Connected Families Podcast

Prayer is a meaningful faith practice that you probably want to pass on to your kids, but teaching your kids to pray may feel overwhelming. You may feel unsure how to answer your kid’s questions about prayer or how to incorporate regular prayer times with them into your daily life. In today’s podcast, Stephanie Thurling (author and co-founder of Raising Prayerful Kids) joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to talk about teaching children to pray in meaningful ways.  Stephanie’s experience working with youth and families inspired her to start her ministry equipping parents to pray with their children.   In this podcast you’ll discover: practical tools you can use for how to pray with your child how to create moments of connection through blessing prayersways to use the Bible to guide prayer with your kidscommon pitfalls parents experience when they try to teach their kids to pray (and what to do about them!) We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth! Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families Parenting Strengths AssessmentLectio DivinaRaising Prayerful Kids BookRaising Prayerful Kids Ministry Guest Bio:  Steph Thurling is co-founder of Raising Prayerful Kids, a ministry that equips parents to pray with their kids in meaningful ways. She has her master’s degree in youth, family, and culture from Fuller Theological Seminary and worked in youth ministry for several years before deciding to stay home with her kids. .stk-llzrgrv-container{box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(30,63,82,0.3) !important} .stk-2deafez .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-2deafez .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}}Does your child need help calming down? Would a free course presenting you 7 sensory strategies to calm your child be useful? If yes, take our FREE online course 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids. .stk-xwhbgiz .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;font-weight:600 !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-xwhbgiz .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important}}TELL ME MORE

Your child is done with school (or preschool) for the day and instead of relaxing, you’re now navigating meltdown after meltdown.  Why do the strategies that worked with one child fall flat with another?  Do you find yourself wondering, “Will it always be this way?” In today’s podcast, Lynne Jackson (Occupational Therapist and Connected Families Co-Founder), and Amy Nyvall (seasoned mom and past coaching client) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to share ideas on how daily sensory rhythms can bring down the chaos and cultivate more peace in your home.  Through Amy’s story, you’ll learn how daily rhythms that incorporate sensory activities will often help your child avoid meltdowns and reestablish calm in moments of chaos. In this podcast you’ll discover: how to find calm and clarity as a parent to guide your family to take the next step ideas to schedule your day to create a culture of peace in your home ideas to help equip your family through the challenges of mornings, dinner time, and quiet time activities to try when everybody feels off (one even includes chocolate!) We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth! Mentioned in this podcast: Sensitive & Intense Kids online course – Coming Early 2023! 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids-FREE online course (this includes the video of Amy’s husband doing the burrito roll with kids) Guest Bio:  Amy and her husband Andrew have been married for 16 years and live among the fir trees outside Portland, Oregon. They enjoy outdoor adventures as much as possible and have a blast homeschooling their three intensely creative, adventurous, and active children. In her spare time, you’ll find Amy encouraging moms and homeschoolers, learning alongside the kids, or slipping away to read from a stack of her own books. Amy is passionate about creating a family culture that equips our children to be prepared to serve the Lord in the days ahead. .stk-aj2l13h{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-2,#98c1d9) !important}.stk-aj2l13h:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-2,#98c1d9) !important}.stk-aj2l13h > .stk-separator__bottom{transform:scaleX(-1) !important} .stk-nien5hf{align-self:center !important} Take the course that was made for your family. Got a child with extra big emotions? We get it. And we want to support and equip you. Raising an intense and sensitive child isn’t easy, but it can be filled with hope. .stk-d5t92v3 .stk-button{background:var(--theme-palette-color-1,#ee6c4d) !important}.stk-d5t92v3 .stk-button:hover:after{background:var(--theme-palette-color-4,#1e3f52) !important;opacity:1 !important}.stk-d5t92v3 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8,#ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-d5t92v3 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important}}LEARN MORE .stk-ivow046{align-self:center !important}

Do you sometimes struggle to think of an appropriate consequence for your child’s misbehavior?  Or dole out punishment only to have your child refuse to accept the punishment? Sigh.  Offering consistent and effective discipline can feel like an ongoing and overwhelming challenge.  In today’s episode, Chad Hayenga (Connected Families Director of Education & Equipping), and Katie Wetsell (Connected Families Certified Parent Coach) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss what effective discipline can look like. (It IS possible!) The conversation explores the messages we send through discipline and how to coach children to be responsible for their actions. In this podcast you’ll discover: 3 key questions to ask in any discipline situationhow to work with your child as a team for more effective disciplinethe opportunity in discipline to offer and receive God’s grace and forgivenesshow to help your child see the natural impacts of their behaviorhow to guide your child to “make it right” how “paused privileges” can help motivate a child  We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth! Mentioned in this podcast: Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course registration Connected Families Parent Coach CertificationConnected Families Parent CoachingConnected Families PodcastGalatians 6:7  Guest Bio:  Katie Wetsell is our Discipline That Connects online course moderator. She is also a Connected Families Certified Parent Coach, pediatric nurse, and mom of four through birth and adoption. She is passionate about encouraging and empowering parents to love their families with confidence and connection. Building on her bedside experience, she has also been trained in SPACE treatment (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions) to help parents support their children in overcoming anxiety. Her website is www.parentwithhope.org. .stk-7d53211{background-color:#FFFFFF !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important}.stk-7d53211:before{background-color:#FFFFFF !important}.stk-7d53211-container{background-color:#ea8c75 !important}.stk-7d53211-container:before{background-color:#ea8c75 !important}.stk-7d53211 .stk-block-hero__content{min-height:500px !important;align-items:center !important;display:flex !important} .stk-8ef0492{margin-bottom:0px !important}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-8ef0492-column{--stk-col-order-1:2 !important;--stk-col-order-2:1 !important}} .stk-1f619eb{align-self:center !important}.stk-1f619eb-container{max-width:450px !important} .stk-3ba9f2f .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:55px !important;color:#ffffff !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-3ba9f2f .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}}You can help your child with their anger. .stk-57d8075 .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-3,#293241) !important;font-weight:600 !important}Learn how to break the addictive anger cycle. Get the FREE ebook, Helping Kids With Anger. .stk-61a9653-container{margin-top:0px !important;margin-right:0px !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:0px !important} .stk-ef22c6e .stk-img-wrapper{height:750px !important}.stk-ef22c6e .stk-img-wrapper img{object-fit:contain !important}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-ef22c6e .stk-img-wrapper{width:100% !important;height:500px !important}.stk-ef22c6e .stk-img-wrapper img{object-fit:contain !important}}

In today’s episode, Corrie and Alan Thetford (founders of Building Wise Families and Connected Families Certified Parent Coaches) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss how to help our children want to calm down when they are experiencing big emotions. The conversation explores what’s going on in us as parents when we try to make our child calm down, the role of empathy in supporting our child’s big emotions, and what’s going on beneath the surface of our child’s big outburst.   In this podcast, you’ll discover: what’s happening in your child’s brain and body that makes them not want to calm downhow your good intentions to make your child stop or take a break during a meltdown can actually escalate emotionsempathy’s role in helping your child feel understood and able to move through big emotions so they want to calmwhy something small is often the trigger for your child’s cascade of emotion We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth! Mentioned in this podcast: Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course  Connected Families Parent CoachingConnected Families Coaching Certification programCorrie & Alan Thetford’s Podcast – Building Wise Families Guest Bio:  Alan and Corrie have four children and are Connected Families Certified Parent Coaches as well as instructors for CF coaches-in-training. They are passionate about multiplying the gospel by helping families transform power struggles and conflicts into opportunities for gospel messages.   .stk-h5im9qv{background-color:#FFFFFF !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important}.stk-h5im9qv:before{background-color:#FFFFFF !important}.stk-h5im9qv-container{background-color:#ea8c75 !important}.stk-h5im9qv-container:before{background-color:#ea8c75 !important}.stk-h5im9qv .stk-block-hero__content{min-height:500px !important;align-items:center !important;display:flex !important} .stk-ujxef42{margin-bottom:0px !important}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-ujxef42-column{--stk-col-order-1:2 !important;--stk-col-order-2:1 !important}} .stk-caip6zr{align-self:center !important}.stk-caip6zr-container{max-width:450px !important} .stk-fx3ba5e .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:55px !important;color:#ffffff !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-fx3ba5e .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}}You can help your child with their anger. .stk-ub25olg .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-3,#293241) !important;font-weight:600 !important}Learn how to break the addictive anger cycle. Get the FREE ebook, Helping Kids With Anger. .stk-r2adph5-container{margin-top:0px !important;margin-right:0px !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:0px !important} .stk-netbqxw .stk-img-wrapper{height:750px !important}.stk-netbqxw .stk-img-wrapper img{object-fit:contain !important}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-netbqxw .stk-img-wrapper{width:100% !important;height:500px !important}.stk-netbqxw .stk-img-wrapper img{object-fit:contain !important}}

“Why are you so mad all the time?” Do you ever hear this from your child? You probably don’t intend to look mad. You may not even be aware of your furrowed brow or irritated expression. And it’s especially hard to keep your cool in the heat of the moment when your child pushes your buttons. But what message does your expression send to your child? Sure, you could try to put on a happy face and force a polite smile, but it’s not the most effective or long-term solution. So what can you do to keep things truly calm? In today’s podcast, Jim and Lynne Jackson (Co-Founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to dig deep into an important principle of the Connected Families Framework. At the foundation level of the framework, you learn to move from “fast, large, and loud” to “slow, low, and listen.” This helps kids feel safe during discipline. Often, parents leverage fear and intensity to “change” kids’ behavior. But kids read facial expressions more than anything else. Have you ever noticed your child looking at your face and listening to the tone of your voice to discern if they are truly safe? So how do you show up safe for your kids? At Connected Families, we start with the question, “What’s going on in me?” and “What does my child see on my face in times of discipline?” When you are able to do this inner work, your calm demeanor toward your kids can be a true reflection of a peaceful heart, not just a contrived calm. Then you can have the emotional capacity to help your struggling child. This will help guide them toward wisdom, connection, and grace, with true compassion.  In this podcast, you’ll learn: how to work toward becoming truly calm on the inside, not just on the outsidepractical tools for the heat of the moment to help you regulate your nervous system (and then help your child regulate too!)the science of creating brain pathways that can help you respond better in future discipline situationsthe transforming power of the principles in the Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course, and the beautiful testimony of one mom’s parenting journey through the course We hope that you have been helped by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth!  Mentioned in this podcast: Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online courseFramework magnetConnected Families FrameworkMichael McKnightDo-oversBible verses: 2 Corinthians 10:5, Ephesians 2:10, Mark 6:34 In the Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course, you’ll learn 4 key messages that all kids long to hear. You’ll be equipped to move into frustrating moments of misbehavior to lead with grace, not fear or anger. Register today! The course begins on October 4th. .stk-ff19205-container{box-shadow:7px 5px 30px rgba(72,73,121,0.15) !important}.stk-ff19205 > .stk-separator__bottom{transform:scaleX(-1) !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-ff19205-column{--stk-col-order-1:2 !important;--stk-col-order-2:1 !important}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-ff19205-column{--stk-col-order-1:2 !important;--stk-col-order-2:1 !important}} .stk-4bc716e{align-self:center !important} .stk-d485067{align-self:center !important} .stk-85db8e2 .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-85db8e2 .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-85db8e2 .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:30px !important}}4 simple messages.1 simple framework. .stk-837ad59 .stk-block-text__text{font-size:19px !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-837ad59 .stk-block-text__text{font-size:19px !important}}Get the FREE ebook, and start your journey toward better, more connective discipline in your home. Related PostsChildhood Wounds: What They Are & How To Free Your Parenting of ThemKids and Misbehavior: Is It Sin? Or Something Else? | Ep. 108Power Struggles: Why We Get Stuck In Them & How to Move Toward Problem Solving

Is it sin when my child misbehaves? Or is there something else going on under the surface? What is gentle parenting? What is biblical parenting? This topic is definitely making the rounds right now on social media, in churches, and in our homes. It can be overwhelming and confusing. What is true? What does the Bible really say about all of this? If you are struggling with all the controversy around this topic, you are in good company with so many other parents, and you will not want to miss this episode! In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Occupational Therapist and Connected Families Co-Founder) and Amanda Erickson (Co-Founder of Flourishing Homes and Families) to sift through and decipher the many messages we get as parents about the topic of sin and misbehavior. They discuss the importance of understanding underlying issues, being able to connect with your child, and seeing the opportunity to set your child up for success in the moment and for the future.            Our best parenting leaves our kids eager to receive the guidance and conviction of the Holy Spirit, as we model the grace and reconciliation we all receive from Jesus. When you prioritize this kind of connection, you equip your child to grow in wisdom and in their God-given purpose. In this podcast, you’ll learn about: teaching the beauty of repentance without the shame, celebrating the growing process, and leaving the job of conviction to the Holy Spirit             Ancient Hebrew culture, and how their understanding of childhood can bring context to the biblical wisdom that informs your parentinghow aspects of brain science align with biblical parenting, and how it can bring a tender perspective to your parenting as you disciple your growing childpractical and biblical ways you can respond with love in misbehavior to help calm and guide your child toward wisdom and connection Has this podcast been helpful to you today? If so, would you mind taking a minute to share it with other parents who need some encouragement too? You can also subscribe to this podcast. We want to share God’s grace and truth with more parents just like you. Have questions? Please reach out, we are here to help! Mentioned in this podcast: 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The FREE Online CourseFlourishing Homes and FamiliesPerspectives on Spanking FREE ebook Doctrine of Grace in Parenting podcast Ep.96Dr. John TaylorConnected Families FrameworkConnected Families FREE ResourcesDiscipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart Online CourseScripture verses: Romans 7,8, Ezekiel 18:20, Jeremiah 19:4,5, Deuteronomy 1:39, Isaiah 7:16, Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 22:15 (NKJV), Prov 22:15 (HCSB), Philippians 2:4, Romans 7:15, Exodus 4:11-17, 1 Kings19:1-9, John 11:17-44, Luke 22:7-62, John 21:15-17, Luke 6:37 Guest bio: Amanda Erickson is passionate about helping moms be less stressed and angry so they can flourish in their motherhood. This passion is born out of her own experience with postpartum anxiety, rage, and anger. She delights in linking arms with other mamas so they know that gentle, peaceful, grace-based parenting isn’t only Scripturally sound—it’s actually possible! An artist and free spirit, she is most in her element when she is speaking or creating. Amanda holds a Bachelor of Arts in Religion from BMA Theological Seminary. Amanda and her husband David have been married for 17 years, have two boys, and currently reside in East Texas. .stk-w9gp7sh-container:hover{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-6, #e4eff5) !important;}.stk-w9gp7sh-container:hover:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-6, #e4eff5) !important;} Learn more about the Framework Want to dig deeper into Connected Families’ Parenting Framework? Get our FREE ebook, What Kids Need: 4 Messages That Build Identity.

What difference does the gospel make in our lives? In our parenting?  The message of God’s love communicates the unconditional truth that each of us has been made in the image of God. Our connection with Jesus brings hope and transformation to every area of our lives.  The love and grace of God is the source of everything we do at Connected Families. One of the things that sets us apart is that we work to make scripture practical for parents. The Bible is our sure foundation and the first resource we consider in our teaching. Today’s podcast is the first of two podcasts about how the gospel informs the Connected Families Framework. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Connected Families Co-Founders Jim and Lynne Jackson to discuss how being a new creation in Christ can bring change into every part of our lives–including the everyday trials of parenting!  We can live rooted and grounded in Jesus and put our trust in Him instead of the outcomes we’re looking for with our children. We can build our identity as redeemed children of God, bestowed with every spiritual blessing and created for God’s purpose and design. This abundant life in Christ then pours out and blesses those around us, especially our children!     In this podcast: In today’s podcast, you will discover how the gospel is infused into the first three levels of our Framework: “You are SAFE with me.” Jesus is there to help you when you feel anxious or overwhelmed. He can help you explore, “What’s going on in me?” In Christ, you have the ability to be ok, even when your kids are not ok, because your identity is in Jesus.  “You are LOVED no matter what.” Neither you nor your child has to do something or change before Jesus loves you. Misbehavior is the golden opportunity to show unconditional love to your kids. “You are CALLED and CAPABLE.” The deeper you are able to receive God’s grace and truth for yourself, the more peace and confidence you can embrace as you coach your kids. God will partner with you as you help them grow in His purpose for their life.  Stay tuned for the second part of this podcast, “Kids and Misbehavior: Is it sin? Or something else?” as we continue the conversation about the gospel and the Connected Families Framework. You won’t want to miss the eye-opening discussion about the last level of the Framework, “You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions.” In the meantime check out our FREE resources! Helpful resources mentioned in this podcast: 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The FREE Online Course Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart Online Course Connected Families Framework Scripture verses: 2 Corinthians 5:17, Romans 10:9, Ephesians 1 and 2, Ephesians 2:10, Ephesians 3:16-18, Psalm 139, Galatians 4:4-6, James 1, Romans 5:8, Luke 15:11-32 .stk-8bbe0f0{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-8bbe0f0-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-8bbe0f0-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })()

“These clothes are itchy!” “I can’t eat this, it’s mushy!” Meltdowns at bedtime. High energy at mealtime. Lots of big feelings about everything! There is usually at least one child like this in every family! If your child freaks out easily and you can relate, it is very possible that you are parenting a sensitive and intense child. What do we mean by sensitive and intense? It’s not an official medical term or a diagnosis. It’s simply a descriptive way to guide how we look at the kiddos that become easily overwhelmed with everyday life. These kids are more sensitive to the world around them and struggle to become calm and regulated. They often think more deeply, react more loudly, and probably consume a lot of your energy as a parent! On today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families and Occupational Therapist) and Lydia Rex (RN and Connected Families Parent Coach) to bring you compelling information that will transform how you see your sensitive and intense kids. You will feel equipped to care for your child by approaching their challenges through the lens of their nervous system, and not just from a behavioral standpoint.  When you meet the sensory needs of your child, it enables you to focus on forming deep bonds of connection instead of just striving for conflict management. Parenting a sensitive and intense child is actually an amazing gift when we see their potential and build their identity around God’s grace and truth in their lives. In this podcast, you’ll discover: what sensory challenges may look like in your child, and how to look beneath the surface of their misbehaviorthe brain science: What is happening in your child’s brain and body when they struggle with sensory overload?how to cultivate a mindset of connection as you meet your child’s sensory needspractical strategies (from years of experience!) to help your child regulate their nervous system and feel more calm Do you have a sensitive and intense child? You are not alone and God’s grace abounds for you and your family. If you need further help we offer Parent Coaching and would love to work with you as you seek to parent in God’s grace and truth. Mentioned in this podcast: 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The Free Online CourseEpisode 89: A Powerful New Perspective for ParentingEpisode 93: Help! Homeschooling is OverwhelmingEphesians 2:10Isaiah 40:11Connected Families Framework Guest bio: Lydia Rex is a registered nurse, wife, and mother of two and has worked with families in many capacities throughout her career and personal life. She’s been a student of Connected Families since 2014 and continues to find it incredibly life-giving for her own family. Areas of her experience/special interest include foster care and adoption, attachment difficulties, developmental and learning disabilities including FASD. She brings a trauma-informed perspective to the Connected Families framework, and the desire to see families find peace and healing even in the midst of challenges! Use our “Contact Us” form to connect with Lydia. You can also follow Lydia on Instagram @lydia.cfcoach Do you have one really intense child? Or a couple? Almost every family in the Connected Families community has at least one child who is more sensitive and more intense than most other kids. Often what “worked” for your other kids doesn’t seem to “work” for this intense child! It’s a game-changer when you learn some new skills and can truly understand and empathize with that sensitive and intense child. Check out our newest FREE online mini-course, “7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids.” You’ll be equipped with skills to help your sensitive and intense child navigate life. Register today!

Not all families who have been formed through adoption have experienced what is discussed on this podcast. Regardless of how your family was formed, or the challenges you have in your home, there is a wide range of experiences when it comes to compassion fatigue. If you’re struggling to feel joy and hope in your relationship with your child you might be feeling compassion fatigue. Especially if, for a variety of reasons, your child needs extra care and support. You love your child so much, but it can be hard to see the needs of your child when you feel emotionally overwhelmed and exhausted from trying to help them. Compassion fatigue is real, and it is more common than you might think. In our decades of interacting with families, we have seen an increase in parents in need of hope and help in the midst of daily struggles. You can find hope today from a place of faith, instead of gritting, exhausting, self-effort. Whether your child is struggling with trauma, sensory issues, attachment, abuse, shame, or just the daily struggles of life, this episode is for you! In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) and special guests David and Colleen Little, TBRI practitioners and founders of Imago Hearts. David and Colleen have extensive experience, both in the US and internationally, helping parents who are raising children with histories of abandonment, abuse, and neglect. They dig deep with us today and talk about the importance of understanding attachment, and of doing our own inner work as parents. Then, the grace and mercy of Jesus in our lives can overflow into our relationship with our child in safety, connection, and compassion. You can experience hope and healing in your own heart, and bring that same hope to your struggling child as well. With God’s grace and help, you can look within to understand how your own history, wounds, and attachment have shown up in your life and in your parenting. Healing those wounds can lead to insight about yourself, and that leads to a deeper capacity to offer mercy and compassion to your child.     In today’s podcast, you’ll discover: symptoms of compassion fatigue, and why you might be struggling with this the vital role that attachment plays in the relational stress you’re experiencing with your child practical steps to work through compassion fatigue and the importance of self-care how to work through the first level of the Connected Families Framework  (“You are SAFE with me.”) to gain insight into your own needs, and then to better meet the needs of your child Resources mentioned in this podcast: 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids online mini-course (free!) Imago Hearts ministry  Does Attachment Style Matter? (podcast with Milan and Kay Yerkovich) Connected Families Framework Connected Families free resources Are you struggling with compassion fatigue? Perhaps feeling isolated? You were never meant to travel this path alone! Please reach out to us and let us know how we can help. We also have Certified Parent Coaches who are ready to help you one-on-one in your parenting journey. We look forward to connecting with you! Guest Bio: David and Colleen Little live in Prior Lake, Minnesota. They are qualified practitioner trainers of the Trust-Based Relational Intervention model taught by the Karyn Purvis Institute of Childhood Development at Texas Christian University. David and Colleen are also registered trainers of the Circle of Security Parenting intervention. Colleen has a master’s degree in Speech Therapy from Mankato State and David has a master’s degree in Early Childhood and Infant Mental Health from The University of Minnesota. Their ministry, imago hearts, focuses on helping parents who are raising children with histories of abandonment, abuse, and neglect. In addition to training and coaching parents in Minnesota, they have partnerships with NGOs in Ukraine, Russia, Belarus, Moldova, and Poland. You can find more information about David and Colleen on their website: imagohearts.org. Do you have one really intense child? Or a couple? Almost every family in the Connected Families community has at least one child who is more sensitive and more intense than most other kids. Often what “worked” for your other kids doesn’t seem to “work” for this intense child! It’s a game-changer when you learn some new skills and can truly understand and empathize with that sensitive and intense child. Check out our newest FREE online mini-course, “7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids”. You’ll be equipped with skills to help your sensitive and intense child navigate life. Register today! Related Posts100 Truth Phrases to Keep You GoingAnna’s Story: When Traditional Parenting Just Doesn’t Cut ItDoes Attachment Style Matter? | Ep. 101My Misconceptions About Adoption—And, Well, All ParentingParenting Kids from Hard Places with Unique Needs | Ep. 45

.stk-e5359fc{margin-bottom:19px !important}Do you sometimes worry about your child who is a rule follower? Wait, what?! Don’t we want kids who follow the rules? Parents often express their concerns about their defiant child. But rule-following? That doesn’t seem like a bad thing! And yet, we would suggest that these types of children come with their own set of challenges. Compliance can be viewed on a scale, from healthy to unhealthy. A child who is “easy” may actually be emotionally unhealthy and struggling to “speak the truth in love“. In this podcast, we are focusing on the more unhealthy end of the spectrum. No matter where your child lands on this scale, you’ll find super helpful guidance here to build connection with your child. In today’s podcast, Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) joins our host, Stacy Bellward, to peel back the layers of what might be going on under the surface of our rule-following children. These kids often give us a “break,” which seems to make things easier. But there is the risk of their identity being built around people-pleasing and suppressing their own needs. Over time and into adulthood, they might miss out on how to navigate conflict, and difficult emotions, and struggle with perfectionism as well. When you get curious and patiently work to draw out your child’s true feelings, you can help them get to the bottom of underlying struggles, and teach them to recognize their own needs and emotions. You can help them find their voice in the world, and communicate to them that they are loved and valued. In this podcast, you’ll learn: what healthy and unhealthy compliance looks like, and how to get in touch with what is going on under the surface in your childpractical ways to help you draw out your child and help them express their needs in a healthy wayhow the  Connected Families Framework can help you navigate this process as you consider, “What’s going on in me as a parent?” and “What’s going on in my child?”the healing power of God’s grace to break cycles and overcome shame-based parenting Mentioned in this podcast: Got an Easy-Going, Compliant Child? Here’s What You Need to Know.Sibling Conflict online courseDiscipline That Connects online course12 Misbehaviors and the Gifts-Gone-Awry Behind ThemConnected Families FrameworkParent Coaching Certification Program In our online course, Sibling Conflict: From Bickering to Bonding, we teach parents how to teach kids The Peace Process. This process equips kids to work through their arguments without your constant supervision and refereeing. Join us! Your kids will thank you.

Should dads demand respect? Maybe this sounds familiar: “No, I don’t want to!” “This is dumb, you’re unfair!” “Who cares if my homework isn’t done?!”  Hey dads, have you experienced this kind of pushback from your kids? It can push ALL your buttons when your child is disrespectful. This can make it especially hard to keep calm and respond with calm authority. Although this is a struggle for almost all parents, it seems to be an especially challenging scenario for dads.   When our “respect buttons” get pushed, it’s tempting to grasp for control and command obedience. But in doing so, we might find ourselves sacrificing connection and true, heartfelt respect with our kids. You want to build connection and respect. So what can you do? How can you respond? In today’s episode, Jim Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Parent Coach) have a heartfelt conversation about respect. When we engage with our kids in humility and curiosity instead of control, we model what respect looks like, and safely earn their respect and trust. Treating our children with respect helps us diffuse a tense situation, and paves the way for connection, conversation, and understanding. In this podcast, you’ll learn: how you can initiate and model respect to your child–even when they are being disrespectful to youways you can unintentionally frustrate or exasperate your kids, and how to encourage your child towards true heart change–not just compliance practical ways to teach respect both in and outside of the moment or situationthe importance of asking foundational questions such as: “What’s going on in me as a parent?” “What lessons are my kids really learning by my actions?” If you’ve struggled with teaching your child to be respectful we hope you’ve found practical wisdom in this podcast to guide you and your family in God’s grace and truth. Please check out our resources, and as always, your questions and thoughts are important to us. We would love to connect with you! Mentioned in this podcast: Ephesians 6:1-4Connected Families FrameworkDonate to Connected FamiliesSibling Conflict online courseWycliffe Hawai‘i Pidgin Bible translation In our online course, Sibling Conflict: From Bickering to Bonding, we teach parents how to teach kids The Peace Process. This process equips kids to work through their arguments without your constant supervision and refereeing. Join us! Your kids will thank you.

Sometimes parenting can feel like one big list of things you have to get done. It can be so hard to switch gears from the many demands of being a parent to having joyful and playful time with your kiddos! Yet research shows that playfulness brings connection and communicates in a language that helps kids learn! Playful parenting is an important part of every level of the Connected Families Framework. Intentional parent/child play can: calm your child’s brain and yoursprovide opportunities to teach skillsenable problem-solving capabilityreach kids who are struggling communicate to your child, “I enjoy you!” Sounds great, right? So how do we get there? In this podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families, Occupational Therapist) and Joy Wendling (Connected Families Certified Parent Coach) to discuss the vital role that play contributes to a connected relationship between you and your kids. Tune in as they talk about how you can invite your kids to cooperate through play, and keep the long-term goal of connection, while also teaching important skills for the moment. From both a scientific and a biblical standpoint, play is a vital part of speaking your child’s language. It is a pivotal way kids learn! The language of play creates an atmosphere of emotional safety where you can diffuse conflict and invite joy and connection. In this podcast, you’ll learn: what the Bible says about play–it might surprise you!the brain science of why playful parenting creates connection and invites cooperationpractical ways to make it happen in everyday routines (like trying to get your kids out the door!)how to tune into your family’s unique personalities to discover what playful connection looks like  Has this podcast been helpful to you? If so, could you please rate and review so others can find us more easily? We want to share the message of hope and connection with as many parents as possible!  Mentioned in this podcast: Joy Wendling: Created to PlayConnected Families FrameworkSibling Conflict online courseThe “Just Right Challenge”Bible verses: Ecclesiastes 11:8, Matthew 19:14, 2 Samuel 6, Zephaniah 3:17, John 15:15 Guest Bio Joy Wendling is a wife, mama to 5 girls ages 1 – 9, and play advocate. She lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest where she has served in children’s, youth, and family ministries and in Christian Early Childhood Education. In 2016, she earned her Master’s in Youth, Family, and Culture from Fuller Theological Seminary. Though her primary ministry is to her family now, she loves to serve other families through Connected Families Certified Parent Coaching, and her podcast Playfully Faithful Parenting. You can connect with Joy on her website createdtoplay.com, and on Instagram instagram.com/createdtoplay, and Facebook facebook.com/created2play. Or you can email her at [email protected].  Sign up below to receive a weekly dose of encouragement straight to your inbox:

Your relationship with your child might feel “off,” but you’re not sure why. Could it be that the way you were parented impacts the way you parent? Your attachment style affects all your most important relationships – from spouse to children to close friends. So, what is “attachment style” anyway? And does attachment style really matter? Attachment tends to be a buzzword in parenting circles. Attachment Theory comes from scientific research about different ways that children securely bond (or lack bonding) with their parents in the child’s early years. Also, it shouldn’t be confused with Attachment Parenting. In a perfect world, a child experiences secure attachment when the parent-child relationship is built around emotional safety and stability from the parent.  But we don’t live in a perfect world.  Sometimes we (and our children) do not experience this kind of secure attachment. When we explore our family of origin, we learn how our own style of attachment affects how we respond in relationships, and it definitely affects how we parent our children!  On today’s episode, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Jim Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) welcome guests Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Together, they dive into the significance of, and styles of, attachment and how we model them in our parenting. They are the authors of How We Love, and they discuss how we bring the attachment style from our parents to our own relationships, especially with our kids. Learning about your attachment style is a key component of the first level of the Connected Families Framework and can help you understand, “What’s going on in me?”. Parents who have not experienced a secure connection — don’t lose hope! The good news is that attachment wounds from your past can be identified, and you can grow along with your kids. You can cultivate a secure, deep connection with your kids and transform your family for generations to come.  In this podcast, you’ll discover: the six attachment styles and how you can identify your own attachment style how your attachment style passes on to your kids, and affects emotional regulation, sense of safety, and predictability in your home the specific challenges of cultivating a secure attachment with kids who have experienced trauma, particularly kids who join your family through foster care or adoption the importance of understanding your own attachment history without shame, and adopting a growth mindset to change the trajectory of your family’s legacy We are so glad you’re here! Has this podcast been helpful? Could you please take a moment to rate and review this podcast, so others can find us more easily? Here’s what others are saying about our podcast!  Resources mentioned in this podcast: How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich How We Love Our Kids by Milan and Kay Yerkovich (includes “Seven gifts you can give your kids.”) What is Your Love Style? Online quiz Free resources from Milan and Kay Yerkovich: Comfort Circle: Guide for the Listener, Understanding Your Quiz Results Grace and Truth for Moms online course Connected Families Framework ACEs scoring system  Bible verses: Psalm 139, James 1:19, 2 Cor 1:3-7, Psalm 23 Guest bios: KAY YERKOVICH, M.S., M.F.T. Kay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Counseling and has been counseling people for over 30 years.  She is a popular speaker and lecturer in the areas of parenting and marriage relationships.  In her free time, Kay enjoys creative hobbies, ceramics, painting, and sewing. Taking a swim in the ocean is her favorite way to renew her energy.  REV. MILAN YERKOVICH, M.A. Milan specializes in couples’ marriage counseling and is the founder and president of Relationship 180, a non-profit Christian counseling center specializing in the application of attachment research (www.relationship180.com).  He has a master’s degree in Biblical Studies and has worked with marriages and families for over 40 years and is a Bible teacher and lecturer in the areas of relational theology, marriage, family, and parenting. He is a Co-Host of New Life Live! a nationally syndicated counseling show heard on over 180 radio stations, which can be seen on the NRB television network (www.newlife.com). He loves to row crew, swims and is a martial arts instructor.    TOGETHER: They are the creators of Attachment Core Pattern Therapy (ACPT™), co-authored How We Love, How We Love Workbook, and How We Love Our Kids, and travel and speak extensively on relationships (www.howwelove.com).    They were married in 1972 and have four grown children, two daughters-in-law, two sons-in-law, and ten grandchildren.  .stk-kgcz74l-inner-blocks{justify-content:center !important;}.stk-kgcz74l {background-color:#FFFFFF !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !impo

Are you hard on yourself as a parent? As a person? It’s so easy to get caught up in what feels like failure to us. We want so much to be good parents! Though it’s unintentional, we can project our own feelings of shame onto our kids. Then we feel even worse. Shame can be so destructive to us and to our relationships. What does ending the shame cycle look like? If you have ever felt stuck in this kind of a cycle, please listen to this podcast. In this milestone podcast (our 100th episode!) we talk about a prevalent and powerful concept that has resounded with our Connected Families community for nearly 20 years: Moving forward from shame to the freedom of living in God’s grace and truth. In this episode, Stacy Bellward is joined by Connected Families Co-Founders, Jim and Lynne Jackson.  Together, they share the message that has transformed the lives of thousands of parents and families, and has provided the foundation for an enduring parenting framework. Modeling God’s grace and truth to our kids communicates that we are human, and that when we mess up there’s an opportunity to bring God’s very real mercy into any situation.  In this podcast: Listen in today to learn about how to embrace and incorporate truth phrases into the messiness of daily life. Phrases such as: “This is a moment for compassion for me, and for my kids.” “Jesus gives me courage to face adversity and I will grow from this!” “Everyone is still learning.” “I can respond without ‘freaking out’.” “Hope is the fuel for a growth mindset.” Was there an encouraging statement in this podcast that resonated with you? Do you have your own hopeful-truth statement that has helped you? We’d love to hear it! Post it on your social media and tag us! FB: @ConnectedFamilies Insta: @connectedfams  You will encourage other parents too!  Mentioned in this podcast: Grace and Truth for Moms online course Connected Families Framework Bible verses: Psalm 3:3, 2 Corinthians 10:5, Ephesians 1,2, Romans 15:13, Philippians 4:8, 2 Peter 1:3 100 Truth Phrases To Keep You Going Want a handy list of Truth Phrases to hang onto when life gets messy? Click HERE for a downloadable/printable PDF! .stk-ca3392e,.stk-ca3392e .stk-button{width:100% !important}.stk-ca3392e{flex:1 1 0 !important}DOWNLOAD FREE PDF .stk-pqnas84-inner-blocks{justify-content:center !important;}.stk-pqnas84 {background-color:#FFFFFF !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important;}.stk-pqnas84:before{background-color:#FFFFFF !important;}.stk-pqnas84 .stk-block-hero__content{min-height:500px !important;} .stk-59c0iul {box-shadow:0px 2px 20px #99999933 !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;} .stk-2c0n9tw-container{margin-top:0px !important;margin-right:0px !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:0px !important;} .stk-43i129o .stk-img-wrapper{width:100% !important;height:635px !important;}.stk-43i129o .stk-img-wrapper img{transform:scale(0.96) !important;object-fit:contain !important;}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-43i129o .stk-img-wrapper{height:300px !important;}} .stk-tnrvsm0 {align-self:center !important;}.stk-tnrvsm0-container{max-width:549px !important;min-width:auto !important;} .stk-nazkc3x {align-items:flex-start !important;max-width:1500px !important;min-width:auto !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important;margin-right:0px !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;display:flex !important;}.stk-nazkc3x .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:47px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-4, #1e3f52) !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-nazkc3x .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:47px !important;}}Transform Your Next Group Gathering What if your next gathering left parents feeling equipped, encouraged, and hopeful? That’s exactly what Connected Families workshops do. Led by CF Certified Parent Coaches, these sessions bring practical, biblical wisdom on topics like discipline and sibling conflict straight to your community. Learn more and book a speaker today. .stk-hs14qub .stk-button{background:var(--theme-palette-color-1, #ee6c4d) !important;}.stk-hs14qub .stk-button:hover:after{background:var(--theme-palette-color-2, #98c1d9) !important;opacity:1 !important;}.stk-hs14qub .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-hs14qub .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;}}Bring Hope To Your Community

Do you have a child who struggles with anxiety? It can be really hard to know how to help them! Anxiety can be a powerless feeling for both kids and adults. Kids especially do not have all the same tools or brain development as adults to know how to manage it well. They need help. Add to this challenge that sometimes anxiety doesn’t even look like anxiety. Anxiety can be masked by a variety of emotions and behaviors. It can even present itself as defiance! What do you do then? As a parent, your heart is for your child. They need your help and you want to help, but what can you do? Listen in, because this episode has insight and helpful tools you can use today. Today’s episode is the second part in a two-part series about identifying and navigating anxiety. Last week we discussed how to identify anxiety in us as parents. (If you missed it, listen here!) Today we are diving into how to help our kids with their anxiety. Stacy Bellward is again joined by three experienced Connected Families Parent Coaches, Katie Wetsell, Marni Love, and Taylor Irby. Together they talk about the science of anxiety, how to distinguish it from other emotions, and how you can support your child through their anxious feelings.  As adults, we can be advocates and coaches for anxious children whether in our home, school, church, or the community around us.  We can get curious about what is going on in kids to determine if they are experiencing anxiety, and come alongside them with empathy, compassion, and helpful tools that bring connection. In today’s podcast, you’ll discover: insights to help you discern between your child’s anxiety, defiance, and other difficult emotionspractical ways you can partner with (coach) your kids to bring lasting transformation from a place of safety and connectiona tool called OARS to help you communicate using empathy and support the importance of your own foundational work as a parent to avoid bringing your own anxiety into tense situations We are so glad you’re here! Has this podcast been helpful? Could you please take a moment to rate and review this podcast, so others can find us more easily? Simply click on this link, and click “Listen on Apple Podcasts,” then click on “Ratings and Reviews” in the itunes pop-up. Or, use your Apple Podcast app on your phone! We love to bring you practical insights and biblical wisdom to help you in your parenting journey. Let us know how we can help! Resources mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families FrameworkGrace and Truth for Moms online courseWindow of Tolerance: Dr Dan Siegel4 Steps to Change Your Child’s Behavior and the “Just Right Challenge”OARS techniquePsalm 73 Guest bios: Katie Wetsell has always had a calling on her heart to care for children. She has worked as a pediatric oncology nurse and pediatric nurse practitioner. After experiencing the benefits of parent coaching through Connected Families herself, Katie later resigned from nursing and became a Certified Parent Coach as well. She and her husband have four children (three boys and a girl) through birth and adoption. Katie is also trained in SPACE treatment to help parents learn how to support their children struggling with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorders. You can learn more about Katie at parentwithhope.org, and on Facebook @parentwithhopecoach and Instagram @parentwithhopecoach Marni Love is a wife, homeschool mom to three growing boys, tutor, and parenting coach. After teaching in public school for many years she felt called to home educate. She started in preschool and has continued through the high school years. She has a heart for helping families enjoy their journey and parent with grace while also preparing their children for the future God has for them. She has experience with adoption, ADHD, sensory processing, primitive reflex integration and highly sensitive children. It would be her great pleasure to support you in bringing peace and connection to your home. You can connect with Marni at www.marnilove.com and on Instagram @journeywithlovehomeschool Taylor Irby is a mother to 5 kids, and she understands the struggles parents face. Every day she faces ADHD, autism, anxiety, developmental delays and adoption trauma. She too has sat in the trenches and searched the world for answers. Taylor read book after book and got excited over methods that were short lived. That is where she hit the wall of desperation and sought parent coaching through Connected Families. Taylor ultimately became a coach through their training program to help others like her. She has seen transformation in her home through working with a framework that not only has changed her children’s behavior, but their hearts as well. You are not alone on this parenting journey. There is hope and you can enjoy your children, building that relationship you have wanted and see behavior change. And I’m here to help. You can learn more about Taylor at taylorirbycoaching.com, and on Facebook https

You can feel the rising tension in your shoulders and the knots in your stomach again. So much going on around you, and inside you. There is no shortage of things to feel anxious about in our world right now! Current data reveals a huge spike in anxiety in recent years, for both parents and kids. We all face anxiety at some point and it can cause a range of emotions, from mild frustration to feeling really helpless. But can you parent well when you’re anxious? Anxiety can show up in big ways in our lives and in our family, but it can also show up in subtle ways that are masked by other emotions and behaviors. This is why it is SO important to routinely pay attention to the most foundational question, “What is going on in ME?” Today’s podcast episode is absolutely packed with thoughtful and real-life guidance for how we can understand and navigate parental anxiety. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) invites three Connected Families Parent Coaches to an honest and insightful conversation about how they have encountered and managed anxiety in many different forms and situations in their own lives and in their kids’ lives as well: Marni Love, is a homeschool mom of three boys and a regular guest in our Clubhouse Community. Marni has experience with adoption, ADHD, sensory processing, primitive reflex integration, and highly sensitive children Taylor Irby, is a speaker, marriage and parenting coach, and mom of five children. Taylor is familiar with the challenges of ADHD, autism, anxiety, developmental delays, and adoption trauma Katie Wetsell, is a mom of four kids and a pediatric nurse who has personally navigated issues related to adoption, mental illness, and learning disabilities. Katie is also certified in SPACE Treatment, a parent-based approach for helping children with anxiety, anxiety disorders, and OCD Join these fellow moms and learn how anxiety can actually be an opportunity to grow in our faith, to better understand ourselves and our kids, and to love each other well as a family. We can be proactive in taking care of ourselves and staying grounded in God’s grace and truth so that we can flourish as God’s dearly beloved children. What you’ll discover in today’s podcast: how anxiety might show up in your home masked as different emotions, behavior, and actions  a clinical definition of anxiety, and how it functions to alert us in both healthy and unhealthy ways the difference between anxiety and fear, and how we can discern and respond  practical strategies and important truths to help you work through anxious feelings Do you or your kids struggle with anxiety? Is there something in today’s podcast you found helpful? We would really love to hear from you and help you navigate these challenges. We invite you to check out the valuable resources on our website, and share them with a friend who needs them too! Mentioned in this podcast: Bible verses: Psalm 23, 2 Corinthians 10:5, Deuteronomy 6:5  Grace and Truth for Moms online course Trash, Truth, Treasure (podcast) Hurtful Comments: Teach Your Child How to Process and Grow Window of Tolerance: Dr. Dan Siegel Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown Guest Bios: Katie Wetsell has always had a calling on her heart to care for children. She has worked as a pediatric oncology nurse and pediatric nurse practitioner. After experiencing the benefits of parent coaching through Connected Families herself, Katie later resigned from nursing and became a Certified Parent Coach as well. She and her husband have four children (three boys and a girl) through birth and adoption. Katie is also trained in SPACE treatment to help parents learn how to support their children struggling with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorders. You can learn more about Katie at parentwithhope.org, and on Facebook @parentwithhopecoach and Instagram @parentwithhopecoach Marni Love is a wife, homeschool mom to three growing boys, tutor, and parenting coach. After teaching in public school for many years she felt called to home educate. She started in preschool and has continued through the high school years. She has a heart for helping families enjoy their journey and parent with grace while also preparing their children for the future God has for them. She has experience with adoption, ADHD, sensory processing, primitive reflex integration, and highly sensitive children. It would be her great pleasure to support you in bringing peace and connection to your home. You can connect with Marni at www.marnilove.com and on Instagram @journeywithlovehomeschool Taylor Irby is a mother to 5 kids, and she understands the struggles parents face. Every day she faces ADHD, autism, anxiety, developmental delays, and adoption trauma. She too has sat in the trenches and searched the world for answers. Taylor read book after book and got excited over methods that were short-lived. That is when she hit the wall of desperation and sought parent coaching through Connected Families. Taylo

“He called me stupid!” “She said she doesn’t want to play with me!” It’s so hard when your child comes to you feeling hurt by someone else’s words. Words matter. And they hurt! You want to comfort your kids and protect them from bullying and being hurt again, but unfortunately, that isn’t realistic. How can you teach your child to navigate life when kids say things that are mean? Or when there may be bullying involved? The truth is, we (both our kids and we as parents) are bombarded with all kinds of negative messages that can be hurtful, and bruise our identity and sense of self-worth. Whether it’s from other people, the culture around us, or even our own inner critic, we hear things that hurt. Sometimes it’s hard to work through it all. We can feel tempted to ruminate and rehearse in our mind the unkind or critical words we hear.  So what can we do to help ourselves and our kids?  In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) to share with us a super helpful tool Lynne developed to combat the damage of hurtful words and messages. It’s called Trash, Truth, Treasure, and like all of our Connected Families resources, this tool is grounded in biblical truth and based on brain science.  The principles of Trash, Truth, Treasure can help us in tough moments to discern what we believe about ourselves, about God, and about our kids. It will allow God’s encouragement to flood us with truth and love. Using this tool as a helpful guide, you can learn to untangle negative, critical messages in your own heart, and help your children to do the same. .stk-f4f491c {background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-4, #1e3f52) !important;}.stk-f4f491c:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-4, #1e3f52) !important;}Download this helpful PDF “Trash, Truth, Treasure” In today’s podcast, you’ll learn: practical ways to identify: What messages are coming into my mind, and how are they affecting me and informing my identity? how you can renew your mind, and do the inner Foundational work by asking, “What’s going on in me?” the science of how your brain processes negative messages, and what you can do to work through these messages with objectivity and grace practical examples of how to help both young kids and older ones work through the tool of Trash, Truth, Treasure How have you applied this tool in your family? Has it been helpful to you? We’d love to hear more about your experience, and how we can come alongside you to help you parent with truth and grace. Please check out and share our resources with a friend, and if you have any questions, we’d love to hear from you!  Resources mentioned in this podcast: Hurtful Comments: Teach Your Child How to Process and Grow (article by Lynne Jackson) I Was a Critical Parent: 7 Steps I Took to Find a More Loving Way Grace and Truth for Moms online course Connected Families Framework Dr. Caroline Leaf Bible verses: Philippians 1:9-10, Romans 12:2, John 8:42-44, John 10:10, Proverbs 26:2 Related PostsBullying: Challenge or Opportunity?Know a Child Who Gives Up Easily? Teach Them the Source of ResilienceRaising Overcomers: How to Model Resiliency to Your Kids | Ep. 56Resilient Children: 15 Little Opportunities to Grow Overcomers at Home

What does the Bible really say about parenting? Is there such a thing as a Doctrine of Grace in Parenting? As Christian parents, we depend on the Bible as a necessary guide to help us understand God’s direction in both discipling and disciplining our kids. And yet, there’s not a significant number of verses in the Bible that give specific parenting instructions. What we do know is that the Bible tells us that God calls us to love our children the way He loves us, to live out the Fruit of the Spirit, and to pour out the same grace to our kids that we receive from Him. God can empower us through His Spirit to parent with the same gentleness and peace He offers to us. In today’s episode, Jim Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) is joined by Dr. David Erickson to discuss the Doctrine of Grace in Parenting. Or, more specifically, a biblical foundation for gentle, grace-filled parenting. Dr. Erickson is a theology professor, and has also served as a preacher and pastor for over 25 years. He and his wife Amanda are the founders of Flourishing Homes and Families, a ministry dedicated to cultivating peace-filled and healthy homes.  You’ll want to listen in as Dr. Erickson discusses how the work of God in us can produce gentleness and a renewed mind, so that we can love others–especially our children–as God loves us. We can live out Jesus’ grace-filled spirit in all areas of our life, including our parenting.  In this podcast, you’ll learn: how important biblical principles and teachings can apply to your parenting the big picture goal of obedience, based on trust and connectionthe empowering messages of the Connected Families Frameworka clear and powerful pathway of how we can live out the embodied work of Jesus with our children Want to learn more about grace-filled parenting? Please go to our Connected Families website, and check out great free resources and helpful podcasts with hope-filled wisdom for your parenting journey. Have questions or want to connect? You can contact us, we look forward to hearing from you! Mentioned in this podcast: Flourishing Homes and FamiliesHelping Kids with Anger (FREE ebook)Connected Families FrameworkBible verses: Sermon on the Mount, Ephesians 4, Ephesians 6:4, Galatians 5 Guest Bio: Dr. David Erickson is currently a Professor of Theological-Historical Studies, and is passionate about helping people fall radically and deeply in love with God and His word. He also pursued that calling for more than 25 years as a preacher and pastor. David is committed to helping parents understand what God says about parenting and how parenting practices reflect a person’s underlying beliefs about God. David and Amanda teach parents all over the world through their ministry, Flourishing Homes and Families. With practical parenting advice and regular theology applied to parenting, they are working to equip and empower parents to live out in parenting the very real grace they’ve been given by Jesus. David and Amanda have been married 17 years, have two boys, and currently reside in East Texas.

Sometimes parenting can seem hopeless. What do kids really need from us? Maybe your kids are struggling and you’re not sure how to get through to them. (This can feel especially hard with teens!) You feel frustrated and your relationship can begin to feel tense. You want to understand them, but you don’t know where to begin. Sometimes we get anxious about our kids’ challenges and focus more on their behavior, which can cause further strain on the relationship. Consider this: What we see on the surface in our kids and teens doesn’t always reflect what’s really going on in their hearts. Today’s episode is a special and unique conversation. Join Jim Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) as he interviews Michelle Livingston Thorstad (speaker, mentor, and biblical counselor). Learn about Michelle’s work with at-risk youth, the trials in her own parenting, and the hope that gave her a renewed sense of God’s love and grace for her and her kids. This conversation is about the relational transformation that takes place in a connected relationship. Sharing hope with your kids is relational. It’s hearing and understanding what your kids need, whether they express it with or without words.  Keeping the hope alive in your relationship with your child means doing your own inner work, seeing beyond their stubborn exterior, and understanding the pain they may feel and the love they need.  In this episode… …you’ll learn about what our kids really need from us. Things like:  relationship over behavior management. You’re more likely to have influence and to be able speak into your kids’ lives when they feel a safe and connected relationship with you. a safe place to land when they share things with you (body language is important too!). The way you respond can either invite more conversation and influence, or cause hesitancy in your kids about future conversations.        your humility. Your mistakes can be a beautiful opportunity for them to learn that you struggle too. Kids don’t feel so alone when they know they are not the only ones who make mistakes.        your physical presence. Being in physical proximity provides a space where organic, meaningful conversations can happen.  These are just a few of the valuable insights you’ll hear in today’s podcast! Listen in and let us know what has been helpful to you. And check out these Connected Families resources to help you take steps forward in your journey of peaceful parenting. Need further help? Contact us, we’d love to hear from you! Mentioned in this podcast: Michelle Livingston Thorstad: https://michellelivingston.org/TreeHouse Center for Transformation and TrainingConnected Families FREE ebook: Helping Kids with AngerEd StetzerProverbs 22:6 Guest bio: A native of Minnesota, Michelle Livingston Thorstad grew up in a loving family, but often struggled feeling fully accepted by her peers. As the product of an inter-racial marriage, Michelle frequently felt misunderstood and discouraged to embrace her identity as a bi-racial individual. Ten years after graduating from the U of MN Carlson School of Management with a business degree, Michelle found TreeHouse, who’s mission and vision aligned perfectly with her calling to help struggling youth and their families. Today Michelle has mentored hundreds of teens, spoken both locally & internationally to youth, parents, youth workers, school administrators, churches, community organizations & business professionals. She is currently working at the Center for Transformation and Training as a Biblical Counselor and Spiritual Director. In her downtime you will find Michelle raising teenagers of her own, singing off-beat with her husband, and continuing to grow & enjoy each new season of life. Take 15 minutes to learn how to give consequences that teach, rather than simply punish, by downloading our free ebook Consequences That Actually Work. Related Posts4 Simple Ways to Bridge the Mother-Son DivideAn Honest Conversation About Adoption | Ep. 81Child Looking at Porn? Here’s Where to Start.Got a Smart Teenager (or Child) With Bad Grades?How God Created Us for Community…and Science Agrees!

“WHY do I feel so angry?” “I’m just an angry parent with an angry kid!” Do you ever find yourself saying or thinking these statements? Anger can be a difficult emotion to navigate. We can feel so defeated when we lose control. We don’t want to react this way, and neither do our kids. It doesn’t help that our society seems more angry than ever. And our kids feel that!  If you or your child are struggling with anger, you are not alone! A recent Connected Families survey revealed a significant number of parents reported angry feelings affecting their day-to-day life. Like many other parents, you want to be responsible in your reactions and teach your kids to be responsible too. On today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson (Connected Families Co-Founders) to address how parents handle their own anger, and how we can model this in a healthy way to our kids. We discuss brain science relating to anger, a biblical perspective and, as always, practical tools to help you and your kids. You can learn an approach to anger that leaves shame behind, brings connection with your child, and becomes an opportunity for grace and growth. You can break generational cycles of unhealthy anger and bring life and healing to your relationship with your child. In this podcast, you’ll discover: the brain science of anger as a default reaction and a reactive coping mechanism, and how you can respond in faith instead of feartriggers and thought patterns that affect behavior, and how anger can sometimes diminish what may be underlying anxiety or even traumathe importance of knowing your identity as a child of God, and looking beneath the surface of anger by asking, “What’s going on in me?”the top three things that push parents’ buttons, and some practical ways of responding in these situations Mentioned in this podcast: Helping Kids with Anger FREE ebookWhat It Really Means to Be Triggered (Healthline article)Connected Families FrameworkBible verses: Matthew 16:22-24, Philippians 4:6-7, Philippians 1:4-6, Galatians 5:22-23 Want to learn more? Helping Kids with Their AngerAnger: Is it Good, Bad, or Ugly? Do you or your kids struggle with anger? We hope you found some encouraging and useful tools on our podcast today. We’d love to hear what helped! And if you or your child are struggling with anger and you feel like you need further help, Connected Families offers certified Parent Coaching. Please reach out and let us know how we can help! Related Posts11 Ideas to Help You Stop Yelling at Your Kids6 Practical Tips to Tame Your TemperEncouraging Kids Who “Just Don’t Care!” | Ep. 88Helping Kids with Their AngerMy Child Doesn’t Care About Consequences

Do you feel overwhelmed as a homeschool parent? Many parents in the Connected Families community homeschool. That number has grown even more since 2020. Homeschooling can bring some unique parenting challenges! From sibling conflict to curriculum choices to intense learning needs, how do you stay connected to your kids, accomplish schoolwork, and maintain sanity? (Even if you are not currently homeschooling, you’ll find helpful parenting guidance in this episode!)  Whether or not you are a homeschool parent, you want to: provide a safe and encouraging learning environment understand each child’s learning needshelp your kids grow in their learning intereststeach your kids to get along with each other That can all feel really heavy! Maybe you also have sensitive and intense kids, or you just feel inadequate as a homeschool parent. If so, you’ll want to listen in, because the moms in this conversation can relate! On today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by three homeschooling moms with a wide range of perspectives and experiences. They each share a different story and various challenges they have encountered in their homeschooling journey. They also share the common thread of approaching life through the powerful lens of the Connected Families Framework. You can face the overwhelm of homeschool challenges (and even help your kids resolve conflict!) when you do the foundational work as a parent of exploring, “What’s going on in me?” You can show up for your kids and your school day as the best parent you can be, with loads of God’s grace for yourself and your kids! In this podcast, you’ll learn about: what homeschool overwhelm can look like in different situations, and helpful ways you can approach ithow to help kids learn to resolve sibling conflict, especially when they are with each other all dayhealthy ways to step back and ask, “What’s going on in me? In my child?” and move forward with your child as a teamthe joy of embracing your child’s individual gifts and learning interests, and how you can help them grow in these areas Mentioned in this podcast:  Helping Kids with Anger (FREE ebook)Sibling Conflict online courseVerses mentioned: Romans 8:28, Philippians 1:4-6 Want to learn more? 60 Creative Ways to Get Kids Moving and LaughingHow to Create a Simple Sensory Diet for Restless, Homebound Kids Guest Bios: Lydia Rex is a registered nurse, wife, and mother of two and has worked with families in many capacities throughout her career and personal life. She’s been a student of Connected Families since 2014 and continues to find it incredibly life-giving for her own family. Areas of her experience/special interest include foster care and adoption, attachment difficulties, developmental and learning disabilities including FASD. She brings a trauma-informed perspective to the Connected Families framework, and the desire to see families find peace and healing – not just on the other side, but in the midst of challenges! Use our “Contact Us” form to connect with Lydia.  Marni Love is a wife, homeschool mom to three growing boys, tutor, and parenting coach. After teaching in public school for many years she felt called to home educate. She started in preschool and has continued through the high school years. She has a heart for helping families enjoy their journey and parent with grace while also preparing their children for the future God has for them. She has experience with adoption, ADHD, sensory processing, primitive reflex integration, and highly sensitive children. It would be her great pleasure to support you in bringing peace and connection to your home. https://www.marnilove.com/ Nichole Summers is a mom to six children, 4 girls, and 2 boys, adopted and biological. She has contributed to one article (“I Aimed for Perfection as a Mom and It Just Slayed Me.”) and one podcast (Communicating Love in the Midst of Misbehavior) for us here at Connected Families. She is a mom who is learning to take God at His word concerning her children and can often be found resting in Romans 8:28. Have you used the Connected Families Framework in your homeschooling journey? We would love to hear about it! Looking for more parenting help? Check out these great resources on our website. And as always, feel free to contact us, we love hearing from you! Download our FREE in-depth ebook Helping Kids With Anger. It will provide thoughtful insights and creative ideas to help your struggling child. Related PostsI Feel Overwhelmed and Hopeless | Ep. 3I Lost My Temper With My Child; Can I Make It Better?My Child Says He Hates Himself: 3 Life-Giving Steps to Change the Shame CycleYour Child’s Grades Don’t Matter (To You)

Building a connected marriage is hard work and it doesn’t always come easily. You want to bring better alignment between you and your spouse and create an environment of love, grace, and emotional safety. But you also might feel stuck in a cycle of negative thinking about your spouse or your marriage. Or maybe you are struggling to find a way to navigate disagreements. Connecting in your marriage can be challenging! The Connected Families Framework equips parents to become more safe and connected, but this Framework is not just for parenting! There are many similarities in the parenting framework that are a natural crossover in marriage. It’s a framework you can successfully apply to all of your relationships, including marriage. In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by special guests and marriage experts Jeff and Stacy Kemp. Jeff and his wife Stacy are speakers with the Family Life Today Weekend to Remember marriage conference. Jeff is also a former NFL player and author of Facing the Blitz. Join them in this honest and encouraging conversation about the value of celebrating each other’s strengths. You’ll enjoy learning from real life examples what emotional safety in marriage can look like, and the daily living out of the Foundational question, “What’s going on in me?” When you bring unconditional love and safety to your marriage, you can find the best in each other, receive and offer grace, and find lasting and meaningful connection.* In this episode, you’ll discover: practical and powerful ways to apply the Connected Families Framework in your marriage relationshipan approach that helps you focus on the positives and strengths in your spouse, and how it can bring change in your own heart and connection in your marriagethe power of being able to repair relationships after emotionally hurtful conversationshow to create an environment where it is safe to be transparent, so you can share your thoughts, feelings, and hurts with your spouse *Connected Families believes that commitment to your marriage is an important aspect of emotional safety and connection, but when physical or emotional abuse is present, then help is needed and different options may need to be considered. Mentioned in this podcast: Jeff Kemp TeamFacing the Blitz by Jeff KempFamily Life–Weekend to Remember

How do you parent your child who is now an adult? What does parenting look like when your child is preparing to launch into adulthood, living away from home, or getting married? You want to remain connected and continue to build trust, but it can also feel scary to watch your adult children make bigger decisions that might have bigger consequences. You wonder if you did enough, if you taught them enough. Maybe you are even struggling with regret over what you wish could have been done differently. We get SO many requests to tackle this topic, and we are doing that today! Read on and listen in. You will be equipped with solid guidance and practical tips to help you navigate this changing season of parenting.  Chad Hayenga (Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Parent Coach) and Connected Families Certified Coaches Becky Wood and Dijea Young join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) on today’s podcast. These guests bring years of rich parenting experiences to the conversation, and offer real life insights into the changes, challenges, and blessings of parenting an adult child.  Whether your child is 8, 18, or 28, the Connected Families Framework offers a relevant and thoughtful approach to keep you growing in a connected relationship with your adult child. When you step back and offer a supportive and mentoring role in your adult child’s life, you can communicate enduring messages of emotional safety, unconditional love, and meaningful connection that build strong relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn:  how to apply the Connected Families Framework and communicate the four messages with adult children ways to maintain connection with an adult child that nurture their independence while gaining trust and influence (Luke 2:52)the enduring legacy of the foundational question, “What’s going on in me as a parent?” even through your child’s adult yearshow to graciously build trust and connection with your adult child while working through the pain of your own past regrets Want to learn more? Connected Families FrameworkKeep Calm and Stay Connected (to your teen!) (blog post)Scared to Launch Your Child Into the “Real World”? (blog post) We’re so glad you’re here! We would love to continue to reach as many people as possible with the message of God’s love and connection. Would you help us? You can rate this podcast, write a review, and subscribe! You are an integral part of the Connected Families community, and you make this all possible. Need help? Please contact us, we are here to walk alongside you. Sign up below to receive a weekly dose of encouragement straight to your inbox:

What do you think of when you hear the word discipline? Maybe it’s just to get your child to behave. Or bring peace to the chaos and gain some control as a parent. This is a totally natural parenting impulse! But what if there is a powerful new perspective for parenting to consider? A different way of viewing your parenting goals during moments of misbehavior that will open the door to connection and wisdom? Oftentimes, as parents, we want the short-term fix that brings order to the situation. But in doing so, we might actually miss the opportunity to build something deeper and lasting. In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) and Lydia Rex (Connected Families Parent Coach) to share with you a few practical shifts that could change not only your parenting perspective but, ultimately, your relationship with your child.  When you lean into connection and mentoring opportunities during discipline, you can build strength, connection, and respect between you and your child in those difficult moments. You can shift from managing behavior to building something intentional and purposeful for both you and your child. And in every step of the process, Jesus provides the grace and safety that you can receive and then pass on to your child. In this podcast, you’ll discover: 4 main shifts you can make to turn discipline situations into opportunities for growth and connectionhow the shift from managing to mentoring empowers your struggling childwhy meaningful discipline always begins with the foundation of: “What’s going on in me as a parent?”practical ways to highlight and nurture your child’s identity, and focus on the gifts God is growing in their life Mentioned in this podcast: Scriptures mentioned: Peter’s denial of Jesus, Peter jumping out of the boat, Jesus’ statement to Peter about building the church, Hebrews 12:11Connected Families Framework4 Ideas to Build a Growth Mindset as a Family (blog post)What Is the Goal of Your Discipline? (blog post)Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course What are your parenting goals? Did you find something helpful in this podcast? Looking for more great resources to help you with your parenting goals? Check out our blog, it’s packed with great information and parenting tips. As always, feel free to contact us, we’d love to hear from you! Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview.

Does it feel like your child just doesn’t care? Maybe even saying the words, “I just don’t care!” Does your child seem unmotivated in school, defensive about doing chores, maybe even withdrawn and depressed? It is so hard to know what to do when your child is discouraged. You may feel frustrated and hopeless. And a kid who doesn’t seem to care can really push all your buttons, which can cause even more anxiety in both you and your child. You want to know what is going on with your discouraged child! And you especially want to know how you can help (or, let’s be honest, “fix”) them. If this resonates, we have some fresh perspective and direction for you here today. On today’s podcast, Jim and Lynne Jackson (Co-founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to help you see this behavior through a different lens. A lens that offers hope, and practical ways to support your struggling child.  Did you know that when your child feels pressure or discouragement, it can surface as misbehavior? But with the power of connection, and a gentle,non-judgmental spirit, this can be an opportunity to help your child grow in resilience and wisdom. Using the Connected Families Framework, you can help your discouraged child feel loved and understood. You can come alongside them with encouragement and gentle questions to help them feel called and capable, and build an identity of wisdom and responsibility. In this podcast, you’ll learn: what might be going on under the surface of a kid who doesn’t seem to carea practical and gentle approach to asking your child the kinds of questions that help them connect to what’s going on insidethe importance of replacing panic about your child’s future with empathy and solution-focused conversationshow to build your child’s God-given identity, and a value for responsibility, by instilling the confidence that God and you are with them, and for them.  Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families FrameworkRomans 15:13Applying the ABC’s of AffirmationDiscipline The Connects Online Course Are you struggling to help your discouraged child? What tips from today’s podcast helped you? We’d love to hear your comments! As always, we are here if you need further help. Please contact us, and in the meantime, check out our helpful resources on our new website. We are in this together! Download our FREE in-depth ebook Helping Kids With Anger. It will provide thoughtful insights and creative ideas to help your struggling child.

What do you do when you know you want something to be different in your family this year? Do you ever wonder if there is a more gracious and meaningful way to approach the new year, for you and your kids? How can you be more intentional in your parenting in the new year? If you are overwhelmed with all that hasn’t worked, and are looking for something different for your family, this is the podcast to help you gently usher in 2022 with hope for real and meaningful growth. In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) share a super practical tool, and a new perspective on creating goals and intentions for the new year. Not just worn-out resolutions, but a broader vision that could transform both you and your family one step and one day at a time. You can help your kids steward their time and their capabilities to create a growth mindset* with gracious questions such as:    What is your goal?Why is it important to you?What will it take to achieve your goal?To achieve your goal, what steps can you control?  You can create a safe and connected atmosphere to have a vision-casting conversation with your kids, and invite God to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine! *Growth mindset is a term originally coined by Child Psychologist Carol Dweck and popularized by numerous authors. Our use of the term is most closely informed by her work. In this podcast, you’ll also discover: how to use a “life/growth wheel” (mentioned by Stacy) in practical ways, with kids of all ages, to coach and support your kids in building wisdom and responsibilitythe importance of assessing your (and your child’s) connection to God, to each other, and to your purpose in this world as you explore: What do I want life to look like a year from now?the power of celebration in connecting with your child and building momentum for their successhelpful steps to avoid the pitfalls that can bring shame and tension in conversations with your kids about their goals Mentioned in this podcast: Ephesians 3:14-21Susie Larson (Author, Speaker)The Entitlement Fix (online course)The Power of Questions (online course)Discipline That Connects (online course)Is There “Miracle Grow” for Good Behavior? (the ABC’s of Affirmation) Do you and your family have goals for the new year? What did you find helpful in this podcast? We’d love to hear from you and connect with you as we all start a new year together! Leave a comment and let us know. Or contact us, we are here to help! .stk-jnxa0tx{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-jnxa0tx-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-jnxa0tx-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })()

As 2021 soon comes to a close, we hope you will find good things–even something seemingly small!–to be grateful for this past year. And we pray you find encouragement and grace for the new year ahead. This year-end wrap-up will give you an exciting vision of what God might have for Connected Families in the future! In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) and Anna Braasch (Connected Families Executive Director) to talk about the many ways God has blessed the Connected Families community this past year. Listen in to hear all the ways God is growing and multiplying the powerful message of Connected Families, and an exciting look at the goals and vision for the future as well. Standing firm on the foundation of God’s love, and building on the Connected Families Framework, we look forward with anticipation to all the ways our community will continue to bring hope to parents and families around the world. None of this would be possible without you and your dedication to continue sharing the grace-filled message of Connected Families in your community and beyond. Did you know? As we reflect on this past year, here are some fascinating things you might not know about us: Connected Families launched a new website this year, making it even easier to find all the fantastic resources you need to lead your family with confidence and grace!Connected Families was founded nearly 20 years ago, when Jim and Lynne Jackson realized that parents were in need of a more connected parenting approach.We are currently building relationships within the Chinese community, and working to make our resources available in this community.Connected Families began implementing a successful business tool called EOS in 2015. This keeps our ministry running with efficiency and accountability. (We believe this tool is an important part of serving you!)The Connected Families Framework uniquely combines brain science, child development, and scripture.We have a coaching certification program, and parent coaches from multiple countries around the globe. Connected Families is here to bring you God’s grace and truth, so you can pass on God’s grace and truth to your children. Who do you know who needs to hear more about this? Please consider telling your story of how Connected Families has impacted you, and let them know about our helpful resources! In each step of your journey, we are here for you. Contact us and let us know how we can help! Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families websiteConnected Families FrameworkBecome a Parent CoachChad Hayenga, head of Connected Families coaching certification programHow to Grow a Connected FamilyDiscipline That Connects online courseDONATE to Connected FamiliesEOS: Entrepreneurial Operating SystemJoel Swanson: EOS ImplementerBlessings for the Morning by Susie Larson (Isaiah 43:19) Sign up below to receive a weekly dose of encouragement straight to your inbox: Related PostsConnected Families Is Building Community in SCHOOLSConnected Families is Building Community in EXTENDED FAMILIESConnected Families is Building Community in SMALL GROUPSGiving Gifts at Christmas: Help Kids Discover the Joy of GivingThankful for the Connected Families Community

“My child never sleeps!” Bedtime struggles can feel like a losing battle. Does bedtime leave you feeling completely drained? Your child wants another glass of water or another bedtime story. They’re afraid of the dark. Or overflowing with wound-up energy from the day.  You are exhausted. Frustrated. And if your child is struggling to sleep, you are struggling to sleep!  Sleep is so important! Kids not going to sleep (or staying asleep) is a frequent concern we hear from parents during coaching sessions. If you feel like you have tried everything and wonder why nothing is working, you’re in the same boat as so many other sleep-deprived families!  As parents we sometimes want to push through this time to bring some peace to the end of our day. But what if bedtime could be a way to tap into your child’s heart in a way that makes them feel safe, understood, and loved? What if you change your mindset to see that when your child is struggling to sleep this could be an opportunity for deep connection? It really can be! You can transform difficult bedtime routines into an opportunity for a deep and lasting connection with your child. How? In this podcast, we’ll introduce you to a unique and holistic approach that gets to the heart of your child. We’ll give practical, science-based tips that you can use today. Listen in as Stacy Bellward (podcast host) talks with Lynne Jackson, co-founder of Connected Families, Occupational Therapist, and author of Transform Bedtime Struggles into Nighttime Snuggles. Together they discuss ways to help prepare both you and your child for a peaceful night of rest. This conversation is loaded with brain science and helpful tools and you won’t want to miss it! This podcast dives deep into: obstacles that can hinder your kids from a good night’s sleep (some of them might surprise you!)the science of sleep and specific ways lack of sleep can affect your kidspractical and holistic sleep solutions that really workways to calm your child’s body, mind, heart, and spirit to help them sleephow a connected approach to bedtime can bring peace to your evenings Mentioned in this podcast: Transforming Bedtime Struggles into Nighttime Snuggles by Lynne Jackson, OTRWhy We Sleep by Matthew Walker, PhDThe Opposite of Worry by Lawrence Cohen, PhDDr. Roberto Olivardia Talks About Kids With ADHD and Sleep Challenges (podcast)Psalm 4:8Isaiah 41:13 The sweet bedtime cuddles you dream of deteriorate far too often into mayhem. You’ve got this! Bring peace to your child’s body, mind, heart, and spirit. So they (and you!) can sleep well. Download and read our FREE in-depth ebook Transform Bedtime Struggles into Nighttime Snuggles. Related PostsDear Exhausted Mom, Here’s Why You Might Say “Yes” When Your Child Begs You to PlayHow I Helped My Baby Sleep When Sleep Training Was Not WorkingHow to Create a Simple Sensory Diet for Restless, Homebound Kids | Ep. 30One Way to Turn Bedtime Routines AroundTransform Bedtime Struggles Into Nighttime Snuggles

As parents we long to build a connected family. Connection. We all long for genuine, connected relationships. It’s how God wired us. It makes sense that, when this element is lacking in our relationships, it can cause us to feel so many difficult and discouraged emotions. Especially in the relationships we value most. You want to feel connected to your kids and to the people you care about, but that can be really hard.  Is there a secret to authentic connection? A tool to help build a connected family? Your family can experience this! Co-Founders Jim and Lynne Jackson wrestled and prayed about these very questions, and in the process laid an important foundation for the heart of Connected Families. They discovered that connection is intentional and it exists in three key areas: connection to Godconnection to each otherconnection to our purpose in this world In today’s podcast, Jim and Lynne join Stacy Belward (podcast host) to uncover what these three areas of connection mean, and how we can live them out with love and intention to build a connected family.  Connection doesn’t come from a magic wand; it happens in intentional and thoughtful relationships as we give and receive in meaningful ways. We connect by knowing, loving, and enjoying God and each other. God created you for connection. His love and grace can pour in and through you to purposefully build a connected family. In this podcast, you’ll discover: intentional, meaningful, and practical ways to connect to God, each other, and your (and your kids!) purpose in this worldthe power of thoughtful and curious questions to connect to your child and help them grow in wisdomhow to help your kids connect with each other as siblingseffective ways to call out your child’s gifting, and help them find ways of using those gifts to be a blessing to others Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families FrameworkThe Big 5 Bible StudyThe Power of Questions online courseSibling Conflict online courseDonate to Connected FamiliesThe Love Language QuizMatthew 25:34-40 Looking for ways to connect more with your kids? Check out these fantastic resources to help you feel encouraged and equipped in your parenting! Feeling stuck? As always, please contact us to let us know how we can help you and walk alongside you in your parenting journey. We are here to help! Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview. Related PostsChristian Discipline: The Story Behind Connected Families Unique Framework for Parenting | Ep. 68Families on Purpose | Ep. 21How to Leave a Legacy | Ep. 65

Does your child get discouraged? Does it feel like your child’s misbehavior seems to drown out the positive things you might notice? And the more you notice misbehavior, the more it seems to happen. We tend to gravitate toward the things we feel need “fixing” in our kids, because our brains prioritize attending to anything wrong or threatening. This is normal!  As a parent you care deeply about your child and want them to grow in wisdom and responsibility, which doesn’t always come naturally! But you can learn to shine a bright spot in a really effective way, on the small things that go well, and begin to unravel this cycle of discouragement in your child. And it will bring encouragement to you as a parent, too! In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families) to share a powerful and practical tool to encourage both you and your child!  Lynne struggled with being hard on herself for being negative and critical. The negative self-talk was spilling over as a critical spirit in her parenting, and it was a challenging but rich journey to become more positive and affirming toward her kids. To speak encouraging truth into her kids Lynne developed a simple, useful, and memorable tool called the ABCs of Affirmation. It’s not a performance based, pat-on-the-back method. But it IS a Spirit-filled, life-giving tool that builds wisdom and affirms your child’s identity as a precious and beloved child of God. The ABC’s of Affirmation provide a way for you to receive God’s grace, and then to pour out that grace to your children. When your kids see you receive encouragement from God and others, you can model and pass on the power of genuine, loving affirmation to them.  In this podcast, you’ll discover: the ABC’s of Affirmation: What they are, and how to incorporate this tool in everyday life in practical wayshow brain science matches and supports this biblical toolthe negative impacts of too much “shallow” praise for your childways to grow momentum (and even boost dopamine!) by encouraging yourself as a parenthow to ask  your child thoughtful questions that lead them to self-encourage too! Mentioned in this podcast: I Was a Critical Parent: 7 Steps I Took to Find a More Loving WayIs There “Miracle Grow” for Good Behavior? (The ABC’s of Affirmation) Grace and Truth For Moms (online course) Connected Families FrameworkHow Your Thoughts Change Your Brain, Cells and GenesCorrie Thetford, Lydia Rex (Certified Connected FamiliesParent Coaches)Dr. Alan KazdinConnected Families Insiders TeamBible verses in this podcast: Philippians 4:8, 2 Corinthians 10:5, 1 Thessalonians 4:9, 1 Thessalonians 5:11 How have you used the ABC’s of Affirmation with your kids? We’d love to hear your stories! And don’t forget to check out our new website to encourage yourself and your family with these great resources! Need more encouragement or help? Please contact us, we are here for you! .stk-169se2j{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-169se2j-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-169se2j-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })() Related PostsAre You Unintentionally Encouraging Bad Behavior? Here’s How to Switch ThatBuild Kids Up with Nourishing Affirmation in 30 SecondsBuilding the Family Team: A Solution to Chore WarsTeach Your Child to Have a Growth Mindset with These Four Steps | Ep. 70

Ever feel like you’ve read all the parenting books and yet still feel overwhelmed? Or perhaps you struggle because so much parenting advice out there just doesn’t seem to fit your family situation. And you’ve discovered that traditional parenting just isn’t cutting it!  This can be especially true for parents who have children through adoption or foster care. In honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, we bring you another fantastic conversation with a family formed through adoption. Today’s podcast brings first-hand stories that demonstrate the practical and meaningful way the Connected Families Framework applies to unique family situations across the board. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) and special parent guests, Joe and Becky. Joe and Becky are the parents of three children through adoption.  When they hit a bumpy patch in their parenting journey, they reached out to Chad for parent coaching. As they learned about and applied the parenting Framework, they found a long-term vision for building solid relationships with their children. Not only did they see a change in their kids, but Joe and Becky experienced a change in themselves as well. You can experience this too!  The Connected Families Framework provides an approach to parenting that is:  gospel-centered attachment-focused trauma-informed Connected Families offers a path to a parent-child connection that reveals and expresses the same safety, love, and connection to our children that God gives to us. With the power of God’s love, we can confront old patterns and ways of thinking about parenting, and embrace a new mindset that builds connected relationships. In this podcast, you’ll learn about: overcoming your internal struggles to be a more calm and peaceful parent how the Framework helps you navigate different parenting styles, and offers both a practical and empathetic approach to parenting the power of affirmation in your child’s life (and your spouse’s!)  filling the “reservoir of connection” to sustain your family through the tough times of correction  Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families Framework TBRI Be a part of the Insiders Team The Peace Process (Sibling Conflict Course) Want to learn more? What I Misunderstood About Adoption–And, Well, All Parenting What Is “Attachment Style”? Podcast: Parenting Kids from Hard Places with Unique Needs Interested in hearing more about Connected Families? Check out our website and these fantastic resources to help you lead your family with confidence and grace. Questions? Need help? Please contact us, we would love to hear from you! Related PostsAn Honest Conversation About Adoption | Ep. 81How to Be Safe for Your Kids | Ep. 76My Misconceptions About Adoption—And, Well, All ParentingParenting Kids from Hard Places with Unique Needs | Ep. 45 .stk-qvspb8u{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-3,#293241) !important;background-image:url(https://connectedfamilies.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/tuan-anh-tran-M74UY3ozHPY-unsplash-scaled.jpg) !important}.stk-qvspb8u:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-3,#293241) !important;opacity:0.1 !important}.stk-qvspb8u{padding-top:64px !important;padding-right:64px !important;padding-bottom:64px !important;padding-left:64px !important}.stk-qvspb8u-container{background-color:rgba(41,50,65,0.5) !important}.stk-qvspb8u-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-3,#293241) !important}.stk-qvspb8u .stk-block-hero__content{max-width:400px !important;min-width:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-left:0px !important;display:flex !important}.stk-qvspb8u .stk-block-hero__content{align-items:center !important} .stk-5yg154p .stk-block-heading__text{color:#FFFFFF !important}Dare to dream of peace again. .stk-ip0bc68 .stk-block-text__text{font-size:18px !important;color:#FFFFFF !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-ip0bc68 .stk-block-text__text{font-size:18px !important}}It’s not hopeless. You can ENJOY YOUR KIDS AGAIN. .stk-4jnd73z .stk-button{background:var(--theme-palette-color-1,#ee6c4d) !important}.stk-4jnd73z .stk-button:hover:after{background:var(--theme-palette-color-2,#98c1d9) !important;opacity:1 !important}.stk-4jnd73z .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8,#ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-4jnd73z .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important}}CONNECT WITH A PARENT COACH

Many of the families in the Connected Families community were formed through adoption. This month, during National Adoption Awareness Month, we look more closely at how the Connected Families Framework can be applied to children who joined their family through adoption (or foster care). Whether or not you’ve adopted, you will not want to miss this podcast!  Note: In this podcast we are sharing the perspective of three internationally adopted transracial families. We recognize there are many different ways adoptive families are formed. Kids who have entered our families through adoption have experienced trauma. This is an honest conversation about adoption, but the truth is that all kids have experienced some level of trauma. The good news is, a trauma-informed approach to parenting is a key element of the Connected Families Framework. Maybe you have searched and sifted through an overload of parenting advice that has made you even more discouraged. You may have even thought, “Sounds like good advice….for a more ‘normal’ family.” But your family is unique and special, which is exactly how God intended it to be. Be encouraged! You can reach your child in powerful and practical ways. In today’s podcast, three moms on the Connected Families team join together to have an honest and heart-to-heart conversation about some of the ways adoption and trauma have impacted their parenting. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Anna Braasch (Executive Director) and Jen Berge (Content Manager) to discuss how the Connected Families Framework provides a profound and gracious approach to trauma-informed parenting. The Connected Families Framework gives a unique perspective for parenting kids from trauma. It offers the tools to navigate different parenting situations across the board. Our Framework provides an approach to connected parenting that communicates to your child–God can redeem all things! In this podcast, you’ll discover: how certain words surrounding adoption can bring hurt or discomfort, and how you can bring words of healing and compassion instead the science of how trauma affects the body, and how it manifests in a child’s emotions, attachment, and daily living  the vital importance of safety and connection for kids in a chronically heightened state of fight-or-flight, and how your parenting can set the stage for connection in the midst of it the four levels of the Connected Families Framework, and how they play out both emotionally and practically in trauma-informed parenting Resources mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families Framework The History of “Putting a Child Up” for Adoption Orphan Train (book) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (book) Connected Families Insiders Team A New Serenity Prayer Bios: Stacy Bellward is the Connected Families Project Manager. She has been married for over 20 years and is a mom of two daughters: One biological and one through adoption from Ethiopia. Stacy loves to be the cheerleader in the Connected Families online courses. She is also an author, speaker, and certified leadership coach. But most of all, Stacy is soaking up all the moments of motherhood, knowing time passes so quickly. Jen Berge is the Content Manager for Connected Families. Jen has been married for over twenty years and has six children ranging in ages from 12-21: four biological, and two added through adoption from Haiti. Jen loves her big family and in her not-so-abundant “free time” she enjoys exercising, attending sporting events, and spending time as a family. Anna Braasch is the Connected Families Executive Director. Anna loves to encourage parents who are struggling. She has experienced infertility, adoption, attachment struggles, and loads of grace and healing. Anna has been married for 25 years and has two kids through adoption from Ethiopia, who are now teenagers. Anna and her family are involved with sports, school events, their church, and the Ethiopian adoption community. .stk-hdlnu82-container:hover{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-6, #e4eff5) !important;}.stk-hdlnu82-container:hover:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-6, #e4eff5) !important;} Learn more about the Framework Want to dig deeper into Connected Families’ Parenting Framework? Get our FREE ebook, What Kids Need: 4 Messages That Build Identity. Related PostsHow Do I Support My Friend Who Is Adopting?My Misconceptions About Adoption—And, Well, All ParentingWhy Safety Is Crucial for Adoptive Families

Why is changing your parenting just so hard? You’ve tried everything to get a better result in your parenting: You’ve read the books, watched the seminars, tried new methods. You know that you want a different approach to your parenting, but you just don’t know what to do or how to do it. And it’s hard!  It’s messy to rewire old patterns that have been established over many years. This is true for everyone–you are not alone! We can be tempted to give up when a new strategy doesn’t bring the instant change we think we should be getting. But there is a way forward to lasting change–to a more peaceful and connected relationship with your kids! This podcast will give you the inspiration and the practical tools to navigate the “messy” as you work through new patterns of parenting and become a vessel for God’s grace and truth to your kids. Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss how you can move toward healthier ways of responding to your kids that will bring connection, teach wisdom, and invite lasting change. In the unfailing love and strength of Jesus, you can create new patterns in your family systems that change the trajectory of your family for generations to come! It’s not easy, but there is so much good on the other side! In this podcast you’ll learn: why you hold tight to familiar, unwritten family rules, and how they affect your family dynamicsthe key to changing parenting reactions that get the results you want in the moment, but cost you relationally in the long termhow to recognize big emotions and use the Connected Families Framework to ask yourself, “What’s going on in me?” why kids can become more intense as they learn a new way of connection (even if it’s a good change!) and practical tools to help you navigate the process Mentioned in this podcast:  Connected Families websiteThe Key to Unlocking Wisdom and Responsibility in Kids (connection before correction)! Power of Questions online courseBible verses: 2 Corinthians 10:5, Romans 12:2 .stk-q9ud7ra-container{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;background-image:url(https://connectedfamilies.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Transracial-fam-of-3.jpg) !important;}.stk-q9ud7ra-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;opacity:0.3 !important;} .stk-kl7ldgs {max-width:1500px !important;min-width:auto !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:-38px !important;}.stk-kl7ldgs .stk-img-wrapper{width:28% !important;} .stk-mpt5j1a .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;font-weight:900 !important;font-family:"Lato", Sans-serif !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-mpt5j1a .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-mpt5j1a .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:36px !important;}}Give Connection this Year .stk-48208ht {max-width:452px !important;min-width:auto !important;}.stk-48208ht .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-3, #293241) !important;}Small connections create lasting love and trust. Your gift supports Christ-centered connection and transformation in families for generations to come. .stk-z162oh8 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-z162oh8 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-z162oh8 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}} .stk-hsqa0n1 .stk-button{background:#9b111e !important;}.stk-hsqa0n1 .stk-button:hover:after{background:#556b2f !important;opacity:1 !important;}.stk-hsqa0n1 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important;}.stk-hsqa0n1 .stk-button:hover .stk-button__inner-text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-hsqa0n1 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;}}DONATE NOW Related Posts11 Ideas to Help You Stop Yelling at Your KidsCorrect With Good ConsequencesFirst-Time Obedience: Should I Require Immediate Obedience from My Child?How Do You “Be a Better Dad”?How to Be Safe for Your Kids | Ep. 76I Lost My Temper With My Child; Can I Make It Better?

Mom guilt is real and it feels so heavy. Moms, do you ever find your thoughts spiraling through these statements? “I’m such a mess!” “I can’t get it together and my kids don’t like me!” “I’m a bad mom” Stress, feeling overwhelmed, and lack of sleep can intensify all these feelings. It’s important to know you are not alone in the struggle with guilt and shame. And you don’t have to stay stuck in it. There is always hope! In today’s podcast, Katie Wetsell (pediatric nurse and Connected Families Certified Parent Coach ) joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to share her own personal story of how she worked through difficult feelings of mom guilt. Katie shares with us the steps she took to embrace the truth of Jesus’ deep love and grace, and some surprising truths about looking at guilt through the filter of faith.  When viewed through the filter of God’s redemptive love and purpose, guilt can actually provide an opportunity for transformation within the safety of God’s gentleness and grace. And when we receive that gentleness and grace from God, we can in turn pour it out and model it to our children. You don’t have to live in the discouragement of Mom guilt! In this podcast, you’ll discover: the difference between guilt and shame and why it matterswhy moms often feel intense guilt about their parenting (and how you can navigate this in a healthy way!)the importance of the first level, Foundation, in the Connected Families Framework ”What’s going on in me?”–to break the cycle of shamehow you can be set free from the lies that keep you stuck in mom guilt through the redemptive and powerful love of Jesus Mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families websiteConnected Families FrameworkConnected Families resourcesBible verses:  2 Corinthians 5:17, Ephesians 6:10-20, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Psalm 139, Hebrews 4:16, 1 John 2:1  About Katie Wetsell: Katie has always had a calling on her heart to care for children. She is a pediatric oncology nurse and pediatric nurse practitioner. After experiencing the benefits of parent coaching through Connected Families herself, Katie later resigned from nursing and became a certified parent coach as well. She and her husband have 4 children (3 boys and a girl) through birth and adoption. Katie is also trained in SPACE treatment to help parents learn how to support their children struggling with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorders. For more information or to contact Katie, visit her website Parent With Hope. .stk-go87d51{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-go87d51-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-go87d51-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })()

Does God require your kids to obey immediately? Immediate obedience is probably a familiar concept to you. And, to be quite honest, it’s a hot-button topic! If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do I get my child to obey?” then this is the podcast for you! Or maybe you feel like your demands for first-time obedience seem to bring more tension and discouragement for both you and your child? If so, this podcast will bring you clarity and encouragement as you seek to be a more connected parent! How DO I get my child to obey? Here at Connected Families, we approach this topic with a unique perspective. In today’s podcast, we dissect and unpack this important and sometimes misunderstood issue. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) as we continue our series about our Connected Families “special sauce”–what makes us unique!  Obedience is absolutely important to God and to you as a parent. We encourage you view the bigger picture of how God inspires obedience in His children. Control and fear-based parenting can create a toxic relationship, but a deeper and more connected relationship with your child will lead them toward wisdom. The context for obedience is a deep love relationship overflowing with the fullness of God’s grace.  In today’s podcast you’ll learn: why immediate obedience can be a set-up for frustration for both you and childrenwhat the Bible and the life of Jesus tell us about immediate obediencethe importance of examining your own motives as a parent in order to bring the fullness of God’s love to your kidsthe difference between obedience and compliance– and why it matters!how to let go of demands in order to build wisdom and thoughtful responses in your child’s heart You will not want to miss this conversation! It may forever change how you connect with your child as you seek to leave a legacy of wisdom and grace for your family. We would love to connect with you about this, or any other questions you may have! We invite you to contact us.  Mentioned in this podcast: Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online courseThe Prodigal God by Tim KellerBible verses mentioned in this podcast: John 14:23-24, 1 John 5:3, Isaiah 64:6, Matthew 23:25, Luke 15:11-32, Luke 1:17, 2 Corinthians 10:5, Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4 .stk-t380lai-container{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;background-image:url(https://connectedfamilies.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Transracial-fam-of-3.jpg) !important;}.stk-t380lai-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;opacity:0.3 !important;} .stk-3urjky1 {max-width:1500px !important;min-width:auto !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:-38px !important;}.stk-3urjky1 .stk-img-wrapper{width:28% !important;} .stk-6bssjlr .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;font-weight:900 !important;font-family:"Lato", Sans-serif !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-6bssjlr .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-6bssjlr .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:36px !important;}}Give Connection this Year .stk-n9rst8l {max-width:452px !important;min-width:auto !important;}.stk-n9rst8l .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-3, #293241) !important;}Small connections create lasting love and trust. Your gift supports Christ-centered connection and transformation in families for generations to come. .stk-ss26qp3 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-ss26qp3 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-ss26qp3 .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}} .stk-uxgrhkz .stk-button{background:#9b111e !important;}.stk-uxgrhkz .stk-button:hover:after{background:#556b2f !important;opacity:1 !important;}.stk-uxgrhkz .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important;}.stk-uxgrhkz .stk-button:hover .stk-button__inner-text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-uxgrhkz .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;}}DONATE NOW

Your child is misbehaving and you just want it to, “Stop!” You want to bring some control to the situation. Emotions escalate. The key to unlocking a Christ-like identity, wisdom, and responsibility in your kids is not a method or a formula. It’s connection. Parenting is hard! You want to hold your child accountable when they misbehave, but your first reaction as a parent can set the tone for how your child receives that discipline. If you want to know what to do to change the trajectory of a tense encounter with your child listen to this podcast. The result: more peaceful and effective outcomes. Unlocking wisdom and responsiblity in kids “Connection before correction” is part of the “special sauce” that makes our Connected Families Framework unique! In Part Two of this series, Jim Jackson (Connected Families co-founder) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) join Stacy Bellward to show you how to bring connection to your parenting in thoughtful and practical ways.  In this podcast you’ll discover: the vital role of connection in the Connected Families Frameworkhow connection outside of correction can build trust and improve your relationship with your child during moments of misbehaviorwhat connection looks like in practical ways in the midst of misbehaviorthe importance of seeing beneath the misbehavior to connect with your child’s heart We are here for you as you seek a  more connected relationship with your child! A fantastic place to start is our Discipline That Connects with Your Child’s Heart online course. Parenting resources mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families FrameworkDiscipline That Connects with Your Child’s Heart online course Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages All Children Long to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview.

It’s normal to feel stuck in the frustration of trying to “fix” your child’s behavior. Despite exploring numerous parenting resources and methods, does your heart still feel unsettled? Like you, many other parents feel the same way. Patterns of control, yelling, blaming, and shaming only seem to bring greater disconnection in your relationship with your child. You want things to be different. You want to be safe for your kids, but the patterns seem too ingrained.How can you find a better way to discipline; making sure you are safe for your kids while remaining firm? Today’s podcast gets right to the heart of the Connected Families’ unique and profound biblical Framework for parenting. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Lydia Rex (Connected Families Parent Coach). Together they discuss the deep and lasting impact of the Connected Families Framework in their own families and in the families of those they work with every day.  In this podcast, you’ll learn: the vital shift from “fix my child” to “fix myself” as you seek to build an environment of emotional safety how to approach parenting with curious questions instead of judgment as you build safety and wisdom the toxic thoughts and lies that can keep you stuck in shame as a parent, and how you can identify them and replace them with God’s grace and truth why humility is the “currency” of connection in discipline The Connected Families “Secret Sauce” to genuine, heart-level change in parents and children occurs in communicating the most important messages that our kids long to hear: “You are safe with me” and “You are loved no matter what.” In Jesus’ love, you can show up with safety and connection and be the parent YOU long to be. Your own inner work will overflow to your child as you move past shame and despair to love and grace. Parenting resources mentioned in this podcast:  Connected Families FrameworkConnected Families Framework MagnetDiscipline That Connects Fall 2021 Online CourseDiscipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart (book)Bible verses mentioned: Matthew 12:34, Psalm 139, Philippians 1:6, Romans 6:17,18, James 1:19 About Lydia Rex: Lydia Rex is a registered nurse, wife, and mother of two and has worked with families in many capacities throughout her career and personal life. She’s been a student of Connected Families since 2014, and continues to find it incredibly life-giving for her own family. Areas of her experience/special interest include foster care and adoption, attachment difficulties, developmental and learning disabilities including FASD. She brings a trauma-informed perspective to the Connected Families Framework and the desire to see families find peace and healing – not just on the other side, but in the midst of challenges! Use our “Contact Us” form to connect with Lydia. Want more information about Connected Families? Check out our website! Feel free to contact us and let us know how we can come alongside you in your parenting journey. We are here to guide you towards God’s grace for you so that you can pass His grace and truth on to your children! 

Ever feel alone or isolated as a parent? Between navigating your kids’ misbehavior in public, enduring other judgmental parents, and the demands of daily life, staying isolated can often feel easier than attempting social connection and events. Yet parenting without a solid community can bring feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Just like our kids, we as parents need to feel safety and connection in community too. That comes when we parent in community. What holds us back from parenting in community? And what’s the way forward to more safe, connected, and meaningful parenting relationships? Join us and our guest Heather MacFadyen, founder of Don’t Mom Alone, to hear how she worked through some rough seasons of isolation, and how she learned to build a life-giving parenting community around her. Heather joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) to discuss her inner healing journey, and several life-changing truths that offered her hope and a new perspective. Your child’s choices and behavior don’t define you. When you explore what is going on inside of you as a parent in the safety of God’s grace, you can find hope and a new perspective too. You can dispel the shame and fear that keeps you isolated from parenting in community. In this podcast, you’ll discover: “Isolating ideas” that keep you from interacting with other parents and forming meaningful connection with themThe profound importance of starting with the Foundation of “What’s going on in me?”How shame can keep us isolated from connecting with other parentsThe Connected Families Framework that helps you embrace with grace the humanity of both you and your child We are here for you in your parenting journey. Do you have a parenting testimony to share or have a parenting concern?  If so please reach out to us! We hope you have learned life-giving tips today to help you parent with peace and connection. About Heather MacFadyen:  Married and a mom to four sons, Heather struggled with the challenges of raising four young boys. She isolated herself from community, fearing embarrassment, rejection, and failure. Slowly she began to reach out to friends again and started to parent in community. Through prayer with friends, God healed wrong identities Heather was holding onto. She started a podcast called “God-Centered Mom” (now Don’t Mom Alone), a show that has been downloaded over 7 million times. Resources mentioned in this podcast: Heather MacFadyen’s website:  https://dontmomalone.com/ Don’t Mom Alone: Growing the Relationships You Need to be the Mom You Want to Be by Heather MacFadyen The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves by Curt Thompson Connected Families: Discipline That Connects online course The Connected Families Framework Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages All Children Long to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview.

If you’re like most parents, you want your child to be a responsible student. But you also want them to use their time wisely to they can have an active social life. (Aaaannnnd, it would be great if they were good at athletics, debate, excited about youth group every Wednesday night, AND could get their chores done without complaining. 😊) Whatever your child’s strengths and challenges are, each school year brings a new set of hopes and dreams. You want your child to be a responsible student, but you also want them to learn life skills that will set them up for success outside of school.  Want a responsible student? In this podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Bonnie Williams and Corrie Thetford (Connected Families Parent Coaches). This conversation will bring you incredibly practical and thoughtful strategies to guide your child toward responsibility in their schoolwork and beyond. Coaching your child to be responsible can be an opportunity to build wisdom and connection. Find out how you can create a foundation of safety today that will open your child’s heart to work as a team with you, as you tackle all that life brings this year. In this episode, you’ll hear: Ways to come alongside with support and encouragement while still holding your child responsible for their schoolwork How certain expectations, beliefs, and demands can negatively impact your efforts to help your childLighthearted curious questions you can ask your child to build wisdom and set them up for successThe importance of discerning what’s under the surface causing anxiety and lack of motivation in your child’s schoolwork battles Have you found yourself trying to figure out how to raise a responsible student? What strategies have helped you and your child navigate homework challenges? Is there something you would love to hear more about in our podcasts? We’d love to hear from you! Resources mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families Framework4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear (FREE ebook)The “Just Right Challenge” About our guests on today’s podcast: Bonnie Williams has a Master of Education in Special Education. She is a wife and the mother of 3 teenagers. She has supported students with learning and behavior challenges for over 25 years, specializing in working with parents with children ages 3 to 15. Helping families apply the Connected Families Framework is what Bonnie is passionate about. By doing this they can learn new strategies to grow in wisdom and help lead them in having peaceful, grace-filled homes. You can reach her by email at [email protected]. Corrie Thetford has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Counseling. At some point she and her husband realized that the way they disciplined was driving a wedge between them and their kids. Because of this they sought coaching through Connected Families. Now, as Connected Families Certified Coaches, they work with other families to experience that same change and restored joy that they found through their coaching experience. Together, Corrie and Alan have founded Building Wise Families. You can learn more about them on the Building Wise Families Podcast. You can reach them by email at [email protected]. If you are not currently following us on Instagram we encourage you to check it out. Our community is growing there and we’d love to partner with you in your parenting with timely encouragement just for you. Find us @connectedfams for your daily dose of parenting tips. Related Posts3 Ways To Help When Your Child Refuses To Do SchoolworkAsking vs. Telling: What Parents Need to Know About Questions & LearningBack to SchoolClassroom Anxiety: It’s Common, and You Can Help | Ep. 73Whose Life Is It Anyway?

Is your child struggling with anxiety about going back to school? How do you navigate the uncertainties of a new school year? If you and your child are feeling stressed about all the changes and upheaval surrounding school, you are not alone! Classroom anxiety is more common than you think. We have some super helpful information to get you and your kids on the right track for a more calm and connected school year!    Today’s episode is absolutely packed with essential information and practical application. This podcast will help you better understand and connect with your child in their struggle with anxiety and possibly even trauma. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Lynne Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) are joined by Jessica Sinarski, LPCMH, (Licensed Professional Counselor of Mental Health) and author of the book Riley the Brave Makes it to School. Using brain science research, Jessica equips parents, teachers, and other professionals to meet the needs of kids who are struggling, and to better incorporate effective trauma-sensitive practices into their interactions with children. Beneath the surface, a child’s challenging behavior can often be anxiety. Entering into these tough situations with calm and safety are absolutely key in reaching your child. When kids externalize these big feelings, they need a safe place to land, and to work through, what is really going on in their brains and in their hearts. When you can understand their behavior and safely communicate I am for you, you can better help your child heal.  Powerful and practical tools you will gain in this podcast: The research of what is happening in a child’s brain when they are anxious, and how that behavior may play out in unexpected waysHow to help both you and your child when reacting in the “downstairs brain”Understanding the “turtle,” “tiger,” and “porcupine” response in your child (and in yourself!)Practical ways to apply this information to your child’s back-to-school challenges and classroom anxietyThe power of connection within the Connected Families Framework  We’ve compiled a list of great resources for you below, and as always, we are here for you and would love for you to connect with us! (Or check out our parent coaching options.) Resources from Jessica Sinarski: Riley the Brave Makes it to School Brave Brains websiteRiley the BraveWhat’s Inside Your Backpack?  Connected Families resources mentioned in this podcast: 4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear (FREE ebook)Connected Families FrameworkSolve That After-School Crabbiness Additional resources mentioned: The Opposite of Worry by Lawrence CohenAttachment Play by Aletha SolterGood News for Little Hearts series (including Buster Tries to Bail) Arnie and His School Tools: Simple Sensory Solutions That Build Success by Jennifer VeenendallConnection Zoo, a play-based learning tool that helps kids build social and emotional skillsGo Zen, online social and emotional learning programs for kids ages 6-15 Guest bio:  Jessica Sinarski, LPCMH, equips parents and professionals to be healers for hurting children. Weaving user-friendly brain science into everything she does, she ignites both passion and know-how in audiences. Extensive post-graduate training and 15+ years as a clinician, consultant, and parent educator led her to create the resource and training platform she couldn’t find elsewhere: BraveBrains. Jessica continues to work as a therapist and clinical supervisor at an innovative adoption support agency in Delaware and serves on the board of directors at the largest Head Start provider in the Bronx, NY. She has shared her expertise as a contributor to magazines, blogs, and podcasts. At home, Jessica’s three busy boys will forever keep her laughing and learning. If you are not currently following us on Instagram we encourage you to check it out. Our community is growing there and we’d love to partner with you in your parenting with timely encouragement just for you. Find us @connectedfams for your daily dose of parenting tips.

What does the Bible say about connection in parenting? How do we work that out practically in everyday family life? Of course theology is important. But theology alone doesn’t always tell you how long your kids should play a video game, or how to specifically respond when your child asks tough questions.  That’s where scientific research comes in! We’ve heard from countless people the reason they continue to access Connected Families resources is because we integrate science and biblical principles. Our goal is to make what can seem lofty into digestible and practical content for parents.  Today’s episode is Part 2 of a discussion about what makes the Connected Families parenting approach so unique–the integration of science and Scripture! Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to continue the conversation about the Connected Families Framework. In this podcast you’ll hear: How scientific research is integrated in the last two steps of the Framework (“You are CALLED and CAPABLE.” and “You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions.”) The importance of listening to your kids without judgment in order to communicate empathy instead of anxietyThe power of calm, light-hearted questions to grow wisdom and responsibility in your childA more effective way to praise your child (that doesn’t lead to people-pleasing!) We have a ton of great resources below to help you in your parenting journey. We hope these resources can be a helpful avenue of guidance and support for your family. Please contact us with any questions, we are here to help! Resources mentioned in this podcast: Hardwired to Connect (2003 Research Report) or check out this link for a summary of the report Carol Dweck- A Study on Praise and Mindsets (video) Scripture references: Ephesians 2:10, 1 Thessalonians 2:7,8, Psalm 139, Proverbs 29:5, Philippians 1:6, 1 Corinthians 6:12, Colossians 3:12 Build Kids Up with Nourishing Affirmation in 30 Seconds (The “ABC’s of Affirmation”) The Power of Questions: Less Arguing. More Wisdom. (online course) FREE Resources: 4 Messages Every Kid Longs to Hear (ebook) and Perspectives on Spanking (ebook) If you are not currently following us on Instagram, we encourage you to check it out. Our community is growing there, and we’d love to partner with you in your parenting with timely encouragement just for you. Find us @connectedfams for your daily dose of parenting tips.

Are you longing for practical parenting resources that address both the spiritual and the scientific? Why are they both important? God created our souls, brains, and bodies, and He wants us to understand His creation. Research affirms the biblical truth that you and your kids are hardwired to connect. The science of connection combined with the wisdom of God’s Word are the heartbeat of all we do and teach at Connected Families.  You won’t want to miss today’s Connected Families podcast! The Connected Families Framework is compelling and effective. Why? Because of the unique and powerful intersection of science and the Bible. In today’s episode, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families). Together they will discuss how you can be empowered as a parent to form a deep and meaningful connection with your child. Learn to utilize scientific research as you implement biblical truth in your parenting to unlock your child’s heart. Instead of a quick behavior fix, turn your child’s heart toward wisdom built on a foundation of love, safety, and connection. You’ll be equipped in your parenting as you learn about: How the latest research applies to and is interwoven into, the first two levels of the Connect Families Framework (“You are SAFE with me.” and “You are LOVED no matter what.”)How the science of connection affirms biblical truth in parentingA powerful sequence to address behavior used by the FBI that you can use in your parentingPractical ways you can implement the Connected Families Framework in daily life Scripture references and resources mentioned in this episode: The 4 Most Important Messages You Can Send Your Kids Connecting: Healing Ourselves and Our Relationships (book by Larry Crabb)Ephesians 1:3, Luke 1:17 , Proverbs 15:1, 1 John 3:1 If you are not currently following us on Instagram, we encourage you to check it out. Our community is growing there, and we’d love to partner with you in your parenting with timely encouragement just for you. Find us @connectedfams for your daily dose of parenting tips.

Have you heard the buzz about having a “growth mindset”* versus a “fixed mindset”? How can you teach your child to have a growth mindset? When our kids lack the skills to do what we are asking them to do it can create discouragement in your home. Maybe you’ve even asked yourself the following:  “Why isn’t my kid motivated to clean their room?”“How many times do I have to show my child how to load the dishwasher?”“What does it take for my child to notice the towel on the bathroom floor?” It would be great if our kids would just do things they are asked without any difficulties, right? Even better if they actually noticed what needed to be done.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t typically happen that way, which leaves everyone feeling frustrated! Growing skills in your kids is important to you, but how do you do that and still communicate safety, love, and connection in your home? In today’s episode, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) share a super practical tool you can use today to help your kids build skills with wisdom and connection. It’s called Motivate. Model. Practice. Praise. This is an intentional process built on the idea that lasting skills are both caught and patiently taught. Modelind and teaching your child to have a growth mindset includes taking the time to learn the underlying emotions they experience while learning new skills. Building wisdom and connection affirms to your child, “You are called and capable of growing and learning new things.” Listen in and you will discover : How to practically use the four steps of Motivate. Model. Practice. Praise.The power of wise questions to help motivate your childThe importance of looking within ourselves to understand and change our own responses to our kidsHow to develop a team concept to get you and your child on the same pageA more effective way to praise your child  Resources to help you grow skills in your kids: Motivate. Model. Practice. Praise. Proactively Grow Skills Without Demands and ThreatsThe Power of Questions: Less Arguing. More Wisdom. (Online course)Is There a “Miracle Grow” for Good Behavior? The ABC’s of AffirmationConnected Families FrameworkPhilippians 3:13-14 Do you have a comment about something that’s helped you, a question, or something you would like addressed in a future podcast? Contact us, or get in touch with us about our parent coaching options. We’d love to hear from you! *Growth mindset is a term originally coined by Child Psychologist Carol Dweck and popularized by numerous authors. Our use of the term is most closely informed by her work. Download our FREE in-depth ebook Helping Kids With Anger. It will provide thoughtful insights and creative ideas to help your struggling child.

Your child keeps unbuckling their seatbelt in a tantrum while you are driving down a busy road. One of your kids spits at his sibling when he gets angry. What do you do when your child has big emotions and actions, and despite your best efforts to implement connection and correction, the behavior doesn’t seem to improve? Maybe you’ve experienced challenging situations like these, and you don’t even know where to start.  In today’s episode, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) to discuss some of the challenging questions parents ask about correction. (Like, “What do I do when my child keep unbuckling?) Using the Connected Families Framework, Jim and Lynne walk through several of these situations, offering unique thoughts about ways to hold your child responsible, but still kindly and firmly communicate, you are safe and loved.  In this episode you’ll discover: The Connected Families Framework, and the power of asking wise questions to impart wisdom (instead of just managing behavior)How to search for the underlying issues (such as sensory) that could be contributing to misbehaviorWhat it means to allow your child to experience the natural impact of their choicesDisarming tense situations in unique waysHow to help kids communicate in ways that honor themselves and others Even when the way forward during correction isn’t clear, you can build a bridge to empathy for your child by helping them connect their strong emotions to empowering words. You can help them find a way to communicate what’s going on under the surface of the misbehavior, and guide them to make wiser choices. Helpful resources mentioned in this podcast: Connected Families FrameworkFREE Parenting Assessment Want to learn more? Connection in Correction (Love No Matter What!)Helping Kids With Anger (ebook)“The habit of connecting first makes the bigger issues of life easier to handle.” .stk-dxppfiu-container{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;background-image:url(https://connectedfamilies.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Transracial-fam-of-3.jpg) !important;}.stk-dxppfiu-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;opacity:0.3 !important;} .stk-p8bm954 {max-width:1500px !important;min-width:auto !important;padding-top:0px !important;padding-right:0px !important;padding-bottom:0px !important;padding-left:0px !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-bottom:0px !important;margin-left:-38px !important;}.stk-p8bm954 .stk-img-wrapper{width:28% !important;} .stk-pcezetb .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;font-weight:900 !important;font-family:"Lato", Sans-serif !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-pcezetb .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:50px !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-pcezetb .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:36px !important;}}Give Connection this Year .stk-3rv7axg {max-width:452px !important;min-width:auto !important;}.stk-3rv7axg .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-3, #293241) !important;}Small connections create lasting love and trust. Your gift supports Christ-centered connection and transformation in families for generations to come. .stk-cod85vi .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-cod85vi .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}}@media screen and (max-width:689px){.stk-cod85vi .stk-button-group{flex-direction:row !important;}} .stk-kdfjczp .stk-button{background:#9b111e !important;}.stk-kdfjczp .stk-button:hover:after{background:#556b2f !important;opacity:1 !important;}.stk-kdfjczp .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important;}.stk-kdfjczp .stk-button:hover .stk-button__inner-text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-8, #ffffff) !important;}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-kdfjczp .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;}}DONATE NOW Related PostsA Better Way to Respond to TantrumsAvoiding Power Struggles Is Simpler Than You ThinkBut What About My Toddler?Practical Tips to Turn Uncontrolled Emotional Outbursts into Big WinsThe Secret to Helping a Child Who is Always Angry

As a parent you might feel overwhelmed with the mountain of resources available to you regarding Christian discipline. From podcasts, to books, to seminars, there is no shortage of available content you could access. But, when you are Christ-follower AND you are tuned into the latest in research and attachment-based parenting, you are looking for something more. Something that combines heart, soul, and body. Connected Families was born from this deeply felt need of parents who were longing for real solutions and a deeper connection with their kids. Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) hosts Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) for a very special interview about the founding roots of Connected Families and their exciting vision for the future. From a 3:00am wake-up call from God to a community of thousands of parents, hear how God has uniquely guided every step of the Connected Families journey with wisdom and purpose.  Join us for today’s podcast to learn more about the past, present, and future of Connected Families!  In this episode you’ll hear: How the intensity of Jim and Lynne’s own family informed Connected Families and moved them forward in their ministry to other parents The impact of the Connected Families Framework for parents, within the organization’s team, and within Jim and Lynne’s work as a married couple serving in ministry together The vital role of Connected Families parent communities and the Insiders Team The compelling future vision for the Connected Families ministry Thank you for partnering with us and being a part of our Connected Families community! As always, please reach out to us and let us know how we can continue to come alongside you in your parenting journey. Connected Families resources and opportunities mentioned in this podcast:  Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart (book) How to Grow a Connected Family  Connected Families Insiders Team .stk-ef1ad82{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-4,#1e3f52) !important}.stk-ef1ad82:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-4,#1e3f52) !important}.stk-ef1ad82 > .stk-separator__bottom{transform:scaleX(-1) !important} .stk-264e196{align-self:center !important} .stk-437e671 .stk-block-heading__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-6,#e4eff5) !important}Be the grace-filled parent you want. .stk-9ad39e0 .stk-block-text__text{color:var(--theme-palette-color-8,#ffffff) !important}Maybe a refrigerator magnet can’t transform you, but it can remind you of the change you’re working toward. .stk-cc64109 .stk-button{background:var(--theme-palette-color-1,#ee6c4d) !important}.stk-cc64109 .stk-button:hover:after{background:var(--theme-palette-color-2,#98c1d9) !important;opacity:1 !important}.stk-cc64109 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important;color:var(--theme-palette-color-8,#ffffff) !important;font-weight:600 !important}@media screen and (max-width:999px){.stk-cc64109 .stk-button__inner-text{font-size:21px !important}}GET MY MAGNET .stk-58037d1{align-self:center !important} Related PostsAre You Parenting From a Place of Fear? | Ep. 42How to Become an Emotionally Safe ParentLegalism vs Grace: How to Let Go of Perfectionism & Grab Hold of GraceParenting Kids from Hard Places with Unique Needs | Ep. 45The Small Magnet That is Making a BIG Difference

“My kid is looking at porn! What should I do?” Have you experienced this? Or maybe you are concerned about how to prepare your child for future encounters with something inappropriate. Pornography is highly accessible in today’s culture. Marketers seem to sexualize everything to sell products. In a world where we are unable to shield our children from this, how do we respond? Today’s podcast is the third of a three-part series focused on topics that dads often encounter as they seek to lead with grace. Join Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) as they discuss the very sensitive and challenging topic of kids and pornography.  As we seek to impart boundaries and wisdom to our kids regarding pornography, our reactions about this topic can either increase shame or invite connection. When we bring God’s grace and truth into the challenge of kids and porn, we can focus on our kids’ hearts and the parent-child connection that they so desperately need to navigate their struggle.  You’ll learn in this episode:  How to confront a child who has been caught viewing pornographyThe vital importance of connection with your child as you prepare to talk to your kids about pornographyWays in which the Connected Families Framework can empower you to discover: “What is going on in me? What’s it like to be my child?”The ways that shame and secrecy can affect your child’s struggle and your relationship with your child This is not an easy topic to navigate, so please let us know how we can come alongside you, and help bring God’s grace and truth to your family.  Bible verses mentioned in this podcast: Galatians 5:16-26Galatians 6:1-2 Matthew 5:27-30Philippians 1:6Philippians 4:6-7 Want to learn more? What to Do When You Catch Your Child Looking at Porn .stk-iyowtol{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-iyowtol-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-iyowtol-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })() Related PostsChild Looking at Porn? Here’s Where to Start.How to Limit Screen Time with Healthy Habits & a Bigger YESHow to Set Boundaries with Screens | Ep. 66Should I Punish My Child for Swearing?What Do You Do with a Minecraft Addiction?

“My kid is obsessed with gaming! Are they addicted? What should I do?” If you’ve found yourself making these kinds of statements you are not alone.  It’s amazing how something small on a screen can have such a big impact. And screens are everywhere. How do you set boundaries when you think your child is addicted to screens? There are real solutions and we are going to dig into them. Today’s podcast is the second of a three-part series focused on topics that dads often encounter as they seek to lead with grace. In this episode, Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) tackle the common but difficult topic of screen addictions (especially video gaming).   We’ll dive into important and practical topics such as: How you can use the Connected Families Framework to help your child and yourself have a healthy relationship with screensThe importance of communicating to your child, “You are capable of overcoming this struggle!”How to build wisdom and responsibility in your kids’ video game habits while showing empathy and compassionWays to ask questions and set boundaries with video games that invite conversation and connection with your child Screen addiction is a real thing and it is not easy! Let us know how we can come alongside you as you help your child work through this challenge. We are here to help! Resources mentioned in this episode: Sibling Conflict CourseConnect Families Framework Want to learn more? Why Do Kids Obsess Over Video Games?Healthy Screen Time With Kids–An Oxymoron or Hopeful Possibility?Keep Calm and Stay Connected (to your teen!) Take 15 minutes to learn how to give consequences that teach, rather than simply punish, by downloading our free ebook Consequences That Actually Work. Related Posts3 Secrets to Grow from Screen Time Madness to Gladness This Summer52 Out-of-the-Box Family Bonding ActivitiesHow to Limit Screen Time with Healthy Habits & a Bigger YESHow to Put Screens Back in Their Place | Ep. 34You Don’t Want to Micromanage Your Family: How to Stop Parenting With Anxiety

What comes to your mind when you hear the word “legacy”? We feel inspired when we hear stories about the legacy of someone who has made an impact in the world.  Hearing these stories may inspire you to want to leave a valuable legacy of your own. OR maybe that idea feels painful to you. You might have regrets and wonder if it’s too late to leave the legacy you had hoped for.  Whatever your experience, take heart and be strengthened that today is a new day! This podcast will guide you in taking steps to leave a legacy of faith for future generations.  In today’s podcast, Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) discuss how to leave a legacy of faith for your kids. During the month of June, in recognition of Father’s Day, we are focusing on topics geared towards issues that dads often encounter, as they seek to lead with grace. (Moms, listen in too! There’s loads of encouragement here for you as well.)  Leaving a legacy is purposefully planting seeds of hope, life, and generosity. It means trusting God’s love to make those seeds grow. It’s never too late to leave a legacy! In this podcast, you’ll learn: Practical and thoughtful ways of leaving a legacy of faith for your childHow to handle shame and past regrets, and leave a new legacy starting todayThe importance of authenticity as a parent, and sharing your own testimony of how God has worked in your lifeThe value of celebrating God’s blessings as a family and sharing those blessings with others Mentioned in this podcast: C.S. Lewis quoteMatthew 6:19-211 Corinthians 3:6-81 Thessalonians 2:11-12Joshua 4:21-22Deut 6:4-9Sibling Conflict Online Course .stk-979td4v{margin-bottom:0px !important}.stk-979td4v-container{background-color:rgba(232,232,232,0.3) !important;box-shadow:0px 5px 30px -10px rgba(238,108,77,0.3) !important}.stk-979td4v-container:before{background-color:var(--theme-palette-color-5,#e8e8e8) !important} What are your parenting strengths? You’ve got them. Knowing your strengths will help you become the best parent you can be. Knowing your parenting challenges is useful information too. Take our FREE ASSESSMENT. (function() {var script = document.createElement('script'); script.src = "https://paperform.co/__embed.min.js"; document.body.appendChild(script); })() Related PostsAdvice for DadsBuilding True Respect and TeamworkFear-Based Compliance vs. Heartfelt Obedience: How to Avoid One & Inspire the OtherHonoring Our Imperfect Dads | Ep. 19Meet Juan and Nita from South Africa“I will love you simply because you are my son.”

You ask your child to do something simple and they respond with violence. Your five-year-old comes at you forcefully with a toy and is going to hit you. Maybe your teenager is physically fighting and things are getting out of hand. You start to realize your child is violent. Now what? As a parent in this situation, you may feel discouragement, fear, anxiety, or even shame. It’s hard to know what to do when your child is physically aggressive, and it’s natural to feel your own emotions escalate as well. You may be wondering, “How can I bring peace to this toxic situation?” Defusing a child who is violent In today’s episode, Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss the difficult challenges of parenting a child who struggles with being physically aggressive. Jim and Lynne talk through the Connected Families Framework, and how it can help defuse an angry child in the heat of the moment. Longer term, this podcast will help guide you as a parent to provide love, safety, and connection for your child. In this podcast you’ll learn:  How to create a strong and confident foundation as a parent: What is going on in me when my child is violent?How your child’s underlying anxiety can often be masked as anger: What’s going on in my child when they explode?Practical and loving ways to provide safety and connection to a child who needs restraint The power of empathy and truthful, compassionate, phrases to communicate to your child: “I am for you, you are loved, we’ll get through this together.” As always, we are here to help and you are not alone! Check out some of our resources below, or reach out to us to learn more about how Connected Families can walk alongside you in your parenting journey. Encouraging verses and resources mentioned in this podcast:  James 1:5 Romans 15:13FREE Resources Helping Kids With Anger (FREE ebook)Grace and Truth for Moms (online course)Connected Families Framework Related Posts50 Self-Regulation Activities to Empower Your Child to CalmGot a Strong-Willed Child? So Did This Mom. | Ep. 51Practical Tips To Turn Uncontrolled Emotional Outbursts Into Big WinsThe Awesome Thing About Your Kid’s Misbehavior…What Causes Anger Issues in a Child? | Ep. 46 Do you feel stuck in negative patterns? Feeling isolated? Are you anxious about your kids’ successes or failures? Our Grace and Truth for Moms online course will help you identify and hold on to God’s truth about YOU, and equip you to stop believing toxic lies about yourself. This course is created for small groups, so grab a few other moms and be encouraged!

Co-parenting, intense emotions, tough transitions – these single-mom challenges can be hard! If you are a single mom, you have probably navigated rough waters in these areas. It may feel so discouraging at times. The good news: There are ways to keep you and your kids steady and growing in wisdom through it all. Emotional security and connection are key. This podcast will walk you through what that can look like in daily life as a single mom. It IS possible to navigate shared parenting in a respectful way.  Today we bring you the second part of our podcast series about single motherhood and our Connected Families Framework. Join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Lynne Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) to hear heartfelt and practical insights from single moms about connecting and coaching kids through intense emotions and tough situations.  When kids feel loved and connected in the ups and downs of divorce and co-parenting, you can foster a close relationship that will help them feel secure, even while walking through difficult moments. Both you and your children can experience joy and a strengthened faith in trying circumstances. In the words of one single mom: “Even in hard times, with God nothing is wasted!”  If you’re not a single mom, dive in anyway! This discussion can still be applied to your situation, and these moms have tremendous wisdom for life’s challenges.  Be encouraged and equipped as we tackle important questions such as: How can you connect with your kids through the difficult transitions between caregivers?  What are some ways you keep laughter and joy part of your family?  How do you equip your kids to respond in faith and wisdom through various challenges? What are some ways you handle your child’s emotional stress when it shows up as intense misbehavior?  Resources to help you and your child connect: Helping Kids with their Anger: A creative activity to reduce outbursts and prepare kids for healthy relationships Grace and Truth for Moms (online course) Connected Families FREE Resources Other resources for single moms in the Twin Cities area: Emerge-Twin Cities Beyond New Beginnings (Chaska, MN) Together for Good (St. Paul, MN) Safe Families for Children (nationwide) Related Posts30 Best Pieces of Advice for New Moms (from Real Pros)Being a Single Mom is Exhausting | Ep. 62Grace and Truth for Moms | Ep. 61Legalism vs. Grace: Let Go of Perfectionism & Grab Hold of GraceResilient Children: 15 Little Opportunities to Grow Overcomers at Home Do you feel stuck in negative patterns? Feeling isolated? Are you anxious about your kids’ successes or failures? Our Grace and Truth for Moms online course will help you identify and hold on to God’s truth about YOU, and equip you to stop believing toxic lies about yourself. This course is created for small groups, so grab a few other moms and be encouraged!