Enneagram and Marriage

When it comes to personal and marriage growth this 2024, it's helpful to have not only a type-finding tool like the Enneagram but a trait finder like the most empirically scientifically studied personality test, the Big Five, to go along with it. Let Christa guide you on a relationship-based Big Five convo as you find out how you score on Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism scales, and allow yourself to come into some refined New Year's learning with us as you do! Watch on YouTube! Take the Big 5 Personality Test here! https://www.truity.com/test/big-five-personality-test?ver=control Get signed up for the Enneagram in Marriage 5 Week Course right here! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/dsn5x683vo Read Christa's Substack on Openness here! Get all of your relationship tools here! www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When any one of your SP (self-preserving), SX (sexual), and SO (social) instincts is taking over, you'll find yourselves in a sad or collapsing marriage state, maybe even metaphorically dying as a couple. Couples who want to grow and thrive need to use thinking skills also as well as to distinguish feelings versus just using automatic responses. In this final episode of the year, join Christa in walking you through the rubble to hope on the other side with tips and tactics for finding your deep love again. Watch on YouTube here! 5 Week Course Sign Up Contact us to find a coach from our internal team here or find our affiliate coaches here! Find your E + M freebies here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/freebies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Author Scott Kedersha, Enneagram 3 (3-9 pairing) is not only a fellow Baker author with Christa but also the long-standing marriage pastor at Harris Creek Baptist Church out of Waco, TX. His conversations with couples over the last seventeen years have led him to understand the biggest themes in marriage issues also involve a lack of vulnerability and prayer in marriage. In fact, he's discovered that couples who pray together have unparalelled commitment and a far less drastic divorce rate, which is fascinating to hear about as he shares with us today. But what if we don't feel safe? What if we manipulate in prayer? Today we discuss this and so much more today with you in this special Christmas episode! https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Knot-Prayer-Guide-Prayers-ebook/dp/B0BVZYMZ7F?ref_=ast_author_dpttps://www.scottkedersha.com/ Hardcover: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Knot-Prayer-Guide-Prayers/dp/1540902870/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Visit Scott's website here! www.Scottkedersha.com For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every personality type in marriage DESPERATELY needs compassion and kindness if they expect the marriage to be joyful, yet kindness and compassion look different across personality types. Since each has a different main emotional and mental struggle, today on this E + M mini, Christa walks you through a baseline and type-by-type reminder of how you can stay strong yet kind and deeply joyful this holiday. For all, there are important and specific steps to add more kindness and compassion as well as to avoid criticism and complaining over the holidays, so you can get the fun moving forward. Take a deep breath and tune into this shortie episode as many times as you need for a much-needed holiday boost! Watch on YouTube here! Marriage gift ideas mentioned in the episode here: Use the code HUNDRED here for $100 our 5 session course with Christa in Jan here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/thecourse/p/glow Use the code HALFOFFHOLIDAY at www.suppersleuths.com for a fun mystery party game with your friends and family this holiday season! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all your relationship needs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Giving space for suffering and holding space for one another, as well as working through life and generational trauma in marriage are essential practices for long-term couples. Almost everyone has been through something hard or incapacitating by the time they are married for any number of years. Today Christa is joined by the esteemed Dr. Dan Allender and Becky Allender, co-founders of The Seattle School/The Allender Center, who in their 8-9 pairing have helped hundreds of thousands of people to overcome issues of trauma of all kinds. They share tips in general and reveal some of their own restorative narratives in their marriage, as well as how to suffer alongside each other and address one's own trauma triggers, which are especially helpful when contempt arises. Dan has authored Healing the Wounded Heart, The Cry of the Soul, and more and Becky has authored Hidden in Plain Sight: One Woman's Search for Identity, Intimacy, and Calling. Together they also offer marriage retreat intensives, courses, and more! Watch on YouTube here! The Allender Center specializes in training pastors, therapists, group leaders, lay counselors, and community and business leaders to understand their own stories to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve. We come alongside to equip and develop skills for wading into the difficult waters of heartache, trauma, and abuse. Find their resources, books, and marriage retreat info here. https://theallendercenter.org/ Find Dan's podcast here! Use the code ENNEAGRAM15 to get 15% off of one of their marriage video courses here! To work through your relationship needs, make sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Relationships are all about learning to connect, challenge, and adapt to one another’s gifts and ways of thriving in the world. When we are no longer thriving in our instincts, but over-or-under usng them, our spouse or partner tends to feel incompatibility with us and our inflexible behaviors do not bring us the joy they promise. We are no longer seen as comforting, fun, adaptive, and expansive but rigid and cut off from growth - a major turnoff for partnerships. Tune into this E + M-mini as Christa shares the subtle and not so subtle ways your self-preservation, sexual, and social instincts can flare up in a relationship and cost you everything - as well as how you can turn that around for good! Watch on YouTube! Grab the book today on our special sale!! For all of your relationship resources, visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The number one question Christa has been getting on her podcast tour has been about partner compatiblity. Why does it feel like partner incompatibility often only grows with time in marriage? What can you do when the years have disconnected you? How can you prevent rigidity in personality structure from leading to the perceived incompatibility in relationship that many divorcing couples cite? Listen or watch along on YouTube as Christa helps you to discover not only what draws you apart, but also what brings you together in fidelity, love and purpose, type by type. Get enrolled in the 5 week relationship course now! Use code DAYSEVEN for half off! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/dsn5x683vo Visit our website for all of your relationship needs! Leave a podcast review here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Ebenezer Scrooge is hit with the alarming totality of death in a fever-dream like observation of his past, present, and future, he is awakened to the magnificent springboard of joy that comes with the awareness of all the good one can still do in the world with and for others. You too, as you look deeply at your life with us in this episode, can view your past, your present, and your future with intention and intentionality. Join us in this fun episode where Christa coaches you into daring to push past fear and into more light and life-giving love together. Watch episode on YouTube! You'll also learn a bit about the past, present, and future Enneagram stances in the glossary of her new book "The Enneagram in Marriage", and as illustrated through the life of Dickens', "A Christmas Carol" so well! Get her book here on sale using the code (time is running out for the code EMPOD40 at Baker Book House!) here! Catch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the SALES! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this two-for-one episode, you get a chance to first learn soul care from coaching duo Travis and Jessica Vangsnes (8-4 pairing), who are both trauma-informed E + M Certified Coaches with skills in emotional intimacy building. First, take a deeper dive into what soul care is and how you can attune with yourself in the heart, mind, and body individually and together with these trauma-informed expert coaches who help us through integrating contemplative prayer practices and ideas for each of us on the journey to healthier soul care. In the second episode of this DOUBLE EPISODE series (TIMESTAMP: 47:00) we gain insight together into how men can realistically excavate their emotional landscape in marriage better with Travis. Along with all the resources and tips you glean today, don't forget to sign up for their soul care online FREE retreat soon! Sign up at the link here for Travis and Jess' Dec 10th FREE Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627 PODCAST LINKS Enneagram and Soul Care Guided PACE Coaching https://guidedpace.com/coaching/ Shiny Eyes Retreats https://guidedpace.com/retreats/ Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1 Link for Dec 10th free Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627 Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d Men and Emotional Health Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1 Travis' blog stainedglasseyes.com Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d Get the Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing right here for your loved ones this Christmas on sale! Find our new Substack right here! Be sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this fun Christmas movie episode, we take a break with our favorite holiday drink to allow cinematic mastery to woo us into a healthier intimate dance of relationship together in middle marriage. Here, Christa is joined by Hannah Hardin, 4 as we talk about a favorite family and more realistic middle-marriage movie to watch during the holidays (and a modern nod to It's a Wonderful Life), The Family Man with Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni, Don Cheadle, and Jeremy Piven, as well as another family fave. We not only talk about the personality type growth we see happening on screen, but we also connect it to YOUR relationship and how you too can enter a more magical realm by enjoying what is already yours to behold with gratitude this season. Watch on YouTube here! To read Christa’s book for more details on the seasons of marriage, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping! To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're deeply hurt but you keep moving, but you’re locked up with resentment, you and your spouse and family can feel it on an internal level. It robs you and threatens your felt sense of safety and regulation, and it chokes you of joy, peace, and compassion. Today in this experiential episode where we discuss forgiveness and experience a forgiveness practice together, Christa takes time with the Enneagram & Marriage community to walk through the best ways to heal an attachment wound and forgive. Use this episode for your marriage issues, extended family issues, issues with children, friends, colleagues or anyone else you’ve been holding out unforgiveness toward. This is a life and peace-giving episode meant to free you from the grip of despair, rage, or fear, so don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! To join the Collective Membership on CYBER MONDAY ONLY, visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com now! To read Christa’s book for the full forgiveness and attachment wound practices, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping! To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for laughs and love as we walk and talk together through the beautiful Little Women story and find the beautiful virtues in this epic holiday tale mini-episode. If you love this book or movie, you'll love leaning in with us as we go type by type in this lighthearted conversation, covering Jo, Meg, Amy, and Beth, along with Professor Bhaer and Theodore Lawrence. We hope this episode brings a burst of joy to your holidays as we remember the joys and sorrows of life, love, legacy, and family together right here! Watch on YouTube! Also, join us for the "Enneagram in Marriage" 5-week course this Jan and use the code BLACKFRIDAY to get half off through Saturday right here! Grab Christa's new book on sale! www.BakerBookHouse.com for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping with the code EMBOOK40 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's never easy to face squarely that the person we signed up to marry has changed - or worse, that we've changed and no longer feel the same level of desire together. In these critical middle seasons of marriage stages of fighting for your family and partnership, we need every tool we can get to add joy and decrease resentment together. Join Christa and world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Ph.D., Enneagram 1 (1-9 marriage), as we discuss exactly what you can do when you find you and your spouse are bringing out the worst criticisms in each other. Get Dr. Tracy's book here! https://a.co/d/fv5vEJv Give Dr. Tracy's Instagram a follow! https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ Get the freebie on her website! www.drtracyd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Once we pull back the curtain under our conflicts and see what's hindering us, we can work on our issues with one another - that is if we're emotionally regulated. In this quick episode, Christa will help to stabilize you and your conflicts further by helping you open up your relationship window of tolerance. Don't miss this regulating episode right here! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re joined on the pod by Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre, psychologists and spiritual directors who help us to find one another's gifts amidst the rubble of soul wounds as we learn to offer Christ's compassionate healing to one another. They do this with us with structure but also gentleness and care as a mature 1 & 2 pairing. You won't regret taking the time to dig underneath the anger, shame, and anxiety to journey through the soul with grace and healing from God and one another right here with us. Follow Drs. Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

85% of adults will have experienced a traumatic event by the time they’re 18, which means that virtually all married individuals need good ways to cope with trauma. In today’s brief episode, Christa walks you through five tried-and-true methods for walking through traumatic conversations and situations in marriage, with as much resiliency as possible. She'll share tips for working through your triggers and enduring vulnerabilities, as well as practical, logical steps, and lots of love. Do not miss this episode before the holiday! Watch on YouTube here! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs and don't forget the code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off Christa's new book! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The last thing you want are holiday arguments between you or your extended family to carry forward to future generations and this week's shows are aimed at helping you to process, love, and set the boundaries you need. We welcome expert and author, Courtney J. Burg, author (Thomas Nelson, 12/12/23, Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting) to the pod today to help you truly find your way together this season, as we discover how boundaries can become an important bid for healthy connection. Watch on YouTube here! Find Courtney's website here, including her book "Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting", along with her bonuses, and her wonderful course here! Pre-order Courtney's new book, Loyal to a Fault, here! *Thank you to the Personality Path for including this podcast on their list of the top Enneagram podcasts of 2023! You can take their test, which has been taken by over a million people right here! Get all your relationship needs met here at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, join Christa and Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine as they walk through each Enneagram type through the lens of Marvel characters. Join us as we hack out each type in nuanced detail with some superhero fun typing Iron Man, Black Widow, Loki, Bucky, Roadie, Dr. Strange and more and bring joy but also meaningful insights as we enjoy a lighter moment on this Hallo-week episode! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We get scared as humans when we feel our pair bond is threatened and today's episode is designed to empower you to feel both safe and loved together, type by type. Listen to tips for your partner of each type and find not just goals but systems to carefully place these specific tips into actionable steps so you can truly begin thriving more and more together, starting today! Get my book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, audible, or Kindle! Here's the Instagram contest! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To find our truest mission, it's not only important to find our personal gifts, but there's a deeper joy in marriage in finding collective missions, too, not just to be self-serving as a couple. Here in this episode, Christa helps you to find synchronization together with your partner, to encourage growth in one another as well as celebrate one another's gifts and struggles. She brings her husband Wes, Enneagram 1 also on as he helps you to learn to sit with your spouse's gifts and struggles with grace, a lesson we all need in an ongoing way. Tune in here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Though each of us is unique, today on this E + M short, we're talking about the three most common reasons why couples cite divorce and ways to prevent your own relationship from becoming a passive casualty. One of the main ways we will keep this episode hope-filled is that we're also sharing tools for the specific timelines where issues tend to crop up and take down 43-44% of married couples. Don't miss this noteworthy, logical, and encouraging episode that will help you sit up, take note, and move into a healthy direction together today! Get the 52 Week Glow Relationship Planner here! Use the code "EMPOD40" for 40% off here and free shipping at BakerBookHouse.com Visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com for all of your relationship needs today! Watch episode on YouTube! HAVE A QUESTION? Do you have a question about how the Enneagram can help your marriage or any relationship issue at all? Share it here via audio call for Channel Mom Radio and Christa can talk about it on air/the Channel Mom podcast this coming week as well as on the E + M Instagram Live! 303-873-1935 (leave aa question for Christa here for Channel Mom) or visit Christa on Instagram here on Thurs 12 PM EST to ask a question there! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we're not honest with our spouse and with God about what's actually going on inside, we bring that darkness and the layers of hiding to our spouses and families. Whether you're hiding from each other because you feel hopeless, angry, hurt, or believe that being honest will drive you even farther away from your goals of connection, this is a MUST-LISTEN episode guiding you and your relationship back to true intimacy. Christa is joined by Justin Davis, best-selling USA Today author (Being Authentic is Greater Than Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation), Enneagram 8 (8-3 pairing), who joins us to speak of his own marriage and how he increasingly learned the importance of confession, prayer, and bringing secrets from the darkness. If you want a walk closer to humility, authenticity, and integrity, don't miss this episode helping you to draw closer to God and one another in marriage, family, and a healthy community. Show Notes: Justin Davis', "Being Real > Being Perfect: How Transparency Leads to Transformation" is right here: Find Justin and Trisha's Refine Us marriage ministry here, where they help couples all over recover from trauma, including infidelity recovery Get Christa's new book The Enneagram in Marriage, available now wherever books are sold, or get it at 40% off with free standard shipping when you order from BakerBookHouse.com and use the promo code EMBOOK40. Link: https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/516448 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Finding your marriage mission just isn’t possible without finding your own authentic God-given gifting, a gift others may have missed in your life. Today Christa intimately weaves her own stories and encouragements for you together on the podcast to give you a lift in finding your authentic self before God. This episode can help you to destabilize shame in your life and find your gifting again with yourself and with God, even amidst church hurt, family of origin wounds, marriage hurt, and more. Listen here or watch on YouTube here! Use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off the book right here at Baker Books also! https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/516448 Also, don’t forget to enter the glow contest right here! Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship care needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we take a peek into the soul of the Enneagram in Marriage book in a heartfelt conversation with Christa and the Baker Books executive editor Christa worked with on the pages of it, Stephanie Duncan Smith (Slant Letter, @stephanieduncansmith on Instagram). Stephanie and Christa discuss not only the heart of the mission of E + M in the pages of the book but also private writing as soul care, and how partners can and must give one another support, liftoff, and a safe place for us to explore our dreams. We hear about Stephanie's 4-8 marriage pairing, her reason for championing Christa's book at the pub board and onward as the book finally gets launch liftoff, and so much more in this interview together! Don't have the book yet? Make sure you grab it here to walk alongside Christa in this Amazon #1 Top New Release in Christian Marriage here! Get it here! or here >> https://a.co/d/9P4KvVF Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're in seasons of shadow, it often feels like your spouse is the antihero and you're not only the hero but the author, writing your own story and having to rely on whatever methods you need to survive. In the new "Enneagram in Marriage" book, we remember together that it's not so much about casting judgment on one person wholly as it is about discovering the emotional backstory behind the maladaptive marriage struggles in one or both partners - and more, just what can be done about this so your vices don't inevitably make things worse. In this brand-new Enneagram in Marriage book backstory series, Christa unlocks the often misread complex layers contributing to keeping our vices locked into place piece by piece, and puts her cards on the table to bring her husband Wes on to share his side of the book intro story about her own vices as well. Join us for this series as you also unlock the mysteries still undetected in your own and your spouse's life. Don't have the book yet? Make sure you grab it here to walk alongside Christa in this Amazon #1 Top New Release in Christian Marriage here! Get it here! or here >> https://a.co/d/9P4KvVF Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, our biggest hearts for you are for you to reach into the pages of Christa's brand-new book that launched today, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing, which LAUNCHED TODAY! This is a book dedicated to helping you to grow healthier in the ways you shine together in your relationship and yes, it's finally here for you to order wherever you buy books, including Kindle and Audible, etc! In this open-hearted episode, Christa dives into the purposes and intent of each chapter and shares vulnerable pieces of her heart, stirring this community to courage in taking steps forward together as we cross from shadowlands into light. Order it here on Amazon! Order it here at Baker! Watch this episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As Christa prepares to launch her new book into the world tomorrow, she draws strength from one of her greatest heroes, J.R.R. Tolkien, reminding listeners of the absolute necessities we can learn for our own life's epics on the shadowy roads of life and relationships. Join us as we share about the week's adventures here at E + M as well as what you came for, an epic saga of psychology, literature, lore, and lessons with the bestselling "Lord" of the Rings, himself. Stay tuned for our heart-driven mid-week launch week episode as well that airs tomorrow on launch day! TOMORROW IS LAUNCH DAY! TODAY IS THE LAST DAY TO GET PRE-ORDER BONUSES! ORDER HERE AND CLAIM YOUR BONUSES AT WWW.ENNEAGRAMANDMARRIAGE.COM Watch episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The shadows and stresses each of you bring to marriage have volumes of family lore behind them, backing them up and urging you each on to survival in your own nuanced ways. When the honeymoon is over, and these rhythms tend to re-emerge and spousal stories converge and collide into differing rhythms in middle seasons of marriage, how can you stand united? Today Christa invites you on a brief and gentle journey of viewing your stories alongside some of the stories right here from her book and otherwise in terms of places and spaces we want to grow from together! Also, celebrate with us a day on the top of the Amazon Christian Marriage charts for the new books, because of our awesome launch team! Don't forget to order yours right here as we bring the Enneagram learning to others! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses! Watch on YouTube Bonuses are: 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of us from faith circles have been asked questions about the Enneagram origins and whether they are compatible with a Christian or even logical scientific worldview. Today we take time to process this question in detail with Christa's husband Wes Hardin, MA, who has a degree in biology and philosophy as well as a Master's in Theology from Wheaton College, along with his medical degree as a PA. Join Christa in the interesting conversation with Wes from a historical, faith-centered, and scientific logical viewpoint so you can learn more for yourself and more about how to discuss the Enneagram with intelligence and care in your marriage, faith, and social groups! Visit much of this content in written form on our FAQ page here also! Watch the convo on YouTube here You can find Jesse Eubanks' podcast link/s here and Tyler Zach's aforementioned resources on the same topics here! You can grab Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," right here also!https://a.co/d/ed25gVA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we get busy and overwhelmed in marriage, talking about what’s deep and emotional may feel like the least desirable option. Yet we all know that hiding and stonewalling are the very worst things we can do together, especially during the busiest years with school-aged kids underfoot. Today we talk with Juilliard-trained creative artist and oboist Dr. Meredith Hite Estevez, Enneagram Four, who offers us an invitation to find the depths together safely, helping us not to lose ourselves as we continue to find our best rhythms together. She also talks about her marriage to her type 7 hubby who is the pastor at Kirk on the Hills Church in Bloomfield Hills, MI. Join us for this lilting conversation with this tremendously gifted writer, teacher, speaker, Ivy-league-trained musician, and creative artist Dr. Merideth, and also enjoy her music in the background during her introduction as well so you can find your own joyful rhythms as we connect together here! Episode music credits: Merideth Hyte-Estevez - oboe Jani Parsons - piano Find Merideth's beautiful site, podcast, and work here! www.artistsforjoy.com and for creative (and free!) meet-ups find her popular The Artist's Way group here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although most parents desire a deep relationship spiritually with God, it's easy to leave it behind along with self-care and marriage care during the busiest seasons of the parenting era. Kayla Craig, author, wife, mom of five, and creator of Liturgies for Parents, has comforted thousands of souls with her prolific words on prayerfully parenting together through the very hardest of days. Christianity Today calls Kayla's page an essential parenting resource, and in this interview, we speak not only Enneagram (she and her hubby are an 8-8 couple with differing instinctual stackings), but she's got four kids, including a child who needs extra measures so she truly gets how lost we can be in finding the depths and heights with God when we're literally knee deep in kid messes of all kinds. We get real here on this fun but meaningful podcast. Don't miss this time together, and definitely don't miss Kayla's brand new book, Every Season Sacred that launches into the world this week! Watch on YouTube here! Kayla Craig's author website and Liturgies for Parents Get Kayla's book! Love the Enneagram & Marriage pod? We would love to get your review so others can find the show as well. Share on Apple Podcast right here! Buy Christa's new book now so you can make sure tou get your pre-order bonuses before the launch date in 2 weeks! www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The work we do across personality types often has its very foundation in how our thinking tends to shift in stressful moments. In this E + M mini, Christa walks you through all the ways our mental fixations can attack us in life and marriage. To combat the dysregulating thinking, we also walk together through the holy ways of thinking of each type (the Enneagram holy ideas) and release our biggest mental blocks spiritually. Take a few moments to try to bring your unhealthy mental focus into healthier rhythms with us right here! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses, including the one-page chart with your holy ideas, virtues, vices, fixations, and more all on one page! Read my book, “The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing” so you can truly thrive! Get these bonuses for pre-ordering, too! 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting well with intention has so many great benefits for your child, but also takes its toll if you forget to take care of yourself. Yes, dysregulated and exhausted parents need support, too, and as we walk through the parenting era together, we have one of our favorite guests back to guide us, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, psychologist, burnout support expert Instagram leader, and beloved Enneagram 9 (9-3 pairing). Whether your kids are littles, big, or grown, we invite you to today's refreshing episode! To connect with Dr. Morgan and 20OK+ followers (her reels are awesome!) find her here Get Dr. Morgan's book plus bonuses right here! Watch on YouTube here! Visit www.enneagraminmarriage.com for all of your E + M needs, including our book bonuses! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are so many cultural overlays that affect our relationships, and development across generations is absolutely one that matters, both in your marriage and as you hack or deep dive your way through life, depending on your generation. Take a quick dive intergenerationally with Christa today as we dive into practical tips for both Erikson's developmental theory and Strauss and Howe's generational theory for your marriage and family today! Watch the mini-episode on YouTube! Pre-order a copy of The Enneagram in Marriage and sign up for your pre-bonuses right here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we jump into talking about marriage across seasons, stages, and generations all month, we take a fun leap into September with author Molly Wilcox, Enneagram 7, as we walk through the steps it takes to shine brightly together once again or for the very first time. With a book behind and another ahead, as well as work and baby life in the first five years of honeymoon, Molly has systematized ways to keep her married life both intentional and playful and continues to thrive even after the honeymoon has lost its first gleams. How does Molly keep balance, love, and faith in her life even across the busy threads of life? And how can you follow suit as you re-embrace your own honeymoon a bit here with us? Join us here for lift-off to a journey of joy on this fun Labor Day episode! Play the typing mystery contest @ our Instagram Stories and guess Molly's hubby's type! Find Molly's website and book and find her inspiring Instagram here @MrsMollyWilcox! Pre-Order your new Enneagram in Marriage book here and get the pre-bonuses also! Watch Episode on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we learn to pause, you give your system time to regulate, and you also bring yourself into sensory awareness for the very best of conversations and inner scripts to spring forth. Each Enneagram type in marriage and life needs intentional pausing for a different reason, and today we talk about what those reasons are in this E + M mini with Christa. Listen here as you truly become more life-giving and empowered in your relationship right here! Get your pre-order bonuses today when you buy Christa's book here! Listen on YouTube here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s a common fallacy in marriage to look at one’s spouse as being less healthy than one's self or to think that having a spouse of another type may create fewer issues. However, we bring ourselves into all relationships as a common denominator, too, an extremely important issue to consider. Today we are so grateful to have European Union diplomat Frederick Coene, Enneagram researcher and SP 6 to help us process what to do when you hit these difficult seasons all couples will hit from time to time, sexually or otherwise in marriage. This is a time where integrity and doing one's work matters more than ever and we are learning together! Join Christa in this riveting and potentially life-changing conversation right here! Watch on YouTube here! Take Dr. Coene's sexuality course on YouTube free Find Frederik on his website here Save your receipt as you buy your book here so you can get maximum discounts and bonuses! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We work very hard to balance our self-preserving, sexual, and social instincts, but who are we outside of that - and more importantly, above these base instincts? Christa walks you through the higher virtues lying outside of the instincts today so that you cannot only keep balance amidst the lower-hanging fruit of the three instincts themselves but also keep a higher plain of goodness in your life. Check out this in quick but important E + M mini right here! Watch on YouTube here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Work relationships can and do affect the ways we treat one another at home. As we dive into this much-needed topic today, today’s juicy podcast episode features Kaleigh Newby, MA, Enneagram 2w1 (2-9 pairing). Kaleigh is the perfect guest for the job, having done significant Enneagram and relationship work across organizational development as she's helped individuals and couples of each Enneagram type to find their best strides. In this pivotal episode on balancing work + relationships for each type, Kaleigh not only welcomes people of each type to learn how to walk through their work stress better but she also gives relationship tips for each of us and our partners. Tune in for these clear and activating steps right here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Find Kaleigh's website and consulting services here and her Instagram here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's tempting to want to box our kids into one type or another the moment we see certain behaviors emerging, but an even better way to process how our kids are emerging is to honor both their gifts as well as the shifts and nuances across your children's development. As you help them to find and hone their traits, listen as Christa walks you through all nine types across the Enneagram in terms of developing children. We share key ways for you to reach kids across all kinds of struggles in this brief episode. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rVRs2z5MzBk Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we confess our sexual struggles, we are given grace, hope and most, love and a release from the binding shame that comes with this brokenness. Matt Cline of Restored Ministries reaches out to spouses here in this E + M mini! He talks about community, God's grace, and his own story of recovery as well with us right here! Listen as Matt walks you through what he continues to teach thousands across campuses and groups about sexual brokenness and pornography recovery and restoration. Matt shares practical steps for walking in healing and the fullness of God's love here as well. Find Matt's ministry right here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here, too! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pornography is not always something people feel comfortable talking about, inside of marriage or out. This is most especially true within the church. Today Christa is joined by author Jessica Harris, Enneagram 4w5 (4-3 marriage pairing) as she both shares her story and discusses an important topic for couples, especially women who desire to find freedom and true healing from pornography. As we discss this pivotal topic that has been ignored in the church in many cases (often out of fear or not knowing what to say many times), we talk about ways we can hold one another with grace and love as we walk through and emerge from these binding struggles. We also talk about what Jesus had to say to the woman at the well, and most, what you can do to regain healing from your own struggles with this addiction, as well as lean in to support those struggling who may come your way. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jessica's book right here Visit Jessica's Beggar's Daughter website and study guide here Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're just keeping afloat amidst endless to-dos or busy seasons of life, your self-preservation - and your entire marriage and family - has likely looped off track. Today Christa is joined by Jenn Johnson, Health Coach, and E + M Certified Coach to guide you back on track, or perhaps finding your stride for the first time! This is an episode you definitely don't want to miss as we deep dive into all three instincts and how you can find your healthiest self with grace, intention, and improved marriage rhythms with encouragement, no matter what season or shape you're in! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jenn's Health Coaching right here or email Jenn at [email protected] Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Across many transitions of life, there are important grounding lessons to be learned as we aim to parent well too. Today as we prepare to launch kids into their own mental wellness with healthy rhythms, Christa is joined by Enneagram expert, and coach Kelsey Lincoln, Enneagram 6 (Fuller Theological Sem, Intercultural Studies). Kelsey shares her wisdom and foresight to give us these tools we need for relationship success across every single type as we do our best to parent with love, wisdom, and lots of grace right here together! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Kelsey's on-point Instagram tips right here! Visit Kelsey's website here! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how your personality affects your well-being in terms of financial savvy and success? Or which Enneagram (and MBTI) types are more and less motivated by more relational versus financial provisions? Truity Psychometrics has done the deep diving for us about what we can all learn from one another, and the world is paying attention. In this all-new episode for you, we get to chat practically and relationally today about the findings, and today Christa interviews Megan Malone, Truity's fabulous content strategist and personality researcher and an Enneagram Two. Walk with us through the types and how you can find balance and expansion in your individual, couple, and work growth in this fascinating episode. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Take the Truity Test on Enneagram Follow Truity @ Instagram! Take the Truity Generations Test Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In our conversation last summer w/Dr. Sam Greenberg, we had a groundbreaking episode on sex and how we see it across various instinctual patterns, depending on whether we're more socially, sexually, or wired for more self-preservation. Here we are joined yet again by Christa and Dr. Sam on a deeper dive level for each and every Enneagram type in terms of the typical sexual findings, in hopes you can truly find your best sexual closeness yet. This episode is SO helpful for your marriage growth, so don't miss out! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Dr. Sam on Instagram Visit Dr. Sam's website! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your goal is deeper intimacy, but did you know autonomy and healthy boundaries and self-care are SO helpful for a relationship as well? Today Christa is joined by one of our most popular guests, Gottman, AACC, and E +M Certified Coach Melissa M Thompson, Enneagram 2, in a conversation about how to do just this for each and every type. Join us as Melissa refreshes us with healthy hacks and reminders of how we can hold love, strength, boundaries, and compassion at the same time. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Melissa for coaching info here! Read Melissa's boundaries blog! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You and your spouse's intimacy issues began long before you were married. Award-winning author, therapist, and ordained minister Jay Stringer has integrated the best of research and marital modalities for a deeper understanding of how our intimacy patterns began, and more importantly, how they can truly improve together. Today in this vital episode for marital healing, we take a truly biopsychosocialspiritual journey across the most important ways you can build safety together. Take the holistic desire survey here! https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/holisticdesire For the couple's research survey on desire, send both your emails to [email protected] Jay's website: https://jay-stringer.com/ Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often we wonder what we've carried forth from childhood in our Enneagram and relationship work, as well as wonder what we may have incidentally left behind in our quest for pleasing our family of origin. Today on this special episode with marriage and family therapist (and likely one of your fave Instagram therapy accounts) Michael Shahan, we take a tour around the Enneagram to walk through the Enneagram inner child theory derived from Sandra Maitri and others, also called the Soul Child theory. We do this to make sure you're running on all healthy cylinders as much as possible with your relationship growth, and we talk through ways you can do this work with your spouse or partner, too. No matter your type, join us for this deep dive into growth for every personality! Watch on YouTube! Michael's website Michael's poyvagal courses Michael's heart-mind-body Costa Rica trip Follow Michael's Instagram here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as we tell new stories and find new ways to make that deeper meaning together. She gives us a formula that has a natural yet practical flow so we can bring ourselves to each date or activity ready for reconnection. Enjoy this rich conversation with Tracy as we walk towards delighting, discovering, sharing our depths, and connecting more closely than ever before. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Visit Tracy and the entire group at ReStory here! Sign up for "A Year of Good Dates" here: https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates https://www.thrivemarriageweekend.com @thrivemarriageweekend on Instagram View the Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Course at ReStory Visit Tracy on Red Tent Living for her prolific blogs Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices