Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I got to talk to dating creator and author Lauren Josephine about what she learned during her decade-long dating journey and going on over 200 dates until she met her current boyfriend in an unexpected place online. We get into how to recover from situationships and fantasy relationships that don't pan out, how she got over the ick with her bf, bad advice she took in her journey and the mindset that works if you want to delete dating apps. Lauren provides so many useful nuggets of information in this episode! We also answer a listener's questions about dating post-divorce and what to do when they don't want to date, but want to be friends. Connect with Lauren Josephine on IG: @lookingforsomethingseriousGet Lauren's book: Looking For Something SeriousSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Lauren Josephine: Lauren found her passion for writing about love at age 19 after a devastating breakup. She then moved to the San Francisco Bay Area in her early 20s and began a decade-long dating journey in which she went on over 200 dates in a tireless search for love. The years of struggle, frustration, and loneliness eventually inspired her to write a book to help others feel less alone on their dating journeys. Lauren's mission as an author and a human in the world is to be an advocate for single people everywhere by validating just how emotionally taxing a modern dating journey can be. Her writing offers the encouragement, comedic relief, insight, and solidarity that every modern dater deserves in their search for love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get first date anxiety? This episode walks you through each step of a first date, from confirming the time to deciding if you're going to hug or kiss at the end. I also share tips for having fun conversations on first dates, as well as having a solid mindset so you don't let your anxiety run the show. At the end, I'm sharing your awkward first date stories with my boyfriend, Johnny.Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm talking to Julia from the Pretty Much Done podcast. We cover how to deal with comparing yourself to people in relationships, how to navigate being single when you thought you’d be married with kids by now and what the path to self-acceptance looks like. We also get into her dating life a bit in Austin, Texas and how she’s experimenting with meeting people in the wild. If you’re single and struggling or you’re thinking about getting out of a relationship where you know you’re settling, this is the episode for you!Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Julia:At 30 years old, Julia went viral for showcasing a day in her life as a single woman with no kids, soon igniting a larger conversation on the societal expectations placed on women by family, religion, work culture and more. Thousands of women soon flooded Julia’s DMs with their own stories on how they live life on their own terms and timeline and praised her for unapologetically representing their story.Julia is the host of the popular Pretty Much Done podcast where she welcomes experts, authors and celebrities who have experienced love and love loss and who are pretty much done settling for anything less than what they deserve.Connect with Julia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm talking to dating app expert Genny Diehl about how to increase your matches, improve your profile and go on more dates. You'll get tips you can use right away and learn insights Genny has picked up from using the apps for years and going on hundreds of dates. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Genny:Genny Diehl (@DatingCoachDiehl) is your go-to expert on all things dating apps. As a "digital native" gen-zer, her fresh perspective has guided thousands of singles across age and experiences into quality connections from the apps. She's professionally audited hundreds of Hinge profiles this past year to effectively translate from match to IRL date, and those insights can now be applied to your own profile with her workshop: the Online Dating Crash Course, now including her viral "Top 10 Hinge Hacks Guide."Connect with Genny Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Could 2024 be your year to find a secure, long-term relationship? These are my top 10 dating tips for finding an amazing match (without compromising your mental health) in 2024. From building an amazing life on your own to embracing your search for love, these tips will have the highest impact on your dating life. At the end of the episode, I share a fun personal update. Connect with me on Instagram @dating.intentionally and check out the blog and more resources at https://intentionally.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are they love bombing you or are they just eager about the connection? This episode breaks down the signs of love bombing, concrete examples, why people love bomb in the first place and how to remove yourself from a relationship with a love bomber. I also get into genuine interest and how it's different. You'll hear from a few love-bombing stories from Dating Intentionally listeners too. Get show notes and more at intentionally.dating or connect with me on Instagram @dating.intentionally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Not sure what to do when they keep texting you, but won't ask you out? What about what to say to a ghoster? Or what should you expect after you've gone out a few times? This episode has you covered. Listen and learn about texting etiquette, what to expect, what to say and what not to say when texting someone you just started dating. Have questions? Reach out to me on Instagram @dating.intentionally. You can also grab my date tracker and 9 post-date questions on my site: intetionally.dating/gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever dated someone for a while and wondered, "what are we?" Going from just dating to "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" or whatever labels you want to use can feel terrifying. This episode covers how and when to have the DTR (define the relationship) convo and who to have it with. I'm also getting into what happens if they're not on the same page, and if you should wait for the guy to initiate the conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you ever feel totally apathetic about dating? Or like just the idea of going on a date feels irritating? You might be experiencing dating burnout. In this episode, I talk about how dating burnout and fatigue happen and how to heal from it. You aren't alone!Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Scenario: you're on date #2 with someone and they seem fine, but you're not sure if you should keep seeing them. This podcast breaks down the three things to look for when trying to figure out if someone is a good match for a potential relationship in early-stage dating. Have questions? DM me on Instagram @dating.intentionally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stuck on what to get the person you're newly dating or a long-term partner for the holidays? Not great at gift-giving? My brother Alex (age 29) and I get into how to give memorable gifts your SO will absolutely love. This episode will inspire you to go the extra mile this holiday season without breaking the bank. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Whether you're fresh from a break up or still thinking about that person you dated 3 years ago, this episode is packed with tips, tools and techniques for moving on from an ex. This episode also features a special guest, sharing one very specific tip for moving on. Connect with me on Instagram at @dating.intentionally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you have dating rules? In this episode, I get into the dating rules that worked for me (even though ultimately, I don't believe you have to follow any dating rules to be successful in dating). I also share what rules the community thinks are great, and which ones are BS. At the end, I'm answering a listener's question about what to do after being blindsided. Head to Instagram @dating.intentionally to connect with the community and me! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you grounded in dating? Listen and learn what staying grounded in dating even means and what happens when we get completely carried away. I'm also getting into how to actually slow the process down and stay grounded in reality as you get to know someone you like. At the end of the episode, I'm answering two listener emails.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is an overview and introduction to adult attachment theory. Learn about the four attachment styles (secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganized) how they're developed, and how our attachment style affects the way we operate in relationships and dating. You'll also learn three key things I did to heal my insecure attachment style. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you more preoccupied with getting their interest than whether or not YOU like THEM in dating? This episode covers dating for validation: what it is, why it's leading you into toxic relationships and how to break out of the pattern. Mutual interest in dating is important, but when your desire to be desired takes over, you're going to miss red flags. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

POV: You're starting to talk about moving in with your partner, but you want to be sure you're talking everything through before making the decision. This episode includes eight essential questions and topics to discuss before moving in with your significant other. I also talk about how my BF and I came to the decision over months of discussion and exploration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is all about pacing in a new relationship and early dating. When is it "normal" to kiss? Have sex? Define the relationship? This episode covers it all, as well as a breakdown of how these dating milestones played out in the first year of dating my boyfriend who I met online. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I share 5 different dating dilemmas I received via DM on Instagram. Hear from folks who are dating post-divorce, trying to overcome the fear of dating, navigating conflicting values, and figuring out what to do when you've been seeing them for months, but they're not sure about you. If you want to submit your dating dilemma, DM me at @dating.intentionally on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode features John Teasdale, a 34 y/o single man (as of this recording) who built his own personal dating site to meet women. We talk about this unique approach to finding matches, how he came up with it, how it's going and why he thinks it's more fun than using dating apps. Check the site out here: datejohnteasdale.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why date one person at a time when you can be more efficient and overlap? This episode covers all things circular dating, which is meeting and getting to know a few people simultaneously before deciding who to commit to. I talk about why it's beneficial, how to do it without hurting anyone's feelings or getting exhausted and I share YOUR reasons why it might not be a good idea, just to balance it out. I also go deep into my personal experience with dating multiple people (again, before committing!). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hear from Christopher* a man of Asian descent in his early 30s who works in academia, which means he has to move for work frequently. Christopher is looking for a long-term relationship and takes dating seriously despite the fact that he's dating in an east coast city that he'll eventually have to leave in a few months. We talk about how he uses the apps, what he looks for and how he takes calculated risks in dating. At the end, he tells me a hilarious first date story. I learned so much from Christopher and hope you do too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Think of regular check-ins with your partner as relationship maintenance. In this episode, you'll learn what a relationship check-in is, why they're beneficial and how to start the conversation with your partner about doing them. I'm also sharing my favorite method for relationship check-ins and how I brought the topic up with my current boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hear from Yolanda Russell of The Conscious H.O.E. who shares all about what dating casually in Austin is like. Yolanda has entered the dating scene after ending a 6-year relationship with someone she was engaged to. Now she's dating casually with confidence and empowerment and I got to hear all about it! Yolanda talks about how to build self-confidence, how to navigate dating when you're not looking for anything serious and shares some pretty fun date ideas! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's solo episode, I'm talking about attraction in early dating which comes up a lot. Do you feel like you're never attracted to anyone on the first date, therefore don't end up going on a second date? This episode breaks down why you likely won't feel attraction right away (as a woman dating men) and what to focus on instead. I talk about different types of attraction, how many dates to give it if you don't feel attracted and how to navigate attraction in general. During this episode, I share a story about how I let attraction grow with my current boyfriend who I met on Hinge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hear from Scott, who's a 42 y/o man based in Australia, dating after divorce and as the father of two young boys. Scott shares all about how he approaches intentional dating after divorce, navigating tough dating schedules and how he faces the unique challenges that come up. He shares what works, what doesn't and what he's working toward. At the end of this episode, hear a funny story about how I met GB's (my boyfriend's) parents for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Dating Intentionally Podcast is back! Tired of online dating? Is it just not working for you? I'm sharing my BEST tips and tricks for meeting people in real life and finding good matches off the apps. I talk about what I've tried that actually works, how to start conversations with strangers and be more approachable. If you want to meet someone in real life to date, I've got you covered. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm sharing my 5 needs in a partner and how I figured them out. I'm also talking about how to figure out your relationship needs vs. wants and how to communicate them with the person you're dating. I also cover how to address feelings of guilt around needs and the concept of interdependence in relationships. At the end, as a bonus, I'm sharing the infamous Fisherman story - which is the story behind why a guy ended things with me over an Instagram DM. This will be the last episode in this first chapter? series? season? of Dating Intentionally. We'll be back in a few weeks with guests! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

There's nothing quite like the anxiety that comes with trying to figure out where to spend the holidays with your significant other! In this episode, I'm talking about how to have conversations around the holidays, approaching gifts for each other and families, and the truth about letting people down in the process of making these decisions. I'm also sharing how I'm approaching the holidays differently in my new relationship and the super embarrassing experience I had decorating a Christmas tree for the first time ever in high school. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk about how each relationship gives us an opportunity break old habits and patterns and replace them with new healthier ones. I cover specific habits I'm working on breaking in my new relationship, like not speaking my needs and keeping score. I'll also talk about relationship habits I'm working on creating, like asking more questions and prioritizing repair attempts after handling conflict with my parnter. Finally, I talk about therapy and how that's helped me in this process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I share my best tips for navigating sex in earl stage dating. I talk a bit about my experience navigating physical intimacy early on, when to actually have sex with someone you just started dating, how to set and communicate boundaries and more. I’ll also cover a few listener questions and share the worst (but funny, not like actually bad) experience I had having sex with someone new in the last year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I talk about having a healthy mindset for first dates, what to NOT do before a first date, how to have a great first date, how to decide if it's worth going on a second date and more. I also answer listener questions and share my worst first date story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Situationships are messy, confusing and in my opinion, a total waste of time if you're looking for a serious relationship. In this episode, I talk about what situationships are, why they happen in the first place, how to get out of one if that's your life right now and how to avoid them altogether. You deserve better ok? I also answer a listener question about situationships and share a personal experience with being in one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Deciding to break up or stick it out is one of the toughest choices you'll ever make (maybe more than once) in your relationship. In this episode, I share my very personal experience with choosing to end a 6-year relationship. I walk you through the questions I asked myself, how I realized my ex was wrong for me and how I ultimately called it off. I also share my favorite break-up book as well as a couple of key tips to help you make a decision if you find yourself in the same dilemma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I share my best practices for dating apps from soup to nuts - everything from how to set up your profile to setting up dates. But most importantly, I talk about a successful dating app mindset so you can stop deleting and re-downloading dating apps every few weeks. Dating apps CAN be fun and I can't wait for you to hear how they can work for you, not against you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're dating, especially on dating apps, you're going to face a good amount of rejection. Rejection comes in many forms and it's one of the hardest parts of staying positive on that dating grind. In this episode, you'll learn how to reframe rejection, how to move on after you've been rejected, and some practices you can try today to increase your self-worth.Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

New to dating? Have you been at it for a while and want to get better? You're in the right place. On Dating Intentionally, you'll get practical, no-nonsense advice to make dating easier and more fun twice a week (Tuesdays and Fridays). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.