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Should Drake's denial of Kendrick Lamar's allegations of pursuing underage girls open a wider conversation on grooming, social media, and consent? In this episode, we dissect this pressing issue and much more.Unless you've been living under a rock, you've likely heard of the ongoing rap beef between Drake and Kendrick Lamar that kicked off in April 2024.During the first week of May 2024, this months-long spat has hit full throttle. On Saturday (May 4th), Lamar put out yet another diss entitled "Not Like Us," which doubled down on allegations of Drake’s pedophilia (even going as far as to refer to him as a “certified pedophile”).The latest development came on the evening of May 5th, with Drake’s release of “The Heart Part 6.” On the track, the Toronto rapper mainly denies Lamar’s allegations that he has a pattern of pursuing underage girls, a claim that has plagued the rapper in the wake of tales from the likes of 'Stranger Tales' actress Millie Bobby Brown, 20, who said Drake regularly texted her when she was only 14.As the old saying goes, where there's smoke, there's usually fire. Rumors surrounding Drake's interactions with young women have persisted long before the Kendrick and Drake beef. In this episode, we delve into the longstanding and controversial history of Drake's relationships with girls on the cusp of womanhood. We'll examine the legal framework of consent and the ethical complexities surrounding men who pursue significantly younger partners, regardless of legal culpability.We'll conclude this discussion with a reading of a personal essay, recounting my experiences as a young girl navigating the digital landscape of the early 2000s, where I was groomed and pursued by much older men during the 'wild west days' of the internet and social media. Through this piece, I aim to shed light on the pervasive nature of this issue, transcending the confines of Drake's rap beef. It's imperative to recognize that these occurrences are symptomatic of a broader systemic problem—a culture that has long permitted the sexualization and exploitation of young girls online. Join me as we confront these uncomfortable truths and advocate for meaningful change.TIMESTAMPS:✧ 00:00 – 03:23: Intro✧ 03:23 – 10:27: quick timeline of the Kendrick Lamar and Drake feud✧ 10:27 – 41:17: an analysis of the Kendrick lyrics that level accusations against Drake✧ 41:17 – 01:07:16: six times Drake allegedly groomed young girls✧ 01:08:17 – 01:26:24: The fine line between grooming, pedophilia, and the “age of consent” (+ an exploration of Angel Reese’s appearance on The Breakfast Club)✧ 01:26:24 – 02:00:02: the circle jerk of sadness to grooming pipeline: how growing up during internet's wild west era arrested the sexual development of a generation (personal essay)Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exclusive preview of a premium episode, join me as we delve into the intricate web of generational emotional neglect, exploring how historical, cultural, and social factors shaped parenting styles across the The WWI Generation, Silent Generation, Baby Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials. This journey through time reveals a pattern akin to a bizarre Russian doll, where dysfunctional parenting practices are passed down, layer by layer, impacting each subsequent generation.Together, we'll unpack the profound effects these inherited behaviors have on our current struggles, offering insights that might just change how you view yourself and your lineage. By tracing the socioeconomic backgrounds, upbringing, and the worldviews of our ancestors, we connect dots that illuminate the roots of our own emotional landscapes. This episode not only deepens understanding but fosters a compassion for those who came before us, revealing the deep-seated origins of many modern psychological challenges.For an even deeper exploration, don't miss my companion series on childhood emotional neglect, linked below. All episodes are free to listen.PARENTAL GENERATIONS EXPLORED IN THIS EPISODE:✧ “The Greatest Generation” (G.I. / WWII Generation): parents born between 1901-1927✧ The Silent Generation: parents born between 1928 - 1945✧ Baby Boomers: parents born between 1946 – 1964✧ Generation X: parents born between 1965 - 1980✧ Millennials (Generation Y): parents born between 1981 – 1996Click here to listen to episode 1 of my childhood emotional neglect series on Apple Podcasts or here to listen on Spotify.UNLOCK THE FULL VERSION OF THIS EPISODE: Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Episode 8 of our ongoing series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), we continue our exploration of the symptoms that shape the lives of adults affected by early emotional neglect. In this portion of our discussion, we’ll be covering skewed perception of self, lack of self-compassion, and toxic guilt and shame. Each of these symptoms reflects deep-seated distortions in self-perception and interpersonal relations, forged in the fires of childhood emotional neglect.First, we explore the concept of unrealistic self-appraisal, where individuals either overestimate or underestimate their worth, abilities, and attributes. This skewed self-perception often originates from inconsistent or absent feedback during formative years, leading to significant life implications, from career choices to personal relationships. We examine how this distortion in self-view can be corrected through a deeper understanding of its roots and a reassessment of one’s true capabilities and worth.Next, we address the profound lack of self-compassion that many neglect survivors experience. Despite their often boundless compassion for others, they struggle to extend the same kindness to themselves. This segment discusses the critical need to balance empathy, how to cultivate internal compassion, and the transformative impact this can have on one's sense of self and overall mental health.Lastly, we tackle toxic guilt and shame, a debilitating byproduct of CEN that compels individuals to internalize excessive blame and unworthiness. This discussion highlights the importance of differentiating between constructive guilt and destructive shame and provides strategies for overcoming the deeply ingrained belief systems that fuel these feelings.By exploring these symptoms, this episode aims to offer insights and practical guidance for listeners to begin reevaluating their self-perceptions, fostering self-compassion, and challenging the guilt and shame that have held sway over their lives. Join me as we continue to uncover the hidden impacts of childhood emotional neglect and move towards healing, self-acceptance, and a more authentic life.Recommended Resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Start part 1 of my multi-episode series on toxic shame (“shame series part 1: healthy shame makes you human”) click here to listen on Apple Podcasts or here to listen on Spotify.✧ Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach✧ Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin NeffCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exclusive preview of a premium BFTB episode, we explore the disturbing parallels between dysfunctional family structures and cult organizations. Drawing insights from psychologist Jose Fernández Aguado's article, "How a Dysfunctional Family Functions Like a Cult," I delve into the mechanics of control, trust, and dependency that define both these environments. Dysfunctional families, much like cults, can manipulate and erode the individual identities of their members, leading to a cycle of psychological abuse that mirrors the coercive tactics employed by cult leaders.The discussion will unpack how such families fail to foster healthy relational skills among their members, specifically focusing on the inability to establish boundaries and the resulting lack of autonomy. Using critical concepts from family systems theory, we'll examine the roles, rules, and boundaries within these families, highlighting how they create an atmosphere of distrust and dependence that stifles personal growth and mimics cult-like compliance and isolation.As I analyze the article's key points, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of why some families may feel eerily similar to a cult, with rigid roles and an overarching control diminishing the individual's sense of self and autonomy. The episode will not only shed light on the subtle dynamics of control and manipulation inherent in such families but also offer insights into recognizing and overcoming these toxic patterns.Tune in to learn about the transformative journey from recognizing to healing from the hidden manipulations within dysfunctional family structures, and discover how breaking free from these patterns can lead to personal liberation and growth.Craving the full episode? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. CONTACT ME CHECK OUT MORE OF MY WORK: To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit backfromtheborderline.com.Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we transition into a new phase of our mega-series exploring the impact of childhood emotional neglect (CEN), we’ll begin examining the lasting effects of CEN as they manifest in late adolescence and early adulthood. This installment exposes the first two critical, often covert impacts: chronic feelings of emptiness and counter-dependence. First, we address the pervasive sense of emptiness that haunts individuals long after their childhood has ended. This condition is more than fleeting sadness; it's a persistent, profound lack of fulfillment that manifests physically as a void and emotionally as disconnection. This episode explores the depths of this emptiness, elucidating its subtle yet powerful influence on personal identity and engagement with the world.Next, the discussion shifts to counter-dependence, a symptom frequently misunderstood and overlooked. Far from a healthy preference for independence, counter-dependence is a severe aversion to vulnerability, born from the protective instincts developed in response to childhood neglect. This segment examines how such an extreme self-reliance can alienate individuals from meaningful support and intimacy, often to their detriment. Accompanied by targeted reflection questions, this episode not only helps listeners identify these experiences in their own lives but also offers an understanding of their origins. By recognizing these patterns, listeners can begin to address the profound impact of early emotional neglect on their adult lives. Tune in as we delve into these intricate psychological phenomena, aiming to empower listeners with knowledge and strategies to overcome the enduring effects of childhood neglect. This exploration is not merely about identifying pain—it's about moving towards recovery and reclaiming a fuller, more connected life.Recommended Resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhDCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode 6 of my deep-dive into Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) series ventures into uncharted territories, where the shadows of neglect stretch beyond the emotional realm to cast a profound impact on your physical well-being. This segment peels back the layers of how emotional turmoil from neglect and trauma in our formative years doesn't just scar our emotional landscapes but also seeds the ground for physical diseases and chronic conditions that can shorten your lifespan and diminish your quality of life. In this pivotal episode, I unravel the science and soul behind Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), illuminating how early-life stressors metamorphose from emotional dis-ease into tangible physical disease. I dissect the intricate web connecting our brains, bodies, and minds, challenging the conventional medical model's fragmented approach to mental health, which often seeks to bandage symptoms without addressing their rooted causes.But I don't stop at diagnosing the problem. This episode takes a bold step forward, critiquing the well-intentioned yet flawed one-size-fits-all healing narratives prevalent in today's self-help and recovery resources. I question the promises of returning to a state of 'pre-trauma purity' and dissect why such prescriptive paths often lead individuals down shame spirals, feeling irretrievably broken. As I delve into these critical conversations, I propose an alternative healing model—one that embraces the power of individuation, the transformative magic of emotional alchemy, and the profound strength found in our scars. This model doesn't seek to erase your past but integrates it, allowing you to craft a narrative of healing that's as unique as your experiences. Join me in Episode 6 for a transformative exploration that promises to redefine your understanding of healing. Let's journey together towards a new paradigm where healing is seen not as a destination but as a continuous process of becoming, where every scar is a testament to your resilience and every step forward is a victory.Recommended Resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal by Donna Jackson NakazawaCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the introductory episode of a premium visualization series available exclusively to my paid subscribers - I've made the full episode available to you for free to provide a taste of what you can expect in the following visualizations. This initial episode is your gateway to a journey of deep healing and self-discovery, where you'll learn to nurture and reclaim parts of yourself that may have been lost or neglected. Inspired by John Bradshaw's influential book, "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child," this series is designed to guide you through healing your inner child at various stages, from infancy through adolescence. With each step, you'll be supported by specific solfeggio frequencies, enhancing the therapeutic impact of the meditations. This structured approach ensures you address each critical phase of development in sequence, enabling a comprehensive healing experience. Expect this process to evoke a range of emotions, as it's designed to touch on deep-seated wounds and offer paths to healing and wholeness. Through guided meditations and affirmations, you'll be given tools to address and heal from relational and attachment traumas, providing the nurturing, protection, and validation that may have been missing in your childhood. This introductory episode sets the stage for a transformative journey, laying out the why and how of our work together. As you proceed, remember this is a safe space for exploration and healing, and you're encouraged to revisit this introduction whenever you need grounding or a reminder of the journey's purpose.UNLOCK THE NEXT VISUALIZATION IN THE SERIES: After listening to this introductory episode, the next step is to move onto to the subsequent visualizations in the series. The next episode is titled “re-parenting visualization series E01: inner infant.” All four episodes (once released) will be easily accessible for future (and repeated) listening in the “re-parenting visualizations” collection in Patreon. To sign up for access, check out the details below. Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While this is far from the final episode of our mega-series exploring the impacts of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), this does mark the final episode exploring the various dysfunctional parenting styles that can contribute to its development. Join me for part five, where we delve into the profound and often covertly traumatic world shaped by parents who, through their own unresolved issues, inadvertently sow the seeds of emotional neglect in their children. This episode takes us through the diverse landscapes of family dynamics, from the outwardly successful yet emotionally void households of sociopath parents, to the role-reversed scenarios of parentification, and into the silent generational cycles of neglect perpetuated by the well-meaning but emotionally neglected parents themselves.A breakdown of the various dysfunctional parenting styles covered in this episode: 1.The Sociopath Parent: Beyond the sensationalized depictions lies a reality far more complex and closer to the realm of the everyday. We explore the subtle manipulations and emotional vacuums created by parents lacking in empathy and moral grounding, highlighting the indelible impact on children left to navigate these turbulent waters.2.The Parent Acting Like a Child (parental enmeshment / parentification / emotional incest): Here, the traditional roles are inverted, thrusting children into premature adulthood. We examine the emotional and psychological toll exacted on children forced into caretaking roles, deprived not only of their childhood but also of the foundational emotional support crucial for healthy development.3.The “Well-Meaning but Neglected Themselves” Parent: Unveiling the silent echo of generational emotional neglect, this segment sheds light on parents who, devoid of a model for emotional attunement, unknowingly perpetuate a legacy of emotional silence and absence, despite their best intentions and love for their children.Through poignant vignettes and heartfelt reflections shared in the Childhood Emotional Neglect Subreddit, this episode offers a mirror to the nuanced experiences of those navigating the legacy of CEN. From the depths of unrecognized emotional turmoil to the courageous journey towards healing and self-discovery, we explore the transformative power of understanding, empathy, and the human capacity for resilience. Join me as we dive deep into these complex parenting styles, unearthing the silent narratives of neglect and the paths towards breaking the cycles that bind us.Recommended Resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhDCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Part four of our series unfolds the complex narratives of three more distinct parenting styles that, beneath their unique challenges, share a common thread of emotional neglect. Together, we’ll navigate the realms of “the Workaholic Parent”, “the Perfection-Obsessed Parent”, and “The Parent Caring for a Family Member Who Requires Special Attention”, each presenting a unique set of psychological dynamics that inadvertently contribute to Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).1. The Workaholic Parent: In a society that prizes achievement and productivity, the workaholic parent's ceaseless pursuit of professional success often comes at the expense of meaningful family interactions. Through Lily's story, we explore how a childhood adorned with material wealth yet devoid of emotional depth leaves enduring scars, highlighting the silent longing for parental presence and understanding.2. The Perfection-Obsessed Parent: The relentless chase for flawlessness and high achievement drives a wedge between parent and child, where love feels conditional on success. Liam's journey reveals the internal battle of living up to impossibly high standards, fostering a sense of inadequacy and a quest for external validation that overlooks the child's emotional needs and intrinsic value.3. The Parent Caring for a Family Member Who Requires Special Attention (due to illness, disability, addiction, or persistent mental health struggles): Tasked with an extraordinary responsibility, these parents navigate a daily reality of immense challenge and devotion. Through the experiences of Emily and Alex, we delve into the emotional landscape of siblings who, amidst the family's focused caregiving, grapple with feelings of invisibility, guilt, and the unintended neglect of their emotional well-being.This episode seeks to illuminate the nuanced psychological "whys" behind these parenting styles and the inadvertent emotional neglect they can engender. Through a compassionate lens, we aim to foster understanding, healing, and a dialogue on the importance of balancing the demands of work, aspirations, and caregiving with the essential emotional connection every child deserves. Join me as we navigate these intricate family dynamics, underscored by insights from depth psychology and personal stories of resilience. This exploration is an invitation to parents and families to reflect, acknowledge, and shift towards more emotionally attuned and connected relationships.Recommended resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this free preview of a premium episode, we dive deep into the realm of self-censorship, exploring its nuanced definition as the act of muting one's own voice out of fear or deference to others' sensibilities, without external compulsion. Kicking off with insights from Africa Brooke—a London-based beacon in overcoming self-sabotage and self-censorship—we dissect the intricacies of muting oneself in a world increasingly intolerant of dissenting voices.Africa Brooke, renowned for her candid exploration of self-sabotage and self-censorship, lends her expertise, illustrating the perilous landscape of public discourse, where expressing divergent views can result in exile or digital vilification. The episode is enriched by Brooke's recent Instagram video, heralding her forthcoming book "The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance." Here, she delves into self-censorship's societal toll, advocating for a culture of "disagreeing well" and championing the art of pushback against collective sabotage—familiarly known as cancel culture. Her conviction? That navigating the treacherous waters of self-censorship and cancel culture demands a return to courageous, unfiltered expression. Through a meticulous exploration, we examine how self-censorship not only erodes personal integrity but also perpetuates a cycle of mutual surveillance, stifling societal progress. Drawing from a spectrum of thinkers, from Ada Palmer's historical perspectives to Orwell's dystopian foresights, we unpack the broader implications of self-censorship on freedom, control, and the collective psyche. Join me as we venture beyond the surface, challenging ourselves to confront the internalized censorship that shadows our discourse.Recommended Resources:✧ Dive into Africa Brooke’s work at https://africabrooke.com/ or follow her on Instagram @africabrooke [you can pre-order her book here]✧ 1984 by George OrwellCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This third installment of our series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) continues to unravel the intricate web of parenting styles that inadvertently contribute to emotional neglect. Focused on the more nuanced and often overlooked aspects of parenting under the duress of personal challenges, this episode examines:The Divorced or Grieving Parent: Discusses how the intense sorrow from loss or separation can overshadow a parent's ability to attend to their child's emotional needs. It highlights the complex dynamic where children must navigate their own grief or confusion alongside the emotional unavailability of their grieving or divorced parent, leading to unintentional emotional neglect.The Addicted Parent: Explores the dual life of addicted parents who oscillate between affection and neglect. This segment delves into the unpredictable nature of addiction, where children are left in a state of constant uncertainty about their parent's emotional availability, thus experiencing a unique form of CEN shaped by the shadow of addiction.The Depressed Parent: Illuminates the impact of a parent's depression on the family dynamic, particularly on the emotional development of the child. It explains how depression's consuming nature can lead to a parent's emotional withdrawal, forcing children into roles beyond their years and fostering an environment where emotional needs are sidelined.Through detailed vignettes, this episode paints a vivid picture of the silent struggle children face when growing up with parents who, though possibly well-meaning, are caught in their own battles with grief, addiction, or depression. It aims to foster a deeper understanding of the nuanced ways CEN manifests in these settings and advocates for a compassionate approach to healing and support for families navigating these challenging circumstances. Listeners are invited to explore the depth psychological perspectives on these parenting styles, understanding how a parent's unresolved issues and personal struggles can profoundly affect their approach to parenting and, consequently, their child's emotional well-being.Recommended resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me for a free preview of this Patreon-exclusive episode as we dive deep into the groundbreaking insights of renowned psychoanalyst and storyteller Clarissa Pinkola Estés. Through an exploration of a passage from her book, “Women Who Run With the Wolves”, we’ll unravel the complex effects of childhood emotional neglect on individuals' sense of identity and belonging. Exploring Estés' concept of the ‘Mistaken Zygote Syndrome’, we reveal the profound impact of feeling misplaced or misunderstood within one's family. Drawing from Jungian psychology, we uncover the clash between societal expectations and the innate wildness that lives within all of us.Delving further, we expose the desire for consistency within dysfunctional family systems and its repercussions for those seeking healing and integration. Through an exploration of themes from the therapeutic model of Internal Family Systems (IFS), we shed light on the challenges individuals face as they strive for change amidst familial resistance. Through gritty analysis and real-life examples, we unveil the transformative potential of embracing one's authentic self and reclaiming inner wildness. From challenging societal norms to setting boundaries within family dynamics, we reveal actionable steps for healing and growth. Tune in for a raw, unfiltered exploration of breaking free from the shackles of dysfunction, cultivating self-compassion, and embarking on a journey of empowerment. This episode promises to provoke thought, inspire change, and empower listeners on their path to self-discovery and integration while healing the wounds of childhood emotional neglect.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This marks the second installment of our multi-episode discussion on of the impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), where we delve into the elusive and powerful impact of what didn’t happen in childhood. Often overshadowed by more visible and overt forms of neglect or abuse, CEN is the absence of emotional support and validation during our formative years, and its effects can deeply influence our adult lives. Despite its invisible and covert nature, CEN leaves those it impacts with feelings of disconnection and unfulfillment, often questioning the meaning of life itself – without knowing why.This second part of our exploration into CEN delves into the various parenting styles that unwittingly contribute to this form of neglect. The episode discusses three predominant parenting archetypes:The Narcissistic Parent: With case studies illustrating how the excessive self-focus and need for admiration of these parents can lead to an environment where children's emotional needs and feelings are consistently overlooked or dismissed.The Authoritarian Parent: Explored through Dr. Diana Baumrind’s lens, this section outlines the strict, rigid expectations set by such parents and the resulting lack of emotional responsiveness, which can hinder a child's ability to develop healthy self-esteem and autonomy.The Permissive Parent: Counterbalancing the authoritarian, this style's leniency and lack of boundaries are examined, showing how such an approach may result in children lacking self-discipline and emotional regulation skills.The episode highlights the subtle ways that each parenting style can lead to CEN and provides insight into the delicate balance required to foster a nurturing environment that attends to children's emotional needs. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the depth psychological perspectives on these parenting styles and the complex interplay between a parent’s unresolved issues and their parenting approach.Recommended resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this preview of an exclusive premium episode, we delve deep into the transformative power of the Black Madonna archetype, a journey that's particularly close to my heart and I believe, will resonate profoundly with yours. Amid the exploration of childhood emotional neglect (CEN) in our series, it's crucial to address not just the wounds inflicted but also the paths to healing. The Black Madonna, transcending religious confines, emerges as a universal symbol of unconditional maternal love, resilience, and the embracing of our existence's light and dark facets. For those of us grappling with the shadows cast by the mother wound or seeking to reconcile the feminine and masculine energies within, this episode offers a beacon of hope. It introduces depth psychology and the impactful work of Marion Woodman, who shares her intimate encounter with the Black Madonna—an experience that became a cornerstone of her healing journey.This episode isn't just informational; it's a deeply personal exploration of how the Black Madonna archetype can serve as a bridge in healing the deep wounds of childhood emotional neglect, especially those stemming from complex maternal relationships. Featuring a compelling interview between Marion Woodman and mystic Andrew Harvey, we dive into Woodman's life-altering experience with the Black Madonna during a significant illness in India. This story of silent, nurturing connection with a stranger beautifully illustrates the archetype's power to offer solace and understanding. My hope is that this episode acts as a healing balm for your soul, illuminating a path toward self-compassion and integration. By weaving my reflections with practical advice on engaging with the Black Madonna, I invite you to embark on a healing journey that acknowledges the pain, embraces the darkness, and celebrates the renewal within. The Black Madonna archetype challenges us to look beyond our scars, to find strength in our vulnerability, and to see the beauty in our brokenness. It's a spiritual exploration that's universally applicable, offering insights and solace to anyone on the path to recovery, regardless of background or belief system.As we journey through the childhood emotional neglect series and delve into the realms of parts work, re-parenting, and healing the inner child, the Black Madonna emerges as a pivotal figure in bridging the gap between knowledge and practical healing. Let this episode be a guide, a comfort, and an inspiration as we navigate the complexities of healing and transformation, together seeking wholeness within the embrace of the Divine Feminine.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this first part of our multi-episode series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), we delve into the elusive and powerful impact of what didn’t happen in childhood. Often overshadowed by more visible and overt forms of neglect or abuse, CEN is the absence of emotional support and validation during our formative years, and its effects can deeply influence our adult lives. Despite its invisible and covert nature, CEN leaves those it impacts with feelings of disconnection and unfulfillment, often questioning the meaning of life itself – without knowing why. Together, we’ll tackle common misconceptions that CEN only occurs in only in unloving homes, highlighting that it's not about the presence of love but the lack of response to a child’s unique emotional needs. Through examples and expert insights, we explore how this subtle yet significant form of neglect challenges recognition and understanding, often slipping past both individuals and professionals undetected. This episode sets the stage for our series by offering a foundation to identify the signs of CEN in our lives. We consider the generational patterns of emotional neglect and stress the importance of empathy for both parents and affected individuals. Join me as we embark on a journey of recognition, understanding, and healing from the invisible wounds of Emotional Neglect.Recommended resources:✧ Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD✧ Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me for a preview of this exclusive premium episode of the podcast where we dive deep into the mind and explore the concept of 'Wetiko', a cannibalistic spirit that symbolizes the darkest aspects of human psyche and society. Drawing from Paul Levy's illuminating book, "Wetiko: Healing the Mind-Virus That Plagues Our World", we unpack how this malevolent force insidiously infiltrates our lives, propelling us towards self-destruction and collective devastation. We confront the unsettling reality that Wetiko isn't just a legend; it's a metaphor for the greed, selfishness, and shortsightedness that haunt our modern existence. Levy's work offers a mirror to our society, reflecting a crisis that’s as psychological as it is spiritual, challenging us to recognize and heal this affliction within and around us.Transitioning from the global to the deeply personal, the episode then turns to Paul Levy’s own harrowing experiences as detailed in his article, "Psychiatry Almost Drove Me Crazy". Through his struggles with psychiatric abuse and a powerful spiritual awakening misdiagnosed as illness, we explore the broader implications of mental health, the biomedical model's shortcomings, and the transformative potential of what society too often dismisses as madness. This episode is a call to awaken our collective consciousness. It’s about recognizing our potential for profound creativity when we confront the Wetiko within and transforming our suffering into a catalyst for growth. Join me as we navigate the treacherous waters of the psyche to find healing and empowerment in the most unexpected places.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this crucial episode, we unpack the unsettling world of social media, where the rise of young influencers is often shadowed by exploitation risks hidden behind the allure of digital stardom. Beginning with an in-depth look at a New York Times exposé (February 2024), we uncover the troubling trend of parents managing their children’s influencer profiles—a reality in which parental aspirations can unwittingly open doors for predators. The investigation scrutinized over 2.1 million Instagram posts, conducted months of online surveillance on suspicious interactions, and included 100+ interviews with parents, children, and industry insiders.This episode explores:The Hidden Dangers in Child Influencer Culture: When a mother’s intention to support her child’s career meets the darker side of online commodificationThe Disturbing ‘Marketplace’ of Girl Influencers: How some adults exploit children’s content, crossing the boundaries of safety and privacySharenting vs. Privacy Rights: A dive into the 2017 study “Sharenting: Children’s Privacy in the Age of Social Media,” which questions the long-term impact of parents sharing their children’s lives onlineBalancing Public Image with Child Welfare: The struggle parents face between growing a child’s digital presence and preserving their right to privacyEthics and Best Practices for Parents: Insights from privacy experts on creating a healthier digital environment for children, protecting them from irreversible privacy violationsWith a focus on parental responsibility, child digital identity, and ethical challenges, this episode offers a wake-up call on the hidden consequences of “sharenting.” If you’re a parent, caregiver, or simply someone concerned about the future of online privacy, tune in for a vital discussion on safeguarding children’s identities in an increasingly public world.Articles referenced: “A Marketplace of Girl Influencers Managed by Moms and Stalked by Men” By Jennifer Valentino-DeVries and Michael H. Keller via the New York Times (Feb 2024) and “Sharenting: Children's Privacy in the Age of Social Media” by Stacey B. Steinberg (2017)Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this groundbreaking episode, we dive into Bruce Levine’s explosive new article, “Scientific Misconduct and Fraud: The Final Nail in Psychiatry’s Antidepressant Coffin,” published on CounterPunch in January 2024. Levine’s critique reveals the troubling misuse of data in the STAR*D study, exposing how antidepressant efficacy has been overstated and distorted in mainstream psychiatric research. We unpack the controversial truth about SSRIs and SNRIs, discussing their real impacts on mental health, from Post-SSRI Sexual Dysfunction (PSSD) to severe withdrawal symptoms that often go unreported.Listeners will gain insight into:The STAR*D Study Controversy: How data manipulation led to inflated claims about antidepressant success ratesSSRIs and SNRIs Exposed: Understanding the true effectiveness of these medications, and the serious, often hidden side effectsThe Silent Epidemic of PSSD and Withdrawal: The impact of antidepressant-induced sexual dysfunction and why withdrawal effects are downplayedInformed Self-Advocacy in Mental Health: Why it’s crucial to question and research prescribed treatments within the biomedical model of mental health careMainstream Media Suppression: How critical information about antidepressant risks is often hidden from public viewThis episode is essential listening for anyone questioning the conventional narrative on antidepressant use, SSRI/SNRI effectiveness, and the ethical failings in modern psychiatry. Levine’s article serves as both a wake-up call and a call to action, urging for greater transparency, honesty, and ethical responsibility in psychiatric care. Empower yourself with knowledge, challenge the status quo, and reclaim your path to healing by tuning in.Read the full article here: https://www.counterpunch.org/2024/01/17/scientific-misconduct-and-fraud-the-final-nail-in-psychiatrys-antidepressant-coffin/Connect with Bruce or read more of his work at https://brucelevine.net/Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me for a transformative guided meditation and visualization practice as we explore the profound practice of surrender, crucial for healing from emotional neglect and trauma. Surrender here is not defeat; it's a key to unlocking a future where the past no longer dictates our path. Through words and ritual rooted in the wisdom of the ancients, we'll shift from the 'having' mode that fosters chronic feelings of emptiness and actions of self-sabotage to a 'being' mode of presence and peace. This practice is not just a meditation but an act of reclaiming power over the ego, an invitation to cut cords with what holds us back, and a step towards embracing our true selves in the present moment. Discover surrender as an empowering aspect of trauma recovery, where accepting the 'now' opens the door to rewriting a new, healed future. Join me to transform the act of letting go into a journey of self-discovery and genuine change.NOTE: This episode begins with a short intro and explanation of the practice itself, with the main part of the meditation exercise starting minute 15. Feel free to skip straight to 15:05 to skip straight to the practice upon your subsequent listens. I recommend re-listening to and reengaging with this practice as often as you like. The more you listen, the deeper the impact the material will have on your subconscious.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this preview of a voice note available exclusively for my Ultra Premium Submarines on Patreon, we’re diving into the profound effects of emotionally unavailable mothering and the far-reaching implications of childhood emotional neglect. You’ll gain an understanding of the crucial role a mother's emotional presence plays during infancy in fostering secure attachment, which is foundational for a child's future mental and emotional well-being. We examine how the absence of such nurturing can lead to the development of fragile coping mechanisms and persistent mental health challenges. This one is a tough and heavy listen, understanding and fully integrating these concepts and emotions are integral to any healing journey. Craving the full length version of this episode? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Facing a spiritual emergency and need guidance? Learn how to blend self-care with expert assistance in our series conclusion. In a world where mental health dialogue often vacillates between strict biomedical interpretations and elusive new age spirituality, the concept of spiritual emergence stands out. It's a profound experience that defies simple classification, often overlooked in mainstream mental health due to its focus on clinical aspects, neglecting the deeply personal and transcendent elements of psychological crises. This final installment in this 3-part series delves into the treatment of spiritual crises through the lens of the work of transpersonal psychiatrist Dr. Stanislov Grof. We explore effective psychotherapeutic strategies that recognize these states not as pathological conditions, but as gateways to healing and transformation. This involves understanding the extended cartography of the psyche, including perinatal and transpersonal realms. Whether it's through experiential therapy or holistic approaches, the right treatment can facilitate emotional and psychosomatic healing, psychological transformation, and consciousness evolution. Navigating the treatment of spiritual crises can be challenging, particularly in finding therapists who are adept at handling such complex transformations. This episode provides recommendations for seeking appropriate therapists, including whom to approach and whom to avoid. It brings Grof's work into the 21st century, highlighting the difficulty of finding insurance-compatible therapy and offering insights into managing spiritual crises with limited resources. I also share my personal journey, revealing how I moved through my own spiritual crisis with constrained finances and no health insurance. It's a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of self-guided healing. Reference: http://www.totallyalivecore.com/images/Spiritual_Emergencies_-_Article_by_Stan_Grof,_PhD.pdf Spiritual Emergence Network Resources: https://www.spiritualemergence.org/Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever secretly rejoiced in someone else's misfortune? This episode peels back the layers of schadenfreude, a complex emotion often hidden in plain sight.Schadenfreude, the feeling of pleasure derived from another's troubles, is a concept deeply ingrained in human nature, yet it's rarely acknowledged openly. We delve into its origins and the psychological underpinnings that make us susceptible to this emotion. Why do we experience it, and what does it say about our societal values and personal insecurities?Through real-life narratives, we examine schadenfreude from both sides. One story explores its role as a defense mechanism, highlighting how personal insecurities and envy can lead to feelings of satisfaction in others' failings. The contrasting narrative focuses on experiencing schadenfreude from the receiving end, unraveling the emotional complexities and unspoken tensions it creates in relationships. In dissecting these stories, we confront uncomfortable truths about human nature. This episode is an investigation into our darker impulses and a call to greater self-awareness and empathy. Join me in exploring the intricate dynamics of schadenfreude and what it reveals about our inner selves.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your deepest struggle was a gateway to total inner transformation? Explore the types of spiritual emergencies and their hidden meanings. Dive into Part 2 of this 3-part series, 'Spiritual Emergency,' and explore the intriguing concept of psychospiritual crises. Through the lens of the work of transpersonal psychiatrist Dr. Stanislav Grof, this series examines the fine line between profound spiritual awakening and overwhelming psychological breakdowns. In today’s world, discussions around mental health often oscillate between rigid, biomedical interpretations and the sometimes evasive positivity of new age spirituality. This dichotomy leaves little room for the complex reality of spiritual emergence, a profound and transformative experience that defies simple categorization. Too often, mainstream mental health discourse excludes the spiritual dimension entirely, favoring a strictly clinical approach that may overlook the deeply personal and transcendent aspects of psychological crises. Part 2 delves into the various forms of spiritual crises identified by Dr. Grof and his wife, Christina. We discuss diverse experiences, ranging from Shamanic crises, in which individuals undergo profound transformative journeys, to Kundalini awakenings, marked by intense physical and emotional upheaval. We also cover episodes of unitive consciousness or peak experiences, a renewing psychological process through a return to one's inner center, and crises of psychic opening, where individuals encounter intense psychic phenomena. Additionally, this episode unpacks past-life experiences, communication with spirit guides and the phenomena of "channeling," near-death experiences (NDEs), and close encounters with UFOs and alien abduction experiences. Finally, we explore possession states, where individuals feel overtaken by external entities, and the concept of alcoholism and drug addiction as forms of psychospiritual crisis. This comprehensive exploration aims to shed light on these varied and often misunderstood experiences, offering insights into their transformative potential and the challenges they pose. Join us in unraveling the complexities of these spiritual emergencies, as we navigate the mysterious intersection of psychology and spirituality. Having mystical experiences dismissed as being purely ‘psychotic,’ ‘borderline,’ or ‘schizophrenic’ not only denies the spiritual validity of what we’re going through but also adds an unnecessary element of fear and terror to the experience. This fear and terror can be profoundly crippling and can make the whole experience much more difficult than it really needs to be. This episode is not just an academic exercise but a guide to recognizing and understanding the profound changes these crises can precipitate.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever wondered if there’s more to your psychological struggles than meets the eye? Dive into Part 1 of our 3-part series, 'Spiritual Emergency,' and explore the intriguing concept of psychospiritual crises. Through the lens of the work of transpersonal psychiatrist Dr. Stanislav Grof, this series begins by examining the fine line between profound spiritual awakening and overwhelming psychological breakdowns.In today’s world, discussions around mental health often oscillate between rigid, biomedical interpretations and the sometimes evasive positivity of new age spirituality. This dichotomy leaves little room for the complex reality of spiritual emergence, a profound and transformative experience that defies simple categorization. Too often, mainstream mental health discourse excludes the spiritual dimension entirely, favoring a strictly clinical approach that may overlook the deeply personal and transcendent aspects of psychological crises. On the other end of the spectrum, certain strands of new age spirituality engage in 'spiritual bypassing', where the challenging, darker facets of spiritual growth are overshadowed by an emphasis on positivity and light. This series delves into the critical middle path, exploring the concept of 'Spiritual Emergency', a term that captures the tumultuous yet potentially enlightening journey of the psyche during profound moments of transformation. It's a journey that acknowledges the darkness and the light, offering a more holistic and integrated understanding of our mental and spiritual well-being. Having mystical experiences dismissed as being purely ‘psychotic,’ ‘borderline,’ or ‘schizophrenic’ not only denies the spiritual validity of what we’re going through but also adds an unnecessary element of fear and terror to the experience. This fear and terror can be profoundly crippling and can make the whole experience much more difficult than it really needs to be.In this first episode (part 1 of 3), we unravel the essence of 'Spiritual Emergency' and 'Emergence,' terms that represent the transformational potential hidden within challenging psychological experiences. We delve into Dr. Grof's groundbreaking article, exploring the significance of these crises in the lives of shamans, religious founders, and spiritual seekers. This discussion sheds light on how what's often labeled psychotic in mainstream psychiatry could, in fact, be a critical phase of personal transformation and spiritual openness. Join me as we dissect the triggers of spiritual emergencies, from physical ordeals to profound emotional traumas, and how these crises can catalyze an inward journey of self-discovery. We also discuss how traditional psychiatric diagnoses often miss the mark in understanding and supporting these transformative states.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you find yourself questioning the authenticity of watered-down mainstream spirituality and seeking a deeper truth? Join me for a candid chat with Christian Bradley West, a unique voice in the realm of intuitive arts and spiritual exploration. This conversation isn't your average spiritual dialogue; it's a raw and real journey through the complexities of new age beliefs and the quest for authentic spiritual awakening. Christian, an artist and intuitive, shares his own path from a sensitive child in the south who found himself mixing in mystical circles to a guiding light in the often murky waters of modern spirituality. We unravel the layers of his multifaceted journey, exploring how his diverse experiences shape his approach to life and spiritual seeking.Together, we tackle the tricky terrain of "new age spiritual woo-woo," dissecting how to discern the genuine seekers from the often delusional, ego-blinded gurus and influencers. Christian's insights into the pitfalls of spiritual absolutism and the danger of one-size-fits-all paths offer a refreshing perspective in an area crowded with false prophets and empty promises.Our conversation takes a turn towards the poetic, discussing the mystics who embraced the beauty of unknowing and the importance of recognizing the allegorical nature of most spiritual texts. We delve into finding magic in the mundane and humor in our darkest moments, offering a lifeline for those seeking meaning in a seemingly senseless world. This episode is more than an interview; it's a heart-to-heart between two friends unraveling the essence of a down-to-earth awakening process. It's a guide for those seeking to navigate the spiritual marketplace without getting lost in its illusions. Together, we’ll journey through the labyrinth of spirituality, guided by Christian's wisdom and experience. It's a conversation for anyone yearning to break free from the confines of mainstream spiritual narratives and embark on a truly personal journey of discovery and transformation.Connect with Christian at https://www.christianbwest.com/Follow Christian on Instagram @thecountryclairvoyantCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exclusive Back from the Borderline episode preview, we dive deep into the often invisible yet overwhelming world of “mental load” within relationships. Listener Geneva opens up about her decade-long journey with a partner, sharing how she silently took on the role of managing everything—a common experience that reveals an often-unspoken burden in many relationships. But this isn’t simply about dividing household chores; it’s about the layers of emotional labor and the subtle mental toll that can quietly strain our relationships and self-worth.Through Geneva’s story, we explore:The Mental Load Trap: Why do some partners take on an unequal share of managing tasks and responsibilities? Geneva’s journey shows how this can lead to cycles of overextension, passive-aggressiveness, and resentment.Unseen Emotional Labor: Beyond daily tasks, there’s a mental and emotional balancing act that often goes unnoticed. How does carrying this weight impact emotional well-being and relational stability, especially for those with intense emotions and abandonment fears?Emotional Boundaries and Self-Worth: This episode delves into the reasons behind overextending ourselves, exploring how the mental load can become a mask that conceals deeper insecurities and a desire for validation.Introducing the 'Fair Play' Method: We discuss this innovative approach to rebalancing emotional and physical labor in relationships, not just as a method of fairness but as a transformative tool for mutual respect and understanding.This conversation is more than a guide to reducing resentment; it’s a pathway to greater self-awareness, emotional alchemy, and healing in relationships. If you’ve ever felt the weight of “doing it all,” this episode offers insights and strategies to find balance, deepen connection, and redefine what it means to truly share life with someone. Join me for a transformative journey into the heart of relationship dynamics and self-discovery.RESOURCES:✧ Fair Play by Eve Rodsky✧ Time Out: A Fair Play PodcastCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are we sacrificing our mental well-being at the altar of social media and Big Tech? In this episode, I sit down with 21-year-old Thanasi Dilos, a pioneering voice for his generation's mental health and digital safety. Forgoing college to advocate for change, Thanasi shares his powerful journey, shedding light on the toll that tech companies’ profit-driven models take on millennials, Gen-Z, and Gen Alpha. Through his work with the youth-led organization Design It For Us, backed by influential supporters like Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, Thanasi is mobilizing change to confront the unchecked influence of social media on our psychological health.In this episode, we explore:The Mental Health Toll of Social Media: How Big Tech’s business models exacerbate mental health struggles in young people and the urgent need for change.A Generation’s Call for Digital Safety: Thanasi’s efforts to mobilize young people, creating initiatives that prioritize ethical data practices and user well-being.Building Empowered Digital Experiences: Strategies for empowering youth to take control of their digital lives and protect their mental health.The Rise of Youth-Led Advocacy: Insights into how Thanasi’s organization, Design It For Us, is shaping the conversation on online safety and advocating for ethical reforms in tech.This episode is more than just an interview—it’s a powerful call to action for a safer, more conscientious digital landscape. Whether you’re navigating the effects of social media yourself, a parent concerned for your child’s well-being, or simply interested in the future of mental health in the digital age, this conversation offers crucial insights into the transformative steps needed to protect the next generation.RESOURCES:✧ Connect with Thanasi at www.thanasidilos.com✧ Share your story or take action at https://designitforus.org/✧ Read more about “Wait Until 8th” at https://www.waituntil8th.org/Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I sit down with Laurence Hillman, a leading voice in archetypal astrology and depth psychology. As the son of the legendary James Hillman, Laurence has developed a profound yet accessible approach to astrology and psychology that helps uncover deep-seated truths within us. Together, we explore how understanding and working with archetypes can be transformative for those navigating emotional challenges, trauma, or simply searching for a greater sense of purpose.Laurence shares insights on:The Power of Archetypes in Healing: How recognizing and integrating archetypes can support emotional and psychological healing, guiding us through life's difficult moments.Astrology Beyond the Surface: Demystifying astrology’s deeper wisdom beyond horoscopes, and uncovering how it serves as a tool for authentic self-exploration.Shadow Work for Transformation: Exploring the vital role of shadow work in personal growth, learning to embrace and integrate our darker aspects for a fuller, more authentic self.Awakening Consciousness: Laurence’s approach to “awakening consciousness” and the essential roles that depth psychology and archetypes play in this transformative journey.If you’ve ever felt lost, stuck, or on the verge of a personal breakthrough, Laurence offers practical advice to begin your path toward self-awareness, healing, and self-realization. This episode serves as both an exploration and a guide to using archetypal astrology as a tool for navigating the inner landscapes of our lives.CONNECT WITH LAURENCE: https://laurencehillman.com/RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:✧ https://www.astrologyuniversity.com/✧ https://archetypesatwork.com/Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exclusive preview of the fourth episode of our eye-opening multi-part series exploring the book "The Radical Therapist," we dive into an intimate and revealing letter from an anonymous person who refers to themselves as "C.B.", who recounts their harrowing experiences in various mental hospitals during the 1960s and 70s. This episode is an unflinching look at the impact of institutionalization on mental health and personal autonomy.This powerful narrative explores:The profound loss of purpose and meaning leading to mental health disintegration.The destructive cycle of dependency fostered by psychiatric facilities, stripping patients of autonomy and motivation.The paradoxical rewards for 'sickness' in the hospital setting, promoting acting out for attention and care.The dehumanizing experiences of psychiatric treatment, including invasive searches, withheld information, and forced labor.The alarming use of Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) without proper consent or understanding of its consequences.The deep stigma attached to mental illness, complicating reintegration into society and magnifying feelings of isolation.The often condescending and defensive nature of interactions with psychiatrists, leading to further alienation and frustration.C.B.'s account sheds light on the profound challenges faced within mental health institutions and the urgent need for compassionate, patient-centered approaches.This episode invites us to reflect on the historical treatment of mental illness and question how far we have come in understanding and addressing these complex issues.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this captivating episode, we explore the profound insights of Paul Rebillot, a Gestalt therapist and former actor, who harmoniously blends the art of storytelling with the transformative process of therapy. His article, "The Power of Story and Myth – The Genesis of an Approach to Healing," takes us on a journey through the time-honored tradition of myth and its pivotal role in shaping human consciousness.In this episode, you'll discover how: ★Stories and myths have been the vessels of wisdom across various cultures, from the Lakota Sioux to ancient Greece.★The therapeutic potential of myth can lead to personal transformation and a deeper understanding of our own 'madness.'★Rebillot's own workshops harness the Hero's Journey archetype, facilitating profound personal change.Reference: https://www.adventurelife.eu/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Rebillot-The-power-of-story-and-myth.pdfEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me for a preview of this Premium Submarine exclusive multi-part series exploring the 1971 book "The Radical Therapist." In part three, we'll take a critical look at the training of psychiatrists and its far-reaching implications on the practice of therapy and systemic change within the field.In this episode, you'll learn about: The deeply entrenched 'master and apprentice' model in psychiatric education and its effect on trainee therapists.The cycle of mystification in psychiatric training, leading to a perplexing and often unchallengeable professional aura.How the medical model in psychiatry not only shapes therapists but also impacts the patients under their care.This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the nuances and complexities of psychiatric training and its role in shaping the mental health landscape. The full discussion delves deeper into these themes, challenging conventional norms and sparking a conversation on necessary reforms.ABOUT THE BOOK: The Radical Therapist, an alternative mental health journal from the early 1970s, emerged as a critique of traditional psychiatry and a proponent of social change as the primary treatment for mental illness. Published from 1970 to 1972, it was part of the anti-psychiatry movement challenging established psychiatric principles. The journal originated in Minot, North Dakota, where a group of psychiatrists and activists founded The Radical Therapist Collective, emphasizing therapy for social, political, and personal change. The Collective aimed to establish a forum for those critical of traditional therapy, advocating for a new psychology and therapy programs under client control. The journal was highly critical of the societal "Establishment," supporting women's liberation, gay liberation, and opposing the Vietnam War, racism, and consumerist greed. It attracted contributing editors and authors who shared these views.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This third and final installment of our "Trauma Worlds" series marks a turning point from darkness to light, focusing on the transformative process of healing. In this episode, we continue to unravel the complex layers of trauma, including the role of shame, as we forge a path toward recovery and self-renewal.Here's what we'll cover: ✧ How confronting and understanding shame paves the way for profound healing.✧ Methods for liberating ourselves from the chains of trauma and redefining our narrative.✧ Marion Woodman's insights into the necessity of embracing our body's wisdom and lived experiences.✧ The significance of nurturing connections and self-empathy in our healing journey.This conversation is not just about identifying the sources of our struggles—it's about actively seeking the light at the end of the tunnel and the steps we can take to reach it.Reference: Sieff, D. F. (2017). Trauma-worlds and the wisdom of Marion Woodman. Psychological Perspectives, 60(2), 170-185.UNLOCK THE FULL EPISODE:Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tune in for an exclusive preview of another premium episode of Back from the Borderline, where we tackle an exploration of the roots of psychiatric care and its potential to oppress and mystify. This sneak peek will confront the uncomfortable, questioning if the care provided truly heals or further entangles us in unseen binds.Topics Covered:✧ Deciphering oppression in psychiatric treatment✧ The role of awareness in transforming our mental health journey✧ Unmasking 'mystification' in therapy and its effects on our autonomy✧ The crucial equation for liberation: awareness + contactEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Embark on a profound exploration in Part 2 of the 'Trauma Worlds' series, as we navigate deeper into the concealed landscapes of the psyche where fear and disconnection warp our sense of self and reality. This episode is an invitation to uncover the veiled forces sculpting our trauma responses, guiding you through the complex interplay of biological and psychological elements that shape the intricate tapestry of internalized fear, shame, and unworthiness. Discover the concept of 'trauma-worlds'—not as places built by traumatic events themselves but as creations at the intersection where personal experiences meet overwhelming emotions. Step into these personal yet universally understood realms to learn about the common threads that bind us in hypervigilance, disconnection, and pervasive shame, and begin the journey towards reclaiming your inner narrative.Key Learning Points:✧ Understand the distinction between external trauma triggers and their internal impacts, shaping our trauma-worlds.✧ Explore the three dynamics central to all trauma-worlds: hypervigilance, disconnection, and shame, and how they distort our reality.✧ Delve into the evolutionary roots of trauma and the crucial role of social support in mitigating its effects.✧ Uncover the multigenerational transmission of trauma and how inherited fears and perceptions forge our own trauma responses.✧ Encounter the profound influence of the 'Negative Mother' and 'Death Mother' archetypes on our self-perception and biological responses.Reference: Sieff, D. F. (2017). Trauma-worlds and the wisdom of Marion Woodman. Psychological Perspectives, 60(2), 170-185.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exclusive preview of a premium episode, join me as we launch a virtual book club to read and reflect on an out-of-print gem from the 1970s, The Radical Therapist. In part one of our exploration, we dive into the book's provocative critique of the psychiatric establishment and its call for sweeping social change as an alternative approach to mental health. Along the way, I’ll share modern reflections on these ideas, discussing how they resonate with today’s mental health challenges.About The Radical Therapist: Originally a counter-cultural mental health journal, The Radical Therapist was created by a group of psychiatrists and activists known as The Radical Therapist Collective. Active from 1970 to 1972, the journal emerged as part of the anti-psychiatry movement, challenging established psychiatric norms and advocating for mental health reform that emphasized social, political, and personal transformation. By placing client control at the heart of therapy, The Radical Therapist sought to create a “new psychology,” openly opposing the traditional power dynamics of mental health treatment. Its pages became a platform for voices supporting women’s and gay liberation, as well as vehement opposition to the Vietnam War, systemic racism, and consumer culture.In This Episode: Key Themes and ReflectionsChallenging the “Establishment”: Understanding why The Radical Therapist viewed traditional psychiatry as a tool of social control rather than a healing profession.Social Change as Therapy: Exploring the journal's perspective that true mental health transformation requires dismantling oppressive societal structures.Mental Health Under Client Control: Reflections on the importance of client autonomy and empowerment in therapeutic settings, both then and now.Parallels to Today’s Mental Health Reform Movement: Recognizing the themes of liberation and advocacy for marginalized communities that remain as relevant today as they were 50 years ago.If you’re curious about the roots of the anti-psychiatry movement, or simply intrigued by the idea of therapy as a tool for social change, this episode will be both eye-opening and inspiring. Join us as we unpack the radical insights of this influential, yet largely forgotten, work in mental health history.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful three-part series, we explore the "trauma world"—a hidden reality created by survival mechanisms that activate in response to early-life trauma. This alternate world, often defined by fear, disconnection, and shame, distorts our inner and outer perceptions, shaping our lives in ways we may not consciously recognize. Recognizing the "trauma world" for what it is can be a first step toward deep, meaningful healing. In Part One, we unpack the foundational elements of how trauma reshapes our view of the world, leading us to unconsciously carry patterns that echo across generations. Through insights inspired by renowned psychologist Marion Woodman, we’ll explore why understanding the unconscious layers of trauma is essential for true recovery and growth.Key Concepts Covered in This Episode:The "Dangerous World" Mindset: How trauma from overwhelming fear and pain instills an implicit belief that the world is unsafe, coloring all interactions.Marion Woodman’s Contributions: A tribute to Woodman’s work and her valuable perspectives on integrating the mind-body connection in trauma healing.The Creation of the "Trauma World": How enduring neglect, abuse, or dysfunction in childhood activates survival systems that form a "trauma world," deeply affecting perception and behavior.Normalization of Dysfunction: How growing up with trauma skews our understanding of "normal," often leading us to accept unhealthy dynamics without question.The Ripple Effect of Trauma: Examining how trauma’s influence extends from the individual to impact families, communities, and society at large.The Hidden Nature of Trauma Coping Mechanisms: How symptoms and responses rooted in trauma often remain buried in the unconscious, making healing a challenging journey.Individual Trauma Responses: Understanding that the impact of trauma varies based on factors like sensitivity, age, personal history, and available support.This series opener invites you to explore the layers of trauma, recognize hidden survival patterns, and gain a compassionate perspective on the path to healing. Whether you’re navigating your own journey or seeking to understand others, this episode provides a thoughtful guide to begin reclaiming a life beyond the trauma world. REFERENCE: Daniela F. Sieff (2017) Trauma-worlds and the wisdom of Marion Woodman, Psychological Perspectives, 60:2, 170-185. [Based on a Plenary lecture from the conference “Coming Home to the Body: The Legacy of Marion Woodman.” A collaboration between by Pacifica Graduate Institute and the Marion Woodman Foundation, November 2015.] Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever experienced something so strange and seemingly unexplainable that you felt almost crazy? Yet, simultaneously, there was an undeniable gut feeling that this moment held significance. There is a term for this phenomenon: synchronicity. The psychologist and mystic Carl Jung coined the term synchronicity and first mentioned it publicly in 1930. He described it as a "peculiar principle active in the world so that things happen together somehow and behave as if they were the same, and yet for us, they are not." Jung drew parallels between synchronicity and the Chinese concept of "Tao," emphasizing the union of opposites represented by the complementary pairs of Yin and Yang. This concept is rooted in the oneness of humanity and the surrounding cosmos, aligning with the alchemical credo: "As above, so below," signifying the interconnectedness of the inner and outer worlds, psyche and matter being one and the same. In this episode, you'll join a conversation between myself and my friend Michael Phillip, the host of the Third Eye Drops podcast and YouTube channel. Through the exploration of depth psychology, myth, mysticism, and esoteric thought, we'll delve into various ideas and concepts, including individuation (self-realization), dream symbols, archetypes, and other Jungian and spiritual concepts that have guided us on our respective paths toward deeper self-knowledge.Follow us down the rabbit hole if you dare… 🕳️🐇 REFERENCES:✧ Click here to subscribe to Third Eye Drops on YouTube (or follow the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify)✧ Click here to watch my Third Eye Drops interview with Michael Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this thought-provoking episode, join me as we dive deep into the biopsychosocial model, critically examining the prevailing claims that label mental health conditions as brain diseases. In this preview of a premium epiosde, we’ll navigate the complex landscape of mental health by analyzing the powerful words of renowned psychiatrist Dr. Joanna Moncrieff. Dr. Moncrieff has been vocal in questioning the notion that mental disorders—such as schizophrenia—are conclusively brain-based. Through this exploration, we’ll delve into the science behind brain imaging, cognitive function, and the nuanced differences between brain diseases and mental disorders.What We’ll Cover:The Biopsychosocial Model vs. Brain Disease Theory: Understanding the model that integrates biological, psychological, and social factors to better explain mental health struggles.Dr. Joanna Moncrieff’s Perspective: A deep dive into Moncrieff’s critique of the rhetoric tying mental conditions like schizophrenia to conclusive biological evidence.What Brain Imaging Really Tells Us: The limits and potential misinterpretations of brain imaging studies in defining mental health conditions as brain diseases.Brain Disease or Cognitive Disturbance? Differentiating between cognitive deterioration due to brain diseases and behavioral patterns observed in mental disorders.Implications for Psychiatry and Mental Health Treatment: How rethinking these definitions might impact the future of mental health care, therapy, and individual autonomy.Tune in to challenge mainstream beliefs, explore the interplay between the mind and body, and gain a richer understanding of mental health beyond conventional psychiatric boundaries. This episode invites you to engage in a nuanced and eye-opening discussion about what it truly means to view mental health through a biopsychosocial lens.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prepare to uncover a seismic shift in the global mental health landscape as we explore the groundbreaking WHO and UN Guidance that challenges the very foundations of modern psychiatry. This episode delves into how entrenched mental health practices—rooted in the biomedical model—often violate international human rights, exposing significant flaws in current psychiatric systems worldwide.Join me as we navigate the major revelations, including psychiatry’s overreliance on medication, the routine use of detention and involuntary treatment, and the exclusion of individuals with mental health struggles from key decisions about their own care. We’ll examine how the WHO and UN are advocating for a transformative approach to mental health—one that is human-centered, rights-based, and community-driven.Key Topics Covered:WHO and UN’s Call for Change: Why psychiatry’s reliance on the biomedical model is under scrutiny and the shift towards a holistic mental health framework.Human Rights Violations in Mental Health: Uncover the troubling practices of forced treatment and involuntary hospitalization, often accepted in current psychiatric norms.Empowering Individuals in Mental Health Decisions: How the Guidance emphasizes the right of individuals to have control over their treatment and recovery paths.Toward Community-Driven Psychiatry: A look at how the new Guidance proposes community-based alternatives to institutionalization.Implications for Global Mental Health Legislation: The potential ripple effects on mental health laws and policies worldwide as human rights move to the forefront.This episode offers a deep dive into the forces challenging established psychiatric practices and shaping the future of mental health. If you’re interested in understanding the critical changes underway and their profound implications for mental health rights and reform, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.REFERENCES FROM THIS EPISODE:Article referenced in this episode: “The New WHO and UN Guidance: Psychiatry Must Entirely Change” by Niall Mclaren Click here watch the full launch of the Joint WHO/OHCHR guidance and practice on mental health, human rights and legislation.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We don’t tend to think much about our breath in our day-to-day lives. It just… happens, right? Not exactly. Taking the process of breathing for granted would be a mistake, which is exactly what we’re exploring in this episode.Science is only just beginning to validate the extraordinary power of the breath. Breathing, a process which every animal, insect, and plant shares, is perhaps our most vital system. Inhaling gives us life by extracting energy from the interaction of food and oxygen. Exhaling flushes out the waste product of this process, carbon dioxide. Our breathing patterns directly affect our physical, mental, and emotional health and wellbeing. And unlike other bodily functions, such as digesting food, breathing is unique in that it can be practiced intentionally.Our breath and our emotions are connected. Our breathing and our mind are connected. When strong emotions come up, we know our breath is affected. Breath is the body’s wisdom, reminding us how we’re doing at any moment. Specific breathing patterns can change our internal feelings and alter our emotional state. Today, you’ll hear an exclusive preview of part two of my sit-down chat with my friend Melanie Goldman, where we discuss all things somatic breathwork as she shares about her own profound personal experiences with this healing modality. Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prepare for a mind-expanding exploration into the cosmic realms of consciousness and the resilience that emerges from the depths of adversity in a world that often misunderstands or rejects the unknown. In this powerful and exclusive interview, Chris and Ryan Bledsoe invite us to explore a different dimension that exists all around us, one that remains aware of our presence. In this episode, we're delving into the extraordinary experiences of the Bledsoe family and their encounters with non-human intelligence (NHI) and high strangeness. This episode explores navigating cosmic mysteries, government scrutiny, and the enduring power of truth. In 2007, Chris Bledsoe experienced something that reshaped his entire perception of reality. From facing near-death experiences due to psychiatric harm while being shunned by his entire community to becoming a best-selling author studied by consciousness experts, Chris shares how serious trauma has played a pivotal role in shaping his worldview. Despite societal pressures to conform, Chris and his family have defied the narrative that painted his experiences with non-human intelligence as something to be feared. He insisted that his encounters were imbued with messages of peace and interconnectedness. Together, we’ll uncover the harsh realities of public scrutiny, media deception, and institutional scapegoating that many victims endure. You’ll hear about the Bledsoes' moments of isolation, ridicule, and governmental interference, witnessing the resilience that ultimately led to hope. The interview also explores the challenges faced by Chris Bledsoe in gaining acceptance on a more spiritual angle that extends beyond the stereotypical “UFOs and Aliens” narrative. Through Chris's conversations with numerous individuals who've undergone similar experiences, we discover that a connecting thread emerges: the profound impact of trauma and the shared journey many individuals have of encountering high strangeness or non-human intelligence at the height of personal suffering.Connect with Chris Bledsoe and read more about his book “UFO of God” at https://ufoofgod.com/Connect with Ryan Bledsoe and listen to his podcast Bledsoe Said So at https://www.bledsoesaidso.com/ TIME STAMPS:00:00 – 06:10: Intro + Ad Break06:10 – 36:43: What is non-human intelligence and why is right now such an important time for disclosure?35:43 – 02:45:33: Interview with Chris and Ryan Bledsoe02:45:33 – 03:03:16: Exploration of the Schumer Legislation which proposes the establishment of an independent agency to declassify records related to unidentified aerial phenomena (UAP).03:03:16 – 03:10:15: Final thoughts on the importance of disclosure and the pivotal moment in history we find ourselves in Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author John Bradshaw (the author of “Healing the Shame that Binds You”) was one of the first to introduce the idea that we are human BE-ings, not human DO-ings. This catchy expression has particular relevance to those of us who get so busy performing activities “out in the world” that we begin to determine our worth through external measures at the expense of pausing, grounding, and having faith in our inherent value as living beings. Today, you’ll hear a free preview of part one of a relaxed sit-down chat with my friend Melanie. We discuss becoming more cognizant of the difference between always hustling, checking off to-do lists, and getting things done (human doing) versus taking a breather, being mindful, and just soaking in the moment (human being). The 'doing' mode (the mode most of us spend most of our time in), it's all about external wins and achievements, where your identity is basically what you've accomplished. On the flip side, the 'being' mode is about tuning into yourself, reflecting, and enjoying who you are beyond the never ending to-do list of things you “should” be doing.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we venture into the profound and often challenging terrain of religious upbringing and its enduring effects. Bob Peck, author of Original Sin is a Lie, joins us to unpack the emotional and psychological aftermath of growing up within fundamentalist religious frameworks. Together, we examine how rigid doctrines can embed feelings of unworthiness and how mystical philosophies might provide a healing antidote for those grappling with religious trauma. Bob brings his background in Religious Studies and years of spiritual exploration to our discussion, offering insights into bridging science and spirituality and challenging the limitations of a purely rational mindset. We also discuss psychedelics’ role in trauma healing, navigating the balance between their potential for spiritual awakening and the risks involved. Whether you’re healing from religious trauma, seeking a deeper spiritual practice, or exploring alternative pathways to inner peace, this episode offers a thought-provoking dive into reclaiming one’s sense of worth and authenticity.Topics Discussed:Unpacking Religious Trauma: How fundamentalist ideologies foster feelings of shame and unworthiness.Healing Beyond Dogma: The journey to reclaim spirituality through mysticism and self-compassion.The Role of Mystics: How figures like Rumi, Meister Eckhart, and other spiritual visionaries provide a bridge for integrating spiritual awareness.Science and Spirituality: Why they don’t have to be at odds—and how they can coexist in a modern spiritual practice.Challenges of a Hyper-Rational Mindset: Recognizing when logic and analysis inhibit deeper emotional and spiritual healing.Psychedelics in Trauma Healing: A balanced look at the potential and pitfalls of using psychedelics for healing from deep-seated religious trauma.Building an Integral Spiritual Practice: Moving from dogma to an inclusive spirituality that fosters self-worth, personal insight, and connection.Bob Peck’s unique journey and insights offer fresh perspectives for anyone questioning traditional religious teachings and searching for a more expansive, compassionate understanding of spirituality. Prepare for an enlightening conversation that explores the intersection of religion, mysticism, and self-discovery in the pursuit of a genuinely fulfilling life.Connect with Bob at https://www.originalsinisalie.com/.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this premium preview, we’re diving deep into the timeless and complex world of gossip. From its ancient social roots to the tabloid frenzy of the '90s, gossip has played a significant role in shaping societies, beliefs, and relationships. This episode unpacks why gossip seems to be an irresistible human behavior, drawing insights from evolutionary psychology and cultural studies. You’ll gain practical guidance on managing a gossip habit, navigating rumors, and understanding how different spiritual traditions view the morality of gossip. We’ll explore how gossip can sometimes serve a social purpose, helping to strengthen group bonds or reinforce social norms—but we’ll also look at how it turns toxic, and the lasting impact it can leave on people’s lives. This episode will shed light on why we gossip, when it becomes harmful, and what you can do to shift away from it when it no longer serves you.Topics Discussed:What is Gossip, Really? A deep dive into gossip as a social and psychological phenomenon.Evolutionary Roots of Gossip: Can gossip serve a constructive social function, or is it purely harmful?Psychology of Gossip: Why are people so drawn to gossip, and what does it reveal about our minds and needs?When Gossip Becomes Toxic: How to recognize when sharing information crosses the line into damaging behavior.Venting vs. Gossip: Learn to distinguish between releasing frustration and spreading harmful rumors.Celebrity Culture’s Influence: How tabloid journalism and ‘90s celebrity culture shifted our relationship with rumors and gossip.Gender and Gossip: Exploring stereotypes about who gossips more and what research reveals about this gendered myth.Breaking the Gossip Cycle: Strategies for breaking free from a gossip habit.Coping with Being the Subject of Gossip: How to maintain self-worth and navigate rumors about yourself.Spiritual Perspectives on Gossip: How different spiritual teachings approach and critique gossip.This episode promises a balanced exploration of gossip’s social functions and personal impacts, offering a fresh perspective on why we gossip and how we can choose a path that supports healthier, more authentic connections.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this insightful episode, I sit down with Taune Lyons, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose mission is to empower individuals to uncover the healing potential within themselves. Together, we dive deep into transformative practices for managing emotions, confronting our inner shadows, and understanding the unconscious patterns that shape our lives. Taune’s compassionate approach and wealth of knowledge make this conversation a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from self-defeating patterns and take conscious steps toward growth. Through our discussion, you’ll gain practical tools to help you pause and reflect before reacting to triggers, as well as learn how attachment styles and shadow work influence emotional regulation. We also tackle how to set healthy boundaries, not just with those around us, but within the therapeutic relationship itself.Topics Covered in This Episode:Building Emotional Awareness: Learning the power of the “pause” before reacting, and how this simple practice can fundamentally shift your life.Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: Insights into overcoming self-defeating behaviors, even when you’re aware of your patterns but feel stuck.Self-Fulfilling Prophecies and Belief Patterns: Unpacking how deeply ingrained beliefs like “I’ll never succeed in this field” or “I’m always abandoned” can limit your potential.Healthy Anger as Initiation: Embracing anger as a valuable, initiatory experience rather than a destructive force.Attachment Theory Explained: A look at attachment styles and why understanding them is key to emotional regulation and deeper connection.Exploring the Shadow Self: Discover how shadow work can reveal unconscious triggers and empower more authentic self-expression.Therapy Boundaries: Navigating transference, countertransference, and how to establish boundaries in the therapeutic relationship.Uncovering Unconscious Influences: Recognizing how identification with unconscious thoughts and the collective unconscious can drive our decisions if left unchecked.Identifying Dysfunctional Systems: How family, societal, religious, and workplace dynamics can subtly shape our behaviors and beliefs.Projection Awareness: How to recognize when you’re projecting onto others or when someone else is projecting onto you.Connect with Taune:https://www.taunelyons.comInstagram: @taunelyonsResources:✧ Healing Rage: Women Making Inner Peace Possible by Ruth King✧ Trauma and the Supernatural in Psychotherapy by Alex MonkCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this preview of a Premium Submarine exclusive episode, we'll be expanding on the topics covered in my conversation with Dr. Larry Burk and explore the world of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a powerful tool for healing emotional wounds and overcoming trauma.Together, we'll demystify what EFT is and how it can help you release the grip of painful emotional experiences. Through my obsessive research, I'll break down the technique, providing a step-by-step guide to using EFT for yourself. You'll learn how tapping on specific points can bring emotional relief, ground us back into our bodies, and help rewire negative beliefs. I'm really excited to hear what you all think after you've given this a shot. I've been utilizing EFT since my interview with Larry, and I'm shocked at how quickly it can bring me out of a dissociative state and back into my body after a particularly triggering experience or when I fall into my frequent states of overwhelm.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’ll embark on a fascinating journey with Dr. Larry Burk, a medical maverick who transitioned from mainstream medicine at Duke University to the realm of energy healing. Explore the untold stories of past pioneers of medicine like Ignaz Semmelweis, a 'savior of mothers' who was shamed for his “unconventional” groundbreaking ideas, only to be validated in the end, but only after his death. Larry and I also delve into the profound mind-body connection, uncovering how chronic pain and immune issues are intimately tied to our emotions and early life traumas. Dr. Burk shares his work with survivors of the MK Ultra experiments, revealing the resilience of the human spirit. You’ll also discover the transformative power of the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT Tapping) and gain insights from the ACE study, which revolutionized our understanding of how early-life trauma affects our physical health. This episode is your invitation to open your mind and embrace the unconventional healing methods of the future.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: • Visit Dr. Burk’s website at www.letmagichappen.com• “It Didn’t Start with You” by Mark Wolynn• “The Psychology of Totalitarianism” by Mattias Desmet• Tapping with Brad (YouTube Channel)• “Out on a Limb” Film by Shirley MacLaine (Free on YouTube)Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tune in for a free preview of this premium BFTB episode where we discuss all things related to how to cope with anxious or phobic feelings around death and dying. I understand this fear deeply because it’s ruled much of my life. And chances are it’s ruling yours, too. Turns out that learning more deeply about this subject and exploring how other cultures approach it instead of shoving my fears down further into my psyche has helped me more than anything else so far. I hope what I share can help, even just a bit. Because let's face it - the fact is that the idea of death is scary as hell for everyone, even if they won't admit it. TOPICS DISCUSSED:✧ How to become more comfortable with the idea of death and dying✧ What is Thanatophobia? (death anxiety / fear of death) – symptoms and overcoming it✧ How different cultures deal with and view death (and the major differences between East and West) ✧ An exploration on Ram Dass’ view on death and dying: “Death is perfectly safe. It’s like taking off a tight shoe.”Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if you could tap into the wisdom of those who have passed on, making their guidance available at your fingertips? Perdita Finn believes it's not only possible but essential. In her book, "Take Back the Magic: Conversations with the Unseen World," she invites us to reclaim the forgotten guidance of the deceased and rekindle the magic and miracles in our lives. Finn masterfully weaves memoir, history, and a non-denominational spirituality rooted in ecology, encouraging readers to embrace the idea that the stories of our lives are far older, grander, and more compassionate than we've been led to believe. The journey she takes us on is one of healing, possibility, and love, as she shares her personal story of reconciling with her patriarchal father long after his passing. This episode will resonate most deeply with you if: ✧ You struggle with anxious or phobic feelings around death and dying (Thanatophobia)✧ You are dealing with bereavement and grief after the death of a loved one✧ You have lost someone with whom you’ve had a difficult or complicated relationship (how to process the death of someone who negatively affected your life) ✧ You battle with feelings of “affective ambivalence” (when you love and hate someone at the same time)✧ You want to learn how to better process your feelings of rage, anger and resentment✧ You have always felt the deep sense of interconnectedness of all living beings✧ You’re seeking to tap into / deepen your trust with your intuition TIME STAMPS00:00 – 01:27: Voicemail from Mikayla01:27 – 08:02: The importance of developing a more flexible, holistic, and integral perspective when it comes to spirituality08:02 – 15:32: How different cultures honor, pay respects to, and engage with the dead15:32 – 20:53: About my guest, Perdita Finn20:53 – 01:20:55: Interview with Perdita Finn RESOURCES✧ Click here to buy “Take Back the Magic: Conversations with the Unseen World”✧ Click here to read my Substack article on revenge and repressed anger✧ Click here to subscribe to Perdita’s Substack✧ Click here to read more about The Finn/Clark family’s free non-denominational Rosary groups✧ Click here to read the book Perdita co-wrote with her “reluctant” psychic Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Premium Submarine exclusive, you’ll hear a preview of my response to a voicemail from a listener who is stumped as to why she continues to fall into the repetitive pattern of falling fast for unavailable partners.Questions answered + topics discussed in this episode:✧ What is limerence?✧ How to tell if your feelings for your romantic interest are infatuation or love ✧ What are the stages of limerence?✧ How to manage limerent feelings and stop repeating self-sabotaging patterns✧ Why some people are attracted to more avoidant partners (and why anxious and avoidant people tend to attract one another)✧ Why do anxiously attached individuals often begin to resent or split on more avoidant partners✧ How growing up in dysfunctional high-conflict homes can make us more attracted to high-conflict relationships (making safe/kind partners seem “boring”)Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.