100% Guilt-Free Self-Care

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-215 How are you this late winter transitioning into spring? This week in my Facebook group I asked what magazines people read when they were in their teens and early 20s. Turns out a lot of us read Seventeen. Lots of others read Sassy and Jane. Ms. Magazine, Bitch, Bust got some shoutouts and even the ever-nerdy Utne Reader. Those magazines helped us feel less alone. We could find out what other GenXers or Millennials across the country were doing, thinking, and feeling. We found parts of ourselves in those pages. I asked because in this week's podcast, I interviewed Jen Cooper, the founder of Jennifer Magazine. Show links: jennifermag.com

Shote notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-214 In this week's podcast, Maureen Paley of the Financial Autonomy for Women podcast and I got a chance to talk about all things money and self-care. Money is a touchy topic for a lot of women. Given our very recent history of being able to have credit in our own names, loans without a male co-signer, and the ability to purchase property to build generational wealth, it makes perfect sense that we struggle when it comes to money. This, coupled with the societal and cultural narratives about self-care being selfish, we've got a lot of things to talk about!

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-213 Melissa Camilleri is the Co-founder of Stand for the And Education Company and the Impact Incubator. With over 20 years as a credentialed educator, a professional leader in training and development, and a decade in digital marketing, Melissa guides successful service providers to maximize their impact and their income with one-to-many offers. Over the last five years alone, she and her business partner, Angela Greaser, have helped their clients generate over $56 million in revenue through courses/programs and other group offerings. She's a mom of 3 young kiddos, wife to one handsome husband, homeschools, and lives in Sacramento, CA. I hope you'll give it a listen. Melissa is a rock star and we dove deep into not settling for the scraps of schedules or life with your family. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-212 In this week's podcast, I got a chance to interview Joann Crohn from No Guilt Mom.

All this rain in Northern California has reminded me that we are still six weeks out from spring and my urge to curl up with my cat, a blanket and a book make total sense. No need to rush because spring will be here soon enough. Over in my Facebook group I asked everyone what is saving your life this week. The answers were varied and I got some great ideas for my own list. In this week's podcast, I am sharing What Is Saving My Life.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-210 In this week's podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on being behind and not feeling like you have enough time. Show links: Take Back Your Time Challenge Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-209 In this week's podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on goal setting. Show links: Take Back Your Time Challenge Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-208 During this time of year, I let myself rest while I ponder what I want in the new year. This time of year I am all about laying the foundation for the year by day dreaming and planting seeds. Later in the spring when there is more light and action energy I will get to making those dreams into reality. In other words, a slow start to a new year still allows plenty of time for reaching goals and changing habits. In this week's podcast, I am sharing 3 happiness-boosting exercises that take 2 minutes because even in winter, there is room for some happiness. Show links: Take Back Your Time Challenge Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play

I don't know about you, but my 2023 was HARD. People I love were displaced by flooding, tree damage and other consequences from historic weather events. I had so many health related issues that came with pain and we had way more sickness than usual. It felt like one thing after another, so I am happy to have a fresh start. Even though I believe we can hit reset any time, 2023 felt like it needed a hard reset. In this week's podcast, I am sharing seven reminders to myself you can borrow if you need to as we start the new year. Show links: Join Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play 2024! Wunder app

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-206 Lately, I have been getting so many questions about how to make Fair Play work in fill-in-the-blank living situation/family structure that I have been thinking about how all of my living situations could have been made so much easier and better if I'd had this framework. I don't know about you, but I could have used some guidance and/or direct instruction about how to take care of a house. I had chores growing up and learned some skills, but I never learned the thinking behind why we do certain things or how they got done. It was up to me to do a list of chores, but that was it. Living with roommates in the dorms and then in various apartments over the years would have been a lot smoother with CPE. The house would have been cleaner and there would have been a whole lot less passive aggressive PostIt notes left around. In this week's podcast, I am sharing how CPE can work in all kinds of living situations. Show links: Fair Play Interest List Fair Play for The Holidays Workshop - enter your email here so you can get the replay.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-205 In this week's podcast, I how CPE helped me not hate my husband at the holidays.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-204 In this week's podcast, I am sharing a few of the benefits of saying NO.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-203 I am sharing a few conversation starters that have helped my family feel loved and appreciated this fall.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-202 In this week's podcast, I am sharing some things on my gift wishlist and other things I highly recommend because I already have them and love them.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-201 In this week's podcast, we are about how we can make the invisible work visible and we can rebalance the mental load.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-200 In this week's podcast, we are diving into the intersection between NOvember and rebalancing the mental load at home during the holiday season. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-199 In this week's podcast, we are back to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the roles we play in our partnerships. Knowing what role each person is bringing to the Fair Play game can help us see how we can invite our partner into the conversation, ultimately, that can help us navigate taking care of our families in a more equitable way. No matter if you find yourself married to a Giant Kid, a Traditionalist, a Where's the Butter, a One Step Forward/Two Steps Back, or a More Than Most, there is something there for all of us. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-198 In this week's podcast, we are returning to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept surrounding "help" at home and the notion of fairness. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-197 In this week's podcast, we are taking an intermission from the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept of Microjoys with Cyndie Spiegel. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-196 In this week's podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am digging into living your values and the Minimum Standard of Care in the Fair Play System. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-195 No one wants one more giant time-sensitive thing on their to-do list. Speaking of to-do lists…what's on yours? At home,3 no doubt you are dealing with at least some of this: Dealing with the mail Paying bills Grocery shopping Home goods shopping Home maintenance Dishes Laundry Pets Garbage Cleaning Cooking weekday and weekend meals Calendar keeper Childcare outside the home Watching kids inside the home Transportation for kids Bathing and grooming kids Bedtime routine kids Morning routine kids Diapering and potty training Medical for kids Homework, projects + school supplies Discipline and screen time for the kids Middle of the night comfort for the kids There are so many more home management tasks, and maybe you are your co-parent/partner already split them up equitably. Woohoo! 🎉🎉🎉 If you are like me, this list totally stresses you out, and you would like to know how other people manage all this adulting. Seriously, who can get this all done?! In this week's podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am digging into the 100 Fair Play cards, being a game changer, and figuring out the roles we play in our household organization. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-194 In this week's podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am diving into the toxic time messages we've internalized and how Fair Play can help. I hope you'll give it a listen. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-193 In this week's podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am diving into the data around unpaid labor and the beliefs we need to unlearn in order to create more equity in our homes. It isn't a fight between genders because we all suffer under the current system. I hope you'll give it a listen. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-192 In this week's podcast, I am happy to introduce you to the why behind the Fair Play Method. It isn't just splitting up domestic labor more equitably so we create a more balanced workload. It is also about creating Unicorn Space for all the adults in the household. I hope you'll give it a listen. You deserve Unicorn Space of your own, and Fair Play gives you the tools to get it. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-191 We are back from our annual beach redwoods vacation and seven days from starting school. For me, this week is like the one between Christmas and New Year's. The exciting stuff has happened, I am not sure what day of the week it is, and there is a whole lot of New Year energy swirling around. This week used to be the worst week of the year for me. My teacher spouse returned to work, and I was left without any childcare. I was expected to pick up all the slack in our household and help get the school year off to a calm start. Needless to say, it never worked that way because I was so resentful about all these unsaid expectations about how I was in charge of everything house-related because he was working outside the home. It wasn't until a few years later that I realized that lots of couples experience a similar thing. It becomes even more clear when kids come into the picture. There is a default household manager who takes care of all the daily grind tasks: dishes, cooking, meal planning, homework, cleaning, laundry, child care….. the list is endless. Even when you had conversations about equity and the equal distribution of household labor, somehow, it still ended up with one person doing much more to keep the household going. The good news is that it isn't a personal problem. It actually is a systemic one. Our systems aren't set up to help us succeed. In this week's podcast, I am happy to introduce you to the Fair Play Method. I hope you'll give it a listen. Fair Play gives words to what we've been feeling and a plan for getting us to where we want to be. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Hello from Humboldt County, California! I am at the beach this week enjoying some cool coastal fresh air, reading under an umbrella, and walking in the redwoods. Our annual summer vacation is so relaxing and restorative. We stay at the same place, so we know what to expect, and it makes packing and unpacking so easy. We follow the same daily rhythm of breakfast at home, adventure in the morning, lunch out, quiet time in the afternoon, and dinner at home. We mix in old favorites for adventures and sprinkle in new locations for some excitement. Childhood friends have moved up here, and other friends have college students here, so we are also spending time with friends while we are here. This is my favorite week of the year! Instead of recording a show while on vacation, I am sharing my latest episode with the Okayest Moms podcast all about the importance of moms getting their vital health screening appointments done on time. I hope you'll give it a listen. You can find the episode and show notes at https://www.okayestmoms.com/episode-164/

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-189 Is it just me, or do you also sometimes look for the how to be a grown up manual? Growing up in the 70s and 80s I had to figure out a lot of stuff on my own — without Google or YouTube or even a ride to the library often enough to keep up with my questions. Quite frankly I don't know if I was qualified for the job 🤣🤣. I have even asked various therapists over the years if I am on the right track for being a good grown up. Thankfully, someone I admire very much wrote a book about it. In this week's podcast I am resharing my interview with author Julie Lycott Haims. I first "met" Julie when I watched her TED Talk about raising successful kids without over parenting and read her first book How to Raise an Adult. I was lucky enough to sit down with Julie to talk about her latest book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Show links: Fair Play Interest List https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult https://www.julielythcotthaims.com https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims Episode #11: How to Say No The Wholehearted Way with Rosie Molinary

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-188 How is it where you live? Unsurprising to anyone, it is hot, hot, hot in Sacramento. I am trying my best to roll with it, but this time of year, I am looking longingly at my boots and sweaters. I am very much looking forward to soup season. In this week's podcast, I am resharing an episode about the best ways to cool it down in the heat. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me your tips for keeping yourself sane in the hot weather.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-187 If I had a dollar for every time someone said, "It must be nice to be able to afford fill-in-the-blank service, product or vacation," I would be a very rich woman. The reason I can afford so many things is (of course, generational wealth and the privilege of being college educated and white), but also, I put my money into my personal values. I value education, so I say no to spending hundreds at Target on cute home decor I don't really need. Instead, I spend those funds on courses and coaching services that will improve my health, my parenting, my partnership, my organizational skills, my speaking career, my thought leadership, my writing, and my business. I have paid out of pocket for courses and coaching in all those areas because I want to get better at all those things. It is an investment in money, time, and energy to learn all this stuff, but I gain from the teacher's experience and expertise, and that ultimately saves me time and energy. I also value travel experiences, so I say no to lots of meals out, happy hour while spending those funds on plane tickets, lodging and experiences outside my region. You get the picture, I allocate my dollars towards the things that make my heart happy. When I am tempted to say I don't have the time or money for things and exprences I want, I take a deeper look into where I am spending my time and money. It is from those time and money audits I can see where I can shift my spending toward what I actually want more of in my life. In this week's podcast, I am resharing an episode about saving and spending on what matters most. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me what spending with your personal values in mind would mean to you. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-186 In this week's podcast, I am resharing my list of books that have made such an impact on me that I return to them over and over again. Fair Play gave me the language to work with my partner on making sure we were both taking responsibility for our house and child. We'd set out to have an equitable relationship, and even we fell into some gendered defaults. I love this book so much that I have added Fair Play Facilitator to my professional offerings. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me what books have made such an impression on you that you return to them over and over again. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-185 How is your summer going? Are you enjoying the Summer of Intentionality? I hope so. I have heard from some folks that they love having a framework to make the season special even when they have a full-time non-academic job. Knowing how you want to spend your time on the longer days gives them a purpose, and that feels good. If you haven't started yours yet, it isn't too late! Modify the SOI and make it yours. Maybe make a short book list, a couple of can't-miss food items and a friend Friday list and get those things booked into your schedule. In this week's podcast, I am re-sharing my list of books that changed how I live my life. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me what you want to read this summer. Show links: Fair Play Interest List Recommended books: Becoming Heroines: Unleashing Our Power for Revolution and Rebirth by Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab Afro Minimalist Guide to Living with Less by Christine Platt How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott Haynes How to Break Up with Your Phone by Christine Price Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence by Jessica Lahey The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change without Losing Your Joy by Karen Walrond The Path Made Clear: Discovering Your Life's Direction and Purpose

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-184 What are some of your summer rituals? We celebrate the last day of school with shave ice and breakfast out on the patio at Tower Cafe on the first day of summer break. We get together with my dad for Father's Day and leave my husband at home so he can enjoy his most treasured Father's Day present, alone time. We sign up for the summer reading program, we visit Humboldt County and we set learning goals. Our summers are an amazing season because we follow The Summer of Intentionality. Curious? Check out this week's podcast. I am re-sharing the Summer of Intentionality episode, where I explain the history and purpose of this remarkable tool. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me what you want to do, read and learn this summer. Show links: Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-183 This week on the podcast, I am talking to Tracy Stanger. Tracy is an anti-hustle coach who helps moms balance work and motherhood. She helps moms determine what is most important and how to do it best. In our chat Tracy and I talked about how she learned how to do it all from her restaurateur dad and how to use her skills best to help women grow their businesses. Tracy focuses on her self-care to thrive in her life and business. We talk a lot about what you don't do is just as important as what you do. Show links: https://www.tracystanger.com https://www.instagram.com/tracy.stanger Fair Play Interest List

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-182 Happy Summer Solstice! It is the perfect time of year to let go of what isn't working and set new intentions for the future. How would the rest of 2023 feel if you prioritized sleep this summer? How would you feel if you prioritized moving your body? What would shift in your life if your family took on a lot more responsibilities around the house? What would you do with your free time? Something to think about, right? I ask myself these kinds of questions all the time. My belief is the deeper my self-knowledge, the deeper the life. One of my areas of interest is personal finance. People, especially women, tell themselves stories about money and many of our money issues can be traced back to childhood. This week on the podcast, I am talking to Jill Sirianni, co-host of the Frugal Friends podcast. In our chat Jill and I talked about how she went from being in debt to now working in personal finance. She spoke about how related personal finance and self-care are because both rely so much on shifting our mindset. I hope you will give it a listen. Show Links: https://www.frugalfriendspodcast.com http://www.instagram.com/frugalfriendspodcast Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-181 This week on the podcast I am talking to Lisa Li, founder of The Qi - a botanical tea company dedicated to holistic wellness. In our chat Lisa and I talked about how she went from the fast paced fashion world to running an international tea company. She experienced job burnout to founder burnout and how she is changing her self-care in order to thrive in her life and business. We talk a lot about how tiny pauses in your day - like with a cup of perfectly steeped tea - can help create a deeper sense of calm. Show Links: instagram.com/thebetterlisa instagram.com/drinktheqi the-qi.com Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show Notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-180 This week on the podcast, I am talking to Janice Fraser, author of Farther, Faster, And Far Less Drama. We dove into her four-part framework on how to get more done without falling into overwhelm. Show Links: janicefraser.com Farther, Faster, and Far Less Drama: How to Reduce Stress and Make Extraordinary Progress Wherever You Lead linkedin.com/in/janicefraser

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-179 Who are you more likely to work with: someone who shares all their secrets or someone who keeps things behind a paywall? An interesting question, right? Through the process of going through my podcast archives, I am realizing how much good stuff I have shared over the years. The information I share is the same stuff I share with my clients. I don't keep the information a secret that will help listeners. I share what I know with everyone and coach those who want to put all that information into their own lives. This week on the podcast, I am sharing those self-care secrets and best practices. I hope you will give it a listen.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-178 A gift my podcast keeps giving me is the excuse to interview interesting women. No one is more interesting to this bookworm than authors. Since 2019 I have interviewed more than a dozen authors and attribute my proximity to authors as one of the factors leading me to write my own book. If you can see it, you can be it. This week on the podcast, I am reminiscing about some of my favorite authors and their books. Check out this week's episode Authors Who Rock. I hope you will give it a listen.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-177

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-176 Show links: Mom And...Podcast Website Mom And...Podcast Instagram susannekerns.com Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-175 Show links: The happy secret to better work Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-174 Show links: Lifelong Learning Is Good for Your Health, Your Wallet, and Your Social Life Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-173 Show links: The CEO Collective Promote Yourself to CEO Podcast Racheal's Instagram Racheal's Tik Tok

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-172 Show links: Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-171 Show links: Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-170 This week on the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast I interviewed Don't Let Fear Have All the Fun author Monique Malcolm. We talked about how fear gets in the way of our dreams. It can show up as procrastination, perfectionism, or feeling stuck and it keeps us from taking action toward our dreams. Monique shared her non-negotiable practices that help her take imperfect action every day toward her big life goals. You don't want to miss it. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-169 Show links: Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment Slow Book Club Cindy Spiegel's "Microjoys" Book The Essential Guide to 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care: Get Your Time + Energy Back to Create the World You Want to Live In Clutter-Free Home Process Katrina Blair

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-168 Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment

Carly and I have teamed up this week on our podcasts for a double dose of self-care quickies. Over on The Tidy Revival Podcast, you can hear my go-to top 5 self-care things that take 5 minutes and help you feel 5000x better. On my show, you can hear Carly's 5-minute self-care things that help you feel 50,000 times better. Hope you will give both listen and leave a rating and review in your favorite podcast app. Show links: Carly's website Register for Carly's free class Listen to my episode on Carly's podcast Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-166 Show links: Download Your Self-Care Planner & Assessment New Year's Workshops Deferred Maintenance Immersion