EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Complacency is that feeling of low energy and lack of engagement in a relationship. Do you or your partner ever have that sense in your marriage? This one will be a bit of a "gut check" for how you've been showing up for each other. Complacency can lead to feeling like "roommates" or just a general lack of aliveness and joy within the relationship. If complacency becomes the norm in your relationship, it can degrade your happiness. But realizing this is happening is what allows you to improve it. In this episode you will get 3 signs of complacency, then you'll be encouraged by 3 easy ways to keep things vibrant and alive, even as the years pass. Resources For Your Relationship: Save your seats for the next Couples Workshop here. Message us on IG: @meet_thefreemans to get a code for $25 off the April 11th Couples Workshop online event. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take that FREE QUIZ HERE] By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements. In this episode you will get: The traits of the Reserved/Flexible partner Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them What you can do differently How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months Resources For Your Relationship: Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type" Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take that FREE QUIZ HERE] By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements. In this episode you will get: The traits of the Reserved/Inflexible partner Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them What you can do differently How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months Resources For Your Relationship: Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type" Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take that FREE QUIZ HERE] By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements. In this episode you will get: The traits of the Assertive/Flexible partner Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them What you can do differently How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months Resources For Your Relationship: Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type" Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. Side note: if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take that FREE QUIZ HERE By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them, so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements. In this episode you will get: The traits of the Assertive/Inflexible partner Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them What you can do differently How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months Resources For Your Relationship: Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type" Use the coupon code "podcast25" to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Argument Hangover book was released this week! Do you think you could write a book with your partner, what would that even take? Well let's dive into the behind the scenes of how we wrote this book together, where the ideas came from, who wrote each chapter, and any challenges that came up! The intention is to have some fun hearing about how this process went and some interesting things that you would otherwise never hear about. All for the bigger purpose of having you ... (well you will have to listen in for the purpose we are setting out for you and your partner!) If you have not gotten your own copy of The Argument Hangover, order it now as it's the last week to get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)!

Challenges arise in every relationship and this is not something you have to try and change. It's about whether you approach the challenges as a team or against each other. To have the best shot at staying on the same team, you need to be prepared before they show up. Then you will respond rather than react to them. Today's podcast goes into 5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges. Of course there are others, but these are some of the most common ones we see. By knowing these 5 challenges, you will be able to prepare yourself in advance and handle the challenge as a true team when you notice it comes up in your relationship. Interestingly, a lack of love is not one of the 5 common challenges by the way. We talk to couples every single day who love each other deeply, yet still feel discouraged because they haven't identified the ROOT cause of their challenges. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves TODAY, and get over $200 of free bonuses (like the mini course and a 90 minute training). This is the last week these will be available for free. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Toilet paper, the cost of rice, who changes the water dispenser more. These are just a few of the submissions we received from you all on IG about: the silliest things that have caused arguments. This will be an episode that you just chuckle and realize that we're all human in relationships. We all have those moments where we're fighting like it matters to us a lot, but isn't life altering in hindsight. As you listen to the episode, make sure you order The Argument Hangover book! It's shipping to you all in just a few days. And participate in the social media contest to win a FB Portal! It will be the last week for the $200 of bonus trainings that go with ordering the book!

How good are you at managing your emotions as an argument begins? Do you recognize the emotion that you're feeling, but still choose your words and actions consciously? Or do you find that your emotions (anger, sadness, etc) drive your words and actions that lead to disagreements escalating to the point of hurting your partner and the relationship? The thing is, it's absolutely OKAY whatever emotion you're feeling. The goal isn't to get to a place where NO emotion comes up for you in argument (that's not realistic, nor is that life)! Instead, the goal is to become so self-aware that you notice the emotion arising AND you still choose your next words and actions that allow the other to understand you even more. In this podcast episode you will hear: How emotional awareness can help shorten the argument hangover period The 3 personal aspects to better manage your emotions Specific constructive actions you can take in those moments of anger, sadness, frustration, etc This is such a critical topic that we have two VERY helpful resources: Our newest book, The Argument Hangover, officially hits shelves and ships in ONE WEEK! This will be the most relatable and actionable book you've ever read--covering communication and conflict. If you didn't know, you can actually get $200 of pre-order bonus resources (a conflict and communication course + workbook) if you order it before March 17th. Grab your copy and claim your bonuses here This podcast! So hit play and subscribe for future episodes. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Life is on your side, even if you don't always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season. P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It's shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn't always happen right? Especially for men to show up as, and express, unconditional love. Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of men are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you, the partner of a man, because often men do not even realize, let alone vocalize, any of these needs to you as their partner. So what to do? Well, listen to this podcast episode! In this episode you will hear what the 3 needs are that are critical for men, that often are not even expressed. Then once you know and can have these conversations, men (either you or your partner) will be able to feel that you can give all the love to your partner that they need, even unconditionally! Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 16th, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

When your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, "what's wrong?" I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today's quick episode, I'll chat with you about: Why asking "what's wrong" has the opposite effect on your partner What to ask them instead if they seem "off" And what to do if they keep saying "I'm fine," but you feel like they're really not Also, make sure to CLAIM YOUR BONUSES for pre-ordering The Argument Hangover. It's coming March 16th 2021 and you don't want to miss out on $200 worth of bonus courses and the Debrief After an Argument Workbook.

Being able to fully express yourself is one of the most important aspects of being in a relationship. This is what allows you to be known by and connected with your partner! This is what leads to a healthy and loving relationship. However there is one thing to this, that could have you be dependent on them for. It will also lead to diminishing your own ability to self-sooth and self-regulate your emotions. On the other hand, by not relying on your partner for this one thing, you will feel more freedom, emotionally steady, and safe for your partner to more vulnerably express themselves to you! Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Couples Workshop is coming up on February 21st, 2021. Save your seats before it passes. To get a bonus copy of The Argument Hangover with it, enter this code when you check out: podcast2021 Your relationship is meant to be about experiencing love and connection. As time passes, there is a subtle and sneaky thing that arises that blocks you from feeling connected to your partner. This is a short "check yo' self" motivational episode so that you can be aware of this one thing that is sure to create disconnection in your relationship (and it's all on you!) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 2021, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Healthy relationships consist of both time together and time apart. Which of course can feel much harder (and even more necessary) right now. Perhaps you've been needing some "alone time," but haven't expressed it to your partner. Or, you've mentioned it before, but no action was put in place so it's a point of tension between you two now. In today's episode, we'll discuss: Signs that alone time would be helpful for your relationship How much alone time is healthy How to bring it up to your partner so it doesn't hurt their feelings Examples of what alone time can look like, even during quarantine times, or if you have kids Resources For Your Relationship: Also, make sure you read about The LIVE Couples Workshop on Sunday February 21st. You will communicate better and resolve conflicts faster...in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months. Those that register will get a FREE copy of the new book The Argument Hangover! Use the code: podcast 2021 About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Don't get discouraged if your partner isn't taking as much initiative. Or if you're still running into challenges, even though you're really trying to 'work on things'. This episode will give you the dose of perspective and the encouragement you need to keep staying on track in your relationship. Real quick, did you check out the 5 Day Couples Challenge that's starting February 15th? We don't want you to miss out on this time to be more intentional in your partnership, overcome communication pitfalls, and connect deeper. Read all about it and save your spots before you miss the opportunity!

"You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that's not what happened."... Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated. In this episode you will get: 6 phrases to never say to your partner The negative impact they can have (especially if said repeatedly over time) 5 phrases to say instead, that respect & honor each other Also, make sure that you've signed up for The 5 Day Couples Challenge starting February 15th. We don't want you to miss this guided experience to deepen your connection and overcome communication pitfalls. SIGN-UP here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right? What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past? In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep you feeling disconnected, angry, or disappointed. This of course does not lead to more love, connection, and happiness within your relationship. In this episode you will learn how to change your own past so that you do not stay stuck in a place of disconnection or even mediocrity in your life with your partner. DISCLAIMER: this is an advanced skill! Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Small things in your relationship can be what build up and cause you to feel disconnected or upset with your partner. Of course when this happens there isn't room for the love, connection, and happiness that you desire to experience. It could be things you say to yourself like: "Ugh, if they'd only pick up their socks, if only they'd stop being on their phone at night, if only they would eat healthier with me." Though it might seem that these little things are the way they are and you wish your partner's actions would change so that you could feel better. HOWEVER in this episode you will discover that you are not actually upset for the reason you think you are! We will invite you into a different way to look at these small upsets in your relationship so that you will be empowered by seeing the real reason! (What could that reason be?!) Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Our happiness and motivation can't be reliant on outside circumstances. Yes, times are crazy. But we have the ability to shift our focus and mood by our daily and weekly habits. In this episode with Jocelyn, you'll hear: A story she's barely ever told about breaking her back and spiraling down to depression Our daily and weekly habits we've been doing for years How these will lead you to taking control of your mood and how you show up for yourself and your partner Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Communication is not "one size fits all" and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up). But guess what...your communication can significantly improve as you understand the "4 Communication Personality Types" and by determining which type represents you and your partner. In this episode, you'll hear: What the 4 Communication Personality Types are and the traits that describe each of them How tension and miscommunication can be significantly reduced by understanding your partner's type The 2 most important things to be aware of for yourself so you can be a better communicator How to get access to the self-assessment to determine which of the 4 types you fall into Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Can this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner. But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contribute to life feeling hard. So is the goal to try and wait it out and hope that things get better? NO! In this 10 minute motivational podcast you will get the one way to shift from this feeling of discouragement or difficulty. Once you start to feel positive momentum, it will be even easier to positively impact your partner and your relationship. But it does start with you, and that's what this episode is for! P.S. Our new book, The Argument Hangover is about to hit shelves on Feb 23rd, 2021. So did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a "debrief after an argument" workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

When your partner gets triggered, what do you do?... #1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument? #2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them? Don't feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into. We weren't taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they're triggered, especially in a romantic relationship. And instead of it bringing healing, they often create arguments and emotional distance. In this episode, we cover: How triggers can be a "good" thing for the relationship The things you DON'T want to say or do when they are triggered The things that you DO want to say or do so that it is more constructive for your relationship Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

I'm an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover. Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a "debrief after an argument" workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument? You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding. You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship. In this episode, you'll hear: Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument How to handle times your partner gets defensive 5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Is there any place in your relationship that you shutdown and isolate from your partner by saying nothing or getting away from them? Are you even on the other side of things where you lash out at your partner to get them off your back? In either case this is probably because you are not "good with emotions". Which is not something to feel bad about because not many of us start out with the ability to even identify exactly what we are feeling to even be able to articulate it. This episode is all about starting the process of building both of the skills to identify what emotion you are feeling and then be able to share it with your partner. This will allow you to know even more about yourself and about each other. Tune in for 4 steps to go from not knowing what to say at all, to having even more connected conversations with your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Love is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing? You should notice that in either case above, love is often based on outside conditions and how happy you currently feel. Whether it's about financial security, how your partner has been talking to you, or feeling too routine in your day to day life all of these are conditional feelings of love. In this podcast you will learn the 4 elements of love that allow for a truly unconditional love to be alive in your relationship. Then knowing these 4 elements, when you do feel less love between you and your partner, you will know the exact way to generate it. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Let's be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: "that's not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn't make sense". Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side. Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different (male vs female or masculine vs feminine differences), the real culprit here is not making the differentiation between what your partner is saying versus what they need. In this episode we cover this big difference between the actual words that you or your partner use and what the missing need or deeper desire really is. You will get questions to ask your partner that lead to more connection and understanding than the typical difference of opinion, recurring conflict, or simple disconnections in your day to day life. This will elevate you and your listening skills in your relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Give a gift to your relationship that will impact the rest of your year! Join the next Couples Workshop - Live Steam with us right from home and take your communication skills to a deeper level. (Live interaction with us as we take you through the communication exercises and help with any conversation where you get stuck.) Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Whether you can't wait to end this year or you are just excited to keep the momentum you have going, this is the episode for you. The end of the year just so happens to be a "made up" time that you can truly reset and refocus. For some you don't want the next year to be like this past year. For others, you realize you just want to experience life and your relationship newly. Either way it comes down to a lot more than just setting new goals like most everyone talks about at the end of each year. In this episode you will get the 5 questions you MUST reflect on and ask each other so you can complete this past year, and keep it from impacting your next year. Doing this as a couple is VITAL to not hitting bumps and road blocks a few months in. Once you establish this type of "blank slate" to work from, you will get the 5 ways to create what it is you desire together for the coming year. Resources For Your Relationship: Give a gift that will impact the rest of your year! Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition, and take your communication and listening skills to a deeper level. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You aren't alone if you've dealt with body image challenges. In this episode, I share the vulnerable truth about my relationship to my body growing up, and specifically how it negatively impacted my romantic relationships. You will hear the 6 things I did to start loving myself (inside and out) so that I could show up as an authentically confident partner. Feel free to steal any one of them for yourself so you can show up more confident in your own relationship. Resources For You: After you listen to the episode, snag one of the two spots we've opened up for a Relationship Breakthrough Session. These sessions can be either 2-on-2 including your partner or 1-on-1 if you want to do it solo. Sign up for one here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It can be a hard thing to admit to yourself, let alone your partner, that you are not feeling the desire for them. This can feel like a very significant, lonely, and discouraging place to be. It can even bring up a feeling of doubt about the relationship as you might think this is a feeling you cannot come back from. Because, what is there to really do as this is just what you feel right? In this episode you will hear the two central causes for this feeling as well as what to do depending on the category you find yourself in. Just by seeing these causes as something that all couples will face at some point in their relationship, you will feel a sense of ease and encouragement that you can move back to a state of connection, desire, passion, and sexual attraction. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and the 90 minute training from Dec 9th!) Sign-up for a 1-on-1 or 2-on-2 session with Jocelyn or Aaron here. There are only 2 spots open in December for this, so snag one HERE. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

There is one particular area that we all are guilty of sitting back and waiting to happen. When this takes place in your relationship it can lead to discouragement and staying relatively in the same place for years. Listen in to this solo episode with Aaron to find out what this one thing is so you don't get caught in the waiting game for your relationship to become what it can be! Resources For Your Relationship: As mentioned in the episode you can access The Argument Hangover 90 minute training that we did live when you pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover. This will be with the other $200 worth of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How many times have you thought to yourself "should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?" It's almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another. The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don't say anything it can feel like you have to suppress yourself and ultimately end up feeling resentful. So what is the real answer here when it can feel like a lose-lose situation? In this episode we will give you 5 steps to take to be able to answer this question as well as empower both of you to become even better partners to each other. Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we're hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that's never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here After Dec 9th you can pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

I actually had several exes cheat on me. It might sound odd to say, but I'm grateful that it happened because of who I am today as a wife. There's a deeper gift that came from that experience, so dive in to this episode and send it to ANY friend that's been cheated on before. Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we're hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that's never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here Sign-up for a 1-on-1 or 2-on-2 session with Jocelyn or Aaron here. There are only 2 spots open in December for this, so snag one HERE. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

There usually isn't just one big event that ends a relationship. It's an 'eroding' slowly over time. It's the result of frequent behaviors like chronic defensiveness, small criticisms, and not prioritizing them. We are not even saying that you are necessarily at the place of ending the relationship, and we never want you to be. Hence why we are giving you the 5 behaviors that we see, that you might not notice, that will over time have you be in a place where you say "how did we get here?" About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Get access to the Free Couples Training - Dec 9th 2020!

There are particular seasons within a relationship where you will ask yourself "is this the right relationship?". There is nothing wrong with this question at all. You might be trying to decide to propose to your partner, having a tough week or month, or even deciding to stay in the marriage. No matter the place you find yourself, the next real question is "how do I really determine this?" Most people default to their recent mood, attitude, or level of love or happiness now. But this is very conditional and conceptual. In this episode you will get the 4 Key Foundations to accurately measure whether you are in the right relationship and will inspire you when you can solidify each of these 4 keys. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition!

If you haven't said this yourself, you've at least seen these "love" posts go around: "I accept all of you" or "there is nothing you could do for me to stop loving you"! While this is a great sentiment, the majority of people only know what half of this declaration really means. Of course this is a great intent to accept your partner, but there is one major area that, if you are not prepared for, will come as a huge disappointment and upset for you in the future. There are easier areas to accept about your partner because you can see them now, however Emotional Triggers of your partner are aspects that you MUST accept about your partner if you want to face challenges as a team. These individual and unique triggers are not something you see in the beginning, so they can catch you off guard if you are not prepared to accept them too. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

There's that feeling of trying to pull or "drag" your partner along when you want to grow and strengthen your own relationship. Here you are with good intentions to make certain areas of your relationship even better... but it's almost like you are doing it on your own or that you are literally forcing your partner to participate. This can feel so draining and frustrating when your positive intention is met with resistance, push back, or even resentment. Almost like trying to get a child to eat his peas! But does this mean that you have hit the ceiling of where your relationship growth can go? Or that your partner will never be open to the kind of growth you are? NO.. but you do need to take this different approach that Jocelyn herself covers in this episode. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session (only $97 to hold your spot)

If you are in a relationship, you have been disappointed at some point. If you are a human being even, you have been disappointed at some point in your life. Any disappointment in a relationship comes from a certain expectation that you had of your partner to do something, act or be a certain way. So is it bad to have expectations in your relationship, is this just a path to an unhealthy relationship? Well not necessarily… you will ALWAYS have expectations while you are alive as a human being and especially inside of your relationship. It's all in how you relate to and communicate about them that will have it be a healthy expectation or an unhealthy one. In this episode we will cover how you take any expectation and make it a healthy part of your relationship that leads to growth and connection rather than one that leads to disappointment and disconnection. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition!

You have been in an argument before right? You have also had a food or alcohol hangover at some point in your life too right? Well, put these two together and you have the term for how you feel in that period of time after you have a fight with your partner until you reconnect together. You might feel resentful of them, low energy, angry, hurt, or even not wanting to be around them. Whatever the emotion, how long does this last? It can be hours, days, weeks, or even years. The goal in relationships is not to avoid conflicts however, because they are actually necessary. But you can learn (and should aim) to shorten this period of disconnection from your partner as well as keep arguments from escalating to the point they do damage to your partner. Today we will give you examples of how you can make arguments worse, then give you 2 ways to shorten your Argument Hangovers and get reconnected faster! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

"I said I'm sorry, can't we just move past this?" Is this a statement that you hear from your partner, or even one that you have said to them before? It most likely is and for some reason saying "I'm sorry" just doesn't seem to cut it to resolve a conflict all the way and reconnect you both. Any idea why this is or what you can say (or do) instead? Well that is exactly what we are going to cover this episode today, as "I'm sorry" on its own is just not enough. During this episode you will hear the 7 reasons why it's not enough, we will share our story of moving (yes we are still waiting on the trucking company over a week later) and how "sorry" was not enough for us, and then the first two steps of the "5 R Process" to being to reconcile and connect with your partner. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session (only $97 to hold your spot)

Would you be willing to sell your house in 24 hours, and move across the country in under 3 weeks? Well we are, and we did! Whether that is something that you even thought about or not, the point is about being able to make BOLD decisions together, even during uncertainty, that will ultimately benefit your life and relationship. Often there are many decisions that go into a BIG decision, and maybe you feel that you are good at coming up with ideas, but get stuck in taking that leap of faith. In today's episode we want to share with you (because we are very excited and want you to be a part of this journey with us too) about how we came to this decision to sell everything and make a big change in our lives. All so that you can get some of the principles so that you can make beneficial decisions faster and with more confidence together that will ultimately better serve your relationship. Even if it still scares you! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Also follow along the journey this week as we road trip it from Phoenix Arizona to Charlotte North Carolina! We will be making a number of stops along the way! Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Yes we know that when you see the word Gratitude or Appreciation you think "I've heard that a thousand times"! Yet giving and showing your partner appreciation is one of the secret ingredients to a truly happy and connected relationship, one that barely gets it's deserved air time. The reason being it's never taken far enough. Appreciation is actually an art to be given so that it has a real impact and it's just as important that you allow yourself to receive appreciation from your partner! In today's episode you will learn: Why appreciation is so important and why it's so easily forgotten about. The art to delivering appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful to your partner (which is not just appreciating what they DO) That you might actually be blocking appreciation and the feeling or connection because you are unable to receive it (either from your past, or from a belief you have about yourself) Best Quote: "You cannot receive what you do not believe about yourself" - The Freemans About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Your immediate reaction to this episode might be "yes my partner definitely has some adult temper tantrums". Which is probably true at times, so we will of course go more into how you can HELP and SUPPORT them, rather than avoiding or getting mad at them yourself. BUT if you were really being honest, you might see that you yourself have your own tantrums sometimes. These are places that you just don't know how else to express yourself or realize what it is you really want and need. Many of us do this (act like hurt or wounded kids) because we just do not know and were not taught any other way. Maybe this is ok at work or with friends, but when it comes to a healthy, connected, and lasting romantic relationship… you will just do more damage than good. All because you haven't learned these simple skills. In today's episode you will learn: Why you, or your partner, express yourself like your child-self when you are feeling hurt or misunderstood. How to best support and communicate with your partner during these times. The tools to move into conscious self-expression and communication. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Of course this seems like something that could never happen, but being honest, do you feel like you and your partner are just high functioning roommates? We are not talking about your actual college roommates, but at some point the experience of aliveness, passion, and being prioritized was overtaken by getting things done, having half conversations, and even disconnection. This is happening for a lot of couples in the season however, as even mentioned by Chris Rock this week on SNL (eluding to the 34% rise in divorce rates over last year). Couples like you are finding themselves in difficult places and reevaluating the relationship. In this episode we give you 3 things to focus on and implement so that you get out of just feeling like roommates and get back to co-creating your life together that doesn't have to look like anyone else's relationship, or how your relationship was in the past. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! (message us for code) Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

It's shocking and contradictory from what you've heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It's not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship. Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills! In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you 3 reasons why love is not enough and then the 3 skills every couple must have to keep love alive. By implementing these skills you will be able to bring love back in any moment that is not feeling as connected or loved by your partner. You will learn that love is not conditional but an experience you always have control over. That's a truly unconditional, empowered relationship! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Hey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.) The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home! Here is the website to read more and save your seats The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Better & Resolve Conflicts Faster, in 5 Hours Instead of 5 Months! We're coming to you live from a super high tech studio that literally will feel like you're in person with us, yet you're in the privacy of your own home. This is NOT going to be full of cliches like "communication is the key to a relationship." Everyone knows that! It will provide you with step-by-step exercises to FINALLY feel understood, and resolve those same 2 or 3 disagreements that keep coming up over and over. Save your seats here! Surprise! A $40 off coupon code that's only good for 48 hours (till midnight on Sept 25th). Enter code: workshop40

So here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say "I'm not talking about this, move on" or even "get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue. Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be talked about. When this happens a few times you get frustrated because nothing seems to change and you are unable to make any progress together when your partner is totally unwilling to open up and let you in. Hope is not lost (Aaron can vouch for that)! In this episode you will understand why this happens for your partner, as well as 3 things you can do differently to keep this pattern from happening. If you use these 3 things you will feel you can actually make progress in the relationship and understand more about each other's needs. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE event streamed right to your home

Ever have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that's often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past! Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun. In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or past relationships can/is impacting your relationship now. But here's what's taking this to the next level….we also dive into how those past events lead to subtle forms of sabotaging behavior. Before you think, "oh, I don't do anything sabotaging," take a listen and hear some behaviors that you might not have noticed before, that could be keeping your relationship in the same place rather than growing. This is a powerful episode for you to reflect on individually and discuss together. Plus you will get a process to identify what these patterns are, where they come from, and what to do to change them. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 21 Day Relationship Upgrade starting next week! All you have to do is order a FREE hard copy of our book, then you get access to the private group with the 21 day group and activities coming up. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE-streamed to your home

Real talk....we had a 3 hour conversation this weekend about the possibility of ending our partnership. Not because we haven't been "happy" or that we don't love each other anymore... but because we haven't been living in our full potential as individuals or as a couple. We have high standards for what kind of partnership we're capable of and that's what we invite you into. So we shared openly and candidly with each other about our disappointments, frustrations, and doubts. We used our skills to listen and hold space for each other. Which led to a MASSIVE triumph and feeling more connected and loved than ever. There's too much to tell about this here, so we recorded an entire podcast episode on it. Not only do we share transparently about this deep and vulnerable conversation, but we share with you a COMPLETELY different way of "ending" the relationship so you can truly evolve as a couple. It's something you never will have heard before and many couples never do... About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: "podcast40" at checkout. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.