Big Hormone Enneagram

We’re responding to your loveline submissions for our 100th episode. Thanks for all your comments, questions, and feedback. We appreciate y’all sticking with us thus far. — (6:04) The inaccessibility of the pod’s communication style — (9:35) What drug would each of the hosts be? — (13:22) Sex worker question for Nancy — (18:05) Advise for christians who are interested in learning the enneagram — (25:21) Why we get so much hate — (39:46) Girthy request for more on the compartmentalization of the self-pres instinct — (44:15) Request to explore connections between mbti and the enneagram. And factors that determine collage instinct typings. — (48:00) Syn/Contra question for David — (54:55) Request for more on each trifix and why spotify only has our episodes starting from episode 4 — (57:35) How the hornevian triads and the object relational stances combine to illustrate the inner works of the types — (1:00:44) 5 vs 7 confusion with Grimes as an example — (1:04:04) Exploring nuances and sharper distinctions for bermuda’s If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

This week we’re getting into a mbti personality system called Objective Personality (OPS). We ended up doing a rough intro into the basic concepts of OPS, and how we might explore connections between cognitive functions and the enneagram. — (10:16) What is the objective personality approach to MBTI? — (19:21) The function animals and how they work (Blast, Consume, Play, Sleep) — (23:55) Function animals are like instinct stacking (Info vs Energy) — (42:35) What are cognitive functions and how is a mbti type structured? — (48:40) Sensory vs Intuition — (51:26) Saviors vs Demons functions and animals. How to develop the blindspot — (1:08:21) Deciders vs Observers — (1:12:06) How to figure out your mbti type If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

This week we’re exploring and explaining the parts of instincts that continue to confuse and trip people up. — (6:12) Where did the idea of a blindspot come from and is the blindspot really blind? — (14:27) Overestimating your sexual instinct when you’re sexual blind — (17:24) Sexual is penetrating and flipping polarities moment to moment — (23:26) How Nancy was able to see her sexual blindness as truly blind. Sexual as hooks and tension. — (30:46) Being self-pres dominant and also being terrible at self-pres — (41:08) How can I be a social type if I don’t like people? How social types are socialing — (51:06) Sexual types who don’t see themselves as sexual dominant If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647 to be featured on our 100th episode. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

Continuing where we left off with Courtney and Czander and attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle. — (9:26) How does a good attachment form for attachment types if attaching is based on not being seen? — (17:13) 9s needing contrast and negation to find themselves and resisting being located — (22:52) Attachment types exist in shifting context, which makes them resistant to pinning down self-location and identity — (29:58) How 9s are open but ‘not there’ in their attachments, and how that gets in the way of relationships — (46:58) Courtney explains how a healthy attachment for a 6 helps affirm and trust her intuition — (53:50) Nancy explains how 3 shame helps her individuate — (57:10) Attachment types are listening and the hexad types are not — (1:06:02) Attachment types take their identity too seriously Tune in this week to hear John and Emeka on the Enneagram Global Summit. Sign up with our links: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21JohnL/JohnL https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21a23961/a23961 If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647 to be featured on our 100th episode. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

This week we're tackling type 8 misconceptions and misinformation that lead so many to mistype and idealize type 8. — (10:26) Emeka’s overview of often overlooked aspects of the 8 type structure — (15:22) 8 is dissociating to reject and stay separate but involved by embodying the protecting function — (19:40) 8s are separate and expansive in ways that dehumanizes themselves and others — (23:18) 8 control is about setting boundaries and terms of engagement, not telling people what to do or being angry — (28:48) 6 and 9 superego’s trying to make type 8 into a good person with ‘protecting the underdog’. And what 8’s are really protective of — (40:53) The 8 journey is about learning to care about and make room for people and their humanity. How 8s can be so involved yet cut off — (51:33) 8s apologizing and experiencing remorse as a powerful tool for growth — (53:40) Real 8s are far less attached or invested in identifying with type as a badge of identity — (58:20) How to distinguish someone who has an 8 fix vs 1 or 9 fixers — (1:07:25) The dehumanization and idealization of type 8 in the enneagram world Tune in to hear John and Emeka on the upcoming Enneagram Global Summit. Sign up with our links: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21JohnL/JohnL https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21a23961/a23961 If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647 to be featured on our 100th episode. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

This week Courtney and Czander are with us to attempt to uncover the mysteries of attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle. — (13:30) Courtney’s take on how the 3 is committed to remaining slippery and disconnected — (17:02) 3’s maintain a disconnect by assuming people only want their palatable selves instead of their genuine selves — (26:59) The 3’s attachments are a prop for how their original caregivers defined value — (40:17) The crafted persona that the 3 presents will always be disconnected from the true self so the 3 never feels validated — (43:49) The 6 remains slippery because they’re trying to garner support from contradictory attachments — (48:34) 6s trying to garner support by being a hot mess and self-sabotaging to create a sense of disconnect — (53:54) 6s garnering support via attachment to being the underdog that won’t win but won’t give up — (56:16) The way 6s ensure they’re not supported is by never articulating what they want Tune in to hear John and Emeka on the upcoming Enneagram Global Summit. Sign up with our links: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21JohnL/JohnL https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs21a23961/a23961 If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647 to be featured on our 100th episode. Or you can also email [email protected] with a pre-recorded voice message.

We’re wrapping up our Bhavachakra instinct discussions riffing on David’s insights and odds & ends. — (9:42) The Bhavachakra and Buddhism are a philosophy of psychology — (14:45) The scarcity of attraction for sx/sp compared to sx/so — (19:48) The ‘star’ principle of sx/so and how this appears in Egyptian cosmology — (25:57) The overarching message and takeaways DG wants you to get from the Bhavachakra’s instinct mandala — (32:12) Nancy’s take on the sp/so beast realm and existence revolving on having baseline needs met — (35:08) Contrasting sp/so and sp/sx with dogs and cats (again) — (45:17) The interesting numerology arising from the stackings overlapping with the types and how these overlaps show up in the collage exercise If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book and leave a rating and/or review: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T To be featured in the next loveline episode, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM one of us with a pre-recorded voice message.

We’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by Joseph and Alexandra, to get into the social stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra. — (5:24) David’s intro to his SO/SX and SO/SP correlations on the Bhavachakra — (18:21) The social types weigh in on the contrasts between their stackings — (30:34) How so/sp experiences so/sx and vice versa — (48:46) How social dominants get triggered by social middles and finding ease with social-lasts — (1:08:58) The contrast in how the social stackings approach ideology and politics If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T To be featured in the next loveline episode, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM one of us with a pre-recorded voice message.

This week we’re discussing and answering your submitted loveline questions on John’s instinct book. — (3:21) What might it look like when a type is faced with a situation that exemplifies the loss of essential quality? — (22:10) A critique about John’s use of the word individuation and hormonal comments about his hotness — (31:18) How is the instinct stacking determined and why does one instinct become dominant over another? — (43:56) What is the distinction between the loss of self of sexual and spiritual dissolving of the ego? — (48:44) What does secondary self-pres for sx/sp look like for people who are bad at self-pres? — (52:03) Where to find the music used at the end of the upisodes? — (53:08) How to type each type and we read the energy of each type? — (56:51) How aspects of personality contribute to people getting along with each other? If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T To be featured in the next loveline episode, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM one of us with a pre-recorded voice message.

We’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by my bb Beth, to get into the sexual stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra. — (6:39) David’s intro to his SX/SO and SX/SP correlations on the Bhavachakra — (14:35) Beth’s experience as a sx/so attachment type in contrast to social types and sx/sp — (26:21) What distinctly makes sx/so a sexual type — (35:30) Contrasting sx/so with so/sx — (49:54) Hungry ghosts (sx/sp) and Gods/Goddesses (sx/so) — (57:40) Personality and social genres as an attraction hook for sx/so If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 soon for a chance to win a prize. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM one of us with a voice message.

This week we’re continuing our discussions on instincts with a dive into the self-pres stackings and DG’s magical abstractions with the Bhavachakra. — (3:47) Intro to SP/SO, SP/SX, and David’s instinct discoveries with the Bhavachakra — (11:32) What exactly is the Bhavachakra and how is it a map for the instincts and stackings? — (19:00) The 6 instinct stackings are real and the collage exercise is an aesthetic manifestation of them — (23:07) David’s discovery of how each instinct overlays the triangle on the enneagram symbol and each stacking on the hexad — (25:28) SP/SO correlating to type 8 and SP/SX to type 5 — (31:47) The religion of SP/SO and every stacking is a lie — (39:01) Experiences and anecdotes of SP/SO and SP/SX — (53:53) Dogs (sp/so) vs cats (sp/sx) If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 soon for a chance to win a prize. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM one of us with a voice message.

This week we’re joined by Czander to delve into his illuminating insight on the disconnect of attachment types. — (8:56) Czander shares his comment on attachment and discusses his thought process on how he figured it out — (20:54) How attachment types make themselves feel not seen and supported so they can adapt — (37:15) Integrating the blindspot is the key to go from functioning (adapting) to being — (44:18) Attachment types seeing themselves as the problem and martyring themselves to persevere in difficult circumstances — (1:00:02) Attachment types projecting disconnect on others because they’re disconnected from themselves — (1:07:04) Attachment types having amnesia seeing re-occuring problems as new each time — (1:18:02) Attachment types are attached to being disconnected from their emotions If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 before Oct 11th for a chance to win a prize. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re back at it discussing John’s new instincts book, continuing where we left off with how to integrate the blindspot. — (4:57) The social approaches — (25:10) Practices for integrating the self-pres blindspot — (37:48) Practices for integrating the sexual blindspot — (58:02) Practices for integrating the social blindspot If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re continuing where we left off with integrating the blindspot. — (6:00) Hitting the soc-last pain back walls harder exploring our toxic traits — (26:18) Introduction to the instinctual approaches and needs — (40:20) Self-pres approaches — (51:20) Sexual approaches Stay tuned for more book launch content this month. And if you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re continuing to discuss John’s new instinct book. This week we’re getting into the instinctual blindspot. — (3:17) How we’re invested in not understanding or grasping what the blindspot really is — (5:17) Our experiences of our blindspots — (14:18) What happens when you start to see your blindspot — (17:52) How each blindspot threatens the dominant instinct — (28:55) Self-pres blind — (33:37) Sexual blind — (43:28) The blindspot instinct as the most practical linchpin for transformation and accessing the heart — (53:12) You know you’re hitting your blindspot when you experience acute aversion and ignorance with that instinct Stay tuned for more book launch content this month. And if you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

John’s instinct book is finally here. The crew is back together to discuss the instincts book to rule them all. — (4:03) John’s thoughts and experiences writing new instinct material for his book — (7:58) The clarity of understanding how we’re seeking essential qualities through our instincts — (15:10) The needs and approaches as mechanisms instead of just descriptions of instinct — (27:42) Plans for future books — (32:09) John’s abbreviated Sexual 8 description — (43:29) Self-pres 9 — (54:58) Self-pres 3 — (1:02:02) Sexual 4 If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T Stay tuned for more book launch content this month, and check out this article excerpt on the 27 type instinct combinations: https://www.johnluckovich.com/articles/the-twenty-seven-enneagram-type-and-instinctual-type-combinations

We’re back with two contrasting social types thrust into a social hell in this surprise face/off between Koala CQ Alexandra and Untouchable Prince Joseph. — (2:39) Social attachment vs social hexad — (5:36) How does Joseph navigate being social as a negative 4 — (13:56) Comparing and contrasting so/sx and so/sp — (31:15) What does closeness mean and what is the aim of social? — (39:22) What causes social anxiety and stress? The social 9 vs social 4 dynamic — (49:30) The social meta of this call and social types revealing themselves as a person — (58:19) Reputation, rumors, and macro-social stress around how you’re perceived putting yourself out there — (1:09:16) The social blind obliviousness roast — (1:18:37) How is social disruption during a connection experienced? — (1:26:37) Receptivity to the social milieu contrasts between attachment and hexad Check out Alexandra’s instagram @angryenneagram9 for 9 memes and astrology readings. Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David — (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres — (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle — (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal — (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high — (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods — (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork — (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability shape politics and systems — (49:14) The war between the different instinctual worlds and empathy Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

This week the enneagrammer boys got together to rant and share tips and tricks on the skill of typing. — (3:53) Our experiences with self-typing — (10:01) How is it that we can type someone we don’t know? — (14:22) How to approach typings and feedback from family and friends — (17:30) The problem with overreliance on descriptions — (19:12) How do you figure out whether a typing is correct or not? — (22:56) How to impartially observe and not take personality personally — (34:02) How do we know that we’re right? — (40:49) Why it’s necessary to enlist other perspectives to be an accurate typer — (43:52) How to become a better typer Check out our website and youtube page for more typing videos and services: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIabj3S8xSSiWSpySmr6UyQ enneagrammer.com/get-typed

Continuing where we left off with Courtney on hexad vs attachment. — (1:26) How do frustration types relate to one another? — (5:18) How attachment gets in the way of relating to others — (7:46) Hexad vs attachment perspectives and reactions to the typing process — (20:50) How attachment yes/no shows up in 6s — (27:16) Differences in how and why 6/3/9 override the other centers to make decisions — (36:59) The differences in what each attachment type needs to create an attachment — (54:56) Attachment and hexad from the perspective of the instincts Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

Courtney joins us to lend her insightful point of view to the hexad vs attachment discussion in this two part conversation. — (1:26) An overview of Object Relations and what hexad and attachment mean — (10:40) Why is attachment triggering to hexad types — (12:54) Attachment types figuring out who they are through relationship to someone or something else — (17:22) The limited box of hexad types addicted to frustration and rejection — (30:20) The yes/no dichotomy is a closed hexad point of view that isn’t open to what might unfold beyond the self — (32:44) The phenomenon of attachment types taking on feelings expressed by others as their own — (42:38) The disgust of 4 as the ego’s avoidance of the sense of being violated by unwanted external influences — (48:26) Hexad self-containment is a removal from self-renewal — (55:32) Exploring frustration, attachment, and rejection in child’s play — (1:02:38) How do rejection types relate to one another Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series. — (1:26) Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment — (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no — (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration — (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline — (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side — (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us next week to work her magic on hexad vs attachment Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re continuing our explorations of attachment with a face/off between Cult Daddy David and Undignified CQ Alexandra. Venture into this double 9 labyrinth and you *might* emerge from the mist with insights from below and above attachment. — (7:26) An examination of the internal yes/no tug of war from the perspective of attachment types — (15:42) Ideas on how attachment types might find their location sooner rather than later — (24:33) Alexandra and David’s complaints about hexad types — (34:25) Differences between Alexandra and David’s attachment and How ‘familiar’ attachment showed up for David as a young f*ckboi — (41:44) There was always a clear “No” — (47:49) Hexad types are too fixated because they lack an ‘external channel’ — (51:09) The gift of attachment is channeling — (55:48) How do 6s do it? — (1:00:42) Make attachment types great again Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re landing on major discoveries exploring hexad vs attachment. Undressing the invisible assumptions of attachment explains so much about how the world functions, and how oppositional hexad and attachment orientations are. — (2:41) Parasocial relationships as a manifestation of attachment — (8:38) Hexad inflexibility and self-containment is not attachable — (11:44) Agreement and meeting halfway as a feature of attachment — (29:51) How David’s does attachment online as a soc-blind — (39:13) Comfortable attachment as a starting point to real attachment, but settling for what’s good enough for now — (44:42) The suffering of hexad types is the inability to adapt from their vision — (47:22) Aloneness from the perspective of attachment vs hexad — (1:05:55) The concept of a soulmate is a hexad perspective Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We need to talk about attachment some more. Interesting new questions and insights about attachment have emerged as a result of our soul intercourse series. Let’s spin. — (4:03) Inner disagreement and ongoing friction fueling attachment — (9:24) The implications of attachment in politics and group dynamics — (14:44) The mechanics behind the hate/love relationship attachment types have with us — (20:42) How Nancy and DG self-locate their preferences — (33:15) Hexad vs attachment on arguments and disagreement — (40:57) Attachment types coming to terms with how they’re giving away their autonomy — (46:56) Putting it all together with how and why attachment types get lost in the sauce — (49:18) Why attachment types think hexad types are ‘cool’ and get triggered by them Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

Continuing where we left off with our beloved CQ Alexandra joining us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality. — (4:17) Attachment types individuating by facing fear, leaving ‘home’, and being alone — (14:37) Attachment types having to individuate by finding their soul family — (21:33) Attachment types finding themselves by locating what moves and affects them and responding to it — (28:28) How humbling and exposing it is to be wanted just as you are vs what you’re manufacturing — (38:01) How DG relates to the attachment type struggle Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

The soul sex saga continues. Our beloved CQ Alexandra joins us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality. — (1:27) Addressing excuses and deflections — (7:49) What social blinds are missing and how that can be detrimental in love — (11:33) Sexual blinds seen as uncool by sexual blinds — (22:37) How attachment types hook others by seeing themselves through their eyes — (29:28) The dynamic of the pod needs more Nancy — (38:00) What's wrong with not having any attachment? — (43:18) Attachment types remaining unaffected by chasing ‘gold stars’ in relationships they barely care about Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

This week we’re responding to your comments on our soul intercourse series. It’s gonna get spicy. — (2:59) Can we discuss this topic from the queer perspective? — (5:48) David’s favorite stripper with mother issues has an amazing sex life — (9:53) Confused rambler with nothing to contribute has some shit to say — (22:39) Is what we’re sharing triggering insecurities? — (31:57) Social 2 shares her experience making a soul connection with her partner — (33:50) Appreciative type 2 caller loves this topic and misses having this type of connection Don’t be scurred (lol), call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We getting all up in DG’s grille this week. What’s his deal with sexuality and relationships anyway? — (2:32) David unpacks his significant age gap kink — (7:01) DG’s childhood and how that influences how seriously he takes himself as a partner — (14:03) The most intense soul level attraction DG ever experienced — (22:06) Is this too spicy for this pod or even relevant to ‘soul intercourse’? [soc-lasts clumsily attempt to read the room] — (30:18) How we’ve approached meeting the soulmate and David’s challenges with this idea as a 9 — (41:57) The insecurities of 9 and other attachment types getting in the way of love — (44:21) How David’s formative years and attraction dynamics with 'mothers' contributed to the inner message of not mattering — (57:00) Attachment types, individuation, and not feeling deserving of love — (1:01:58) Safeguarding your heart for the possibility of soulmate love Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

We’re getting all up in your soul g-spot this week, exploring the different dimensions of sexuality and chemistry. How to meet someone energetically during sex. — (4:02) Emeka’s revelation about his sexuality — (9:32) How Nancy senses a sexual partner’s energy and soul — (16:10) Soul level attraction and introverted vs extroverted sexuality — (27:14) What makes good sex good? — (28:08) The feminine sexuality of being penetrated and taking someone’s energy in — (30:36) Nancy’s experience of having soul intercourse with her partner — (34:57) How to deeply meet someone sexually — (37:44) Self-love to deepen a sense of your body’s arousal — (42:57) Being present and naked with yourself in order to energetically meet someone — (45:05) The masculine having reverence for feminine energy and surrendering to body to body chemistry Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

This week we’re getting hormonal with your submitted horny kinks and sexual fantasies. Hide yo kids, it’s about get hot in here. — (3:56) David’s ‘Daddy who buys shit for stockholms’ kink — (10:14) Breeding kink and sexual selection — (21:30) Uncontrollable desire for a woman who loves her hubby — (23:52) Being forced to watch my partner have sex with someone I hate — (27:42) Animal magnetism and sex matching my energy — (35:26) Service topping 8 Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your secret kinks and fantasies at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email [email protected] with a voice note.

This week we’re joined by two twos, Alex Giroux and Fay Willow, to unpack our negative bias against 2s. We attempt to atone for our sins. Forgive us for we shall sin again. — (10:06) The collective shadow that type 2 represents culturally — (19:40) Emeka and John reacting to their mothers being 2s — (29:58) How Alex experiences her own neediness as a social blind 2 — (38:00) 2s feeling like they have to offer something to justify their existence as rejection types — (43:40) How our 2s interpret the notion that their love is conditional and is giving to get — (53:27) The friction between 2s giving love and kindness vs their authentic preferences in the moment — (1:08:59) Fay and David’s intense conversation about allowing him to give hold space for her without her giving anything first — (1:19:53) 2s are formidable and not fragile or weak It’s episode 69, give and you shall receive. Anonymously call the Loveline with with your type related kinks and sexual fantasies. The number is (323) 696-0647. Or you can email a voice note to [email protected].

This week we’re getting into the objective competency triad as we wrap up our series exploring the harmonic groups. — (5:32) What makes a competency type competent? — (10:20) 3s needing parameters to gauge performance — (13:12) Nancy’s swirl as a Bermuda 3 from lack of parameters — (16:40) How Jesse got into university without a high school degree with 5 off-the-grid competency — (23:56) What are the competency types giving up if they indulged in positive or reactive stances? — (36:34) What gets a rise out of Jesse? — (40:08) How have our competency types been led astray by seeking competency? — (45:06) How does the forward progress of competency manifest in 5s? — (53:13) How forward progress competency manifests in type 1 — (55:50) The over-assumption that all 3 competency types are making — (1:06:34) How competency shows up romantically — (1:19:29) How reactive types frame their romances

This week, after another heart-opening transformative meetup in the zone, we’re discussing our experiences with breathwork. — (3:24) We recount a powerful spontaneous breathwork session in The Zone — (7:52) What is a breathwork session and how does it work? — (23:00) How processing and releasing trauma is like exorcising demons — (27:42) David’s breathwork session with John — (38:05) Emeka’s breathwork session with John — (47:58) Nancy feeling parts of her body function as they were intended after her breathwork session — (50:08) Resources and recommended breathworkers

This week we’re diving into the often negative reactive types as we continue our series exploring the harmonic groups. — (3:42) What are the assumptions of the reactive type lens? — (6:06) How each harmonic group is disconnecting from the heart and presence — (13:52) Why do reactive types focus on the negative story behind things — (20:38) The story the competency type lens focuses on — (22:44) The contrast of reactive types in each center from John, Emeka, and Courtney — (43:10) How do David and Nancy experience reactive types — (49:55) How our reactive types relate to other reactive types — (59:26) The power dynamic in 8 reactivity — (1:09:00) 6’s head confusion and self-judgment around their reactivity

We’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine Q/A episode. — (2:22) What archetypes and myths do we each identify with and how does the shadow show up in relationships? — (33:16) Criticism that we could end up going off the rails with the potential for bullshit — (55:10) Trifix essential qualities — (59:49) How to tell the difference between an 8 with a 6 fix from a 6 with an 8 fix — (1:08:03) Is Countertype legit? To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to [email protected]

This week we’re diving into Manhunter and Silence of the lambs to explore the perspective of the image center as represented by these serial killers. — (6:19) Overview/summary of Silence of the Lamb/Manhunter — (11:00) The Manhunter serial killer as a sexual 4 — (27:24) Hannibal Lecter as a 3 and Clarice as a type 6 or 9 — (37:24) Idealized androgyny as a form of self-transformation — (39:31) Lecter’s social 3 fancy boi sensibilities — (41:18) What it means for image types to try to be themselves — (45:26) The difference between the 3’s adaptability in identity vs the 4’s overly defined point of identity — (55:09) How Dolarhyde is an example of a very fixated 4 — (57:58) The core need behind the display of sexual types and how that gets in the way of a real relationship

This week we’re diving into the not so sunny positive outlook types as we start off a series exploring the harmonic groups. — (8:05) What is the positive outlook harmonic group? — (13:53) How 9’s self-erasing makes them seem less positive than 2 and 7 — (17:14) Why it’s named harmonics — (24:40) How positive outlook gets in the way of inner work — (31:12) The positive type premature expert — (33:08) The 9’s brand of know it all narcissism — (41:02) The negative shadow of positive types — (42:44) The dark side of 9 — (47:01) The shadow of 7 — (48:01) How David and Emeka experience their positive outlook influences — (56:04) The negative shadow of 2

We’re continuing where we left off to get more specific with how the average levels of health operate. — (8:36) Everyone is at average levels of health — (16:34) What does it mean to be at Level 4? — (20:54) Type 4 at level 4 — (23:48) Type 9 at level 4 — (29:13) Type 3 at level 4 — (33:56) The real difference between level 4 and level 3 — (38:47) Type 8 at level 4 — (47:00) The transition to level 5 from level 4 — (55:16) How 9s compartmentalize conflict and disengage at level 5 — (1:05:24) Level 6

This week we’re diving into the often misunderstood levels of health. — (3:38) Health is not a measure of positive outcomes or attitudes — (7:32) History of the levels of health and what it means — (12:08) You don’t overcome your type as you go up the levels — (13:26) The shock between going from level 4 to level 3 — (17:27) What it means to do inner work to liberate attention — (26:49) Just being aware of your type is not freedom from it — (33:18) Gurdjieff as a healthy 8 who wasn’t always a ‘good’ person — (38:42) Inner and outer considering — (42:06) David’s story about an experience of inner freedom — (48:22) Health as an experience of the divine through the higher centers — (59:05) Freedom from personality doesn’t always make you feel good — (1:01:08) Freedom/Health as ego deaths — (1:06:33) Awakeness represented in ancient Egypt as the union between Horus and Set

As promised, this week we’re diving into the nuances of #nota5 in response to one of your voicemail questions. — (3:46) Why people mistype as 5 and the common misconceptions — (9:28) The contrast between the intellectualism of 9 and 6 vs 5 — (11:33) 5’s obscure discovery vs 6’s referential truth — (18:14) 6’s orientation to intellectual integrity — (26:30) 5s are not always smart or intellectual — (30:41) David and Emeka’s body type impressions of 5 — (41:00) Queen’s Gambit as a fictional example of 5 detachment and disconnect — (43:06) 9s and 6s relating to the detachment of 5 — (47:23) The pain and suffering of 5 — (50:57) Famous examples of 5s and #nota5s (Einstein being a 9) — (1:00:24) 5’s inability to connect To have your question featured on a future episode leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or send a pre-recorded voice message to [email protected].

We’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine episode. — (2:19) How can sexual blinds recognize when someone is attracted to them? — (28:02) What is it like to date your instinct stacking and the other stackings? — (50:09) What type would say yes to marriage for a green card and will Nancy accept his proposal? — (56:44) Can we do a riff on #nota5? YES, we’ll devote of all the next episode to it. To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to [email protected].

We’re wrapping up our Michael Teachings talk with Shepherd by diving into the overleaves. — (2:37) Action axis // Warrior and King roles — (8:54) The bossiness of the King role in a normal person — (12:36) Goal of acceptance — (16:15) Goal of flow — (17:16) Goal of discrimination — (25:17) Goal of dominance — (27:51) What are sliding overleaves? — (28:54) Goal of submission — (31:01) Spiritualist Attitude — (32:30) Nancy/Emeka/John having the skeptic attitude — (42:07) The idealist attitude — (44:20) Reserve and Passion mode — (48:08) Caution and Power mode — (51:52) How different overleaves cause friction in relationships — (54:19) What it’s like for a role to have high frequency — (56:44) Attraction to members of our entity or cadre — (59:38) The significance of previous cycles and soul age Leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email a voice note to [email protected] for either of our upcoming LoveLine or #nota4 shows. Get your Michael chart channeled here: https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

This week we’re diving into the nuances of channeling and souls with Shepherd. — (6:06) How is channeling different from intuition? The difference between channels, mediums, and psychics — (9:34) The different planes one can channel from — (12:14) How does Shepherd know he’s channeling Michael — (18:49) How does Shepherd get information when he’s channeling the Michael Charts — (21:30) What is the Akashic Record? — (25:45) Why don’t we remember what our soul chose? — (30:04) Is channeling something anyone can learn to do? — (36:38) What role does bias and discernment play? — (43:36) Channeling entities other than Michael — (46:01) What’s the felt experience of channeling? — (50:58) Can people channel without realizing it? — (53:09) Channeling negative spirits and entities — (55:32) Energy fields and aural hygiene — (1:00:17) Souls who won’t let go after death. What it’s like to die — (1:05:36) Hell in the astral plane and paying back karma — (1:14:12) Why is this system of choosing lifetimes set up this way? — (1:20:45) Do animals have souls? Leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email a voice note to [email protected] for either of our upcoming LoveLine or #nota4 shows. Get your Michael chart channeled here: https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

We’re starting off the year diving into Michael Teachings with Shepherd Hoodwin. — (6:53) What is channeling — (9:37) History of Michael Teachings and how Shepherd started channeling — (21:04) Do the roles have something they’re trying to accomplish? — (25:26) Soul type characteristics and inputs — (32:20) Inspiration/Expression/Action/Assimilation Axis — (36:47) The definition of the soul in MT vs Gurdjieff — (39:48) Why the name Michael and why do they care? — (46:39) Positive/negative poles and the chief obstacle — (51:42) Essence role distribution in groups — (54:20) Scholar role with the different centers — (60:08) David as an example of the Chief Obstacle of greed — (64:02) How to interpret the chart as a whole? — (68:22) How does casting work? — (83:58) Attraction between roles and body types — (95:58) John not relating to jovial/lunar body type — (99:58) Body types genetics and attraction — (103:12) Casting and attraction — (107:10) Scholar neutrality and versatility Everyone’s charts for reference; https://www.dropbox.com/s/p5z86kdo7p5u5y6/BHE%20MT%20Charts.pdf?dl=0 Info on getting your chart: https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

Ya girl and boys are closing out the year with a very lit unsober wrap party. We’re looking back on the year and its most memorable parts and of course talking shit. Grab a drink and/or a smoke and join us as we look back on the beautiful train-wreck that was 2020. — what our most listened to episodes are — what nancy really thinks about podding with a bunch of soc-last dudes — shout-outs to all our guests, reviewers, and patrons — Ideas and plans for 2021 (nota4, the loveline, and book launches) Happy New Year!

Our very first LoveLine pod is here. Hats off to the four brave pioneers who sent in voicemails for this seminal work. We see you Sarah and we honor you. How to not be awkward as a sx-blind head type? How do we deal with jealousy and is it type or instinct specific? What type would David mail-order as a companion on a desert island? And finally, what’s the most triggering breakup we’ve had? To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 today.

In this bonus pod, Emeka and Joseph get you started on this thing called Michael Teachings. An interesting deep spiritual system we’ve been very much into. We start off with how we got into it. What is Michael Teachings and what is channeling? (4:38). How do I know this isn’t bullshit? (6:48). Roles (10:53). Essence Twin (19:24). Cadence Positon/Casting (22:04). Goal (28:40). Attitude (31:01). Mode (32:12). Chief Obstacle (33:34). Body Type (35:16). Center (37:41). Soul Age (38:02). Summary/Recap (38:28). Why we care about Michael Teachings (42:47). https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/ https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Your-Soul-Explores-Teachings/dp/1583945490 Artwork: Tomasz Alen Kopera

This week we’re joined by Curtis, an actor, jungian dreamworker, and therapist who leads John’s jungian men’s group. Curtis takes us on a journey of masculine issues from an archetypal and mythological lens, as a continuation of the discussion we had on the serial killer pod. The individuation process and why leaving mother and integrating the feminine is important for the masculine. How men unconsciously self-sabotage as way to instigate in the ritual of individuation. How men cling to archetypal insecure masculinity in the absence of an individuation process. The relationship between rage and intimacy in men. The “death mother” and the encounter with the shadow. What should men do? And finally, How dream work can be a gateway to accessing the unconscious.

This week our friend Corinna, a sexual 5, is joining us to roast the worst parts of dating the head types. Don’t forget to sign up for John’s session on the centers at this week’s Global Enneagram Summit using his link:https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off where we left off roasting type 4. Then we get into it with Corinna with 5 (26:27), 6 (52:50), finishing off with 7 (71:11). Remember to hit up our BHE Love Line voicemail with your comments and/or questions to be featured in a future episode. Call (323) 696-0647 today. Episode Art [Lambis Stratoudakis]