Big Hormone Enneagram

This week we’re roasting the worst parts of dating each type. Everything that sucks about dealing with each type romantically. But first, be sure to sign up for John’s session on the centers coming up at the Global Enneagram Summit using his link: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off with the gut types. 8, 9 (18:50), 1 (25:20) and finish off with 2 (33:56) and 3 (42:01). We’ll continue with 4 and the head types in Part II of this series. Don’t forget to send in your BHE Love Line questions and comments to be featured in a future episode. Leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647.

Od's back in da house for a very hormonal episode on astrological compatibility and chemistry. Why he thinks the sign of your mars placement can determine sexual chemistry. The difference between the attraction compatibility of mars vs venus. How the north node and south nodes reveal how our life purposes intersect and what you might be learning from a partner. The Juno astroid and what we deeply desire for long term relationships. The Pattern vs Co-Star astrology apps. And finally, Od demonstrates these ideas by showing us the hormonal chemistry dynamics of the BHE crew.

Courtney’s back to finish off the pain thots who didn't feel the 6 and 9 Object Relations in our previous pods got the adequate TLC. We start off with a refresh on what attachment type object relations are. And each of the ‘misses’ and O.R. dynamics for 3, 6 (17:28), and 9 (50:42). Is ‘authority figure’ the best way to describe how 6s externally look for support? The 9 responses to #nota4 on the forums. How the attachment types each represent the archetypal human. And we wrap up interviewing DG on the 9’s O.R. dynamics and rage. How to get our 9 babies to show up.

Back at it with another juicy episode on attraction and sexual display from the point of view of the different instincts. What are the instinctual love languages? The role gender plays and other factors. The way each instinct is framing how an attraction is going. We each take a look at this for ourselves in the context of dating and all the games we play. The reciprocity and contextualizing of social. The provocative hooking and spilling of sexual. And the grounded sensuality and consummation of self-pres.

We gotta vent about this damn election y’all. We talk about what might happen in the coming weeks. Riots and violence in the streets depending on who wins. How mercury retrograde might influence the election. Why Trump commands such a cult following. How Trump’s Michael Teachings King archetype plays a role in his ability to galvanize a following. And how things could still get worse even if Biden wins.

Courtney’s back with us to dive into the mind’s eye of the head center. How the mind is how we frame things and what generates the stories we tell ourselves. How each head type uses narratives to distort reality. What is it about 6s and head types that people identify with and like? How the center perspective of spiritual teachers influences their teachings. Gurdjieff’s gut center style vs that of his students. The verbal/language orientation of the head center making head types great teachers and dissectors. How COVID is making us all 6. We wrap up with our experience of what head types bring to each of us.

This week we’re diving into the ocean of the heart center. How heart types frame things within an emotional landscape. Starting out with 3s and how, contrary to popular belief, they’re a very emotional type. Emeka falling in love with a 3. How heart types give emotional context. John and Nancy’s romantic heart-centered approach to the enneagram. Symbols representing an eternal beating heart. How the heart space is about allowing something or someone to transform and change your sense of who you are. What it means to fall in love and why that’s central to heart types. Wrapping up with collective experiences of the heart in concerts, church, and protests. Music as entry point to open up the heart.

How do we learn the enneagram? This week the boys start off with modes of learning and motivations for getting into the enneagram. And from there, a freeform dive into the archetypal energy of the gut center. How David and Emeka learned the enneagram as gut types. Gut types channelling power and autonomy at the root level of existence. Channeling zeitgeist change and using the non-verbal energy of the body to create transformative experiences. Finally, David tells the story of his interesting gut experience with a Sexual 8, Amma the hugging saint.

What is it about serial killers that gets us so hot? In this episode we dig into the enneagrammic psychology and cultural underpinnings of serial killers. The connection between serial killing, death, and the sexual instinct. Why the victims are usually objects of sexual desire. Why is serial killing primarily a male phenomenon? How repressed conservative culture plays a role in encouraging masculine insecurity and a compartmentalization of sexual desires. Normalizing kink and how that may be contributing to the decline of serial killers. We wrap up with incels and the similar factors behind it.

At long last, a super thicc Part 2 of our deep dive into the inner lines of connection. For a refresher check out BHE 034 for Part 1. We get right back into it starting with 7 (10:08), 1 (40:16), 4 (58:53), and finally 2 (85:08). One last thing, fans of David’s delicious voice should let their appreciation spill forth into a review on the Apple podcast app. And check out John’s new site johnluckovich.com for his enneagram coaching and very tasteful nudes.

Basking in the afterglow from a very hormonal heart-opening weekend with friends, we wanted to explore how we could access more of ‘the zone’ in our daily lives through meditation. (The zone was so intense David passed away and is no longer with us). But first, we talk about what it feels like to be more centered and in touch with ourselves from the perspective of our types. What is meditation and why is it important? How to get started with just 5 minutes. Doing a body sensations scan and breathing to sense more of yourself. The different types of meditation. Wrapping up with a guided meditation with John starting at (34:02).

Cutting deeper and twisting the knife again with Courtney. We’re back with more O.R. insights and stabbings. We look into how to capture trifix essential qualities. The difficulty of attachment types feeling their types and essential qualities. What is essence? How each O.R. affect is an attempt to return to an experience of essence. And how personality tries to do and achieve essence through instinctual drives by trying to manage the O.R. wound. We’ve got a map of consciousness here folks. We mapped this out for our types. 4 (27:15), 8 (38:18), 6 (43:52), 3 (50:23), and last but not least 9 (71:58).

Oh does it hurt so good. Continuing where we left off with Courtney bringing the object relations pain, starting with type 5. Then the attachment types 3 (17:05), 6 (37:43), and 9 (60:25). We get into an interesting theory on why attachment types are more common. Why attachment types have a disconnected use of their home center. And how attachment O.R. is a false individuation. Eat up pain piggies, and we’ll be back with more O.R. stabbings in Part 3. If you wanna support the show you can PayPal us a donation at [email protected]

Prepare to have your minds blown this week as we’ve been graced by the object relations pain queen Courtney Smith. She joins us to share clear new insights on object relations that will rearrange your perspective on why each type is the way they are. We examine the core wound as interpreted by each type in early childhood. What are ‘misses’ in the nurturing and protecting functions and how each type identifies with them? In this episode we cover the core object relations wounds of frustration types 7, 1, 4. Then rejection types 8 and 2. Part 2 of this series will cover 5 and the attachment types.

This week we dug up an unreleased but relevant early episode on how the cultural tyranny of positivity gets in the way of inner work and people accurately viewing the types and themselves. #Nota4 vs the self-help compulsion to view type 4 as a positive type. What the gap between 4 and 5 on the symbol represents. How health is not about having positive attitudes or outcomes. How people often use the enneagram to avoid negative truths and reinforce positive type based perspectives. Cultural differences and how it influences the expression of types and what people expect from the enneagram. How class and race creates a culture of not contending with our shadow internally and externally. We wrap up with examples of this playing out with terrible holidays.

This week we dive into the often misunderstood lines of connection and why it’s important as a path for growth. What does it mean when your type goes to the line of integration or disintegration? And why it’s more accurate that we’re drawing on both types in our lines of connection positively and negatively. Starting with the triangle types we go into how each type goes to the types in their lines of connection in healthy and unhealthy ways. As we go along David adds in his abstract ‘birth stories’ insights for each line of connection. We cover 3/9/6, and then 8/5 lines. And we’ll continue with the rest in Part 2.

This week we’re finishing up our trifix series by exploring some of David’s magical trifix concepts. What is a fix and a stem. How stems form a sub-theme to the core type. The difference between fixes and the lines of connection (integration/disintegration lines). What health means in the enneagram, and how the lines of connection work. How trifix has impacted our growth and self-awareness. How descriptions and definitions get in the way of understanding. And we wrap up with the usual useless beast terribleness.

Before we get back to our tri-fixation how-to series we made a pit stop to discuss mistyping and the drama that ensues when people aren’t seen as the type they think they are. The essential role curiosity plays in deeply understanding the enneagram. Why it’s important to separate your ego from your self-typing. The emptiness and disappointment of all the types. What it’s like to realize you’ve mistyped. And letting go of the self-fantasies we prop ourselves up with when identifying with type.

In case you didn’t know, ya boyz (Nancy❤️RIP) got your back on how to figure out trifix once and for all. In this episode we lay out a guide for landing on your trifix by going into each center and discussing what it’s like to have each fix. We start out with the body/gut center and how each fix is maintaining ego boundaries and distance. Then the heart/image center (26:41) and how each fix is creating identity and self-image. And finally the head center (50:04) and how each fix is overdoing a different style of insight.

Making your wishes come true with the 3rd round of our BHE Enneagram Universe Syndicate trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be roasting the following trifixes: 379 DJ (extra dose of abuse as requested), 147 Princess and the Pea, 146 Big Pain, 145 Insectoid, 137 Welcome To My Ted Talk, 136 Middle Manager, 135 Robocelibate, 127 Cool Teacher, 126 Ballbuster/Ok Boomer, 125 Friend Zone.

In our first ever bonus episode, John and Emeka explore the enneagrammic and inner work insights from the Netflix show Dark Season 3. SPOILER ALERT: Don’t listen if you haven’t seen the show. We focus on on the inescapable cycle of the knot and Adam’s futile attempts to free himself. The parallels to inner work and the law of 3. The need for a 3rd force to free ourselves from perpetuating the same patterns that imprison us.

Throwin’it back with another thicc episode of our BHE executive council certified trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be exploring and roasting the following trifixes: 368 Kyle/Kylie, 359 Flatlined, 358 American Psycho, 279 Hippie Burnout, 278 Smothering Jazz Hands, 268 I Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly, 269 Stockholm Syndrome, 259 Spineless Saint, 258 Cult Classic.

Are you a Bermuda or a Huh? This week we dive into trifix. What is it and why does it matter? How enneagram triads help us make use of it. We dive into our list of trifix roast names, developed by the BHE Enneagram Universe Chief Executive Council Internal Committee. We’ll be exploring each of the following trifixes in this episode: 479 Huh?, 478 Revolving Door Rehab, 469 Whiny Tears, 468 Public Display of Affliction, 459 Hateful Ghost, 458 Useless Beast, 379 DJ, 378 Chad/Stacy, 369 Bermuda Triangle.

We need to talk about astrology y’all. Od, a comedian and astrologer, is with us this week to help us explore what insights astrology has for inner work. First, we address skepticism of astrology. What astrology is looking at vs the enneagram. What is astrology and how does it work? What are the 3 most important aspects of a natal chart? Collective astrology and the coronavirus. Racism and America’s shadow Pluto Return. Od’s journey from the enneagram to astrology. Gurdjieff and the significance of cosmic events for inner work. And we wrap up with the astrological vibe of our BHE crew.

This week we’re recapping what we've learned from our series of type interviews. We start out on the nature of type wings. The introspective inner beam of 4 and the ‘in the dark’ quality of types fully in the gap. The parallels between 9s and 3s absorbing and taking in outside perspectives as their own. The universal quality of the 369 Bermuda types and their connection to people. The self-orientation of the hexad types. The perception of 8s as confident vs how they experience themselves on the inside. And we wrap up with why 4 is the Chad/Stacy of the enneagram.

This week we’re talking about the Black Lives Matter protests. How to confront racism and its parallels to inner work and the enneagram. How actively working to undo unconscious racism is inner work. Race and Class as personality types and unconscious biases that have to be uncovered and faced the same way we do our enneagram types. Wanting to be healthy and good as a bypass to the finish line vs educating ourselves and confronting what needs changing continually. We wrap up with a story of how racial profiling sent cops with guns to Emeka's apartment.

We finally wrangled a couple of 7s to join us to dive into the heart of 7. The dark side of 7 that people don’t get to see. The sudden whiplash when 7s get frustrated and critical. The unexpressed guilt of 7s, and how it’s expressed for 7w6 vs 7w8. What social and sexual 7s are like. How 7s experience the passage of time. And we wrap up with some shit talking.

Gurdjief’s discovery of the enneagram symbol in Egypt. What the symbol means and the cosmic laws it represents. The enneagram of process explained. The difference between essence vs personality. Personality as the unbalanced use of the three centers of intelligence. And how inner work is a practice to be more present through sensation in all three centers. John is teaching a weekly online enneagram class this month at Maharose. Check it out at the link below: https://www.maharose.com/products/mondays-june-1st-22nd-online-the-enneagram-4-week-series

We’re back where we left off in the M9GA series with more POTUS. Our 9s start off with their experience of fear of loss and separation. How the 9 connection to everything is in opposition with the over-specificity of 4. The slippery fish quality of 9s not wanting to be pinned down, and the 9’s need for space in relationships. We check in with how our 9s are dealing with corona anxiety and their line to 6. And we wrap up with how we tricked our 9s into doing this podcast.

Two texan sexual 6s are with us this week to get into the guts of 6. We start out with their boldness and attraction to high pressure situations. Unpacking what Naranjo’s sexual 6 ‘Strength and Beauty’ means. The 6 line to 3 and the need to ‘earn it’ through hard work and prove they're deserving. 6 anti-narcissism vs 4’s ‘i’m the gift’. Why 6s anticipate criticism, put themselves down, and self-sabotage. How 6s can overcome their inner critic and allow themselves to be great. We wrap up with some clear differences between 6s and 4s.

Two soc-last 1s are with us this week to dive into the heart of the loneliest number sexy librarian. We get into how Jamie’s critiques were the genesis of the collage exercise. And how Mary ruined John’s life. The differences between a 1w9 and a 1w2. How our 1s experience rigidity vs chaos and their orientation to aesthetics and creativity. What sexual 1s are like, and how soc-last 1s navigate the social realm. And finally, how our 1s experience judgement and self-control.

A social last 3 and a social 3 are with us to complete a threesome of 3s with Nancy. We start off with how our 3s are stuffing their feelings and anxiety during quarantine. How 3s reflexively adapt to others and what authenticity means to them. The hero’s journey of 3s becoming who they were meant to be. The sense of being a conduit of something greater. And finally, 3s and the sexual instinct.

We’re joined by a social 2 and social-last 2 to help us dig underneath the sugary sweet hearts of 2s. How they reject their own needs and only see themselves through serving others. The difficulty of 2s to own up to their own selfishness and potential to cause harm. Their intense love for connection. 2s and the sexual instinct. Wrapping up with our 2s lending their relational expertise to a touchy situation.

We’ve got a trifecta of sexual 8s with Paula and Siena joining us to discuss the soul and heart of 8. The body as a container of expansive energy. How 8s dissociate through action and immediacy. Why 8s feel no one has their back, and how they self-negate as rejection types. And finally, what it’s like being a sexual 8. Wrapping up with an epic sexual 8 story.

Two social 5s, Rio and Yamira, join us to discuss what it means for 5 to have an intellectual orientation. Their disconnect and alienation from the body. 5 vs 9 in conflict and stress. The detachment and not giving-ness of 5s. And how social 5s connect.

A prince and a princess are with us this week to discuss all things type 4. We take a look at the ‘churning’ frustration and reactivity of 4s. How hatred and rejection ties into the self-differentiation of 4. The artifice of crafting a self-image and why 4s aren’t authentic as you might think. The overt differences between 4w3 and 4w5. And what the type 4 perspective has to contribute during these dark town COVID-19 times.

We’re joined by Social types, Laura and Alexandra, to discuss the contrast between Social-first and Social-last, highlighting David’s taboo story in BHE 011 (13:44). How Social types frame around potential reactions and how Social-lasts view connection. And finally, Social types experiencing loneliness.

Farah, a 6 with the 693 tritype, joins us to discuss her experience being triple attachment. Why 369s find it difficult to find their inner voice. The struggle of comparing to others vs wanting to be unique. And finally, why 6s have a thing for punishment.

In Part 2 of the M9GA series we take a dive into the contrast between the wholeness of 9 vs the alienation of 4. How 9s can be individualistic but still feel connected to everything. And what’s really going on underneath 9s being vague and not being upfront.

Nancy solves the mystery of the appeal of incest porn and the term ‘Daddy’. John’s Magic Mike routine is the kind of intensity sexual types bring to a relationship. Emeka tells us what it’s like to date sexual types. David tells a story about his inappropriate relationship with a sexual 1.

David and special guests Tara and Alexandra take us deep into their experience of being 9s. Why it’s easy to mistype as 4 and 5. The sensitivity of 9s. Feelings vs sensing through the body. The need to be seen of 9 vs image types. And so much more.

How sexual types view sexual interest in comparison to sexual blinds. What are sexual types like? Sexual 8s, Sexual 2s, and Sexual 4/5.

We discuss current presidential candidates, their types, and the political landscape. Why Trump is so often mistyped. Why Bloomberg is an asshole and would be worse than Trump and so much more.

“Ok Boomer” and the generational divide in the enneagram. Why don’t enneagram conferences appeal to young people? Potential changes to make and our ideas for an Enneachella/Enneagram Fyre Festival. We discuss what sexual 3s are like and 3’s ability to see potential and value. We then wrap up with 8s and negativity.

The inner dynamics of 6 and Japan as a 6 culture. The ethics of typing and the blindspot of ’only you can know yourself’. Type 4 object relations and the differences between 4 and 6. How to describe the flavor of sexual 6.

How diversity in the enneagram is limited by the prevailing middle class white culture. #NotA4 and the widespread issue of mistyping at 4. Integrating authentic ‘savage’ expression with spirituality and sensitivity. The approach of curiosity vs being overly certain in learning the enneagram. We discuss counter-intuitive insights we’ve discovered with types 8, 5, and 3. Nancy shares what ‘deceit’ really means for her as a type 3.

After obligatory dirty jokes and Emeka riffing on Sexual type woes, John starts us off with Gurdjieff’s views on sex, “the three shits”, and sexual stagnancy. How sexual energy leaks into the other centers. What is Kundalini? David touches on the sexual instinct as an archetypal serpent. Nancy gets into her experience with the sexual instinct and the instinct sensation exercises we did at John’s IEA workshop. We wrap up with the generational and cultural awareness impacting our views on sexuality.

The crew takes a dive into the instinctual drives. The evolution of instinct teaching and our own personal experiences uncovering a deeper understanding of our relationships to the instincts. John gets into the instinctual drives as a modality of inner work and presence. David briefly gets into his discovery of the elemental link between the instinctual drives and the wheel of life buddhist symbol called the Bhavacakra. Nancy waxes poetic about the Self-pres wonders of tea.

Welcome to the genesis of Big Hormone Enneagram. Your hosts with the mostest are John Luckovich, Nancy Walter, David Gray, and Emeka Okorafor. In this episode you'll get to know us and hear how these 4 odd insurgents found their way to a thing called the Enneagram.

Emeka fills in important BHE character and background missing in Ep 1 intros that underscore our collective approach to the enneagram. We take a look at the overlay of spirituality, religion, and christian culture on how people are approaching enneagram, and how that weaves together with generational and class differences. Why it's important to integrate light and dark in enneagram inner work.