Disability After Dark

This episode was powerful. I interviewed fellow podcaster and sex educator Chris Maxwell Rose of Pleasure Mechanics.com and The Speaking of Sex Podcast. She has recently been dealing with a new diagnosis of Type 1 Diabetes. We explore and uncover what this diagnosis of disability has meant for her journey into pleasure and pain. There are so many things she said that resonated for me, as a disabled queer man. This interview shines a bright light on disability in a whole new way, and left me with a lot to think about. I hope it does the same for you!

This episode is a fun interview with my friend and fellow disabled writer Carrie Wade. We sit down to chat with her about Kink, open letters to able-bodied partners, vulnerability and so much more, as she highlights why it is important for her to tell these stories. She is an important voice in the disabled community, and especially for young, queer disabled women, and I was happy to share space with her and shine a light on her work.

In this episode, I interview my good friend, sex educator and author Kaleigh Trace. We talk about disability and sexuality broadly at first, but then we explore the issues of passing privilege, embarrassing sex stories as a result of disability, and so much more. Find out more about Kaleigh Trace at www.kaleightrace.com.

This is a throwback episode for me where I share my stories as a young, teenaged queer cripple. I talk about wanting to fit in, wanting sex, and most of all wanting friendship as a young, disabled teen. Through these stories, I hope to provide insight for young cripples coming up in the world, as well as their parents, who may well want to understand how their child's experience in high school as a disabled youth feels.

This episode was so awesome to tape. I talked to my friend Stacie who recently came out to me as a "devotee" (def: someone sexually attracted to disability). I was fascinated by this because as disabled people we have been taught that devotees are dangerous. I wanted to understand what her relationships as a devotee were like, and understand it more. She explains about her attraction, her relationships and subsequent marriage as a result of being a devotee.

DisabilityAfterDark on the Dancefloor! In this episode, I talk about my experiences entering the sexually charged spaces that make up the club scene from the perspective of a queer cripple. I talk about getting ready to go to the club, what it feels like to be unable to enter the club due to inaccessibility, and what actually happens to you once your in 'da club. I suggest that we need both physical and emotional accessibility available in these spaces so that crips can club too.

In this episode, I have the opportunity to interview Kelle Carbone; grad student and trans man. We discuss the similarities between the transgender community and the disabled community within our own experiences, and advocate the need for more intersections between the two groups.

In this episode, I go deeper into the topic of dating and disability, discussing the difference between WOULD and SHOULD when it comes to dating with a disability. I also share how it feels for us, the disabled to date and what that means. I hope this episode shines a light on dating and disability more than it has been before.

In this episode, entitled "Accessing Anal", I talk about how inaccessible anal sex has seemed to me as a Person with Disabilities, but that I've always wanted to try it, but felt that I simply couldn't. I talk about issues like cleanliness, pain, spasticity, and advocate that we should have more information around anal sex and disability. I also maybe refer to myself as a human dildo. Enjoy!

In this episode, we go deep into how sex and disability, and all the issues that surround that, can lead to a type of sexual depression and anger connected to disability. I explain what that felt like for me as a Queer Cripple, and advocate for space to be made where the sexually active disabled person, can share their experiences.

In this episode, I talk about another myth around sex and disability. The "oooooh, we can't have sex because I'll hurt you" myth. We go deep into why people are so afraid to 'hurt' disabled people, and how this affects their views on sex and disability. I also share that some of us might like pain, and discuss why this is the case.

In this episode, I discuss how ableism has affected me as a Queer man doing the work of disability and looking for lust, love and all that jazz. I talk about recently when I admitted that one of my preferences was able-bodiedness, and how I had never really considered a disabled partner or lover as a desired option.

In this episode, I talk about my experience as a disabled man in the digital dating realm. I share things guys have said to me online on apps like Grindr, and underscore how that made me feel. I also discuss why having disability in my online profiles is important, and how it has helped my own my Queer Cripple identity.

In this episode, we explore what it feels like to talk about sex/sexuality with your Personal Care Attendant, and what that means for a disabled person.

In this episode of "Disability After Dark", I consider whether or not the devices that disabled people use everyday (wheelchairs, slings and other things) can be considered sexy. I explore some of the "improper" ways :) they can be used.

In this podcast, I explore the commonly held belief that disabled people don't have sex drives. We explore what sex means to disabled people, and briefly discuss that sometimes sex and disability is so much deeper than even we realize

In this VERY FIRST EPISODE of Disability After Dark, I introduce you to myself, Andrew Gurza and share with you who I am, and why I think sexuality and disability is so important.