100% Guilt-Free Self-Care

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-266 This week on the podcast, I am talking all about the insidious nature of being raised a good girl. She's so polite. She's so agreeable. She is so likeable. She's such a team player and so dependable. And we wonder why we are exhausted and resentful we don't have time for fun, friends or self-care. Meet Sandi Konta. She's a coach for women who are ready to create a life that reflects their needs, without feeling guilty. We met because we are both Fair Play Facilitators. I love learning about the how and why other facilitators come to the work of rebalancing domestic labor. Sandi is Done Being Good and I love what she's unpacking and unlearning. Please listen to my conversation with Sandi and let me know what you think.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-265 How was your week? This week on the podcast I am sharing 10 Things Saving My Life Right Now. I love when Kendra from The Lazy Genius does these every few months, so you might also love hearing mine. What's saving your life right now?

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-264 How was your April? So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we've always dreamed of, how we let go of what's ok when we deep down know something bigger and better aligned with our values is out there waiting for us. Meet Tamara. Tamara Wamsley is a transformational coach and founder of The Ambitious Chick Freedom Movement. She is on a mission to redefine success for ambitious women. After experiencing her own journey from burnout to breakthrough, she now guides women to break free from unfulfillment and create lives of purpose, financial freedom, and soulful alignment. As a multi-faceted coach combining business strategy with soul-led transformation, she helps ambitious women discover their true calling and build thriving, purpose-driven businesses. Through her signature Freedom Roadmap, she's challenging outdated definitions of success and empowering women to create prosperity on their own terms. Her approach uniquely blends practical business strategy with deep inner work, helping women not just achieve success, but create success that feels authentic and fulfilling. She believes that when ambitious women step into their power and align with their soul's mission, they don't just transform their own lives—they create ripples of change throughout their communities and the world. Whether you're questioning the traditional path to success, feeling called to something bigger, or ready to turn your purpose into profit, today's episode will show you how to create freedom and fulfillment on your own terms.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-263 So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we've always dreamed of, how we let go of what's ok and trust that the thing we really want is out there and how to have difficult conversations gracefully. Meet Jenny. Genevieve "Jenny" Dreizen, Co-Founder and COO of Fresh Starts Registry, is an operations specialist, marketing professional, and modern-day etiquette expert. On the heels of her sister Olivia's divorce in 2020, prompting Olivia to have an 'aha moment' when she realized we needed to reframe the narrative around big life changes, and her own decade-long relationship ending Olivia and Jenny founded Fresh Starts Registry, a first-of-its-kind platform built to support those going through brave and bold changes, such as divorce, job changes, coming out, living through grief, and more, by revolutionizing the art of starting again. Jenny lives to remind people that we create the rules we live by all on our own and with our own happiness and joy at the center of it all, as illustrated through both her personal and professional endeavors. Her career has spanned multiple industries, informing her expertise across operations, business, marketing, and etiquette. Jenny is passionate about creating usable, efficient, and beautiful systems to run Fresh Starts Registry to maintain their Experts, Support Specialists, and Freshies. She pulls in all of her knowledge from the various verticals where her expertise has flourished to enrich the experience of each person Fresh Starts touches. Born and raised on Long Island, New York, Jenny now resides in Scotland with her husband, whom she eloped with in 2023. When she isn't helping run Fresh Starts Registry, using her talents to write Simple Scripts to help people have hard conversations and set boundaries, hosting Jenny Says So where modern etiquette meets real life, co-hosting A Fresh Story, a podcast featuring raw, vulnerable, and honest conversations with guests about brave life decisions and fresh starts, or sharing her etiquette and gift-giving tips with major media outlets, she can be found enjoying the beautiful views of Scotland, taking a walk and picking up a sweet treat, or listening to her musician husband perform. She hopes to bring joy to others, make sure everyone feels seen in every aspect of their lives, and remind every person she supports that there are no rules to living a fulfilled life.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-262 Approximately 20,075 days ago I was born. In case you don't have a calculator handy, that is double nickels AKA FIFTY-FREAKING-FIVE years old. It feels completely bonkers because it doesn't feel like that much time has gone by. Everyone I have met recently is in the 38-48 year range and that got me thinking about how much my life has changed for the better since my late 30s. At 39 I started blogging. At 40 I started teaching yoga. At 41 I became a mama. At 42 learned about invisible labor, domestic load & inequity in marriage At 43 I resigned from teaching school and dove into teaching restorative yoga At 44 I was a caregiver to my mom post stroke and my preschooler. At 45 I hosted several yoga retreats. At 46 I went back to school for my Life + Work Coaching Certification. At 47 I started speaking on stages about self-care At 48 I got paid to speak on stage. At 49 I started a podcast At 50 We lived through a global pandemic At 51 Grieved the loss of my best friend At 52 I wrote and published a book. At 53 I wrote a politics column for Jennifer magazine At 54 campaigned hard for Kamala Harris. Not surprisingly, self-care has played a huge role in that. This week on the podcast I am sharing Fifteen Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Life after 40.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-261 My mom died 10 years ago today. We weren't close, but she was my biggest cheerleader. The older I get the more I understand who she was and how much of the time in history she was born into really shaped who she got to be. My mom couldn't wear pants to her segregated school, got married at 20 and had her first child at 21. I came along right before she was 25. She was on the younger side of average at the time, but was relieved to be out of her parent's house. In the early 1960s women then didn't have a lot of choices. Options for work were secretarial work, nurse, teacher or domestic labor. None were high paying. Women couldn't even get a checking account without a male co-signer until 1974. I tell you all of this because my mom wanted my life to be different than hers. She wanted me to get my education, find a career of my own choice, be able to support myself, not have kids too early and to not get married unless it was a partnership. She used to say, "Don't do what I did". I used to joke with her that I wouldn't because her life in a lot of ways was truly awful. As I've gotten older I have asked a lot more questions: Were the choices my mom made personal failings or choosing from a limited amount of crappy options?+ If she'd been born in a different era would she have led a different life? Would she have waited to return to college after marriage and kids or would she have gone straight through like me? Would she have gotten married or even had kids? Would she have gotten divorced? Would she have gotten the mental health treatment she needed after having a traumatic childhood? This week on the podcast I am sharing 10 Lessons I Learned From My Mom.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-260 Are you waiting for someone to choose you? Are you holding back because you think you aren't ready? Are you waiting until you have enough experience or go back to school? Are you worried you'll get it wrong? I hear these fears all the time from women. They want to do something that makes a difference in the world and they get stuck because the little voice in their head telling stories about why now isn't the right time, they aren't the right person and they stay stuck in the loop of inaction. This week on the podcast I am sharing a very special interview with someone who didn't wait to be picked - Liz Minella. I first was introduced to Liz when she hosted the Women Wednesdays calls during the Harris campaign. I knew she was someone I could learn from so I started following her on Instagram. Needless to say I am a fan and wanted to know more about how she got her start. So I asked her to be a guest on the podcast and it confirmed she has a lot to teach us about how to use what we have to move our values and issues forward today. Liz Minnella is a mom, fundraiser and Instagram demfluencer. She gained an audience on Instagram following the Fourth of July shooting in Highland Park by posting short actionable steps for fellow activists to take to advance gun violence prevention legislation and she helped lead the grassroots push to pass the IL Assault Weapons Ban. During the 2024 election cycle, she hit her stride organizing and activating everyday people to use their power and influence to make change. She founded Chicago Women for Harris and co-organized and MCd White Women: Answer the call, which broke Zoom with over 200,000 viewers. She served as the Finance Co-chair of Women for Harris and raised tens of millions of dollars for the Harris campaign. She held weekly Women Wednesdays for Harris Zoom calls and organized door knocking trips across the battleground states. Her work was featured in a front page article in the New York Times and on CNN in the days following the election. She recently founded Connect Forward an organization dedicated to funding and facilitating a new media ecosystem for liberal voices. She is also host of Demfluenced, a podcast focused on the intersection of social media and politics. In other words, Liz didn't wait to be picked. She doesn't have any special training. She doesn't have a background in the field. She has an Instagram account and a passion for gun safety. In our interview she shared with me how she got her start and her plan to change how Democrats use social media to create change.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-259 If I were in charge of how the world operates, I would definitely sleep as little as possible, stay horizontal in my soft pants, drink caffeine in the AM, and booze it up at night while eating BBQ potato chips and candy corn and feel FANTASTIC! But alas, I am not in charge. Instead we have to subscribe to human biology 101 or feel like a bucket of hot garbage or rusty buckets of bones. Or Boooooth. 😭 I regret to inform you no matter what is happening in the world, we have a lot of control over how we feel inside our bodies and in our lives in this utterly bonkers world. What we do every day makes a difference in the moment and the long term. Sleep the hours required? Calmer Move your body regularly? Calmer Meditate regularly? Calmer Eat regularly? Calmer It sucks that it works. And there is no getting around it. This is what we practice in the CARE Club. {Enroll today with code 2025EARLY to save $600. Payment plans are available.}

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-258 This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into Calming the Chaos Part 2: Friends Are More Important Than We Think.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-257 Cops and vampires have permission to enter. Crazy too. Someone recently said that since the plan is to overwhelm and exhaust us into giving up, we need to look at our own behavior in order to survive this administration. The goal is to watch the rollercoaster without getting on the rollercoaster. Watching a rollercoaster feels way different than riding a rollercoaster, doesn't it? This metaphor helps to capture the concept of equanimity really clearly.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-256 Can you believe it is still January? It feels like it has been decades long because so much has happened and very little of it has been good news. In tough times it is easy to feel down and hopeless. It is easy to feel like everything is out of our control and we can't do anything because everything sucks. That simply isn't true. We can do plenty for ourselves, the people we love and our country. For today let's take note of some delightful things in my world that happened in January. This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into CARE Club. I share not only what it is, but why I created it just for you in this time in history.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-255 What comes to mind when I say the words "teenage girl"? Some common ones I hear are: Mean. Catty. Overly emotional. Overly sexy. Scary. Is this the real story about teen girls or something else? What were YOU like as a teenager? This week on the podcast I am sharing my conversation with author Chelsey Goodan. Chelsey Goodan is the author of the USA Today national bestseller, UNDERESTIMATED: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls, which has been endorsed by Oprah Daily, saying: "If you have a teenage girl in your life, you need to read this." Chelsey has been an academic tutor, mentor, and empowerment coach to teenagers for 16 years and serves as the Mentorship Director of DemocraShe, which supports and guides girls from underserved communities into leadership roles. She speaks regularly to audiences about gender justice, conducts workshops, and as a keynote speaker, she teaches communication strategies that create psychological safety for everyone from teenage girls to CEOs. Featured on The Today Show with Hoda & Jenna, NBC News Daily, Reese Witherspoon's Hello Sunshine, and in TIME Magazine, Chelsey's thought leadership explores humanity's potential for authenticity, liberation, and empowerment.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-254 This week on the podcast I am sharing my conversation with fellow coach, Ivana Robinson. Ivana Robinson is a certified Life & Leadership Coach and reformed corporate ladder climber who helps women disillusioned with the status quo to abandon the rulebook, liberate themselves from expectations, and prioritize their desires without guilt. Through her email list and social media accounts, Ivana serves thousands of people per week, encouraging her audience to feel the fear and do the damn thing anyway. Ivana's inspiring & rebellious journey helps audiences realize that bravery and confidence are already inside of them. Ivana's favorite form of self-care is saying no, but two things she'll never turn down: an afternoon nap or a Beyoncé concert. This conversation with Ivana reignited my interest in living abroad. Ivana figured it out and now lives in Mexico. Have you ever dreamt of living abroad? Ivana also hosts retreats that sound dreamy. I used to host retreats. Would you be interested in going on a retreat hosted by me?

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-253 In this week's podcast episode I am sharing my interview with Tiffany Yu. Tiffany Yu is the CEO & Founder of Diversability, a 3x TEDx speaker, and the author of The Anti-Ableist Manifesto: Smashing Stereotypes, Forging Change, and Building a Disability-Inclusive World. Tiffany started her career at Goldman Sachs before becoming a speaker and writer on disability. At the age of 9, Tiffany became disabled as a result of a car accident that also took the life of her father. Inspired by the viral The Anti-Ableism Series on TikTok, The Anti-Ableist Manifesto is Diversability founder Tiffany Yu's revelatory examination of disability for any ally to go beyond mere awareness to be an active anti-ableist and help form a more equitable society for all. Not going to lie, I devoured this book! After spending countless hours advocating for my daughter over the years, especially in the education system, this was a perfect guidebook to helping non disabled people advocate for inclusion, access and belonging for all students. If you know someone who has had to advocate for themselves or a family member in the health, education or employment systems, definitely share this book. If you'd like to learn how to be an ally to the disabled community, definitely read this book.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-252 Laura Mayes is an Emmy-winning writer, senior director of Unlocking Us with Brené Brown and the Dare to Lead podcast, VP of Influencer Programming and Relations Everyday Health Group's Pregnancy & Parenting division, home to Mom 2.0, What to Expect and BabyCenter, a co-founder of the Mom 2.0 and the Mom 2.0 Summit, and a partner in Altitude Summit. Over the last 25 years, she has created, developed and produced live events and shows, including industry conferences, brand events, book and product launches, podcasts, awards shows, the curation of national art exhibits and nationwide programs for women in media. Not going to lie, I tried really hard not to fangirl over Laura during this interview because she is The Coolest. She's one of the original women who made a name for herself on the Internet through early blogging. I have been fascinated with that group of women since I first learned about them in 2010. Absolute pioneers in new technology, influencer marketing and making a name for oneself as a woman on the internet. Plus she's Sister Brené's pal and podcast producer. 🤯🤩 Don't worry, I think I kept it together when I inevitably brought up BB in our conversation. Then she told me Brené Brown was going to be the keynote speaker at Mom2 and I had a moment. Like a pause. A be cool, but you might have yelped a little bit moment. If you would like to join me at Mom 2 AKA the BEST Momcation in Orlando in April use my link for a discount on your conference registration use my link for a discount on your conference registration.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-251 In this week's podcast episode I am sharing my interview with author Lori Sugarman-Li. Lori believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. Her career as a Communications Strategist, combined with a decade devoted to full-time care of her family, community, and children's charities worldwide, served as the inspirational backdrop for her professional relaunch as a Coach, Speaker, and Author. Lori is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space. Lori, her husband, and two sons are Canadian-born and live steps from Lake Michigan in Chicago. Please go see the sneak peek of this delightful story. Our Home is about the power of families, their beautiful but unending work, and the special connection between family members who share a space. "A tip of the hat to all of the invisible labor that happens […] making little ones aware of what their parents do and reminding parents to watch for those bucket-filling moments of delight with their children." —School Library Journal I want everyone to give Lori's book to the families in your life this holiday season. Please listen to the interview and let me know what you think. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-250 How are you? Please hit reply and tell me or call a pal. We need community now more than ever. If you are up to it, I would appreciate your thoughts on my 2025 offerings survey. This is your chance to tell me how I can best serve you in 2025. These last two weeks I have been equal parts being in community with others and resting. The gratitude I feel for my support people is infinite. Knowing I am a support person for many is something I take very seriously. We are better together and I love that my work is alongside others wanting to make the world more equitable, fair and just. The big question of how do I/we keep working towards a better future keeps coming up. I know one answer is to not quit.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-249 In this week's podcast I am sharing a message I need to hear right now: I believe in you.

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Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-247 In this week's podcast I am excited to share my thoughts on another book I recently read The Plan: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius by Kendra Adachi. I am a huge fan of Kendra's podcast, books and how she is able to break down problems into manageable pieces. I never miss an episode so when the opportunity to be part of her book launch came up, I jumped right in. Executive functioning skills are something that I have struggled with my whole life. I am so glad I have women to help me learn time and project management while acknowledging the realities of being a woman, a mom, a business owner, a teacher all while having an ADHD brain.