Disability After Dark

I am SO EXCITED about this episode! On this one, I sit down with some of my all-time favorite podcasters, the gals of the wildly successful show, Wine and Crime. They come on to ask me questions about sex and disability; we share stories, laughs, and have a really funny, honest conversation. You can find Wine and Crime here, and follow them on Twitter @WineandCrimePod

In this episode, I look at popular seasonal sex tips from magazines like "Hot Summer Sex Tips" and look at whether or not these tips incorporate disability, or how ableist some of these tips in fact are, and how they don't work for disabled people. Enjoy!

In this minisode I get a letter about healthcare professionals stuck in the binary, inaccessible sex toy shops with medieval front doors and a person who regained the ability to masturbate after losing dexterity all from an anonymous listener who loves the show. Then we hear from someone who wants advice on how they can express their sexuality. Enjoy. Minisodes are now every two weeks on Wednesday. Send in your letters to [email protected].

In this episode, I take one of my favorite classic romantic comedies from the 90s, "You've Got Mail" and think about how that movie might look if the lead heroine (Meg Ryan) had a disability. How would the movie change? How would the narrative change? What would different scenes be like if accessibility had to be considered? All these things and more are explored in this episode. Enjoy!

Holy fuck, it's episode 100 of DisabilityAfterDark. What???! For this episode, I caught up with one of my favorite all time guests, Amin Lakhani. He reached out to me saying that he had more stuff to talk about including depression, sex, and disability, building a brand, cumming in a glove and so much more. This is a really important interview and it was totally fitting as episode 100!

In this brand new minisode, we get 2 very different letters in the inbox. Korbyn asks how to cope with the onset of a new disability, and asks how to manage this with partners. Then, we get a letter from Anonymous who shares a story of some hot sex they had with a partner, and how dom/sub/puppy play may interplay with their autistic identity.I also ask YOU to submit stories about your childhood/teen years as a disabled person and offer other suggestions for the next minisode. You can submit to [email protected]

In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and Pleasure Professional Eva Sweeney. She tells about her experiences working in the field of sex and disability through O School. Eva tells us hilarious stories about sex in her teens years; cum, dog hair and so much more. This was a really fun one. Follow Eva's work at crippingupsexwitheva.comEnjoy!

This episode is a really fun, simple episode where I tell you all about some great sex I had recently. I wanted to share because we so rarely hear disabled people telling great sex stories. So often our sexual encounters as disabled people are bogged down with ableism, and I wanted to share a moment that was just some really good sex for this queer cripple. Enjoy!

In this episode, I talk with chronically ill sex blogger Rachael Rose about her blog Hedonish.com. We talk about sexuality and chronic illness, brain fog and sex, why she once named her illness "Fred"; what brings Rachael pleasure as a chronically ill person, our "jewish-ness" is revealed and so, so much more. Be sure to follow Rachael's work at Web: www.hedonish.comTwitter: @hedonish

In this episode, I talk about some of the current sex toys on the market for disabled people. I look at the ableist mess that is the "Intimate Rider" product and explore whether I think a Tenga Egg sleeve donated by Come As You Are would actually be accessible for someone like me by opening it live on the air. I also talk more about my new venture to create the first line of sex toys for and by physically disabled people.

In this episode, I talk with a listener all the way from the UK, Morgan. We talk about their experiences with autism, sexuality, and queerness. They tell us about sex in a McDonald's, how autism affects their sex drive, autism in dom/sub/daddy relationships and a whole lot more. If you want to follow Morgan, you can do so here:www.twitter.com/kinkyautisticEnjoy!

In this episode, I get an e-mail from an anonymous listener who talks about their journey with gender identity and also discusses a little bit about their dating history as an autistic non-binary person. They also mention the lack of representation of autistic people dating in the media. This was a nice, detailed glimpse into their world, and I was happy to read and discover that this podcast has been helpful to them.PLEASE WRITE IN FOR A MINISODE to [email protected].

In this episode, I review 2018's Best Picture Winner "The Shape of Water". I talk a lot about the ableism in the film, and how the central character (played by a non-disabled actress... ugh) shouldn't necessarily fall in love with a fish man. I share some of my many issues with the film, as well as a few things I could relate to in love that I saw in this. I also share some reviews from disabled people who highlight just how ableist this romance between a deaf woman and a fish man actually is.

This episode is all about my feelings about Pride when you are disabled. I share some of my experiences in Prides in 2018, and my issues with the organizational exclusion of disability by Pride orgs. I focus in on Pride Toronto and how we can do better. I also talk about some super ableist incidents that happened to disabled people during pride including Stonewall and Flaming Saddles Weho in LA. I also coin the term "bahcumbug" in this episode.

Wow, it's our 20th disaftdark minisode! In this minisode, I get an e-mail from Jessica, who tells us all about their experiencing dating with a disability; whether they are gay or straight, and their comfortability in simply being alone and feeling complete. It was an awesomely long e-mail, but it resonated with me, and I hope you enjoy!Also, if you have a minisode idea that you want to share, please e-mail [email protected]

In this episode, I share with you that I love pop culture and celebrities along with sex and disability, so I combined these two loves. I talk about the celebs that I think wouldn't be super ableist (and some who might be a little ableist), and who I'd like to fuck. This one was so fun to do... Enjoy!

In this minisode, I get a letter all about poop, sex, and disability. Larry asks me about polyamory and disability, and I let you all know about shitty sexual ableism that I have to deal with. Also, find out about a new venture I am working on. If you have a story/thought/anecdote/ableist experience you wanna share, be sure to send it in for a minisode to [email protected]

In this episode, I talk about some of the times that I have been in photo shoots. I share 3 stories about what taking sexy photos as a disabled person is like. I talk about how disabled photography may be viewed by non-disabled people, sex and disability in photos, and more. Enjoy!I have added photos to the Facebook Group for this episode. Like us at Facebook.com/disabilityafterdark

In Minisode 18, I get an e-mail from Spencer who tells us all about his sexy adventures at a Green Day concert in the UK. I get a gentle reminder to watch how I word things, and I'm asked, "what's the difference between hyper-sexualization and asexualization of disabled people." Remember, if you have a story, an anecdote, thought, theory or anything to say on disability that you want included as a minisode, e-mail us at [email protected].

In episode 090, I talk with my friend (and new research assistant for the show), Rae. We talk about their upbringing in Ireland as both queer and disabled, working on their gender identity journey as a disabled person, religion, disability, and sex, flirting with low vision and so much more. This was a great interview and I hope you enjoy it!Remember, if you wanna contribute to a minisode, tell a story, be a guest, etc. e-mail [email protected], if you loved Rae and wanna follow them more, reach out here: https://twitter.com/butanoverture

In Minisode 17, I hear from a listener whose partner had a stroke, and the impact that has had on him. I also get a letter from Alice who asks, "How do I work in a residential care setting and talk about sex?" If you have a story, question, an idea for a minisode be sure to send it to [email protected].

In this episode, I share with you some stories of things I have done to make boys like me, or stuff I did in the pursuit of peen - or both, and some of these things compromised my disability, health and safety. From flying by myself on airplane with a damaged wheelchair to meet a guy who paid no attention to me, to waiting 3 hours on a fall evening for a hook up who didn't show and also catching pneumonia, and lastly trying to get home from a hook up gone wrong, only to unintentionally flash people my disabled dick! If you did something silly for love, lust peen and everything in between that compromised your disability, let us know at [email protected] Remember, you can support this show by pledging to our Patreon: patreon.com/cripplecontent as little as $1/month helps this show stay up and running! Thank you!

In Minisode #16, I talk with my friend Claire AH about disability, sexuality and how academia perceives that intersection. She tells us about her experience putting her sexuality and disability into an academic paper, and how academia looks at sex and disability.If you want to send in ideas for a minisode, send an e-mail to [email protected]

In this episode, I look at the way we talk about technology advancements with respect to disability. We love seeing wheelchairs that walk up stairs as ways to fix ableism, but other forms of technology like sex toys treat disabled people like sad, poor people who can't ever get laid. I wanted to change that conversation and so by looking at sex dolls, virtual reality sex consoles and teledildonics, I discuss why these options could actually be great ways to incorporate disability into the sex tech industry in a positive way. Enjoy!

In minisode 15, we hear from Tea, who highlights ableism around be autistic in the lgbtq+ community, and the effects that has on them. They talk about chronic pain, kink, knife-play, CPAP machines, and I offer them some important advice.Remember, if you want to write in for a minisode, submit your thoughts/questions and anything about disability to [email protected]

In this episode, I talk with actor AJ Murray, about sex, race, disability, acting work, fantasies, surrogacy, relationships, ass massages, and so much more. This interview was jam-packed, but I think it was really important and I hope you enjoy it.

In this minisode, I get e-mails from Aaron and Erin. Aaron tells me about a time when hot disabled sex took on a whole new meaning, and I offer Erin my thoughts on how to make museum culture more accessible. If you have a story/letter/thought about disability that you'd like to share, e-mail our inbox at [email protected]

In this episode, I interview musician/activist Scott Jones about sex and disability. Specifically we talk about his experiences becoming disabled, navigating sex and disability, his new documentary "Love, Scott" and so much more. The word "Cocksultant" is born in this episode. You can follow him on instagram: www.instagram.com/scjns,www.instagram.com/lovescott_film, www.dontbeafraidcampaign.org

In Minisode #13, I get some crip confessional e-mails, from a listener who talks about converting to Christianity for a love interest, their mom thinking they had no sexuality b/c they were disabled. They also write their feelings around disabled men getting able-bodied people pregnant and trying to get a vibrator adapted! Enjoy.If you want to write into w/ a minisode letter, send them to [email protected]

Hey y'all! In this episode, I review the 2012 movie about sex and disability that won over the world, "The Sessions." I have a lot of feelings about this indie darling that introduced the world to sex, disability and polio! I have an included an essay written by Mark O'Brien, the central figure in this film who works with a sex surrogate to have sex for the very first time. The movie was based on the essay. I am also including a written piece about what the movie might have looked like if it were centred around a woman with disabilities. I hope you enjoy this jam-packed episode!

In this minisode, we get a letter from an anonymous person who tells us about their experience with an older partner, anal beads, and trying to keep their voice "lust-free" when their mom calls in the middle. If YOU have an idea for a minisode, send it to [email protected]

In this episode, I reflect on my past year of sex and disability. I come out with some things I want to share with the audience. I also share with you what scares me as a disabled person, and the kind of sex I want to have as your #1 Queer Cripple as I approach 34. Enjoy!

In this minisode, I get an e-mail from "Pup Ori", who loved Episode 079 about Pup Play and shares with us how this kink has helped him come to terms with his disability. Remember if you want to write in for a minisode, e-mail [email protected]

In this episode, I decided that I wanted a record of some of the shitty things I have done as a disabled guy in bed, to show that we can fuck up too, and it isn't always guys saying ableist shit, it's me being an asshole. I wanted to call myself out so that I can grow and NEVER do it again! Enjoy!

For this minisode, I got 2 e-mails from a listener who wanted to talk about his experiences being disabled in a frat house, and some of the sexy, crazy, hypermasculine hijinks that can go on. If you wanna contribute for a minisode, be sure to e-mail [email protected].

In this episode, I speak with Spoken Word Artist and Sex Educator, Nathan Say about everything from being a disabled nudist, to poly identities to poverty, to attendant care to glory holes and sucking dick! This was a great interview, although there were some audio glitches in this one... sorry!

In this episode, I go back in time to my summer days as a camper at camps for youths with disabilities. I share with you more awkward moments as I was coming out to myself, realizing that I could date other disabled people, and almost making out with counsellors...

In this minisode, I get an e-mail from Edward who asks, "Is it okay to draw images of disabled people enjoying queer sexuality, when I am not disabled? Is it appropriation or not?" I let him know my thoughts in this minisode! If you want to write in for a minisode, please e-mail [email protected] with anything you want about disability and I'll do my best to make it a great topic!

In this episode, I have a super-sized conversation with essayist Kayla Whaley. She wrote an essay on body image, disability and her own experiences losing the ability to swallow food, and how that affected her weight and her view of herself. Here it is: We also talk about writing about the disabled body and so much more. Twitter: @punkinonwheelsInstagram: @punkinonwheels Website: kaylawhaley.com

In this minisode, I asked you to write in about "everyday ableism", and I got an e-mail from Daniel who tells about a time that he went in for a job interview and was treatly poorly by the interviewer because of his disability. If you want to write in for a minisode, send it to [email protected]

In this episode, I let you in on a kinky little secret: I am into Puppy Play. I share some thoughts on how Puppy Play and Disability connect with one another. I share why I think Puppy Play needs to do more to include the disabled community, and why I think Puppy Play can help the disabled community.

For minisode #7, I asked you to send in your hilarious sex stories that incorporate disability. Wow, I got some good ones; unwanted visitors, things you never thought you'd hear during sex, some unexpected acrobatics and seizure sex.If you wanna write in for a minisode, write: [email protected]

In this episode, I talk with creator of the Keela Cup, Jane Hartman Adame, about the difficulties finding products that are accessible when you are disabled and menstruating. She shares why she created the Keela Cup, her experiences with EDS, and of course, we go off on several tangents about disability. Enjoy this one, it's important! Here are the links to Keela Cup and Jane's work: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/keelacupTwitter: https://twitter.com/keelacup?lang=enLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-hartman-adam%C3%A9-b6472a56/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keelacup/Website: https://keelacup.com/ If you're in the US, you can get $10 off your pre-order of the Keela Cup if you head to the website and use the code CUPAFTERDARK.

In this minisode, I get an e-mail all the way from Finland from Maria, who wants to learn my views on what you need to know to become a sexual assistant. I share some of my uneducated thoughts on the issue here. Also, if you want to contribute to a minisode, please e-mail: [email protected]

In this episode, I decided that I wanted to review the big blockbuster romance "Me Before You", and also shed light on why this trash-fire of a movie was so ableist and depicted sex and disability so poorly. Along with my review, I have included Youtube clips of disabled people discussing the book the movie was adapted from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9bkWJtm-mU and amazing look at the movie as a horror film, by author Carrie Wade. https://www.autostraddle.com/me-before-you-is-the-most-terrifying-horror-film-of-2016-356873/ Enjoy this brand new episode of DisabilityAfterDark!

In this minisode, we get a facebook thread from Olivia about how ableism affects all types of relationships. She offers a few key examples including ableism from family members, shitty accessibility options, and exes who employ ableism to make themselves feel better. If you want to contribute to a minisode, send all your thoughts and feelings about disability to [email protected] y'all,

In this episode, I talk about my experiences going to an event and dancing, and what dancing has meant to me as a disabled person. I share how the way we talk about dancing and sexuality is ableist and how when we talk about dancing and disability, we usually don't talk about sensuality, but rather, rehabilitation. Ugh. Take a listen on why I think dancing as a spastic, gimp can be sexy and sensual as fuck.

In this minisode, we hear from Jeff as he lets is know his thoughts on a past episode, and how he feels about masturbation and disability. Send in your thoughts, feelings and ideas on all things disability to [email protected]

In this episode, I look at "17 Tips on How to be a Better Top", and I re-jig it for the male-seeking male disabled community, calling it "13 Tips to be a Better Disabled Top". We talk about how being a disabled top can be super awesome, and how disability should be included in these listicles.

In minisode #03, I get a letter from Hayley who shares how being a sex worker with disabilities changed her life. Hayley's contact info Follow her on Twitter @bookhayleyjade or email her at [email protected] If you wanna write in your thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams around disability and sexuality and tell me what's up, e-mail me with "Minisode" to [email protected]