?(00:07:42) - How do you move out of attracting insecure relationships? (00:12:57) - What can a secure person or couple do to combat potential boredom with a relationship? How can security be sexy?(00:18:43) - The importance of spontaneity for relational satisfaction(00:21:54) - How do you support a partner through fears and insecurities around relationships deepening?(00:27:35) - Navigating criticism, because you can’t criticize your way to a better relationship(00:37:44) - Why Trevor chose to have kids(00:42:43) - Why self-compassion is important, and what it really looks like in action(00:54:33) - Trevor’s thoughts on how to figure out who you really are(00:59:49) - On sharing your relationship and family events online, and why Trevor and his wife kiss in the rain(01:05:38) - What Trevor does to maintain spark in his marriageTrevor Hanson is a licensed marital and family therapist specializing in EFT, or emotionally focused therapy. Combining the depth of a therapist with the pratical guidance of a coach, Trevor works to bring empathy, acceptance, fun and gentle accountability to therapy. You can find more of him on his podcast "The Art of Healing."Connect with Trevor-Website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhealingbytrevor/***Henson Shaving brought this episode to you! No more nicks, no more cuts—and best of all, no more subscriptions. Go to https://hensonshaving.com and enter MANTALKS at checkout to get 100 free blades with your purchase. (Note: you must add both the 100-blade pack and the razor for the discount to apply.)Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: leadership, accountability, group settings, masculinityIf you're thinking about starting a men's group, or just want to know what to look out for, this one's for you. With everything going on in the world, I want to dig a little into creating your own men’s group—or what to look out for if you’re thinking of joining one.Because the truth is there are legions of men who would benefit from belonging to something focused on the mutual benefit of everyone involved. Seriously.(00:00:00) - Intro, and five traits to look for in the men you want for your group(00:07:58) - Where most guys go wrong: lack of leadership, clear roles, and overstructure(00:09:42) - The right amount of structure, and consequences of too much victimhood and not enough accountability(00:12:31) - What are some of the core ingredients of a powerful men’s group? Number 1: some like-mindedness(00:13:54) - A clear purpose, and clear rules of engagement(00:17:04) - A culture of calling one another forward, and strong moderation(00:19:48) - Willingness to say (and hear) hard stuff, transparency, and confronting the uncomfortable(00:22:02) - An example meeting structure that works(00:26:42) - The Hot Seat and how to use it, and a closing ritual(00:30:14) - Be flexible to red alerts, and final thoughts on structure***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: culture, parenting, psychology, lyingParenting has never been easy, but our modern culture adds a few extra layers of challenge and questions. Fortunately (and sometimes unfortunately, as you might have found out), there's a mountain of info online. This week, I sat down with the brilliant Dr. Aliza Pressman to dig into what works, what doesn't, what parents are facing these days, and how to sift through it all. Lots of great info here for anyone who's got kids or who's thinking about it. Seriously.(00:00:00) - What kind of landscape are parents in now, and what do you think they’ll face in the future?(00:11:15) - How do parents prep their kids for the onslaught that is social media?(00:14:43) - Defining executive function, and how to build an environment that helps cultivate it(00:25:03) - How do you help your kid develop good impulse control?(00:32:09) - The early stages of development: what’s going on?(00:37:56) - On learning how to manage discomfort, create safety, and the importance of roughhousing(00:53:03) - What does effective discipline look like for children?(01:01:00) - How to handle lyingDr. Aliza Pressman is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and the health care providers who care for them. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book THE 5 PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, and the host of the award-winning podcast Raising Good Humans.Aliza is the co-founding director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center and is an assistant clinical professor at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital. She holds degrees from Dartmouth College, Teacher’s College, and Columbia University. Aliza is the mother of two teenagers.Connect with Aliza-Website: https://draliza.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/-Book: https://amzn.to/3TNDhZ0-Podcast: Raising Good Humans: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans-Substack: https://dralizapressman.substack.com/***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationshipsAlright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearful-avoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps.(00:00:00) - Intro and defining fearful-avoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel(00:08:20) - Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant(00:13:19) - What does fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship? (00:15:38) - What builds a fearful-avoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency(00:23:33) - One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child(00:28:19) - Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearful-avoidant attachment (00:33:37) - More on what this looks like in a relationship: control, distrust, (00:35:57) - Wanting closeness but fearing closeness, difficulty regulating emotions, and negativity(00:38:24) - On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration (00:40:02) - The big one: inability to self-soothe(00:41:40) - So what do we do? Two BIG steps(00:45:24) - On how to self-regulate/self-soothe, and starting with the breath(00:50:20) - Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance(00:53:07) - Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how(00:56:53) - Build trust. Slowly. Over time(00:59:46) - Set boundaries with the fear-based thoughts in your head***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: purpose, initiation, adversity, grief, cultureIt isn't always easy to find a sense of purpose or meaning in life, never mind feeling initiated into maturity. In these chaotic times, it gets even harder. This is a special compilation episode featuring four masters of finding humanity, clarity, and meaning in life. Their combined efforts have helped legions of people get a better handle on life and all of its twists and turns. Two of them are people I revere as elders, and three work with men and purpose on a regular basis. Featuring ideas from...-Lion tracker, coach, and storyteller Boyd Varty: https://boydvarty.com/-Depth psychologist Francis Weller: https://www.francisweller.net/-Culture activist Stephen Jenkinson (unreleased material!): https://orphanwisdom.com/-Writer, teacher, and coach Rainier Wylde: https://www.rainierwylde.com/-Purpose guide Tim Corcoran: https://www.purposemountain.com/(00:00:00) - Boyd Varty on the role initiation plays in a man’s life—and what happens without it(00:16:20) - Francis Weller on why we need to (but can’t seem to) handle the unknown, failure, and grief(00:25:45) - Why the soul needs failure to find meaning, and how Francis runs grief workshops(00:30:35) - Given our current times, what does it mean to be a “generative ancestor”?(00:33:05) - Stephen Jenkinson on what defines and gives meaning to your humanity(00:39:47) - Rainier Wylde on how to find a sense of purpose in chaotic times(00:55:27) - Tim Corcoran on how to practically define purpose, and what’s often in the way(01:05:29) - Where does the “soul” fit into all of this?***Henson Shaving brought this episode to you! No more nicks, no more cuts—and no more subscriptions! Go to https://hensonshaving.com and enter MANTALKS at checkout to get 100 free blades with your purchase. (Note: you must add both the 100-blade pack and the razor for the discount to apply.)Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: psychology, mindset, self-talkThis is one of THE things that blocks men from all kinds of growth and progress. An internal dialogue that is harsh, abusive, shaming, even cruel. Let's change that, shall we?If you or someone you know is constantly deprecating or talking negatively towards themselves, strongly encourage you to share this one. It's important.(00:00:00) - Intro, how prevalent a harsh inner critic is, and how nasty mine was(00:06:56)- Where does an inner critic come from, and how is it formed?(00:11:13) - Neglect and abandonment(00:15:52) - Trauma as an origin for a harsh inner critic(00:16:57) - “Dark motivation” and it’s useful but maladaptive power(00:23:15) - It damages your ability to appreciate or validate yourself (00:24:45) - What to do, what NOT to do, and questions you can use to find your inner critic’s origin(00:28:09) - Figure out what it wants(00:29:51) - Set some boundaries(00:31:34) - Repurpose the loyal soldier(00:34:31) - Build a relationship with this part of you***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: parenting, children, attachment, psychologyYou may have heard me mention Duey before. He co-facilitates the ManTalks Men's Weekends with me, and his work is absolutely incredible. I was thrilled to sit down with him last week, just before our sojourn to Texas. We dive into all things attachment. How children and adults experience it, when it starts forming, and how my own son has taught me some incredible lessons on it. Also, listen in for Thunderbutt. No, I'm not kidding.(00:00:00) - Intro and Duey’s take on why real elders don’t seek power(00:10:08) - How do we begin to truly understand our partner?(00:15:49) - On the importance of curiosity and not assuming you know someone—especially your partner(00:21:28) - What are the building blocks of really healthy attachment?(00:30:52) - Attachment is somatic, and how children are inherently, incredibly sensitive(00:45:27) - What “interrupts” attachment?Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently, in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.A licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetics, and counseling with children and adolescents. Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach.Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women worldwide to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.This episode is also brought to you by Factor. Chef-prepared meals made easy, made healthy, and hey, no mess after! Check out factormeals.com/mantalks50 for 50% off your first box!Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, psychology, the shadowIf you've been following the show for a while, you'll know I'm a big Jung fan. You also don't have dive too deep into his work to find game-changing ideas of his. Here are 3 short yet sublime ideas of Jung's that you can reflect on—and maybe even execute on—pretty much right away.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:46) - “Who looks inside, dreams. Who looks outside, awakens.”(00:06:00) - “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”(00:10:12) - “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: AI, porn, relationships, conflictYowza. So grateful for Matthia's thoughtful and nuanced ideas on everything from artificial intelligence to therapy-speak to anger and approaching relationships. We go from the esoteric to the practical and back again, so listen in team. This is a great one to share with a partner.(00:00:00) - Intro, Matthia’s adventures with AI, and how it's already shifting culture(00:16:42) - When AI does things TOO well(00:20:32 ) - How AI will impact intimate relationships and the porn industry(00:30:37) - What do AI and AI porn mean for the next generation, and how they’ll be impacted(00:35:17) - How technology always has unintended consequences (00:43:05) - Why does everyone seem like a narcissist according to online commentary?(00:50:40) - On villain/powerlessness dynamics, and mature anger, and how trauma therapy is like a software update(00:58:20) - How couples can end cycling or repeat conflicts(01:05:55) - Mathia’s non-negotiables for lasting intimacy and deep relationshipMatthias is a psychotherapist and the CEO and co-founder of the Trauma Institute with Dr. Frank Anderson, providing clinical training for psychotherapists and education for the general public on healing from trauma. He is widely recognized for his unique approach to making mental health knowledge and skills accessible to the wider public. Through platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and his top-ranking Spotify podcast, Matthias delivers psychoeducational content to a following of over 3 million people. Barker's innovative blend of engaging content and relevant mental health advice has fostered a vibrant online community centered on healing, personal growth, and moving toward what’s meaningful despite hardship.Connect with Matthias-Website: https://matthiasjbarker.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthiasjbarker/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCim71w-GtC46Vr48RbowBSw***This episode is brought to you by Miracle Made. These are wildly good sheets, team. Silver-infused threads inspired by NASA, antibacterial, and thermoregulating. Head to TryMiracle.com/ManTalks to save 40% if you order today, PLUS another 20% (and 3 free towels) if you use the code MANTALKS. Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, emotions, habits, burnoutEver get the feeling you...don't feel anything? Yeah, me too. This is something that affects just about everyone at some point in their lives, and it contributes to overuse of all kinds of coping mechanisms. Here's what numbing out is, where it comes from, and a five-step method on how to get out of it.(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconceptions around numbing out(00:05:26)- Don’t see numbness as a villain, and some numbness “caveats”(00:09:29) - What causes us to numb out? How is it a learned response?(00:14:55) - What we need to know before we stop numbing out(00:17:22) - The first step: what are you using to numb out? (00:18:36) - Create a plan, and why you shouldn’t expect cold turkey to go well(00:21:42) - If you have trauma, there’s a caveat (00:23:32) - Numbness is itself an experience(00:25:17) - Use your breath to reconnect to your body. Here’s why(00:31:03) - Look for sensation(00:33:45) - Final step: letting the sensations have a voice***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: stoicism, mindset, philosophy, parentingBrian proves that Stoicism is anything but unenthusiastic. We cover so much ground here, and Brian's passion and joy for what he does is inspiring. If you're looking for clearcut ideas on how to craft a self and a life that you're proud of, this is the episode to listen to—and share with your friends!(00:00:00) - Intro and Brian’s defining moment(00:06:50) - What is areté?(00:09:02) - Why has there been a resurgence of stoicism?(00:14:42) - Brian on how to parent when things are floundering, and how stoicism tackles fear and laziness(00:21:24) - How does Brain raise his own son in an increasingly chaotic world?(00:28:47) - What are some challenges young boys face today that are unequivocally different than before?(00:39:11) - How does someone use Stoic principles to build more discipline with things turning to punishment?(00:45:56) - “So…do I just have to go through the suck then?”(00:51:54) - The science of hope(01:00:27) - What is “targeted thinking”?(01:03:40) - The practicals of antifragile confidence(01:12:05) - How do you develop your own protocols for building your own antifragile confidence?Brian Johnson is the Founder & CEO of Heroic Public Benefit Corporation. He’s 50% Philosopher + 50% CEO and 101% committed to helping create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by the year 2051. As a Founder/CEO he’s raised $25M+, made crowdfunding history, and built and sold two social platforms. As a Philosopher/teacher, he’s helped millions of people from around the world, trained 10,000+ Heroic Coaches from 100+ countries and created a protocol that science says changes lives. He lives in the country outside Austin, Texas, with his wife, Alexandra, and their two kids, Emerson and Eleanor.Connect with Brian-Website: https://www.heroic.us/arete-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heroicbrian/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRhEwzsFYLGcMa4m2AbTAoA-Heroic App, iOS: https://apple.co/4c7uUQk, Android: https://bit.ly/3VcaKi2***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: coaching, therapy, masculinity, mental healthEyebrow-raising title aside, I know from personal experience it can be wildly difficult for coaches and therapists who work with men to make actual progress. But! There are clearcut reasons for this, and there are clearcut things you can do. So if you're a coach or therapist who wants a better experience for both you AND the guy in your chair, listen in. If you're not one of those, then use this as a guide to help you find a coach that's right for you!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:50)- Therapists tend to work with men the same way they’d word with women(00:04:00) - The major reasons coaches/therapists struggle to get results(00:09:42) - So how do you actually get results? And why rapport is so important(00:11:38) - Get him out of his head and into his body(00:16:05) - Develop the skills to truly be with his intensity(00:20:54) - Identify where he feels he lacks competency—and build a plan(00:22:50) - Learn to work with a man’s resistance, and repurpose his inner critic(00:25:04) - Learn how (and when) to confront him on his BS(00:25:58) - Be a friend***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: food, addiction, cravingsI've gotta say, I enjoyed this one a lot. Glenn has a TON of practical, actionable, and science-based advice on tackling cravings—and a nice dose of good humor. Grab a pencil and listen close for this one, team. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:26)- Why are so many North Americans overweight?(00:10:01) - Glenn on the declining quality of food(00:17:24) - Getting away from packaged food is generally more important than a specific diet(00:19:57) - Why is overeating such a thing, how do we approach letting go of that, and “organismic distress”(00:39:24) - More helpful examples of organismic distress(00:43:17) - Where does understanding a craving start?(00:54:53) - How does a craving actually get extinguished, and the “extinction curve” that they takeGlenn Livingston, Ph.D. was the long time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. You may have seen his (or his company's) previous work, theories, and research in major periodicals like The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, The Indiana Star Ledger, The NY Daily News, American Demographics, or any of the other major media outlets you see on this page. You may also have heard him on ABC, WGN, and/or CBS radio, or UPN TV.Disillusioned by what traditional psychology had to offer overweight and/or food obsessed individuals, Dr. Livingston spent several decades researching the nature of bingeing and overeating via work with his own clients AND a self-funded research program with more than 40,000 participants. He earned his Ph.D. is in psychology from Yeshiva University in 1991.Connect with Glenn-Website: https://www.defeatyourcravings.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defeatyourcravings/***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: anxiety, parents, relationships, attachmentThanks to everyone who's written in on these guides, I love hearing from you. Next up? Anxious attachment. What is it, where does it come from, and what you can do to work yourself—and your relationships—away from it. If you've ever found yourself doing stuff like getting anxious because they didn't text you back or because you need their phone password, this might be the ep for you.Curious about other guides? Check out my free PDF, A Man's Guide To Ending Codependency: https://training.mantalks.com/codependency(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:14)- The core essence of anxious attachment(00:07:53) - Some differences between secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment(00:09:57) - Causes of anxious attachment; number one, inconsistent parental responses(00:15:08) - Ask yourself: how was my upbringing unpredictable, or where were my parents unpredictable?(00:17:19) - Cause number two: overly intrusive caretakers(00:23:38) - Cause number three: emotional dependence encouraged by caregivers(00:27:03) - Next is parental unavailability or rejection(00:29:45) - Lastly, abuse, trauma, or PTSD(00:30:45) - So what do we do? (00:34:25) - The biggest, most important piece: learn how to self-regulate. Here’s how(00:41:18) - Solution number two: exposure therapy(00:43:43) - Solution number three: work on your self-esteem and self-worth(00:45:34) - Detach your worth from others’ validation***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: trauma, hynotherapy, ADHD, insomnia, neurology, psychologyTeam, this is an episode chock full of info. I've never touched on the subject of hypnotherapy before, but it's interested me for a while. Professor David Spiegel came to dispel some of the misinfo around hypnosis as a therapeutic practice, and he offered a TON of insight into what's really happening in the mind and brain during a proper session. If you've ever been curious about hypnosis or are looking for new healing methods to try out, this is the episode for you.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:05)- Myths about hypnosis(00:09:14) - The neurology behind hypnosis(00:17:43) - Neurological similarities between hypnosis and psychedelic experiences(00:24:26) - More on what’s really happening in the brain during a hypnosis session(00:28:35) - Can hypnosis help with ADHD, and how men tend to have difficult accessing a somatic experience(00:35:52) - How can hypnotherapy help with trauma?(00:42:59) - Hypnotherapy and healing the somatic intensity of trauma responses(00:45:33) - David’s new therapeutic app(00:52:12) - “It doesn’t have to be either/or, it can be both/and”(00:56:10) - Insomnia, what’s involved in falling asleep, and how hypnotherapy may helpDr. David Spiegel is Willson Professor and Associate Chair of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Director of the Center on Stress and Health, and Medical Director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, where he's been a member of the academic faculty since 1975, and was Chair of the Stanford University Faculty Senate from 2010-2011. David has more than 40 years of clinical and research experience studying psycho-oncology, stress and health, pain control, psychoneuroendocrinology, sleep, hypnosis, and conducting randomized clinical trials involving psychotherapy for cancer patients. He's published 13 books, 404 scientific journal articles, and 170 book chapters on hypnosis, psychosocial oncology, stress physiology, trauma, and psychotherapy. His research has been supported by the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Cancer Institute, the National Institute on Aging, the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation, the Fetzer Institute, the Dana Foundation for Brain Sciences, and the Nathan S. Cummings Foundation.Connect with David:-David's app, Reveri: https://www.reveri.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reveri/***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.This episode is also brought to you by Factor. Chef-prepared meals made easy, made healthy, and hey, no mess after! Check out factormeals.com/mantalks50 for 50% off your first box!Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, conflictKey word there? Improve. There will always be some form of butting heads, no matter the relationship, no matter how long. But it doesn't have to be something that creates wreckage. It can actually be helpful. Here's what to do.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:27)- The first three minutes, and why conflict CAN be productive(00:04:57) - Know the role you tend to play(00:05:47) - Breathe and ground, breathe and ground(00:07:20) - Don’t get stuck in the objective reality and ignore the subjective experience of each other(00:11:33) - After a year, most couples already pretty set-in ways of arguing, aka this is gonna take practice(00:12:42) - Study (and I mean study) the first three minutes of conflict***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: biology, nervous system, burnout, mindset, angerI've said a number of times on the show that people with regulated nervous systems are going to be extremely well-equipped for the coming days. To that end, I wanted to bring dysregulation expert Dr. Linnea on to show how important—and how possible—it is be grounded, regulated, and flexible in our responses to life. If you're chronically stressed, THIS is the episode to listen to.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:56)- Why is learning about nervous system dysregulation so important?(00:11:09) - What the ultimate core function of the nervous system really is(00:21:08) - The intelligence of anger(00:25:30) - How Dr. Linnea helps people identify and move through their anger(00:33:32) - How much are nervous system issues derived from our parents?(00:37:20) - On children, boundary testing, and how a little bit of adversity is actually beneficial(00:43:35) - What’s more important: developing sensitivity to your current nervous system or understanding(00:53:01) - The Alertness Elevator model(00:59:23) - A five-stage plan to reverse nervous system dysregulation(01:08:30) - The restoration, connection, and expansion stagesDr. Linnea Passaler is a multifaceted health professional whose life and career have been driven by a passion for learning and her desire to assist others. With a degree in oral medicine from the renowned Universitá degli Studi in Milan, she interned at HSR Research- Ospedale San Raffaele – an advanced molecular biology facility located there. This experience kindled her interest and enthusiasm for research and immunology specifically. Through her journey and research, Dr. Linnea was able to recognize the effects of nervous system dysregulation on the sensitive person and how it contributes to conditions like anxiety, burnout, and physical and emotional symptoms. This realization drove her to found ‘Heal Your Nervous System,’ a platform that offers tools and resources to help individuals worldwide understand the root cause of anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, and physical and emotional symptomsConnect with Dr. Linnea-Website: https://healyournervoussystem.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healyournervoussystem-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healyournervoussystem-Book: Heal Your Nervous System: https://amzn.to/3SN3HcC***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychologyThe last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant(00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way(00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody(00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability(00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence (00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment(00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability(00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship(00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner(00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationshipsWe all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child's future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, "Troubled", explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you're interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob's book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why(00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?(00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?(00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging(00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?(00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children(00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment(01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment styleRob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He's perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of "luxury beliefs," a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.Connect with Rob-Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/-Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson-Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, sabotageIt's not easy, I know. We all do it, and we all wonder why. But there's a way forward—and it's simpler than you think, my friends. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:12)- What people do immediately after sabotaging, why it’s NOT effective, and what to do instead(00:06:12) - Practical steps to move beyond self-sabotage(00:10:49) - If there’s one thing to take away from this***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: zen, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, mindsetI'm one of those people who hated sitting down and meditating, even after a few years of trying to practice. It's now something I do nearly every day, and it grounds me in ways I can't explain. This is a pretty common story, especially among men I've worked with, so I brought Henry Shukman back on the show to dig into what novice meditators get wrong, what some good starter methods are, and really: what IS thought, anyway?Listen in for a great look at the start and "end" goal of mindfulness, and Henry's infectious enthusiasm for this powerful practice.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:47)- Do men and women have different struggles with meditation?(00:08:35) - Why do meditation and mindfulness draw more women than men?(00:18:45) - What are the initial resistance points when people start a meditation practice?(00:25:03) - What IS thinking?(00:31:57) - But what’s the actual goal of mindfulness, and how do you get there? (00:38:56) - The power of allowing, and what it actually means(00:49:29) - What is “original nature”?(00:56:16) - Do psychedelics offer the same glimpse into reality as meditation does?(01:04:24) - Henry’s upcoming appHenry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by several Zen teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.He currently guides a wide range of students from all walks of life. He received dharma transmission (inka shomei) from Yamada Ryoun Roshi, the abbot of Sanbo Zen, and is a Zen Master of the Sanbo Zen lineage of Kamakura, Japan.Connect with Henry-Upcoming app: The Way: https://www.thewayapp.com/-Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/-Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/-Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: politics, cultureRecent data seems to show young men skewing more and more conservative and women more progressive. Why? Well, to my eyes, there's one major factor and a few others that are generating this shift. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:21) - What factors into this?(00:04:42) - What happens for men in some progressive circles(00:06:40) - And what happens for men in conservative circles(00:09:26) - Other reasons impacting this shift(00:13:38) - We’ve attached gender roles to political ideologies***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, mindfulness, marriage, logic, social mediaMaybe you’ve heard me say this before, but the modern dating scene seems, well, insane. Case Kenny sat down for a great, insightful convo on why that's a thing, from the expectations social media feeds us, to the meaning of marriage to how AI is going to mess with all of it—or not.Listen in and share this ep if you want honest thoughts and some straightforward tips on navigating modern relationships!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:04:34)- Why are women worried about being “too much”?(00:13:43) - What are guys actually trying to communicate to women who feel they’re “too much”?(00:17:01) - On relational conflict, solving it, and how social media doesn’t do you any favours(00:22:10) - On social media, intimacy, independence, and “settling down”(00:33:10) - Case’s take on declining marriage rates(00:39:01) - Case’s great definition of mindfulness, and mindfulness in the context of relationships(00:49:58) - How can men use mindfulness to improve their relationships?(00:56:50) - Case’s hard-hitting questions to journal on(01:05:33) - Will AI impact the mindfulness space?Case Kenny is a Chicago, IL based mindfulness author and podcast host of the top 25 US podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?" No gurus, no fluff, and no preaching of generic life advice. Just his thoughts on self-help, wellness, and mindsets with practical and personal insights on how to live a passionate, purposeful, and happy life.Connect with Case-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaseKenny-Book: That's Bold Of You: https://bit.ly/42hZeDk-Podcast: New Mindset, Who Dis?: https://bit.ly/3Ue7GkT***Want a more intense, in-person experience? Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationship, mindset, psychologyThis is a big one, dear listener. This is a slightly new format for the series; specific topics I'll do a deeper dive on, centering on how you as a man can better understand them, better work through them, and better help others through as well. First up? Codependency. If you've got a specific topic you'd like me to cover, hit me up on Instagram @mantalks!(00:00:00) - Intro(00:04:11) - What is codependency?(00:08:30) - One the hallmark indicators you’re in a codependent relationship(00:10:43) - Major causes of codependency: the peacekeeper, abuse, emotional unavailability, and the caretaker(00:30:24) - The tale of Johnny Niceguy(00:35:54) - The signs of a codependent relationship (00:38:59) - Seven questions to ask yourself(00:40:47) - Ways to actually move OUT of codependency, plus one that guys generally don’t like(00:49:48) - Perfection is a fuel for codependency***Want a more intense, in-person experience? Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, environment, fitnessIs there a testosterone crisis? From the headlines I've read it sure seems like it. But what's going on, where is it coming from, and what can you do naturally to stay healthy? I sat down with Lucas Aoun to cover all of these things and more. Dig into this episode for a brilliant intro to optimizing hormone levels—particularly testosterone—and knowledge on how to avoid hormone disruptors.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:10) - What’s happening to men’s hormone levels, the symptoms, and what testosterone is responsible for(00:09:41) - On cortisol, testosterone, and key building blocks(00:16:26) - Outside of stress, what are some things negatively impacting test levels?(00:22:07) - What about cardio or fasting?(00:31:33) - Naturally optimizing testosterone with diet and sleep(00:40:47) - Lucas’ take on TRT and the consequences(00:45:06) - On tongkat ali, fadogia, shilajit, and other supplements(00:56:44) - Lucas’ thoughts on creatineConnect with Lucas-Website: https://www.boostyourbiology.com/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoostYourBiology-The Limitless Course: https://thelimitlesscourse.com/***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: collaboration, friendship, masculinityMen, few things are more powerful, fulfilling, and expansive than this, so guard it with your life. It took me way too long to learn and understand, and many people diminish or degrade its importance. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:53) - Men are isolated and less collaborative than ever before, and we miss out on important things(00:05:06) - Without male collaboration, our society would cease to exist(00:06:40) - What I’ve learned over the last decade about male friendships—and male isolation(00:10:02) - Maybe you yourself are one of those men who could use more friendships(00:11:34) - We’ve got to protect this(00:13:16) - Things you can do to foster male collaborationPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexualityThe field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits (00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity? (00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same?(00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression(00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability(00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating(00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means(01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children's mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).Connect with David-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=bVcpj60AAAAJ-Quillette: https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/-Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-femalePick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: mindset, relationshipsThe biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling saferPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, lonelinessEvery January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships (00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxietyPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: relationships, culture Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and stats(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men's health Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We're kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info. This is a solid ep to check out if you're wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home. (00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone (00:28:35) - On sperm and why you should store some while you’re younger(00:33:37) - On glyphosate and atrazine(00:39:58) - What some things men can do to support healthy testosterone and sperm production? (00:46:12) - What should the T levels and sperm count actually be for a middle-aged man?(00:52:45) - Layne’s take on drugs like Ozempic Layne Kilpatrick began compounding hormone preparations as a pharmacy intern at the Apothecary Shoppe in downtown Salt Lake City in 1986 when the process of micronization was first developed, paving the way for more widespread hormone supplementation. He has developed several original formulations made exclusively at MOC. He has treated thousands of patients for hormone-related issues. He acts as a consultant to medical practitioners and other pharmacists both in and outside of Utah, advising on the interpretation of hormone labs, clinical signs, and symptoms, and effective prescribing practices for ‘native’ hormone therapy, as he prefers to call it. Layne is a native Utahn of pioneer heritage and has lived in Draper since 2003. He and his wife, Angie, have 5 children. Connect with Layne: -Website: https://hormonespecialist.net/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hormonespecialist -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hormonespecialist Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year! (00:00:00) - Intro(00:00:40) - Stop lying(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring. (00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?(00:50:28) - What do when resentment creeps into a relationship, and why it’s so important to listen to the wisdom of the body(00:56:53) - Nicole’s take on how to regulate your nervous system(01:03:46) - What is a trauma bond, and how do you know you’re in one? Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become. Connect with Dr. Nicole: -Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/ -Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist -Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH -New book: How To Be The Love You Seek: https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com/ -TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you. (00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info? Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices