EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇feeling confused about what to do next with your child?most parents assume that means they need more information.more strategies.more answers.but what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck?in this episode, we’re talking about why confusion isn’t a problem to fix and how constantly searching for more information can actually create more overwhelm.if you’ve been overthinking, second-guessing, or feeling like you should “know more” by now… this episode will help you slow down, reconnect, and find clarity in a completely different way.in this episode, you’ll hear:why confusion doesn’t mean you’re failing and how it can actually guide your next stepshow overconsuming information can keep you stuck in a cycle of overwhelmwhat it looks like to “slow down to speed up” in your parenting decisionshow to ground yourself in what you already know to be true about your childwhy not all autism parenting content is relevant to you at every stagea simple “bucket” framework to help you organize what to focus on now vs laterwhy going deeper (not wider) is often the key to clarityhow to take your next step without needing to have everything figured outtimestamps00:00 embracing confusion in parenting03:44 finding your rhythm: the beat of parenting06:47 judgment and acceptance in parenting09:25 navigating information overload12:25 understanding different stages of parenting15:10 actionable takeaways for parents17:49 creating clarity amidst confusion20:33 building foundations for future growth24:02 the journey of self-discovery in parentingresources⚡️need support in finding your next best steps? join EVOLVE the membership and submit your questions for dr. tay to answer⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services⚡️ share your insights from this episode with me >>instagram → @the.dr.tayemail → [email protected]

about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇April is "autism month" and with it comes more conversations, more content, and more opinions.and while that can be incredibly valuable… it can also feel overwhelming.for many parents, this month brings up a mix of emotions: gratitude, frustration, confusion, and sometimes even pressure to feel a certain way about your child’s diagnosis.in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down what autism acceptance actually means — beyond the surface-level messaging — and why this concept can feel harder than it sounds.you’ll also hear how to navigate the increased noise during this month, protect your own capacity, and begin to define what acceptance looks like in your real, day-to-day parenting.in this episode, you’ll hear:the difference between autism awareness and autism acceptance (and why both still matter)what “acceptance” actually means from a psychological perspective (not just the mainstream definition)why this month can feel overwhelming, overstimulating, or even frustrating for parentshow increased conversations can sometimes lead to conflict, misinformation, or pressurepermission to step back, disconnect, or set boundaries during this monthhow to balance gratitude for awareness with protecting your own nervous systemwhat it looks like to move toward acceptance while still holding space for griefwhy acceptance is not a one-time decision, but an ongoing process in your parenting journeyhow to define what acceptance looks like for you and your familytimestamps00:00 understanding autism month: awareness vs. acceptance09:02 the importance of acceptance in autism18:09 defining acceptance: beyond the surface26:51 navigating emotions: acceptance in parenting34:04 embracing the journey of acceptance resources⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to have your questions answered and have more in-depth education like you heard in today's episode⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services⚡️ follow me oninstagram → @the.dr.taytiktok → @the.dr.tay

about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇you started this journey trying to understand your child…and somewhere along the way, you started to notice traits yourself in it too.for many parents, this moment is both clarifying and confusing.you recognize the patterns. but then the question becomes:what do I actually do?in this episode, dr. tay walks through what it looks like to explore your own neurodivergence as an adult, including when self-identification feels enough and when you might want more clarity.she also breaks down what an autism evaluation can actually look like for adults (and why it often doesn’t need to be the same long, overwhelming process many families go through with their children).in this episode, you’ll hear:why so many parents begin to question their own neurotype after their child’s diagnosiswhat self-identification can offer and when it may or may not feel sufficienthow masking, learned behaviors, and life experiences can make it harder to recognize autism in yourselfwhy adult autism is often missed or misidentified earlier in lifewhat a comprehensive autism evaluation is designed to assess and why that model doesn’t always fit adult needshow adult evaluations can be more streamlined, collaborative, and focused on lived experiencewhat clarity, validation, and outside perspective can offer beyond self-explorationhow an evaluation can support not just you but your parenting and your relationship with your childthe difference between needing “all the data” vs. needing confirmation and next stepshow to think about whether an evaluation is the right next step for youtimestamps00:00 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families10:04 The Importance of Self-Identification19:10 Navigating Evaluations and Diagnoses28:31 Finding Clarity and Supportingresources⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services, including booking a free consult call for our adult evaluations⚡️ explore DSM-5-TR diagnostic criteria for autism (made accessible by @blackspectrumscholar as part of their free resource library)⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to have you questions answered like mentioned in today's episode⚡️ follow me oninstagram → @the.dr.taytiktok → @the.dr.tay

about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇do you ever feel like there are a million things going on with your child and no clear place to start? maybe you’re wondering if it’s autism.or anxiety.or adhd.or something else entirely. and every time you try to figure it out, it just feels more tangled. in this episode, dr. tay walks you through how to untangle the overwhelm, without needing all the answers first. using the analogy of a tangled ball of yarn, she breaks down how to find your starting point, build momentum, and take meaningful action (instead of staying stuck in overthinking).in this episode, you’ll hear:why autism (and co-occurring differences like anxiety or adhd) can feel like a “tangled web” and how to start making sense of ithow a comprehensive evaluation can bring clarity (and when it might not be the only next step)how to identify what’s actually driving your child’s challenges, even when everything feels connectedsimple ways to collect data and spot patterns in your child’s day-to-day experienceshow to collaborate with your child’s clinical team (even if you only have limited access to them)when learning more is helpful… and when it turns into overconsumption that keeps you stuckhow tools like AI can support pattern recognition (without replacing clinical judgment)the most important shift: why action creates clarity (not the other way around)timestamps00:00 navigating the overwhelm of “where do i start?”03:50 understanding autism evaluations and differential diagnosis07:01 why comprehensive evaluations can bring clarity09:45 identifying underlying factors (anxiety, adhd, and more)12:42 using data to recognize patterns16:34 collaboration, ai tools, and building insight19:19 taking action and finding your next step21:55 exploring therapy options and supports24:59 moving out of overconsumption and into momentum28:01 final reflections and next steps resources⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to ask your burning questions and watch the masterclass on looping and cognitive inflexibility⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services, including comprehensive evaluations and group therapy support⚡️ follow me oninstagram → @the.dr.taytiktok → @the.dr.tay

is an autism diagnosis actually helpful for your child — or could it hurt them?many parents hesitate to pursue an evaluation because they worry about labels, stigma, or putting their child “in a box.” but avoiding the diagnosis doesn’t change whether your child is autistic. what it changes is how clearly you understand your child and how effectively you can support them.in this episode of EVOLVE with Dr. Tay, we break down both the logistical and emotional realities of autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay explains why a diagnosis can unlock support, provide language for self-understanding, and help families move toward greater acceptance and advocacy while also acknowledging the grief and stigma that can arise along the way.this episode is especially helpful if you’re in the pre-diagnosis stage or if your child was recently diagnosed and you’re still processing what that means for your family.in this episode, you’ll hear:why an autism diagnosis doesn’t change your child and instead gives clarity on how to support themthe logistical benefits of diagnosis, including access to services and support systemshow evaluations create a roadmap for understanding your child’s strengths and support needsthe emotional side of diagnosis, including grief and adjustment for parents and childrenwhy many autistic adults wish they had known their diagnosis earlierhow giving your child language to understand their brain can support self-acceptancehow stigma and ableism influence how families think about diagnosiswhy avoiding the label can unintentionally reinforce shame or confusionhow parents can help shape a neurodiversity-affirming narrative about autismtimestamps00:00 understanding autism diagnosis: a parent’s dilemma06:54 logistical benefits of an autism diagnosis13:36 emotional aspects of autism diagnosis19:06 navigating stigma and self-advocacyresources⚡️ learn more about autism evaluations through Dr. Tay Concierge Clinical Carehttps://drtaylorday.com⚡️ if your child already has a diagnosis and you’re wondering how to talk with them about it, check out the masterclass inside EVOLVE the membershiphttps://drtaylorday.com/membership⚡️ continue learning from me >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

when should medication be part of your child’s support plan?for many parents of autistic kids, medication feels heavy. scary. final. like something you only consider when everything else has failed. but what if medication isn’t a cure-all or a last resort — what if it’s simply one tool in the toolkit?in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down the nuanced role medication can play in supporting autistic children, especially when dysregulation, capacity, and mental health are limiting your child’s ability to access therapy, accommodations, or even their own joy.this isn’t about quick fixes. it’s about expanding capacity. in this episode, you’ll hear:00:00 introduction to medication support for autistic children00:27 common misconceptions about medication00:56 benefits and considerations for medication use01:23 medication alongside therapeutic approaches02:16 research insights on medication and behavioral support03:08 using medication for anxiety and emotional dysregulation03:33 recognizing when medication might be needed04:03 indicators of nervous system dysregulation in therapy05:06 medication as a tool06:14 understanding stimulant medications (e.g., adderall, ritalin)06:43 the “capacity cup” metaphor07:38 teaching internal regulation alongside medication09:28 anxiety management and exposure-based therapies10:39 environmental stressors and medication’s role12:29 medication optimization and careful dosing13:20 addressing fears about personality loss and side effects14:42 weighing risks and benefits to improve quality of life15:31 advocacy tips for working with prescribing providers16:42 invitation to medication consideration masterclass17:11 closing remarksresources⚡️ episodes referenced include 94 and 139 with Dr. Arielle Rubin and 177 with Dr. Stacy Greeter⚡️ medication consideration masterclass (inside EVOLVE the membership):join here >> https://drtaylorday.com/membership⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + clinical services:https://drtaylorday.com

are you constantly wondering if you’re doing too much… or not enough… for your autistic child?in autism parenting, it can feel like every decision is high stakes. you hear “lower demands.” you hear “do exposure.” you hear “presume competence.” you hear autistic voices sharing lived experience. and somehow, you’re still left wondering what actually applies to your child.this episode won’t give you a black-and-white formula. but it will help you understand how to think through this question in a grounded, regulated way — and how to navigate the tension between accommodation and over accommodation without swinging to extremes.in this episode, you’ll hear:why nothing in autism parenting is black and whitehow to filter research, professional advice, and autistic voiceswhat accommodation vs overaccommodation actually meanswhy overaccommodating anxiety can unintentionally reinforce ithow “low demand” can slide into eggshell parentingwhen to gently peel back support to presume competencehow to use trial and error without turning it into self-blametimestamps00:00 the importance of nuance in autism parenting03:05 navigating accommodation vs over accommodation11:29 understanding exposure therapy and its nuances16:08 balancing structure and flexibility in parenting23:08 empowering autonomy and self-advocacy in childrenresources⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership and be live for the upcoming masterclass on this topic (March 2026)⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services⚡️ follow me oninstagram → @the.dr.taytiktok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇screen time doesn’t have to be all or nothing.in this episode, Dr. Tay sits down with Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator and author of Power On, to talk about balancing technology in a way that feels realistic, empowering, and aligned with your child’s brain, especially in neurodivergent children.this conversation moves beyond fear-based messaging and into nuance — exploring regulation, accommodations, executive functioning, transitions, and digital safety through a neurodiversity-affirming lens.in this episode:why screen time is morally neutral and why that mattershow video games can support executive functioning and skill buildingusing screen time as data about how your child’s brain workswhy some content is more dysregulating than otherspractical strategies for transitions off screenshow to scaffold digital safety over timetimestamps00:00 introduction and today’s topic: screen time and technology00:37 meet Ash Brandin02:47 Ash’s journey to educating parents on technology04:50 the importance of neutrality in technology use06:10 balancing screen time: practical tips and insights18:18 teaching technology skills: a lifelong approach22:40 the benefits of screen time for autistic children25:15 video games as accommodating environments27:22 observing and learning from kids’ screen time27:44 addressing hesitancy in using accommodations29:58 engaging with kids through screen time30:40 the importance of digital safety31:48 exploring the book’s structure and key concepts32:13 understanding access, behavior, and content in screen time36:28 strategies for managing screen time transitions40:04 final thoughts and resources RESOURCES⚡️ follow Ash on Instagram and on Substack⚡️ order Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family⚡️ join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning. dive into the included masterclass to dive deeper into navigating screen time and its benefits for autistic kids⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇in this special episode, Dr. Tay shares a live coaching session with Winter, a mom of a 6-year-old autistic boy. listeners are invited inside a real, unscripted coaching conversation — one that mirrors the questions, emotions, and uncertainty so many parents carry quietly. together, Dr. Tay and Winter explore what it’s like to sit with grief and acceptance at the same time, to question whether current supports are actually helping, and to feel the pressure to “do enough” while also wanting space to breathe. Dr. Tay helps Winter slow things down, name what’s coming up beneath the urgency, and reflect on what alignment, confidence, and quality of life could look like for her family. this episode offers a window into how parent coaching can help you:feel less alone in the emotional weight of an autism diagnosisuntangle urgency from what truly matters right nowexperiment with supports without shame or fear of “getting it wrong”build confidence in your instincts as your child’s parentreconnect with yourself while still showing up for your childif you’ve ever wondered what parent coaching actually sounds like — or wished for a space to talk things through out loud with someone who truly gets it — this episode is for you. TIMESTAMPS00:00 introduction and episode overview00:06 meet winter and her journey02:52 navigating early diagnosis and initial support04:02 challenges, grief, and emotional struggles11:57 finding the right support and community20:30 navigating autism as a first-time parent20:43 the pressure of early intervention21:53 the impact of how diagnoses are delivered23:04 support systems and clinical care23:47 parenting with confidence and love27:09 concerns about the future33:33 advocating for disability needs in public spaces37:25 building community and self-advocacy39:54 closing reflections and resources RESOURCES⚡️ Connect with Winter @aspectrumfueledpurpose ⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey, with the option to add on a 1:1 coaching session like this⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + other services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇 if you’ve recently received an autism diagnosis — or you’re pretty sure one is coming — this episode is for you. many parents expect to feel relief after a diagnosis. sometimes that happens briefly. but more often, things actually feel heavier, more confusing, and more urgent. in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down why that happens, names the “trap of urgency” so many families fall into, and explains what actually helps in this early post-diagnosis phase. want more support? the You Got The Diagnosis. Now What? program was designed for you! a four-week, neurodiversity-affirming program designed to support families in the space between diagnosis and action — focused on clarity, self-trust, and sustainable next steps.LEARN MORE HERE: https://drtay.thrivecart.com/you-got-the-diagnosis-now-what CHAPTERS00:00 navigating the autism diagnosis journey02:26 understanding why diagnosis can create more questions12:41 clarity over urgency: slowing down without falling behind23:59 introducing support for families in the post-diagnosis phase RESOURCES⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach and other serviceshttps://drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇 this episode marks a big milestone — 200 episodes — and a very human return after an unplanned pause. Dr. Tay shares openly about what led to stepping back, including grief, perfectionism, and the pressure she felt to make the “right” episode for this moment. from there, the conversation widens into something deeper: how personal values, neurodiversity-affirming care, and what’s happening in our country are deeply intertwined. this is an episode about alignment — as a parent, as a clinician, and as a human — and why staying silent doesn’t feel like an option when your values are at stake. CHAPTERS00:00 return from hiatus and celebrating 200 episodes05:48 navigating personal challenges, caregiving, and grief12:19 the intersection of personal beliefs and professional practice20:37 the importance of human connection in parenting26:23 values, advocacy, and human rights33:05 core values in clinical practice36:38 affirming neurodivergence through collaboration40:15 integrity, repair, and whole-family healing44:00 living in alignment with your values49:43 reflecting on privilege and responsibility in advocacy RESOURCES⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership: a space for questions, community, and neurodiversity-affirming guidancehttps://drtaylorday.com/membership ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach and current serviceshttps://drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

this week’s episode was inspired directly by a diagnostic feedback session inside dr. tay’s clinical practice. one parent asked a question that so many others wonder: “should i be teaching social skills to my autistic child… and if so, how?” in this episode, dr. tay breaks down why traditional social skills approaches often miss the mark, how they can unintentionally promote masking, and what a neurodiversity-affirming approach looks like instead. you’ll learn: why “social skills” often = neurotypical normswhat actually helps autistic kids build authentic connectionpractical ways to support social growth at home, without scripts or forcinghow to understand what your child needs based on their motivation, interests, and neurotype TIMESTAMPS00:00 introduction and episode inspiration00:21 diagnostic feedback and recommendations01:57 therapeutic approaches and parent coaching04:34 addressing social skills in autistic children05:52 neurodiversity affirming approaches08:00 practical strategies and role-playing12:04 real-life situations and empathy building16:16 parental involvement and social skills groups23:03 conclusion and next steps  RESOURCES ⚡️need more support navigating this? Join EVOLVE the membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space to ask YOUR questions. ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services, including her small group therapy model, at drtaylorday.com⚡️ keep learningInstagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of supporting parents in the autistic journey. Joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom and coach for parents of autistic children, they discuss the role of parents as primary co-regulators for their children as well as strategies for staying regulated, building self-trust, and supporting their children's behaviors. They also explore systemic issues, coping mechanisms, and the need for a holistic approach that includes listening to autistic voices. Despite the focus on parents, the core message underscores the importance of a balanced support system for the entire family unit.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:28 Lisa Candera's Background and Passion00:45 The Role of Parents in Autism Support01:28 Podcast Introduction and Disclaimer02:30 Lisa's Journey as a Single Mom05:25 Challenges and Early Diagnosis06:48 Navigating Resources and Support Systems08:27 The Importance of Parental Education16:04 Understanding OCD and Autism22:59 Coaching and Self-Regulation28:21 Understanding the Distinctness of OCD28:30 The Complexity of Compulsions29:01 Parental Instincts and Fix-It Mode29:31 The Illogical Nature of OCD30:06 OCD and Autism: The Just Right Feeling31:22 Building Acceptance in Parenting32:22 The Psychological Definition of Acceptance33:46 Behavioral Issues and Parental Pressure35:05 Supporting Parents: Tips and Strategies37:24 Validating Experiences Before Problem Solving38:01 Common Challenges and Seeking Support39:21 Navigating Grief and Acceptance40:02 Ambiguous Grief and GOMO41:17 Being the Safe Person and Self-Advocacy44:31 Parental Regulation and Child's Behavior46:36 Building a Well-Rounded Support Team48:29 The Power of Tone and Voice52:12 Conclusion and Resources  RESOURCES⚡️ Continue learning from Lisa Candera at theautismmomcoach.com/ and @theautismmomcoach on Instagram and Facebook⚡️ Download the Meltdown Action Plan⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses impulse control for autistic children and offers proactive strategies to develop this skill without inducing shame. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of a regulated state for teaching impulse control and using fun, engaging games like Red Light, Green Light and Simon Says. The episode also answers questions from parents, such as managing inappropriate comments and excessive affectionate behaviors. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:24 Inspiration Behind the Episode01:30 Understanding Impulse Control in Autistic Children03:02 Proactive Skill Building Strategies03:53 Engaging Activities to Teach Impulse Control06:29 Addressing Common Questions from Parents15:36 Impulse Control vs. Other Behavioral Issues17:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts RESOURCES⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + suggest topics for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the often overlooked yet crucial concept of interoception and its importance in supporting autistic children. Joined by guest Kelly Mahler, an experienced occupational therapist specializing in this area, they dive into what interoception is, how it impacts autistic children, and actionable strategies to improve interoceptive awareness. The conversation also touches on the significance of adult modeling, school-based interventions, and a comprehensive approach to sensory regulation. Additionally, they explore the connection between interoception and autistic burnout, providing valuable insights and resources for parents and educators.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview02:04 Guest Introduction: Kelly Mahler02:11 Kelly's Journey into Interoception04:17 Understanding Interoception08:57 Interoception in Autistic Individuals14:44 Building Interoceptive Awareness in Kids23:16 Challenges and Advocacy in Schools25:25 Understanding Interoception and Compliance26:01 Adult Modeling and Focus Area Experiments28:59 Sequential Process: Body, Emotion, Action32:18 Challenges in School-Based OT and Sensory Regulation38:47 Autistic Burnout and Interoception46:52 Resources and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ check out all of Kelly’s resources → www.kelly-mahler.com ⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇dr. tay dives deep into perfectionism — how it shows up in autism parenting, in clinical work, and even in content creation. she shares personal reflections, a powerful story from her group therapy model, and a reminder that perfectionism can hide behind our best intentions to help.this episode explores:the fine line between accommodation and over-accommodationperfectionism as a form of rigidity and how it sneaks into parentinglearning to release shame and accept imperfection as part of growthTIMESTAMPS00:00 introduction: what perfectionism looks like in parenting00:54 reflections from clinical practice and lived experience01:33 perfectionism behind the scenes of podcasting and social media02:36 when “doing it right” becomes doing too much12:46 finding the balance between accommodation and over-accommodation21:17 learning to release control and practice repair over perfection25:15 a group reflection on perfectionism and shared growth35:42 closing encouragement and ways to stay connectedRESOURCES⚡️ join evolve: the membership — a space for parents to reflect, connect, and grow through their autism journey.⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach and current clinical services at drtaylorday.com.⚡️ continue learning from me and submit questions (they may be featured on a future episode!)instagram → @the.dr.taytiktok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay sits down with Jessie Caraway, creator of the If You Know One Project, to talk about her family’s journey, her daughter’s autism diagnosis, and how the project grew out of a desire to build community and awareness.They reflect on the long road to an autism diagnosis, reframing “high support needs,” and the importance of seeing each autistic child through a lens of humanity rather than fear or deficit. Jessie shares how her journey with her daughter, Eliza, inspired her to create the If You Know One Project — a space that celebrates individuality and connection through neurodiversity-affirming awareness, apparel, and storytelling.Together, Dr. Tay and Jessie explore what it means to move forward with compassion, to hold complexity in parenting, and to remind families that every story — every one — matters.TIMESTAMPS00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement00:29 Host’s Background and Podcast Purpose01:31 Guest Introduction and Family Background02:01 Starting the If You Know One Project03:29 Community Engagement and Resource Sharing06:50 Challenges in the Diagnosis Journey11:36 Navigating the Healthcare System18:23 The If You Know One Project’s Mission and Future Goals22:59 Navigating the Journey Together23:22 Support for Families24:04 Community and Connection24:33 Understanding High Support Needs25:22 The Value of Individuality26:20 Perspective Shifts and Humanity28:24 Building Trust and Communication32:19 Sharing Stories and Advocacy36:12 Encouragement for Parents38:56 Final Thoughts and Resources💛 RESOURCES⚡️ Connect with Jessie Caraway + The If You Know One Project:Instagram → @jess_ifyouknowoneEtsy Shop → If You Know One⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this episode is a replay of my instagram live q+a, where we processed the recent press conference linking autism and tylenol. i shared reflections on research, stigma, and neurodiversity-affirming care, and answered parent questions in real time. we covered the nuance of research, medication conversations, ableism and stigma, and most importantly — how parents can ground themselves and their families. a special thank you to sam marion, lcsw (@sammarioncounseling) for moderating the live chat and helping to hold respectful space for this conversation.THE JUST ONE THING CHALLENGEtoward the end of this episode, i introduce the just one thing challenge—a free 7-day practice designed to help parents slow down, ground themselves, and notice one small glimmer in the middle of daily overwhelm.  join the just one thing challenge starting monday, october 6th, 2025 – on instagram: follow @the.dr.tay and message JOTCHALLENGE – not on instagram? sign up here TIMESTAMPS00:00 introduction + intent of the live 01:46 introducing sam marion 03:51 processing the press conference 06:20 what neurodiversity affirming care really means 07:50 dr. tay’s background + perspective 09:52 making sense of autism research 12:36 diving into parent questions 24:05 responding to the administration’s narrative 39:54 fda-approved medications + leucovorin discussion 41:51 understanding pda + affirming supports 44:15 debunking tylenol + autism myths 45:56 confronting stigma + ableism 48:58 concerns about government policies 51:54 supporting autistic kids + families 01:10:51 the just one thing challenge 01:15:34 closing reflections + resourcesRESOURCES⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to find community + support in your parenting journey⚡️ learn more about dr. tay's whole family approach + current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me + submit questions that may be featured on a future episode >> instagram @the.dr.tay tiktok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini, spontaneous episode, Dr. Tay addresses the recent press conference where the administration linked autism to Tylenol, causing guilt and anxiety among parents. She emphasizes the importance of taking time to process emotions, the prevalence of misinformation, and the need for compassion. Dr. Tay reassures listeners that it's okay to take a pause, mute social media, and focus on emotional processing rather than seeking immediate answers. She encourages parents to embrace their current reality with their autistic child and highlights the complexity of autism's causes.00:00 Introduction 00:19 Addressing the Press Conference on Autism and Tylenol00:52 Processing and Community Feedback02:25 Neurodiversity and Emotional Support05:08 Clarifying Misconceptions about Autism Causes06:38 Encouragement and Self-Care Tips09:47 Final Thoughts and Outro   RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here to have a community support you during these trying times ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek into a training within EVOLVE the memberhsip. Sh dives into the concept of low demand parenting, particularly for families with children who resonate with the PDA profile. Dr. Tay introduces and explains the "3 Bucket Approach" to help parents manage demands and boundaries effectively. The episode also outlines the benefits of joining the membership where deeper guidance, resources, and community support are provided. Additionally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of understanding family values and giving children autonomy, while maintaining necessary non-negotiable boundaries for safety and key family values.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:36 Membership Insights and Podcast Differences01:15 Introducing a New Resource02:22 Understanding Low Demand Parenting06:21 The Three Bucket Approach06:55 Non-Negotiables and Key Family Values08:41 The Shoulds: Dropping Unnecessary Demands11:01 The Ideal or Yet Bucket11:57 Practical Examples and Applications15:48 Conclusion and Membership Invitation18:00 Episode Wrap-Up and Future Content RESOURCES⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist and parental coach specializing in neurodiversity affirming care, explores the concept of jealousy and why it is a valid and normal emotion. Dr. Tay discusses the importance of experiencing and processing jealousy, rather than suppressing it, and how this can impact personal growth and well-being. The episode also addresses the complexity of co-existing emotions like hope and jealousy, and provides insights on how to navigate these feelings as a parent of an autistic child. Dr. Tay shares personal stories, professional insights, and practical advice on emotion regulation to help parents better support themselves and their families.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:05 Understanding Jealousy as a Valid Emotion01:15 The Impact of Suppressing Emotions04:06 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Processing12:06 Real-Life Applications and Parental Support18:27 Affirmation and Momentum18:42 Understanding Jealousy19:06 Balancing Emotions19:31 Validating Emotions20:53 Navigating Jealousy and Hope21:39 Seeking Support24:00 Embracing Jealousy26:38 Reflecting on Jealousy33:15 Final Thoughts and Resources  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here and listen to my glimmers training that helps you to better understand progress  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered. visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

 ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay delves into the underexplored topic of couples therapy within the autism community, emphasizing its proactive rather than reactive use. Joined by Dr. Ali Perkinson, a neurodiverse couples therapist and licensed psychologist, the discussion covers how couples therapy can support harmonious family dynamics, understanding neurodiverse communication styles, and breaking down stigmas around couples therapy. Dr. Ali shares insights from her practice, highlighting the importance of co-regulation between parents and addressing executive functioning differences. The episode also offers practical tools such as the emotion wheel and the significance of sensory management, aiming to equip parents with strategies that can foster a more neuro-inclusive household.00:00 Introduction to Couples Therapy in Autism Parenting00:50 Meet Dr. Ali: Neurodiverse Couples Therapist02:22 Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships03:13 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Couples07:15 Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy08:25 Proactive vs. Crisis Couples Therapy10:56 Navigating New Autism Diagnoses as a Family20:28 Tools and Tips for Neurodiverse Families22:44 The Importance of Venting in Relationships22:56 The Fixer Mentality: Strengths and Pitfalls23:45 Alternative Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Couples24:21 Co-Regulation and Physical Activities24:54 Therapeutic Modalities for Couples26:20 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy30:32 Addressing Executive Dysfunction in Relationships34:18 Understanding Neurodiverse Love Languages38:01 The Value of Couples Therapy40:14 Final Thoughts and Resources  RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Ali on Instagram @connectingwithali and learn more about her practice Connection Squared ⚡️ resource to find a neurodiverse couples therapist or coach  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the chaos surrounding the start of a new school year, especially for families of autistic kids. Sharing insights and practical advice from her extensive experience, she addresses anticipatory anxiety, the challenges of advocating within educational systems, and the importance of psychological safety for children. The episode also provides resources on using tools like AI for understanding your rights and articulating your thoughts and emphasizes the power of collaboration with educators and advocates. Tune in for strategies to ensure your child's smooth transition into the school year.00:00 Introduction to the Chaos of Starting School02:02 Navigating the Chaos of School Starting02:49 Anticipatory Anxiety and Its Impact04:56 Advocating for Your Child in the School System16:50 The Importance of Psychological Safety at School21:57 Final Thoughts and Resources25:51 Conclusion and Ways to Connect  RESOURCES⚡️check out episodes 53, 57, 115, and 142 to learn more about educational rights and advocacy  ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this week, i’m giving you a behind-the-scenes listen into a question from inside EVOLVE the membership — my neurodiversity-affirming space for parents of autistic children. in our private weekly q&a, a parent asked how to explain their child’s autism diagnosis to other adults in a way that’s both clear and affirming. in this episode, you’ll hear my full response, with approaches you can start using right away — from choosing identity-first language to framing your child’s strengths and support needs when talking with educators, family, and friends. you’ll also get a feel for what it’s like inside EVOLVE the membership, where members can bring their real-life questions instead of turning to Google, ChatGPT, or social media, and get thoughtful, personalized guidance. 00:00 introduction 00:25 welcome to this parenting space01:34 why EVOLVE the membership?03:59 behind the scenes of EVOLVE the membership06:37 this week’s Q&A11:01 neuroaffirming language explained22:29 conclusion and membership invitation  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses a commonly asked question: Is the Autism Diagnostic Observation Schedule, Second Edition (ADOS-2) necessary for an autism diagnosis? Dr. Tay explains what the ADOS-2 is, its role in autism evaluations, and clarifies that while it is a widely respected tool, it is not required for diagnosing autism. The episode emphasizes the importance of using multiple assessment tools and clinical judgment in making an autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay also offers guidance for parents on how to advocate for their children, including questions to ask clinicians. Finally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of neurodiversity affirming practices and discusses the role of other evaluation tools and telehealth assessments.00:00 Introduction and Common Questions00:31 Understanding the ADOS-201:02 Training Levels and Misconceptions02:09 Clinical vs. Research Use04:07 Sensitivity, Specificity, and Misuse06:50 Neurodiversity Movement and High Masking10:26 Alternative Tools and Insurance Challenges12:26 Challenges with Insurance-Mandated Assessments12:45 Telehealth Evaluations: Validity and Tools13:20 Alternative Assessment Tools for Autism15:58 Key Questions to Ask Your Clinician19:28 Understanding Autism Traits: Quantity vs. Quality20:59 Free Resource Guide and Final Thoughts RESOURCES ⚡️Download the Autism Traits Guide ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this solo episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of perfectionism in autism parenting, sharing insights from her own journey and the experiences of parents she works with. Dr. Tay discusses the challenges of striving for perfection, the importance of being present, and the benefits of responding to feedback. She offers tips for navigating the autism parenting journey, including the value of collaboration, reflection, and admitting mistakes. Using the metaphor of golf, Dr. Tay illustrates the importance of analyzing and adapting to each situation as it arises. She encourages parents to embrace continuous growth and be adaptable, reassuring them that it's okay to not have everything figured out.00:00 Introduction and Episode Inspiration00:12 Perfectionism in Autism Parenting01:14 Building a Supportive Community04:20 Golf as a Metaphor for Parenting06:12 Reflecting and Adapting in Parenting07:56 Admitting Mistakes and Validating Your Child08:49 Group Therapy and Support Options09:28 Understanding the Transition to School09:43 Dealing with Uncertainty and Burnout10:14 The Power of Flexibility and Collaboration11:39 Challenging Perfectionism in Parenting13:02 Navigating the Transition Together13:22 Golf Analogy: Embracing the Process14:56 Partnering with Your Child and Yourself17:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Leila from @sprinkledspectrum to discuss the joys and challenges of parenting autistic children. Leila shares her journey of discovering her children's neurodivergence, the importance of building community, and the value of learning from autistic adults. Together, they emphasize the significance of parent coaching, creating a supportive environment, and respecting children's dignity and autonomy. This episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the autism journey as a family.00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast00:30 Meet Leila from @sprinkledspectrum00:50 Dr. Tay's Background and Approach02:07 Leila's Journey and Social Media Presence04:09 Challenges and Rewards of Sharing Online05:49 Navigating Different Perspectives in the Autism Community07:46 Balancing Personal and Family Needs13:45 Therapy Modalities and Parental Involvement15:54 Integrating Therapy into Daily Life20:24 Changing Family Systems: Responding to Meltdowns21:36 Navigating a Child's Diagnosis22:58 The Importance of Tailored Support23:37 Recognizing Unique Needs in Autism24:22 The Journey to Diagnosis and Acceptance29:37 Building Community and Finding Support32:50 Advocating for Dignity and Respect33:19 Final Thoughts and Encouragement38:42 Connecting with the Community  RESOURCES⚡️ follow Leila @sprinkledspectrum on Instagram and TikTok ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Melissa Houser, founder and executive director of All Brains Belong, to discuss co-occurring medical conditions in autistic individuals. The conversation covers Dr. Houser's personal and professional journey, the interconnected nature of conditions like hypermobility, POTS, mast cell activation syndrome, and the importance of holistic and inclusive healthcare. Together, they emphasize the value of community and explore the diverse resources offered by All Brains Belong to support both children and adults. Dr. Houser provides practical advice for parents and professionals seeking to improve care for neurodivergent individuals and shares impactful stories from their work.00:00 Introduction to Co-Occurring Medical Conditions with Autism00:50 Meet Dr. Melissa Houser: An Autistic Physician's Journey01:21 Dr. Tay's Personal and Professional Background02:29 Dr. Mel's Medical Background and Autism Diagnosis04:04 The Founding of All Brains Belong05:19 Challenges in Healthcare for Neurodivergent Individuals05:40 The Importance of Self-Identification and Formal Evaluation07:20 Conflicting Access Needs in Neurodivergent Families07:59 Mission and Impact of All Brains Belong20:41 Common Co-Occurring Conditions in Autistic Individuals24:35 Understanding the Cluster of Conditions25:10 Challenges in Medical Collaboration25:59 Resources for Patients and Families27:46 Impact of Long COVID on Neurodivergent Individuals28:30 Cardiovascular Risks in Autistic Individuals30:34 Advocacy and Self-Acceptance37:32 Community Programs and Support42:55 Final Thoughts and Resources RESOURCES⚡️ resources from Dr. Melissa Houser>>Everything is Connected to Everything: Improving the Healthcare of Autistic & ADHD Patients - resources for patients & cliniciansKid & Teen Connections - free customized friend-matching program for ages 4-17 based on shared interestsBrain Club® - weekly virtual community education program for adults ⚡️ keep connecting with Dr. Houser on her website and Instagram @allbrainsbelongvt  ⚡️ Zerbo et al. (2015) mentioned on the episode ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay introduces the vision to provide deeper insights and support for families navigating the autism journey. Highlighting the benefits of her new membership offering, she explains how it differs from her free podcast and clinical services. Through personal reflections and practical examples, listeners learn about the types of content and community support available. Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek from one training about creating a schedule based on your child's need for structure, autonomy, or a mix of both, and offers strategies for creating a supportive environment. She finishes the episode sharing about the advantages of enhanced access to her expertise and the power of community within the membership.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Vision00:35 Balancing Clinical Services and Membership03:38 Membership Benefits and Differences06:48 Founding Member Launch and Community Building09:25 Masterclass and Custom GPT13:19 Summer Structure Strategies17:31 Parent and Child Needs Alignment22:44 Conclusion and Membership Invitation RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses the importance of parents of autistic children seeking support for themselves. She highlights the role of therapy and medication, addressing the stigma and misconceptions surrounding them. Dr. Tay also shares her journey in creating resources for parents. She encourages self-care, therapy, and medication as essential tools for enhancing parental wellbeing and, consequently, better supporting their children. Note: as with all episodes, this episode is for educational purposes only; please speak to a qualified medical professional.00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Episode00:34 Personal Background and Experience01:03 Disclaimer and Therapy Normalization01:32 Focus on Medication Support03:06 The Whole Family Approach04:48 Starting a Business and Marketing Strategy06:50 The Importance of Seeking Support16:28 Medication Stigma and Benefits24:44 Exploring Medication Options27:58 Final Thoughts and Encouragement33:53 Conclusion and Additional Resources  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of grief that parents may experience upon learning about their child's autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay discusses the various stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—and how these emotions impact the parenting journey. She emphasizes that grieving in this context is not about mourning the child but rather a shift in expectations and the challenges of raising an autistic child in a predominantly neurotypical world. The episode includes real-life examples from Dr. Tay’s community, highlighting the diverse experiences of parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay shared about her educational membership and clinical services aimed at providing continuous support for parents processing grief and a sense of community for parents navigating similar journeys.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview01:58 Understanding Grief in the Context of Autism04:49 Personal Experiences and Examples of Grief08:43 Navigating Grief and Acceptance13:51 Community Insights on Grief25:56 Navigating Different Parenting Perspectives26:19 Seeking Support and Resources28:05 Understanding the Stages of Grief28:48 Denial in the Grief Process30:12 Anger and Its Manifestations32:07 Bargaining and Desperate Measures33:47 Depression and Its Impact35:49 Acceptance and Psychological Flexibility40:59 Complicated Grief and Its Variations47:59 The Importance of Community and Support52:07 Final Thoughts and Resources    RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Marie Hooper, a clinical psychologist (supervised practice) from Toronto, Canada. They dive into the nuances of autism diagnosis, discussing why autism is often misdiagnosed and the importance of differential diagnosis. Dr. Marie shares her personal journey of being diagnosed as autistic at 43 and talks about her clinic, Flourish Health Services, and her upcoming initiative, Autism Reframe. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory differences, the significance of accurate diagnosis, and the benefits of understanding one's neurotype for identity and acceptance. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:28 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hooper01:45 Personal Stories and Professional Background04:00 Challenges in Autism Diagnosis09:52 Misdiagnosis and Clinical Practice11:45 Reevaluating Diagnoses and Identity22:41 Parental Guidance and Support25:37 Supportive Nudges and Clinical Care25:56 Listening to Autistic Adults26:20 Addressing Fear and Celebrating Diagnoses27:10 Misdiagnosis of OCD and Autism30:44 Understanding Sensory Differences31:46 Challenges with Diagnostic Tools36:54 Misdiagnosis of ODD and PDA38:42 Borderline Personality Disorder and Autism40:28 Final Thoughts and Resources43:02 Conclusion and Call to Action   RESOURCES ⚡️learn more about Dr. Hooper's services in Canada flourishhealthservices.ca and her upcoming clinician trainings through autismreframe.com.  ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this candid and vulnerable episode, Dr. Tay dives deep into the theme of identity, sharing personal insights and challenges from her own journey. She discusses the importance of showing up as one's true, authentic self, especially for parents navigating life with autism. Dr. Tay touches on the struggles of balancing various roles in life and the discomfort that comes with self-disclosure and authenticity. Drawing inspiration from the 'Call Her Alex' documentary and addressing the need for self-integration, Dr. Tay encourages listeners to explore their true identity, model vulnerability, and seek support when needed. The episode is an invitation to embrace the journey of self-discovery and authenticity.00:00 Introduction and Today's Theme00:24 Navigating Identity and Authenticity01:54 The Power of Self-Disclosure03:32 Personal Reflections and Inspirations04:55 Embracing Vulnerability and Realness06:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery09:49 Integrating Parts and Internal Family Systems12:34 Balancing Personal and Professional Life20:27 Invitation to Join the Membership27:42 Concluding Thoughts and Future Episodes  RESOURCES ⚡️ it is FINALLY officially open - join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay welcomes psychiatrist Dr. Stacy Greeter to discuss the complexities of explaining medication to autistic children. They emphasize the importance of maintaining a neurodiversity-affirming approach, focusing on informed consent, and fostering a healthy relationship with medication. Dr. Greeter shares personal experiences and tips on building trust, understanding unique responses to medications, and the critical role of autonomy in treatment. They also discuss the broader challenges within the medical profession and the importance of continual learning and flexibility for practitioners.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:54 Guest Introduction: Dr. Stacy Greeter01:26 Host Background and Podcast Purpose02:40 Challenges in Psychiatry and Neurodiversity05:19 Dr. Greeter's Personal Journey12:27 Medication and Autism: Key Insights18:12 Guiding Parents on Medication Conversations23:34 The Role of Medicine in Treatment24:08 Balancing Medicine and Personal Responsibility25:11 Addressing Anxiety with Medication25:58 Using Metaphors to Explain Medication26:46 The Importance of Patient Ownership27:18 The Impact of Beliefs on Medication Efficacy28:18 Parental Concerns and Positive Expectations29:29 Navigating Medication with Autonomy31:35 Building a Therapeutic Alliance34:26 Understanding Reluctance to Take Medication39:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement41:31 Resources and Closing Remarks   *note: PDA is discussed in this episode. it is a theorized profile often seen in a subset of autistic individuals and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110 RESOURCES⚡️inquire about Dr. Greeter’s services in FL and CO and sign up for her newsletter at stacygreetermd.com  ⚡️watch Dr. Greeter’s trainings on YouTube @stacygreetermd ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of inner authority from human design and its significance in enhancing parental advocacy and personal growth. Joined by Rosy Crescitelli, a human design specialist and multisensory reading expert, they explore various types of inner authorities such as sacral, emotional, splenic, ego, self, sounding board, and lunar. They discuss how understanding and leveraging one's unique inner authority can facilitate better decision-making and create a more supportive environment for autistic children. Practical tips and insights are provided to help parents navigate this journey, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation. Listen in to learn how human design can be a transformative tool for both personal and parental empowerment. 00:00 Introduction and Inner Authority Overview00:46 Guest Introduction: Rosy Crescitelli01:34 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose02:43 Rosy's Journey into Human Design05:14 Understanding Human Design and Inner Authority12:25 Sacral Authority: Trusting Your Gut19:37 Emotional Authority: Riding the Emotional Wave27:19 Splenic Authority: Quiet Intuition31:21 Gratitude and Self-Trust31:50 Understanding Splenic Authority33:01 Ego Authority Explained35:38 Self Authority for Projectors39:30 Sounding Board Authority47:54 Lunar Authority for Reflectors52:53 Recap and Final Thoughts56:04 Advocating for Your Child's Human Design58:41 Connecting with Rosy01:03:10 Closing Remarks please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most. RESOURCES⚡️ find out your human design (be sure to also listen to episode 38 to learn more about HD) ⚡️explore ways to learn more about your or your child's human design with Rosy here ⚡️connect with Rosy on Instagram @wholeheartedrosy  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of asking questions as a tool for progress, especially for parents navigating the challenges of raising an autistic child. She discusses her own journey to launch a membership for parents seeking support, inspired by a serendipitous experience with a community she belongs to. Dr. Tay shares the story of how asking the right questions can lead to actionable outcomes and encourages parents to embrace their right to ask and advocate for their children. 00:00 Introduction to Asking for Help00:39 Personal Journey and Decision Making02:37 The Importance of Bite-Sized Information04:42 The Power of Asking Questions07:47 Launching the Membership10:44 Encouragement to Ask Questions15:10 Conclusion and Next Steps   RESOURCES ⚡️ JOIN EVOLVE the membership waitlist here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by guest Amanda Moses, a neurodivergent psychologist from Australia, who specializes in autism identification in those with complex and highly masked presentations. They discuss the differences in how autism presents in females versus males, the concept of masking, and the unique social challenges that often lead to delayed diagnoses. Amanda offers practical advice for parents and clinicians on how to better recognize and support autistic children and adults. The episode emphasizes the importance of specialized training for clinicians and the need for more self-compassion and understanding among those exploring their own neurodivergent traits.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:28 Autism Diagnostic Criteria and Episode Reference01:10 Amanda's Background and Passion for Autism01:38 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose02:40 Amanda's Journey and PhD Focus04:07 Challenges in Autism Assessment Tools10:22 Importance of Self-Identification and Formal Diagnosis14:46 Challenges in Diagnosing Girls with Autism26:51 Key Transitional Points for Diagnosing Autism in Girls31:44 Recognizing Emotional Dysregulation in Children32:26 Perfectionism and Cognitive Rigidity33:10 The Role of Savvy Parents33:31 The Importance of Content Creation35:37 Exploring Masking in Autism38:16 Personal Experiences with Masking41:11 Helping Children Understand Their Energy Levels44:25 The Complexities of Masking and Mental Health46:40 Finding Safe Spaces for Authenticity53:49 Social Connections Among Neurodivergent Individuals56:35 Resources for Understanding Masking01:00:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement  RESOURCES ⚡️ continue learning from Amanda Moses on Instagram @amandamosespsychology and via her website ⚡️paid resource on masking mentioned in the episode ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay shares personal experiences and insights about making significant life changes. She discusses the challenges and importance of trusting one's instincts, especially when overthinking sets in. Dr. Tay recounts a personal story involving a car accident and fire ants, which led her to a profound realization about her own business decisions, particularly the launch of the anticipated membership to support families navigating autism. She emphasizes the value of listening to your body, taking action despite fear, and leveraging gut feelings in both parenting and personal growth. This episode encourages parents, especially those of autistic children, to trust themselves and act on their intuitive nudges.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:32 About Dr. Tay and the Podcast01:22 Disclaimer and Episode Topic Introduction01:58 Personal Story: The Fire Ant Incident03:27 Business Mastermind and Spiritual Meaning of Fire Ants05:20 Struggles with Launching the Membership08:40 The Importance of Trusting Your Gut09:17 Quality Over Quantity in Services11:29 Navigating Parenting Decisions15:38 Personal Reflections and Call to Action22:39 Final Thoughts and Farewell  RESOURCES  ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay chats with Jessie Mewshaw, a speech language pathologist, to discuss the often overlooked topic of medium and high support needs in autism. They dive into why this conversation is vital, sharing personal experiences and professional insights. Jessie discusses her unique journey into the field and her current work with nonspeaking and minimally speaking autistic individuals. Key themes include the importance of neurodiversity-affirming care, better training and support for providers and caregivers, and the need for more accessible and financially supported resources. The episode also highlights the significance of listening to diverse autistic voices and fostering a community that supports all levels of need.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:44 Meet Jessie Mewshaw: Speech Language Pathologist01:21 Welcome to the Podcast: Dr. Tay's Background06:01 Jesse's Journey into Speech Pathology07:46 Experiences in Australia: Life-Changing Lessons12:47 Challenges in the US: Lack of Support Programs17:18 Evaluation Barriers and Presuming Competence21:55 The Importance of Motor Systems in Autism27:44 Navigating the Journey Together28:24 The Importance of Medical Training30:11 Understanding Dysregulation34:08 Voices of Families38:01 Advocacy and Community43:46 Challenges in Neurodivergent Care50:21 Call to Action and Resources50:48 Remembering Victor Perez51:59 Final Thoughts and Connections  RESOURCES ⚡️ example accounts of moderate and high support need autistic individuals:@aether.autistic@angry_autist@blackspectrumscholar@charliesvoice1@dannywithwords@getaway_autist_mobile@justkeepstimming@kaishawna_music@quirkthriveswithnoah@zebulontheplanet ⚡️ connect with Jessie on Instagram @ms_jessies_speech_world and explore her services here ⚡️ resource for non-speaking individuals >> When Models Aren't "Sticking": A One-Day Intensive for Supporting Minimally Speaking GLPs (use code JESSIE for 10% off)  ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses the current uncertainties of the autism space and how it applies to clinical practice, her personal business, and your parenting journey. She provides an honest reflection on the challenges of navigating unknowns, both personally and within the context of autism care. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of serving oneself, building resiliency, and creating community support. She offers practical tips and shares her experiences to help parents make decisions about evaluating and supporting their autistic children amidst the current political climate. Throughout the episode, she encourages listeners to adopt a balanced approach, integrating self-care and external support while fostering a sense of community.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Updates00:51 Navigating the Unknowns01:30 About Dr. Tay and the Podcast02:32 Current Issues in Autism and Evaluations09:47 Empowering Parents in Decision Making13:19 Personal Reflections and Business Adjustments22:15 Self-Care and Serving Your Family26:48 Addressing the Inner Critic27:09 Understanding the Marching Order Part27:45 The Fear of Stopping28:02 Balancing Helper Identity and Self-Care29:20 Integrating Internal Family Systems29:55 Practical Tips for Self-Understanding30:49 Navigating Financial Conversations with Kids32:33 Building a Support Network33:06 The Importance of Vulnerability33:57 Reevaluating and Pausing for Clarity36:06 The Tower Moment Analogy43:00 Creating Community and Connection47:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement48:13 Ways to Get More ValueRESOURCES ⚡️Dive deeper with episodes mentioned: 38 on human design, 118 on sensory regulation supports (with Courtney English) and 164 on reasons to get evaluated now  ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Think of this episode like sitting down with Dr. Tay to chat about a variety of topics, while she is getting ready for morning sessions. She shares her struggles with neck pain and ties it to stress and shame while discussing the application to your parenting journey. Dr. Tay then dives into the recent political climate, particularly RFK Jr.'s controversial remarks about autism and the proposed national registry. She discusses the ongoing robust research into the causes of autism, language use in the autism community, and the importance of supporting high support needs families. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup01:06 Personal Updates and Daily Life01:25 Stress and Physical Health05:13 Therapy and Somatics07:46 Shame and Parenting09:34 Political Climate and Autism10:09 RFK Junior's Remarks on Autism11:14 Autism Research and Funding23:17 National Autism Registry Concerns26:04 Conclusion and Future Plans Like the format of this podcast? Let Dr. Tay know! She is exploring options for how to best serve you through this podcast!  RESOURCES ⚡️Instagram posts referenced in this episode >>@autismoutloud’s post on autism research funding @fidget.and.fries post on high support needs and a false sense of hope ⚡️while the national autism registry was only briefly touched on (more to come here and/or on Dr. Tay’s social media), you can take action now and express your concerns to your representatives. thanks to @blackspectrumscholar, here are templates you can use  ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Camille Joy, an advocate and host of the Moments of Joy podcast. They discuss Camille's journey as a mother of five boys, including her youngest son Maison, who has a congenital heart defect, autism, and intellectual disability. They dive into the importance of early diagnosis, navigating the education system, and advocating for children's needs. Camille shares her experiences with challenging the status quo, particularly around getting Maison access to music and art classes. The conversation also touches on emotional processing, the significance of support systems, and Camille's initiatives including her podcast and children's book, The Adventures of Maison and Mr. Straw: Mac and Cheese Please.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement00:44 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission01:55 Camille Joy's Family and Advocacy Journey02:36 Maison's Diagnosis and Early Intervention03:26 Challenges and Realizations in Parenting05:28 Navigating Medical and Educational Systems10:29 Advocating for Mason's Education17:08 Using AI for Advocacy and Legal Rights21:17 Understanding the Importance of Data Collection22:15 Advocating for Your Child's Needs25:34 Navigating Emotional Challenges33:25 The Journey of Starting a Podcast35:46 Introducing Maison's Adventures39:25 Conclusion and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ purchase Camille and Maison’s book here (profits go directly to a savings account for Maison)⚡️ listen in to the Moments of Joy podcast here⚡️follow her on Instagram, TikTok, & Facebook ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares what families with autistic children are ACTUALLY doing in terms of therapy and support services. Emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity, Dr. Tay discusses common therapies like ABA, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and mental health support. The episode also highlights the significance of individualized plans tailored to each family's needs and reminds parents that it's okay to prioritize their child's well-being and capacity over an overwhelming number of services. Real-life examples from listeners are included to illustrate the diverse approaches families take. Dr. Tay encourages parents to trust their intuition and focus on what truly benefits their child.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:20 Understanding Therapy Options01:36 Balancing Therapy Demands02:57 Real-Life Family Experiences04:09 Diverse Therapy Approaches11:42 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement RESOURCES ⚡️ additional episodes that may be helpful: "26 | why ABA therapy is controversial?", "31 | three "system issues" you may be facing with your child's autism care", and "110 | what is PDA?" ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay explores the concept of declarative language and its benefits, especially for demand-avoidant children, with Linda Murphy—a speech therapist, RDI consultant, writer, and expert on the topic. They discuss the definition of declarative language and how it differs from demand-based phrases, emphasizing the importance of thoughtful communication that invites a collaboration. Linda shares insights from her book Declarative Language Handbook and provides practical strategies for parents to effectively use declarative language. They also cover topics such as building self-advocacy, fostering cognitive flexibility, and managing sibling conflicts through this approach. The importance of mindset shifts is emphasized as well as the continuous learning process in order to improve communication with autistic children.00:00 Introduction to Declarative Language00:30 Meet Linda Murphy: Expert in Declarative Language02:12 Understanding Declarative Language03:37 The Power of Declarative Language05:29 Practical Examples and Strategies08:47 Proactive Conversations and Mindset Shifts16:05 Dynamic Support and Scaffolding22:17 Direct vs. Indirect Declarative Language25:40 Introduction to PDA and Indirect Language26:18 Experimenting with Communication Strategies26:53 Building Transparent Communication28:23 Practical Examples and Techniques29:48 Using Declarative Language in Different Scenarios33:13 Modeling and Validating Emotions45:00 Declarative Language with Non-Speaking Individuals48:34 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ continue learning at declarativelanguage.com, including ordering Linda's books and checking out the resources referenced in the episode (types of DL and direct language for PDAers) ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayNote: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110