Dating Intentionally

In this episode, you'll learn why so many dating app profiles start to look and sound the same and what that means on a deeper level (It's deeper than you think). I’m joined by Dr. Jennie Young, a writer, English professor, and creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method. BHDM is a framework for understanding the patterns and formulas people use in their bios (usually without even realizing it). We talk about why these patterns show up, how they shape your experience swiping, and how to create a dating app profile that actually stands out without trying so hard. At the end, we analyze some profiles and messages together to identify rhetorical patterns. This episode is going to change how you look at dating app profiles! Jennie's InstagramJennie's approach to navigating dating app messages (IG)Check out Jennie's SubstackBurned Haystack Dating Method RULESBurned Haystack Dating Method Facebook GroupPARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the three C's of being good at dating: character, curiosity, and confidence. I'll share how each one plays into being a great date, and why that matters in the first place. Even though we're dating to ultimately stop dating, your skills in this area will 100% affect your outcome. This episode will guide you through the qualities that truly matter, how to work on them, and what happens when you have two, but not all three. PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm diving into five dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Tune in to hear my advice on these dating and relationship issues: I got my dream job in another country. How should I approach dating? How do I bounce back from dating burnout when nothing seems to be working? Why do so many first dates get canceled, and is it something I’m doing wrong? Is a slow-burn connection worth exploring if it feels more like friendship than chemistry? Should I risk an 8-year friendship to tell my friend I have feelings for him? PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we're getting into what standards in dating are (and what they're not) and how to tell if your standards are too high or too low. I get into the dangers of each and how to adjust your standards no matter which category you fall into. Are your standards holding you back? Hint: Too-high standards are a form of self-sabotage, and too-low standards are a form of self-abandonment. Examples of dating standards: I date people who have the time to see me in person within days of matching or first starting to talk. I continue to date people who are consistent in their communication I sleep with someone when I feel confident there’s alignment in what kind of relationship we’re both looking for I date people who have the ability to share times that work for them for dates, make plans with me and follow through I continue seeing people who I’m attracted to by the third date PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attachment often hides in plain sight for high achievers, and we dig into why so many of us look for safety in others instead of creating it internally. This conversation is packed with mic-drop moments and hard truths that will get you thinking differently about your emotions, how you handle them, and how that relates to your love life.Check out Clare's podcast, Be That Healing Girl PodcastPARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm deep-diving into ten relationship green flags that aren't talked about enough, how to spot them, and their red flag counterparts. You deserve a partner who has the basic green flags we always talk about like consistency, respect, listening, effort etc. But today, we're going deeper into what it looks like to have a truly supportive partner and the real signs that your partner is empathetic and compassionate. At the end, I address a question about navigating dating someone who shows up in all the right ways but misses the mark on one small but important thing. PARTNERSWant thicker hair? Get $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGalatea - Get 25% off your membership for a steamy reading experience!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height (one of my favorite dating podcasts) is back on the pod to talk about how she met her current boyfriend just days after we recorded our first episode together in 2024. Ali gets into meeting her boyfriend in person, managing anxiety while getting into a new relationship, how she knew she wanted to commit and how she had the "define the relationship" conversation. We also get into dating outside your type, making the first move and why being yourself (even if you're awkward) is always the best move. At the end, Ali shares advice for IRL dating. This episode is packed with advice and will inspire you to keep going, even if you've been dating for a long time. Listen to our first episode together (one of my top five episodes from 2024)PARTNERSWant thicker hair? Get $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGalatea - Get 25% off your membership for a steamy reading experience!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn some of the main reasons why you might keep falling for people who aren't the right match for you, like feeling drawn to what's familiar or being stuck in the anxious/avoidant cycle. Awareness of your patterns is the first step to breaking out of them! This episode also breaks down steps to catching yourself before you fall for the wrong person (again) and start shifting your focus on folks who could be a great match! Episode on attachment theory (anxious/avoidant attachment)Episode on how to thrive while single and datingEpisode on attachment stylesPARTNERS!Try Dipsea for 30 days freeGet up to 27 free meals with Marley SpoonCheck out Galatea!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, my guest, Michelle Lentz, breaks down the key attributes to look for in a long-term partner to have a successful relationship (and marriage, if that's what you're looking for). Michelle's marriage is going on 38 years! She has an Instagram account and book (Hey Beginner Wife) dedicated to the ins and outs of not just making a marriage last but enjoying your connection for the long haul. We talk about soul mates, managing expectations, communication tips, questions to ask in early dating when looking for marriage, and so much more. PARTNERS!Try Dipsea for 30 days FREEGet up to 27 free meals with Marley Spoon with code DATINGCheck out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right in your dating life, but feel like nothing is working, this episode is for you. First, I get into a handful of mindset shifts to help you feel less stuck and down about where you are in your dating life today, and then I get into different approaches you can take to get unstuck. You'll walk away from this episode with a new perspective on timing, what success looks like in dating and what you can actually control in your dating life. Here's the episode on dating for validation that I mentioned.PARTNERS!Try up to 27 free meals from Marley Spoon! Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm diving into four dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Here are the questions I get into on this episode: "He ghosted me but watches my stories daily - can I salvage this?" "I don't mind pursuing men, but they don't take me seriously. What am I doing wrong?" "I'm a liberal woman, and he's a Trump supporter. Can it work?" "I've done everything to move on after getting blindsided by my ex, but I'm still not over it. What can I do?" Here's the episode I mentioned about signs that someone is interested/how to show interest.PARTNERS!Try up to 27 free meals from Marley Spoon! Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get 90+ questions to ask in early datingDo you ever struggle with what to talk about on a date? Or maybe you want to get better at building real connections? In this episode, I’m sharing tons of inspiration for great questions to ask in early dating, the worst ones to avoid, and navigating tricky conversations without derailing the date. We’ll also dive into the number one topic that so many daters regret not bringing up sooner, how to answer "why are you single" (and what to ask instead). I also share how to ask better follow-up questions and scripts for handling tough topics like past relationships, STI talks, and career gaps.Why they don't ask questions and how to dealPARTNERSGet $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGet Dipsea for 30 days FREE Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My brother Alex Koren is back on the podcast to share dating advice for folks looking for a long term relationship! Alex is a 30-year-old guy from NYC with his take on dating, relationships, and figuring out who’s the one. In this episode, we break down how to separate needs vs. wants, what past relationships can teach you, and how to tell if someone is just in it for the chase or actually ready for commitment. We also talk about how to approach people and where to meet great matches IRL. (Hint, it's not at the bars). Alex also shares his thoughts on not settling, DTR conversations, and how to build real comfort in dating. Plus, we dive into the mindset shifts that can help you make better choices in love, without overcomplicating things.Listen to Alex's previous episodeCheck out Random Acts of DatingPARTNERSGet $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGCheck out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode originally aired in October 2022! Situationships are messy, undefined, and often leave you feeling stuck. In this episode, I break down what a situationship really is, how to tell if you're in one, and why they rarely lead to the kind of relationship you want. I’ll share how to get out of a situationship, whether you're the one who wants more or the one who can’t commit, plus tips on avoiding them altogether. I also answer a listener’s question on recognizing red flags early and share my own experience with a situationship that dragged on for years.PARTNERSTry up to 27 free meals from Marley Spoon!Get Dipsea for 30 days FREE Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I’m joined by Natalie Kennedy, founder of Anxious Love Coach, to talk about her experience with relationship anxiety and Relationship OCD (ROCD). We get into what it looked like in her relationship, the steps she took to work through it, and what “working on yourself” actually means, both in and out of a relationship. We also dive into obsessive thoughts in early dating and relationships, how to recognize when your fears are getting in the way, and practical advice for navigating them. If you’ve ever spiraled over whether your feelings are “right” or questioned a great relationship because of intrusive thoughts, this episode is for you.PARTNERS!Try Dipsea for 30 days FREECheck out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionGet up to 27 free meals with Marley Spoon with code DATINGCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what emotional availability is, why it's important, how it relates to attachment style and signs your date isn't emotionally available. I share tips on how to navigate this and when it's a dealbreaker vs not. At the end, I get into signs you might be the emotionally unavailable one and steps to take toward becoming more emotionally available.Signs someone is emotionally available episodeQuestions: Do I feel secure and confident in where I stand with them? Do they communicate openly and consistently? When I express my needs, do they listen and respond? Do they follow through on what they say? Do they make space for me in their life? Do they show up emotionally when I need support? Are they able to acknowledge their emotions and past relationship patterns? Do I feel like I can be fully myself around them? If I were to stop putting in effort, would this relationship still move forward? PARTNERS!Get up to 27 free meals with Marley Spoon with code DATINGGet 50% off your first month of Armoire with code DATINGStart investing with Acorns! CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Casey Tanner, founder of Queer Sex Therapy and The Expansive Group, shares their journey, from navigating insecurities as someone newly exploring queer dating to meeting their current partner. We dive into dating IRL as a queer person, long-distance relationships, and what to do if you're intimidated by dating women. Casey also breaks down common queer sex myths, explores how gender roles translate in queer relationships, and shares mistakes they've made along the way. I love Casey's honest take on how it feels to date women as a woman with zero experience. Even if you’re straight, there’s plenty to learn from this fun conversation!PARTNERS!Get up to 27 free meals with Marley Spoon with code DATINGGet 50% off your first month of Armoire with code DATINGStart investing with Acorns! CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm deep-diving into why knowing your needs in a relationship is important, how I discovered mine and tips for discussing your relationship needs with a partner. Discovering my non-negotiables in a relationship is what kicked off my dating journey and I'm breaking down how you can use them to guide you in your dating journey. You'll learn what needs are, what they're not and what to expect when you bring them up with someone for the first time. This episode originally aired in November 2022. How To Identify Your Needs course: How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassPARTNERSGet $10 off your first Nutrafol order with code DATING10Get 50% off your first month of Amroire with code DATINGStart investing with Acorns!CONNECT WITH MEAsk a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE DATING ADVICE & TIPSFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideDating Intentionally on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogMY OTHER DATING COURSESwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's episode features three new dating dilemmas for you, focusing on issues daters face in new relationships. The first is from a woman who's not sure she can fall in love with her guy and isn't sure what to do. Our second dilemma focuses on the question: how much fighting is normal? And the last one is from a woman in a loving, secure relationship that she feels lacks excitement. Listen for my takes and advice, and comment below to share yours! Book rec: Hold Me TightCheck out Nutrafol! Use code DATING for $10 off your first order at nutrafol.com.Try Acorns! https://www.acorns.com/dating---CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & SUPPORTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If showing interest in the person you're dating is scary, this episode will help! Showing interest when you're interested is key in developing a secure, healthy relationship in the early dating stage - even when things feel uncertain. I'm breaking down the appropriate, not-desperate ways to show someone you're into them before you're committed so they know exactly where you stand. On the flipside, listen to learn ways people may be showing interest in YOU that you could be missing. At the end, I'm sharing results from a survey I took on what people really want for Valentine's Day. 36 love questionsLove bombing vs genuine interestBook your next move with Roadway! Use code Dating10 at checkout at roadwaymoving.comTry Acorns! https://www.acorns.com/dating---CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sit down with sex educator Danielle Bezalel to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it’s time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things like body odor, performance anxiety, being on top, and so much more. I hope you enjoy this educational and judgment-free convo! You can find all of Danielle's recommendations below.Danielle's toy recsTry Acorns! https://www.acorns.com/datingRoadway code: Dating10 for a discount on your move! https://www.roadwaymoving.com/---Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever dated someone where things are moving so slowly that it feels like you're going backward? This episode breaks down the differences between a slow burn and a dead end so you know when to keep going and when to walk away. I also share advice on when to cut things off if things are going well but they're not committing and how to communicate your intentions and timeline.SLOW BURN WORKSHOP on 2/24use code PODCAST for a discount!Dating for validation episodeTry Acorns! https://www.acorns.com/dating---Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm answering questions about my journey dating 64 people in 10 months! Questions like, how did you manage dating multiple people, how did you navigate sex while dating and how did you choose who to keep seeing and who to stop seeing? I also answer questions about staying safe while dating, what I wore on dates and how I found the time to date with a busy schedule. This episode is PACKED with advice!Listen to Part 1 here!Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm sharing 15 quick lessons I learned during my intense dating journey where I went out with 64 people in 10 months. I'm sharing my insight on texting in early dating, navigating when to have sex with someone for the first time, what's most important to pay attention to when getting to know someone and how to stay grounded. Part 2 comes out on Tuesday! Episode 99: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3HYgtYjAaNjwQcng3H4w0E?si=68f37b5e6c4f49b0Get Clara for Daters: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clara-for-daters/id1667355360 Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Julie and Yue from Dateable are back for round 2! We get into their new book, How To Be Dateable, which is out now everywhere and so much more. Listen to learn about what vulnerability is and isn't, how to tell if you've been playing relationship chicken this whole time and tips for being more authentic on dates. We also talk about Julie's big news at the end (other than the book launch of course). Get the book! How To Be Dateable by Julie Krafchick and Yue XuFollow Dateable on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dateablepodcast/My post on green flags men look for!---Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Yue Xu and Julie KrafchickJulie Krafchick & Yue Xu are the co-hosts and creators of Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. As active daters turned dating insiders, they’ve interviewed thousands of daters and world-renowned experts over the last decade to understand why we date the way we do. But more importantly, with this information, share how you can rise above modern dating culture, get out of this dating apocalypse, and DIY the love life you’ve always wanted. Subscribe to Dateable on all podcast platforms and visit dateablepodcast.com and @dateablepodcast as your go-to source for modern dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How much do you really need in common with the person you're dating for it to work? In this episode, you'll learn what matters more than having shared interests and how to navigate relationships when your hobbies clash or don't really overlap. I also talk about how my relationship works with my husband, despite us not being into the same stuff!Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do you do if you get anxious on dates? My guest, Jeff Guenther, LPC (@TherapyJeff), shares many practical tips for managing anxiety on dates and enjoying the process more! We talk about different ways anxiety shows up, specifically how to ask for feedback from your dates and how to cope when you feel anxious on dates. Jeff also shares his advice for folks in new relationships, including eight questions to ask once you've DTR'd (defined the relationship).Follow Jeff on IGGet Jeff's book, Big Dating Energy! Here's the episode of Problem Solved we mentioned toward the endQuestions to ask after defining the relationship Are there any aspects of our relationship you want to keep private? How do you define cheating? How do you want me to break up with you? Will you feel hurt if I start watching a new TV series without you? When we order food, should I assume we’re sharing or is it separate? How much time should we plan to spend together on average? If I ever cheated on you just once, how would you want me to handle it? Should we talk about everyone we've hooked up with, especially if we're still talking to them? Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Jeff Guenther, LPCJeff earned a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California and a bachelor’s degree in Child and Family Development from San Diego State University. His therapeutic career began at a crisis line, where he supported individuals experiencing suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. Before establishing his private practice, Jeff also provided therapy to high-risk students in the public school system. Since 2005, he has called Portland, Oregon, home, focusing his practice on helping both couples and individuals.In his spare time, Jeff creates engaging one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, along with more in-depth content on Passes. Follow him across platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks, and resources designed to enhance mental health. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What should you be looking for when you're getting to know people you're dating? In this episode, I share the top 10 qualities to look for in a long-term romantic partner - no matter your gender, age, or who you're dating. You'll also learn a few different ways for how to tell if your date has these qualities, and you can think about whether or not YOU embody these qualities as well. Date IdeasDate Jar VideoSubmit a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm answering YOUR dating dilemmas! Hear three real issues from daters just like you. The first question is about what to do after having sex on date two... and they've fallen off the face of the earth after being so charming (ugh). The second one is about moving on after an amazing experience with a great guy who just didn't have time for commitment. And the last one is from a woman going through a divorce while having a friends with benefits situation who also just can't commit. Should she keep it going or walk away? Listen to the full episode for my advice for these relatable dating situations! Submit a question: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Whether you're dating or have a partner, we can't overlook the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one with YOU. In this episode, you'll learn how to practice self-acceptance and compassion, why I don't believe in "just loving yourself," and how this affects your dating life. You'll also get tons of practical tips for beating negative self-talk, developing your relationship with yourself, and becoming your own secure base so you can date with more confidence. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we feel so anxious when waiting for a text from someone we just started dating? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down exactly why texting in early dating causes so much anxiety and how to address it so it doesn't consume your body and mind. Sabrina and I get into the role texting plays in dating and the journey she had with her boyfriend who's absolutely NOT into texting at all. We also talk about what she's working on now as someone with anxiety in a relationship, how to navigate sleeping together on the first date and so much more.Submit a question: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Sabrina:Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, the podcast has ranked in the top 0.05% globally, offering practical tips backed by licensed psychologists to help listeners improve their dating lives through self-worth and personal growth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you want to prioritize IRL connections, this episode is for you. I'm deep-diving into exactly where real people who listen to this podcast are meeting other single people to connect with and date! This episode will leave you feeling inspired to leave your house one way or another, whether that involves signing up for salsa classes or taking yourself out on a date once a week. I also get into how to start conversations and various ways to tell if the cutie you're chatting with is single or not. Get my free IRL dating starter kit with over 20 conversation starters! https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/irl-dating-kit How to get asked out ft. Blaine AndersonSubmit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Before you download a dating app for the first time or maybe 100th time, listen to this solo episode. I'm sharing three essential tips for making your profile work for you, keeping your mindset in check and messaging so you actually get off the apps and onto more dates! Want to skip all the trial and error on dating apps? Check out my NEW course on mastering dating apps called Swipe Match Date! Use code PODCAST at checkout for a discount. Dating App Episodes Genny Diehl - episode 33 Erika Ettin - episode 74 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get out your tarot cards, crystal balls, and astrology charts! We're making predictions for what dating in 2025 will be like - share yours in the comments if you're listening on Spotify. In this episode, you'll hear dating predictions from friends of the podcast - all their IG accounts are linked below. I loved this collection of predictions. Everyone thinks dating is moving away from the screen and toward real-life connections, among other things. I'm so excited to see how 2025 dating actually plays out. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne when you use code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/Claire Perelman @sexclarified Julia Mazur @pmdpodErika Ettin @alittlenudge Ali Jackson @findingmrheightAmy Chan @missamychanLauren Josephine @lookingforsomethingseriousDamona Hoffman @damonahoffmanBenjamin Camras @benjamincamrasSubmit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm joined by guest Sam Whitney, author of How To Date Authentically, to discuss what it means to date to be happy vs just trying to be right. Sam shares practical tips on dating with authenticity, improving your listening skills and other tools you need to develop to make real connections in your dating journey. I love Sam's unique perspective on the dating process and I know you will too!Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 https://www.jennikayne.com/Get Sam's book! https://www.amazon.com/How-Date-Authentically-Dating-Lasting/dp/1940498392Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

"If he wanted to he would" and "It will happen when you least expect it" are just two examples of the dating advice we're so done with. In this episode, I'm sharing what dating advice floating around the internet is unhelpful and why, and what to focus on instead that will actually get you closer to your goals of getting into a secure, healthy long term relationship. The advice that works is based on what other listeners have found success with - not just my experience. I'd love to hear from you! What advice are you so done with hearing? Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in your 40's when you're already a parent and going through a divorce? My mom, Daniella Landau, shares her dating intentionally story after getting separated and divorced. She describes her approach to dating apps, how she met her husband on OkCupid, and more. Daniella also shares her experience with breaking up and getting back together with her husband before they got married, and what it took to transform their relationship. She also shares details about how they approached introducing each other to their kids. It was an amazing conversation and I hope you enjoy it! Connect with Daniella on IG: https://www.instagram.com/happy_in_transit/Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At the end of every guest episode, I ask, what do you want to see more of in dating culture? Past guests have shared a variety of interesting answers, from more empathy to seeing more enthusiasm for butt stuff. Today, I'm answering the question myself! I want to see more women making the first move, more compassion for all daters (dating is hard for everyone!), and more self-compassion, among other things I discuss in this episode. In the comments, share what you want to see more of in dating culture! Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common early dating mistakes and what you can do to avoid them. Whether you're new to dating or you've been at it for awhile, this episode will help ensure you're not accidentally holding yourself back, self-sabotaging or sending the wrong message to potential partners. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ --Episodes mentioned: Stay grounded in early dating Tips for slowing down in early dating Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Watch on YT: https://youtu.be/VugvsOJbLNsSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm answering three dating questions from listeners dealing with confusing behavior, imbalances in a relationship, and uncertainty about moving forward in a new situation. I love answering your questions! We had five dates. Then he left for a work trip. I haven't heard from him. What to do? I'm the only one who brings up deep conversations in my relationship. Can I ask him to start initiating them more? I'm starting to realize my date is a big drinker and I'm not. How to end it? As always I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments if you're listening on Spotify! 'Get 15% off Jenni Kayne this holiday season! Use code DATING15 at checkout. https://www.jennikayne.com/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/eozMHfkBgA0Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP #datingadvice #datingtips #dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you know if it's your gut telling you to do something or if it's just anxiety? In this episode, guest Amanda White and I get into a variety of topics like navigating dating advice on social media, getting out of the comparison trap, doing less in our love lives and more. Amanda shares so many practical tips for embracing ambiguity, sitting in the discomfort of indecision and how to lean into your intuition rather than listen to your anxiety. At the end, we talk about her new substack, Fence Sitter, and her tips for figuring out whether or not to have children (something I'm dealing with right now). I love Amanda's unique perspective and I know you're going to learn a ton from her! Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/Connect with Amanda: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/?hl=enSubmit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Amanda White:Amanda is an author, and the founder and director of Therapy for Women Center, a therapy practice based out of Philadelphia with therapists across the country. She teaches women how to set boundaries and engage in real self care and she quit drinking in 2014. Whether you are interested in sobriety, boundaries, self care, or something in between, Amanda has relatable and actionable mental health tips for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it comes to dating and meeting new people. I also get into key signs of compatibility. At the end I answer a listener’s question about casual dating after a breakup and setting boundaries around intimacy while navigating a new dating landscape.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients heal their avoidant attachment and so much more. At the end, Adam shares how to bring up the topic of attachment styles with a partner who is avoidantly attached. Let me know your thoughts in the comments! Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Adam: With an unwavering belief in the transformative power of secure attachment to help right many social ills facing the modern world, Adam has amassed a dedicated following of over 550,000 on social media. Together, they're rewriting the belief about how human connection is supposed to function. Adam teaches honesty, direct communication, clear boundaries, measurable levels of trust, and other means of building secure and healthy relationships.Drawing from his wealth of clinical experience and personal insight, Adam offers a unique perspective on the essential role of attachment in our lives. His engaging podcast episodes on the I Wish You Knew podcast and his online presentations during livestreams and recorded video media have inspired individuals, couples, and families around the world to embrace the journey of repairing their relationships and fostering secure attachments.Visit Adam’s website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ Connect with Adam on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions: I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do? How can I build more chemistry on first dates? I've been dating someone who's about to deploy. How to move forward? Episodes mentioned: #43 - How to build chemistry and stop chasing sparksSubmit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP #dating #datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #datingadviceformen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life.Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/ Visit Vanessa and Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com/ Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:1. “He texts too much, but I'm not sure if it has to do with his mental health.”2. “We're long distance, but can't decide who should move."3. “How do I heal from a confusing situationship?”Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 > https://www.jennikayne.com/Episodes mentioned: #30. Texting 101: How to navigate texting in early dating #93. Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it) Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Knowing when to end a relationship is tricky, especially if there’s no glaring dealbreaker—sometimes, it’s just not the right fit. How do you know when it’s time to move on?In this episode, I’m breaking down how to decide whether to keep dating someone or walk away, whether you’re just a few dates in or have been in a relationship for years. I’ll share tips for recognizing signs that it’s over, how to decide with compassion and practical advice for breaking things off based on where you are in your dating journey. I also share my personal experience and exact scripts to start the break up conversation. Get 15% off at Jenni Kayne with promo code DATING15 - https://www.jennikayne.com/Episodes mentioned:Ep 93: Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it)Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on these relatable dating scenarios and questions:1. "If I'm so amazing (his words) why won't he date me?”2. “I said we should just be friends, but now I’m interested in more.”3. “How do I handle bad dating advice from family and friends?”We also have an update from last week's episode from the woman who found out about her date's divorce before he told her. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How long is the honeymoon phase supposed to last? Is it okay if we run into unsolvable issues in our relationship? What's an okay unsolvable issue, and what's not? These are some of the big questions my guest, Jordan Dann, explores in this episode. We also discuss the progression of new relationships and dealing with big differences. Jordan provides tips on how to get out of your head, stop constantly checking in, and navigate big challenges you may discover in the dating process. At the end, we talk about season 7 of Love Is Blind.Follow Jordan: https://www.instagram.com/jordandann/?hl=enSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Jordan Dann is a passionate and dynamic psychoanalyst, author, teacher, and speaker. With a rich background in Gestalt therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and Imago Relationship Therapy, she has honed her skills in helping individuals become more relational, self-aware, and emotionally expressive. Her earlier career as a coach and director for actors further fueled her desire to guide people toward authentic self-expression and freedom in their lives.For over 20 years, Jordan dedicated herself to coaching professionals in the nonprofit sector, fostering environments where creativity, communication, and conflict resolution can thrive. She’s committed to helping individuals and teams achieve deeper fulfillment, effectiveness, and joy in their work.As the author of "Somatic Therapy for Healing Trauma" and creator of the Relationship Transformation School, Jordan brings her expertise to those seeking healing and personal growth. She serves as faculty at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy in Manhattan and is a nationally certified, New York State-licensed psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City.Follow her on Instagram @jordandann for insights and inspiration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:1. "How do I navigate being more sexually experienced than my date?"2. "Why do women keep rejecting me like this?"3. "He never told me he was divorced, but I found out about it online."Submit a dating dilemma anonymously: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.