Delight Your Marriage

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have with me Dr. Joel Kahn of drjoelkahn.com and author of The Whole Heart Solution. Dr. Kahn is practicing medical doctor who specializes in cardiology and gives quick, but important keys to support your sexual health. He gives pointers on how to achieve a better lifestyle to support a great sex life, and how wives can support their husbands in this journey toward optimal health. Listen as he explains practical insights on making your health work in the bedroom! All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/21 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me today, and I will be talking about the vulnerable issue in my life: my struggle with body image and how it has affected my life in general. Every day we are faced with the “standards of beauty.” We are bombarded with skinny women on the covers of glossy magazines, in ads---everywhere we look. It’s about time that we take a look at ourselves a different way; be proud of who we are and for what we are. The body is just a vessel; the soul is the real deal. You are more than your weight. Listen in as I talk about how I struggled with eating disorders, growing up with the teasing, going into a marriage with my insecurities, and how I slowly overcame all these with some steps that you, too, could use in your own lives. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/20 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Part II of my interview with Chris Taylor. Chris shares bravely about how serving her husband (at first just to fill his need) has become an incredible place of joy for her as well! Chris is a self-proclaimed feminist (as am I), and she says it’s important for a wife to serve him in the bedroom. She shares the hard work she’s put into improving their marriage, including how she used “stealth growth opportunities” on her husband every chance she got. Listen as she explains how it’s absolutely alright to let loose and be vulnerable; and that in those vulnerable moments, the most tremendous spiritual aspects of intimacy come into play. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/19 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Chris Taylor of forgivenwife.com shares the struggles that began with two decades of incredibly sparse intimacy. Sex was something she didn’t enjoy because of her guilt due to a promiscuous past. Listen to the pain that’s so evident as Chris shares how sex began to transform her marriage. Though it was a difficult road of humility and change in herself and in her marriage. Sex drew her closer to her husband and God. All the shownotes and resources can be found at delightyourmarriage.com/18 Sign up for the free, live training about Peni (marital oral sex) happening tonight at 8pm! delightyourmarriage.com/14

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my talk with Bonny about her story. Bonny Logsdon Burns of oysterbed7.com made a choice to fight for her marriage. She grew and learned about what her husband needed her to be as a wife. Be a warrior in the bedroom and learn how to increase your sex drive too! All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/17 The FREE webinar is coming up soon! Sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/peniwebinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Bonny talking about her story. Bonny of oysterbed7.com has been married for 20+ years. Her story is about God’s redeeming power of something that could have broke them. Bonny was raising 3 kiddos almost single-handedly when she learned of a secret that caused her so much pain. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/16 & Sign Up for free webinar Specifics of Amazing Peni (aka oral sex; Wives only!) delightyourmarriage.com/peniwebinar

Hi there! Belah here. Finances are the #1 cause for divorce, find out how this marriage survived even having the electricity cut off and not enough gas to drive to church. Today I have Valerie on the show to talk about her marital story. Like all of us, she experienced tough times financially. She shared how hanging tight to God was the best thing she could do for her marriage. Listen in! Check out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/15. Sign Up for FREE webinar "Specifics of Amazing Peni" at delightyourmarriage.com/14

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my interview with Ginny Hannan who shares the habit that she and her husband have developed to make their fights way easier. She also gives some great ideas about having fun in intimacy and just generally lightening up about life’s challenges. I give a little insight into how to choose joy even in the midst of challenges. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/13

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Ginny here, who shares a heart wrenching story of the challenges she faced when her adopted daughters came home from Colombia. She struggled with serious depression and considered ending her life, but God made a way out. She shares how we can fight depression before it takes hold. It will inspire and challenge you. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/12 Plus receive my guide "8 Secrets to Enjoy Love Making & Staying Present!" for free at delightyourmarriage.com

Hi there! Belah here. Today my guest is Carrie from theintimatecouple.com. She gives the second half of her interview. Check out Part I "DYM Episode 10: Orgasm Difficulties Revealed". Carrie talks about the secrets to success in her marriage as well as some steamy sex tips (that have already helped me!) Carrie is incredibly brave and shares the details that will certainly support your marriage. Check out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/11

Hi, Belah here. Today my guest is Carrie of Intimate Couple. She grew up without any education about sex. She didn't know what an orgasm was until she was married. She shares how she moved past these struggles and how to teach your kids the right way about sex. Maybe she wouldn't have had difficulty with orgasm had she been taught the right way. http://delightyourmarriage.com/10

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Joyce Penner talking about her story. Joyce Penner, coauthor of The Gift of Sex (passionatecommitment.com) and her husband Cliff Penner, are internationally recognize sexual therapists. In this episode, she gives her 3 secrets to her marital success. Listen in to hear the vital differences to how a man and woman gets turned on. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/9

Belah here. It's just me this time. I talk about the taboo topic of Oral Sex. Yes, we need to start talking about this. And answering questions, like is it bad? wrong? gross? And what does it mean to your marriage. And more importantly what does it mean to your husband. Listen in to hear why I think it is dirty and the change that needs to be made. You'll probably be surprised at my responses about it. — Scripture: Matthew 6:22-23a "The eye is the lamp of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness." Song of Songs 2:3 "Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste." Resources Mentioned: When Will You Move Past Your Sexual Past? This is the blog I talk about my addiction to pornography as a child: When will you get past your sinful past? Covenant Eyes – This is the program that blocks pornographic sites from all different kinds of devices. I have an affiliate link here. 10 Reasons Oral Sex Should Be A Part of Your Marriage another article I think you should check out! You'll Discover: Why I think Oral Sex is dirty. Why I think it has become a dirty thing in so many people's mind. How you can disassociate the sinful words with the holy act. What can you do about it in your marriage. What steps can you take to change your perception on this topic. How to think about the experience positively. Tweetables: Do you need to disassociate the sinful words with the holy sexual act in marriage? When you are engaging in this intimate exchange with your honey, you are loving him in his deepest place. Sex speaks to our hearts too. But sex shows love to him to a much different degree. Especially peni. Just because he's turned on, doesn't mean he doesn't sense your discomfort. Thanks for listening! I hope you are encouraged to live in wholehearted intimacy! Love, Belah If you enjoyed this episode, would you add your review to iTunes? It will encourage me & it will help others find the podcast easier. Find out how at delightyourmarriage.com/itunes Thank you!

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Joyce Penner talking about her story. Joyce Penner of passionatecommitment.com has been married for 51 years and has 3 married children 7 grand children and one on the way. Their ministry began in 1975 when asked to teach a class on sexuality. They grew up incredibly conservative upbringing and they’ve trusted God with their calling even in the midst of some significant challenges with her daughter’s health. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/8

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jen Smith talking about her story, Part II. She says one common product she had been using caused incredible pain during sex. She also shares about how the specific challenge they faced in marriage brought them closer to God. She gives three specific habits that saved her marriage. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/7

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jen Smith talking about her story, Part I. Jen Smith of unveiledwife.com has been married for 8 years and has 1 son and another baby on the way! Her passion is motivating every post is to encourage other women in their role as a wife, focusing on the foundational principles about marriage revealed throughout the Bible. Jen talks about the incredible struggle in sexual intimacy starting from their wedding night. But what began as an awkward and embarrassing first meeting turned into a marriage-saving experience. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/6 ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jay Dee talking about his story. Part II Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways: 1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and 2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He's been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!). He shares the truth about how men feel about sex and even how long a husband can go without it. You'll hear about the meaning men associate with lovemaking! So, we're coming into the conversation where Jay is telling me about the role he played in turning his marriage around. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/5 ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Jay Dee talking about his story. Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways: 1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and 2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He's been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!). He shares the difficulties of his marriage, from years of sexlessness and pornography addiction to an incredible and passionate partnership with his wife! All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/4 ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have J Parker talking about her story. J Parker has been married for 22 years and has two teenage sons. Her mission is to encourage sex & marriage by God's design was inspired by her personal story and God's beautiful nudging. She shares about the key things she has learned through her many years of marriage. J also gives tips on sexual intimacy. J reveals the issues she sees most often with women on her blog and what they can do to feel great about sex! All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/3 ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have J Parker talking about her story. J Parker of hotholyhumorous.com has been married for 22 years and has two teenage sons. Her mission is to encourage sex & marriage by God's design was inspired by her personal story and God's beautiful nudging. She shares about the difficult season in her marriage wrought with pain and isolation. But then she shares how she was able to be proactive and make significant changes which became the incredible (and hot!) relationship that it is today! All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/2 ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! Belah here. Today it's just me, sharing my story and what this podcast at Delight Your Marriage is all about! I founded delightyourmarriage.com to help wives live in wholehearted intimacy with their spouses. What does that mean? I want you and your marriage to be amazing. Why? Because when you have an incredible marriage you can do so much more of what God wants for you and your life. How do I know? I share of my ignorance of sex growing up and how I was rudely awakened to it's realities as a young bride. Then how God taught me some significant lessons through the place of pain and what happened. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/ ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here. - - - - - delight your marriage episode one. Welcome to the delight your marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. Here's your host, belah Rose. Hi, this is belah rose. And I'm so excited that you have joined me today. I am really thrilled that delight, your marriage is finally up, I have kind of been working on it as a heart project for a long time. And now you will hear are listening to the first episode. So I was so excited. Basically, this project is my own pursuit of living wholeheartedly in my marriage. And my desire is that you come along and have a wholehearted life experience in marriage as well. Because ultimately, don't we all want to get to our 80th birthday, holding our husband's hand and smiling thinking of all the amazing memories that we've had together? Well, that's my vision of what it looked like at my 80th birthday. So anyway, I want to give a little bit about the structure of the podcast and let you know what the plans are on how often it will happen. I also want to tell you a little bit about my story and my struggles and why I'm passionate about marriage. So here's the deal, the podcast will come out Tuesdays and Thursdays. And it will be an interview from an inspiring wife or an expert on emotional spiritual or sexual intimacy. Because each one of those facets make up the intimacy that we're talking about in marriage. So I'm excited to bring you their stories of some struggles in their marriages. And some really great times as well as what they've learned along the way. I asked each of them also for a tip about sexual intimacy. Because really, how can you learn enough about that area? So why am I interested in all of this, and why is sexual intimacy so important to my heart in my life is I grew up really ignorant of it. And I think that's often a lot of people's stories, I grew up a Christian, I had a great childhood, really, I'm very grateful for many, many things. There were some struggles in my childhood, as well. But to give you a little bit of a picture, I grew up kind of on a farm in a rural area. So lots of animals with horses and sheep and goats and chickens and whatever else. So there was lots of physical hard work all the time. And I think my parents felt like that was healthy for kids. And I think it is, you know, lots of things to do. But I think they thought things like sex would never come up, because we had so many other things to talk and think about, which, you know, I understand that they didn't want their kids to be exploring before they should and whatever else, but turned into getting to middle school not knowing a thing about sex and what everyone else is talking about. And I remember in middle school, there was a boy who was really popular and sitting next to me, was science class, I think. And he decided to tell me the gossip around the popular kids, I guess was that some boy had an erection in gym class. And, of course, I didn't know the slang term that he used. And I didn't know at all what any of that meant. And I was completely humiliated and turned completely red in the face. And I asked my friend who was very knowledgeable on the subject, and she kind of blew my mind with what a penis actually is in sex, and I just had no clue. So I came home completely frustrated with my mom, so angry yelled at her for not telling me anything about this whole topic. Well, unfortunately, my yelling didn't help the situation. And in fact, I pretty much got no further instru