Dating Intentionally

In this episode, you'll learn how to know when to walk away in early dating vs. long-term relationships and why it's so difficult. You’ll get a simple mindset shift that makes the breakup decision stick, plus exact scripts to end it by text, phone, or in person without reopening negotiations. I also map your next steps to take care of yourself and avoid making mistakes after it's over. We close with a listener dilemma about four great dates that ended with “something’s missing," and what to do when that happens. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Get info on my 2026 retreat / sign up for the waitlist Get anti-ghost text scripts CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m celebrating three years of the podcast and 3 million downloads by sharing the 10 biggest lessons I’ve learned from 200 episodes!!! THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE 💛 When I started this show in my kitchen in Seattle, I never imagined I’d be talking to hundreds of thousands of daters all over the world. Today, I’m reflecting on the advice that comes up again and again, from “you can date however you want” to “stop chasing the spark," and sharing the mindset shifts that will help you enjoy dating, stay grounded, and actually find the relationship you want. Whether you’re just getting started or feeling stuck in your love life, this episode will help you recenter on what matters and remind you that you’re not behind, you’re not broken, and dating really can be fun. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sit down with Shaun Galanos (@thelovedrive) to discuss what it truly means to bring playfulness and honesty to dating. We dive into why dating actually gets better as you get older and how to embrace the messy parts of love without losing your sense of humor. Shaun shares the advice he gives his clients (that he still needs to hear himself), and we tackle some of your trickiest sex-related questions, including the ones that stump me. Plus, we wrap up with Shaun’s rapid-fire first date hot takes that will change how you think about getting to know someone new. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m answering four of your real-life dating dilemmas! We’re talking about what to do when someone says they need to “find themselves” before committing, how to build emotional connection early on without scaring them off, and whether a partner’s pre-trip freak-out is a sign to walk away or just a moment of vulnerability. Plus, we tackle the dreaded slow fade (and what to do). Stick around until the end for a personal update on my first year of marriage!! I'm sharing what surprised me, what challenged us, and what I wish I had known before saying “I do.” CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m sharing all my tips for dating outside your type! You’re going to hear what it means to have a “type”, success stories from other listeners about how they dated outside their type, why dating outside your type can work, and what I personally looked for on dating apps when using this approach. (It led me to meeting my husband, just saying!) You’ll also hear why this approach is not the same as settling. At the end, I answer a fresh dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure if a friendship could become something romantic. This episode originally aired in April 2024. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free guides⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk about one of the most frustrating parts of modern dating: mixed signals. I break down why people send mixed signals, why they can feel so addicting (even when we know better), and how to spot them early so you don’t waste your time. You’ll hear real listener examples of hot-and-cold behavior, learn the difference between mixed signals and a slow burn, and get practical strategies for deciding when to walk away. We’ll also cover what clear, green-flag signals actually look like so you can focus on what you do want. This week’s dating dilemma is from a listener who feels like a late bloomer and worries that their lack of dating experience is holding them back from finding a meaningful relationship. Listen to my episode on green flags in early dating! Check out Quince bedding and get FREE shipping & returns! CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free guides ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever walked away from a date wondering if you should give it another shot or just move on? In this episode, I’m breaking down a simple three-part framework to help you decide whether to keep seeing someone in those crucial first few dates. I’ll share the exact questions I asked myself back when I was dating, including the ones that helped me recognize when it was worth going on a second (or even tenth) date, and when it was time to let go. I’ll also tell you why enjoying yourself matters more than “feeling the spark,” how to spot dealbreakers early, and why it’s okay to live in the uncertainty of not knowing yet. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about how to bring up the subject of divorce and an ex when you’re a few months into something new. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free guides⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this second installment of Comparing Notes, I sit down with Ali Jackson, host of Finding Mr. Height, to talk about what often comes up around the six-month mark in a relationship. We get into the real stuff: when to start having check-ins, how to tell if someone could be marriage material, and what it means to settle into comfort and routine without losing the spark. We also explore deal breakers, financial conversations, traveling together, navigating family dynamics, and handling your first conflicts. You'll also hear both of our experiences with this milestone! Listen to Comparing Notes Pt 1 - all about the first 3 months of a relationship! Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ok, but what does ENM really mean? In this episode, I talk with Claire Perelman, a sex therapist, about what ethical non-monogamy (ENM) actually is (and isn't). We talk about different types of ENM (polyamory, swinging, open relationships, solo poly etc), “ethical” matters (consent, clarity, agreements), and how jealousy, anxiety, and attachment styles show up in real life. Claire shares her path to ENM, why opening a relationship won’t save a broken one, and the difference between adding sexual variety vs. building additional romantic bonds. Claire shares tips on what to ask on first dates to vet for real ENM (vs. cheaters), sexual health norms, pacing to avoid emotional whiplash, and how to decide if this lifestyle fits your values and nervous system. Listen to Claire's first episode on my show Follow Claire on IG Try Quince Bedding! CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I delve into what it truly means to be “ready” to date vs ready for a relationship. There’s a big difference between, and most people confuse the two. I’ll share how to tell if you're ready to date or for a relationship (or both), what true dating readiness looks like, and why you don’t need to have every part of your life perfectly together before putting yourself out there. We’ll also talk about dating while still healing from a breakup, the myth of being “fully healed,” and the mindset shifts that make it easier to date with clarity and confidence. Plus, I’m sharing a practical checklist to help you gauge your own readiness and I answer listener questions about emotional availability and long-term intentions. ⁠⁠Check out Quince bedding!⁠ Episodes mentioned: Casual dating #178 Recovering from a break up #70 How to get closer to someone #189 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF Do I have space in my life for someone? Can I compromise and make decisions w/ someone else in mind? Can I say what I want out loud? When I picture a relationship, do I feel excited or dread? Do I want one because it fits my life right now, or just because I feel lonely or behind? Am I prepared to support someone else's goals, not just focus on myself? Do I know what I need in a partner? CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I break down the top 11 red-flag phrases to never ignore in early dating, what they really mean, how to spot them even when attraction is loud, and exactly what to say or do in the moment. If you've ever heard the classics like “I’m bad at texting,” “I don’t like labels,” “you’re too good for me,” and “I’m not looking for anything serious right now,” this one is for you. At the end, I answer a Dating Dilemma about a long-distance “is it me or is it them?” situation and close with YOUR dating wins in a new segment. Episode mentioned: #175 - How To Write A Manifest w/ Matchmaker Maria ⁠Check out Quince bedding! CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m breaking down how to handle workplace crushes without risking your job or your peace of mind! I cover what the research says about how common office romances really are, why you should never date a boss or direct report, and the steps to take if you do want to pursue a crush at work, from grabbing a casual lunch to keeping it professional at the office. I also share my own story about dating at a summer job and answer a listener's dilemma about whether to shoot her shot with a coworker she clicked with at a conference. Check out Quince bedding! CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk with writer and academic Kelly Coyne about intentional living, relationships, and what happens when traditional scripts around dating and marriage fall short. We explore women’s narratives, prenups, communication, gender norms, and the “quiet betrayals” that can erode long-term partnerships. From rethinking chivalry to building a circle of support, this conversation offers a fresh lens on creating sustainable, fulfilling relationships. Get 365 days of FREE shipping with Quince! Find Kelly on IG Kelly's writing CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube DATING COURSES Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 10 practical, low-pressure ways to build emotional closeness that feel fun, natural, and mutual so you’re not stuck carrying all the weight of “going deep.” I’ll show you how to connect through shared experiences, create emotional safety, and build trust without forcing heavy conversations, plus why emotional intimacy is more than just talking about your feelings. You’ll also hear a listener Q&A on oversharing, one-sided connection, and giving things time to develop, a Dating Dilemma on whether “too slow” is a red flag, and a Text Support breakdown of when not to offer a second date. LINKS MENTIONED: Get free shipping on Quince bedding and more!! Subscribe to my YouTube Channel Listen to episode 174 about new relationships/integration Try the 36 love questions Check out [The And] question cards - use code TALIA Agape question app CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to part 1 of Comparing Notes, a new mini series I'm doing with my friend, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height! This entire series will cover the different stages of a new relationship: what to expect, what to focus on and how to get through it with grace. In this episode, we're deep diving into the first 3 months of a new relationship, talking about our own experiences and providing tons of tips and actionable advice. Even if you're currently single, knowing what's to come can help you focus on the right things early on. You'll learn what we wish we knew when we were in new relationships and so much more. Get free shipping on affordable bedding from Quince⁠ RELATED EPISODES: 174. Navigating relationship "firsts" 161. What starting a healthy relationship looks like after being single for 4 years w/ Ali Jackson 85. You're in a new relationship, now what? 79. How to manage emotional triggers in a relationship 49. 10 signs it probably won't work out in a new relationship CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Maybe you’ve heard the advice to “date multiple people,” but you’re not sure how it actually works, if it’s even possible for you, or why you’d want to try it. In this episode, I’m sharing seven tips on how to approach dating multiple people before getting into a relationship. Multidating isn’t for everyone, but it works well if you're prioritizing dating, and it might be worth trying if you get attached quickly, want to speed up the vetting process, or are curious about a different way to date. Plus, I’m answering a dating dilemma about what to do when you can’t shake the feeling that something is missing in a connection, even when everything else looks good on paper. Here's the previous episode I mentioned about dating other people. Join my new boundaries workshop on Monday, 8/18! Get free shipping on affordable bedding from Quince CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE: Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Dr. Caroline Leaf and I are bringing you the conversation about what it really means to “not be okay”, especially when it comes to dating and our mental health. We cover why sadness or anxiety doesn’t mean we’re broken, and how the pressure to be constantly happy or healed can actually make things worse. Caroline shared practical tools from her new book Help in a Hurry, including how to create a 63-second pause to calm spiraling thoughts and respond with more clarity and confidence. We also talked about how past dating experiences shape our beliefs and how to gently rewire those patterns over time. This conversation was such a powerful reminder that we all have the inner wisdom to navigate hard moments, and that growth starts by giving ourselves compassion. Mentioned in this episode: Caroline's book: Help in a Hurry: Simple Tips for Finding Peace When You're Overwhelmed, Anxious, or Stressed My episode on The Dr. Leaf Show - “Mastering The Art Of Dating” CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's dive into how (and when) to take a real break from dating. If dating feels like a chore or if you're just emotionally tapped out, it just might be time to pull yourself out of the game to recover. In this episode, I'm walking you through how to take a break without feeling like you’re falling behind or sabotaging your chances of meeting someone. You'll learn signs it's time to reset, how to do it strategically and what to focus on while you're not dating. Additionally, I address your questions about oversharing, taking long breaks, and managing the fear of missing out. At the end, you'll hear a dating dilemma about dating someone who has to move for a job and a new segment called Dating Done Right. CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Dating Intentionally, I’m joined by Caroline Winkler, one of my favorite YouTubers with nearly 1M subscribers! Caroline is also the co-host of the Not For Everyone podcast. I reached out to Caroline after seeing her amazing video on relationship with her fiance and how she redefined the age-old advice to "date outside your type." We’re diving into the messy, powerful journey of breaking out of co-dependence and learning how to build real self-trust. Caroline opens up about how she stopped abandoning herself in relationships, started honoring her boundaries, and eventually found someone who could meet her there. We talk emotional availability, the courage it takes to change, and what it really looks like to date intentionally. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma from a woman who doesn't love how her date treats her pet. This one will inspire you! Here's the video I'm referring to about Caroline's story about her engagement and dating outside of her type! Connect with Caroline Winkler Check out her podcast here Slide into her DM's on Instagram Caroline's Youtube channel PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy pursuit and unhealthy chasing in dating, because yes, there’s a big difference. I share personal stories of times I chased and was chased, plus the subtle signs someone’s just not that into you (and what to do when that’s the case). You’ll learn how to check your own behavior, spot disinterest early, and avoid wasting energy trying to prove your worth. I also answer listener questions about texting, planning, and "being too available," and wrap up with a new segment, Text Support, and a dating dilemma about a fast-burn romance. My episode on showing interest in someone - 148 PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What you wear on a date matters, but not how you might think! In this episode, I’m joined by professional stylist Cassandra Sethi, founder of Next Level Wardrobe, to talk about how to dress with confidence and put together stylish outfits in under a minute. We get into how to create outfits that reflect who you are and what to do if your closet just isn’t working for you anymore. Cassandra shares practical, no-fluff advice on building a wardrobe you actually like, shopping sustainably, and dressing through body changes or life transitions. She also breaks down go-to first date outfit formulas for both women and men, plus tips for looking casual but still put together. MORE ON CASSANDRA SETHI: Check out Next Level Wardrobe Find Your Style Quiz! Follow Cassandra Sethi on IG PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this throwback episode, I’m breaking down the difference between sparks, chemistry, and compatibility and why chasing the spark can actually hurt your dating life. We’ll talk about what the spark really is (spoiler: it’s brain chemicals), why it fades fast, and what matters more for a long-term relationship. I share the three biggest myths about sparks, plus tips for building real chemistry and knowing when to keep dating someone, even if you're not feeling butterflies out of the gate. This episode originally aired on 2/13/2024. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: * How to Not Die Alone by Logan Ury * Ep. 27 – How To Tell If Someone Is A Good Match * My course: How to Identify Your Needs PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this bonus episode, I'm sharing my thoughts on the new movie, "Materialists." I'm breaking down what this film says about love, money, capitalism and dating for the long term, and what it got right about today's dating culture. If you haven't seen this movie yet, beware of spoilers! I'd love to hear your thoughts on this too, so drop your hot takes in the comments below. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m diving into the magic of the real-life meet-cute (yes, it still happens)! You'll hear voice notes from listeners sharing stories about how they met people off the apps, plus my own reflections on building confidence to strike up conversations wth strangers, flirting in everyday situations, and saying yes to new experiences. At the end, we’ll talk about what adult summer camp taught me about connection and the power of community. I'm also sharing a new segment called Date Idea Drop to inspire you to have dates that aren't just drinks and dinner. PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever fallen for a friend? Struggled to balance dating and maintaining your closest connections? In this episode of Dating Intentionally, I’m joined by friendship expert and journalist Anna Goldfarb, author of Modern Friendship, to talk about the emotional intelligence it takes to navigate friendship, dating, and everything in between. We explore the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships, how to communicate when feelings for a friend grow, and why the quality of your friendships directly impacts your success in dating. Whether you’re craving deeper connection, feeling burned by fading friendships, or wondering if not having close friends is a red flag, this conversation is for you. At the end, we get into an email from a listener who feels resentful toward her friends' indifference about world issues. MORE ON ANNA GOLDFARB: ⁠See what’s happening on her Instagram⁠ Her book is SO good- take a peek here ⁠NEW IRL DATING WORKSHOP⁠ PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to talk about the future in dating without putting pressure on the other person. Whether you’re in the early stages or navigating a new relationship, these conversations can feel tricky, but they don’t have to be. I’m sharing mindset shifts that help, scripts for each stage of dating, what actually creates pressure, and practical ways to bring up future plans without scaring someone off. We’ll also get into how to stay grounded in your own vision while respecting their pace. At the end I answer a dating dilemma and introduce a new segment called Text Support! NEW IRL DATING WORKSHOP https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/offline-dating PARTNERS! ⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Read more on the blog⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m diving into the often messy, misunderstood world of casual dating. If you’ve ever wondered how to approach it without getting emotionally wrecked or unintentionally leading someone on this one’s for you. I’m breaking down how to date casually with clarity, from being upfront about your intentions to setting boundaries that protect your energy. We’ll talk about why emotional detachment matters, how to enjoy casual connections without automatically making it about sex, and what to do if you catch real feelings. PARTNERS! ⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ ⁠Read more on the blog⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Danny Goldstein, founder of the Austin-based matchmaking company Crux Compatible, to talk all things compatibility, chemistry, and intentional dating. Danny has a fascinating journey, from practicing law to running a matchmaking business rooted in a deep understanding of what actually makes two people a good fit. We dive into his unique process, including the extensive questionnaire he uses with clients, and break down the qualities that truly matter in early dating versus the ones we tend to over-prioritize. Danny shares how to plan dates that reveal real compatibility, what he sees daters get wrong most often, and his personal playbook for making early connections feel both fun and meaningful. If you’ve ever felt unsure how to spot real compatibility, this episode is for you! PARTNERS: ⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ ⁠Dating Intentionally on TikTok⁠ ⁠Read more on the blog⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m diving into why we keep getting drawn to the same types of partners, even when those relationships don't work out or we keep getting hurt. I’ll break down the psychology behind attraction, how our early experiences and attachment styles play a huge role, and why it’s so damn hard to break those familiar patterns. I’m also sharing my own journey of recognizing these dynamics in my life and what it took to finally shift from toxic cycles to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Plus, I’ve got some practical tips to help you do the same. PARTNERS: ⁠⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

According to Matchmaker Maria, you're not as picky as you think. In this episode, Maria Avgitidis (@matchmakermaria) is back on the pod to talk all things dating, relationships, and her brand-new book, Ask A Matchmaker. We get into the nitty-gritty of what it really takes to find (and keep) the right person. We also dive deep into the power of writing a manifest (NOT to be confused with manifestation) about what you want in a partner and how creating a clear vision focused on positivity can shift your entire dating experience. At the end, we talk about Dr. Helen Fisher's Temperament Inventory (a method of personality typing) and how Maria uses it in her work. Here's our first episode together! PARTNERS: ⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to navigating the milestones you’ll hit in a new relationship. All of these “firsts” can be both exciting and nerve-wracking! From the first sleepover to meeting each other's friends and family, these "firsts" often come with their own set of challenges and considerations. I want you to approach these significant moments with intention and authenticity. I’m discussing timing, boundaries, and communication strategies for various relationship milestones, including weekend getaways, deeper conversations, and holiday celebrations. Whether you're currently dating or preparing for future relationships, this episode offers practical advice on handling these important transitions while staying true to yourself. PARTNERS! ⁠⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans!⁠ CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ ⁠Read more on the blog⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m sitting down with Britt Frank to dig into the messy, complicated world of the inner critics, especially how it shows up in dating. We talk about recognizing the nature of our inner dialogue and why it’s so important to validate our feelings instead of brushing them off. Throughout our conversation, we explore how to move from letting our inner critic take the lead to guiding it into a more supportive role. We get into why self-leadership matters, how anxiety plays into our lives, and why being kind to ourselves makes all the difference in relationships. This episode is all about shifting from self-judgment to self-acceptance and building the kind of inner dialogue that helps us thrive. Check out Britt's new book, Align Your Mind! PARTNERS! ⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠⁠ ⁠Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans! CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Dating Intentionally, I’m talking about the very real and very common experience of rushing a connection in dating. You’ll hear the signs to look out for, like constant texting, premature intimacy, or talking about the future way too soon. While some of this can feel exciting, I explain why it’s often a red flag, not just enthusiasm. I’ll walk you through how to recognize when things are moving too fast, how to set boundaries without killing the vibe, and why it’s so important to actually get to know someone before you start planning your life together. I wrap things up with some concrete ways to slow it down and find a pace that feels right for you. PARTNERS ⁠Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership!⁠ Mint Mobile: Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans! CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we’re getting into why we’re so often drawn to the wrong people and what it takes to break out of those old attraction patterns for good. If you’ve ever found yourself chasing a certain vibe or dynamic in dating (even when it never really works out), this conversation is going to hit. I’m joined by Louise Rumball, host of the Healing Honeys podcast (formerly Openhouse) and creator of Daily Devotion, a somatic wellness studio helping women feel better in their bodies. Louise shares her own experience of rewiring her attraction patterns, how she met her current partner, and what healing looks like in real life. We also talk about embracing single life, the importance of a slow burn, decentering romance, what to focus on if you’re at the start of your healing journey, and what growth looks like even after years of therapy and self-work. PARTNERS Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠ ⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership! CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn all about "the shift" which is what you experience when someone goes from super enthusiastic about you, to suddenly pulling away, sometimes out of nowhere. It's confusing, disheartening and all too common. Listen to learn why this happens, what you can do about it and my take on whether or not you can stop it before it happens/see it coming. PARTNERS Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!⁠ ⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership! CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class https://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it’s like to date with ADHD and how ADHD can show up in dating and relationships in ways you might not expect. Whether you have ADHD or you’re dating someone who does (or might), this conversation is packed with insights you won’t want to miss. I’m joined by Christal Wang, founder of Shimmer Care and one of my favorite ADHD educators on Instagram (@adhd.christal). We get into how ADHD impacts communication, connection, and emotional regulation in dating, plus practical tips for both people with ADHD and their partners. This episode isn’t just for neurodivergent folks, it’s for anyone who wants to date with more patience, empathy, and self-awareness. PARTNERS Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!⁠ ⁠Get a discount on your Galatea membership! CONNECT WITH ME: Ask a question for me to answer on the pod Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally! MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide Get more dating advice from me on YouTube Dating Intentionally on TikTok Read more on the blog DATING COURSES Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps How To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Class SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode originally aired 12/22/23! Is it love bombing or healthy enthusiasm? In this episode, I break down how to distinguish between genuine interest and manipulative intensity. We’ll cover clear signs of love bombing, why people do it, and what to do if you find yourself in a relationship with a love bomber. Plus, you’ll hear real stories from Dating Intentionally listeners who’ve been through it. and what they wish they knew sooner.PARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn why so many dating app profiles start to look and sound the same and what that means on a deeper level (It's deeper than you think). I’m joined by Dr. Jennie Young, a writer, English professor, and creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method. BHDM is a framework for understanding the patterns and formulas people use in their bios (usually without even realizing it). We talk about why these patterns show up, how they shape your experience swiping, and how to create a dating app profile that actually stands out without trying so hard. At the end, we analyze some profiles and messages together to identify rhetorical patterns. This episode is going to change how you look at dating app profiles! Jennie's InstagramJennie's approach to navigating dating app messages (IG)Check out Jennie's SubstackBurned Haystack Dating Method RULESBurned Haystack Dating Method Facebook GroupPARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the three C's of being good at dating: character, curiosity, and confidence. I'll share how each one plays into being a great date, and why that matters in the first place. Even though we're dating to ultimately stop dating, your skills in this area will 100% affect your outcome. This episode will guide you through the qualities that truly matter, how to work on them, and what happens when you have two, but not all three. PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm diving into five dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Tune in to hear my advice on these dating and relationship issues: I got my dream job in another country. How should I approach dating? How do I bounce back from dating burnout when nothing seems to be working? Why do so many first dates get canceled, and is it something I’m doing wrong? Is a slow-burn connection worth exploring if it feels more like friendship than chemistry? Should I risk an 8-year friendship to tell my friend I have feelings for him? PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we're getting into what standards in dating are (and what they're not) and how to tell if your standards are too high or too low. I get into the dangers of each and how to adjust your standards no matter which category you fall into. Are your standards holding you back? Hint: Too-high standards are a form of self-sabotage, and too-low standards are a form of self-abandonment. Examples of dating standards: I date people who have the time to see me in person within days of matching or first starting to talk. I continue to date people who are consistent in their communication I sleep with someone when I feel confident there’s alignment in what kind of relationship we’re both looking for I date people who have the ability to share times that work for them for dates, make plans with me and follow through I continue seeing people who I’m attracted to by the third date PARTNERS!Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attachment often hides in plain sight for high achievers, and we dig into why so many of us look for safety in others instead of creating it internally. This conversation is packed with mic-drop moments and hard truths that will get you thinking differently about your emotions, how you handle them, and how that relates to your love life.Check out Clare's podcast, Be That Healing Girl PodcastPARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm deep-diving into ten relationship green flags that aren't talked about enough, how to spot them, and their red flag counterparts. You deserve a partner who has the basic green flags we always talk about like consistency, respect, listening, effort etc. But today, we're going deeper into what it looks like to have a truly supportive partner and the real signs that your partner is empathetic and compassionate. At the end, I address a question about navigating dating someone who shows up in all the right ways but misses the mark on one small but important thing. PARTNERSWant thicker hair? Get $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGalatea - Get 25% off your membership for a steamy reading experience!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height (one of my favorite dating podcasts) is back on the pod to talk about how she met her current boyfriend just days after we recorded our first episode together in 2024. Ali gets into meeting her boyfriend in person, managing anxiety while getting into a new relationship, how she knew she wanted to commit and how she had the "define the relationship" conversation. We also get into dating outside your type, making the first move and why being yourself (even if you're awkward) is always the best move. At the end, Ali shares advice for IRL dating. This episode is packed with advice and will inspire you to keep going, even if you've been dating for a long time. Listen to our first episode together (one of my top five episodes from 2024)PARTNERSWant thicker hair? Get $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGalatea - Get 25% off your membership for a steamy reading experience!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn some of the main reasons why you might keep falling for people who aren't the right match for you, like feeling drawn to what's familiar or being stuck in the anxious/avoidant cycle. Awareness of your patterns is the first step to breaking out of them! This episode also breaks down steps to catching yourself before you fall for the wrong person (again) and start shifting your focus on folks who could be a great match! Episode on attachment theory (anxious/avoidant attachment)Episode on how to thrive while single and datingEpisode on attachment stylesPARTNERS!Try Dipsea for 30 days freeGet up to 27 free meals with Marley SpoonCheck out Galatea!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, my guest, Michelle Lentz, breaks down the key attributes to look for in a long-term partner to have a successful relationship (and marriage, if that's what you're looking for). Michelle's marriage is going on 38 years! She has an Instagram account and book (Hey Beginner Wife) dedicated to the ins and outs of not just making a marriage last but enjoying your connection for the long haul. We talk about soul mates, managing expectations, communication tips, questions to ask in early dating when looking for marriage, and so much more. PARTNERS!Try Dipsea for 30 days FREEGet up to 27 free meals with Marley Spoon with code DATINGCheck out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right in your dating life, but feel like nothing is working, this episode is for you. First, I get into a handful of mindset shifts to help you feel less stuck and down about where you are in your dating life today, and then I get into different approaches you can take to get unstuck. You'll walk away from this episode with a new perspective on timing, what success looks like in dating and what you can actually control in your dating life. Here's the episode on dating for validation that I mentioned.PARTNERS!Try up to 27 free meals from Marley Spoon! Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm diving into four dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Here are the questions I get into on this episode: "He ghosted me but watches my stories daily - can I salvage this?" "I don't mind pursuing men, but they don't take me seriously. What am I doing wrong?" "I'm a liberal woman, and he's a Trump supporter. Can it work?" "I've done everything to move on after getting blindsided by my ex, but I'm still not over it. What can I do?" Here's the episode I mentioned about signs that someone is interested/how to show interest.PARTNERS!Try up to 27 free meals from Marley Spoon! Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get 90+ questions to ask in early datingDo you ever struggle with what to talk about on a date? Or maybe you want to get better at building real connections? In this episode, I’m sharing tons of inspiration for great questions to ask in early dating, the worst ones to avoid, and navigating tricky conversations without derailing the date. We’ll also dive into the number one topic that so many daters regret not bringing up sooner, how to answer "why are you single" (and what to ask instead). I also share how to ask better follow-up questions and scripts for handling tough topics like past relationships, STI talks, and career gaps.Why they don't ask questions and how to dealPARTNERSGet $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGGet Dipsea for 30 days FREE Check out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My brother Alex Koren is back on the podcast to share dating advice for folks looking for a long term relationship! Alex is a 30-year-old guy from NYC with his take on dating, relationships, and figuring out who’s the one. In this episode, we break down how to separate needs vs. wants, what past relationships can teach you, and how to tell if someone is just in it for the chase or actually ready for commitment. We also talk about how to approach people and where to meet great matches IRL. (Hint, it's not at the bars). Alex also shares his thoughts on not settling, DTR conversations, and how to build real comfort in dating. Plus, we dive into the mindset shifts that can help you make better choices in love, without overcomplicating things.Listen to Alex's previous episodeCheck out Random Acts of DatingPARTNERSGet $10 off Nutrafol with code DATINGCheck out Galatea and get 25% off your subscriptionDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr ClassCONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogSUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.