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When Both Partners Carry the Mental Load: A Better Share with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too? Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes, even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening to our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Apr 7, 202548 min

Beyond the Box: When You Don't Fit Just One Enneagram Type

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Apr 2, 202522 min

Finding Grace in the Mess: Dana K. White on Home Management and Spiritual Freedom

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you. With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged by others or themselves for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 31, 202542 min

When Anxiety Takes the Wheel: Understanding Your Type's Relationship with Fear

How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 26, 202512 min

Addiction in Relationships: How We All Heal Together w/Best-Selling Author Ian Cron, 4

In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube Resources mentioned in this episode: Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093 Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment "The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 24, 202546 min

Building Internal Validation in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini

In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here! Here we explore: Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice Lived Evidence Documentation Faith-Based Self-Compassion Strategic Disengagement And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value, regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 19, 202511 min

S7 Ep 16Beyond Self-Pres, Social & Sexual: A Fresh Take on Instincts That Drives You Forward w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman, Art of Growth

In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/ Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288 Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 17, 20251h 5m

S7 Ep 18Your 30 Min E + M Monthly Relationship Blueprint

Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode. You'll learn: The reminder that research backs how healthy addressing and communication dramatically improve relationship satisfaction A simple 3-part framework for your monthly meeting (Connection, Exploration, Solutions) How to adapt the process for different Enneagram types Practical tips to ensure the experience feels positive and productive Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy. Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform! Get the 30-minute monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting. << Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 12, 202515 min

S7 Ep 13The Space Between Us: Why Decentralizing Your Partner Creates Healthier Love

What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 10, 202518 min

S7 Ep 16Living a Life of Radical Generosity with Craig & Laura Cooper, 3-9

What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity that inspired MercyMe's song and Walker Hayes' music video "Craig." The Coopers discuss how their Type 3w4 and Type 9 Enneagram dynamics shape their approach to hospitality, and how a simple act of giving a minivan to a family in need sparked a profound spiritual transformation. Learn how small acts of generosity can create ripple effects of change, and discover practical ways to cultivate a spirit of giving in your own relationships and community right here! Watch on YouTube Find the song with Walker Hayes/MercyMe written about Craig and Laura on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pLNTewIfrg and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1S9Yxo8bniCYywEMCposAl Find Craig's book here with Mercy Me/Walker Hayes: https://www.amazon.com/Glad-Youre-Here-Unlikely-Breaking/dp/0802424716 Find Craig's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/craigallencooper/?hl=en Join the special free women's event beginning today at the Wholehearted Abundance Summit where Christa will be speaking this week here More: Craig Allen Cooper is a USA Today bestselling author and keynote speaker. He co-wrote the book "Glad You're Here" with Grammy-nominated country singer and songwriter, Walker Hayes. "Glad You're Here" instantly became a Publisher's Weekly, ECPA, and USA Today national bestseller and has been featured on The Today Show, People Magazine, The 700 Club, Jesus Calling, and Family Life Radio, as well as various other news sources, radio and television programs and podcasts, including That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs and Dream Big with Bob Goff. Craig served as one of the founding pastors of Redeeming Grace Church in Franklin, Tennessee and is the founder of Glad You’re Here Ministries. He is the subject of the song "Craig" by Walker Hayes, and he resides in the greater Nashville area with his lovely wife, Laura, and their four kids. You can follow Craig on Instagram @craigallencooper and for more information or for speaking inquiries, please visit www.craigallencooper.com/speaking. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 5, 202556 min

S7 Ep 16One Choice Away: Breaking Toxic Cycles with Justin & Trisha Davis

Join us for a powerful conversation with Justin and Trisha Davis about breaking the cycles that hurt our relationships. From navigating infidelity to rebuilding trust, they share how understanding their Enneagram dynamic as an 8w7 and 3w2 couple has transformed their marriage and ministry. Discover practical wisdom for breaking free from shame, resentment, and fear while creating new patterns of connection. Whether you're facing betrayal or seeking to prevent it, this episode offers hope for lasting change, one choice at a time. 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/HuWf6-oE3h0 Get their brand new book, One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back, here! https://a.co/d/8ybdlXf Find Trisha and Justin at Refine Us Ministry: https://www.instagram.com/refineus/ Visit them at www.justinandtrisha.com or www.refineus.com (download the first two chapters, free!) Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 2, 202554 min

S7 Ep 15The Beauty of Broken Places: How Suffering Reshapes Marriage w/Award-Winning Author Kimberly Phinney, 9

Join Christa and award-winning writer and professor Kimberly Phinney for a tender yet powerful conversation about navigating suffering in marriage. Through her own journey with critical illness and her work as a poet and literature scholar, Kimberly shares how pain can become a doorway to deeper connection. Discover how writing becomes medicine, how presence matters more than perfection, and how to find unexpected gifts in life's darkest seasons as spouses by one another's sides through sickness and in health. Whether you're in the midst of suffering or supporting a partner through pain, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a gentle reminder that beauty can grow in broken places. 🌱💫 Listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/r8M0OKRAWDg Kimberly is a professional helper and artist completing her doctorate in community care and counseling. She is a professor, writer, editor, and counselor. During her critical illness in 2021-2022, she began dreaming about The Way Back to Ourselves and founded it in August of 2022. She is an award-winning and Pushcart Prize-nominated poet, and her writing has been published in Christianity Today, Ekstasis, Fathom, Truly Co, Radix, Calla Press, Humana Obscura, The Dewdrop, and many others. Her debut poetry collection, Of Wings & Dirt, which is inspired by her health journey, infertility, and miraculous motherhood, was published in April 2024 with Wipf & Stock and was a #1 New Release and Best Seller on Amazon. She is also at work on her next poetry collection and a nonfiction book on suffering and healing. She has been featured on Good Morning America and ABC News. Visit Kimberly's website here: https://www.thewayback2ourselves.com/about Visit Kimberly on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/thewayback2ourselves/ Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 26, 20251h 1m

S7 Ep 12Building Secure Love: Transforming Attachment Patterns with Julie Menanno, LMFT

Join us for this powerful conversation with Julie Menanno, LMFT (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller, Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime, to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships via the attachment lens and her emotionally focused therapy couples work. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure, lasting connection. Get ready to transform how you love right here! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XAn7LnsM0oQ In this powerful episode, discover: Why certain patterns keep showing up in relationships How to move from anxious or avoidant to secure What security actually looks like in daily moments Practical steps for building lasting trust Find her website and podcast here: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Read Dr. Julie Mennano's best-selling book here! https://www.amazon.com/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1668012863 Looking for coaching help? Don't forget to sign up for the Enneagram Intensive for a deeper dive with Christa here! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 24, 202545 min

S7 Ep 14Understanding Your Arrows: Why Your Partner Seems Different Under Stress

Ever wonder why your partner acts completely different under stress? Join Christa as we explore the Enneagram arrows - your map to understanding relationship patterns in both stress and growth, as we move expansively from just your main type to see other typical moves we can expect from each Enneagram pattern. Whether you're navigating challenges or building connection, discover how these natural movements affect your marriage. Perfect for couples seeking deeper understanding of their relationship dynamics! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RYZRehYmep4 The Wholehearted Summit free sign up is here for you! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2025-wholehearted-abundance-summit-registration-page?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2148060925%2FMhoTboBT Looking for coaching help? Don't forget to sign up for the Enneagram Intensive for a deeper dive with Christa https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 19, 202521 min

S7 Ep 13The Marriage You Want: Breaking Free from Stereotypes with Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8

Join us for a powerful must-listen conversation with bestselling author Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8, about creating true partnership in marriage. Using evidence-based research and biblical wisdom, Sheila and her team challenge outdated stereotypes while offering practical paths to genuine intimacy! Whether you're seeking a deeper connection or wanting to build a stronger team approach with your spouse, this episode offers fresh perspective and real hope. Get ready for the truth that transforms! 🌟💫 Listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PhcocdJomLw Get Sheila's book here on pre-order! https://a.co/d/8yqOfgU (Ships out March 11, 2025) Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 17, 202538 min

S7 Ep 12“Let Them” in Love & Marriage: Stop Trying to Change Your Partner and Start Living Your Life

Join Christa as we explore the transformative power of letting your partner be exactly who they are as we pair Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory with the Enneagram. Discover how releasing the need to fix, change, or perfect your spouse creates a deeper connection and authentic love. Whether you're learning to release control or seeking to understand differences, this episode offers practical wisdom for creating more freedom in your marriage. Get ready to transform your relationship through the power of permission! Perfect for couples ready to exchange improvement for acceptance. 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube! Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 12, 202521 min

S7 Ep 11Perfect Timing: When to Have Hard Conversations in Marriage According to the Best Relationship Research

Timing can make or break a crucial conversation in marriage. Learn the science-backed best times for difficult discussions, understand your partner's readiness signals, and discover type-specific approaches to timing-sensitive conversations. Transform potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. We talk about the tips through the lens of the most powerful marriage systems, Gottman, EFT, CBT, IFS, and, of course, Enneagram! Listen here! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n6o3naNkaYs Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 10, 202519 min

S7 Ep 10Breaking the Patterns That Break You w/Author Tori Hope Petersen, 4w3

Join us with bestselling author Tori Hope Petersen as we explore breaking free from patterns that hold us back in relationships just as she launches her new book, "Breaking the Patterns That Break You: Healing From the Pain of Your Past and Finding Real Hope That Lasts". From foster care to flourishing family, Tori shares powerful insights about healing generational wounds while building healthy connection. Whether you're carrying childhood patterns or supporting a partner through healing, this episode offers hope and practical wisdom for breaking cycles and building love. Get ready for deep truth and transformative hope! 🌱✨ Tori Hope Petersen is a bestselling author, sought-after speaker, Bible teacher, and lover of people. Since coming to faith, she has shared her testimony and life as authentically as she can to offer hope to others. Named by Outreach Magazine as one of “20 Rising Leaders for This Generation and the Next,” Tori is known for her compassionate voice on the topic of healing juxtaposed with her fierce advocacy work for the vulnerable. At home she is a wife and mama who enjoys cooking with her children. With a deep value for family, community, and hospitality, Tori and her family love to make extra food for whoever might stop by. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/bNtGjN9d9ec Find Tori's brand-new book right here! https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Patterns-That-Break-You/dp/1400250048 Find Tori's website here! https://www.torihopepetersen.com/ Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 4, 20251h 0m

S7 Ep 9Secure Love: Building Unshakeable Connection in Marriage w/EJ and Terah Kerwin 5-2

Join us with EJ Kerwin, LPC and Terah Kerwin, LMFT (5-2 pairing), founders of Relationship Renovation as we explore how every couple can build secure, stable connections together. Drawing from their work with countless couples across seasons and temperament combinations, join us for an episode filled with wisdom for creating unshakeable bonds. Whether you're naturally anxious or avoidant, an external processor or internal thinker, this episode offers hope and concrete steps for deepening your connection. Get ready to transform your relationship's foundation! 🏠💫 Watch on YouTube Find help with Relationship Renovation here: https://relationshiprenovation.com/ Follow EJ & Terah on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 3, 202554 min

S7 Ep 3Healing Childhood Wounds Together: Supporting Your Partner's Growth Path

Join Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand your partner's healing journey, and navigate triggers with grace. Whether you're supporting a partner through their past pain or seeking understanding of your own patterns, this episode offers practical wisdom and hopeful strategies for growing together. Let's transform old wounds into deeper connection! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube ✨Join the Enneagram & Marriage Coaching and Masterclass Certification with Christa here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions, connect right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 28, 202528 min

S7 Ep 7The Enneagram in Real Life: Breaking Down Barriers with Stephanie Barron Hall, 3

Ready to move beyond theory into real transformation? Join us as bestselling author Stephanie Barron Hall unpacks how different types accidentally trigger each other, why some people love conflict while others run from it, and what to do when communication styles clash. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned explorer, this episode offers fresh insights and practical tools for real-life growth. Get ready to understand yourself and others in a whole new way! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube Find Steph's website and book bonuses here! https://www.ninetypes.co/enneagram-in-real-life Find Steph on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 26, 202549 min

S7 Ep 6Your Partner's Enneagram Habits: How to Stop Taking Them Personally

Ever feel like your partner's Enneagram patterns are pulling you into a dance you didn't sign up for? In this transformative episode, we explore how to support your partner's growth journey without losing yourself in their challenges. Using real-life examples (including a story about a faulty airplane seat!), discover practical ways to love your partner through their growth edge while staying grounded in your own path. Get ready for freedom, joy, and deeper connection! 🌟✨ Watch on YouTube ✨Join the Enneagram & Marriage Coaching and Masterclass Certification with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 22, 202535 min

S7 Ep 3Family Patterns & Growing Grace: Navigating Life's Transitions with Ro Elliott, 2-9

What happens when your kids grow up and start their own families? How do you maintain boundaries while building bridges? In this heart-warming episode, Ro Elliot shares wisdom about using the Enneagram to navigate family transitions with grace. Whether you're becoming a grandparent, welcoming new in-laws, or simply watching your family dynamics evolve, this episode offers practical insights for growing together through life's changes. Get ready for stories, strategies, and soulful wisdom about creating a legacy of love! 🌟👨‍👩‍👧‍👦✨ Find Ro on her website here: https://www.roelliottconsulting.com/ Find Ro on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/roelliott/?hl=en We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 20, 202549 min

S7 Ep 4Beyond Stereotypes: Breaking Down Enneagram Misconceptions

Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood Types 6 & 9. We're diving deep into why behavior doesn't equal type, how health levels change everything, and why motivation matters more than actions. Perfect for both beginners and experienced Enneagram enthusiasts who want to move beyond surface-level understanding. Get ready to challenge what you think you know about each type! 🔍💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NNTT12VY8xI Helping the LA Wildfire victims here: https://www.empoweredwithgina.com/lawildfire We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 14, 202524 min

S7 Ep 3Finding Your Type: Patterns That Help You Know Yourself

Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligence Centers (Head, Heart, Gut), Harmonic Groups (how you handle problems), and Harmony Groups (how you move through life). Whether you process through thinking, feeling, or doing, this episode will help you find your home in the Enneagram. Get ready for clear, practical insights that make type-finding feel less overwhelming! 🧭 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FcMgb2WjgII Help the LA Wildfire victims here: https://www.empoweredwithgina.com/lawildfire ✨Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach and come to Zoom class this semester with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass For more freebies and fun, check out the website www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 13, 202521 min

S7 Ep 3The Growth Accelerator: How Your Partner's Type Makes You Better

Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this energizing episode of Enneagram and Marriage, we explore the beautiful paradox of how our partner's contrasting Enneagram type isn't just a challenge - it's actually our greatest opportunity for personal growth! Whether you're a detailed Type 1 married to a spontaneous Type 7, or a peace-keeping Type 9 with an assertive Type 8, discover how these differences are secretly sculpting you into your best self. Get ready for powerful aha moments and practical strategies to transform relationship friction into personal gold! 🎯✨ Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bblX2C-rFPA Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach and come to Zoom class this semester with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 8, 202526 min

S7 Ep 2Power Moves: Each Type's Secret Strength in Building an Amazing Marriage

Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's unique gifts that can transform an ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one! From the Type 2s emotional intelligence to the Type 5s depth of insight, every type has a special gift that can revolutionize your connection. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned enthusiast, you'll discover fresh ways to leverage your natural strengths and appreciate your partner's contributions. Get ready to supercharge your marriage with type-specific wisdom! 💪💑 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-fNMmM715Aw We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 6, 202525 min

S7 Ep 1Resolution Revolution: The Enneagram & Marriage Guide to Real Marriage Change

Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagram type within marriage. We'll talk about why blanket advice like "communicate better" might resonate differently with a One than it does with a Seven. We'll discuss how a Four's path to being more present looks vastly different from a Three's journey to the same goal. Most importantly, we also focus on authenticity. Because the most powerful resolutions aren't about changing who you are - they're about becoming more fully yourself in your marriage. They're about understanding your unique gifts and challenges, and using that awareness to grow closer to your partner. So whether you're an Eight learning to embrace vulnerability, a Two discovering healthy boundaries, or a Nine finding your voice in your relationship - this episode is about crafting resolutions that honor your true self while strengthening your marriage. Let's move beyond the surface-level changes that don't stick, and instead, dive into the kind of intentional growth that transforms relationships from the inside out. Are you ready? Let's dive in - together! Also, our E + M Membership, the Collective, is here and open for membership now Jan 1-8th!! Join here for only $29 a month and get four extra joy-filled, practical marriage coaching new episodes a month just for you along with a monthly training Zoom call with Christa, and more here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 1, 202522 min

S6 Ep 81The Relationship Time Capsule: Your Year-End Love Story

Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moments of 2024. From belly laughs to breakthrough conversations, you'll preserve the magic of your journey while planting seeds for an even deeper connection in 2025. With our free interactive prompts (and worksheet for Collective members), you'll discover the beautiful wisdom hidden in your everyday moments together. Don't let these memories fade - let's turn them into gold - together!! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/KS1il2uPg20 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! Use the code NEWYEAR2025 for your E + M 52 Week Couple's Planner for $20 off here!: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/enneagram-glow-planner You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 30, 202416 min

S6 Ep 81The Social Heart Learns Self-Care: A Conversation with Wes Hardin

On today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delicate art of balancing his natural pull toward community and connection with the equally vital needs of self-preservation and one-on-one intimacy. Join us for an intimate conversation that weaves through the landscape of instinctual drives, exploring how we can honor our core nature while growing into our blind spots. Whether you're social-first like Wes or simply curious about the dance between giving to others and nurturing yourself, this episode offers wisdom, vulnerability, and practical insights for anyone seeking to harmonize their instinctual drives. Tune in for a conversation that might just change how you understand yourself and your relationships. Watch on YouTube https://youtu.be/MOejYRMyuWs Use code SAVE50 here for 50% off of the Discovering Your Desires (Instincts) PDF for a spouse stocking stuffer!! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/discovering-your-desires-together/p/the-three-desires-a-deeper-dive-wthe-enneagram-instincts-in-relationship Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code SAVE50 for half off this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 23, 202436 min

S6 Ep 78Holiday Gift Tips for Spouses & Family Members of Every Type: An E + M Mini Episode

Tis the season where you can get SO busy with trying to wrap things up at work or school that you can forget the kind of things you can wrap up in terms of presents for your people - and the kinds of gifts that just can't be wrapped up, too, like fun experiences together. This holiday, take our team’s reminders of some of the classics that each of the Enneagram types enjoys being gifted this season, as well as for some tips to help you simply appreciate the gift-giver themselves. Listen right here! Get today's 5 for 500 session package for the year ahead! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/buy-a-coaching-session-or-package/p/5-session-glow-up-coaching-package-rl2xy Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 18, 202420 min

Bonus Holiday Episode: A Parks and Rec Typing Special w/Melody Hardin, 9 and Christa Hardin, 7

The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the world's favorite shows to binge, Parks and Rec. The show, a political satire, is ultimately a tribute to loving your neighbor even when your neighbor is frustrating for you and has different ideals. Today, Christa and Melody are taking a fun time-out during the holiday rush to collaborate on typing the show's biggest personalities. We hope you’ll enjoy typing them with us in this just-for-fun E + M episode! Music added by Jack Hardin Watch on Youtube! Get on the email list here for the 12 Days of Christmas sales! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/kcxt8k7431 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 15, 202440 min

S6 Ep 80Help for the Hard Days This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to ground you as many times as you need it as you reflect, heal, and honor the harder days and moments in your life and what they mean. Join Christa here for three important tips during or after a dark night of the soul. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/L7wyHt8ORWo Get on the E + M email list! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/kcxt8k7431 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our freebies, goodies, and gift ideas. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 11, 202420 min

S6 Ep 79Rewilding Relationships w/Award-Winning Author Lore Ferguson Wilbert, 9w8

"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, family member, or your neighbor, it’s not always easy loving someone with differences. Yet chemistry is not sameness, and today we are grateful to have Christianity Today book award author Lore Ferguson, 9 (9w8 and 6w5 pairing), Wilbert on the pod today to encourage us in a Christ-like loving of the other - whatever that means - in our lives. We also enjoy talking about Lore's beautiful book, The Understory as she helps us to see the parallels of Christian faith in the resilience and rootedness found in the minutiae and cycles of the natural world. May we truly find the courage to step into the community and love those who believe differently as we learn from Lore here on today's show. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NmkQQHVh-bI More about Lore: Lore Ferguson Wilbert is an award winning writer, thinker, learner, and author of the books, The Understory, A Curious Faith and Handle With Care. She has written for She Reads Truth, Christianity Today, and more, as well as her own site, lorewilbert.com. She has a Masters in Spiritual Formation and Leadership and loves to think and write about the intersection of human formation and the gritty stuff of earth. You can find Lore on Instagram @lorewilbert. She lives with her husband Nate and their pups, Harper and Rilke, in southeastern Pennsylvania. She really has read all the books on her shelves. Find Lori’s community of Substack members over at: https://lorewilbert.com/ Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at our sister site www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 9, 202445 min

S6 Ep 79Navigating The Three Enneagram Instincts (Sp, Sx, So) This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into life with faithful steps. Don't miss this refreshing take on how the Enneagram Instincts/Desires can help you fall into rhythms of being present to rest, loving, and giving this season and beyond in this E + M Mini-Episode! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/IEbo4wm-AwM Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Desires/Instincts Freebie is here: The Three Desire: A Deeper Dive w/The Enneagram Instincts in Relationship is Here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/discovering-your-desires-together/p/the-three-desires-a-deeper-dive-wthe-enneagram-instincts-in-relationship Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 4, 202412 min

S6 Ep 76Holding to a Posture of Hope Even After Everything This Advent w/Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4

Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, despite the hardest hurts that make us want to draw away. As we do so, we're joined by the exquisitely talented, award-winning writer and senior editor at Harper One, Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4 (4-8 pairing) as she talks about her new book that addresses finding light even after darkness, Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway. Today we get to process what Advent means as we enter the season, but moreover, we get to hear Stephanie‘s rich stories about the ways that she has encountered finiteness and loss and also opened herself up to joy even after harrowing experiences of both live births and pregnancy losses during the Advent season. During Advent and beyond, do not miss this journey of sharing our hopes and desires to cope after our losses. Join us for a beautiful and hope-filled episode right here. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZYIyTVmdx8k More About Stephanie: Stephanie Duncan Smith is a writer and senior editor at HarperOne who has spent her career developing award-winning and bestselling authors. She is the creator of Slant Letter, a bestselling Substack email newsletter for writers looking to deepen their craft and do it in style. Duncan Smith completed her master’s in theology at Western Theological Seminary, where she was the winner of the Frederick Buechner Prize for Excellence in Writing. She lives with her husband, Zach, a professor, and their two children in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Show Notes: Get Stephanie‘s brand new title here this Advent: Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway : https://a.co/d/f5w6z5Z Follow Stephanie on Substack, the Slant Letter right here: https://substack.com/@stephanieduncansmith Find Stephanie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/stephduncansmith/?hl=en Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 2, 202445 min

S6 Ep 76What to Do When There's a Desire Mismatch in Your Marriage

Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular belief, and the reasons are complex, no matter the case for either spouse. Whatever your story is, today's episode reminds you of ways you can discuss and work through your mismatched sexual desire as you walk through through this busy season with beautiful connection as well. Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yQ4t3GG8g20 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 27, 202414 min

S6 Ep 78Personality and Wholeness: 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways w/Dr. Dan Siegel, MD

Relational triggers only get worse when we're not aware of our focus of attention and blind spots. Today we're grateful to have world-renowned psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel, MD, (Harvard Medical School, Author of the NYT Best-Selling The Whole Brained Child) on the Enneagram & Marriage podcast to help us process relational triggers of each type and how to create a healthy window of tolerance as we walk through the nine patterns of development today. Dr. Siegel, MD is one of the foremost experts on neurobiology in the world, including being the scientist who coined the terms, "window of tolerance," and "interpersonal neurobiology." His long-awaited newest book, "Personality and Wholeness in Therapy: Integrating 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways in Clinical Practice" is a gift to therapists and lay scholars and listeners alike. Don't miss Dr. Dan Siegal's riveting research and practical tips for us all on the E + M pod today! Daniel J. Siegel received his medical degree from Harvard University and completed his postgraduate medical education at UCLA with training in pediatrics and child, adolescent and adult psychiatry. He served as a National Institute of Mental Health Research Fellow at UCLA, studying family interactions with an emphasis on how attachment experiences influence emotions, behavior, autobiographical memory and narrative. Dr. Siegel, MD has lectured for the King of Thailand, Pope John Paul II, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Google University, and London’s Royal Society of Arts (RSA). He lives in Southern California with his family. Get his new book here on Amazon! https://a.co/d/ejrxfL7 Get his New York Times Best-Selling book, The Whole Brained Child, and others here on his website: https://drdansiegel.com/books/ Learn more about Dr. Dan Siegel, MD here! https://drdansiegel.com/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 25, 202446 min

S6 Ep 74How Each Type Can Better Communicate with Their Partner: An E + M Mini

Communication between partners can get very sticky around the holidays so today we’re taking some time to allow you a chance to refresh and review the best ways to communicate as partners of each type. It won’t be easy at times, but these E + M quick tips will help you to have a beautiful glow all season long. Listen now to add a little sparkle of kindness into your season! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/hzAwqYyn6DM Get Christa's book for stocking stuffers or as part of a holiday gift package for a couple you love! https://a.co/d/dZgarTG Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 20, 202414 min

S6 Ep 72Releasing Your Personality Shadows w/Master Enneagram Teacher Leslie Hershberger, Type 7

We see others' shadows readily, but seeing and releasing our own shadows is where the real change begins, even as we learn to move beyond our protective but maladaptive shadow responses. Today we talk with master Enneagram teacher Leslie Hershberger about how to release your most polarizing dynamics as we walk through each and every personality type. This is a deeper dive Enneagram-specific master training you don’t want to miss! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/lNdEtSaf3Gc Find Leslie's truly life-changing work and courses here: https://lesliehershberger.com/ More about Leslie: Leslie has been working with the 3 centered Enneagram for over 20 years as a consultant, master teacher, coach, spiritual guide, facilitator and mentor. I am certified in the Narrative Tradition, certified in the Enneagram in Business, have served as a mentor for students and teachers in training, keynoted at conferences, have served on the board of the International Enneagram Association and I’m former editor of Nine Points Magazine, the online magazine of the IEA. More about E + M: Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 18, 20241h 22m

S6 Ep 73Five Joyful Habits to Set For Your Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

With the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Christa takes you through five areas for better habit-building that you can work on individually or together with us! Take a moment to set some Atomic Habits around fitness, food, communication, marriage, and tech this season. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/xCGF7tIgppo Who can you share these tips with? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 13, 202411 min

S6 Ep 72The Enneagram for Teens w/Author Ainsley Britain, Type 2 (and Hannah Hardin, Type 4)

Modern-day kids have so much to contend with between technology, AI, and also just learning who they’re becoming as they rapidly change. As a parent, you want to give them great tools to learn about who they are and who they’re becoming and the Enneagram offers such a big help with this! Join us in a pivotal conversation about the Enneagram and kids right here! Whether you're trekking through this stage now or just want to have fun with us as you look out at what's on the horizon, your kids and you deserve the very best together as you help build their gifts with intention. To help you, we have Enneagram expert and teen expert Ainsley Britain (Wild Confidence Podcast), Enneagram 2 (2-3 Pairing), and author of the Enneagram For Teens as well as an afterword w/Hannah Hardin, Enneagram 4, an Enneagram teen talking with Christa about how the Enneagram will help you and your developing kids as well as some cautionary reminders! We even share together more intimately as well, with a few snippets from Christa’s mom's journal from when she was parenting Christa as a teen as well (post-audio episode only). This is a fun episode sprinkled with wisdom and encouragement for you and your future or current family and community! Don't miss it or Ainsley's awesome book for teens, their families, and their mentors! Watch YouTube! https://youtu.be/qjWL2kIJR48 Find Ainsey's Britain's website here: https://www.ainsleybritain.com/ Find The Enneagram for Teens book on Amazon here! https://a.co/d/3OpiseF Find Ainsley on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ainsleyb/?hl=en and also at her podcast page here! Who can you share these tips with? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Also mentioned on the podcast: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt https://a.co/d/fWuedCc Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 11, 202451 min

S6 Ep 72Three Tips to Bring Peace to Your Week: An E + M Mini Episode

Maintaining peace is hard on a week when the world feels a bit less stable during election week. Here are three tips for maintaining peace as you learn to focus on the here and on what you can do to take your peace back. Listen to this mini-episode here! Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/cYNPrvfP9I0 Who can you share these tips with? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 6, 202411 min

S6 Ep 71Going Deeper w/Conversations in Your Marriage w/Marriage365 Casey and Meygan Caston, Types 7 and 8

When we stop talking, we stop connecting, and this is a week in the world when we realize that kind and deep conversations are more essential than ever. Yet when we’re exhausted and weary of the distancing that can come with conflict, it’s difficult to know where to start. Today we're grateful for popular Marriage365 experts and authors Casey and Meygan Caston, who have the #1 Marriage App sharing with us about how we can hold safe and deep conversations regularly with joy. Here they walk us through both ways to have the more intense deep conversations as well as the light and fun conversational points for connecting us on day-to-day and date night levels. Find Casey and Meygan's new book with ALL the bonuses here! https://marriage365books.com/?_ga=2.6639410.1260727658.1730669908-1506493948.1729697592 or get it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Connecting-Questions-Couples-Caston-Meygan/dp/1732435804 Learn more about their work at large! https://marriage365.com/ Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/B6UkJCr2wAI Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nov 4, 202441 min

S6 Ep 70Dealing with the Mental Load in Your Relationship: An E + M Mini- Episode

The term mental load is a hot-button issue right now in relationships, and for good reason. Many individuals, often women, but sometimes men too, find themselves in a never-ending but invisible stage-manager-like role for the family. They are behind-the-scenes, organizing everything and everyone and burnout hits hard. Tune in to this E + M mini episode today to find out more about how you can reduce mental load and find more joy in your life together again. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/B6UkJCr2wAI Want to share your mystery story ending to our Creative Writing Mystery contest? Enter the contest to win a free game by exercising your creative writing this spooky season. Submitting your story ending using the prompt at the beginning of today's pod! Share it with us at [email protected] or [email protected] Make sure you enjoy the discount on a Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Game, which Christa wrote, this Spooky Season! Use code www.SupperSleuths.com and use code "Halloween2024" Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oct 30, 202422 min

S6 Ep 69Healing from the Inside with Marriage Therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Type 9

Many times we want to work everything out relationally with our partner, but often the work must start within by finding your beliefs, emotions, and story. Today we have the rich expertise of husband, father, photographer, and marriage and family therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Enneagram 9 to help us through to trauma to regulation. Join us for an important talk with action steps for you regarding how you can find your stride, and learn more about Blake and his 9-2 story as well right here, too! Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/eTheRuiHC4c Find Blake on his website to find his practice, writing, and upcoming podcast: https://www.blakerobertscounseling.com/ and write to him at [email protected] Find Blake on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blake.the.counselor/?hl=en Want to be a 2025 guest on the E + M Pod? Make your pitch by writing to us at [email protected] Make sure you enjoy the discount on a Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Game, which Christa wrote, this Spooky Season! Use code www.SupperSleuths.com and use code "Halloween2024" Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oct 28, 202454 min

S6 Ep 68Healing Misalignment As a Couple: An E + M Mini-Episode

When you're feeling misaligned as a couple, relationship desire is lower and you feel so misunderstood. Today not only do you get to walk through the various ways couples can become misaligned, but most importantly Christa guides you back to alignment together right here! You'll find out ways every type comes to find themselves misaligned as well as get step-by-step processes for finding the ways you join best once again or for the very first time. Listen to this E + M Mini episode here! Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/7JxglOMRbQA Want to be a 2025 guest on the E + M Pod? Make your pitch by writing to us at [email protected] Make sure you enjoy the discount on a Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Game, which Christa wrote, this Spooky Season! Use code www.SupperSleuths.com and use code "Halloween2024" Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oct 23, 202420 min

S6 Ep 67Why Healthy Authenticity is Everything in a Marriage (And How to Bring It!)

Authenticity is deeply important for a thriving marriage, yet authenticity without intentional growth can bring out the very worst of humanity. Listen to this foundational E + M episode to learn several ways to thrive in authenticity and as a result, bring your marriage to new levels of acceptance, love, and grace, even if you've had an avoidant or anxious attachment in the past, and been afraid to be real. We cover stories, tangible ways to grow in authenticity, and most of all, how you can grow closer. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/i9J5SMl6o5g Want to be a 2025 guest on the E + M Pod? Make your pitch by writing to us at [email protected] Make sure you enjoy the discount on a Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Game, which Christa wrote, this Spooky Season! Use code www.SupperSleuths.com and use code "Halloween2024" Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oct 21, 202432 min

S6 Ep 65Bonus Episode: How to Recover Lost Desire in Marriage

In our series, we’ve been connecting on how desire is built, but in this deeper dive episode, we talk about what prevents desire and how it is lost and recovered. We talk about the shadows we carry that carry us farther apart from another and how to return home to desire for one another as well. Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more tools and freebies! Visit Apple Podcast to subscribe to all the podcasts in the "Building Desire" series! Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oct 16, 202432 min

S6 Ep 66Finding Harmony Together in Conflict w/Kristi Rowles, Type 6 of Enneagram University

Although it's true that often the partners in a relationship have differing desires, it's also true that we must find ways back to harmony after conflict. Today we get to talk to Enneagram expert Kristi Rowles (Enneagram University), cp6, about how to work through conflict with scaling, balancing of instincts, and so much more. We also learn more about the counterphobic 6 space and Kristi's open cart anf sale for Enneagram University! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Hv3IVHVVxAM The Enneagram University: https://www.theenneagramuniversity.com/?ref=6c4c6f Find Kristi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyitskristirowles/ Join Enneagram University here: https://www.theenneagramuniversity.com/?6c4c6f Want to share the light? Spread the word about the podcast here by leaving your review so others can find it, too!: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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