EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the distinction between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Inspired by conversations with parents in her group therapy program, she delves into the complexities and overlaps between the two diagnoses. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of understanding PDA within the framework of anxiety and highlights the stigmas associated with ODD, especially in racialized communities. She also touches on the limitations of behavioral approaches and the significance of adopting neurodiversity-affirming practices.00:00 Introduction and Life Updates00:45 Exploring PDA and ODD02:03 Nuances and Misconceptions02:49 Clinical Perspectives and Research05:33 Therapeutic Approaches and Stigma09:52 Evidence-Based Practices14:46 Conclusion and Future Episodes*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110RESOURCES⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

In this episode, Dr. Tay interviews Kaley Stymeist about "Spell to Communicate" (S2C), a method used to support non-speaking autistic children in expressing themselves. Kaley shares her journey with her son Hudson, who is progressing his communication through S2C after language regression. The discussion covers the methodology of S2C, emphasizing its neurodiversity-affirming approach and the importance of motor planning. Kaley also addresses common misconceptions and the need for structured training. Listeners learn where to find S2C practitioners and how to get started.00:00 Introduction to Spell to Communicate00:42 Meet Kaley Stymeist01:03 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission02:20 Kaley's Family and Autism Journey03:07 Hudson's Birth and Early Challenges06:49 Discovering Spell to Communicate15:38 Hudson's Progress and Motor Planning25:32 Starting with Presuming Competence25:50 Introduction to Three Letter Boards26:16 Transition to 26 Letter Boards26:54 The Importance of Prompting28:32 Building Motor Control and Accuracy30:08 Progressing to Open Communication33:18 The Goal of Spell to Communicate39:09 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions44:50 Finding a Practitioner and Training47:07 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Kaley on Instagram @kaley_and_3 and learn more about her S2C practice @autismsoulspeak ⚡️ find a local S2C practitioner >> https://i-asc.org/⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay shares a mini-episode where she dives into the complexities and controversies surrounding Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy in the autism field. She presents a balanced perspective on ABA, emphasizing the importance of informed consent and considering the diverse needs and privileges of families. Dr. Tay also highlights different neurodiversity affirming modalities under the ABA umbrella, upcoming podcast guests, and her own experiences, urging the need for more nuanced conversations in the field.00:00 Introduction and Personal Update00:52 Welcome to the Parenting Space01:05 Diving into ABA Therapy01:22 Controversies and Perspectives on ABA01:41 Upcoming Podcast Guests and Topics04:55 Informed Decision-Making for Families05:42 Advocating for Neurodiversity Affirming Practices07:06 Changing the Field from the Inside Out08:55 Accessibility Issues in Neurodiversity Affirming Therapy09:18 Challenges in Child Care for Working Parents10:02 Intersectionality and Racial Perspectives in ABA11:05 Safety and Compliance for Non-White Children12:08 Balancing Family Needs and Therapy Approaches12:43 Open Dialogue and Future Conversations13:34 Supporting Families Through Free Resources and Memberships14:47 Encouraging Informed Consent and Advocacy15:37 Conclusion and Future EpisodesRESOURCES⚡️ listen to episodes 26, 59, and 128, which further discuss ABA and varying approaches. and check out the Making the Shift episode on ABA that inspired this episode!⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Rob Gorski, known as The Autism Dad on social media, to discuss his experience as a father raising three autistic children. They explore the unique challenges and opportunities of fatherhood in the autism community, the grief process associated with diagnoses, and the importance of leaning into emotions. Rob shares his journey of starting a blog, the evolving support needs of his children, and the importance of self-care and mental health for parents. They also discuss the societal expectations for dads and the need for more inclusive and supportive conversations around fatherhood and autism.00:00 Introduction and Today's Special Guest00:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission02:01 Rob Gorski's Family and Autism Journey03:22 Challenges and Insights on Autism Diagnoses08:48 Support Needs and Progress of Rob's Children12:42 Navigating Parenting and Personal Challenges13:39 The Role of Dads in Autism Parenting18:05 Emotional Struggles and Mental Health28:38 Understanding the Impact of Parental Emotions29:34 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting31:10 Navigating Social Media and External Judgments32:54 The Importance of Repair and Recovery34:50 Challenging Parenting Norms and Expectations39:03 Advocating for Your Child's Needs44:06 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Care48:33 Final Thoughts and EncouragementRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Rob on Instagram @theautismdad and on his website⚡️ listen to our recent episode on Rob's podcast about autism in girls ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Carrie Cariello, a mother of five, including an autistic young adult. Carrie shares her family's journey, advocacy work, and the unique challenges and triumphs of raising an autistic child. They discuss practical strategies for fostering independence, the importance of community, navigating the education system, and marital dynamics. Carrie also shares insights into the transition to young adulthood, including finding supportive college programs. This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a reminder that families are not alone in their journey.00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview02:09 Meet Carrie Cariello: A Journey Through Autism03:00 Carrie's Family and Early Diagnosis04:07 From Writing to Advocacy06:40 Navigating Challenges and Safety Concerns08:59 Parenting Strategies and Splinter Skills17:50 Redefining Family Dynamics27:48 Parenting Challenges and Triumphs28:41 Navigating Discomfort and Fix-It Mode29:16 Dinner Time Dilemmas31:28 College Program Search36:24 Balancing Marriage and Parenting40:12 Encouraging Independence45:48 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Carrie >>Instagram @carrie_cariello Facebook @whatcolorismondayWebsite Link: https://carriecariello.substack.com⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay hosts Maggie of Unfurling Littles and explores Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) from an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lens. They discuss how to incorporate neurodiversity-affirming practices into ABA to create a compassionate, child-led approach. Maggie shares her journey into the field, her own lived experience as an autistic individual, and practical examples of how ACT principles can be applied within ABA for the benefit of both children and their families. The episode also addresses common concerns about traditional ABA and offers insights on fostering mindful play and regulation.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:46 Guest Introduction: Maggie from Unfurling Littles02:33 Maggie's Journey into Early Childhood Special Education03:43 Challenges and Criticisms of ABA06:28 Maggie's Personal Neurodivergence Story08:29 Founding Unfurling Littles and Professional Challenges10:59 Navigating ABA and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices14:38 Introduction to ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)16:39 Implementing ACT in Family and Child Goals21:26 Balancing Family and Child Values in Therapy27:08 Practical Applications of ACT in Therapy29:25 Measuring Engagement and Joy in Child Interactions29:59 Integrating Child-Led Approaches in Therapy30:27 Present Moment Awareness and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices32:04 Mindfulness in Neurodiversity Affirming Care34:16 Handling Dysregulation with ACT Principles36:32 The Importance of Validating Emotions40:41 Healing Through Neurodiversity Affirming Practices44:33 The Evolution and Future of ABA50:49 Connecting with Families and Resources52:45 Final Thoughts and Next StepsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Maggie on Instagram @unfurling_littles and her website https://www.unfurlinglittles.com⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tayNote: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

👉🏼 ENROLL NOW >> http://drtaylorday.com/membershipIf you find value in this podcast and want even more support, tune in to learn about “EVOLVE the membership.” This new membership offers a lower-cost, flexible alternative to traditional clinical services, designed to provide accessible support and education for autism families. I share personal insights about my journey from academia to entrepreneurship, the challenges faced in balancing multiple roles, and the motivation behind creating this membership. Making this launch happen even while I’m in Europe (and truthfully it feels quite sentimental!). What’s included in the membership: ⚡️a comprehensive video library⚡️community support⚡️expert masterclasses⚡️ resources⚡️and if you’re a founding member, you get the opportunity to shape what’s in the membership and what I create. 👉🏼 MORE DETAIL HERE + ENROLL NOW >> http://drtaylorday.com/membership00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:32 Launching a New Membership02:24 Personal Journey and Professional Growth04:42 Challenges and Expanding Services06:51 The Evolve Membership Details09:46 Balancing Personal and Professional Life12:02 Advocacy and Real-Life Stories18:03 Membership Benefits and Pricing31:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Rachel Madel, a speech language pathologist specializing in AAC, dive into the benefits of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) for autistic children, both non-speaking and verbally fluent children. They dispel common misconceptions about AAC, discuss various high-tech and low-tech AAC tools, and emphasize the importance of modeling and integrating AAC into daily routines. They also explore the impact of AAC on motor planning, literacy, and overall communication skills. Rachel shares practical tips for parents starting the AAC journey, highlights the significance of robust systems, and challenges the use of PECS. The episode includes insights on how technology can enhance communication, even among children with well-developed spoken language, and offers various resources for further learning.00:00 Introduction to AAC and Its Importance00:47 Meet Rachel Madel: AAC Specialist02:34 Understanding AAC: Tools and Techniques06:07 The Role of Technology in AAC09:37 Starting the AAC Journey: Tips for Parents14:21 Addressing Misconceptions About AAC19:57 Motor Planning Challenges: Apraxia vs. Dyspraxia26:08 Popular AAC Apps and Tools30:01 The Importance of Core Words in AAC30:20 Grammar and Literacy in AAC Systems31:04 Modifying AAC Systems32:54 Motivating Children to Use AAC36:04 The Role of Modeling in AAC39:00 Why Not PECS?43:54 Introducing AAC to Verbal Children46:46 Resources and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Rachel on Instagram @rachelmadelslp, find resources on her website www.rachelmadel.com, and listen to her podcast Talking with Tech ⚡️ get on the waitlist for Rachel's course, AAC Ally⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Stefanie, the president and co-founder of the nonprofit Lilly's Voice. Stefanie shares the inspiring story of her non-speaking autistic daughter, Lilly, whose journey with augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) devices led to the creation of the nonprofit. Lilly’s Voice provides AAC devices to children who have communication differences for families who cannot access these tools through conventional means, such as through school funding, insurance, or other grant mechanisms. Lilly’s Voice also provides education on AAC. The episode covers the importance of AAC, debunks common myths, and emphasizes best practices for parents to support their children's communication. Stefanie also discusses fundraising efforts and the impactful work of Lilly’s Voice.00:00 Introduction to Lily's Voice Nonprofit02:19 Meet Stephanie: The Inspiration Behind Lily's Voice03:32 The Journey to AAC: Challenges and Discoveries05:51 Launching Lily's Voice: A Nationwide Nonprofit08:34 Understanding Apraxia and the Role of AAC12:11 Debunking Myths About AAC20:01 Navigating the Process of Acquiring AAC Devices25:48 How Lily's Voice Supports Families27:18 App Limitations and Popular Choices28:02 Guidance for Parents on Choosing Apps30:20 Personal Experiences with AAC Apps31:28 Best Practices for AAC Devices34:55 Learning and Customizing AAC Devices40:12 Fundraising and Support for Lily's Voice45:25 Encouragement and Final Thoughts46:39 Conclusion and Next StepsRESOURCES⚡️ learn more about Lilly's Voice, apply for a scholarship, and learn about AAC on their website⚡️ connect with Stefanie through the nonprofit’s Instagram account @lillysvoice and Lilly’s personal page @afriendforlillybug⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Kaligirwa @blackspectrumscholar, an AuDHD communication researcher, to discuss the intersection of neurodiversity and research, with a particular emphasis on BIPOC representation within the autism community. Kali shares her personal journey of discovering her autism diagnosis and her efforts to highlight the representation of Black autistic individuals on social media. The conversation covers broad topics such as the history of autism subtypes, the diagnostic challenges faced by BIPOC individuals, and the complexities of clinical diagnosis. Dr. Tay and Kali also delve into the importance of evolving our understanding and terminology around autism to build greater acceptance and support as well as how to use social media as a tool to learn while also knowing its limitations. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview01:19 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose02:22 Guest's Personal Journey with Autism04:49 Challenges and Representation in Autism Research07:14 Social Media and Misinformation11:31 Navigating Research and Personal Experience26:11 Discussion on Autism Subtypes and Diagnosis30:53 Understanding PDD-NOS and Stigma31:47 Challenges with DSM-5 Levels32:58 Regional Differences in Diagnoses33:44 Functional Assessment Over Levels35:24 Issues with Profound Autism Label37:18 Spiky Profiles and Individual Differences39:22 BIPOC Representation in Autism Conversations39:55 Cultural Barriers to Diagnosis42:57 ODD and PDA: Shifting Perspectives49:53 Complexities of Diagnosing Anxiety51:24 Finding Affirming Practitioners53:28 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Kaligirwa on Instagram and TikTok @blackspectrumscholar and check out her resource library⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Emily Hamblin, a parent coach and neurodivergent mom of four, discuss practical strategies for self-compassion, regulating the nervous system, and addressing the challenges parents face. The episode covers the crucial role of self-care, debunking the notion that it's selfish, and highlights the impact it has on the parent and the entire family. Emily shares her personal journey, including her experiences and how understanding her own sensory needs and emotional triggers significantly improved her family dynamics. They discuss how to model healthy coping mechanisms for children and the importance of addressing underlying behaviors. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:15 Meet Emily Hamblin: A Journey into Neurodivergent Parenting02:31 The Challenges of Parenting Neurodivergent Children03:31 Shifting Perspectives: From Control to Compassion08:40 Understanding Self-Compassion and Its Importance13:55 The Impact of Self-Compassion on Parenting15:55 Modeling Positive Behavior for Children17:46 The Beginning of a Challenging Journey18:59 Coping with Extreme Parenting Stress20:35 Finding Support and Validation21:56 Balancing Self-Care and Parenting23:35 Navigating Guilt and Self-Care27:57 Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Kids29:36 Membership Programs and Resources32:34 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Emily Hamblin on Instagram @enlighteningmotherhood and learn more about her services https://emily-hamblin.com/ ⚡️ listen to my episode on Emily's podcast Enlightening Motherhood episode 126⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Joy Eberhardt, a holistic pediatrician specializing in integrative and functional medicine, discuss PANS (Pediatric Acute-Onset Neuropsychiatric Syndrome) and PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections). They delve into the complexities of diagnosing these conditions, particularly in neurodivergent children, and the importance of a holistic approach that includes conventional, integrative, and functional medicine. The conversation also covers the significance of parental advocacy, understanding neurodivergence, and defining thriving for both children and parents. Dr. Eberhardt shares insights into her clinical practice, challenges in differentiating symptoms, and ways to support families through personalized care plans. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:10 Meet Dr. Joy Everhart: Holistic Pediatrician 00:43 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission 01:49 Welcoming Dr. Joy to the Podcast 02:32 Dr. Joy's Journey and Expertise 04:08 Understanding Neurodivergence in Dr. Joy's Family 08:24 Dr. Joy's Professional Practice and Expansion 13:20 Navigating Pediatric Care and Neurodivergence 17:41 Introduction to PANS and PANDAS 25:51 Understanding the Complexity of Child Burnout 26:50 The Importance of History in Diagnosis 28:14 Exploring PANS and PANDAS 30:04 Identifying and Treating Inflammation 32:57 The Three-Legged Stool Approach 36:35 Holistic and Integrative Medicine 38:22 Defining Thriving for Your Child 41:33 Advocacy and Finding the Right Support 48:07 Wrapping Up and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Eberhardt on Instagram @orchidpediatrics and visit her website www.orchidpediatrics.com⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Sunita Theiss, an Indian neurodivergent mom, discuss Sunita's journey through autism diagnoses for herself and her children, the impact of South Asian cultural values on her parenting, and the integration of neurodivergent needs within religious communities. Sunita shares her personal experiences, the challenges of advocating for her child's needs within faith-based settings, and practical strategies for creating more inclusive communities. Together, they discuss the importance of accommodations, self-advocacy, and intentional parenting.00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview00:54 Host's Background and Podcast Mission01:57 Sunita's Family and Personal Journey02:51 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family05:22 Cultural Influences and Misattributions11:44 Parenting Approaches and Self-Advocacy21:40 Accommodations and Long-Term Support26:41 Meeting Online and Family Backgrounds27:11 Integrating Different Upbringings27:42 Reparenting and Healing28:29 Family Time and Dinner Table Dynamics31:21 Parenting Strategies and Research33:28 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family37:01 Cultural and Community Reactions41:30 Supporting Neurodivergent Families in Religious Communities49:00 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Sunita on Instagram @sunitatheiss, visit her website, and read her Substack⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this solo episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of being comfortable with being wrong and sitting with the discomfort that accompanies it. She draws from her personal experiences and professional journey to provide insights on navigating life with an autistic child while balancing evidence-based practices with neurodiversity-affirming approaches. Dr. Tay addresses the evolving landscape of autism care, emphasizes the value of lived experiences, and offers practical advice to parents. RESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Chandele Morris, an inclusive educational consultant and author, discuss the barriers in the educational system, the importance of understanding neurodiversity and tangible steps to be better advocates for autistic children. Chandele shares her experiences as a former educator and a parent of an autistic/ADHD child, emphasizing the need for inclusive education and the significance of updating educational training. The episode also highlights practical strategies for creating inclusive classrooms and the role of community and resources in supporting neurodivergent children.00:00 Introduction to the Educational System and Advocacy00:41 Meet Chandele Morris, an Inclusive Educational Consultant02:25 Understanding Neurodiversity in Education03:29 Challenges in Teacher Training and Awareness05:45 The Need for Systemic Change in Education09:24 Inclusion vs. Segregation in Classrooms15:41 Real-Life Examples and Solutions for Inclusion27:10 Fidgets and Sensory Breaks in Classrooms28:01 Inclusive Classroom Practices29:01 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families29:38 AAC Devices and Communication31:24 Teaching Empathy and Inclusion36:25 Challenges in Changing Educational Systems41:36 Finding Community and Support44:06 The Role of Children's Books in Neurodiversity46:38 Conclusion and Next StepsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Chandele MorrisInstagram @Diversityofminds TikTok @Diversityofminds  Facebook @Diversityofminds ⚡️ check out Chandele's books The Beauty of Us AllI'm Just a Kid: A Social Emotional Book about Self-Regulation⚡️email [email protected] to schedule an author visit, professional development, or order bulk copies of books ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Courtney English discuss:importance of sensory systemsintroduction to sensory profileshow to support sensory regulation at homeRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Courtney English on Instagram @courtneyenglish.ot and on TikTok @courtneyenglish.ot⚡️ get access to Courtney's resources here, including learning about your child's sensory profile⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Daniella Boyd discuss:Daniella's personal and parental journey in navigating neurodivergenceAn explanation of DIRFloortime, including engagement in play and relationship-based activities.Supporting BIPOC neurodivergent children and the adaptability of Floortime to meet culture-specific needsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Daniella Boyd through her website https://allplayisok.com/ or through Instagram @montessoriandsensory⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Sarah Wayland discuss:her journey and insights into using relationship-based dynamic intelligence (RDI) to enhance family bonds and your autistic child's growththe role of co-regulation and autonomy in parenting your autistic childpractical advice for parents on integrating RDI principles into daily life RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Sarah Wayland, Ph.D., parent coach + founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents on her website and on Facebook and LinkedIn⚡️ learn more about Relationship-based Dynamic Intelligence (RDI™) and working with Dr. Wayland⚡️ purchase her book along with Dr. Donna Henderson and Jamell White "Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else"⚡️ reference another great resource from Dr. Wayland: Behavior Revolution⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay *please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay, Jessica Hanzo, and Lisa Baskin Wright discuss:navigating the IEP processworking with your child's school to have a shared understanding of PDA (pathological demand avoidance), a theorized profile of autismproposing appropriate accommodations and support strategies for PDA learnersRESOURCES⚡️ keep learning and purchase the course Supporting PDA Learners: Centering Connection, Autonomy and Equality in the IEP Process ⚡️ connect with Jessica Hanzo, LMFT on Instagram @pda.project and visit her website⚡️ connect with Lisa Basking Wright, IEP coach on Instagram @lisabaskinwright, on Facebook, and visit her website⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses the highly requested topic of how autism often presents in females, particularly those with low support needs. This episode would still be an informative listen if you have a son who presents with high masking autism, as the more nuanced traits are discussed.RESOURCES⚡️ want more on this topic? listen to Dr. Donna Henderson's episode on girls (note: this episode was recorded for psychologists / neuropsychologists but still could be a good listen)⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Amanda Diekman discuss:what a low demand lifestyle isthe three layers of a demand how to find joy in this parenting journeyRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Amanda DiekmanInstagram @lowdemandamanda Facebook @lowdemandamandawww.amandadiekman.comGet the book⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Steph Curtis discuss:the nuances of raising a child with pathological demand avoidance (PDA), emphasizing early detection, adapting parenting techniques, and understanding unique needs.the journey to find the right educational setting for a child with PDA, dealing with societal pressures, and the critical role of flexibility and individualized approaches.leveraging community support and personal growth through blogging and writing, highlighting the value of connecting with community and the intersection of PDA with conditions like ADHD and anxiety.RESOURCES⚡️ resources referenced in today's episode Steph's BlogPDA in the Family: Life After the Lightbulb MomentSasha's Animation About her School Experiences ⚡️ connect with Steph Curtis, mom to two autistic daughters, writer, and PDA pioneerInstagram @stephstwogirls YouTube @stephstwogirls Facebook @stephstwogirlsX @stephstwogirls⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.**also PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I will do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. To learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown, a pediatric sleep medicine physician, discuss:what sleep medicine is and how a sleep medicine physician can helpthe three buckets of sleep issues - medical, behavioral, and 24-hour factorseducation about medications that impact sleepRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Funke Afolabi-Brown, MD, FAASMhttps://www.therestfulsleepplace.comInstagram @restfulsleepmdFacebook @restfulsleepmdYouTube @DrFunkeBrown LinkedIn @drfunkebrown⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay provides an introduction to PDA (pathological demand avoidance, also known as persistent or pervasive drive for autonomy). In this episode, we discuss:what PDA is as a theorized profile of autismvarying perspectives about PDAco-occurring conditions and their overlap with PDAsupport strategies and how to continue learningRESOURCES⚡️ download my free PDA guide⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Amber Arrington discuss:the emotional and practical journey of receiving and embracing 3 autism diagnoses, reflecting on the changes in understanding and approaches over timethe significance of community, self-education, and tailored support in navigating the autism parenting experiencethe evolving conversation around autism therapies, particularly ABA, and the shift towards a neurodiversity-affirming perspective that celebrates individual strengths and needsRESOURCES⚡️ Register for The Autism Savvy Summit: While You Wait Edition⚡️ connect with Amber Arrington, autism mom and founder of Autism Savvy >>Instagram @autismsavvyTikTok @autismsavvyOrder Amber's book Not Atypical Motherhood: The Guide For Navigating a Child's New Autism Diagnosis⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay, Chris Wenger, and Jessie Ginsburg discuss:the impact of embracing neurodiversity in speech therapy, focusing on intrinsic motivation and sensory integrationchallenges and solutions for implementing sensory-friendly practices in therapy and educational settingsadvice for parents on advocating for neuroaffirming approaches and navigating school systemsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Chris Wenger, CCC-SLP @speechdude on Instagram and TikTok >>DM the word “BANANAS” for his neuroaffirming resources⚡️ connect with Jessie Ginsburg, MS, CCC-SLP @sensory.slp on Instagram and TikTok >>order Jessie's book Ready, Set Connect: A Sensory Based Approach to Accelerate Communication in Autistic Children⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses:the complex issue of seeking a cure for autism, including the risks and ethical concerns of treatments like chelation and hyperbaric oxygen therapythe shift towards acceptance and neurodiversity, highlighting the value of unconditional love and present parenting in the autism communitydebunking myths around autism recovery, such as reducing screen time, and stressing the importance of accurate information and holistic family supportRESOURCES⚡️ your next episode >> 96 | key autism parenting mindset shifts⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Elizabeth Duttera from @aut2ask discuss:Elizabeth's personal advocacy sparked by her late diagnosis and how individual stories can highlight broader issues within the autism community.insights from the Aut2Ask survey struggles with accessing affordable support and the necessity for systemic and policy changes to provide better resources for autistic individuals.RESOURCES⚡️ complete the Aut2Ask Survey⚡️ connect with Elizabeth >>Instagram @aut2askX @aut2ask ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Malia Phelps Waller discuss:transitioning to homeschooling: Malia's journey from public schooling to a play-based homeschooling approach during the pandemic.homeschooling methodologies: discussions on unschooling, Montessori, and eclectic styles, emphasizing child-centered education.practical homeschooling aspects: navigating state regulations, curriculum choices, and integrating real-world experiences for learning.RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Malia Phelps Waller homeschool mama, special educator and BCBAMalia's WebsiteInstagram @maliaphelpswallerhomeschoolFacebook @maliaphelpswallerhomeschoolDownload Malia's Homeschool Toolbox⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Brittyn Coleman, Registered Dietitian, discuss:the overlap between sensory experiences and eating for autistic childrensensory-friendly strategies to diversify diets and support gut healthoffering practical advice for parents on supporting their autistic children with feeding therapy and neurodivergent affirming approachesRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Brittyn Colemanvisit her website (including her 5-day workshop + membership)Instagram @autismdietitianTikTok @autismdietitian Facebook @autismdietitianYouTube @autismdietitian⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Liz Angoff, an educational psychologist, discuss:the importance of parents embracing and understanding neurodiversity and how they can help their child understand how their brain works empowering strategies and how-tos for parents to discuss autism with their child, including relatable metaphors and AI toolsemphasizing ongoing, open conversations with your family about autism (including with siblings)RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Liz AngoffInstagram @explainingbrainshttps://explainingbrains.com/autism⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Donna Henderson define the following:PDAinteroception and emotionsneurocrashautistic burnoutRSDautigender RESOURCES ⚡️ connect with Dr. Donna Henderson, clinical neuropsychologist https://www.drdonnahenderson.com/her book along with Drs. Sarah Wayland and Jamell White "Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else"Donna's practice: https://stixrud.com/⚡️ additional resources mentioned by Dr. Hendersonhttps://www.kelly-mahler.com/neurodivergentinsights.com⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses:her journey from graduate school and D1 athletics to specializing in autism, highlighting her personal and professional experiences that shaped her focus.a sneak peek of a new 12-week course on PDA, developed in collaboration with Katherine L'Etang, @theneurodiversitymom, to better serve the autistic communityRESOURCES⚡️ get on the waitlist for the PDA course >> https://link.drtaycoaching.com/widget/form/1K4FJdMEqHU7qVBu9apU⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this is a special episode to celebrate 100 episodes of autism education here on the podcast. I emphasize the parallel of how consistency and time got me here and how that perfectly describes the autism parenting journey! at the end, I announce a big giveaway - a chance to win a three-month group therapy scholarship. RESOURCES⚡️ 10K GIVEAWAY POST - DETAILS TO ENTER >>https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3nsfwixnXq/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses:Taylor Swift's potential neurodivergence and its relevance to your autistic child.embracing neurodivergence in parenting and advocating for acceptance.RESOURCES⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusseslessons learned from her dating experiencethe importance of vulnerability and growthRESOURCES⚡️ No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Gabriele Nicolet, MA, CCC-SLP discuss:understanding tantrums vs meltdownschild communication and coping strategiesimportance of parent regulation during meltdownsRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Gabriele Nicolet, MA, CCC-SLP. she is a parent coach and founder of Orchid Kids.Instagram @speechkidsdcLinkedIn @gabriele-nicoletFacebook @ gabriele.nicoletSubstack @gabrielenicolethttps://www.raisingorchidkids.com/https://www.speechkids.com/⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses:emphasizing flexibility in parenting autistic children, adapting to their unique needs.encouraging parents to accept uncertainties and learn alongside their child.understanding and embracing neurodivergent perspectives over conventional expectations.RESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Katherine L'Etang of @theneurodiversitymom discuss:The journey of self-realization as an autistic woman and navigating life with autistic children.Learning about neurodiversity and how to become an advocate.Insights into PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a profile of autism, and adopting a neuroaffirming low demand lifestyle.RESOURCES⚡️⚡️ connect with Katherine L'EtangInstagram + TikTok @theneurodiversitymomhttps://www.theneurodiversitymom.net/⚡️ also discussed in this episode was Erin of @spinsandstomps roadmap (PS she was on the pod too - episode 68). download it here 👇🏼https://www.spinsandstomps.com/resources⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Dr. Arielle Rubin, a board-certified child and adolescent psychiatrist, discuss:the field of psychiatry and its role in diagnosing autism and co-occurring conditionstreating anxiety, depression, and ADHD in the context of autismdifferent options and considerations when it comes to medicationRESOURCES⚡️⚡️Connect with Dr. Arielle Rubin >>Instagram @ariellerubinmdhttp://www.ariellerubinmd.com⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tayplease note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

93 | navigating your relationship: parenting and neurodivergence with Pasha Marlowe, MFTABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Pasha Marlowe, marriage and family therapist / neurodiversity coach, discuss: challenges in family relationships when children or partners are neurodivergentthe role of communication and balancing individual needs in neurodivergent familiesinsights on redefining perceptions and thriving in neurodiversityRESOURCES⚡️Connect with Pasha Marlowe >>on LinkedIn, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebookhttps://pashamarlowe.com ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses:the concept of getting “delulu” in the context of autism parentingbelieving in your autistic child's communication and developmental potential through various methodsthe transformative effect of applying 'getting delulu' to personal growth and aspirationsRESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and anti-hustle coach + autism parent Marisa Hohaia discuss:her family's autism journey, the impact of her son's diagnosis on her work, and her philosophy of living that helps them navigate through their lifethe importance of enjoying the present moment and letting go of expectations in the autism journey, emphasizing how not getting caught up in a rigid vision for the future can open up more room for joy and progress in the present.manifestation in the context of autism parenting, suggesting that while parents can't directly shape or control their child's journey, they can manifest and attract necessary support, resources, and growth experiences.RESOURCES⚡️continue to learn from Marisa >>follow on Instagramcheck out resources on her website breakupwithbusy.com ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇in this episode, Dr. Tay discusses reflecting on 2023 and prepping for 2024. she emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, setting realistic and progressive goals, and taking inventory of strengths and support needs for oneself and your autistic child. she talks about her own personal journey, shares the most popular episodes of her podcast for the past year, and her ongoing learning from professionals and Autistic voices alike. the discussion also delves into challenges faced in the previous year and how they shape resilience. Dr. Tay concludes by highlighting the need to be more intentional, to live in alignment with one's values, and to focus on internal measurements of success. she also shares some sneak peeks of what is to come in 2024 for her practice.RESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇in a candid, impromptu episode of her podcast, I address a social media video that portrays being a sibling of a neurodivergent child as unfair. while I acknowledge the challenges of parenting autistic children, I offer a different perspective based on my personal experience as a sibling and my professional insight. I discuss the importance of seeing the beauty in diversity, focusing on quality over quantity of time, and fostering empathy, resilience and advocacy skills among all children. I encourages parents to start dialogues about neurodiversity within their homes and emphasize that the goal should not be about achieving fairness but about being mindful and present for each child’s unique needs.RESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay hosts an in-depth discussion with Kelli Fetter, an occupational therapist and certified handwriting specialist. they explore the common challenges autistic children encounter with handwriting, relating to fine motor difficulties and learning disabilities. Kelli provides valuable insights on the integral connection between handwriting and overall literacy. Dr. Tay and Kelli discuss signs that additional support outside of school might be necessary, and they shed light on the benefits of utilizing a strengths-based approach for building handwriting skills. Kelli stresses the importance of explicit instruction in handwriting as well as maintaining foundational motor skills through physical play to facilitate better handwriting.CHAPTERS02:21 Kelli's background and the importance of handwriting07:27 when to start monitoring for handwriting difficulties13:26 red flags for handwriting difficulties21:16 the neurological aspects of learning disabilities24:08 the impact of learning disabilities28:11 the role of motor skills in writing32:48 supporting families through Handwriting SolutionsRESOURCES⚡️ Connect with Kelli Fetter >>Subscribe to Kelli's Handwriting Solutions blogHandwriting Solutions websiteBook a free consult call with Kelli FetterOther social media: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, I discuss my journey of unexpectedly navigating my dog Charlotte's cancer diagnosis, paralleling it with lessons for an autism parenting journey. I discuss the importance of 'living in the present moment' by constantly grounding oneself in available data and of accepting and acknowledging emotions instead of suppressing them. I share my personal experience dealing with anticipatory anxiety and how I have been countering it with grounding practices. I remind you to trust the process, enjoy life's moments despite challenges, and to remember that it's okay not to have everything together all the time and how that doesn't make anyone less of a person or parent.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay hosts Dr. Phil Boucher, a pediatrician working within the direct primary care model. they discuss autism, including advocating for your child and support needs like sleep and additional testing. Dr. Boucher explains the challenges of traditional healthcare and his transition to the direct primary care model, allowing him more time to deliver quality healthcare to patients. he offers advice to parents on how to approach discussions about autism with their child's pediatrician. the episode concludes with a look at the future of this healthcare model, and how it allows for a more personalized and efficient approach to healthcare.RESOURCES⚡️ follow Dr. Phil Boucher on Instagram to keep learning from him⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism / ASD) are used. we have a conversation in the episode about language and why both are being used!

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay hosts Autistic autism researcher Chelsea Verrette, who provides her insights on the current state of autism research. we discuss the importance of language in discussions about neurodivergence and the gaps in the existing literature. the conversation centers on shifting from a deficit-based model to incorporating the neurodiversity framework into research and life. Chelsea also shares her perspectives on navigating the educational system, helping children learn about their diagnosis, and building community. at the end of the episode, Chelsea shares a sneak peek into her research around neurodivergent individuals' response to marketing, suggesting that top marketing tactics may be harmful for the neurodivergent community. CHAPTERS:02:28 Chelsea's journey into autism research12:22 understanding autism and its impact24:52 understanding neurodiversity and belonging29:40 the need for neurodivergent representation in research 36:11 the impact of marketing and communication on neurodivergent individuals49:08 the importance of community and support for neurodivergent individualsRESOURCES⚡️ ways to connect with Chelsea Verrette >>Chelsea's resources, including her Discord community and daily text affirmationsfollow Chelsea on Instagramfollow Chelsea on LinkedIn⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇in this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by Jamie Lin Brown, an autism mama, to discuss the importance of building a strong community for parents of autistic children. the conversation focuses on the need to view the child holistically, integrating physical, mental, and emotional aspects of their growth. Jamie shares her own experiences and suggests how parenting communities can offer emotional support and practical advice. they also touch on the idea of maintaining personal well-being as an autism parent and not losing one's self in the journey. the episode highlights that while each child's autism journey may be unique, common connections can be formed between families sharing similar experiences.CHAPTERS02:25 Jamie's personal journey with autism08:10 the challenges and triumphs of autism parenting13:33 the role of holistic approach in autism21:08 the power of community in the autism journey30:57 the importance of building relationships40:45 the Importance of self-care in autism parentingRESOURCES⚡️ ways to connect with Jamie Lin Brown >>join the Intentional Autism Mama Community on Patreon Jamie Lin Brown's website follow Jamie on Instagram⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayLinkedIn @the-dr-tay