EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it's something we're bringing awareness to shifting between us. We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you've felt this too? In this episode we cover: The bigger "danger" of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other 2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you're not doing this to your partner too much 3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) We talked about knowing what is important in the moment, and our communication audio course has the best skill for you to determine the real level of importance. Check out the Communication Course for yourself! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How many of your past arguments and conflicts actually get fully repaired? Do you feel that from every emotional impact, your partner has fully understood you, that they acknowledge the role they played in you feeling that way, and you believe things will be put in place to make the necessary change for it to not happen again? These are just some of the points that need to happen to fully repair from a conflict in your relationship. Just saying I'm sorry to move on often doesn't cut it. In this episode we will share about a shocking and surprising life event that happened this week and how it shows us that we do not have life to waste being unresolved about conflicts in our marriage. You will feel the same level of urgency to not waste your life being disconnected or resentful toward your partner and have key ways to improve your "apology" so that you truly repair from any challenge and emotional impact in your life! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. There are some misconceptions about resolving conflicts in a relationship. What doesn't actually resolve anything is trying to jump right to a solution, or distracting yourself long enough where the high level of emotion has subsided. This will only build into resentment or at a minimum, start to seed disconnection and discontent within the relationship. In today's podcast episode you'll hear: The 3 questions to ask yourself to actually start the repair process and not have lingering emotions get stored up for you to react to later. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. You cannot blame your behavior in the "mid-conflict" stage on your partner! Nope, you must take ownership of your patterns if you're going to have any chance of changing them. But that's why we call them patterns….because patterns can be changed and you aren't stuck a certain way! In today's podcast episode you'll hear: The importance of humbling yourself and taking ownership of your default patterns during conflict What happens to your brain when emotion kicks in Steps to break these destructive patterns in the mid-conflict stage Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Trust can be broken or weakened by both the big things and the build up of many smaller broken promises. Trust is such a foundational aspect of a relationship that without it, it's harder to have respect, love, and passion for your partner. In this episode we go deeper into rebuilding trust, whether you are the partner that doesn't trust, or if you realize that you are the one that has contributed to the decline of trust. We were asked to take this topic deeper from a listener of the podcast that emailed us, because she was experiencing unreliability on the side of her partner. (We so appreciate you for requesting topics to cover!) Today you will hear about the small things that lead a partner to not "count on" the other, what the real source is of broken promises, and 3 steps to take to rebuild trust as a team. Resources For Your Relationship: If you're in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021. If outside AZ, you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

When men spend time with other men, it boosts their testosterone (super important), and when women spend time with other women, it boosts their estrogen (super important). Biologically and emotionally, you and your partner NEED time with friends outside of the relationship. If you don't, it can have a real impact on your happiness as individuals and how you show up for each other. However, it's not time with just any type of friends...it's got to be friends that raise your energy and remind you to be the best version of yourself. Listen to today's episode for more on this important topic and what types of friends to prioritize as individuals and as a couple. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Are there any topics left in your relationship that you feel you can't talk about? Perhaps you no longer attempt certain topics or expressing your emotion on certain things because your partner's reaction makes you feel "emotionally unsafe." Being in a truly healthy and empowered relationship means that you should always feel safe to talk about any topic. Of course saying "talk about any topic" really means "talk about any emotion you are having". In this episode you will hear: The critical mistake you yourself are making that has you feel unsafe The goal of being able to share your true emotions with each other 4 ways to create emotional safety Resources For Your Relationship: Couples in the Arizona area: save your seats for the Sept 26th in person Couples Workshop. Last months' workshop sold out and this will be the last of 2021! Couples outisde of Arizona: get $30 OFF The Couples Workshop: Home Edition to enhance your communication skills together no matter where you live! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Do you want to be a GREAT partner? It can be easy to show up less than our best as the months and years pass, so today's episode is a great reminder that will motivate you to be the best partner you can be! We dive into 3 traits that are underrated and truly make such a difference for your partnership. Resources For Your Relationship: If you're in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021. If you've haven't read it yet, grab your copy of The Argument Hangover. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Are you in one of these 3 places: feel less fulfilled in your marriage, you are thinking that the relationship should end, or you are active in keeping your fulfillment high by preventing anything from lowering it? Whichever place you find yourself this episode is about exploring the main reasons we see couples struggle that lead to lower levels of satisfaction and fulfillment in their relationships. This is a new style episode where we each write down our own lists from what we have seen in couple's relationship assessments, our personal coaching, and the live workshops we have done. In this episode you will hear each of us share our list of top reasons why relationships fall into these seasons, and we won't know what the other had on their list. After listening to this episode you will be able to bring each of these reasons into your awareness and have a simple action to take to prevent that reason from continuing. All so that you can raise and maintain your fulfillment in your relationship, no matter the time you have been together or the challenge you face. Resources For Your Relationship: There are ONLY 3 spots to take your relationship assessment and do a results call with us. To secure ONE of these spots either: Text: 602-321-5652 Email: [email protected] ALSO, Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

On a importance scale from 1-10, how important is sharing household chores and responsibilities? On the spectrum of things you can be focusing on in your life and relationship, how often are you getting frustrated or do you bicker with your partner over this simple area? Now any place in your relationship that you have a recurring upset and causes you to be disconnected from your partner, is an important area to change. After the Couples Workshop this week, we realized that this is an area that we never bicker over or even have to think about. In this episode you will hear from Jocelyn a simple process that we use so that you can feel balance and freedom and never have to have conversations about the household being something that causes an upset! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

When your partner says something that's harder to hear, do you find yourself unconsciously reacting or consciously responding? You see, a solid partnership is where both people are safe to open up about things, even if it's hard to hear sometimes. So if you're committed to being the best partner you can be, then you want to master the difference between reacting and responding. In this episode, you'll hear: The exact difference between reacting and responding The deeper source of why you react to your partner when you don't love what they're saying 6 examples of better ways to respond to your partner, so the conversation stay constructive rather than destructive Relationship Resources: Schedule a Couple's Session with us HERE. You will finally overcome that recurring challenge in your relationship, so you can experience more joy and less frustration. Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

When was the last time you reviewed what you're committed to in your relationship? Was it on your wedding day when exchanging vows? There is a big difference between what you said you were committed to in the past versus what you are committed to now, even right in this moment. In this motivational episode you will get a love gut punch to be honest about what you are actually committed to, as a reflection in your actions toward your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

"Inner-Work": looking within to see where you can grow and evolve (ie. what needs to be healed from your past, which patterns need to be unlearned, and realizing that you recreate experiences when you didn't get the lesson). Doing this "inner work" is absolutely imperative to cultivate your desired partnership. Most importantly you, and ideally your partner, must be willing to do this inner-work in some shape or form. Why? Because otherwise you will recreate patterns that do not serve your current relationship. This inner-work doesn't have to be overwhelming and we promise it can be an empowering experience! It is actually how you can become the very best version of yourself and express your inherent gifts as a human being. That's why you'll love this episode! You will hear: What happens if you don't embrace the "inner work" needed for your relationship 5 areas within yourself to do the inner-work 3 helpful tools to consider as part of your journey individually and as a couple Resources For Your Relationship: Schedule an introductory Couple's Session with us to overcome any challenge and become the best team you can be HERE. Order The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You can eliminate many moments of frustration and feeling like you're on different pages with two simple questions. You will ask one of these questions in the morning to start the day with ease and synergy--and it will be especially helpful if you have kids, busy careers, and lots of moving parts to your schedule. The second question is great for the evening to make sure you're on the same page and so both of you get your needs met and feel like you can recharge your batteries in a mutually fulfilling way. Go ahead and tune in for these 2 simple (but super helpful) questions! Resources For Your Relationship: Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us here. Make sure you've read our book, The Argument Hangover. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Of course you 'love' your partner, but what level of love and connection do you feel right now? You might "know that you love them," but right now, you can feel disconnected and experience a mediocre or even low level of love. You do not want to assume that love will automatically be there in a long-term relationship. Sure, you can say "I love you" to each other all day long, yet still not FEEL an overwhelming sense of love in the partnership. For many of us, we have mostly experienced love that is conditional or based on fleeting feelings. So how do you keep the experience of LOVE alive, even during challenging seasons? In this episode you will hear: What love should not be based on The real foundation from where your love comes from How you can keep that experience of love alive, no matter the challenge or season that you are in. Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We all want to be happy both in our lives and relationships. Yet at a certain point in a relationship it can feel as if your happiness is based more upon your partner. This could be based on their own mood or whether they are "doing the things you want them to do". Happiness cannot be a pursuit if it leads you to be conditional to any outside circumstances. It needs to be generated from within first. By doing that, you will automatically influence your partner to be happy just by the nature of your own happiness and joyful way of being! In this motivational Thursday episode you will hear 3 habits to implement daily, to begin to generate your own happiness first, to create more happiness as a couple! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The quality of your conversation comes from the quality of your questions! No matter how much you love each other, your conversations can feel routine if you're asking the same ol' questions (especially if you are a 'busy' couple or have been together for years). Truthfully, it's natural to crave more emotional depth in your relationship, which comes from being able to ask more meaningful questions in a state of curiosity and intention. There is nothing 'wrong' with having this desire! At times you might not know just what questions to ask, or you fear a negative response from them. So in this episode you'll hear 6 questions that you can ask to open up more emotional connection. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) * We would so appreciate it if you left a review as a way to indirectly contribute to another couple getting their own copy! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'! Though 'suffering' sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of "things not being good". In this solo episode today with Aaron, you will hear the one main thing that causes you suffering, and the way to totally be free from it. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The most attractive trait in a partner is reliability! So what is reliability really? Well, can your partner count on you to follow through, or do you make promises and then have excuses for why it didn't happen? The thing is, how reliable you are in your partnership directly impacts how much they can TRUST you. Now you might think we're just speaking about the "big" things...but actually, it's also about the small promises that you make that really add up to their perception of you. In this episode you will hear: The importance of reliability and follow-through in a relationship 5 different areas where you need to be reliable The 3 ways to cultivate these traits in your partnership What do do if your partner hasn't been following through Resources For Your Relationship: The In-Person Couples Workshop in Arizona August 22nd is linked here: http://thecouplesworkshop.com/ For the recorded version, you can get 50% off this week only using the code (july2021) here: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/recording About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Coming off of last night's webclass on "Communication Mastery", many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was "being empathetic is not easy when I don't agree with my partner." This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner's experience is a true expression of love, it isn't easy especially when you haven't practiced it. In this one-on-one episode with Jocelyn, you will hear how to bring more empathy to your partner so that you can be that true expression of love and be that example of a truly empowered couple! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Establishing boundaries as a couple can sometimes be a point of tension. It can feel like a battle between wanting to feel security, but also not feeling controlled by the other. The thing is, boundaries are critical to agree upon, so you both feel respected, loved, and also fulfilled. Most couples discuss boundaries as: expressing commands, arguing repeatedly, a resistance to feeling controlled. Yet, they can be discussed in a loving, respectful way that feels like a win-win agreement for you both to create a more connected and collaborative relationship. In this episode you will hear some areas in which boundaries are important to establish, plus gain the steps to discuss boundaries in a way that is freeing, not controlling. Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure you're registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya'll are registered already and we can't wait! After July 20th: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we're preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it's important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood. Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we've been taking those insights into our conversations and we wanted to share what's been coming up for us in case it inspires you! Also, make sure you're registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya'll are registered already and we can't wait! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It can feel frustrating or unsettling when you and your partner disagree on a big decision. For some couples, this can lead to making no decision and staying in a standstill for a while, which is also not ideal for you. For others, it can lead to tense conversations, full blown arguments, and feeling like you're limited by the other person. But it doesn't have to go that way… Whether it's parenting styles, financial decisions, where to move, when to have kids, which job offer to take, etc….you CAN make decisions in a way that feels better and leads to an even better outcome than you imagined. In today's episode, you'll hear 6 Key Elements to Making a Big Decision Together. Dive in and you might want to take notes :) Resources For Your Relationship: Also, make sure you're registered for the ONE-TIME FREE WEBCLASS on July 20th (next week). It's called: Communication Mastery--4 Skills You Must Learn to Understand Each Other's Needs, Create Win-Win Solutions, and Deepen Your Emotional Intimacy. Save your seat here. * Mentioned in the podcast * The Arizona in-person events, Couples Workshop, is coming back on August 22nd, 2021. If you are interested, just link the link for details. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It's a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship. You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner. In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner! Resources For Your Relationship: Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here. After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs? When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won't be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for you were, we heard back: Togetherness vs separateness Physical touch vs quality time Time to talk and connect at the end of the day vs quiet time to decompress after working a long day. Working vs leading the kids and home But there are ways, in this case you will hear 5 principles, so that you can work through your conflicting needs together and be sure that you do not have to sacrifice or give up on having your most important needs met in your relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here. After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We received this question privately after the last podcast: "What is the difference between justifying and explaining, when you feel like your partner misread your intentions? Sometimes I feel like we're fighting over a version of me that doesn't feel true, and I can't tell if that's just me being defensive." In this episode you will hear: The subtle difference between justifying and explaining The major difference between Intent vs Impact 4 steps to explain yourself in a way that your partner can receive it Resources For Your Relationship: 1) Take the Relationship Assessment and do the results call with us. There are 2 spots discounted from the $1000 course to just $147. To snag one of those spots either: Text: 602-321-5652 Email: [email protected] 2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface. A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship: A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said) Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation Here's the thing...if you and your partner perpetually react with defensiveness, you will leave conversations unresolved, build up more and more tension, and/or get to the point where you feel like you're walking on eggshells. So today's podcast episode goes deeper into understanding why defensiveness shows up in your relationship PLUS how to break this pattern, so you communicate openly and constructively. Resources For Your Relationship: Book a private Couples Session with us. The first one is discounted so you can get a sense that our style WORKS! Read testimonials, details, and schedule one here. Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover. Get $200 of bonus resources, including a course and workbook. HERE About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Please leave a Review of the Show if you have not, it helps us reach even more couples!

Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in! We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your satisfaction in the 9 core areas of your relationship/life, and openly listen to each other. A few critical benefits of these "Family Meetings": it eliminates that frustrating moments where you blindside each other throughout the week to discuss things when it's not the best time you can address challenges or areas of lower satisfaction before it BUILDS up into resentment you ensure you're on the same page as a couple and feel like a team it creates emotional safety and intimacy But here's what a weekly Family Meeting is NOT: a time to defend yourselves, point fingers, complain, or start a fight. In this episode you will hear us go through our own family meeting, so that you have the tools to communicate with each other to be even more on the same page. Resources For Your Relationship: 1) To get your Family Meeting Worksheet either: DM us on IG @Meet_TheFreemans or Email: [email protected] 2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means. In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together. Questions Asked in this Interview: It would be easy to assume that "sex drive" is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean? Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives? Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are things that get in the way of sexual satisfaction? Do you think people should say "YES" to their partner's attempt to have sex (if they don't feel like it)? What should a partner say if they aren't enjoying (or are just bored with) certain things in the bedroom without hurting their partner? What are two new questions a couple can ask each other to take the next steps to a more understanding and satisfying sex life? Connect More With the Vanessa: Instagram: @Vanessamarintherapy Learn more about her courses and sex drive guides: vmtherapy.com Resources For Your Relationship: The last opportunity for the 5 spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us. This assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it's discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us: Text: 602-321-5652 Email: [email protected]

What's the main difference between being just "roommates" with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy. Of course you've heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy. In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, "how do I create more emotional intimacy with my wife?" Which shows that many people don't know what actually builds emotional intimacy. So we're answering that question in today's podcast episode. Tune in to hear 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy...that can be implemented no matter how busy you two are in life (or the current level of relationship you are at)! Resources For Your Relationship: The 5 discounted spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us went SO fast last episode, that we decided to offer 5 more. Why? Because this assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it's discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us: Text: 602-321-5652 Email: [email protected] About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Are you working to rebuild trust in your relationship? Perhaps a lie was told, or a boundary was crossed….but you're committed to repairing it and not ending the relationship. Today you'll meet Joy and Peter Harrington who share very candidly about repairing broken trust after his long term use of porn. They share some radically true things about whether porn use is healthy in a relationship and what to do if your partner denies crossing a boundary. Resources For Your Relationship: You can connect with Joy and Peter Harrington here on Instagram To schedule a private coaching session to rebuild trust, go here Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

A male client was vulnerable last week and said, "we've been together 10 years, have 3 beautiful children, and have great careers. And while I think we should be closer than ever, I feel more distant than ever." This powerfully shows that being emotionally connected does not have to do with time or reaching life milestones together. In fact, couples grow apart emotionally from 4 subtle behaviors that build up over time. We go into these deeper reasons, as well as the 4 levels of a relationship so you can start to notice which level you are at, and how to progress to the next within your own relationship! Resources For Your Relationship: This month we are giving 5 spots to do Relationship assessment + call with us. Normally you can only take the assessment in our $1000 program. We're opening up these 5 spots for only $147. To snag one of those spots, either: Text us: 602-321-5652 Message us on IG: @meet_thefreemans Email us at: [email protected] After June 2021: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Maybe this is a question you have never thought of! Have you ever taken the time to think about the different types of sex you might be in the mood for? For most the answer is, no… Taking this question one step further, depending on your mood on a certain day of week, you might be more or less open to certain types of sex with your partner. Ok that was a great thing to think about, but now the next part is to express this whole new world to your partner. Given this area of sex and intimacy often is uncomfotable and vulnerable, you can find it dificult to be fully expressed with your partner without some pushback or defensiveness. So what to do? This episode is the first of three episodes around sex and intimacy that we will be interviewing other relationship experts. In today's episode you will meet Seth and Melanie Studley who have been married for 16 years and have three kids. Seth is a licensed marriage and family therapist and together they are the hosts of the "Anatomy of Marriage, Family, and Sex" podcast, along with their "Anatomy of Marriage" app! From them you will realize that there are different types of sex energy and moods, and on your journey of marriage, you will have the tools to express this desires as they come up in different seasons. Get to Know the Studleys: Anatomy of Marriage App Anatomy of Marriage, Family, Sex Podcast Questions Asked in the Interview: What has your journey been as a couple in getting more comfortable and exploratory with sex and intimacy? You mentioned that there are different kinds of sex based on the mood...can you describe the types? How should a partner communicate about the energy they are in the mood for? How do you suggest couples talk about this with each other? How should these conversations be approached when you have kids? How and when do you have these conversations with or around them? Guest Quotes: "Connection & pleasure is the goal, expression can be different based on energy mood" "Clarity is Kindness" Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're sharing your emotion, and your partner responds with logic? They might say "that's not how that happened, that doesn't make sense, or that wasn't my intention." It can make you feel invalidated and misunderstood, which hurts because your partner is the one you should feel most understood by, right? You might feel that they don't listen to you and certainly that they don't understand you. Or even to the point where you feel that you just aren't on the same page. Logic and emotion are both important in relationships and communication....but often at different times! It's important that you two discover how to balance both of them, and know when logic is needed vs emotional understanding. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Why can't the past just stay back in the past?! How often in your relationship do you feel that you resolved an issue, only to have it come back up again later? What about making a decision together about a big life event, only to doubt it (or your partner) later? This "past thing" is a block for many couples that keep them feeling in the same place and not making the progress they really want. In this motivational episode we will cover how to keep your past events from impacting your present. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for one of the few monthly available 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Sessions here Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How do you two tend to act after an argument? If you don't have a solid repair process, you likely are keeping the issue lingering and unresolved. When this happens you can lose trust in each other, erode love and connection, and just turn this into an emotional trigger for the future. In today's episode, we'll cover 3 mistakes that couples make after an argument, and you'll likely find that you have done all 3! But we also share what you need to do INSTEAD to truly close the loop on the conversation. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Is this something you have ever said to yourself "should I bring this conversation up to my partner right now?" We know the answer is almost certainly YES, we all have thought this. Most of the time it's when we have an important topic that we want to talk about, or we think it will potentially cause a conflict. HOWEVER conflicts are not always from the subject of a conversation, but how and when it is brought up. It can turn out to be a conversation that you were excited to have, and all of a sudden it turns into a disagreement. How can this be? Today we talk about just that! In this episode you will hear 3 parts to a conversation that you must add, so that conversations can be had at the right time… for both of you! Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Last chance to sign-up for the FREE WebClass on May 18th and 20th. One is on Communication and one is on Conflict Repair When a challenge shows up in your relationship, how do you two handle it? Do you resist it and just hope it goes away? Or perhaps you talk about it over and over again but never get to a mutual place of understanding? Either way, most couples we talk to are seeking specific ways to BETTER handle challenges as a TEAM. Today's episode will show you how working through the challenge can actually bring you closer, rather than tear you apart. In this episode you'll hear: How challenges can actually bring you closer 5 steps to overcome the challenge as a team Why you must become a resilient partner for a relationship in modern times About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Register for 2 FREE WebClasses on May 18th and 20th 2021 on Communication + Conflict HERE Ever feel frustrated with your partner? Yea, most human beings have those moments. Today's episode is important because it will provide you with 2 questions you MUST ask yourself before you bring it up to your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Relationships cannot be about avoiding conflict, because that only builds resentment in the long term. However, by knowing the common sources of conflict, you can take the actions to keep those topics from causing hurt and disconnection! That is exactly what you will hear in this episode, the 5 common sources of conflict. Then you can help prevent conflicts when you see them coming, as well as repair from your argument hangovers faster! Resources For Your Relationship: You don't want to miss these 2 FREE Webclass on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here. The first is "3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge". The second one is "End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight". For listening after the free webclass dates: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Is it at all surprising to you that Bill & Melinda Gates would choose to divorce? It might not be surprising that it happens to very prominent and wealthy couples, because it has been happening often (Jeff & MacKenzie Bezos, Kim & Kanye West, J-Lo & ARod). It would seem that when areas like finances, significance, and contribution are at such a high level, that relationships would work even better! But that is just not the case because there is a fundamental principle of relationships that is required to continuously have connection, understanding, and love be present in a relationship. This principle is completely independent of money, fame, and significance; which is clearly what is being shown in society today. In this episode Aaron will dive into just what this principle is so that you can raise your level of connection and love in your own relationship. On top of that, you will know that love and connection is not something that just happens or doesn't happen based on circumstances. By knowing this principle, you will be able to consciously bring more love and connection into your relationship with your partner, no matter what season you are in or the challenge that you face! Resources For Your Relationship: You don't want to miss these 2 FREE Webclasses on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here. The first is "3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge". The second one is "End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight".

Listening is one of the most important skills in a relationship, and is fundamental to improving your communication! The problem is we think listening is easy, but truly listening to your partner does NOT just automatically happen, and it's not a "passive" activity. Truly listening takes effort and intention. The thing is, how you listen to your partner determines how much they feel understood, which then directly impacts your level of connection! In this episode, we cover: The most common mistakes people make when "listening" to their partners 3 ways to be a better listener Resources For Your Relationship: Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

In this episode we're answering your specific questions submitted from Instagram. What was the topic for these questions? … Communication! This Q&A session is all about communicating better for the specific challenges that were submitted. The questions we answer today are: When I have an emotional low, my wife tends to be dismissive...especially if it has to do with her. What can I do differently? Please explain why transparency/openness/honesty is so important. Suggestions to stop getting defensive immediately when someone brings up an issue? Currently I have trouble with my partner opening up to me, but he'll confide in his friends/coworkers. suggestions? We Are Asking For Your Help: In the episode we asked for authentic reviews for, The Argument Hangover. If you have not gotten a copy you can get yours, and a free course on being better fighters, with this link. Then to help us with our publisher, please leave a review with the retailer you purchased from! Thank you so much, it really helps these principles get in the hands of more couples!

Gut check time for a few of you… just because you talk often doesn't mean you are being clear. Have you ever said to your partner out of disappointment, "I already told you multiple times"? Of course this can be frustrating to both you and your partner. If this keeps coming up, it is possible that you are being too vague in your communication, even if you are more assertive! Have you ever said anything like this to your partner: "I want you to help more around the house." "I want us to work on our intimacy." "I need to feel like you care more." "I will do more of what I say I will" If so, your upsets might be coming from you being too vague in your communication. In this episode, you will hear how to become crystal clear in your communications to keep common upsets from happening. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Not to be dramatic, but this episode will crack open your heart and radically transform your mind. Especially with how you see challenges or blocks around increasing intimacy in your relationship. If you're going through a rough patch or you just want to connect at a deeper level, this episode is for you! You will hear how true intimcy is going to be found outside or where you are currently looking... outside your comfort zone! Resources For Your Relationship: As you listen, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th! (hurry before it passes!) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Couple's Session here About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If you have been listening to this podcast, you now know that escalating conflicts and argument hangovers are not from what started the disagreement, but what you said or did after that. It's when you think to yourself "I don't even remember what started this!" Part of why this happens is because we are not great at "Holding Space" for our partners when they have high emotions or are emotionally triggered. For some this might be a new term, holding space. In this episode you will hear about what this really means and then you will get 5 things to do so that you can hold space for your partner. By doing this, you allow for an environment of acceptance and love for you and your partner to have emotions and not make that wrong. It's a powerful opportunity to connect deeper and develop emotional intimacy… when you appropriately hold space for the emotions they are having. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

After the last episdoe you now think "ok great, I'm doing my part, but what about my partner"? We asked many of you how your partner normally responds when you hold them accountable, and the answers were versions of: denial, defensiveness, withdrawing, being rude, or dismissive. If you don't have an agreement about how you will hold each other accountable, it can feel like being micro-managed or controlled. This leads to tension, and even feeling "parented" by each other. So instead of that frustration, tune in to this episode for specific ways to hold yourself and your partner accountable to making real progress. And while you're listening, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th!

Have you realized that you can be in a relationship, yet not be in a true partnership? It might seem like a simple word change but the experience can be radically different. You can be in a relationship yet still feel like a victim to your circumstances and your partner's responses day to day. A true partnership is made up of two people who are accountable for how they are showing up. More specifically these 5 specific things that we cover in this episode. In this type of partnership you will feel empowered to create and direct your life and relationship, regardless of the circumstances that show up! Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn't always happen right? Especially when a woman's needs are not being met. Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of women are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you as a partner, because at times these needs are not clearly understood and can be shared in a way that causes defensiveness. So what to do? Well, listen to this podcast episode where you will hear what the 3 needs are of women that are misunderstood. Then once you know these needs, you can have the conversations needed for your partner to truly feel loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

This episode might make you laugh out loud, but will also get you fired up to get rid of OLD energy in your life. It's critical that you clear out energetic clutter in your environment, in your relationship, and in your habits. If you want to invite in anything NEW (more intimacy, more fun, more connection), you need to make space for it. Tune in to this episode where Jocelyn dives into specific ways you can clear out old energy. And that includes old underwear (I just threw out a bunch and ordered more) Also, make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th. We might not host another one online, so now is your chance! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.