EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

We all know that relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to expressing our needs. Ever found yourself in a situation where you're feeling frustrated but can't quite put your finger on why? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the importance of identifying and expressing your needs within a romantic partnership. We'll explore why simply venting your frustrations isn't enough and how it can lead to misunderstandings and communication breakdowns. By learning to articulate your needs, you'll unlock a whole new level of understanding and connection. We'll discuss fundamental human needs, drawing inspiration from Maslow's Hierarchy and the 6 Human Needs model, and provide practical examples of physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Join us as we share relatable insights and actionable tips that will empower you to create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. Join The 30-Day Couples Challenge called "Prioritizing Us" as it starts July 1st HERE

In this episode we tackle a common challenge in relationships: expressing strong emotions to our partners without considering the present mood. We've all been there, feeling the urge to let it all out, only to realize it may not be the best time or could escalate tensions further. That's why we're here to guide you through the art of discerning the mood before speaking up. By understanding the momentum and direction of the interaction, you can make informed choices that either diffuse the energy or lead to a positive outcome. We'll also explore the importance of nurturing your partner's "Love Account," which acts like a bank account for love and connection. But that's not all! We'll share practical tips on how to approach these situations with empathy and curiosity, asking your partner what they truly need rather than jumping to conclusions. Sign up for The 30-Day Couples Challenge, which simplifies how to make positive shifts in your relationship with daily prompts/actions directly from us to your phone for 30 days. https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

As parents, we know that feeling of guilt from knowing that our kiddos saw or heard the argument. But instead of guilty, we want you to become motivated to focus on the 3 keys in this episode. Make sure they see you: DE-ESCALATE the rising emotion and conflict Implement a constructive pause, and not a rupture Fully REPAIR after an argument For more detail on these principles, get our 2 popular guides: De-Escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions guide here: Making Up & Moving Forward guide here:

The 30-Day Couples Challenge starts THIS week, so sign up here: https://mycoupleschallenge.com/ In this episode, we dive into the subtle ways that effort can dwindle once we've achieved our goals. Think about athletes reaching their peak or accomplishing a major milestone in your personal life—there's a loss of that initial hunger and drive. The same can happen in your marriage, but it's trickier because there isn't a clear finish line or "scoreboard" to tell us how well we're doing. By listening you will get the signs of declining effort, like depleted love accounts, quick and thoughtless communication, fading passion, and that feeling of coasting or routine. But don't worry, we've got you covered with five powerful ways to rekindle that effort. From small love deposits and appreciating conscious choices to thoughtful greetings and setting the right mood, we share practical strategies to feel more prioritized, loved, and connected.

You know that conflicts will happen in a marriage, this truth should not be resisted or avoided. However what if that same conflict comes up again and what if that turns into a pattern that shows up over and over again? This is what creates a hard season in marriage. But if this goes on for multiple weeks, months, or even years then you feel as if nothing is going to change and you lose hope in the marriage. Some people see ending the marriage as the only option, because honestly who would want to continue to expose themselves to the same pain over and over. You need relief… and we agree. But this episode gives you 7 steps to take to get yourself out of this pattern and subsequently out of this hard season in your marriage. It's not easy, but then again neither is this current situation and neither is a divorce. So really this is the best option for you. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

The obvious statement is that men and women differ in how they emotionally connect. But the actions one can take to close the gap between how men and women connect is not as practical. Couples get stuck in the trap of "I just don't connect the same way as my partner". In this episode you are going to hear 3 different ways that men feel emotionally connected and 3 different ways for women. No matter how different you think you and your partner are in this area of connection, you can use one of these ways to better connect and be in harmony with your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for busy couples to re-prioritize each other and be more connected.

Do you ever wish that you were back in that infamous "honeymoon" stage of your marriage? Believe us we understdand why we hear this from couples. You want to be in that feeling of newness, optimism, passion, and infinite possibilites with a true partner at your side. There is something to honor about this stage but the reality is that this is not just a short window of time that you cannot get back. It's just that you were doing a bunch of things unconsciously that were leading to this feeling of marrital bliss. In this episode you will be enlightened hearing these 4 things that you just forget to do after being together for years. In some situations it's not that you even forgot but they you never realized you were doing them in the forst place. But now you can relaize what these actions are and consciously bring them into your life to add to increaes your connection, optimism, and feeling of possibility! Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It's the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it's also only $19.

Do you ever feel that your partner just doesn't understand and that they just don't empathize with what you are feeling? This is a big topic for many couples. A key element of a great relationship is that you can be going through a difficult time (even if caused by your partner) and you have a partner that can be comforting and compassionate to be on your side as you go through it. In this episode you will hear the difference between empathy and sympathy so that you can better understand which you are actually needing from them. Then you will hear some of the blocks to showing empathy and sympathy and a few steps to better demonstrate that in your relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It's the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it's also only $19.

You can feel so taken off guard and frustrated when a seemingly simple conversation with your partner escalates into a conflict. When this happens both of you tend to say or do things that do more damage to the other. This is even more irritating because it could have been easily avoided in your mind. This is exactly the point of this episode, the mistakes that escalate conversations into conflicts. In this episode you will hear 3 mistakes so that you can better recognize them and take a more constructive action so that you can de-escalate the emotion, accept it, and still stay on the same team with each other. Resources For Your Relationship: NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It's the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it's only $19. If you haven't yet got the repair guide to go with it, it's the step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's also only $19!

At first you might not think that you feel any jealousy in your marriage. But jealousy is simply the feeling of unhappiness or anger because someone has something you want. Yet there are others that might feel this emotion more prevalently. In this episode you will understand more about jealousy and where it can come from. Then you will have 5 steps to take to overcome this feeling in collaboration with your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: 1) NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. 2) Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. 3) To find even more resources like webclasses, books, guides and coaching; visit our resources page here https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Understanding the concepts of inner child and shadow patterns is crucial for a healthy marriage. We are not going to sugarcoat this either, it's one of the most difficult yet necessary things to do. In this podcast, you will explore how these two aspects can impact your behavior and dynamic in your relationship. Then you will learn practical strategies for working with these deep rooted patterns, you'll gain valuable tools for integrating these parts of yourself, promoting greater self awareness and ability to break old patterns in your marriage. Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

By now you know that repairing after your conflicts with your partner is one of the most critical aspects for a marriage. It might even be the most critical. If you do not repair, you just create more problems later on and you drive an emotional wedge between you. Repair is not an easy thing to do for two reasons that you will hear in this episode. One of these reasons is the whole purpose of this episode… you do not identify the real root cause of the conflict. Most people just try and move on, but this will only have the problem repeat. In this episode are 5 root causes of conflicts that you need to reflect on in your repair process so that you can actually address and change the actions that are needed in your relationship. If you want to listen to the replay of the full webclass on this topic, just use this link here: Why Are We Arguing Again Webclass. Then if you are wanting to better use these root causes in your repair process, be sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide so you can stay on track all the way to resolve your conflicts.

Is it just random and based on your inherent personality traits whether you are a great spouse and partner? What if it wasn't so much about your personality traits anyway, as it was other character traits that you could develop along the way? That would feel encouraging and empowering to us, and it should to you as well! To us it doesn't matter as much about the personality traits that you come into a relationship with. The fact is everyone is different and that makes every relationship unique in the dynamics that will happen based on your trait differences. However, as you will hear in this episode, there are 4 crucial traits that you can proactively develop that will make you a great partner consistently! No matter what your personality these traits can and should be developed to have a great marriage. Resources For Your Relationship: We don't do this often so make sure you attend our FREE LIVE WebClass on March 30th, 2023: Why Are We Arguing Again? a weblcass to identify the real root causes of conflict so you can ultimately resolve them NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

We don't do this often so make sure you attend our FREE LIVE WebClass on March 30th, 2023: Why Are We Arguing Again? a weblcass to identify the real root causes of conflict so you can ultimately resolve them When a challenge comes up in your life or you have a conflict with your partner, do you shrink down to your default responses or rise to the occasion? When you face situations that call for you to change a pattern of behavior or adjust your willingness to have the hard but necessary conversations do you resist or embrace it? Today's episode is all about becoming a "Resilient" versus "Resistant" couple. A resistant couple is going to find themselves in the same patterns of conflict, results in life, and attitudes toward each other. To break out of these patterns you need to adopt the mindset of being resilient. You will hear examples of ways to adopt this new mentality so that you can make the real change you desire in your marriage and face life's challenges as a team! Ongoing Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

Red flags in regards to relationships are warning signs. But often these warning signs are spoken about as a reflection into the past as a reason to have gotten out of the relationship earlier. Though this is a fine practice if you are dating or even engaged, when it comes to a committed marriage, these red flags signify something different. These red flags are not reasons for you to leave the marriage at all, these are signs you want to be on the lookout for throughout your years together to help signal you both about the patterns that need to shift in your relationship together. In this episode you will hear which red flags you should be on the lookout for and then come together to figure out what needs to shift between the two of you. You will get examples of types of changes to make for each red flag so that you are constantly on the same page, growing closer together, and better managing the challenges that arise in life. Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

At this point you know that arguments are going to happen. It's not the right goal to try and not have them. It's all about the repair. Now a big problem that you have likely experienced yourself is that when you try and come back to the conversation, it just escalates and you relive the whole argument. Now you are probably even more angry and frustrated with each other. So in this episode we take you through an argument we just had 3 days ago while we were at the airport coming back from a trip. This one we did not keep from escalating and disconnecting us for over 24 hours. But then we did debrief our argument to find the root cause and resolve it together. You will authentically hear from us the mistakes even we made, but how you can debrief after an argument so that you too can shorten your argument hangovers and be able to learn the value lessons from an argument and change the patterns for the future! MAKE SURE YOU GET THE NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

In a marriage is it right to have expectations or does that just set you up for failure? If the answer is no, is it even the right goal to not have any expectations at all? When it comes down to your practical day to day life with your partner, the fact is you will have expectations, this cannot be avoided. Expectations are also the root cause of all your upsets. So what to do? In this episode you will hear about the expectations that are unfair and unrealistic to have because they will cause the biggest problems for you. If you can be open enough to communicate these with your partner you will be able to have a much smoother journey in marriage. There still will be times that conflict comes up from your "local" expectations momentarily. To repair these conflicts quickly, get the step-by-step guide to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19.

Love can feel simple and effortless in the beginning stages of a relationship, but it's not always easy to maintain that feeling over time. In this episode, we explore the 5 essential parts of love in a marriage that can help couples maintain and even grow their love for each other. We discuss how each part of love plays a crucial role in building a strong and mature relationship, and why neglecting any one of these parts can lead to challenges and struggles. We dive into the importance of passion and desire, friendship and companionship, safety and trust, shared experiences, and commitment in a marriage. We explore the common mistakes couples make in relationships and provide practical advice on how to nurture each part of love in a way that can strengthen a couple's bond. Whether you're in the early stages of a relationship or have been married for years, this episode will provide insights and tips to help you create a lasting and fulfilling marriage. Get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide here - get instant access for only $19 and gain trust and safety with your partner to resolve arguments for good!

As you now know from listening to this podcast, repairing conflicts is a critical skill to have a great relationship. BUT there is actually a key aspect of "conflict repair" that allows you to repair faster and more effectively. The opposite is actually just as true if not even more so. If you do not get this initial step correct, then it will lead to drawn out argument hangovers, leaving the conflict unresolved, and even resentment building up. In this episode you will hear about this one critical (initial) step that you must get better at to have a long term healthy, successful, trusting, and loving relationship! Also do not forget to grab your copy of the NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. If you want an immeidate resource to help you repair from a conflict RIGHT NOW, make sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide for just $19! Save yourself hurt and disconnect by repairing fully and quickly. Giveaway Details: We also mentioned that we would giveaway our course for free in a drawning. To participcate just email us your 1-2 sentance 'testimony' of how you used the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide. We will do the drawning by the end of Feb 2023. Email the testimony to: [email protected]

Communication should seek to connect rather than disconnect. When you get to a place of one being right and one wrong then you are just creating the environment of disconnection. This isn't the feeling you really want in a relationship, and you certainly do not come up with the best ideas for action that best serve the relationship itself. In this episode, you will learn how to keep yourselves from getting caught in this common dynamic of feeling like one person is right and the other is wrong, which can lead to disconnection and a lack of creativity in solving relationship issues. You will gain insight into the importance of understanding and accepting the impact on the other person before explaining your intent. The episode will also address why it's difficult in the moment to understand and accept the other person's experience and will provide solutions to help you transform these dynamics in your own relationship. You will discover tips on how to navigate disagreements without causing further damage to your relationship. A further help from getting caught in this dynamic is the "Making up and Moving Forward Guide" for just $19, which has helped hundreds of couples transform their dynamics and improve how they repair and resolve after an argument. Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. Also visit this page for all our other resources from free webclasses, to our books, and even the communication mastery course!

Resources For Your Relationship: NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It's the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. About the Episode: You will face obstacles and hardships in your life as a couple. These hardships will show up as external factors in your life whether with your adult children, behavior of young kids, how your in-laws treat you, getting let go from a job, or even difficult medical news. Many things that happen to you are out of your control! However in this episode you will discover how to cope with hardships as a couple so that you can feel supported and connected with each other. In being able to face these obstacles together you strengthen your own bond and find better solutions.

What does it mean to be a truly great communicator in your relationship? There is the idea that this means you will dramatically reduce the amount of tensions or challenges that you face. Relatively speaking that might be true but that is not the ONE thing that couples have in common who are great at communicating! In this episode you will hear what this one thing is. The fact is that you will have tension and face challenges in your marriage, that is not going away all together. After this episode you will have a better idea of what your goal is for communication and conflict resolution so that you can grow into truly masterful communicators and better stay on the same side with your partner when challenges arise! Resources For Your Relationship: NEW CONFLICT GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it's resolved for good and get back to the good times. It's called Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it's only $19. It is not available to the public yet, you can be the first to get it right now!

This episode provides bold reminders for the women to make positive changes in the relationship. It's easy to find ourselves unconsciously acting in ways that aren't our best, which can deplete and diminish the love in the relationship. This episode provides you the "tough love" that your friends and family won't provide for you. We're all human and so we're not expecting you to be perfect, but instead to see how you can be even 10-20% better for your relationship. Tune in for 3 pieces of feedback for the wives and women. Also, make sure you listen to the episode for the husbands and men. Sign up for the 5 Day Couples Challenges Challenge starting January 22rd, 2023 HERE Relationship Resources: 1) After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. 2) Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

This episode is a strong invitation for the men to step up and be a leader of the relationship. Being a leader is about acknowledging where you can be a better person and a better partner. It's about looking at the patterns that you have that are not serving you or the relationship. Then go to work on transforming those patterns first before asking your partner to change their own patterns. In this episode you will hear 3 pieces of feedback that we have for the men that come from the coaching sessions we have been having most recently. There are common threads that men can be responsible for right now to have an even better relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts on Jan 23rd, 2023. After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. It is usually spoken about as this thing that should be easy to do however. Mainly because it's accompanied by the statement "just let it go and move past it already!" But forgiveness isn't an easy thing to do and just moving on creates an environment for it to just pop up later. Or at the very least it creates an emotional wedge of disconnection with your partner. In this episode you will hear 4 steps you can take to be able to truly forgive and be able to move forward into a new future without bringing anything from the past! Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts on Jan 23rd, 2023. After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

When you get down to it, your life is not made up of big exciting events, it's actually all the tiny moments that make up the large majority of your life. That being said, are these moments fun, playful, connected, or intentional? Or do you fall trap to them being mundane, frustrating, disconnected, or checked out? In this episode you will hear 3 daily, weekly, and monthly habits to put in place so that your relationship can be successful by having all these small moments be meaningful. The small moments can only be mastered by small habits, so we invite you to commit to these as you start your new year! As a bonus, hear our word for the year and talk with your partner about the intention word you both want to set for your new year ahead! Resources For Your Relationship: Find all of the best next steps to contionue the growth within your relationship here.

For those of you that are parents, did that make your marriage more difficult or bring you both together? This could be asked about any challenge that you face as a couple, but parenting is definitely unique, at least it has been for us! We polled parents and found that it often changed their marriage in some common ways: they felt they became roommates, it was hard to make time for each other, more conflicts around different parenting styles, feeling of losing their identity, and the division of labor seemed unequal. This episode is about us completing our first year as parents since Skye was born on Dec 21st, 2021. This has been the hardest year of our marriage, even though there were other outside forces at work beyond being parents. So in the end of the year fashion where lots of reflection happens; we are sharing about how this first year our parents have changed us, felt difficult, and keeps us united. Resources For Your Relationship: Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50off Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

The end of the year is always a time for reflection. Typically this is about personal and professional events and how we would have liked them to go differently. This is also a prefect time to reflect on your relationship with your partner. We will all face challenges in life and it is the same in a marriage. Though every challenge is an opportunity, you will never see it if you do not take time to reflect and uncover what that is. In this episode you will hear our own reflections of this past year and the wisdom we took away from the challenges we faced in our own life and marriage. You will get 6 pieces of wisdom that you can utilize to change your perspective on the challenges that you faced, and how to use it to set a new course into the new year. Resources For Your Relationship: Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

It's likely that you have said one of these two things to your partner. "Why don't you just accept me for who I am" or "I really need you to change this _____". At some point in your relationship you will find yourselves getting more upset about things that your partner does, says, or ways they show up for you. Of course relationships are about supporting the needs of the other person but a big question arises at this junction… Where is the line of accepting my partner the way they are versus being able to ask for a change to be made. This is a thin line between resigning yourself to things continuing to not serve you or the relationship and constantly asking your partner to be different. This is especially when it comes to who they are as a person and their base personality traits. In this episode you will understand where this line is between change and acceptance so that at the end of the day you both are able to feel accepted as the person you are and be on a healthy path to growing into even better people and partners for each other. Resources For Your Relationship: Visit our website here for the best communication and conflict resolution resources! Everything from free webclasses, our book, and the communication mastery course bundle for online video training.

Have you never had that feeling of being perplexed and thrown off guard when you tried to bring something up to your partner? You might have had a recent upset, an event that you were frustrated by, or another emotion that you needed to express to your partner. Within a few seconds your partner dumps all their own upsets and frustrations at you; even going as far as to compare how their pain is worse than yours! This is an "emotional hijack" that makes the conversation all about them and leaves you feeling stunned, caught off guard, that it's unfair, and even selfish of them. What makes matters worse is that you had a positive intention to communicate openly and often vulnerably with them. After this, why would you even want to bring up anything in the future? In this episode you will hear about the reasons this dynamic happens and what is really going on for them to take over your conversation. Then you will hear 2 things that can be done differently so that you do not lose faith and trust in each other to be able to express yourselves without you feeling hijacked! Resources For Your Relationship: As a listener get $50 off The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you to be better at both the speaker and listener role, as to not hijack important conversations with your partner! At checkout use the code: 50bundle

Food that is "bland" isn't bad or inedible, it just lacks any zest or real flavor. Marriage can take on a similar feeling too, it's not that anything is a major problem, but you are not feeling any real zest, excitement, or even newness. As you will hear in this episode, all relationships will find themselves in this type of season for some specific reasons. You will also hear some examples, that might even be happening for you now, that signify that you need to take these steps to bring in some freshness, newness, and intentionally to your zest for life and each other! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument so you reconnect in minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Watch our free webclass on: End the Battle for Fairness to align relationship roles, reduce overwhelm, and be a united team again. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training).

This is a bit of a celebration episode for us personally… Just in the past week this podcast broke into the Top 20 relationship podcasts on Apple, we went over 100,000 followers on Instagram, and we had over 500 couples join the Fight Smarter Weblcass! (by the way if you missed the weblcass you can watch it again with this link) As you can imagine for us, we are very proud and excited, plus we have been receiving SO many questions from all the new couples in this relationship ecosystem. So this episode is focused on the 5 top questions we have been receiving over DMs and through emails from all this new activity. We are doing this in part so that the one thing WE KNOW, you can come to know too… That most couples are really dealing with the same kinds of challenges. Though the circumstances and emotional responses might be different, many of the relationship themes are the same. This is so that you know you are not alone in what you go through! Resources For Your Relationship: If you missed the Fight Smarter Weblcass you can watch it again with this link. The best parenting and discipline course we have found is from a good friend Amy McCready called Positive Parenting Solutions. The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Have you ever tried to validate your position during an argument by saying "Oh but that wasn't my intention"? Have you noticed how that doesn't help at all? At least in that moment, because it is not the right time. It shows the need to understand the big difference between intent and impact. In this episode you will hear about how intention doesn't matter in these moments and the more you fight for explaining it, the further down you will go into conflict. You will hear how to switch into acknowledging impact, which is the most important, and only thing, to do when your partner has emotion present. Resources For Your Relationship: Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple. If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Though you, and every other couple, face different challenges in your life and marriage; why do some struggle and some thrive? Struggling doesn't mean that you are just facing a challenge, because everyone will. Struggle then is the experience you have while facing a challenge. Of all the couples we talk to and coach, we have seen patterns between those that experience disconnection, anxiety, and tension and those that maintain connection, togetherness and being a team during challenging times. In this episode you will hear 4 differences that we have seen between couples that "struggle versus those that thrive". By knowing these differences, you will be able to implement a few simple things to move out of a state of struggling to one of progress and growth. Resources For Your Relationship: Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple. If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your "wealth grows at the extent you grow" and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth. In this episode you will hear 3 things that women need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do 'deal with' different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all women in their respective relationships! Let's go… Resources For Your Relationship: Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your "wealth grows at the extent you grow" and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth. In this episode you will hear 3 things that men need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do 'deal with' different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all men in their respective relationships! Let's go… Resources For Your Relationship: Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

We are just off hosting the Couples Workshop in Arizona yesterday, and this was one of the biggest takeaways from the ½ day in person event. Communication seems easy when you only think of it as "verbalizing what you are thinking". But this often leads to the biggest communication mistake that turns simple conversations into an argument. In this episode we will give you the inside look at the most effective communication tool that we teach at the Couples Workshop and in our coaching. By changing your very first sentence to your partner you can stay on the same team together and support each other in fulfilling your relationship needs and wants! Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Do you feel like life is piling things onto you and your partner right now? There are defintely seasons where a lot of hard things can hit you all at once which really makes it difficult to stay positive and stay connected as a team. In this solo episode you will hear from Jocelyn to get two things to do in seasons like these. Everything, even challenges, are temporary. But use these two things so you can stay connected until the ride is over! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Here you are having a slightly tension filled conversation with your partner, then out of nowhere they bring up something from the past! "You did the same thing last week" or "this is exactly what you do, you don't respect me". One of the most common things we hear that escalates things quickly is the past being brought up. This is not just random however, this is an indication of a few things. In this episode we're going to share FOUR of the most common things this indicates and all 4 could really strike a chord, so be sure to listen all the way to the end! Resources For Your Relationship: There are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, "that was the most clarifying 1 hour we've spent in a long time." To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they're gone. Text: 602-321-5652 or email [email protected] If that date is already past then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Men, there is something you don't understand about your female partners… Being completely honest here, this is something that women might forget in the moment as well. When women don't understand this about themselves then they don't communicate in the best way or request what it is they need so that it can be received by their male partners. Men, without understanding this need that women have, you will easily invalidate them and easily escalate the conversation into a triggering conflict. In this episode you will (both) understand this need that women have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple. Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here!

Women, there is something you don't understand about your male partners… Being completely honest here, this is something most men don't even understand about themselves! When men don't understand this about themselves then they cannot even communicate or request what it is they need and default to shutting down, being silent, or even leaving the physical space without so much as a word about what is happening. Women, without understanding this need that men have, you will take it personally and do the opposite actions that are needed to help; pushing your male partner further away or shutting down even more. In this episode you will (both) understand this need that men have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple. Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here!

If you have ever felt that you needed to make a difficult decision or that you have been in the same place in your marriage longer than you've wanted, you likely need to identify your values and adjust your priorities! Now this can be a very seasonal thing, even core values can adjust based on the season you are coming out of or wanting to enter into! Sometimes it even involves rearranging your core values to one's that are more important to you right now. But this can be a hard conversation because it takes getting clarity as well as being willing to ask hard conversions, be honest with yourself, and change some habits. In this episode you will hear the exercise we use to redefine our values in each season and align our priorities with those values. We are going through that season in our marriage right now and we will share our current values, our new priorities and this exercise that we put up on our frig! Resources For Your Relationship: Get the Values and Priorities Exercise as a BONUS in The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $100 off with the code: bundle100

After going through the most challenging month of my life, which of course had a major impact on Jocelyn as we went through it together, this is one of the major lessons I learned. Though you experience different challenges and varying degrees of emotional stress around them, the fact remains that challenges themselves are temporary. This realization was a major turning point during this time. In this solo episode you will hear about two distinct aspects of circumstantial challenges, you will feel some relief and optimism for any challenge you are currently facing, but also you will understand the decision point that you can make to turn it all around in your favor. Resources For Your Relationship: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let's end "The Battle for Fairness" in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership. If that date is passed then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Do you remember your wedding vows, could you tell us what they are and more importantly if you have been keeping them? Sorry if that feels like a bold and challenging question, but the point is that many of us have forgotten what we promised our spouse at the start of the marriage! There are a few reasons this happens, tune into the episode to hear what those are. But the more important thing is to ongoingly remake your promises to each other to be a match to the next season of life together and for the individual people you are becoming. It was our anniversary this past weekend, and the practice of recreating our promises with each other is something we do each year. In this episode we will share with you the exercise we do and share with you the promises we just made with each other. Then you can do the same with your partner and create the future you truly desire for your marriage! Resources For Your Relationship: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let's end "The Battle for Fairness" in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership. If that date is past then you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

You are familiar with those times where you go to ask for help or share a need you have with your partner. All of a sudden you find yourself keeping score of all the things you do, comparing how much you do, and making sure then see that it's more than they do. Now you are in a battle for what is fair and where you feel things are out of balance. In this episdoe you will hear about where this dynamic comes from and the main tips to get our of the cycle. This is a complex dynamic as well so be sure to join the FREE webclass to overcome this battle for good: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let's end "The Battle for Fairness" in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. As a followup from last week, we want to cover 3 of the challenges that men are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address "everything" that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it'd be helpful for you to know. As mentioned in the episdoe, this all leads to a battle for fairness and balnace in a marriage and leads to additonal tension or conflict. So to better resolve this challenge in your marriage, join the FREE Webclass "End the Battle for Fairness" that is live on Sept 15th. If the date has already passed, you can book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you're facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

This episode is a dose of motivation and perspective change for your marriage and life. Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you're facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. That's why we want to cover 3 of the challenges that women are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address "everything" that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it'd be helpful for you to know. Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you're facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

Are we the only ones facing some "challenges" in life right now? Let's talk about the real stuff going on. When you face challenges – whether in your marriage or life circumstances you're facing – do you become smaller or bigger? "Smaller" meaning: you shrink down, become paralyzed, maybe even a victim mentality. "Bigger" meaning: you rise to the occasion, you get resourceful, you call on support/help, you shift your perspective and get into action. Today's episode will cover some personal challenges and how we operate when being big or small people, and how we shift our perspectives day to day. Also, there are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, "that was the most clarifying 1 hour we've spent in a long time." To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they're gone. Text: 602-321-5652 or Email [email protected]