Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

This week’s episode is based on a listener's request about how to recover from the betrayal of infidelity. Michelle Mays joins me to discuss cheating, the betrayal bind, and solutions for healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, and she is the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia outside of DC. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Cheating and what makes sexual betrayal so devastating and problematic? (3:37) The betrayal bind is what happens when we experience betrayal at the hands of our most significant other. (8:08) Every betrayed partner goes through three specific injuries. (16:08) The role of gaslighting when a partner is cheating (19:54) Michelle answers, “Can you actually heal from betrayal and cheating?” (28:08) “Your relationship may not be salvageable, but you can absolutely heal from betrayal and move into the rest of your life and thrive and flourish afterward.” AND “If you are trying to heal your relationship, that is possible. The deciding factor is whether you are both in it 100%.” (29:50) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Michelle’s website Michelle on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/576 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, a former client turned podcast guest, Rebecca, bravely opens up about her journey through infertility. Rebecca shares the highs, lows, and everything in between, providing a genuine and vulnerable perspective on her challenges. This episode goes beyond the struggles of infertility, delving into the experience of coming out on the other side without the expected prize. Rebecca sheds light on the often-overlooked aspect of finding joy in a childless existence, walking through grief, and looking for support. Whether you've personally faced infertility, know someone who has, or are just curious about the realities of the journey, this conversation provides a compassionate glimpse into a story that resonates with many. Rebecca's openness and courage in sharing her narrative offer solace and understanding to listeners who may find comfort and connection in her words. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Rebecca opens up and shares her fertility story (4:28) Reconciling the grief that comes with infertility (23:53) Some of the unhelpful things people do or say (30:48) How Rebecca moved forward after the heartache (37:53) Focusing on the joy of a childless existence (39:45) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Psychology Today World Childless Week website Gateway // Jody Day Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode Link: http://andreaowen.com/575 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A few weeks ago, a long-time client of mine was wrapping up one of her sessions. I typically ask my clients at the end of a session, just like I ask my podcast guests “Anything you need to say or ask before we wrap up to make sure you feel complete?” It invites them to say anything at all, but when it comes to clients, many times they say outloud the thing that they’ve been afraid to say. “Got any advice on how to leave a long-term relationship?” She asked me. “Oh, yes. I do.” I replied. Listen in to this minisode where I talk about what I told her, which includes advice on listening to your gut instead of your trauma, the “messy middle”, and how you may always have feelings for your former partner. Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/574 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're revisiting a topic that affects many — Impostor Syndrome. Who better to guide us through this complex pattern of self-doubt than renowned expert Dr. Valerie Young? It's been a decade since we last explored Impostor Syndrome on the podcast! Dr. Young, co-founder of the Impostor Syndrome Institute, joins us to shed light on the latest insights and information surrounding Imposter Syndrome. In this conversation, Dr. Young takes a moment to articulate what Impostor Syndrome is and how it subtly infiltrates various aspects of our lives. She leaves us with a powerful mantra: "The only way to stop feeling like an impostor is to stop thinking like an impostor." In this episode, you’ll hear about: Dr. Young takes a few moments to describe imposter syndrome and how it shows up in our lives (4:43) Imposter Syndrome coping and protecting mechanisms such as overwork and overprepare or procrastination (9:06) What research shows about the competence of women in the workplace (15:44) Rethinking risk-taking and cultivating “chutzpah” (16:20) Dr. Young answers, “Some people say impostor syndrome is a good thing -- do you agree?” (22:13) Impostor syndrome demands immediate, usable solutions; the goal is not to “fix” anyone. (26:31) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Dr. Valerie Young on Imposter Syndrome Imposter Syndrome Coping Mechanisms Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/573 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy holidays! This week, we are talking about relationships on the show. Whether you are single or in a relationship, my guest and I cover many topics applicable to all listeners. I’m thrilled to welcome back a familiar face, the dynamic Kate Anthony. If you've been following the show, you know Kate as a multi-time guest, bringing her wisdom to various discussions about shit that matters with unqualified people, which is a series I do here on the show. But this time around, Kate is donning the hat of a qualified expert ready to tackle topics ranging from the role of porn in relationships to the challenges posed by addiction, mental illness, and emotional abuse. Kate also shares how to tell a partner you want a divorce in a clear, kind, and absolute way. As the author of the new book "The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage," Kate brings a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. She is also the acclaimed host of "The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast," a New York Times recommended show. Beyond podcasting, Kate is the visionary behind the groundbreaking online group coaching program, "Should I Stay or Should I Go." This program empowers women to navigate life's most challenging decisions through coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and profound self-work. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The first thing women need to look at when trying to decide to end a relationship (6:55) Kate provides insights into the prevalence of narcissism in contemporary society, addressing the question: "Do you believe there are as many narcissists as people seem to think these days?" (11:47) Emotional abuse and what it looks like in a relationship, including the two crucial facets of emotional abuse (17:02) Shedding light on sexual abuse in marriage (35:42) Insights on effectively initiating and navigating the divorce conversation with a spouse, ensuring that it resonates and has a lasting impact. (43:52) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Kate’s website Kate’s book Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/572 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you hoping to start a new habit or even quit drinking in the coming year? This episode explores the transformative power of habits and the sober-curious lifestyle, featuring Casey McGuire Davidson, a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. Casey, with her background in helping high-achieving women break free from alcohol's hold, shares insights applicable to any habit or behavior change. We discuss resolutions to positively impact health and explore best practices for sustaining motivation when that initial drive fades. Dry January takes center stage in our conversation, with Casey emphasizing that the act of abstaining from alcohol goes beyond a temporary trend – it's a gateway to understanding the difference one can feel. Listen to hear ideas that can be a catalyst for positive change in various aspects of your life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Some resolutions that can improve your health (4:39) Best practices that can keep people going after the initial motivation fades (9:05) Dry January - it’s not just about quitting drinking. (15:07) Casey answers, “Why is quitting drinking a change more and more people are interested in making?” (21:54) “Once you stop drinking for a period of time, you can’t unknow the difference you feel.” (30:58) Casey McGuire Davidson is a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcast, The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. As an ex-red wine girl who spent 20 years climbing the corporate ladder while holding on tightly to her love of wine, Casey’s passionate about helping busy women stop drinking and create lives they love without alcohol. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News and over 70 sobriety, motherhood, mental health and wellness podcasts and publications. Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Daring Way™ Coaching with Andrea Casey’s website Casey on Instagram Atomic Habits, James Clear Dopamine Nation, Dr. Anna Lembke Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/571 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before we get into it, I have ONE coaching spot open for the new year! Is it you? You can read more about it HERE. Have you ever seen or heard the quote, “How you do one thing is how you do everything”? Well, I’m here to tell you that, no, it’s not. In this minisode, I’m riffing on the notion that when someone is faced with a conflict, that it’s then you find out who they “really are”, their “true colors”, or their “true character”. It’s easy to jump to deciding that someone is terrible based on how someone acts and treats you during conflict. When we see someone acting out of character, we want a reason for it. It’s unusual, and we want to make sense of it. And maybe you’ve been that person! When I was going through a terrible divorce in 2006, I was not my best self. At times I was vindictive, mean, and I lashed out. Does that make me a mean, vindictive person? No, it makes me a normally kind human being who’d just been traumatized, didn’t have the coping skills to deal with what she was going through, was in a tremendous amount of pain and fear and often was acting from that place. That will happen to all of us. I also get into the topic of compassion, both for yourself when you’re in this place, and for other people. This is NOT to say you can let people treat you badly, but you can see where they’re coming from and set boundaries. Resources from this episode: Coaching with Andrea Re-parenting and inner-child work with Cybele Botran Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/570 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm thrilled to have you join us today as we dive into the fascinating world of Family Constellation Therapy. I've got an incredible expert with me, the insightful Liza Miron. With Family Constellations and Ancestral Healing, Liza helps you heal the hidden or limiting issues from your Family System that keep you blocked and repeating negative patterns so you can live your life with love, joy, abundance, health, and success. Liza sheds light on the profound healing potential of Family Constellations, a therapeutic approach that might not involve stars but unveils a galaxy of insights into our lives. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation that might be the key to unlocking your path to healing and happiness. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Family Constellations: Liza explains what family constellations are. They have nothing to do with the stars; they are a healing method. (3:42) How Family System entanglements impact our relationships (7:36) How to heal entanglements and the trauma we unconsciously carry from the Family System (22:10) Liza answers, “Can someone do this mode of healing if they are adopted and don’t know anybody from their biological family?” (30:03) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Buy a Signed Copy of Andrea’s book! Liza’s website Episode 81: Family constellation therapy with Natalie Berthold Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/569 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cait Donovon returns to the podcast this week! Previously, she joined me for a conversation about burnout recovery and boundaries. In this episode we talk a little bit more about burnout, but mostly about what it means to achieve work-life balance. For those of you new to Cait, she is the host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado. Cait helps us explore the evolving landscape of work-life balance, unraveling cultural shifts and emphasizing the importance of creating boundaries in a world where the lines between work and personal life have blurred. Whether you've experienced burnout or are seeking clarity on work-life equilibrium, this episode provides a roadmap to navigate burnout culture and reclaim a more harmonious life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Burnout culture: what it is and how it shows up. (5:14) Work-life balance: the cultural shift from the natural segmentation we had between life and work and how we must now make an effort to create boundaries between work and life. (14:40) “We're trying to get more life, but we don't have the energy to do it. We think we don't have the time to do it, but that's probably not true because most of us spend an hour a day on Instagram.” (19:15) Cait answers, “What does it mean to find work-life balance?” (29:01) Burnout recovery can be a long process for some, and Cait explains why. (35:56) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Cait’s website Episode 528:Burnout Recovery, Boundaries, and Better Communication with Cait Donovan Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/568 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I don’t watch a lot of reality TV, but I’m hooked on Selling Sunset and Selling the OC on Netflix. Of course I get drawn into the drama (and the real estate and clothes too!) but I’m very interested in how they handle conflict. Lots of throwing daggers back and forth, jockeying for who has it harder/been through worse heartache, and shaming each other. Rarely, if ever, does someone apologize. I know these shows are edited, and I think the producers might choose parts of conversations to make people out to be “characters” of themselves without showing the ore normal and even kinder sides of them. But I don’t think their behavior is that far off from reality. In this minisode I talk about some specific scenes, as well as what it might look like to circle back and clean up a “mess” that was made. If you’re ever in a similar situation– because let’s face it, we all make mistakes and behave poorly sometimes– this minisode will help. Or, if you want to hear me riff on these reality shows, tune in! Resources from this podcast: Take my quick, 2-question survey Apply to be coached on the show Any links you might need P.S. I’ve included the transcripts, click here to read them… Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/567/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I have for you a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people. Yes, this special series is back! This episode features writer, actor, and podcast host of Spiritual Asshole, Brendan Fitzgibbons. Our conversation covers a range of personal experiences, humorous anecdotes, and reflections on the complexities of self-help and therapy. We also share some of our most awkward and unforgettable dating stories. If you are new to this series, these episodes are less of an interview with a guest about their expertise and more about personal experiences about a given topic. However, as you’ll hear in this episode, Brendan pushes back on the notion that he is unqualified and makes a strong case debunking the title. As it were, the episode is full of funny, endearing, and insightful back-and-forth about self-help and dating. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Brendan offers his unique perspective on the unexpected turns in the journey of personal growth. (7:17) Brendan answers the question, “Is it true that comedians tend to be the most fucked up people?” (22:31) We share the weirdest first dates we’ve been on - including Brendan’s experience on a reality TV dating show! (26:00) Tips for finding good coaches and healers that fit your needs and vibe (44:54) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Andrea on Brendan’s podcast, Spiritual Asshole Brendan’s website Brendan on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/566/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jeannine Yoder is back on the show! Previously, she joined me for a conversation on healing parental wounds. This time, she joins me to explore themes of reinvention, the power of boredom, and self-mothering. For those new to Jeannine, she is a New York Times Featured Feminine Leadership & Business Coach, Healer, Mom, Broadway Artist, and Founder/CEO of Mentor Masterclass, an all-in-life coach training school for women. In this conversation, Jeannine candidly shares her transformative journey of "burning it all down" and the catalyst to her self-transformation. We also explore the intricacies of marriage, sex, and pleasure and the significance of bodywork. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Jeannine opens about how and why she “burned it all down” last year. She describes the catalyst and shares about what she is doing now. (3:33) Writing a memoir isn’t just about putting your life in story, it’s about finding the common thread (11:37) Navigating grief and how Jeannine’s relationship has changed with her mother, since her mother’s passing (42:07) Jeannine answers, “What does it mean to self-mother?” (47:29) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Episode 229: Healing From Parental Wounds, Making Peace and Moving Forward with Jeannine Yoder Jeannine’s website Jeannine on Instagram Signs, Laura Lynne Jackson The Light Between Us, Laura Lynne Jackson Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/565 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes I record minisodes that I need to hear for my own personal or professional life, and this is definitely one of them! I know a lot of you who listen to the podcast probably consume a decent amount of personal growth podcasts, books, etc. and that’s a great thing! However, the thing to watch out for is perfectionism and/or high achievement in personal growth because that can be detrimental. Some questions to ask yourself to see if this might be you: Are you consuming so much self help that you forget that it’s okay to be human? That life hurts and is hard sometimes? Do you compare where you are to others, and feel bad that you’re not where you think you’re supposed to be? Do you forget sometimes that it’s completely normal to feel like shit at times, to go through incredibly challenging seasons and not have ways to get out of it? Please remember that we don’t always have to be in a state of perpetual forward movement. Sometimes we move back, and sometimes we are still. It’s never linear. In addition, there will be times in your life where you have some or even a lot of negative self-talk. I close this minisode out with reading an excerpt from Make Some Noise about his topic, as well as a little pep talk at the end. Resources from this episode: Make Some Noise by Andrea Owen Getting Damn Good at Life by Andrea Owen (inner-critic audio program) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/564 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we are diving into the transformative world of RADICAL JOY with Erica Lasan, a multi-passionate entrepreneur, dedicated wife, and mother. Erica shares her personal JOYrney, unveiling pivotal moments that led her to understand the significance of navigating such a path in life, motherhood, and business. Erica shares her empowering three-step framework, the JOYrney™ Process, guiding individuals to Rediscover, Reconnect, and Recommit to Purpose and JOY in every facet of their lives. We also explore the distinction between the pursuit of happiness and the cultivation of enduring JOY. Finally, as the holiday season approaches, Erica imparts invaluable tips for managing stress, ensuring a season filled with fleeting happiness and enduring JOY. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Erica talks about what brought her to an understanding of a JOYrney and the need to have one in life, motherhood, and business. (3:29) Purpose does not need to be defined - “You don’t have to find what hasn’t been lost.” (13:44) How to find JOY and where to start: Erica’s three-step framework to help you Rediscover, Reconnect, and Recommit to Purpose and JOY in your life (23:49) The difference between happiness and JOY (28:02) Tips for managing stress during the holiday season (38:47) Resources from this episode: Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok TONIGHT, November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Erica Lasan’s website The JOYGem Quiz Cassandra Speaks, Elizabeth Lesser Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/563 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I am joined by Dr. Raquel Martin, a seasoned clinical psychologist. She helps examine the implications of oppression on mental health and sheds light on the myriad ways it manifests in our lives - for both adults and children. Dr. Martin is an experienced licensed clinical psychologist, devoted professor, acclaimed researcher, and scientist who believes deeply in the power of Black mental wealth. In this episode, Dr. Martin introduces the intriguing concept of "no capes" and redefines our understanding of societal expectations. She also offers insight on the crucial subject of "culturally incompetent care," providing invaluable insights for professionals in the field. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The deep-seated links between oppression and mental health (6:52) Navigating the verbal minefield: the role of words in mental health conversations (28:12) The #burnthecape movement: redefining self-care with "no capes." (36:14) Empowering professionals for culturally sensitive support: understanding "culturally incompetent care." (46:15) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Dr. Raquel Martin’s website Dr. Martin on TikTok and Instagram Dr. Martin’s TEDxTalk Dr. Martin on YouTube Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok on November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Submit your questions for this fun AMA-type TikTok live - email support (at) andreaowen.com with your questions. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/562 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s topic is one that’s near and dear to my heart and probably yours– emotions. As someone who’s had quite a journey in this arena, I’m always looking for ways to better understand them, as well as allow emotions to run their course naturally. I’m talking more specifically about “off loading” emotions, a subject I learned more about in my Daring Way™ training. It comes specifically from Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong, and in this episode, I’m breaking down all of the ways we avoid dealing with our emotions. At the end of the episode, I’ll also go over some ways to process emotions as well. Happy emoting! Resources from this episode: Follow Andrea on TikTok Rising Strong book The Body Keeps the Score When the Body Says No Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/561/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we are exploring the distinction between joy and happiness and why joy is a critical practice, especially in the face of suffering. Tanmeet Sethi is my special guest, who is the author of “Joy is My Justice.” She is also a board-certified Integrative Family Medicine physician and Clinical Associate Professor at the University of Washington School of Medicine. The podcast explores the intriguing concepts from Tanmeet’s book, delves into joy as a path towards healing and even contributes to healing our ancestral wounds. Tanmeet spent the past 25 years working on the frontlines of the most marginalized communities, as well as globally with victims of school shootings, survivors of hurricanes, citizens impacted by police violence, and psychologists in Ukraine under attack. Tune in to this enriching discussion as we navigate the intersection of joy, healing, and social justice with guidance from Tanmeet. In this episode, you’ll hear: The difference between joy and happiness (5:29) Why joy is a critical practice when someone is suffering and why it’s critical for marginalized communities as a path to healing from oppression (11:11) The tools in “Joy is My Justice” activate the vagus nerve of the nervous system and help cultivate Joy (21:57) Healing our trauma and finding our Joy affects our genes and heals our ancestry (26:36) Psychedelics as a way to harness inner wisdom and inner healing; it is a potent way to catalyze joy (30:35) Tanmeet answers the question, “What is “embodied micro-resistance?” (40:11) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Tanmeet’s website Tanmeet’s book Tanmeet’s TEDxTalk Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok on November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Submit your questions for this fun AMA-type TikTok live - email support (at) andreaowen.com with your questions. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/560 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode contains conversations about severe mental health and suicide. If you are sensitive to these topics, please take care. I'm joined by the compassionate and highly experienced Dr. Nicole Washington, a mental health advocate who aims to reduce the stigma surrounding psychiatric illness. In this episode, we discuss how to recognize the need for mental health help, explore some thoughts and ideas around solutions for mental health struggles, and address some of the stigmas around mental wellness. Dr. Nicole Washington has dedicated her career to caring for underserved communities, individuals with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals who don't typically seek mental health services. She tirelessly educates the public on mental health topics through her private practice, podcast, speaking engagements, and written work. Tune in to gain valuable insights into the complexities of mental health and the power of seeking help when needed. In this episode, you’ll hear: Dr. Nicole works with people who are not typically consumers of mental health services, namely underserved communities, those with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals. She shares about why she ended up in that demographic. (3:09) What “mental breakdown” or “nervous breakdown” means - it means different things to different people. (8:37) Debunking myths associated with suicide (11:41) How to know when it is time to make an appointment with a psychiatrist or get inpatient treatment (16:52) Dr. Nicole answers the question, “Do you see a pattern in what could be the solution to mental health struggles?” (22:40) What someone can do if they’ve experienced having their vulnerabilities or mental health used against them (30:54) Companies and other kinds of workplaces are waking up to the importance of mental health. Dr. Nicole shares what people can do to make positive changes in their workplace, like instituting mental health days, etc. (34:26) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Dr. Washington’s podcast episode on suicide Dr. Washington’s website National Alliance for Mental Illness http://andreaowen.com/559 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s minisode comes from our listener survey from earlier this year. The listener wanted me to riff on the damage lying to yourself causes. Oof, am I right? You’ll hear a theme in this episode about self-compassion. When we’re trying to move away from lying to ourselves, we need to always try and come from a place of self-kindness and compassion. In this minisode I’ll pose a very important question for you to answer, as well as suggest an exercise that you can do at home to dig deeper around this particular behavior. Get out a piece of paper, your journal, or your notes app and get to work! I also talk about self-abandonment and how it relates to this. 👀 This was such a juicy topic, thank you so much to the listener who wrote in and recommended it! http://andreaowen.com/podcast/558 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, I am joined by the wonderful Cybele Botran for a truly enlightening conversation that delves into reparenting and inner child work. Cybele is a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic Recovery Coach, dedicated to empowering sober or sober-curious women. Cybele’s mission is to guide women in shedding the heavy burdens of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and instead, foster the growth of resilient boundaries while rediscovering the pure essence of their inner child. This episode is a captivating exploration of inner healing, reparenting, and the rekindling of your inner child. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, grow, and rediscover. You’ll hear: Inner Child Energy vs. Inner Teen Energy and the distinctions between the energy of your inner child and the more adolescent inner teen (8:50) Cybele introduces us to the concept of reparenting. This journey is about becoming your very own nurturing parent, guiding yourself with compassion and understanding. (11:43) R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T - an acronym for healing: Cybele walks us through each letter of her powerful acronym, R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T. This acronym is a roadmap, designed to help women establish a profound connection with their most tender selves. (14:31) We discuss the intricate process of grief-work. This is a vital aspect of healing and reuniting with your inner child (30:54) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Cybele’s website https://andreaowen.com/podcast/557/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of my favorite people, Britt Frank, returns to the podcast this week! We are exploring a topic suggested by a listener - obsessive love and love addiction. When I received this suggestion, I knew Britt was the perfect person to help me address things like what is obsessive love versus healthy love. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She works to empower people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. In this episode you’ll hear: Britt starts out by defining “love addiction” and then explains the difference between love addiction and someone who has an anxious attachment style (5:03) What is actually happening when someone feels like they have obsessive love (14:47) We explore a list by SLAA about twelve characteristics of love and sex addiction (17:01) “Awareness without shame creates change.” (23:02) How to heal from love addiction: the first step is detox and withdrawal (26:46) “The solution to love addiction is self-parenting.” (37:22) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Britt’s website Britt’s book Episode 356: What is love addiction? with Dr. Alexandra Katehakis Episode 358: Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt Frank Episode 397: Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Healing with Britt Frank Episode 436: How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt Frank Episode 456: Relationship series: Healing from Traumatic Romantic Relationships with Britt Frank Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction by S.L.A.A. Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations https://andreaowen.com/podcast/556/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently a colleague I was catching up with asked me if I still love 1:1 coaching as much as I used to and I immediately said YES, and launched into an excited monologue of why I love it so much. There was such enthusiasm in my “speech”, that I turned on the mic and camera, and made both a podcast episode and video for you. This is especially for anyone who’s been interested in working with me. You have the option to check this on video, so if you’ve ever wondered what I look like when I record a podcast episode, check it out (hint: it’s not glamorous!) You’ll hear me talk about in this minisode/video: The thing that happens when I know I’m not a good fit for someone. And I used to be this person! What’s absolutely REQUIRED in order to see changes when you hire me as your coach. What one of my most recent clients said about the ending of our coaching together. What “the work” actually entails in terms of you, the client. Some of the many things you get from working with me so we don’t need to work together forever. When you think about hiring a coach like me, what needs to happen first within you. Resources: Read more about coaching with me Quick application page https://andreaowen.com/podcast/555/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rose Hackman is on the show this week! Rose is a journalist whose work on gender, race, labor, policing, housing, and the environment―published in The Guardian―has brought international attention to overlooked American policy issues, historically entrenched injustices, and complicated social mores. Rose’s book, Emotional Labor, is a journalistic deep dive in which she shares the stories of hundreds of women, tracing the history of emotional labor, exposing common manifestations of the phenomenon, and empowering us to forge pathways for evolution, justice, and change. Throughout our conversation, we often discussed emotional labor from the female perspective and explored its effect on race, class, relationships, and the workplace. If, after listening to our conversation, you’re intrigued and want to learn more, I encourage you to check out Rose’s book! In this episode, you’ll hear: Emotional labor: Rose describes what it is and looks like in different scenarios (4:18) How race, gender, and class unequally shape the load we carry (6:28) Rose answers, “Do you think women going through “the great divorce” is indirectly related to emotional labor?” (15:27) Our conversation moves to solutions, and we discuss some strategies for leveling the imbalances that contaminate our relationships, social circles, and households (30:47) Rose shares tools or rebuttals for when someone makes you feel as though the work you are doing is not real work (38:08) Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Rose's book is here Rose on Instagram Rose on TikTok Laura Danger’s episode on the division of labor https://andreaowen.com/podcast/554/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is the second of two archived episodes that I’ve pulled from last year, because, well, this one was one of my favorites! I hand picked Carole Cullen to come on and talk about what it means to be a Certified Gottman Method therapist and she delivered! Next week we’ll be back with all new interviews! We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) Resources: Coaching with Andrea Carole’s website The Gottman Institute The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Getting the Love You Want https://andreaowen.com/podcast/553/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I interviewed a journalist named Rose Hackman, who wrote a book called Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power, and it got me thinking about a few things. So much so that I turned on the mic right after I got off Zoom with her, and recorded this minisode for you. First, I muse on what emotional labor looks like at work, but more specifically, as I personally reflect on my past relationships, what it looks like in romantic partnerships. I know my experience isn’t uncommon, so you may see yourself in my story. We all have patterns in our lives, and most of us have had them for decades. It’s a HUGE ask to expect yourself to see the patterns you don’t like, and just change them. There’s a lot of “messy middle”. This minisode is about identifying those patterns and hopefully coming to a decision about what you’ll accept… and for the things that have become unacceptable, or what I call in the episode “too expensive”, deciding what you plan to do about it. Resources: Buy a personalized, signed copy of Andrea’s book (or books!) Rose Hackman’s book, Emotional Labor Make Some Noise on Amazon https://andreaowen.com/podcast/552/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I’m bringing you an archived episode…Dr. Ellen Vora was one of my favorite guests and since I know so many of y’all struggle with anxiety, I knew exactly the episode I wanted to re-air! Enjoy her again and the very important message she shares. Dr. Ellen Vora is on the show this week to share several holistic approaches to the treatment of anxiety. Ellen is a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. In this episode, we talk about whether or not we are experiencing an anxiety epidemic, strategies for addressing anxiety, the difference between “false” and “true” anxiety, and so much more. I am beyond excited to introduce you to her. She is so smart, has a wealth of information, and I had so many questions for her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Some other topics we explore: The cause of the anxiety epidemic (5:54) Ellen talks about her approach to defining anxiety, “false anxiety” and some strategies for addressing it (8:50) The connection between hormones, birth control, and mood regulation (13:20) The role of psychedelics in treating anxiety and the mystical experience hypothesis (18:34) Ellen shares her controversial views on sunshine, why our bodies benefit from the sun, and some healthy ways to get sun exposure (24:24) Ellen’s nuanced view on body positivity and binge eating (27:03) How we can realistically improve our sleep and why is scrolling on our phones at night relevant to anxiety (36:34) Ellen’s hot-take on the effects of nutrient dense diets on post-partum depression and anxiety (45:50) Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Ellen’s website Ellen’s book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming The Body’s Fear Response The Mood Cure, Julia Ross Deconstruction episode https://andreaowen.com/podcast/551/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Adrienne Youdim is on the show today and has a very interesting story in her journey as a medical weight loss doctor. I’ll let you listen in as she talks about this journey in the first few minutes of the show, but in a nutshell, she wrote a book based on what she’s seen over and over again with her patients and in her own life. Which led her to write a book teaching women to reach a place of self-acceptance, purpose, and meaning. Dr. Adrienne’s mission is to transform our relationship with food, our weight and our bodies to one that is informed and empowered, inspiring people to live more physically and emotionally fulfilling lives. Her book talks about the many, many ways women are hungry and although we only have time to talk about a handful of them, I’m sure you’ll resonate with the ones we do touch on, and if you want to know the rest, you’ll have to grab her book! In this episode you’ll hear: What brought Dr. Adrienne to write a book that isn’t really about weight loss, even though she was a doctor who helped people lose weight. (4:42) Andrea reads an excerpt from Dr. Adrienne’s book that talks about the universal hungers that we all have and feel. (7:05) We talk about how detrimental fat-shaming is, what is Body dysmorphic disorder, as well as what happens when we use food to cope (7:37) I ask since Dr. Adrienne’s book Hungry for More focuses on the many things women are actually hungry for, what have been the chapters that resonate the most with readers? (12:16) What, in terms of mental and emotional health, does she see in her practice? (24:14) We discuss dopamine…is that one of the hungers? (35:06) I ask about ritual, why is having ritual in our life one of our hungers and why is it important? (40:18) Resources: Dr Adrienne’s TEDx Talk Dr. Adrienne’s book, Hungry For More Dr. Adrienne on Instagram Dr. Adrienne’s website https://andreaowen.com/podcast/550/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The topic of today’s minisode comes from one of our Make Some Noise listeners! Earlier this year, we sent out a survey, and y’all showed up (THANK YOU!). One listener asked if I could riff on the following topic: Grieving changes, like kids aging, and experiences you thought you'd have by a certain age. I have a feeling you all have struggled with at least one of those she mentioned, so I put together a list of steps to think about if you are. Listen into the minisode to get an in-depth look at these, especially number three! Acknowledging the grief— don’t dismiss it. Feel whatever you feel, don’t make yourself wrong for it. And know those emotions may circle back around over and over again. Work on letting go, in other words, work on detachment. Many times we feel like if we have this or that, it would make us happier, more fulfilled, or more successful. Journal and talk to people who make you feel seen and heard on this topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we are talking about how to cultivate grit and resilience with Danielle Cobo. Fittingly, Danielle is a career coach who works with organizations to develop the grit, resilience, and courage to thrive in a rapidly changing market. In this episode we also talk about proactively preventing burnout, how to accelerate your career, and how to turn life challenges into purpose and growth. Danielle is just delightful and I hope you love this conversation as much as I did. Featured topics: How to identify stress triggers and take proactive steps to prevent burnout (5:39) Danielle answers, “Are you born with grit? If not, how can you cultivate it?” (9:03) Fixed mindset vs growth mindset: what it is and how it plays out in our lives(13:03) What is your X Factor? What excites you? How can you redefine success on your own terms? (23:03) Advice for women who want to accelerate their careers (23:54) An exercise to help cultivate resilience (32:33) “The person you are today is because of what you’ve overcome.” (35:38) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we are talking about shifting perspective, embracing change, and midlife reinvention. Wendy Valentine, writer, motivational speaker, master coach, and host of The Midlife Makeover Show, is a champion for midlifers. She’s my guest this week! Since Wendy’s own midlife revolution, she’s been helping people all over the world navigate challenges to create their best second half of life. In this episode, Wendy and I talk about the idea that there is more than one purpose to find or fulfill, amplifying the voice of your inner cheerleader (and quieting your inner critic), why midlife awakening is about perspective not a crisis, and Wendy’s seven steps to finding F.R.E.E.D.O.M. Featured topics: How Wendy turned a midlife crisis into a midlife awakening (5:49) Amplifying your inner cheerleader and quieting down your inner critic (17:00) Why Wendy leaves her completed journals in airports (20:05) Getting unstuck from a mundane or manic midlife and discovering your next courageous step towards a better future (26:07) The seven steps to finding F.R.E.E.D.O.M. and reinventing your life (36:24) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I got a lot of messages after I released episode 540, all kinds– either sending me love and support, saying you relate and have been through what I’m going through, and some of you in a spot where you’re not sure if you should stay or go. And of course we all know how the social media algorithms work, and there’s some videos that have come across my feed in the last month or so that spoke to me and that topic and I wanted to share them with you. For legal reasons, these are hypothetical, and I may or may not be able to relate to these in my own life. I’ve included the links to each video and transcribed below. Listen in to the episode for my commentary on each one. 👀 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re shifting gears a little bit on the podcast this week! Tara McMullin joins me for a conversation about goal setting, money and finances, and the economy (because, let’s face it, sometimes it’s confusing). I’ve known Tara for over a decade, she is so incredibly smart, and I am excited to introduce her to you finally! For those new to Tara, here is a little more about her. Tara is a writer, podcaster, and producer. For over 13 years, she’s studied small business owners—how they live, how they work, what influences them, and what they hope for the future. She's the author of What Works: A Comprehensive Framework To Change The Way We Approach Goal Setting. Featured topics: The different types of goal setting and the overlap between goals and finances (5:31) The expectation of unrelenting growth is unrealistic and at the root of many things wrong in our financial system (13:05) How culture impacts the way we view money and growth (14:07) Our economy: breaking down business and economic understanding. (19:15) The passion paradigm and why is it important to understand it (23:26) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is about changing definitions, taking up space, and prioritizing women's health. We can't make social and cultural changes until we can talk about the thing that we're trying to change - and in this case, it’s the way our culture currently perceives and uses the word pussy. My guest is Jacqueline Buckingham, an actress, activist, and advocate for women's health. She says, “I believe that embracing the word pussy, not just as women, as a culture, is the start of shifting the huge imbalance we have in our world.” Jacqueline is an impassioned voice for body positivity and mental health. We are so in alignment with the work that we both do in the world. I knew I had to have her on when the time was right. It is time for you to be introduced to this woman and her amazing work. Featured Topics: Huge pussy is a movement to redefine the word pussy - an otherworldly, orgasmic, resilient, flexible, life-giving humanity vessel (4:26) What sparked Jacqueline to create a movement to change the association of the female body from shame to celebration and prioritize women's physical, mental, and sexual health (12:52) Jacqueline’s film The Pussy Papers (13:06) Jacqueline explains what she means when she says, “I want women to live huge pussy lives and have huge pussy energy.” (39:45) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Scrolling through Instagram the other day, I came across a reel from my friend and colleague, Christine Gutierrez. The message she gave in this short video (you'll hear the clip in the episode) gave me pause, and I watched it several times. I loved it so much I wanted to not only share it with you, as well as record my own thoughts as it pertains to my life and expand on how this could apply to you as well. I muse on… what might need to die, what needs to rest, what needs to be in stillness so that you can move to the next season that your life is calling you to be in. Perhaps it’s old identities, relationships, or how we look at certain relationships. Listen in as I expand on this amazing bit of wisdom and break it down around how it might apply to YOUR life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

KC Baker is someone I have known for over a decade in the online spaces, and I have always admired her work. So I am thrilled to introduce you to her and her wisdom in this week’s episode! Together we discuss how to cultivate the internal safety and freedom to speak up authentically in your personal and professional lives. KC also shares several spiritual practices to help get connected (or re-connected) with oneself and the world in which we live. KC Baker is the founder of WomenSpeak and has been a pioneer for the last 14 years in bringing a feminine approach to public speaking and leadership training with her unique embodiment and nervous system rewiring practices. Featured Topics: KC’s TED Talk Voice: A Love Story and how she came to do the work she does today (4:30) Tantra practices: what they are and how KC uses them in her work with women speakers. “Tantra it really is about exploring through living fully and fully being alive in the body.” (11:24) What it means for women to connect with their Divine Love (14:47) Ecstatic dance and sensual movement for healing (17:19) The feminine Qi Gong practice (28:29) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“We are wired for connection, but kindness, empathy, and connection is a skill we must learn,” says guest Dr. Jody Carrington. Dr. Jody is a renowned psychologist sought after for her expertise, energy, and approach to helping people solve their most complex human-centered challenges. Dr. Jody joins me for a conversation about connection, understanding the purpose and power in acknowledgment and feeling seen, and how to find our way back to self and each other. I believe in Dr. Jody’s work and hope you enjoy our conversation! In fact, I will leave you with another powerful statement from Dr. Jody, “We are wired to do the hard things, but we were never meant to do any of this alone.” Featured Topics: Why connection and reconnection are so important in the world right now (5:16) Acknowledgment and feeling seen is the answer to everything (16:37) Emotions will not kill you, but not talking about them might (24:44) How to reconnect and find our way back to each other (33:32) Creating an emotional language with the people (38:36) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This was a hard episode to record. As you probably know, I’ve been married to my second husband, Jason, for a long time, since 2008. And after ten months of committed therapy, in January of this year, we decided to end our nearly fifteen-year marriage. Out of respect to him and our children, I won’t disclose the details of the reasons we split, but will speak in vague ways and talk about my part… the things I acknowledge that contributed to the end. Listen in to this minisode as I share what I can, and share a message I have for any of you who are in a place where you’re wondering if you should stay or go in your own relationship. I share as much as I can, and I wish I could share more details with you. North Carolina divorce laws are weird, and at least for now I need to keep some things private. But, soon I’ll be able to tell you what the last seven or so months have brought me. There are already enormous learning lessons that I hope will be helpful for many of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am bringing you a guest whose work I find to be simply fascinating. Lena Morgan’s passion is to reunite people with their most powerful selves while healing old stories along the way. A midwife for over a decade, Lena shares insights on healing our life’s stories, unpacks six fight languages that keep us in conflict, and explains the importance of sacred partnerships. We also talk about intuition, including the difference between your intuitive voice and inherited voice (aka inner critic), and how to learn to trust your intuition. This episode is packed with new and interesting ways to understand yourself, make meaningful decisions, and, most importantly, heal. Lena has created a new path to better understanding ourselves and our partners. Her goal, as always, is to help you heal the stories and change your world. Feature topics: Lena shares how her experiences as a midwife led her to create The Storyteller Collection and help others heal the stories that kept them in a specific version of themselves (3:37) The six different Fight Languages, how they keep you in conflict, and why depending on your wounds, they all have the potential to create incredible damage (6:24) Sacred Partnerships give you an opportunity to stretch and grow. An ideal sacred partnership is one where the other person is a safe space to have vulnerability with and try to show up in new ways and bring healing to old parts of you (28:21) Discerning between your intuitive voice versus your inherited voice (36:12) Lena shares the most common thing women struggle with, doubting themselves and trusting their intuition, and offers one way to help overcome this struggle (40:11) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is for anyone who struggles with anxiety, fear, and self-limiting beliefs (like, all of us?). If you're like me, you like to live in your head a lot and have a little bit of an anxious brain. If so, you're in good company with me! You’re also going to love today's guest, Chris Cirak. Chris Cirak is an author, speaker, and mediator passionate about making sophisticated topics accessible, meaningful, and inspiring experiences. With an extensive background and design, psychology, and tech, he breaks down traditional teachings to make ancient wisdom accessible and discoverable by modern audiences. Featured topics: Techniques to help quiet an overactive mind and reduce the exhaustion caused by it (3:29) How to overcome living in a place of anxiety and fear (15:55) Ever wanted to try yoga or meditation but struggled with starting? Chris offers some thoughts and advice for those who find either practice too hard or boring (26:28) Strategies to connect with your authentic self and step into your power to live a life of love, peace, and abundance (30:33) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to part two of 11 Things Happy Women Do, UPDATED! In 2014, I wrote an article that went viral. When I was brainstorming topics for minisodes I remembered this article and thought I Would just go through these 11 things and be done with it. However, when I read it, I shook my head, thinking how differently I would write this now, how I’ve changed, the challenges I’ve seen myself go through with some of these things, and if nothing else, the immense nuance that comes with each one. If you missed it, check out part one HERE. Please listen to the episode a I go into detail about each one, and include what I wrote in 2014 and how I would change that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we are talking about the intersection between loss and transformation. Whether you experience transformation in your career, or due to loss, or trauma - it has a profound effect. In fact, my guest, Cyndie Spiegel, talks about how loss can shift who we are and therefore, we must learn to understand our relationship to the world as the person we are today. In this episode, we also explore the concept of micro joys and positivity versus toxic positivity. Cyndie Spiegel is a born storyteller–turned–writer; she’s an aspirational voice and an igniter of powerful conversation around self-acceptance, integrity, and joy. She is the founder of Dear Grown Ass Women, an inclusive and highly relatable social community for women 35+, and she is also the author of A Year of Positive Thinking. Featured topics: Cyndie shares openly about compound grief and loss she experienced in 2020 and how it changed how she approaches her work and life (3:39) "Micro Joys," and how are they useful (11:33) Advice for women on the precipice of a big change (14:44) The line between helpful positivity and toxic positivity (28:09) "Dear Grown Ass Woman" for women 35+. (32:28) “You deserve to touch joy even when you are struggling.” (37:49) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode explores power, purpose, and money, yessss! Especially how women can close the gender pay and wealth gap, learn to trust themselves, and ask for what they are worth. My guest is Kelli Thompson, author of Closing The Confidence Gap: Boost Your Peace, Your Potential & Your Paycheck. One question Kelli leaves us with at the end of the conversation and would be helpful to ask as you move through your personal development journey is this, “Is the next right step in alignment with the life you are trying to create?” Kelli is a women’s leadership coach and speaker who helps women advance to the rooms where decisions are made. She has coached and trained hundreds of women to trust themselves, lead with more confidence, and create a career they love. Featured topics: How to define your power and purpose (3:52) What keeps women from not having what they want in their careers (10:20) The five money conversations every woman needs to have to close the gender pay gap AND the wealth gap (20:09) Negotiation tips! How to research salaries, prep your ask, and what you can do to eliminate systemic wage issues at work (30:20) How to learn to trust yourself with confidence and courage (37:02) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tara Renze joins me for a conversation about creating long-lasting happiness and fulfillment! We also explore what it means to be mentally fit, what holds women back, as well as emotional intelligence. This is such a full conversation, I know you’ll enjoy it! For those new to Tara, here is a little about her: Tara Renze is an author, keynote speaker, emotional intelligence and positive intelligence practitioner, podcaster, thought-leader, wife and mother. She is redefining how we unleash purpose, level up our success and create sustainable happiness and fulfillment in all aspects of our lives. Featured topics: What it means for people to become “mentally fit” (3:32) Some patterns that causes women to be unhappy and how to break them (13:16) What holds women back in making an impact at work and what they can do to change that that doesn’t add more to their plate (21:02) Six key emotional intelligence traits and characteristics that allow you to listen up, speak up, show up, and get what you want. (35:08) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In 2014, I wrote an article that went viral. When I was brainstorming topics for minisodes I remembered this article and thought I Would just go through these 11 things and be done with it. However, when I read it, I shook my head, thinking how differently I would write this now, how I’ve changed, the challenges I’ve seen myself go through with some of these things, and if nothing else, the immense nuance that comes with each one. In two weeks I’ll release part two, but for now, here’s the start. Please listen to the episode a I go into detail about each one, and include what I wrote in 2014 and how I would change that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Exciting news…I’m bringing back coaching episodes to the podcast! In this episode I’m coaching a former client of mine, Amy. Amy is in her late 40’s, climbed the corporate ladder fairly quickly throughout her 20’s, and now finds herself wanting something different…but she’s not sure what. She mentions fear getting in her way of making a decision. I ask her questions that she says, “flip her brain” and you’ll hear me pull sentences from the questionnaire she filled out before our session (you know how I’ve said even applying for 1:1 coaching and answering those questions can give you insights?). After we dig into what excites her regarding this new leap of faith, I ask her, “What’s next?” That’s where the real juice happens! I think you’ll see some of your own life in this conversation with Amy. The circumstances might be different, but perhaps you’ve been in the place she is now. Or, sometime in the future you’ll be in the place where you’re given a fantastic opportunity and you’re scared to do it! You'll hear about halfway through our conversation, Amy says “I'm so glad I got the chance to talk this out because It opens my brain to realize that I get so stuck in my head. And it's really not that big of a deal.” My invitation to YOU is to think about things in your life where you might be doing the same thing– spinning, ruminating, overthinking things that might need to just be coached through. You’ll hear the nitty gritty about her situation, and I left all this in the recording so you can see how granular we can get in a coaching session in order to support the client and the topic. Make sure you stay until the very end where I read an update from Amy! Did she get everything she wanted? Tune in to find out ;) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Trust that you can feel any feeling and not perish,” says Maria-Victoria Albina. Yes, we are talking about big emotions in this week’s episode. Maria-Victoria joins me for a conversation about calming the nervous system and expanding emotional capacity. We also explore how small acts of self-love help you build self-trust and feel emotionally safe. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. Featured topics: Emotional outsourcing and what it has to do with co-dependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking (4:28) Signs and symptoms that let you know when you are being triggered and how to feel safe when our nervous system is activated (6:43) Bottling up big emotions impacts our bodies, and how we can expand our capacity to feel our big feelings (22:34) Collective healing: what it looks like and how can we shift our thinking away from the patriarchal model of individual healing (38:37) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This morning I had a client session where she talked about being in transition in her life setting the intention of this next phase being about her. Not putting everyone else before her, not being utterly selfless, but choosing herself first. So we made plans that honored her values and she was excited. But, before I let her go, I asked her a particular question that was directly related to “The Work”, but so often neglected. You’ll have to listen to this short episode to find out what it is ;) When it comes to personal development, we want to check off the boxes first, feeling better that we did the thing, and fingers crossed it changes our life, right? And many times, we over think things– including our own personal growth– wanting to put things in categories, wanting to make sense of it all, wanting answers to our uncomfortable questions. But often we can’t do that and racing through things or overthinking them keeps us stuck. I’ve certainly been there, and in an effort to work through that, I’ve recorded this minisode for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rae McDaniel returns to the show to discuss topics covered in their new book, “Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self.” In this episode, Rae and I talk about how to move from anxiety and self-doubt to a proactive state of mind, the keys to developing self-love, and how to design relationships that light you up. For those of you new to Rae McDaniel, let me tell you a little about them. Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Even if you are someone who is not non-binary, transgender, or questioning their identity - Rae and I talk about several topics that are relative to everyone. Definitely tune into this episode, I think you will enjoy it! Featured topics: How to move from anxiety, self-doubt, and fear to a confident, proactive state of mind (4:41) Navigating discomfort and celebrating your inherent worth (14:05) How to design relationships that light you up (21:36) Creating a sex life that lights you up whether you are partnered or not (26:00) Body respect versus body love (27:15) Practical tools to align your gender identity and expression with your most authentic self through play, pleasure, and possibility (36:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cait Donovan is here to talk all about the B word - burnout! Burnout can affect anyone and everyone - in fact, as Cait shares, “Stats show that burnout happens at a rate between 38.1%-89%.” Cait’s mission is to end burnout culture in organizations and individuals for better morale, health, and profitability. In this episode, we discuss the symptoms of burnout and what it is, Cait’s creative burnout recovery solutions, and why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need. While we spend a lot of time on the topic of burnout, we also explore how to have better communication in your personal and professional life. Cait is host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, and author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado. Featured topics: Burnout: what it is, its symptoms, and how someone knows they’re experiencing it (4:17) Some of the professions/industries that experience burnout the most (8:52) Why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need (14:57) Boundaries and when “No,” isn’t a complete sentence (16:25) What psychological safety is and how to create it (25:48) How to address passive aggressiveness at work (40:24) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s minisode is about the difference between being attached and unattached to the outcome. Easy, right? This is NEVER easy and always a work in progress. It will probably also ebb and flow throughout your personal development journey. This is still very hard for me, and I mention in this episode that I need this advice just as much as the next person. I’ll walk you through two steps around how to work on this in your life, including examples around plants, jobs, relationships, and money. You’ll also hear me walk briefly down memory lane about late night radio DJ’s on love song stations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices