Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

The famous psychologist Carl Jung once said, "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." Intimate marriages require a lot of intimate contact in terms of body, mind, head, and soul. It's also why I believe marriage, especially sex in marriage, is the most sure-fire path to grow up and mature to attain your best and highest version of yourself. The principles I want to share with you in today's episode is that when you have a better grasp of your own light and shadow, and your spouse's light and shadow, you can work with each other's strengths to create a remarkable marriage. This requires self awareness and practice of course. One of the tools I've found that has helped me understand myself and my wife better is the Enneagram personality typing. Today I've invited Christa Hardin to my podcast to talk more about it. I've read her recent book, The Enneagram and Marriage, and I wanted her to share some of her insights and experience with you to help you get your marriage on. You can learn more about her book and purchase it on her website or Amazon. Free enneagram test: https://personalitypath.com/free-enneagram-personality-test/ If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more: FREE MASTERCLASS Next Level Intimacy Program Private Coaching Workshops Apps Guides AND MORE!

I love hearing your success stories! If you would like to share yours on the podcast, please fill out this form. This episode covers six of the anonymous questions I've received this month. You all sure send me some really good questions! If you would like to submit an anonymous question, you can do so on our website. Today we answer questions about fetishes, shame, anal play and how we overcome awkwardness and the "gross factor." I also address talking to our partners about the hard stuff, what to do when we don't share their perspective or want them to do something differently. Ultimately, it's all about how we can know and be known by our spouses and make room for both spouses to be equal partners in all things. Thanks for listening! If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more: FREE MASTERCLASS Next Level Intimacy Program Private Coaching Workshops Apps Guides AND MORE!

I strongly believe one of the paths to a stronger marriage is by doing the work necessary to have a great sex life as a couple. Why start with sex? It's because there's such a strong link between pleasure and connection. When you increase and broaden the pleasure you experience as a couple, you'll find your emotional and spiritual connection deepen as well. Besides, doing the work necessary to have great sex forces individuals to learn how to deeply love their spouse like they've never loved before; it requires trust, self-confidence, and an open heart. In short, developing your sexual relationship leads to more personal growth than anything else. Unfortunately, there's an orgasm gap in many marriages. Although orgasm isn't the only measure of a great sex life, it's a good enough proxy measure for the pleasure a couple enjoys in sex. I believe women are just as capable of sexual pleasure than men, if not more capable than men. And even though just about every person on the planet is capable of experiencing the pleasure of orgasm in sex, in far too many marriages women aren't experience orgasm as frequently as men do. Today my guest is my friend Amanda Louder. Amanda is a fellow marriage and intimacy coach. She is the host of the podcast, Sex For Saints. We're going to talk about practical strategies to help you overcome your orgasm gaps in your marriage today. We're also going to talk about sex toys that are used as an aid for pleasure as a couple. Did you know that over 70% of those that responded to my poll on Instagram say that they have used or currently use a vibrator? Many people are curious about trying a vibrator but don't know where to go to buy one without feeling weird about it. If that's you, open the Intimately Us app and go to the Learn Section, then Products We Love for my personal recommendations from trusted companies and brands.

RETREAT FLASH SALE: We've sold out of the main hotel (Hotel Lucy), but we're offering some spots at an overflow hotel next door at a discounted rate! It's $300 off right now through Sunday, September 24. PLUS, if you send us a DM on Instagram @getyourmarriageon, we'll send you a code to get another $100 off! This is the best price you'll get, so don't delay! Get the details here. *** We're going back in time a couple years today as I'm bringing back an episode from our archives. I'm doing this for a few reasons: We have acquired many new listeners on this podcast. Related to number 1, many of you may not have heard my origin story and the background to Get Your Marriage On! and our app Intimately Us. The biggest reason this episode is really special to me is my wonderful wife, Emily, who is as introverted as they come, was willing to be a guest on this podcast with me, so you get to hear her voice and her side of the story as well. We were interviewed by a friend, Ariel Finlanson, who hosts the podcast Ladies Talking Love. I do the Get Your Marriage On! podcast because I want to share what I'm learning with everyone. The reality is I'm not that different from many of you. I am on this journey and I'm just so excited that you can come along with me for the ride as I share the things that I'm learning alongside with you.

Just a few spots left for our retreat! Register today! After Dark Role-Play Workshop is tonight (Sep 15)! Sexual fantasies can let you explore and try on new ideas to break away from the mundane and ordinary. When used properly, they can deepen your appreciation for what you have as well as take your relationship to new heights! I hope by the end of this episode you're convinced of the value of sexual fantasies in your relationship as well as specific tools on how you can use your sexual fantasies to deepen your intimate connection as a couple as well as make sex really fun and exciting! Along the way today, I'm going to answer questions I've received from many of you such as these: "I'm embarrassed to tell my husband that I fantasize during sex. Is there anything wrong with that?" "How do I tell my spouse about my fantasies?" "I asked my wife what her sexual fantasies are. She said she doesn't have any. I find it hard to believe anyone doesn't have sexual fantasies. Does she really not have any or is she just reluctant to tell me?" "I'm embarrassed about my fantasies. They're inappropriate! What's wrong with me?" "My spouse keeps telling me about his fantasies and I'm put off by it! How do I tell him how I feel about it?"

Any of you with children are quite familiar with stages of child development. However, less talked about and less understood until recently are stages of adult development. As adults, our bodies may have grown, but our mind and spirits still continue to grow. I love this interview you're about to hear with my friend Tammy. It's an inspiring and relatable story about Tammy and her husband, Jake, and how they grew and progressed in their relationship. Tammy talks about her journey to break out of a limiting mindset and to embrace her own sexual desires and needs. She mentions that a turning point was when her husband enrolled them in a course related to sexual development and introduced her to a couple's retreat. These experiences opened her eyes to the possibility of change and growth in this area. We also discuss how curiosity, open-mindedness, and gradual steps were key components of Tammy's journey. She describes a process of shedding her need for external validation, which allowed her to change and grow without being dependent on other people's opinions. She also emphasizes the importance of self reflection learning how to love herself. I hope this episode also inspires and gives hopes to listeners who wish their spouse would step up more in the sexual arena in their marriage. Listen closely to what Jake did that gave room for Tammy to grow and try new things. If you're looking for support in your growth and intimacy in your marriage like Tammy and Jake did, I highly recommend you get on our website and book a spot at our upcoming couples retreat in Texas at the end of October. Our retreats are romantic, they're fun, as well as really in depth. They're a perfect balance of instruction and unstructured downtime to really enjoy a getaway with your lover. It's right around the corner, and spots are filling up quickly, so please register today.

SEXTEMBER STARTS TODAY (September 1)! Read here for more. Many of our podcast episodes are interviews with guests. I often invite my guests to share what I call a black belt sex tip. The idea for this comes from my own martial arts training I did for 13 years, and it applies to building a great sexual relationship with your spouse in your marriage too. It's that there's always going to be a next level. Your growth never stops. You must master the basics before enjoying the higher level tactics in training. So, this is episode number 150. And I want to give you a roundup of the best black belt sex tips that my guests have taught me over the last 50 episodes. It's geared towards couples that have mastered the basics and are ready for their next level. We have just a few openings left for our October Marriage and Intimacy Retreat in Granbury, Texas, which is just outside of the Dallas Fort Worth area. It's limited to about 20 couples only. You get to spend 4 days and 3 nights with your sweetheart, receive great instruction, enjoy good company, eat excellent food, participate in fun activities, and enjoy beautiful surroundings. Besides, we take you on a deep dive into your relationship to help you unlock your next level to a closer and more intimate relationships and better sex in your relationship. Sign up today!

What popular media has taught us The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are seducing and being pursued. Our culture is saturated with these tropes and themes: think James Bond, Indiana Jones, or many other shows that show this theme. But what happens if you're in a marriage where you, as the wife, find yourself often pursuing him? And he's the one withdrawing, needing to be wooed? Or you're the one with more acceptance and freedom about your sexuality, eager to explore and pursue novelty and sexual fun while he's not so sure about his sexuality or has a lot of hangups? Is it because you're not attractive enough? It's common for women in these marriages to feel like they must not be attractive enough. You might have gone through a lot of effort to look and dress pretty (or undress) for the occasion and his rejection can really hurt. It's disregulating to feel rejected, and you wonder what's wrong with you. It's easy to get reactive in these situations, and start a downward spiral. You may even be wondering what you can do to get him interested in you sexually, or wonder why he withdraws, encouraging you to pursue even more. Let's ask a therapist AND higher desire wife My guest today is Dr. Laurie Watson. She's a sex therapist and marriage therapist and also a married woman who is the one with more sexual desire and the pursuer in her own marriage. I figured she's uniquely qualified to answer questions I've had about higher desire wives. I've found this conversation enlightening and refreshing. Laurie even gives very specific step-by-step suggestions on how to approach the subject with your spouse and how to build a better sexual relationship. Get Help If you're in a marriage where there's hard feelings because of a gap between the pursuer or distancer, or find differences in sexual desire levels to be a sore topic, don't stay there in misery. Get help. Check out Next Level, my coaching program for couples. You can meet with me and my team. It's really affordable, flexible, has TONS of value, and geared towards busy couples. Another option is our in-person intensive in Dallas Forth Worth Texas area this October. Our retreats are 4 days, 3 nights and are in-depth and challenging in a good way. They're also really fun and romantic too! We have a few spots left. You can reserve your spot here! Free Coaching Come experience what coaching is like with my free marriage coaching hour on September 1. Register here!

Expert marriage coaching can facilitate accelerated growth, overcoming obstacles in weeks or months that might otherwise take years to do on your own. Coaching has made a huge impact on my marriage. Two years ago, I went back to school and learned how to coach others too. I'm now full time with Get Marriage On! and I desire nothing more than to help you have a fulfilling, intimate marriage! Today, you get to be like a fly on the wall, listening in to a real coaching session with a wonderful couple, Hannah and James. (Note that these aren't their real names and I have permission to share this excerpt with you.) I want to invite you to try marriage coaching with me. I have an extremely affordable program unlike anything else out there. I call it Next Level because I believe no matter where you are or where you think you are in your marriage now, there's always going to be a next level. My program is designed to help you reach your next level through our weekly calls, a private podcast, its own dedicated mobile app that ties you to the community of hundreds of other next levelers. And it comes with tons of bonuses. There's also a men's and women's private group, and you can be as anonymous as you would like to be and participate as much or as little as you're comfortable doing. And if you're still unsure, on Friday, September 1st at noon Mountain Time, I'll be hosting a free marriage coaching hour, where you can come and get coached at no charge to see how it can benefit you. And if you'd like a more intensive experience, check out our couples retreat coming up on October 26! It's going to be amazing!

I've been looking forward to this podcast episode for months! As I think ahead into my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond, I want to have a healthy and vibrant sex life. I want my body, specifically my penis, to serve both of us in creating pleasurable and intimately connecting experiences for many years to come. Lots of men, and I'm in this category too, really like their penis and get concerned when it doesn't function as they expect. Good strong erections are indications for a man's health and vitality, as well as a means to pleasure too. Many men and their lovers have questions about erectile dysfunction, lasting longer in bed, testosterone, and much more relating to men's sexual health. So how do we take better care of our sexual health, and when we get sick, how can we get better? My guest today is Joshua Savage, a friend of mine who also is a urologist. Thanks in advance to many of you that shared your questions about male sexual health via our Instagram account. If you don't follow me yet, I recommend you do so now! There's lots of great content and some funny reels there too. After listening to this podcast, you might have questions about your own sexual functioning from a psychological point of view. If you're interested in getting coaching to help you through mental struggles interfering from all the pleasure you could be enjoying in your sexual relationship, contact me about marriage coaching. It's like getting a personal trainer for your marriage, and you're just one coaching session away from a more meaningful, pleasurable, and intimate sex life. Which leads me to my next point: getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it! If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway

I have to say, Wow! I invited my listeners and readers to submit anonymous questions to me, and I've been blown away by the response. You have all asked some great questions! So this episode will be another session answering some of those questions that you've asked. Each day, the questions accumulate, and I don't think I'll ever be able to answer all of them on this podcast or my email newsletter, though I will do my best to be consistent on all those platforms. However, I would recommend that if you really desire to get your marriage and sex questions answered and get some help moving forward to moving that needle in your relationship, that you give my next level coaching program a try. In this episode we discuss the following: What a husband should do to help his wife who hasn't been able to orgasm What a wife can do to help herself orgasm more often and enjoy the sexual experience with her husband more. A husband struggles with his self esteem because of his premature ejaculation. Different definitions of sex and getting over the idea that women "should" climax with penetration. How to deal with the affects of antidepressants on a sexual relationship. Why it's hard to be a higher desire spouse (but not necessarily a bad thing) Other things to know: In Next Level, which is a coaching program, not only are your questions answered, but we're there with you every step of the way to help you build a more intimate and joyful marriage. If you'd like to experience coaching, to see how it works, I'm offering a free coaching session on September 1st. Sign up here! On August 16, I'll be hosting a workshop all about navigating differences in sexual desire. This is probably the most common issue couples have in their sexual relationship. So we'll be diving deep into how and why sexual differences happen and solutions for couples to overcome those differences and create greater connection and intimacy in the relationship. We recently published a new digital product called the Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Husband, which is a companion to our previously published Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Wife. We also have several other guides and products on our website. Lastly, as you make plans for the fall, why not schedule a weekend away for just the two of you? Better yet, why not make your getaway even more meaningful by attending our marriage retreat coming up in October in the Dallas Fort worth Texas area? These retreats are in depth and designed to challenge you as a couple while balancing it with fun and romance.

My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations around sex were usually limited to biological reproduction or staying pure from sexual thoughts. These messages served me well before we were married but after we were married, we realized that these models led to anxiety about sexuality and difficulty with our sexual relationship. These issues didn't really surface until after a decade into our marriage, when we weren't so entrenched in survival mode from raising a young family any longer and could actually take a breath and focus on our relationship again. I'm grateful for the many resources that helped me grow my understanding of marriage and sex in marriage. Specifically, where at first I thought spirituality and sexuality were incompatible, the examples of teachers like my guests on today's podcast helped me see that spirituality and sexuality actually go together. Fast forward a few years I'm grateful for the privilege of coaching other couples in growing their marriage intimately. It's now what I do for work full time, and I hope this podcast, our apps, retreats, workshops, and other resources are helping you build a stronger marriage. One of the common issues I see with my clients as a marriage coach is how "duty sex" or viewing sex as something just for the man for example often limits a couple's ability to grow sexually. Another has to do with one's interpretation of biblical teachings around sex growing up, and how those views are often antithetical to building an intimate marriage. Another has to do with sexual performance pressure. And sexual dysfunction. We get to talk about all of these things and much more in this episode with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner. As my guests will attest, getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it by going to getyourmarriageon.com, click on Retreats, and then DFW retreat. If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway and check out the videos shared by past retreat attendees sharing their experience to get a feel for what it's all about. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Today is a really fun episode that I have planned with you. I emailed my mailing list a few weeks ago, asking for anonymous questions and I got a ton of questions. So today we're going to go through a lot of these great questions that you asked. There's a lot of value in asking good questions. First, it opens your mind to other possibilities. Second, it invites you to change. Even if it's just microscopic, it changes your lifestyle or your attitude about certain things. And number three. It puts you in a position where he can receive instruction, receive coaching or whatever it is for you to really level up things in your relationship. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate connection in the future. My wife and I are beginning our fifth decade in life. We had a discussion the other night about what kind of sex life we want to have in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s and beyond! Having a long term vision for your sex life will bring up things that are important to address. For example, you might find it difficult to find sex pleasurable, have some hang-ups around sex that you want to overcome, or you might have a tendency to withdraw emotionally when you feel rejected, or it might be time to finally address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation. Today's guest is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed sex therapist and evangelical pastor. Michael is the author of an excellent book called The Secrets of Sex and Marriage. I absolutely loved his insights about the importance of exploring sensuality and pleasure in various aspects of life, not just sexual experiences. In this episode you'll hear us talk about the role of mindfulness and being present in one's body, as well as the significance of connecting arousal with emotional intimacy and connection within the relationship. We'll emphasize that a healthy and fulfilling sex life requires a holistic approach that considers spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational aspects. Most of all, we'll talk about being seductive to our spouse, and what that means. And sometimes building a great sex life requires grieving the things you're not going to be getting. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage. I love these questions. They're genuine and honest. And I'm grateful to Hailey for allowing us to share this discussion on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast today because I think you might be wondering about many of the same questions that Hailey was asking, such as these: How do you talk to your kids about sex and intimacy? If you're single or recently divorced, how can you continue to grow sexually? How do you talk to your spouse about your sexual desires or dislikes without making it awkward or offending them? What role does masturbation play in marriage? What impact does pornography use have on the sexual relationship? When you've been married a long time How do you spice things up? And most importantly Dan, what are some of your black belt sex tips? :) For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!* Even though half of the people on the planet have menstrual cycles, it's a taboo topic in many cultures. My guest today is Cody Sanders, a functional medicine and holistic health practitioner that's devoted her professional life to helping women feel more like themselves especially when it comes to their hormone balance, menstrual cycle, and libido (or sex drive). Cody is a founder of Mixhers, a company devoted to women's health. In this episode, you'll get to hear: What natural herbs have been used for thousands of years to support healthy hormone balance in women? What foods or nutrients can naturally boost libido in women? What are two things most women don't know about their bodies and hormones? What is the one thing most men get wrong about a women's cycle? And of course, Cody shares her black belt sex tip. Note: If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy ​​episode #95 with Ashlee Sorensen titled Hormones, Periods, and Sex: https://getyourmarriageon.com/95-hormones-periods-and-sex-with-ashlee-sorensen/ For more great content like this, check out the following resources: After Dark Series Workshops (Fellatio and Cunnilingus) Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they're really REALLY hard work to make great. But it's work worth doing. In my own personal experience, as well as working with other couples, there's a pattern I see of entanglement: where you and your spouse are emotionally wrapped up in each other like a tangled ball of yarn, not able to see which end is which. Then there are other couples that distance themselves emotionally from their spouse. In the world today there seems to be an over emphasis on ME-culture, which leads to toxic individualism. That isn't healthy for a relationship either. My guest today is Aimée Gianni. She's a friend of mine as well as a marriage family therapist. She's very wise, experienced, and has spoken at a couple of my marriage retreats in the past as a guest speaker. In our conversation today, you'll get to hear about: The difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage and how you can tell which one you have. Entanglement and toxic individualism and how to get yourself out of their traps. How roles we've inherited play a role in our marriage dynamic, and what steps you can take to choose a better path in your relationship. And you'll get to hear Aimee's black belt sex tip too! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are entrepreneurs. There's a lot of stress that happens in the marriage relationship, especially in the sexual relationship for entrepreneurs. And I want to do a podcast episode dedicated to all listeners where one, or both of you are in the middle of building a business. As Americans we love a good underdog story and often romanticize the entrepreneurial journey – especially those that make sacrifices, take risks, overcome obstacle after obstacle, and eventually come out on top. As a career entrepreneur myself, I've come to realize that the entrepreneurial journey isn't as glamorous as it seems to be. Another thing people don't talk about is that entrepreneurship is often very hard on marriages, in fact, as you'll hear in this episode, divorce is more common among couples where one or both spouses are entrepreneurs. My guest today is Monica Tanner. She's a marriage and intimacy expert and runs several programs for couples to strengthen their marriages. She's also an entrepreneur, married to a successful entrepreneur. In this episode we'll talk about the following: The two intimacy killers that entrepreneur couples often fall prey to. The one superpower that entrepreneurs have that is often overlooked to build a strong marriage The one simple yet powerful thing you can do to keep your intimacy and sexual relationship alive, even when things are stressful and chaotic For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to share with you today are the following: Ditch the goals during sex. Enjoy arousal for arousal sake. Make sex a priority and schedule sex the right way. Get comfortable talking about sex. Learn and utilize erogenous zones. Reduce stress for more sexual desire. Look forward to sex as a time to recharge, refresh, escape. Communicate during sex. Live orgasmically I hope you enjoy celebrating International Lovemaking Day today! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

According to a recent Instagram poll on our Instagram account, I learned that 80% of couples incorporate oral sex into their lovemaking, and 77% of them said they'd love tips on how to make it better. So let's talk about blowjobs today. Let's discuss how amazing they are, why we like them, how to overcome hang ups around giving your husband oral sex if you want to, and more specifically for women, how giving your husband oral sex can be as much if not more of a turn on for yourself than your husband. My guest expert is Danielle Savory, a sex coach for women. She's taught thousands of women how to prioritize pleasure and specifically how to make sex more pleasurable for themselves. I learned in this interview that my guest Danielle loves giving her husband oral sex, so much that she's had just as many orgasms for herself just from giving them. She teaches that women can step up to embody a turned-on person and create a richer, juicer life and marriage. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don't think I'm alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when aging is a topic you don't hear a lot of people talking about or addressing. You might be going through some transitions right now as you approach menopause, health issues, or other changes connected to aging. Some things you used to enjoy sexually may not have the same enjoyment as before. Or certain paths towards arousal may not function like they used to. And then there's the question of what to do when you're your spouse's caregiver, dementia, bereavement, or other common issues that older couples face. I've wondered about these things. I've searched high and low for a specialist that works with aging couples, and I got really lucky to find an expert in this field! My guest today is Natalie Wilton, a registered Social Worker in Waterloo, Ontario. She has worked in the aging field for over 20 years. She has worked at retirement homes, long term care homes, and in the community in a variety of roles in geriatrics and mental health. She has a private practice in which she sees adults across the age spectrum for sex therapy, and other mental health concerns. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows how we talk to our children, especially our daughters, about dating, sex, and relationships can affect the type of person they marry and how satisfied they'll be in their marriage. After doing this interview you're about to hear, I realize there are a few areas I can improve in.. Sheila Wray Gregoire is a friend of mine, as well as the author of several books on the topic of sex and marriage. Her books are awesome for those seeking helpful and accurate information from a Christian perspective. She's funny too. She has two daughters and an angel son and two grandchildren. I didn't know this until this interview, but according to Sheila Wray Gregoire's research, my generation – the millennials – grew up with the least comprehensive sex education compared to Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. I learned that the most important thing is to have a great relationship with your children. There are also things to consider about how we talk about modesty, agency, arousal, consent, and self-definition to our children, especially our daughters. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Crises aren't necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they're very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better define ourselves and where we stand. They can serve as catalysts that anchor our moral compass internally within ourselves rather than external – outside of us. This process can lead to more freedom and greater agency, and a fuller life. I've talked to many people who have gone into a faith crisis to some degree as they work to develop their sexuality. I'm personally one of them. Today my guest is Jacqulin Guernsey, a bright and talented woman, who is a life coach turned fantasy romance novelist. She has a degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in English. She shares an incredible story about her growth journey over the last 15 months, about how sexual challenges in her marriage lead to faith challenges, and how she's grown in the midst of it all to reconcile the two. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

In any intimate relationship, we want two things, which paradoxically seem to be at odds with each other: we want to belong to ourselves (that is, autonomy), and we want to belong to someone else. In many marriages though, it's easy for one person to fold into the other and that person ends up losing themselves in the marriage. What we want instead are marriages where there's more authenticity. We want marriages where we can be real with our spouse and ourselves, and own our desires while building a marriage worth getting excited about. Authentic marriages have more honesty, freedom, and a much more satisfying sex life. My guest today is Amber Price. She's a mom-turned-graduate student (and a cool story behind how that came to be) sharing what she's learned about creating a more real and authentic marriage for herself. I learned a lot of great things from Amber, which you're about to hear, such as: How to be more aware of how authentic your relationship is Seeing yourself more clearly so that you can be less biased in how you process various situations that happen Understanding when your behavior is driven by seeking validation from others verses something more authentic within you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Today. I just want to get honest with you and talk about marriages and why they are really difficult sometimes. Frankly, marriages take a lot of work. A wedding may have just been a day; but building a marriage, especially an intimate marriage, is a lifetime pursuit. And let's be honest, there's a lot of pain and suffering that goes on inside of a lot of marriages. I can't think of anything more challenging, stretching, testing, and at the same time, more fulfilling than trying to build an intimate marriage. In reality, at least for me, it hasn't all been just roses. It's more like a rose garden. There's going to be a lot of thorns there amongst the roses. There's going to be weeds to pull. There's going to be rainstorms, and like any rose garden it requires a lot of attending, fertilizing, and just waiting. It makes the flowers that bloom that much more precious. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

When you hear the term, Power Couple, what comes to mind? To me I think about a couple that is dedicated to each other and committed to building a marriage in which they know they can tackle every challenge that comes their way. My guest today is Melanie Studley. She's been on our podcast before (check out the episode we did last year on how to talk dirty without feeling dirty or awkward). I admire how she's taken growth and development in her marriage so seriously. I'm inspired by her - considering how dysfunctional things were between her and her husband, and where they are now, it's like saying, "If THEY can make it, so can I." Several things stuck out to me in this episode. Melanie emphasizes the need for systems and processes, the importance of giving both people in the marriage partnership their voice, recording your wins and struggles, and the value of consistency and persistence. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

I'm pretty excited for today's podcast episode, all about lingerie. I recently asked my Instagram followers if they regularly include lingerie in sexy time, and 39% responded yes. In general, husbands were more excited about seeing their wife in lingerie than wives were enthusiastic about wearing it, which might come as no surprise to you. Generally speaking, men are more wired to be turned on sexually by visual stimulation than women are. However, so many women love to wear lingerie for themselves simply because they feel good and sexy in it. Besides, novelty and newness that lingerie can bring is an important part of keeping your sexual relationship vital for the long haul of marriage, I have the pleasure of associating with Alex and Kadi, founders of EveryLove Intimates. They're a new brand of intimate wear. I've had lots of questions about lingerie, how to shop for it, how to be creative with it, why people are uncomfortable with it, how to handle situations where one spouse wants it and the other doesn't, and much more. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Our mindset and patterns of thinking make a huge difference in our intimate relationships and our ability to grow sexually as a couple. As they say, our brains are our biggest and most important sex organ. How you think about sex, your relationship, and your attitude about your relationship makes a big impact on your ability to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. My guest today is Dr. Paul Jenkins. He's a clinical psychologist and expert in the field of positive psychology. I interviewed him on what positive psychology is, and how to live a more abundant life and marriage because of it. Download Dr. Paul's free ebook (Portable Positivity) that was referenced in the episode: https://drpauljenkins.com/GYMO For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Sex Positive and Shame Free are two phrases that people usually don't think about when it comes to overcoming pornography for good, but that's just what our guest today, Sara Brewer, believes is one of the keys that help her clients overcome pornography use. Sara is a life coach that has inspired thousands of individuals to overcome pornography for good. Multiple studies show that pornography use, especially discordant pornography use, doesn't help a marriage. But sometimes our approach to the problem is actually getting in the way of healing. That's what I loved about this interview with Sara - she's positive and upbeat too! Link to Sara's Masterclass: https://www.sarabrewer.com/masterclass For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Virtual Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

In our Christian culture, we're sometimes afraid of the word "erotic," thinking it has something to do with unsavory media or loose morals. Many of us grew up in a culture where anything sexually exciting was considered less-than worthy or shameful. However, our erotic natures are actually a beautiful part of being human and a way of experiencing the divinity within us. When cultivated, our erotic nature can draw us closer to our spouse in very special ways. I hear stories from couples where sex is considered a necessity to satisfy the other partner rather than something to joyfully engage in for their own sake. So how do you learn how to cultivate your erotic nature? What if you're married to someone that doesn't see the value in developing their eroticism? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist, life coach, author, and speaker. You'll get to hear about how to shift from neutral to drive, the value of curiosity, and some really fun ideas and dares to spice things up in the bedroom!

it's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament. And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time which teams are gonna win and come out on top. In getting in the spirit of this tournament, we thought we'd have some fun, so we created a sex position bracket for March Madness bedroom edition that you can print for yourselves. So to celebrate sex positions in the Intimately Us app and also March Madness Bedroom edition, I wanted to record a special podcast episode all about sex positions today. First, we're going to talk about why you might want to try new sex positions, why it's important to have these conversations about it (and how to have these conversations) with your spouse, and then we'll dive through a few specifics on sex positions and how you can make sex more exciting, creative, and most importantly, connecting for you and your relationship. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

One source I found states that one in five women experience sexual assault or unwelcomed sexual attention. Trauma from sexual abuse is ugly and can interfere with a healthy and thriving sexual relationship in marriage. Today my guest is Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a marriage therapist that specializes in helping individuals overcome, heal from, and thrive after a history of sexual abuse. His own wife was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and discusses how that impacted their marriage. He shares how his approach towards her trauma in the beginning was actually making things worse (oops!), and what steps they both took to heal from it. Although sexual abuse isn't part of my or my wife's history, there are many things I found valuable in this episode. For instance, I love the story Dr. Wyatt shares about how he became more compassionate about his wife's situation. I also learned that although trauma from sexual abuse is very serious, healing from abuse is also seriously cool and possible. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

One complaint I hear a lot from couples is where they feel like their spouse is consenting to sex but isn't enthusiastic about it. These reports sound like, "let's just hurry and get this done." "I know it's been a while so let me give you sex so that you'll get off my back." "I know sex is important for our marriage, and if I don't give you sex, I'm afraid you'll stray, besides it's my wifely duty." Or, "The bible says that I should never deny my husband so I let him have me, even if I don't enjoy it at the moment, because aren't we supposed to make sacrifices – and we'll be rewarded for it later on?" Sexual desire is strongly tied to a sense of self and freedom. But when you don't feel free to be yourself in sex, it can be more harmful than good in your relationship. My guest today is Dr. Cami Hurst. She recently completed an extensive study for her dissertation on the effects of "consensual" yet duty-focused sex in marriages. I personally gained a lot from this episode. It made me reflect on how important choice and freedom is to a healthy sexual relationship, and how harmful duty sex can be to the intimacy of the marriage. She makes an important distinction between responsive desire (where you may not be in the mood when sex begins but as things get going you generally can get into it and enjoy it) and duty sex, where you don't enjoy it but you feel like you can't say no. She talks about how PTSD symptoms show up in women who engage in duty sex over time. She also talks about what you can do about it! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Albert Einstein is said to have once said, "We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." And I believe that to be true when it comes to issues in marriage and that's why marriage coaching is so helpful. It raises the level of thinking or the intelligence in the relationship so you can see what's going on. Over the years, I've had the privilege of coaching over 100 individuals and couples; last week alone I coached 10 couples or individuals and I helped them raise their level of thinking in their relationships. I do all of my coaching through my program and it's called Next Level. Next level is my affordable coaching program, designed specifically for busy couples on the go that want to take their intimacy to the next level. You get access to a ton of content, videos, courses, and workshops I've developed over the years to you also get access to a private podcast that's not available anywhere except for members of next level. I also give our Next Levelers an opportunity for private one on one coaching as well. And today I have permission to share with you a part of a recording of a recent private coaching session that I did last week with a wonderful couple Andy and Stephanie, which by the way are not the real names to protect their identity. Andy and Stephanie have been married for about 30 years and have recently been pushing themselves to grow together sexually. It's been exciting and scary for them at times. Listen to how Andy and Stephanie confront themselves in real time and get clear in their mind around how they can think about certain concepts and how it leads to deeper intimacy in their relationship. Now, most of my coaching sessions like these are an hour long, but I've cut it down for brevity sake for this podcast, but I still think it carries the main gist of what coaching can really be like, so you can see yourself and how coaching can really help you in your relationship if you'd like to join me and over 100 other members that are in next level. The doors are now open just for another week, it's $49 a month per couple with no long term contract. It's a really, really good way to accelerate your growth in your marriage and I hope I get to work with you there. Check it out here!

Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You're about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some of our mistakes and lessons learned about growing more emotionally mature in our relationships. Ever accuse your spouse of being a narcissist – or at least being myopic or only seeing their side of things without taking you into account? Well, this episode is for you. Ever desire a stronger emotional connection with your spouse? This episode is for you too! Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist from the Bay Area of California. He's the host of the popular podcast called The Virtual Couch. In his practice working with thousands of couples, he's noticed how crucial emotional maturity is, and how "narcissism" (which he explains is emotional immaturity) plays a role in the way we relate to ourselves and others. He goes on to explain how to wake up to it and steps we can take to be stronger within ourselves and our relationships. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Live Workshop on Feb 22: How to Have an Orgasm (and have better orgasms) Next Level Waiting List: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Mutual pleasure is an important ingredient of a good sexual relationship. The pleasure we get from sex facilitates bonding, joy, and makes sex way more fun! Orgasms are probably one of the most pleasurable sensations we can experience. However, generally speaking, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men do. There are many theories as to why this is the case. It can be distressing for a woman who wants to experience an orgasm in sex yet struggles to get there. Many people forget that reaching orgasm is a learned behavior. It's not as effortless as it seems like from movies or magazines. Although orgasm is a natural reflex to sexual stimulation, it's a skill to be learned – much like learning how to ride a bicycle. It's something that we learn how to do, and it might come easier for some people than others (no pun intended). I'm always inspired by accounts of men and women who work really hard to close the pleasure gap in marriage. They show investment in each other and commitment to building something wonderful both enjoy and want to be a part of. Today I got to interview a fantastic woman named Ashley who overcame many hurdles to experience more pleasure in her sexual relationship with her husband. After 5 years of heartache from trying all sorts of things, including spending a lot of money on high-end sex toys, she was ready to give up trying. She shares what shifts happened within her that finally helped her learn how to orgasm, and how amazing things have been since then. If learning how to orgasm has been a struggle for you or for someone you love, here's a good opportunity for you. On February 22nd I will be putting on a live coaching workshop about learning how to orgasm or how to have better orgasms. This is the workshop that Ashley refers to in this interview. Sign up today on our website. If you're interested in working with me to take your intimacy to the next level, I'll be opening the doors for registration again to my program called Next Level at the end of this month! Get on our waiting list to be the first to know when it opens. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

This episode is going to be a little more explicit than our usual episodes, but I think that's okay. We get to talk about squirting and female ejaculation, which has a lot of interest thanks to the internet. But it's also an amazing experience that couples can enjoy together, and attests to God's grand design in our bodies. And I love it because it adds more layers of mystery and fun to your sexual experience. Reinforcing the idea that you can know someone and be married to them such a long time, and yet discover new things about each other that are both very erotic and sexual and can be really bonding. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Communication and marriage is a big deal. And many couples tell me they wish their communication was better. Many men approach intimacy in marriage differently than women do, and each person in the marriage has their own fears and insecurities as well. And in fact, I think it's the way we deal with our insecurities or how we manage them, that often triggers the fears or insecurities or vulnerabilities in the other person. And what this does is it sets off this reactive cycle. We try to cover our insecurities. We say something that triggers our spouse and what they say triggers our vulnerability and round and round it goes, and often what's said isn't the same as the message that was received, which opens up the doors to more hurt feelings and misunderstandings. I met today's guest through one of my team members that has participated in her excellent mentorship program. Her name is Ramona Zabriskie. And she's spent the last decade of her life dedicated to helping women succeed in their marriages. She's a mentor to hundreds of wives, and she's full of all this folksy wisdom, like what you'll get to hear today, like "Five Lies We Tell Brides" and Teaching "Knights to Knit." In today's episode, you'll get to meet Ramona's five Crazy Ladies (and I'm wondering which one you relate to the most!), we talk about why husbands and wives don't listen to each other, and most importantly, you'll hear what Ramona believes are the steps to building not only just a good or great marriage, but a grand marriage as well. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

I've observed from my own experience and coaching other couples that we often get in our own way of having the love and passion that we could experience in our own marriages. Sometimes we're just too focused on whether or not our spouse is reciprocating the love we think we're offering. In other words, we reduce love and marriage to be transactional. I love this interview that I have with Dr. Corey Allan because he talks about really powerful questions to ask oneself: "Would I want to be married to me? and "How am I being towards my spouse right now?" I think those two questions can guide us through a lot of the transitions and difficulties and also guide us to creating a more passionate and intimately connected marriage. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

The older I get and more experience I gain, the more I've come to appreciate my eroticism as a part of me. I haven't always been this way though. In all of its good intentions, sometimes people internalize the heart of the purity message by being void of sexual feelings or urges, as if it's a virtue to not have any sexual thoughts or feelings. The reality is that just as we are spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical beings, we're also sexual beings. We can grow sexually as we grow spiritually. And my sexpert guest on the podcast today describes exactly that process of growing erotically (or sexually) as we grow spiritually. Her name is Brandi Harris. She's a licensed marriage therapist that is also a Christian and helps individuals and couples grow sexually. She's also a mother of three and has created a program for parents on how to talk to their kids about sex too. And as a bonus for our listeners and followers, she's offering 10% off with the code GETYOUR23. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Are you a "nice guy" or married to a "nice guy?" "Nice" isn't to be confused with genuinely kind and caring. By nice, I mean one that hints around at what he wants from his wife, but doesn't really ask for it in case she doesn't want to either, or that it might upset her or that he might be disappointed later. So a "nice guy" is just never really direct about what he wants, doesn't really own it, and his emotional center seems to be revolve around his wife rather than taking ownership for his own feelings. This is also the type of person that goes the extra mile for his wife, but has ulterior motives in it, and when he doesn't get what he wants or when it doesn't kind of pan out the way he wants, even though he never clearly expressed what he wanted from the beginning, he feels cheated. My guest today is Brian Wagstaff. Brian is a member of my next level coaching program and a graduate of my men's coaching program. Brian is a successful entrepreneur and has a wonderful family and a recovering "nice guy." Today he shares his journey of recognizing his nice guy tendencies, the struggles he faced in his marriage, what changes he had to make, and how he made them, and how his marriage and intimacy is tremendously better today than it was before. Other Resources: Men's coaching waiting list Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

Are you ready to take action, to take charge of your relationships, and make this year different and better than any other year you've ever had? I'm going to show you how coaching can get you out of your ruts and habits and find more clarity and growth in your life and marriage. And I'll show you how our exciting new program can help take your marriage to the next level! Next Level Register here between January 1-8 Attend the webinar on January 4 for more information Coming up in 2023: Feb 1-14: Sextimacy challenge - Increase your intimacy and win cool prizes. Watch your email and social media for more info. March 23-26: Intimately Us Couples retreat in St. George - Romantic yet intensive 3-day, 3-night event designed for couples to draw closer together intimately, have fun adventures, win door prizes and receive top-notch coaching. June 9 (6-9): Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Watch your emails as the date gets closer for more info.

There are four fundamental questions we seek in our intimate relationships: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? How we go about answering these questions is the basis for how we learn to love and be loved in our marriages. Loving another person well is a practice. It's something you keep at trying over and over, and learning to get better at it. The more conscious we are\ about the way we're loving and seeking love, and implementing good practices, the better we can become at healing and thriving in our relationships. Today's guest is Lair Torrent, a licensed therapist that specializes in couples work. He's the author of a fantastic book called The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts that I've read and recommend. Other Resources: Next Level! waiting list Men's coaching waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

With practice patience, determination, and mindfulness men can prolong the pleasure they feel by resisting ejaculation and prolonging their pleasure and orgasm period. So today I wanted to show you that orgasm and ejaculation are actually two separate physiological processes in the body. And how it's the ejaculation that is responsible for the start of their refractory period. And I want to offer you some tips on how to enjoy multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Here are the links to the events and programs mentioned in the episode: 6 Weeks to Multiple Male Orgasms course Next Level waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat Other Resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

There's a lot of anxiety in our culture around sexuality in general. And within the topic of understanding one's sexuality, there's even more cultural anxiety around masturbation. I've personally had lots of questions around masturbation, and I'm glad to report that I'm not alone – I get many DMs on our Instagram and emails asking sincere questions about this sexual behavior. I asked Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, one of my favorite marriage and sex experts, to share her insights on the topic. I learned so much from her! Instead of, "Is this particular sexual behavior ok?" there's a better question to ask instead – which you'll get to hear in this episode. I also learned the value of self-definition for expanding one's sexual agency, in other words, gaining your own testimony so-to-speak and committing to living your life with honesty and integrity to your highest and best values. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

There's no doubt in my mind that there's a deeply spiritual and emotional aspect to really good sex. When two lovers come together as good friends that want to give and receive pleasure and connect to know each other at a very deep and intimate level, sex takes on deep meaning. Many in American or western culture put a big focus on orgasm and finishing, for good reason: orgasm feels good. Really, really good. However, once in a while, we're too busy driving to our destination that we fail to see the beauty along the way. Slowing things down, way down, on purpose can bring you a new view of sex and deep intimate connection you may have not noticed before. Today's guest is Tammy Hill. She's a licensed family and marriage therapist as well as a professor at Brigham Young University in the family sciences department. She and her husband, Jeff, have 12 children and I lost count of how many grandchildren. She's studied and taught a slower, more thoughtful approach to sex which is full of awareness and soulful connection, called Tantric sex or Slow Sex, for more than a decade. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

Like many other men, I've probably said to my wife maybe once or twice, "I'm always in the mood for sex!" or "Whenever you want it, I'm ready!" Just kidding, I've probably said something like that hundreds of times. But I know there are exceptions to "always" being in the mood. In fact, when I'm really honest, there are many times I'm not in the mood. And my wife is even more puzzled when she's in the mood and I'm not. We're socialized to think that men should have the higher sexual desire in long term marriages, but "the stereotypical masculine approach to sexual desire is working against heterosexual couples' intimate relationships, and it's getting in the way of good sex." Today's guest is Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, a sex researcher and therapist who has studied male sexual desire. I've read her book, "Not Always In The Mood," and I look forward to sharing this interview with you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

We've done several episodes about painful sex in the past, but none of them have been as personal as this one today. You get to meet my friends Bryce and Shannon, who tell their story of how painful sex has really interfered with their relationship early on in their marriage. And I love the story because it's a story of faith. I also really appreciate Shannon and Bryce being really vulnerable and open and sharing specifically the things that help them and also didn't help them along their journey. I love these interviews where we're not interviewing experts per se, but these are just ordinary couples that are really doing extraordinary things in their relationship, and I'm so grateful that they're willing to share their story with you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

This episode is for any couple that has struggled with feelings of shame about bodies or sexuality, and has experienced conflict in their marriage around sexual differences. I am so very grateful that Jan Marie and Andrew were willing to come on the podcast to share their story. They were nervous and are private people, so it's a big deal for them to be open and vulnerable, in hopes that it inspires and blesses a listener's marriage. I met Jan Marie and Andrew at the marriage retreat we did last October. In fact, they celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary at the event! They've been through a lot of turmoil around sex and intimacy in their marriage together, which you'll get to hear. You'll also get to hear the tipping point when they've found healing and hope in their marriage. I also want to make a plug for marriage retreats. There's something special that happens when both of you attend a retreat to refresh and recharge. It's a time to get on the same page and really connect in new ways. You get to meet other couples too and learn from great marriage coaches. Our next marriage retreat is coming up on March 23-26, and you'll want to get on the waiting list to be the first to hear about the details. You can join the waiting list here. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Announcement: Join the waiting list for the couples retreat in March! For the next few episodes, I want to take a break from interviewing experts per se and showcase real stories from "ordinary" couples who have built extraordinary intimacy in their own marriages. One of the purposes of this podcast is to help as many people realize how wonderful sex is, and although it's sacred between a husband and wife, there's so much joy, excitement, expansion of self, growth, light, and connection through sex. It doesn't have to be such a taboo subject! I'm excited for you to meet the first couple in this series! You'll get to meet LeAnn and Jeff Austin from Georgia. They share their story about how they grew from a functional sex life to an intimate and adventurous sex life later in their marriage. They have four sons. Their two older children are married now. Jeff works as an airline pilot and LeAnn recently started a life coach business helping people learn to love themselves and how to build a great relationships with their daughters-in-law. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples (mentioned in the podcast today): Intimately Us