Enneagram and Marriage

In this episode, join Christa and Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine as they walk through each Enneagram type through the lens of Marvel characters. Join us as we hack out each type in nuanced detail with some superhero fun typing Iron Man, Black Widow, Loki, Bucky, Roadie, Dr. Strange and more and bring joy but also meaningful insights as we enjoy a lighter moment on this Hallo-week episode! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We get scared as humans when we feel our pair bond is threatened and today's episode is designed to empower you to feel both safe and loved together, type by type. Listen to tips for your partner of each type and find not just goals but systems to carefully place these specific tips into actionable steps so you can truly begin thriving more and more together, starting today! Get my book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, audible, or Kindle! Here's the Instagram contest! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To find our truest mission, it's not only important to find our personal gifts, but there's a deeper joy in marriage in finding collective missions, too, not just to be self-serving as a couple. Here in this episode, Christa helps you to find synchronization together with your partner, to encourage growth in one another as well as celebrate one another's gifts and struggles. She brings her husband Wes, Enneagram 1 also on as he helps you to learn to sit with your spouse's gifts and struggles with grace, a lesson we all need in an ongoing way. Tune in here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Though each of us is unique, today on this E + M short, we're talking about the three most common reasons why couples cite divorce and ways to prevent your own relationship from becoming a passive casualty. One of the main ways we will keep this episode hope-filled is that we're also sharing tools for the specific timelines where issues tend to crop up and take down 43-44% of married couples. Don't miss this noteworthy, logical, and encouraging episode that will help you sit up, take note, and move into a healthy direction together today! Get the 52 Week Glow Relationship Planner here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! HAVE A QUESTION? Do you have a question about how the Enneagram can help your marriage or any relationship issue at all? Share it here via audio call for Channel Mom Radio and Christa can talk about it on air/the Channel Mom podcast this coming week as well as on the E + M Instagram Live! 303-873-1935 (leave aa question for Christa here for Channel Mom) or visit Christa on Instagram here on Thurs 12 PM EST to ask a question there! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we're not honest with our spouse and with God about what's actually going on inside, we bring that darkness and the layers of hiding to our spouses and families. Whether you're hiding from each other because you feel hopeless, angry, hurt, or believe that being honest will drive you even farther away from your goals of connection, this is a MUST-LISTEN episode guiding you and your relationship back to true intimacy. Christa is joined by Justin Davis, best-selling USA Today author (Being Authentic is Greater Than Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation), Enneagram 8 (8-3 pairing), who joins us to speak of his own marriage and how he increasingly learned the importance of confession, prayer, and bringing secrets from the darkness. If you want a walk closer to humility, authenticity, and integrity, don't miss this episode helping you to draw closer to God and one another in marriage, family, and a healthy community. Show Notes: Justin Davis', "Being Real > Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation" is right here: Find Justin and Trisha's Refine Us marriage ministry here, where they help couples all over recover from trauma, including infidelity recovery Get Christa's new book The Enneagram in Marriage, available now wherever books are sold, or get it at 40% off with free standard shipping when you order from BakerBookHouse.com and use the promo code EMBOOK40. Link: https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/516448 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Finding your marriage mission just isn’t possible without finding your own authentic God-given gifting, a gift others may have missed in your life. Today Christa intimately weaves her own stories and encouragements for you together on the podcast to give you a lift in finding your authentic self before God. This episode can help you to destabilize shame in your life and find your gifting again with yourself and with God, even amidst church hurt, family of origin wounds, marriage hurt, and more. Listen here or watch on YouTube here! Use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off the book right here at Baker Books also! https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/516448 Also, don’t forget to enter the glow contest right here! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship care needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we take a peek into the soul of the Enneagram in Marriage book in a heartfelt conversation with Christa and the Baker Books executive editor Christa worked with on the pages of it, Stephanie Duncan Smith (Slant Letter, @stephanieduncansmith on Instagram). Stephanie and Christa discuss not only the heart of the mission of E + M in the pages of the book but also private writing as soul care, and how partners can and must give one another support, liftoff, and a safe place for us to explore our dreams. We hear about Stephanie's 4-8 marriage pairing, her reason for championing Christa's book at the pub board and onward as the book finally gets launch liftoff, and so much more in this interview together! Don't have the book yet? Make sure you grab it here to walk alongside Christa in this Amazon #1 Top New Release in Christian Marriage here! Get it here! or here >> https://a.co/d/9P4KvVF Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're in seasons of shadow, it often feels like your spouse is the antihero and you're not only the hero but the author, writing your own story and having to rely on whatever methods you need to survive. In the new "Enneagram in Marriage" book, we remember together that it's not so much about casting judgment on one person wholly as it is about discovering the emotional backstory behind the maladaptive marriage struggles in one or both partners - and more, just what can be done about this so your vices don't inevitably make things worse. In this brand-new Enneagram in Marriage book backstory series, Christa unlocks the often misread complex layers contributing to keeping our vices locked into place piece by piece, and puts her cards on the table to bring her husband Wes on to share his side of the book intro story about her own vices as well. Join us for this series as you also unlock the mysteries still undetected in your own and your spouse's life. Don't have the book yet? Make sure you grab it here to walk alongside Christa in this Amazon #1 Top New Release in Christian Marriage here! Get it here! or here >> https://a.co/d/9P4KvVF Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, our biggest hearts for you are for you to reach into the pages of Christa's brand-new book that launched today, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing, which LAUNCHED TODAY! This is a book dedicated to helping you to grow healthier in the ways you shine together in your relationship and yes, it's finally here for you to order wherever you buy books, including Kindle and Audible, etc! In this open-hearted episode, Christa dives into the purposes and intent of each chapter and shares vulnerable pieces of her heart, stirring this community to courage in taking steps forward together as we cross from shadowlands into light. Order it here on Amazon! Order it here at Baker! Watch this episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As Christa prepares to launch her new book into the world tomorrow, she draws strength from one of her greatest heroes, J.R.R. Tolkien, reminding listeners of the absolute necessities we can learn for our own life's epics on the shadowy roads of life and relationships. Join us as we share about the week's adventures here at E + M as well as what you came for, an epic saga of psychology, literature, lore, and lessons with the bestselling "Lord" of the Rings, himself. Stay tuned for our heart-driven mid-week launch week episode as well that airs tomorrow on launch day! TOMORROW IS LAUNCH DAY! TODAY IS THE LAST DAY TO GET PRE-ORDER BONUSES! ORDER HERE AND CLAIM YOUR BONUSES AT WWW.ENNEAGRAMANDMARRIAGE.COM Watch episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The shadows and stresses each of you bring to marriage have volumes of family lore behind them, backing them up and urging you each on to survival in your own nuanced ways. When the honeymoon is over, and these rhythms tend to re-emerge and spousal stories converge and collide into differing rhythms in middle seasons of marriage, how can you stand united? Today Christa invites you on a brief and gentle journey of viewing your stories alongside some of the stories right here from her book and otherwise in terms of places and spaces we want to grow from together! Also, celebrate with us a day on the top of the Amazon Christian Marriage charts for the new books, because of our awesome launch team! Don't forget to order yours right here as we bring the Enneagram learning to others! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses! Watch on YouTube Bonuses are: 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of us from faith circles have been asked questions about the Enneagram origins and whether they are compatible with a Christian or even logical scientific worldview. Today we take time to process this question in detail with Christa's husband Wes Hardin, MA, who has a degree in biology and philosophy as well as a Master's in Theology from Wheaton College, along with his medical degree as a PA. Join Christa in the interesting conversation with Wes from a historical, faith-centered, and scientific logical viewpoint so you can learn more for yourself and more about how to discuss the Enneagram with intelligence and care in your marriage, faith, and social groups! Visit much of this content in written form on our FAQ page here also! Watch the convo on YouTube here You can find Jesse Eubanks' podcast link/s here and Tyler Zach's aforementioned resources on the same topics here! You can grab Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," right here also!https://a.co/d/ed25gVA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we get busy and overwhelmed in marriage, talking about what’s deep and emotional may feel like the least desirable option. Yet we all know that hiding and stonewalling are the very worst things we can do together, especially during the busiest years with school-aged kids underfoot. Today we talk with Juilliard-trained creative artist and oboist Dr. Meredith Hite Estevez, Enneagram Four, who offers us an invitation to find the depths together safely, helping us not to lose ourselves as we continue to find our best rhythms together. She also talks about her marriage to her type 7 hubby who is the pastor at Kirk on the Hills Church in Bloomfield Hills, MI. Join us for this lilting conversation with this tremendously gifted writer, teacher, speaker, Ivy-league-trained musician, and creative artist Dr. Merideth, and also enjoy her music in the background during her introduction as well so you can find your own joyful rhythms as we connect together here! Episode music credits: Merideth Hyte-Estevez - oboe Jani Parsons - piano Find Merideth's beautiful site, podcast, and work here! www.artistsforjoy.com and for creative (and free!) meet-ups find her popular The Artist's Way group here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although most parents desire a deep relationship spiritually with God, it's easy to leave it behind along with self-care and marriage care during the busiest seasons of the parenting era. Kayla Craig, author, wife, mom of five, and creator of Liturgies for Parents, has comforted thousands of souls with her prolific words on prayerfully parenting together through the very hardest of days. Christianity Today calls Kayla's page an essential parenting resource, and in this interview, we speak not only Enneagram (she and her hubby are an 8-8 couple with differing instinctual stackings), but she's got four kids, including a child who needs extra measures so she truly gets how lost we can be in finding the depths and heights with God when we're literally knee deep in kid messes of all kinds. We get real here on this fun but meaningful podcast. Don't miss this time together, and definitely don't miss Kayla's brand new book, Every Season Sacred that launches into the world this week! Watch on YouTube here! Kayla Craig's author website and Liturgies for Parents Get Kayla's book! Love the Enneagram & Marriage pod? We would love to get your review so others can find the show as well. Share on Apple Podcast right here! Buy Christa's new book now so you can make sure tou get your pre-order bonuses before the launch date in 2 weeks! www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The work we do across personality types often has its very foundation in how our thinking tends to shift in stressful moments. In this E + M mini, Christa walks you through all the ways our mental fixations can attack us in life and marriage. To combat the dysregulating thinking, we also walk together through the holy ways of thinking of each type (the Enneagram holy ideas) and release our biggest mental blocks spiritually. Take a few moments to try to bring your unhealthy mental focus into healthier rhythms with us right here! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses, including the one-page chart with your holy ideas, virtues, vices, fixations, and more all on one page! Read my book, “The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing” so you can truly thrive! Get these bonuses for pre-ordering, too! 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting well with intention has so many great benefits for your child, but also takes its toll if you forget to take care of yourself. Yes, dysregulated and exhausted parents need support, too, and as we walk through the parenting era together, we have one of our favorite guests back to guide us, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, psychologist, burnout support expert Instagram leader, and beloved Enneagram 9 (9-3 pairing). Whether your kids are littles, big, or grown, we invite you to today's refreshing episode! To connect with Dr. Morgan and 20OK+ followers (her reels are awesome!) find her here Get Dr. Morgan's book plus bonuses right here! Watch on YouTube here! Visit www.enneagraminmarriage.com for all of your E + M needs, including our book bonuses! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are so many cultural overlays that affect our relationships, and development across generations is absolutely one that matters, both in your marriage and as you hack or deep dive your way through life, depending on your generation. Take a quick dive intergenerationally with Christa today as we dive into practical tips for both Erikson's developmental theory and Strauss and Howe's generational theory for your marriage and family today! Watch the mini-episode on YouTube! Pre-order a copy of The Enneagram in Marriage and sign up for your pre-bonuses right here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we jump into talking about marriage across seasons, stages, and generations all month, we take a fun leap into September with author Molly Wilcox, Enneagram 7, as we walk through the steps it takes to shine brightly together once again or for the very first time. With a book behind and another ahead, as well as work and baby life in the first five years of honeymoon, Molly has systematized ways to keep her married life both intentional and playful and continues to thrive even after the honeymoon has lost its first gleams. How does Molly keep balance, love, and faith in her life even across the busy threads of life? And how can you follow suit as you re-embrace your own honeymoon a bit here with us? Join us here for lift-off to a journey of joy on this fun Labor Day episode! Play the typing mystery contest @ our Instagram Stories and guess Molly's hubby's type! Find Molly's website and book and find her inspiring Instagram here @MrsMollyWilcox! Pre-Order your new Enneagram in Marriage book here and get the pre-bonuses also! Watch Episode on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we learn to pause, you give your system time to regulate, and you also bring yourself into sensory awareness for the very best of conversations and inner scripts to spring forth. Each Enneagram type in marriage and life needs intentional pausing for a different reason, and today we talk about what those reasons are in this E + M mini with Christa. Listen here as you truly become more life-giving and empowered in your relationship right here! Get your pre-order bonuses today when you buy Christa's book here! Listen on YouTube here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s a common fallacy in marriage to look at one’s spouse as being less healthy than one's self or to think that having a spouse of another type may create fewer issues. However, we bring ourselves into all relationships as a common denominator, too, an extremely important issue to consider. Today we are so grateful to have European Union diplomat Frederick Coene, Enneagram researcher and SP 6 to help us process what to do when you hit these difficult seasons all couples will hit from time to time, sexually or otherwise in marriage. This is a time where integrity and doing one's work matters more than ever and we are learning together! Join Christa in this riveting and potentially life-changing conversation right here! Watch on YouTube here! Take Dr. Coene's sexuality course on YouTube free Find Frederik on his website here Save your receipt as you buy your book here so you can get maximum discounts and bonuses! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We work very hard to balance our self-preserving, sexual, and social instincts, but who are we outside of that - and more importantly, above these base instincts? Christa walks you through the higher virtues lying outside of the instincts today so that you cannot only keep balance amidst the lower-hanging fruit of the three instincts themselves but also keep a higher plain of goodness in your life. Check out this in quick but important E + M mini right here! Watch on YouTube here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Work relationships can and do affect the ways we treat one another at home. As we dive into this much-needed topic today, today’s juicy podcast episode features Kaleigh Newby, MA, Enneagram 2w1 (2-9 pairing). Kaleigh is the perfect guest for the job, having done significant Enneagram and relationship work across organizational development as she's helped individuals and couples of each Enneagram type to find their best strides. In this pivotal episode on balancing work + relationships for each type, Kaleigh not only welcomes people of each type to learn how to walk through their work stress better but she also gives relationship tips for each of us and our partners. Tune in for these clear and activating steps right here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Find Kaleigh's website and consulting services here and her Instagram here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's tempting to want to box our kids into one type or another the moment we see certain behaviors emerging, but an even better way to process how our kids are emerging is to honor both their gifts as well as the shifts and nuances across your children's development. As you help them to find and hone their traits, listen as Christa walks you through all nine types across the Enneagram in terms of developing children. We share key ways for you to reach kids across all kinds of struggles in this brief episode. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rVRs2z5MzBk Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we confess our sexual struggles, we are given grace, hope and most, love and a release from the binding shame that comes with this brokenness. Matt Cline of Restored Ministries reaches out to spouses here in this E + M mini! He talks about community, God's grace, and his own story of recovery as well with us right here! Listen as Matt walks you through what he continues to teach thousands across campuses and groups about sexual brokenness and pornography recovery and restoration. Matt shares practical steps for walking in healing and the fullness of God's love here as well. Find Matt's ministry right here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here, too! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pornography is not always something people feel comfortable talking about, inside of marriage or out. This is most especially true within the church. Today Christa is joined by author Jessica Harris, Enneagram 4w5 (4-3 marriage pairing) as she both shares her story and discusses an important topic for couples, especially women who desire to find freedom and true healing from pornography. As we discss this pivotal topic that has been ignored in the church in many cases (often out of fear or not knowing what to say many times), we talk about ways we can hold one another with grace and love as we walk through and emerge from these binding struggles. We also talk about what Jesus had to say to the woman at the well, and most, what you can do to regain healing from your own struggles with this addiction, as well as lean in to support those struggling who may come your way. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jessica's book right here Visit Jessica's Beggar's Daughter website and study guide here Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're just keeping afloat amidst endless to-dos or busy seasons of life, your self-preservation - and your entire marriage and family - has likely looped off track. Today Christa is joined by Jenn Johnson, Health Coach, and E + M Certified Coach to guide you back on track, or perhaps finding your stride for the first time! This is an episode you definitely don't want to miss as we deep dive into all three instincts and how you can find your healthiest self with grace, intention, and improved marriage rhythms with encouragement, no matter what season or shape you're in! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jenn's Health Coaching right here or email Jenn at [email protected] Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Across many transitions of life, there are important grounding lessons to be learned as we aim to parent well too. Today as we prepare to launch kids into their own mental wellness with healthy rhythms, Christa is joined by Enneagram expert, and coach Kelsey Lincoln, Enneagram 6 (Fuller Theological Sem, Intercultural Studies). Kelsey shares her wisdom and foresight to give us these tools we need for relationship success across every single type as we do our best to parent with love, wisdom, and lots of grace right here together! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Kelsey's on-point Instagram tips right here! Visit Kelsey's website here! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how your personality affects your well-being in terms of financial savvy and success? Or which Enneagram (and MBTI) types are more and less motivated by more relational versus financial provisions? Truity Psychometrics has done the deep diving for us about what we can all learn from one another, and the world is paying attention. In this all-new episode for you, we get to chat practically and relationally today about the findings, and today Christa interviews Megan Malone, Truity's fabulous content strategist and personality researcher and an Enneagram Two. Walk with us through the types and how you can find balance and expansion in your individual, couple, and work growth in this fascinating episode. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Take the Truity Test on Enneagram Follow Truity @ Instagram! Take the Truity Generations Test Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In our conversation last summer w/Dr. Sam Greenberg, we had a groundbreaking episode on sex and how we see it across various instinctual patterns, depending on whether we're more socially, sexually, or wired for more self-preservation. Here we are joined yet again by Christa and Dr. Sam on a deeper dive level for each and every Enneagram type in terms of the typical sexual findings, in hopes you can truly find your best sexual closeness yet. This episode is SO helpful for your marriage growth, so don't miss out! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Dr. Sam on Instagram Visit Dr. Sam's website! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your goal is deeper intimacy, but did you know autonomy and healthy boundaries and self-care are SO helpful for a relationship as well? Today Christa is joined by one of our most popular guests, Gottman, AACC, and E +M Certified Coach Melissa M Thompson, Enneagram 2, in a conversation about how to do just this for each and every type. Join us as Melissa refreshes us with healthy hacks and reminders of how we can hold love, strength, boundaries, and compassion at the same time. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Melissa for coaching info here! Read Melissa's boundaries blog! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You and your spouse's intimacy issues began long before you were married. Award-winning author, therapist, and ordained minister Jay Stringer has integrated the best of research and marital modalities for a deeper understanding of how our intimacy patterns began, and more importantly, how they can truly improve together. Today in this vital episode for marital healing, we take a truly biopsychosocialspiritual journey across the most important ways you can build safety together. Take the holistic desire survey here! https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/holisticdesire For the couple's research survey on desire, send both your emails to [email protected] Jay's website: https://jay-stringer.com/ Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often we wonder what we've carried forth from childhood in our Enneagram and relationship work, as well as wonder what we may have incidentally left behind in our quest for pleasing our family of origin. Today on this special episode with marriage and family therapist (and likely one of your fave Instagram therapy accounts) Michael Shahan, we take a tour around the Enneagram to walk through the Enneagram inner child theory derived from Sandra Maitri and others, also called the Soul Child theory. We do this to make sure you're running on all healthy cylinders as much as possible with your relationship growth, and we talk through ways you can do this work with your spouse or partner, too. No matter your type, join us for this deep dive into growth for every personality! Watch on YouTube! Michael's website Michael's poyvagal courses Michael's heart-mind-body Costa Rica trip Follow Michael's Instagram here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as we tell new stories and find new ways to make that deeper meaning together. She gives us a formula that has a natural yet practical flow so we can bring ourselves to each date or activity ready for reconnection. Enjoy this rich conversation with Tracy as we walk towards delighting, discovering, sharing our depths, and connecting more closely than ever before. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Visit Tracy and the entire group at ReStory here! Sign up for "A Year of Good Dates" here: https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates https://www.thrivemarriageweekend.com @thrivemarriageweekend on Instagram View the Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Course at ReStory Visit Tracy on Red Tent Living for her prolific blogs Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You may often deal with expectations (and sexpectations) for the roles you hope the other spouse will play in your sexual journey together. Many times, these expectations don't get discussed and spouses are left hurt and distant on the interior. These brief but vital questions will bring you on a deeper level of intimacy than ever before, so take them one at a time as we draw you closer together than ever before right here! Grab our Love Maps freebie to increase general intimacy also! Get The Love Maps Gottman Worksheet! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This must-listen episode is for both men and women since couples who track and hack their unique monthly female cycle together tend to strategically understand one another better across the board. This allows for work, family, and relationship dynamics to thrive in a healthier system than ever before, and this issue is so big in fact, that about 90% of couples experience these shifts in their relationships across the month. Today, Christa deep dives with us in a practical and also fun conversation (we promise!) with Enneagram coach, and female cycle expert, Evie Jenner, Type 1sx (1-5 Marriage Pairing) of @thetypeguide. You definitely don't want to miss the best ways to make the most of the shifting seasons across each month together with us right here! We talk about which times of the month are best for rest, for work, for creating, for sexual intimacy, and SO much more together right here! Get Evie's freebie right here: https://www.thetypeguide.co.uk/ and follow her at @thetypeguide on Instagram, Tiktok, and Thrive! Watch the episode on YouTube Follow Evie on Instagram Here @TheTypeGuide Get Evie's freebie at her website! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are five absolutely key components for a healthier and happier sex life and culture in your marriage and in this quick episode, Christa walks you through ALL of them. Tune in for these practical tips you can incorporate immediately as you create a healthier vibe together all summer (and year!) long. Don't miss the opportunity to both identify the greatest stumbling blocks to intimacy and the best and most tangible steps forward. Watch the episode on YouTube Get Our Freebie on the 3 Areas of Marriage (Including Sexual Intimacy Questions)! Get Our E + M Glow 52-Week Planner Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many times we bring trauma into marriage unwittingly and our spouse has to work very hard to work with us and our sensitive idiosyncrasies. Today we welcome Enneagram Coach and trauma practitioner, Jennifer Hurst of Everyday Enneagram to walk us through compassionate inquiry in our own healing versus relying on our spouses to be all things to us, a term coined by the world-renowned trauma/addictions MD, Dr. Gabor Maté, whose program Jennifer has trained in. Join us as we walk through both general tips to safety together as well as dig deep, type by type with open hearts. You can find Jennifer @everyday-enneagram on Instagram for coaching services and encouragement, too! Show links: Watch the chat on our new YouTube Channel here! @Everyday-Enneagram Jennifer Hurst's Website Watch the episode on YouTube Pre-Order Our New E + M Book! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What can you do when your marriage is in crisis… now? This episode is geared toward every person or couple who’s ever had a really bad day or moment in marriage or other relationships and just needs some support to help them out of a difficult spot. In this episode, Christa takes you around the Enneagram with lots of tips, bringing you warmth, soothing, and most of all, an array of clarified, simple strategies to help you find your healthy self — and your relationship again. In this episode, Christa brings your warmth, soothing, and most of all, practical tips you can take with you now to help you find your healthy self — and your relationship again. Show links: Watch the episode on YouTube Get Our Freebie on the 3 Areas of Marriage Get Our E + M Glow Planner Join Our Launch Team Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often we can make the mistake of completely defining others with unilateral Enneagram stereotypes, further expanding our differences, leaving us not only in the box of our type, but in the shadows of relationships. In this new episode just for you, author and expert Stephanie Spencer invites us into a more adventurous yet intimate journey through our styles of interaction using the broader lens of nature metaphors by type (Did you know, for instance, 4s can be like an iceberg at times as well as an octopus?) Join us as we sit with beautiful photographic concepts for each of us as we venture through the wild together through more connecting lenses of communication for life and marriage. Stephanie also invites us to read her beautiful brand-new hardcover book, Out of the Box and Into the Wild, displaying her and her husband's awesome National Park Adventure pictures, metaphors for each type and triad, and more! Show links: Get Stephanie's new book in full layout hardcover here! Get Stephanie's new book in paperback here! Watch the episode on YouTube Stephanie's Instagram Stephanie's website Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Adventures vary across couples and across types. But we can all agree on one thing - they're essential to a healthy marriage. Today Christa takes you on a quick but important journey across the stances in the various ways each of us brings the best and the worst into our marriage adventures. Listen in for clues for bringing the very best adventuring this season! Show notes: Get the E + M 52 Week Glow Planner with questions, themes (including adventure, goals, Enneagram types, intimacy, and so much more! Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing here at Amazon now Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're in an opposites-attract marriage, you've got to be creative to make sure you're moving together in harmony. Today we get to talk to Dove-award winning artist Paul Cardall, whose lilting songs have been downloaded billions of times and graced the stage and airwaves for two decades, even through a heart transplant, about this very thing. Paul is an Enneagram 4 (with high 3 and 8 traits) and his wife Tina has strong 1 and 5 traits. Together they bring expansiveness and a very powerful outreach of love to the world. Today we get to take creative tips from him as he shares a window into the ways they've done that, and the many adventures they've shared along the way. Show links: Paul's website (including his sheet music and adventure series!) Paul's music on Spotify! Paul's new song, The Shores of Normandy Watch the episode on YouTube Paul's Instagram Tina's Instagram account for healthy eating Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're upset in your relationship, do you ever villainize your spouse? You're not alone if you do, in fact, it's part of human nature to rate oneself as above average and to give oneself grace while fault-finding in one's spouse, especially in the post-honeymoon years. But you're not average, you're right about that part. You're doing your work, and today Christa walks you through doing just that as we cover every Enneagram type in marriage and the ways you can watch out for both villainizing your spouse as well as finding the grace for them that you give yourself. With this mini-midweek message, may you reach farther across the table to your truest trust, love, and attachment yet! Show notes: Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing here at Amazon now Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you have family, fame, and faith, plus a Dove-award-winning musical career with millions of downloads (Sanctus Real, Matt Hammitt), life can feel a bit like coasting. Yet today, recording artist Matt Hammitt, Enneagram 9, reminds us that the space of Enneagram 9 must not only bring comfort but connection for relationships to truly thrive. In this candid interview, Matt walks us through his story of truly leading with love and outlines the radical steps he took to be in his marriage, and not just working for his marriage, and how the time and connection he has truly gained have been incredible. He also walks us through his story of church hurt, offering listeners hope for redemption and reconstruction for a life with God and community in their own personal way. Show notes: Order Matt's book Lead Me here Listen to Matt's songs here! Watch Christa's interview with Matt Hammit on YouTube here Visit Matt's website for his work, devotional, and more stories and videos here! Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing here at Amazon now Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you ever notice how when your emotions get flooded, you end up finding yourself on the wrong side of regulation? Your relationships, especially those closest bonds, suffer while you put on a happy face for everyone at work and community. When this happens, you need tools, and this mini-podcast is a meditation for each of us when we hit every space on the Enneagram. This episode was created so you could truly find refreshment and a bit of rest with us if you're feeling anxious or overwhelmed in the midst of it all. Take a few joyful moments with us so you can rejuvenate without finding yourself in your vices and fixations. Show links: Join our launch team here! Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing here at Amazon now or here at Baker Books (this site offers a 40% off pre-order discount)! Save your receipts for pre-launch bonuses also!! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How does your Enneagram personality type specifically get in the way of your deepest attachments in marriage? Without a safe language, you're probably deeply uncomfortable talking about the vulnerabilities that are preventing you from truly bonding intimately. Today we will talk from an attachments framework about each and every Enneagram type in marriage and the ways you can become closer together in this brand new episode. Christa finally shares the big E + M news also! Listen up, now for special bonuses!! Show links: Pre-order Christa's new book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing here at Amazon now or here at Baker Books (this site offers a 40% off pre-order discount)! Save your receipts for pre-launch bonuses also!! Watch the episode on YouTube here Head over to Christa's author page! Here's the Attachment Project Quiz! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you ever feel like your spouse truly misses out on what your greatest attachment needs are? You may even wonder occasionally if you're doomed as a couple for not agreeing on what secure attachment really looks and feels like. In today's mini-episode, Christa walks you through the reasons those who lead with their hearts, minds, or bodies, tend to feel differently about what secure attachment really looks like, and more, how you can begin to live life more securely together. This is an episode you don't want to miss as you lean into love and into one another with an understanding of your mutual strengths and shadows. Today's show links: Here's the Attachment Project Quiz! Post episode: Congrats to winners of the last episode's contest on Monday @rhhorstman and @annamariereilly for guessing Kate and Adam's types (9 and 5) correctly, as well as to all of the others who did as well (and thanks for playing even if you didn't!! They win one of Kate's brand new Enneagram books and one of our Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Games! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kate Hallock. As you learn about Kate, her husband, and their process for undertaking the first Enneagram mystery novel, Nine Ways to Die: An Enneagram Murder Mystery, we also have a mystery to solve together right on air! Join us here to examine what type Kate and her husband are for a chance to win a copy of Kate's novel and one of our mystery dinner games! Post episode: Congrats to winners of the contest @rhhorstman and @annamariereilly for guessing Kate and Adam's types (9 and 5) correctly, as well as to all of the others who did as well (and thanks for playing even if you didn't!! They win one of Kate's brand new Enneagram books and one of our Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Games! Watch the live interview with Christa and Kate on YouTube! Get Kate's book Find Kate's bio and Instagram here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We each bring something valuable and beautiful to our marriages in terms of worldview but also bring an accompanying shadow to the relationship as well. Today we are talking about what each of us brings in terms of worldview to our marriage via our Enneagram type. We are also going through an exercise that gives you briefly a chance to move toward one another when you hit a roadblock in achieving your goals together. Today's show links: Check out Dr. Wyatt, PsyD relationship course starting this week for those who want to dive in deeper with tips and practice coaching with an ICF certified program! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. However, the intensity of love can also have negative effects on the activity within the brain. Today on the podcast, we demystify the brain and practically hack our way through the best ways we can allow our thinking and activities to support us in our goals together! Join Christa with an exclusive look at how to boost your brain with healthy hacks as we sit at the feet of neuroscientist Dr. Krissy Thomas, Ph.D, Enneagram Three. It's a powerful and fun episode as we dissect the very best ways to boost your joy and life together! Learn the hacks around: Why & how crying releases endorphins as stress is released The sympathetic & parasympathetic nervous process Dopamine (our feel-good brain chemical) Serotonin (a mood-boosting brain chemical) Oxytocin (a relationship, "love chemical") Endorphins (natural pain relievers for relieving mood) Mirror neurons and how we can help each other Sleep and its housekeeping role for our life and marriage And SO much more! Show Links: Watch the live interview with Christa and Dr. Krissy on YouTube! Visit Dr. Krissy on her fabulous Instagram for regular brain hacks! Visit Dr. Krissy's website here for more info about her and her life coaching assistance! Congrats to our contest winner @KollerCommentary Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this unabashedly romantic and just-for-fun episode, Christa and Hannah curl up in the 7 space with some decaf chai and invite listeners to grab a cup and join them in another personality-type excavation! This time we invite our audience to Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan characters with us across their cinematic history of slow-burn and enemies-to-lovers tropes together. We visit the magical mutual pining in Sleepless in Seattle, revisit the modern Pride and Prejudice in You've Got Mail, and make a brief touchdown into Joe Versus the Volcano in this new rom-com Enneagram typing episode just for you! Show Links: Contest fun! We invite you to cast your votes of each type on our Instagram account for this episode too for a chance to win a pairing guide for you or a friend here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices