Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Julietta Skoog, my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable. We’re talking about perfectionism and pressure on high achieving middle schoolers. Julietta and I discuss high achieving kids and the connection between extracurriculars and academics. We compare overachieving and being an efficient student and how much pressure some middle schoolers are under. Julietta shares about growth mindset and the antidote for perfectionism. We wrap up chatting about our modeling and “living out loud.” Takeaways from the show High achieving middle school students We can’t always help our kids tune out distractions or pressure, but we can help our kids reframe Extracurriculars and academics Being an efficient student versus being an overachieving student The high pressure (and even burn out) on middle schoolers The fear of “what if I never figure it out?” Reconciling parental expectations with school expectations and what their own expectations are for themselves Studying for a test versus studying to learn & retain knowledge Things can still be hard and uncomfortable even when we’re using our Positive Discipline parenting tools and doing it “right” - sometimes we just have to sit with the discomfort and the challenge The importance of a growth mindset “The antidote for perfectionism is I love you no matter what” When kids stop trying because of pressure from perfectionism Modeling and “living out loud” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Struggling to connect with your teen? This episode dives deep into the dynamics of parent-teen relationships, exploring how our beliefs and reactions shape the way our kids see us. Learn how to shift from control to connection, create a space of openness, and build trust so your teen feels seen, heard, and understood. If you’ve ever wondered how to maintain influence without pushing your child away, this conversation is for you. Tune in to discover practical strategies for fostering a relationship where your teen feels safe to share—and you can truly support their journey. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-554-conflict-to-connection-parenting-teens-with-empathy-amp-understanding/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jenn Ireland, and we’re talking about the mental health in youth sports, particularly for teen girls. Jenn shares what youth sports culture looks like today and we discuss teens tying their self-worth to athletic performance. Jenn talks about some of the skills she mentors young female athletes about, like countering your inner-critic voice with your inner-coach. We get into the similarities between parent coaching and coaching young athletes, and we wrap up touching on when to (gently) push your adolescent and effective coaching. Takeaways from the show: The focus on winning & success in youth sports culture today Being disappointed with a loss versus associating losses with your self-worth Self-worth can’t be tied to performance Being good at a sport takes many life-skills in addition to the necessary athletic skills How to help kids who are stuck in their head or beating themselves up about performance Teens need mentors aside from parents & coaches Countering your inner-critic with your inner-coach Similarities between parent coaching and coaching young athletes - we’re all working on the same skills Parents encouraging/pushing their children into elite sports versus kids who are intrinsically motivated How do you know when to push your athlete? When do you hand the decision to play to your adolescent? Telling a teen you love them unconditionally versus making sure they know and believe that you love them unconditionally Building relationships Effective coaching & being connected to your coaches For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting teens is a wild ride, and in this episode, we’re diving into how we can stay connected, even when it feels like they’re slipping away. I’ll be sharing insights from the community, including a real question from a parent struggling with their teen’s choices and independence. We’ll explore how to reframe challenges, strengthen communication, and shift our own mindset to create deeper, more meaningful relationships. You can’t control your teen, but you can control how you show up—and that changes everything. Join me for a conversation full of insight, validation, and practical tools to support you on this journey! For more show notes and information about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-552-influence-through-connection-while-dealing-with-our-teens-partners-family/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Clarissa Moll, and she’s here today to talk about helping teens cope with grief. Clarissa shares her story and what led her to griefwork. We discuss how teens grieve and what your child(ren) want and need to know during loss. Clarissa offers us tips around relationship building and starting tough conversations with our adolescents. We end our conversation talking about spirituality in grief. Takeaways from the show Teens don’t have a lot of resources around grief Adolescents don’t grieve like children or adults, and everyone grieves differently Asking your child what it’s like to be a grieving teenager Needing our teen’s guidance into what they need from us When, what, and how much to share with your child Being the gatekeeper for your family The importance of one trusted adult and building a community of support Wanting to say the “right thing” while not layering on additional sadness “Be a good question asker, not a good advice giver” Spirituality in grief For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As parents, we often feel stuck when communicating with our teenagers, convinced they're being manipulative or just trying to get their way. This podcast challenges that mindset by exploring how kids—at any age—are driven by a deep need for belonging and significance. It encourages us to shift from commands to curiosity, creating an environment where our kids feel safe, heard, and empowered. By understanding their "private logic" and using questions instead of demands, we foster real connection. If you're ready to transform your parenting approach, this episode is a must-listen! Find more show notes and info about sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-183-your-kids-are-not-manipulating-you/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Ron Kerbs, and he’s here to talk about online gaming safety tips & gaming toxicity for our teens. We get into the biggest threats to kids who play online multiplayer games and why gaming is so toxic. Ron shares advice for parents and some positives about gaming. We finish by talking about Ron’s company, Kidas, which monitors kids’ gaming and offers parents concrete resources and tips for how to talk to your child about what happened. Takeaways from the show What are the threats to kids who play online, multiplayer games? Spoiler: privacy issues & sharing personal information The big feelings & frustrations that come with gaming Why is online multiplayer gaming so toxic? Are there “safe” games for kids? How do parents know? Getting interested & involved in your adolescent’s games What’s “too much” gaming? Around 60% of kids under 18 who play video games will be bullied, harassed or scammed Benefits of gaming include making friends, getting scholarships, and even making a living Kids offers monitoring AND help with how to communicate and have those tough conversations with your child after an incident Collaborating with other parents in your child’s friend group to get on the same page about gaming For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting a struggling teen is an incredibly tough journey, and if you’ve ever felt alone in it, this episode is for you. A fellow parent bravely shares their experience of admitting their 13-year-old into residential mental health care—how they got there, the doubts, and the hope. We’re diving into when to seek help, how to find it, and how to support our kids while also taking care of ourselves. If you’re navigating the impossible, know that you’re not alone. Tune in for insight, encouragement, and a reminder that healing—for both you and your teen—is possible. Find more show notes and resources about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-549-when-our-teens-need-more-support-than-what-we-can-give/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Paul Sunseri. We’re talking about gentle parenting and oppositional teens. We get into how to get your teen on board with the limits & expectations you’ve set. Dr. Sunseri and I do several role plays as an oppositional teen & father to share specific strategies & language. We discuss threatening and physically aggressive or self-harming behaviors and finish on the importance of modeling emotional regulation. Takeaways from the show Dr. Sunseri’s new book - Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make it Work with Oppositional Kids What is intensive family-focused therapy? Defining gentle parenting Gentle parenting “harder kids” Staying firm without being punitive or shaming What is oppositional defiance disorder? Your kids will be angry with you at times - part of parenting is telling your children “no” Getting your resistant teen on board with limits & expectations Handling threatening and physically aggressive behavior or self-harming behaviors What to do/say in the moment when your teen is raging Modeling emotional regulation - if you’re modeling explosiveness, they learn to be explosive Creating a positive, self-sustaining feedback loop with your teen What should parents look for when finding a great therapist for their adolescent For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Takeaways from the show The wheel of awareness: what it is and how it helps How awareness impacts your body and health How being present impacts the speed of the aging process Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it Cultivating awareness Role modeling resilience How awareness feeds connection vs control Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness Flipping our lid, learning from our body’s signals and how awareness can help Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress The 3 O’s what they mean For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting through the teen years is a wild ride—full of highs, lows, and everything in between. We get tangled up in our kids' struggles, feeling responsible for fixing things, worried about their future, and desperate to help. But what if the real work is about stepping back, seeing them fully, and trusting their journey? In this episode, we explore the power of encouragement—not as empty praise, but as a way to build resilience, connection, and confidence. If you're deep in the muck with your teen, this is for you. Take a breath and listen in. For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/547-energetic-encouragement-for-emotional-teens-and-tweens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Vibha Arora, and we’re discussing being empty nesters. Vibha and I both share stories and feelings from our own kids launching and discuss how our relationship with our partners change. We get into how to rediscover yourself as someone besides Mom or Dad. Vibha and I finish our conversation, chatting about checking-in with our recently launched baby adults and the importance of tending to ourselves. Takeaways from the show The phrase “empty nest” versus “freedom nest” Our adult children leaving is our goal There’s a wide range of feelings and emotions that come when our children leave the house, and those are all okay Our relationship with our partners changing during this phase of life Relaunching yourself as an empty nester & identity shifts Letting go of control and trusting our newly-launched adults When we jump in and fix things, we rob them of experiences and learning We have to be okay with it when our kids don’t take our suggestions or advice Clarifying expectations and making a plan about checking-in with each other 5 Minute Journal Prompt: “I am…” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s podcast is a must-listen for parents navigating the challenges of raising teens in the digital age! I dive into a relatable post from our Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group about a mom’s discovery of her 12-year-old’s creative use of tech to bypass school filters. We discuss the struggles of setting screen boundaries, the importance of co-creating agreements, and how to handle these conversations with curiosity and connection rather than confrontation. If you’re dealing with tech-related parenting hurdles, this episode is packed with insights and actionable tips. Don’t miss it! For more show notes and information about our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-545-secret-browsers-hiding-tiktok-middle-school-screen-challenges/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Julietta Skoog, my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable. We’re talking about middle school friendships today. We discuss established elementary school friendships changing in middle school. Julietta shares a recent story about her own middle schooler and when it’s appropriate for parents to get involved in friendship drama. We talk about the difference between belonging & fitting in, coaching your kid(s) through discomfort, and how important it is to acknowledge and validate how hard our middle schoolers are working. We end by getting into how we can encourage new friendships & nurture good friendships. Takeaways from the show Middle school is messy! Your sweet, innocent child being exposed to new things Middle school is a great, lower-stakes time to make mistakes Reflecting on your own middle school experiences & memories to find compassion for your adolescent Kids need at least one or two good friends they can count on Coaching our kids through discomfort When is the time for parents to get involved in middle school drama? Listen, acknowledge, validate, believe, and encourage your middle schooler Middle schoolers need to practice decision making before high school Encouraging new friendships and nurturing good friendships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This show is a replay, and I think you will love it! I've been reflecting on surrender in parenting and life. Inspired by my morning routines, coaching, and my daughter's journey to thriving independence, I've learned that surrender isn't defeat but trust—letting go of control and embracing what is. Parenting my teens, navigating challenges like mental health struggles and my husband's cancer, taught me to release attachments to outcomes, timelines, and "why" questions. Instead, I focus on being present, curious, and supportive. I've found peace in trusting my kids' paths, holding space for them to grow authentically. This surrender brings freedom and deeper connection in parenting and beyond. Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-380-art-surrender-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Melissa Esposito, and we’re talking about the power of nature & the power of building a parent community. We discuss expanding the relationships that our adolescents have and the benefits of other adults in your children’s lives. Melissa shares about how and where to find a parent and family community so our youth have other adults in their life to support them. We talk about when you just don’t understand your kid. We wrap up this episode with some suggestions for places & opportunities to volunteer & connect with youth. Melissa Esposito is cofounder and lead mentor of Feather and Frond forest school, an outdoor wilderness school in Bellingham, WA. Takeaways: BUILD a village for your kid and BE the village for other kids in your community What is wilderness school? The overlap between toddler & adolescent years The auntie revolution We’re not meant to parent alone There’s capacity for community everywhere Showing up for kids that aren’t yours There are many opportunities and places are available to volunteer & connect with children in your community We’ve got to be in it for all of us and not just ourselves The connection between nature & community For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo show addresses a parent’s question about engaging a teen who resists meaningful conversations. The parent felt stuck, balancing curiosity and respect with their teen’s avoidance, and wondered how to foster responsibility without resorting to punitive measures. I emphasized the importance of understanding what’s holding teens back, shifting from “won’t” to “can’t,” and focusing on respectful, patient communication. Teens often need space to process emotions and build trust. I encouraged reframing expectations, staying kind and firm, and prioritizing long-term connection. Parenting teens is messy but rewarding, and the key lies in intentionality, patience, and self-awareness. You’re not alone in this journey! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-542-communicating-beyond-i-dont-know-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Karen Collins, and we’re talking about creating rituals, especially at the new year. We discuss what rituals are and how to use the near year’s energy as a reset. Karen shares some practices from a recent retreat, including an embodiment exercise, then shares her own new year’s ritual. We talk about setting intention for the year with anchoring words and wrap up on sustaining the work of ritual in chaotic, day-to-day life. Takeaways from the show What are rituals? What’s the difference between a ritual versus something you just do sometimes? Using the new year as a reset The human experience versus the spiritual experience Setting intention with anchor words Falling off is part of the practice Rejuvenation days Keeping your non-negotiables simple Make 2025 a year of self compassion For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy New Year! I’m embracing the energy of being a deliberate creator, focusing on growth and learning. A listener shared a challenge about their 13-year-old son lying about screen time. While the lie was minor, the parents were troubled by how easily it was told. I encouraged them to approach this with curiosity and love, not punishment. Share disappointment without shaming, revisit agreements, and emphasize that mistakes are opportunities to learn. Trust and honesty grow through connection and communication, not fear or control. Parenting is messy, but every challenge is a chance to grow together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is our early childhood lead, Julietta Skoog, and we’re wrapping up the year talking about screentime & tech. Julietta shares the screen agreements she’s created with her children. We discuss how to help our teens develop a sense of self-awareness around their screen use & why they need opportunities to practice. We talk about how to know when screentime is getting problematic & building trust with your adolescent around screen usage. See more show notes, resources and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/539-talking-about-screens-again-with-julietta-skoog/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I dig into a parent's struggle with their 16-year-old son's "know-it-all" behavior, which disrupts communication and creates tension. I encourage the parent to reframe their challenge, offer tools and strategies for generating more compassion, curiosity, and emotional honesty and remind them that building connection, using humor, and fostering mutual respect can improve the relationship while navigating this challenging developmental phase. Listen in and let me know what you think! Find more show notes and more about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ eps-538-decoding-the-know-it-all-teen-connection-compassion-curiosity/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Lori Baudino and we’re talking about youth mental health. We chat about teaming up with your child - it’s you & your teen against a challenge, not each other. Dr. Baudino shares ways to find predictability in the bumpy teen years and her “Person, Place, Plan” strategy. We talk about toddler/teen parallels and share some ways to connect with your adolescent. Takeaways from the show The interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit Observing how your adolescent moves through the world and knowing their coping mechanisms & sensory profile DANCE = differentiate, attach, narrate, consciousness, empathic engagement Thoughtfully bringing lightness to your relationship “Person, Place, & Plan” strategy Your teen wants to be in relationship with you When coping skills are (or seem) destructive Teen years are messy for all families - it’s the terrain Introducing some gray to an adolescent stuck in a black & white mindset Dr. Baudino’s new book: Moving Moments in Childhood For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this solo episode, I talk about how this season, whether it’s the holidays, parenting, or midlife, comes with challenges. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care: schedule health check-ups, move your body, and eat nourishing food. Reflect on habits—are they helping or harming? Tune into your body, notice sensations, and create grounding rituals. Embrace community, therapy, or coaching for support. Life ebbs and flows, but intentional care allows you to navigate challenges better. Your well-being matters—for you and those you love. Show up fully; you’re worth it. Find full show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-536-self-care-tips-for-the-season-youre-in/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Julietta Skoog and Dr. Shefali, and we’re talking about presence and connection during the holiday season. My focus is on identifying the feelings & emotions that come up during the holidays, and I share several breathing & grounding exercises. Julietta shares how she stays connected to & involves her children during the holidays, modeling life skills, & tips around play and pre-teaching. Dr. Shefali speaks on why she doesn’t add the traditional “holiday season” to her plate and why to choose simplicity & minimalism. Takeaways from the show Presence and connection with ourselves, our kids, and other relationships this holiday season Identifying the feelings, emotions, & physical sensations that come up for you during the holidays Identifying the qualities you want during the holidays E (events & experiences) + R (responses & reactions) = O (affect the outcome) Reframing the intensity of the season as opportunities to model & connect - “I have to” versus “we get to” 3 P’s of the holiday season = play, practice, & pre-teaching Leaning on routines during the holidays The good & bad of holiday traditions and creating new traditions “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou Holidays are optional; you have choices around what you do “It’s about the moment, not about the holiday” Choosing simplicity, calmness, & mindfulness over traditions & extras For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I address a common frustration among parents: feeling disconnected from teens who seem unwilling to engage. I guide listeners to reframe their approach, shifting from “Why won’t my teen connect?” to “What’s blocking our connection?” By owning our actions, reflecting on how we show up, and dismantling barriers, we open new possibilities for nurturing relationships. I suggest tools like vulnerability, authentic apologies, and building proximity to our teens’ lives. Letting go of hurt and resentment, while embracing personal growth, fosters patience and trust. Connection takes time, but showing up consistently with curiosity and compassion makes a difference. For more show notes and to get more info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-534-creating-special-time-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cathy Adams. We’re talking about engaging in those hard, honest conversations with our teen girls. Cathy and I dig into the messiness of the teen years. We discuss the importance of focusing on resiliency, not happiness, what is happening to Gen Z girls today, and why we need to appreciate the girls we have. Guest Description Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW, co-hosts the long-running Zen Parenting Radio podcast and founded the Zen Parenting Conference in Chicago. She is the author of Zen Parenting and Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn (both Nautilus Award and International Book Award winners) and her upcoming 2025 release, Restoring Our Girls. Cathy is a clinical social worker, certified parent coach, former elementary school educator, and yoga teacher. She was a blogger for The Huffington Post and a former columnist for Chicago Parent Magazine. She previously worked as a Child and Family Therapist and Clinical Educator at Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago and now teaches in the Sociology and Criminology Department at Dominican University. She lives outside Chicago with her husband, Todd, and their three daughters. Takeaways from the show Cathy’s new book “Restoring Our Girls” Adolescent girls’ mental health Expectations & contradictions young women face The messiness of the teen years doesn’t make them bad years Your teenage experience is NOT the experience that teens today are having Engaging in conversations instead of lecturing The importance of teaching critical thinking Why we need adolescent girls to take risks The meaning and joy of mother & daughter relationships Adolescents developing their unique inner dialogue For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this week’s pod, I reflected on the inspiring work of Dr. Baxley and Dani Ferrigno. Their mission aligns with Sproutable’s core values: fostering dignity, respect, and compassion while equipping parents with tools grounded in Positive Discipline. I also addressed a parent’s concern about their discouraged teen grappling with school and existential doubts about capitalism. Teens often feel overwhelmed by systemic flaws, but this can be an opportunity to connect and explore solutions together. I encouraged parents to validate their kids’ feelings, stay curious, and model engagement with societal challenges while fostering empowerment. Ultimately, parenting is messy, and there are no perfect answers. But by staying compassionate, curious, and open, we can guide our kids through challenges and learn from their fresh perspectives. You’ve got this! Let’s keep showing up for our teens and ourselves. Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-532-moving-through-existential-crisis-and-adolescence/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Dr. Traci Baxley and Dani Ferrigno. We’re talking about Blue Mom+ Group, their response to the recent elections. Dr. Baxley and Dani give suggestions about small, tangible actions people can take. We discuss talking to our teenagers about the election results, leaning into local & personal causes, and staying hopeful. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this solo episode, I dive into the challenges of supporting teens as they navigate friendships, especially when setting boundaries with friends who aren’t treating them well. A parent shared their struggle with wanting to help but being perceived as distrusting, sparking today’s discussion. I explore reframing the question to focus on how parents can show up supportively and empower their teens without overstepping. Key strategies include active listening, emotional honesty, affirming strengths, and trusting teens to learn through their experiences. It’s about fostering connection and faith in their growth while managing our own discomfort with their struggles. You’ve got this! For more detailed show notes and info about our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ eps-530-empowering-our-teenagers-with-friendship-drama/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dena Moes and we’re talking about our teen’s sexual and reproductive health. We discuss methods & access to birth control and parental consent around reproductive health decisions. Both Dena and I share about the current political climate impacting access to health services, how to react when your teenage daughter is pregnant, and what the most crucial things to talk to your adolescents about sex are. Takeaways from the show Dena’s new book, for teen’s, “It’s Your Body: The Young Woman’s Guide to Empowered Sexual Health” Current stats for teen sexual health & birth rates Condom & birth control use Explicit text messages Reducing barriers for care Reproductive rights & access to abortion vary substantially from state to state - consider what services your teen daughter may need in the next few years Empowering our sons that are in heterosexual relationships to be supportive partners Outdated beliefs & anxiety around birth control Teens are the most fertile they’ll be in their entire lives “Party ready” birth control Getting your teen in to speak with a doc about birth control options before January 2025 and letting your teen speak independently to their doctor - “Get out of the room!” Pulling in the extended family & village during the teen years Finding out your daughter is pregnant “It’s hard to hear no; it’s harder to say no.” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo show is about empowering your parenting journey by leaning into clarity, communication, and self-awareness. We get to shift focus from controlling teen behavior to creating a supportive environment with clear boundaries. Remember, teens learn through experience, not manipulation. Be explicit about expectations while fostering independence through responsibility (like budgeting). Manage emotional triggers by recognizing personal stories and responding with curiosity and respect. Create connections by acknowledging their growth and practicing calm communication. When frustration arises, pause and ask: What do I want to create? Your actions inspire change, shaping a positive dynamic. Parenting isn’t perfect, but intentionality builds trust, resilience, and lifelong connections. You’ve got this! For more show notes and more about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-528-boundaries-and-language-for-building-consideration-in-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This was such a fun episode to create! A parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens opened up about their concerns for their 15-year-old daughter, who’s beginning to ride with friends who are new drivers. As her peers gain driving experience, this parent is feeling understandably anxious about safety and how to guide their teen through this phase. I acknowledged these valid concerns and suggested a reframing approach, focusing on building trust in teens’ growth through their experiences. While emphasizing the importance of safety, I encouraged open, ongoing conversations about responsible driving to help build awareness and accountability. I also recommended that parents engage their teens with questions about friends’ driving behaviors and reinforce family rules constructively. To help manage parental anxiety, I shared practical tools like deep breathing, recognizing fears, and reframing thoughts to foster trust in the learning process. Allowing teens to make mistakes within safe boundaries, I explained, helps build their decision-making skills and strengthens the parent-teen relationship. Watching teens gain independence is challenging, but it’s a crucial step in their development. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-527-Managing-our-fears-about-teenagers-and-driving/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jenell Kheriaty, and we’re talking about school avoidance & school refusal. We discuss what school refusal is and if there’s certain “types” of kids who are predisposed to school avoidance or school refusal. Both Jenell and I share how we support families who are struggling with their teens not going to school, some specific questions you can ask your teen about school, and how and why parents need to stay curious about their teen’s school experience., We talk about how to handle our own feelings when changes are not happening as fast as we want. We get into figuring out if your child’s school is a good fit, finding alternative options to your neighborhood high school, and checking our own assumptions about our teen’s journey in school. Takeaways from the show School refusal is typically not a case of defiance, it’s an act of protection All kids, even successful high-achievers, can struggle with school avoidance School refusal is a symptom of something else going on “Be curious, not judgmental” When our timeline doesn’t line up with their timeline When your teen has a different temperament and stress tolerance than you do Alternative schooling options Trusting the process, trusting the journey Maintaining relationship during the bumpy times For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today’s episode, I respond to a parent in the Facebook community who is seeking support for an “unmotivated” 14-year-old, wanting a coach for help with goals, motivation, executive functioning, and self-care, ideally within budget and virtual. I explore the difference between being “unmotivated” and “uninspired,” suggesting that teens may seem unmotivated due to broader issues like discouragement or lack of inspiration. Instead of trying to “fix” teens, I encourage listeners to reframe the situation by asking, “What is getting in my child’s way?” I emphasize curiosity, encouragement, and a connection-based approach, allowing teens to express their needs and experiences without judgment. I also remind parents to avoid labeling, stay present, and focus on personal growth, trusting that their child will ultimately find their way. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-525-support-for-parents-with-unmotivated-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am really excited about my guest today, and I have a feeling you will be, too! My amazing daughter, Rowan, is back to give us an update on her life. She talk about everything from teen mental health, navigating ADHD as a teen and young adult, the college journey, and more! I ask Rowan what she’s learned in her first few years of adulthood while juggling working, living on her own, and going to school. We talk about motivation versus discipline, lessons learned through experience, changing perspectives, and boundaries. Rowan wraps us up by sharing what she wishes Gen X knows about the young adults of today. Takeaways from the show Describing and revisiting tough times & emotions Returning to (and loving) college Changing your mindset to achieve your goal Learning how to be a college student Navigating ADHD diagnosis & medications The pressure of early adulthood Takeaways from the first few years of being on your own Motivation versus discipline Lessons are learned through experience How we respond to our kids when they are having a hard time influences the relationships we have with them later Perspectives changing as you age and get out of the thick of it Finding the humor, joy, and not taking life too seriously For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Inspired by my conversation with Annie Donaldson this week, I explore the layered experience of being a teen and offer some ideas around how to invite them to consider their higher selves. Our teens are deep and thoughtful. Listen in for tips and strategies around communication and connection. See all show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-523-exploring-the-layers-of-our-teens-experience-and-inviting-them-into-their-higher-selves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is an interview with Annie Donaldson, coach for teens. We spend our time talking about how spirituality and considering a higher power and bigger picture can be helpful to our teens as they move through adolescence and navigate the beginning of realizing that change in life is the only constant. This conversation isn't about religion, but it is about deeply considering, sharing and normalizing conversations about our spiritual selves. Check it out and let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Getting into the nitty-gritty of how to navigate the lies we may be hearing from our kids. Why is it so triggering? Why do they do it? What is the most useful way to respond? And how can we keep in mind that mistakes (like lying) are opportunities to learn and grow? Listen in and we can dive into all of these questions together! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-521-Teenagers-and-lying/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most. Takeaways from the show Keeping your focus on teaching life skills, not compliance What does ADHD look like in an adolescent? Misconceptions about teens with ADHD Asking “what’s hard about it?” Scaffolding & strategies like body doubling and creating a false sense of urgency Do teens with ADHD need different things to support brain development than a neurotypical adolescent? Rejection sensitive dysphoria Talking to teens about their ADHD Getting your teen to utilize an ADHD coach or other outside support What do teens with ADHD need most? For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I see and field a lot of questions from parents about disrespect and kids who seem to have no desire to connect or be with the family. We talk so much about relationship here, but what happens when there seems to be no desire for a relationship on the side of the kids? This is where we head this week on the show… Big shout out to a member of the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group member who gave permission to me to tease apart a post she shared there here on the podcast! For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-520-disrespect-and-relationship-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brenda Zane is back this week! She was on the podcast before (spring 2023) talking about how to be with teen substance abuse. We had SUCH an amazing response to that conversation that Brenda and I thought it would be helpful to have her back to talk about “what do you do” for specific scenarios around our teens and substances that leave us feeling in the dark. Today we discuss how to set healthy boundaries around teen substance abuse while still maintaining a connected relationship with our teens. Takeaways from the show Creating conditions for positive change in children, and the plant analogy. Why young people turn to substance use, including a desire to cope with emotional pain and shame. Setting boundaries around drug use The challenge of enforcing consequences The importance of addition over subtraction in facilitating change Have open and curious conversations with their teenagers about substance use, rather than resorting to shame or judgment The importance of building a positive relationship with children, focusing on mutual respect and influence rather than control or manipulation The "information sandwich" technique to discuss sensitive topics with teenagers How humor and modeling positive behavior are useful tools Focusing on boundaries and natural consequences, rather than reactive measures like drug testing and phone confiscation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo show teases apart the difference between being in resistance and being in flow when it comes to the ride we are on while parenting teenagers. The middle school and high school years are a current that is ever changing, and we have choices in how we lean into the ebb and flow. This week I share a post from a parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group that resonated deeply with me, and bring my own learning from a meditation practice I was invited into. For more show notes and news about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-519-finding-flow-in-the-current-of-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline. Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. This episode is all about motivational interviewing. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change. Takeaways from the show Relinquishing control Motivational interviewing Teens trying marijuana The best tool for influence is relationship Staying respectful & curious How to deliver advice & why we listen first Staying neutral & consistent around hard conversations Expectations & limits without punishments Avoiding socially isolating consequences Listening for motivation for change For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Inspired by Monday's interview with college admission coach, Janae Young, this week's solo show is all about how to let go of control and allow our teens to move through their own process. This is HARD! I get into WHY it's so hard and WHY it's so important to let this process be theirs. Not all kids are headed straight for college, and the ones who want to may not be showing up to the work in a way that aligns with what they say they want... It can be crazy-making!! Listen in and let me know what you think. For more show notes and information about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-518-living-in-the-tension-of-our-teens-efforts-during-college-application-season/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us. Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs. Takeaways from the show What’s the college application process look like now? Common application system College application essays “Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan” How can parents best support their teen during this process? Week-by-Week college application calendar College applications are their job, not yours Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process Best time to take SATs For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am digging into a challenge that is plaguing way too many parents of teens - vaping nicotine. It is something I worked through with my kids, and something that shows up for so many of the parents I work with. One parent came forward asking for resources in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens group - their daughter had recently come clean about their use and needed help. Listen in and let me know what you think! Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-517-when-our-teens-are-vaping-nicotine/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My returning guest today is Dr. Melanie McNally the author of “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential”. Dr. McNally explains what inspired her to write her new book and a bit about what parents misunderstand about teens, motivation, and laziness. I ask Dr. McNally to tell us more about the difference between external and internal motivation and how we know when we can use external motivators while growing their internal drive. We tease apart the difference between autonomy and independence, and she helps clarify some differences between teens who are feeling unmotivated, depressed, or dealing with screen addiction. This is such a juicy one - we also get into why and how our teens can grow grit, becoming versus being, and for tips on how to start conversations around motivation. We end on tips for finding your own motivation & purpose. Takeaways from the show Check out Dr. McNally’s new book - “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential” Are teenagers really just lazy? Internal versus external motivation High achieving parents with “average” kids Autonomy versus independence Collaborating with our adolescent on expectations Low motivation versus depression versus screen addiction Handing energetic responsibility over to our teens & growing grit Becoming rather than being For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me this week revisiting this solo episode as we play with the concept of flexibility while parenting through the teen years. Where are you finding flexibility? How might flexibility serve your relationship with your teen? What is getting in the way of flexibility? Find full show notes and news about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-452-dance-flexibility-while-parenting-adolescents/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am SO excited about today’s interview. You’ll recognize my guest today - Julietta Skoog my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable! She’s here today to talk about back-to-school season with middle schoolers. Julietta and I cover so much this week - balancing caring for our kids & our aging parents, the jarring differences between elementary & middle school, and watching their decision-making and mistakes. We talk about why kids come home so upset & frustrated from school and how to create routines & systems that work for your family. We really dig into the difference between scaffolding and witnessing, how to support middle schoolers with their homework, the friend drama (especially when it’s new friends/families that you don’t know), and how screens & texting affect those friendships. Takeways from the show “Sandwich season” - taking care of your young children & aging parents at the same time What do summers look like when your kids aren’t little anymore? Navigating phones & screens with middle schoolers Fears & concerns around safety - “what if?” energy The after-school release & attitude “September is a month of grace” - it won’t always be back-to-school season! Creating systems & routines that work for your family Friend drama in Middle School (high highs & low lows) Self-reflection as a growing skill For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Screens!! I know - will we ever get to a place of NOT needing to talk about screens?? Today's episode is a messy exploration of the subtle ways kids are pulled into their relationship with screens, and the importance of developing life skills WHILE providing guardrails for keeping our kids safe. Plus, an invitation to take an honest look at how OUR use is adding to the messaging our kids are getting... Did I mention this is messy? It is. Listen in and let me know what you think. See all show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-514-a-messy-conversation-about-screens-limits-and-life-skill-development/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices