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This week Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny return with a reading list for the quiet times we are in. Our two authors have written dozens of books about power dynamics to spirituality. The discussion dives into the 4 books they wrote on having a disability while in a power exchange relationship and how to make it work. This topic is rarely talked about and blows the porn fantasy out of the water, imagine that! Real people, with real problems, who are kinky! Listen in as they offer insights and share their experiences with this important topic as well as talking about keeping it real and maintaining their roles within a power dynamic while living a thoughtful life. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/339---power-exchange--spiri.html

#338 - AsianHotWife4Fun This just about says it all! Woody had a chance to talk candidly with this Asian Hotwife last week, here is what he learned… Being a Hotwife is a huge turn-on for her husband. He fantasizes about what other guys will do with his wife and wants to hear about the experience AND see pictures! When she comes home from a date, he wants seconds, this keeps this Hotwife busy. She is a lovely, petite Asian woman with an eye for a fun cock. One-on-one, threesoms, gang bangs, they are all on the table. Some times hubby will watch, sometimes he will play, but he always wants to see video of his Hotwife in action. We learned how this dynamic works and how an open, loving, sexually free relationship not only works, it works well. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/338---asianhotwife4fun-this.html

Social media assholes, that is. Have you engaged with your social media ‘friends’ and been push up against a visual fence and have to fight it out? We say opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. How is kinky social different from vanilla social? Ferrett and Woody go down this volatile road to decode what’s going on. Here is the bottom line; the media companies are engaging you to spend time on their sites to drive ad revenue. What is social media ‘political correctness’? Do we care? All these and more in this episode! Ferrett is an author and avid fetlebrity. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/337---ferrett-on-socializin.html

Say what? Ok so Woody and Rory get into a conversation and we agreed to talk about the mind fuck. Well, we tried to talk about the mind fuck… and everything else around it. Think about it, is an intense orgasm similar to a drugged mind trip? Sure it is! A full body orgasm is powered be brain drugs we produce naturally. That’s why the experiences are similar. The conversation went off the rails several times as we try to shine a light on the all mighty, mind fuck! https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/336-a-tangential-journey.html

Here at the KinkyCast, we get a lot of mail from listeners asking advice about play safety, relationships, and wanting to know more about the guests on the show. This week we ask two of the guests to fill in some details asked by listener mail. We start with Alicia Love - BloodIsLove2Me on Fet. Alicia is quite the exhibitionist and enjoys putting on a show with blood as the feature. We talk about safety and answer some direct questions. In the second half we visit with Nookie of NookieNotes and DatingKinky.com. Listeners wanted to know more about how to dive into the dating world, while looking for a kinky potential date. Many of us have stumbled across an attractive person and when we said we were kinky, the vanilla’s freak out! Nookie a long time friend of the cast gives details on how to get into the community, and find a kinky date in your area. Keep the questions coming! We use your input to find guests for the show to answer your deepest inquiry. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/335---dear-woody---listener.html

This week we take a wild ride on the basic emotions. This week's guest, a life lone educator, with an emphasis on social interaction. As M-20 would say… "I am an Alpha Female. I know what I want, I know what to do and I'm very good at it. Address me with my formal name, Mistress. I am a passionate, loving, caring, and nurturing mistress. During the scene, I am firm and strict. I am interested in local straight men as playmates as well as CD/TV. I would like to have service slaves. I am not looking for a man who wants to learn how to be submissive.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/334---mistress-m-20-on-the.html

This week's guest, Risley Addix or Daniel as we know him, has been doing classes about fetishes specializing in feet, shoes, boots, armpit and leather; submission and female dominance. He started as a submissive fetishist but now would consider himself as a fetishist-switch, who can find his completely inner self as a dog or a horse. Interested in personal relationships, and deepening his knowledge about the historical, psychological, evolutionary and anthropological-religious background of fetishes and BDSM. Since he is extremely instinctive and always hunting, I had to change my orientation to Primal predator. The beast needs tamers and he is constantly seeking. For info about HunCon, go to the show page. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/333---risley-addix---hungar.html

Sweat the small stuff? We’ve always been told to sweat the big stuff. Any type of interpersonal relationship is more like cracking a safe than blowing up a bridge. The small stuff is the things that bring a smile to your significant other, and give them the feeling that you really care. Our guest this week, like all kittens, Uni_Kitty likes to watch - and she is a keen observer of human interactions — kinky, vanilla, etc — all in an attempt to develop a relationship philosophy that jives harmoniously with human nature. She is a polyamorist and a kinkster who lives, works and plays with her poly group. Her life as a poly and kinky kitten can be ridiculous, and she loves to share stories of her exploits! Her full musings can be found on the show page. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/332---uni_kitty---sweat-the.html

(Show link is at the bottom of the text) Today’s trio has been on the gay leather scene from practically it’s beginning. What was being gay in the sixties like? Guy Baldwin tells it like it was being 18 and kicked out of his home for being a homosexual. Guy tells how the WW2 veteran community took him in and taught him what a new family could be. Hardy Haberman in Dallas tells of bars that would warn gay patrons that the vice squad was about to raid and men had to find a female dance partner or risk going to jail. Race Bannon tells of Chicago and the famous gay bars that formed the basis of gay community. Race is an activist in San Francisco now and advises the city council on gay rights. Join us for a two hour tour of how human rights were violated and gay rights didn’t even exist. Three legends of the gay community in the United States tell it like it was, then and now. These are recordings from years back and some on the past timely events were edited out. The story that is told is so important that no matter if you are gay or straight, it’s worth a listen to see how we should not allow people to take away our rights. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/331---guy-baldwin---hardy.html

Today we have two red hot sirens. Sybil Holiday and Selina Minx. Thirty years apart and so together. This intimate conversation between professional dominants was magic as they took over the conversation telling stories of the trade. With Sybil’s 50 years in professional BDSM, she has seen it all. She is very close to workers in San Francisco and current on how the kinkster wants BDSM delivered to them today. Selina Minx is an accomplished Pro in the Los Angeles area and trying to deal with a very personal business that has stopped due to the Coronavirus She and Sybil talk about how to make a living in these tumultuous times. Sit back and see how Woody was a voyeur to this conversation. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/330---sybil-holiday--selina.html

This week we caught a missed connection. What? A month ago, we invited Reiver Scott to join our European social club recording to have a look out the window all around Europe. Reiver is in Scotland and they think very differently than the English. Reiver couldn’t make the show due to a family emergency. All is well now so we visited her to see what's going with this busy author in Scotland. At the beginning of her career, she was a contributor of short stories with a kink, to other anthologies, now she has her first book our with her name on it, Corinthian and Other Stories. The book starts off with six “Shameful Short Stories” that builds up to 16 chapters of “Corinthian”. Join us for a ride to Scottland’s largest city for a visit with Reiver Scott! https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/329---reiver-scott---author.html

Have you ever wondered if you were the only one that ____________? Fill in the blank with your very own personal affliction that falls into the area called mental health. How do I know what would go in the blank? Check out our two shows this week and our guests will guide along a path of help groups and observations of what is going on in the minds of other Kinksters. Some that come to mind are, PTSD, dyslexia, ADHD, anxiety, depression, panic, phobias, OCD, bipolar, dysthymia, eating disorders and many more. Some Kinksters realized some of these disorders after an intense play session. We have seen PTSD after a consent violation. In episode #328 AlphaKat says "More Than Just A Fantasy (MTJAF) is a nationwide movement aimed at raising awareness of mental illnesses and associated stigmas, and eradicating barriers to mental health within the Leather and BDSM Communities. MTJAF provides intensives, community building opportunities, consultations, monthly discussion groups, and resources through trigger sensitive lenses.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/327-328---mental-health.html

Have you ever wondered if you were the only one that ____________? Fill in the blank with your very own personal affliction that falls into the area called mental health. How do I know what would go in the blank? Check out our two shows this week and our guests will guide along a path of help groups and observations of what is going on in the minds of other Kinksters. Some that come to mind are, PTSD, dyslexia, ADHD, anxiety, depression, panic, phobias, OCD, bipolar, dysthymia, eating disorders and many more. Some Kinksters realized some of these disorders after an intense play session. We have seen PTSD after a consent violation. In episode #327 “Silkys_kitten is a 40-something non-binary slave collared to Mama_silky. They find relief in kink from the responsibilities of their vanilla career as a mental health clinician. They became involved in kink a few years ago, in middle age. They’re into impact play, fire cupping, needle play, erotic hypnosis, and enthusiastically discovering more kinks and types of play.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/327-328---mental-health.html

Rachel Kramer Bussel, “arguably one of the most influential names in erotica” (Bellesa.com) has edited a new anthology released on March 10, 2020, through Cleis Press: BEST BONDAGE EROTICA OF THE YEAR, VOLUME 1. Rachel holds a BA in women's studies and political science from UC Berkeley and teaches erotica writing workshops around the country. She writes widely about feminism and sex and she has contributed articles to Time, Dame, and many others. Imagine… A cameraman puts a TV anchor on display in a whole new way… Two NASA officials wage an interstellar battle between protocol and desire, and one is taken captive… A gender-bending bounty hunter keeps his bounty hostage for more than just the monetary reward… Two warring neighbors discover that bondage can be a powerful negotiating tool… “Merlin” and the “Lady of the Lake” invoke the magic of the woods to fuel their fiery passions… Best Bondage Erotica of the Year is back with erotica maven and award-winning editor Rachel Kramer Bussel compiling the most scintillating bondage stories into this one amazing collection. With a wide variety of different pairings, genders, and genres, these stories are all united in their deep desire for the mind-bending thrills of this o-so-delectable act. Whether you are exploring your kinky side, are looking for inspiration in the bedroom, or are simply interested in a sexy read, this collection is poised to please and titillate readers of any experience level who are keen to explore the depths of their own passions and penchants for the perverse. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/326---rachel-kramer-bussel-.html

This week we moved our focus to what’s happening in the USA. From California, to Texas, to Denver, to Chicago, to Detroit, to Kentucky, and back home to Tennessee, we spoke with ministers on the front lines and those affected by Covid19. Are we stir crazy yet? Some of us are getting a bit shack wacky, while others are working double shifts. Hospitals and going bankrupt, first responders are getting sick and now the administration is opening up the country. Hear some new ideas about what can happen in the economy and how new players to get scans can get their kink on. Poly families are separated and we are not sure when we can play as couples, let alone party in groups, like we used to. Adjusting our expectations to the new normal. Does consent now mean “May I come in the room?” Let alone asking for a hug or more. This episode gets real when we talk to nurses on the front line and watching bodies pile up. There are tearful moments and there are true connections between touch-deprived souls they just need to think beyond their front door. Join us for the next hour to hear how a group we like us can get onto the next level in life. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/325---usa-edition---kinkyca.html

Recorded as the Coronavirus was just getting major coverage in the USA. Our guest, Travis Wilson has seen most all of the kinky lifestyle. Travis had a long professional career as an attorney. Beginning in 1972, Travis has been in the Leather/BDSM lifestyle. He was one of the founders of Houston’s PEP, and was Chairman of that organization for many years. He was a founder of the Houston S&M Ball, and was Chairman or Co-Chair of that BDSM/Leather event for the first eight Balls, helping to make it an internationally known and respected Fetish event. Travis has been a presenter at Leather/BDSM events for many years, presenting at such events (many of them multiple times) as Washington D.C.’s Black Rose, Beat me in St. Louis, Oklahoma’s Tribal Fire, Oklahoma’s Leather and Lace, Chicago’s Sinsations in Leather and Kinky Kollege, and many more, on the show page. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/324---travis-wilson---long.html

The KinkyCast Social Club takes a look around Europe. We have panelists in England, Switzerland, Italy and Hungry. We are learning that people are feeling social shut-in as the norm across the world. What surprised us was the different ways the governments are stepping up, or not to take care of their citizenry. We are seeing civil rights are being trampled in the name of a national emergency. Are we going a bit stir crazy? Shackwacky? We hear from a newbie that was just starting her kinky journey when we all got locked down. Join us for the nest hour and hear a European view on coping in a time of social disruption. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/323---european-edition--.html

You have heard about Rainbow Kitten before. She was the top listened show on the KinkyCast back in early 2019, Episode #260. Then in late 2019, we had Rainbow Kitten’s hubby and philosopher, Unicorn Husbandry, Episode #302. Today we have them together, talking about being slutty, poly and raising a family in the great midwest of the United States. We do a deep dive into the lives of two very busy people with jobs and homeschooling. This show was recorded before the Coronavirus was a pandemic and social distancing was not required, please give it a pass in the different world it was in back then. They were part of our “Being Social in a Time of Social Distancing” panel where we heard from 10 friends around the world. To hear an update on the couple listen to last week’s show #321 and hear what has changed. This page was removed last year do to a community outing. You can find out what happened in the 2020 Year End Show. Rainbow Kitten and Unicorn Husbandry live in Nebraska. Check out their story here.

How’s your social life? Hmmm, me too. After we checked in with our social panel from around the world and got an idea of what they saw out their windows, we asked them about their social life. It seems that many of us have the same problems being shut-ins. If you are in perfect health you have a bit more freedom, if you and your playmate accept the risk. For anyone that is a bit health compromised, its lock ‘em up. How do we cope with boredom and binge-watching? Try to mix it up online, video chat with your squeeze, write a fascinating post on social media or write a love letter. So many possibilities, so much time. We gathered 10 of our friends from around the world to explore the similarities and differences in our lives. We learned just by listening to one another that we are not the only ones that feel this way. Hearing about friends helping strangers gives you the feeling that all will be right in this world, eventually. Being kinky and homebound is not a bad thing. You just need to separate yourself from the kids and get your kink on… all by yourself, or with a close friend that you are sequestered with. Push the limits, after all, you have nothing else to do. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/321---being-social-in-a.html

Things get serious as Woody talks to LA’s Amy Taylor. As changing times with the Coronavirus, change the face of sex work from casual dungeon play, to club dancers, and the girl on the corner. Amy is a sex worker, pilot, model, and an overachiever. She has been on the cover of Playboy, FHM and Maxim, inside Sports Illustrated, GQ and Esquire, written for Consumer Health Digest, and is thrilled to get to talk to the KinkyCast family. She loves her friends, her family, and her dog. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/320---amy-taylor---sex-work.html

This is happening now! Listen to Dr. Dan a real Infectious Disease doctor in Atlanta. Woody and Doc have a 20 minute discussion of what’s happening today with the Coronavirus. Dr. Dan preparedness document is posted below this week’s shows and on the show page. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/special-edition---dr-dan-on.html

This week Woody takes a walk into the amateur porn world. We speak with J. of Desperate Amateurs, a porn site with a difference, reality! J. got tired of watching adult videos that lacked sensuality. He says, “I like to think that I treat the ladies with respect and encourage them to really enjoy themselves. I think all women are beautiful and are very protective of my girls.” This site has been around in one form or another since 2005 and had gone through an array of technology challenges. Now high def video rules the internet and Desperate Amateurs has been leading the pack. This subscription site gives you a preview of the ‘girl next door’ and they tell why they want to be on ‘film’. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/319---desperate-amateurs--.html

This week Woody hops on the rollercoaster named SelinaMinx! Take a half hour wild ride and see where this LA ProDomme can take us. Here is what she has to say… "I've been in the BDSM lifestyle for as long as it's been legal. I definitely feel like I was born kinky. After a long time only able to explore BDSM through literature I finally turned 18 and gained access to the leather scene in Los Angeles. I plunged headlong into the lifestyle in the mid 90s, and had a helluva ride before deciding to ‘go pro' in 2002. Since then I have amassed a few accomplishments: ‘The Wickedest Witch in the West’ - Penthouse Magazine Nov. 2014. Featured on HBO, Penthouse magazine, E! Entertainment television, New Witch Magazine, G4 awards and Reason Magazine. Sex educator for over 17 years, teaching at various colleges and conferences on the subjects of negotiation, human sexuality, evolutionary biology and tantra.” Selina has been a professional Dominatrix for 15 years and 22 years experience in “the BDSM lifestyle.” Witch by blood, and bitch by choice. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/318---selina-minx---edging.html

This week Woody hops on the rollercoaster named SelinaMinx! Take a half hour wild ride and see where this LA ProDomme can take us. Here is what she has to say… "I've been in the BDSM lifestyle for as long as it's been legal. I definitely feel like I was born kinky. After a long time only able to explore BDSM through literature I finally turned 18 and gained access to the leather scene in Los Angeles. I plunged headlong into the lifestyle in the mid 90s, and had a helluva ride before deciding to ‘go pro' in 2002. Since then I have amassed a few accomplishments: ‘The Wickedest Witch in the West’ - Penthouse Magazine Nov. 2014. Featured on HBO, Penthouse magazine, E! Entertainment television, New Witch Magazine, G4 awards and Reason Magazine. Sex educator for over 17 years, teaching at various colleges and conferences on the subjects of negotiation, human sexuality, evolutionary biology and tantra.” Selina has been a professional Dominatrix for 15 years and 22 years experience in “the BDSM lifestyle.” Witch by blood, and bitch by choice. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/318---selina-minx---edging.html

What is a modern-day witch? We found this lovely witch on the west coast of Canada and talked about her bewitching ways…"My witching, my comedy, and speaking, my dancing, my very presence here are basically all about using my voice, which has been suppressed (or attempted anyway) for much of my life. They all eventually tie into each other.” Torch has been a stripper, married an evangelist, performed on the comedy stage and runs a successful business where she gives others a voice. The alluring magic she casts is sexual, in a very teasing way. One can’t look away from this striking 51-year-old spell caster. Again rediscovering herself a couple of years ago, she has embraced kink and what it has to offer her and the people around her. In this show, we play a fun clip from her Fetlife page that is a public service announcement for sluts. She says “I’m into my rediscovering my spiritual life and sex life as well as my dancing.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/317---torch-the-witchwhat.html

Frolicon is the unique juxtaposition of the geek and kink worlds celebrated in glorious fashion in the heart of downtown Atlanta. Each Spring we celebrate our unique sense of fun and frivolity with 2000 of our closest friends. What’s your poison? We’ve got it all. Kink. Gaming. Burlesque. Music. Costuming. Parties. Lots and lots of parties. This year Danarama will take the main stage Dan has more than two decades of experience a Dominant in the Bondage and S&M lifestyle and 18 years as a professional speaker and teacher on bondage and alternative sexuality skills. In addition to presenting his own diverse range of live workshops at conferences around the world, he is co-founder of the Two Knotty Boys rope bondage instruction duo (see our 12-year video), a co-author of two best-selling rope bondage books and creator/co-creator of numerous free bondage tutorials on video. (For much more, go to the KinkyCast.com show page...) https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/316---frolicon-april-30-to.html

Our good friend of the cast, Unicorn Husbandry put me in touch with this week’s guest, for that, I’m eternally grateful. I spoke with WyMoBuckaroo on the phone for, well a couple of hours, because I found him so interesting. I felt he was a cross between Will Rogers and Mark Twain. As our guest aged he was like a magnet for life’s philosophy. He is a prolific writer and just perusing his Fetlife archive will entertain for hours. In his own words, here is what Buckaroo thinks… Woody If brains were leather, some folks couldn’t saddle a June bug! Dumber ‘n fried popsicles! Just yer average, curmudgeonly, cowboy. Lover of ropes, spurs, quirts, piggin' strings, hogties, mind fuckery, and general kinky shit. I'm as kinky as a Dollar Store garden hose! I value character above all things. Walking the talk. Keeping my word. Being real. Being true. Being honest in word and deed. Being authentic. Always looking to overcome. Never giving up. Learning humility, transparency, vulnerability. What good is a 10-gallon hat on a 5-gallon head? I don't value folks for what I see, but for who they are, and for who I am together with them. What and who I find beautiful or sexy is a fluid thing, and most certainly not based on gender, identity, or any other thing. Top hands get there by doin' the hard work...from the ground up. Do you want to run the ranch? Learn to shovel the shit first! Lay aside that ego! To quote an old-timey preacher; "it takes more grace than I can tell to play the second fiddle well..." Want to be served? Learn service? Want to Dominate? Practice submitting. Want to lead? Be a good follower. I'm a Cowboy because, well, I am. Some things you just are, and once you are something, well....you are. I am old. I love fucking. I am a Dominant. I am a Buckaroo. I am a cowboy through and through. I’m an old fucking Cowboy Dominant. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/315---wymobuckaroo---kinky.html

This week we take our listeners to San Francisco to chat with “The Voice”. A prolific writer on Fetlife and other sites, we found a few subjects of interest. Today’s cast starts with ‘Ownership’, a controversial topic that our guest explains. The Voice is a kinky writer and veteran BDSM educator. He teaches on a wide range of subjects including orgasm response training, D/s protocol, kinky role play, rough body play. He is an active writer on Fetlife and has taught at venues like Dark Odyssey, The Citadel, and Portland’s Close In Munch and is a regular at Kink.com. He is a 17 year 24/7 TPE Dominant who is committed to building intimate protocol based relationship and helping new kinky people learn how to develop their Dominance and submission. The Voice brings both fun and strictness to a well honed D/s practice. He is an enthusiastic trainer of world class sluts and evil sadists! https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/314---the-voice-on-ownershi.html

As we celebrate entering our 7th year, we invited two people to join Woody in the celebration. First, you will hear the voice of a cast member that has been with the cast from the first episode. Touchy is our editor. Why edit, you might ask? The cast is made up of non-broadcast-professionals that still care enough to bring you a broadcast quality product. Touchy’s seldom-heard voice talks about some of the challenges of producing a product you can enjoy. Our main guest is an old friend that always has something to say. Nookie of NookieNots joins us for a fun talk about Dating Kinky. DatingKinky.com is built by kinksters for kinksters, poly, queer, trans folk, and anyone not-quite-vanilla—and it’s FREE. We're putting the finishing touches on our first official non-prototype release now, and we're testing with 45,000 kinksters already signed up. Join us for our Grand "Launch Again," and check out our amazing kinky educational library! https://datingkinky.com https://fetlife.com/users/50648 https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/313---6-year-anniversary.html

Lew says… I'm a bondage loving hetero guy who loves - besides bondage - high heels, ballgags, beautiful women, beautiful people, like-minded people, affection, honesty, having fun, creating/inventing, food, traveling, consensually kidnapping girls, occasional 420, reading, anything outdoors, shooting (both pictures and guns), passionate people, Game of Thrones, cooking (I'm pretty good at it too!), playing pool and ping pong and living life to the fullest....when I feel like it..lol. And not necessarily in that order. Lew’s web pages are listed below and link to the LewBari Store for all your rope needs. Check out the beautiful art of rope on his fet page and Lew Tube channel. Follow this link to the KinkyCast show page https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/312---lew-rubens---lew.html

We ran into Master Aaron’s fet page and saw a newspaper clipping, “Club’s bondage show spurs chain reaction”(click here to see the clipping). Ok, you have my interest. What’s going on? It seems Aaron has been staring thing up since 1996 in Southern California and Vaga$. He puts on bondage shows and is very active in the porn business. Master Arron has been doing live bondage & fetish show in the 805 (area code) & Los Angeles and Las Vegas since 1996 and I have been in over 39 Adult videos so he does know his shit about the Adult Industry. A Pro Dom & lifestyler and live of his days training subs/slaves in the art of BDSM & Kink. His dungeon is open for BDSM training sessions. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/311---master-aaron---a-bit.html

For the second show of the new year, we reach way down to New Zealand to find Ray Ray, a short time gang bang queen. Why short term? As you listen to this podcast, Ray Ray is on her way back to the USA. Listen as she lays out the ganging scene in a place where most of us know nothing about New Zealand’s brand of kinkyory. Ray Ray says, “I like the gang bang - woman - empowerment angle. I want the KinkyCast listeners to know what I get from the experience, how to deal with distractions - 8 and more, dicks yelling “suck me” and getting yourself off.” Hear about this logistical clusterfuck and how she gets it done. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/310---ray-ray---new-zealand.html

From Explorations in Being Black and Kinky: I’m Black, male and I’m kinky. Look at that statement, 6 words. Read it again. The words are simple, yet there is a density to that statement that is seldom explored. I’ve spent much of my life disconnected from my Blackness. I’ve been learning, exploring, and coming to self- realizations in the past year and a half that I never knew that I needed. And I’m still on the journey. Some people reading this may have read a post I made nearly a year ago about a poorly named event in my local community. I took a lot of fire for that post, a conglomeration of opinions from friends and associates who were afraid to actually say how they felt about that event’s name. Interestingly, that was before my journey into my Blackness had really begun. I was doing my friends a favor at that time. Why not, I thought. It took me a while to realize something though, the BDSM community is very white. (For more of this writing and part 2, follow the link on the show page, Below.) https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2020-archive/309---novablaq---kinky.html

Sit a bunch of people around a microphone and the conversation can go in any direction. In the past it was everything you could not talk about at the dining room table. This one is different. We dig a bit deeper into what we think, is kink and what makes us kinky. Questions like: When did you first feel you were kinky? How old were you when it occurred? What was the situation? We covered if any of the panel members were sexually violated by a family member. We got into consent, giving it and revoking it. For the next hour, sit back and follow our crew on a journey through kinky discovery. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/308---what-is-kink---year.html

This week’s guest is, Susan Wright, founder of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Each year at this time Susan joins us to revisit the year that was. This year we had some impressive improvements in the number of reported sexual assaults. NCSF is the only group fighting for the rights of the BDSM-leather-fetish communities. NCSF helps people who are discriminated against because of their sexuality — when they’re fired from their jobs or arrested for sexual assault for having kinky sex. NCSF also helps groups and businesses when they’re being persecuted by the media or local authorities. NCSF fought successfully to help convince the American Psychiatric Association that kink is not a mental illness, and NCSF is filing Amicus Briefs in military and civilian appeals court to hold prosecutors to the promise in Lawrence v. Texas that moral judgments can’t be a basis for criminalizing consensual sex. Come find out more about what NCSF does for the leather community! (Links on the show page…below!) https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/307---susan-wright---ncsf.html

Chris and Elisha have celebrated more than a decade together as a polyamorous couple in a power exchange dynamic. They live in a 24/7, negotiated authority transfer dynamic and are the Arizona Master/slave 2018 titleholders. They believe continued growth is important to a successful long-term relationship and to that end are continually pushing their own, and each other’s, boundaries. They are both graduate students looking at various sex positive topics. Chris is looking at perceptions of hierarchy and power exchange in long term polyamorous relationships. He is recently divorced from a 23 year marriage and has two teenage boys. Elisha is looking at the intersection of the perceived benefits of yoga and BDSM participation, for example reduced anxiety and depression, connection to the self, and improved body image. She has been married 19 years. Her husband spent the last few years in Florida by the beach, but recently moved back to be closer. She’ll miss the easy vacation spot, but is happy to have him home. To extend their educational and academic outreach online they created TrulyBeloved.com where they offer adult coloring books, created by local artists, to help fund their conference presentation travel. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/306---chris--elisha---ms.html

I would describe myself as a bubbly, sweet “girl next door” type with a secret kinky taste. The people in my life would never expect me to have such a freaky side because of how innocent I appear to be when I’m out in public. When I’m not working, you can typically find me hanging out with my cat, Ellie, playing volleyball or doing anything spontaneous. I’m always down for a fun adventure whether it’s sexual or not. :) I make a good FWB because I honestly love socializing, and making people smile. Behind closed doors I like the thought of all different types of sex. I enjoy anything from sensual soft kisses, to non-consensual role playing. My profile says I’m a switch but that only applies to women. I absolutely love dominating a beautiful woman and watching her get fucked. Her pleasure ultimately is mine, and I want it to be all about satisfying her desires. I’ve found that I typically enjoy threesomes the most, with some light bondage. Ultimately I am up for exploring all sorts of kinks, and maybe make some friends along the way. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/305---scarletbell---23-and.html

-PhoenixSoul- is relatively new to the world of BDSM, but in the short time she's been on the scene has discovered a deep love of the lifestyle's ability to fuel her growth addiction. A lifelong commitment to understanding her deeper motivations behind her emotions and behaviors has fueled many of PhoenixSoul's writings. In this episode, she chats with Woody about her discovery of poly relationships, the difference between jealousy and envy and her writing group which dove into the "7 Deadly Sins" for October, which led to a series of hypothetical conversations with her mom. Phoenix' approach to BDSM (and life in general) is "look at what hurts, and why" to deepen self-awareness and growth. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/304---phoenix-soul---poly.html

Hello, I am Debs, also known as The Kink Shrink. I am a 54 yr old female submissive who has been around for 37 years. In this time I have been on and off the scene and certainly practiced privately, not so much this year due to cancer, chemo and radiotherapy. I run workshops about all aspects of kink (especially around the more psychological, relationship, communication aspects etc) regularly; nationally and internationally. I run a monthly workshop at LAM (see links) which is recorded every month and have done for the past 5 years. It was supposed to be a one off, and I am grateful for the queue every month still! Feel free to contact me to ask about my availability for workshops, or to see me as a therapist. I am also a mother of 4 amazing daughters and my family, friends and clients know about my kink. I am practicing therapist in the UK and have a private practice in psychotherapy and counseling. I have over 50,000 hours of experience and see individuals, couples, poly, families etc. face to face or on line. A lot of kinksters come to me so they don’t have to their sexuality pathologized. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/303---deb---the-kink-shrink.html

This week we present a person with some very interesting viewpoints. We would call him a ‘Fetlebrity’, a sadist and a philosopher. Read this text below, to start to understand who this remarkable man really is. "Stop limiting the Freedom. At all. Give your partner no sin to commit and they will never fall from grace. Love them more than you love your own pride. Love them more than you love your insecurities. Love them more than you love the sad back-history you tell yourself has influenced all of your relationships. Simply love them. It is Love with an open hand. Let them rest lightly in your love, free to land or free to fly away no fist clenched around them demanding that they conform to your version of love. When you give your heart, give all of it. Do you want to know when you are enough? Actually enough? It is when you have poured out your soul like water, when you have emptied yourself completely when you have given everything so that there is nothing left. No reservations. Nothing held back no secret little insecurity that waits to spring out from the shadows when your partner inadvertently crosses the line. Or more importantly, when they are simply human.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/302---unicorn-husbandry--.html

Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM Community Many organizations within the BDSM community make sincere efforts toward inclusivity, but the success of these efforts is inconsistent, with the community achieving integration with respect to gender identity and sexual orientation yet remaining segregated by race. 398 BDSM practitioners completed surveys asking about racial and ethnic discrimination, fetishization, and inclusivity. People of color were 16 times more likely than non-people of color to feel discriminated against at BDSM events and 17 times more likely to feel fetishized. Qualitative results included troubling stories of overt racism and offensive racial slurs, and examples of microaggressions, feelings of isolation, and feelings of being dismissed. Results suggest that organizations can increase inclusivity by understanding the unique costs faced by people of color with an awareness that these costs might be invisible to White individuals, diversifying positions of authority and leadership, and teaching well-meaning members what types of behaviors could create a hostile environment. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/301---challenge-at-the.html

For our 300th show, we decided to do something different. Nurse Ratched and Woody took off for San Francisco. The City is Woody’s birth place and holds a lot of memories. We were invited to the Citadel for the Pre-Folsom Party, what a great time we had. We spoke with Robert a DM, Raven the owner and her manager. A wonderful time was had by all. We went to the Folsom Street Fair, a fair like nothing you have ever been to. It was a colorful, kinky, loud, GLBT+ meeting of the minds and souls. We kept hearing the San Francisco Gay Chorus, after we returned to home base saw the new documentary called, Gay Chorus Deep South. This movie gives a view to the prejudice Southern States that is still hard to watch. The 300 strong chorus toured the south bring a message on love and unity and yes, many got it, but some will never change. We have included the audio of the movie trailer to give you an idea of what happened. Follow the links to see the trailer and check out the locations where the movie is being shown. It will go into wider distribution next year, it is a must see for anyone that cares for human kind. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/300---kinkycast-goes-to-san.html

Tonight Woody introduces “Call Me Jenny!” A 22 year old person of color in North Carolina. What’s it like to be young, black and female in the some times strange world of kink. Jenny has a bubbly personality and can talk to anyone. What’s it like to get in, fit in and play with people in a new community. Where are all the other people of color? What’s it like when you Mom finds out you are kinky? So many things to talk about. This and more in “Call Me Jenny!” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/299---call-me-jennytonight.html

Today Woody sticks his nose in FindMeInTheSun’s business. She lays it out best… "I have never been your typical California girl, sure I have blonde hair, sometimes, the sun is like my mothership, I am pretty much tan all year round, I used surf slang a lot, but that is about all that makes me your typical Cali girl. After living my life for someone else (which I have no regrets doing) I realized I lost myself. When my son moved in with his dad and left me pretty much an empty nester, I realized I didn’t have an identity away from him, I didn’t even know what I liked to do for fun; everything in my life was centered around my son. So, by chance, I discovered BDSM and then Fetlife and my journey started. The journey of self-discovery through Kink. And I would not change a second of it.” https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/298---find-me-in-the-sun--.html

Todays guest is JustRob or just Rob :) He have been involved in the public community in Jacksonville, FL since 2008. Identifies primarily as a Top and a Leatherman, but on occasion, he inhabits the roles of Sadist, Dominant, Leader, Mentor and Teacher. Leading the committee that runs the local group Alternative Lifestyles Enthusiasts (A.L.E.),. He organizes the weekly Taco Tuesdays event and is especially passionate about and active in their local polyamory group. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/297---just-rob---leather.html

Daemon Danes is an alternative lifestyle enthusiast, knowledge worker, and somewhat of an icon or anti-hero to many in the Fetish community. He is the proud patriarch of a 24/7, M/s poly family known as the "Danes", who share colorfully about their lives online. Often controversial but never boring, Daemon is seen as an unapologetically extreme practitioner and outspoken personality to most. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/296---daemon-danes---fetleb.html

River City girls of Leather is a non-profit patch club based out of Jacksonville, FL. The club is for Leather identified women/girls, transgenders, and those who are curious about and/or enjoy Leather culture and history. It is our goal to increase understanding and encourage camaraderie among Leather identified women/girls within the Leather and alternative lifestyle communities with respect, honor, integrity, and dignity. They also hope to provide support as a sisterhood to local and regional Leather/alternative lifestyle organizations or events through attendance, educational presentations, group volunteering, and/or community service. Although there are other traditional Leather clubs in our community, we saw a need locally for something that is different from any other clubs. We wanted to not only share our love of Leather, Leather history, but also provide an environment for sisterhood, education not only in kink/BDSM, but also in empowerment for women by women who face the same challenges. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/295---river-city-girls-of.html

How does a hot wife in Salt Lake City Utah, find play partners that want to perform in front of hubby? The answer is not nearly enough for Abbey. She is the opposite of what you may think about and a good religious girl. She gets off on teasing very straight gentlemen. Hear how this land-locked horny girl get it, in a very conservative state and her happily married husband gets to watch. What fun! https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/294---abbey-wants-ithow.html

After fleeing the cold and damp of jolly old England at the age of twenty one, Jet spent fifteen years in Chicago living a mostly mundane life until a divorce changed her life. After fourteen years and two marriages without ever achieving an orgasm, she discovered that she was not actually frigid but indeed was multiorgasmic. During the next year she experimented and made a point of acting out every fantasy she and her lovers could imagine. In 2010 when she was fifty, Jet tried dating a little on the mundane dating sites, but had no luck finding anyone suitable. From dabbling her toes in the Kink universe Jet then blossomed, exploring her sexuality even further as she let go all her inhibitions and became a squirter and then a gusher. At the age of seventy Jet continues to expand her horizons and feels she is just now starting to reach her sexual peak, and intends to party hearty until she drops, hopefully with a huge smile on her face. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/293---milady_jet---age-has.html

Sassy has been involved in the Madison, Milwaukee, and Chicago kink scene since her 40th birthday when she stumbled upon Fetlife. She started as a service sub only to realize she hates service loves pain. Sassy can be found at events either being shot with gummy bears, being mind fucked with large bags of ice, or laughing as the meanest tops hit her. Her speciality is finding loop holes in any rules or instructions her tops give her. A huge advocate of responsible bottoming and open communication, she is always happy to share her experience with others in the community. https://www.kinkycast.com/archive/2019-archive/292---sassy---should-i-or.html