EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Have you had the experience of being inspired for a short amount of time, then realize something was missing to actually create the actual change you wanted in your life and marriage? Or how about with your partner... have you been frustrated because they say they are doing to make a change, only to fall back into the same patterns in just a few weeks? This can be frustrating for both you and your partner, especially when they have said real change was going to happen and it doesn't. You lose a little bit of hope and trust in them. So in this episode you are going to hear about 3 things that your marriage requires to create that real and lasting change that you really want. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the brand new Couples Experience program starting Sept 1st, 2022. Read the details that you heard in the episode and register within the next 2 weeks. Then you can start your relationship assessment, book the 'results call' with us, begin the program, and block your calendar for the first community session! If the date for registration has passed then you can order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Having hard conversations is a part of being in a marriage. These conversations come up when you feel disconnected, when a past conflict is unresolved, or when you are feeling disconnected and want to get back to connection. Depending on each of your styles of communicating, when you go to have these conversations, you might end up in the "Pursue-Withdraw" pattern. In this episode you will hear the dynamics of this pattern, where one of you is trying to engage but the other pulls away, as well as the steps to take to get out of this pattern. Once you can navigate this pattern, you will feel confident that you can better handle these hard conversations while being on the same side with each other. Resources For Your Relationship: Register FREE for the LIVE Webclass August 17th, 2022 on: Handling Hard Conversations in Marriage and Creating a Safe Space For All Emotions. After that date, you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

'Emotional Agility' is your ability to be with and accept your strong emotions while letting them better inform you of the next actions to take in your life. As you can already tell this is not an easy thing or a natural thing when you feel big emotions like fear, worry, anxiety, regret, or resentment. Typically what would happen when these strong emotions come up, we either: avoid or suppress the emotion and try to just move on, just react and make another bad decision in these stressed states, for others they obsess over the thoughts and the emotions overtake and dibilate them into not doing anything. Yet in this episode you will hear about "emotional agility" and how you can develop yourself to better handle high emotions to stay connected as a couple and acting toward your best interests. Resources For Your Relationship: Book mentioned in podcast, Emotional Agility HERE Register for the upcoming FREE webclass on "How to Have the Hard Conversations".

Before you click away from seeing the overused word "goals", remember goals are the things you want to achieve in your life and marriage. So they are important, even though this conversation has been talked about so much. But there is a MISSING PIECE to all of this which is identifying your standards! This is a conversion that we are even going through ourselves as we redefine what we want our next season of life and marriage to be. Goals don't always get achieved BUT they never will if you don't realize this key piece about your acceptable standards. This is all a part of being able to live your dream life as well. So make sure you tune into this one. The key terms here also come from the book we have been reading, The Power of One More, by Ed Mylett. That link is below again as well! Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! Resources Mentioned in the Episode: The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

A funny thing in a relationship is that in the beginning your differences attracted you to your partner. Some time later those differences become points of tension and butting heads. All of a sudden you want them to be less assertive and opinionated, more organized and to remember to put household things in the places you want, you want them to change their tone and sound less accusatory, or you differ on decisions to either go on a trip or to save money. In this episode you will understand more about where your personality differences come from, but also that you don't have to seek to change them. You will hear about how our discovery of our differences in personality actually led us to being able to create more understanding, ease, and flow in our relationship. We use a type of personality test called Human Design to give us amazing insights into our natural characteristics, where we are different, but then how to use them to be a better team. Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Trips to see your in-laws… these are supposed to be times of fun, connection, and relaxation. Yet many times they can be quite the opposite. You might feel drained, depleted, constrained from being yourself and what you really want to do, and end up ending the trip without it being what you really wanted and would have fulfilled you. The core reason for this is blurred or crossed boundaries. In this episode you will hear, after we just went on a trip to see our families, the categories of boundaries, why they get crossed, the reasons you do not bring them up, and some tips to create more harmony on your trips to see family. Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50 Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

The most important thing in relationships is repairing and resolving conflicts. Because conflicts WILL happen, it's not about the amount or even having them. Now true repair is not necessarily an easy thing, because of the emotion you both have, the different perspectives you have, and the complex dynamics that happen from making a few mistakes. These mistakes leave you feeling unresolved, that it's your fault, blamed, or forced to move on and get past it. In all cases you don't feel understood or confident that anything will change or keep this from happening again. In this episode you will hear the mistakes that keep you from truly repairing after having arguments, so that you can effectively do the most important thing for your relationship... actually repair from conflicts! Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50 Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Having frustrations and feelings of resentment over your roles and responsibilities is a common thing we hear. One parter is frustrated about not getting help, then the response they get is: "just tell me what you need me to do" OR "I'm happy to help, just tell me what" OR sometimes "it's your job, you stay at home, I work, so just get it done". This is frustrating for both partners, and triggers defensivness and often a conflict. This is because: For the partner having to remind: it feels like it's one person's responsibility to "own" the housework. It can feel like parenting your partner. For the partner feeling blindsided: I just don't see those things, I wish you'd tell me before you get so frustrated, they feel like a lot of emotion comes at them suddenly. In this episode you will hear the main sources of this dynamic and what you can do differently to get back on the same page and feeling supported and loved in the roles and responsibilities you choose. Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You and your partner both do a lot of things for the relationship and marriage to work. A lot of these things are done each day and are very routine. But it's easy to feel taken for granted, or even taken advantage of when you do not feel that your partner has acknowledged you for those things. In this episode you will be reminded to acknowledge your partner more often AND 3 "things" to acknowledge them for that will progressively have them feel more and more acknowledged for. There are things that you would have not thought of! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Would anyone actually raise their hand and say that they enjoyed failure? If any, it would be a small number for sure because we just don't like that feeling that comes with failing. But what if failure wasn't a separate thing from success? What if failure had to happen on the journey to success? In this motivational moment episode, Aaron goes into the idea he got from his experience traveling to Austin Texas for a crypto conference. Though it was an unlikely place to get an idea for relationships, tune into this episode for a new perspective and motivation around any failure you experience in your relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

As you know from listening to this podcast, actually resolving conflict is the most important thing for a healthy relationship. TODAY this topic falls into the next most important thing in a relationship and that is making positive and lasting change toward what you desire in the relationship. This is not as easy as it sounds as you know that you can learn something from reading a book, listening to a podcast, or going to a seminar and only have the 'change' last for a short period of time. So in this episode today you will not only learn what creates lasting change but also get a way to actually make that happen in your life and marriage long term. Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

​​There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". Typically what happens however is that you point the finger at your partner for that emotion and tell them that they need to change. However this motiviational moment is about looking inward and taking ownership of being a better person first so that the marriage can get better! Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

You have a lot of life to manage. You have your job, getting kids where they need to go, paying bills and managing finances, scheduling trips and events with family, and on it goes. A part of living life is this management of things but sometimes it can make you feel that they are significant, heavy, or even a burden. This energy of course impacts your relationship, how you communicate with each other, and your general attitude toward one another. But what we all are innately wired for is play, fun and exploration. Somewhere along the line we forgot that or traded it in for the "adulting. This episode is about 5 ways to bring more fun and inspiration into your day, your life, and your marriage so you can experience more of what you are truly supposed to in your life together as a couple. Resources Mentioned in the Episode: The Power of One More by Ed Mylett The Untethered Soul Guided Journal by Michael Singer Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It's pretty clear that world circumstances are making things more difficult right now. For some, maybe more than ever. There are political tensions with countries, a slowing down of the job and economic markets, costs of goods going up, even inequalities that still linger. All of these factors might be having you feel uncertain about the future or even worried or afraid for what might happen next. Either way sometimes you need s a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of doubt, concern, or worry that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You probably don't actively think "I have some resentment building up toward my partner". Resentment is a little like putting small amounts of sand into a backpack over time. You might not notice the weight of the sand in the beginning. Then as time goes on, you might not even notice that the backpack now weighs 50lbs because you've gotten used to it over time. But resentment is a very unhealthy attitude and feeling toward your partner that will lead to a relationship ending if not dealt with. OK, so even if you are not there yet, the underlying feeling of resentment creates a block to intimacy, fulfillment, and making any progress in your relationship. It can feel like you've been wronged, a sense of bitterness, or being checked out. In this episode you will hear about how to better identify the early signs of resentment building as well as the empowering way to release, let go, and be able to create a new future of connection and being a team. Resources For Your Relationship: UNTIL THE 5 SPOTS ARE GONE... You can take your relationship assessment + get a 1 hour results call with us personally! Just message us "I want to do the assessment" to either: Email: [email protected] Text: 602-321-5652 IG DM: meet_thefreemans Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

This is your last chance to attend the online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"! Attend this 2 hour life changing one on May 29th, 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a free bonus HERE. This brings us to the end of the Spice Up Your Sex Life series, and we want to give you our personal update. Becoming parents we recognized how the allocation of time and energy certainly changed. But we were not going to have that be an excuse for us, we knew we had to get more creative. We can honestly say that our intimacy and sex life has improved after being parents, but it was not by accident. With the two other podcasts you have heard, here is how we have brought it all together to have our intimacy be even more satisfying, despite time, energy, or sleep changing. Resources For Your Relationship: - Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". But you probably know that thinking more about it, or even judging it, doesn't seem to make it go away! Tune in for this motivational message about how "there are no wrong feelings" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too! Relationship Resources: For this month, get access to the Spice Up Your Intimacy Workshop on May 29th, when you start the Communication Mastery Course Bundle! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

First things first, would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022, with the intimacy coach from last episdoe Ashley Jones, by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a a free bonus HERE. Now you might not realize the subtle lifestyle choices that could be impacting your hormones, therefore impacting your sex life. Wait a second... are you saying my desire for my partner could be impacted by my hormones? ... YES! No matter what age range you fall into, you could be experiencing hormonal imbalances but write it off as being "tired" or "not as motivated as before" or "too stressed to want sex." But you'll hear Dr Sabrina Solt address the common hormonal imbalances that could also be impacting you. You'll walk away with specific new lifestyle changes you can make to positively boost your sex life! After the episode if you know you want more wisdom or specific help from Sabrina, you can learn more and connect with her here: Web: https://drsabrinasolt.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/drsolt/?hl=en Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

There are going to be times that you feel are more challenging in your relationship. This might because of outside circumstances or because of patterns with your partner. There might even by times where it's both. Tune in for this motivational message around going through a "rough patch" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too! One thing before you listen.... Would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a a free bonus HERE. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

First of all, would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a a free bonus HERE. Now pause for a minute to think about this... What level of desire and wanting to be intimate with your partner are you currently experiencing? If you notice, desire itself is not always and immediately available in your relationship. In different seasons of life it can feel less or more. So where does it go if it's not as present for each other right now? This podcast interview is with intimacy coach Ashley Jones, the one we did the intimacy workshop with in Hawaii! This episode will give you a whole new perspective on desire, how to create more of it, and remove what blocks it! We promise that you will be excited about exploring intimacy even more together. After the episode you can learn and connect more with Ashley here: Web: https://www.uplevellove.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/uplevellove/?hl=en Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Limited thinking leaves you feeling as though you have to choose this OR that. Limitless thinking puts you in a creative state to do/be/have this AND that. Tune in for this motivational message that will empower you in any area of life. All you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Have you thought much about legacy? It's a word with a big meaning behind it we know. Many people don't think about this until later in life, yet it can be a very impactful thing right here and now. We will take this one layer deeper even… What is the story of your relationship right now? Does it seem like a comedy, tragedy, drama, or mystery? Whichever it is, is this the legacy you want to create? In this episode you will reframe how you see the current situations in your relationship as well as understand the aspects of the "Hero's Journey" so that you can create yourself and your partner as the heroes in the story that you are writing and experiencing at the same time! Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We know there are times that you feel discouraged in your relationship, and honestly sometimes it's just about an event in your individual life that isn't going the way you would like. There might even be times that you just feel a general sense of discouragement when you wake up. This feeling isn't from anything specific, but some carry over from the previous days or weeks. Either way all you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

There's something you wish your partner would do for/with you. Or there's something you want to receive or experience in your partnership. But you might have thought to yourself, "if I tell them that I want _____, it won't be as romantic because they didn't think of it themselves." This episode is about rethinking what is really ROMANTIC, and how to set your partner up for success to fulfill your wants and needs….whether it's a small or big gesture within the partnership. Relationship Resources: Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us and overcome any challenge you're facing as a couple. Go Here and Sign-up. Connect with us on Instagram HERE.

A special opportunity for podcast listeners only at this time! Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways: Email: [email protected] Text: 602-321-5652 IG: @Meet_TheFreemans In This Episode is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that happens in every relationship. It is one of the main patterns that cause conflicts and keep them going without you realizing it! This principle is written about in a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It's a very insightful, simple and powerful principle. Personally we listened to the first 3 chapters (on 1.5 speed) and felt we had gotten the point and urgency enough to put it into practice and share with you about it. Without realizing this cycle you will feel as if you are in a trap and can't get out. Additional Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open! About the Episode: You've had this thought in the middle of an argument right, "what are we really arguing about right now?" This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don't even know what got you here? Likely not! But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?! That's why in today's episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book "Thank you for arguing" and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it's true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will hear though, all relationships have arguments but there is one key that leads to a healthy relationship, or ones that eventually end! On top of that you are going to hear the 3 sources of arguments as well as the 3 methods of arguments so that you can better navigate arguments in your own relationship and bring them to a win-win resolution to be more connected and understanding of each other. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) The referenced book for the episode: Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/ Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you? Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need. Partner B- wasn't prepared and then gets defensive. Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated. Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging. Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames. Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few. Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don't worry, most people we talk to haven't identified it, which is why we're covering it on today's episode. This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like "we'll never see eye to eye on this." By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND discuss to help eliminate most upsets. Also, schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. We take you through our powerful expectation process and you will know how to handle things differently together. Read the details and book one of the 5 spots HERE. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn't to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation. Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in. Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Parenting Resources From Episode: Dreamland swaddles & blankets - 20% OFF EVERYTHING using code: Freemans15 Go Diaper Free elimination communication book and potty training program Wonder Weeks - developmental leaps app Taking Cara Babies newborn programs

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from "NOPE, definitely not" to "Shouldn't we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves"? So we're going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question. We admit that like a few comments, it's not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better. It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you. In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from. Resources For Your Relationship: The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) PS: for a limited time if you review the book on Amazon, you can be entered into a drawing for a free course from our Empowered Couples University!

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy. For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it's hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that's often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy. When the energetics aren't there often the sex isn't that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction. In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii. Resources For Your Relationship: FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now! Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book! Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON'T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like "I would like you to stop _____ " or "why can't you just _____". In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn't happen, you just get more frustrated. Todays' episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it'll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don't do)! Think of todays' episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend. You probably don't think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that's why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected can be even more painful. Underneath you can feel rejected in your ideas, how you communicate, even in your habits. This feeling can be why you don't bring up certain topics to your partner or even why you feel tension lingering between you and them. In this episode you will hear the steps you can take if feeling rejected is a fear that has been creating emotional distance from your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here, or email us at [email protected] About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something. We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you out. In this episode you will get 2 steps to take that will help you create influence with your partner so that you both see the change that you desire in the relationship. Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it's overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your "habits". We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not "bad" just habits that do not serve you any more. There will be many times in your relationship that you will find this to be true as well. There are some habits (whether in communication, roles, financial, or even task management) that do not serve your relationship any longer. At the end of the day habits are very powerful because the majority of the actions you take in a day, even the thoughts that you think or the emotions that you feel… are just habits. We have found that there are many "habits" we have put in place that are vital to the health and success of our own relationship. In this episode we talk about 5 small habits that we have put in place that now, without even thinking about them, make a big difference in our marriage!

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you're having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It's frustrating when that happens! Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today's episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict. Episode Resources & Links: Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg HERE

The "forgetting curve" principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can't be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders. But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post. In this episode we distinguish between "nagging" your partner and healthy "assertiveness." Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship. To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.

Baby Freeman is HERE! If you're seeing this episode it means our baby girl was born :) But we recorded these episodes to make sure you have resources while we're snuggling her. The opposite of "Permission Based Communication" is "Permission-Less Communication"....which is more likely to lead to defensiveness, backlash, or an unintended argument. The thing is, it's not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it's not respecting and honoring your partner's boundaries or taking into account if they're really and open and prepared for it. And this applies to moments when you want to: ask them to do something, express feelings you have about a certain issue, give them feedback, etc. Implementing "Permission-Based Communication" will help you two have more constructive conversations, so you'll love this episode! Also, make sure you watch the FREE WebClass we recorded for you all: The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it's important to pause each year and make sure you're on track with what's important to you both. Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you're pursuing together. Tune in to this episode to hear: How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities 3 meaningful questions to ask each other Resources Mentioned: Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling "in sync" with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of "attraction," it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies. This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your communication and relationship. Get ready for a powerful reflection! Resources in this episode: NEW FREE WebClass: The 5 Steps to Repair After an Argument in Just Minutes HERE Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray HERE Sacred Relationships book HERE

A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode! The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument. This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest. But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve things faster, and move towards emotional healing. Tune in for this critical step to take. Relationship Resources: YOU GET EARLY ACCESS to our brand new (and free) WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (instead of hours, days, weeks). GO HERE TO SIGN-UP AND WATCH.

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner's "love account". Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less "love deposits" are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life. Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn't just a relational "nice idea" because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up… Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) *It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a huge deposit into our love accounts!*

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can't get anywhere if you don't know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are "not there yet" or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like. In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift. Episode Resources & Links: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) The Gap and The Gain book by Ben Hardy HERE

The Danish people have ranked as the "happiest people on earth" for 40 years in a row starting in the 70's, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn't dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it's actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy. So in today's episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances. Episode Resources & Links: If you're a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE. Read the book we referred to in the podcast, The Danish Way of Parenting HERE Read our book, The Argument Hangover and claim $200 worth of bonuses HERE. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Episode Resources & Links: FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE Video on baby communication sounds HERE Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December. As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter. Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child. By no means are we saying we will be perfect or that we are judging any other ways of parenting, we just wanted to be open with you all about our journey and to even see the correlations to being a great partner. We believe that if you want your children to have great relationships, you have to have one yourself! In this episode, we discuss: Our preparation for natural birth and helpful programs Non-mainstream techniques for parenting intentionally Conscious parenting and raising her to be the best version of herself Developing "Emotional Intelligence" in our parenting approach (just like our marriage) What we've learned from different cultures (outside the United States) for developing happy human beings Additional Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she's takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos! As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Step Parenting Success System that has helped over 100,000 parents of toddlers to teens bring peace into their homes. During this episode you will hear: What to do if you disagree on your parenting philosophy like authoritative vs her method of Positive Parenting Solutions What to do if triggered by your kids and preventing an argument with partner and How to make sure your partnership AND your parenting thrives at the same time. Don't forget to register for the follow-up FREE Webclass that Amy is doing for our community only at: onlinecouplesworkshops.com/parenting On the webinar you will get: The 5 Steps for No-Yelling consequences ALL parents can agree on How to find common parenting ground — even if it feels like a battlefield 3 action steps you can take TODAY to unite in parenting Resources For Your Relationship: If you missed the Nov. 10th webinar... Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled. Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn't immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection. In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner's level of fulfillment is at. Resources For Your Relationship: Get 50% OFF The On-The-Go Communication Course to enhance your communication skills, even during your busy life, by using the code: PODCAST About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.