Enneagram and Marriage

On this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain to post-traumatic growth, analyzing through the lens of The Tortured Poet's Department Album (TTPD) from Taylor Swift. Join us for therapeutic lessons, fun, and a few meaningful takeaways for healthy ways to process grief, love, loss, and angst. In this episode we analyze Taylor's vulnerable path forward to healing, adding tips for post-relationship hurt growth healing for you and yours as well! Bring your journal to this pod! SHOW NOTES: Can you spread the word on the book tour? 🥳🙏 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively successful The Minimalist Mom Podcast and Instagram influencer, Diane Boden, Enneagram 7 (7-5) pairing on the pod! We analyze the 5-7 pairing deeply and then Diane to help us with the gift of her pairing as she gives realistic and life-giving tips for minimalism and experiences so you can truly simplify in an overly complex world! Specific convos here are: Diane's 5-7 pairing and what she's learning in her second decade of marriage about becoming less scattered with friendships Setting systems into place to help everyone in the family, not just one person Starting in spaces with less sentimental items Talking with your spouse for 5 min each week to get settled into the rhythms Finding what you're both on board with in terms of minimalism and getting focused and organized Find more free mental and physical space with your systems How to work with the busy chaos and say no more How to find the jomo (joy of missing out!) Find Diane's Minimalist Mom Podcast here on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minimalistmomspodcast/?hl=en and on her website here https://minimalistmomspodcast.com/about Can you spread the word on the book tour? 🥳🙏 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are: "How do you start becoming more truthful?" "How do you tell harder truths?" "How can you welcome truth from your spouse so they're more likely to be open?" Visit Laurie's website for her support here: https://lauriegerber.com/ Laurie is offering you a FREE GIFT with lots more expert dating advice: "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments" In this webinar, you will learn: ✓How to be Ready to Date Like You Mean It in 30 Days or Less ✓The #1 Ingredient to Finding A Suitable Companion without Repeated Disappointment ✓Essential Elements to Effective Communication even about the Most Awkward Topics ✓PLUS: The Key to Finding Your Soulmate in Way Less Dates! REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinar Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs! Leaving a show review is HUGE! Leave one here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity and direction. Make sure to tune in as we talk with Marty not only about relationships (of course, and she's in a systematizing 5-7 pairing!) but also how your work typology can be both a strength and a liability you must pay attention to if you want to thrive! Christa shares her work temperament as well! ALSO: Marty and her team have an INCREDIBLE offer for our wonderful E + M Community (you!) right here! >> https://workcoach.co/marriage 📣 Take Marty's assessment and get a FREE intro coaching session! 📣 Here's her Instagram for a follow there as well! 📣 Don't forget to get Christa's book here too for all of your relationship needs! 📣 https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 or visit the website at www.enneagramandmarriage.com Did you like today's episode and offer? It would be awesome for you to leave a review here! ❤️https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Each of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk through conflict with those people with temperaments who do not show as much emotion and/or prefer to solve problems logically or linearly. You'll learn ways you can develop a healthier internal narrative as well as prevent and repair conflict, building understanding together, too! Make sure you get a copy of "The Enneagram in Marriage" also here to get Enneagram and conflict tips. https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Make sure you connect with us at 941301-8420 if you'd like to connect with a coach or counselor or visit https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Troubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and in your marriage dance as well! If you want to truly ignite your love and work in the best ways possible, you’ll pay attention to these rhythms and honor each precious week across the month for what it really allows for versus forcing everything all at once. Yes, every week truly has a sacred gift of its own, whether rest, reflection, or revving you up and although we can push through, allowing for some nuanced microtweaks helps a great deal! To do this with order and fun, we're strategizing with occupational therapist Renae Fieck, Enneagram 9w8, in a convo about how to walk through the month with healthy, healing, and joyful systems for passion and productivity. Join us as we round out and troubleshoot in our final episode of the Igniting Your Sexual Instinct series. Join Renae on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/renaefieck/?hl=en Join Renae on her helpful email list right here! https://renaefieck.com/ Get Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage" here! https://a.co/d/bU7BNqy Catch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the fun freebies and sales! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just building attraction and desire and also how to successfully approach sexual arousal and resolution, especially since statistically women experience about half the full sexual arousal as compared to men. Improving your sexual intimacy together in the bedroom takes not only guesswork but active research and tips that begin outside of the bedroom as well so you can understand a healthy sexual response cycle in marriage. Today, Christa walks you through some of the most important tips for building intimacy and enjoying mutually pleasurable sex in your marriage. This is a very important episode for your marriage and for more life-giving relationship-building tips, make sure you grab Christa's book right here! Watch on YouTube here! Find more relationship tips overall here! www.enneagramandmarriage.com and for more sexual tips. Research from Sheila Wray Gregoire's book, The Good Girl (and Guys) Guide to Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Christa needs most, too, as you figure yours out as well! Tune in to truly learn rest for you, your marriage, and your family right here! Watch on YoutTube here! Take the Rest Quiz free here! https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/ Get a copy of Dr. Dalton’s book, Sacred Rest, here! https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Rest-Recover-Energy-Restore/dp/1478921676 To join the E + M Collective membership, join here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here! This week only, join the Enneagram & Marriage Membership here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join The sensate focus exercise is here: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf For even more details on the research behind this episode, check out www.thepauselife.com and www.hubermanlab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply personal account, If I Don't Laugh I'll Cry: How Death, Debt, and Comedy Led to a Life of Faith, Farming, and Forgetting What I Came into This Room For. Tune in to hear Molly's tips for other 2-8 couples and for all of us walking through communication issues, and life crises, including finances, losing parents, and potentially losing ourselves too, if we step into the light of connection and faith. Watch on YouTube! Purchase Link: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/if-i-dont-laugh-ill-cry/ Website: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/ Social Media Links: https://www.facebook.com/stillbeingmolly https://www.instagram.com/stillbeingmolly To join our Enneagram and Marriage Collective membership group for more authenticity and vulnerability, join us here for only $29 a month for four extra pods a month, Zoom meetings, and more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape together, one step at a time. Tune in as we gently and respectfully explore how to nourish your sexual intimacy life from the foundation up, bringing a baseline of goodness versus rigidity, perfectionism, and especially as you let go of hurtful practices that ultimately leave you in shame or addictive cycles. Tune in to create a baseline for true, heart-stopping intimacy goodness together here in this primer for the SX instinct new series! Show links: Here's the Heart of Parenting seminar mentioned on the podcast! Here's our Relationship Bundle where we go type by type through tips for spouses in the bedroom type by type + bonuses as well! For our deeper dive podcast on Sexual Desire & Arousal Change Across the Monthly Cycle, visit Apple Podcast Subscriber Series here! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. If you find yourself or someone you love shamed or scared to leave but being threatened and gaslighted in a marital, dating, or spiritual situation, this episode is for you! We are joined by NPD expert Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2, who is here giving us the very best tools for healthy empowerment! Watch on YouTube! Find Melissa's FB Group here! Follow Melissa on Instagram Follow Melissa on TikTok Find Melissa's website here! Find all of your relationship needs at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here! Get your Enneagram Glow pairing guide here! For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here! Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment. Learn from Holly on her website with her offerings right here! Here is her Instagram also! Get her book on Amazon here! It's here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the All-Access Pass to the Summit here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types? Watch On YouTube Here Take the TypeFinder/16 Personalities (their free MBTI variant) on Truity.com Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body approach to help us discover what we can do when we are lost and feeling unsafe in our relationships. Watch the uncut version on YouTube here! Join Juliane Taylor Shore at her website with her offerings right here! Get her book on Amazon here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every personality type! Watch on YouTube! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements from the accompanying Netflix series. Tune in here for reminders of how to love in each of our own very small but also very significant ways! Watch YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Read or watch All the Light We Cannot See here: Netflix Series: https://www.netflix.com/title/81083008 Book: https://www.amazon.com/All-Light-We-Cannot-See/dp/1501173219 Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, or tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here!Watch on YouTube! Get Hesha's book Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict & Diffusing the Tension here on Amazon Find everything you need at Hesha Abrams' website here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here! Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your own teen years and learn what's ahead with kids or grandkids as we approach parenting with peace, grace, and wisdom. We dig into some of the most important questions together, including how to walk through hormonal moments with kids, dads and daughters, and how we can launch healthy and regulated adults one day, too. Don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! Nellie Harden's book and steps! https://www.nellieharden.com/ Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join the E + M Masterclass here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off. https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Emotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on YouTube here! Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you balance work and life? How do you grow at work but also leave room for family? What do successful leaders wish you knew at the beginning of an entrepreneurship journey? Today Christa is joined by superstar Amy Wicks and they are not holding back as they share tips for those wanting to create a better work-life balance. Join the chat here and sign up for the Elevate and Activate conference also! Watch on YouTube here! Find Amy's website here! Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you or your spouse are experiencing mood shifts, don’t forget that between ages 35-55, perimenopause may beat work. Today we talk with Bria Gadd aka “Bria the Period Whisperer” about her specialty of perimenopause as she helps to identify symptoms and also helps to support families through this often foggy period. Here we invite empowering conversation around shifting health rhythms and personal and couple’s empowerment as you remobilize for thriving and rest in perhaps new ways. Bria also reminds us of what we can expect and plan for across a 4-week cycle as well as ways to open up conversation around the sometimes sensitive topic. Whatever your type/or pairing, join us as we walk through whatever the next days and decades hold together in this fun, candid, and grace-filled convo about bringing awareness, normalcy, and love for the ups and downs of ALL of our seasons. Watch on YouTube here! aQuiz: tinyurl.com/IsItMyHormones Daily Hormone Checklist: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/pl/2147912583 https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/ Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're in a really thin season with your temperaments both on override and also hiding vulnerabilities, you're bound for difficult marriage territories you hardly recognize, territory where you're tempted to blame your spouse or lose your marriage altogether. For Josh and Katie Walters, it was too, and it was a big something: infidelity. Today as guests on the pod, Josh and Katie speak to the pain behind infidelity and more importantly, how to courageously walk forward in actually loving your spouse versus merely following your feelings, as they listeners who feel exactly the way they did: lost, hopeless, and unsure of how to fix their marriage. This episode lays out the principles Josh and Katie Walters learned in that season when God healed and restored their marriage and they're sharing them here for you to glean from their story and the pages of their book, Same Couple, Different Marriage: Don't Let Your Worst Days Be Your Last Days. Watch on YouTube here Find Josh and Katie's website and book here! Katie on Instagram Josh on Instagram Join early bird rates for the Wholehearted Empower and Equip Leadership Conference with Amy Wicks Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach this Feb 15, 2024 (use the code COACHINGFUN for $500 off) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During these winter months when everyone is hibernating, it can be tempting to turning inwards and shut off your love. In this mini-episode, Christa helps you to rev up your love together again as you learn tips to relight the fires of desire. We’ll talk about safety, sex, and society as you warm up by the glow of your love! Let us also know if you’d like to join us in our E + M Certified Coaches Course that starts February 15, 2024, and runs for 12 weeks! Let's dig deep together! $500 off with coupon COACHINGFUN here: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we're feeling weary, our temptation is often to run away from the very things that heal - authenticity, community, sacred daily rhythms, and most of all, Christ. We can even allow our creative outlets to be another way of escapism, or move so fast into the "post-human" world of bots and "ten easy steps" that we miss relating and sharing Christ's love. Today we get to talk about this human tendency and about finding our truest mission - and solace - in real community and giving as Christ shows us how to do. We get to talk about all of this and more with the incredibly talented and world-renowned couple, husband and wife duo and four-time-Grammy Winner and musician and producer Charlie Peacock and gifted award-winning writer Andi Ashworth together as they discuss their new beautiful book, "Why Everything That Doesn't Matter, Matters So Much: The Way of Love in a World of Hurt" as they teach us lessons they've gleaned across five seasons of marriage from Carnegie Hall to the jitcken, and so much more! Watch on YouTube Pre-order their book at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Everything-That-Doesnt-Matter-Matters/dp/140033764X For all your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The 4.5 space in marriage is a beautiful place to create, plan, dream, and think, yet this pensive space can keep partners lonely without healthy habits and movement. Today we give our audience tips for finding safety and respect in the depths of the heart and mind with the generous help of the wildly popular husband-and-wife podcast host team, Sharleen Joynt, 4w5, and Andy Levine, 5w4 of the Dear Shandy podcast, as they humorously but soulfully and honestly allow us to plunge the depths of their relationship space. In this extended episode, we also cover how Sharleen was also on "The Bachelor" and performs across the world as an award-winning opera singer, and we talk about what Fours and Fives bring to media spaces as well. Tune in to this unique, comedic, and deeply thoughtful episode here! Visit the Dear Shandy Podcast here or search "Dear Shandy" The story of how Andy and Sharleen met on the pod Visit the Dear Shandy Instagram here (the link in bio links out everything!) For those who may want to enjoy Sharleen's opera pieces, visit here Find the Enneagram in Marriage Course here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this inspiring getting-your-love-back-on-track episode, Christa takes you through several seeming paradoxes of relationship health on this heart-to-heart journey. We look closely at the work every personality type needs to do as they face the issues of independence versus leaning in, self regulation versus spousal care, and how to establish social bonds to encourage you both as you begin walking toward your partner. Come away from this episode with newfound courage, wisdom, intimacy-building, and most of all an increased urge to love. Watch on YouTube here! Christa also shares about a brand new 5-week course beginning live over Zoom for you, The Enneagram in Marriage, so those wanting a deeper dive and some accountability can grow across the semester together! We talk specifically today about: Self-discovery through the lens of the Enneagram Asking for needs to be met while also learning self-soothing Talking with your partner about issues of depth while also having fun and dreaming together Join The Enneagram in Marriage 5 Week Course Here For all your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the key factors that will determine how healthy you are in your marriage is and will always be working with your attachment styles and responses to threats and triggers. Yet the typical attachment wiring labels (secure, disorganized, anxious, withdrawing, and more) also need more fleshing out as well as acceptance, for each part of you has a role to fulfill to protect you and make you feel safe. As we open the new year, Christa is joined by Dr. Anita Kuhnly (Baker Books, The Four Relationship Styles) as she walks us through the four styles, helping you to walk through stumbling blocks to safety in finding your deepest love. Watch on YouTube: 👩‍🚒a Firefighter w/ a depth of character not easily won, 🕵️‍♂️ an investigator w/ superior, analytical skills, 👮‍♀️ a competent & independent security guard, 👨‍👨‍👦‍👦 or a networker, who thrives on connection? Dr. Anita helps us to know that every style comes w/strengths & vulnerabilities and yet understanding the practical implications is a game changer & can help you spend more time at the top of your game. Order her pre-bonuses here: https://dranitakuhnley.com/products/pre-order-a-signed-copy-of-the-four-relationship-styles-how-attachment-theory-can-help-you-in-your-search-for-lasting-love Dr. Anita's Instagram page, The Empathic Counselor https://www.instagram.com/the.empathetic.counselor/ Join The Enneagram in Marriage 5 Week Course For all your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When it comes to personal and marriage growth this 2024, it's helpful to have not only a type-finding tool like the Enneagram but a trait finder like the most empirically scientifically studied personality test, the Big Five, to go along with it. Let Christa guide you on a relationship-based Big Five convo as you find out how you score on Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism scales, and allow yourself to come into some refined New Year's learning with us as you do! Watch on YouTube! Take the Big 5 Personality Test here! https://www.truity.com/test/big-five-personality-test?ver=control Get signed up for the Enneagram in Marriage 5 Week Course right here! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/dsn5x683vo Read Christa's Substack on Openness here! Get all of your relationship tools here! www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When any one of your SP (self-preserving), SX (sexual), and SO (social) instincts is taking over, you'll find yourselves in a sad or collapsing marriage state, maybe even metaphorically dying as a couple. Couples who want to grow and thrive need to use thinking skills also as well as to distinguish feelings versus just using automatic responses. In this final episode of the year, join Christa in walking you through the rubble to hope on the other side with tips and tactics for finding your deep love again. Watch on YouTube here! 5 Week Course Sign Up Contact us to find a coach from our internal team here or find our affiliate coaches here! Find your E + M freebies here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/freebies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Author Scott Kedersha, Enneagram 3 (3-9 pairing) is not only a fellow Baker author with Christa but also the long-standing marriage pastor at Harris Creek Baptist Church out of Waco, TX. His conversations with couples over the last seventeen years have led him to understand the biggest themes in marriage issues also involve a lack of vulnerability and prayer in marriage. In fact, he's discovered that couples who pray together have unparalelled commitment and a far less drastic divorce rate, which is fascinating to hear about as he shares with us today. But what if we don't feel safe? What if we manipulate in prayer? Today we discuss this and so much more today with you in this special Christmas episode! https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Knot-Prayer-Guide-Prayers-ebook/dp/B0BVZYMZ7F?ref_=ast_author_dpttps://www.scottkedersha.com/ Hardcover: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Knot-Prayer-Guide-Prayers/dp/1540902870/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Visit Scott's website here! www.Scottkedersha.com For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every personality type in marriage DESPERATELY needs compassion and kindness if they expect the marriage to be joyful, yet kindness and compassion look different across personality types. Since each has a different main emotional and mental struggle, today on this E + M mini, Christa walks you through a baseline and type-by-type reminder of how you can stay strong yet kind and deeply joyful this holiday. For all, there are important and specific steps to add more kindness and compassion as well as to avoid criticism and complaining over the holidays, so you can get the fun moving forward. Take a deep breath and tune into this shortie episode as many times as you need for a much-needed holiday boost! Watch on YouTube here! Marriage gift ideas mentioned in the episode here: Use the code HUNDRED here for $100 our 5 session course with Christa in Jan here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/thecourse/p/glow Use the code HALFOFFHOLIDAY at www.suppersleuths.com for a fun mystery party game with your friends and family this holiday season! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all your relationship needs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Giving space for suffering and holding space for one another, as well as working through life and generational trauma in marriage are essential practices for long-term couples. Almost everyone has been through something hard or incapacitating by the time they are married for any number of years. Today Christa is joined by the esteemed Dr. Dan Allender and Becky Allender, co-founders of The Seattle School/The Allender Center, who in their 8-9 pairing have helped hundreds of thousands of people to overcome issues of trauma of all kinds. They share tips in general and reveal some of their own restorative narratives in their marriage, as well as how to suffer alongside each other and address one's own trauma triggers, which are especially helpful when contempt arises. Dan has authored Healing the Wounded Heart, The Cry of the Soul, and more and Becky has authored Hidden in Plain Sight: One Woman's Search for Identity, Intimacy, and Calling. Together they also offer marriage retreat intensives, courses, and more! Watch on YouTube here! The Allender Center specializes in training pastors, therapists, group leaders, lay counselors, and community and business leaders to understand their own stories to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve. We come alongside to equip and develop skills for wading into the difficult waters of heartache, trauma, and abuse. Find their resources, books, and marriage retreat info here. https://theallendercenter.org/ Find Dan's podcast here! Use the code ENNEAGRAM15 to get 15% off of one of their marriage video courses here! To work through your relationship needs, make sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Relationships are all about learning to connect, challenge, and adapt to one another’s gifts and ways of thriving in the world. When we are no longer thriving in our instincts, but over-or-under usng them, our spouse or partner tends to feel incompatibility with us and our inflexible behaviors do not bring us the joy they promise. We are no longer seen as comforting, fun, adaptive, and expansive but rigid and cut off from growth - a major turnoff for partnerships. Tune into this E + M-mini as Christa shares the subtle and not so subtle ways your self-preservation, sexual, and social instincts can flare up in a relationship and cost you everything - as well as how you can turn that around for good! Watch on YouTube! Grab the book today on our special sale!! For all of your relationship resources, visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The number one question Christa has been getting on her podcast tour has been about partner compatiblity. Why does it feel like partner incompatibility often only grows with time in marriage? What can you do when the years have disconnected you? How can you prevent rigidity in personality structure from leading to the perceived incompatibility in relationship that many divorcing couples cite? Listen or watch along on YouTube as Christa helps you to discover not only what draws you apart, but also what brings you together in fidelity, love and purpose, type by type. Get enrolled in the 5 week relationship course now! Use code DAYSEVEN for half off! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/dsn5x683vo Visit our website for all of your relationship needs! Leave a podcast review here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Ebenezer Scrooge is hit with the alarming totality of death in a fever-dream like observation of his past, present, and future, he is awakened to the magnificent springboard of joy that comes with the awareness of all the good one can still do in the world with and for others. You too, as you look deeply at your life with us in this episode, can view your past, your present, and your future with intention and intentionality. Join us in this fun episode where Christa coaches you into daring to push past fear and into more light and life-giving love together. Watch episode on YouTube! You'll also learn a bit about the past, present, and future Enneagram stances in the glossary of her new book "The Enneagram in Marriage", and as illustrated through the life of Dickens', "A Christmas Carol" so well! Get her book here on sale using the code (time is running out for the code EMPOD40 at Baker Book House!) here! Catch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the SALES! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this two-for-one episode, you get a chance to first learn soul care from coaching duo Travis and Jessica Vangsnes (8-4 pairing), who are both trauma-informed E + M Certified Coaches with skills in emotional intimacy building. First, take a deeper dive into what soul care is and how you can attune with yourself in the heart, mind, and body individually and together with these trauma-informed expert coaches who help us through integrating contemplative prayer practices and ideas for each of us on the journey to healthier soul care. In the second episode of this DOUBLE EPISODE series (TIMESTAMP: 47:00) we gain insight together into how men can realistically excavate their emotional landscape in marriage better with Travis. Along with all the resources and tips you glean today, don't forget to sign up for their soul care online FREE retreat soon! Sign up at the link here for Travis and Jess' Dec 10th FREE Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627 PODCAST LINKS Enneagram and Soul Care Guided PACE Coaching https://guidedpace.com/coaching/ Shiny Eyes Retreats https://guidedpace.com/retreats/ Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1 Link for Dec 10th free Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627 Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d Men and Emotional Health Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1 Travis' blog stainedglasseyes.com Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d Get the Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing right here for your loved ones this Christmas on sale! Find our new Substack right here! Be sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this fun Christmas movie episode, we take a break with our favorite holiday drink to allow cinematic mastery to woo us into a healthier intimate dance of relationship together in middle marriage. Here, Christa is joined by Hannah Hardin, 4 as we talk about a favorite family and more realistic middle-marriage movie to watch during the holidays (and a modern nod to It's a Wonderful Life), The Family Man with Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni, Don Cheadle, and Jeremy Piven, as well as another family fave. We not only talk about the personality type growth we see happening on screen, but we also connect it to YOUR relationship and how you too can enter a more magical realm by enjoying what is already yours to behold with gratitude this season. Watch on YouTube here! To read Christa’s book for more details on the seasons of marriage, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping! To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're deeply hurt but you keep moving, but you’re locked up with resentment, you and your spouse and family can feel it on an internal level. It robs you and threatens your felt sense of safety and regulation, and it chokes you of joy, peace, and compassion. Today in this experiential episode where we discuss forgiveness and experience a forgiveness practice together, Christa takes time with the Enneagram & Marriage community to walk through the best ways to heal an attachment wound and forgive. Use this episode for your marriage issues, extended family issues, issues with children, friends, colleagues or anyone else you’ve been holding out unforgiveness toward. This is a life and peace-giving episode meant to free you from the grip of despair, rage, or fear, so don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! To join the Collective Membership on CYBER MONDAY ONLY, visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com now! To read Christa’s book for the full forgiveness and attachment wound practices, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping! To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for laughs and love as we walk and talk together through the beautiful Little Women story and find the beautiful virtues in this epic holiday tale mini-episode. If you love this book or movie, you'll love leaning in with us as we go type by type in this lighthearted conversation, covering Jo, Meg, Amy, and Beth, along with Professor Bhaer and Theodore Lawrence. We hope this episode brings a burst of joy to your holidays as we remember the joys and sorrows of life, love, legacy, and family together right here! Watch on YouTube! Also, join us for the "Enneagram in Marriage" 5-week course this Jan and use the code BLACKFRIDAY to get half off through Saturday right here! Grab Christa's new book on sale! www.BakerBookHouse.com for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping with the code EMBOOK40 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's never easy to face squarely that the person we signed up to marry has changed - or worse, that we've changed and no longer feel the same level of desire together. In these critical middle seasons of marriage stages of fighting for your family and partnership, we need every tool we can get to add joy and decrease resentment together. Join Christa and world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Ph.D., Enneagram 1 (1-9 marriage), as we discuss exactly what you can do when you find you and your spouse are bringing out the worst criticisms in each other. Get Dr. Tracy's book here! https://a.co/d/fv5vEJv Give Dr. Tracy's Instagram a follow! https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ Get the freebie on her website! www.drtracyd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Once we pull back the curtain under our conflicts and see what's hindering us, we can work on our issues with one another - that is if we're emotionally regulated. In this quick episode, Christa will help to stabilize you and your conflicts further by helping you open up your relationship window of tolerance. Don't miss this regulating episode right here! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re joined on the pod by Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre, psychologists and spiritual directors who help us to find one another's gifts amidst the rubble of soul wounds as we learn to offer Christ's compassionate healing to one another. They do this with us with structure but also gentleness and care as a mature 1 & 2 pairing. You won't regret taking the time to dig underneath the anger, shame, and anxiety to journey through the soul with grace and healing from God and one another right here with us. Follow Drs. Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

85% of adults will have experienced a traumatic event by the time they’re 18, which means that virtually all married individuals need good ways to cope with trauma. In today’s brief episode, Christa walks you through five tried-and-true methods for walking through traumatic conversations and situations in marriage, with as much resiliency as possible. She'll share tips for working through your triggers and enduring vulnerabilities, as well as practical, logical steps, and lots of love. Do not miss this episode before the holiday! Watch on YouTube here! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs and don't forget the code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off Christa's new book! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The last thing you want are holiday arguments between you or your extended family to carry forward to future generations and this week's shows are aimed at helping you to process, love, and set the boundaries you need. We welcome expert and author, Courtney J. Burg, author (Thomas Nelson, 12/12/23, Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting) to the pod today to help you truly find your way together this season, as we discover how boundaries can become an important bid for healthy connection. Watch on YouTube here! Find Courtney's website here, including her book "Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting", along with her bonuses, and her wonderful course here! Pre-order Courtney's new book, Loyal to a Fault, here! *Thank you to the Personality Path for including this podcast on their list of the top Enneagram podcasts of 2023! You can take their test, which has been taken by over a million people right here! Get all your relationship needs met here at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices