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Scott Simon is a happiness entrepreneur and founder of the Scare Your Soul courage movement and the author of the book Scare Your Soul: 7 Powerful Principles to Harness Fear and Lead Your Most Courageous Life.&nbsp; He is dedicated to creating, curating, and leading opportunities for people around the world to be happier, empowered and courageous in their own lives. Scott founded the movement in 2015, organically growing it from one Facebook post to a global movement with volunteer ambassadors worldwide. He has presented to groups around the world, appeared widely on TV and podcasts, given a TEDx Talk, and led retreats and mindfulness meditations in person and online. In his coaching practice, Scott works with individuals seeking dramatic change in their lives, with a focus on helping divorcing men find their passion and courage through their major life transition.In his new book, Simon reflects on his childhood spent running from fear--and his adulthood spent chasing it--and inspires readers to take small, boundary-pushing actions to expand comfort zones, harness their fears, and lead a confident and audacious life. He examines the idea of what it means to truly live--not by overcoming our fears, but by embracing them.By combining research on positive psychology with engaging writing prompts, real-world challenges, and first-person stories of Scare Your Soul participants and ambassadors, Simon challenges readers to confront limiting beliefs and live a more meaningful and connected life. When we each individually lead that life, Simon argues, more great ideas happen, more social justices arise, more healthy relationships are fostered and innovation thrives. In a very real sense, we change ourselves and we, together, can change the world.Time Stamps: 3:33--How to get to the big self.8:59--The power of the small things.14:25--The concept of courage practice.19:59--How to define happiness.23:42--Procrastination and how to overcome it.27:40--How to reframe procrastinating into excitement?31:58--Acting together makes us more courageous.35:22--The intersection of courage and flow.Show Notes:http://www.tedxcle.com/scott-simon/https://scareyoursoul.com/scott-simon/More about Big Self School:We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Book a discovery call hereWant to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an <a...

Dr. Jerome Wagner is a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, supervisor, consultant in private practice, and emeritus faculty member in the Department of Psychology and Institute of Pastoral Studies at Loyola University, Chicago. On today's episode, Jerry helps us see that the true self is something that we already have and already are and maybe we don’t really have to go out and "find it," and for all the ways in which we’re different and unique and one of a kind, paradoxically, we’re also very much the same.He is innovator of the statistically validated&nbsp;Wagner Enneagram Personality Style Scales&nbsp;(WEPPS). He has been researching and teaching the Enneagram since 1980 and began the Enneagram Spectrum Training and Certification Program in 1995. Time Stamps:4:12--Jerry Wagner's answer to what does Big Self mean to him begins with starting at the surface and working your way down9:18--The ego is an exaggeration of who we are16:09--There's a lot to the Enneagram, you can stay surface or go deep25:23--Start with where you are, your pain point36:30--The integrative approach to developing with the Enneagram, and the recent development of the subtypes46:40--Let's not overthink all this, remember the K.I.S.S. methodShow Notes:Enneagram Spectrum Method9 Lenses on the WorldMore about Big Self School:We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Book a discovery call hereWant to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on <a...

Dr. Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author. Recognized as the world’s top communication and organizational culture thinker, and #1 self-awareness coach, Tasha is Principal of The Eurich Group, where she uses science to help successful executives achieve dramatic personal and organizational change. As a coach, consultant, and speaker, Tasha has worked directly with tens of thousands of leaders and spoken live to hundreds of thousands more, on every continent but Antarctica. She is the author of Bankable Leadership (which debuted at #8 on the New York Times bestseller list), and Insight (which famed Wharton professor Adam Grant calls one of the three books he recommends most often). Tasha’s TEDx talks have been viewed more than nine million times. She also contributes to Harvard Business Review, and her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Fox Business, the BBC, NPR, and more.We are thrilled to have a chance to discuss some of her insights and ideas on the Big Self Show.Time Stamps:3:22--Tasha's answer to what the Big Self and the Little Self mean to her5:09--A simple and clear definition of self-awareness6:50--More people believe they are self-aware than really are9:22--How Freud was wrong13:50--What is the Dinner of Truth?19:05--Why is what others think about us seem to be more important that what we think about ourselves?22:45--What does Tasha think is a really effective way to really understand and get to authentically identify these values?25:55--How do we break through and break down our (or others) defenses when it comes to self-awareness28:30--What are the best questions Tasha ever asked herself that deepened her learning about who she is?More about Tasha EurichFree 5-minute self-awareness quizhttps://www.tashaeurich.com/aboutMore about Big Self SchoolWe still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Book a discovery call hereWant to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple...

Giving up is ego work. Giving up carries a different energy completely. It is fueled by a fear and a holding on. It produces tension and when we can no longer carry it, we feel the need to give up. Giving up is submitting to lower energy. It’s a feeling of self-abnegation, self-diminishment.&nbsp;Surrender is leveling up. Giving up is downshifting.&nbsp;We give up on ego work. We surrender to soul work.&nbsp;Surrender is a way of accepting the terms of life with a learner’s mind. There is acceptance. There is a renewed perspective, in which we can call something that involves suffering a gift even. Surrendering I think of as even accepting other difficult people in your life, people who have wronged you, who annoy you, who you plain dislike or feel you need to defend yourself from, and sending them love instead of defenses and reasons for your disdain.Importantly, too, when we surrender, we stay open.We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Time Stamps::46--Shelley was recently teaching on the archetypes around feminine energy2:38--The acceptance that comes from being open 3:43--Surrendering is always a movement into spaciousness6:41--Shelley shares her experience of being a sensitive kid growing up10:37--Are giving up and surrendering mutually exclusive?Show Notes:Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

Sally Clarke is an author, speaker, researcher and burnout expert and Co-Director at Human Leaders. A former finance lawyer, she works with leaders and organizations around the globe to embed wellbeing at work so people and business thrive. Sally's latest book, ‘Relight Your Spark’ guides individuals on how to heal and evolve after burnout. Her book Relight Your Spark, is a practical guide to all things burnout, affordably priced, and also details her personal journey with burnout. Like so many of us, she bought into the belief that if you make it to a prestigious workplace and you just grind hard enough long enough you’ll somehow make it to the other side a fulfilled and joy-filled person. It’s amazing how often we hear the accounts of how this illusion doesn’t turn out the way we believe it will, but we continually and repeatedly keep living it out, almost as if we just don’t know what else or how else to live what we think of as a successful life.Time Stamps:4:13--Sally's answer to what Big Self means to her10:00--How burnout is complex but it's not just about taking the fish out of the water for a little while and then putting the fish back in14:25--Evaluating what "being successful" really means18:33--The Four Steps of moving through burnout according to Sally's framework from her book20:57--The myth of we have to do it ourselves27:19--There is a lot we can do in spite of how burnout is actually continuing to grow right nowShow Notes:We Are Human Leaders podcastRelight Your SparkGlobal State of Burnout Report 2023We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on <a...

There’s growing evidence that signals sent from our internal organs to the brain play a major role in regulating emotions and fending off anxiety and depression.Interoception may be less well known than the “outward facing” senses such as sight, hearing, taste, touch and smell, but it has enormous consequences for your wellbeing. Scientists have shown that our sensitivity to interoceptive signals can determine our capacity to regulate our emotions, and our subsequent susceptibility to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.It is now one of the fastest moving areas in neuroscience and psychology, with academic conferences devoted to the subject and a wealth of new papers emerging every month. There is an exponential growth in interoceptive research.&nbsp;These findings include promising new ways for you to “tune in” to the body and alter your perception of its interoceptive signals – techniques that may help treat a host of mental health problems. It is only by listening to the heart, it seems, that we can take better care of the mind.Time Stamps:1:18--The growing research around Interoceptive signals4:52--The senses we tend to focus on with body awareness7:55--You will not be able to change, unless you can become aware of your inner experience10:00--Shelley was in her emotions after our oldest son left and how her workout put her in a different awareness12:07--Why physical workouts are so important13:18--Why mindfulness is so importantShow Notes:Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

We need to be open to a third force — another way of having an experience — so that we can defuse the psychic bomb of our personal history.&nbsp;This script is why we repeat dramas throughout our lives. When you introduce a third force — or a new way to do the script — you can finally step out of it.&nbsp;This is also why self-confrontation is critical to healing and growth. We cannot set up camp only in self-compassion. That’s only one path of the work. We have to create a tension to give us material to work with.&nbsp;So how do we do it?&nbsp;Time Stamps:1:00--The idea of moving past repetitive conflicts4:38--The three forces at work when moving into and through conflict8:42--How Roy Kent got stuck in Ted Lasso11:52--Three different ways we can listenShow Notes:Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

Today, we learn from Enneagram type Seven, Milton Stewart, and the inner and outer work he's doing. Milton is the founder of Kaizen Careers, Coaching and Consulting. He facilitates the Enneagram and is on a mission to help people feel seen. Milton is one of the very few African-American male Enneagram teachers in the world. He hosts and produces the Do It For The Gram podcast, which teaches the Enneagram from a practical standpoint. He is also an International Enneagram Association Global Board Member.Milton believes the Enneagram is more than just a personal tool but a map of how to truly honor the humanity of others. He uses the Enneagram in many ways but the most powerful way he uses it is in spaces of diversity, equity, and inclusion.Time Stamps:6:48--The Enneagram just hits the nail on the head when it comes to our patterns8:50--Milton's work as a Seven with emotions11:46--Chad connects with what Milton is saying about anger14:17--How the Enneagram is growing in diversity but there is still plenty of work to do23:46--Milton's offering of an Enneagram certification program25:38--The "both and" of how Milton works with the EnneagramShow Notes:Save the date for World Enneagram date: May 27 at 11 AM ETRegister for World Enneagram Day hereWe still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

The concept of trust has been coming up a lot for us lately. Chad's been asked to do a training on it recently, especially when it comes to trying to build a team through the "storming" stage of development. And for Shelley, it's been a piece of the personal growth work she's been doing at this time in her own life. Trust comes easier for some people than others. Some are naturally inclined to distrust, and some to trust. We always encourage you to do your own growth around these ideas, but it's also important to observe the level of trust you engage with in your professional life. How much trust is there? How much trust do you give and receive?How much do you trust us to cover this idea in under eight minutes? Time Stamps::50: Where it all begins when it comes to trust1:21: If this situation never changed whatever situation you're complaining about, if it never changed, what quality would you have to birth in order to have peace of mind?5:15--What's something I need to be trusting today?Show Notes:We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

When Ginger first hopped into a five-day class on the Enneagram in the '90s, she accidentally enrolled in the advanced group. But she didn’t let jumping in over her head stop her curiosity. Before those five days were over she had a vision from a blimp that she had to do this.&nbsp;Her website The Enneagram in Business is an ever-expanding trove of information for personal and professional applications. She offers certification trainings in the Enneagram, a wide-ranging database of resources, and has links to her nine books that she’s been publishing on the Enneagram and business for nearly 20 years now.She has plenty to share with us, but one of my biggest curiosities was how she uses it in professional and business contexts.Times Stamps:2:18--The Enneagram finds us7:10--How Ginger began to think about taking the Enneagram to organizations11:33--For Ginger, the Enneagram is about the whole person and everyone--including in the workplace--can grow from the insights it leads to, the only question is about whether or not people are willing to share in those contexts18:03--Ginger has a panic attack when her first book comes out23:46--The Enneagram can help you work through team issues much faster than without it34:25--How Ginger and her team on the EIBN got nearly 800 respondents from around the world in 2022 for how the Enneagram has worked in organizations around the worldMore about Ginger's workEIBN: Enneagram in Business NetworkEnneagram in Business Network on LinkedInThe Enneagram in Business Global Survey 2022Transform Your Team with the Enneagram: Build Trust, Decrease Stress, and Increase ProductivityShow Notes:We offer our flagship burnout coaching package, and we also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at <a href="https://www.bigselfschool.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

A Harvard-trained physician, clinical cardiologist, and certified mindfulness meditation teacher with 20 years of clinical experience, Dr. Jonathan Fisher survived burnout and rediscovered his joy at work the hard way. He is now committed to ending workplace burnout and optimizing peak performance in healthcare and the corporate world.&nbsp;His mission is to empower leaders and teams to experience more joy, meaning, and connection in their lives, and to reach their full potential.We have a terrific conversation centered around the body, what it means to hold in emotions and the toll it takes, as well as ways to center yourself and live a whole and integrated life.Time Stamps:2:37--The gift of burnout7:30--Is the system broken? What's up with burnout, especially right now among clinicians?13:12--Do we have reason for hope?18:05--The idea that we don't completely know what's going on with all the stress going on in our bodies, but here's what we do know right now and how it works26:33--Isolation is such a root cause of our collective and individual suffering, but what do we do about it? 31:32--Personal practices of Jonathan Fisher, who first says, 'Don't just do what I do, do what works for you'34:04--Why Jonathan Fisher advises delving into positive psychology when it comes to deeply learning about ourselves, and he has an acronym from it: SPACE39:22--How 360s can enhance awareness along the ideas that Dr. Fisher lays out with his SPACE acronym41:37--From micro stresses to micro sancturariesShow Notes:Find Jonathan and learn about his summit at:HappyheartmdandEndingphysicianburnout.comFor further reading:The Surgeon General's recent warningWe offer our flagship burnout coaching package, and also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or <a...

Why would Chad and Shelley say that radical responsibility is a major commitment? Why would it be one of the foundations for beginning to make huge shifts in your learning and personal growth? Tune into today's episode and find out why taking complete responsibility for the conditions you create in your life is all on you and your choices.What could go wrong?Time Stamps:1:04--What exactly do mean by what it means to take radical responsibility?3:10--This is counter-cultural. We immediately and automatically blame5:18--How we're naturally defensive to what happens when stress emerges8:40--This is not easy work, but it's possible work9:00--A simple tool for practicing radical responsibilityShow Notes:We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

Big Self Show hosts, Chad and Shelley get together to explore their takeaways from Chad's conversation with Rob Cross and Karen Dillon and their new book, The Microstress Effect. Shelley emphasizes the important role that our own personality plays in creating the ongoing conditions of our stress. She opens up about a couple of ways her own personality has dictated the terms of her ongoing stress patterns.Time Stamps:1:18--Most of the stress we experience is psychologically based3:04--Shelley describes two addictive patterns in her own personality's operating system5:36--Can we always disrupt what our personality patterns are doing when we're surrounded by the conditions of our culture? Show Notes:The Microstress Effect: How Little Things Pile Up and Create Big Problems -- and What To Do About ItReady to learn how to improve your team’s communication, trust, leadership, or overall performance?&nbsp;We are booking workshops for Q2 and Q3 as we speak. We offer two-hour, half-day, and full-day training. Your team will come away with tools to improve performance immediately, as well as how to implement cultural changes you want to embody. Reach out and book a discovery call with Chad and let’s have a conversation about what your team or organization needs and we can get you scheduled now.&nbsp;Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?&nbsp;Order a copy of Chad’s book Shock Point or order an ebook here.Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

Welcome to Season 5 of the Big Self Show, episode 122!We kick off this season with an exploration from a brand new release, The Microstress Effect, by Rob Cross and Karen Dillon. Conventional wisdom for coping with stress has often focused on finding ways to "steel" yourself to endure, through such practices as mindfulness and meditation. And recent research has highlighted the importance of relationships to our physical and mental well-being. We have probably heard that loneliness has been linked to cardiovascular disease, depression, anxiety and numerous other ailments. This is all important data, but hugely important in the scope of the work is to figure out what to do about and how to make life better here and now.Finding ways to identify and remove negative interactions can make a significant difference in your life. And that's what our conversation was all about.Time Stamps:3:56--Microstress defined5:50--An accumulation until the question, "How did I get here?"6:40--The 14 micro stresses10:30--Are we more stressed or less stressed since the pandemic?12:20--The conundrum of being so incredibly stressed and yet we also have so much more control over what we do with our time16:38--How leaders can inadvertently cause stress in their teams19:07--What we can learn from the ten percenters25:15--How mindfulness and yoga can help, but sometimes just to increase your capacity to managing your internal grit26:10--How connections are vital in building resilience27:45--The single takeaway our audience must getShow Notes:The Microstress Effect: How Little Things Pile Up and Create Big Problems -- and What To Do About ItBe sure and grab yourself a copy of Chad's groundbreaking book on stress, Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and StressLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes or Subscribe on SpotifyFind us at bigselfschool.comJoin us on LinkedIn

Today we share a wide-ranging conversation with Parker Palmer. From acts of rebellion to the hidden wholeness of the world to the integration of the inner and outer life, as well as teaching and leadership, this conversation is rich in wisdom and hope.We have followed Parker Palmer’s work for literally decades, and are both thrilled and honored to have him on our podcast. This opportunity to get a chance to meet him and reflect with him on the condition of the world right now was a real gift. We are grateful for his work and will continue beating the drum of joining "soul and role" in discovering our hidden wholeness in this corner of the world.Check out The Center for Courage and Renewal or just a few of Parker Palmer's books here:The Center for Courage and RenewalLet Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of VocationA Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided LifeTime Stamps:3:32--Shelley shares with Parker how his work mentored her when she went through a dark time6:13--Parker begins his story as to how he started on his academic career, but felt like it wasn't enough11:35--Shelley asks Parker about the idea of the unfolding of calling20:20--Walking in the woods is a contemplative exercise24:39--The idea that it's an act of rebellion to try to show up in the world as a whole person30:00--The idea that for perspective, the world really does go on without us35:57--Parker's truer calling was in writing and sharing his ideas rather than activism and what he felt he "ought" to do39:03--Failure hurts, so it's not easy to separate ourselves from it46:20--The other thread that runs through this is that you have maintain your inner life51:29--What's the smallest thing we can do today to move us in our purpose56:02--Life on the Mobius StripLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

This work largely comes from Chad's recently released book, Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress. We invite you to check it out anywhere books are sold through the global online marketplace. We’re covering this information as a part of the Big Self Podcast for three reasons: (1) Towards the larger goal of increasing self-awareness. If you are able to assimilate this information in your head as knowledge, it’s going to be more possible for you to incorporate your dispositions into your working knowledge of your Self-Observation practices, which will lead to your Self-Inquiry, which will lead to integrated changes in your transformed personality, through Self-Development. (2) It’s good to know about others in order to be able to communicate most effectively, understanding their dispositions especially to stress and interpersonal relationships. (3) Finally, it gives us all compassion for ourselves and each other, which is one of the most important principles to recognize when beginning this work. Be gentle with yourself.Time Stamps:5:44--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Eights10:38--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Nines15:16--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Ones20:25--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Twos25:25--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Threes31:14--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Fours35:39--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Fives40:31--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for Sixes46:25--Psychological Roots and Key Patterns that Create Stress for SevensClick here to order a copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

While there are nine distinctive ways that personalities show up in the world, there are also by contrast, very similar ways that all people look when their ego isn't in charge. With steady practice in Self-Observation, Self-Inquiry, and Self-Development, you will see a healthier response to your day-to-day responses.These are the six ways a healthy ego looks like in relationships.Time Stamps:5:56--Three stages of observation learning12:32--The six ways beginning with #116:22--The second way a healthy ego looks17:49--The third way a healthy ego looks22:51--The fourth way a healthy ego looks26:21--The fifth way a healthy ego looks29:33--The six and final way a healthy ego looksClick here to order a copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

We may learn about the false self, we may learn how to hide features of false self from others so that we seem genuine, but hiding and merely learning about are not the same thing as authentic transformation. And that's the challenging subject matter we tackle on today's episode.The way of the false self is invested in your outer identity and what you possess, whereas the way of the true self is invested in who you are and what you can share. It’s not by efforting that I come to know my true self. The path of finding my true self begins with the awareness that I am “shadowed by an illusory person: a false self.”&nbsp;First clearly see your false self. And begin the unmasking with deep grace and self-compassion. There are plenty of reasons we “mask up” in our early lives. And when we're ready to move beyond those masks, we have to be tender with ourselves in much the same way we can imagine the Source or God would love you unconditionally.&nbsp;Time Stamps:1:50: How today's episode is a little different from a lot of our episodes5:42: How many people choose not to raise their level of awareness and how that development impacts the future you create one way or the other7:43: The work isn't easy, but what else would you rather be doing exactly?10:19: The ego resists when it gives something which it doesn't have, it's finite16:27: Releasing the false self can be the key to finding the true self22:34: Merton says we should shift from the circumference to the center26:22: Story of Akiba on his deathbed bemoaning the fact that he had not lived a life like Moses28:16: Shelley shares a personal story as an example, and Chad follows with one of his own37:07: It's who you really are, your essential nature46:04: The idea of dismantling false illusions, and how so much of this is the stress you're carrying aroundShow Notes:Seeds of Contemplation by Thomas MertonWishful Thinking by Frederick BuechnerWhat the Mystics Know by Richard RohrClick here to order a copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Traumatic events happen to the best of us. Some are more ordinary than others, like car accidents or losing a job, and others are bigger. Whether big T or little t, traumas are crisis’ that happen to all of us, it’s not some rare thing. Resilience is about using the crisis or the suffering to grow and launch yourself into a whole new beginning. Beyond just recovering from setbacks, resilience helps us navigate all life challenges, and end up the better for them. Resilience is a mindset that enables us to seek out new experiences and view life as a work in progress. Here’s a simple framework to think about the work that goes into building resilience: Pain + reflection = progress. Pain is going to happen. But pain itself doesn’t equal progress.And that’s really what we mean when we talk about bouncing forward. It helps us move from mere surviving to thriving.&nbsp;Today we get to our how. How do you develop resilience and use these essential skills?&nbsp;Time Stamps:3:15: The challenges we face in life are not meant to be some sort of punishment. But an invitation to change.6:57: 83% of people think they're resilient (but only just over half really are)13:06: Researchers have shown that resilience is basically optimism, self mastery, control, flexible thinking, and the ability to cope with stress when they're when they're doing their research.15:11: The Grateful Living practice24:32: The Lovingkindness Meditation practice33:53: Quality RelationshipsShow Notes:Bouncing Forward: The Art and Science of Cultivating Resilience by Michaela HaasThe Power of Resilience by Brooks and Goldstein The Good Life by Robert WaldingerClick here to order a copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Each Enneagram personality type have their own superpowers--their ways and means of functioning in the world--that gets them through life, helps them to survive. But these very unconscious characteristics can also create their own versions of stress. They are patterns that we usually don't even fully understand. We also don't know how to break free of them and to make them more conscious, observable, and understandable. Today, we dive deep into what Fives, Sixes, and Sevens (the head types) do to survive and manage their way through life. We also look at the ways these patterns not only handle stress but also create their own stress. For each type, we also give you coaching tips and tools on how to specifically address these issues in your efforts to create a more sustainable relationship with stress, and with all of your relationships (including your relationship with yourself). Time Stamps:2:03--Why you should listen to all the types regardless of your type, and how you are "not" your type6:05--Fives: The Walls that Hold You Inside26:00-Sixes: Trusting Without Testing42:15--Sevens: A Little of This, A Little of That (a Lot)Check out our holiday offer: 20% off our Typing Package. Find out more at bigselfschool.com/enneagram-typing-package or schedule a call to discuss more. Click here to pre-order a discounted ebook copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Each Enneagram personality type have their own superpowers--their ways and means of functioning in the world--that gets them through life, helps them to survive. But these very unconscious characteristics can also create their own versions of stress. They are patterns that we usually don't even fully understand. We also don't know how to break free of them and to make them more conscious, observable, and understandable. Today, we dive deep into what Twos, Threes, and Fours (the heart types) do to survive and manage their way through life. We also look at the ways these patterns not only handle stress but also create their own stress. For each type, we also give you coaching tips and tools on how to specifically address these issues in your efforts to create a more sustainable relationship with stress, and with all of your relationships (including your relationship with yourself). Time Stamps:3:32--The heart types and the central core operating emotion4:30--Twos: Deflating the Pride Balloon23:24--Threes: Who You Are When You're Not Succeeding34:18--Fours: Endless Comparing and IntrojectingCheck out our holiday offer: 20% off our Typing Package. Find out more at bigselfschool.com/enneagram-typing-package or schedule a call to discuss more. Click here to pre-order a discounted ebook copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Each Enneagram personality type have their own superpowers--their ways and means of functioning in the world--that gets them through life, helps them to survive. But these very unconscious characteristics can also create their own versions of stress. They are patterns that we usually don't even fully understand. We also don't know how to break free of them and to make them more conscious, observable, and understandable. Today, we dive deep into what Eights, Nines, and Ones (the body types) do to survive and manage their way through life. We also look at the ways these patterns not only handle stress but also create their own stress. For each type, we also give you coaching tips and tools on how to specifically address these issues in your efforts to create a more sustainable relationship with stress, and with all of your relationships (including your relationship with yourself). Time Stamps:2:45--Why we're doing this series, and starting with the body types, and "why" the Enneagram15:30--Beginning with Eights: Too Much and Not Enough26:50--Common stressors for Eights34:50--Nines: Waking Up to What You Want46:52--Common stressors for Nines51:35--Ones: Good Enough Perfection53:00--When stress comes for OnesCheck out our holiday offer: 20% off our Typing Package. Find out more at bigselfschool.com/enneagram-typing-package or schedule a call to discuss more. Click here to pre-order a discounted ebook copy of Shock Point: The Enneagram in Burnout and Stress.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

For many of us, the inner voice is generally loving and encouraging, maybe not enthusiastic, but in your corner, calmly evaluating. In fact, a good internal dialog should function more like a reasonable judge. Or like Lester Bangs tells his young protege William Miller in Almost Famous: “I know you think those guys are your friends. You wanna be a true friend to them? Be honest, and unmerciful.”In other words, sometimes you need a good truth-telling even if it’s not what you want to hear.With that said, there is a reason we universally struggle with self-talk. Struggle implies conflict. And conflict with the self is what we call inner conflict. But the problem is twofold. Not only is it hard to do something about the way our inner critic talks to us, but a great deal of the time we’re not even aware we’re doing it.Why?&nbsp;Because it’s our default state. We’re used to the way we talk to ourselves. We’d almost never talk to our friends or family the way we sometimes may talk to ourselves. So why do we do it?Because our Inner Critic is fueled by the simultaneous belief that we are better than others and that we are less than others; both feelings are energized by harshness and contempt. Feeling that we’re not enough–especially at work—is painful.the consequences of not being aware of or tuning into what our Inner Critic is telling us can hurt us and hold us back in many of the most important areas of our lives. Time Stamps:4:39--The inflating and deflating of the Inner Critic7:15--The story of the two wolves inside us all11:11--Anne Lamott quote of being militantly on your own side14:42--Walking through a little thought exercise18:52--Shelley names her Inner Critic and gives it a persona25:38--There is a balancing we have to do, not just expect to completely get rid of the Inner Critic32:22--Take on the persona of the Inner Teacher34:27--The simple ABCDE frameworkShow Notes and Links:Brendon Burchard says that successful people use positive self-talk frequently.Pete Walker suggests memorizing your list of positive attributes and repeating them to yourself whenever you have an Inner Critic attack. Positive self-talk is part of the emotional healing process.Studies show that people who practice “self-compassion” are happier, more optimistic and less anxious and depressed.Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Everybody procrastinates, but not everyone is a procrastinator. And contrary to popular belief, procrastinating has little to do with laziness. It’s far more complicated than simply being a matter of time management. Chronic procrastination doesn’t discriminate based on gender, race or age; we’re all susceptible.So, to provide a brief definition. Procrastination is the voluntary, unnecessary delay of an important task, despite knowing you’ll be worse off for doing so.And then here’s why it can actually be a pretty serious issue for a lot of people. Procrastination slows your goals and dreams way down. It can create stress and feelings of frustration. It can make time management useless. This often appears at work with day-to-day projects and tasks.&nbsp;Fortunately, it’s possible to learn how to overcome procrastination once we know why people procrastinate.Research has done a lot to help us understand procrastination psychology and why we continuously engage in this annoying behavior. We are going to take a look at the top reasons here, but first, let’s talk a little about our emotions and active vs. passive procrastination.Which type of procrastinator are you?Time Stamps:4:20--The positive procrastinator5:20--The other two types are passive procrastinators12:43--Getting to the four big reasons we all procrastinate20:00--Being "good enough"30:47--SAW FIRE is the name of our framework for overcoming procrastinatingFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

The futurist Alvin Toffler famously said, “The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.”&nbsp;In their book Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellence, Chalmers Brothers and Vinay Kumar describe sixteen “enemies of learning.” They adopted them as first described by Julio Olalla, the noted coach, writer and teacher, and founder of The Newfield Network.These enemies include attitudes, assessments, and mindsets that, when firmly rooted, make learning or growth difficult.The traditional message that virtually everyone has been bombarded with since we were conscious enough to watch TV, listen to the radio or read advertisements, regardless of the field is that you the consumer are reinforced with the idea that if you have, you will do, and then be. HAVING leads to DOING leads to BEING.LEARNING = DOING (the thing even while you’re not good at it)LEARNING = Time + Practice (we get better by doing it again and again, cause and effect)You can also ratchet up the intensity and systematize it to the next level and add to your practice a rigor.&nbsp;All of which is to say learning about something is not the same as learning to DOOne of the more interesting things about the current difficult economic environment has been watching how different business leaders have reacted to it. Those who have done the best to secure their companies’ interests, protect their market positions, and retain their best people, have in my experience been those who immediately went into learning mode.&nbsp;Whether they look at the changes as an opportunity to learn new strategies for success, or simply to learn how to survive in the new environment, they have opened themselves and their organizations to learning. In doing so, they have discovered new possibilities for themselves and their companies.&nbsp;Time Stamps:2:16--The illiterate of the future are not those who can't read or write. But those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.4:22--Advertising is based on one thing11:31--Principle number one12:37--Deliberate practice15:59--Where are you being led in your life to be experiencing learning outside your comfort zone?16:46--Number one, our inability to admit that we don't know.20:09--The antidote21:54--Number two, confusing information with real knowing.23:31--The antidote24:13--A lack of priority for learning (never have time)25:50--The antidote26:22--Lack of trust30:00--The antidote32:07--Ignoring the emotional dimension of learning35:00--Ignoring the body as a dimension of learning39:00--The final enemy of learning on today's list, constantly having big opinions and assessmentsShow Notes and Links:Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellence by Chalmers Brothers and Vinay KumarThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkFollow up with us and check out our <a...

The idea of this episode came out of a recent media sensation from a study done in Florida, and it showed some gentle shifts in the personalities of the 7,000 people it studied.&nbsp;The headlines are all over the place.&nbsp;(Links provided in our show notes and links.)On today’s episode we break down the latest findings, if they even matter for our understanding of personality, and why we want you to get a little clearer on what all this chatter is about when it comes to our personalities.First of all, let's define our terms: What do we mean by personality? What does the media mean? And also, besides the media attention and the fact that we do work on understanding our personalities, how is this a relevant topic for the Big Self Podcast?&nbsp;Time Stamps:2:41--Why is this topic relevant?5:52--The importance of social skills as researched for the past 100 years10:10--We need help in understanding ourselves14:45--The idea of falling asleep to ourselves21:15--Why researchers narrow it down to five criteria only21:50--The Five mainstays of personality research27:07--At higher levels of awareness people start to look alike?Show notes and links:https://www.cnn.com/2022/09/28/health/personality-change-covid-wellness/index.htmlhttps://www.themarginalian.org/2012/03/02/character-personality/?fbclid=IwAR32i3sOmxn5Nylttzrs0qAfxjyRzBJpxYYQILGkCs1NID7-4o3wvQl455Yhttps://www.livescience.com/personality-age-change.htmlhttps://psychcentral.com/health/personality-development#personality-disordershttps://www.apa.org/pubs/highlights/podcasts/episode-30https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/people-unexplained/202202/will-your-personality-change-in-the-next-6-yearsThe Benefits of Not Being a Jerk to Yourself (Dan Harris Ted Talk)Subscribe on Spotify Subscribe on Apple iTunesFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.

We have put “play” as one of our Big Self pillars from the very beginning, but I don’t think we’ve done a single episode on it. We do talk about creativity and gratitude. But that’s not quite the same thing.For one thing, it’s hard to really define what we even mean by play.In fact it’s so elusive to really define for adults, even after I had decided we definitely need to do an episode on play, I started wondering if this is really something our audience needs or wants. We’re talking about serious stuff on this podcast, stuff that is going to help people in their pain, in their crisis’. And then we realized, that experience is the very process we undergo for YEARS as we transition into adulthood.Important for us or not, play can feel silly, certainly unproductive, and time consuming.&nbsp;And that’s precisely the point. On today’s episode we are going to do the impossible: we are going to seriously persuade you to PLAY.This better be fun.Time Stamps:3:04--Let me ask you a question about play6:28--Great questions, but how are defining play?10:59--There's a lot of variability in the definition of play13:12--There are "four different styles of play"21:30--In which Shelley geeks out on the parasympathetic nervous system29:24--Quote by Jean Piaget33:32--3 suggestions for playShow Notes and Links:American Journal of PlayPlay by Stuart Brown, MDWell Played: The Ultimate Guide to Awakening Your Family’s Playful Spirit by Meredith SinclairNational Institute for PlayA list of research on playStuart Brown’s TED talk on playScott Eberle’s blog “Play in Mind”Play definitionStudy: “A new structural model for the study of adult playfulness: Assessment and exploration of an understudied individual differences variable”Study: The Playful Advantage: How Playfulness Enhances Coping with StressStudy: The well-being of playful adults: Adult playfulness, subjective well-being, physical well-being, and the pursuit of enjoyable activitiesSubscribe on Apple iTunes<a...

"I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor."&nbsp; –ThoreauSome of us are dabblers, some of us are obsessives, and some of us are hackers. Which one are you?They’re basically just different approaches many people take to learning. The dabbler loves when things are new. Just loves the shiny new object and everything about starting something. The obsessive is focused on getting results as fast as possible. The hacker gets good enough at something and is fine where she or he is.Don’t really like any of the options? Is there a better way?We probably all can recognize ourselves in a combination of these learning styles. And yes there is a problem with them all: we never get on the road to mastery with them. They aren’t the stuff of lifelong learning.&nbsp;Let's get on the path of a master.&nbsp;Certainly when we are patient and stick with our learning day in and day out, we are definitely more on the path. But with all of that said, many of us begin to experience change and then we hit the plateau. That long period of time where we’re sticking with it, pushing hard, staying strong…and nothing happens.Or we begin to experience change and then we run into resistance.AND we might begin to think this shiny new object or all this efforting isn’t worth it and we criticize ourselves for even trying. We even begin to use language which reveals our negative thinking and the stories we tell ourselves, and we think we’re “just being real” and give up.How part of what’s going on when we regress or retract is about the body's response to stress. Change? Homeostasis is first to be understood. Then, you can be prepared to meet it and learn the long path toward deep mastery.Time Stamps: 3:18--Changing anything can be difficult5:14--The link between change and stress is novelty9:13--Homeostasis defined15:38--Top five ideas for how you can achieve sustainable change16:43--Number one may be the most important, understanding how it works19:39--As you adapt the resistance gets easier to deal with26:05--When you're negotiating with your resistance27:55--You can do it alone, but a support system is recommended30:22--Follow a regular practice32:52--Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning34:49--Shelley's "Why"Show Notes:Steven Pressfield on anything having to do with ResistanceMastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George LeonardHomo Ludens: A Study of the Play Element in Culture&nbsp; by Johan HuizingaAfter the Ecstasy, the Laundry by Jack KornfieldFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.<a...

To say our culture prizes the “outer” (whether it’s outer work or the apparent “outer reality”) is an understatement.And by contrast, you hear a lot of leaders and coaches and people who have learned through trial and tribulation that you have to do the “inner work” first.&nbsp;But what is inner work, and how is it different from what we do at work every day?Many people already have commendable achievements in the ‘outer work’ aspect of their life. By this, I mean growing in their careers, managing a business, or having meaningful relationships. But ‘outer work’ is a small part of who we are as people.&nbsp;As a society, we’re fixated on outer work. We count the number of followers we have on social media or use the money in our life or the degrees that we have ALL as representative of who we are.&nbsp;These elements have little to do with our inner worlds. In fact, we may not even know what our inner world looks like at all. Maybe it’s barren and empty. Maybe it’s cluttered and full of infinite distractions.&nbsp;So, for all the power and depth and breadth of the inner work, why do we tend to avoid it? Why does it not seem to have a seat at the table in many corporations and organizations?We share our definitions of what "inner work" means, and discuss the dimensions it entails for our cognition, the language that we use, our emotions, and our bodies.Time Stamps:1:46--What we're discussing today3:32--We tend to overemphasize the results (the outer)6:55--Messy to try and come up with how you measure inner work, but one way is to measure it by the way it leads to outer results11:20--Three inner work definitions. Which one is the best? You decide.12:38--Chad's personal experience and definition with what he calls spiritual13:44--Shelley's similar experiences18:18--The incredible insights that listening to your language brings22:50--What's that about? a good operating question26:10--Emotional and mental work are similar30:55--The body center33:46--The body is the portalFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

When I first started thinking about how powerful sadness is an entry point–as a huge territory–for growth, I immediately was like, “this would never make a podcast.”I can see it now: People clicking on the headline wanting to learn more about how they too can be sad. Doesn’t have quite the marketing hook of “how to be happier by thinking positively.”But in a way, that’s just the point. Sadness is the very inversion of happiness. We’ve been inundated by “happiness” and the power of positive thinking for at least 70 years, and I feel like last decade in the 2010s we saw a real resurgence of it (whatever that was about, it seems like it was related to the explosion of neuroscience research).&nbsp;And for some happiness researchers, like Jennifer Moss, who we had on the podcast last season, she began to turn her attention to asking questions about “what is keeping us from this elusive happiness” and she began looking into the burnout culture and the toxicity in the workplace.&nbsp;Plenty of stress happens there!And really all kinds of emotions, right?&nbsp;But the point I’m trying to make here is that as I began to explore this space, I began to see a HUGE territory for us to explore with sadness.&nbsp;The kind of sadness we’re talking about today is not about grief or depression. Those are different territories. No matter what, of course, you don’t want to get stuck anywhere. We are not talking about “staying” in sadness. We ARE talking about letting it in.That’s right. We are talking about the places in your life, whatever your personality structure may be, where sadness is knocking. Time Stamps:2:30--Sadness isn't something that we need to manufacture4:21--What is your relationship to sadness? Shelley asks Chad10:55--What other happiness studies showed (and how it's not so simple)13:07--The Wheel of Emotions18:55--Do you think of sadness as a negative emotion? Chad asks Shelley24:16--Sadness is an important emotion that helps everyone in numerous ways27:14--Sadness plus shame equals depression31:03--Shame has this tendency to keep us stuck38:20--Sadness connects to awareness in general42:00--Typically emotions last for 15 to 30 seconds (unless you feed it a story)44:30--We would love to hear how this lands this episode lands for peopleShow Notes and Links:Greater Good on Four Ways Sadness May be Good for YouPsychology Today on Why Its Good to Feel SadHarper Bazaar on Why Its Good for You to Be SadFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Habits will make or break us. Habits will deliver results one way or the other. Our focus doesn’t just come from getting out our calendars and setting proper weekly and daily goals. It doesn’t emerge from understanding&nbsp;the 80/20 rule.It comes from the application of principles that elude us because they come from within. What comes from within is less measurable, and often less clear at first. For that matter, it’s scary going within. There are reasons we’ve pushed things into our unconscious. The key here is the application.Because our habits are the actions we repeat again and again and again, they reveal our character.&nbsp;You find it in all the ancient greats. Ask Seneca. Consult Marcus Aurelius. Reason through, in this case, Aristotle’s ethics. You could say you can know who you are through your habits because habits also reveal another aspect of ourselves, they reveal our values.On this week's episode, Chad connects the inner to the outer when it comes to living out your values. What is the Habit Paradox? How do you turn your thoughts and values into sustained action?Time Stamps:0:31--The idea of applying practical wisdom, to form enduring change3:22--Contrary to popular belief, willpower is in the body AND mind, but requires energy and isn't enough alone to form a habit6:30--Our habits and what they reveal10:31--The way the habit paradox develops16:28--Why do you know what to do but don't do it?21:13--Why Aristotle would have called you practically wise if you are able to live out what you value23:11--Unpacking Aristotle's statement about how the person who has mastered their emotions will ever go back or slip into Akrashia27:09--Naming the "When"29:43--Finally answering the "Why"Show Notes and Links:Aristotle's EthicsThe Science of WillpowerFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

Today’s episode is focused on visualization and specifically we put on our critical thinking hats and consider how it plays into the Law of Attraction. This law can be easily misunderstood. So, we are going to explore what it really means, how it can be harnessed and why it truly is powerful when applied with discipline, and also what it is NOT.&nbsp;What we focus on, we attract. The Law Of Attraction goes way beyond just 'visualizing' or 'vision boarding' our dreams. What we're ultimately doing is feeling and tuning into our vision of how we want things to be. We discuss not only how you conduct visualization, but also how you must do so with discipline, the same way anyone trains any other part of their body.This episode is chock full of fascinating nuggets about the brain, supported by science and evidence-based research, AND with specific takeaways that you can take with you wherever you happen to be listening.Time Stamps:1:10--The law of attraction, what it is and how it's had some twisted iterations over the years7:13--The question for our audience today8:50--When Shelley first started getting intentional about visualizing in 201014:09--One of the enemies of learning: daring to dream17:17--Setting the intention25:19--Matthew Ricard, the molecular biologist who became a Buddhist monk28:43--How you've got to train your brain32:36--Visualization connects to RAS (Reticular Activating System)37:40--Not like magic, it takes energizing your life in a certain direction45:30--Start with small things and then go to bigFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.Subscribe on Spotify

If you’re like a lot of people, you don’t really care about the health effects of drinking, and frankly you probably don’t care to know. But the fact is that most of us have been drinking more than we want to for a long time.&nbsp;And a lot of the time when we do this it also fills us with guilt, maybe even shame. Or to bring this full circle, maybe you really don’t think about it and don’t want to think about it.&nbsp;But if you’re honest, really honest, like we chose to get honest with ourselves finally–you probably don’t feel entirely in control of your ability to choose whether or not you actually drink.&nbsp;We are not here to evangelize. But we are here to share a couple of things. First, as coaches, we fully recognize that we have to be doing the very work that we are coaching others in. If we are helping others free themselves from mindless habits and envisioning the life they want, we have to have done the work ourselves. Perhaps even more importantly for you, we want you to see–to have the insight or recognition–that you are in control of you. You can shift your thinking and experience transformation unlike what you ever thought might be possible.&nbsp;It doesn’t matter what your friends will say or think. It doesn’t matter what your spouse will say or think. It does matter what you believe and what you think. And this topic, like any other, is about beliefs, both conscious and unconscious. It is about the power of these beliefs and how they shape our thinking, and therefore our actions.&nbsp;The aim of this episode is NOT to offer you tips. Tips are a dime a dozen whether they’re good ones or bad. What is more difficult to come by are workable ways to apply tips, to replace one behavior pattern with another. When you learn how to change a habit, it is usually not too hard to decide which ones to change.&nbsp;Let’s dive in!Time Stamps:2:30--Maybe you're just a little curious about evaluating your relationship to alcohol.6:14--We want you to have the recognition that you have the control over your thinking and what you want to do, and this is about shifting your thinking, not tips.9:50--How alcohol dependency became like a slow burn, just this habit that formed over time.15:24--When the shift happened for Shelley early on this year.21:40--How you can self-assess where you are right now and thinking of the desire behind the habit, or is it the habit behind the desire?24:01--Chad tells his story of his relationship with alcohol.29:10--Chad's approach is a little different than Shelley's.29:48--Quote by Dostoevsky about habits in the second half of life.32:15--How the habit may start first.37:31--If you want to start taking it to the next level and other ideas.40:20--The final takeaway. Show note links for further inquiry:This Naked MindNew genetic study confirms that alcohol is a direct cause of cancerA ‘factory reset’ for the brain cures anxiety, drinking behaviorWhat sudden insights look like inside the brainFollow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here.<a...

Shelley shares her story of burning out and what she's done with it five years on.Chad asks questions based on what he's hearing and thinking about from her story. Shelley discusses how she began to take radical responsibility for herself and her "self" alone and how this led to the tipping point of recovery. We learn about how Social Twos have their own special sauce when it comes to control, and how pride takes hold of the ego. Time Stamps:1:09--How the story has evolved3:40--Back in 2014, I started a venture backed technology company8:05--How Shelley refused to admit defeat for months even after the team was gone10:20--Working 80-hour weeks13:54--On control and the need for humility24:06--How Shelley had to get out of the frying pan27:00--After stabilizing, the next step is analyzing28:37--The final step is visualizing34:04--"We're either broken open, or we willfully shed."35:05--Why Shelley can be grateful for her burnout now (five years later)39:46--Expectations lead to a lot of our unhappiness44:41--When the system doesn't work (and we don't work in the system)49:00--The idea of radical responsibility and how it led to a turning point53:06--Shelley's final reflection questionWe're so glad to have you here for our second episode of Season 4!Subscribe on Spotify

We've got a few questions on the subject of failure. Do you really learn from failure? What does it mean to actually fail at something? How big or how small does the failure have to be? Do you really learn more when you have a losing season instead of a winning one? Where did the “fail fast” mentality come from, and does it mean the same thing today?&nbsp;Everyone’s paths are different, but many of us start out with early indications about what we should be for the rest of our lives. We begin to believe that the only way for the arch of lives to be considered a success is to make sure those first mountain life decisions turn out to be the fulfillment of those early dreams. What happens when those plans don’t turn out the way you thought they would? What does it mean to fail at something that seems so big?&nbsp;The truth is everyone fails. Everyone experiences setbacks both personal and professional. It IS of course what you do with the failure. But the truth is also that failure is a lot more complicated than the “fail fast” mantra would have you believe. First of all, failure sucks. Failure is messy. Of the four noble truths of Buddhism, the first is that life IS suffering. And the second noble truth? That the avoidance of suffering causes more suffering. We avoid failure in the same way we avoid suffering.&nbsp;So what happens when you identify, accept, and even embrace failure? And what are the failure(s) you truly do want to avoid? We figure it all out on Chad's big failure story on this week's first edition of Season 4 of the Big Self Podcast!Time Stamps:3:19--How David Brooks' The Second Mountain has a lot do with what we're talking about6:33--The second mountain is when you you shed the ego enough to break open8:32--What does it actually mean to fail at something because none of us want to fail?11:37--Even about the age of 10, I was always interested in being a writer13:30--Your first mountain. So you just turned 50 crossed the threshold.19:39--What do you now see that you've learned from the failure?20:25--Congratulations on the failure24:51--Failure Lesson #127:16--Failure Lesson #231:05--Failure Lesson #331:56--Failure Lesson #435:57--Failure Lesson #538:47--Failure Lesson #641:27--Failure Lesson #743:30--Failure Lesson #8Show Notes:The Second Mountain by David BrooksFalling Upwards by Richard RohrFinding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by James HollisMy Losing Season by Patrick ConroyEgo Is the Enemy by Ryan HolidayTiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Life and Love from Dear Sugar by Cheryl StrayedBorn a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood by Noah BaumbachLive Your Truth by Kamal RavikantCourage: The Joy of Living Dangerously by OshoThinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel KahnemanSubscribe on Spotify

Burnout has become one of the most talked about workplace and life topics, and its impact is far-reaching. But too much of the conversation is focused on the problem vs. what we can actually do to break free from burnout.In her new game-changing, self-illustrated book, THE AWESOME HUMAN PROJECT: Break Free from Daily Burnout, Struggle Less, and Thrive More in Work and Life Nataly makes a compelling case that while challenges in life are constant, struggle is optional. She offers us proven science-backed and engaging methods to help us break through the cycle of “daily burnout,” as she defines it -- methods which have already transformed over a million people and counting. Nataly’s book is intensely personal and written as a response to her own journey as a refugee who viewed struggle as a way of life. After achieving tremendous success in the corporate and startup worlds, Nataly suffered a debilitating burnout, which taught her a powerful lesson: You can’t give what you don’t have.We are delighted to have Nataly on for our 100th episode and our final guest for the first quarter of 2022. Find Nataly here, or at happier.com.Time Stamps:3:09--Why Nataly and her parents fled the former Soviet Union in 19898:20--How Nataly went through a debilitating burnout10:40--Nataly's experience with startups and struggling, and the difference of challenge15:12--Getting emotionally fit, and how Nataly found her way18:20--How Nataly realized she wasn't just her brain (and learned to talk back)22:40--The five ways to keep emotionally fit (in a nutshell)29:00--For people who are moving into burnout in a pretty deep way right now34:00--Normalizing self-care as a priority at work38:45--You don't need to burnout to learn, but you probably need an interruption41:41--Playing it forward and asking, "How do you want to experience your life?"45:15--What Nataly hopes you'll takeaway from her bookSubscribe on Spotify.

Today we speak with entrepreneur and investor, Ted Alling. Ted is a leader in Chattanooga who uses his entrepreneurial achievements to create opportunities for others.He is the co-founder and former CEO of a $500-million startup, Access America, which merged with UPS subsidiary Coyote Logistics.That initial success allowed Ted and his fellow Access America founders to create Lamp Post Group, a venture capital firm and tech-focused incubator located right here in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Lamp Post is responsible for developing and incubating literally dozens of startups. From there, he co-founded Dynamo in 2016, a venture-capital fund with a focus in logistics technology. And then in 2018, he and his wife Kelly, helped to found the Chattanooga Preparatory School, an all-boys charter school.&nbsp;Chattanooga Prep is designed to provide unique and impactful educational opportunities for the young men in the city’s urban communities, and it opened to its inaugural class of sixth graders in August 2018 and now has over 300 young men.It’s been a wild ride throughout the past two decades, and Ted has not only succeeded himself, but has an ability to bring others along with him. He has also done a lot of personal development and learned a lot, sometimes the hard way, about himself, others, and best practices when it comes to building companies and culture. That is why we wanted to speak with him on the Big Self Podcast.Time Stamps:4:00--Ted's love of the Enneagram6:24--The biggest hack for all our listeners on the Enneagram10:20--The progressive realization of a worthy ideal (what success is)18:00--How some companies are living out their values now more than in the recent past27:43--When Ted and Kelly met David Robinson in researching for their prep school30:57--How Chattanooga Prep selects the 70 students they enroll each year34:40--How they create the "Disney World Experience" for the kids right off the bat37:43--When Ted first discovered the power (and addictive nature) of the Blackberry40:33--How Ted recognizes how some have huge advantages over othersSubscribe on Spotify.

Leading teams and organizations to greatness has never been more challenging than it is right now. But there is opportunity amidst the chaos.We are now in an era of post-traumatic growth. An Egon Zehnder study reports that 80% of CEOs strongly agreed they needed to transform themselves as well as their organizations—up from 26% prior to the pandemic.Employees want to grow. Leaders want to help their people and their companies grow—and recognize that the only way to do that is to grow themselves. The challenge lies in knowing how to stop walking in circles, and move forward.In her new book SMART GROWTH: How to Grow Your People to Grow Your Company (Harvard Business Review Press; January 11, 2022) Whitney Johnson, CEO of Disruption Advisors, and one of the top ten business thinkers in the world as named by Thinkers50, provides a set of tools to get smart about growth.Whitney Johnson is CEO of the tech-enabled development company Disruption Advisors, an Inc. 5000 fastest-growing private company in America and was recently named #8 on the Thinkers50 list for 2021, made up of the 50 leading business thinkers in the world. She is an award-winning author, a regular keynote speaker and she and Shelley really hit it off on this week's episode.Time Stamps:3:50--Working on a new framework of personal disruption led to the S Curve concept9:55--Whitney's turning point moment of realizing she is going to have to disrupt herself11:45--What's interesting about different kinds of fears16:31--We're all operating at different levels of fears and awareness19:38--Whenever you start something new you are at the base of the S25:00--The many different ways you can apply the S curve to your life31:06--The six stages of growth that correspond to the S curve39:00--That place where your identity is shifting44:20--You want to race before you've spent time in the collector phase47:40--How 2022 is the Great Aspiration rather than the Great ResignationShow notes links:&nbsp;https://whitneyjohnson.com/Be one of the first three listeners to leave us a review on on Apple iTunes and receive your free copy of Whitney's brand new hardcover: Smart Growth: How to Grow Your People to Grow Your Company.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

Anne Scottlin is on a mission around the world to help people from business executives to creatives to startup employees who wear a lot of hats to find their joy. What does joy mean? What does it mean to possess it and carry it around with you wherever you go? Tune in to find out. Plus, how Anne practices her own methods in her life. Also, what happened when Anne mind-mapped her life and connected the dots from Medieval literature to acting to altruism around the world supporting oppressed women.Thanks for tuning in to this week's Big Self Podcast. Show notes links:&nbsp;Find Anne’s newly released book, Live For Joy, here.&nbsp;Grab a one-week journal to foster and create your own joy awareness at https://www.annescottlin.com/joyjournal.Time Stamps:3:40--The difference between joy and happiness6:00--Wishful thinking and how to overcome it, and how Anne's early experiences led to her life journey of finding joy and then wanting to share it with others11:40--The relationship of the PERMA model17:25--What Anne advises when people want to make a career transition24:25--The conflict that creating such deep individualism often brings33:46--We tend to remember where we fell short40:00--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

Long before the pandemic gripped the world and blurred the lines between home and work, we had become a nation suffering high levels of burnout. It is one of the most discussed, and far-reaching problems in the workplace today. And that is why we are covering it from a wide variety of perspectives on our podcast here at the top of the year from top business professionals and trained coaches, researchers, and leaders.In BEATING BURNOUT AT WORK: Why Teams Hold the Secret to Well-Being and Resilience, founder of the Stress and Resilience Institute Paula Davis provides a new framework to help organizations prevent employee burnout via a holistic approach.Her research-driven and actionable book is the first to explore a comprehensive approach for building the resilience of teams of all sizes. Her framework works with organizations ranging from Harvard Law School to Walgreens, and is aimed at reshaping the organizational policies, decision-making, and political, social, and economic issues that contribute to workplace stress.Time Stamps:4:44--A big part of what people are getting wrong about burnout8:42--We can't just keep approaching the systemic issue of burnout through the individual, which is what lead to the idea of working with teams first and foremost12:06--Interesting research that you can be highly engaged and burned out14:15--Psychological safety as a foundational element20:16--Start with the Resilient Teams Inventory25:10--Detecting your icebergs29:23--The core values and powerful themes that come up for leaders that they're not always conscious of32:40--We don't listen to understand; different kinds of listening35:58--Suck it up and drive on and do it the way I did it42:00--The importance of coaching44:03--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

We’ve been covering burnout from our inception at the top of 2020. We've suffered from it in different ways and at different times in our lives. Now we help organizations and leaders deal with it, and we had no idea how acute it would become and how the screws would tighten with the circumstances and chaos of the pandemic.&nbsp;And who better to bring on the show to discuss her own unique strategies and experiences than Jennifer Moss? In her compelling new book, Moss argues our current strategies are getting it all wrong – that self-care won’t cure burnout and organizations need to entirely rethink their approach to wellness. Leveraging her latest research and evidence-based solutions, her recent book, The Burnout Epidemic: The Rise of Chronic Stress and How We Can Fix It, will help leaders and individuals prevent burnout for healthier, happier, and more productive workplaces.We tend to think of burnout as a problem we can solve with self-care: more yoga, better breathing techniques, and more resilience. But evidence is mounting that applying personal, Band-Aid solutions to an epic and rapidly evolving workplace phenomenon isn't even close to enough.&nbsp;Moss’s book is eye-opening, paradigm-shifting, and offers a practical guide, laying bare the real causes of burnout and how organizations can stop the chronic stress cycle that an alarming number of workers suffer through.&nbsp;Self-care is important, but it's not a cure-all for burnout. Be sure and stay tuned to the end for our Big Self Takeaway!Time Stamps:4:31--The root causes of burnout6:28--The World Health Organization definition of burnout8:05--When your leaders are passionate about their work and they become less aware of the model they're setting9:30--Feeling external pressure in high growth organizations12:10--Industries we're seeing a lot of burnout in14:08--Overwork is responsible for 2.8 million deaths last year18:38--Research on video conferencing fatigue23:52--How Jennifer used to look down on burnout before she went through it26:30--Seeing an accumulation of small traumas leading to grief31:30--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

“People change all the time,” write Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson in their new book, You CAN Change Other People. “They make big changes like starting businesses, getting married, moving, or getting a new job. And they make smaller changes like eating healthier, waking up earlier, or listening better. But people change when they choose to change. If they feel like you’re trying to make them change? Forget it.”How do we help others make changes they actually want and need to make? Well, drawing on decades of experience helping leaders, employees, and others to change, Bregman and Jacobson offers a straightforward, proven, and repeatable four-step process for helping people make meaningful changes, and we get a taste of that in our conversation today.&nbsp;We are always on the lookout for those books that offer us depth, give us specific takeaways and challenges, and also inspire us. Oh, and do all this without shaming us to do better or else we suck. And today’s guests have executed on a book full of ideas that does just that.Be sure and stay tuned to the end for our Big Self Takeaway!Time Stamps: 2:10--So how did you all come to think of this and research this for the book?7:00--Ally is the first step to shift from critic to ally9:05--The first step in the process actually does begin with yourself when you step in as a supporter15:30--What to do if you've asked for permission give feedback and they (on rare occasions) say, "No."21:48--How do you handle working with shame with individuals27:58--The people I most want to be in conversation with33:27--Is there anything good in a person's "bad" behavior?41:15--Develop a plan for people to track themselves49:25--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

It’s that time of year! Time for reflection. Time for slowing down and chilling out after all the social functions. And time to recharge those batteries. We are taking inventory to pat ourselves on the back for our accomplishments, to get real about the small and possibly big ways we can improve our coming year.We break it down into five pragmatic and powerful ways to move forward in self-awareness, in confidence, in optimism, and to make those annual goals using the SMARTER method, and breaking them down into small, manageable steps. Time Stamps:2:47--This is more like a life audit and not like some kind of PIP3:49--The guiding question10:27--As much as what you stop doing as by what you do do15:00--As yourself what you're avoiding and why19:32--Looking at those moments where you came alive21:06--Annual goals should be SMARTER26:49--Start thinking in micro steps toward the big goals32:05--Our final word for the yearLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

Sebastian Matthews experienced a life-changing event that was almost life-ending. Besides the broken bones, part of his growth process for him and his family was dealing with the trauma.&nbsp;He tells us that sometimes PTSD doesn’t even set in until a couple of years after the event. He also tells us that we don’t all have to go through such an intense trauma to experience things like burnout, anxiety, and disconnection from yourself and others.&nbsp;He believes in the creative life, in soft boundaries between work and play, but definitely adheres to some clear and consistent routines.&nbsp;He also believes in connection. He began that process first by writing about the experience with his book, Beginner’s Guide to a Head-On Collision. More recently, his award-winning Beyond Repair: Living in a Fractured State documents his experience in reconnecting with the culture, community, and country he found himself immersed in.&nbsp;He reminds us that we need to start with ourselves, but after the healing begins, there comes a time to quit the navel-gazing and get out there and re-connect with the world.While getting out of the house and meeting up with old friends in different places is one way, the deeper connection is to connect with your community. Sebastian reminds us of ways to do so in reasonable, realistic ways. One lesson he’s learned through the past decade of struggle is that “the only way out is through.” But the second, no less important one, is that when you give back to others, you reap unexpected rewards. This is the way to growth, healing, and beating the sense of disconnection so many of us find ourselves in here at the end of 2021.Time Stamps:2:43--Shelley says she sees burnout as a continuum3:36--Sebastian describes his struggle with stress and how it may relate to burnout7:09--Sebastian sees a definitive turning point in his life from his car accident10:35--What was the impetus behind Sebastian's decision to move forward?14:34--You don't have to go through a massive traumatic event to learn to cope and move forward24:58--How can you serve and give back without necessarily being a frontline activist?27:29--Multitasking gets a bad rap31:32--Sebastian reads a section from his book called "Invisible"Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

The idea behind the name Big Self is a paradox. We encourage people to do the inner work before they take big leaps, so they know their ladder is leaning on the right wall in the first place, and that they're motivated for the right reasons. Or if they come to us in burnout or crisis, we still begin with inner work, which usually begins with self-awareness training, and personality "hacking."&nbsp;When it comes to the self we want to diffuse the ego so that when we lean into our ambitions and aspirations we do so with authenticity, healthy boundaries, integration, and sustainable purpose.We work with businesses to help them improve their communication and culture. That is why we do have an audience that talks about personality types in order to shortcut the inner growth. We've indexed hard on that this past year.&nbsp;More recently we're hitting on topics like burnout, healthy work culture, shorter workweeks, boundaries, and topics related to the outward manifestation of real change.&nbsp;What we’re talking about today:How the idea for the name came about. The Buddhist idea of the Big Self.&nbsp;How it came to mean aim high but also manage your ego and how you engage with the world.How we focused on burnout at first.How we have come into the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and developmentHow we are for leaders in the professional world, but we also are getting ready to make offerings for parents and couplesTime Stamps:2:49--Shelley quotes Thomas Merton's "ladder leaning on the wrong wall" verbatim without reading4:50--Who we are is how we lead7:45--We have discussed burnout from the beginning and have several experts in forthcoming episodes9:34--The idea of Big Self as a name13:27--The different ways you can use the Enneagram 17:05--Parts of ourselves that we own and disown23:05--Three stages of reactivity27:27--The brilliance of the Enneagram30:00--You can use it for spiritual purposes, but if you're uncomfortable with that, you don't have to use it that wayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

On this week’s episode we speak with Joe Sanok. In 2012 Joe launched Practice of the Practice to blog about what he was learning about business, marketing, and private practice. Since then, his income has gone up over 2,000%. In the beginning, he was making around $1000 per month. In 2015, he grossed over $200k. By 2019, he had sold his private practice.&nbsp;Joe is a keynote and TEDx speaker, business consultant, and podcaster. He has the #1 podcast for counselors, The Practice of the Practice Podcast, which btw is a great podcast for entrepreneurs and solopreneurs as well.&nbsp;Joe is also the author of five books and has been named a top Therapist Resource for his podcast, blogging, and consultant services.His approach incorporates story, humor, research, and practical application.The pandemic has forced conversations about meaningful change at work, and shown us that we can live differently. A remarkable positive consequence of this worldwide lockdown is the experiment it inherently created by everyone abruptly and continuously working from home and making our own schedules.&nbsp;The last year has proven to even the skeptics, that work can be done differently. Will the change be permanent? Or will we, as usual, return to what we know? We’ve been asking this question on several recent episodes. Will we allow the Industrialist mindset to continue to define our week or will we reinvent ourselves and our time?&nbsp;Joe has just released a new book on this very subject, THURSDAY IS THE NEW FRIDAY is essential reading for anyone in search of both peace and fulfillment. In 2021, that’s very nearly all of us. This book is inspiring and instructive and we are thrilled to have Joe join us for today’s episode.Learn more about Joe here:https://joesanok.com/media/https://www.practiceofthepractice.comTime Stamps:3:42--The big shift that we're moving away from self-help type of books7:04--In looking back Joe always got the most done during 4 days and the most important stuff always naturally rises to the surface9:15--The difference between hard and soft boundaries11:39--Boundaries are the actions we take to protect our values15:32--What the Sprint Type is and how it's a helpful measurement for determining how we might work best with our values and boundaries24:40--Setting expectations and boundaries at home is essential27:40--The Industrialist mindset and how things have remained the same since 192633:36--We're an Enneagram 3 culture41:00--How teams can work together to establish boundaries together while also maintaining their revenue and productivity44:50--There are always going to be people who are against this thinking, but let's aim for the middle48:59--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

Personality Hacker is an organization designed to help people leverage their own mental processes to optimize whatever can be optimized: productivity, communication, job satisfaction, and most importantly – your overall happiness. When we get these needs met we stop being so myopic through the lens of our own experience, and start seeing a bigger picture.Today’s episode gives you some high-level overview of the Myers-Briggs as a system from Antonia Dodge and Joel Mark Witt. We also nerd out a little. In the end, we think you’ll learn something about how this all works and the powerful potential value it holds when you use it as a tool for growth. The entry point isn’t the important thing, it’s how you apply it to become the best version of you.Listen to the end when we give you the Big Self Takeaway.Time Stamps:5:30--The way we approach Myers-Briggs is not your mom's Myers-Briggs6:57--The point of origin of Myers-Briggs is actually Carl Jung (from Psychological Types)8:40--It has something that can applied12:24--There's a lot of one-sidedness to our personalities15:48--This system works well to identify a problem in our personalities, especially when things aren't working well19:40--We have a tendency to over-attach to our type, especially at first20:20--Most people aren't coming to the system with so much depth, they want practical applications31:40--The people sitting in the car when it comes to the functions of your personality36:00--Personality systems create a map for us to leverage 36:34--Is the goal integration?40:41--Trust and working with businesses43:10--The challenge in talking about the difference between Sensing and Intuition55:05--The Big Self TakeawayFind Joel Mark Witt and Antonia Dodge at:https://personalityhacker.comhttps://personalityhacker.com/ph-podcast/And check out their book here: Personality Hacker: Harness the Power of Your Personality Type to Transform Your Work, Relationships, and LifeLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

Today we speak with a boots-on-the-ground guy. Remmington Curtis is a fan of the podcast and reached out to see if he could join us on the show. We love to hear from our listeners, and we love hearing from not only thought leaders, influencers, and authors, but also the coaches doing the work themselves.A person some might say had the dream job. He spent the first 10 years of his career on Wall Street, researching companies as an equity analyst initially, and later a client relationship manager and ultimately a wealth advisor. But the summer of 2012, he pivoted. He left Wall Street to go and run a small healthcare company, as their CIO for about six years before pivoting, again, to advocate on behalf of the private sector, as the business liaison director at the US Department of Commerce. You could say it’s been quite a journey, as now, some 9 years since he left his Wall Street job, he’s settled into a role helping leaders be better, more effective versions of themselves, and helping them be the leader they wish they had had when they were coming up in their career.Also, introducing our new segment, The Big Self Takeaway, at the end of each guest episode.Time Stamps:1:56--Remmington had the dream job3:50--How he was unhappy and unsettled in his Wall Street job5:34--What it was like shifting to an operations role8:00--Specific techniques he uses with clients and their current challenges11:28--Managing your energy15:09--Leaders who believe expressing your emotions is a sign of weakness21:43--Permissibility versus possibility32:02--The Big Self TakeawayLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

This week we speak with Barbara Dalle Pezze. Barbara is a speaker, author and seminar leader with two decades of experience living and working in Hong Kong, China, Singapore, Canada, and the U.S. Barbara works to inspire others, especially entrepreneurs and leaders, to reconnect with their purpose. She does through helping them make mindset shifts and breakthroughs, which in turn helps their teams and organizations effectively create large scale changes. Barbara is a member of the Leadership Development Faculty for the Aisa Pacific Region at a top global financial institution, and visiting professor at FSU, Beedie School of Business (Vancouver, Canada), where she teaches Negotiation and Conflict Resolution at the MBA program. She has also recently published an inspirational memoir, The Unexpected Gift.&nbsp;Today she speaks with us about her journey through a sudden and traumatic divorce. It's about how she picked up the pieces and turned her life around in a foreign country, piece by piece.Time Stamps:3:39--Always something exceeding our reality7:40--The seven steps begins with owning your story10:30--Radical friends13:13--Clarity of mind15:00--Barbara is a doctor of Philosophy in Ontology16:40--The idea of "reality testing"17:37--Listening to the body21:40--Partnering with mentors25:20--The idea of finding mentors in books27:00--Forwarding the future35:40--Leadership begins with being a leader to yourself39:00--How do you work with leaders who are hesitant to admit to their blind spotsLeave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

What is the Great Resignation?&nbsp;What's causing it? What are companies doing about it? And what's our final takeaway?The Great Resignation is a term first used by Anthony Klotz, a psychologist and associate professor of management at Texas A&amp;M University, during an interview with Business Insider. It describes a profound shift in the way Americans are viewing their relationship to work over the past four months.&nbsp;For four months in a row, a record number of Americans are quitting their jobs. In July, the last month for which the Bureau of Labor Statistics published data, 3.98 million workers quit; that's slightly lower than the record-smashing 3.99 million quits in April.So what about it from an individual and collective level?Time Stamps:2:23--The Great Resignation is a thing5:29--Burnout a contributing factor6:45--Still "missing quits" in the system9:08--A high-level tech employee who is disgruntled13:28--Are we seeing companies do anything to address the situation?18:12--People are the most complex and least understood asset23:49--People are adults25:29--Will we just go back?Leave us a review and subscribe on Apple iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.